@@LucyR7131he’s in real estate with a 3 story house in San Francisco, that’s a 2.5 million dollar house minimum and if he doesn’t own it at least 10k a month to rent abs he has a public defender?????
The police also saved her life by not believing Gomero's lies and then searching the apartment so thoroughly that they found her crouched in the shadows in the unlit back stairwell.
he's a psychopath, he enjoys this, women be aware, someone who cooks you dinner one minute and pretends to be great in front of others, and then next minute beats you up or stresses you out over little things is not normal, stay away from people like that, highly toxic behavior
Be careful dating older men and moving in with them so fast too. Take years with the person and meet their community etc and wait until you experience them being mad atleast once before marrying them you will really see who plp are when they are angry
lol she literrally went back in after being punched a couple time and she complains she got more beating. fuking clown world. am tired of woman crying for the shit they keep on repeating. dude dosent look like a calm tempered person either.
@@Nikki-ks6wiyea of course now older men is the reason..... you get punched and you dont walk out right away ask the same person you dont wanna go? wtf are you a clown too?
True but the first time is usually blown off as an "accident". People that are abusers become very proficient in the art of gaslighting - even more is that they are very good at picking their "target". Almost all of us endure somewhat abusive and exploitive relationships today so it shouldn't seem that strange to you that we can easily pass that tolerance mechanic into other abusive situations.
@BobaDavis true. What pathological covert abusers lack in genuine empathy, care, kindness, they compensate with expert skills in emotional and mental and physical manipulation.
@@MajICReiki I knew a guy in an abusive relationship with a woman and her "see what you made me do?" mechanic was Crying, he would always focus on that part, as if the verbal berating and hitting was irrelevant.
@BobaDavis a lot of people can be confused by actions like that, men and women who abuse absolutely mimic normal behaviors. Being able to genuinely distinguish when it is manipulative or sincere, requires a graduation in social and emotional IQ and not conflating the behaviors with overall intent. Bad people often don't see themselves as bad people. The Ego is evolved for self preservation which includes cognitive dissonance to incongruity in one's beliefs about themselves and their cognitive biases justifying even horrific actions. A sound ego is capable of self reflection with acknowledging and creating changes to behaviors. Unstable egos remain in delusions of biases, that keep them stuck as abuser, or enabler, or victim. That relational power structure defined as toxic codependency, is a con on the self. It can be really difficult to see the full dynamic when in it. The skilled believable lies of abusers keep their mark unsure about their true values vs spoken values that are fake. The smoke screen clears once the victim begins to clearly connect the lies and actions, and sees a way out, or the need to create a way towards freedom from being the hostage to a disingenuous harmful relationship. Getting out is then a product of circumstances and willpower, which can be a whole other level of risk to one's right to life. Being emotionally enslaved to an abusers sob stories is an internal struggle. Being physically enslaved financially, to physical threat to self, children, others, pets and property, is the external battle. Clear vision between another's words vs actions, can be as basic as seeing that their empty apologies are more influential/believable than the denial functioning in allowing repeated offenses, even though it is not a simple exercise in critical thinking.
This man deserves prison for good. As a man myself, never lay hands on a woman violently under any circumstances. I pray that this woman gets better healing.
@@hazelmint6671Not even. If she has a weapon, yes. If she doesn’t and she’s trying to hit you, one push is all it takes and she’s on the group. Or hold her hands down or move away. Unless there is a weapon involved, never a reason to use all one’s force against a woman.
@@Jus4fun-mg5xgif she has a knife, I have the right to utilize physical violence as self defense Also, even if she’s using only her hands, if she’s strong, violence is necessary for self defense Not every women is physically weak
@@Oliver_Klozoff69 Did I not say if she has a weapon, yes? Yes as in use your hands. The average man is stronger than 97.5 of women. Women aren’t weak, men are simply stronger. It would be rare for you to have to come to that point of having to use physical violence. As I stated before, push, hold her arms down, or move away. You don’t want to do something you’ll regret especially if it’s unnecessary.
@@leahweinberger583 SHE ENAMELED THE ABUSER! Hello? Why the hell would she stay with an abuser even for a second? You are NOT a victim when you chose what happens.
@arthurfoyt6727 actually you are. Realms of studies have been written on the psychology of abuse. However you would rather victim blame then to accept the science. disgusting thing to do but you probably hate women or something.
Please put out there the universal hand sign for I need help please if she could have done it out the window you could do it on a zoom call a drive-thru on an airplane but if nobody knows what it means then it's not going to work. It's like someone going down having a cardiac arrest but they know CPR nobody else around them does
I agree.... some people would ignore the incident or just post it on social media without actually intervening. Kudos to this teenager, who did something about and is a hero. She needs to be recognized.
What is crazy is that the public defender saw everything. The photos. The videos. Everything and STILL feel in love with the guy. That is wild and clearly not mentally well enough to be a public defender.
15:09 15:09 indian bemieve un mens rights ro abuse a women rhat did dinwthing at 13, gow pathetic, what was hw thinking rhat at 13 rhat persin sge cslled took her vir...ginity and thiught she was a virgun, or thought shes been touched by someone else. Cause he wanted someone pure for the devil himself to devour this women. Dusgusting o.i.g. u hope the parents or whoever dpike to crso about her infrint of this minster feels badly about why he had to gossip sonething that wasnt this devils business
@@Jus4fun-mg5xg yes and no, one of his youngest victims was only 14. He convinced the cops that the child was his lover after he drilled a hole in his head and he almost escaped 😢
This public defender is so unprofessional she should be investigated for her unethical behavior. Possibly disbarred. Public defender office in SF is well known for their unethical behaviors well documented for decades. Former DA Chesa Boudin is a prime example of the “fine” products from SF public defender office. We need to defund or get rid of public defenders office
The one thing that the abuser uses that works the best, is feeling sorry for him. This public defender knows that , she's a manipulator, but it only takes a little bit, in a victim of DV, to get her guard down and feel sorry for her abuser. This woman tried to break her resolve to get away over and over. Then tried to manipulate the jury. She's gross.
This is another upsetting reason why so many perpetrators of DV go unpunished under the law and supports the statistics that only 2% of DV abusers ever get sentenced and or imprisoned for their crimes.
The victim's life is at risk the moment he gets out of jail. The public defender fell prey to his manipulation. The public defenders boss should be fired along with her .Both of them should be disbarred.
I can’t even count how many times my ex was arrested for DV. I’m 5’4 120 pounds he was 6’5 279 pounds I had no chance. Every call was dismissed, every court case he was slapped on the wrist n told to do anger management classes which he never completed. The time before the last I told that cop if they didn’t keep him, the next time they came to my house they would find my body. Sure enough 4 days later he flips out over a corn dog (yes a corn dog) leaves, comes back 6 hours later smashed drunk. I was 38 weeks pregnant and after he started hitting me that night I tried to leave, all I really remember was calling 911 but he ripped the phone cord out the wall then took out his pocketknife and started stabbing me. I woke up 3 weeks later in ICU no longer pregnant with my jaw wired shut (he broke lots of bones in my face) stabbed me 17 times, slit my throat and was choking me when the cops busted the door down. That same cop was the one who arrested him and he only got 8 years for 2 counts of attempted murder, wire tapping, false imprisonment…the charges went on n on. Then, while he was in prison would make deals w inmates (his dad was rich n put tons of $ on his books) these inmates would find me, harass me, it went on n on n on. I finally had to leave my son with a relative in a different state, then I left to live in a different state w friends n family for 4 years. After I came back home and got my son his dad hired a PI to find me and the harassment started all over again. PD did nothing, the prison system did nothing, the only reason I’m still here is soon after he got out of prison he overdosed and died, but he would of been after me until the very end. It’s a nightmare. I’m glad she got out, I just hope she remains safe when he’s free. 😢
Your story is important and all young women need to hear it. All people (not only young women) need to think about their boundaries re: behaviour of others. Please get any trauma healing you think you need. You are valuable. All blessings for a happy and healthy life.
Soooo many people are watching this and will find strength to leave violence. This is a hard but amazing step forward. Much respect and love to the victim 😭❤️.
Men are victims too. These victims… Are not always victims….ive been assaulted by women and seen women assaulting men, the F around and they find out. These stories are to only discredit men. Never will you hear how evil woman can be. Women poisoning partners, pushing partners off of buildings. These stories one sided with the microscope only on one person is stealing the full story.
@@ZPMBTV Being a single cat lady is far from lonely. It’s the most peaceful life a woman could ever dream of having. Bottom line is, cats are a million times better than being with a man. Don’t be upset because women no longer want to deal with the male species.😂
@@AgainstLife1000 : of course but it’s a million Good men out here looking for a Good Wife that don’t beat Women and most Women Will choose the Bad Guy or to be lonely with a Cat… I’m a Therapist so I know what’s going on.
Dan and the I-Team, great job on this story. I especially like the breakdown of the issues against the public defender. It made it easier to follow and understand. I hope they charge her. Brave of Jordana to share her story.
Then she talks about him being a pos drunk that beat her , she was voluntarily staying with her possible killer, i see what her dad did there, he did the ultimate insult my making him the mockery of the night by telling that she had been caught when she was a teen talking to an older man, he basically told him "you're not the 1st old dude she has been interested in", since didn't wanted to leave him her dad figure that by exposing her in front of everyone would do the trick and it did work, almost cost her life, I wouldn't ever humiliate & trigger a man that way, that's insanely dangerous, but I reckon her dad didn't saw any other way.
WOW Karl that is a really deep analogy of the situation here psychology speaking. That said could it also be that green eye monster called Jealousy? Karl he is my theory. I please correct me if am wrong and would appreciate your input on this matter. The two of them meet some where somehow and got together and had sex and then started to live together like a normal couple. but in the back of his mind there was that one question that bugged him on a daily basis. Here it is... If she would have sex with me who she did not really know that well. could she not have sex with someone else? @@karlwalter2242 💥💥💥💥💥☢☢⛑⛑👮♂🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🚒🚒🚒🚒 I see this alllll the time Karl.. noting new here , move one please......
Glad she got out of that relationship. Brave of her to stand up to him. Thanks to that teenager who called the cops. I appreciate longer form reports about issues like these. Thank you Dan & abc 7.
She would have NEVER stood up to him on her own. He would have unalived her and gotten away with it. The thing that saved her was the teenagers calling the police.
It's good that the police have body cameras to see what happened. Imagine walking into a situation where the victim was all bloody. Im glad that the teenage girl called police and saved her. He could have killed her. Thank You for sharing your story. Hopefully it gives courage for ppl to leave these types of situations.
Truth is that people need HELP to leave. It's not as easy as just finding "courage" as if it's some mind over matter thing. Usually, some sort of financial obstacle is often the biggest barrier. Or, perhaps these DV victims may have children which unfortunately ties them to the trash crap abuser often at least until the kid(s) are adults. Of course, how about people just don't go carelessly screwing around with trash crap like that guy in this video who is hopefully staying in jail! Too bad he wasn't caught sooner! It's as if the DV victim needs to have cameras on at all times to catch evidence.
Kudos to these police who figured out what was happening, saw the scratches, looked for her behind the door and found her. It’s unreal how easily police don’t pay enough attention or the victim is guaranteed to get blamed instead of paid attention to.
Those teenage girls are literal heros. I had something similar happen to me about a decade ago and I called out for help when I saw a couple walking down the street. It was the middle of the day and they were pushing a baby stroller. My abuser wasn’t allowing me to leave my house and when he realized what I was doing he grabbed my hair and slammed my head into the window before dragging me back inside. This couple stood there watching me and did absolutely nothing; they didn’t even call the police to check on me. I eventually did send him to jail but he only got a sentence of a few months since there were no witnesses willing to come forward.
First they fuck up your mind, then they fuck up your body. They use terror and love in a cycle meant to confuse you and make it very hard to see up from down. His excuses and pleadings always left me feeling bad for him, and i thought i owed him another chance. Until i finally ended up at a women's shelter. In group therapy, i listened to horrific stories of other women in their abusive relationships. One got choked against the wall, but just like me, she thought he deserved another chance. Her thinking was as messed up as mine, but it was so much clearer to me in her story than in my own, that it was crazy for her to go back. I slowly began to see that all of us women had the same story, we kept falling for their lie that they loved us. And we kept going back to the familiar, because it was better than the women's shelter or anywhere else, and we kept thinking he would change. We believed like a cult member believes. I finally committed to myself that no matter what he said or did, i was going to walk away, toward the dark scary road ahead. And i made it. And it really wasn't so scary after all. It was so much better!
And that’s what the government wants. They want to destroy the house hold, mislead men and women. You can take a class on sex ed but not on how to take care of a relationship. Think about that if you really care about the topic.
Raju is super inappropriate in his behavior, and this whole story is disturbing... we need an evaluation of our justice system here in SF or sure... Raju and Yanez probably needs to find different jobs that better suits their questionable morals.. As a long time resident of this city, I am deeply troubled by what I see here.. we have a chronic problem of not enough justice in this city, and I am getting a glimpse into the inadequacies of the oversight that can only be explained by many years of neglect and abuse.
I agree you have a point. But I hate it when an employer intrudes on someone's private life. My private life is mine alone. My supervisor once warned me about appearing in public with my girlfriend at the time, b/c his boss was very conservative, and moralistic, and the sight of us holding hands would be damaging to my career. It made my girlfriend mad. It made me feel I was being watched or followed. Employers documenting and restricting employees' private lives is very bad news.
My husband had a horrendous childhood, hasn't seen his father since he was 15, when my husband left home. He's never hurt me, not one time. Never hit me, etc. I get tired of defense attorneys using that excuse. This pos is a grown man, not an 18 year old. Time to put that behind you.
Thank God for that teenager!!!❤❤❤. And thank God honestly for the police who kept looking for her and were insistent on finding the truth!❤️. They all saved her life.💜
I work as a victim advocate and if you're a domestic violence victim just know that you have right when it comes through defense attorneys (Marsy's rights) to refuse an interview, deposition, or discovery request by the defendant, the defendant’s attorney, or any other person acting on behalf of the defendant, and to set reasonable conditions on the conduct of any such interview to which the victim consents
@lp4ju Do you understand this sentence of “7 years to life”? I think 20 or 25 is the lowest number I’ve ever heard attached to the phrase “to life.” This doesn’t make a lot of sense to me & im wondering if it really just means that he’ll be out in 7.
@saraohara2504 it essentially means that 7 years is the minimum amount of time he'll serve before going to the parole. Parole would need to be approved for him to get out at 7 years if not then he stays in prison
I really don't think so I really, really don't. He woman that was abused. She was intelligent enough to know that she wouldn't even have wanted to have another relationship at that point I just think that the emotional. G dealings that they had to deal with. I mean, my gosh, it's just, it brings. It brings a bond of an emotional bond when you're in a healing situation like that, and in a case like this, the lawyer in the client you know, we're all human beings here. It's not uncommon for 2 people in any situation. To have their heart strings pulled. And here I mean, look at the state that the world is in. I meanit's already overwhelming. I mean, I don't know God help us all.
Thank you for being so brave and for sharing your story. I’m a victim of DV and I’m a guy. The physical part is just the tip of the iceberg. The emotional abuse goes on 100% of the time. Watching this was triggering but I owe it to her for being so brave. I wasn’t so brave myself. I actually went to the court case and helped to get her charges reduced. Her ex is one huge POS.
@@floriansailer7887you're demented for saying something so ignorant! Sounds like you have no idea how domestic violence works and the psychological impact the abuser has on the victim
@@floriansailer7887You should read into it, it really is crazy. The same reasons why you don't fight back and why you stay are the same reasons you process to grieve your abuser's misfortunes.
This happened to me close to it I got bruises on my face and on my back bottom. I am in a relationship and have a son. She will find peace as long as he is in prison for life.
She will. I was abused with my first real adult relationship, very similar to her but I had hard things thrown at me like my face cream it gave me a black eye. Oh you wanna look pretty lol. I laugh now because he’s insane. But after his first touch I stopped respecting him internally and couldn’t and didn’t want to be sexual with him so it was easier for me to walk away(I made my own $ too thank god).. after a couple of punches I would hit back, then I couldn’t even stand looking at his face.. ugghhh.. and broke up and left… he chased me, went back for I don’t know a week and I couldn’t stand looking at him, he was repulsive to me.
I agree. There’s nothing sexist about making an observation of how inappropriate she was. You’re telling me she sobs like that for all her clients? Give me a break!
Are you suggesting that most age gap relationships are abusive? Or if not most, that abuse is statistically higher in them than in other relationships?
May the victim continue to heal. Thanks to her for her courage in sharing her story. Smart of her to document, and so much pressure to have to deal with the public defender.
My heart is racing watching this. i can’t stop crying for jordana, this is beyond fucked up, brutal, evil. jordana, if you’re reading through the comments i would like to tell you something. you are the one of strongest women i’ve ever seen and i can’t imagine being as strong as you were in this attack. sending you LOVE❤
This guy was actually threatened by her texting a guy WHEN SHE WAS 13. Dude there is no capacity for mature decisionmaking at 13 and there can be no legitimate relationship between a grown adult and a child. So he’s really telling on himself by assigning that level of sexual agency to a 13yo being preyed upon by a disgusting adult criminal. This shows how violence and a rapey mentality go hand in hand. I’m so glad she survived this prk.
🚩Yanez bought Juror drinks at the bar & told them because of their verdict he'd be looking at life sentence & got them to write letters to go easy on him afterwards ⁉️& Then Yanez cried in court to the point where she couldn't hardly speak clearly ⁉️ how is that professional ⁉️
I was just being a dv victim, and because my injury were minor, the only thing I got is the 5 years restraining against him. He wasn’t even charge for felony robbery either. He is sentenced with a misdemeanor probation.
@@keifer7813 he sure tried to kill her! She survived because someone called the police and he had to stop his brutal attack. Do you see the body cam video? This woman was completely covered in blood
@@AnaDiaz-wz4cf No, that's just assault. There is no evidence that he tried to kill her. If I get into a street fight and leave the other guy's face all bloody, does that mean I should be charged with attempted murder? Lol let's not be ridiculous It's assault or battery.
@@AnaDiaz-wz4cf Don’t bother with them. They’re also commenting “why didn’t she leave?” They would’ve gotten the answer if they watched the whole video.
I'm so proud of this young lady that finally broke free of this malicious abuser that she was brainwashed by for years. Telling her story is so valuable in changing domestic violence sentencing.
Praise God that teenager called the police. That creature is a pure monster. And so is the public defender he had. The victim is brave for sharing her story. On average it takes 7 times of leaving before a victim leaves for good. There are so many obstacles, lack of money, can’t afford hosing, low self confidence caused by the abuser, etc. But still please leave and stay away, the struggles of leaving is better than being abused. Please also remember abuse is not only physical. There is verbal, emotional, psychological, sexual and financial abuse. There have been many cases of a man being abusive for many years, even decades but never using physical violence, until one day he did and it was fatal on his victim. Women you deserve better. You deserve love. You deserve safety.
Agreed, and ditto for men. Men should not have to put up with punches, insults, threats, blaming, public put downs, unending complaining, etc. Better to confront the witch and her behaviour, and leave or divorce early if there is no improvement. Because life is short.
He lied to police. He made Jordana hide. How about obstruction? Yanez should be forced into therapy and/or lose her job. There wasn’t only one crossing the line.
12:11 wow! That attorney should be disbarred, brought up on extortion charges and tampering with a witness! What a wretched woman! Email and call that DA! DEMAND JUSTICE!
The second that they disrespect you, make you feel uncomfortable, put you down, call you any kind of critical or offensive names, lie to you, or show any kind of violence to anyone or anything, LEAVE! The longer you wait, the worse it's going to get. Get out while you can.
Let me tell you when I finally escaped my kidnapper the cop called me and said “but he is so in love with you” just trying got soften the crime - this is totally real people this problem is real
I have know so many girls in my life in relationships like this. It's so hard for them to actually get help it's dam near impossible. Cops don't do anything. My ex got harassed, assaulted, stalked for over 7 years by her ex. We tried to get help for 7 years and all we got was excuses. Cops had emails, phone calls, from him. All they did was tell him to stay away. And all that did was make him more dangerous. It's like they give these guys a huge window of time to kill the other person. Then when they are dead the cops are finally ready to help. They cops make the famela feel like they are the guilty ones. doctors even. It's crazy. He eventually. Went to her job in the middle of the day in Berkeley , caught her coming back from lunch, called her threatened her. She locked up her office. And this guy jumps through a huge glass window in the front of the building grabs her chokes her almost to death . Before lucky for her some cops happens to be walking buy and her the screams and saved her . Even after all that he did not ever get any serious jail time. He made or life hell for years. She was scared to leave the house for work , school, to walk to her car. Or go wash they need to get better laws to help women in these situations. And to press charges against any officers or people who make comments about it being your fault. The people who's job it is the help you should not be making you feel worse.
EVERYONE needs to email Brooke Jenkins and beg her to file sanctions against that Public Defender. What a terrible human. This woman is SO lucky to be alive, y'all. For real. Prayers for healing and strength and prayers she is never in a DV relationship ever again.
Public Defender is unbelievable. When he thre her clothes out the window, it was her opportunity to leave his sorry azz. Good that she was able to leave and now have a happy life.
I am happy that reports like this are being shown. My heart stopped when I saw the footage of the abuse. People need to stop ignoring that this happens and report it.
She had her way out when he told her to leave...she should have left and gone to her parent's home. When he told her to return upstairs I knew she was in trouble. He's a douchebag bully. My husband would abuse me but he could never fight back against a man...both my uncles and my father beat the crap out of him when they saw me with bruises (I told them), and not once did he throw a punch. He left the house and tried to return a year later by breaking into my apartment but SURPRISE I was with my boyfriend. He got beat by my boyfriend and I beat him with a bat...He never bothered me again. There were several reasons I did not leave 1. I thought if I treated him nicer he would change, 2. I thought if I were a better wife he would be a better husband...here's the problem narcissistic bullies DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOU - they only care about themselves.
You were also in an abusive relationship where you stayed, why would you even say,” she had her way out when he told her to leave… she should have left and gone to her parents house.” I find that very judgmental when you yourself stayed in an abusive relationship when you also could have left and maybe did, but returned. She too I’m sure had reasons for staying, but it just felt like you were blaming her.
I knew a very wealthy woman who could not escape her violent Mafia husband. I asked her, if she was so wealthy, why didn't she get her own place? She said she's ben so brainwashed, she believes he will always find her, and possibly kill her. No one ever forgets abuse like this. It follows an abused person their whole life.
Well done news report. I’m curious why no one in the victim’s apt bldg called 911, yet the screaming victim could be heard outside? I find it very strange that an attorney would sob in court; it’s not as if she had two years before trial to get to know him, and what educated woman would sob for a POS that batters the woman he (supposedly) loves? And obviously, you don’t have to pass the bar to know not to fraternize with jurors after the fact. I’m shocked the boss would even defend her behavior.
The worst part is when his friends laugh at us for being "triggered" or "ungrateful." My dad was like this. And there's a lot of long-term effects to it. They put in a lot of effort to keep someone from being their own person. And we're usually punished for expressing our own emotions. We're not allowed to cry. Even with all the pain and stress that happened.
The actions of that public defender are despicable and disgusting, to say the least. Lets hope she doesnt ever feel the trauma of an abusive relationship/marriage.
Some will never know the trauma of fight or flight, being told to leave your apartment isn’t easy. It’s easy to say she could have left, but if you have never been in an abusive relationship you can’t say how someone should or shouldn’t respond. I thank her for sharing!
💯💯 plus a lot of times it's worse when you do leave in that context bc you'll get punished for it and likely found and forced to go back to way worse abuse
Absolutely delighted he got a 7 - Life sentence. He's a menace. And that public defender should realize how lucky she is as she might have been his next victim.
I commend her because even to this day, even though I got out of mine I haven't been able to take him to court and get him charged. She is definitely strong. God bless her
Seems like she didn't want to go home after the initial attack due to embarrassment. It is humiliating to go back home and admit being abused by a man you just brought to dinner with your family. But these victims have to make the best decisions for their life. Very sad though that she felt more embarrassed that she would have to explain this situation to her parents than to flee this guy when he brought her bags down.
Yep! Perps ability to restrain himself from hitting her in front of witnesses and that he chose to amp up the violence right after a family dinner points to this being calculated as part of his plan.
People unfamiliar with the toxic power dynamic in relationships like these, always react the same: "Ok if it was so bad....why did you stay?" They really do not grasp how helpless, immobilized and victimized the woman becomes over the passage of time spent in that environment. And also how she can be paralyzed into INACTION.
Thank you. I was going crazy looking through the comments of people arguing with the "y didnt U leeve?" crowd. I hate when people come to videos about domestic violence to blame the victim and act like it's cute to feign ignorance about fear, terrorization, and manipulation because they lack the empathy to put themselves in her shoes. I noticed this usually only happens with female victims. Male victims, although not nearly as common, still get showered with support in the comments. No one calls them weak because the "inherent nature of his female abuser" doesn't need to be questioned along with his decision to stay, yet female DV survivors, despite being the more vulnerable sex, are still interrogated and made to relive their abuse time and time again. The misogyny festering in this world is insane.
Thank you for being brave enough to tell your story.. I am a survivor of domestic violence & abuse myself & did not have a good outcome with the courts because I didn’t have enough money for a good lawyer or get enough admissible evidence & part of me was filled with fear of him killing me or destroying my career, good name, & hurting my family & dropping my pets off the side of a road like he said. & I haven’t been able to get back on my feet going through intense C-PTSD from the physical abuse & suffocations & fear he instilled in me & he took EVERYTHING from me & continued to use the legal system to abuse me for 2 more years. I would LOVE to have just spoken my truth from the beginning & stood up for myself & had him face the consequences of his actions but he made me believe that no one would believe me & that he had more money & connections in our career field that he could destroy me & then he’d show me he could take me to the brink of death again & again & he had full control. But I also loved him & he’d shift in & out of these modes like he was possessed & other times he was loving & kind & all the things you could want in a partner & it all just keeps you spinning around in a tornado of his making & you’d see in the center was a black hole of a person who had no empathy, love, & at times humanity but you’d only see that for a second before he spit you back out into the chaos. Sometimes he’d play the role of storm shelter & make you feel safe & cared for before he’d maniacally laugh &swing the doors open to be sucked right back up. But since he was the only one providing safety at alllll, you begin to be forced to rely on him for your only moments of relief from the situation.. I truly hope you continue to grow, heal, & thrive & eventually that monster will hold no power over you. Hopefully justice & speaking the truth has begun that process & I hope one day I can get justice & get my voice back as well. I just hope we can find a way to stop this from happening FOREVER. & I think with technology watching us going forward, we will have safety in that because only those who can hide can be evil. Exposure is their worst fear. & YOU MADE HIM FACE HIMSELF.. I am sooo inspired & have hope that the more people like you can be unashamed of being abused the more people will begin to understand. & screw people who tell us “why didn’t we leave?” Cause in leaving you are 10x more likely to die, cause they do everything they can to force you to be dependent on them like being involved with work with them, cause they threaten everything they know they can in your life & that they have shown you they can follow through with those threats, because usually you have a sick kind of love there still because they are soooooooo goooooood at manipulation & also truthfully they suffer sooooo deeply it’s unreal but empathy means weakness to them so it’s better not to go there but it’s hard as a good person not to have it or believe love can change a person who can not accept any of it, & because usually they have money/financial holds over their victims & power that goes beyond the physical to actually hurt your life with. They also looooveee to isolate you from your family & friends & make you lie for them & distrust your mind & the world. It’s like being in a Cult of 2 & the cult leader started off nice & one day you wake up & there’s a gun to your head & they are taking ANYTHING THEY WANT & you have to agree to SURVIVE. But your mind plays tricks on you also to survive because if it didn’t you’d probably had killed yourself being that TRAPPED. But WE DID SURVIVE & it’s BEAUTIFUL to see someone trying to help the rest of women still out there feel seen & heard & have something to hope for.. Thank you. Thank you sooooo sooo much.
Seeing the blood running down her face took me right back to the times my "partner(s)" (yes, unfortunately, I've found myself in relationships with men who were not the good guys they pretended to be, and ultimately i ended up learning who they were when their masks dropped and attacked me multiple times) horrifically abused me. The taste of blood in your mouth dripping from my nose or a gash on my face/head is horrible. The difficulty seeing once the blood thats leaking out of my head somewhere ends up getting into my eyes makes the assaults so much more terrifying because it damn near blinds you, making escape extremely difficult, if not just simply not possible. I held it together until she started uncontrollably sobbing with the police snd emts. I have never forgotten the emotions on the faces of the emergency responders that were called. That part in the video is almost certainly her lowest point in her entire life. That moment is when fight or flight or freeze turns off and the reality of it all comes crashing down all at once. The confusion, heartbreak, betrayal, paired with the excrutiating physical pain of her injuries, and then just the shock of having her entire world change so drastically in just an instant feels like being hit by several freight trains all at one time. Then, realizing that it was all at the hands of the man who is supposed to love and protect her? Its such a massive blow to a persons entire existence. I pray she continues to heal from this and i wish her nothing but love and happiness, THE REAL KIND, in her life. That man is a monster and i truly pray he suffers brutally every single day of the remainder of his sorry ass life. What a waste of air that thing is. His dirtbag lawyer too. I wish them nothing but pain, suffering, failure, and loss. Forever and ever. ❤
Reading your message made me cry :( I know exactly what you mean...that taste and smell and sensation of your own blood... then seeing yourself afterwards...it is something I can't forget. And yes, you worded the emotions of that moment where I was found perfectly. Thank you for your kind words... I am so, so sorry that you had to experience anything similar, no one deserves to go through something like that. I hope you are doing much, much better now, sending love
@jordanacahen8972 Thank you for taking the time to respond. It really means a lot ❤️ I am doing much better now, thankfully. Although it's been years since I went through that, it's something that sticks around, you know? After going through these things, it becomes almost imprinted on us in a way. Whenever we are reminded, the memories of the times we were in the middle of it all suddenly flood back to us, and in such clear detail, too. It's such a wild feeling every time there's a memory, so visceral, it almost feels like it could be happening in that moment, but that's what this sort of trauma does to us. I think that the best we can do with the trauma, both for ourselves and other victims, is to channel it in a way that can help bring awareness to the reality of it all. The more people this content reaches, the better because that is where change becomes possible. Keep doing what you're doing because it truly is making a difference ❤️
We as older women who were young and been in relationships like this. We need to help , protect and educate younger women who get into relationships like this. That attorney of his is sick in the head.. and obviously she is jealous of the victim due to her age. They always keep thinking that these younger women are just gold-digging in these age gap relationships. When that is the furthest from the truth. They get into these relationships just like any vulnerable woman of any age would through manipulation and lies.
That public defender needs to get disbarred. Clearly violate the ethics of the bar.
You mean public pretenders???
She probably had something with him to not have her emotion so involved…so odd.
@@LucyR7131he’s in real estate with a 3 story house in San Francisco, that’s a 2.5 million dollar house minimum and if he doesn’t own it at least 10k a month to rent abs he has a public defender?????
@@hersheywalker6447OmG 😲 That's shocking! This man is a real piece of work!
Seriously, she's the one who seems thirsty for him. Disgusting!
Bless the girls who called 911
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The police also saved her life by not believing Gomero's lies and then searching the apartment so thoroughly that they found her crouched in the shadows in the unlit back stairwell.
he's a psychopath, he enjoys this, women be aware, someone who cooks you dinner one minute and pretends to be great in front of others, and then next minute beats you up or stresses you out over little things is not normal, stay away from people like that, highly toxic behavior
Be careful dating older men and moving in with them so fast too. Take years with the person and meet their community etc and wait until you experience them being mad atleast once before marrying them you will really see who plp are when they are angry
lol she literrally went back in after being punched a couple time and she complains she got more beating. fuking clown world. am tired of woman crying for the shit they keep on repeating. dude dosent look like a calm tempered person either.
@@Nikki-ks6wiyea of course now older men is the reason..... you get punched and you dont walk out right away ask the same person you dont wanna go? wtf are you a clown too?
His mother no doubt will support her angel son
More than toxic, he is a forever danger to the public and others.
Sounds like someone has a little crush on her horrendous client. Gross!
Exactly!
Not necessarily people come on now
Ilona Solomon Yanez (she/her/Ella) how unprofessional can you be. Disgusting.
she's probably on his visitor's list in prison
she is a disgusting person, she needs to be investigated
she took this abuse for a year. if a man abuses you only one time, you need to walk away because it will always continue until he takes your life.
True but the first time is usually blown off as an "accident". People that are abusers become very proficient in the art of gaslighting - even more is that they are very good at picking their "target". Almost all of us endure somewhat abusive and exploitive relationships today so it shouldn't seem that strange to you that we can easily pass that tolerance mechanic into other abusive situations.
@BobaDavis true. What pathological covert abusers lack in genuine empathy, care, kindness, they compensate with expert skills in emotional and mental and physical manipulation.
@@MajICReiki I knew a guy in an abusive relationship with a woman and her "see what you made me do?" mechanic was Crying, he would always focus on that part, as if the verbal berating and hitting was irrelevant.
@BobaDavis a lot of people can be confused by actions like that, men and women who abuse absolutely mimic normal behaviors. Being able to genuinely distinguish when it is manipulative or sincere, requires a graduation in social and emotional IQ and not conflating the behaviors with overall intent. Bad people often don't see themselves as bad people. The Ego is evolved for self preservation which includes cognitive dissonance to incongruity in one's beliefs about themselves and their cognitive biases justifying even horrific actions. A sound ego is capable of self reflection with acknowledging and creating changes to behaviors. Unstable egos remain in delusions of biases, that keep them stuck as abuser, or enabler, or victim. That relational power structure defined as toxic codependency, is a con on the self.
It can be really difficult to see the full dynamic when in it. The skilled believable lies of abusers keep their mark unsure about their true values vs spoken values that are fake. The smoke screen clears once the victim begins to clearly connect the lies and actions, and sees a way out, or the need to create a way towards freedom from being the hostage to a disingenuous harmful relationship. Getting out is then a product of circumstances and willpower, which can be a whole other level of risk to one's right to life.
Being emotionally enslaved to an abusers sob stories is an internal struggle. Being physically enslaved financially, to physical threat to self, children, others, pets and property, is the external battle.
Clear vision between another's words vs actions, can be as basic as seeing that their empty apologies are more influential/believable than the denial functioning in allowing repeated offenses, even though it is not a simple exercise in critical thinking.
Why do they take this crap???I do not understand why they stay after the first altercation.
This man deserves prison for good. As a man myself, never lay hands on a woman violently under any circumstances. I pray that this woman gets better healing.
True, Unless for self defense.
Yeah and he would do it over nonsense I don’t know who’s worst him or his loser attorney trying to make the victim feel bad about charging him
@@hazelmint6671Not even. If she has a weapon, yes. If she doesn’t and she’s trying to hit you, one push is all it takes and she’s on the group. Or hold her hands down or move away. Unless there is a weapon involved, never a reason to use all one’s force against a woman.
@@Jus4fun-mg5xgif she has a knife, I have the right to utilize physical violence as self defense
Also, even if she’s using only her hands, if she’s strong, violence is necessary for self defense
Not every women is physically weak
@@Oliver_Klozoff69 Did I not say if she has a weapon, yes? Yes as in use your hands. The average man is stronger than 97.5 of women. Women aren’t weak, men are simply stronger. It would be rare for you to have to come to that point of having to use physical violence. As I stated before, push, hold her arms down, or move away. You don’t want to do something you’ll regret especially if it’s unnecessary.
I think he would have killed her if those girls hadn’t called the police. Scary stuff.
2:34 she refused to leave. Had she left none of that would have happened.
@@Jahairalove84 Or if women would not just shack up with people they know are violent.
@@Jahairalove84enabler an abuser rather than supporting a victim. You should be ashamed of yourself.
@@leahweinberger583 SHE ENAMELED THE ABUSER! Hello? Why the hell would she stay with an abuser even for a second? You are NOT a victim when you chose what happens.
@arthurfoyt6727 actually you are. Realms of studies have been written on the psychology of abuse. However you would rather victim blame then to accept the science. disgusting thing to do but you probably hate women or something.
Someone find those teenagers!! They saved her life 👏🏻
Please put out there the universal hand sign for I need help please if she could have done it out the window you could do it on a zoom call a drive-thru on an airplane but if nobody knows what it means then it's not going to work. It's like someone going down having a cardiac arrest but they know CPR nobody else around them does
There is a sign now. You do it with your 4 fingers up and your thumb over your palm
I agree.... some people would ignore the incident or just post it on social media without actually intervening. Kudos to this teenager, who did something about and is a hero. She needs to be recognized.
2:35 she refused to leave.
@@Jahairalove84 ~ leaving an abuser is even more dangerous than the horrific beating she received....think OJ & Nicole!!!!!🗡
What is crazy is that the public defender saw everything. The photos. The videos. Everything and STILL feel in love with the guy. That is wild and clearly not mentally well enough to be a public defender.
Correct.
Exactly
What's even worse is that she's a woman standing up for a woman beater!
💯💯💯
sometimes love is blind
Raju must be FIRED and defensive attorney disbarred. We simply do not need these types in our legal system.
Agree! This public defender is incompetent
What Yanez did was not just unethical, it was criminal.
Ilona Solomon Yanez (she/her/Ella) ..... let's name her.
15:09 15:09 indian bemieve un mens rights ro abuse a women rhat did dinwthing at 13, gow pathetic, what was hw thinking rhat at 13 rhat persin sge cslled took her vir...ginity and thiught she was a virgun, or thought shes been touched by someone else. Cause he wanted someone pure for the devil himself to devour this women. Dusgusting o.i.g. u hope the parents or whoever dpike to crso about her infrint of this minster feels badly about why he had to gossip sonething that wasnt this devils business
100% agree
dude is a monster. good he's in prison
Inmates have a special way to deal with those who harm women and children.
@@chinaboss6683that's a myth.
Oh really ask Jeffery Dahmer if it’s a myth
@@YoishalhalAnd that wasn’t even with women nor children. That was with men.
@@Jus4fun-mg5xg yes and no, one of his youngest victims was only 14. He convinced the cops that the child was his lover after he drilled a hole in his head and he almost escaped 😢
This public defender is so unprofessional she should be investigated for her unethical behavior. Possibly disbarred. Public defender office in SF is well known for their unethical behaviors well documented for decades. Former DA Chesa Boudin is a prime example of the “fine” products from SF public defender office. We need to defund or get rid of public defenders office
The one thing that the abuser uses that works the best, is feeling sorry for him. This public defender knows that , she's a manipulator, but it only takes a little bit, in a victim of DV, to get her guard down and feel sorry for her abuser. This woman tried to break her resolve to get away over and over. Then tried to manipulate the jury. She's gross.
I will do further research on Chesa Boudin. Thank you!
This is another upsetting reason why so many perpetrators of DV go unpunished under the law and supports the statistics that only 2% of DV abusers ever get sentenced and or imprisoned for their crimes.
The victim's life is at risk the moment he gets out of jail. The public defender fell prey to his manipulation. The public defenders boss should be fired along with her .Both of them should be disbarred.
@@Wmuthonil
Sounds like the defendant charmed his defender.
Exactly.
EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED!!!! She needs help.
Thank you!
He’s gonna get some special loving no matter where he goes, people do nasty things to woman beaters😎
Bingo
Attorney trying to sway jurors with drinks 😑what a mess
Is San Francisco after all no surprises
Probably trying to Bribe them
I’ve been on many juries over the years. I’ve never had any attorney offer to buy jurors drinks
Wth
@@emilyfeagin2673How do you keep getting on juries? I thought you're picked at random
I can’t even count how many times my ex was arrested for DV. I’m 5’4 120 pounds he was 6’5 279 pounds I had no chance. Every call was dismissed, every court case he was slapped on the wrist n told to do anger management classes which he never completed. The time before the last I told that cop if they didn’t keep him, the next time they came to my house they would find my body. Sure enough 4 days later he flips out over a corn dog (yes a corn dog) leaves, comes back 6 hours later smashed drunk. I was 38 weeks pregnant and after he started hitting me that night I tried to leave, all I really remember was calling 911 but he ripped the phone cord out the wall then took out his pocketknife and started stabbing me.
I woke up 3 weeks later in ICU no longer pregnant with my jaw wired shut (he broke lots of bones in my face) stabbed me 17 times, slit my throat and was choking me when the cops busted the door down.
That same cop was the one who arrested him and he only got 8 years for 2 counts of attempted murder, wire tapping, false imprisonment…the charges went on n on. Then, while he was in prison would make deals w inmates (his dad was rich n put tons of $ on his books) these inmates would find me, harass me, it went on n on n on.
I finally had to leave my son with a relative in a different state, then I left to live in a different state w friends n family for 4 years. After I came back home and got my son his dad hired a PI to find me and the harassment started all over again. PD did nothing, the prison system did nothing, the only reason I’m still here is soon after he got out of prison he overdosed and died, but he would of been after me until the very end. It’s a nightmare. I’m glad she got out, I just hope she remains safe when he’s free. 😢
Wow. Amazing what we endure
I’m happy you’re still here and glad life got him back in the end. Stay safe.❤
Talk about a lucky break.
And on the bright side, your son can finally have a normal childhood as well.
Your story is important and all young women need to hear it. All people (not only young women) need to think about their boundaries re: behaviour of others. Please get any trauma healing you think you need. You are valuable. All blessings for a happy and healthy life.
Wow that was deep!! I am so sorry you went through that!! Thank you for sharing!! I’m so proud of you for having the courage to leave!!!
Soooo many people are watching this and will find strength to leave violence. This is a hard but amazing step forward. Much respect and love to the victim 😭❤️.
Godspeed to all victims of domestic violence.
Men are victims too. These victims… Are not always victims….ive been assaulted by women and seen women assaulting men, the F around and they find out. These stories are to only discredit men. Never will you hear how evil woman can be. Women poisoning partners, pushing partners off of buildings. These stories one sided with the microscope only on one person is stealing the full story.
AMEN!!! ❤❤❤
He literally told her to leave. She refused. She knows how he is. I been in domestic violent situations. I would have took that opportunity to leave.
2:34
Ladies! Being single with lovely cats will always be better than this! Never feel bad or down about being single. ❤ your peace is so precious!
AMEN!!!!!
Being a Cat Lady is Lonely, Y’all be Stalking Dating Apps FRFR but be having the Best Kitty tho 🥰
@@ZPMBTV Being a single cat lady is far from lonely. It’s the most peaceful life a woman could ever dream of having. Bottom line is, cats are a million times better than being with a man. Don’t be upset because women no longer want to deal with the male species.😂
@@ZPMBTV Lonely is better than being beaten and battered
@@AgainstLife1000 : of course but it’s a million Good men out here looking for a Good Wife that don’t beat Women and most Women Will choose the Bad Guy or to be lonely with a Cat… I’m a Therapist so I know what’s going on.
Dan and the I-Team, great job on this story. I especially like the breakdown of the issues against the public defender. It made it easier to follow and understand. I hope they charge her. Brave of Jordana to share her story.
This type of reporting gives me hope in journalism. A1 sauce.
as another survivor she is so inspiring to me for opening up about the horrific abuse she faced at the hands of that vile oxygen thief
My heart goes out to the victim. It is appalling what she had to endure especially from the public defender.
Then she talks about him being a pos drunk that beat her , she was voluntarily staying with her possible killer, i see what her dad did there, he did the ultimate insult my making him the mockery of the night by telling that she had been caught when she was a teen talking to an older man, he basically told him "you're not the 1st old dude she has been interested in", since didn't wanted to leave him her dad figure that by exposing her in front of everyone would do the trick and it did work, almost cost her life, I wouldn't ever humiliate & trigger a man that way, that's insanely dangerous, but I reckon her dad didn't saw any other way.
WOW Karl that is a really deep analogy of the situation here psychology speaking. That said could it also be that green eye monster called Jealousy? Karl he is my theory. I please correct me if am wrong and would appreciate your input on this matter. The two of them meet some where somehow and got together and had sex and then started to live together like a normal couple. but in the back of his mind there was that one question that bugged him on a daily basis. Here it is... If she would have sex with me who she did not really know that well. could she not have sex with someone else? @@karlwalter2242 💥💥💥💥💥☢☢⛑⛑👮♂🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🚒🚒🚒🚒 I see this alllll the time Karl.. noting new here , move one please......
Ilona Solomon Yanez (she/her/Ella)
2:34 she refused to leave.
Abused wo.en are not in their right minds. Like saying a man with a broken leg refused to dance. @@Jahairalove84
Glad she got out of that relationship. Brave of her to stand up to him. Thanks to that teenager who called the cops. I appreciate longer form reports about issues like these. Thank you Dan & abc 7.
She would have NEVER stood up to him on her own. He would have unalived her and gotten away with it. The thing that saved her was the teenagers calling the police.
It's good that the police have body cameras to see what happened. Imagine walking into a situation where the victim was all bloody. Im glad that the teenage girl called police and saved her. He could have killed her. Thank You for sharing your story. Hopefully it gives courage for ppl to leave these types of situations.
Truth is that people need HELP to leave. It's not as easy as just finding "courage" as if it's some mind over matter thing. Usually, some sort of financial obstacle is often the biggest barrier. Or, perhaps these DV victims may have children which unfortunately ties them to the trash crap abuser often at least until the kid(s) are adults. Of course, how about people just don't go carelessly screwing around with trash crap like that guy in this video who is hopefully staying in jail! Too bad he wasn't caught sooner! It's as if the DV victim needs to have cameras on at all times to catch evidence.
Kudos to these police who figured out what was happening, saw the scratches, looked for her behind the door and found her. It’s unreal how easily police don’t pay enough attention or the victim is guaranteed to get blamed instead of paid attention to.
Yepp. Domestic violence is the most dangerous calls. The most cause of deaths for cops 😢
A Life sentence? Give him TWO!
Smarr cops they knew his scratches meant something!
Yes cops were not fooled.
Exactly!!
Those teenage girls are literal heros. I had something similar happen to me about a decade ago and I called out for help when I saw a couple walking down the street. It was the middle of the day and they were pushing a baby stroller. My abuser wasn’t allowing me to leave my house and when he realized what I was doing he grabbed my hair and slammed my head into the window before dragging me back inside. This couple stood there watching me and did absolutely nothing; they didn’t even call the police to check on me. I eventually did send him to jail but he only got a sentence of a few months since there were no witnesses willing to come forward.
First they fuck up your mind, then they fuck up your body.
They use terror and love in a cycle meant to confuse you and make it very hard to see up from down.
His excuses and pleadings always left me feeling bad for him, and i thought i owed him another chance. Until i finally ended up at a women's shelter. In group therapy, i listened to horrific stories of other women in their abusive relationships. One got choked against the wall, but just like me, she thought he deserved another chance. Her thinking was as messed up as mine, but it was so much clearer to me in her story than in my own, that it was crazy for her to go back.
I slowly began to see that all of us women had the same story, we kept falling for their lie that they loved us.
And we kept going back to the familiar, because it was better than the women's shelter or anywhere else, and we kept thinking he would change. We believed like a cult member believes.
I finally committed to myself that no matter what he said or did, i was going to walk away, toward the dark scary road ahead. And i made it. And it really wasn't so scary after all. It was so much better!
And that’s what the government wants. They want to destroy the house hold, mislead men and women. You can take a class on sex ed but not on how to take care of a relationship. Think about that if you really care about the topic.
thank you for sharing.
Very glad that you and the subject of the video made it out. I hope that your words, and this video inspire others. ❤
I'm so happy for you. ❤
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Raju is super inappropriate in his behavior, and this whole story is disturbing... we need an evaluation of our justice system here in SF or sure... Raju and Yanez probably needs to find different jobs that better suits their questionable morals.. As a long time resident of this city, I am deeply troubled by what I see here.. we have a chronic problem of not enough justice in this city, and I am getting a glimpse into the inadequacies of the oversight that can only be explained by many years of neglect and abuse.
I agree you have a point. But I hate it when an employer intrudes on someone's private life. My private life is mine alone.
My supervisor once warned me about appearing in public with my girlfriend at the time, b/c his boss was very conservative, and moralistic, and the sight of us holding hands would be damaging to my career. It made my girlfriend mad. It made me feel I was being watched or followed. Employers documenting and restricting employees' private lives is very bad news.
Attorney conducted herself so inappropriately in so many ways.
That’s so scary that she was willing to hide when police came and also said nothing about the events that transpired. :(
She didn't hide on her own will. She was told to hide by her abuser. She was in fear of her abuser that she did what he said.
@@PanameraTurboSEHybrid yes it's scary to see the psychological hold an abusive person can have over another
2:34 she refused to leave.
@@Jahairalove84abused and scared for her life.
I know it's like....if she didn't do what he said then for sure he'd kill her.
My husband had a horrendous childhood, hasn't seen his father since he was 15, when my husband left home.
He's never hurt me, not one time. Never hit me, etc.
I get tired of defense attorneys using that excuse. This pos is a grown man, not an 18 year old. Time to put that behind you.
It sounds like there was something torrid between that public defender and the domestic abuser.
Thank God for that teenager!!!❤❤❤. And thank God honestly for the police who kept looking for her and were insistent on finding the truth!❤️. They all saved her life.💜
Yes God saved her life through those people.
@@nr1785gods don't exist.
2:34 she refused to leave.
Your god also created the monster that abused this beautiful lady. Nice god you have there.
This public pretender should be fired and disbarred!! This conduct is crazy.
I work as a victim advocate and if you're a domestic violence victim just know that you have right when it comes through defense attorneys (Marsy's rights) to refuse an interview, deposition, or discovery request by the defendant, the defendant’s attorney, or any other person acting on behalf of the defendant, and to set reasonable conditions on the conduct of any such interview to which the victim consents
@lp4ju Do you understand this sentence of “7 years to life”? I think 20 or 25 is the lowest number I’ve ever heard attached to the phrase “to life.” This doesn’t make a lot of sense to me & im wondering if it really just means that he’ll be out in 7.
@saraohara2504 it essentially means that 7 years is the minimum amount of time he'll serve before going to the parole. Parole would need to be approved for him to get out at 7 years if not then he stays in prison
@@lp4juWe can only hope that parole will be denied for this brute.
Thank you for sharing you hard earned knowledge with us.
Was the public defender "involved" with her client ?
I'm thinking yes.
Sounds like it.
I really don't think so I really, really don't. He woman that was abused. She was intelligent enough to know that she wouldn't even have wanted to have another relationship at that point I just think that the emotional.
G dealings that they had to deal with. I mean, my gosh, it's just, it brings. It brings a bond of an emotional bond when you're in a healing situation like that, and in a case like this, the lawyer in the client you know, we're all human beings here. It's not uncommon for 2 people in any situation. To have their heart strings pulled. And here I mean, look at the state that the world is in. I meanit's already overwhelming. I mean, I don't know God help us all.
@@barbaranocente1629 Wow, it was very hard to understand whatever the hell you just wrote!! Work on your grammar please!
Say what now???? Sis, please delete and try again. @barbaranocente1629
Thank you for being so brave and for sharing your story. I’m a victim of DV and I’m a guy. The physical part is just the tip of the iceberg. The emotional abuse goes on 100% of the time. Watching this was triggering but I owe it to her for being so brave. I wasn’t so brave myself. I actually went to the court case and helped to get her charges reduced. Her ex is one huge POS.
I will never understand people like you. Trying to get her off the hook is just demented.
@@floriansailer7887you're demented for saying something so ignorant! Sounds like you have no idea how domestic violence works and the psychological impact the abuser has on the victim
@@floriansailer7887You should read into it, it really is crazy. The same reasons why you don't fight back and why you stay are the same reasons you process to grieve your abuser's misfortunes.
@@floriansailer7887 Because a victim is always made to feel that they’re the cause of all the problems in the first place. Yes, it doesn’t make sense.
He told her to leave. She should have taken that opportunity and left.
This is so sad. 😢 I hope she gets her justice
Poor Woman, now She's Traumatized not going to Trust another Man
again and having a hard time dating, So Sorry She got into a Toxic Relationship
This happened to me close to it I got bruises on my face and on my back bottom. I am in a relationship and have a son. She will find peace as long as he is in prison for life.
She will. I was abused with my first real adult relationship, very similar to her but I had hard things thrown at me like my face cream it gave me a black eye. Oh you wanna look pretty lol. I laugh now because he’s insane. But after his first touch I stopped respecting him internally and couldn’t and didn’t want to be sexual with him so it was easier for me to walk away(I made my own $ too thank god).. after a couple of punches I would hit back, then I couldn’t even stand looking at his face.. ugghhh.. and broke up and left… he chased me, went back for I don’t know a week and I couldn’t stand looking at him, he was repulsive to me.
Inappropriate behavior by the defender. I'm so sorry this happened to you, Jordana. Thank you for sharing your story.
Both MANO RAJU and ILONA YANEZ need to be removed immediately from public office for their breach of ethics
They both should be disbarred and the DA needs to do her job and file criminal charges against Yanez.
I agree. There’s nothing sexist about making an observation of how inappropriate she was. You’re telling me she sobs like that for all her clients? Give me a break!
I’m so proud of her for telling her story. Wow.
Another reason age gap relationship is a red flag.
Well said
Was abt to say the same.
Are you suggesting that most age gap relationships are abusive? Or if not most, that abuse is statistically higher in them than in other relationships?
Thank you God, for placing that brave teenager in front of her house! I can remember feeling shamed in court. This has to change.
Amen
God didn't do a damn thing.
I was shamed in therapy. I changed therapist and it happened again and again......I hope and pray more education is given about this topic.
May the victim continue to heal. Thanks to her for her courage in sharing her story. Smart of her to document, and so much pressure to have to deal with the public defender.
Yeah that documentation was On Point.
My heart is racing watching this. i can’t stop crying for jordana, this is beyond fucked up, brutal, evil.
jordana, if you’re reading through the comments i would like to tell you something.
you are the one of strongest women i’ve ever seen and i can’t imagine being as strong as you were in this attack. sending you LOVE❤
This guy was actually threatened by her texting a guy WHEN SHE WAS 13. Dude there is no capacity for mature decisionmaking at 13 and there can be no legitimate relationship between a grown adult and a child. So he’s really telling on himself by assigning that level of sexual agency to a 13yo being preyed upon by a disgusting adult criminal. This shows how violence and a rapey mentality go hand in hand. I’m so glad she survived this prk.
Abusers don't really care about that stuff, they are just looking for an excuse to abuse
@@saratemp790 I agree! You breathe funny and they will figure out how to twist that into a big fight in order to hurt you. It’s insidious.
Shame on his public defender!
What a disgusting person she is!
Poor girl (the victim) and this dude should stay in prison!
Nope.
🚩Yanez bought Juror drinks at the bar & told them because of their verdict he'd be looking at life sentence & got them to write letters to go easy on him afterwards ⁉️& Then Yanez cried in court to the point where she couldn't hardly speak clearly ⁉️ how is that professional ⁉️
If any of that is true - except for the sobbing - It's clearly unprofessional - but nothing new for her.
Exactly disgusting and unprofessional. He might have slept with her, or he charmed her socks off.???!!!
I was just being a dv victim, and because my injury were minor, the only thing I got is the 5 years restraining against him. He wasn’t even charge for felony robbery either. He is sentenced with a misdemeanor probation.
I feel like seven years is not enough he should be sentenced to life in prison with zero chance parole
He should be charged with attempted murder, torture, kidnapping(locked the door and made her hide) 😢
Relax, he didn't kill anybody
@@keifer7813 he sure tried to kill her! She survived because someone called the police and he had to stop his brutal attack. Do you see the body cam video? This woman was completely covered in blood
@@AnaDiaz-wz4cf No, that's just assault. There is no evidence that he tried to kill her. If I get into a street fight and leave the other guy's face all bloody, does that mean I should be charged with attempted murder? Lol let's not be ridiculous
It's assault or battery.
@@AnaDiaz-wz4cf Don’t bother with them. They’re also commenting “why didn’t she leave?” They would’ve gotten the answer if they watched the whole video.
I'm so proud of this young lady that finally broke free of this malicious abuser that she was brainwashed by for years. Telling her story is so valuable in changing domestic violence sentencing.
Praise God that teenager called the police.
That creature is a pure monster. And so is the public defender he had.
The victim is brave for sharing her story.
On average it takes 7 times of leaving before a victim leaves for good. There are so many obstacles, lack of money, can’t afford hosing, low self confidence caused by the abuser, etc. But still please leave and stay away, the struggles of leaving is better than being abused.
Please also remember abuse is not only physical. There is verbal, emotional, psychological, sexual and financial abuse. There have been many cases of a man being abusive for many years, even decades but never using physical violence, until one day he did and it was fatal on his victim. Women you deserve better. You deserve love. You deserve safety.
God didn't do a damn thing.
Your god also created the monster that abused this beautiful lady. Nice god you have there.
Agreed, and ditto for men. Men should not have to put up with punches, insults, threats, blaming, public put downs, unending complaining, etc. Better to confront the witch and her behaviour, and leave or divorce early if there is no improvement. Because life is short.
You have got to be kidding! This is not only unethical, it is unprofessional, and misguided! Was she involved with him? This is unbelievable!
He lied to police. He made Jordana hide. How about obstruction? Yanez should be forced into therapy and/or lose her job. There wasn’t only one crossing the line.
12:11 wow! That attorney should be disbarred, brought up on extortion charges and tampering with a witness! What a wretched woman! Email and call that DA! DEMAND JUSTICE!
The second that they disrespect you, make you feel uncomfortable, put you down, call you any kind of critical or offensive names, lie to you, or show any kind of violence to anyone or anything, LEAVE! The longer you wait, the worse it's going to get. Get out while you can.
💯💯💯
Let me tell you when I finally escaped my kidnapper the cop called me and said “but he is so in love with you” just trying got soften the crime - this is totally real people this problem is real
OMG this lady broke every rule, code of conduct, ethics in the book that is supposed to be upheld.
ABC7 I-Team did a great job on this investigation. SF public defenders office lacks transparency and is a hot mess.
It’s safe to say the lawyer had sex with her client and was given a night she never forgot that’s why she was acting a fool
That’s the only thing that makes sense lol
For real. She was crying that hard because she was mourning at the thought of not being able to experience that again.
Right?! She was the one that was obsessed and kept going back for more, I can't believe she said that about the victim. She seemed jealous of her
Thank you ABC 7 for the excellent investigative reporting! Ms. Yanez's behavior needs to be dragged into the sunlight. 😡
Showing this case is of immeasurable value for Domestic Violence Survivors for them to seek professional support for domestic violence victims.
Those teens were in the right place at the right time. They helped this lady! Thank goodness these teens called 911.
I have know so many girls in my life in relationships like this. It's so hard for them to actually get help it's dam near impossible. Cops don't do anything. My ex got harassed, assaulted, stalked for over 7 years by her ex. We tried to get help for 7 years and all we got was excuses. Cops had emails, phone calls, from him. All they did was tell him to stay away. And all that did was make him more dangerous. It's like they give these guys a huge window of time to kill the other person. Then when they are dead the cops are finally ready to help. They cops make the famela feel like they are the guilty ones. doctors even. It's crazy. He eventually. Went to her job in the middle of the day in Berkeley , caught her coming back from lunch, called her threatened her. She locked up her office. And this guy jumps through a huge glass window in the front of the building grabs her chokes her almost to death . Before lucky for her some cops happens to be walking buy and her the screams and saved her . Even after all that he did not ever get any serious jail time. He made or life hell for years. She was scared to leave the house for work , school, to walk to her car. Or go wash they need to get better laws to help women in these situations. And to press charges against any officers or people who make comments about it being your fault. The people who's job it is the help you should not be making you feel worse.
With you guys the best and thank you for sharing your story.
Lol blames cops….”being choked to death” thankfully there was cops nearby.
Cops aren’t responsible for sentencing. Vote in a better DA at your county level.
I agree with you mostly but to say that anyone victim-blaming should be charged is a little ridiculous lol
@@keifer7813I dunno. Maybe they should as it's a verbal assault a d their cops and she was a victim. Maybe they should be.
EVERYONE needs to email Brooke Jenkins and beg her to file sanctions against that Public Defender. What a terrible human.
This woman is SO lucky to be alive, y'all. For real. Prayers for healing and strength and prayers she is never in a DV relationship ever again.
Public Defender is unbelievable. When he thre her clothes out the window, it was her opportunity to leave his sorry azz. Good that she was able to leave and now have a happy life.
Public defender practically said she was asking for it. You know you are shit at your job when you need to take such low blows
I am happy that reports like this are being shown. My heart stopped when I saw the footage of the abuse. People need to stop ignoring that this happens and report it.
She had her way out when he told her to leave...she should have left and gone to her parent's home. When he told her to return upstairs I knew she was in trouble. He's a douchebag bully. My husband would abuse me but he could never fight back against a man...both my uncles and my father beat the crap out of him when they saw me with bruises (I told them), and not once did he throw a punch. He left the house and tried to return a year later by breaking into my apartment but SURPRISE I was with my boyfriend. He got beat by my boyfriend and I beat him with a bat...He never bothered me again. There were several reasons I did not leave 1. I thought if I treated him nicer he would change, 2. I thought if I were a better wife he would be a better husband...here's the problem narcissistic bullies DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOU - they only care about themselves.
You were also in an abusive relationship where you stayed, why would you even say,” she had her way out when he told her to leave… she should have left and gone to her parents house.” I find that very judgmental when you yourself stayed in an abusive relationship when you also could have left and maybe did, but returned. She too I’m sure had reasons for staying, but it just felt like you were blaming her.
@@mindaelliott9576
Yeah I sense that too
I knew a very wealthy woman who could not escape her violent Mafia husband. I asked her, if she was so wealthy, why didn't she get her own place? She said she's ben so brainwashed, she believes he will always find her, and possibly kill her. No one ever forgets abuse like this. It follows an abused person their whole life.
My sister was killed, you're lucky you made it out alive
Oh my god…. I’m so sorry to hear that, sending you love
@@jordanacahen8972wishing you well ❤️
So very sorry about your sis ter😢...❤
@@thatisabsolutelykooooge2211 thank you ❤
Thank you Jordana for sharing your story. The teenage girl and her friends who called the cops? Well done, well done.
Omg her face. Goosebumps.
poor girl!! i am so sorry this happened to you. thank you for sharing your story
Well done news report. I’m curious why no one in the victim’s apt bldg called 911, yet the screaming victim could be heard outside? I find it very strange that an attorney would sob in court; it’s not as if she had two years before trial to get to know him, and what educated woman would sob for a POS that batters the woman he (supposedly) loves? And obviously, you don’t have to pass the bar to know not to fraternize with jurors after the fact. I’m shocked the boss would even defend her behavior.
What a brave young lady. All the best to her to heal physically and emotionally. We need to FIRE this public defender!!
Brooke Jenkins thank you for protecting domestic violence survivors
I’m crying! So sad! I’m glad she shared this with the world.
Seems like the lawyer fell in love with her client. She comes across completely unprofessional.
The worst part is when his friends laugh at us for being "triggered" or "ungrateful."
My dad was like this. And there's a lot of long-term effects to it. They put in a lot of effort to keep someone from being their own person.
And we're usually punished for expressing our own emotions. We're not allowed to cry. Even with all the pain and stress that happened.
That teenage girl is a hero. An angel sent for that woman
Yea that dude needs to rot in prison
The actions of that public defender are despicable and disgusting, to say the least. Lets hope she doesnt ever feel the trauma of an abusive relationship/marriage.
Jordana im so proud of the warrior you are ❤ thank you for being so brave
So glad this strong woman survived. Those teenagers really saved her. Please disbar Yanez. She's disgusting and unethical. Raju is just as bad.
Some will never know the trauma of fight or flight, being told to leave your apartment isn’t easy. It’s easy to say she could have left, but if you have never been in an abusive relationship you can’t say how someone should or shouldn’t respond. I thank her for sharing!
I second this. The fear that I had was having to sleep on the street.
Not everyone has friends or family to turn to.
💯💯 plus a lot of times it's worse when you do leave in that context bc you'll get punished for it and likely found and forced to go back to way worse abuse
Absolutely delighted he got a 7 - Life sentence. He's a menace. And that public defender should realize how lucky she is as she might have been his next victim.
The real victim is the cat. The cat is innocent. The cat should be adopted by a loving family.
I commend her because even to this day, even though I got out of mine I haven't been able to take him to court and get him charged. She is definitely strong. God bless her
Sounds like the public defender had a HUGE crush on Antonio.
I'm so sorry for this woman and so proud of her for standing strong❤️
That public defender has serious issues to work on and needs to lose her job. Terrifying.
Seems like she didn't want to go home after the initial attack due to embarrassment. It is humiliating to go back home and admit being abused by a man you just brought to dinner with your family. But these victims have to make the best decisions for their life. Very sad though that she felt more embarrassed that she would have to explain this situation to her parents than to flee this guy when he brought her bags down.
Yep! Perps ability to restrain himself from hitting her in front of witnesses and that he chose to amp up the violence right after a family dinner points to this being calculated as part of his plan.
People unfamiliar with the toxic power dynamic in relationships like these, always react the same: "Ok if it was so bad....why did you stay?" They really do not grasp how helpless, immobilized and victimized the woman becomes over the passage of time spent in that environment. And also how she can be paralyzed into INACTION.
Thank you. I was going crazy looking through the comments of people arguing with the "y didnt U leeve?" crowd. I hate when people come to videos about domestic violence to blame the victim and act like it's cute to feign ignorance about fear, terrorization, and manipulation because they lack the empathy to put themselves in her shoes. I noticed this usually only happens with female victims. Male victims, although not nearly as common, still get showered with support in the comments. No one calls them weak because the "inherent nature of his female abuser" doesn't need to be questioned along with his decision to stay, yet female DV survivors, despite being the more vulnerable sex, are still interrogated and made to relive their abuse time and time again. The misogyny festering in this world is insane.
Praise God for the people who called the police on this monster!! He needs Jesus & lots of prayer...
Your god also created the monster that abused this beautiful lady. Nice god you have there.
Thank you for being brave enough to tell your story.. I am a survivor of domestic violence & abuse myself & did not have a good outcome with the courts because I didn’t have enough money for a good lawyer or get enough admissible evidence & part of me was filled with fear of him killing me or destroying my career, good name, & hurting my family & dropping my pets off the side of a road like he said. & I haven’t been able to get back on my feet going through intense C-PTSD from the physical abuse & suffocations & fear he instilled in me & he took EVERYTHING from me & continued to use the legal system to abuse me for 2 more years. I would LOVE to have just spoken my truth from the beginning & stood up for myself & had him face the consequences of his actions but he made me believe that no one would believe me & that he had more money & connections in our career field that he could destroy me & then he’d show me he could take me to the brink of death again & again & he had full control. But I also loved him & he’d shift in & out of these modes like he was possessed & other times he was loving & kind & all the things you could want in a partner & it all just keeps you spinning around in a tornado of his making & you’d see in the center was a black hole of a person who had no empathy, love, & at times humanity but you’d only see that for a second before he spit you back out into the chaos. Sometimes he’d play the role of storm shelter & make you feel safe & cared for before he’d maniacally laugh &swing the doors open to be sucked right back up. But since he was the only one providing safety at alllll, you begin to be forced to rely on him for your only moments of relief from the situation..
I truly hope you continue to grow, heal, & thrive & eventually that monster will hold no power over you. Hopefully justice & speaking the truth has begun that process & I hope one day I can get justice & get my voice back as well. I just hope we can find a way to stop this from happening FOREVER. & I think with technology watching us going forward, we will have safety in that because only those who can hide can be evil. Exposure is their worst fear. & YOU MADE HIM FACE HIMSELF.. I am sooo inspired & have hope that the more people like you can be unashamed of being abused the more people will begin to understand.
& screw people who tell us “why didn’t we leave?” Cause in leaving you are 10x more likely to die, cause they do everything they can to force you to be dependent on them like being involved with work with them, cause they threaten everything they know they can in your life & that they have shown you they can follow through with those threats, because usually you have a sick kind of love there still because they are soooooooo goooooood at manipulation & also truthfully they suffer sooooo deeply it’s unreal but empathy means weakness to them so it’s better not to go there but it’s hard as a good person not to have it or believe love can change a person who can not accept any of it, & because usually they have money/financial holds over their victims & power that goes beyond the physical to actually hurt your life with. They also looooveee to isolate you from your family & friends & make you lie for them & distrust your mind & the world. It’s like being in a Cult of 2 & the cult leader started off nice & one day you wake up & there’s a gun to your head & they are taking ANYTHING THEY WANT & you have to agree to SURVIVE. But your mind plays tricks on you also to survive because if it didn’t you’d probably had killed yourself being that TRAPPED. But WE DID SURVIVE & it’s BEAUTIFUL to see someone trying to help the rest of women still out there feel seen & heard & have something to hope for..
Thank you. Thank you sooooo sooo much.
Sounds like the monster had Yanez u der his spell...🫤
Prayerfully this young lady is on her way to overall healing from the inside to the outside. Thank her for the courage to share.
Seeing the blood running down her face took me right back to the times my "partner(s)" (yes, unfortunately, I've found myself in relationships with men who were not the good guys they pretended to be, and ultimately i ended up learning who they were when their masks dropped and attacked me multiple times) horrifically abused me. The taste of blood in your mouth dripping from my nose or a gash on my face/head is horrible. The difficulty seeing once the blood thats leaking out of my head somewhere ends up getting into my eyes makes the assaults so much more terrifying because it damn near blinds you, making escape extremely difficult, if not just simply not possible. I held it together until she started uncontrollably sobbing with the police snd emts. I have never forgotten the emotions on the faces of the emergency responders that were called. That part in the video is almost certainly her lowest point in her entire life. That moment is when fight or flight or freeze turns off and the reality of it all comes crashing down all at once. The confusion, heartbreak, betrayal, paired with the excrutiating physical pain of her injuries, and then just the shock of having her entire world change so drastically in just an instant feels like being hit by several freight trains all at one time. Then, realizing that it was all at the hands of the man who is supposed to love and protect her? Its such a massive blow to a persons entire existence. I pray she continues to heal from this and i wish her nothing but love and happiness, THE REAL KIND, in her life. That man is a monster and i truly pray he suffers brutally every single day of the remainder of his sorry ass life. What a waste of air that thing is. His dirtbag lawyer too. I wish them nothing but pain, suffering, failure, and loss. Forever and ever. ❤
Reading your message made me cry :( I know exactly what you mean...that taste and smell and sensation of your own blood... then seeing yourself afterwards...it is something I can't forget. And yes, you worded the emotions of that moment where I was found perfectly. Thank you for your kind words... I am so, so sorry that you had to experience anything similar, no one deserves to go through something like that. I hope you are doing much, much better now, sending love
@jordanacahen8972 Thank you for taking the time to respond. It really means a lot ❤️ I am doing much better now, thankfully. Although it's been years since I went through that, it's something that sticks around, you know? After going through these things, it becomes almost imprinted on us in a way. Whenever we are reminded, the memories of the times we were in the middle of it all suddenly flood back to us, and in such clear detail, too. It's such a wild feeling every time there's a memory, so visceral, it almost feels like it could be happening in that moment, but that's what this sort of trauma does to us. I think that the best we can do with the trauma, both for ourselves and other victims, is to channel it in a way that can help bring awareness to the reality of it all. The more people this content reaches, the better because that is where change becomes possible. Keep doing what you're doing because it truly is making a difference ❤️
We as older women who were young and been in relationships like this. We need to help , protect and educate younger women who get into relationships like this. That attorney of his is sick in the head.. and obviously she is jealous of the victim due to her age. They always keep thinking that these younger women are just gold-digging in these age gap relationships. When that is the furthest from the truth. They get into these relationships just like any vulnerable woman of any age would through manipulation and lies.