Precisely 🎯. Self-preservation... physically, psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually balanced and vibrant. Opportunities are everywhere. Everything is only for a season.
Imagine working in HR and seeing the toxic, bias, drama first hand smh. There’s no safe place to raise concerns. I am actively trying to do a career transition because of this.
As a Black woman who reported to a Black woman I can say it doesn’t matter what race the manager is trying to hold you back. Every time her boss would talk and laugh with me, I noticed she would find something about my work to nit pick about. She was such as narcissist that she would shoot down ideas that I gave her then come back 15 minutes later and say she came up with an idea that was exactly the idea I gave her. When I told her that changing the wording of my idea doesn’t make it hers she would scowl and walk way. I was so done with that woman. Long story short, she was laid off in 2020 due to impact of COVID and I’m still at the company living my most peaceful work life.
@@sparklesp9304yes that’s the problem. Many ppl have heightened narcissistic tendencies. They may not be full blown narcissists but the heightened tendency to narcissism is a problem
THIS! I’ve tried to explain this to my family many times when talking about the emotional abuse, neglect, and delay I’ve experienced at the hand of other Black women who have been my supervisors Sometimes we can truly be our own worst enemies. As many people have said,” All skin folk, ain’t kinfolk“
I was also pushed out of my last role. Working for a company for almost 3 decades. Because I expressed my feelings about the toxic treatment I was experiencing. Ladies it’s time to take back our POWER 🙏🙏
Same! I had terrible hives every single day for 4 months. The hives went away the day I put in my two weeks notice I was even experiencing ADHD symptoms from the constant mental abuse
I learned this the hard way. I now see how JOBS can be toxic like a toxic narcisstic boyfriend. I left after 5 years of trying to be seen as the employee that has all that they need and then some. Its a never ending cycle of "love bombing, which is, ( bombing you with "your talents are needed etc"). WALK AWAY!! Because they want you around, but not giving you the aid that is needed to complete the job/ jobs.
Excellent video! As a young black woman I have decided to leave the Air Force next year and not do the 20. Being in the military is very toxic for black women. I’m tired of the disrespect, unhealthy lifestyle, and putting the military first before my mental health. I can’t wait to get out and truly start living. Anyone in a toxic job plan your exit NOW!
In addition to leaving, always keep receipts in case you need to sue. Some corporations also attempt to black ball you. Thanks for this video! I keep telling folks, don’t stay where you’re being mistreated. Find another job and haul ass out of there.
Same, I tried. I did 6 years and left after my contract. I was overworked to the point where my mental health took the sacrifice. It’s better to leave because it was very toxic and I feel like I worked my ass off just to be treated with so much disrespect. Make sure you make use of the educational benefits that you get!
Even our own folks working against us in these environments sometimes, "all skinfolks ain't kinfolks." Leave the toxic mess behind yall a way will be made. ❤
Even if you are raising kids and want the income, learn how to quiet quit. Checking out has saved my life. I'm so at peace not trying anymore. It was hard because I'm such an overachiever, but my mental health has improved tremendously. ❤
I have a FEW DAYS left until I leave my job and the country that I work in. Im so excited. A new chapter of my life will begin. I cant wait to rest, heal, sleep, and be free 🤸🏿
I was recently fired because I reported a guy who made racially micro aggressive comments and my (less experienced) manager for stealing my sales deals. It was retaliatory. Please make sure if you are wrongfully terminated you don’t accept their severance agreement and get an attorney to negotiate and /or possibly sue if they refuse to cooperate.
My last day was a few days ago! The best thing they could’ve ever done for me was to let me go. I hated walking in there everyday. My soul died as soon as I saw the “office manager” sitting at her desk every morning. She was an empty soul demon. Typical corporate.
My last job was so Toxic. I actually prayed to God to take control of the situation. The next day I got dismissed 😅, my husband stated that was protection ❤ And yes I was so mad that this woman was allowed to lie about me and claimed that I was "not normal".
Same I don't want to return into the workforce. Everywhere has been toxic. I told another commenter to look into government contracts. There are federal, state, county, and city contracts from cutting grass to doing outreach with children. Blessings
@@Joyful_Smilesreally ? Man I’m interested how can I learn more about government contracts? I would love to do outreach with children. Or pregnant women & children.
That's why we're counting on this younger black generation to become business owners and hire, train our own. Going forward, we have support and buildup our own community. This world is against us in so many ways. For our survival, we must come together.
I understand the sentiments but I'm a firm believer it actually will not work this way. Becoming entrepreneurs still promotes a capitalist/hierarchical society. It's all for naught
I just went through this very exact thing and lasted 6 months. The straw that broke the camel’s back was when the plant manager cursed at me. I left and turned in a professionally scathing resignation letter the next day. Entrepreneurship is the answer at the end of the day. God will bless us. He is our source and provider.
I agree...entrepreneurship is the way to be free. I wish you well and sending you all the success to be the success you need for freedom! that's my wish too.
I've felt that as a black man as well. And what I came to terms with was that prosperity will come to you when you find the right environment. That place just wasn't it. A rose doesn't belong in the desert despite how beautiful the sand dunes are.
I left my job on faith! My headaches and migraines increased when I’d drive to work and got worse when I heard the work phones ring. I have had the most drs appts and ER visits this year when I started working after multiple complaints of my workload I told my manager about I realized they just didn’t care. My two weeks was in so I’m out on Monday 🙏🏾. I’ll figure out a backup plan eventually but I have a check coming still that will get me through. That job will not kill me I refuse to let it happen
I just left my job by faith July 3rd. I have a little money saved. Doing Uber in the mean time till something long term comes along. The weight that was lifted off my shoulders when I quit.
good decision to save yourself and your health...I started having dizzy spells and literally to the point where I had to lay in bed to feel better...realising that is it the job.
I am very fortunate to be able to work from home. It greatly reduces the micro-aggressions. I would advise BW to never stay in a toxic environment. Get out as quickly as possible, because in the end, it will end in your demise.
Yes, I’m running into this cycle at every job. I even tried a different field. It’s that same type of passive aggressive bull crap and im sick of it. I am praying to find a workplace where I am safe and valued.
This topic is a major reason why I became first a housewife, then a work from home wife. I simply canned deal with in person employment. The discrimination is severe.
I needed this, I left a toxic job and very toxic manager who first loved me and praised me and all of sudden I was shit and didn't know anything I was doing. The switch was so sudden that I was shocked, the micro aggression, the yelling and acting all sweet afterwards was scary. I played my part to not let her make me seem like an angry black woman and I used my tears back against her. I left and kept it cute✌. HR was terrible and so fake, she was a bully herself as well.
Yes it's for all of us. Capitalism harms all of us terribly. All of us are living unnatural lives and it hurts. I wish we could come up with our own system.
I made SURE my job ran me out 😂 I was very ready to go but I said to myself, let me make sure I don’t exclude myself from benefits eligibility and severance. In fact, I sort of quietly and strategically facilitated the “let go.” I was good to go just as long as I wasn’t going to be the one to do it, it was all good with me! Shoot! Lol. 😏 When it finally happened, I would say it was a mutually beneficial release because afterwards, I noticed that they almost instantly moved up a girl who was right below me on my team, into my vacancy. Also, right before I left, I noticed that they hired a duplicate of the most junior position on our team, which is kind of strange that we now had two Analysts when we normally have one, but at that time (a week before they released me), I didn’t realize that their intention was to get me out at the time and essentially push up one of those duplicates into my role as soon as I left, which is exactly what they did. Good riddance ✌🏾 the feeling was mutual lol Run me my severance.
This happened to me. I was ostracized because I refused to do extra work for free that other people were actually getting paid extra to do. I was labeled as not being a team player. So, I stepped down from the administrator role I had at the time because they tried to punish me by overloading me in that space. I had already started my spiritual coaching business by that time. So, I worked one more year as a professor while I leveled up my business. I intentionally planned my exit strategy, refusing to fight within that toxic environment. Since I left, I have been happily working on my business. It gets stressful at times, but it's normal stress without the overlay of white supremacy.
The fear and paranoia is real, it’s in the workforce, in our living spaces, in our community, out on vacation, at the grocery store, on the freeway, in the schools, and on public transportation..
Have a good pay job, well paid but the environment is sick. Life is short and money, material, stay here but your time, energy, peace of mind it’s not for sale. Take care of you , not the so call material needed.
Great video! Once I saw my director for who she was I put in my 2 week notice so fast her head was spinning. She tried to get me to stay an extra 2 weeks. Telling me most professionals give a months notice.... NOT IN MY WORLD! Too bad cause I was working on a big summer program and once I left the whole program ceased. That program would have made her look good too. Oh well, she began impacting my health just for sport. I only wish I wasn't so disceieved and seen it sooner.
Great comment. I'm glad you high tailed it outta there. Too often we give these people/situations the benefit of the doubt in the hope that things will improve. Lance the boil asap and keep it moving.
It's best to wake up and open our eyes sooner. Giving them the benefit of the doubt too much and too long can be deceiving and cause us a lot of damage.
Unfortunately a lot of times BM are behaving like wht supremacist in these workplaces against BW as well. I've experienced this, until HR turn on them too.
@@FreeBLKWomanFKALadyCrone Indeed. Many don’t realize that all the studies that point to toxic work culture against people of color; also point out that it’s far worse for black women in particular (for a host of reasons).
@@FreeBLKWomanFKALadyCrone I know it’s worse for black women in particular. I worked adjacent to an older black woman in one of my offices for a few years. In that time I had never directly interacted with her. The very first time I sat down at her desk, she looked me right in the eyes and said “I know you think I don’t know what I’m doing.” In that instance I couldn’t take it personally. I could see and hear the pain and anguish she was enduring from our white peers in that place. It was silently destroying her self esteem. I setup lunch dates with her after that and asked her to mentor me. She retired soon after.
Whew! This hit home in so many ways. Oh my goodness, where do I start. The last job I left was a so-called liberal company that preached diversity and acceptance. They wanted my skill set and praised me to the high heavens. That was until I came into the company and outperform two white female specialists who were the managers, senior supervisors, and Vice President of our division favorites. I felt the hostility, watched employees who were FAR LESS qualify be promoted to salary positions all the way I never advanced at all. If I asked a question about how a task should be done, I was immediately met with inexplicable aggression as if the person felt they had to fight me ... literally. It was bizarre. I was so depressed and stressed at the job. I did multiple roles and knew I was hated by those in power because I was never supposed to be "too good" if not the best in the entire department. God, it was awful.
I enjoyed this conversation. Sis, I know this conversation is to black women; however, as a black man, I have also experienced this, and I have been planning exit. Great conversation.
👏👏👏 you are so right. This system has caused far too much harm to Black women and families. Internationally. I thought we were growing as a species but weve slid way back as some wanted. Black and Brown across the globe are damaged far too often. Its got to stop.
I can’t believe this popped up today . I’m so sick of this happening. It’s so unfair. I’m trying to find yet another job soon wtf? 😢. I just wish I was not on this hamster wheel … My ideal job is--. Well idk anymore. I’m not safe around my own community .
Same here. It's even more heartbreaking when it's your own who try to put out your light. Look into getting a contract with the government. There are federal, state, county, and city contracts from cutting grass to do outreach with the youth. Blessings
Exactly what I’m dealing with. I was demoted recently for reporting my manager for harassment. I provided tons of proof. HR witnessed it first hand and brushed it under the rug. Told me I didn’t provide enough proof. But because HR witnessed some of it they gave her a slap on the wrist and made her take a few courses. She got revenge on me by assigning those courses to me. Before they closed the case I told them I would be demoted and a month later I get demoted. They took my position from me and gave it to someone who is not qualified and rub it in my face daily. I work remotely so during our weekly staff meetings we are now required to have our camera on which we never had to previously. All so she can taunt me and see my facial expressions. She takes screenshots of my personal messages I’ve sent ppl on TEAMS and during meetings she flashes my personal messages to let me know she’s watching. I mean just sick.
Please consider filing a case with the EEOC. I don’t know your situation, but from the little you’ve shared, it sounds retaliatory. Especially if you have proof.
Oh my gosh girl I needed to hear this I’m busy preparing to leave my toxic job and start my own business we all need to get out let’s stop buying their crap and keep our in our communities
I took over a job this year and have realized the lady who used to do it before me was doing so much. She was doing a job of two people or more alone. Her pay could not match her job and I did not understand why she would take up so much work
I knew I wasn’t tripping! I just got fired/laid off from my job last week & I felt so relieved because I feel like they’ve been trying to push me out of there for a long time. I’m the type that speaks up when I see something wrong and I always give them ideas that are good, but they don’t like that they come from me so they refuse to use them only to find out I was right in the end. The more right I was the more they tried to “humble” me & I’ve seen it happen to so many Black women at this company smh. I’ve been clearly discriminated against ao much so that other employees have noticed the unfair treatment towards me but they’re too scared to speak up. I’m actually thinking about pursuing a case
Do you have any advice on how I should go about doing this? I also recorded the last conversation with them & they basically admitted to treating me different. Their excuse was “ we’re harder on u bcuz we know u have more potential” which I know is a LIE. They told me I was the only one arriving late which I found out was a LIE yet they sent me home for it & they didn’t do that to anyone else. I thought about pursuing a case, but then felt bad about it bcuz they have families to feed. Any advice?
thank you coach Everything you said is correct. I left my job after 5 years of not getting promoted, people (non black) kept coming in from outside with limited experience and moving up and i never had any of my tasks advanced. It killed me especially when i had left IT work years previously for the same reason, i thought being a cook was safe. Im happy i lost 100 pounds while working there and build my confidence as a person , met some good friends, and started a union at my job. You have to sacrifice so much to start fresh but dont give up and dont let yourself fall so short.
I just discovered this channel and I love your spirit and your message of hope. I will be sharing your videos. I am an older black woman and I have quit several toxic jobs after going to HR departments and getting no help. If I could have heard this message back then, I wouldn't have internalized everything that happened to me 20 years ago and maybe I would have came through it with less damage. Thank God you're here now for future generations.
This is the truth; however, you do not get unemployment when you quit. Learn the interpersonal skill building. Politely decline projects from toxic people who are trying to make you do their work, by considering who gets in trouble if this isn’t done? If it’s not you, then be polite, do your own work & keep getting the check until they lay you off; them collect Edd until you find the next adventure ❤ you got this
I’ve said this prior to the job I have now. And when I say, the best thing I did was leave and run out of there lol. Although, no one ran me out; my mental health did.
I thought I was imagining this Subtle behavior. My first time working for a fortune 5 company and this is bananas! Thank you for clarity. They need followers who ask no questions but responds with "How High" when they ask you to jump. Ladies and gents, KNOW YOUR WORTH!
I was kicked off a project that I basically perfected. But 'new mgt' team felt threatened, so they assigned it to another team member with zero experience with the work. They became the SME even though they had no idea how to actually do the work. Later 'new mgt' tried to drag me back into the process to help train this person/Group of people that had replaced me, to do what I'd done single-handedly. They've never gotten it right, and I'm never going to give them the corrective input they need to get it done, especially since the current SME jobS are above my pay grade. Plus, I don't want my name attached to the current 'mess' they've created. Get out of my face and leave me to the mundane tasks you passed down to me. I SAID GOOD DAY!😅
You're 100% on point. However, I would say try not to expect validation from a job. You must support yourself, but value yourself and what's important to you first.
I think we all can share multiple stories on workplace bullying or aggressive behavior from managers or co-workers but how do we explain that in an interview of our next job? We need more strategies instead of stories. We know they dont like us but we still need to feed our families
Please check out this video for S. Anne Marie Archer's advice on how to talk about past toxic jobs in job interviews: th-cam.com/users/liveUMdLg8Yc3rs?si=nRI319R_53jvphYa
I didn't realize I was so deeply & negatively affected by my workplace treatment until I watched this video. The tears that came out my eyes. I am the hard-worker who goes above & beyond, who gets good evaluations and accolades. However trying to do my job well makes me feel like Im on a battlefield. Tired of dealing w the passive aggressive behavior & backhanded compliments from my Caucasian female bosses. It hurts.😞 Thank you for creating this video.
Thanks for the video. I'm so tired of having to walk on eggshells at my job because they watch my every move as a threat, perceiving me as aggressive because I'm vocal and want to uphold what's right. Isn't this why I was hired now it's a problem? They give me the most difficult task and when I achieve them they find ways to write me up or put me under investigation for doing what's right and having a ethical value system.
What a powerful and timely message! I’m a teacher and have given myself 1-2 years before I resign. I’m not leaving as yet only because my daughter can attend a good high school in the district where I work. The stress and workload is ridiculous and I refuse to take that, the toxic teachers, and low pay anymore. Not to mention the lack of diversity on the staff for the last 10 years I’ve been there-not one black classroom teacher. I’m done and even though it’s not for a little while, I’m already moved on in my heart. That makes it more bearable. Thank you and new subscriber!
I saw that video too and it was fantastic! I left my toxic job ( they were literally going to fire me and I knew it) and I was lost for a minute…. But I’m back at double my salary!
Walked out of my job yesterday after months and months of high level racial psychological abuse. I was also treated as if I was a 15 year old work experience student when I have a degree and post grad education. My self esteem and self worth was brought to ashes. My self esteem is so low that my voice became so softly spoken, even my posture was not right. I sat in that office chair is if I was nothing. After walking out yesterday I realised I was being abused in the workplace and these people are backed by a system that will allow them to continue being an abuser and use gang mentality. Thank goodness I found your video.
Wow 😯 Surprised at how much I can relate to this video. I never heard of "Pet to Threat" before, but after hearing the description, I realized that's EXACTLY what has been happening to me! It took me a minute to even realize that my workplace was toxic and my supervisor was a micromanager because I had never experienced either before. It wasn't until I had gotten physically sick from the overwhelming stress that I knew I needed to leave for sure. I thank God for technology and access to videos like this to help me understand my experience and encourage me to take the steps necessary to take care of myself. Thank you Marissa Price for sharing this video and offering your services to support our community ✊🏽
I think we are missing the bigger picture 8 or more hours per day 40 plus hours a week . Who cane to these numbers of working hours and days it’s absolutely insane that we are at work more than we are at home . Something isn’t right and how long will we STAND for it !
A Few days I was fired It started off with me complaining to my boss about the racism I was experiencing and the hostile work environment I deal with he basically told me to get used to it bc the offender was the brother of the regional boss Once I let them know that they were looking for reasons to let me go, and were constantly stating you are a slow learner so your not a good engineer 06/27/24 I was shown my boss calling me names to emplyee I reported to my boss and HR I was called retarted by my boss and she stated for a mechanic not to assist and and to let me struggle. I once I made my report to HR and my boss I confronted my boss and told her my thoughts and that I didn’t appreciate her doing that, the following work day I was fired due to insubordination. Everyday I hated that job bc of how I was treated. It was only a matter of before I quit or was fired it’s hard not hate be mad and just say it’s bc I’m black and they are all white I am trying not to be angry about the situation and look at it as a blessing from above
I’m working on my second career. I have always succeeded and been top tier. This current career is challenging. Short staffed but I am always the one there. No one cares. I never felt so low. Now I am being accused of sending threatening messages to some on leave of absence. No proof. They claim IT is working on the investigation. Why not approach me once they have evidence. White privilege is definitely there.
I’ve never waited for them to run me out. I’m 30 and have not lasted more than 2 years at a job. Ive been in my current role for 2 months and rolled my eyes at my boss today because I had NO idea who she was talking to. Part of me feels like I keep failing but all my moves have come with a pay increase so I tell myself I’m doing the right thing but truly, I hate working for people. They are all monsters and terrorists once you start working for them.
I did, and I’m so damn glad I did. I’m so much more confident now. I’m working with other Black women (all women) and we support each other and have each other’s backs and it’s so awesome.
Not a woman, but I’ve been there. Utilize the jobs to become debt-free and build up the F you money. Please live below your means which will give you more fluidity in the workplace.
I’m experiencing this right now and it’s not always from other races, sometimes we do this crap to each other. Black women in upper management can have the “pet to threat” ideology going on too with fellow black women as well.
Girl I’m at work listening to this it’s speaking to my soul…the over talking, condescending stuff we have to go through is insane…and the knives 🔪 are real…this is why working remotely is increasing because less face time equals less conflict
This sister is so on point in everything! I have been here too many times in the workplace since 1983. I never would bow down, however, would end up being outed to move to another job and the cycle would continue (the system). Don't allow a toxic work culture make you feel inferior so they can feel superior. It's all good because I been working on an exit plan to now retire at the end of the year.
Thank you for having the courage to speak truth. Black women are so often admired and hated at the same time for our intelligence and spirits in general. I too often fell like there is a target on my back at work and tell myself to just keep going but thank you for acknowledging the we have the power to say no when something no longer serves us ❤
Amazing vid! I left my job last month because I am worthy of a workplace that isn’t abusive. And better yet, I deserve to have employment that fulfills, encourages, and guides me while providing a generous income.
I know that this year I’m planning to leave after working there for over 20 years as a Gallery Police Officer because I feel like it’s toxic and dealing with some two faced individuals that I don’t trust and I pray for a financial blessing 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Yup. Three years ago left a career teaching in higher ed after fifteen years and ended up in a really toxic dept and university. It was awful. Tokenized as the only one unsupported the black tax ....they'd only had three other Black women in that dept since the EIGHTIES. The last one lasted four years I lasted three and a half. Neither of us made it halfway to tenure it was so bad smh. I left academia altogether before they could kill my sanity completely and started my own production company. Toughest three years of my life but I wouldn't change a thing. ✊🏽
Watching this so many things went through my mind. Many from my own experiences and things I've had to learn as a black woman in the world (In China I had a very similar experience in my workplace), but I couldn't help but think about how triumphant I felt when Harry and Megan Markle left the abusive environment they were in. That institution really thought they should happily accept their mistreatment silently and when they left, to me it signaled that they knew their worth even if the institution did not.
I quit my job due to toxicity, it was horrible. I had begun to have anxiety, management did not care at all. Financially I took a hit, however, I have found a part time position. Meanwhile, I'm learning a couple of more skills that will allow me to not work for anyone ever again.
Thanks so much for sharing my video! Lissen let them run you out but make sure they pay you to if they are discriminating against you!
Thank you for making that video! 🤎 Absolutely!! 👏🏽💯
@@mpricemswLOL. They scared out here we coming up! We can't be stopped! Keep pushing to the top!
and the fact that once you runaway, that you are still silenced in order to be compensated for the toxicity
Get that severance and go grab an extra certificate or AA..
Precisely 🎯. Self-preservation... physically, psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually balanced and vibrant. Opportunities are everywhere. Everything is only for a season.
A whole other level is when HR is the toxic environment
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Yes..they are part of it. They are not a resource for the 'human' they only look out for the company.
Imagine working in HR and seeing the toxic, bias, drama first hand smh. There’s no safe place to raise concerns. I am actively trying to do a career transition because of this.
yes...HR can't be trusted to look after workers, they are there for the company ...I reported bullying and have never heard anything of it.
As a Black woman who reported to a Black woman I can say it doesn’t matter what race the manager is trying to hold you back. Every time her boss would talk and laugh with me, I noticed she would find something about my work to nit pick about. She was such as narcissist that she would shoot down ideas that I gave her then come back 15 minutes later and say she came up with an idea that was exactly the idea I gave her. When I told her that changing the wording of my idea doesn’t make it hers she would scowl and walk way. I was so done with that woman. Long story short, she was laid off in 2020 due to impact of COVID and I’m still at the company living my most peaceful work life.
I actually think a lot of us are narcissistic actually 😅.
@@sparklesp9304yes that’s the problem. Many ppl have heightened narcissistic tendencies. They may not be full blown narcissists but the heightened tendency to narcissism is a problem
As a black woman I have never interviewed with another black woman and got an offer. Sometimes doesn’t matter what the race is it’s the ego.
I swear they only hire narcissists for those positions
THIS! I’ve tried to explain this to my family many times when talking about the emotional abuse, neglect, and delay I’ve experienced at the hand of other Black women who have been my supervisors Sometimes we can truly be our own worst enemies. As many people have said,” All skin folk, ain’t kinfolk“
I was run out of my last job. I was one of two Black women/people there. That environment gave me so much anxiety that I never had before.
That part that you never had before that is so much me
I was also pushed out of my last role. Working for a company for almost 3 decades. Because I expressed my feelings about the toxic treatment I was experiencing. Ladies it’s time to take back our POWER 🙏🙏
Same! I had terrible hives every single day for 4 months. The hives went away the day I put in my two weeks notice
I was even experiencing ADHD symptoms from the constant mental abuse
I learned this the hard way.
I now see how JOBS can be toxic like a toxic narcisstic boyfriend.
I left after 5 years of trying to be seen as the employee that has all that they need and then some.
Its a never ending cycle of "love bombing, which is, ( bombing you with "your talents are needed etc").
WALK AWAY!! Because they want you around, but not giving you the aid that is needed to complete the job/ jobs.
THIS!! 👏🏽💯 Thank you so much for sharing this 🤎
this is the TRUTH right here 💞 💯❤️
When you're competent, you're perceived as a threat (by the less competent but more entitled), smh. We can't win.
Excellent video! As a young black woman I have decided to leave the Air Force next year and not do the 20. Being in the military is very toxic for black women. I’m tired of the disrespect, unhealthy lifestyle, and putting the military first before my mental health. I can’t wait to get out and truly start living. Anyone in a toxic job plan your exit NOW!
Good luck to you. Wish more people would get the courage to change their situation. Make sure they pay you everything they owe! ❤
In addition to leaving, always keep receipts in case you need to sue. Some corporations also attempt to black ball you. Thanks for this video! I keep telling folks, don’t stay where you’re being mistreated. Find another job and haul ass out of there.
Peace to you and your future endeavors ma’am!
Good job for being able to last that long! Blessings.
Same, I tried. I did 6 years and left after my contract. I was overworked to the point where my mental health took the sacrifice. It’s better to leave because it was very toxic and I feel like I worked my ass off just to be treated with so much disrespect. Make sure you make use of the educational benefits that you get!
Even our own folks working against us in these environments sometimes, "all skinfolks ain't kinfolks." Leave the toxic mess behind yall a way will be made. ❤
I've dealt with this and it is so sad to see in the workplace.
My manager tried to treat me like a workhorse and guess what I did less
yep! I`m trying to get out...correction I will get out!
Even if you are raising kids and want the income, learn how to quiet quit. Checking out has saved my life. I'm so at peace not trying anymore. It was hard because I'm such an overachiever, but my mental health has improved tremendously. ❤
This!!!
Right! Them folks will have your self-esteem all jacked up if you don’t recognize the game they’re playing.
Exactly…when my job/management becomes toxic or tries to overwork me…I just pull back and do less.
YES!!!! Improve that mental health.. ❤
I totally agree…❤ such a blessedt freedom… ( I made up that word lol)
I have a FEW DAYS left until I leave my job and the country that I work in. Im so excited. A new chapter of my life will begin. I cant wait to rest, heal, sleep, and be free 🤸🏿
Good for you!! Enjoy your time ❤
@@jul.escobar Asante Sana 🤸🏿
If you don’t mind me asking, what country are you leaving?
@@literarylayer Tanzania. I also documented my story on YT.
@@fionaslife I will check it out
I was recently fired because I reported a guy who made racially micro aggressive comments and my (less experienced) manager for stealing my sales deals. It was retaliatory. Please make sure if you are wrongfully terminated you don’t accept their severance agreement and get an attorney to negotiate and /or possibly sue if they refuse to cooperate.
Did you get paid? Was suing successful? I wish I would have sued…
@@user-kq1gj7kq8vi think you can sue even if time has passed.
My last day was a few days ago! The best thing they could’ve ever done for me was to let me go. I hated walking in there everyday. My soul died as soon as I saw the “office manager” sitting at her desk every morning. She was an empty soul demon. Typical corporate.
😂factsssss weird weird people all over corporate
My last job was so Toxic. I actually prayed to God to take control of the situation. The next day I got dismissed 😅, my husband stated that was protection ❤
And yes I was so mad that this woman was allowed to lie about me and claimed that I was "not normal".
I’ve been through this so many times. I don’t even want to go back into the workforce
Same I don't want to return into the workforce. Everywhere has been toxic.
I told another commenter to look into government contracts. There are federal, state, county, and city contracts from cutting grass to doing outreach with children.
Blessings
@@Joyful_Smilesreally ? Man I’m interested how can I learn more about government contracts? I would love to do outreach with children. Or pregnant women & children.
That’s how they create homelessness and inequality and keep it going. We can’t create generational wealth and pass down skills to your families.
AGREED
That's why we're counting on this younger black generation to become business owners and hire, train our own. Going forward, we have support and buildup our own community. This world is against us in so many ways. For our survival, we must come together.
Yessss
We have to have funds to do that, though, smh. It's a pipe dream without funding.
@@sparklesp9304 we do! We just have to start applying the funds to business development instead of over consumerism.
@@sparklesp9304 dont be discouraging. we have funding.
I understand the sentiments but I'm a firm believer it actually will not work this way. Becoming entrepreneurs still promotes a capitalist/hierarchical society. It's all for naught
I just went through this very exact thing and lasted 6 months. The straw that broke the camel’s back was when the plant manager cursed at me. I left and turned in a professionally scathing resignation letter the next day. Entrepreneurship is the answer at the end of the day. God will bless us. He is our source and provider.
I agree...entrepreneurship is the way to be free. I wish you well and sending you all the success to be the success you need for freedom! that's my wish too.
@@ntiriwa Thank you very much! I wish the same for you as well. God Bless💕🙏🏾
Walking away is the most powerful gift I gave to myself.
I've felt that as a black man as well. And what I came to terms with was that prosperity will come to you when you find the right environment. That place just wasn't it. A rose doesn't belong in the desert despite how beautiful the sand dunes are.
I left my job on faith! My headaches and migraines increased when I’d drive to work and got worse when I heard the work phones ring. I have had the most drs appts and ER visits this year when I started working after multiple complaints of my workload I told my manager about I realized they just didn’t care. My two weeks was in so I’m out on Monday 🙏🏾. I’ll figure out a backup plan eventually but I have a check coming still that will get me through. That job will not kill me I refuse to let it happen
Do Uber...it's been a lifesaver for me.
@@sparklesp9304 yea I used to do Uber eats I still have the app but I refuse to do rides
I just left my job by faith July 3rd. I have a little money saved. Doing Uber in the mean time till something long term comes along. The weight that was lifted off my shoulders when I quit.
Same here. I struggled with migraines for about a year until I finally left. Best decision I ever made for my health.
good decision to save yourself and your health...I started having dizzy spells and literally to the point where I had to lay in bed to feel better...realising that is it the job.
I am very fortunate to be able to work from home. It greatly reduces the micro-aggressions.
I would advise BW to never stay in a toxic environment. Get out as quickly as possible, because in the end, it will end in your demise.
Yes, I’m running into this cycle at every job. I even tried a different field. It’s that same type of passive aggressive bull crap and im sick of it. I am praying to find a workplace where I am safe and valued.
There’s a black professor at Lincoln University who unalived herself due to workplace bullying. Would you cover this story?
Yes, I spoke about Dr. Candia-Bailey in a previous video on my channel 🤎🙏🏽
This is so sad 😞
This topic is a major reason why I became first a housewife, then a work from home wife. I simply canned deal with in person employment. The discrimination is severe.
I needed this, I left a toxic job and very toxic manager who first loved me and praised me and all of sudden I was shit and didn't know anything I was doing. The switch was so sudden that I was shocked, the micro aggression, the yelling and acting all sweet afterwards was scary. I played my part to not let her make me seem like an angry black woman and I used my tears back against her. I left and kept it cute✌. HR was terrible and so fake, she was a bully herself as well.
No lies detected here! This young woman told the entire truth!
I love how God steps in and judges your oppressors and gives them the just due karma judgement...i will never step down on their level
Yessss he do!
This is a message for black men as well.
Absolutely! Black people as a whole tired of this raggedy system. Slaving away and getting nothing back in return but debt and disrespect.
Yes it's for all of us. Capitalism harms all of us terribly. All of us are living unnatural lives and it hurts.
I wish we could come up with our own system.
@@Joyful_Smiles we can. We just have to do it instead of talking about it.
Screw them - those struggle bandits are the worst ones. They will HELP a racist torment you.
@@c16621Now you have a good point there. I do agree with you.
8:39 “One of the lies of oppression is that ‘Better does not exist’” I wish I was told this decades ago.
I made SURE my job ran me out 😂
I was very ready to go but I said to myself, let me make sure I don’t exclude myself from benefits eligibility and severance.
In fact, I sort of quietly and strategically facilitated the “let go.” I was good to go just as long as I wasn’t going to be the one to do it, it was all good with me!
Shoot! Lol. 😏
When it finally happened, I would say it was a mutually beneficial release because afterwards, I noticed that they almost instantly moved up a girl who was right below me on my team, into my vacancy.
Also, right before I left, I noticed that they hired a duplicate of the most junior position on our team, which is kind of strange that we now had two Analysts when we normally have one, but at that time (a week before they released me), I didn’t realize that their intention was to get me out at the time and essentially push up one of those duplicates into my role as soon as I left, which is exactly what they did.
Good riddance ✌🏾 the feeling was mutual lol
Run me my severance.
This happened to me. I was ostracized because I refused to do extra work for free that other people were actually getting paid extra to do. I was labeled as not being a team player. So, I stepped down from the administrator role I had at the time because they tried to punish me by overloading me in that space. I had already started my spiritual coaching business by that time. So, I worked one more year as a professor while I leveled up my business. I intentionally planned my exit strategy, refusing to fight within that toxic environment. Since I left, I have been happily working on my business. It gets stressful at times, but it's normal stress without the overlay of white supremacy.
The fear and paranoia is real, it’s in the workforce, in our living spaces, in our community, out on vacation, at the grocery store, on the freeway, in the schools, and on public transportation..
Lots of bullying in the military. Let me tell you honey. Too many people have the golden handcuffs though.
Have a good pay job, well paid but the environment is sick. Life is short and money, material, stay here but your time, energy, peace of mind it’s not for sale. Take care of you , not the so call material needed.
Great video! Once I saw my director for who she was I put in my 2 week notice so fast her head was spinning. She tried to get me to stay an extra 2 weeks. Telling me most professionals give a months notice.... NOT IN MY WORLD! Too bad cause I was working on a big summer program and once I left the whole program ceased. That program would have made her look good too. Oh well, she began impacting my health just for sport. I only wish I wasn't so disceieved and seen it sooner.
Great comment. I'm glad you high tailed it outta there. Too often we give these people/situations the benefit of the doubt in the hope that things will improve. Lance the boil asap and keep it moving.
It's best to wake up and open our eyes sooner. Giving them the benefit of the doubt too much and too long can be deceiving and cause us a lot of damage.
you are right! I just resigned from a job due to this exact behavior. I am glad to be out of there and I do not regret my decision.
Although I'm not a black "WOMAN," I'm in this exact situation and this video helped confirmed what I've been thinking and feeling for a while now.
Indeed brother! Been the only brother at my job for over 20yrs and the struggle is real!
Unfortunately a lot of times BM are behaving like wht supremacist in these workplaces against BW as well. I've experienced this, until HR turn on them too.
@@FreeBLKWomanFKALadyCrone Indeed. Many don’t realize that all the studies that point to toxic work culture against people of color; also point out that it’s far worse for black women in particular (for a host of reasons).
@@FreeBLKWomanFKALadyCrone I know it’s worse for black women in particular. I worked adjacent to an older black woman in one of my offices for a few years. In that time I had never directly interacted with her. The very first time I sat down at her desk, she looked me right in the eyes and said “I know you think I don’t know what I’m doing.” In that instance I couldn’t take it personally. I could see and hear the pain and anguish she was enduring from our white peers in that place. It was silently destroying her self esteem. I setup lunch dates with her after that and asked her to mentor me. She retired soon after.
Whew! This hit home in so many ways. Oh my goodness, where do I start. The last job I left was a so-called liberal company that preached diversity and acceptance. They wanted my skill set and praised me to the high heavens. That was until I came into the company and outperform two white female specialists who were the managers, senior supervisors, and Vice President of our division favorites. I felt the hostility, watched employees who were FAR LESS qualify be promoted to salary positions all the way I never advanced at all. If I asked a question about how a task should be done, I was immediately met with inexplicable aggression as if the person felt they had to fight me ... literally. It was bizarre. I was so depressed and stressed at the job. I did multiple roles and knew I was hated by those in power because I was never supposed to be "too good" if not the best in the entire department. God, it was awful.
This is how you know these people thrive on mediocrity with a handful of bright stars they use and abuse.
Yesss!!!Let them run you out so you can sue dem!!!!😌😊🙂↔️🤭
This! Always get an attorney and fight. They don’t expect us to do this.
YES!!!!
The one person I know who sued had a good case but only won $10,000 and was blacklisted in the industry.
I enjoyed this conversation. Sis, I know this conversation is to black women; however, as a black man, I have also experienced this, and I have been planning exit. Great conversation.
Thank you! I wish more blk women spoke up in the workplace & defended their own instead of protecting the other ethnicities
👏👏👏 you are so right. This system has caused far too much harm to Black women and families. Internationally. I thought we were growing as a species but weve slid way back as some wanted. Black and Brown across the globe are damaged far too often. Its got to stop.
I can’t believe this popped up today .
I’m so sick of this happening. It’s so unfair. I’m trying to find yet another job soon wtf? 😢. I just wish I was not on this hamster wheel … My ideal job is--. Well idk anymore. I’m not safe around my own community .
Same here. It's even more heartbreaking when it's your own who try to put out your light.
Look into getting a contract with the government. There are federal, state, county, and city contracts from cutting grass to do outreach with the youth.
Blessings
Yes! Run like hell! Toxicity isn’t worth it.
👏👏👏so proud of you for leaving & helping others in the community to create an exit plan
Thank you!! I appreciate that so much 🤎🤎🤎
💡Nursing🙄😞 they get in these petty groups being passive aggressive. I'm Over it!
Exactly what I’m dealing with. I was demoted recently for reporting my manager for harassment. I provided tons of proof. HR witnessed it first hand and brushed it under the rug. Told me I didn’t provide enough proof. But because HR witnessed some of it they gave her a slap on the wrist and made her take a few courses. She got revenge on me by assigning those courses to me. Before they closed the case I told them I would be demoted and a month later I get demoted. They took my position from me and gave it to someone who is not qualified and rub it in my face daily. I work remotely so during our weekly staff meetings we are now required to have our camera on which we never had to previously. All so she can taunt me and see my facial expressions. She takes screenshots of my personal messages I’ve sent ppl on TEAMS and during meetings she flashes my personal messages to let me know she’s watching. I mean just sick.
Please consider filing a case with the EEOC. I don’t know your situation, but from the little you’ve shared, it sounds retaliatory. Especially if you have proof.
Oh my gosh girl I needed to hear this I’m busy preparing to leave my toxic job and start my own business we all need to get out let’s stop buying their crap and keep our in our communities
Best wishes and strength to you on your new journey. You've got this !! :)
@@tysgem7 thanks girl you’re the best
what about when the trauma comes comes from our own in the workplace?
Them too. Tap dancers on a high rise!! It's sickening 🤢
Yep so many of those too all skin folks ain't kin folks.
@@FreeBLKWomanFKALadyCrone Ok. Like for real... That's the saddest part in my opinion.
I took over a job this year and have realized the lady who used to do it before me was doing so much. She was doing a job of two people or more alone. Her pay could not match her job and I did not understand why she would take up so much work
Because she probably didn't see that she had a choice without being fired.
I knew I wasn’t tripping! I just got fired/laid off from my job last week & I felt so relieved because I feel like they’ve been trying to push me out of there for a long time.
I’m the type that speaks up when I see something wrong and I always give them ideas that are good, but they don’t like that they come from me so they refuse to use them only to find out I was right in the end. The more right I was the more they tried to “humble” me & I’ve seen it happen to so many Black women at this company smh. I’ve been clearly discriminated against ao much so that other employees have noticed the unfair treatment towards me but they’re too scared to speak up. I’m actually thinking about pursuing a case
Do you have any advice on how I should go about doing this? I also recorded the last conversation with them & they basically admitted to treating me different. Their excuse was “ we’re harder on u bcuz we know u have more potential” which I know is a LIE. They told me I was the only one arriving late which I found out was a LIE yet they sent me home for it & they didn’t do that to anyone else. I thought about pursuing a case, but then felt bad about it bcuz they have families to feed. Any advice?
Sistah, thank you for this. right now I just want to cry.
You're so welcome, Leslyn 🤎🤎🤎 Sending love your way!!
thank you coach
Everything you said is correct. I left my job after 5 years of not getting promoted, people (non black) kept coming in from outside with limited experience and moving up and i never had any of my tasks advanced. It killed me especially when i had left IT work years previously for the same reason, i thought being a cook was safe. Im happy i lost 100 pounds while working there and build my confidence as a person , met some good friends, and started a union at my job. You have to sacrifice so much to start fresh but dont give up and dont let yourself fall so short.
I just discovered this channel and I love your spirit and your message of hope. I will be sharing your videos. I am an older black woman and I have quit several toxic jobs after going to HR departments and getting no help. If I could have heard this message back then, I wouldn't have internalized everything that happened to me 20 years ago and maybe I would have came through it with less damage. Thank God you're here now for future generations.
This is the truth; however, you do not get unemployment when you quit.
Learn the interpersonal skill building. Politely decline projects from toxic people who are trying to make you do their work, by considering who gets in trouble if this isn’t done? If it’s not you, then be polite, do your own work & keep getting the check until they lay you off; them collect Edd until you find the next adventure ❤ you got this
This is so powerful and healing. Thank you for helping me see it for what it is.
You're so welcome!! Thank you for this comment 🤎🙏🏽
I’ve said this prior to the job I have now. And when I say, the best thing I did was leave and run out of there lol. Although, no one ran me out; my mental health did.
I thought I was imagining this Subtle behavior. My first time working for a fortune 5 company and this is bananas! Thank you for clarity. They need followers who ask no questions but responds with "How High" when they ask you to jump. Ladies and gents, KNOW YOUR WORTH!
I was kicked off a project that I basically perfected. But 'new mgt' team felt threatened, so they assigned it to another team member with zero experience with the work. They became the SME even though they had no idea how to actually do the work. Later 'new mgt' tried to drag me back into the process to help train this person/Group of people that had replaced me, to do what I'd done single-handedly. They've never gotten it right, and I'm never going to give them the corrective input they need to get it done, especially since the current SME jobS are above my pay grade. Plus, I don't want my name attached to the current 'mess' they've created. Get out of my face and leave me to the mundane tasks you passed down to me. I SAID GOOD DAY!😅
HaHaHa. I got that "I said Good Day" joke. (30 Rock)
@@DinNDee 😍
You're 100% on point. However, I would say try not to expect validation from a job. You must support yourself, but value yourself and what's important to you first.
Thanks for this! I suffer depression and increased anxiety due to this very reason! You are a strong example!
I think we all can share multiple stories on workplace bullying or aggressive behavior from managers or co-workers but how do we explain that in an interview of our next job?
We need more strategies instead of stories. We know they dont like us but we still need to feed our families
Please check out this video for S. Anne Marie Archer's advice on how to talk about past toxic jobs in job interviews: th-cam.com/users/liveUMdLg8Yc3rs?si=nRI319R_53jvphYa
@@mpricemsw I think I watched this the other day. What did you get from it?
I didn't realize I was so deeply & negatively affected by my workplace treatment until I watched this video. The tears that came out my eyes. I am the hard-worker who goes above & beyond, who gets good evaluations and accolades. However trying to do my job well makes me feel like Im on a battlefield. Tired of dealing w the passive aggressive behavior & backhanded compliments from my Caucasian female bosses. It hurts.😞 Thank you for creating this video.
Thanks for the video. I'm so tired of having to walk on eggshells at my job because they watch my every move as a threat, perceiving me as aggressive because I'm vocal and want to uphold what's right. Isn't this why I was hired now it's a problem? They give me the most difficult task and when I achieve them they find ways to write me up or put me under investigation for doing what's right and having a ethical value system.
You are a beautiful soul..what a lovely channel..their is a light at the end of this dark tunnel ..
What a powerful and timely message! I’m a teacher and have given myself 1-2 years before I resign. I’m not leaving as yet only because my daughter can attend a good high school in the district where I work. The stress and workload is ridiculous and I refuse to take that, the toxic teachers, and low pay anymore. Not to mention the lack of diversity on the staff for the last 10 years I’ve been there-not one black classroom teacher. I’m done and even though it’s not for a little while, I’m already moved on in my heart. That makes it more bearable.
Thank you and new subscriber!
When you are too good on the job, they hate you for it.
Not a woman but WOW! This is for ME! Everything you have said. INCREDIBLE!
They ran me out on purpose (age discrimination). Thank God for providing me with a new job quickly! 🙏🏾 🙌🏾
I saw that video too and it was fantastic! I left my toxic job ( they were literally going to fire me and I knew it) and I was lost for a minute…. But I’m back at double my salary!
Save your money 💵 plan to leave
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Walked out of my job yesterday after months and months of high level racial psychological abuse. I was also treated as if I was a 15 year old work experience student when I have a degree and post grad education. My self esteem and self worth was brought to ashes. My self esteem is so low that my voice became so softly spoken, even my posture was not right. I sat in that office chair is if I was nothing. After walking out yesterday I realised I was being abused in the workplace and these people are backed by a system that will allow them to continue being an abuser and use gang mentality. Thank goodness I found your video.
Not black but Asian and I’m so GLAD I found you! It’s something I’ve realized myself but omfg you articulated it so well ❤
Excellent message. The best one I have ever heard on work toxicity.
Wow 😯 Surprised at how much I can relate to this video. I never heard of "Pet to Threat" before, but after hearing the description, I realized that's EXACTLY what has been happening to me! It took me a minute to even realize that my workplace was toxic and my supervisor was a micromanager because I had never experienced either before. It wasn't until I had gotten physically sick from the overwhelming stress that I knew I needed to leave for sure. I thank God for technology and access to videos like this to help me understand my experience and encourage me to take the steps necessary to take care of myself. Thank you Marissa Price for sharing this video and offering your services to support our community ✊🏽
I think we are missing the bigger picture 8 or more hours per day 40 plus hours a week . Who cane to these numbers of working hours and days it’s absolutely insane that we are at work more than we are at home . Something isn’t right and how long will we STAND for it !
A Few days I was fired
It started off with me complaining to my boss about the racism I was experiencing and the hostile work environment I deal with he basically told me to get used to it bc the offender was the brother of the regional boss
Once I let them know that they were looking for reasons to let me go, and were constantly stating you are a slow learner so your not a good engineer
06/27/24 I was shown my boss calling me names to emplyee I reported to my boss and HR I was called retarted by my boss and she stated for a mechanic not to assist and and to let me struggle.
I once I made my report to HR and my boss I confronted my boss and told her my thoughts and that I didn’t appreciate her doing that, the following work day I was fired due to insubordination.
Everyday I hated that job bc of how I was treated. It was only a matter of before I quit or was fired it’s hard not hate be mad and just say it’s bc I’m black and they are all white I am trying not to be angry about the situation and look at it as a blessing from above
I’m working on my second career. I have always succeeded and been top tier. This current career is challenging. Short staffed but I am always the one there. No one cares. I never felt so low. Now I am being accused of sending threatening messages to some on leave of absence. No proof. They claim IT is working on the investigation. Why not approach me once they have evidence. White privilege is definitely there.
Lies are part of the attack. Consider leaving. It is not going to change.
Time to pivot and depart. 😎
I’ve never waited for them to run me out. I’m 30 and have not lasted more than 2 years at a job. Ive been in my current role for 2 months and rolled my eyes at my boss today because I had NO idea who she was talking to. Part of me feels like I keep failing but all my moves have come with a pay increase so I tell myself I’m doing the right thing but truly, I hate working for people. They are all monsters and terrorists once you start working for them.
Black men too- preach sis!
I did, and I’m so damn glad I did. I’m so much more confident now. I’m working with other Black women (all women) and we support each other and have each other’s backs and it’s so awesome.
Not a woman, but I’ve been there. Utilize the jobs to become debt-free and build up the F you money. Please live below your means which will give you more fluidity in the workplace.
Wow! I literally just went through this experience…. Again.
Pet to threat. First time hearing it. But yes, that’s the pattern!
I’m experiencing this right now and it’s not always from other races, sometimes we do this crap to each other. Black women in upper management can have the “pet to threat” ideology going on too with fellow black women as well.
Girl I’m at work listening to this it’s speaking to my soul…the over talking, condescending stuff we have to go through is insane…and the knives 🔪 are real…this is why working remotely is increasing because less face time equals less conflict
This must be shared. As I am leaving corporate work I needed this boost. You did your thing here. Keep going
This sister is so on point in everything! I have been here too many times in the workplace since 1983. I never would bow down, however, would end up being outed to move to another job and the cycle would continue (the system).
Don't allow a toxic work culture make you feel inferior so they can feel superior. It's all good because I been working on an exit plan to now retire at the end of the year.
Brilliantly spoken.. Thank you 🙏🏾 I’m sure I had a lawsuit but it’s ok. My peace of mind is priceless.
Thank you for having the courage to speak truth. Black women are so often admired and hated at the same time for our intelligence and spirits in general. I too often fell like there is a target on my back at work and tell myself to just keep going but thank you for acknowledging the we have the power to say no when something no longer serves us ❤
Read “Out of the House of Bondage”… definitely relatable to this video!
Amazing vid! I left my job last month because I am worthy of a workplace that isn’t abusive. And better yet, I deserve to have employment that fulfills, encourages, and guides me while providing a generous income.
Great video!
As a white man maybe I’m the odd one out but I have felt this all my life ,,
Very good topic for everyone
Thank you
Thank you for making this video. Now I know I’m not alone on this journey of toxicity in the workplace. 🙏
I know that this year I’m planning to leave after working there for over 20 years as a Gallery Police Officer because I feel like it’s toxic and dealing with some two faced individuals that I don’t trust and I pray for a financial blessing 🙏🏾🙏🏾
1:47
Absolutely NOT!
I left mine …Bye👋🏽
I didn’t think it was a flex to stay.
I CHOSE ME🤗
Let them, let go, choose better, desire better
Yes. It’s absolutely traumatic.
Yup. Three years ago left a career teaching in higher ed after fifteen years and ended up in a really toxic dept and university. It was awful. Tokenized as the only one unsupported the black tax ....they'd only had three other Black women in that dept since the EIGHTIES. The last one lasted four years I lasted three and a half. Neither of us made it halfway to tenure it was so bad smh. I left academia altogether before they could kill my sanity completely and started my own production company. Toughest three years of my life but I wouldn't change a thing. ✊🏽
Watching this so many things went through my mind. Many from my own experiences and things I've had to learn as a black woman in the world (In China I had a very similar experience in my workplace), but I couldn't help but think about how triumphant I felt when Harry and Megan Markle left the abusive environment they were in. That institution really thought they should happily accept their mistreatment silently and when they left, to me it signaled that they knew their worth even if the institution did not.
I quit my job due to toxicity, it was horrible. I had begun to have anxiety, management did not care at all.
Financially I took a hit, however, I have found a part time position. Meanwhile, I'm learning a couple of more skills that will allow me to not work for anyone ever again.
😢 thanks for letting me know that I'm not crazy