DECLUTTERING LIES YOU'RE TELLING YOURSELF (that definitely aren't true)
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When it comes to getting control of the stuff in our home, I find a few of the same myths spewed over and over again when I get comments from people or messages from followers. And many of these are decluttering and organizing lies I’ve thought or believed at one time myself, too. I'm breaking down the top decluttering lies you’re telling yourself that DEFINITELY aren’t true.
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Green beans for breakfast??
I think there are things we REALLY don't need that we should get rid of and then there is stuff we will need in the future that we can put away in an organized way so we can find it when we need it
While I do think these are all great tips, I can argue that "keeping things in case" is kind of needed when one has less money. I have been in a place when I have gotten rid of something that had just been taking up space and then I needed it. And I did not have the money to replace it. It's always double-edged.
That may be true for things that don’t have substitutions and are more expensive. The Minimalists’ 20/20 rule is a good gauge to gain momentum if you’re stuck on someday maybe items that are keeping you from creating a peaceful home. If it passes the 20/20 rule, then more questions come into play: 1) If I needed this, would I know I have it? 2) if I needed this and didn’t have it, what could I use instead? 3) Could I rent or borrow this item (from a neighbor, family member, lending library, tool bank,etc.)?
I have dedicated the under the stairs for my "just in case" i have one shelf of emergency food storage and another two shelves of the empty containers, extra items or not often used items. Keeping it under the stairs has created "the container" concept so i don't keep to much and i know where it is. So the rest of the house can be less cluttered.
If you have a closet you can dedicate you can do something similar
I've have done this so many times so I've categorize what's worth keeping (not easy to find/expensive) and what honestly has been just sitting there for years and I'm not likely going to use, even if I need it "once" I think it's helped.
This is an important aspect that I don't really see covered, and would like to see more indepth discussion of. I'm a big fan of all the decluttering channels and movement, but it would be helpful to have some that are on low or fixed income, and show the decision making process from that place. The 20/20 rule doesn't necessarily cover it, especially if it's a series or set of things that might be legitimately needed later.
Watch the minimal mom for decluttering mindset and some inspiration on how to live frugal but yet realistic on decluttering and simplifying your life that makes sense for you.
My husband has his own separate office (which is a pretty big room). That is his space to keep however he wants (which is VERY cluttered!!) But he's happy with it and I try not to comment too much! (It would drive me crazy if I had to spend a lot of time in there). The rest of the house is mine to keep however I want - which is tidy and organized and everything in its place (we are empty nesters). We've been together for 30 years and this works perfectly for us!
This is a great idea! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Same for me, and of course I NEVER dust, vacuum, tidy up...or whatever, his office.. it is HIS mess and he is reponsible for it.😉
I've been decluttering for 2 years now onion style. The living areas are becoming really easy to pick up and I love it. My spouse is not on board per say but last month he actually gave me a broken tv and two old computers to recycle. Three projects he'd been keeping in our office! I felt like it was a huge win but I didn't want to make a big deal and scare him off so I just said thank you, I'll take care of it. I think he's beginning to see how nice the living areas are becoming and that I don't get stressed about him inviting people over because I really can get it put back together in 15-20 minutes. I've just focused on decluttering my stuff leaving his or asking him to put it away.
Really best thing I've ever done.
Oh my gracious, the pencil pouches that magically became charger pouches, inside an office binder... 😀💡🎆💥🙏💖
So after 40+ years of marriage, I can say with confidence that one habits do NOT rub off on the other spouse. It is discouraging and exhausting to try to keep the house even minimally organized and tidy, when the other person is all about aqcuisition, keeping, and 'nesting' in their stuff. Half my room looks like a clothes bomb went off in it... my half is my half where I can see the floor.
That sounds really difficult :/
How do you decide on compromises?
@@SpectrumOfChange I just keep picking up after them in the main rooms. I make requests & some sink in...I just let some stuff go! ( oh and I have studio/ she shed that is ALL mine but is not heated enough for winter!
Maybe you could stick their things in totes, so it's not putting their things away for them, but it contains them.
Awesome points
I’ve done a lot of decluttering over the years and now I can break it down to , today I’m just going to do my kitchen drawers or whatever
10 minutes here and there makes it so achievable
Also keeping a donate bag at all times has helped me 😊
While listening to this I actually went through my house and picked up anything that could go in the trash can. I already feel better about my home!
Because of you and all of your videos about decluttering, I find myself cleaning and decluttering every day, and I spend much less energy on it compared to before. Thank you 🙏❤️
I appreciate your advice on just focusing on changing yourself. After 28 years of marriage this mutual respect has served us well!
Married almost 22 years still waiting on my husband to start mirroring me. 😅 🤦♀️
The reflecting actions sentiment is so true. I used to complain about my husband’s untidy ways, but he’s slowly but surely catching on as he sees me consistently cleaning & tidying up.
Thought provoking video! I always thought I had to be minimal or not minimal. Now I don’t hesitate to declutter but don’t stress over not getting it down to minimal. And thank you for more inspiration!
Omg the husband portion hit soo close to home. I live with my boyfriend and anytime I try to get him to declutter, but literally every item has to stay because they all have a reason, if tho the reason is totally unjustified. It’s so frustrating and I feel like he alone is taking up all the extra room we have allocated for “messes” 🤦🏻♀️
I've moved 7 times in the past 10 years. I've lived in three different states. Each move made me have to get rid if stuff, Now I feel I am at that point that there really is nothing else to get rid of. I have some books to donate every couple of months. But now I just go through paper every few weeks and either file or throw away. I make sure my refrigerator and pantry are organized and clean every week. Cleaning my apartment is easy now.
I use zip lock bags for thing I keep and store. Also, big bulky items I store in duffle bags instead of boxes or plastic. It's less of an eye sore and easy to just pick up and move.
The only thing I’ve gotten rid of that I sometimes regret is my rolling pin. I don’t bake often, and decided I could get along without it! Of course, the first time I baked something after that massive declutter had to be rolled out to one inch thick! Luckily I read all the way through the recipe, saw that, and thought, what will I do? A wine bottle is a good substitute 😂!
Love it!!
I got rid of my rolling pin as I hadn't used it in years and ended up buying another one at a thrift shop. No wine bottles around! ;)
Genius! Hope you enjoyed the wine with your delicious baked goods! 🤣
I used a wine bottle for years!
Lol, I decluttered about 20 wine bottles recently (was using for craft fair displays, and centerpieces) but I'm keeping my rolling pin 😅
I want to thank you for saying that it's ok to do a little at a time and to be proud of what you did. I have years of clutter that I'm trying to work through and it gets overwhelming thinking about all of it at one time. I've been doing a space, a box, a drawer at a time. It helps
Absolutely! I'm not sure which of my favorite decluttering ladies said this line, but I find it helpful: it took us a lifetime to accumulate all this stuff - it is unrealistic to think we can declutter it in a day/week/month/6 months!
Also, I live by the words "better is good" and "progress and only progress" from Dana K White. This helps reassure us that every little bit is a step in the right direction!
Yes ma’am! I’ve got years of stuff in my house too and I’m trying to get through it all slowly
I have always struggled with the tendency to accumulate stuff. My husband of 47 years passed away three years ago, and my goal is to declutter, downsize and simplify my life. The "big picture" is overwhelming, but I am progressing slowly, trying to focus on one small project or area at a time, and be patient with myself. It's incredible how satisfying it is to declutter one drawer, or walk into a room and see one little corner is tidy! I am encouraged by the quote that @katiegleaves3792 shared in "it took us a lifetime to accumulate all this stuff - it is unrealistic to think we can declutter it in a day/week/month/6 months!" BABY STEPS! 👶
The one big reason why I am making real progress in my whole house decluttering is by taking things in tiny sections. It feels good to get rid of things AND potentially have usable space for what remains.
My divorce is truly the biggest failure and disappointment of my life but I am thrilled to not have to put on a brave face cleaning up after him anymore.
Thank you so much, your channel helped me a lot, I always cone back for motivation and ideas.
I decluttered 80% of my apartment last year, staying home with three little kids. We live in town in a two room apartment, don't have a basement to store almost anything. It was one of the hardest thing I've ever done, but it made me so happy!!!
Especially in these hard times we're facing now, the scary present, the unknown and unexpected future. Greetings from Russia, from our peaceful and loving family.
When it comes to your messy spouse, you can also ask nicely to pick up his mess before it piles up. There is nothing wrong with asking your spouse for help. I am trying to get rid of a lot of things. I have an excess amount of perfumes and am giving them to my close friends and family and only keeping those I use in rotation. Also I keep in mind that “at least I did something” when cleaning and not being able to finish everything on my list. I have a long road ahead of me but your videos really help!
Love your consistent reminders on decluttering, and your perspective on spouses not knowing how clutter affects us…the Mrs. Doubtfire clip made me laugh out loud!! Keep shining, girl!! 💕
Great tips as always.
Have had lots of fun this weekend throwing rubbish out of my attic. I've been putting in more flooring and insulation. All of the stuff was heaped in an untidy pile in the middle of the section of flooring I'd put in when I moved in, and then dumped more stuff on top of over the years. I've chucked out all the boxes for electrical and electronic items, which were definitely past their warranty date! My trip to the recycling centre was so cathartic. Nothing like a wee dopamine hit when throwing cardboard boxes into a big skip.
My attic is now tidy and organised with only about a third of the contents kept. I can find my suitcases :)
I decided on a whim to go through my small stack of cookbooks. Well, they were all from my grandma, and some were very vintage. I didn’t part with any of them yet, even as I told myself that I will probably never take the time to look at them. Part of the problem is that I want them to go to someone who will appreciate them. Normally I have no problem parting with stuff.
Not a minimalist but like to be organized. Life happens and things can't always be super organized so I loved your video!!
Thanks, Kellie. I used to think I’m a born-to-be cluttered person 😂 I had a messy desk, messy bedroom, you name it… and gradually started hoarding stuffs 🤦🏻♀️ And now I find letting go helps reduce my anxiety and gives me a peace of mind. I totally agree with you that we don’t have to be a minimalist to get into decluttering. It’s a habit and a self-healing process that keeps both our physical and mental space nice and tidy.
This was all so helpful, thanks! I’m working on thinning out my dresser today, and then I’m allowed to feel accomplished and do something else. A great feeling for a Sunday! Be well.
I am a fairly new follower. I love your energy and positive ideas/attitude. I have found my timer to be my best tool. I have timed a few tasks that I tended to drag my feet on: unloading the dishwasher (less than FOUR MINUTES) and folding a load of laundry , only to find they are very small tasks. I am a quilter and in the middle of decluttering/ repurposing my sewing room. Small bites of time and a few decisions at a whack makes my day! Thank you!
Kallie, I have been following you for years, and I find your practical advice and upbeat attitude to life incredibly encouraging. I have always struggled with the tendency to accumulate stuff. My husband of 47 years passed away three years ago, and my goal is to declutter, downsize and simplify my life. The "big picture" is overwhelming, but I am progressing slowly, trying to focus on one small project or area at a time, and be patient with myself. It's incredible how satisfying it is to declutter one drawer, or walk into a room and see one little corner is tidy! I have ADHD so I am also struggling with the lack of structure now that I am on my own. You have no idea how your advice - such as "five things you need to do every morning" - are helping with this. Bless you, sweetie! Having raised six children, I appreciate how much energy and determination (and humour) are required to do what you do every day. (PS: we found that the transition from two kids to three was so much easier than we had expected!)
I admire your resolve in this new season of your life. You raised 6 children! That in itself is quite an achievement! I think small steps to a big goal are worth celebrating. God bless you as you continue on -new blessings are on the path forward!
So true about the spouse, my husband collects any related to cats as in decor. Keeps wire hangers, books and anything he thinks he needs. I’ve been decluttering and organizing for a couple of years, basement is next. He has noticed my tidying and cleaning and it has inspired him in spurts! Amazing how he threw stuff away and also added things to my give away to charity items! He’s still a messy cook but I hardly have to cook so it’s a win win.
You are great! I love watching you and have grown so much with my personal habits. In this video I really appreciate the segment about perfectionism and focusing more on what we HAVE done,rather than seeing failures.
Good Sunday morning But First Coffee. Thanks so much for all your advice on decluttering and living the minimalist lifestyle. As far as I'm concerned, the most important step to thoroughly decluttering your home is to get rid of any cardboard boxes you happen to have lying around.
That's the first thing I tackled in my basement, as soon as I found out that we would be keeping the house and not have to pack/move again. Such a relief! I was flattening boxes and packaging (some of them had been there for a few years, I'd been keeping "just in case") in celebration!
I had a college roommate who got me into the BAD habit of saving the boxes that things came in "for moving time", which later translated into having a mountain of empty boxes stored in my basement after I bought a house. FF ahead to one day and I just snapped, and smashed them all flat, bundled them with twine (that I'd been storing!) and hauled it all off to our recycle center. Five trips up the basement stairs with many pounds of flattened cardboard, filled my minivan!... never again.
@@TheJorgSacul That's perfectly understandable.
This is one of your best videos ever-- so much truth packed into less than 10 minutes! It really hit home.
Thank you, Callie! Apparently, the planets have properly aligned because today is the day I'm getting it done without believing the "lies." Thanks again! XO ❤️
I think the reason people too much stuff around is because they don’t have anything to do with their time and attention. It would cause anxiety to think about how your life is going nowhere
I've been doing DBT for a year and it's interesting to see some of the talking points in your videos overlap with the mindfulness skills that I've been learning. Polarized thinking is one that I struggle with a lot, particularly when it comes to the state of my home. I grew up in a very Cinderella-esque role so that feeling of "if it's not done completely, I fail" is so very real. Your videos in tandem with my therapy have been immeasurably helpful.
I love this video!! It came exactly at the right time! Thank you Kallie!
You helped me get started, declutter one thing a day. I haven't done one thing a day, have been chipping away weekly. I find organizing is a puzzle and a scavenger hunt, fitting things in efficiently and finding the right items to do that
Wow, thank you for mentioning how our spouses play a role in the tidiness of our homes. I was naturally an organized person growing up, however, my ex husband used clutter as a form of control. No matter how much I cleaned and organized, he intentionally sabotage my work. This became a never ending battle for me and started to wear on my mental health. I eventually gave up on decluttering and this (amongst several forms of mental abuse he smothered me with) lead me into a deep depression. Luckily, I am no longer with that man, and it's been a long journey getting my life back into control. Since I've been watching your videos, you've inspired me to take action and re-develope daily habits to bringing my life and my home under control. I forgot how beautiful my home is, and it even inspires my current husband in keeping up with the house as well! I feel better mentally and I love that the house is now a team effort. Thank you so much!!! 🥰
good to hear.. making someone else responsible for your choices never works.. it breeds resentment on both sides.. Keep this in mind- "be the change" not "force the change in others".. my son was and still is a .. no nice way to say.. slob. But he has a good heart, kind and caring.. look at the positive in others and you will find your own positive ways.
All true. I would add that minimalism itself is not an all or nothing thing. I am not a minimalist in the Fumio Sasaki “Goodbye, things” sense by any stretch of the imagination. But I try not to hold onto things I am not actively using and my house is uncluttered. So I’m something of a cozy minimalist.
The best way to decide on a "just in case" basis, is to put it in "quarantine." Leave it in a box, out of sight, out of mind, for a set amount of time (3 months). If you don't go reaching for it in that time, you don't need it!
Girl, get out of my head! This is all on point, exactly what I needed to hear, so thank you. 👌
Another note about comparing your home to the perfect ones you see online is that in a lot of cases you're only seeing one perfect corner! You have no idea what the rest of the house look like, what's hidden in the cupboard or what's been strategically pulled out of frame! Don't believe everything you see online 😊
Thank you! This one does help. Happy I watched it.!
I just had to share with you that it is almost 10 pm right now and I am so tired, but I went into my kitchen and emptied my dishwasher and cleaned our my kitxhen sink, because I heard your voice in my head reminding me how much better my day will start with a clean sink! Thank you for inspiring me, Kallie!! 💗
I love those bamboo drawer dividers. They've made my kitchen so much easy to cook in.
These are great! I really needed to hear these! Thanks!
"you're making them responsible for your desires". Such a good point. I do expect my husband to work to meet me somewhere in the middle too. But often times he does and I'm still not satisfied. I need to be reminded that the middle ground means I need to be flexible too.
In all relationships, there are differences. That includes tolerance for dirt (sticky, grubby countertop), tolerance for untidiness (countertop covered in bits and bobs), and energy to deal. The key is to work it out with your SO. If neither of you compromise, or listen to each other, the resentment over the sticky countertop or laundry all over the floor is a symptom of a much bigger problem. I live with someone who has a high tolerance for dirt and chaos, but good energy. He makes some compromises for me, and I for him. Just knowing he hears me and makes the effort to give back is what is necessary, and live in harmony, even if not with a lot of cleanliness.
Thank you Kallie for more knowledge!
I love drawer dividers and the clear boxes to organize my "junk" drawer. We just put on an addition. The clutter because of it drove my absolutely crazy!!
Hi Kallie! Thank you for your videos! I’m your new subscriber! Love and peace from Vancouver BC💕
1 motivation for me to declutter is knowing where things are in an emergency. If I was given 15 minutes to leave my home, what would I take? Organization has made it possible to now be able to easily do that.
Extremely helpful and relatable. Thank you❤️
You have helped me more than you know!!!! Thank you 💓
I love this stuff you said about spouses. Really great advice! I've been wrestling with how to get my husband onboard without nagging him. I'm going to take your advice and just lead by example.
Great reminders and info- thanks!
Thank you, Kallie!
I love watching all your videos. :)
Bingo! This is how I feel. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I like to break down my big tasks to small bites.
Needed this video thank you ❤
Thank you so much for your videos, very informative!!
Thanks , Kallie ! Fabulous as always. Love your videos. Liz
From Perth, Western Australia 🇦🇺 here just want to say a big thankyou I follow many of your tips. I'm still messing ups falling back but I get back into by watching you. A great motivation you channel has been for me as a mum of 2, keep it going. 🥰
The spouse tip is helpful. A previous video said that women are more bothered by clutter, men are more bothered by having to get rid of clutter. So de-clutter as much as you want, and try to only involve your husband when you have a specific and easy task for him to do - like taking sorted bags or bins places.
Timely, valuable advice 🙏🏻😊
This is spot on! Great video!
Great ideas. Thank you
Always enjoy your videos!
I love that binder for cords idea. Where would be the best place to store such thing?
Love your channel girl!💖🙏
Very helpful, thank you!
Every single time I’ve thrown away a “just in case” item, I always need it a couple of weeks after and I can’t replace it. It’s like a curse. I even had a strange moment where I was about to throw away a couple of antennas I’d saved up and as I was walking out the door, my mom’s radio antenna broke in half. Lol. Now I doubt myself every single time I go to throw something away.😂
Unfortunately, it also happens that one of my hobbies is making stuff out of other things so I end up saving random junk that I know I will definitely use. I’m just not sure when. And since it’s such random things I also know I can’t replace them either.
We need someone to do a video for dirt-poor hobbyists lol.
I heard when you’re undecided about getting rid of something ask “Can I buy this for less than $20 (or $10 or $5 whatever your limit is) if I ever needed this again? Use Goodwill as a rent free storage unit. Maybe one day I’ll need 2 glass baking dishes and if that day comes I’m willing to go to the thrift store and buy that second dish for $5 until then I’ll just keep one.
I need the section on Just in Case on replay in my ear while decluttering!!
Great tips & so true!
Your videos have changed my life for the better. I just wanted to let you know that. Thank you.
Never realized if top can stack and looks so neat especially when labeled! Ty
I always say I don't have a honey do list for my spouse. He has his own lists of tasks that need to be completed, and his own priorities. It's not that we won't help me when needed, or he won't go out of his way to make my hobbies more rewarding, he will, but our goal is to make a comfortable, easily maintained home that we can both relax in and enjoy.
So much wonderful info ❤
Kallie Branciforte. I don't know what it is about you but your voice just made me declutter my kitchen utensil drawer which made space for things to get off my kitchen counter.
So thanks 🤣🤣
my biggest sin is my crafting supplies. I have a side business where I sell ornaments. I have a lot of stuff with great potential. but if I after a year havent found a good idea of how to upcycle it, its out. I sort out my stuff once a year and have gotten my clothes down to 6 drawers and a big drawer of shoes and more will leave next time. we all have our weak points but if we limit those points the rest is easier to declutter.
I would love to know where I can find the binder pencil case thingy for the cords!! GENIUS
Congrats on passing 1M, Kallie!
the zippered notebook thing for cords? can you provide a link? congrats for hitting one mil! that’s awesome!
I like that binder with the cables.....
Great points Kallie! Off topic question: I don't know why this is the video I finally noticed it, but I love your couch! Where is it from? It looks like it would be perfect for our smaller home.
Off topic comment: girl you're glowing! Hope you're feeling as good as you look this pregnancy!
I’m not a minimalist either and rather enjoy collections and variety. A few years ago, I inherited 6 boxes of beautiful breakable items (china set, crystal, ornate pairs of lamps, etc.) from my parents. I incorporated those items and upgraded as I could around my house and the rest went into a closet for storage to come out for entertainment purposes. From time to time I give away or sell my items to make room for the ‘new’. Currently, I am sorting and packing for an upcoming move across town. I have counted so far 9 boxes of breakables I carefully had to pack. I’m stressed they will break and I’m strongly considering giving half of it to my nieces and selling what they don’t want. After my move, I will be shopping antique shops for a curio cabinet for proper future display and storage. I’m also mindful that a few of those breakable items could be traded for wood, metal or woven basket versions I wouldn’t worry about breaking. All my best to you and TFS your thoughts as situations determine outcome.
Congratulations, you have over a million viewers !!!!!!! 🎉❤
I grew up in a house where everything always looked picture perfect and I've had that weight on my shoulders in my own home for the past 8 years. Just a few days ago I had a revelation that the home I grew up in was not run by me but by my mother who had different cleaning standards than me and also grew up in a different time than I had.
I blamed the untidy nature of my own spaces on the lack of space in my home, how I don't have/can't afford to get the help I need to declutter, redesign, purchase new storage things that make my apartment that doesn't make sense, make sense... etc. (Thanks social media/ fomo)
But I can make due with what I have and slowly throw things away over time that don't serve me in an efficient manner.
Oh, and keeping things tidy is a huge hurdle I've had to get over as well. I've had a lot of changes happen in the past 3-4 years and learning to cope has NOT been easy and that has reflected on my environment. My mind gets blocked by what I see vs how to tackle the problem at hand.
As my mother taught me growing up (and I hope this helps someone else out), place your focus on one thing. When that one thing is done with, move on to the next thing until you're done with cleaning and you're able to enjoy the rest of your day!
Do the work so you can enjoy the fruits of your labor (like not having to worry about if you're ever going to compete the task you set out to do 2 weeks ago).
Sorry if that was a bit long but I needed to get that off my chest!
I often blame my own shortcomings on my spouse and like you said, they're never going to change.
Tl;Dr
This video definitely helped solidify the earlier mentioned revelation that I had. I'm writing out my lost and I'm sticking to it!
Great lies debunking!
Amazing video it really helped me ❤
Love the clip from Mrs. Doubtfire!
This helped me alot.
Funny story about people become who they hang around. When I met my future husband his mother never used a top sheet so he always just had a cover over him when he slept. After being married he can’t stand not having a top sheet between him and the bed cover any longer. I grew up always using a top sheet so it was kind of crazy to me that he was not used to it. But we have merged.
You should be a marriage counselor! That was great advice!
The one I don't really agree with ia "you will regret getting rid of it." I have been there many times. I have donated and sold things only to go rebuy them again a few years later. There is one item in particular that I think I repurchased 3 times (I am looking at you, bread maker!). That is not my philosophy about everything. I am not at a stand still in terms of keeping my place decluttered. But I do need to pause on some more expensive items that I truly might want to use again.
I am truly never getting another breadmaker again. I don't even know if that is a very popular item anymore, but it was at one time.
I have the "what if I need it" complex with baby stuff. Plus I'm sentimental. I invested so much time, money....and most importantly....emotion to this stuff that even though we're not planning to have more kids I have a hard time getting rid of things.
3rd tip is helpful even if frustrating
When I was about 8 years old, my father bought me a desk with 2 deep drawers. Soon after, he asked me if I wanted his (old) pens and pencils. At that age I loved to draw and sketch, and so of course I said yes. He handed me a buckets worth of pens and pencils, which I dumped into the drawer. For awhile it was great, but by the time I was 20 and still hadn't worked my way through all of it, it was a HUGE burden. One day I dumped the contents into the trash. What a weight off of my shoulders! I had been burdened by his mess for so long! Now, as an adult, I try not to burden my kids with my stuff. I still have to fight my parents off from giving me tons of stuff.
This is such an interesting perspective! I really liked this. Sometimes that nagging voice in our heads pushing us to use and not waste can be a real hindrance. We don’t want to part with something because we haven’t used it properly or gotten our money’s worth or whatever guilt we feel for not appreciating what has been given to us. Your action brought freedom. That is really healthy!
I don't know if it was your channel or not, I heard the term cozy minimalism and I think it kinda fits? Like the whole minimalism movement is about sizing down your needs and belongings. With cozy minimalism it's not necessarily about having as few things as possible / letting go of everything that goes beyond some limits you set for yourself. It's about being comfortable with e.g. having 50 pairs of shoes if it makes you truly happy, but being mindful enough that every single pair is truly cherished and cared for, and most importantly - every new pair is never, ever an impulse buy.
Personally, I call myself a minimalist shopaholic :D I love clothes and home decor as well as new tech, so I spend a fair amout of time looking at online shops, going to the mall etc. But my usual shopping spree goes like this: I throw 10 things into my cart, explain to myself how I don't need about 6 of them, try the remaining 4 and then I'm coming up with legit reasons why I shouldn't buy them. If anything passes the test, I take it. I usually end up with no items, sometimes one.
And I love giving away stuff, but that's a personal preference as we all probably know.
You can have that mindset when it comes to your apartment. If you don't like getting rid of stuff and the idea of minimalism sounds too extreme, I think hey, it's a spectrum, cozy minimalism exists! It makes decluttering much easier when you get used to the thought that some things in your life are just going to be there in large quantities and you are allowed to keep them, as long as you're doing it mindfully.
So basically, you can have LOTS of stuff where you're able to stay mindful of them and focus on minimizing your belongings / needs in the areas where you don't want to pay too much attention. Like, have a million books but only three plates if you have three meals a day and you don't want to wash more dishes than 3 in the evening.
Congrats, you're a cozy minimalist now :)