I remember having these talks with you in America, I’m happy you’ve finally come out and said what you’ve needed to say and do in order to make you happy. You worked the hardest that’s for sure. Always here for you brother
This is so much better than becoming a pro TH-cam wise as you have educated and helped so much peolpe about the reality of trying to become a pro like me and thank you for this video
I've had a similar situation at the end of last season. It may be because your burnt out. Training a lot, mental stress. For me I was trialing with many different teams and had lots of school work, and lots of travel. Take your time off Tom and we'll all be glad to see you back 🌟
you have to be able to play with full confidence otherwise youll be playing with shackles round your ankles. i took major steps back from an intense level and in a weird way i now feel better and sharper, more confident in my ability than ever. whatever you do tom you gotta enjoy it 100%, look forward to playing. youve got time, ability and mindset to take you far but doesnt have to be right now. take your time and go play with mates no matter the level, just get your enjoyment back for it bc it never goes away truly
If you're not happy any more with professional football, you're right to quit. Happiness is more important than success and there are one million other options :) Thanks for sharing all this.
i completely understand where you’re coming from tom. i spent 2 years as a scholar at carshalton athletic and even played against you last summer and the football at carshalton made me lose my love for it and i’m no longer any football but 5 a side but it’s just not for me anymore. all the best for the future tom.
@@TomAllenFootball yeah i’ve been watching you for well over a year now and you seemed so happy with your football. just keep your head up and focus on whatever currently makes you happy. what i’ve found is the happier you are mentally the more joy and fulfilment you will gain from even the things you may not be enjoying.
I think your assessment of yourself being good enough /capable to become a professional but not top professional is true and realistic. I’ve watched your videos and seen some great improvements through your dedication to training. But intense, regular training is only sustainable if it’s fun. Thanks for the your videos, they have been interesting and educational.
Massive respect for doing this Tom. Keep your head up and do for what’s best for you. You’ll go on and smash everything you do in the future as you’ve got the right mindset for it ❤
tbh I was like this from about 15 to 17. Played for a Millwall youth team and had national talent trials but nothing ever got me noticed or anything and due to the high expectation I had of myself plus a pretty bad knee injury I sustained, I quit. I gave myself total time away from the game over lockdown. I am now 18, going to uni, and have signed for the U19's side of a team in the Welsh Women's Premier League. Everything works out in the end, trust the process. I've come to the conclusion not to aim for the top anymore, just to play and see where it gets me :)
Yes Tom , Just came across this video bro - I’ve seen a few of your video but not to many ,this problems becoming more common there’s more to football than what people see & mental health is a big issue and footballers don’t get enough support with there mental health - I was in a dark place not long ago with the game , but at your lowest point shows your character no matter how many times you get knocked down get up and go again ! - footballs 90% mental and 10% physical just enjoy and go with the flow don’t put pressure on yourself your still young , just find that fine balance - your a man on a mission and your journey is your journey ,keep your head up don’t let anyone tell you , you can’t do it just keep going Aj 🙌🏾
I think mental health is 100% overlooked in football and can destroy so many players careers. I won’t stop playing football, but I need to learn to love it again
come back stronger matey! ❤❤ as friends we are always here pal x see you soon and keep on working hard so you can tell me all the things you have been up to mate
keep up the good work tom. You know where I am if we need to chat. I have felt like this recently not related to football but in other ways. I am here if you need me
You are so loved! So loved bro! May I ask you a question, what’s the scientific possibility nothing created everything? that’s scientifically impossible, but what an atheist believes. if you don’t believe that, you’re agnostic. Here’s a million-dollar question if God is real,Will you go to Heaven when you die? Let’s do a quick test: Have you ever told a lie? (Be honest.) Have you taken anything that belongs to someone else? Have you disobeyed your parents, or said, “Oh my G-d!” or used the name of Jesus to cuss? Have you been greedy, or hated someone? If you have done these wrong things, one day God will punish you in a terrible place called Hell. But He loves sinners so much that He made a way for them to be forgiven and go to Heaven instead. He sent His Son, Jesus, who took the punishment they deserve by dying on the cross for them: “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.” Then He rose from the dead, defeating death. Today, turn away from sinful (bad) things and put your trust in Jesus. God will forgive you and give you everlasting life. Then read the Bible daily, and obey it (start with the Gospel of John). Learn more at LivingWaters.com
Yes bro, that’s why as footballers we should never put our identity in football because it’s constantly changes . Our identity should be in Christ as his love never changes unlike the opinions of others
That's the harsh reality bro. 99.9% won't make it. I have made similar decision to go to university and try play semi-pro/non league and try build my way up from there. Thanks for sharing because people don't see that part of football and it's really important because if you're not mentally well you should take a step back and come back when you will enjoy it. I have thought about it even though you might not make it you have definitely made someone else a proffesional footballer through your content your motivation, advice and discipline and you must be proud of that!
You will get through this mate, take however long you want out and come back and smash it prove everyone wrong. All this work you have put in will be worth it those extra hours after the Maidstone training sessions I remember watching. What semi pro team did you join ?
it's not the football, u can feel like that about any action. it's ur mind. leaving football wont rlly do anything it's a temporary fix bc then u will start to struggle mentally in other parts of life
But it is football mate, football has been the route of unhappiness for me ever since I went to the USA. Since I’ve stepped back my life has started to shape up again
Hope everything’s alright Tom. Shame about the anxiety whilst playing, I’ve been through a similar thing and it is tough. Hope you start to enjoy football again and get your passion back ❤
Hi Tom, just wanna say I’ve been feeling the same way mate and credit to you for being so public about ur thoughts. Try to just enjoy the journey instead of focusing on the end goal and smile more because that’s why we started playing👊🏼😄
Completly understandable i think you left to a university which didnt fit for you its a huge change but i think you should give the us a chance at a ncaa d2 r d1 school but at the end football is for fun or to make millions so just play for fun
Dude why did you quit football? You inspired so many small and big ones, you motivated, you disciplined, you would be proud of us when we became football players in the future, but we were going to say that we came to these places with what we learned from you.
I remember having these talks with you in America, I’m happy you’ve finally come out and said what you’ve needed to say and do in order to make you happy. You worked the hardest that’s for sure. Always here for you brother
Had to be said, I’m gonna do me and succeed at that. Love from you
My son is in the exact same position, chasing a dream can destroy you as a person, life is for living you are young so chill out and enjoy life 👍
Don’t think it’s about chasing the dream that was the thing, I just think I was chasing a dream that wasn’t my true dream
This is so much better than becoming a pro TH-cam wise as you have educated and helped so much peolpe about the reality of trying to become a pro like me and thank you for this video
respect bro, i hope you will achieve what you want and become thorugh all of this better and stronger man
Thank you man appreciate it
I've had a similar situation at the end of last season. It may be because your burnt out. Training a lot, mental stress. For me I was trialing with many different teams and had lots of school work, and lots of travel. Take your time off Tom and we'll all be glad to see you back 🌟
Thank you man, will do lad
you have to be able to play with full confidence otherwise youll be playing with shackles round your ankles. i took major steps back from an intense level and in a weird way i now feel better and sharper, more confident in my ability than ever. whatever you do tom you gotta enjoy it 100%, look forward to playing. youve got time, ability and mindset to take you far but doesnt have to be right now. take your time and go play with mates no matter the level, just get your enjoyment back for it bc it never goes away truly
True bro, will come back soon
@@TomAllenFootball always around if you fancy a kick about boss
@@tobykent6618 For sure soon mate
If you're not happy any more with professional football, you're right to quit. Happiness is more important than success and there are one million other options :) Thanks for sharing all this.
Thank you man, appreciate it
i completely understand where you’re coming from tom. i spent 2 years as a scholar at carshalton athletic and even played against you last summer and the football at carshalton made me lose my love for it and i’m no longer any football but 5 a side but it’s just not for me anymore. all the best for the future tom.
Thank you man appreciate it lad. I actually enjoyed the time at Maidstone I think because I liked the people I was with
@@TomAllenFootball yeah i’ve been watching you for well over a year now and you seemed so happy with your football. just keep your head up and focus on whatever currently makes you happy. what i’ve found is the happier you are mentally the more joy and fulfilment you will gain from even the things you may not be enjoying.
What a guy! Sorry I'm late but huge respect for putting a video out like this and I wish you all the best for the future mate.
I think your assessment of yourself being good enough /capable to become a professional but not top professional is true and realistic. I’ve watched your videos and seen some great improvements through your dedication to training. But intense, regular training is only sustainable if it’s fun. Thanks for the your videos, they have been interesting and educational.
No problem man, how you stick around to see the new videos coming
Massive respect for doing this Tom. Keep your head up and do for what’s best for you. You’ll go on and smash everything you do in the future as you’ve got the right mindset for it ❤
Thank you man, really do appreciate it. I hope soo too
tbh I was like this from about 15 to 17. Played for a Millwall youth team and had national talent trials but nothing ever got me noticed or anything and due to the high expectation I had of myself plus a pretty bad knee injury I sustained, I quit. I gave myself total time away from the game over lockdown. I am now 18, going to uni, and have signed for the U19's side of a team in the Welsh Women's Premier League. Everything works out in the end, trust the process. I've come to the conclusion not to aim for the top anymore, just to play and see where it gets me :)
For me, I need the mental refresh, but not complete quitting, I couldn’t do that. Congratulations btw hope it works out well
Yes Tom ,
Just came across this video bro - I’ve seen a few of your video but not to many ,this problems becoming more common there’s more to football than what people see & mental health is a big issue and footballers don’t get enough support with there mental health - I was in a dark place not long ago with the game , but at your lowest point shows your character no matter how many times you get knocked down get up and go again ! - footballs 90% mental and 10% physical just enjoy and go with the flow don’t put pressure on yourself your still young , just find that fine balance - your a man on a mission and your journey is your journey ,keep your head up don’t let anyone tell you , you can’t do it just keep going
Aj 🙌🏾
I think mental health is 100% overlooked in football and can destroy so many players careers. I won’t stop playing football, but I need to learn to love it again
come back stronger matey! ❤❤ as friends we are always here pal x see you soon and keep on working hard so you can tell me all the things you have been up to mate
Love you lad
keep up the good work tom. You know where I am if we need to chat.
I have felt like this recently not related to football but in other ways. I am here if you need me
You are so loved! So loved bro! May I ask you a question, what’s the scientific possibility nothing created everything? that’s scientifically impossible, but what an atheist believes. if you don’t believe that, you’re agnostic. Here’s a million-dollar question if God is real,Will you go to Heaven when you die? Let’s do a quick test: Have you ever told a lie? (Be honest.) Have you taken anything that belongs to someone else? Have you disobeyed your parents, or said, “Oh my G-d!” or used the name of Jesus to cuss? Have you been greedy, or hated someone? If you have done these wrong things, one day God will punish you in a terrible place called Hell. But He loves sinners so much that He made a way for them to be forgiven and go to Heaven instead. He sent His Son, Jesus, who took the punishment they deserve by dying on the cross for them: “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.” Then He rose from the dead, defeating death. Today, turn away from sinful (bad) things and put your trust in Jesus. God will forgive you and give you everlasting life. Then read the Bible daily, and obey it (start with the Gospel of John). Learn more at LivingWaters.com
Kudos to you for realizing what is truly important in life.
Thank you man
Yes bro, that’s why as footballers we should never put our identity in football because it’s constantly changes . Our identity should be in Christ as his love never changes unlike the opinions of others
So true
That's the harsh reality bro. 99.9% won't make it. I have made similar decision to go to university and try play semi-pro/non league and try build my way up from there. Thanks for sharing because people don't see that part of football and it's really important because if you're not mentally well you should take a step back and come back when you will enjoy it. I have thought about it even though you might not make it you have definitely made someone else a proffesional footballer through your content your motivation, advice and discipline and you must be proud of that!
I think everyone could have still made it including myself, but I honestly have a dream I’m looking forward too much more now
You will get through this mate, take however long you want out and come back and smash it prove everyone wrong. All this work you have put in will be worth it those extra hours after the Maidstone training sessions I remember watching. What semi pro team did you join ?
I was training with Hastings United first team but obviously as I say in the video, I’ve taken a step back from that at the moment
known about u for years mate it’s a shame but it’s good you’re doing something that would better your mental health. keep doing your thing lad
Appreciate it man, will do
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it's not the football, u can feel like that about any action. it's ur mind. leaving football wont rlly do anything it's a temporary fix bc then u will start to struggle mentally in other parts of life
if u dont want to play football thats fine, but dont think not playing football will be in the complete end of the problem
But it is football mate, football has been the route of unhappiness for me ever since I went to the USA. Since I’ve stepped back my life has started to shape up again
bro i have just quit football be4cause of enjury 😬😪after all these years
Just play for fun with mates. It’s priceless
That’s how I’m going to start loving it again
@@TomAllenFootball good man !
Do what makes you happy lad, life's to short 😀
does semi proffesional get paid
Most of them yh
Clues in the name
Get some of your pals together and join a local 5 or 6 a side league, it’s honestly such a laugh.
agreed
Have done mate, excited for it
Hope everything’s alright Tom. Shame about the anxiety whilst playing, I’ve been through a similar thing and it is tough. Hope you start to enjoy football again and get your passion back ❤
Appreciate it man, hopefully soon
Respect bro❤️ I’ll still watch you as much because i love your videos and your personality, keep doing what makes you happy. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you man, really really appreciate it
Hi Tom, just wanna say I’ve been feeling the same way mate and credit to you for being so public about ur thoughts. Try to just enjoy the journey instead of focusing on the end goal and smile more because that’s why we started playing👊🏼😄
Exactly brother, it’s about the journey not the destination
hope you good bro
Thank you brother
Hi Tom I hope you are OK
Thank you man
@@TomAllenFootball you're welcome mate
❤❤
My guy
No one worked as hard as you 😮
Stop being a grinder just play pick up and show up at games. Mental health is the most important, take care mate
Of course man, that’s the aim
Completly understandable i think you left to a university which didnt fit for you its a huge change but i think you should give the us a chance at a ncaa d2 r d1 school but at the end football is for fun or to make millions so just play for fun
you know what just enjoy life but attack your lifestyle with similar intesity
The intensity won’t change, just the end goal
Dude why did you quit football?
You inspired so many small and big ones, you motivated, you disciplined, you would be proud of us when we became football players in the future, but we were going to say that we came to these places with what we learned from you.
I don’t want people to stop. I haven’t fully quit, It’s just not what I want with my life. I’m chasing a new dream now
@@TomAllenFootball
Can't you run with football, what's your new dream, my friend?
@@2cififamobilehesap712 I wouldnt chase a dream that’s not mine. I want to be a content creator, I want to play semi pro football at the same time
@@TomAllenFootball
I hope you don't regret it in the future my friend
@@2cififamobilehesap712 I just don’t want to be a professional footballer anymore, I’ve experienced the lifestyle, I would regret going for it
im gutted
Don’t be, you’re watching a guy chasing his dream. Maybe a new dream but still