Lohendy Garcia, I am hearing that more and more, message received. We are working on some teen programs in our membership site, Live On Purpose Central.
Yes this is really tough! Sometimes I feel like running away and never looking back but I know that's not an option. Lol so I find video's like this to help...lol
Very helpful. My 14 yo in stage 2. It could be worse. But she is def on my nerves. lol. I really have to detach from outcomes AND mourn the loss of her being a child, that grief hurts very badly.
Barbie Sergio, we don't get prepared for how our children grow and change over the years. I bet there are plenty of fun times ahead. I am glad she is on stage 2.
I recently discovered your channel and am now a happy subscriber. My daughter just turned 13 and you are spot on saying teenagers are a different kind of creature, far cry from the sweet little girl who was always by my side doing everything together. It's not that she's bad now but she is different, which is something I have to accept and deal with. I love when you said we need to love our children no matter what and even if. Thank you for being such a blessing to the world and taking us along this journey called life and parenthood.
One minute in, and I think I’m going to have to come back to this video when I’m mentally prepared to hear the rest. Also, after I’ve had my morning coffee! Lol☕️ 😂 Great topic, please more teenager videos!
Yes, some videos are just that important and definitely deserve all of our attention AFTER our first cup of coffee. I hope that y I u came back to this and watched it in its entirety
because each video is so chuck full of super important information, maybe consider having shorter videos to allow for processing time lol! for example, I've now watched a bunch of your videos and finally begin to process "my job is to love my kids no matter what and even if"
My daughter turned 10 and immediately went into puberty and into the attitude of a teenager. Suddenly didn’t want night time stories, no playing with her dolls, teddy bear, etc. suddenly mom and dad are annoying and embarrassing. The kid to teenager mentality and grieving is spot on.
Ten yes old, geeze,thats hard on you as a mom,isn't it? But what we still have to remember that she is still only 10 m regardless of puberty . Isn't hard wen we lose our " child" to teenager-ism.
Mine too, she is being rude, want to spend whole time face calling friends and being served..bring that..I want that..I need to eat..and..and..and when I say..do the bed..clean the room..I have to repeat it 10 times at least..then I end up yelling which I hate cause it kills my nerves too..see shouts back or give my attitude, I am frustrated..I am tired..I feel sometimes that I hate her or I want to send her to her dad..or I raised a horrible person..and I failed as a mother..It literally wears my out ...i need help..I don't know what to do
Yeah same, I am a teenager and I did change, especially for the fact that my childhood sucks... At my family's household, you do something wrong, you get beaten up or cursed at. Im a pretty quiet person now and avoid people at all costs. I didnt realize that their parenting wasnt good at all until I grew up and got depressed XD
@@كنتسأنجبمنكقبيلة-ت1ث This is true as a teenager myself my parents and everyone else does not understand me either, I prefer talking to my friends and avoiding people, although I do not want getting served, I still do try to live up to my family's expectations but lately I've been really down and it is just sad that my family never understood me at all and thought that I was just being a retard that spends a lot of time on the computer. This isn't true, I've been depressed and socially anxious, and my friends (which I talk to over the internet) were the ones that were supporting me and comforting me. I just feel safer and not judged around them, which i always feel around my family. I'm not rude at all to my family, I respect them, I follow their orders, try to live up to their demands, but everything has a limit to me you know? I believe one thing that parents should understand is that times are changing, people are changing, kids grow up, their needs and wants change, and everyone goes through a depressive phase, no matter the age or the situation they live in. This is my family's mistake, they think they done everything and anything for me and they think Im happy, they think I just try to disrespect them at all costs, they take away so much of my freedom just because they pay the bills which I do have to chip in a few times too with my own cash. But yeah, sometimes calm and open minded conversations helps, I personally, never had any calm conversations with my family without them getting mad, but I sure do hope that happens one day and I explain to them why I have been lost.
I am so thankful to have found your channel and I just joined you on Instagram as well! I have 7 kids 6 at home ages 16,15,13, 12, 10 and 7 our oldest is 21. My 16 year old daughter was diagnosed with BPD and my youngest is autistic. Your videos are very helpful. We are in Idaho Falls and maybe someday you’ll teach a class here. 💙
How does this channel not have billions of subscribers?!? You guys are awesome! Found you looking for adhd help, are you planning to do any more on that? My 5yo gets aggressive when disciplined, very hyperbolic outbursts, I'm at a loss of how I personally should react. You are my new favorite thing to binge-listen to, as I do my nightly hobbies, ie laundry, cleaning 🤗
You had me in tears at.... Love them, No Matter What! It's the title of a book by Debi Gliori that I used to read to them as small babies and toddlers. Loving my teens one minute at a time. XOXO
When I was a teenager I was rough. I even wrote a letter to my parents when I got a little older and apologized to them about some stuff. It would be a lot to tell you about the stuff I did as a teenager. I was stubborn and had to learn things the hard way. Boy oh boy but I learned and I’m such a different and better person today because of those teenage years. For parents who struggle with rough teens just keep loving them and hang on. They will get there!! My parents never gave up on me and how thankful I am. Now I’m grown and give back and serve and love and take care of others etc. I’m a Young Women’s youth leader in my church and I can relate and help these teens. Our teens today will be some good powerful people in the future those are just my thoughts. Now I’ve got 3 teen boys and 1 pre-teen girl 😳😊
Love these and I am not a parent but trying to manage a difficult parent and these are so helpful. Call it reparenting me but applying the principles to other relationships in my life.
I am so thankful that I found your channel. I am watching your videos every day now because they are SO relevant to what I am going through with my 15yo. I feel like finally someone understands my struggle as a parent of a teenager!
I love that you say the most important thing is to love them no matter what and even if. It’s so very important and can be done without enabling and always giving in or never giving consequences and I think too many parents don’t know how to do that. I also think a lot parents automatically want respect but don’t respect their own kids as people so mutual respect is never established and that hurts the relationship. Some of your videos have gotten me through some rough phases with my two teens. I love your approach philosophy. Thank you
What to do when drugs got around them, bad friends, issues with anger and addiction. My son is almost 17 and is having a hearing a day after his birthday. It's so scary, he made a bad choice, we don't know what's going to happen, he is in home arrested. I checked some therapist and counseling but it's so expensive or don't get back with you. I'm willing to make some sacrifices to get my son the help he needs for his anger management and addiction... so sad. Any advice that we can get? Sorry, also thank God I came across your videos. I'm getting educated, you are amazing!
Would you consider a video on grandparents raising kids? My baby boomer mom is raising my niece and nephew like it's the 1970s. This just doesn't work.... I see her trying hard not to enable the behaviors her parenting created with my brother (who is 12 years younger then myself) but she is now raising 2 more with his disposition,, that were taken from a broken abusive situation. So she is combating the effects of growing up in that abusive environment as well as fighting all the new issues, like internet... the road blocks to parenting is different now, and she in her age finds it hard to see how raising kids has changed from seen and not heard do as your told silently.... Thanks in advance
you and your amazing wife keep me grounded. I'm so thankful as I am surely sure my teens are too. If they only knew that you're advice is what truly reminds me of my job/ role as a Mom is. Ultimately to always love them. My one teen is stage 1 and my other ( thankfully) is stage 2.Youre platforms are encouraging me to go onto Facebook, as I avoid all of social media like the plague. I'm learning that the platforms can and will be used for amazing learning opportunities. I only watch utoob. Hmmm,Hmm, I'll expand. Please more content on teens. TEEns are extremely temperamental creatures. Lol. Thank you, Young widow in Maryland
I need more practice on this Dr Paul. How to do my job of love them no matter what and even if without showing disappointment on times my teens make bad choices in life. Pls show more examples. Appreciate it. Maria here from Manila, Philippines.
Thanks alot Paul and Ms🙏 Tough navigating these years wish it would go faster so they'll understand what life is really about 😅 The big challenge is Loving them even if you're talking and they're not listening? By the Grace of God ❤️ I heading that route as from own 🙏 thank you so much you both 💐
Love the videos on everything parenting, family, and self-help. Do you have videos on specific consequences for teens when they disrespect parents or don’t follow styles at home? Mine keeps making same mistakes over and over. She is 16 and the immature child you describe in one of the other videos. I am struggling to know what else I can do besides the usual taking away of the cell phone. Thank you.
O my gosh! At 8:30 ish "All you care about" is getting your to do list done. (my to help THEM get done list so THEY can have everything for school, an event THEY wanted to do ) I hear that all the time. That I am cold, disingenuous, non compassionate, inconsiderate. If I am all business I am uncaring (daughter). My Goal is to have them(mostly be) no longer be depended on me.
Omg I'm saving this video for future reference lmao the power struggle is real over here. I think I'm going to make posters or a chart or something so my teen and I can see it easily.
What if you have truama in your personal history and sometimes disassociate so much that you aren't present? How do you show you love them no matter what when you are struggling?
Jmom Rodgers, you bring up a good point. Get help for yourself. You can't fill their tank if yours is empty. Include other people in their lives that will be there for them, aunts, uncles, grandparents, friends, etc.
As an Attachment-Focused Parent Coach & mom, it is important to understand your teen's brain which is still under construction & their feelings. The teen credo is "Please don't let me be embarrassed today." When we give unconditional love, stay present, hold space with acceptance, curiosity & connect to their hearts, we enhance our parent-teen relationship.
What do you do when they walk away when trying to plan the day with them? How should a parent "be" around them after they return? Should one act like nothing happened?
How do you not care about outcomes ? If they’re disrespectful or lazy , shouldn’t we show them they need to try harder so they can grow up to be a decent person ? I understand my job is to love my child , but isn’t my job also raise him to be decent and to discipline him appropriately? Outcome in this case is “decent person “.
I'm so scared. I am truly grieving my teens rn changing. I feel like I've done it all wrong. They tell me they hate me and I just want to hold them so desperately. They don't want to be here with me. I have only ever tried to love them And do what's best but I did it wrong. It was NEVER my goal to make them disrespect me/rebel so bad. It truly hurts. We had some trauma in our family and they went from being very sheltered and controlled tbh to total freedom and I no longer had any control so to speak. I was also dealing with a narc relationship where I was discarded and then preyed upon by angry family members & my children were removed as a result of that however I'm going through thearapy as are they to reunite us all. I miss them so bad but we're all in thearapy I'm trying so hard. I realize i tried to "control" and shelter them and they have rebelled but i need a total reworking in my parenting strategy bad. It's breaking my heart. I feel so sorry for everything but I'm trying not to be so hurt that I get depressed and am trying to educate myself myself.
This was a great video. I don't have teens yet. But my father parented me like this as a teen, and it was great. I became a well rounded person despite living in a dysfunctional home. God was the biggest factor, but still it was great
Tex me great great adult but depressed major due to not being able to have friends over or having a partner due to finding out and not a great life and this is just horrible help me please
VALERIA Acm, try these videos th-cam.com/video/3B-F4J_HPTk/w-d-xo.html, th-cam.com/video/7yNOND2gbZ4/w-d-xo.html, there might be more on the playlist, check it out.
Adis Candra, looking at them, sitting with them, listening to them. Showing interest in something that interests them. Being compassionate and supportive.
Most people who have children are ill prepared to do so financially and emotionaly but still popped them out anyway. And we as a society are to blame for allowing that.
This is the toughest job!! More videos about teens please!
Lohendy Garcia, I am hearing that more and more, message received. We are working on some teen programs in our membership site, Live On Purpose Central.
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Yes this is really tough! Sometimes I feel like running away and never looking back but I know that's not an option. Lol so I find video's like this to help...lol
The teens are definitely the hardest stage I believe
Very helpful. My 14 yo in stage 2. It could be worse. But she is def on my nerves. lol. I really have to detach from outcomes AND mourn the loss of her being a child, that grief hurts very badly.
Barbie Sergio, we don't get prepared for how our children grow and change over the years. I bet there are plenty of fun times ahead. I am glad she is on stage 2.
You two are my favorite power couple.
LeRae Lee, hey, thanks for the kind words.
I recently discovered your channel and am now a happy subscriber. My daughter just turned 13 and you are spot on saying teenagers are a different kind of creature, far cry from the sweet little girl who was always by my side doing everything together. It's not that she's bad now but she is different, which is something I have to accept and deal with. I love when you said we need to love our children no matter what and even if. Thank you for being such a blessing to the world and taking us along this journey called life and parenthood.
Thanks for the sub. Hang in there, your daughter will come back to you.
One minute in, and I think I’m going to have to come back to this video when I’m mentally prepared to hear the rest. Also, after I’ve had my morning coffee! Lol☕️ 😂 Great topic, please more teenager videos!
Yes, some videos are just that important and definitely deserve all of our attention AFTER our first cup of coffee. I hope that y I u came back to this and watched it in its entirety
keroppiko, come back any time. We are honored to be on your team.
because each video is so chuck full of super important information, maybe consider having shorter videos to allow for processing time lol! for example, I've now watched a bunch of your videos and finally begin to process "my job is to love my kids no matter what and even if"
I wish I would have heard this years ago. Things would have been smoother. But I still have some time to change things up. Thanks for the advise.
Thanks for listening, we are not static, we are changing and evolving. Glad to be along on your journey.
My daughter turned 10 and immediately went into puberty and into the attitude of a teenager. Suddenly didn’t want night time stories, no playing with her dolls, teddy bear, etc. suddenly mom and dad are annoying and embarrassing. The kid to teenager mentality and grieving is spot on.
Ten yes old, geeze,thats hard on you as a mom,isn't it? But what we still have to remember that she is still only 10 m regardless of puberty . Isn't hard wen we lose our " child" to teenager-ism.
FireMedic371, hang in there, this too shall pass.
Mine too, she is being rude, want to spend whole time face calling friends and being served..bring that..I want that..I need to eat..and..and..and when I say..do the bed..clean the room..I have to repeat it 10 times at least..then I end up yelling which I hate cause it kills my nerves too..see shouts back or give my attitude, I am frustrated..I am tired..I feel sometimes that I hate her or I want to send her to her dad..or I raised a horrible person..and I failed as a mother..It literally wears my out ...i need help..I don't know what to do
Yeah same, I am a teenager and I did change, especially for the fact that my childhood sucks... At my family's household, you do something wrong, you get beaten up or cursed at.
Im a pretty quiet person now and avoid people at all costs.
I didnt realize that their parenting wasnt good at all until I grew up and got depressed XD
@@كنتسأنجبمنكقبيلة-ت1ث This is true as a teenager myself my parents and everyone else does not understand me either, I prefer talking to my friends and avoiding people, although I do not want getting served, I still do try to live up to my family's expectations but lately I've been really down and it is just sad that my family never understood me at all and thought that I was just being a retard that spends a lot of time on the computer.
This isn't true, I've been depressed and socially anxious, and my friends (which I talk to over the internet) were the ones that were supporting me and comforting me. I just feel safer and not judged around them, which i always feel around my family. I'm not rude at all to my family, I respect them, I follow their orders, try to live up to their demands, but everything has a limit to me you know?
I believe one thing that parents should understand is that times are changing, people are changing, kids grow up, their needs and wants change, and everyone goes through a depressive phase, no matter the age or the situation they live in.
This is my family's mistake, they think they done everything and anything for me and they think Im happy, they think I just try to disrespect them at all costs, they take away so much of my freedom just because they pay the bills which I do have to chip in a few times too with my own cash. But yeah, sometimes calm and open minded conversations helps, I personally, never had any calm conversations with my family without them getting mad, but I sure do hope that happens one day and I explain to them why I have been lost.
I am so thankful to have found your channel and I just joined you on Instagram as well! I have 7 kids 6 at home ages 16,15,13, 12, 10 and 7 our oldest is 21. My 16 year old daughter was diagnosed with BPD and my youngest is autistic. Your videos are very helpful. We are in Idaho Falls and maybe someday you’ll teach a class here. 💙
That would be fun! Honored to be on your team.
How does this channel not have billions of subscribers?!? You guys are awesome! Found you looking for adhd help, are you planning to do any more on that? My 5yo gets aggressive when disciplined, very hyperbolic outbursts, I'm at a loss of how I personally should react. You are my new favorite thing to binge-listen to, as I do my nightly hobbies, ie laundry, cleaning 🤗
I know right
Because this is a very Valuable content for our society 💜💜💜💜
@TrithisStranger ThanFiction
Look into Dr. Amen. He goes over the 7 types of ADHD.
@@bwash6743 great, thanks!
That is awesome, laundry and cleaning do feel like our hobbies when there are littles around. Share away, we would love to add more to our community.
Appreciate this video, I’m going through this with my teen son and tween daughter. I’ve never heard any therapists talk about the grieving process.
Steve Wise, welcome to Live On Purpose. So glad you are here.
Much appreciated! More input and guidance on parenting teenagers is always welcome. With thanks and warmest wishes to you Both
Thank you, Eva Wilcox, glad you are here.
I tell my kids all the time "they are a reflection of my parenting" ALL THE TIME! ABSOLUTELY!!
Aimee Louvier-Sutton, how do they respond?
Unconditional love in all it's forms and shapes. Thank you for your wisdom.
You are so welcome, Sabrina Toglia.
You had me in tears at.... Love them, No Matter What! It's the title of a book by Debi Gliori that I used to read to them as small babies and toddlers. Loving my teens one minute at a time. XOXO
I will have to look up the book for my grandkids. Thanks!
When I was a teenager I was rough. I even wrote a letter to my parents when I got a little older and apologized to them about some stuff. It would be a lot to tell you about the stuff I did as a teenager. I was stubborn and had to learn things the hard way. Boy oh boy but I learned and I’m such a different and better person today because of those teenage years. For parents who struggle with rough teens just keep loving them and hang on. They will get there!! My parents never gave up on me and how thankful I am. Now I’m grown and give back and serve and love and take care of others etc. I’m a Young Women’s youth leader in my church and I can relate and help these teens. Our teens today will be some good powerful people in the future those are just my thoughts. Now I’ve got 3 teen boys and 1 pre-teen girl 😳😊
Love them, no matter what and even if... Sounds like you had a great example of that.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV I really did and feel so blessed and thankful my parents never quit on me 😊
Ty for sharing your testimony! It was encouraging 😊
It's like a journey, I really wish it goes fast so they can understand what life is about 😅
Love these and I am not a parent but trying to manage a difficult parent and these are so helpful. Call it reparenting me but applying the principles to other relationships in my life.
Wonderful! I love that you see there are principles and you can apply them in different situations. You got this.
Dr. And Mrs. Paul, I love you both! You’ll are changing so many houses and parents lives 🙏🏽
Anthony Anthony, honored to be on our team.
I am so thankful that I found your channel. I am watching your videos every day now because they are SO relevant to what I am going through with my 15yo. I feel like finally someone understands my struggle as a parent of a teenager!
Glad you are here in our community.
Your channel is my 911! ❤️
I love it! Glad we can be here for you.
Wow! Thank you so much for this video. I definitely needed to hear, and learn this.
Glad it was helpful!
So true !!! Thanks for bringing that up about reflecting each other’s behavior in an argument in the moment
Amanda C, we are honored to be on your team.
I love that you say the most important thing is to love them no matter what and even if. It’s so very important and can be done without enabling and always giving in or never giving consequences and I think too many parents don’t know how to do that. I also think a lot parents automatically want respect but don’t respect their own kids as people so mutual respect is never established and that hurts the relationship. Some of your videos have gotten me through some rough phases with my two teens. I love your approach philosophy. Thank you
Thanks, there is balance between love and discipline.
Great ! Choose to enjoy my teenage kids . Big relief indeed . Thanks 😊
My pleasure 😊
Thanks dear! 😅
Fars, you are welcome.
Remember to be in the moment, be genuine and love at all time
charlotte white, yes, so important.
unrealistic
Love this, but it is difficult. Please more about detaching.
Lauri Lock, thank you for the suggestion.
Best video…Thank you so much
So nice of you, good luck with your most important job.
Detaching from the outcome. That’s major
It really is key.
I love that you make these videos. I’ll have a teenager soon enough.
Amber Nelson, I wish you the best. Glad you are in our community.
What to do when drugs got around them, bad friends, issues with anger and addiction. My son is almost 17 and is having a hearing a day after his birthday. It's so scary, he made a bad choice, we don't know what's going to happen, he is in home arrested. I checked some therapist and counseling but it's so expensive or don't get back with you. I'm willing to make some sacrifices to get my son the help he needs for his anger management and addiction... so sad. Any advice that we can get? Sorry, also thank God I came across your videos. I'm getting educated, you are amazing!
Judith Schwahn, There will probably be some counseling or other help ordered for your son. Ask what services are available to you.
That’s tough thanks for bringing that up it’s hard to not be judgemental
It really is a skill that CAN be developed. You got this.
Would you consider a video on grandparents raising kids? My baby boomer mom is raising my niece and nephew like it's the 1970s. This just doesn't work.... I see her trying hard not to enable the behaviors her parenting created with my brother (who is 12 years younger then myself) but she is now raising 2 more with his disposition,, that were taken from a broken abusive situation. So she is combating the effects of growing up in that abusive environment as well as fighting all the new issues, like internet... the road blocks to parenting is different now, and she in her age finds it hard to see how raising kids has changed from seen and not heard do as your told silently....
Thanks in advance
I can consider that. Thanks.
The best channel on parenting and relationship.
m cyber, thank you.
you and your amazing wife keep me grounded. I'm so thankful as I am surely sure my teens are too. If they only knew that you're advice is what truly reminds me of my job/ role as a Mom is. Ultimately to always love them. My one teen is stage 1 and my other ( thankfully) is stage 2.Youre platforms are encouraging me to go onto Facebook, as I avoid all of social media like the plague. I'm learning that the platforms can and will be used for amazing learning opportunities. I only watch utoob. Hmmm,Hmm, I'll expand. Please more content on teens. TEEns are extremely temperamental creatures. Lol. Thank you, Young widow in Maryland
charlotte white, I am so glad we can connect and be a support to you. Hang in there, we have more content coming.
Great advice, examples, and observations! Insightful, clear and on point! Thank you!
You're so welcome!
Thank you! I needed this.
You are so welcome!
Thanks so much for this video! Great reminder "love them no matter what".
You are so welcome!
I need more practice on this Dr Paul. How to do my job of love them no matter what and even if without showing disappointment on times my teens make bad choices in life. Pls show more examples. Appreciate it. Maria here from Manila, Philippines.
maria m, thank you, we are trying to get more material out to help with teens.
Thank you souch for your precious advices, my son Is 11....and growing fast♥️
joanne garofalo, they do grow fast. I can't believe mine are all gone making lives of their own.
Thanks alot Paul and Ms🙏 Tough navigating these years wish it would go faster so they'll understand what life is really about 😅 The big challenge is Loving them even if you're talking and they're not listening? By the Grace of God ❤️ I heading that route as from own 🙏 thank you so much you both 💐
Absolutely, we are honored to be on your team, Benedicth Mbala.
Thank you for the great video 💕
You are welcome.
Very helpful
Thank you
Our pleasure.
This is so beautiful...To love them no matter what and even if...Thank you...Nice couple...have a great day...
You are so kind
You are great, thanks!
You're welcome!
Love the videos on everything parenting, family, and self-help. Do you have videos on specific consequences for teens when they disrespect parents or don’t follow styles at home? Mine keeps making same mistakes over and over. She is 16 and the immature child you describe in one of the other videos. I am struggling to know what else I can do besides the usual taking away of the cell phone. Thank you.
Nature Nut, if the cell phone works, use it. I am coming up with some ideas for what you can use and it should be out soon.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you!!!! Looking forward to your ideas. 😊
This is awesome but I would love some specific examples.
goska ku, that is difficult as there are so many individual circumstances. Brainstorm with someone who knows your child well as to what could work.
Exactly. "Just love" is completely unrealistic.
O my gosh! At 8:30 ish "All you care about" is getting your to do list done. (my to help THEM get done list so THEY can have everything for school, an event THEY wanted to do ) I hear that all the time. That I am cold, disingenuous, non compassionate, inconsiderate. If I am all business I am uncaring (daughter). My Goal is to have them(mostly be) no longer be depended on me.
Daisy, our parenting job is really one we should be working our way out of
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Amen to that😀. Meaning be a PART of their lives, not the boss of it. Tks.
Omg I'm saving this video for future reference lmao the power struggle is real over here. I think I'm going to make posters or a chart or something so my teen and I can see it easily.
Ashley Zanon, great idea.
Whoa! I’m not ready.
Janice Patty, we can help you get ready! go.liveonpurposecentral.com.
Is it possible your program offers scholarships to get training/classes ??
We aren't that big right now, still developing the membership site.
I just realized realized that my boyfriend is in stage one. 😳
LeRae Lee, yep, stage, not age.
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Did you say boyfriend how old 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Run!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Love my teenager so much, that's why it hurts so much to see the ruining of this precious life 😢
I understand that. I hope you can give them the grace to make their mistakes.
What if you have truama in your personal history and sometimes disassociate so much that you aren't present? How do you show you love them no matter what when you are struggling?
Jmom Rodgers, you bring up a good point. Get help for yourself. You can't fill their tank if yours is empty. Include other people in their lives that will be there for them, aunts, uncles, grandparents, friends, etc.
As an Attachment-Focused Parent Coach & mom, it is important to understand your teen's brain which is still under construction & their feelings. The teen credo is "Please don't let me be embarrassed today." When we give unconditional love, stay present, hold space with acceptance, curiosity & connect to their hearts, we enhance our parent-teen relationship.
Thank you for the insight. That is so true.
What do you do when they walk away when trying to plan the day with them? How should a parent "be" around them after they return? Should one act like nothing happened?
James, you can pick up where you left off or tell them you are glad they decided to come back.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you. But what if your adult teen is avoiding you?
They are working for adulthood so you have to give a little if it is safe and do not scream or yell when you get upset ,use your calmness.
s warr, yes, model the behavior you want them to exhibit.
You need to give more examples to illustrate each point in practice
Thanks for the input, Sharky.
love!
Thank you, Shannon Hoida.
How do you not care about outcomes ? If they’re disrespectful or lazy , shouldn’t we show them they need to try harder so they can grow up to be a decent person ? I understand my job is to love my child , but isn’t my job also raise him to be decent and to discipline him appropriately? Outcome in this case is “decent person “.
We use consequences, but we don't let the kids see what we really want.
I homeschooled my kids (youngest is 17) teen years we're pretty easy. But the young adult (twenty-somethings) -oh boy!
How is it to really love them?
Olive Ocampo, want the best for them? Try to find the best in them? Try to have shared, happy experiences.
I'm so scared. I am truly grieving my teens rn changing. I feel like I've done it all wrong. They tell me they hate me and I just want to hold them so desperately. They don't want to be here with me. I have only ever tried to love them And do what's best but I did it wrong. It was NEVER my goal to make them disrespect me/rebel so bad. It truly hurts. We had some trauma in our family and they went from being very sheltered and controlled tbh to total freedom and I no longer had any control so to speak. I was also dealing with a narc relationship where I was discarded and then preyed upon by angry family members & my children were removed as a result of that however I'm going through thearapy as are they to reunite us all. I miss them so bad but we're all in thearapy I'm trying so hard. I realize i tried to "control" and shelter them and they have rebelled but i need a total reworking in my parenting strategy bad. It's breaking my heart. I feel so sorry for everything but I'm trying not to be so hurt that I get depressed and am trying to educate myself myself.
I wish you the best as you reunite. Give yourself and others a big dose of grace as you navigate this winding road.
I need that sign
I like your poster 🤪🤪🤪
Thank you. I like the emoji's.
I wish Mr. and Mrs. Menendez have known about your Parenting suggestions. Poor Menendez Brothers.
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This was a great video. I don't have teens yet. But my father parented me like this as a teen, and it was great. I became a well rounded person despite living in a dysfunctional home. God was the biggest factor, but still it was great
Miffed Cuttlefish, what a wonderful tribute to your father. Thank you for your comment.
How do you give teenagers a choice when they are in a younger more difficult stage emotionally.
Figure out what you control and then use that.
Tex me great great adult but depressed major due to not being able to have friends over or having a partner due to finding out and not a great life and this is just horrible help me please
gina, you may want to get in touch with a therapist or coach to help you take the steps you need.
6:50 What if you don’t genuinely like your teenager
Get some counseling and find a way. There is good in everyone.
How can I get my son to eat hes food.i don't know what else to do I yelled scream everything and he still won't eat.
VALERIA Acm, try these videos th-cam.com/video/3B-F4J_HPTk/w-d-xo.html, th-cam.com/video/7yNOND2gbZ4/w-d-xo.html, there might be more on the playlist, check it out.
Is it possible to receive a counseling from you?
luba k, I have clients I coach with. You can get information at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
how does loving your teenage kid look like?
Adis Candra, looking at them, sitting with them, listening to them. Showing interest in something that interests them. Being compassionate and supportive.
Tell me you have NEVER said or thought to yourself "See how that kid acts? Did his mother not teach him/her manners??"
I have met enough kids that I know some of them have been taught and choose not to listen.
My Teenage Sister Sophia Pujols How Control It
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She definitely knows I like her and still brought home straight Fs when she was a straight A student. I no longer feel the need to like her..lol
Sakina Latrice, sounds like she is testing you. Love her.
Stage 3 at the moment
That is awesome! Keep up the good work.
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Where's her 🎤?
TH-cam team. They know.
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Thank you, we are honored to be on your team.
Most people who have children are ill prepared to do so financially and emotionaly but still popped them out anyway. And we as a society are to blame for allowing that.
We are trying to help parents who may have been ill prepared to have some tools in their parent tool box to help them along the way.
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Thank you, Medina C.
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Not "boo boos". "Boo boo" is Yogi's friend. They are "owies" because when u get hurt u say "OWIE!" 🤣🤣
That is true.