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why I'm choosing celibacy in my early 20s (and why you might want to, too)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 23 พ.ค. 2024
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I really loved this video Sia and listening to your perspective and experience. As a 21-year-old who's been celibate for the past three years, it gets isolating. Your video speaks to me in that your reasons differ from mine, proving that this lifestyle has many benefits. I am practicing celibacy, not intending to necessarily avoid relationships or dating, but rather filtering opportunities until one arises that matches my lifestyle. As you said, you attract the energy you project; attracting people who do not live consciously is a risk and a regression to my growth as a person. People have argued that my twenties are the time to make mistakes, to enjoy my youth, and that I'm missing out on potentially lasting relationships. I became sexually active at 15 and I've made all the sexual mistakes that I'm willing to make. I think that our culture overprioritizes/glamorizes sex. It serves as a snare to entrap people in relationships they were not prepared for and a distraction from other facets of our identity. Sexuality is not on a clock, we have our whole life to grow into it and learn. I'm choosing to cultivate a multifaceted identity through travel, spiritual studies, hobbies, friendships, and boundaries. I'm manifesting my twenties to be full of exploration, joy, and peace. Peace most of all. There are few choices in life that we're allowed, I encourage every young person to consider sexual relationships as a choice, rather than a trial and error process.
Thanks for your comment Remi! I'm happy to know you've found something that works for you.
100% agree. Society does over-glamorize sex and we shouldn't force ourselves to confront to society's standards - those aren't in place to help us find ourselves or prosper.
Best of luck on your journey to personal growth and making the most of your 20s😊
I’m 20 but you seem wise beyond your years so I thought you were older! I really like your videos and the way you think. Love from FL, USA ❤❤
I'm glad you like my videos! And thank you for the comment ☺️ ❤️
I think this video found me at the right time. Your relationship with yourself and working on yourself should be your primary focus during these years. Learning to be emotionally available to yourself and knowing what you want before seeking out a relationship. Thanks for sharing your insights. When you're taking care of and working on yourself, there's no rush. Trust that the time you've taken for yourself will help you be discerning with seeking out the right people, and that the right people will see the effort you've put into yourself.
I'm glad this video found you too Aiden. Exactly!
Most people aren't conscious of these things and simply seek out relationships as a distraction.
Thanks for watching, hope to see you in more of my future videos!
thanks sia, needed to hear that
This is a great video Sia! Speaking as a 21 year old woman myself I try to be celibate to focus on growing myself spiritually and in business but then I find every once in a while I just need a good d*ing down ya know? Like after a month or two I’m absolutely dying for a bit of it. How do I incorporate this into my celibacy lifestyle?
"mom you don't understand, it's MY choice to be single !!1!!"
Of course, we are not the same bud (insert extra cursed emoji) 🤭
@cristiandecebal3254 Eeeeh....!?? What the....!?
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23 years old . Come on, kiddo!
lol you don’t believe the age or?
@@natnat_o3 She is 15 at least.
@@ILoveHand-ClappingASMRI thought she seemed in her 30s
@@natnat_o3 De gustibus non est disputandum.
I know what Sia means. It means Socrates in action! Celibacy is good, you might get female Peronei's disease if you date too often.
Sia, you don't have to make such big decisions at such an early age.
Another possibility is that you just don't have magic with anyone at the moment and declaring that celibacy is the choice that you have made gives you a sense of control over how the universe randomly drops meaningful people into your life, which you don't have. A lot of what you're saying comes from the idea of arriving at a relationship after everyone has reached completion, but you might consider that it's wabi-sabi - incompleteness is the complete state, it's supposed to be incomplete, you are perfectly experiencing it as imperfect - "There are no Masters living in the world, for Mastery is attained beyond the world. There are advanced students. There are students of great accomplishment. But there are no Masters living in the world.Therefore, you may relieve yourself of the great burden of attempting or requiring Mastery for yourself."
Yeah, you probably got that right. It's definitely part of it! Which sort of ties to my second point of keeping myself celibate until the prospect of a good relationship comes along (although I haven't fully defined what that looks like for myself yet). I'll know if I'm ready then - it's just certainly not an everyday occurrence, not for me, and most likely not for anyone.
Also, there are some other practical reasons, too, but aren't as relevant/important to mention here.
Great point, though. I'm definitely guilty of wanting to achieve this "mastery" thing you're talking about - but I ultimately know it's not a useful or practical way of going about life. It gets you nowhere - as a massive self-identified perfectionist, I understand this well.
Good quote. Thanks for offering your perspective!
First you must define that there are two loves. Alpha love and Beta love. And there are also Alpha heart and Beta heart. They are both from corpora cavernosa. They both are pumping blood. They are both releasing hormones when reaching climax. Beta heart releasing tears, while Alpha release semen liquid or so. Beta heart is in chest, while Alpha heart is in pants. Women are more focused on Beta heart wile guys more on Alpha. It is like Alpha and Beta people. Alpha must develop empathy toward Beta, and Beta toward Alpha! And this takes life experience.