This too shall pass! I'm also 25 and its the one thing that keeps me waking up in the morning knowing that I am grateful just be a witness to another sunrise!
Just turned 26 and I want my money back. I am 1 year sober, relationships suck, I have $20,000 student loan debt left which is not bad as most people. I have officially set boundaries with my gaslighting mom, and let go of toxic friends. Covid ruined my business, I’m over it but I’m still striving. When it’s to much I just take a nap 😩😂
Advice I needed to hear in my 20s: - it’s never too late to start over - go to therapy and heal from past traumas -don’t spend savings, use your money wisely!
I love it too! I'm currently 30 & got engaged at this age. I'll be married by 32 God-willing & I am honestly so so glad it worked out like that for me.
I'm 31, my 20 twenties was nothing to write home about. No saved finances, no investment, no asset, no relationships. I was always in the house taking care of my brothers' children. Now in my 30's I feel I can be more. Thank you for this encouragement. I love you Adrienne from Nigeria.
my twenties were a rollercoaster to say the least - got married at 23 -bought my first house at 24 - started my career at 24 - quarter life crisis at 25 - lost my mom to cancer at 26 - had my first baby at 27 the one important thing to know in your 20s is that your financial freedom is very much shaped in your 20s - make good decision and dont spend all your savings in stupid things
The quarter life crisis is soooo true 😫 I’m going through it now! It’s definitely a year of reflection and figuring out what you want out of life for the second half of your 20s.
@@tiaraterry1344 girlllll it was brutal...turning 30 wasnt as hard! 25 left me wondering if i wanted kids and even if i still wanted to be married! its definitely challenging and i suggest you seek a therapist to get some clarity if possible
@@sunshinegirl02 omggg sooo true! I told my mom idk if I still want kids lol buttt I have more than enough time to change my mind. I think because I’m still figuring out life right now, kids just seems like a lot to take on.
@@tiaraterry1344 i can tell you from experience that its better to wait and be in the right headspace when you become a mother...its the most rewarding yet challenging thing you will ever do. And as you said, you still have time! Enjoy your 20s and when the time feels right to have children, you will know! :)
Adrienne is a role model. I met her in person at a hotel restaurant with her family. She spoke to me like a friend. Her vibe is the same in person. Beautiful in the outside and inside.
@@Fartiosa she is a robot. She is curses just as her dad. MARRIED and divorced and sitting here with her dad second wife and trying to mimic and act like her. She need to go back to the altar and get the real GOSPEL and holy Spirit and stay with her mom. Get her tail back with her husband.
People entering or in their twenties: remember that even though you're growing up and starting new things, your parents/grandparents/family members are getting older! Make time for them bc you don't want to regret not spending time with loved ones, you never know what may happen to them
@@AllThingsAdrienne I think it’s important for us to be aware of this because we get caught up in the freedom of discovering ourselves on our own and forget the importance of being in touch and close with our loved ones.
I just turned 25, so Tips for early 20’s… Trust your gut and be independent. Go after what makes you happy with hard work. Cut out toxic people and cherish loved ones. Continue to learn how to be a better person. Xx
There is one thing that has really marked me in my twenties (still in them, I'm 27), and it's that we often overestimate what we can do in a year and underestimate what we could do in a decade. This has given me so much peace cause remembering it lets me rest in knowing there is still more time to get to the goal. What is important is walking towards it. If I die tomorrow I want to feel satisfied in the process I'm taking and not just achieving the end goal. Another thing is that life has seasons. Especially as women it's hard to feel like we need to be everything and do everything all at once, and understanding we could do everything and be everything we want but in seasons gives sooo much peace and rest. At the end of the day, it's important to live out God's grace, to recognize that we are loved and there is nothing more we could do to be more loved than we already are. We will get to the goal within seasons, the goal will come in due time but the process needs to involve grace, rest, and gratitude if we don't want to get there feeling like a train wreck.
I’m 33 and my 20s were full of sadness, struggles and suffering. I feel like time is running out because I’m not married and don’t have kids. I got my bachelors degree at 24 and I had many jobs. I moved out when I was 29, in between I dated losers but never had a boyfriend. Positive: My faith grew in my 20s and I stopped drinking when I was 26. So when I turned 30 I was really happy. I’m looking forward to better things….and I’m in grad school now and I’m actually in a job where I can move up and grow. Better years are coming!!
Yes, better years are coming!! I’m 30, single and no kids and the Lord taught me soooo much in my 20’s. Now I’m just so willing to do the Lords will because I’ve been through so much and it’s only made me stronger!
This is SUCH great advice. I’m dreading turning 25 in January because I feel like such a loser to have never been in a relationship yet. I go on FB and see classmates from high school engaged and having babies and it all just takes me back to not being picked for prom and things like that back then. I recently moved across the country for work and feel super small in this big city. I’m in so much debt from college and each day feels like absolute shit but I’m hoping I can look back 10 years from now and see change.
Gurl don't give up, relationships are great with right. Let God write ur love story nd persue your dreams along the ways. Love is something u have no control over.
Literally same. 25 / Brand new city / I just got heartbroken by my Dream Guy / I feel like I have NO purpose right now and feel like shit all the time too. But It will be worth it. You will have a hot ass husband and you're a diamond in the making sister
Girl me tooo!!!! I’ve never been in a relationship, it’s so hard for me. Constantly running into loser guys. I’m 24. I feel so weird that out of most of my friends I’m not in a relationship
I'll be 30 years old on Sunday!!! My 20's literally flew by, it's crazy. (I remember high school like it was yesterday). My advice for your 20's is to slow down. Enjoy the ride because next thing you know.....you'll be turning 30! Also, do not take yourself so seriously...let other people do that for you ;) Love you guys😘
It's Sunday where I am(Botswana, Africa). So Happy Birthday La'Flame Productions and may God bless you with all your hearts desires as you enter your 30s!
I'm only 24 and I love my twenties. My best advice to anyone in their twenties is to enjoy it. Don't rush it, you don't have to have everything figured out by your 30's. I'll let you in on a secret there are people who are still figuring life out in their 30's. Don't put yourself on a deadline. As long as u do something to learn and better yourself everyday you will get to wear you want to be at the perfect time. God taught me that ❤
Thank you for the advice! I’m 27, went to school for psychology and have been a social worker for 4 years. For years I haven’t been passionate about my job but stayed because I have bills and I felt stuck for awhile. Exactly 2 months ago I was talking to my fiancé and told him that I felt like my job was taking me further away from my purpose but I quickly changed my attitude and started listed all the things I was grateful for like I get to work from home, I was able to keep my job during the pandemic, etc. I told myself that this job and these feelings are temporary and if I keep focusing on my IT courses one day I’ll be in the career that I want. 3 weeks ago I was offered my dream job working for software development company and they doubled my salary. As I write this, I’m still in disbelief that my life has completely shifted. I’m excited about life and the future; scared /anxious that I’ll fail; and proud that I took a chance on myself and took the steps to make my dream happen even when I was feeling lost. Take my experience as a reminder to not give up on your dreams and be kind to yourself if your currently feeling lost; life will surprise you when you least expect it💛
Got married at 18, bought my 1st house at 23, graduated from college at 29, and looking forward for what comes next! My income is good, my marriage is good, now I'm concentrating in my spiritual awakening and my emotional healing from childhood traumas.
Be hungry not thirsty. I really needed to hear this, I’m 23 and been feeling lost lately. This whole video was amazing to soak in. Thank you ladies for the knowledge . 💋
Protect your mind. I’m 29 now, but when I was 23, that is when I started experiencing new mental crises that came to a head when I was about 25. Don’t feed into everything you hear, make sure you test everything you hear and feel. Pursue wisdom 🥰
This video is SO VALIDATING! I'm turning 27 in December and It has been tough! I would say mid-20s is the roughest! Career wise, relationship, responsibilities!
Set goals personally and professionally. And stick to it, meaning if you’re in a relationship, don’t accept anything that’s not for you. Same with a job. Another job will come if you leave the one that’s not working for you. Move to a new state if you wanna, don’t be afraid. And 27 is still young. I’m 36, and alot can change in 6 months or a year! 🙏🏽
I feel this so deep when Adrienne talked about the “time line” she had in her mind of finding love, engagement, marriage & having kids. Something I noticed is when we are in such a rush or worried more about fitting our time line than finding the right person we SETTLE and maybe stay longer in relationships we shouldn’t have, or look past red flags, and trust me, it’s a lot easier to leave the person if they aren’t right for you before you have a kid with them, that’s makes things A LOT tougher. You almost have to put your kids first and make things work. Which at times is hard if you would have just not settled. So that would be my biggest advice! Don’t be so rushed to fit your timeline where you look past reg flags in life.
23; Divorced… mom of 2. Trying to get back into school, unemployed…. I really want to thank you ladies for this video. I put so much pressure on myself & everything you spoke about I literally am going through. I have to realize like Adrienne said “there is no timeline, there is no blueprint” Thank you ladies so much for these words of wisdom 💗
This video was so true! I just turned 25 this year and literally on my birthday I got into a car accident. I had to distance myself from friends I’ve known for years that were no longer serving me, and to top it off I have been trying to get a legal assistant job this entire year and constantly got rejected. However, with each disappointment God always blessed me with something better. If one job didn’t chose me, I had an interview for somewhere I didn’t even think I was qualified for. So if you’re in your twenties just prepare yourself for the disappointments/ hard decisions and trust Gods plan anyway. There is no blueprint, and no matter how prepared you are life will always throw a curve ball! We got this 💞💞💞
This is so good, ladies. I'm currently 28, but I feel like a 23-year-old because I haven't experienced half the stuff that people my age have. I often find myself comparing myself to others feeling behind because I haven't dated a lot of guys, never been in an actual relationship, I don't drink/smoke. I used to go out, but I always felt like an outcast in those settings. Now, I'm 28, just quit my corporate job, and looking for the next thing. I will now repeat "the next thing after that will be greater"-Mariah 😅. I definitely am like you all when I see something I admire in a person, I want to befriend them. I know the three of us would get along so well. ❤️
I literally shed some tears towards the end. I needed to hear this cause I’m 28 and have been struggling with school. Please do more videos like this with Mariah... it’s so helpful!
I'm 28 and this has been the most trying year of my life. Self doubt, the feeling of failing and not being where you think you should have been. But I'm slowly finding my way starting with doing what I really want to
My life came together in my 30s, but I did the right foundation in my 20s. My marriage, child, business, finances. Like Adrienne said, it’s the foundation. I think things work out better when you’re a bit older in 30s. The 20s is a huge learning experience.
Biggest lesson I learned in my 20s was to trust my gut. I tripped myself up so many times in my 20s ignoring that voice. I figured it out in a homeless shelter when I was 27. I thank God for that experience all the time. I was forever changed. I also learned that close friends can be/become toxic and it’s okay to let the friendship go. As you grow you can outgrow people. … pivot is a real WORD! For all your whole entire life life!
I too was living in a shelter in my 20's, I learned how resilient I was and I now see that God protected me that entire time. However I have never thought to thank Him for that experience. I'm glad I read your comment. I've been carrying resentment and anger towards my mother for putting me in that situation but I think i'm seeing it all wrong. Thank you.
@@carnival30 Bless you! God really spoke to me during that time. I left a toxic place and I was in a YWCA shelter. I was happy for a safe place. Two much older women really took me under their wings. When I first moved in I think I had a mental breakdown. Idk. I would hyperventilate and shake. I started praying over my mind and God really began to give me peace that surpassed my expectations. I don’t know how but I was so at peace. I also really held a grudge about the situation that put me there for several years after but I eventually was able to forgive. Coming to a place of forgiveness was such a big lesson for me. I learned so much about God’s protection. I was in a place of mental and spiritual torment and that place was God’s place of protection for me.
I’m 27 and I’m still navigating through life and figuring out what makes me happy. I feel like I’m moving slow compared to others and it’s scary not knowing where life will go. But God is good and I’m hoping his plan is bigger than what I see.
I finished university at 22, I got a job and bought my first car at 23, I built a house and started dating the guy of my dreams at 24. I’m 25 right now, everyone has their own stories. No matter these ups I still had downs at EVERY single year of my 20’s. But knowing myself and growing towards my own future self was the most important ingredient to this recipe.
I am 24, freshly graduated from college feeling SOO lost. But I remember when I was 21 about to move to a new place for college feeling the same exact way. But look, I made it through! Life is about the journey and I’m honestly still figuring it out. But I am constantly preparing for the ride life will give me.
Dropped out of a Uni at 19 due to not wanting to pull out loans but working bullshit ass jobs to chase my passions makes me feel like I did a wrong move. Just gotta see it through I guess, I’m 23.
Currently 22 ✨ however, time pushes through me quicker than most people. Growing up too fast due to certain situations, shapes the way you grow older every year. I feel like my “20’s” I’ve lived bits and pieces of even though my age is 22. I learned very young about things that unfortunately most of my peers weren’t taught. Like taxes, how to vote, how to pay bills, how to create a resume, how to go in for a job interview, etc etc. I think it’s so important for us to learn about these things early on so we don’t feel like we know absolutely nothing when we’re out in the real world.
@@christabelhammond3709 my mom taught me how to pay my taxes at 15. She went through it step by step and took me to get my taxes filed. I would highly recommend to ask someone you feel comfortable asking how to file your taxes. I felt much better going with someone than by myself.
Yeah I honestly feel like that should be taught in all public and private high schools should have a class that is called finance 101 or a life skills class lol
"Never stop believing that the next thing will always be greater" Thank you so much for that encouragement. ❤️ I would tell my younger self (I'm 28) the people who truly love you will never expect you to perform and contort for them. If you find yourself performing for them to keep them and chasing them, they're not for you and they never will be
I NEEDED this video, I’m crying so hard rn… I don’t have a close relationship with my family & sometimes it’s just dang hard! Adrienne I’ve looked up to since I was literally a child during the cheetah girl days & was excited to see a Latina on screen with curly hair, and in my late teens when The Real started and now being 23 this advice was just what I needed, love you always ❤️
Advice to those in their 20’s as I recently just left mines: • Your life is not over at 30, it’s just the beginning of your young adulthood! • Don’t lose yourself trying to fit in • Learn how to embrace emotional boundaries with family, friends and partners • Pay OFF every debt, big or small, doesn’t matter if finances will be tight for a bit • It’s okay and normal to leave a career that you studied for, esp. if you are not happy! • Stop focusing on finding the one and focus on finding you • Travel, travel, TRAVEL!! Traveling is not a luxury, it’s a necessity to growth! • Step outside of your comfort zone and TAKE RISKS • Live in your truth, including your sexuality, don’t spend your 20’s hiding from your truth. • It’s healthy to say “NO” and “I can’t”, be empowered to do so! • Find a spiritual and meditative practice and stick to it! • Spend time with those who care and love you often as you can! • STOP COMPARING YOUR LIFE TO OTHERS AND LIVE YOUR OWN JOURNEY! There is no timeline or blue print! • Let go of the past, live in the present for the future comes in due time always! ❤️
Best advice in your 20's is learning how to manage your finances, saving as much as possible(don't try to keep up with the Joneses, you'll rack up credit card debt so fast), loving yourself first, taking time for your mental AND physical health is important! Working out as much as possible builds self confidence, positive body image, and helps decrease stress. When I started to lift weights 🏋️♀️ I also earned the confidence at work that I could handle more of a workload as much as my weights would increase at the gym and my booty 🍑 started to look good too! Also travel somewhere if possible! Go see the world so you don’t feel that your surroundings is all there is! There’s something about travel that allowed me to realize there’s more out there! Travel on a budget though. 🔑
This is the most relatable video on the internet. And EVERYONE needs to watch it. I’m literally 27 and feel like i’m not where i’m supposed to be but I feel like at any age you will feel that way
this is so true lol. I felt this way at 24 then I felt a lil better once I started working towards my goals more but at 29 I was feeling this again since I'll be turning 30 very soon. I kept freaking out about how I don't have a place of my own, a spouse/SO, children etc. Keept seeing/hearing about friends/old acquaintances that are getting married, having children etc. Made me feel super left out but honestly I should be glad none of those things happened in my 20s. I was not ready for those things at all
As someone who had such a traumatic childhood I never thought I would make it to my 20s. I’m 22 now and I’m learning to embrace the ups and the downs that comes with being in my 20s. I think your 20s is the hardest time in your life because so many of us think we know ourselves but we’re still growing. To quote Sza God bless those 20 somethings
Currently going through this right now. I’m 23 with 2 kids under 2 (18 mos + 3 mos), going through a divorce, depression, anxiety, etc. On the bright side I’m excited to find myself again, find my voice, and become a better version of myself. Bring it on 20s 🥰
I'm so glad this was recommended to me. I almost teared up at the end where you said "Separate your feelings from facts" it's so easy to fall into a spiral of self-loathing and pain. Twenties truly is the ground work of realizing who you are, your worth, your faults and how to have the patience in working on them. All this advice is so true and necessary, instantly subscribing.
I am 41 and I co-sign everything you said! Don't give up girls, it really gets better and I was like Adrienne. I had a whole life plan. None of it worked the way I planned, it all came out completely different,I didn't get everything I planned for but some of it I am currently trying to make real by myself. And I am actually not in a bad place. I have learned self love and I know what I am really good at and I made peace with my flaws and don't use all my focus trying to hide them cause my dopeness outweighs those flaws millionfold lol. Plus one thing you will learn no matter how things look from the outside (money, beauty, relationship, "picture perfect"), we ALLLLL have those same fears and insecurities. I coach people and everyone has those same residual feelings from their childhoods, anxiety, insecurities. Talk to people, don't hide yourself. There is a lot of healing and comfort in community. ❤️
Still in my 20s (27) and think I am experiencing depression for the first time ever it’s hard but it was refreshing to hear Adrienne say your 20s is just the START!
Love this! I’m 28 going on 29 and feel like I’ve accomplished nothing! Being Hispanic and 28 and not married and not wanting kids feels like the whole world is shunning you and your a terrible person but at the end of the day there is no timeline there is no blueprint everyone’s paths are pre written by our father and we just have to trust the process and be ready to pivot 🙌
omg I felt this too. I'm 29 (turning 30 very soon!) and I spent most of my time on my education and career but honestly I have soo little experience with relationships and I was feeling down that I'm the only cousin in my family that's not married yet. My family cracks jokes sometimes (I'm Hispanic too) and most of the time I shrug it off like yeah whatever lol but as I get closer to 30 it was beginning to bother me :( But I'm learning to trust God and know that He has a plan for me !
Best advice- be focus driven, enjoy every moment, go on vacations, appreciate your body lol ( while it’s easy to lose weight 🤣) and don’t worry your husband/wife will come probably closer to your 30s so focus on you! And enjoy the freedom
I love your positivity. Omg I’m 29 and it doesn’t feel like it. I’m finally comfortable in my skin. I still struggle with body image because of IG but I have learned to still love me. I’m not where I want to be financially or as a single mother. So much heartbreak and lessons but I’m optimistic and I’ve learned I have survived everything I thought would break me. The older I get the younger I feel!!! Thank you for sharing ladies!!
Ohh Chile, you and Mariah just dont know that yall literally spoke to my ENTIRE soul. I just turned 23 in july and I swear i feel like almost everyday is a mental and an emotional battlefield for me. With so many thoughts like am I doing enough? Am I living my purpose? I mean the list goes on and on as you listed in your video. One thing for certain is that you are an AMAZING role model to mariah and your subscribers/fans. There so many gems you said and I'm taking mental and physical notes and will use them as words of affirmations everyday. Thanks A ! ❤🤗
I relate to everyday being an emotional/mental battlefield so much! It can be so overwhelming and that’s why I loved the part about making notes on what you do have!!!
Currently 25, and definitely have my hardest struggles during the last four years. I appreciate you for this video. I’m such a fan! And this video is so real.
Can we just have MORE of this series? Adrienne's Guide To Life? This dynamic between 25-year-old Mariah and 31-year-old Adrienne is just amazing. It's so perfect and it really shows how a modern, integrated family can be. They're just goals. This dynamic is sooooo huge. But one question, why were you broke after Cheetah Girls? It was huge.
Money is an energy. Your money habits will follow you everywhere you go. My income tripled at around 23 and after my expenses (including luxuries I added - lash extensions, hair, clothes) I was still ending with 200 in my account to last me the two weeks AS IF I WAS STILL IN COLLEGE, granted I was saving ALOT more but I still wasn’t focusing on financial literacy and a fundamentally healthier relationship with money to expand upon. I am turning 26 in November and doing a career change and am really realizing how harshly I fumbled the bag. People really hate talking about money because we attach it so heavily to our identity and don’t want to admit any poor decision making skills, but if you don’t come from financial literacy we have to start being transparent with ourselves. I have forgiven myself for my mistakes and really hold myself accountable for some of my vices and self limiting beliefs that hold me back. Taking it one day at a time chile 😂
@@desireenicole3 I can't tell you how much I loved this comment you shared. This whole thing you just shared could be a content pillar if you're continuing your journey with content creation on IG/YT. I for one, would love to hear about how you forgave yourself and took the necessary steps forward to better your finances and life. A comment I didn't know I needed, but deeply appreciate. Thanks for sharing!
Just turned 29 and I look back and I have some of the things I have prayed for but also going through such a hard year at the same time. Financially struggling , going through which job is going to work best being a mom, no longer have a car... but faith continues to push me through!
*i just turned 25 & this is so helpful! i know i’m not the only one who was sheltered at home / uneducated about things involving real life, growing up. more vital skills & lessons should be taught in schools* 💫
I just turned 25 too three weeks ago. People really don't seem to understand what it's like to be an adult, until they're an adult. I truly miss being a kid. There's only this very small window to be a kid and then the rest of your life to be an adult. If there's any youngins' out there, please cherish your child years while you can.
I first watched this a few months ago and wrote down “be prepared to pivot” on a post it note it has been next to my desk at work ever since. I honestly thought I’d stay in the same position, same relationship etc. By taking “be prepared to pivot” to heart, I have LEVELED UP in every. Aspect. Career wise, personal relationships all of it. Thank you so so so much for sharing that! ❤️
Love everything about this video! I’m 26 and it’s been one hell of a ride already. A lot of loss & heartbreak. But I think one thing that I would tell myself is to be slow to worry & just trust in Gods plan.
Hands down the best video you have posted!! I identify SO much with Mariah and as a 26 year old, my dependence on God has grown and he is totally teaching me to PIVOT. Adrienne you are the older sister we all NEED 😍🤍
This was such a lovely segment! As a woman in her 20s, the most important thing for me to learn was to BE KIND and PATIENT with myself! Comparison is truly a thief of joy, but self-love is the best reward there is. I have achieved many accomplishments in my life, but slowing down and loving on me was the hardest, and most important, thing for me to learn. ♥🙏 Sending love to all the folks in their 20s (and beyond) doing their thang and figuring it all out along the way! 🙌
@@nelanig4844 Yes sis! We are always evolving as people. We learn and we grow. These are the years we lay down the foundation for the rest of our lives, who we will be and how we will impact the world. It's a beautiful time and every day is precious. There is no time wasting on what other people are doing or thinking. ♥
You are so right! Life doesn’t have a timeline or blueprints. Had a mutual friend that HAD to get married before she turned 30 and it really messed her up in the end. My advice, enjoy your life in the now as much as you can 💕
I didn't expect this to be the MOST specific, realistic and relatable 20s talk ever but you did not fail to deliver a word that is genuinely encouraging.
Currently 26 and this is extremely relatable. Great advice. It’s nice to know that it’s okay to feel and question all these things we have and are about to experience ✨ Thanks Adrienne from Disney to now, I’ve loved to see you on your journey 🤎
Man this was so good!! Literally everything. The comparison, the pressure to be successful, making important decisions, distancing from toxic relationships, pivoting careers! Thank you!
I am in my 20s right now and I still keep thinking about how the pandemic/COVID was happening during this time and how I felt like it took a part of my youth experience/fun away, but I think that it also helped me mature like never before mentally to really start understanding that my time is something I cannot get back, so I need to utilize it carefully. LOVE THIS VIDEO TOPIC 🌊🌊🌊
Perfect timing. This video speaks volume in my life right now. Im 23 and this makes me feel better about where I am in life. Im almost done with my law degree while working a full time job and been stressing about whats next. Adrienne, thank you so much!!!
I'm 21 years turning 22 in 2 hours. I realized that even at the young age of 21,I was so hard on myself because I was comparing my life to that of my friends and I had a time plan of what I want to achieve when I reached certain age,which was not always working,and this will sometimes makes me feel like I'm not doing enough. This video literally changed my perspective on life.i now know that I don't have to rush into anything, stop feeling anxious about the future and be grateful for everything I have achieved so far. Thank you Adrienne and Mariah. This is the best birthday gift ever
just turned 20 and boy will I say that every aspect of my life changed and watching this video has pushed me to focus on the positive and I will get through it!! LOVED THIS
Same boat soon to be 30 in Dec God willing, don’t worry, I was told being in your 30’s is where life really begins. Fortify your relationship with God! That’s what’s changed my life completely. Reading His word and nurturing my relationship with Him has made up for all that I didn’t know in my 20’s. May God bless you
Currently 25! In the middle of it all! So I understand the feeling of so much going on. But truly can’t complain. I’m very blessed to now be in my dream career, and also I am engaged now planning my wedding. It’s a magical time!
Just turned 30 last week and yessss, 20s was the toughest EVER! I am so happy to be part of the 30 club! Wishing stability, peace, grace, and gratitude throughout my 30s! 😊
That topic of discussion about comparison and feeling that you should have your life in order before 30 is a real thing. We tend to forget that we are different people with different journeys on a different schedule. Thanks so, so much for sharing (Btw, I'm 27 and still figuring things out😁🙌🏽). More of these discussions please!
Looks like we deserve a podcast. This was so helpful, I can't even explain. Make this a series at least, pleaseee😭😭😭 This is probably my favourite video yet.
This video has been the most helpful, honest video I've watched on advice for your 20's. I'm currently 22 and just feel like I'm struggling finding myself, choosing a career path, keeping a stable job, trying to be mentally & physically healthy and it just feels overwhelming at times. I loved multiple things Adrienne said, to be hungry and not thirsty, prepare to pivot, and to focus on the good facts of the current situation i'm in. thank you for the great advice!
I’m literally gonna watch this every time I need a pep talk‼️ I’m 25 and sometimes my feelings and thoughts take over, so I hope I can be better at putting facts over feelings. GREAT VIDEO✨
Turning 29 at the end of the month so this video is right on time and so uplifting ladies! Life is definitely what you make it, regardless of all the negative situations and/or people that will enter it. I choose daily to live drama-free, positively, and with immense faith. I thank my younger self for allowing herself room to grow, that mindset is totally helping me embrace who I'm becoming 🙌🙏.
I wish that Mariah would have talked more about the lessons she’s learned after going through a divorce so young. That would be really interesting to hear about, if she is willing to share of course
I would literally tell myself that being happy and fulfilled solo is more important than being married and miserable. Truly look at how you want your life to turn out as opposed to planning out your life based on what others want for you. Besos
I’ve been scrolling past this video all week.. Lord knows I needed to see this. I’m 25 turning 26 this December. Everything that was talked about is what I’ve been struggling with these past couple months. Thank you for your words of assurance and encouragement. ❤️
Can I just say THANK YOU….I’m 21 and it’s been really hard for me get through a lot of rough patches I’ve had I know it might sound like girl you are so young but I needed this you guys are amazing and yes I am crying watching this right now
Preach Mariah! "Never stop believing, manifesting, praying for...the next thing will ALWAYS be greater!" I love this joint praise for God's journey for us and believing for his best! Great word! Amen!
literally watched this right after having a meltdown of whats going on in my life and about college. im in my 20s and this video just confirmed on what i needed to hear! thank you
What's your best advice for people in their 20s?
Same age as Mariah! I would advice them to save money as much as possible and manage your bills.
I love seeing Mariah, we share the same name & I turn 25 in less than 2 weeks. I always feel like I’m living through her in these videos 😩😂
Let go of all the things you think you SHOULD be doing, because there is no set timeline for anything. I'm still learning to do this now in my 30s ✊🏽💖
Honestly and loyalty is expensive gift, do not expect it from everyone
This too shall pass! I'm also 25 and its the one thing that keeps me waking up in the morning knowing that I am grateful just be a witness to another sunrise!
“Prepare to pivot.” That gave me chills. Adrienne, you are so wise.
Agree! That's a word
Same! So true!
I’m keeping that in mind forever seriously
That part 👀👀
Yasss same! I’m preparing for a pivot at this very moment! Loved this video so much.
Just turned 26 and I want my money back. I am 1 year sober, relationships suck, I have $20,000 student loan debt left which is not bad as most people. I have officially set boundaries with my gaslighting mom, and let go of toxic friends. Covid ruined my business, I’m over it but I’m still striving. When it’s to much I just take a nap 😩😂
Proud of you for growing. You’re still growing an evolving. Sometimes it’s just hard to love the process💙💙💙
Woow that's alot
You’ll be ok my love,I’m very proud of you for being sober…God is on your side 🤍
That's inspiring
Adulting is Ghetto foreal but Just keep going ONE step at a time sis
& May God Bless you as you continue on your journey as well.
Advice I needed to hear in my 20s:
- it’s never too late to start over
- go to therapy and heal from past traumas
-don’t spend savings, use your money wisely!
That's so me 😩
Thank you
Number 2!!!
That's some good advice :)
Thank you so much!!!
Getting married in your 30’s is starting to become more normal, talked about and accepted and I love that.
It’s probably better that way, too. People are more likely to be mature.
Yeah but the downside is that most good men already taken by then
@@ccc-fd3ls interesting, Iv found more men settling down in their 30’s and by then have developed more. But that’s just my experience.
I love it too! I'm currently 30 & got engaged at this age. I'll be married by 32 God-willing & I am honestly so so glad it worked out like that for me.
my mom got married at 30. she taught me to live at my own pace and do what i want, not what's expected of me :)
I'm 31, my 20 twenties was nothing to write home about. No saved finances, no investment, no asset, no relationships. I was always in the house taking care of my brothers' children. Now in my 30's I feel I can be more. Thank you for this encouragement. I love you Adrienne from Nigeria.
my twenties were a rollercoaster to say the least
- got married at 23
-bought my first house at 24
- started my career at 24
- quarter life crisis at 25
- lost my mom to cancer at 26
- had my first baby at 27
the one important thing to know in your 20s is that your financial freedom is very much shaped in your 20s - make good decision and dont spend all your savings in stupid things
The quarter life crisis is soooo true 😫 I’m going through it now! It’s definitely a year of reflection and figuring out what you want out of life for the second half of your 20s.
@@tiaraterry1344 girlllll it was brutal...turning 30 wasnt as hard! 25 left me wondering if i wanted kids and even if i still wanted to be married! its definitely challenging and i suggest you seek a therapist to get some clarity if possible
@@sunshinegirl02 omggg sooo true! I told my mom idk if I still want kids lol buttt I have more than enough time to change my mind. I think because I’m still figuring out life right now, kids just seems like a lot to take on.
@@tiaraterry1344 i can tell you from experience that its better to wait and be in the right headspace when you become a mother...its the most rewarding yet challenging thing you will ever do. And as you said, you still have time! Enjoy your 20s and when the time feels right to have children, you will know! :)
I am so sorry about your mother’s passing! I took a screenshot of your comment, I love it because it’s such great advice. Thank you love ❤️
You can tell Mariah looks up to Adrienne A LOT. She's even modeling her look after her. Influence is powerful!
Yes ! Same mannerisms and everything
Adrienne is a role model. I met her in person at a hotel restaurant with her family. She spoke to me like a friend. Her vibe is the same in person. Beautiful in the outside and inside.
she's awesome and If I was in her shoes I'd do the exact same thing because she's truly a wonderful person
How do you know her mama isn't her influence
@@Fartiosa she is a robot. She is curses just as her dad. MARRIED and divorced and sitting here with her dad second wife and trying to mimic and act like her. She need to go back to the altar and get the real GOSPEL and holy Spirit and stay with her mom. Get her tail back with her husband.
People entering or in their twenties: remember that even though you're growing up and starting new things, your parents/grandparents/family members are getting older! Make time for them bc you don't want to regret not spending time with loved ones, you never know what may happen to them
This is great advice, thank you!!!
Definitely treasure your family no matter how old you are!
@@AllThingsAdrienne I think it’s important for us to be aware of this because we get caught up in the freedom of discovering ourselves on our own and forget the importance of being in touch and close with our loved ones.
Thisssss! I want to pursue a better life in another country, but the biggest fear holding me back is leaving my mom.
@@ValerieChigbata Maybe you should travel and vacation where you want to go.
I just turned 25, so Tips for early 20’s…
Trust your gut and be independent.
Go after what makes you happy with hard work.
Cut out toxic people and cherish loved ones.
Continue to learn how to be a better person.
Xx
There is one thing that has really marked me in my twenties (still in them, I'm 27), and it's that we often overestimate what we can do in a year and underestimate what we could do in a decade. This has given me so much peace cause remembering it lets me rest in knowing there is still more time to get to the goal. What is important is walking towards it. If I die tomorrow I want to feel satisfied in the process I'm taking and not just achieving the end goal.
Another thing is that life has seasons. Especially as women it's hard to feel like we need to be everything and do everything all at once, and understanding we could do everything and be everything we want but in seasons gives sooo much peace and rest. At the end of the day, it's important to live out God's grace, to recognize that we are loved and there is nothing more we could do to be more loved than we already are. We will get to the goal within seasons, the goal will come in due time but the process needs to involve grace, rest, and gratitude if we don't want to get there feeling like a train wreck.
Love this 💕
Wisely said
Thank you so much for this! ♥️
This was so good! ❤
Mariah needs her own youtube channel. She is a natural.
I’m 33 and my 20s were full of sadness, struggles and suffering. I feel like time is running out because I’m not married and don’t have kids.
I got my bachelors degree at 24 and I had many jobs. I moved out when I was 29, in between I dated losers but never had a boyfriend. Positive: My faith grew in my 20s and I stopped drinking when I was 26.
So when I turned 30 I was really happy. I’m looking forward to better things….and I’m in grad school now and I’m actually in a job where I can move up and grow. Better years are coming!!
Yessss that part
❤️
It’s great things got better for you
💜💜💜💖
Yes, better years are coming!! I’m 30, single and no kids and the Lord taught me soooo much in my 20’s. Now I’m just so willing to do the Lords will because I’ve been through so much and it’s only made me stronger!
Adrienne and Mariah’s relationship is literally the cutest thing ever! Its like they were made to be in each other’s lives🥺❤️
Who is Mariah?
Adriena's husband Israel
@@roslyndouglas2184 she's Israel's daughter
Is she half black?
@@aprilkatie6752 You could say that. Yes. Israel is mixed and so is her mum.
This is SUCH great advice. I’m dreading turning 25 in January because I feel like such a loser to have never been in a relationship yet. I go on FB and see classmates from high school engaged and having babies and it all just takes me back to not being picked for prom and things like that back then.
I recently moved across the country for work and feel super small in this big city. I’m in so much debt from college and each day feels like absolute shit but I’m hoping I can look back 10 years from now and see change.
Gurl don't give up, relationships are great with right. Let God write ur love story nd persue your dreams along the ways. Love is something u have no control over.
Girl Levelup that what your 20s is about enjoying your youth not changing diapers and men draining you emotionally
Literally same. 25 / Brand new city / I just got heartbroken by my Dream Guy / I feel like I have NO purpose right now and feel like shit all the time too. But It will be worth it. You will have a hot ass husband and you're a diamond in the making sister
I feel you. I don’t understand how people find a man so easily. I am struggling to find someone on my wavelength that I genuinely see my future with
Girl me tooo!!!! I’ve never been in a relationship, it’s so hard for me. Constantly running into loser guys. I’m 24. I feel so weird that out of most of my friends I’m not in a relationship
I really liked how Adrienne said “separate the facts from your feelings “. Something i definitely want to put into practice. Thank you❤️
I'll be 30 years old on Sunday!!! My 20's literally flew by, it's crazy. (I remember high school like it was yesterday). My advice for your 20's is to slow down. Enjoy the ride because next thing you know.....you'll be turning 30! Also, do not take yourself so seriously...let other people do that for you ;) Love you guys😘
Happy early birthday!! Welcome to the 30s club ✨
@@AllThingsAdrienne thank you so much!!!
It's Sunday where I am(Botswana, Africa). So Happy Birthday La'Flame Productions and may God bless you with all your hearts desires as you enter your 30s!
@@atlangk6494 awww thank you so so much!!! I greatly appreciate the Love 🥰. May God bless you as well 🙏❣️
@@serverofLove thank you and you're welcome 😊
I'm only 24 and I love my twenties. My best advice to anyone in their twenties is to enjoy it. Don't rush it, you don't have to have everything figured out by your 30's. I'll let you in on a secret there are people who are still figuring life out in their 30's. Don't put yourself on a deadline. As long as u do something to learn and better yourself everyday you will get to wear you want to be at the perfect time. God taught me that ❤
Love this!!!
This!
@aneshiamarie_ Thank you 😊
@@AllThingsAdrienne Thank you I'm sooo fan girling right now 👏🏾👏🏾
@@dianaa3336 Thank you
When adrienne said: I don't like the way I feel and now I have to take action so I don't feel the way I feel!!
I felt that!!!!!!😭🤦🏻♀️
Thank you for the advice! I’m 27, went to school for psychology and have been a social worker for 4 years. For years I haven’t been passionate about my job but stayed because I have bills and I felt stuck for awhile. Exactly 2 months ago I was talking to my fiancé and told him that I felt like my job was taking me further away from my purpose but I quickly changed my attitude and started listed all the things I was grateful for like I get to work from home, I was able to keep my job during the pandemic, etc. I told myself that this job and these feelings are temporary and if I keep focusing on my IT courses one day I’ll be in the career that I want. 3 weeks ago I was offered my dream job working for software development company and they doubled my salary. As I write this, I’m still in disbelief that my life has completely shifted. I’m excited about life and the future; scared /anxious that I’ll fail; and proud that I took a chance on myself and took the steps to make my dream happen even when I was feeling lost. Take my experience as a reminder to not give up on your dreams and be kind to yourself if your currently feeling lost; life will surprise you when you least expect it💛
Wow, I totally needed to hear this. Right on time! Im in the mental health field, and am completely burned out. I am seeking a career change.
@@rzy4701 yes!
Amazing! Congrats 💗💗
Got married at 18, bought my 1st house at 23, graduated from college at 29, and looking forward for what comes next! My income is good, my marriage is good, now I'm concentrating in my spiritual awakening and my emotional healing from childhood traumas.
Be hungry not thirsty. I really needed to hear this, I’m 23 and been feeling lost lately. This whole video was amazing to soak in. Thank you ladies for the knowledge . 💋
Protect your mind. I’m 29 now, but when I was 23, that is when I started experiencing new mental crises that came to a head when I was about 25. Don’t feed into everything you hear, make sure you test everything you hear and feel. Pursue wisdom 🥰
@ethereal flower 🥰
Same im 23 and i just dk
@@seekinghimdaily92 beautifully said!! thank you 🥺
This video is SO VALIDATING! I'm turning 27 in December and It has been tough! I would say mid-20s is the roughest! Career wise, relationship, responsibilities!
Don't think it has to all happen... Tomorrow. Just Make plans.
Set goals personally and professionally. And stick to it, meaning if you’re in a relationship, don’t accept anything that’s not for you. Same with a job. Another job will come if you leave the one that’s not working for you. Move to a new state if you wanna, don’t be afraid. And 27 is still young. I’m 36, and alot can change in 6 months or a year! 🙏🏽
Thank you!!!
Same girl sameeee! 27 in December and the pressure is ON
Hello December born sister 👋🏽
I feel this so deep when Adrienne talked about the “time line” she had in her mind of finding love, engagement, marriage & having kids. Something I noticed is when we are in such a rush or worried more about fitting our time line than finding the right person we SETTLE and maybe stay longer in relationships we shouldn’t have, or look past red flags, and trust me, it’s a lot easier to leave the person if they aren’t right for you before you have a kid with them, that’s makes things A LOT tougher. You almost have to put your kids first and make things work. Which at times is hard if you would have just not settled. So that would be my biggest advice! Don’t be so rushed to fit your timeline where you look past reg flags in life.
23; Divorced… mom of 2. Trying to get back into school, unemployed…. I really want to thank you ladies for this video. I put so much pressure on myself & everything you spoke about I literally am going through. I have to realize like Adrienne said “there is no timeline, there is no blueprint” Thank you ladies so much for these words of wisdom 💗
Keep going mama❤️
🤗🤗🤗all will be well
Wisdom, light and strength unto you😇
You can do it, we're rooting for you☺️
God's got you. His timing may be frustrating to us because we only understand our lives retrospectively but He's got you. You'll be alright
This video was so true! I just turned 25 this year and literally on my birthday I got into a car accident. I had to distance myself from friends I’ve known for years that were no longer serving me, and to top it off I have been trying to get a legal assistant job this entire year and constantly got rejected. However, with each disappointment God always blessed me with something better. If one job didn’t chose me, I had an interview for somewhere I didn’t even think I was qualified for. So if you’re in your twenties just prepare yourself for the disappointments/ hard decisions and trust Gods plan anyway. There is no blueprint, and no matter how prepared you are life will always throw a curve ball! We got this 💞💞💞
Beautiful testimony 🙌 🙏 ✨
This is so good, ladies. I'm currently 28, but I feel like a 23-year-old because I haven't experienced half the stuff that people my age have. I often find myself comparing myself to others feeling behind because I haven't dated a lot of guys, never been in an actual relationship, I don't drink/smoke. I used to go out, but I always felt like an outcast in those settings. Now, I'm 28, just quit my corporate job, and looking for the next thing. I will now repeat "the next thing after that will be greater"-Mariah 😅.
I definitely am like you all when I see something I admire in a person, I want to befriend them. I know the three of us would get along so well. ❤️
Me too girl
Samee sweetie
me too!
Same 4
God speed with the next chapter in your life sis.
The way Mariah looks at you in genuine awe is literally the sweetest. Love your relationship!
I literally shed some tears towards the end. I needed to hear this cause I’m 28 and have been struggling with school. Please do more videos like this with Mariah... it’s so helpful!
Your 28 and strong. The struggles your facing are your testimony. Good things are on the way to come.
I'm 28 and this has been the most trying year of my life. Self doubt, the feeling of failing and not being where you think you should have been. But I'm slowly finding my way starting with doing what I really want to
♥️♥️ same sis ! & She literally preached to the choir with this video . Reminders like this are uplifting
@@xclushive same but I'm feeling this at 29. This has been my hardest year so far.
My life came together in my 30s, but I did the right foundation in my 20s. My marriage, child, business, finances. Like Adrienne said, it’s the foundation. I think things work out better when you’re a bit older in 30s. The 20s is a huge learning experience.
I really needed this. I’ll be 30 in 8 months and have been feeling some type of way about my 20s ending because things didn’t pan out as I hoped.
Biggest lesson I learned in my 20s was to trust my gut. I tripped myself up so many times in my 20s ignoring that voice. I figured it out in a homeless shelter when I was 27. I thank God for that experience all the time. I was forever changed. I also learned that close friends can be/become toxic and it’s okay to let the friendship go. As you grow you can outgrow people. … pivot is a real WORD! For all your whole entire life life!
I too was living in a shelter in my 20's, I learned how resilient I was and I now see that God protected me that entire time. However I have never thought to thank Him for that experience. I'm glad I read your comment. I've been carrying resentment and anger towards my mother for putting me in that situation but I think i'm seeing it all wrong. Thank you.
@@carnival30 Bless you! God really spoke to me during that time. I left a toxic place and I was in a YWCA shelter. I was happy for a safe place. Two much older women really took me under their wings. When I first moved in I think I had a mental breakdown. Idk. I would hyperventilate and shake. I started praying over my mind and God really began to give me peace that surpassed my expectations. I don’t know how but I was so at peace. I also really held a grudge about the situation that put me there for several years after but I eventually was able to forgive. Coming to a place of forgiveness was such a big lesson for me. I learned so much about God’s protection. I was in a place of mental and spiritual torment and that place was God’s place of protection for me.
"Separate your FEELINGS...from FACTS." That's GREAT advice, Adrienne. Thank you!
That and the learning to pivot in circumstances definitely top advice at any age.
@@saywhatnah5328 amen
I’m 27 and I’m still navigating through life and figuring out what makes me happy. I feel like I’m moving slow compared to others and it’s scary not knowing where life will go. But God is good and I’m hoping his plan is bigger than what I see.
It’s okay, i believe we all have our own path, We cannot control it but we have to keep goin
I finished university at 22, I got a job and bought my first car at 23, I built a house and started dating the guy of my dreams at 24. I’m 25 right now, everyone has their own stories. No matter these ups I still had downs at EVERY single year of my 20’s. But knowing myself and growing towards my own future self was the most important ingredient to this recipe.
Advice from a 29 year old Puerto Rican here: Trust God! Don’t be afraid to lift up him! The praises go up, the blessings come down!
well said!
Sooo true! Give thanks 🙏🏾
Thankkkksss
I am 24, freshly graduated from college feeling SOO lost. But I remember when I was 21 about to move to a new place for college feeling the same exact way. But look, I made it through! Life is about the journey and I’m honestly still figuring it out. But I am constantly preparing for the ride life will give me.
Dropped out of a Uni at 19 due to not wanting to pull out loans but working bullshit ass jobs to chase my passions makes me feel like I did a wrong move. Just gotta see it through I guess, I’m 23.
Currently 22 ✨ however, time pushes through me quicker than most people. Growing up too fast due to certain situations, shapes the way you grow older every year. I feel like my “20’s” I’ve lived bits and pieces of even though my age is 22. I learned very young about things that unfortunately most of my peers weren’t taught. Like taxes, how to vote, how to pay bills, how to create a resume, how to go in for a job interview, etc etc. I think it’s so important for us to learn about these things early on so we don’t feel like we know absolutely nothing when we’re out in the real world.
How did you learn how to pay your taxes please?
Same situation girl having to grow up quickly is a blessing but if anything let God receive the glory for how far he has made us come 🥰
@@arissaguzman6499 amen! He has taught us through experiences and guided us to the other side. 🙏🏼✨
@@christabelhammond3709 my mom taught me how to pay my taxes at 15. She went through it step by step and took me to get my taxes filed. I would highly recommend to ask someone you feel comfortable asking how to file your taxes. I felt much better going with someone than by myself.
Yeah I honestly feel like that should be taught in all public and private high schools should have a class that is called finance 101 or a life skills class lol
"Never stop believing that the next thing will always be greater" Thank you so much for that encouragement. ❤️ I would tell my younger self (I'm 28) the people who truly love you will never expect you to perform and contort for them. If you find yourself performing for them to keep them and chasing them, they're not for you and they never will be
I NEEDED this video, I’m crying so hard rn… I don’t have a close relationship with my family & sometimes it’s just dang hard! Adrienne I’ve looked up to since I was literally a child during the cheetah girl days & was excited to see a Latina on screen with curly hair, and in my late teens when The Real started and now being 23 this advice was just what I needed, love you always ❤️
Advice to those in their 20’s as I recently just left mines:
• Your life is not over at 30, it’s just the beginning of your young adulthood!
• Don’t lose yourself trying to fit in
• Learn how to embrace emotional boundaries with family, friends and partners
• Pay OFF every debt, big or small, doesn’t matter if finances will be tight for a bit
• It’s okay and normal to leave a career that you studied for, esp. if you are not happy!
• Stop focusing on finding the one and focus on finding you
• Travel, travel, TRAVEL!! Traveling is not a luxury, it’s a necessity to growth!
• Step outside of your comfort zone and TAKE RISKS
• Live in your truth, including your sexuality, don’t spend your 20’s hiding from your truth.
• It’s healthy to say “NO” and “I can’t”, be empowered to do so!
• Find a spiritual and meditative practice and stick to it!
• Spend time with those who care and love you often as you can!
• STOP COMPARING YOUR LIFE TO OTHERS AND LIVE YOUR OWN JOURNEY! There is no timeline or blue print!
• Let go of the past, live in the present for the future comes in due time always! ❤️
I just cant accept turning 30 I feel like theres so much I still need to do before 30 and I feel old at 29 😣
Can we pin this comment ❤
@@ye23. Sorry it took so long to respond back. Now that it’s a year, you probably have entered into your 30’s? How does it feel? 🙏🏾🌱🙂❤️
Thank you!!!
Love this!
Best advice in your 20's is learning how to manage your finances, saving as much as possible(don't try to keep up with the Joneses, you'll rack up credit card debt so fast), loving yourself first, taking time for your mental AND physical health is important! Working out as much as possible builds self confidence, positive body image, and helps decrease stress. When I started to lift weights 🏋️♀️ I also earned the confidence at work that I could handle more of a workload as much as my weights would increase at the gym and my booty 🍑 started to look good too! Also travel somewhere if possible! Go see the world so you don’t feel that your surroundings is all there is! There’s something about travel that allowed me to realize there’s more out there! Travel on a budget though. 🔑
Tell it!
All very important. But include looking after physical health too. Sometimes, regular short exercise sessions can help so much.
@@PH-zc7th yes I excercise almost everyday there’s something about mind body and spirit working together and eating well is also important!
This is the most relatable video on the internet. And EVERYONE needs to watch it.
I’m literally 27 and feel like i’m not where i’m supposed to be but I feel like at any age you will feel that way
this is so true lol. I felt this way at 24 then I felt a lil better once I started working towards my goals more but at 29 I was feeling this again since I'll be turning 30 very soon. I kept freaking out about how I don't have a place of my own, a spouse/SO, children etc. Keept seeing/hearing about friends/old acquaintances that are getting married, having children etc. Made me feel super left out but honestly I should be glad none of those things happened in my 20s. I was not ready for those things at all
As someone who had such a traumatic childhood I never thought I would make it to my 20s. I’m 22 now and I’m learning to embrace the ups and the downs that comes with being in my 20s. I think your 20s is the hardest time in your life because so many of us think we know ourselves but we’re still growing. To quote Sza God bless those 20 somethings
Currently going through this right now.
I’m 23 with 2 kids under 2 (18 mos + 3 mos), going through a divorce, depression, anxiety, etc. On the bright side I’m excited to find myself again, find my voice, and become a better version of myself. Bring it on 20s 🥰
I'm so glad this was recommended to me. I almost teared up at the end where you said "Separate your feelings from facts" it's so easy to fall into a spiral of self-loathing and pain. Twenties truly is the ground work of realizing who you are, your worth, your faults and how to have the patience in working on them. All this advice is so true and necessary, instantly subscribing.
I couldn't stop thinking about the PIVOT PIVOT PIVOT!! episode of Friends when Adrienne was talking about pivot😂
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LOL 🛋
😂😂
Same!! 🤣
I am 41 and I co-sign everything you said! Don't give up girls, it really gets better and I was like Adrienne. I had a whole life plan. None of it worked the way I planned, it all came out completely different,I didn't get everything I planned for but some of it I am currently trying to make real by myself. And I am actually not in a bad place. I have learned self love and I know what I am really good at and I made peace with my flaws and don't use all my focus trying to hide them cause my dopeness outweighs those flaws millionfold lol. Plus one thing you will learn no matter how things look from the outside (money, beauty, relationship, "picture perfect"), we ALLLLL have those same fears and insecurities. I coach people and everyone has those same residual feelings from their childhoods, anxiety, insecurities.
Talk to people, don't hide yourself. There is a lot of healing and comfort in community. ❤️
Still in my 20s (27) and think I am experiencing depression for the first time ever it’s hard but it was refreshing to hear Adrienne say your 20s is just the START!
I am 29 and my twenties were a lot. I really needed to hear this encouragement.
me too
Me too
Same
Love this! I’m 28 going on 29 and feel like I’ve accomplished nothing! Being Hispanic and 28 and not married and not wanting kids feels like the whole world is shunning you and your a terrible person but at the end of the day there is no timeline there is no blueprint everyone’s paths are pre written by our father and we just have to trust the process and be ready to pivot 🙌
Felt this, Im turning 29 in 2 weeks
omg I felt this too. I'm 29 (turning 30 very soon!) and I spent most of my time on my education and career but honestly I have soo little experience with relationships and I was feeling down that I'm the only cousin in my family that's not married yet. My family cracks jokes sometimes (I'm Hispanic too) and most of the time I shrug it off like yeah whatever lol but as I get closer to 30 it was beginning to bother me :( But I'm learning to trust God and know that He has a plan for me !
We will be okay, if there was anything i took from this is we should prepare to pivot!!!!
29 next month here, as a man hearing this conversation was refreshing and much needed. Love your channel Adrienne🌹💕
Best advice- be focus driven, enjoy every moment, go on vacations, appreciate your body lol ( while it’s easy to lose weight 🤣) and don’t worry your husband/wife will come probably closer to your 30s so focus on you! And enjoy the freedom
Im 29 wheres my fucking hubby 🤣
@@ye23. HAHAAHA too funny yo😂😂
31 in 5 months and no husband yet.
I love your positivity. Omg I’m 29 and it doesn’t feel like it. I’m finally comfortable in my skin. I still struggle with body image because of IG but I have learned to still love me. I’m not where I want to be financially or as a single mother. So much heartbreak and lessons but I’m optimistic and I’ve learned I have survived everything I thought would break me. The older I get the younger I feel!!! Thank you for sharing ladies!!
20s really teaches you to get out of your ego and be more humble about everything.
Nothing truer than this one and I'm only 20
🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
As a 26 year old….EXCITED FOR THIS!
Ohh Chile, you and Mariah just dont know that yall literally spoke to my ENTIRE soul. I just turned 23 in july and I swear i feel like almost everyday is a mental and an emotional battlefield for me. With so many thoughts like am I doing enough? Am I living my purpose? I mean the list goes on and on as you listed in your video. One thing for certain is that you are an AMAZING role model to mariah and your subscribers/fans. There so many gems you said and I'm taking mental and physical notes and will use them as words of affirmations everyday. Thanks A ! ❤🤗
I relate to everyday being an emotional/mental battlefield so much! It can be so overwhelming and that’s why I loved the part about making notes on what you do have!!!
You still have plenty of time! Just take everyday one step at a time, you got this. 💕
Me too girl! I just turned 23 last month and I feel the same way! We got this!
facts except I'm about to be 26 hahhaha thank God for God
I’m 23 too and this is ME EVERYDAY😭😭
I’m about to be 32 and I literally look at my 20s as the funniest time ever. Honestly I’m loving my mindset in my 30s
Currently 25, and definitely have my hardest struggles during the last four years. I appreciate you for this video. I’m such a fan! And this video is so real.
Can we just have MORE of this series? Adrienne's Guide To Life? This dynamic between 25-year-old Mariah and 31-year-old Adrienne is just amazing. It's so perfect and it really shows how a modern, integrated family can be. They're just goals. This dynamic is sooooo huge. But one question, why were you broke after Cheetah Girls? It was huge.
Adrienne looks good right? She will be 38 this year. 😉
@@gabriellawarning913 no way!!! Everything she is doing is working!! The body the face and the energy!
Money is an energy. Your money habits will follow you everywhere you go. My income tripled at around 23 and after my expenses (including luxuries I added - lash extensions, hair, clothes) I was still ending with 200 in my account to last me the two weeks AS IF I WAS STILL IN COLLEGE, granted I was saving ALOT more but I still wasn’t focusing on financial literacy and a fundamentally healthier relationship with money to expand upon. I am turning 26 in November and doing a career change and am really realizing how harshly I fumbled the bag. People really hate talking about money because we attach it so heavily to our identity and don’t want to admit any poor decision making skills, but if you don’t come from financial literacy we have to start being transparent with ourselves. I have forgiven myself for my mistakes and really hold myself accountable for some of my vices and self limiting beliefs that hold me back. Taking it one day at a time chile 😂
@@desireenicole3 I can't tell you how much I loved this comment you shared. This whole thing you just shared could be a content pillar if you're continuing your journey with content creation on IG/YT. I for one, would love to hear about how you forgave yourself and took the necessary steps forward to better your finances and life. A comment I didn't know I needed, but deeply appreciate. Thanks for sharing!
Just turned 29 and I look back and I have some of the things I have prayed for but also going through such a hard year at the same time. Financially struggling , going through which job is going to work best being a mom, no longer have a car... but faith continues to push me through!
29 gang but im bout to 30 i feel sick
*i just turned 25 & this is so helpful! i know i’m not the only one who was sheltered at home / uneducated about things involving real life, growing up. more vital skills & lessons should be taught in schools* 💫
Yeah I was sheltered too. And trying to still grow up without vital skills is a process.
I just turned 25 too three weeks ago. People really don't seem to understand what it's like to be an adult, until they're an adult. I truly miss being a kid. There's only this very small window to be a kid and then the rest of your life to be an adult. If there's any youngins' out there, please cherish your child years while you can.
Yes I was so sheltered I barely knew real life things which caused me so much trouble
I'm still learning things as a 25 year old. It's tough. I just pray that things get better for me!!
I first watched this a few months ago and wrote down “be prepared to pivot” on a post it note it has been next to my desk at work ever since. I honestly thought I’d stay in the same position, same relationship etc. By taking “be prepared to pivot” to heart, I have LEVELED UP in every. Aspect. Career wise, personal relationships all of it. Thank you so so so much for sharing that! ❤️
Love everything about this video! I’m 26 and it’s been one hell of a ride already. A lot of loss & heartbreak. But I think one thing that I would tell myself is to be slow to worry & just trust in Gods plan.
Hands down the best video you have posted!! I identify SO much with Mariah and as a 26 year old, my dependence on God has grown and he is totally teaching me to PIVOT. Adrienne you are the older sister we all NEED 😍🤍
We got you!
Me too, sister!
Make another like this!
‘You have to learn how to PIVOT’! That’s the word for my 20s that I’m holding tight from this video. Thank you Adrienne! 💕
This was such a lovely segment! As a woman in her 20s, the most important thing for me to learn was to BE KIND and PATIENT with myself! Comparison is truly a thief of joy, but self-love is the best reward there is. I have achieved many accomplishments in my life, but slowing down and loving on me was the hardest, and most important, thing for me to learn. ♥🙏
Sending love to all the folks in their 20s (and beyond) doing their thang and figuring it all out along the way! 🙌
That's beautiful and amazing advice.... Learned these things as well! I can happily say I am approaching my 30's with the same mind set :)
@@nelanig4844 Yes sis! We are always evolving as people. We learn and we grow. These are the years we lay down the foundation for the rest of our lives, who we will be and how we will impact the world. It's a beautiful time and every day is precious. There is no time wasting on what other people are doing or thinking. ♥
@@tarahtangbeauty amen, sis ❤️ sending you love
Thank you!
The chemistry with this 2 is amazing
I'm 22. My biggest lesson in my 20's so far is discipline = freedom!
You are so right! Life doesn’t have a timeline or blueprints. Had a mutual friend that HAD to get married before she turned 30 and it really messed her up in the end.
My advice, enjoy your life in the now as much as you can 💕
That is so true. Go with the flow or else you will just dive yourself mad with these timelines.
I’m in my 20s and this video is exactly what I needed. The art of learning how to pivot through tough situations is very important!
LEARNING HOW TO PIVOT IS KEYYY!!!! Thank you Adrienne for always giving the best advice ❤️
I didn't expect this to be the MOST specific, realistic and relatable 20s talk ever but you did not fail to deliver a word that is genuinely encouraging.
I'm 28 but i definitely feel things getting better cos early 20s were rough and depressing lol. I feel like my 30s will be everything for me!!!
Be hungry, not thirsty!!! Love it! That's golden :)
Currently 26 and this is extremely relatable. Great advice. It’s nice to know that it’s okay to feel and question all these things we have and are about to experience ✨ Thanks Adrienne from Disney to now, I’ve loved to see you on your journey 🤎
Man this was so good!! Literally everything. The comparison, the pressure to be successful, making important decisions, distancing from toxic relationships, pivoting careers! Thank you!
I am in my 20s right now and I still keep thinking about how the pandemic/COVID was happening during this time and how I felt like it took a part of my youth experience/fun away, but I think that it also helped me mature like never before mentally to really start understanding that my time is something I cannot get back, so I need to utilize it carefully. LOVE THIS VIDEO TOPIC 🌊🌊🌊
Perfect timing. This video speaks volume in my life right now. Im 23 and this makes me feel better about where I am in life. Im almost done with my law degree while working a full time job and been stressing about whats next. Adrienne, thank you so much!!!
You’re doing amazing. I’m 23 too and feel u on that!
I'm 21 years turning 22 in 2 hours. I realized that even at the young age of 21,I was so hard on myself because I was comparing my life to that of my friends and I had a time plan of what I want to achieve when I reached certain age,which was not always working,and this will sometimes makes me feel like I'm not doing enough. This video literally changed my perspective on life.i now know that I don't have to rush into anything, stop feeling anxious about the future and be grateful for everything I have achieved so far. Thank you Adrienne and Mariah. This is the best birthday gift ever
turning 22 in two weeks! 😁
@@Rebeccalaurn 🥰❤
I will be 22 on Friday
Team 22 years 🥰🥰
I love ❤️ “Do not lean on your feeling and focus on the Truth” - Adrienne This is sooooo true!!
This was so needed, being a women with no mom. It hard to get good advice that will actually help. Thank you!❤
just turned 20 and boy will I say that every aspect of my life changed and watching this video has pushed me to focus on the positive and I will get through it!! LOVED THIS
Adrienne you are a gift to this world, let no one tell you anything else. Bless you!💗
LOL I love the authenticity of this video
Take away quote: prepare to pívot
I’m in my last few months of my 20s and I wish I had this talk with someone at 25! I feel like I have to catch up in my thirties
Right...
Same boat soon to be 30 in Dec God willing, don’t worry, I was told being in your 30’s is where life really begins. Fortify your relationship with God! That’s what’s changed my life completely. Reading His word and nurturing my relationship with Him has made up for all that I didn’t know in my 20’s. May God bless you
Damn I’m 25, 26 in feb and I feel so behind. Started 23 and then pandemic hit!! Lmao what a waste of my early 20s😫
30s is the new 20s. 😉
@allthingsadrienne The tea is spilled. ❤️ ^^
Currently 25! In the middle of it all! So I understand the feeling of so much going on. But truly can’t complain. I’m very blessed to now be in my dream career, and also I am engaged now planning my wedding. It’s a magical time!
Just turned 30 last week and yessss, 20s was the toughest EVER! I am so happy to be part of the 30 club! Wishing stability, peace, grace, and gratitude throughout my 30s! 😊
That topic of discussion about comparison and feeling that you should have your life in order before 30 is a real thing. We tend to forget that we are different people with different journeys on a different schedule. Thanks so, so much for sharing (Btw, I'm 27 and still figuring things out😁🙌🏽). More of these discussions please!
Just turned 22 and this really helped me put my aspirations and fears into perspective. Focus on the facts & always be ready to pivot. Love this!
Looks like we deserve a podcast. This was so helpful, I can't even explain. Make this a series at least, pleaseee😭😭😭
This is probably my favourite video yet.
This video has been the most helpful, honest video I've watched on advice for your 20's. I'm currently 22 and just feel like I'm struggling finding myself, choosing a career path, keeping a stable job, trying to be mentally & physically healthy and it just feels overwhelming at times. I loved multiple things Adrienne said, to be hungry and not thirsty, prepare to pivot, and to focus on the good facts of the current situation i'm in. thank you for the great advice!
I’m literally gonna watch this every time I need a pep talk‼️ I’m 25 and sometimes my feelings and thoughts take over, so I hope I can be better at putting facts over feelings. GREAT VIDEO✨
Turning 29 at the end of the month so this video is right on time and so uplifting ladies! Life is definitely what you make it, regardless of all the negative situations and/or people that will enter it. I choose daily to live drama-free, positively, and with immense faith. I thank my younger self for allowing herself room to grow, that mindset is totally helping me embrace who I'm becoming 🙌🙏.
I wish that Mariah would have talked more about the lessons she’s learned after going through a divorce so young. That would be really interesting to hear about, if she is willing to share of course
I would love and greatly appreciate this
She was married before and now divorced?😱
Oh wow! Idk that.
I would literally tell myself that being happy and fulfilled solo is more important than being married and miserable. Truly look at how you want your life to turn out as opposed to planning out your life based on what others want for you. Besos
I’ve been scrolling past this video all week.. Lord knows I needed to see this. I’m 25 turning 26 this December. Everything that was talked about is what I’ve been struggling with these past couple months. Thank you for your words of assurance and encouragement. ❤️
Can I just say THANK YOU….I’m 21 and it’s been really hard for me get through a lot of rough patches I’ve had I know it might sound like girl you are so young but I needed this you guys are amazing and yes I am crying watching this right now
Preach Mariah! "Never stop believing, manifesting, praying for...the next thing will ALWAYS be greater!" I love this joint praise for God's journey for us and believing for his best! Great word! Amen!
literally watched this right after having a meltdown of whats going on in my life and about college. im in my 20s and this video just confirmed on what i needed to hear! thank you