Freya IceQueen I have people to partner up with but I fckin hate when the teacher picks and your with a person you don't even like so it's soooooo awkward
I am the invisible of the class.they remember me when they need enough students to go to a school trip.i am bullied a bit too it us very hard and only you people who have gone through the same can understand.quarantine saved me(i am sorry for this because it is selfish but true)but i have two more years!i really don't know what to do.i am so stressed right now and cry its not easy for me.
I'm a senior in high school and no joke, I don't have a single friend, none. I had like three in elementary school but from middle school to high school, none
Give me therapy, I'm a walking travesty. I can be your friend💓 i don't have friends neither, my best friend just stop talking to me, because she is a sad person and i'm a happy person, so, i don't get it, i think she is crazy, really, really crazy.
why should getting friends be your first priority that you have to fucking cry about?! Your main objective is to finish your work; finding friends can come second and will come eventually. Quit freaking winning.
My whole high school experience so far I've eaten lunch alone everyday, I've never hung out with anyone outside of school or texted anyone..:( and yeah I feel you on the birthday thing because I don't even have anyone to invite. There are benefits to being alone though and you have to try and focus on the positive I've learned/ am learning(:
It really touched me the part you said bullying is not only making fun of someone, it also involves ignoring people. You are completely right. If others somehow make you feel like shit or left out, there's something wrong. I've been through it, but I'm still here and life after school is so much better. If any of you are reading this and strugling, please know you're not alone, I used to think I was too. But things got better and if you stay strong now, you'll see afterwards your experience was way better than going to some stupid parties. You'll learn to be a warrior and your strength is forever.
honestly I do not get it. I see u being soo cool. Loving your energy. I think that some people r lucky to find friends. Others impose their so called power on others and intimidate those who just want to get along and be nice (and did not get a memo about being assertive when challenged). Maybe it is not vegan of me but I wish all the bullies to go through what their victims had to go through.
marchsveryown me too well just currently i had friends but they basically made me not want to go to lunch everyday so well yea it suxs but i go to a techers class during lunch and do hw
personally never felt stronger in the end... i find friends eventually but i am always alone the majority of the school titime. i'm in a uni course for a year and everyone has friends except me. we have to go on a trip far away for a day soon and i have never travelled far alone. i am terrified by the fact that i'll get lost and how i'll spend the time just being depressed when i should be happy. the more i get isolated the more i feel worthless tbh...
I'm 13, I don't really have any true, or really any friends!!!! I just moved to a new school because of me getting bullied and so I moved, and I really thought I met the perfect group of friends, so 2 weeks later I was running late during lunch and I see them seeing me and the whole group just started running away, me seeing them feeling horrified! That feeling that I got was probably one of the most damaging experience ever! I went to the bathroom! Just thinking... I just moved to a new school, running away from things like this... and there we go again! Probably the worst feeling I ever had!!! This was a week ago!!! I was really trying to go to school everyday because in my other school I would miss a lot of school because no one liked me... and so I haven't really gone to school since... I relate to everything you say!!!! I'm at home right now missing school!!!! The littlest things can damage a person...
BIANCERS omg I feel so shit, please don't take out on me but I did that to a person last year, she was new and moved because she got bullied, I am truly scarred for that, I was not aware of my actions. I was a dumb preteen. I am truly sorry for that person, everyone tried to be her friend but she was so bossy and made me get pencil shavings in my system that made me vomit all day. I truly tried to be her friend...
+BIANCERS I know how you feel. I'm also 13. I worry about having no friends to the point where I have suicidal thoughts, but I truly hope you never had to experience that. Anyways, I wish you the best of luck at your new school.
When u get to year 11 or grade 11 if that's what they call it u will be 15 or 16 and If u miss too much school they will force u to go down a year like they did to me😰
Leaving school was the best day of my life. I remember I had this spring in my step as I past through the gates for the last time, the voices of all the loud, fake, annoying people fading away to silence, until I knew that I would never have to listen to them ever again.
I know how that feels, when I was a freshman in high school I sat with a group of people at lunch, and they used to throw food at me and call me names. I couldn't move my seat because I had no friends and did not know anyone. Every time I tried to make new friends people would literally refuse to talk to me. I'm 22 and my high school experience still hurts me to this day. 😔
I am so sorry. This is very similar to my story. I am 15 and I am going through it right now. It is so hard. Also, I am joining modeling right now, just like you did.
+julieshim I'm 15 too and I'm also unpopular, but you know what, I don't care. Life is not about being popular and trying to please other people, if they don't appreciate the beauty that you have is because they don't deserve you. Work on yourself, be yourself, find your happiness and eventually you'll attrack the right people, this moment will come. What happens in Highschool is not important, your happiness is, so don't give a F*** about what they think, you deserve to be happy! :))
+julieshim I'm 15 too and I'm also unpopular, but you know what, I don't care. Life is not about being popular and trying to please other people, if they don't appreciate the beauty that you have is because they don't deserve you. Work on yourself, be yourself, find your happiness and eventually you'll attrack the right people, this moment will come. What happens in Highschool is not important, your happiness is, so don't give a F*** about what they think, you deserve to be happy! :))
I know that feeling of loneliness at school because noone wanted to hang out with you because you're uncool and unpopular. I think I have a story that's quite simular... now I'm almost 17 and still at school but things got a lot better. I still sometimes have the feeling that some of my friends are fake and that I'm never gonna see them after I'm ready with school and I still sometimes feel like I need people around me just to not to feel alone and to kind of protect my self because of my experience. And I avoid the most popular students because I feel like they are the most false... but I'm a lot more confident than I was a couple of years ago and a lot more positive aswell.
I can not tell you how much this video means for me. I feel like nobody really gets me at school, like I'm never going to find people like me. But knowing that you've been through something similar is helping. Thank you, Janine!
I couldn't agree more that bullying has now become more about freezing someone out, rather than more explicit things like beating them up. And I get the feeling too when you remember how you felt, but not all the specific things that the bullies did to you-- it all seems to blur together with time.
This happened to me in middle school! I got into an argument with everyone in my clique, which unbeknownst to me was social suicide. I had NO friends and even if random people tried to sit with me at lunch my former "friends" would call them away.my Accusations were constantly being made against me, like writing things in bathroom stalls, smoking, or sticking gum under the desk. The worst part was that the faculty became convinced that I was a troublemaker and would humiliate me further by making me spend the day in a grade lower! I had idolized my teachers! I went from being an extremely energetic, outgoing, social and confident child to struggling with severe social anxiety and low self esteem. It only recently occurred to me how traumatizing that experience was, which is actually very helpful because I can pinpoint the origin and work with a therapist to begin to heal. I'm sorry you went through that, but happy that you've recovered from it.
:( it really sounds very similar to my schooltime, i got social anxiety because of my class, but it's almost gone and now i finally graduated wuahh :o thank you for making the video janine you're wonderful! I don't think that anybody of your schooltime is rocking life right now so much as you! :*
So I always been an outgoing person, but it had changed when I went to high school. I made up a group of 'friends' but it turns out that they were toxic. It was very hard for me to get rid of them, but I finally realized that if I will not do it, I would still be a fake to myself .That's why I decided to give up on them and even though I only talk to like 2 people now in my school I feel much more happier. I'm true to myself and approaching my goal which is running and exercising and because I haven't got that much people around me, I've got just more time for myself. You need to find a positive thing of your life situation and focus more on yourself. Hard time you've got will pass and working for confidence will take time and finding friend out of school is not that easy too, but it's worth trying. Have a nice day everybody!! ;)
Aleksandra xoxo this happened to me but i only have 2 close friends left in that school one of which is leaving to another school and the other has a group of her own
At this age I've learned that the majority of people are incredibly stupid, and they don't take the time to know deeply a person. And I'm sure that you are an incredibly person, don't let that comments hurt you. It's hard, I know, but makes you stronger. Take that as a lesson. Believe me, I can tell you this from a personal experience.
Im 17 suppose to be graduating but sadly not , ever since elementary i been made fun of because i stuttered , i had no real friend growing up , on my first day of High School i went alone , the only person that i talked to since elementary stopped talking to me , i was alone when i was a freshman no one talked to me , i was nervous to talk because i stuttered and i had social anxiety which soon got worse i stopped going to school because i had no friends , i didnt even get to finish my freshman year , i didnt even get to experience the 'High School Experience' for 4 years i literally had no real friends , only talked to one person who really wasnt a friend just used me but i kept them the were the only person who actually talked to me , seeing all these people on snapchat and instagram having fun really is painful you have nobody it hurts it really is painful . Now im going to an alternative High School im learning to leave these problems in the past and overcoming my anxiety , now i have a girlfriend and made a couple of friends and graduating next year . To anyone struggling out there , It will get better and soon you'll be strong :)
Thank you for sharing your story. It takes much courage to open up and tell the bad stuff that happens in your life. I hope this inspires many others and helps them to realize that life has a way of working everything out.
My teen years were horrible, my friends left me, I was bullied a lot, most ignored me, I often got told to shut up when I opened up about myself and my hobbies, and I got made fun of a lot because I was so awkward, I never got invited to parties, I was never included in any fun school activities, no girl would go out with me, and I often ate lunch alone.
I don’t really have Any friends. I have two who we used to be classmates in middle school but now they are in another school but at school i usually sit alone or in a group with other people who i’m really not friends. They are a group of friends but i’m not in it but i don’t want to sit alone. I do get invited to like 3 or 4 birthday parties from school mates/year.Whenever teacher is like “partner up” i am always The last One to be picked. Even though it makes me feel like trash i work hard to be a successful singer and fashion designer so I’ll become really rich and make everyone feel bad for not being friends with me. I’ll get my revenge by being really successful
this has happened to me everyday in high school since i have moved to a new school the only positive thing now is that since i have no friends in the school i have been doing much better in class and i am getting much better grades
But in school you are expected to have friends for lunch, the breaks, the group projects and prom so school is about friends too I Think it shouldn't be so because learning is more important
I started high school recently and my only bestfriend basically left me for a group of really pretty girls. I don’t know what to do. I spend my lunch period alone in the bathroom. Idk what to do. All I want is one friend tbh
That happened to me too! She just abandoned me in my first year of highschool. (Year 7) a few years back. Me and her were so close and when I sat next to her, she moved away from me. Why does this happen to people?
I can understand the female students ignoring her, but why don't the male students try to sit beside her at lunch? You'd think the male students would invite her to birthday parties.
The exact same thing happened to me at school, exept the teachers also joined in on all the fun (sarcasm) it was very hard, but i grew up and a lot of those people are shit now, so yes, karma is a bitch :) also, you have grown into a ridiculously attractive woman ;)
Socially anxietic, unable to make conversations with people, scared of answering in class. ^ summarises what I felt in school. All I got out of school is a lot of social anxiety.
I'm in seventh grade and it's the second day of school and I'm already really depressed and have pretty much no friends I go to the bathroom to eat at lunch but other kids are in there to so I'm just waiting for school to be over
I am going through the exact same thing right now. I'm Lebanese living in Germany and I'm in 10th grade. I'm a super social person but literally every single person hates me and I have no friends. In lunch I sit alone and read a book. What really sucks is that I have exams this year and this friend thing is really driving me crazy. I'm also in an international skl btw. Luckily I am moving to Lebanon next year and hopefully I'll be able to make friends there. Any advice?
Seeing this comment just now I hope you made friends:) I just started in a new school for my senior year in France and it's tough but I'm positive about it. Hope you're doing better now!
I literally only have one friend in school. After I had an argument with my friend in 7th grade everyone HATED ME and they still do. They pretend they like me when they don't. I've been bullied ever since I was 1st grade. I never had a birthday party because I don't have friends. Youre not alone. I always tried to be nice and help people,they always turned the backs on me and they took pictures of my face too and no one..i mean no one CARED. I think the only one that liked me was my English teacher that just got married in June. She was honestly super nice..but now I have a friend one of the nicest most edgiest friend ever. And I love her so much.
Ich finde es so toll, dass du so offen darüber sprichst! Auch ich hatte in der Schulzeit meine Problemchen und jetzt mit etwas Abstand zu der Sache kann ich deine Meinung nur bestätigen. Ganz besonders die, die am lautesten gelacht habe, sind jetzt die die absolut nichts im echten Leben auf die Reihe bekommen. Du bist ganz wunderbar, liebe Janine und ich bin mir sicher, dass dich all die Leute, die sich früher über dich lustig gemacht haben jetzt erst recht beneiden! xx Selin
Thanks for sharing this. Very awesome, encouraging video. I think you helped alot of people with this...sometimes my past (high school and middle school) memories really bring me down. But your right, it does get better. I think you are very courageous to share this.
Proof that beautiful people could have a bad time in school. I thought that only handsome boys got popular until i saw myself in the mirror and realized that its not my physical apearance. I realized that people were mean to me beacuse of their jeaulousy, keep fighting, be atrong nothing will last for ever. When somethong begins, it will end
Thanks for sharing this story i know it was probably difficult for you to do so. I can definitely relate to some of the things you said. I love seeing your videos! You're so chill and not like trying to put on a show... you're just you on camera. :) xx
I just moved from my home where I had so many friends to a new town where I feel invisible and worry that I wont make any :( Not only that but for the first time people are being rude to me. I have a new sympathy for anyone who has gone through something like you have, that I probably would have never had before. Its nice to know things get better
i used to kinda be the same, like in school i didn’t care about nothing else and literally nobody and didn’t want friends. but growing up i met some dude from a school and we started doing stuff together and realized it’s pretty fun having one friend
Kids can be horrible to each other. Specially girls. I have 3 boys and one teenage daughter. I can see the difference. Jealousy can be a terrible trait. I can see you are still hurting. I remember it well. Also if you are kind and a compassionate person. this can go on throughout life, sadly.
same. i was actually bullied in grade 7 and 8 which made me develop anxiety through most of the high school years. during the first two year of lunch, i sat at a bus stop listening to music and feeling lonely. i do chill with like 2 people at lunch now but i still feel lonely and i know we arent actually friends, more like acquaintances. now it senior year and I have no friends to go to prom with or chill with at commencement. it not that i don't want friends but for me its hard you know. and its not like im a "weirdo" as some will say. I just mostly have acquaintances and even if i did make friends, they drop me. idk maybe its just not meant to be.
Well im 12 and this is probably not rhe type of video for me at this age but i am in year 6. Ever since last year there was a group of the class who made a "popular group". They were all cool and stuff. I had a friend called Amber and she was super nice and kind. Untill she betray me and joined the "pop group". Once she joined their group she started gosiping about me to all the other boys and girls. She most likely told everyone my little secrets. Eventually some people had the nerve to pick on me last year.... and they hurt my feelings badly. 😔 Then just a month or two ago they came back to pick on me again like last year. I had a friend called Lara this year and she was super kind and she hated all of the "pop peoples" guts. Just like me🙂. But a few weeks ago she started acting kinda strange around me... then... she started acting rude towards me...😥. Now shes not even my friend anymore and she just tottaly ignores me... Im going to highschool next year and i heard that everyone at my highschool is super nice! I really hope thats the truth.. but unfortunately LARA is now going to my highschool aswell.... SO NOW I HAVE TO PUT UP WITH HER AGAIN! 😣😣😣😥😥😭😭😭. I know this is a long paragraph but i rlly hope you all understand me... 😃
It was first day of middle school.I'm a new student in middle school. Freshmen they say.. I have social anxiety and my hand was shaking so hard. When the whole school was singing the national anthem, i thought i might pass out bcus we need to stand still. but i survived. The teachers looked at me bcus i was nearly passing out.. I was so nervous!! When we got to our new classes, i realized none of my friends were in the same class as me. I felt alone and my friends got together with other people and its the worst feeling ever. School is going to continue tommorow and i dont know if i could do this. I'm alone. I dont have much friends since elementary and its killing me. Feeling Lonely is the worst feeling ever. Girls in my class didnt want to be friends with me bcus im nerdy and ''blur'' . By the word ''blur'' , means that i always ask them like .. ''what did teacher say again?'' and they be like ew shut up , and they laughed at me. I just didnt hear what the teacher was saying. It wasnt clear.. Whenever i look at my baby pictures, i thought to my mind, ''Poor you little sweet baby, when you grown up, you will be alone, no friends, and hated by teachers and students''. Boys at my school harassed and make jokes about me.
Laura Potatoes I promise you are gonna learn so much from it. I've been through similar stuff and I can tell you that one day school ends and things can get better 💕 Stay strong and believe me, not only smooth seas make good sailors !
Finally graduated hs but after the ceremony you got to take pictures with your friends and classmates and when my family asked “lets take pictures with you and your friends where are they” really hurt me because I had none :((
Same. Now suffering as an adult because most people where I'm from are still friends with high school friends. Having none in high school, I'm alone at 20.
Thank you for being STRONG and OPENING Up!!! because a lot of people go through that and me too and we are to shy to open up. LOVE you girl!!! Your amazing 🐢
I don’t really have so many friends at my school. I have social anxiety. And i felt so lonely and scared. Everyone doesn’t like to talk me because I’m a quiet person. And i just keep thinking bout this. I don’t have nobody to confess this because no one would never care and understand me. I’m so stressed and i have to go through all this and i have still go to school but deep inside i felt so depressed.....I just wanna confess my feelings because I can’t keep this feeling too long so yeahh....
Same here , I was unpopular at my Highschool as we’ll I didn’t even talked half of the time . I got bullied most every single day. I’m like Antisocial & nobody didn’t understand why. When people do throwbacks photos from Highschool I’m never in them so , i was surprise we’re did came up with the most quietness I differently would’ve been pick. This was nine years ago , I did pray to have at least some friends so I forced myself to do a couple spots just to make some. Now as an adult I’m find , I love the friends that’s I have now my social life has increased. I’m shock when I do run into ppl they’re remember me trying to speak to me . Girl I know how’s you feel.
I feel you. I am 31 now (lol) and I’m sitting here right now. Wondering why I struggled so much at times in my life with feeling like i wanted to just disappear. Then i started thinking back to being at primary school and having literally no friends, and feeling so embarrassed by being alone in the yard at lunch. Truly, the hardest years. It’s crazy how much this affects a person for a long time. And the most insane part, it’s always the most lovely warm amazing people it seems that had struggled with this at school. If I could do it again. I would bring a book, everyday - read fantasy on lunch and ignore all those idiots of my own choosing.
Most of the time people don’t talk to me. I only talk when I need to and I’ve been called weird/embarrassing or people have said I don’t talk. Most of the friends I’ve had just forgot about me and I can’t really find the opportunity or motivation to make more friends. I hate when the teacher says group up or partner up because I have nobody to partner up or group with and it just sucks.
So I'm fourth grade, I had a lot of friends, I always had someone to talk to but in fifth grade, I was put into a class where I had no friends and if that wasn't bad enough, the girls of the class started hating me for something I didn't even do. During lunch I would usually just walk around acting like I'm looking for someone so it doesn't look like I have no friends. 6th grade was a lot worse. In 6th grade I used to hate wearing my glasses because I had low self esteem so I'd remove them and never use them at all but I had to see what's on the board so when the teacher writes something, I'll put on my glasses, write fast and remove them which was really embarrassing for me and I also still had no friends. I just started 7th grade a month which is a lot better then 6th grade. I now have friends in my class and don't have to go through the awkward phase of partnering up but when it's lunch time, all my class friends would leave me and be with their other friends so I'll be left alone. I'll have to walk around the school again but I now don't mind it. My confidence is also a lot better and now I started wearing my glasses.
Hey Janine, thank you for making this video! I really relate to that video, i felt exactly the same in 6th/7th grade.I'm in 10th Grade rn and i still wouldnt consider myself super popular, now i have about 6 friends and i get along with all the People in my class now. For everybody struggeling right now: It gets better.
I may only be in middle school and 13 years old but I have always been lonely and never been popular,but I just think to my self that I'm going to get a career,live well,and have a family,because when I get older no one will care if you were popular or not :)
Deez Nutz Ik this was from a year ago, but that mindset has gotten me through middle school and now I’m a senior in high school. I’ve never been popular and most of my so called best friends have left me for people who are more popular than I am. If I can make it you can too.
I’ve been trying to have friends since elementary school. I only had some friends that I made a strong bond with, those being Norah and Kora. Norah was the first to move, and she just walked out of the classroom and said nothing. People in my class were glad she was gone and we were each other’s only friends. Knowing that she was walking out the door, with people having smiles on their faces hurt me. Then was Kora, in later years in elementary school. I didn’t want her to leave, either. This is why our bond was stronger than with Norah even though we didn’t know each other for as long. We would visit each other’s houses, have sleepovers and depended on each other. Kora had other friends, too, but she mainly talked to me and I was happy about that. She later moved, similarly to Norah. She didn’t walk out the door; she just didn’t appear the next day. Then was Sadie and Kiah, who I knew all throughout elementary school, but our bond didn’t develop as fast. Sadie and Kiah were best friends and I joined in, making it a trio, although I was the more neglected one in the trio. Fast forward to sixth grade on middle school. I have a much better bond with Sadie than I do Kiah, but I still cared for Kiah. Kiah then moved to St. Louis in Missouri. Sadie is my only friend, and our bond grew immensely after Kiah left. Sadie also made many more friends and has started to hang out with them more, but I can’t complain. That’s her choice. She is going to move shortly. I was having so much fun with Sadie that I didn’t bother making any other friends. Sadie understood me best and other people already had their friends. I’m not the greatest at opening up, either. I am a very shy person and often get voted for as the most quiet person in class for yearbooks. I don’t like opening up because I fear that they will all meet the same fate as my other friends, which is moving away and our bond breaking. I have veered my attention to academics and rely on it more than I do socialization. However I sometimes don’t want to do schoolwork because it doesn’t satisfy me. I’m very insecure about my physical, emotional, and mental features. I am often a target for teasing, and I can be a social floater at times. Whenever I do try to slip into a group I get glared at and neglected. I’ll get recognized at best. I could perhaps try hanging out with them more but everyone at my school doesn’t seem to like me. I want to move away and sort of reset. I want to make friends and be approached rather than approaching others. That is what would make me satisfied. I don’t care too much about Sadie. While she understands me best, sometimes we’re distant and she doesn’t show much interest. I’m desperate for a new life. I’m tired of being alone but I can’t seem to do anything to help myself. I just want somebody to talk to without them leaving me, and restart.
This video and everyone in the comments has encouraged me so much. I'm in my break and going in to year 8 (im Australian idk) and I've gone a whole year with just one best friend who I appreciate so much bc without her i don't know how I'd make it through highschool. I feel completely isolated and alone still. I've tried to make friends but everyone's just brushed me off and continued on with their lives. When school comes back I'll try to talk to some new people, but it really is harder than people think for people like me. I'm going to hold on to the end of school at least until I'm free and can live my own happy life without having to see all those people with those massive groups of friends. (This was long sorry and idk if anyone will see this bc it's 2019 for me but if U do and ur going through a hard time I hope u pull through and become happy) Also I'm vegan too ♥️♥️
Honestly i dont get why people are sly like this.You are such a beautiful and caring woman.I am crying right now as i literally have no one and there is no point waking up in the morning. Im sick of staying in the bathroom while people are coming in in huge groups and bang on my door and telling me to get the fuck out.I hate school
These videos inspire me so much, I'm a very shy person which restricts me from a lot of things. I've always wanted to travel and your videos inspire me to travel and save more. I'm 15 right and I'm trying to save around £5000-£10000 by the time I'm 18!
I can kind of relate, I have 3 friends, 2 are long distance. I go to a very small private all girls school and constantly feel the pressure of status and popularity, especially with social media.
It's crazy what kind of people we create . I recently did a video where I exposed a Bully. She felt like she didn't need to apologize because it's too long ago. Sad. Just sad.
I needed this going through the same thing right now its not direct teasing or bullying but more people talking behind my back and picking on me I feel like I don't deserve all the friends I have in my group
I have ppl i hang out with but not "friends", and i always felt left out or kept thinking before i say something cause ik ill be the only one eating lunch by myself...
I’m in high school right now and I physically have no friends. Any tips? I eat lunch alone, I spend time alone, I don’t have anyone to do things with out of school, ect
I was the same the I was young, nowadays I'm still a bit scared of people and making friends but the few ones I have now I knowI can count on them anytime
In primary school I was popular for awhile but in grade 5 my bff moved away so I was alone then in grade 6 I met a new friend then me and her got in a fight then we weren’t friends no more then I was a loner, now I’m in year 7 and I started at a new school where no one I really new went to expect my older sister in year 12, now in year 7 I’m still a loner, and it really hurts it feels like I’m different and stuff, it’s the worse feeling, so I know how u feel,
I'm going to speak here as a "popular" kid. I'm in high school. I have three lunch tables in my period and sit with the football team and the cheer team, all people I know. I'm friends with anyone I can talk to. And everyday I see someone who is alone. It crushes me to see people alone because I can tell they feel lonely or sad. It really does hurt to see people lonely. Yes I'm friends with everyone popular, but I really have a lot friends who people consider "weird" or "irrelevant" I like to be friends with "weird" people because they are the nicest people in the school. Seriously. Not only that but it makes them happy that I'm not like the other jocks and shit who think bad about them. I'll be friends with anyone. Lonely or not, popular or not. It just hurts to see someone lonely and without anyone to enjoy the high school experience with.
I don't talk that much.In kindergarden i was really shy, so people used to bully me.I had a few friends, but i still felt really bad.In school I was still shy, but somehow i managed to find friends and i had a lot of them, actually, but in fourth and fifth grade i started to get bullied again because i had glasses.It was because of a boy that everyone liked.All the boys wanted to be like him and to gain his approval and all the girls had a crush on him.I had two best friends, but they were fake friends.They would act so bitchy and they turned everyone against me and one of them spread a rumour about me and that made everything worse.Then, everyone started messeging me and when i told them the truth no one believed me.In sixth grade, this boy moved, because he got accepted in a really good football team.Then, everyone stopped being bitchy.And in 7th grade i actually started going out a lot more, although i had lots of fights with a girl.Then, I went to highschool(in my country you start high school when you're in 8th grade) and i wasn't shy, but i just didn't really want to talk and the same thing happened again.Now i'm in 9th grade and i actually moved(not because of the people from my class, but for other reasons) and everything's fine.I can't understand why someone would bully another person, because they don't talk.Like, how can you think that's wrong, that's so stupid.
I'm currently 12 and just moved up to secondary school my who I thought were my friends hate me I eat alone at lunch or dont eat at all i read every single lunch and break in the library. I hope it gets better (I'm sorry)
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In high school I didn't exist. People ignored me. Guess I just wasn't cool enough to be worth anyone's attention.
same..cant wait for it to end so i can not see them again never
Sometimes the kindest people are left out❤️
Miss Black Cat same for 6th and 7th grade
I feel ignored too.
I'm like that right now. I'm a senior.
I hate it when I have to partner up cos I have no one
Freya IceQueen me neither
Same
Freya IceQuen, I was like that when I was in high school. It was absolutely horrible.
Freya IceQueen same
Freya IceQueen I have people to partner up with but I fckin hate when the teacher picks and your with a person you don't even like so it's soooooo awkward
Well, I'm not bullied in high school, I'm just kind of invisible...
Same
Amanda Germanotta same but when the teacher puts us in groups sometimes people just look at me in a weird way but then they say nothing
Me too
GalaxyFN that always happens to me
I am the invisible of the class.they remember me when they need enough students to go to a school trip.i am bullied a bit too it us very hard and only you people who have gone through the same can understand.quarantine saved me(i am sorry for this because it is selfish but true)but i have two more years!i really don't know what to do.i am so stressed right now and cry its not easy for me.
I'm a senior in high school and no joke, I don't have a single friend, none. I had like three in elementary school but from middle school to high school, none
Give me therapy, I'm a walking travesty.same!!
Give me therapy, I'm a walking travesty. How did you survive lunch and break?
I am only popular enough to have 1 friend
I don’t know what type of person you guys are but just talk to people with similar interest in class. Talk to people and speak with clarity.
Give me therapy, I'm a walking travesty. I can be your friend💓 i don't have friends neither, my best friend just stop talking to me, because she is a sad person and i'm a happy person, so, i don't get it, i think she is crazy, really, really crazy.
I cry all the time after I come from school because i have no real friends who I can really trust
Me too
U don't have to do that u can embrace the power of being a loner if ur strong enough
Same
Me too
why should getting friends be your first priority that you have to fucking cry about?! Your main objective is to finish your work; finding friends can come second and will come eventually. Quit freaking winning.
My whole high school experience so far I've eaten lunch alone everyday, I've never hung out with anyone outside of school or texted anyone..:( and yeah I feel you on the birthday thing because I don't even have anyone to invite. There are benefits to being alone though and you have to try and focus on the positive I've learned/ am learning(:
RyLee Thompson i want to sit with you 😭
RyLee Thompson me too
RyLee Thompson damn... i can relate hmu so we can be friends
RyLee Thompson that's my life/thoughts
I can relate to u so much
It really touched me the part you said bullying is not only making fun of someone, it also involves ignoring people. You are completely right. If others somehow make you feel like shit or left out, there's something wrong. I've been through it, but I'm still here and life after school is so much better. If any of you are reading this and strugling, please know you're not alone, I used to think I was too. But things got better and if you stay strong now, you'll see afterwards your experience was way better than going to some stupid parties. You'll learn to be a warrior and your strength is forever.
This is very similar to my experience in high school. It makes you so much stronger in the end
honestly I do not get it. I see u being soo cool. Loving your energy. I think that some people r lucky to find friends. Others impose their so called power on others and intimidate those who just want to get along and be nice (and did not get a memo about being assertive when challenged). Maybe it is not vegan of me but I wish all the bullies to go through what their victims had to go through.
Tami Torossian same for me in High school since I'm a freshman all my friends turned on me and I'm so lonely agh
marchsveryown me too well just currently i had friends but they basically made me not want to go to lunch everyday so well yea it suxs but i go to a techers class during lunch and do hw
no all it does is make you depressed.
personally never felt stronger in the end... i find friends eventually but i am always alone the majority of the school titime. i'm in a uni course for a year and everyone has friends except me. we have to go on a trip far away for a day soon and i have never travelled far alone. i am terrified by the fact that i'll get lost and how i'll spend the time just being depressed when i should be happy. the more i get isolated the more i feel worthless tbh...
Most times people be rude or bully you is because they are jealous of you. You are really beautiful inside and out 😘
I'm 13, I don't really have any true, or really any friends!!!! I just moved to a new school because of me getting bullied and so I moved, and I really thought I met the perfect group of friends, so 2 weeks later I was running late during lunch and I see them seeing me and the whole group just started running away, me seeing them feeling horrified! That feeling that I got was probably one of the most damaging experience ever! I went to the bathroom! Just thinking... I just moved to a new school, running away from things like this... and there we go again! Probably the worst feeling I ever had!!! This was a week ago!!! I was really trying to go to school everyday because in my other school I would miss a lot of school because no one liked me... and so I haven't really gone to school since... I relate to everything you say!!!! I'm at home right now missing school!!!! The littlest things can damage a person...
BIANCERS omg I feel so shit, please don't take out on me but I did that to a person last year, she was new and moved because she got bullied, I am truly scarred for that, I was not aware of my actions. I was a dumb preteen. I am truly sorry for that person, everyone tried to be her friend but she was so bossy and made me get pencil shavings in my system that made me vomit all day. I truly tried to be her friend...
thank you for realising you did something wrong, not everyone can reflect on their actions
+BIANCERS I know how you feel. I'm also 13. I worry about having no friends to the point where I have suicidal thoughts, but I truly hope you never had to experience that. Anyways, I wish you the best of luck at your new school.
same
When u get to year 11 or grade 11 if that's what they call it u will be 15 or 16 and If u miss too much school they will force u to go down a year like they did to me😰
can you promise me that i will get friends in the future coz i am 16 and still feels loney
kittie cat meow maybe for you
I'm 17 and I'll be your friend
katy crazy
Yes you will trust me
katy crazy I feel like that too
same
Leaving school was the best day of my life. I remember I had this spring in my step as I past through the gates for the last time, the voices of all the loud, fake, annoying people fading away to silence, until I knew that I would never have to listen to them ever again.
I know how that feels, when I was a freshman in high school I sat with a group of people at lunch, and they used to throw food at me and call me names. I couldn't move my seat because I had no friends and did not know anyone. Every time I tried to make new friends people would literally refuse to talk to me. I'm 22 and my high school experience still hurts me to this day. 😔
Are u French
I was ignored hardcore throughout my entire life. I now have absolutely zero interest in humanity.
Onetazien and Now? Do you feel better now?
Same
This is how murderers are born.
I am so sorry. This is very similar to my story. I am 15 and I am going through it right now. It is so hard. Also, I am joining modeling right now, just like you did.
+julieshim I'm 15 too and I'm also unpopular, but you know what, I don't care. Life is not about being popular and trying to please other people, if they don't appreciate the beauty that you have is because they don't deserve you. Work on yourself, be yourself, find your happiness and eventually you'll attrack the right people, this moment will come. What happens in Highschool is not important, your happiness is, so don't give a F*** about what they think, you deserve to be happy! :))
+julieshim I'm 15 too and I'm also unpopular, but you know what, I don't care. Life is not about being popular and trying to please other people, if they don't appreciate the beauty that you have is because they don't deserve you. Work on yourself, be yourself, find your happiness and eventually you'll attrack the right people, this moment will come. What happens in Highschool is not important, your happiness is, so don't give a F*** about what they think, you deserve to be happy! :))
Elna Cornellas Yeah i dont think i ever cared about popularity
Same.
chipotleismylife I’ve had none for 2 years I’m so sad like I’ll have nobody when my mom dies
I know that feeling of loneliness at school because noone wanted to hang out with you because you're uncool and unpopular. I think I have a story that's quite simular... now I'm almost 17 and still at school but things got a lot better. I still sometimes have the feeling that some of my friends are fake and that I'm never gonna see them after I'm ready with school and I still sometimes feel like I need people around me just to not to feel alone and to kind of protect my self because of my experience. And I avoid the most popular students because I feel like they are the most false... but I'm a lot more confident than I was a couple of years ago and a lot more positive aswell.
Same, but I am 13.
@@camillagruber8718
Your 17 now lol
I have no friends in high school
Freya IceQueen me neither.
Same. I have school tomorrow and I feel really depressed
Freya IceQueen same
Me too.
It will get better.
I can not tell you how much this video means for me. I feel like nobody really gets me at school, like I'm never going to find people like me. But knowing that you've been through something similar is helping. Thank you, Janine!
I couldn't agree more that bullying has now become more about freezing someone out, rather than more explicit things like beating them up. And I get the feeling too when you remember how you felt, but not all the specific things that the bullies did to you-- it all seems to blur together with time.
This video almost made me cry. You're such a strong person and I feel proud of you
It's so refreshing to see other people with the same things
This happened to me in middle school! I got into an argument with everyone in my clique, which unbeknownst to me was social suicide. I had NO friends and even if random people tried to sit with me at lunch my former "friends" would call them away.my Accusations were constantly being made against me, like writing things in bathroom stalls, smoking, or sticking gum under the desk. The worst part was that the faculty became convinced that I was a troublemaker and would humiliate me further by making me spend the day in a grade lower! I had idolized my teachers! I went from being an extremely energetic, outgoing, social and confident child to struggling with severe social anxiety and low self esteem. It only recently occurred to me how traumatizing that experience was, which is actually very helpful because I can pinpoint the origin and work with a therapist to begin to heal. I'm sorry you went through that, but happy that you've recovered from it.
you seem like a very honest & caring person.I had a similar experience to you 😢
:( it really sounds very similar to my schooltime, i got social anxiety because of my class, but it's almost gone and now i finally graduated wuahh :o thank you for making the video janine you're wonderful! I don't think that anybody of your schooltime is rocking life right now so much as you! :*
ihoih HELP ME IM A FRESHMAN
So I always been an outgoing person, but it had changed when I went to high school. I made up a group of 'friends' but it turns out that they were toxic. It was very hard for me to get rid of them, but I finally realized that if I will not do it, I would still be a fake to myself .That's why I decided to give up on them and even though I only talk to like 2 people now in my school I feel much more happier. I'm true to myself and approaching my goal which is running and exercising and because I haven't got that much people around me, I've got just more time for myself. You need to find a positive thing of your life situation and focus more on yourself. Hard time you've got will pass and working for confidence will take time and finding friend out of school is not that easy too, but it's worth trying. Have a nice day everybody!! ;)
Aleksandra xoxo this happened to me but i only have 2 close friends left in that school one of which is leaving to another school and the other has a group of her own
I can relate to a lot of what you say, I wish I had friends :(
keily flores opposite for me. I had friends throughout elementary school now I don’t
Wait until you go to church school
No one likes me at school and i get called freak and stuff
At this age I've learned that the majority of people are incredibly stupid, and they don't take the time to know deeply a person. And I'm sure that you are an incredibly person, don't let that comments hurt you. It's hard, I know, but makes you stronger. Take that as a lesson. Believe me, I can tell you this from a personal experience.
And feel bad for them, they don't know how special you are.
from ur profile pic you look nice and i don't understand why they call you freak,perhaps they're jealous
BTS and Why Don't We #army #limelight that’s not weird at all...
Did you get some friends bro
Im 17 suppose to be graduating but sadly not , ever since elementary i been made fun of because i stuttered , i had no real friend growing up , on my first day of High School i went alone , the only person that i talked to since elementary stopped talking to me , i was alone when i was a freshman no one talked to me , i was nervous to talk because i stuttered and i had social anxiety which soon got worse i stopped going to school because i had no friends , i didnt even get to finish my freshman year , i didnt even get to experience the 'High School Experience' for 4 years i literally had no real friends , only talked to one person who really wasnt a friend just used me but i kept them the were the only person who actually talked to me , seeing all these people on snapchat and instagram having fun really is painful you have nobody it hurts it really is painful . Now im going to an alternative High School im learning to leave these problems in the past and overcoming my anxiety , now i have a girlfriend and made a couple of friends and graduating next year . To anyone struggling out there , It will get better and soon you'll be strong :)
that's awful I had the same in school but luckily I had the option of moving away to be with my mum where it wasn't as bad kids can be so so mean
I'm experiencing this right now, thank you for this video
Thank you for sharing your story. It takes much courage to open up and tell the bad stuff that happens in your life. I hope this inspires many others and helps them to realize that life has a way of working everything out.
My teen years were horrible, my friends left me, I was bullied a lot, most ignored me, I often got told to shut up when I opened up about myself and my hobbies, and I got made fun of a lot because I was so awkward, I never got invited to parties, I was never included in any fun school activities, no girl would go out with me, and I often ate lunch alone.
This really helped me out i’m a senior in high school and still feel like this.. just can’t wait to be done with it all
I know how that feels i am dealing with that
I don’t really have Any friends. I have two who we used to be classmates in middle school but now they are in another school but at school i usually sit alone or in a group with other people who i’m really not friends. They are a group of friends but i’m not in it but i don’t want to sit alone. I do get invited to like 3 or 4 birthday parties from school mates/year.Whenever teacher is like “partner up” i am always The last One to be picked. Even though it makes me feel like trash i work hard to be a successful singer and fashion designer so I’ll become really rich and make everyone feel bad for not being friends with me. I’ll get my revenge by being really successful
this has happened to me everyday in high school since i have moved to a new school the only positive thing now is that since i have no friends in the school i have been doing much better in class and i am getting much better grades
school is about friends? 💀💀💀 thought it was to "learn"
But in school you are expected to have friends for lunch, the breaks, the group projects and prom so school is about friends too I Think it shouldn't be so because learning is more important
Kerry Will Williams same
Same! school especially HS just seems like a popularity contest
I started high school recently and my only bestfriend basically left me for a group of really pretty girls. I don’t know what to do. I spend my lunch period alone in the bathroom. Idk what to do. All I want is one friend tbh
Elizabeth Lauren same I started high school like last week my friend was in a different grade and so like full on ditched me, so I’m a legit loner
That happened to me too! She just abandoned me in my first year of highschool. (Year 7) a few years back. Me and her were so close and when I sat next to her, she moved away from me. Why does this happen to people?
@@gauche_creme2924
Is she white
I'm a senior, I have 18 and I always sit alone in lunch...
Girl you can talk to me if you ever need someone to talk to☺
Same
Jealousy for sure!
Juliette Kratochvil right she's literally so pretty
I can understand the female students ignoring her, but why don't the male students try to sit beside her at lunch? You'd think the male students would invite her to birthday parties.
The exact same thing happened to me at school, exept the teachers also joined in on all the fun (sarcasm) it was very hard, but i grew up and a lot of those people are shit now, so yes, karma is a bitch :) also, you have grown into a ridiculously attractive woman ;)
Same!
Socially anxietic, unable to make conversations with people, scared of answering in class.
^ summarises what I felt in school.
All I got out of school is a lot of social anxiety.
I had like 25 friends in elementary, now boom they all ditched me and now I have 0 friends, I had to go to therapy since it caused me depression
I hate when the teacher makes you do a presentation with someone you never talk to and aren’t close with at all.
I'm in seventh grade and it's the second day of school and I'm already really depressed and have pretty much no friends I go to the bathroom to eat at lunch but other kids are in there to so I'm just waiting for school to be over
Do you have Friends now
I feel u girl, I’m a freshman and I’ve been eating lunch in the bathroom everyday since the start
Omg same :(
I’m in seventh grade too
Opheliiia ; same I know you aren’t in 9th grade now tho
those 6 dislikes are your Popular mean friends 😂
I am going through the exact same thing right now. I'm Lebanese living in Germany and I'm in 10th grade. I'm a super social person but literally every single person hates me and I have no friends. In lunch I sit alone and read a book. What really sucks is that I have exams this year and this friend thing is really driving me crazy. I'm also in an international skl btw. Luckily I am moving to Lebanon next year and hopefully I'll be able to make friends there. Any advice?
Seeing this comment just now I hope you made friends:) I just started in a new school for my senior year in France and it's tough but I'm positive about it. Hope you're doing better now!
@• Zydaxe • me too
I’m part Lebanese :)
Doing soooo much better rn! It’s completely different
Hey 👋🏾:) wie gehts dir jetzt in Lebanon?
I literally only have one friend in school. After I had an argument with my friend in 7th grade everyone HATED ME and they still do. They pretend they like me when they don't. I've been bullied ever since I was 1st grade. I never had a birthday party because I don't have friends. Youre not alone. I always tried to be nice and help people,they always turned the backs on me and they took pictures of my face too and no one..i mean no one CARED. I think the only one that liked me was my English teacher that just got married in June. She was honestly super nice..but now I have a friend one of the nicest most edgiest friend ever. And I love her so much.
Ich finde es so toll, dass du so offen darüber sprichst! Auch ich hatte in der Schulzeit meine Problemchen und jetzt mit etwas Abstand zu der Sache kann ich deine Meinung nur bestätigen. Ganz besonders die, die am lautesten gelacht habe, sind jetzt die die absolut nichts im echten Leben auf die Reihe bekommen. Du bist ganz wunderbar, liebe Janine und ich bin mir sicher, dass dich all die Leute, die sich früher über dich lustig gemacht haben jetzt erst recht beneiden! xx Selin
Thanks for sharing this. Very awesome, encouraging video. I think you helped alot of people with this...sometimes my past (high school and middle school) memories really bring me down. But your right, it does get better. I think you are very courageous to share this.
Proof that beautiful people could have a bad time in school. I thought that only handsome boys got popular until i saw myself in the mirror and realized that its not my physical apearance. I realized that people were mean to me beacuse of their jeaulousy, keep fighting, be atrong nothing will last for ever. When somethong begins, it will end
i soreda have friends but its like they never talk to me and im always alone everywhere at school ;-;
Then their not your real friends.
I am 15 and going through the same situation. I have no one to share my feelings or no one to sit with 😞
Same
It takes courage to upload such an intimate video, I really admire you for this Janine!
I had a "similar" experience and still alone but it got so much better after I finished high school so don't give up!
Thanks for sharing this story i know it was probably difficult for you to do so. I can definitely relate to some of the things you said. I love seeing your videos! You're so chill and not like trying to put on a show... you're just you on camera. :) xx
I just moved from my home where I had so many friends to a new town where I feel invisible and worry that I wont make any :( Not only that but for the first time people are being rude to me. I have a new sympathy for anyone who has gone through something like you have, that I probably would have never had before. Its nice to know things get better
i used to kinda be the same, like in school i didn’t care about nothing else and literally nobody and didn’t want friends. but growing up i met some dude from a school and we started doing stuff together and realized it’s pretty fun having one friend
Kids can be horrible to each other. Specially girls. I have 3 boys and one teenage daughter. I can see the difference. Jealousy can be a terrible trait. I can see you are still hurting. I remember it well. Also if you are kind and a compassionate person. this can go on throughout life, sadly.
same. i was actually bullied in grade 7 and 8 which made me develop anxiety through most of the high school years. during the first two year of lunch, i sat at a bus stop listening to music and feeling lonely. i do chill with like 2 people at lunch now but i still feel lonely and i know we arent actually friends, more like acquaintances. now it senior year and I have no friends to go to prom with or chill with at commencement. it not that i don't want friends but for me its hard you know. and its not like im a "weirdo" as some will say. I just mostly have acquaintances and even if i did make friends, they drop me. idk maybe its just not meant to be.
Well im 12 and this is probably not rhe type of video for me at this age but i am in year 6. Ever since last year there was a group of the class who made a "popular group". They were all cool and stuff. I had a friend called Amber and she was super nice and kind. Untill she betray me and joined the "pop group". Once she joined their group she started gosiping about me to all the other boys and girls. She most likely told everyone my little secrets. Eventually some people had the nerve to pick on me last year.... and they hurt my feelings badly. 😔 Then just a month or two ago they came back to pick on me again like last year. I had a friend called Lara this year and she was super kind and she hated all of the "pop peoples" guts. Just like me🙂. But a few weeks ago she started acting kinda strange around me... then... she started acting rude towards me...😥. Now shes not even my friend anymore and she just tottaly ignores me... Im going to highschool next year and i heard that everyone at my highschool is super nice! I really hope thats the truth.. but unfortunately LARA is now going to my highschool aswell.... SO NOW I HAVE TO PUT UP WITH HER AGAIN! 😣😣😣😥😥😭😭😭. I know this is a long paragraph but i rlly hope you all understand me... 😃
Wait you're 12 in highschool !?!
That's horrible! This happens to me every year :(
It was first day of middle school.I'm a new student in middle school. Freshmen they say.. I have social anxiety and my hand was shaking so hard. When the whole school was singing the national anthem, i thought i might pass out bcus we need to stand still. but i survived. The teachers looked at me bcus i was nearly passing out.. I was so nervous!! When we got to our new classes, i realized none of my friends were in the same class as me. I felt alone and my friends got together with other people and its the worst feeling ever. School is going to continue tommorow and i dont know if i could do this. I'm alone. I dont have much friends since elementary and its killing me. Feeling Lonely is the worst feeling ever. Girls in my class didnt want to be friends with me bcus im nerdy and ''blur'' . By the word ''blur'' , means that i always ask them like .. ''what did teacher say again?'' and they be like ew shut up , and they laughed at me. I just didnt hear what the teacher was saying. It wasnt clear.. Whenever i look at my baby pictures, i thought to my mind, ''Poor you little sweet baby, when you grown up, you will be alone, no friends, and hated by teachers and students''. Boys at my school harassed and make jokes about me.
Laura Potatoes I feel you. Just know you aren't alone i've gone through a similar experience 💔💕
Laura Potatoes I promise you are gonna learn so much from it. I've been through similar stuff and I can tell you that one day school ends and things can get better 💕 Stay strong and believe me, not only smooth seas make good sailors !
Vanessa Victoria Thank you.
Finally graduated hs but after the ceremony you got to take pictures with your friends and classmates and when my family asked “lets take pictures with you and your friends where are they” really hurt me because I had none :((
Same. Now suffering as an adult because most people where I'm from are still friends with high school friends. Having none in high school, I'm alone at 20.
cherrybloss xo You can talk to me if you ever need to girl☺
Thank you for being STRONG and OPENING Up!!! because a lot of people go through that and me too and we are to shy to open up.
LOVE you girl!!!
Your amazing 🐢
I've went through very similar experiences and it's nice to know someone else has been through the same thing
I don’t really have so many friends at my school. I have social anxiety. And i felt so lonely and scared. Everyone doesn’t like to talk me because I’m a quiet person. And i just keep thinking bout this. I don’t have nobody to confess this because no one would never care and understand me. I’m so stressed and i have to go through all this and i have still go to school but deep inside i felt so depressed.....I just wanna confess my feelings because I can’t keep this feeling too long so yeahh....
HaSsY Azushik things will get better don't worry, you eventually will find people to relate to. 🙂
Same here , I was unpopular at my Highschool as we’ll I didn’t even talked half of the time . I got bullied most every single day. I’m like Antisocial & nobody didn’t understand why. When people do throwbacks photos from Highschool I’m never in them so , i was surprise we’re did came up with the most quietness I differently would’ve been pick. This was nine years ago , I did pray to have at least some friends so I forced myself to do a couple spots just to make some. Now as an adult I’m find , I love the friends that’s I have now my social life has increased. I’m shock when I do run into ppl they’re remember me trying to speak to me . Girl I know how’s you feel.
College is better than school. More freedom, greater flexibility, self discipline and better people
Very true. I am in Uni now and there are a lot of great souls that I have encountered.
I feel you. I am 31 now (lol) and I’m sitting here right now. Wondering why I struggled so much at times in my life with feeling like i wanted to just disappear. Then i started thinking back to being at primary school and having literally no friends, and feeling so embarrassed by being alone in the yard at lunch. Truly, the hardest years. It’s crazy how much this affects a person for a long time. And the most insane part, it’s always the most lovely warm amazing people it seems that had struggled with this at school. If I could do it again. I would bring a book, everyday - read fantasy on lunch and ignore all those idiots of my own choosing.
Most of the time people don’t talk to me. I only talk when I need to and I’ve been called weird/embarrassing or people have said I don’t talk. Most of the friends I’ve had just forgot about me and I can’t really find the opportunity or motivation to make more friends. I hate when the teacher says group up or partner up because I have nobody to partner up or group with and it just sucks.
So I'm fourth grade, I had a lot of friends, I always had someone to talk to but in fifth grade, I was put into a class where I had no friends and if that wasn't bad enough, the girls of the class started hating me for something I didn't even do. During lunch I would usually just walk around acting like I'm looking for someone so it doesn't look like I have no friends. 6th grade was a lot worse. In 6th grade I used to hate wearing my glasses because I had low self esteem so I'd remove them and never use them at all but I had to see what's on the board so when the teacher writes something, I'll put on my glasses, write fast and remove them which was really embarrassing for me and I also still had no friends. I just started 7th grade a month which is a lot better then 6th grade. I now have friends in my class and don't have to go through the awkward phase of partnering up but when it's lunch time, all my class friends would leave me and be with their other friends so I'll be left alone. I'll have to walk around the school again but I now don't mind it. My confidence is also a lot better and now I started wearing my glasses.
OMG SAME
At lunch time i just go to the girls bathroom and lock myself in it so i don't have to see ppl laugh in my face cause i'm alone.
crying crybaby depressed frog, Same.
i have never related to a video so much in my life wth
💝SAME
They were jealous and that's why so mean! Noone deserves tretman like this. You are beautiful person !
this is sad, I'm happy you are now in a better place in your life. Children are so mean sometimes (always)
Hey Janine, thank you for making this video! I really relate to that video, i felt exactly the same in 6th/7th grade.I'm in 10th Grade rn and i still wouldnt consider myself super popular, now i have about 6 friends and i get along with all the People in my class now. For everybody struggeling right now: It gets better.
I may only be in middle school and 13 years old but I have always been lonely and never been popular,but I just think to my self that I'm going to get a career,live well,and have a family,because when I get older no one will care if you were popular or not :)
Deez Nutz Ik this was from a year ago, but that mindset has gotten me through middle school and now I’m a senior in high school. I’ve never been popular and most of my so called best friends have left me for people who are more popular than I am. If I can make it you can too.
I’ve been trying to have friends since elementary school. I only had some friends that I made a strong bond with, those being Norah and Kora. Norah was the first to move, and she just walked out of the classroom and said nothing. People in my class were glad she was gone and we were each other’s only friends. Knowing that she was walking out the door, with people having smiles on their faces hurt me.
Then was Kora, in later years in elementary school. I didn’t want her to leave, either. This is why our bond was stronger than with Norah even though we didn’t know each other for as long. We would visit each other’s houses, have sleepovers and depended on each other. Kora had other friends, too, but she mainly talked to me and I was happy about that. She later moved, similarly to Norah. She didn’t walk out the door; she just didn’t appear the next day.
Then was Sadie and Kiah, who I knew all throughout elementary school, but our bond didn’t develop as fast. Sadie and Kiah were best friends and I joined in, making it a trio, although I was the more neglected one in the trio.
Fast forward to sixth grade on middle school. I have a much better bond with Sadie than I do Kiah, but I still cared for Kiah. Kiah then moved to St. Louis in Missouri.
Sadie is my only friend, and our bond grew immensely after Kiah left. Sadie also made many more friends and has started to hang out with them more, but I can’t complain. That’s her choice. She is going to move shortly. I was having so much fun with Sadie that I didn’t bother making any other friends. Sadie understood me best and other people already had their friends.
I’m not the greatest at opening up, either. I am a very shy person and often get voted for as the most quiet person in class for yearbooks. I don’t like opening up because I fear that they will all meet the same fate as my other friends, which is moving away and our bond breaking. I have veered my attention to academics and rely on it more than I do socialization. However I sometimes don’t want to do schoolwork because it doesn’t satisfy me. I’m very insecure about my physical, emotional, and mental features. I am often a target for teasing, and I can be a social floater at times.
Whenever I do try to slip into a group I get glared at and neglected. I’ll get recognized at best. I could perhaps try hanging out with them more but everyone at my school doesn’t seem to like me. I want to move away and sort of reset. I want to make friends and be approached rather than approaching others. That is what would make me satisfied. I don’t care too much about Sadie. While she understands me best, sometimes we’re distant and she doesn’t show much interest. I’m desperate for a new life. I’m tired of being alone but I can’t seem to do anything to help myself.
I just want somebody to talk to without them leaving me, and restart.
thanks for sharing your story with us. You're a beautiful person :D Thank You!
This video and everyone in the comments has encouraged me so much. I'm in my break and going in to year 8 (im Australian idk) and I've gone a whole year with just one best friend who I appreciate so much bc without her i don't know how I'd make it through highschool. I feel completely isolated and alone still. I've tried to make friends but everyone's just brushed me off and continued on with their lives. When school comes back I'll try to talk to some new people, but it really is harder than people think for people like me. I'm going to hold on to the end of school at least until I'm free and can live my own happy life without having to see all those people with those massive groups of friends.
(This was long sorry and idk if anyone will see this bc it's 2019 for me but if U do and ur going through a hard time I hope u pull through and become happy)
Also I'm vegan too ♥️♥️
oh Gawd 😩😩 I feel you ...I feel bad for you ugh...why there are many mean people here on Earth 💔💔💔😭😭
Honestly i dont get why people are sly like this.You are such a beautiful and caring woman.I am crying right now as i literally have no one and there is no point waking up in the morning. Im sick of staying in the bathroom while people are coming in in huge groups and bang on my door and telling me to get the fuck out.I hate school
You are not alone. Please trust me: it will get better. Keep going, you can do this. I am with you
@Jolie Janine thank you so much for responding thank you i will keep trying
These videos inspire me so much, I'm a very shy person which restricts me from a lot of things. I've always wanted to travel and your videos inspire me to travel and save more. I'm 15 right and I'm trying to save around £5000-£10000 by the time I'm 18!
I’m going through this struggle myself and I’m glad you got yourself through everything your my inspiration
i remember being rly popular in kindergarten through 3rd grade and then i don’t even know what happened LMAO
brittany nicole same💀💀
How do u remember being in kindergarten or 3rd grade
@@channelfive7883 You don't?
Similar experience, sometimes it can feel like you don't even exist. It hurts but it passes just like everything else.
Love it, this video will have such a big impact on so many people❤️
I can kind of relate, I have 3 friends, 2 are long distance. I go to a very small private all girls school and constantly feel the pressure of status and popularity, especially with social media.
It's crazy what kind of people we create .
I recently did a video where I exposed a Bully. She felt like she didn't need to apologize because it's too long ago.
Sad. Just sad.
I needed this going through the same thing right now its not direct teasing or bullying but more people talking behind my back and picking on me I feel like I don't deserve all the friends I have in my group
I have ppl i hang out with but not "friends", and i always felt left out or kept thinking before i say something cause ik ill be the only one eating lunch by myself...
they were jealous of you!
I’m in high school right now and I physically have no friends. Any tips? I eat lunch alone, I spend time alone, I don’t have anyone to do things with out of school, ect
I was the same the I was young, nowadays I'm still a bit scared of people and making friends but the few ones I have now I knowI can count on them anytime
In primary school I was popular for awhile but in grade 5 my bff moved away so I was alone then in grade 6 I met a new friend then me and her got in a fight then we weren’t friends no more then I was a loner, now I’m in year 7 and I started at a new school where no one I really new went to expect my older sister in year 12, now in year 7 I’m still a loner, and it really hurts it feels like I’m different and stuff, it’s the worse feeling, so I know how u feel,
I'm going to speak here as a "popular" kid. I'm in high school. I have three lunch tables in my period and sit with the football team and the cheer team, all people I know. I'm friends with anyone I can talk to. And everyday I see someone who is alone. It crushes me to see people alone because I can tell they feel lonely or sad. It really does hurt to see people lonely. Yes I'm friends with everyone popular, but I really have a lot friends who people consider "weird" or "irrelevant" I like to be friends with "weird" people because they are the nicest people in the school. Seriously. Not only that but it makes them happy that I'm not like the other jocks and shit who think bad about them. I'll be friends with anyone. Lonely or not, popular or not. It just hurts to see someone lonely and without anyone to enjoy the high school experience with.
I don't talk that much.In kindergarden i was really shy, so people used to bully me.I had a few friends, but i still felt really bad.In school I was still shy, but somehow i managed to find friends and i had a lot of them, actually, but in fourth and fifth grade i started to get bullied again because i had glasses.It was because of a boy that everyone liked.All the boys wanted to be like him and to gain his approval and all the girls had a crush on him.I had two best friends, but they were fake friends.They would act so bitchy and they turned everyone against me and one of them spread a rumour about me and that made everything worse.Then, everyone started messeging me and when i told them the truth no one believed me.In sixth grade, this boy moved, because he got accepted in a really good football team.Then, everyone stopped being bitchy.And in 7th grade i actually started going out a lot more, although i had lots of fights with a girl.Then, I went to highschool(in my country you start high school when you're in 8th grade) and i wasn't shy, but i just didn't really want to talk and the same thing happened again.Now i'm in 9th grade and i actually moved(not because of the people from my class, but for other reasons) and everything's fine.I can't understand why someone would bully another person, because they don't talk.Like, how can you think that's wrong, that's so stupid.
2 years ago something sameller happend to me and that why i change my school , and i loved everything you said ❤️
I'm currently 12 and just moved up to secondary school my who I thought were my friends hate me I eat alone at lunch or dont eat at all i read every single lunch and break in the library. I hope it gets better (I'm sorry)