I'll be 33 and my ex will be 51 this year. We were together for 8 years. He was extremely stuck in his ways, still immature, and awful with money yet he expected me to be the only person who needed to change. He wore me down to the point where I just about lost my mind. The gaslighting and mind games were exhausting. Finally freed myself and I doubt I'll date that much older ever again.
Right though‼️😂😒 the lady is 25 & he’s 47, he can’t be anymore than a few years older than her father but the fact that he even mentioned it….definitely screams proud smh 🤦🏾♀️
He should be proud … great achievement … 45 yr old man pulled a 25 yr old man … if it was a woman it’d be no problem, people would say she still got it.
@@thegreatdel9679 Nah. It’s gross when women do it too. Imagine, having graduated college, started a career, and potentially having a family; all before the person you’re dating is even born or thought about.
All I know is I’m a 57 yo woman that recently started hanging out with a 32 yo man. I am having the time of my life, and don’t remember when I’ve had such an open and honest relationship with great conversation. We are both focused on having a good time and not pressuring each other for anything else. I’m not sweating how long this is going to last, and quite realistic believing that it won’t. He runs circles around men my age and makes me smile on the regular.
Just don't give him your money! Take that hard wood & exit stage left. Alot of younger men are dating older women, because they want to be treated like a bad bitch...ijs🤣
My husband is 18 years older than me and I love it! He is 53 & I am 35. You have to respect the difference in generation & all that comes with that. But we have fun together, I don't have to deal with no nonsense because he knows exactly what he wants & treats me like a queen... I believe it can work but you (as the older one) have to allow the younger person to grow & the younger one has to understand that the older person won't have time for games(if they are mature of course lol). Much love ❤
I dated an older guy in college, I was 23, and he was 40. We got along well, and had similar interests, but it wasn't love per se. He also wanted marriage which I wasn't ready for. Today we are good friends. It's all about timing, and goals. I would like to see older women valued in our society as men are.
There’s more women than men. Older women have the power to set their own value jist like anyone else. They just don’t do it. Build the market and let the market determine the value. Don’t expect others to do it.
It's not gonna happen, Men want Fertility, Attractive and Fun Energetic women.. when Women get older they usually have been through Trauma and its harder to date them, so men prefer younger it's easier to get along with
And ild like everyone to think I’m the sexiest person in the world. Neither is happening, men value certain things in women that tends to found in younger (30s and younger). You enter 40 and it’s just the same thing but older and less flexible to adaptation.
@@chocolatelioness4217 I agree that many older woman suffer from life trauma and hormonal changes , but younger ones do as well , it isn't as visible with all of the youthful energy , physical beauty and enthusiasm. Many older women are radiant , with a beauty that glows from the inside out from their spiritual and mental evolution that shines brighter over time !
@@bettyjones6240 Ummm what are you saying? I’m gay so if you talking guys then no. Even if I was straight I wouldn’t be with nobody that young. That stuff seem predatory.
What about the young guys who are dating the older women... That's a Taboo in Society. I'm a 29 yr old guy and the person i'm dating she's 45. Nope! I don't have Mom issues, in fact they are great friends. I'm and old soul so our convos aren't out dated. I learn from her, she learns from me. It's the most peaceful I've had in all my years of dating...🙏🏾 OH FYI: What amazes me is that... Most persons are gonna say "Oh y'all can't have kids.... It's good to have a legacy, it's not the same if you Adopt etc..." Lol ummm... Not everyone wants kids, its not a requirement and there's nothing detrimental if someone doesn't have kids... Some people are afraid to admit it. I'm reluctant too no lie... But at the end of the day. It's a choice. We all should learn the Art Of Non- Projection & The Art Of Respecting Choices & Opinions. 💯👌🏾
Older woman and younger doesn’t really last long. You probably can’t have kids with her and most women are not going to respect u because age difference. It’s basically an extended hookup.
Envy is making sense! A woman's reference is always going to go back to their father ( or lack there of). Same with a guy, all his female references are going to going to relate back to his mother as our mother and father are the first references we get as a child. Our parents are the foundation...this is why its extremely important to be that example for their children, they are always watching...
I was with a man that was 20 years older than me (I was in my 20s) at the time. Thing is, I didn’t know he was that much older than me. He didn’t look like it! So when we were talking about our respective birthdays I was completely caught off guard! But truth be told it immediately changed my way of dealing with him. I am a long-term relationship kinda girl but knowing he was 20 years older than me immediately put me in a “let’s just have fun and date” mind-frame. Ironically he broke up with me months later because he felt like he was robbing me of the possibility of potentially getting married one day and having kids (he no longer desired that). It ended nice and we were cordial every time we saw each other. But yeah, I liked the relationship. There were no complaints on either end. Thanks for coming to my TED talk lol.
I need your expertise. I am 44, but people think I'm 25-30. Well this girl at the gym has been showing me a lot of attention. In fact, I'm the only guy she looks at and so I took the move and spoke to her. I found out she is just 1 year removed from college. Personally, do you think this is OK that I pursue her? I do have 3 kids from a just dissolved marriage and, aside from the age, I think that could also deter her away also. I just want to see where it goes. I'm not opposed to having more children or not. I have only been with one woman, so I am loyal to a fault. That's why my marriage lasted 10 year longer than it should have. She's a software engineer, but has the look of a model and she could have any man she wants and that almost intimidates me as well. I see all the other guys staring at her at the gym, but as of rn, I'm the only one she talks to. What are your thoughts?
@@actionjackson8689 I am definitely not an expert, but your “loyalty” is coming on very strong in this inquiry. I’m assuming this girl is of legal age since you said that she graduated from college so if she’s interested in you, then just go out on a date! The age gap shouldn’t be too much of an issue if y’all don’t make it an issue. It’s not like you’re going to marry the girl the day you take her out. But personally, how long have you been out of your marriage? And what are you looking for? If you want to be in a relationship, then I admire that. But I really hope you’re at a stage in your life or you’re just looking to date and I encourage you to have (safe) fun right now as long as you’ve healed from your previous relationship. But overall, I don’t have a problem with it because people need to do what makes them happy as long as they’re not intentionally hurting anyone else in the process.
@Jennifer Antoinette: Natural Hair & Vlogs It's recent, but our marriage died a long time ago and we were just roommates for the last 4-5 years. And yes, I'm not just looking for one-and-dones. I'm not that type of guy. I just remember seeing this girl, last year, for the first time amd thinking "I would never have a chance with this girl". I assumed she was round 26-28. As time passed she slowly started to give me more attention. I think she is impressed by my workout routine, tbh. She workouts hard and pretty much keeps to herself. She doesn't look around and doesn't even talk to any other girls. So it was very evident when whe started to actually watch me. I was intimidated when she told me she was a Software Engineer because I know that just off that, she makes at least a six figure income, while I only rake in half that. But also, finding that out, it makes sense why this beautiful woman is single. She is kind of on the nerdy side, kind of. But so am I. She must have become super fit from working out in college and in the last year. And she seems like an introvert. But she really has made an effort to talk to me in the last few days. As far as hurt goes, on the flip side, my ex is definitely still hurt tho, idk why tho, this hasn't worked for the last 10 years. So she will definitely have a problem with it cause she has said, in the past, "You're gonna find some 18-25 year old girl".
@@actionjackson8689 okay, well thank you for clarifying what type of guy you are. From your description she seems pretty interested in you. Please don’t be intimidated by what you think she makes or how much younger she is than you. She showed interest first. You have nothing to lose other than taking her out for coffee, or find a food truck park, or even a museum date to just get an opportunity to talk to her. (And for her to get to know you a bit.) If she’s a woman that values a good man over a rich man, she won’t judge you for what’s in your bank account. And if she does, well….then you have the option to stop it from being romantic. I wish you the best in this! Just remember to have fun with getting to know her.
@@iamjenantoinetteThanks for all your advice. I do have one last question tho. Now as far as kids, that's what I fear may push her away the most. I have had friends that have said be honest and see what happens, or, others that have said just blow her mind sexually and she will let anything slide. I don't want to start on a lie but I also want to get close to her to show her who I am before she lets other deciding factors make her decision. Being young she might not want that other baggage in her life at this time or am I wrong or are most women capable accepting of children? Did your older person have children? If so, how did it affect things?
My partner is 16 yrs older than I am & we've been together for 6 yrs. Theres no toxicity, arguing etc. It's the healthiest relationship that I've ever been in.
My hubs is 22 years my senior and it works. No relationship is perfect no matter the age. I do enjoy not having to fret about my car being worked on or things around the house needing to be fixed. It’s wonderful!
I was married to a man about 30 years my senior for 6 years. Our relationship was great until his family and friends started getting overly involved and him not checking them so… I checked out. We are still friends. I didn’t have daddy issues but my high school boyfriend was so physically abusive etc so I decided no young guys after. After my divorce I decided to venture out in the same age group again and my current husband is amazing! Plus now I’m more comfortable handling shitty family members!
I think this is a personal decision that should be made on an individual level. It's hard to generalize a rule or outcome for everyone. You can go as far as other countries around the world where this is not a big deal. Even going back a few generations in this society. It wouldn't be viewed the same as it was today.
my boyfriend and I are 26 years apart. I'm 30 and he just turned 57. i relate to the first female caller on so many levels. I'm with him for the same reason and i approached him first. he's the best relationship I've ever had in my life.
@@MAR-ui1nn neither. My father is in my life, however he has always been emotionally unavailable. I won't pretend that his emotional unavailablity doesn't have an influnce on my partner choices. I've generally always preferred older men. However, for what i want in life, it's difficult with men my age. He's retired, doesn't have children, doesn't want children and has the time available to have adventures with me. While he has offered to take car of me in the manner of being a housewife, i have an airline job with amazing benefits and i love that my boyfriend can join me on my travels. He's just on a different level than men my age. He knows what he wants, he's tried everything he wants to do, he can teach me things I've never dreamed of and he can show me things I've always wanted. We both benefit from this.
@@NotThatDeep this man is everything that I've always wanted in a partner. From the way he loves me, to the way he caters to me. The way i cater to him and actually WANT to cater to him. I've never been treated as well as i am. Granted, he's established, recently retired and doesn't have children so he has the time, means, and desire to do these things. In my past relationships, i feel like i was always the one going above and beyond trying to show them how i desire to be treated. With him, he just knows. He's been married and divorced once 12 years ago, and has had the time to learn what works and what doesn't work with women. I don't have to be that learning curve that boys go through until they finally decide to get it right. I don't have to be that stepping stone for the next woman to get the man that i suffered through with. I met a person who has done the work, been to therapy, done the healing and just wants to be with someone who compliments him. He was definitely worth the wait.
@@MAR-ui1nn understandable. Age gap relationships aren't for everybody for sure. I have, and tbh i try not to think about it. That's assuming that he'll go before me. I'm a bit of an adrenaline junkie (skydiving, motorcycle riding, bungee jumping, etc.) So it's totally possible that i could go before him, although i hope it doesn't. I want as much time as i can eith him. He is also aware that i will also be taking care of my parents at some point, because i could never put them in a home. He's one year younger than my father, and 4 yeara younger than my mom, so the possibility of having all 3 of them at once is a little scary, but it's worth it for the 3 people i love. He has updated his will with me in it, and we plan on getting married. It's definitely important to have those hard talks and conversations so you're not blindsided. I will say though, if you're grossed out by older bodies....they're all different 😏 he has the body and stamina of a 35 year old man. Usually i forget there's an age gap when we're together.
@@MAR-ui1nn When I read goofy sh!t like this, it reminds me why dating in this generation is dead. When you asked her was she with him for money, she said neither, then later on said he added her to his will...I spit my drink out laughing.😂 Let a w0man talk long enough and they will definitely tell you what type of person they are unintentionally.
I get what DJ Envy is saying. A lot of women do not know what it's like to have a father especially if the dad was a deadbeat or passed away, so they date older guys because they want them to have authority over them, guide them & tell them what to do. Not so much controlling but in an older male figure type of way.
My gf who is 27 says that she loves the structure in our relationship however she did have a very supportive dad, I'm 44 by the way , were in bed cuddling now 🥴
@@spreadlovenotlies77 why can't you find an adult woman to be happy with? It's just weird. Always creeps me out when somebody older shacks up with somebody who's still young and naive relative to the older individuals life experiences. You need to look below this comment and read the comments under jasmine's post. Lol.
@@Pugetwitch well I actually prefer more mature women , it's nothing sexier to me, however I want children now after previously not wanting them, so I knew I needed a younger women to bare my children, also she's very mature and has a really good career and she digs my salt and pepper beard
My ex was 12 years younger. It worked..... But it was difficult, especially when it came to references. But I believe that the biggest problem is that I was always not intentionally talking down to her but I was because I had more experience than she did. & Overtime I think that I hurt the relationship. It wasn't equal.... Best way I can explain it. But when we split, she got with a dude 2 years old than me. So..... IDK I still love her, but had to break it off.... An we were together for 10 years. But it can be done.... But it's not easy. & You need to be patient/understanding!
@@thadonjuan2339 no it was likely me, for all of the good things and good qualities I may have I don't think that I was as good as boyfriend as I could have been. Or maybe it just ran its course..... I had a 11 year relationship before this one. That one ended simply due to me being incarcerated and she wasn't faithful so that was different. But I've learned a lot and I don't regret being with somebody younger than me although it certainly was hard! I think the the dynamic of being older can be good and can be bad! If you're constantly teaching somebody things and sharing experience with them it can come across as a parental figure or a teacher whatever but anything other than a significant other. Now I know that's not entirely true for everyone and it's not even entirely true for my situation but I do believe it played a significant role in our relationships demise! I know that I was verbally abusive. Example, when she didn't understand things that I just thought everybody knew. I wasn't very nice I was often sarcastic. Only considering this after the fact, taking into consideration that she was 12 years younger than me. But for what it was... it was wonderful & I really don't regret it. As much as it hurts I would do it all over again! Sorry, it's just a deep issue for me....so of course I had to ramble on about it. It worked for the better part of ten years, an it created great memories.
Welp! My husband is 43 and I’m 33…. Bought me my first house at 32 and invested in my business. Now I’m a debt free, home owning, self employed mother of 3. We have 3 kids together. I’ve dated guys my age but I feel women mature a lot faster so I always felt if a guy wasn’t at least 9-10 years older than me he wasn’t on my level mentally or financially. Not saying young guys don’t have money or can do these things just saying typically younger men aren’t ready for commitment and entertain multiple women. Mine went through his hoe phase when I was 10 so yeah I’m good lol!
My gf is 13 years my senior (I’m 28, she’s 41). And l LOVE IT HERE lol. Mature women don’t play games bc they don’t have time for them. And they have their shit together!
It's very normal for older men to date younger women. This been going on forever. I don't know why this is a topic on the breakfast club. Most women prefer older men.
I’m in a 25 yr age gap relationship not on purpose it just so happen. He matches everything on my ideal list accept the age. Spiritually we belong together. My mom & dad, grandpa, sisters, brothers, nieces, & uncles love him. I struggle with the age sometimes when I think too deep about the future. It’s going on two years…
How did you come out to your family about your relationship? I’m currently seeing a 50 year old man (I’m 25) & he rocks my world. I’m so happy with him but I fear that my family will disown me if I come out. It’s been 2 years since him & I met as well.
@Shania Lacole I asked this of someone else, but I am in dire need of answers, so here it goes: I am 44, but people think I'm 25-30. Well this girl at the gym has been showing me a lot of attention. In fact, I'm the only guy she looks at and so I took the move and spoke to her. I found out she is just 1 year removed from college. Personally, do you think this is OK that I pursue her? I do have 3 kids from a just dissolved marriage and, aside from the age, I think that could also deter her away also. I just want to see where it goes. I'm not opposed to having more children or not. I have only been with one woman, so I am loyal to a fault. That's why my marriage lasted 10 year longer than it should have. She's a software engineer, but has the look of a model and she could have any man she wants and that almost intimidates me as well. I see all the other guys staring at her at the gym, but as of rn, I'm the only one she talks to. What are your thoughts?
Im 42 my man is 61… we love each other, it’s the best dynamic for me… We get each other. Conversation, interest, and sex are all amazing! It just has to be a good balance!
No there isnt, especially today. The millennial generation and the zoomer generation melt into each other. No other generations have ever had this much overlap. Now maturity and perspectives might miss align but thats a all partly due to experience and education. Other then that there’s NOTHING wrong here
A 20-year age difference IS pretty big however you slice it. that's a whole generation removed from each other. But sometimes "unorthodox" relationships work just as well as the "orthodox" ones, who can tell what will happen. But generally, how much age differences matter nay depend on the maturity levels and life experience of the partners.
My husband and I are 19 years apart and have been together for 23 years! I know not ideal, but it can work, depending on the mature of the individuals. 🙏🏽💖😍
I was 18, an he was 33 Now im 21 an hes 36. We have 2 kids. I was young an gullible. Its grooming. I picked up my kids an left. I had daddy issues an he took advantage of that an made me a fetish.
Wow I’m glad you got the strength and no with all to get up out of that situation as fast as you did. Lemme guess he love bombed you in the beginning and would compliment you on how mature you were for your age. Then once baby came along it was less affection but yet you still was super attractive so what’s he do? Baby number two to slow u back down. Queen raise them kids to be best they can be and always instill the lesson & knowledge you know. Also if you don’t already let them kids see their dad. He may have failed with the relationship but 9/10 a dad won’t be to fond of their daughter having the experience of a man like themselves. Bless it be
I’m 35 dating a 50 year old. It comes with its struggles but I take those moments to educate. We come from two different worlds so meeting in the middle is key.
I think it depends on the maturity level. I met a 37yrs old man when I was 22. We was together 3 yrs but he was really lost when it came to his responsibilities as a man. I think it fucked with his head even more that I don’t move like the average young woman. They call me auntie 😂 I’ve always had a old soul very mature. Self established. I’m 27 now, men my age be asking me to co-sign 🫠 or too horny to really get to know me. Everything is sex sex sex.
@@DM-jn3zo yep that’s my point that not all older men got it together. Take your time and see what his motives are. Really any man but especially them. If you’re not mentally strong you can get manipulated. We bumped heads a lot because I couldn’t be. Some do expect us to be young and dumb. It’s not for everyone and not how they make it seem.
@@JazNicole521 fr they'll always tell you "oh you're mature for your age" make you feel special. or that other women are immature cuz they care about him having his life together 😭😭😭 glad u made it out
@@DM-jn3zo what you mean why? Men like younger women that's why. Men like beauty and unless you take very good careful of yourself which most people don't, a older woman isn't going to look as good as a young one.
My boo is 74 and I am 56. We've been together for almost 13 years. We've met when he was 62 and I was 43. He was married at the time but not happily. She died in December so my papy is now unburdened and I had a father in my life so he loves me as a woman.
When I was 45 I dated a 24 y/o. Beyond the sex we didn't have much in common, I had already forgot shit she hadn't even learned about yet . When I was 52 I dated a 29 y/Io It was a disaster, she was immature
@@va8432 I don’t care whether you immature or not at 29. It’s not a good look for somebody over 35 to be with somebody that young. It’s cool to be a cougar but not that young.
Here in NC ..We just had a case of a man 48 convicted of murder...Killed his 24 yo girlfriend in a hotel because she was texting other men. BTW...a few years ago he won $10,000,000 in the NC Lottery.
I'm 44 and wouldn't even think about dating under 39, 40 much less 24..I dont think we would have anything in common...I look to be about 26 until a 26 year old stands near me 🤭 and no one over 50-53 for me
I dated a Man older than me (12yrs)I had the best of time and he understood me and he was romantic and affectionate and we went on dates, Museums and partied together it was a good time but I didn’t want to Marry him. I eventually left him for someone younger and he understood, to this day we are Friends (platonic)
I'm a proud Cougar🐆 & I look every bit of my early 30's so I ALWAYS attract younger men. However I be wanting a man little bit older than me but they rarely approach me. But what I will say is this older woman/ younger guy sex is sooo freaking good BUT that's it🤣🤣🤣
The sex may be good. But your time is valuable. If you want to waste your time with a younger man who gives you nothing but sex and a good time that's your choice. You'll regret it later.
It used to be 7-10 that was "socially" acceptable. In my opinion the whole "father figure" theory comes from our understanding of gender expression. It stems from a patriarchal framework that has always permitted men to play that role of "daddy" or "man of the house." It is strange how when roles are reversed, that is what sets most people off.
I’m 36 so definitely not younger. Somebody in there 20s would give me a headache. If I want a headache I’ll just go to work. Somebody older definitely.
@@trisha1989 very true but alot of guys in their 20’s and 30’s are getting ED due to our horrible lifestyles and diet, especially with this heavy drinking and smoking age. Screwed either way!
Dated a guy 34 years my senior when I was 19. We made it 5 years and still good friends til this day. Been with my husband 8 years and he's 3 years younger than me. NGL we have alot more in common than my ex😄
Nah, I'm sorry. 31 and 21 is two whole different chapters in life. I could see 41 and 31 or even 51 and 31 before that. Of course, there are always exceptions, but a 21 year old who's in/just out of college, able to (legally) go to bars for the first time, etc is at a different pace than someone who's likely been in the workforce for a while, ready to buy a house, have a family, etc
@@leivaandre I mean, no relationship needs my "approval," but it's probably rare for it to last that long. I'm not saying it's impossible, but generally speaking, from the late 20s to 60 or so, your daily routine is basically going to work, doing whatever hobbies you have, running errands, and, if you have them, taking care of kids. For the most part (again, this is a generalization), people in their 20s will be hitting a happy hour a few nights a week and going to the club on the weekend. By 30, two things happen: 1) they don't have energy to turn up like that anymore and 2) all the homies they used to party with get married and have families, so there's no squad to rock with except on special occasions a few times a year (e.g. someone's birthday). Under 30 and 30+ are just different phases. Again, there will be the exceptions (e.g. the 40-year-old who still wants to be in the club multiple nights a week or the 21-year-old who's a total homebody), but for the most part, the 40-year-old will think the 21-year-old is doing too much and the 21-year-old will think the 40-year-old is dry.
Does it matter if they are in love? Maybe she's more mature and he's less mature. Women are usually more mature than men. That's why young dudes in their 20s drop a good thing when they have it cause they are still immature.
Yup absolutely I had my first sexual encounter with a cougar last year and I loved every minute of it and in general I loved everything about her as a person but I hate that she left me all because of miscommunication
Yeah, that’s what most men use cougars for. Sexual experiences, most guys ain’t tryna wife someone whose old enough to be their mom. How does that look 10 years from now? Gross.
I'm in a situation like this older woman and younger man! Been together for 4yrs. The happiest I've ever been! We get along I think our life ,includes each other but we're not obsessed with each other! No pressure! I care but I don't care that much.
Hell no I'm not going to be with anyone that could be my father's age or my son's age. It's not that much attraction that would allow me to go there !!!!!!
I'm with my soon to be 55 boo of 3 years and I am 34. Love him and the dynamic. There are times when the conversation can go left due to the age lol but we here! No daddy issues either and my mom still having a hard time after 3 years accepting it but we moving forward in love and hoping to be buy our first house together next year!
I’m 28 and i been with someone in their 50’s. And when i was 17 i was dating a 34 year old up until i was 24 years old. Okay I’m back to the topic. My 17 to 34 year old experience i say was quite fun and i actually learned a lot about myself an the world. Because the person i was with had an old soul and wasn’t so into the fast pace crap we have now. Actually having conversations, going outside, cooking & enjoying the finer things about life. Even though the relationship ended at the worst time in my life. My Mom had passed away and i was going through so much pain amongst the abuse that followed in the relationship. I can honestly say it wasn’t bad bad like Diddy but it had some disheartening things. Young people my fellow young people , do not get into a relationship with someone older because mommy or daddy wasn’t there in your life. Older people tend to have this ability to gaslight, deflect & love bomb. My relationship was bittersweet but to my surprise this year in 2022 i reconnected with the person and after all these years… i got the apology and closure that i actually needed to get in order for me to truly see it wasn’t me and the person took accountability for the demise of the relationship. So I guess they had some growing to do themselves. 🖤❤️
@@wildhaert see that’s wassup. My advice, do not lie to her. Someone older than you has if not done everything you have done already & remember there is nothing new under the sun. The worst thing you can do to a person older than you is insult their intelligence and 2nd is make them feel old. Continue to be happy, don’t act as if their older an can’t do certain things & listen to her when she gives you advice. You will come back to this post an thank me 2 years from now.
@@tamelblondell5005 see by my older - I’m 22 he was 28… so only 6 years would always bring up “well you’re younger so” or “when I was your age” which comes off as controlling & dismissive.
I agree with cta In the aspect of the “father figure” topic. But my sons Dad is 42 & im 22. I left him thinking it wasn’t gonna workout because of the age gap. But honestly just to realized we would’ve worked out perfectly fine had i Not listen to society.
I’m pretty sure it’s good you left that situation. Sounds like you have work to do on your self and your mentality. Basically uprooting your kids life because of the opinions of society shows you don’t know where your priorities lay as a mother and a wife. And even if you realize that now, you gotta ask yourself what other problematic traits do you hold. Last thing you want is to end up with someone, bringing them into your kids life and not being able to make it work with the man you chose. Or worst ending up in a toxic relationship, and your child experiencing and growing up around both of those…….
Lisa relationship because of society. Potentially missing out on something… Comment section: society! all Of the judgers and authority I guess everyone else’s life. This is exactly what the author is talking about! Yeah Yall really do seem so miserable that you close off the possibility of the person for you because of age.
I sure can, my fiance is 33 (M) and I am 48 (F) and we work just fine, buuuuut, we understand the age difference, compromise and talk about everything. We work just fine. As far as sexual energy I am more energetic than he is
7 years from now, when he's 40 and you're 55 will tell. By that point you would be an old woman. That's the reality. He would still be able to make kids and date younger women. I wish you nothing but the best.
@@mob4ever well it worked with my late husband. We were married for 19 years and six children later before his passing. I don't foresee a problem, however, if he should find that he can no longer deal with the age difference, it will hurt but I'm not in a habit of keeping a man that don't want to be kept.
it's about the individuals and how they connect and communicate with one another. And yes when their Dad is not there some will look for men that come close to their father.
I was married to someone 24 yrs older than me. It ain't wht u think they got more game than a little and u will regret it cuz they treat u like property. U take care of them while they out here acting like they your age. It was hell!!!!
It will eventually make a difference. It was ok when I was 35 and he was 55 but 20 years later things really Change especially with the Woman. I believe every Young Woman should experience the company of an man Older Gentleman. The experience shows what you should Expect from Men. Diddy got a few Good Year's left!
I was 23 when I met 42 year old and he’s energy was non factor he kept up with me. But he’s was the man I fell head over heels for cause he help me heal my wounds he taught me how deal with things in life in a mature level he definitely help Me grow. But when I was ready to settle down he said he wasn’t ready
I don't see myself with a older man, but I guess that's what I need! Because the Men my age is like raising another son. I need a man. So hopefully he is fit to stay around long but other than that, my mind can meet alot of older people, Majority of my closest friends are 9plus years older.
That's cause we live in a generation of men who were not raised by men on how to teach them to be real proper men/gentlemen. Yes. there are men of today's generation that do know how to talk to girls but girls don't know how to talk to guys as well.
10 things to quit for all Strong Men: 1. Caring about what others think 2. Not believing in yourself 3. Not experimenting different ideas / solutions for problems (life&business) 4. Not prioritizing your health 5. Wasting your precious time 6. Wanting something (instead write a plan and work towards it) 7. Chasing meaningless relationships 8. Wasting or draining your energy from beating your meat 🥩 9. Wasting time by scrolling social media 10. Nailbiting/nailpicking habit for good (if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!) Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list.
An older man and a rich older man are two different people 🤷🏽♀️😂
This
You too grown for this mentality chile
@@Danny0213 what mentality is that?
U nasty 🤦🏽♂️🤣
Exactly alot of them are just old.
I'll be 33 and my ex will be 51 this year. We were together for 8 years. He was extremely stuck in his ways, still immature, and awful with money yet he expected me to be the only person who needed to change. He wore me down to the point where I just about lost my mind. The gaslighting and mind games were exhausting. Finally freed myself and I doubt I'll date that much older ever again.
Omg Thx‼️🙌🏿
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That’s a Real Thing…
Sounds like my ex who’s 28 smh and im 32 btw and me an my ex we’re dating for 7yrs on and off smh never fully grew up
Even after we dated other people he’d show improvement than go back to his old ways smh
Caller: “Im older than her daddy, son”
Charla: “...You proud of dat? 🤨”
😅🤣🤣
His daughters won’t be dating till 30 lol
Right though‼️😂😒 the lady is 25 & he’s 47, he can’t be anymore than a few years older than her father but the fact that he even mentioned it….definitely screams proud smh 🤦🏾♀️
He should be proud … great achievement … 45 yr old man pulled a 25 yr old man … if it was a woman it’d be no problem, people would say she still got it.
@@thegreatdel9679 Nah. It’s gross when women do it too. Imagine, having graduated college, started a career, and potentially having a family; all before the person you’re dating is even born or thought about.
Dude just fuxking that girl. It wont last. He said it himself.
All I know is I’m a 57 yo woman that recently started hanging out with a 32 yo man.
I am having the time of my life, and don’t remember when I’ve had such an open and honest relationship with great conversation. We are both focused on having a good time and not pressuring each other for anything else.
I’m not sweating how long this is going to last, and quite realistic believing that it won’t.
He runs circles around men my age and makes me smile on the regular.
Just don't give him your money! Take that hard wood & exit stage left. Alot of younger men are dating older women, because they want to be treated like a bad bitch...ijs🤣
My husband is 18 years older than me and I love it! He is 53 & I am 35. You have to respect the difference in generation & all that comes with that. But we have fun together, I don't have to deal with no nonsense because he knows exactly what he wants & treats me like a queen... I believe it can work but you (as the older one) have to allow the younger person to grow & the younger one has to understand that the older person won't have time for games(if they are mature of course lol). Much love ❤
He has money, right? OBVIOUSLY!!!
I like the way you have said. Like my older sister has someone who is like 18 years older than her n they get away fine
You don’t deal with nonsense cuz. He already did it in his 20s - 40s 😂😂😂😂
Exactly, I totally agree
That's a good age gap, the NOI subscribes that a woman ought to be half a man's age plus 7 or around that give or take a few years
I dated an older guy in college, I was 23, and he was 40. We got along well, and had similar interests, but it wasn't love per se. He also wanted marriage which I wasn't ready for. Today we are good friends. It's all about timing, and goals.
I would like to see older women valued in our society as men are.
There’s more women than men. Older women have the power to set their own value jist like anyone else. They just don’t do it. Build the market and let the market determine the value. Don’t expect others to do it.
@@TheIcemanthomas There are 49% women and 51% men. Just about the same amount. That argument is getting old.
It's not gonna happen, Men want Fertility, Attractive and Fun Energetic women.. when Women get older they usually have been through Trauma and its harder to date them, so men prefer younger it's easier to get along with
And ild like everyone to think I’m the sexiest person in the world. Neither is happening, men value certain things in women that tends to found in younger (30s and younger). You enter 40 and it’s just the same thing but older and less flexible to adaptation.
@@chocolatelioness4217 I agree that many older woman suffer from life trauma and hormonal changes , but younger ones do as well , it isn't as visible with all of the youthful energy , physical beauty and enthusiasm.
Many older women are radiant , with a beauty that glows from the inside out from their spiritual and mental evolution that shines brighter over time !
I did “dated” a woman 24 years older than me when I was 24 and all I can say is, hell yes, she was a real woman.
Did you give her a headache? I’m 36 I could never date somebody in their 20s.
of course he did, but she's willing to sacrifice
@@The1stClassVillain Yes. They drive you crazy at that age. They have stamina and get harder naturally but still a headache. Fs
@@bettyjones6240 Ummm what are you saying? I’m gay so if you talking guys then no. Even if I was straight I wouldn’t be with nobody that young. That stuff seem predatory.
Older women are the ABSOLUTE BEST.
What about the young guys who are dating the older women... That's a Taboo in Society. I'm a 29 yr old guy and the person i'm dating she's 45. Nope! I don't have Mom issues, in fact they are great friends. I'm and old soul so our convos aren't out dated. I learn from her, she learns from me. It's the most peaceful I've had in all my years of dating...🙏🏾
OH FYI: What amazes me is that... Most persons are gonna say "Oh y'all can't have kids.... It's good to have a legacy, it's not the same if you Adopt etc..." Lol ummm... Not everyone wants kids, its not a requirement and there's nothing detrimental if someone doesn't have kids... Some people are afraid to admit it. I'm reluctant too no lie... But at the end of the day. It's a choice.
We all should learn the Art Of Non- Projection & The Art Of Respecting Choices & Opinions. 💯👌🏾
Same here
Sorry bro but I think that's way too old for you. How are you guys going to have kids? She's dangerously close to menopause.
Older woman and younger doesn’t really last long. You probably can’t have kids with her and most women are not going to respect u because age difference. It’s basically an extended hookup.
We've all done that bro....I was 28 and she was 39...we dated for 3 years.
If it's so peaceful why don't you marry her?
Envy is making sense! A woman's reference is always going to go back to their father ( or lack there of). Same with a guy, all his female references are going to going to relate back to his mother as our mother and father are the first references we get as a child. Our parents are the foundation...this is why its extremely important to be that example for their children, they are always watching...
There is more than ONE option per situation.
I like older and established. I don't have the energy to fix someone, boost a bruised ego, and get them on my financial level.
I felt that to my core!
Absolutely agree
Lol… and u is how old shawty
This
I just love y’all! The way Charlemagne plays with Dj Envy is a whole mood, I laughed so hard💛 thanks for the good energy guys!!!😇
I was with a man that was 20 years older than me (I was in my 20s) at the time. Thing is, I didn’t know he was that much older than me. He didn’t look like it! So when we were talking about our respective birthdays I was completely caught off guard! But truth be told it immediately changed my way of dealing with him. I am a long-term relationship kinda girl but knowing he was 20 years older than me immediately put me in a “let’s just have fun and date” mind-frame. Ironically he broke up with me months later because he felt like he was robbing me of the possibility of potentially getting married one day and having kids (he no longer desired that). It ended nice and we were cordial every time we saw each other. But yeah, I liked the relationship. There were no complaints on either end. Thanks for coming to my TED talk lol.
I need your expertise. I am 44, but people think I'm 25-30. Well this girl at the gym has been showing me a lot of attention. In fact, I'm the only guy she looks at and so I took the move and spoke to her. I found out she is just 1 year removed from college. Personally, do you think this is OK that I pursue her? I do have 3 kids from a just dissolved marriage and, aside from the age, I think that could also deter her away also. I just want to see where it goes. I'm not opposed to having more children or not. I have only been with one woman, so I am loyal to a fault. That's why my marriage lasted 10 year longer than it should have. She's a software engineer, but has the look of a model and she could have any man she wants and that almost intimidates me as well. I see all the other guys staring at her at the gym, but as of rn, I'm the only one she talks to. What are your thoughts?
@@actionjackson8689 I am definitely not an expert, but your “loyalty” is coming on very strong in this inquiry. I’m assuming this girl is of legal age since you said that she graduated from college so if she’s interested in you, then just go out on a date! The age gap shouldn’t be too much of an issue if y’all don’t make it an issue. It’s not like you’re going to marry the girl the day you take her out. But personally, how long have you been out of your marriage? And what are you looking for? If you want to be in a relationship, then I admire that. But I really hope you’re at a stage in your life or you’re just looking to date and I encourage you to have (safe) fun right now as long as you’ve healed from your previous relationship. But overall, I don’t have a problem with it because people need to do what makes them happy as long as they’re not intentionally hurting anyone else in the process.
@Jennifer Antoinette: Natural Hair & Vlogs It's recent, but our marriage died a long time ago and we were just roommates for the last 4-5 years. And yes, I'm not just looking for one-and-dones. I'm not that type of guy. I just remember seeing this girl, last year, for the first time amd thinking "I would never have a chance with this girl". I assumed she was round 26-28. As time passed she slowly started to give me more attention. I think she is impressed by my workout routine, tbh. She workouts hard and pretty much keeps to herself. She doesn't look around and doesn't even talk to any other girls. So it was very evident when whe started to actually watch me. I was intimidated when she told me she was a Software Engineer because I know that just off that, she makes at least a six figure income, while I only rake in half that. But also, finding that out, it makes sense why this beautiful woman is single. She is kind of on the nerdy side, kind of. But so am I. She must have become super fit from working out in college and in the last year. And she seems like an introvert. But she really has made an effort to talk to me in the last few days. As far as hurt goes, on the flip side, my ex is definitely still hurt tho, idk why tho, this hasn't worked for the last 10 years. So she will definitely have a problem with it cause she has said, in the past, "You're gonna find some 18-25 year old girl".
@@actionjackson8689 okay, well thank you for clarifying what type of guy you are. From your description she seems pretty interested in you. Please don’t be intimidated by what you think she makes or how much younger she is than you. She showed interest first. You have nothing to lose other than taking her out for coffee, or find a food truck park, or even a museum date to just get an opportunity to talk to her. (And for her to get to know you a bit.) If she’s a woman that values a good man over a rich man, she won’t judge you for what’s in your bank account. And if she does, well….then you have the option to stop it from being romantic. I wish you the best in this! Just remember to have fun with getting to know her.
@@iamjenantoinetteThanks for all your advice. I do have one last question tho. Now as far as kids, that's what I fear may push her away the most. I have had friends that have said be honest and see what happens, or, others that have said just blow her mind sexually and she will let anything slide. I don't want to start on a lie but I also want to get close to her to show her who I am before she lets other deciding factors make her decision. Being young she might not want that other baggage in her life at this time or am I wrong or are most women capable accepting of children? Did your older person have children? If so, how did it affect things?
My partner is 16 yrs older than I am & we've been together for 6 yrs. Theres no toxicity, arguing etc. It's the healthiest relationship that I've ever been in.
Agreed, I'm wishing you prosperous and healthy family 👪
6 years is nothing just wait lol
I don’t mind someone older than me but I definitely don’t want anyone who is damn near my parents age.
thank you
My hubs is 22 years my senior and it works. No relationship is perfect no matter the age. I do enjoy not having to fret about my car being worked on or things around the house needing to be fixed. It’s wonderful!
It’s a myth that all young people have energy, it’s some old heads that go harder than a young’n
So true
I was married to a man about 30 years my senior for 6 years. Our relationship was great until his family and friends started getting overly involved and him not checking them so… I checked out. We are still friends. I didn’t have daddy issues but my high school boyfriend was so physically abusive etc so I decided no young guys after. After my divorce I decided to venture out in the same age group again and my current husband is amazing! Plus now I’m more comfortable handling shitty family members!
30 is a bit too much tbh
@@Batman6544nope
My girlfriend is 18 years older then me and to be honest it’s probably the best and healthiest relationship I have ever been .
@Forteguy 079 plot twist, they're a newborn
@Forteguy 079 Maybe he’s 18 lol
Because she is your Mama
These comments🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@guardianone6137 lmao
Yes. There’s a 34 year age difference between my partner and I & we’re going strong and happy. Compatibility is super important.
I think this is a personal decision that should be made on an individual level. It's hard to generalize a rule or outcome for everyone. You can go as far as other countries around the world where this is not a big deal. Even going back a few generations in this society. It wouldn't be viewed the same as it was today.
Exactly!
my boyfriend and I are 26 years apart. I'm 30 and he just turned 57. i relate to the first female caller on so many levels. I'm with him for the same reason and i approached him first. he's the best relationship I've ever had in my life.
Why do you think that is? (When you say he’s the best relationship you’ve had).
@@MAR-ui1nn neither. My father is in my life, however he has always been emotionally unavailable. I won't pretend that his emotional unavailablity doesn't have an influnce on my partner choices. I've generally always preferred older men. However, for what i want in life, it's difficult with men my age. He's retired, doesn't have children, doesn't want children and has the time available to have adventures with me. While he has offered to take car of me in the manner of being a housewife, i have an airline job with amazing benefits and i love that my boyfriend can join me on my travels. He's just on a different level than men my age. He knows what he wants, he's tried everything he wants to do, he can teach me things I've never dreamed of and he can show me things I've always wanted. We both benefit from this.
@@NotThatDeep this man is everything that I've always wanted in a partner. From the way he loves me, to the way he caters to me. The way i cater to him and actually WANT to cater to him. I've never been treated as well as i am. Granted, he's established, recently retired and doesn't have children so he has the time, means, and desire to do these things. In my past relationships, i feel like i was always the one going above and beyond trying to show them how i desire to be treated. With him, he just knows. He's been married and divorced once 12 years ago, and has had the time to learn what works and what doesn't work with women. I don't have to be that learning curve that boys go through until they finally decide to get it right. I don't have to be that stepping stone for the next woman to get the man that i suffered through with. I met a person who has done the work, been to therapy, done the healing and just wants to be with someone who compliments him. He was definitely worth the wait.
@@MAR-ui1nn understandable. Age gap relationships aren't for everybody for sure. I have, and tbh i try not to think about it. That's assuming that he'll go before me. I'm a bit of an adrenaline junkie (skydiving, motorcycle riding, bungee jumping, etc.) So it's totally possible that i could go before him, although i hope it doesn't. I want as much time as i can eith him. He is also aware that i will also be taking care of my parents at some point, because i could never put them in a home. He's one year younger than my father, and 4 yeara younger than my mom, so the possibility of having all 3 of them at once is a little scary, but it's worth it for the 3 people i love. He has updated his will with me in it, and we plan on getting married. It's definitely important to have those hard talks and conversations so you're not blindsided. I will say though, if you're grossed out by older bodies....they're all different 😏 he has the body and stamina of a 35 year old man. Usually i forget there's an age gap when we're together.
@@MAR-ui1nn When I read goofy sh!t like this, it reminds me why dating in this generation is dead. When you asked her was she with him for money, she said neither, then later on said he added her to his will...I spit my drink out laughing.😂 Let a w0man talk long enough and they will definitely tell you what type of person they are unintentionally.
What Envy asked was a real question! A lot of ppl date older men because of Daddy issues… just saying
Hey Britney, I agree 👍🏽
Not a lot only a few of them
I love charla said 24 years is two trips thru k-12 and no one checked him😂😂😂
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when Diddy was 30 years old, she was 6. let that marinate
Glad Envy is back
@Brea Regans Amen!!!!!
I get what DJ Envy is saying. A lot of women do not know what it's like to have a father especially if the dad was a deadbeat or passed away, so they date older guys because they want them to have authority over them, guide them & tell them what to do. Not so much controlling but in an older male figure type of way.
My gf who is 27 says that she loves the structure in our relationship however she did have a very supportive dad, I'm 44 by the way , were in bed cuddling now 🥴
Yea i get it also,but we know charlemagne gon make something out of everything lol
@@spreadlovenotlies77 did we need to know that ending part????
@@spreadlovenotlies77 why can't you find an adult woman to be happy with? It's just weird. Always creeps me out when somebody older shacks up with somebody who's still young and naive relative to the older individuals life experiences. You need to look below this comment and read the comments under jasmine's post. Lol.
@@Pugetwitch well I actually prefer more mature women , it's nothing sexier to me, however I want children now after previously not wanting them, so I knew I needed a younger women to bare my children, also she's very mature and has a really good career and she digs my salt and pepper beard
“a Mike’s hard lemonade” 😭😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Charlemagne is hilarious
lmao they hung up the phone on him for that
Girl that took me OUT ok 🥴🤣. Charlemagne goes “I want better for her” . No but seriously sir , you skipped the beer & picked a Mike’s 🤔😩🤣
My ex was 12 years younger. It worked..... But it was difficult, especially when it came to references. But I believe that the biggest problem is that I was always not intentionally talking down to her but I was because I had more experience than she did. & Overtime I think that I hurt the relationship. It wasn't equal.... Best way I can explain it. But when we split, she got with a dude 2 years old than me. So..... IDK
I still love her, but had to break it off.... An we were together for 10 years. But it can be done.... But it's not easy. & You need to be patient/understanding!
u wasted 10 years?? gotdamn
How old were y’all when’s y’all started dating
Women want men with experience tho, so I don't think being more experience was the problem.
@@thadonjuan2339 no it was likely me, for all of the good things and good qualities I may have I don't think that I was as good as boyfriend as I could have been. Or maybe it just ran its course..... I had a 11 year relationship before this one. That one ended simply due to me being incarcerated and she wasn't faithful so that was different. But I've learned a lot and I don't regret being with somebody younger than me although it certainly was hard! I think the the dynamic of being older can be good and can be bad! If you're constantly teaching somebody things and sharing experience with them it can come across as a parental figure or a teacher whatever but anything other than a significant other. Now I know that's not entirely true for everyone and it's not even entirely true for my situation but I do believe it played a significant role in our relationships demise! I know that I was verbally abusive. Example, when she didn't understand things that I just thought everybody knew. I wasn't very nice I was often sarcastic. Only considering this after the fact, taking into consideration that she was 12 years younger than me. But for what it was... it was wonderful & I really don't regret it. As much as it hurts I would do it all over again!
Sorry, it's just a deep issue for me....so of course I had to ramble on about it. It worked for the better part of ten years, an it created great memories.
Lol my ex , and then follows with it worked 😂
I thoroughly enjoy the breakfast club content and the team dynamic. Great show.
Ctg has limited tolerance for people his own age. So I know he has no patience for anyone younger🤣🤣🤣
Mad niggas gon be tellin on themselves in the comments 🤣🤣🤣
I swear bra 😂😂😂
Welp! My husband is 43 and I’m 33…. Bought me my first house at 32 and invested in my business. Now I’m a debt free, home owning, self employed mother of 3. We have 3 kids together. I’ve dated guys my age but I feel women mature a lot faster so I always felt if a guy wasn’t at least 9-10 years older than me he wasn’t on my level mentally or financially. Not saying young guys don’t have money or can do these things just saying typically younger men aren’t ready for commitment and entertain multiple women. Mine went through his hoe phase when I was 10 so yeah I’m good lol!
My gf is 13 years my senior (I’m 28, she’s 41). And l LOVE IT HERE lol. Mature women don’t play games bc they don’t have time for them. And they have their shit together!
Charlemagne the God looked wayyy too happy to say freaky Friday🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
If your mate doesn’t know what Usher was doing at 7 o’clock on the dot, that person is too young for you. 😂
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😁😁😁😁🤣🤣🤣😆😆Those comment right here!!!
Charlemagne is a goofball and I love it! All 3 personalities are different but they compliment each other.
Keep up the good work!
It's very normal for older men to date younger women. This been going on forever. I don't know why this is a topic on the breakfast club. Most women prefer older men.
Right
That’s what I’m saying!!! Literally was about to tweet this lol
@@Msbenjamin Exactly lol
Not men old enough to be their father.
@@theTruthSeekerishere what are you talking about, yes some do.
I just turned 42 and I like to do a LOT and am very active. Quality of life is very important to maintaining an active, healthy lifestyle.
Women age better bc we GAF lol
@@Theeluckylibra ha!
@@Theeluckylibra women definitely don’t age better lol
@@mcbthird It depends on how well you take care of yourself.
@@Theeluckylibra hahaha sorry but that is just not true....
It’s a billionaire, idgaf how old you are, swipe them visas🤣
I’m in a 25 yr age gap relationship not on purpose it just so happen. He matches everything on my ideal list accept the age. Spiritually we belong together. My mom & dad, grandpa, sisters, brothers, nieces, & uncles love him. I struggle with the age sometimes when I think too deep about the future. It’s going on two years…
How did you come out to your family about your relationship? I’m currently seeing a 50 year old man (I’m 25) & he rocks my world. I’m so happy with him but I fear that my family will disown me if I come out. It’s been 2 years since him & I met as well.
@Shania Lacole I asked this of someone else, but I am in dire need of answers, so here it goes: I am 44, but people think I'm 25-30. Well this girl at the gym has been showing me a lot of attention. In fact, I'm the only guy she looks at and so I took the move and spoke to her. I found out she is just 1 year removed from college. Personally, do you think this is OK that I pursue her? I do have 3 kids from a just dissolved marriage and, aside from the age, I think that could also deter her away also. I just want to see where it goes. I'm not opposed to having more children or not. I have only been with one woman, so I am loyal to a fault. That's why my marriage lasted 10 year longer than it should have. She's a software engineer, but has the look of a model and she could have any man she wants and that almost intimidates me as well. I see all the other guys staring at her at the gym, but as of rn, I'm the only one she talks to. What are your thoughts?
Im 42 my man is 61… we love each other, it’s the best dynamic for me…
We get each other. Conversation, interest, and sex are all amazing!
It just has to be a good balance!
CTG better know the lord! Now that’s what I like to see 🤣🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾
31 vs. 21 is a huge difference…
There's a huge difference even between 18 and 22, the mental gap is crazy still 😐😐
Charlemagne just says anything sometimes
It's not... you are trapped in a cycle in a world who will leave you alone and empty.
No there isnt, especially today. The millennial generation and the zoomer generation melt into each other. No other generations have ever had this much overlap. Now maturity and perspectives might miss align but thats a all partly due to experience and education. Other then that there’s NOTHING wrong here
An incredibly annoying difference if the younger one is the woman.
I ❤️ Charlemagne & DJ Envy😁 good, positive vibes!!
A 20-year age difference IS pretty big however you slice it. that's a whole generation removed from each other. But sometimes "unorthodox" relationships work just as well as the "orthodox" ones, who can tell what will happen. But generally, how much age differences matter nay depend on the maturity levels and life experience of the partners.
I'm in 14 year gap relationship, he's younger! Best relationship of my entire life! ❤️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️❤️❤️
how long yal been together! me and my guy are 10 yrs difference in older
Envy hoping it’s a daddy issue so he ain’t gotta worry about Madison 🤣🤣
My husband and I are 19 years apart and have been together for 23 years! I know not ideal, but it can work, depending on the mature of the individuals. 🙏🏽💖😍
I was 18, an he was 33 Now im 21 an hes 36. We have 2 kids. I was young an gullible. Its grooming. I picked up my kids an left. I had daddy issues an he took advantage of that an made me a fetish.
Wow I’m glad you got the strength and no with all to get up out of that situation as fast as you did. Lemme guess he love bombed you in the beginning and would compliment you on how mature you were for your age. Then once baby came along it was less affection but yet you still was super attractive so what’s he do? Baby number two to slow u back down. Queen raise them kids to be best they can be and always instill the lesson & knowledge you know. Also if you don’t already let them kids see their dad. He may have failed with the relationship but 9/10 a dad won’t be to fond of their daughter having the experience of a man like themselves. Bless it be
Dam play victim much??
Girl shut up. Take some accountability.
Kids came quick
@@nickolaslewis4416 exactly lol
CTG- "I know that God issss gooood" 🤣🤣
Random Old Gospel Hymn interludes 😂😂
Cryyyyyin 🤣🤣🤣
I love it lol I’m 25 my woman is 40 & I don’t question a damn thing about it not even if it’s the other way around 😂😂
You looking for a “mother figure”…,she can’t even give you babies.
@@unclericky5850 yes she can , how u gone tell another man about his woman can u still even nut ?“uncle Ricky “
simp...
Get your bag king
You dropped this sir 👑
I’m 35 dating a 50 year old. It comes with its struggles but I take those moments to educate. We come from two different worlds so meeting in the middle is key.
Are you a man or woman? do you want or have kids already. Hope the best for you
I am 26 and my child’s father is 38 about to turn 39 . He’s 13 years older than me , and it’s the best relationship I have ever been in .
Charla singing God, my God..God is good… PLEASE tell me I’m not the only one who knows that song and was cracking up when he started singing it 💀😂
Envy hit the nail on the head with the daddy issues. A lot of girls grow up without a great dad and that’s what makes the difference.
So what are they afraid of?
I think it depends on the maturity level. I met a 37yrs old man when I was 22. We was together 3 yrs but he was really lost when it came to his responsibilities as a man. I think it fucked with his head even more that I don’t move like the average young woman. They call me auntie 😂 I’ve always had a old soul very mature. Self established. I’m 27 now, men my age be asking me to co-sign 🫠 or too horny to really get to know me. Everything is sex sex sex.
him being lost is why he was prob looking at 22 year olds. a 37 year old woman *with her life together wouldn't have given him the time
@@DM-jn3zo yep that’s my point that not all older men got it together. Take your time and see what his motives are. Really any man but especially them. If you’re not mentally strong you can get manipulated. We bumped heads a lot because I couldn’t be. Some do expect us to be young and dumb. It’s not for everyone and not how they make it seem.
@@JazNicole521 fr they'll always tell you "oh you're mature for your age" make you feel special. or that other women are immature cuz they care about him having his life together 😭😭😭 glad u made it out
LOL....to co-sign....lol....or to horny....to funny....You are not having any of that shit....
@@DM-jn3zo what you mean why? Men like younger women that's why. Men like beauty and unless you take very good careful of yourself which most people don't, a older woman isn't going to look as good as a young one.
My boo is 74 and I am 56. We've been together for almost 13 years. We've met when he was 62 and I was 43. He was married at the time but not happily. She died in December so my papy is now unburdened and I had a father in my life so he loves me as a woman.
When I was 45 I dated a 24 y/o. Beyond the sex we didn't have much in common, I had already forgot shit she hadn't even learned about yet .
When I was 52 I dated a 29 y/Io
It was a disaster, she was immature
I’m sure you got a headache. It’s a imbalance.
But you're creepy to want to do thar because probably women who is your age, won't put up with your mess
Stop preying on young girls and date someone your age creep.
if someone is immature at 29...... then it has nothing to do with your age difference.....
@@va8432 I don’t care whether you immature or not at 29. It’s not a good look for somebody over 35 to be with somebody that young. It’s cool to be a cougar but not that young.
Here in NC ..We just had a case of a man 48 convicted of murder...Killed his 24 yo girlfriend in a hotel because she was texting other men. BTW...a few years ago he won $10,000,000 in the NC Lottery.
Psycho happens at any age
Why is everyone not bringing up the real factor 😒😒 money !!!!! Without money a chick like young Miami is not checking for diddy
The younger woman is usually using him for his money and he using her for her youth.
That's true
It's always been that way from the beginning of time. Fair exchange is no robbery.
@@mob4ever the only problem is sometimes the younger person doesn't realize they are being used.
@@theTruthSeekerishere What about the older person being used?
When Charlemagne started singin to God…..🤣🤣🤣
I'm 44 and wouldn't even think about dating under 39, 40 much less 24..I dont think we would have anything in common...I look to be about 26 until a 26 year old stands near me 🤭 and no one over 50-53 for me
You look your age Ma. Don’t flatter yourself
Nah you look 44 sweetie
@@liyahmessiah3789 😆😂
@@liyahmessiah3789 Damn! LMAO 🤣 💀💀
Cap
It depends on the woman you get. Not every one wants to be out here in these streets!
I dated a Man older than me (12yrs)I had the best of time and he understood me and he was romantic and affectionate and we went on dates, Museums and partied together it was a good time but I didn’t want to Marry him. I eventually left him for someone younger and he understood, to this day we are Friends (platonic)
My adhd keeps listening to the beat…..
Envy spot on with the daddy issues.
I'm a proud Cougar🐆 & I look every bit of my early 30's so I ALWAYS attract younger men. However I be wanting a man little bit older than me but they rarely approach me. But what I will say is this older woman/ younger guy sex is sooo freaking good BUT that's it🤣🤣🤣
🙌🏽💯
The sex may be good. But your time is valuable. If you want to waste your time with a younger man who gives you nothing but sex and a good time that's your choice. You'll regret it later.
It used to be 7-10 that was "socially" acceptable. In my opinion the whole "father figure" theory comes from our understanding of gender expression. It stems from a patriarchal framework that has always permitted men to play that role of "daddy" or "man of the house." It is strange how when roles are reversed, that is what sets most people off.
I’m 36 so definitely not younger. Somebody in there 20s would give me a headache. If I want a headache I’ll just go to work. Somebody older definitely.
not to mention if he's not established, you'll have to sponsor him lmao
age isn't really a factor. chemistry is yall.
How you supposed to have chemistry when your partner is old enough to be your daddy?
@@iang7244 real genuine organic chemistry and maturity aren't bound by the age barrier.
And maturity as well
Age may not be a factor but ED, menopause and arthritis is 🤣
@@trisha1989 very true but alot of guys in their 20’s and 30’s are getting ED due to our horrible lifestyles and diet, especially with this heavy drinking and smoking age. Screwed either way!
Dated a guy 34 years my senior when I was 19. We made it 5 years and still good friends til this day. Been with my husband 8 years and he's 3 years younger than me. NGL we have alot more in common than my ex😄
Lol you think?
Ewwww
I just love charlemagne! He cracks me up all the time & he’s easy on the eyes.
Every time Charla starts singing church gospels 🤣🤣
Nah, I'm sorry. 31 and 21 is two whole different chapters in life. I could see 41 and 31 or even 51 and 31 before that. Of course, there are always exceptions, but a 21 year old who's in/just out of college, able to (legally) go to bars for the first time, etc is at a different pace than someone who's likely been in the workforce for a while, ready to buy a house, have a family, etc
Agreed. Dont date younger than 24.
So basically what you’re saying is if they stay together for 10 more years then it’s ok and they have your approval
@@leivaandre no?????? Not if they started when she was that young
@@leivaandre I mean, no relationship needs my "approval," but it's probably rare for it to last that long. I'm not saying it's impossible, but generally speaking, from the late 20s to 60 or so, your daily routine is basically going to work, doing whatever hobbies you have, running errands, and, if you have them, taking care of kids. For the most part (again, this is a generalization), people in their 20s will be hitting a happy hour a few nights a week and going to the club on the weekend. By 30, two things happen: 1) they don't have energy to turn up like that anymore and 2) all the homies they used to party with get married and have families, so there's no squad to rock with except on special occasions a few times a year (e.g. someone's birthday).
Under 30 and 30+ are just different phases. Again, there will be the exceptions (e.g. the 40-year-old who still wants to be in the club multiple nights a week or the 21-year-old who's a total homebody), but for the most part, the 40-year-old will think the 21-year-old is doing too much and the 21-year-old will think the 40-year-old is dry.
@@bee3467 shut up
hangs up on him, "i want someone better for her" our boy wild
47 with a 24 year old girl? Bro you old enough to be her father smh what can y'all possibly have in common?
Does it matter if they are in love? Maybe she's more mature and he's less mature. Women are usually more mature than men. That's why young dudes in their 20s drop a good thing when they have it cause they are still immature.
Yup absolutely I had my first sexual encounter with a cougar last year and I loved every minute of it and in general I loved everything about her as a person but I hate that she left me all because of miscommunication
Miscommunication definitely wrecks relationships of all types. It's frustrating as hell.
Yeah, that’s what most men use cougars for. Sexual experiences, most guys ain’t tryna wife someone whose old enough to be their mom. How does that look 10 years from now? Gross.
Reach out to her & get her back! Your happiness matters ❤
I'm in a situation like this older woman and younger man! Been together for 4yrs. The happiest I've ever been! We get along I think our life ,includes each other but we're not obsessed with each other! No pressure! I care but I don't care that much.
I prefer dating older women as I'm an old soul 32 year old. Love has no age limit.
Yep - those old souls can definitely be tight with much older folks.
Same here! 🤚
im 36 and 10-12 years older then me is usually my max. and I perfer they are at least 40.. and dating anyone younger then me is just scary lol
Hell no I'm not going to be with anyone that could be my father's age or my son's age. It's not that much attraction that would allow me to go there !!!!!!
I'm with my soon to be 55 boo of 3 years and I am 34. Love him and the dynamic. There are times when the conversation can go left due to the age lol but we here! No daddy issues either and my mom still having a hard time after 3 years accepting it but we moving forward in love and hoping to be buy our first house together next year!
If you had kids will he even be able to raise them? Are you thinking of the future?
African presidents been rolling like that... even 40 years age gap
I’m 28 and i been with someone in their 50’s. And when i was 17 i was dating a 34 year old up until i was 24 years old.
Okay I’m back to the topic. My 17 to 34 year old experience i say was quite fun and i actually learned a lot about myself an the world. Because the person i was with had an old soul and wasn’t so into the fast pace crap we have now. Actually having conversations, going outside, cooking & enjoying the finer things about life. Even though the relationship ended at the worst time in my life. My Mom had passed away and i was going through so much pain amongst the abuse that followed in the relationship. I can honestly say it wasn’t bad bad like Diddy but it had some disheartening things. Young people my fellow young people , do not get into a relationship with someone older because mommy or daddy wasn’t there in your life. Older people tend to have this ability to gaslight, deflect & love bomb. My relationship was bittersweet but to my surprise this year in 2022 i reconnected with the person and after all these years… i got the apology and closure that i actually needed to get in order for me to truly see it wasn’t me and the person took accountability for the demise of the relationship. So I guess they had some growing to do themselves. 🖤❤️
Thats whats up MY G! i respect this. I'm 29 guy and the person im dating she's 45... Its the most peace i've had in all my years of dating... 🙏🏾
@@wildhaert see that’s wassup. My advice, do not lie to her. Someone older than you has if not done everything you have done already & remember there is nothing new under the sun. The worst thing you can do to a person older than you is insult their intelligence and 2nd is make them feel old. Continue to be happy, don’t act as if their older an can’t do certain things & listen to her when she gives you advice. You will come back to this post an thank me 2 years from now.
@@tamelblondell5005 Thanks My G, I'm screenshoting this and saving. This means alot 👊🏾💯🙏🏾
@@tamelblondell5005 see by my older - I’m 22 he was 28… so only 6 years would always bring up “well you’re younger so” or “when I was your age” which comes off as controlling & dismissive.
17 with a 34 year old? Something not right about that. Glad u got closure tho
When they zoomed in on Envy 😂😂😂
I agree with cta In the aspect of the “father figure” topic. But my sons Dad is 42 & im 22. I left him thinking it wasn’t gonna workout because of the age gap. But honestly just to realized we would’ve worked out perfectly fine had i Not listen to society.
I’m pretty sure it’s good you left that situation. Sounds like you have work to do on your self and your mentality. Basically uprooting your kids life because of the opinions of society shows you don’t know where your priorities lay as a mother and a wife. And even if you realize that now, you gotta ask yourself what other problematic traits do you hold. Last thing you want is to end up with someone, bringing them into your kids life and not being able to make it work with the man you chose. Or worst ending up in a toxic relationship, and your child experiencing and growing up around both of those…….
Damn he old enough to be your father. Did you have daddy issues growing up
So, I gotta ask, not judging you (but full disclosure potentially judging him): How old is your son? And how long were y'all together? 🧐
The society sometimes ruin us
Lisa relationship because of society. Potentially missing out on something…
Comment section: society! all Of the judgers and authority I guess everyone else’s life. This is exactly what the author is talking about! Yeah Yall really do seem so miserable that you close off the possibility of the person for you because of age.
“It looks tiresome” 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
I sure can, my fiance is 33 (M) and I am 48 (F) and we work just fine, buuuuut, we understand the age difference, compromise and talk about everything. We work just fine. As far as sexual energy I am more energetic than he is
You're a sexual bring age doesn't matter especially if you take good care of your body.
7 years from now, when he's 40 and you're 55 will tell. By that point you would be an old woman. That's the reality. He would still be able to make kids and date younger women. I wish you nothing but the best.
@@mob4ever well it worked with my late husband. We were married for 19 years and six children later before his passing. I don't foresee a problem, however, if he should find that he can no longer deal with the age difference, it will hurt but I'm not in a habit of keeping a man that don't want to be kept.
it's about the individuals and how they connect and communicate with one another. And yes when their Dad is not there some will look for men that come close to their father.
Ok, so my husband is 24yrs my senior and we are sooooo much in love. He treats me like a queen.
ctg be showing his trollin side....lol
My parents are 21 yrs apart and we’re together 30 yrs up until my dad passed, so It can work
That only worked cuz social media didn't exist for them
I was married to someone 24 yrs older than me. It ain't wht u think they got more game than a little and u will regret it cuz they treat u like property. U take care of them while they out here acting like they your age. It was hell!!!!
It will eventually make a difference. It was ok when I was 35 and he was 55 but 20 years later things really Change especially with the Woman. I believe every Young Woman should experience the company of an man Older Gentleman. The experience shows what you should Expect from Men. Diddy got a few Good Year's left!
No, not every young woman should experience an old man. Older men only date younger women because they want someone to control.
3:57 I FW YALL FOR THIS lmaoooo 😭😭😭
wtf is a spritzer man 😭
charlemagne funny af 😭
I was 23 when I met 42 year old and he’s energy was non factor he kept up with me. But he’s was the man I fell head over heels for cause he help me heal my wounds he taught me how deal with things in life in a mature level he definitely help
Me grow. But when I was ready to settle down he said he wasn’t ready
.... Damn I'm 23 and he's 42 rn
I don't see myself with a older man, but I guess that's what I need! Because the Men my age is like raising another son. I need a man. So hopefully he is fit to stay around long but other than that, my mind can meet alot of older people, Majority of my closest friends are 9plus years older.
That's cause we live in a generation of men who were not raised by men on how to teach them to be real proper men/gentlemen. Yes. there are men of today's generation that do know how to talk to girls but girls don't know how to talk to guys as well.
So basically you want a father 😂😂😂
10 things to quit for all Strong Men:
1. Caring about what others think
2. Not believing in yourself
3. Not experimenting different ideas / solutions for problems (life&business)
4. Not prioritizing your health
5. Wasting your precious time
6. Wanting something (instead write a plan and work towards it)
7. Chasing meaningless relationships
8. Wasting or draining your energy from beating your meat 🥩
9. Wasting time by scrolling social media
10. Nailbiting/nailpicking habit for good (if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!)
Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list.