My Parents would've been Married for 68 years but my Dad passed 03/1997. My Siblings, Aunts and Uncles been Married for decades. I have had several examples of successful marriages. I'm 45 & we been Married for 24 years. We have 2 Sons ages 23 & 17. I will always go hard for Black Men. 🙏💙💙💙
Shes speaking facts im glad to see a woman who is telling the truth shes a breath of fresh air and shes understands whats going on in this modern world
You are, unfortunately, describing my mother and the way she handled her children, including one brother that has no respect for women. She has passed, and she pretty much left me with this mess and I am cleaning it up now. Every able body has to do their own thing and these are conversations that are making my family turn against me. So be it...
@@I2AmUSbeautifully stated. We inherit so much trauma and mess that far outlasts the individuals that never faced their own healing and attempted to ensure their lineage didn’t suffer from their “sins” (trauma isn’t about blame or guilt, it’s about accountability. YOUR trauma wasn’t willingly given to you but it is yours to free yourself from and grow and evolve from it.) So many people cannot face their own truth and lack self awareness. Another reason why folks insist on interfering with OTHER folks traumas constantly to the point where we’ve been indoctrinated to believe “Love & Hip Hop” and all of its curated cultural genocide….is a complete normal way to approach life and interpersonal relationships and it sickens me. I don’t jusge people that do, but I haven’t watched TV in almost 2 decades and I’m only 33 because I feel spiritually I can see it for what it is. My late fiancé and I had these kinds of conversations ALL THE TIME, I was r@ped at 12. My parents were married for 3 decades but my pops was never present in any other way outside of physically but I don’t resent either of these men. My late fiancé was the most incredible man I’m convinced I’ll ever know. I am so honored and blessed to not only have had him as a lover and a friend, but a leader, a mentor and a confidant. Even before him, I refused to jump on the male hate bandwagon and I feel for y’all man I really do. So many of these women are broken and jaded and I totally get it but ultimately we have to look at the fact that it hasn’t ALWAYS been this way but no one pauses to consider that they’ve been indoctrinated and brainwashed into glorifying death both literally and FIGURATIVELY. Might as well be a bunch of spiritual zombies roaming around, the CDC already told and I’m rambling and half joking at this point 😅😂 but that’s only because the reality of it all is oh so painful. Lord have mercy. My heart is with y’all my brothers in love. 👑♥️✨
Dude really tried to speak in defense of white ppl. I'm glad she checked him on that bullshit. This is why we can't be having sit downs wit these none FBA folk. They are not one of us
Sis is tapped in!! She definitely is tuned into the new black media!! This is common sense what she’s talkin about! I’m finna find and follow her. *exhale* Fresh air!!
This woman is DEEP in her clear thoughts, knowledge, understanding, wisdom, and advice. And she’s pretty too. Thank you for this great information and insight you gave us. Thank you!
you try? it shouldn't be that hard to see men as humans & not just walking, talking ATM machines. imagine if women had the metoo movement & men said "we'll try to have compassion for women" lol smh
Man I really enjoyed this interview! These are the types of conversations we need to be having as a people. And you spoke sm truth, both of y’all. I’m in here nodding and agreeing talking at the screen. I too never grouped all our black men under one umbrella. Black men y’all are much appreciated!! 🤴🏾And I felt you when you said you don’t trust women as far as you can throw them. Ion play that either with my man (well when I have have one)! “Where’s the sisterhood” 😂 love my sistas, I just don’t need to have them all up in my mix when it comes to down to who I’m laying and building with! The Black Family & Black healthy love is still alive. ✊🏾 much appreciation for this interview and y’all’s contribution. 👏🏾💜
I used to think the same way about women until I realized that if I’m concerned about a woman being around my man - my real concern is my man. SMH. Harsh reality.
It's really because I feel like a lot of women understand this and the history of it but noone talks about fixing it like today what do we do. I remember my childs father who isn't active in my childs life saying he's not around because the system set it up that way. That mindset is just crazy . Alot of women would want a man but their are a lot of men who behave like children because of a lack of love. But what do we do NOW to change that mindset
Thank you, Sista, for this conversation. As a mother of two young black men, it sickens me to see black women take all their insecurities and anger out on all black men. I lift my sons up and let them know they are worthy of great things and relationships with great people in this life. 🙏🏽❤️
@@richa4976They see and they don't care, because they don't love themselves. How can you get a person who doesn't love themselves to love you? It's impossible. And as a man, you don't have to put up with their hatred. You are free, my brother. You owe these women nothing.
Great, that you are breaking the programming... female offspring are programmed to be sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers via doll babies, strollers and easy bake ovens aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses/sexual predators and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home=Hellish Zoo.
I enjoyed that video. She gave enough information to solve 90% of problems in the black community. We need God first, love, and communication. It’s a simple formula. Yet, it’s hard to execute. Why don’t we love and respect each other? In the movie Shaka Zulu, he told his mother “we are incapable to love, all we know is hate” 🤔
@@rasulsamad5860Facts, religions were forced onto our ancestors which made our ancestors mentally ill... before religions our ancestors were never seperated...the Women and Men were One... it's extremely unfortunate that Black women perpetuate and reinforce dysfunction/mental illness by filling up these churches, mosques and synagogues world wide.
The part about the son-husband thing really hit close to home for me. My dad left when i was 11 and then all through my teenage years, my mom would constantly assert that i was the man of the house and that i should be catering to her by fixing/washing her car "just because", cook dinner, clean the apartment (including her filthy room), she once tried to get me to rub her feet, and would even include me in big financial decisions (like what state we should move to, what kind of house/car she should buy) but whenever things didnt work in her favor, suddenly i was just a child and i should know my place. Now at 29, im married with 3 kids and we dont talk because i keep "prioritizing that girl" (my wife) over her. Up until now i thought that shit only happened to me😢
Nope I’m 29 as well my brother. I’m from Jamaica but live in America and this happens in the Carribbean and America. Im soon getting to the point where you’re at. Just haven’t reached my breaking point yet
@@dee_305 well damn 😂 I used to think the same. I would to go to the Jamaican subreddit page just to read what other Jamaican kids my age went through and it was the exact same. But then I realized that a lot African American also have the same experience. I just think it’s a black thing. The black community has women that just choose the horrible men to be fathers. These fathers are often times just don’t really want the job so they eventually leave (just like both of our fathers) or the mother makes sure the child never sees the kid’s father. This creates all these dumbass issues we have to deal with. I would recommend you go to therapy if you haven’t already. I don’t know your parents but my parents never went to therapy even though they really need to badly. I’m going in 2 weeks. Hope you get yourself checked out
The constant finger pointing and lack of accountability is exhausting(on both sides). What does this achieve? Are we any closer to coming together & healing from this or other one sided conversations like this? God please continue to bestow on us your grace as we journey our back to you & can keep one of your highest commandments to love each.🙏🏽
I agree. No woman should have to bash woman to make a man feel stronger. And no man have to bash men to make a woman feel loved. This interview was basically about telling women what we are doing wrong that is not making black men thrive. That conversation should be one on one with women. Just like men need to have a conversation with men about how to be better men.
She dropped a lot of factual jewels, I Can tell she is speaking from experience, a lot of woman should listen to this interview, I enjoyed it very much, and she is telling the truth.
I do not know who this woman is BUT I RESPECT THIS BLACK BEAUTIFUL WOMAN IS RIGHT ON POINT!!! She is saying out a loud what we as black womenswear from a to z should be saying across the board, THE TRUTH IS THE LIGHT!!!!!
This is a breath of fresh air! I don’t have a lot of friends and I used to think something was wrong, but it’s so much unnecessary competition and jealousy I just love staying to myself. This was a good one. Shouts out to Neriah Shiloh
Queen? Please that's the problem right there ,she is just a regular woman,queen is structure of power having a court &military. Just stop saying that crap,use queen in its right form.
Some of these Son/Husband relationships have a bit of perversion to them. The whole dynamic in general is weird, there a bit of obsession, that these females have with their sons, because the dad is gone.
Thank you for this interview!!! This Queen speaking facts. Women can do both I do it too. I'm a wife, mother, I work I have hobbies. I make time for everything and everyone including myself. ❤️🖤💚
I am glad that this woman is being totally real about how black women can be both constructive and destructive. I hope that his message that she is telling in this interview be a lesson for all black men whether they live in the USA, the Caribbean, Europe and every part of this Earth
A Father is a Son's first hero & A Daughter's First Love. These girls don't love themselves, because their biological fathers never told them "I Love You!".
@@leonmartin7445 if your name is on the BC take her to court. These women count on men not wanting to deal with the hassle of court proceedings or are afraid because of a past record. But once those are legit your kids and you have rights,in fact she doesn’t even have the right to keep them from you.
Facts. I don't know how many times I've heard that certain women do crazy things because their father was not an essential part of their childhood. Could explain a large amount of the confusion that goes on in today's world.
Dear our sister, you have seen what others women can not. You are tradional ,one who keeps and you can pass it on. You have known what how to build strong man, strong bond family. Please keep teaching the young women. God bless you and your family.
Married 53 years…know who you are, what you want and the same applies with your spouse When or if those boundaries are breached Stop!… remind each other of the initial foundation, then move forward.
It doesn't work. Emotions aren't responding to behavior but what could happen in majority of cases. If you perceive men as dangerous you will be afraid even if behavior is perfectly normal. The fact that you feel negative emotions doesn't mean that someone did anything wrong.
Some people spend too much time waiting on God. God has laid the path before you, select and move wisely. That is what I would tell the folks waiting on God.
Some women today don’t know because of the women before us. See how she mentioned she learned more from her aunt than her own mother. Some men and women were shit before us and we’re a product of that.
It's extremely unfortunate but the Patriarchal Order was forced upon our ancestors... it's extremely unfortunate in order to survive they promoted and reinforced Dysfunctional behavior/Mental Illness... the programming is extremely difficult to break/reject at this point, but some are rejecting the programming.
If you make your wife your safe space for you to vent, don’t be surprised when she’s done with you and you’re going through a divorce, all those things that you told her under the influence of emotion in “secret”, they get used against you. You better not.I will not vent to someone like that. That is a bad recipe for disaster.
This is keeping it real, please share, this needs, needed and is needing be heard by many black peoples young and old. This sister is loving us to life, not to death!❤😮😊
I am glad this woman understands not to have women hang around her man in her home because a lot of women don’t understand this concept of protecting their man by keeping these single women away from their man.
I hate that these conversations are never balanced. People either misandrist or misogynist….EVERY time! Nobody can be unbiased and just speak on real solutions. They’re always fighting for one side and never both. When you’re on one side, no matter which side you’re on….you’re more of the problem and not the solution!
Exactly. As a black woman who had both parents and they still married. Black people need to accept its both bm and bw are the problem with the black relationship. It's always one side and pointing the finger. Both bm and bw are the problem
Respectfully that’s the only thing that I push back on. Telling your wife anything. You being married is based on a contract. It’s a condition. And you do not vent to your wife about the things that you are having trouble with. Your friends, sure. a female who is a professional and perhaps of a different race, sure. And by professional I mean a therapist, and it cannot be a liberal therapist it cannot be a liberal therapist. A liberal therapist will talk you right back in that house and keep you subservient. it Hass to be a conservative therapist who is for family.
@@samuelaout7993 that’s y they destroying there chance at families n loosing all around for years now there negative mentality is just being made known by the internet
I give thanks to the long line of successful marriages (no divorce no single parent) of on both sides of my family and my father and mother for raising 6 children who learned to stay married and raise a strong family from their examples. Strong black marriage (2 parent) families still exist.
Shidd, I been subscribed to Neriah here on TH-cam. So when I saw the thumbnail to this interview I immediately clicked on it because I knew she was bout to spit fire💪🏿🔥.
She’s a breath of fresh air from all this toxic pollution. Real sister right here. May God continue to bestow wisdom upon you. Her husband is a very very blessed man to have such an intelligent wife. Peace and Love 👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿
Accountability is a big proponent of women's failures. Ask yourself, has your woman ever apologized to you for her wrongdoings? Probably rarely to never.
I give thanks for my Father, I have always supported my brothas, young old and incapacitated!!!! There are many Sistars who love cherish y'all. We need it back from y'all. Brothas are my 1st love, and even though I've never been protected or treated right. I realise that has to do with my choices. I know there are wonderful brothas out there, and I'm never giving up on them. Please don't ghive up on us. I'm not interested in any discussion that isn't about us coming together Ubuntu Principles ❤️🖤💚👑👑🙏🏿🥰
I love the perspective of this sister. I can relate to her upbringing and her current perspective. I was raised by a bunch single, baby mamas, but I never felt like BM were the ops because I could CLEARLY see the toxicity in the women I was raised up around. Mammy 🙋🏾♀️ Pick Me 🙋🏾♀️... just because I dont go along with the feminist ideology and I'm fine with those titles
@@Ol1v1as_world ABW who say they are "divesting" from the black community by having encounters with WM that never lead to marriage. All they really do is dump on BM.
The Patriarchal Order went around the world raping and killing females forcing them to submit to being sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses/sexual predators and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses... it's extremely unfortunate that she promotes and reinforces this Dysfunctional behavior by filling up these churches, mosques and synagogues world wide...All religions are Patriarchal.
Thank you good sister for your interview that was full of intellect and knowing who you are. It's really good to hear a black woman speak on what some black women need to hear and understand about the black man.
This woman is speaking so much facts I see why my marriage of 30 years has failed because of the selfish, childlike, untrustworthy woman I took for my wife.
30 years?? Divorce and or child support is definitely expensive if you've been locked in for that long. It must be cheaper to keep her. I would've divorced in three years if it got that hectic.
I'm 100% Pro-Black Men; there are the strong, competent, mature ones, unfortunately, there's so few of you, I know you're out there. Much love for our Black Man/ you are loved and seen!!!!!
@@EnlightenedGoldenBeautyyea for you. You probably on welfare and stay in section 8 and a baby momma. Us black folks don’t claim you “niggas” we got black strong families out here
I have been saying it for years about black women being accountable for our actions!!! Why do black women feel they can say and do whatever they want and when consequences come they want a pass. It does not work like that!!! We have to look at the woman in the mirror!!!
It's extremely unfortunate but female offspring are programmed to be sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers via doll babies, strollers and easy bake ovens aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses... this programming/Dysfunctional behavior/Mental Illness have been passed on for at least the past 300-500 yrs... it's the programming and it's extremely difficult to break/reject... it's learned/taught behavior.
The first step to healing for us I believe is dialogue but how many of our black sistahs even have an interest in sitting down at the table and even discussing why when I see you in the supermarket and you don't even speak when I speak to you ... Let's start with the little things first then we can graduate to the more dire issues we have .
The "sisterhood" it's the same as the "brotherhood". Don't think that men don't try to hit on other men's partners, wives. It dread out ya!. What she said about peace ✌🏾is truth.
I have 3 Sons. I’m blessed beyond measure. I trained them up in the way they should go with the Word of God. Also setting an example. Women must unlearn and relearn everything they was taught by the women in their family. I would never give up on our Israelite men because I chose the wrong ones in my past. Our men is the highest level man on earth. They just need a good Helpmeet to pray over him encourage love uplift motivate and be his peace. But he has to be a righteous head. ❤❤❤❤
I thank you from the bottom of my heart that you are reaching an audience that is in so much of a need to hear your message. I can talk and have talked with young women on this subject. I’ve been very blessed with whom God has lent me to, for this life’s journey. Our job is to bless others with our wisdom. Keep doing what you do and be Blessed.
These is heavy subjects forreal forreal .. and ones that MUST be addressed in our community .. the damaging things are the things we were taught NOT to talk about smh .. pain passed down
Correct, we were taught this Dysfunctional behavior/Mental Illness...our predecessors were forced to submit to this Deviant behavior in order to survive they were forced to pass it on to their offspring...at this point they don't even know that the programming was forced, now they voluntarily promote and reinforce this Mental Illness.
It's refreshing to see a black woman who has a good head on her shoulders. As an African, I have always held that the problem with blacks in America is their values, not the color, income or the oppressions. Sustained success in any endeavor rests ultimately in your values. Everything else is ephemeral.
I was never taught that I don't need a man. I was taught to get an education. However, when I graduated many black men, I knew became intimidated for no reason. With an education one is able to earn more which would lead to being able to help the family. I realize now that it is related to self-esteem. If you don't feel good about yourself, you can't help anyone else or have good relationships.
Ma’am, I think you may be confused. It’s not “intimidation”. With the an education & the ability to make some money comes a particular mindset and change of attitude, sometimes not so positive. More of a hassle than what it’s worth more times than not. Men with common sense understand this. Honestly speaking, women leading with that narrative can easily be taken advantage of. No man is intimidated by a woman’s money. I don’t know why women continue to push that narrative.
@@leonmartin7445 this is true especially for young men that don’t have much. I can honestly say when I was younger I had no issues getting with older women with means. Just feeding into their egos & telling them exactly what they wanted to hear.
They never show successful black businessmen. They have, for centuries, kept our black investors from our knowledge. However I never expected any help from them.
What I don’t understand is how can the government remove a man from his own house? If it’s his house, he pays they can not just kick him out if he was providing.
There is a disparity, but that’s rarely addressed honestly. There’s a whole lot of chaos in the “community” that’s rarely addressed honestly. A healthy marriage is beautiful, but the Bible says it’s better to stay single, so there is nothing wrong with anyone choosing to stay single.
This interview is truly incredible. This sister is speaking real. I hope other women get to see this. Women need to reason with themselves. Feminism and hating black men is a scam being played on you. It's the destruction of the black family.
Correct, that was never her bag...She originally was in a Matriarchal Society/World...when Men and Women were together as One... but the Matriarch was overthrowed by the Patriarchal Order and she was forced to submit to being a sex slave, maid servant and baby bearers aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses/sexual predators.
I can say that I understand now. I didn’t before. My parents are from Jim Crow south and were married young in the 1960s. I see just what Willy Lynch did to our community! The roles were reversed and damaged us bad! I have so much empathy, sympathy, compassion and respect for our men now more than ever! I made a lot of mistakes, sacrifices and just plain bad decisions and ended up having some terrible relationships because of what I was taught about our brothers. I’m close to 60 years old now and have been married 3 times and another long term relationship! I need to learn to forgive my people and myself for this travesty!!!!
It’s the fact that she thinks it’s ok for a man to eat at his side chick’s house if his wife doesn’t feel like cooking after she gets home from work. If it’s that easy to get betrayed, I’d rather die alone with several cats.
@@Gvhbj 😂 I don’t want to sign myself over to some man that’s gonna cheat on me if I don’t cook him dinner! 😂 The game is over. We don’t care anymore. 😂
As black people we have to both admit and accept the fact that the current state of black culture in the United States is a total landfill. Also as a youth football coach for 18 years and every season single mothers which makes up 98 percent of the parents would come to me and say to me and my coaching staff "to make a man out of their sons because their sons father ain't shit"
This has already been said but I really enjoyed this convo. I know it’s easy for me to say because I am a black man, but I think people should see that the overall message. That black men are not the enemy of black women. We are on the same team and we both have work to do in order to rise together.
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As a black American man, it’s so refreshing to hear a black woman understanding the struggles black men are enduring.
Word bro
Yes 👏🏽 it is!!!
I agree 💯
And you still aint gonna pick her😂😂😂😂
@@everyonedeservestogohome2949 I rather deal with a 5 with an awesome personality vs a 9 that’s disrespectful
My Parents would've been Married for 68 years but my Dad passed 03/1997. My Siblings, Aunts and Uncles been Married for decades. I have had several examples of successful marriages. I'm 45 & we been Married for 24 years. We have 2 Sons ages 23 & 17. I will always go hard for Black Men. 🙏💙💙💙
Sorry for your loss
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Too bad they fint gi hard for you. They go hard for ww, aw and lw.
Shes speaking facts im glad to see a woman who is telling the truth shes a breath of fresh air and shes understands whats going on in this modern world
I'm glad I heard this interview. She is speaking everything I've been saying a long time
You are, unfortunately, describing my mother and the way she handled her children, including one brother that has no respect for women. She has passed, and she pretty much left me with this mess and I am cleaning it up now. Every able body has to do their own thing and these are conversations that are making my family turn against me. So be it...
@@I2AmUS we have to face it. Only way to be better as a man.
@@I2AmUSbeautifully stated. We inherit so much trauma and mess that far outlasts the individuals that never faced their own healing and attempted to ensure their lineage didn’t suffer from their “sins” (trauma isn’t about blame or guilt, it’s about accountability. YOUR trauma wasn’t willingly given to you but it is yours to free yourself from and grow and evolve from it.)
So many people cannot face their own truth and lack self awareness. Another reason why folks insist on interfering with OTHER folks traumas constantly to the point where we’ve been indoctrinated to believe “Love & Hip Hop” and all of its curated cultural genocide….is a complete normal way to approach life and interpersonal relationships and it sickens me. I don’t jusge people that do, but I haven’t watched TV in almost 2 decades and I’m only 33 because I feel spiritually I can see it for what it is.
My late fiancé and I had these kinds of conversations ALL THE TIME, I was r@ped at 12. My parents were married for 3 decades but my pops was never present in any other way outside of physically but I don’t resent either of these men. My late fiancé was the most incredible man I’m convinced I’ll ever know. I am so honored and blessed to not only have had him as a lover and a friend, but a leader, a mentor and a confidant.
Even before him, I refused to jump on the male hate bandwagon and I feel for y’all man I really do. So many of these women are broken and jaded and I totally get it but ultimately we have to look at the fact that it hasn’t ALWAYS been this way but no one pauses to consider that they’ve been indoctrinated and brainwashed into glorifying death both literally and FIGURATIVELY. Might as well be a bunch of spiritual zombies roaming around, the CDC already told and I’m rambling and half joking at this point 😅😂 but that’s only because the reality of it all is oh so painful. Lord have mercy. My heart is with y’all my brothers in love. 👑♥️✨
Dude really tried to speak in defense of white ppl. I'm glad she checked him on that bullshit. This is why we can't be having sit downs wit these none FBA folk. They are not one of us
Go get a channel and voice out. 😂😂😂
Powerful! Thank you sister sometimes us black men feel we are losing our sisters more and more each day.
Because you dudes don't speak up for yourselves Lol
Exactly YALL are MEN STOP LETTING THESE BROADS RUN OVER YOU
Because y’all are disrespectful and treasonous
We are. That’s y in this time we can’t show them no pity.
Aint nobody got time to go back n forth with bitter ass women we let em talk
She's a very positive woman regardless of what she said. I got mad respect for you sister. Shalom 🙏
Great content, Black women and Black men need to come together to make a strong Black race in America. We need each other .
Sis is tapped in!! She definitely is tuned into the new black media!! This is common sense what she’s talkin about! I’m finna find and follow her. *exhale* Fresh air!!
This woman is DEEP in her clear thoughts, knowledge, understanding, wisdom, and advice. And she’s pretty too. Thank you for this great information and insight you gave us. Thank you!
I feel her...As a brown mama of 5, with 2 boys & my husband. I try to understand and have compassion for the opposite sex.
Why You mention brown ?seems insecure
You shouldn’t even have to try. It’s in your nature to be compassionate..or at least it used to be.
🟢What's Brown?
you try? it shouldn't be that hard to see men as humans & not just walking, talking ATM machines. imagine if women had the metoo movement & men said "we'll try to have compassion for women" lol smh
@@asdfdc1946 💯💯💯💯 good one
I don't even know what to say, but may the good Lord grant our women such wisdom exhibited by this beautiful soul.
Man I really enjoyed this interview! These are the types of conversations we need to be having as a people. And you spoke sm truth, both of y’all. I’m in here nodding and agreeing talking at the screen. I too never grouped all our black men under one umbrella. Black men y’all are much appreciated!! 🤴🏾And I felt you when you said you don’t trust women as far as you can throw them. Ion play that either with my man (well when I have have one)! “Where’s the sisterhood” 😂 love my sistas, I just don’t need to have them all up in my mix when it comes to down to who I’m laying and building with! The Black Family & Black healthy love is still alive. ✊🏾 much appreciation for this interview and y’all’s contribution. 👏🏾💜
FACTS!
I used to think the same way about women until I realized that if I’m concerned about a woman being around my man - my real concern is my man. SMH. Harsh reality.
The lack of women commenting on this video is extremely alarming
It's really because I feel like a lot of women understand this and the history of it but noone talks about fixing it like today what do we do. I remember my childs father who isn't active in my childs life saying he's not around because the system set it up that way. That mindset is just crazy . Alot of women would want a man but their are a lot of men who behave like children because of a lack of love. But what do we do NOW to change that mindset
Thank you, Sista, for this conversation. As a mother of two young black men, it sickens me to see black women take all their insecurities and anger out on all black men. I lift my sons up and let them know they are worthy of great things and relationships with great people in this life. 🙏🏽❤️
This right here brought me to tears because they don’t see how they are damaging their sons and husbands.
@@richa4976They see and they don't care, because they don't love themselves. How can you get a person who doesn't love themselves to love you? It's impossible. And as a man, you don't have to put up with their hatred. You are free, my brother. You owe these women nothing.
Just protect yourself anytime you see those sisters who trash black men. Save yourself first. Walk away. 😂😂😂
Great, that you are breaking the programming... female offspring are programmed to be sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers via doll babies, strollers and easy bake ovens aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses/sexual predators and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home=Hellish Zoo.
but you don't have a problem with black men taking out all their anger and frustration on black women
I enjoyed that video. She gave enough information to solve 90% of problems in the black community. We need God first, love, and communication. It’s a simple formula. Yet, it’s hard to execute. Why don’t we love and respect each other? In the movie Shaka Zulu, he told his mother “we are incapable to love, all we know is hate” 🤔
Nah religious got us messed up. The most ghetto places have the most churches
Yeah you had me until you started with that god stuff. Religion maybe for thee , but not for me... spiritually is another subject though.
@@rasulsamad5860Facts, religions were forced onto our ancestors which made our ancestors mentally ill... before religions our ancestors were never seperated...the Women and Men were One... it's extremely unfortunate that Black women perpetuate and reinforce dysfunction/mental illness by filling up these churches, mosques and synagogues world wide.
I have been waiting for this full interview. This woman is a hero of mines !!!
I’m praying for you
@@MrGhanasbest no thanks I’m not accepting any prayers
@@MrGhanasbest😂😂😂😂
God bless this Sista !!!!!
Black women and black men, must become friends again.
Excellent podcast!!
Protect this woman at ALL costs!!
The part about the son-husband thing really hit close to home for me. My dad left when i was 11 and then all through my teenage years, my mom would constantly assert that i was the man of the house and that i should be catering to her by fixing/washing her car "just because", cook dinner, clean the apartment (including her filthy room), she once tried to get me to rub her feet, and would even include me in big financial decisions (like what state we should move to, what kind of house/car she should buy) but whenever things didnt work in her favor, suddenly i was just a child and i should know my place. Now at 29, im married with 3 kids and we dont talk because i keep "prioritizing that girl" (my wife) over her. Up until now i thought that shit only happened to me😢
I'm glad you escaped that mental prison.
Nope I’m 29 as well my brother. I’m from Jamaica but live in America and this happens in the Carribbean and America. Im soon getting to the point where you’re at. Just haven’t reached my breaking point yet
@@nocando17 it might be an island thing because both of my parents are Jamaican also
@@dee_305 well damn 😂 I used to think the same. I would to go to the Jamaican subreddit page just to read what other Jamaican kids my age went through and it was the exact same. But then I realized that a lot African American also have the same experience. I just think it’s a black thing. The black community has women that just choose the horrible men to be fathers. These fathers are often times just don’t really want the job so they eventually leave (just like both of our fathers) or the mother makes sure the child never sees the kid’s father. This creates all these dumbass issues we have to deal with. I would recommend you go to therapy if you haven’t already. I don’t know your parents but my parents never went to therapy even though they really need to badly. I’m going in 2 weeks. Hope you get yourself checked out
The constant finger pointing and lack of accountability is exhausting(on both sides). What does this achieve? Are we any closer to coming together & healing from this or other one sided conversations like this?
God please continue to bestow on us your grace as we journey our back to you & can keep one of your highest commandments to love each.🙏🏽
I agree. No woman should have to bash woman to make a man feel stronger. And no man have to bash men to make a woman feel loved. This interview was basically about telling women what we are doing wrong that is not making black men thrive. That conversation should be one on one with women. Just like men need to have a conversation with men about how to be better men.
She dropped a lot of factual jewels, I Can tell she is speaking from experience, a lot of woman should listen to this interview, I enjoyed it very much, and she is telling the truth.
I do not know who this woman is BUT I RESPECT THIS BLACK BEAUTIFUL WOMAN IS RIGHT ON POINT!!! She is saying out a loud what we as black womenswear from a to z should be saying across the board, THE TRUTH IS THE LIGHT!!!!!
Yesssss yes yes yes AND YES!
This is a breath of fresh air! I don’t have a lot of friends and I used to think something was wrong, but it’s so much unnecessary competition and jealousy I just love staying to myself. This was a good one. Shouts out to Neriah Shiloh
Taught to hate ourselves....rebel and love ourselves to find truth, divinity and peace.❤
I loved this video...we need more Black women out here telling the TRUTH! 👏🏽
Yes!.. informative and she didn't have to bash women at the same time, just gave facts..
@@mr6foot687Black women still take facts as bashing... as a man, you can't be concerned with that.
They are many women. Many of them are in Africa.
You are lost. she said men should not buy women flowers and women should be doormats.
@@rosejames5172 BW don't even like flowers, though... they want diamonds, cars, clothes, shoes, etc.
We need more black women like this queen.
Most are just like her and y’all know this
But you're not going to get any.
Queen? Please that's the problem right there ,she is just a regular woman,queen is structure of power having a court &military. Just stop saying that crap,use queen in its right form.
@@keepyourjobkeepyourjob7530Relax it's a title with very little weight like your TH-cam name.
@@changestartsnow5116No, words have meaning... and men use them wisely.
Some of these Son/Husband relationships have a bit of perversion to them. The whole dynamic in general is weird, there a bit of obsession, that these females have with their sons, because the dad is gone.
Thank you for this interview!!! This Queen speaking facts. Women can do both I do it too. I'm a wife, mother, I work I have hobbies. I make time for everything and everyone including myself. ❤️🖤💚
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Everybody ain't you dear.
I am glad that this woman is being totally real about how black women can be both constructive and destructive. I hope that his message that she is telling in this interview be a lesson for all black men whether they live in the USA, the Caribbean, Europe and every part of this Earth
A Father is a Son's first hero & A Daughter's First Love.
These girls don't love themselves, because their biological fathers never told them "I Love You!".
Most likely the mother kept them away
@@musiqworlmedia88yup I haven’t seen my son in 1.5 years so far. And I’ve been blocked no way to know where he is
@@leonmartin7445 if your name is on the BC take her to court. These women count on men not wanting to deal with the hassle of court proceedings or are afraid because of a past record. But once those are legit your kids and you have rights,in fact she doesn’t even have the right to keep them from you.
Facts. I don't know how many times I've heard that certain women do crazy things because their father was not an essential part of their childhood. Could explain a large amount of the confusion that goes on in today's world.
@@musiqworlmedia88that is not the case for the most part.
Dear our sister, you have seen what others women can not. You are tradional ,one who keeps and you can pass it on. You have known what how to build strong man, strong bond family. Please keep teaching the young women. God bless you and your family.
Married 53 years…know who you are, what you want and the same applies with your spouse
When or if those boundaries are breached Stop!… remind each other of the initial foundation, then move forward.
It doesn't work.
Emotions aren't responding to behavior but what could happen in majority of cases.
If you perceive men as dangerous you will be afraid even if behavior is perfectly normal.
The fact that you feel negative emotions doesn't mean that someone did anything wrong.
May God bless her and family and keep her safe and strengthened in speading this truth and knowledge 🙏 thank you sister.
I never thought I would hear a black woman tell the truth like she just did 💯💪🏾💯
Real black women have always been this, it's nothing new.
@@325arielrarely
This is one of the most powerful videos ive ever listened to.
Fire interview absolutely love her perspective. I truly agree with her on so many levels. I pray more women get chance to hear her speak.
When she said “God is not in the things that are happening today, but I ain’t gonna go there,” I screamed GO THERE!
Sharing is caring. 🔥🔥🔥
Some people spend too much time waiting on God. God has laid the path before you, select and move wisely. That is what I would tell the folks waiting on God.
Some women today don’t know because of the women before us. See how she mentioned she learned more from her aunt than her own mother. Some men and women were shit before us and we’re a product of that.
It's extremely unfortunate but the Patriarchal Order was forced upon our ancestors... it's extremely unfortunate in order to survive they promoted and reinforced Dysfunctional behavior/Mental Illness... the programming is extremely difficult to break/reject at this point, but some are rejecting the programming.
Wow this woman has moral values, insight, wisdom and experience to cross fertilise into black culture. This is a great platform, keep up the voice.
If you make your wife your safe space for you to vent, don’t be surprised when she’s done with you and you’re going through a divorce, all those things that you told her under the influence of emotion in “secret”, they get used against you. You better not.I will not vent to someone like that. That is a bad recipe for disaster.
Divorced?? She definitely wasn’t the one. Test all the spirits of a person. You will know them by their fruit. Stop picking low hanging fruit.
That's is absolutely not true.
Chose a suitable woman
Clearly they missed what you said!! And yes it IS true!! SMH 🤦🏾♂️
@@richa4976 It is true only if isn’t the right person.
She's a gem! Very insightful conversation.
This is keeping it real, please share, this needs, needed and is needing be heard by many black peoples young and old. This sister is loving us to life, not to death!❤😮😊
I am glad this woman understands not to have women hang around her man in her home because a lot of women don’t understand this concept of protecting their man by keeping these single women away from their man.
I hate that these conversations are never balanced. People either misandrist or misogynist….EVERY time! Nobody can be unbiased and just speak on real solutions. They’re always fighting for one side and never both. When you’re on one side, no matter which side you’re on….you’re more of the problem and not the solution!
Exactly. As a black woman who had both parents and they still married. Black people need to accept its both bm and bw are the problem with the black relationship. It's always one side and pointing the finger. Both bm and bw are the problem
I’ve noticed that too, I guess they have an agenda to push.🤷🏽♀️
when u dealing with california that's when it gets weird black people like to hate other black people shamelessly here for yhyte people
Man its so hard dating here
Respectfully that’s the only thing that I push back on. Telling your wife anything. You being married is based on a contract. It’s a condition. And you do not vent to your wife about the things that you are having trouble with. Your friends, sure. a female who is a professional and perhaps of a different race, sure. And by professional I mean a therapist, and it cannot be a liberal therapist it cannot be a liberal therapist. A liberal therapist will talk you right back in that house and keep you subservient. it Hass to be a conservative therapist who is for family.
I am very happy to have seen this. The world needs to hear this lady and this show. I pray the modern woman today find videos like this
I’ve never herd a BW talk this sensible about marriage n relationship before Never!!!
BW? Damn
@@samuelaout7993 BW/Black Woman
@@samuelaout7993 that’s y they destroying there chance at families n loosing all around for years now there negative mentality is just being made known by the internet
Wow, I told my friend this the other day word for word. Thank you for your candidness
I give thanks to the long line of successful marriages (no divorce no single parent) of on both sides of my family and my father and mother for raising 6 children who learned to stay married and raise a strong family from their examples. Strong black marriage (2 parent) families still exist.
Shidd, I been subscribed to Neriah here on TH-cam. So when I saw the thumbnail to this interview I immediately clicked on it because I knew she was bout to spit fire💪🏿🔥.
She’s a breath of fresh air from all this toxic pollution. Real sister right here. May God continue to bestow wisdom upon you. Her husband is a very very blessed man to have such an intelligent wife. Peace and Love 👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿
I want a black women like her…. Dark skinned and intelligent ❤
I witnessed on my own the judicial system criminalizing innocent black men.
Accountability is a big proponent of women's failures. Ask yourself, has your woman ever apologized to you for her wrongdoings? Probably rarely to never.
I give thanks for my Father, I have always supported my brothas, young old and incapacitated!!!!
There are many Sistars who love cherish y'all.
We need it back from y'all.
Brothas are my 1st love, and even though I've never been protected or treated right. I realise that has to do with my choices.
I know there are wonderful brothas out there, and I'm never giving up on them.
Please don't ghive up on us.
I'm not interested in any discussion that isn't about us coming together
Ubuntu Principles ❤️🖤💚👑👑🙏🏿🥰
I love the perspective of this sister. I can relate to her upbringing and her current perspective. I was raised by a bunch single, baby mamas, but I never felt like BM were the ops because I could CLEARLY see the toxicity in the women I was raised up around. Mammy 🙋🏾♀️ Pick Me 🙋🏾♀️... just because I dont go along with the feminist ideology and I'm fine with those titles
Thank you to her words of truth and faith and to you as well..💪🏾❤️
'Mammy' is a title for divesters. It's projection from them.
@@KtotheGwhat are divesters...never heard of that term
@@Ol1v1as_world ABW who say they are "divesting" from the black community by having encounters with WM that never lead to marriage. All they really do is dump on BM.
The Patriarchal Order went around the world raping and killing females forcing them to submit to being sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses/sexual predators and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses... it's extremely unfortunate that she promotes and reinforces this Dysfunctional behavior by filling up these churches, mosques and synagogues world wide...All religions are Patriarchal.
Thank you good sister for your interview that was full of intellect and knowing who you are. It's really good to hear a black woman speak on what some black women need to hear and understand about the black man.
This woman is speaking so much facts I see why my marriage of 30 years has failed because of the selfish, childlike, untrustworthy woman I took for my wife.
30 years?? Divorce and or child support is definitely expensive if you've been locked in for that long. It must be cheaper to keep her. I would've divorced in three years if it got that hectic.
Damn my boy you need a bro hug
That is a different kind of pain. You cannot get the time back. But I hope you make the most of the time you have left.
Yet you stayed 30 years. Should have chose better 😂
I think 30 years is a success even if it ended. But, what now?
Thank you sister and others like you who have choosing to see the truth and say it as it is
This is such a beautiful and refreshing discussion we need to have more often at home and on major platforms.
Thank you 🙏🏾
A beautiful intelligent sister. Every brother serious about life needs a woman like her.🙏🏾✨✨✨
I'm 100% Pro-Black Men; there are the strong, competent, mature ones, unfortunately, there's so few of you, I know you're out there. Much love for our Black Man/ you are loved and seen!!!!!
Very few so why bother?
@@EnlightenedGoldenBeautyyea for you. You probably on welfare and stay in section 8 and a baby momma. Us black folks don’t claim you “niggas” we got black strong families out here
@@EnlightenedGoldenBeautySay it again don't dare waste your time on them, RUN as fast as you can.
Ms. Neriah Shiloh, thanks for your wisdom, I personally appreciate when a strong wise black woman explains life to the willing! 🙏🫡
I have been saying it for years about black women being accountable for our actions!!! Why do black women feel they can say and do whatever they want and when consequences come they want a pass. It does not work like that!!! We have to look at the woman in the mirror!!!
It's extremely unfortunate but female offspring are programmed to be sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers via doll babies, strollers and easy bake ovens aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses... this programming/Dysfunctional behavior/Mental Illness have been passed on for at least the past 300-500 yrs... it's the programming and it's extremely difficult to break/reject... it's learned/taught behavior.
The first step to healing for us I believe is dialogue but how many of our black sistahs even have an interest in sitting down at the table and even discussing why when I see you in the supermarket and you don't even speak when I speak to you ... Let's start with the little things first then we can graduate to the more dire issues we have .
The "sisterhood" it's the same as the "brotherhood". Don't think that men don't try to hit on other men's partners, wives. It dread out ya!. What she said about peace ✌🏾is truth.
She won my heart! Thank you blk women. I love you ❤️
I have 3 Sons. I’m blessed beyond measure. I trained them up in the way they should go with the Word of God. Also setting an example. Women must unlearn and relearn everything they was taught by the women in their family. I would never give up on our Israelite men because I chose the wrong ones in my past. Our men is the highest level man on earth. They just need a good Helpmeet to pray over him encourage love uplift motivate and be his peace. But he has to be a righteous head. ❤❤❤❤
Gud job but your not enough...Where's they Dad(s) at?
@@mateencleaves2738 Gud job?? What is that. My Sons father is in their lives. I was simply stating that I have 3 Sons. 2 are grown.
@@yemedemure414 o My bad sis 💪🏿💯
@@mateencleaves2738 It’s okay! ❤️❤️💯
This is so refreshing to hear
I thank you from the bottom of my heart that you are reaching an audience that is in so much of a need to hear your message. I can talk and have talked with young women on this subject.
I’ve been very blessed with whom God has lent me to, for this life’s journey. Our job is to bless others with our wisdom.
Keep doing what you do and be Blessed.
These is heavy subjects forreal forreal .. and ones that MUST be addressed in our community .. the damaging things are the things we were taught NOT to talk about smh .. pain passed down
Correct, we were taught this Dysfunctional behavior/Mental Illness...our predecessors were forced to submit to this Deviant behavior in order to survive they were forced to pass it on to their offspring...at this point they don't even know that the programming was forced, now they voluntarily promote and reinforce this Mental Illness.
This lady is a national treasure ❤
It's refreshing to see a black woman who has a good head on her shoulders.
As an African, I have always held that the problem with blacks in America is their values, not the color, income or the oppressions.
Sustained success in any endeavor rests ultimately in your values. Everything else is ephemeral.
I was never taught that I don't need a man. I was taught to get an education. However, when I graduated many black men, I knew became intimidated for no reason. With an education one is able to earn more which would lead to being able to help the family. I realize now that it is related to self-esteem. If you don't feel good about yourself, you can't help anyone else or have good relationships.
Ma’am, I think you may be confused. It’s not “intimidation”.
With the an education & the ability to make some money comes a particular mindset and change of attitude, sometimes not so positive.
More of a hassle than what it’s worth more times than not. Men with common sense understand this. Honestly speaking, women leading with that narrative can easily be taken advantage of.
No man is intimidated by a woman’s money. I don’t know why women continue to push that narrative.
@@MrShugg2uright I talked to allot of girls with money and been broke af lol.
@@leonmartin7445 this is true especially for young men that don’t have much. I can honestly say when I was younger I had no issues getting with older women with means. Just feeding into their egos & telling them exactly what they wanted to hear.
Wow! Thank you sister Neriah Shiloh, someone understands.
They never show successful black businessmen. They have, for centuries, kept our black investors from our knowledge. However I never expected any help from them.
What I don’t understand is how can the government remove a man from his own house? If it’s his house, he pays they can not just kick him out if he was providing.
Please listen people!!! This woman needs to be celebrated. I appreciate a real Queen giving great info from lived experiences.
Relationships are WORK, they are not supposed to be HARD.
Valid point
So very true.
I enjoyed listening to this woman speak. She is speaking from a real place. 💪🏾💯
The dad on the 2nd version was of Wonder Years is a positive example of a Black man…but of course it’s been cancelled.
There is a disparity, but that’s rarely addressed honestly. There’s a whole lot of chaos in the “community” that’s rarely addressed honestly. A healthy marriage is beautiful, but the Bible says it’s better to stay single, so there is nothing wrong with anyone choosing to stay single.
Nothing wrong with being single at all. But There is a passage in the Bible that states "He that findeth a Wife findeth a good thing!".
Thanks for this show We appreciate you.
This interview is truly incredible. This sister is speaking real. I hope other women get to see this. Women need to reason with themselves. Feminism and hating black men is a scam being played on you. It's the destruction of the black family.
Correct, that was never her bag...She originally was in a Matriarchal Society/World...when Men and Women were together as One... but the Matriarch was overthrowed by the Patriarchal Order and she was forced to submit to being a sex slave, maid servant and baby bearers aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses/sexual predators.
Watched to the end. Great one.
Whoever her husband is.....brother i salute !! You have a real black woman my brother. I haven't given up, but its rough. Imma find her
Good luck
Intelligent lady. This video needs to go viral. Hit them likes.
This is a great interview fire. Bring her back again we want more.
I can say that I understand now. I didn’t before. My parents are from Jim Crow south and were married young in the 1960s. I see just what Willy Lynch did to our community! The roles were reversed and damaged us bad! I have so much empathy, sympathy, compassion and respect for our men now more than ever! I made a lot of mistakes, sacrifices and just plain bad decisions and ended up having some terrible relationships because of what I was taught about our brothers. I’m close to 60 years old now and have been married 3 times and another long term relationship! I need to learn to forgive my people and myself for this travesty!!!!
It’s the fact that she thinks it’s ok for a man to eat at his side chick’s house if his wife doesn’t feel like cooking after she gets home from work. If it’s that easy to get betrayed, I’d rather die alone with several cats.
Because as his woman you should feed your man
@@Gvhbj How about he can cook or bring something home after both of them having a long day at work. Da fuk!
@@Lady_Danbury how about your never going to be married
@@Gvhbj 😂 I don’t want to sign myself over to some man that’s gonna cheat on me if I don’t cook him dinner! 😂 The game is over. We don’t care anymore. 😂
@@Gvhbj Ok. 😂
As black people we have to both admit and accept the fact that the current state of black culture in the United States is a total landfill. Also as a youth football coach for 18 years and every season single mothers which makes up 98 percent of the parents would come to me and say to me and my coaching staff "to make a man out of their sons because their sons father ain't shit"
🎉she is a great balanced lady we need more of this balanced energy.
Thank you Sista❤
This has already been said but I really enjoyed this convo. I know it’s easy for me to say because I am a black man, but I think people should see that the overall message. That black men are not the enemy of black women. We are on the same team and we both have work to do in order to rise together.
Sharazad Ali broke this down in the 80's
Woowww thank u Queen this was Strong!!!!! Simply amazing word!!!!!
The enemy will ALWAYS have nefarious intentions
Understand that we must play chess not checkers
She’s a blessing to God, her family, her community and the world
Loved her! Bring her back whenever!