I really needed to hear this. I am in my second year of college and I find myself conforming to the laziness of others i.e not going library and wasting my free blocks. I really need to stop this BS and get my head down. I really dont want to slack off and I want to be somewhere large in my life. I need to stop the poverty cycle going on in my family and the only way to do that is to study and get these grades. I constantly find myself gossiping and talking BS, I engage in stupidity on a daily basis and I KNOW that I am engaging in stupidity but I shrug it off... THANK YOU Courtney!!! I will continue my journey to success and stop engaging in stupidity. Continue with your amazing content.
I like that she's not preaching unrealistically she says it how it is and she gives relevant details honestly your way of speech and your ability to communicate with others is terrifyingly good
That point at 3:45 is so true. People always want me to believe I'm stupid so when I work and get A*s they suddenly want my help. I have dreams to study at cambridge, I'm working hard every night so I can get A/A*s in my subjects, I'm always listening in lessons, I ask teachers questions but people really want to put me down sometimes. I really have no time for haters. When I'm at a good uni they can really be left behind because they spent their time joking around in lesson and they try and call me 'snake'😑
Courtney Daniella I have cut off people who also put people down for their aspirations. So what if someone wants to do an apprenticeship? So what if someone isn't as academically smart as you? It is hard cutting off people but I would rather have no friends that be surrounded by ignorant people
Naomi Ssempa you are anything but a snake. You know how to prioritise and I don't know you personally but I'm proud of you. Your determination, motivation and ambition is so admirable 💕
You do not even knowwwwwwwwwwwwwww how much this inspired me to go for my ambitions of being an orthopedic surgeon. Many a time my 'friends' have told me that the grades will not come through or they will refuse me because I am not a typical candidate and I used to believe them and literally dumbed myself down just to feel like they would accept me. Now I will strive for the stars and beyond because like you said nobody has got you like God has got you. Thank you so much x
Tenecia Namusabi-Kwagala nobody's got you like how God's got you!! And yes girl go ahead and chase that and become an orthopaedic surgeon! One of the best in fact ❤️✨
I never knew other people felt the same way about outgrowing friends. A flower truly can't bloom in the dark. The "You're Moving Mad", "Snake" thing is so true. I really needed to hear this. You're such an inspiration x
So real! Honestly, I've stopped seeking approval from people. All I need to do is follow God and he will guide me, he will encourage me, he will enable me to grow. Doesn't mean I wont love people, I'll never stop loving people but I wont be expecting much from them because frankly as human beings we are limited by this thing called flesh. Jealousy, insecurities, hate will always show up. Just have to keep it moving and keep one's eye on the bigger goal !
This was something I really needed to hear as I've recently drifted apart from so Many friends but I'm better off without them . Thankyou for making me feel okay about the situation ❤😊❤
God really knew I’d need this 4 years later because this is what I am going through right now. Just graduated from the university & wheww the struggle is real. Your wisdom and words in this video are truly a blessing.. thank you for sharing sis!!🥺✨
I literally have had many 'friends' laugh at me and indirectly tell me that i'm not good enough to go to where I want to go. It seriously broke me at the time, but now I'm rising above it and working to get to where I want to be. :)
I needed this! And hearing the obvious that God has our back regardless of the reaction or opinion of others which happens to be prevalent at that moment in time needs to be ejected at once! It’s ok to moved forward alone or with out others approval. It’s empowering to be strong and to step out of your comfort zone to seek like minded people. Thank God for strength...🖤
I can relate to this so much. I’m a sophomore in college and in 2019, i can honestly say i have learned so much about friendships. Im learning what i need in a friend and not just sticking to what im used to while being comfortable. i have falling out with few and gotten back coolwith one. on friends, im getting very protective of myself and my mind of just who i let in bc i dont always want to hear certain things anymore or the local gossip or always always always going out to the club. 😭 its very uncomfortable from time to time but i learning to love myself and be comfortable with myself. 2020 has me with a very different outlook on my social circle and i honestly dont know what will happen with that but its all for the better.
Amen, amen, amen! Something else I also had to realize as I was yelling out "Yaaaaaas": Am I also supporting other people that have goals, too? Am I scoffing at their goals because they aren't "realistic", but I can prance around and hustle for my goals? I make it more of an effort in recent years to always uplift others that are legitimate with their goals. The road to success is a two way street: having good people around you and you also being good to others. Never only one. I'm adding this video to my favorites. ❤️❤️
THANK YOU SOOOOOO MUCH !!! I have pretty big dreams, academic wise for my future, but I am dyslexic so people are always putting me down, telling not to get my hopes up, that I won't be able to do it.But I really want to achieve this dream of mine very much, I do have to work twice as hard as the other students in the class , just to even scrape half of their grades , but I had motivation from the start and never gave in and now I am one of the top in my class.So if I can do it , the rest of you can , don't give up on your dreams YOU CAN DO IT!! :)
Siobhan O'Neill well done! I'm dyslexic too, so I know the struggle. But I graduated uni by God's grace so all really is possible. Well done again & keep up the hard work x
I just want to let you know how much I loooove your videos! Keep it up girl you don't see how much these kind of videos help young people like myself. God bless yourself and your future plans. Your truly a motivation to me.
Thank you sooooooo much for uploading this video! I am only 15yrs old and this video is so accurate to certain things that's been going on in my life. i haven't been making the best decisions and i do believe it's because of the people i've been surrounding myself with and i ironically came across this video and it really made sense to me. i honestly believe that god sent me to this video for clarification and understanding and i now know what changes need to be made. I just really thank you for sharing your wise words and i hope god continues to bless up❤️!
5 years after this video was released it ended up on my recommended page and i rly needed to hear this!! lately i have lost a lot of friends because we are on different paths and i didn't agree with some of their actions (drug use, etc) and it hurt, but this video helped me remember that i have to lose some things if they are holding me back. thank u so much!!
It is so important for people to realise what is within their reach, and to provide themselves with the means to obtain whatever they aim to achieve. Cutting people off, providing yourself with the time and space to grow and build is oftentimes necessary. At the very least, you need to manage people and time more efficiently. Sadly, you have to be selfish sometimes. That is the truth. Great video, great mindset, wish you the best in life.
I'm so glad I found this video. I go to college 5hrs away from all of my friends from home and when I come back for the summers my friends always want to hang out. They always try to force me to be my old self and make me defend the changes I've made. It's hard to leave them but I want to continue my growth without having to defend it. Thanks for this!!
I've always watched your vids and thought to myself this girl has something deep inside her, today as I listened I realised how purpose comes from pain. I have lost a lot of friends over the past 12-18 months and was really down & depressed about it but you changed all that since I started watching your videos. Today I enjoy being alone, I have found confidence in being alone, I do not need to be surrounded by people who are toxic, I choose to be free. IF IT MEANS WALKING ALONE SO I CAN ACHIEVE WHAT I NEED TO THEN BE IT. Thank you so much, let your light keep shining Courtney Daniella, you got a new subbie. lots of love to you. God bless you
Wow I needed this. At this very moment. It breaks my heart but I feel like I HAVE TO leave my bestfriend to fulfill my needs. She just DOESN'T want to grow. She's a beautiful person with a heart of gold and she was there for me when I had nothing or no one. It's just that its been almost 3 years and we're still in the same (if not, WORSE) predicament than we started. It's like, i'm the only one who's been planning, working goals, and wanting to leave this place. She "says" she wants the same thing but her actions doesnt line up AT ALL! It's like she's okay with working a 9 to 5 and coming home and repeating the cycle. I want WAY more! Starting with my own business because I hate working for way less than it takes to live AND I want to leave something behind for my future children. The thing is: I want to leave her soooo bad but I dont want to feel like I'm betraying her since she WAS there for me. she's REALLY my bestfriend so I think I'll constantly feel like i owe her for being there for me.
TooBlessed ToBeStressed you have to realize that doing for yourself should never be a betrayal and if she reacts that way, and you have to tell her, then you have your answer on how she really feels.
AMEN Sis!! and so nice to hear this coming from a fellow black British woman. I am here right now, in particular out growing a friend I have had for over 10 years and I class that person as my best. But unfortunately we are moving in different directions and what is worse, I don't feel their encouragement during my growth, but what I do feel is an under tone of "erm ok, good luck with that"... kind of thing. And it is so disappointing just because I have known this person for a very long time, we have been through so many ups and downs together and we were there for each other when we both needed it. But through my continued self development, financial independence and stability, investments, business developments, self growth though reading, meditating, taking care of my over all health, physical and mental health, and keeping God as my number 1 saviour and protector through my life journey, I now see my friend of 10 years living the way they always had, wishy washy, uncommitted to working, no financial security or stability, messy relationships that they are not happy in ect... and its draining for me because I have tried to give this person so much advice but now I am literally talking to a wall and I realise this person will only change and development into the person I see potential in, when they take a look at themselves and in their quiet moments heel, pray, believe in their visions and stay committed to the goal. But I can no longer be agony aunt. It is draining and slows me down especially when I am busy working hard and they are not even working at all. But moving forward, I will not cut them off, (and believe me since 2018 I have cut off A LOT of individuals including family members who have either spent their lives bullying me, speaking negatively of me, and many other reasons... but this particular friend of 10 years, I will not cut them off. However naturally we will end up drifting apart, especially if they don't fix up soon, because I am not stopping my pursuits to happiness, wealth, success, love, family, children, world travel, international success etc ... for anybody. God Bless sis and keep your positive mind set, you definitely have the right attitude and thank you for posting this video xx
This video has helped me so much already. Everything you said, I have already told myself. I recently lost a person who drained the energy outside of myself because I "over extered" my time and efforts with them, when I knew and deserved better. I currently am dealing with "friends" who are only doing the same but because I am allowing it. I'm not scared of being alone and I know it is time for a new season. Thanks for this video! New subscriber and you slayed your make up 💋
Kids get jealous when other kids go somewhere they wanted to go but couldnt. The kids that could go; still go. Why do we as adults let the kids inside of other adults who are jealous that they cant go; let you stop going. As a whole Adult? This is so crazy when you truly break it down. People are responsible for their own kids; inside and out. 💜
I really like the way you state FACTS and the way your words got straight to my heart just blew everything inside me. It has given me courage, and I just really wanted to say thank you so much for being a TH-camr. Thank you so much for saying things I needed to hear. You have my whole support! Please continue to be the person you are. 용기!!!
Maame Courts, Ive been watching your vids for sometime now but I feel drawn to comment today. I absolutely love you and what your about, I feel like you've been through some stuff and out of the pain and experience you've gone through you gather the lessons you have learnt to inspire. I really appreciate that. I pray that God continues to grow you and advance you in every way, that he will make a away for you, that he will open doors and avenues for you to walk through and that no matter the circumstance you will always continue to pursue your vision to inspire. Lots of love D.
Hey Courtney , my GCSEs start in a month and you motivate me to keep pushing where most have given up, you motivate me strive for the great grades I deserve , you are a blessing ❤️
I totally understand not just in terms of study but gossiping and calling people ugly which my 'friends' still do and when I advise them to stop they say it's a joke and laugh. But I know how it feels to be called ugly and sometimes it hurts more than if a knife accidentally cut me but sometimes it doesn't bother me at all. That's why I can't wait to go to a new college so it can give me a fresh start
Hair is laid!! And you spoke the truth! My dreams and growing and I don’t talk to anyone literally anyone at all! I want to be around successful young ladies who are doing something positive and speaking positive
GIRL ! you be preaching for real, and i love it cause i really do forget the things you mentioned. Remembering that its ok to outgrow friends and hell sometimes family
Girl, yes I love this video. You are so right and I understand where you are coming from. A lot of friends I had don't understand my vision but I am blessed to have to have the supportive friends.
This is exactly what has been happening in my life. I'm so happy I found you and Ibz. Full time work, full time school, and other stress but trying to stay motivated. I dream one day I will make it to Cambridge to do a graduate degree in Maths. Sending you love from NYC.
Oh yea, you are a woman who GETS IT!! It looks like you are growing in leaps and bounds, and I'm so glad you decided to share this wisdom with the world, because this can change lives for the better.
Thank you for explaining exactly how I was feeling and that’s why I let go a a close friend who I feel was weighing me down for a long time. I never built up the strength to move on until I was ready
sometimes you have to have confidence with being alone, i had reached the point where i did everything alone, the friends i have weren't interested in the things i was into and i was changing, i started putting up healthy boundaries, i wasn't learning anything from them, i was just their therapist friend, they were literally eating off my brain away, i legit got sick cos of them, i decided to say bye bye but they refused to understand it was so hard they even went around saying things, people can be weird and selfish just to keep people near them that's so unhealthy,,,, but God will always bless us with the right environments
This is how I have been feeling lately, people around me no longer understand my goals and the peace I am searching for. It often makes me feel like maybe I am taking things too seriously or maybe i am closed off like they say.
This is my first time watching you. And by 4 minutes I subscribed. I've fallen in love with you and your personality and your truth. Speak it girl 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️
Courtney I've just discovered you and I feel you so much thank you for your passion and wise words your video has gone in, sunk into my mind, thank you xx
I really needed to hear this. I am in my second year of college and I find myself conforming to the laziness of others i.e not going library and wasting my free blocks. I really need to stop this BS and get my head down. I really dont want to slack off and I want to be somewhere large in my life. I need to stop the poverty cycle going on in my family and the only way to do that is to study and get these grades. I constantly find myself gossiping and talking BS, I engage in stupidity on a daily basis and I KNOW that I am engaging in stupidity but I shrug it off... THANK YOU Courtney!!! I will continue my journey to success and stop engaging in stupidity. Continue with your amazing content.
ola I'm glad this video gave you a push to want to change that x
I like that she's not preaching unrealistically she says it how it is and she gives relevant details honestly your way of speech and your ability to communicate with others is terrifyingly good
Zara ❤️ thank you so much x
That point at 3:45 is so true. People always want me to believe I'm stupid so when I work and get A*s they suddenly want my help. I have dreams to study at cambridge, I'm working hard every night so I can get A/A*s in my subjects, I'm always listening in lessons, I ask teachers questions but people really want to put me down sometimes. I really have no time for haters. When I'm at a good uni they can really be left behind because they spent their time joking around in lesson and they try and call me 'snake'😑
TELL THEM!! You do you boo; but always remember to love just from a distance! They will learn but it might be too late x
Courtney Daniella I have cut off people who also put people down for their aspirations. So what if someone wants to do an apprenticeship? So what if someone isn't as academically smart as you? It is hard cutting off people but I would rather have no friends that be surrounded by ignorant people
Naomi Ssempa you are anything but a snake. You know how to prioritise and I don't know you personally but I'm proud of you. Your determination, motivation and ambition is so admirable 💕
Naomi Ssempa I can relate to this. Keep doing you and don't listen to the haters💗
Naomi Ssempa that's aweome and you will get there
This video literally made me cry because it's such a wake up call
Betty Leigh awww thank you x
You do not even knowwwwwwwwwwwwwww how much this inspired me to go for my ambitions of being an orthopedic surgeon. Many a time my 'friends' have told me that the grades will not come through or they will refuse me because I am not a typical candidate and I used to believe them and literally dumbed myself down just to feel like they would accept me. Now I will strive for the stars and beyond because like you said nobody has got you like God has got you. Thank you so much x
Tenecia Namusabi-Kwagala nobody's got you like how God's got you!! And yes girl go ahead and chase that and become an orthopaedic surgeon! One of the best in fact ❤️✨
you've really settled my spirit on some of the friendships I've lost, it's been difficult lately losing and letting so of some of my friends.
Morayo aww I'm glad it blessed u X
Dreams so big you get uncomfortable around small minded people
Isla I'm gonna use that, thank youuuuu 👌🏾👌🏾
I never knew other people felt the same way about outgrowing friends. A flower truly can't bloom in the dark. The "You're Moving Mad", "Snake" thing is so true. I really needed to hear this. You're such an inspiration x
So real! Honestly, I've stopped seeking approval from people. All I need to do is follow God and he will guide me, he will encourage me, he will enable me to grow. Doesn't mean I wont love people, I'll never stop loving people but I wont be expecting much from them because frankly as human beings we are limited by this thing called flesh. Jealousy, insecurities, hate will always show up. Just have to keep it moving and keep one's eye on the bigger goal !
MoChunks Show hit the nail Mo! Humans are limited, blind leading the blind!
the fact that the video hasn't started yet and when you said "if the shoe fits then it fits" i started laughing you have killed me loool
Meg Ayebah-Coffie LOOOL sometimes disclaimers ukno
I looovvveeee these chit chat GRMWs!! She's so real and honest and it gives me liiifffeeee ❤❤❤
Shaima M thank you boo cakes 😘
Wallah she is my favourite youtuber ❤😂❤
Lana Poderosa wallah
Lana Poderosa 😂 thank you ❤️
AMEN! AMEN! AMEN! PREACH! Had to edit this to say I would love for us to collab! if your into that lol your such a wonderful soul
Janielle Wright AHHHHHH JANIELLE 😭😭 I love you so much girl! You and Novah ❤️ yes girl let's make this happen x
This was something I really needed to hear as I've recently drifted apart from so
Many friends but I'm better off without them . Thankyou for making me feel okay about the situation ❤😊❤
And it's not just your friends...family, too!
Amen to that
God really knew I’d need this 4 years later because this is what I am going through right now. Just graduated from the university & wheww the struggle is real. Your wisdom and words in this video are truly a blessing.. thank you for sharing sis!!🥺✨
So much wisdom🙌🏾❤
Darling Demitta ❤️❤️
I literally have had many 'friends' laugh at me and indirectly tell me that i'm not good enough to go to where I want to go. It seriously broke me at the time, but now I'm rising above it and working to get to where I want to be. :)
One day I will be this wise pls. Really enjoyed this video boo 👌🏾 x
This is SO real, outgrowing and growing myself,at first I was so confused but now I understand! More focused on me now☺️ loved this video!
the fact that you included giving up clubbing means so much!
People making the environment conducive to your growth and where you’re going is such a great standard to keep in mind. Just wow.
I needed this! And hearing the obvious that God has our back regardless of the reaction or opinion of others which happens to be prevalent at that moment in time needs to be ejected at once! It’s ok to moved forward alone or with out others approval. It’s empowering to be strong and to step out of your comfort zone to seek like minded people. Thank God for strength...🖤
I can relate to this so much. I’m a sophomore in college and in 2019, i can honestly say i have learned so much about friendships. Im learning what i need in a friend and not just sticking to what im used to while being comfortable. i have falling out with few and gotten back coolwith one. on friends, im getting very protective of myself and my mind of just who i let in bc i dont always want to hear certain things anymore or the local gossip or always always always going out to the club. 😭 its very uncomfortable from time to time but i learning to love myself and be comfortable with myself. 2020 has me with a very different outlook on my social circle and i honestly dont know what will happen with that but its all for the better.
Amen, amen, amen! Something else I also had to realize as I was yelling out "Yaaaaaas": Am I also supporting other people that have goals, too? Am I scoffing at their goals because they aren't "realistic", but I can prance around and hustle for my goals? I make it more of an effort in recent years to always uplift others that are legitimate with their goals. The road to success is a two way street: having good people around you and you also being good to others. Never only one. I'm adding this video to my favorites. ❤️❤️
THANK YOU SOOOOOO MUCH !!!
I have pretty big dreams, academic wise for my future, but I am dyslexic so people are always putting me down, telling not to get my hopes up, that I won't be able to do it.But I really want to achieve this dream of mine very much, I do have to work twice as hard as the other students in the class , just to even scrape half of their grades , but I had motivation from the start and never gave in and now I am one of the top in my class.So if I can do it , the rest of you can , don't give up on your dreams YOU CAN DO IT!! :)
Siobhan O'Neill well done! I'm dyslexic too, so I know the struggle. But I graduated uni by God's grace so all really is possible. Well done again & keep up the hard work x
Siobhan O'Neill woooow!!! Yessss!!!👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾 well done and thank you for being so driven x
Wow, I've watched so many of your videos, but this one is just too mushh 👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾so encouraging x
Cherry Andy yaay!! Thanks man, I really wasn't going to post it but God had his plans!
I just want to let you know how much I loooove your videos! Keep it up girl you don't see how much these kind of videos help young people like myself. God bless yourself and your future plans. Your truly a motivation to me.
Renee Francis amen!! Thank you xx.
I believe you are annointed. Thank God for your obedience and your life. This video hit me hard!!
Thank you sooooooo much for uploading this video! I am only 15yrs old and this video is so accurate to certain things that's been going on in my life. i haven't been making the best decisions and i do believe it's because of the people i've been surrounding myself with and i ironically came across this video and it really made sense to me. i honestly believe that god sent me to this video for clarification and understanding and i now know what changes need to be made. I just really thank you for sharing your wise words and i hope god continues to bless up❤️!
5 years after this video was released it ended up on my recommended page and i rly needed to hear this!! lately i have lost a lot of friends because we are on different paths and i didn't agree with some of their actions (drug use, etc) and it hurt, but this video helped me remember that i have to lose some things if they are holding me back. thank u so much!!
It is so important for people to realise what is within their reach, and to provide themselves with the means to obtain whatever they aim to achieve. Cutting people off, providing yourself with the time and space to grow and build is oftentimes necessary. At the very least, you need to manage people and time more efficiently. Sadly, you have to be selfish sometimes. That is the truth. Great video, great mindset, wish you the best in life.
So many key points made in this video!! Who we associate with is so vital especially at points of transition and growth
I'm so glad I found this video. I go to college 5hrs away from all of my friends from home and when I come back for the summers my friends always want to hang out. They always try to force me to be my old self and make me defend the changes I've made. It's hard to leave them but I want to continue my growth without having to defend it. Thanks for this!!
the timing of this video in my life is crazy. thank you so much.
Girl you went in on this video. I was dead ass crying before I watched this video about this same subject, and you just uplifted me to the fullest ❤️
16:30 Prreeeeaachhhhh! Said this to my friend yesterday x loved the video ♥
Love rewatching this! Deffo fave video
loved this! first time watching you, and your wisdom and mindset is amazing. God bless you, and continue the great videos!
You are literally God sent, I honestly love you Courts ❤️
I've always watched your vids and thought to myself this girl has something deep inside her, today as I listened I realised how purpose comes from pain. I have lost a lot of friends over the past 12-18 months and was really down & depressed about it but you changed all that since I started watching your videos. Today I enjoy being alone, I have found confidence in being alone, I do not need to be surrounded by people who are toxic, I choose to be free. IF IT MEANS WALKING ALONE SO I CAN ACHIEVE WHAT I NEED TO THEN BE IT. Thank you so much, let your light keep shining Courtney Daniella, you got a new subbie. lots of love to you. God bless you
Preach on! Loving the frequent CHIT CHATs lately! You go girl
Wow I needed this. At this very moment. It breaks my heart but I feel like I HAVE TO leave my bestfriend to fulfill my needs. She just DOESN'T want to grow. She's a beautiful person with a heart of gold and she was there for me when I had nothing or no one. It's just that its been almost 3 years and we're still in the same (if not, WORSE) predicament than we started. It's like, i'm the only one who's been planning, working goals, and wanting to leave this place. She "says" she wants the same thing but her actions doesnt line up AT ALL! It's like she's okay with working a 9 to 5 and coming home and repeating the cycle. I want WAY more! Starting with my own business because I hate working for way less than it takes to live AND I want to leave something behind for my future children. The thing is: I want to leave her soooo bad but I dont want to feel like I'm betraying her since she WAS there for me. she's REALLY my bestfriend so I think I'll constantly feel like i owe her for being there for me.
TooBlessed ToBeStressed you have to realize that doing for yourself should never be a betrayal and if she reacts that way, and you have to tell her, then you have your answer on how she really feels.
Amen! Its true i wish i was this bold at your age. God bless you!
Mel Box thank you ❤️
This video applied so well to my current situation, I know it's not a coincidence you uploaded this now. Thanks courtney, very helpful x
Ese Kanayo it's all God g ❤️
Everything about this video just makes sense😩💕
Tina Anindo ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Just what I've been thinking this past year. Some people really are just there for time. Thank you for this vid your such an inspiration ! God bless x
Wow! only God knows how much Courtney D always inspires and motivates me. I thank God for allowing her to be such a blessing to many people 🙌
AMEN Sis!! and so nice to hear this coming from a fellow black British woman. I am here right now, in particular out growing a friend I have had for over 10 years and I class that person as my best. But unfortunately we are moving in different directions and what is worse, I don't feel their encouragement during my growth, but what I do feel is an under tone of "erm ok, good luck with that"... kind of thing. And it is so disappointing just because I have known this person for a very long time, we have been through so many ups and downs together and we were there for each other when we both needed it. But through my continued self development, financial independence and stability, investments, business developments, self growth though reading, meditating, taking care of my over all health, physical and mental health, and keeping God as my number 1 saviour and protector through my life journey, I now see my friend of 10 years living the way they always had, wishy washy, uncommitted to working, no financial security or stability, messy relationships that they are not happy in ect... and its draining for me because I have tried to give this person so much advice but now I am literally talking to a wall and I realise this person will only change and development into the person I see potential in, when they take a look at themselves and in their quiet moments heel, pray, believe in their visions and stay committed to the goal. But I can no longer be agony aunt. It is draining and slows me down especially when I am busy working hard and they are not even working at all. But moving forward, I will not cut them off, (and believe me since 2018 I have cut off A LOT of individuals including family members who have either spent their lives bullying me, speaking negatively of me, and many other reasons... but this particular friend of 10 years, I will not cut them off. However naturally we will end up drifting apart, especially if they don't fix up soon, because I am not stopping my pursuits to happiness, wealth, success, love, family, children, world travel, international success etc ... for anybody. God Bless sis and keep your positive mind set, you definitely have the right attitude and thank you for posting this video xx
This video has helped me so much already. Everything you said, I have already told myself. I recently lost a person who drained the energy outside of myself because I "over extered" my time and efforts with them, when I knew and deserved better. I currently am dealing with "friends" who are only doing the same but because I am allowing it. I'm not scared of being alone and I know it is time for a new season. Thanks for this video! New subscriber and you slayed your make up 💋
I have no words.....your words are so encouraging to me. Thank you so much xx
Kids get jealous when other kids go somewhere they wanted to go but couldnt. The kids that could go; still go. Why do we as adults let the kids inside of other adults who are jealous that they cant go; let you stop going. As a whole Adult? This is so crazy when you truly break it down. People are responsible for their own kids; inside and out. 💜
I really like the way you state FACTS and the way your words got straight to my heart just blew everything inside me. It has given me courage, and I just really wanted to say thank you so much for being a TH-camr. Thank you so much for saying things I needed to hear. You have my whole support! Please continue to be the person you are. 용기!!!
Maame Courts, Ive been watching your vids for sometime now but I feel drawn to comment today. I absolutely love you and what your about, I feel like you've been through some stuff and out of the pain and experience you've gone through you gather the lessons you have learnt to inspire. I really appreciate that. I pray that God continues to grow you and advance you in every way, that he will make a away for you, that he will open doors and avenues for you to walk through and that no matter the circumstance you will always continue to pursue your vision to inspire.
Lots of love
D.
Hey Courtney , my GCSEs start in a month and you motivate me to keep pushing where most have given up, you motivate me strive for the great grades I deserve , you are a blessing ❤️
I totally understand not just in terms of study but gossiping and calling people ugly which my 'friends' still do and when I advise them to stop they say it's a joke and laugh. But I know how it feels to be called ugly and sometimes it hurts more than if a knife accidentally cut me but sometimes it doesn't bother me at all. That's why I can't wait to go to a new college so it can give me a fresh start
GOSHHHHHHH I wish I had this video like 10 years ago ‼️
STELLAR advice and wisdom...thankfully you've learnt this early on ‼️
Hair is laid!! And you spoke the truth! My dreams and growing and I don’t talk to anyone literally anyone at all! I want to be around successful young ladies who are doing something positive and speaking positive
awww u are so true!!Thank you so much.
This is so true, like it's bare hard to accept sometimes but it is the truth.
GIRL ! you be preaching for real, and i love it cause i really do forget the things you mentioned. Remembering that its ok to outgrow friends and hell sometimes family
This is happening to me rn. You are just so motivating and wise, so much truth in everything you say. God bless you
God bless you too
yes yes, speak on it. sometimes it's hard to understand but it is what it is. 💯👏
Girl, yes I love this video. You are so right and I understand where you are coming from. A lot of friends I had don't understand my vision but I am blessed to have to have the supportive friends.
hmmm!i can so relate with this message.Thanks Courtney.
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽❣ GOING THROUGH THIS NOW. I REALLY NEEDED THIS. I JUST MOVED ABOUT 10-12 HOURS AWAY FROM HOME.
Going through this as we speak. Very encouraging!
I know I'm late but this message is right on time! Drop that knowledge, my sister! God speed and continued success with all of your endeavors!
This is exactly what has been happening in my life. I'm so happy I found you and Ibz. Full time work, full time school, and other stress but trying to stay motivated. I dream one day I will make it to Cambridge to do a graduate degree in Maths. Sending you love from NYC.
This video came at the perfect time🙏🏼 you and your videos are honestly such a blessing
Notification gang! You're serving looks too!! Happy to see a second upload this week x
EziProse yaaaas girl!! ❤️
You are so wise, I love your videos and you give me so much hope and motivation, thank you so much, I love you. ❤💖🌼
God, I love your channel so much! You're such an inspiration!
You're so uplifting Courtney! I always feel so determined and motivated after watching your videos.
True talk.💯..beautiful..love the makeup too
Oh yea, you are a woman who GETS IT!! It looks like you are growing in leaps and bounds, and I'm so glad you decided to share this wisdom with the world, because this can change lives for the better.
Thank you for explaining exactly how I was feeling and that’s why I let go a a close friend who I feel was weighing me down for a long time. I never built up the strength to move on until I was ready
I'm glad I found your channel & I love how you unclude your faith in it. Thank you!!!
sometimes you have to have confidence with being alone, i had reached the point where i did everything alone, the friends i have weren't interested in the things i was into and i was changing, i started putting up healthy boundaries, i wasn't learning anything from them, i was just their therapist friend, they were literally eating off my brain away, i legit got sick cos of them, i decided to say bye bye but they refused to understand it was so hard they even went around saying things, people can be weird and selfish just to keep people near them that's so unhealthy,,,, but God will always bless us with the right environments
This is how I have been feeling lately, people around me no longer understand my goals and the peace I am searching for. It often makes me feel like maybe I am taking things too seriously or maybe i am closed off like they say.
This is my first time watching you. And by 4 minutes I subscribed. I've fallen in love with you and your personality and your truth. Speak it girl 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️
You're so inspirational
Nadia May aww thank you x
wow! Stumbled across this video and i really do not think it was by accident...wow! This was a blessing x
My Monday motivation this morning!!!! Love this and youuuuu
I've been binge - watching your videos 💕💕💕💕 Loveee your positive glow...Queen 👑👊💕💕
Up to this day I still watch this 🎉
You have no idea how much this helped me. Thank you so much, I literally feel like crying.
You are speaking to me!! & I am so glad I found your channel. Everything you spoke on is exactly where I'm at right now.
Love this. So true.
My eyes are finally open. Xx ❤
Really loved this 💖 timely 👌🏾
Courtney I've just discovered you and I feel you so much thank you for your passion and wise words your video has gone in, sunk into my mind, thank you xx
Started on autoplay, didnt expect much ... but wow! So true!
I always look forward to watching your videos, they're so real ! 😭💙
my new fav youtuber, you're sooooooooooooooo unbelievably beautiful and wise
You're beautiful inside and out
"Start practicing what they do; where you are & so when you get there; it's already natural for you"
I love how outspoken you are!
I play your vids while cleaning my house, cause you’re low-key my new motivational speaker 😂
Valid points. It’s fine to outgrow friends