"Once You Were Old Enough, What Dark Family Secrets Were You Finally Let In On?" (r/AskReddit)
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From my dad..."Your mother is an alcoholic." From my mom..."Your father is a narcissist." Neither was lying.
I know what you mean. My parents were like,
Mom: he beat you outta me that how your were premature.
Dad: she wanted abortion when she was pregnant with you.
Both have mommy and daddy issues and huge family issues TBH. . .
My dad would run from our house without any way of concact, and my mum is unitentionally (or not idk) emotionally abusive.
They are devoirced now. o_o
Yikes
Lol
oh shit, my deepest condolences for you.
Not exactly a FAMILY secret, but an immediate family secret.
My mother had a stalker who didn't know about my uncle. When my father was deployed overseas after I was born, like two weeks after I was born, my uncle would come over to help out or check on my mother. The stalker thought she was cheating on my father with him. One night my mother woke up to pee but then heard something strange on the baby monitor. She realized someone was in my room. She grabbed my father's gun and went after me. She managed to grab me and hold me close while screaming at the intruder to get out. He did. My mother was crying too hard to see past the tears. She called my uncle in hysterics and he came over immediately.
A few years later I remember being approached at a playground by a guy. I don't remember what he said but I got the impression he knew me and I felt like I should know this guy and I didn't want to seem dumb so I went along with it. I don't remember much about that day. Only flashes really. I remember my other uncle and my father coming over and being really pissed and yelling. My father grabbed me and had me looking in his eyes and told me not to look away from them. I know now it's because my uncle was beating the hell out of him.
Evidently my mother and father knew about this guy but tried to keep him a secret from me. As far as I'm aware he's still out there. I just wonder what was going on and why.
Creepy
Get a paternity test. Check if your dad is your dad or if your uncle is your dad or if the stalker is your dad......
@@pacificcastaway9972
Funny thing is, I'm identical to my father. Well, kinda. I stopped aging at 16. I kicked around a theory that my uncle was was father cuz we're so much alike. Unfortunately, he passed away about 12 years ago. Honestly, I wish he was still alive cuz I'd treat him like a father. Mine just wanted a soldier outta me. My uncle was a funny guy though. I always knew there was something about him my father was trying to keep from me. I don't give a shit. I just want him back. He said he sees a lot of my uncle in me, mainly his poor decisions. Sure would be nice if he gave me a clue about why he didn't want me to turn out like him.
Dammit this is putting me in a messed up place.
@@granziii12 You need to get the bad feelings out of you. Don't bottle them up as that only cause you to suffer more. If you want some music to help it, there's always the melodic world. Channels like Arctic Empire, Cryo Chamber, Fluidified and MrSuicideSheep's older mixes are great. Artists like BlackmillMusic, Electus, CMA Music, 4lienetic, Phaeleh, Nyanara and way more are also good to listen to. Emotions are a weird thing. I learned to treat them like their own personalities, so when they want to be, they can be. And that has given me a lot of piece. The memories won't go away, but some of the attached sad feelings will eventually turn into nostalgia. Not of what was, but of what could have been. And that's honestly quite beautiful.
@@Arterexius
That's what I use my training for. I blast my adrenaline up so high I enter a calm. Then I use a bunch of Ultrasabers cuz you can't mistake a lightsaber for anything but a lightsaber and my police force is absolutely ridiculous. I go into a tennis court and use it like a giant cage so no one can get hurt, listen to some metal-step and use my kata which is just a lot of organized slashes, sweeps and making use of my excessive flexibility to whip my arm around my back and have the blade whip around to my left side then twirl and bring it back around. Really it's just a complex way of bringing my blade from the back of me so my right hand is protecting my left side then bringing it back around until my hand is now in front, then follow through until my right hand is over my left shoulder then back to my right side then up and slam down and then go back to the start and repeat. Do that while twirling the sword a crazy amount of times. It looks more complicated than it is. But I listen to Death Rage by Enigma TMG. The trick is to stay in step with the beat throughout the entire song.
I feel sorry for the grandfather in the second story.
Imagine the guilt he went through, fully knowing he was responsible for the death of his brother.
I didnt know Australia was fighting in the Vietnam War...
@@mrquastenegger6366 Yup, along with the South Korean army.
@@ianfinrir8724 And the South Koreans were especially brutal, having just finished a vicious war against commies on their own turf.
My uncle was just in a car crash where he lost control and hit a tree, and the injuries are no joke 😔.
Edit: He has sadly passed away. May his soul rest in peace.
@@mrquastenegger6366 how can you not know that?
My parents met in rehab XD they fell in love and their love gave them the strength to overcome their addiction.
Honestly that is so wholesome
wholesome secret
Awww
that’s kinda cute tbh. my parents met in psychiatry (where i also met my first gf)
@@widad_nora you and ur gf made the legend live on🥺
The reason no one mourned my great-aunt Opal when she died was because she was a horrible woman who did horrible things, including trying to drown her own daughter.
Damn...that's horrible
How did your family members feel? Were they expecting it? Or it's just like "oh, cool!"?
@@haphuongnguyen3358 I don't know. She was quite old.
They didn't take mental illness very well compared to now. Usually they were just locked up and forgotten about. It sounds like she obviously was suffering with something.. I'm not trying to give her a pass she was quite cruel and shouldn't been aloud near anyone. It's horrible that she was like that..
My dad, after he was released from the hospital after a particularly close call with death from an asthma attack...told me when he was younger, he had ties to the mob. And told me about a really fancy wedding we all went to when I was much younger, but old enough to remember. Dad was the grooms Best Man. Yeahhhh...it was a Mob Wedding. I had wondered why he was so worried about going. He wasnt so much worried about himself, as he was my older sister and me and how we would act. My sister was an evil sadist, and I was a sensitive dweeb...he was worried we would ruin a mafia wedding with our antics
We didn't
I stayed close by him...until the reception anyways. We were two of maybe 5 kids total at this wedding of over 200 people, and apparently children weren't really a consideration for the planners, because the punch that was being served from a fucking 6ft tall fountain was heavily spiked with booze. I was 8 years old, got wasted out of my gourd, and pissed myself. He had to have a friend take me and my mom home 😂😂
They though it was funny
I had no recollection of that part. I only remembered the actual wedding, and just barely. Like...I knew it was a thing we went to once
Needless to say, my mind was blown
😂🤣
wow
Man, the fact that your family is connected to the Mob is mind-blowing while at the same time scary as fuck.
HAHAHAHHA THATS SO COOL
drunk 8 year old
Doing genealogy research, I discovered that my great great grandfather had not died when we thought, but moved 50 miles away and started a new life. Probably more common back then than we realize.
Same happened in my family, great great grandfather moved from Maine to California and started a new life.
Whoah same here! 50 miles was a long way back then
@@lovegold3225 what was his name?
Almost same story here, but he was my great gpa. He purely just didn’t want to grow up and raise the kid he made, even though he had already legally married my great gma soon after meeting her because my “GG” came from money and this was around the Great Depression time.. Then one day soon after my gpa was born, his dad changed his mind and just took off…. But luckily for my gpa, his paternal uncle stuck around to help out in raising him up until my GG remarried. Btw, the uncle stuck around even after the second marriage, so he was well taken care of for life due to his kindness and generosity that he showed my GG when he didn’t have to.
@@melissajones6 Perley Viles, though it's quite possible he changed his name.
He's buried in Sam Bernardino, was married three? Times, and had children with at least two different women, though both on the West Coast.
I have a family secret but it was only a secret for me. I just found out about it something like a month ago.
When I was about 5 or 6 we used to have dinner at other peoples houses a lot and I loved it! I hung out with my cousins a lot and with my best friend from nextdoor. We also used to have all wheat bread, I don't like wheat bread so I complained about it a lot. At school I thought my techer liked me a lot because I always got white bread from her. Sometimes with egg, sometimes with just chocolate flakes but it was always delicious. Eventually I didn't even eat breaksfast at home and gotalso that at school from my teacher. I didn't mind, I didn't have to eat wheat bread. Turns out we had about a little under 10 dollars to live from every month. Half of it would be saved for my birthday or Christmas. We couldn't afford food so they told my teacher that and she started bringing me food. I'm so greatful my parents hadn't let me on on the fact that we didn't have any money and I wish that I could thank my teacher but I have no idea where she is.
Hope your doing great now
@@icewolf6019 I am! My father became his own boss and we can even go on vacations now! I am absolutely spoiled and my parents would do anything for me.
@@thats_totes_yeet_yo5281 please give me money
This was one of the most wholesome and sad stories I have read in a long time
@@thats_totes_yeet_yo5281 You have amazing parents.
My uncle was supposed to go to Vietnam. My grandmother fed him until he gained 50 pounds, got high blood pressure, and disqualified for medical reasons. He didn't go to war, but he has had weight and blood pressure problems ever since.
People sure did go to extremes to get out of Vietnam
@@saramatthews7159 It was not a Fucking joke.
@@abhinavmohabe6808 I don't think she meant it that way. People did go to extreme lengths to get out of a pointless war.
I had to gain weight to enlist ...combat orders cut at 17 yr old to kill comme's...fucking A !!!
@@ynsimha7663 After America left the communist killed at least one million civilians, in Cambodia they killed over three million civilians with clubs....the killing fields hope you meet them in the next life.
I found out my parent weren't hammering nails on the wall each night when I walked in to help..
The real question is.....
Did you helped??
@@theinceptor3672 uuuh you r sick
@@theinceptor3672 imagine if he helped, lol
@@kakyoindonut3213 lolz ikr
@@kakyoindonut3213 funny donut
For the granddad that KO'd his PoS sargent from his hospital bed with his one good hand, I wonder if records could be revised to make it an extra-honourable discharge.
HONOR THE PAPA
I’m actually extremely surprised that he got a Dishonorable discharge for that. Back in that time if you didn’t have a fight on your military record then you’d get passed over for promotion. They wondered what was wrong with a guy who had never thrown a punch while enlisted. Not like today, where you go to jail and get kicked out for it.
My mother passed away from a progressive brain disease last week, and my aunt/her sister finally told me that the reason why Mom, her, and their 4 other siblings all had different fathers was because my grandmother was the town prostitute in the 50's and 60's.
My condolences
Sorry about your mom
One time my grandma told me “ grandpa wasn’t actually in a hunting accident “ I have 0 idea wtf she ment by that and I’m low key still afraid to ask for clarification
It means he didn't accidentally go hunting, it was on purpose.
Do it
Ask her if she is the only one who still knows and she passes the curiosity will eat you up
grandpa played too much eu4
Omg I think I know but I really don’t
Alot of grandfathers trying to get outta war lol..
I don’t blame them
in my country which was not even involved due to world war 2, Millions of people died
@@animeuniverse5586 What country?
GHOST SULLY - *the country*
@@nykv9101 lmfao i love yoy
I created my family secret. My dad was hitting me, so I flipped the script and beat him to a pulp (I had picked up lifting weights and doing push-ups in my spare time) no one knew about this outside my family, and we don’t talk about it. The good news is, he hasn’t hit me since. I destroyed his whole world where he thought he was stronger.
Ahhhhhh thats nice
Kindove a sad revenge story. I hope you got out of that toxic environment, or atleast can get out of it soon
my aunt is a narcasisst and my uncle is abusive
He likes to hang around younger girl especially teenage girls
He even walked in on me getting dressed a few times and he wanted to know what I was doing in the shower
My aunt stole my money for nine years that bitch owes me 270 euro for the nine years she stole from me
Oh and not only that they hit me before and they gave me a kidney infection I kept getting sick or ill because of them and their nephew kept coughing in my face that how I ended up catching the flu
at 18 my abusive uncle kicked me out because he didn't want to deal with an adult me because then he new I'd be able to fight back
Welp. Did what you had to do. No one else was coming to help.
Nice bro. Your son must do the same before he can graduate, your family tradition now.
My Dad was born in 1915. Growing up I was always amazed he could whistle all types of classical music. After I grew up I found out that my grandma got divorced when my Dad was about 5 years old and she would drop my Dad at the movie theaters all day while she worked and dated. Back before talking pictures the theaters would have someone playing the piano during the movie and my Dad spent so much time there that he memorized all the tunes. Sad and lonely childhood.
My Great grandma was a spy in the Dutch-Indonesian war. She died knowing government secrets that she had never told anyone. To this day I have no idea what they are.
For the Dutch side, or Indonesian side?
@@revimfadli4666 the Dutch side but she was Indonesian. It’s confusing
@@kimberlyschein3731 I'm from indonesia. So, how did your great grandma join the dutch army?
@@dydra21 she was a spy, so probably Indonesian army person to find out about the Dutch army 🤔 that's how I understand it
Well she did her job well if she took those secrets with her and was probably afraid of endangering her loved ones so she didn't go into details
Its no secret that my grandmother was 19 when she married my grandfather, who was 47. What is a secret however, is that she married him as an act of revenge. She had first pursued his son, and when she was rejected she went after his dad and became his stepmother. She was younger than him, too. My grandparents had 10 kids together. I aspire to be as petty as my granny lol
Your grandma is an icon
You could make that into a drama
@@noahi.1381 very true
Does ur grandfather and his son know
@@FCBchr1s I don't know. My grandfather died on 1965, long before I was born. He was born in 1893. My uncle died in 1991.
That my aunt's husband was being abusive to her and my cousins. Some of my family suspected him of being abusive but never really got a clear answer until two years ago when they divorced. My aunt and cousins got emotional support animals, started going to family therapy sessions, excessively drinking. He got away with it and nothing ever really happened to him, all while they had to suffer with the emotion trauma that lingered with them.
This is common, unfortunately. The victims end up with guilt instead of the abusers. Really have to retrain your brain, and probably won't get proper support from those around you who are uncomfortable with truth-telling.
Why is it always about family members keeping secrets that should be known to help family members but gossip and bring each other down publicly?? That irked me.
That’s so f*cked. But, I’m glad your aunt and cousins are away from him.
I have an older brother out there, somewhere, that I never got the chance to meet. When my mom lived in El Salvador, she was dating a lawyer. They had a son together. My mom never had the opportunity to go to school since her parents never allowed her to enroll, despite her begging. Her father used to say that the only thing women learn is school is how to write to their boyfriends. My mom taught herself to read and write but because of this lack of basic education the lawyers family convinced him to leave her. They told him that he was too good for her and that he needed to be with someone of his social status. They took the baby from her, changed his name and moved away to another country. My mom tried to fight but you can win a case against a lawyer. Only my sister and I know about him. My little brother will learn once he's older. It's not a very "dark" secret. Just sad. There is always that thought in the back of my head, would our lives had been different if he'd of been raised with us. I'm sure he had brighter opportunities with the others but it still feels unfair. I wonder if he knows about his mother and what happened.
Did you find him
Not really dark, but hey: my aunt's husband was a ex yakuza member and that's why he had a missing pinky. He was a nice man tho, always gave money to me and my siblings when we visited and was very polite and kind, I don't think my family minded the whole yakuza thing. I don't remember much of it because I was little.
I was told about it years after he died (age, probably. He was old) when I asked about the missing finger and my great aunt told me and I was like "hold up, what-"
Oh my god💀💀
@DIO (case sensitive) yeah
This prob fake
@@MetrixGoat Well, being in Yakuza is not that uncomnon than you think
My Italian side of the family was heavily involved in the mafia. Specifically, the Black Hand. My 2x great grandfather was the #3 guy in the Black Hard in Johnstown PA. One of his sons owned a shoe store and never worked on a shoe in his life. That business, and many others, were fronts for numbers and other things. There were murders, hidden rooms, and plenty of other things. My mafia side comes from the DiMauro family
You could be a wattpad love interest👌
Bobby silko or is this even you real name you had a terrible childhood with probably some funny moments
I dont know how or why? But every time my italian friends tell me stories about their family in Italy or here in the US, it's always interesting to know that they make it sound like they run a mafia. Meanwhile I grew up in the ghetto so whenever the friends ask if the noise from the back of their house sounds like problems and disturbance (cause their parents would bring up actual threats but idk) I would tell them that I didn't mind and wouldn't be surprised if there was a gun shot fired. Miss these people dearly, they made the best tomato bread 😩👌
@@nusrarahman7181 ok wut?
Wasn’t black hand Serbian?
I learned that my aunt and uncle weren't as happy as I thought they were, when I was a kid, I thought everything was fine but a couple years ago my mom finally told me that their marriage is holding on by a thread, then they had a baby to try to mend it together, that obviously didn't work and now they have a kid with an age gap of almost 20 years from the second youngest kid. My mom has also told me that my uncle is most likely cheating on my aunt because he's lazy af and unemployed but stays out all day and only comes home to sleep. He barely gives them money TO EAT, and now my aunt was talking to some random dude on facebook saying they're "just friends", my mom doesn't buy it. Oh, and my aunt also dove a bit into witchcraft to "put a spell on my uncle to love her again", my mom told her not to fuck with that stuff but my aunt said nah, its fine, the witchcraft stuff was "shitty" advice from my crazy aunt.
Now, onto my crazy aunt, she's is like psycho personified, that's the best way to describe her, she's done a bunch of crazy shit over the years but the final straw that convinced me that she's insane happened last December. It was mid-December and freezing outside, I don't know too many details but my crazy aunt locked my grandma outside OF HER OWN HOUSE, and she ended up passing away of hypothermia. My mom and other aunt are convinced she did it on purpose. My uncle was called (he's a doctor with many phd's) and he HID the evidence that proved my crazy aunt did this on purpose and now my uncle is in a state of deep regret.
I would talk about my dad's side of the family too but the only knowledge I have of them is my grandparents, my grandma was so sweet, but she was mistreated by my grandpa, and im pretty sure he didn't even visit her when she was sick with cancer. My mom always told me you aren't supposed to speak bad of the dead so I will not talk about my grandpa all I can say is now I know why my dad is so emotionally stunted. Honestly, idc about the rest of his family anyway. 🤷🏻♀️
That's some shit!! 😲😲
Buer Ikr, it all made sense as soon as I was old enough put everything together
Wow, the only thing I’m worried about is your youngest cousin
Itzel Wisteria Same, he's only a few years old and he has to grow up watching his family fall apart. The only good thing so far is my second youngest cousin is getting married and she's moving out of her family house and her man is a good person, so at least she's going to be ok.
As a witch myself, no no no no no on the love spells. That's a HUGE no no in the community, and it's just real shitty of your aunt to even SUGGEST that. Just no. They mess with free will, and if you find a witch that encourages that shit, they're insane. Don't fuck with love spells.
Once I turned 21, I found out that pretty much every adult member on both sides of my family are hardcore alcoholics.
Oof
Same
When my son was in high school, I dropped a bud on the table when he had a friend over and said, "Here. I'm sure you all smoke weed." My son then proceeds to bring a medicine bottle out of his pocket that contained weed better than mine!
My grandma’s 5 brothers were all either alcoholics and/or drug addicts.
All but one of them are dead now.
Bruh, with that sister day thing I would have straight up told the one person left out and gone somewhere with them instead of the backstabbing family members.
Same omg like I get that the sister did sum petty but that's what siblings do and it was prolly years ago
@@nayanikachakraborty8757 well they could atleast act like this was a NEW idea. And told her like "why don't we go somewhere together, they're saying today is something called sister day...we didn't knew, let's go out together and from now on let's celebrate this".
They could've started from there
@@SL-my4fg I'm talking about the incident that happened like the sister not returning the things not the sister day
My grandma opened the tomb of my great-grandmother and tore off one of the fingers, which she took home. According to my aunt, my grandma still has that finger to this day.
Why'd she rip it out? Did it have a ring on it or something?
@@nusrarahman7181 Idk. I'm assuming she did it because she really missed her mother. She was 16 when her mother died. But I'm not sure.
@@fernandolomas6635 ohhh ok
16 is quite young to deal with a loss like that
@@nusrarahman7181
Both of my grandmas lost their dads when they were 12
It’s a very messed up coincidence.
EDIT:
Turns out, my paternal grandmother was 16 when her dad died, not 12 like I originally thought,
I was not ready for this 😰
Not my family, but sad. My sister had twins, and I would watch her twins at her house, when my sister went on vacation. Also, for while, the twins would stay at my house in the summer, to get out of the city. That aside, I knew my nephews friend, because I would drive them to the beach, or movies. Sometimes they would come over to my sister's house, when I was watching them, during the vactions. One of the friends was named Tom. He was an okay kid, just bit off. My nephews said, he was smart, but his grades were only okay. This kid's hobby was national atnems of different countries. He taught himself Russian, so he could sing the Russian national anthem. Still, he was a little off. My nephews said, it was stress, because his mom had a car accident, and got disability. His mother made the kid take care of the house. So, everyday, he cleaned he house, made meals, and paid the bills, and this was before he was a teenager. The stress made him a little off. HIs mother had him classified as mental disabled, so she could collect SSI. The kid's mother, and her husband started a business, and he ran the books for her. She bought junk at garage sales, and resold it at free flea markets. He actually ran the business, because she took him out of school, to do it. Some how this kid graduated, but he was living off his SSI. His mother hadn't paid taxes on her business, and she made her son sign papers, so he was responcible for the back taxes. Refused, but she locked him out of the house. After a week living on his own, he signed the papers. He paid the back taxes out of his SSI. The kid's grandmother was worried about hiim. The Grandmother got her sister's house, which was her mother's house. The house was rag. The sister was a horder, and the house was loaded to the ceilings with trash. The grandmother told her grandson, "I'll give you the house, if you clean it up, and fix it up." The front wall was ripped off, because someone hired a redneck to empty the house. The redneck ripped a big hole in the house, so he throw the trash out. The redneck only ripped a hole in the house, but never did any work. The grand son first fix the hole, then he worked night and day, cleaning out all the trash. After that, he he ripped down the lath, and plaster work, and put new walls up. Just before his grand mother signed the house over to him, she died. The kid's mother got the house. She sold it, and paid for a place in a planned community. It wasn't all bad, the kid got a part time job, and almost independent. For some reason, I don't understand, the kid's mother had him declared incompented. He went into a institution for nine months, and came out brain damaged. Now he lives in a group home.
What that is so unfair he was so close to freedom. That honestly sucks. Damn
Holy shit that is fucking sad. Is that a true story? That is movie shit.
Cool story bro
That is so unfair to keep being beat down when you're so close to freedom. I guess that's life but still.
I hope he's ok
My mom was an alcoholic and drank while i was still in the womb.
So basically, the family secret that was kept from me was im mentally disabled with fetal alcohol syndrome
Thanks dad
Damn that’s extremely rough. Hope you are feeling better now
My grandpa was a German soldier in WW2 who got captured by the soviet's. He was in a forced labor camp for year's, he had a russian girlfriend who smuggled food in for him. Then when he returned home to his wife he named his kid (my mum) after his russian girlfriend.
There were rumors of him having a kid somewhere in russia.
dude that's epic well not him being captured by the soviet's but you know what I mean
Damn, ur grandpa is giga Chad man....
I learned that I was my own mom and dad.
Wat?
Wtf
Wut?
Red Dwarf, is that you?
*hmm...*
The last story: his wife being 20 years younger than him was already a huge red flag.
I havent got to that last story but nah not really. My parents have an even bigger age gap. It's weird lol but not a red flag. As long as you're both over 18 and both parties are consenting adults😩
How, my parents are 14 years apart.
My are about 26 years
Depends when they met. The ae gap bewteen 50 and 80 is not as much a big deal if they meet at that age. 20 and 40 is much more alarming for sure.
@@yoda105 you're a product of weird 👍
Sargent goes rouge, attacks his own man with intent to kill.
Sargent gets punched in response. Guy who punched him gets kicked out.
"Go to war but don't hurt anyone, only get killed lol"
19:07 I'm more concerned about his grandpa, how terrifying must be that trauma to cause him to have a severe backlash and accidentally kill his own child. Add his trauma to the guilt of killing his own child must be so hard on him.
I hope the OP's family forgave the grandpa and also looked after him.
That story about the aunt stealing her mothers money then having to support her without help from her siblings is so funny. The siblings giving the mother money to go shopping and have nice things is so sweet and also very funny to me. The fact that they all banded together to do that 😂
Yep
My dog didn’t run away.
I'm sorry to hear that, it must of suck
@@emilianogonzalez2652 yo that was a joke😂 but thanks.
Mine did.
@@ianfinrir8724 what was your dog’s name?
@@jamarigillyard9270 I don't remember, I was like 8 when he ran off. Like literally ran off. I saw him take off and he never came back
I learned that my grandfather was a war criminal in the japanese imperial army who killed american and allied troops and now most my family is serving in the us military including me in a few months 😬
💀😭👍🏻
Thank you & your family for your service!
now thats a big oof
Time to carry on the family tradition then. BLOOD FOR THE BLOOD GOD
We can’t control our ancestry. We can only control our actions.
That last story... So many red flags.
to be honest, I did not see one... might be, I am a bit dumb. Which ones do you mean?
Exactly, Stevie Wonder could've seen that shit coming.
@@immanuelrundel6643 That the daughter was going through some difficult times as a young teen. Also that she acted badly towards him.
My grandma opened the tomb of my great-grandmother and tore off one of the fingers. She proceeded to take the finger home, and according to my aunt, the finger is still in her possession. The reason why my grandma did this is a mystery, but it may have been done out of sadness, as she was only 16 when my great-grandmother died.
“I felt, based on MY own difficult teenage years and experiences with MY dad . . .” and this is where she effed ALL the way up.
My mother's family and my father's family *hate* each other, and I have no idea why, but because of their hatred for one another both families hate me so I basically don't have a relationship with any of my relatives, I've asked my mom and grandma (on my mom's side) many times why they hate my dad's family, but they refuse to tell me. I even avoided talking to my siblings as much as possible because I knew if they stuck up for me too much then they probably would have been ostracized too (they had different dad's than I did, so my mom's family didn't hate them.) To this day I have no idea why they hate each other, and I have no one to ask because I can't really talk to any of them, and I don't think my siblings know why the feud exists either.
What did your dad say? Or his parents say?
Same
My situation is similar
My parents are both alcoholics, several of my cousins have gone to rehab. Addiction runs in my family. But other than that my family is full of really good kind hearted people so I consider myself very blessed. No matter how difficult our own situations are, there will always be someone who has it worse than us.
Mine is that my dad crushed my moms nose and gave her an internal bleeding when i was like a year old. What a nice, light weight secret am i right?
I'm sorry but in what situation did your dad did that?! Like out of nowhere?!
@@raticusaura oh he was straight up abusive, they got divorced when i was like 1,5-2. He's still an ass tho
My uncle has this painting of a woman in his room and I was always confused since I didn't know who she was. Apparently she was going to be his wife and was pregnant with their child around the time there were robberies. When walking out somewhere, they threatened them and my uncle said to only beat him because his wife was pregnant and didn't deserve this. They got robbed and as the bad guts ran away they threw a grenade that killed his wife (and the baby), injured him and my mom who was there. My mom showed me the newspaper a few days ago. I heard she even comforted him and stroked his back as she was bleeding out. She was 17 :(
Im now 18. This occured in El Salvador. I visit every summer from America and this will be the first time I visit and see the portrait knowing who she is
Holy shit that’s really rough. Hope he is doing better and managed to get his life back on track
This isn't a secret since everyone knew, except me. Almost everyone in my mom's family is married with their own relatives. My grandparents share a common relative from few generations ago. My grandparents, after they got married, moved to other town, had their kids there and they still got married with people who come from the same place as my grandparents and also share relatives with them. My mother is an exception since she moved to a big city at a young age and married my dad. One time, many years ago, my grandpa even said to my dad "You're the only one who doesn't belong to this family" 😅😅.
My great-great aunt lost her husband to smallpox in the 1940s. She had for young children and he left her a hardware store and a mountain of banking and gambling debts, so she decided to burn the store down to collect the insurance money. She enlisted her four siblings to make it look like an accident and to have an alibi. It worked perfectly and she was able to start over with her kids.
Although everyone in the family knew about the fire, no one ever knew it was arson until a few years ago, when the last surviving sibling decided to tell the story as almost 70 years had passed and no one would think about locking up a 104 y.o. lady. It is now one of our favorite topics at family reunions!
That my uncle who owned a warehouse business got involved with the mafia at one point. He eventually decided he wanted out, and I don't know the details, but apparently it didn't go well at first and he almost got himself murdered.
I didn’t know I had a brother. Mine was that my aunt (dads older sister, 16 years older than him) had essentially kidnapped my brother. It was 1984 in Mexico where you didn’t register your child immediately + he was born prematurely and had some health complications. My parents couldn’t stay home with him coz they worked a lot and my oldest sibling was being taken care of by her godmother. My dad said well we don’t want to put another child on the godmother since she’s doing us a huge favor and my aunt was a nurse. My dad and aunt talked it out how she would only take care of him but then she registered my brother as her child, falsifying his date of birth, moved with her family and my brother after my parents pleaded and begged, brainwashing him that he was her son, and he didn’t know our parents existed at all. One of my dads other sisters would always update my parents on how he was doing and her family tried really hard to cut off any contact with our parents. My mom would buy him toys every holiday for my other aunt to give to him. He met our mom when he was 10, this was the first time he had seen her since being an infant. My dad’s other sister immediately dropped the bombshell on him that my aunt wasn’t his mom and that my mom is actually our mom. My mom was upset at the other aunt for dropping such big news at a child but she talked with him for a little bit, gave him lunch, and some money to get himself something nice. They moved again after finding out my mom had seen him. Eventually my parents moved to the US with the rest of our siblings and we hadn’t heard any news until my brother found our mom online when he was 27. My parents didn’t believe it at first but after questioning him he knew things no one except family members would know. We all have big age gaps, I was 9 when I met him at the age of 27. For those wondering why didn’t my parents do anything more, it’s because it was a complicated situation since my family was poor and it would have meant every member in my aunt’s family would have been sent to prison for kidnapping him. Needless to say that aunt died this year along with her husband and one of her sons. She had a daughter who died of cancer and my family did not grieve for any of them. Actually before they moved the first time my mom had went to their house to try to get him back. My cousin opened the door and told my mom if she really wanted him back then she should get on her knees and beg. My mom did it and she just laughed at her. She told her she was worthless/pathetic and wasn’t given the right to ask for anything, that my mom was only meant to be a beggar. It started in 1984 but the wounds that happened 37 years ago are still there and sometimes feel fresh. My parents feel a lot of guilt for immigrating without him. I remember being a kid and seeing pictures (I assume) my mom cut out and put in a little picture frame of my sisters and I and a boy. I had seen that picture growing up and always wondered who he was and it was the only picture they had of my brother, when he was 13 and one of my other aunts had given it to my mom.
Definitely a lot of trauma and probably the darkest secret we have in the family.
If anyone ever reads this and if you have questions then I don’t mind answering them.
How is he doing now?
Are you in contact with your brother now? Is he speaking to your parents?
My grandma's karma:
When my grandma was younger, lots of men asked her hand in marriage, but she rejected them because they were not rich. Then, a family told her to marry their son, who was rich, had lands, and would live with her in another country. She didn't really like the man, but still accepted.
After months of being married, she finally asked my grandpa's family where were the promised land and money. They told her they had lied; there was no money or lands. They wanted my grandpa married because, they said, he was unattractive and dumb in many ways, so noone would marry him if they told the truth about him.
During that time, divorce was almost an impossibility, so they remained together. He gave her a hard time; lying for money, gambling, being drunk, doing nothing to help the family, etc. She became the bread winner and had my uncle, aunt, and mother; then separated from him (he died when mom was 18).
Her karma is not done yet, there's more. Grandma will always remain with my grandpa, yet in the shape of my aunt (her words). My aunt is still unmarried, unemployed, living with grandma, and is almost exactly like my grandpa in multiple ways.
Oh, wait, there's more. The men grandma rejected because they were of lower income are currently rich.
Karma, I'm telling ya'
Damn
Wow!
I don't really think that's karma. Back then a man with stable income was needed. There wasn't any work or wasn't much work for women. They would either work like dogs or be starved and pregnant. So marriage prospects needed to have a certain standard. The fact that your great grandparents did that, means they no longer wanted to support him and deliberately sabotaged her. Odds are when your grandmother got a little older, she would've settled down with a regular man with a simple but stable job.
I don’t see why grandma should have been punished for trying to make the absolute best choice she could. As you said, divorce was almost an impossibility then. Women were basically chained forever to their husbands and children. She tried to leverage what little she had, her beauty. Imma keep it 100. People in your family were either jealous of her and/ or didn’t appreciate her wanting more for herself than what THEY had. There was way too much glee in watching a supposed love one “be punished” for feeling highly of herself. Uh uh. That’s terrible.
That's not karma that just straight up cruel to your grandmother he lied and was a horrible man to her
I usually don't offer insights on my life like this, but this one got me and the story is wack, so here I go:
Growing up, I had noticed that my dad treated one of my cousins differently than the other of their siblings of my aunt and uncle's. My uncle also seemed to hate them and picked on them a lot. And more than a few times, my aunt and uncle would get into weird arguments over the cousin.
I never questioned it or why, as I slowly got older, they looked more like me and my dad than my uncle.
Flash-forward to after I turned 18, and talking to my mom about something random and she was telling me some other stuff about my dad (which I'd rather remained private) and I asked about my cousin and why they looked like me and my dad. That's when she told me that that cousin was actually my sister. And that my dad slept with my aunt behind my uncle's back and he found out. After they were born, it became a huge cover-up that my dad ended up confessing to my mom the truth. She asked my uncle, and he said he always knew, he could just "feel" that she wasn't his and got a DNA test when the cousin was younger.
TLDR: My cousin is my sister bc my dad is a horny asshole.
I've heard many stories like this on forum apps. Even tiktok. It's more common than you may think.
Found out my dad is ASD. Yeah he didn’t think it was relevant to tell me even though I literally was crying for weeks because my teachers were telling me I’m stupid
Sorry to hear that.
How old are you? Idk you probably have, but you could've reported that. If they were calling you stupid they should've been hold responsible for that.
@@timothejosi9204 I was 12. I didn’t know any better and I can’t stand to look at those people. I’m currently in highschool(not a senior) and the main person who sent me over the edge is a teacher there again. She’s pretending to be all nice but deep down is still the same nasty old woman, I’m doing remote learning so I don’t have to look her in the eyes but she has some animals and I don’t want them to have a hard time if she’s fired.
Pro gamer move: tell authorities then adopt her pets.
@@hunta4lif3 sadly I’m the only one in my house who isn’t allergic
My dad when he was a kid accidentally found the bomb maker for the ANC and all his bombs, which lead to alot of the ANC including Nelson Mandela being convicted of terrorism and thrown in jail...im not joking.
Holy mother of... What he throught about that when he grew up
@@j.a.pelaez6435 i need an answer to this now . . .
@@nonofyourbeeswax9228 me too
Well darn
"He said he was one hell of a 2 fingered typist" lmfao!
I didn't find this out until after my mother died, but my older sister is actually my half sister. My mother was dating 2 guys at the same time in high school (my dad and his best friend at the time) without either of them knowing it. She got pregnant before graduation and didn't know who the father was. The story goes that she she them play a game chess to see who would raise it and the other would stay out of their lives forever. My father won. When my sister turned 40, she got a DNA test and learned that the best friend was her father.
Why would your father want to stay with her anyways
@@blakebarnhart7392good point, probably was horny
I would never be old enough for my family to take me seriously, so i have to investigate by myself on any way i can.
14:08 reminds me of my late uncle. I remember him as a gentle, kind, soft-spoken man who gave the best hugs. He died when I was a teenager and over the years, I learned bits of his story. He was a raging alcoholic (died of cirrhosis, not old age as I was told) and an absentee father for much of my cousins' lives. Only in his later years, when he quit drinking, did he mellow out a bit and become the Uncle John I knew. I'm glad I didn't know that other side of him, tbh.
When I was around 16 I found out my dad was selling hundreds of pounds of cannabis. It finally made sense why my basement was packed with "trash bags" and "suit cases". I remember being around 10 and opening the door to my parents room and seeing stacks of money all over the bed while they were counting it. My innocent self thought nothing bad of it, I really thought it was normal. I thought thats just what grown ups earn from working. But I started getting suspicious when I saw my dad go in the garage with a fire extinguisher just to spray it in a bucket. I was so confused thinking "why is my dad going in the garage and spraying the fire extinguisher in a bucket??" Thats not normal and thats when I found out that he was packing large fire extinguishers with money. As my curiosity increased I started to wonder why I wasnt alowed in the room with the "trash bags" and "suit cases" so one day while they werent home I opened them up and saw all of them packed with bricks of "something that smelled good" and looked like "grass" mind you ive never in my life seen or heard of marijuana. I was a good innocent kid, living in a really nice upper class neighborhood with 0 crime rate. I didnt have much freinds and i didnt go out much. At that time computers and laptops were starting to be a trend and i was not on the internet like people now a days. I think it was around the time i entered high scool that i found out what marijuana was. That was the moment I realized why we had bricks "that smelled good" packed in trash bags and fire extinguishers packed with money. Unfortunately it was around the same time i entered highschool that he stopped. So as I started getting older I began to try to investigate who my dad was or if there was any records of him online. Turns out there was. Back around 2000 he was charged for human trafficking and money laundering for which he did years in prison for... Now Im 21 and he doesnt do that anymore. Turns out that he stopped because he already had made plenty of money and didnt want to keep risking losing his family and freedom if he ever got caught. I found that out because now that im an adult i was able to talk to him straight to the face man to man about everything i saw. I had so many questions. I wanted to know how much money he made, if he was part of a cartel, what he was doing, how he was doing it and pretty much everything he knew. Now a days I just wish I knew what weed was when I was young because i wouldve totally smoked all that shit 😂
Wow we’re at a point where grandfathers served in Vietnam.’? I’m only 25 but my grandpa served in Korea.
Yep. My dad could have served then and his grandson, my kid, is 30 soooo we are actually at the place where people’s GREAT g-pa served. My cousin has a grandkid and his dad was in ‘Nam. Had an Agent Orange payout to prove it too.
My father served 25 years in the military before I was born. He became a successful businessman afterward. I never really spent much time with him but he was always there at significant milestones in my childhood. He was a stern disciplinarian but fair and encouraging. He never spoke of his military experiences except to relate an amusing anecdote or life lesson. I only learned of his service record after his death in 1992. Purple hearts, silver and bronze stars, just about everything but the Medal of Honor. So many men I never met came to his funeral. The gentle guy who taught me how to ride a bike, stand up to bullies, and drive a car had all the time been a badass MF.
Never forget that the ultimate badassery is being a good father and grandfather.
My pop got "out" of the vietnam war by becoming an aircraft mechanic, where he was more valuable not putting his life directly on the line. Doesn't mean he didn't almost die many time or didn't see many many dead people, he just wasn't a front line soldier.
Two things that stuck in his mind the most was a field covered in dead bodies after a failed advance and a helicopter evacuating children barely got 200m away before being shot down, his friend also got on that helicopter in his place so he almost died that day.
Apparently after decades of not seeing a therapist because "there were others much worse off that he was", when he finally did he was told it was the worst case of PTSD they had ever seen. Honestly a great man in all regards but sadly it seems like he's developing Alzheimer's and sometimes seems like he's losing himself a little bit
My Dad fathered a set of twins during his stint in the Air Force before Vietnam (he's Black, the Mom is White). They gave them up for adoption and moved on with their lives. He told my brother and me in our 20's. We're in our 50's now, Dad's gonna be 80 this year. I wonder about the twins, but some lives are better left without the drama.
My aunt and uncle divorced, and it was sad at the time as I kid I felt like they should have worked things out, and then a few years ago when I was 24 I met my cousin in law for the first time. who was my uncle's (not by blood but by marriage) son and he was a few years younger then me and made sense he was born around the time it all happened, I had no idea he existed, and when we first met I was, trying to be polite but my world had just been turned upside down, I practically lived with my cousins half the time. And was affected by the divorce too, I really wanted to meet him and get to know him better but I think me being in shock and everything made him uncomfortable, and he doesn't show up to any family events. it makes me really sad though I wish I could make my half cousin more welcome, and I feel bad about that day for making it awkward. but literally NO one in my family told me of this, So I wasn't at all prepared, and I hurt his feelings as a result. I still hope he's well. I hope I'd get to know them better some day. but I doubt I ever will get to.
Contact him, my guy. Apologize for seeming rude, and tell him you want to get to know him.
I am this cousin. My dad kept me a secret from his entire family for 19 years (in his religion it’s very bad to have a child while unmarried). In the past three months, his wife discovered my existence, and insisted on meeting me and allowing me to meet all my half-siblings for the first time. Last week I met all the cousins (half of whom did not know I existed and were not told about who I was until I was literally standing in front of them, shaking their hand). Being accepted by them and receiving kindness from them really helped me to feel more at home in an uncomfortable situation. What I’m trying to say is- reach out to your cousin. I certainly would want that had the family not been accepting and kind towards me. It’s hard to be the illegitimate one, the secret, the drama, blah blah blah. If your cousin is a good guy I think he’d be super happy and receptive to you reaching out to him.
Tell them what you said here
Am i the only one who would use the dark family secrets to force people to acknowledge and solve the problems themselfs instead of me telling everyone?
Good luck with that, kid! You can lead a horse to water...
@@seraphale But you cant make it drink, i know. Still worth a shot though, maybe its thirsty and just needs a little bit of a push in the right direction.
You can't force people to do that I tried for a while they just will despise you for it, deny it publicly but admit it secretly anf not want to face it. It's best to give people choice and also leave them alone at times.
@@Introvertsan My original plan was to tell them that i know and that they got a year to show me progress, otherwise i would do it for them. They get plenty of time, but they have to show something for it too.
@@juliusklein6245 You should not force people it can work with some people but others can get very vile, violent and even scheme against you as revenge. Once you tell them whoever wants to deal with it will and those who don't let them be, they may come around in time or never.
My mom did something similar to the stray bullets mom. We were really poor for a few years and survived off of food bank food, and they never sent milk and cereal in the same care package, so she made a game of testing whatever other liquids were sent with the cheerios instead of milk. Lemonade on cheerios is great, broth on cheerios is strange.
When I was about 16 I learned my Dad wasn't an only child like I thought all of my life. He had an older brother and sister who both had tragic deaths as infants/toddlers before he was conceived. It was always a massive secret that nobody talked about. I was blown away to learn my Grandparents went through that and still tried to have a 3rd child. The odds that I even exist are insane. I always thought they had a perfect life in the 1950s. But it was just something that absolutely nobody talked about.
My Great Great Grandfather fought in the Mexican Revolution on the side of the revolution, unsurprisingly, the Mexican government at the time didnt like the people who assisted in the revolution, so he had to change his name and basically make an entirely new life. This was an unspeakable family secret for about 70-80 years until my family moved to America.
There was this woman I was told was one of my relatives, but I never have seen her before. I found out later from my mom that she was one of the people that testified against Charles Manson and had to go in to hiding after he went to jail. She was able to come back home after Manson's death.
So you are basically your own cousin
Days ago i learned that my biological mom was bipolar, my aunt told me and she was surprised that i didn't know.
My family keeps a lot of secrets from me and i hate it
Now that I am older, I have learned that infidelity and alcoholism existed everywhere in my family tree. As a kid I was completely clueless. It sure explains aunt Laura slurring her words all the time.
I learned the reason I was kicked out of high school before my senior year wasn't grades , but a law suit my sister filed against one of the brothers teaching there. I thought it was my fault up until I was 35.
21:25 how the hell do you get that from a addict uncle?
"I just found out my uncle does/did heroin"
"OMG, your uncle beats up your grandfather?!"
"The fuck? No, he just has addiction issues"
Was thinking this too. Maybe the fist comment was different with more details and poster changed it later.
😭😭😭😭
I think it's an ai bot replying to another comment but I am wheezing cuz I read your comment in my brain with this attitude voice thing going THA FACK NO
Maybe they recognized the username from another story?
My grandmother, one of the most judgemental and religious people I've ever known, had a daughter out of wedlock and gave her up for adoption. We only found out when she was on her deathbed and asked us about her and my grandfather was forced to tell us everything. Apparently she died at 30 from cancer, but when we tried to connect to her children they wanted nothing to do with us and we haven't seen any of them ever since.
At least twice year we would have cops at our house because of domestic violence. While my half big brother that lived with us had choice to leave for his dads house for the night or weekend everytime my parents were arguing and sometimes it would be about him. He never expirenced what me and my younger sister witnessed. My parents used to get in domestic situations while friends were over.. Which effected my social interactions with peers. . But what really shocked me was my mom telling me how I born premature and why I have 2nd name. ( My mom was working and my dad beat her while she was pregnant. Her assistant found her and helped her get to hospital. My 2nd name is her assistant name.) Then later in life my dad telling me my mom didn't want me. So I grew up reminding myself everyday it my fault my mom was trapped with toxic human being. Im not saying he complete shit of person there were fun times. But the drugs and alcohol changed him to be rotten. When I was growing up I needed father not a friend. But I always look at bright side, my life could be alot worse compared to stories I listen to.
It’s not your fault though
The days before that day you learned were so much brighter and days felt duller afterwards
Learned that my mother was a cheater and divorced my dad because he “wasn’t paying enough attention to her” had the boyfriend in question help move her out, I was never told this during my entire seventeen years of being raised by her, and just learned recent from my dad that she still demanded he pay child support to her after I moved in with my dad. My sister still doesn’t know cause my old man told me never to tell no one that I knew.
Heh
“Family” Secrets
What’s that
One of my family’s “secrets” is that when my great great uncle was alive he was told he had cancer and his wife and him were devastated. He killed him self later that same month by hanging. Turns out the doctor told the wrong thing to him and he never actually had cancer.
I learned that I actually have 4 other siblings.
That makes us 7 in total. I'm the eldest.
But I found out before they could tell me.
I don't know how to react if they do tell me.
I want some context, seems like an interesting story
Tell us more!
That my sister is actually my half sister with a father who never cared 😩😩😔😔
Once my mom passed away my cousin's family had a fight one day and accidentally told me that my mom and dad were actually cousins and ran away from home to get married and were going to tell me when I grow up. Mahn I was just 9 at the time💀
My great-great-great-grandpa might have had another family on the west coast. He would go look for gold, come back, get his wife pregnant and go look for gold for a few years. It’s just a theory but there’s an area in Alaska that interestingly has a similar name to his. This is the 1800s so who knows.
14:20 kind of reminds me of my own family story, my Grandfather (who was also step but he raised my Dad from infanthood so he was never really "step") drank a lot in his later years, and it made my Uncle aunt and Grandma move out of the house (that was 6 hours away from any close family or friends) so he lived alone and drank a lot. He was a veteran from Vietnam so he went to the VA a lot and when he started coughing up blood, the VA doctors told him it was only allergies. Two years of that and he collapsed and found out it was actually throat and lung cancer but they never found it because the never did any xrays because they assured him "He was fine" (then we found out it was one of the worst VA systems in the country) He moved into our house and while he still drank, he wasn't an alcoholic anymore and became very family oriented and went from a hardcore drunk to wholesome Grandpa with a cane. We were all super sad when he passed away suddenly, and we're having his memorial in a few weeks (we couldn't have it when he died in April 2020 because of covid reasons) so we're spreading his ashes on the weekend before the year anniversary of his death in the way he wanted.
My Nana told me after my first breakup that she was engaged to another man before meeting my Pop Pop. She has called off the engagement when she met and fell in love with my Pop Pop. I am the only one in the family that she has told and I don't think he ever knew. I miss them both so much ❤
Found out that my auntie had been sleeping with her husband's friend... Surprisingly, they're still together to this day, probably for my two cousins... On a side note, don't even get me started on the fact my auntie is a brunette, her husband is ginger, and their youngest is blonde hahaha 😂😂😂
When I was around ten and my sister and brother were getting adopted I overheard my mom talking to the person doing the adopting stuff that both of my aunts had tried to kill themselves when their grandma died. I turned around from playing and stared at my mom bewildered but she didn’t pay attention
When I was in my early to mid teens, my Mom let me in on a some of the darker family secrets (life on Dad’s side of the family is quite happy and baggage-free).
This greatly increased my respect for her, because it gave me a sense of just how much she did and went through and put up with to ensure my Sister and I had a basically happy, healthy, and nurturing childhood. I wouldn’t have found out otherwise because she just doesn’t give herself credit, and want me to be happy.
Not a dark secret or even really a secret at all, but my great grandfather was one of the first Americans in Auschwitz
Not really dark but my grandfather left me all his artwork he scored in WW2
I’m not giving it back.
For years we kinda danced around talking about my great-grandfather and one day I realized I didn't know a whole lot about him, including how he died; all I knew was that my Pop-Pop was an orphan growing up. Then my Aunt informed me one Christmas that he had probably done something to piss off someone either involved with a workers union or in organized crime, and his body was found chopped up and placed inside a suitcase.
Not dark but I found out that my grandma was a medical mystery having multiple heart attacks and strokes, breast cancer and almost 5 chronically fatal diseases. When she died at damn near 70 her body was studied at a university.
She looked at death her entire life and said "try me, bitch"
My parents met at a psych ward. They worked there, but it's always fun to see the shock on people's faces when I wait to explain the whole story.
Found out my mums husband couldnt have kids and she slept with another guy to get pregnant ( her best friends brother with consent from her husband cause they didnt have the money for artificial methods). Then shortly after i found out that my stepdads tattoos werent from the army but rather from going in prison for shattering a guys jaw at a school dance.
DAMN-
My grandpa isn't taking care of older family back in their home country. He died an hour before I was born and I was named after him. My grandma (his wife) accidently revealed that to me before I started my second year of high school.
I learned a year ago a secret about my dad. My dad is the type of person to dote on his little sister and always listen to her. After a year or two of moving into the new house, my aunt told my dad to get rid of my moms name on the house ownership. He listened to her and went to the apartment’s office to remove my mothers name from ownership of the apartment. He only took back his actions when the man at the office told my dad, “if something happens to you (my dad), your wife and children won’t have a place to live.” The man saved my mother from losing ownership over the apartment.
My mother commited suicide by overdosing pain pills she didn't need when I was three. I don't know why, but I feel like it was my fault and I am really depressed. I feel like I failed her.
Don’t worry, you were three. It was not your fault. I’m sure she would be proud of you.
@@hellohello4495 thanks. That means a lot. At least some people on this aren’t jerks.
@@epic_lego_gamer3305 you’re welcome! Maybe you just haven’t encountered the right people yet.
God..
I'm sorry.
@@hellohello4495 I think so
This was my friends' dark family secret that I figured out years before them:
My best friends (twins) both have cleft-chins, black hair and dark brown eyes (Dominant traits).
Both of their parents have smooth chins, blonde hair and blue eyes (Recessive traits).
In high school, neither believed me when I used to suggest they were probably adopted.
When we got to college and they finally took a proper science class, they learned two parents with recessive-genetic traits can't produce offspring with dominant genetic traits.
Their parents finally confessed to adopting them and it resulted in both having existential crises and dropping out of college. One is a manager at a Kohls and the other currently works at a Barnes & Noble.
This is kind of like how I knew two of my male friends were gay several years before they did. When they finally figured it out and came out of the closet, one of the guy's brothers announced it to our friends like 'guess what? Ian told our family last night that he's gay'. Before my brain could stop my mouth from making stupid words I laughed and said 'how have you guys not figured that out? I knew after talking to him for 5 minutes and you've known him for 25 years!'
Not exactly a dark secret, but it's incredible how often we are unable to see things unless we expect them to be there. Denial is a powerful force not to be underestimated.
My great-great-grandmother hid a man in the attic during the Franco dictatorship
I got my learners permit at 14 and full driving license at 16. I thought these were reasonable times to do this as it was kind of the earliest to do it.
Years later I learn my parents had been keen to make sure I learned to drive because one of my uncles (who I had come to understand was a lazy deadbeat by then) had gone many years into adulthood before getting around to learning and they didn't want me turning out like him.
Also through random conversation, discovered a high school friend of mine knew my uncle, as the two of them met through a mutual contact. Drugs were involved.
And that's how I learned with certainty my uncle had drug problems.
While reading all the comments of people talking about their grandparents, i wish i listened to my grandpa's stories more seriously. I thought it is just a boring old man stories, but seriously i hope i pay attention to those details. I love you grandpa :')
My parents have a super healthy and long marriage (32 years as of this comment) so as a kid I assumed all my other aunts/uncles had this kind of relationship. Let's just say I was wrong...
The lost love.can relate.i was engaged to my older brother's best friend.yes,family knew.guy was older,obviously.we got engaged on my 16th birthday,planned to marry once i graduate high school.well ,that didnt happen. He was killed in a wreck.thats all the detail i know of. My close friends from high school,guys,btw,all became super protective
My uncle commited suicide early last year. My dad and his father never were close but after that they started reconciling their issues. I've met my Grandpa a few times, one was at the gas station and I can tell he regrets not trying to get involved with my Dad earlier.
When I was young I asked my mom if she had any siblings. She said she has one half brother she never met cus my grandma had him years before her in Korea. (Grandma then moved here and had my momma) my mom didn't know her half brother because my grandma had slept with a guy who was married. So when she has the baby he convinces her to let him have the child since he's more financially stable. He ends up trying to publicly humiliate her so that's why she came to America. What my mom told me when I was young was "your grandma had a baby with Her rich boyfriend and since she was poor their relationship was looked down upon . So when she had the baby she left him to the father since he was rich and only one of them could take care of the baby" i only found out because my grandma told me the real story. She said she still feels bad about have no cheated with a married man. And the thing is I can't try meeting my moms brother because my grandma has Alzheimer's and can't remember either the mans or her sons names since she hasn't talked to them in over fifty years, she told me the truth before her Alzheimer's got bad. My mom still doesn't know the truth because my grandma knows she wouldn't be able to handle it. She only told me the truth because she needed someone to know