To fellow INFPs who are thinking "maybe it's this job, this country, this relationship" as quoted in the video. He is right that it's always going to be shit in the end, and that does indeed sink in when you get to around 30. However, as you cycle through these experiences, you can find ones that are close to your ideal or romanticised view in some aspects. In fact, it is possible to experience things that are even more beautiful than you could have imagined. And the suffering will make you wiser, in a sense more authentic to the human experience than perhaps any other type. To reconcile your Fi and Te, follow your heart stoutly, take in everything, and don't look back little hobbit.
"And the suffering will make you wiser, in a sense more authentic to the human experience than perhaps any other type." - Exactly. This is where poetic content comes from for INFPs
Anyone who understands it's the tribe that needs to change is correct. The lack of self awareness and conspicuous absence of psychological education in our culture tells us this. But ironically, that change starts within individuals, including yourself. Accepting, coming to terms with, and overcoming your suffering by getting to know yourself rather than projecting and escaping yourself is the work, and this content represents a powerful tool to that end.
one apsect of the video I think is a problem is the assumption that INFPs are fighting against everyone else when in fact we are very flexible. I would say that INFPs can make excellent teachers and diplomats... and thats hardly fighting the rest of the world
@@atomiccritter6492 yes, except with an INFP it's often an internal struggle not outward fighting, so they make good teachers and diplomats because they want to help the world change. Speaking as an INFP in my mid 40s...
This has blown me away. Man... This is me. Damn it, you've literally put everything into perspective. This is what I needed. I could cry! I've just been waiting for you to give a video about INFP other than all the rubbish airy-fairy, negative stuff associated with this type! Thank you from the bottom of my heart! Keep doing what your doing!!!
Normally with the Infp type description, they always appear as air heads. As an Intp ( primarily a thinker), I always hade a dislike for the way Infps act. I want to thank you, Your comment helped changing my perspective. We actually share a similar quality that I could never see, because of our differences. It gives me a lot of peace, thank you for the perspective.
Hailey darling INFPs are actually very intelligent, analytical and deep. Much like INTPs we’re constantly trying to figure things out. As some INTP I saw say online, INTPs and INFPs think in a very similar fashion, INFPs just think about people a lot more
@@sashamotovylets1753 Can't switch off that dreamy button but every since I started writing stories my day and night dreams have been about my characters. I show up rarely as a supporting role to keep them going. INFP to the unconcious XD
Wow, this is me. INFP here, became a nurse and have worked for over 40 years in geriatrics and rehab. I knew I could not let myself get promoted as I would then have less contact with the patients. I knew that the closer I was to the patients the happier I was. I also had problems with managers who were bullies and narcissists. I found that working part time solved all of my issues. I wasn't there enough for my blood pressure to go up, and the flexibility of nursing allowed me to work when the bullies weren't around. I always tell my patients that it is them that makes it all worthwhile. When I am nervous about going to work (I think I will always be nervous no matter how old I am) I remind myself how wonderful my co workers and my patients are and suddenly I feel so much better.
Hmmm I'm a 30 year old INFP and the best way I've found to deal with existing in the world is accepting the need to compromise and constantly reminding myself that it will make my ability to use my weaker functions stronger and growth is good. It also helps to remind myself that balance is key. I mean, sure, I WANT to be all Fi 24/7 and ignore the rest of the world the same way that I WANT to sit around watching netflix in bed 24/7 but that wouldn't be healthy and my life would be really imbalanced. Better to watch netflix whenever I can and also still be able to pay my bills than to watch netflix so much that I can't afford to pay my netflix bill. Even jobs that you might associate with something an INFP might want to do, like writing, for instance, end up requiring a lot of extroverting with editors and during book signings as well as attention to details that may not interest an INFP. Sometimes you just gotta suck it up so that you CAN do what you wanna do. It's the price you pay.
I'm 31 and I noticed I did this too, but probably took it way too far. In high school I had my heart broken, shut down emotions, and basically swung in the exact opposite direction. Learned to be extroverted-ish when I need to be, confident, logical and data driven (studied economics b/c although I wanted to do philosophy I also didn't want to be homeless), and work at a bank doing taxes now 😅. Since looking into mbti and remembering I'm an infp, I realized I used to be very creative, driven by emotions ect. And honesty, I have adhd and most of my "impulsivity" seems to be when after looking at all the data and logic of a situation I end up just following my feelings anyway on a decision. I want to start writing again, because I used to do poetry and such that nobody will ever see. But tapping back into that level of vulnerability (even when I'm alone) has become very hard and embarrassing. Although when I can I do remember the feeling of feeling everything and trying to express it in a million ways. I guess what I'm saying is, find a balance. The ability we have is amazing, don't take it for granted, honeing, and honoring it is worth the effort. Any tips for figuring it all out would be great. Always collecting new perspectives 😁
uje pagaz As an amateur writer myself I can’t guarantee I can give the best advice but I do know that there are plenty of TH-cam channels out there that do give out writing advice (warning that there are ones who treat their methods like it’s the only way or best way to write but that’s not the case. Basically hear a variety of opinions and don’t take any one person’s ideas as the word of god). Long story short, you just have to write, even if you think what you’re writing is garbage, and try experimenting with different techniques and keep learning. Here’s a few channels I think can help off the top of my head: Unicorn of War (some of his old videos are writing advice) Terrible Writing Advice There are more out there I just can’t think of any lol. Anyway I wish you the best of luck on your writing endeavors.
This vid started on such a positive note and ended on such a cynical one. Agreed with the first stuff. FOR INFPs: The best way to get through our crap is no longer put saving the world on our shoulders and accept that every person (literally based off of their MBTI) is trying to do something good in some way and that they are not going to do it through the classic Fi means of extreme moral living like we do. That is fine and in fact amazing because we need others to bring practical good things into the world like money. Using our Te for good is another great thing - analyzing systems and procedures and precisely naming descriptions and definitions of functions and terms to control, manipulate or push towards the next positive action is hugely impactful to grow so we can use it for good. The truth is we can’t predict the future with Ne well without enough Si information. So being present in the moment, analyzing how systems work right in front of us in real time is super important in learning how to use Ne to predict the future well and accurately. Also none of this is possible without laying off of Fi perfect morality in the world and Ne idealism or dreamland of that morality. Let go of those then do the last two things I said. As you begin to function more with Se & Te moments to add to your Si ram and also analyze many systems and procedures and learn new things in books in such through Te, you will rule the mofo-ing world. The last step after you’ve done all that though is letting yourself go back to your Fi and Ne and grieve all you’ve lost that you’ve dreamed of in reality. You can’t turn off Fi and Ne as they do still spark hopes and dreams along the way even if you’re not foolishly expecting them to come into reality without looking at the fact of what has happened in front of you or taken the time to understand those events with your Te. Fi and Ne are always there and are super emotions so going back to crying it out, journaling it out, writing poetry about what was lost or what was disappointing is all worth doing regularly because its always a part of you.
I think any mature person whose value is worth their weight is going to have to figure out how to live in the the real world. But it is an immature person that compromises their values to "get along" in the world. You stick to what makes you, you in the center of your being, and just let the world exist as it's going to do. Don't change yourself though, or you will lose the inner peace that having a solid moral framework grants you. The answer is to stay true to that integrity, and use your life to preach and be the change you want to see in the world. Not everyone has to hop on board for you to be successful, just say your peace of mind and accept that you cannot always change people, you can only plant seeds for change, and that's enough because it's the best you can do.
I think you should go over this video again. Hes saying "change what you do", not "change who you are". Ultimately, you do have to adapt to the world, there is just no way around that.
A good example of really questionable change for the sake of fitting in is this: I remember someone in the TH-cam comments saying that you have to throw away your dignity in order to make progress towards a goal in the entertainment industry. If I can expand, I'm pretty sure they are trying to argue that its okay being taking advantage of, either sexually or some other way, because the end result is worth it. They get attention, they get rich and they get whatever else they want. Granted, a lot of actors will have sexual misconduct issues in Hollywood. But rather than standing up for it, they'd rather make money and fit in. I'm not sure why people can't accept what the world looks like from the perspective of the INFP or the ENFJ. Throwing away your dignity for these things sounds like a really poor choice. It's just perpetuation of abuse and you're willing to make money for it. For an INFP, if someone said, "Hollywood is only for people who are willing to degrade themselves." - we're not gonna bother with those same people. And I'm not talking about the people these things have happened to but friends that support you can't really be your friends or respectable. To an INFP, anything that leads to degradation is no longer a dream that's worthwhile. The thing about certain personalities that I've learned from watching C.S. Joseph is that some tend to make friends with criminals and degenerates - mirroring those with poor moral quality and never seeing anything wrong with it. Mentioning these people as if they are really worthwhile and then wondering why they are losers. Your friends being a reflection of self is really important for remembering who you really need to be. I really don't know why people compromise self-respect first. To be fair to movie art. I'm not saying that every relationship in Hollywood or every movie where an actor has to portray something that makes them uncomfortable should be a sign that we all avoid trying something different or risky but man. If it takes years to overcome what you regret about the choice, really only one time at that rate or to be more fair to my argument - never at all.
PREACH!!!! I feel like I tend to be an Ne-dominant INFP, but I fluctuate to Si-dominant when I’m under stress or in a grumpy mood. Then I go from Lala land to control freak 🙃
Ugh... the more I understand these functions, the more pissed off I am about how much my family applauded me when I was running on solely my demon functions. I just feel like they don't care about things I'm actually good at, and they don't realize how exhausting it was for me to be obsessing about Te stuff all the time out of fear.
I deal with the tribe with humor. Its the only way I've found to easily connect with people without making myself totally vulnerable, yet I'm establishing a rapport with them. I'm a manager at my job and it's really not my comfort zone. I am the type to ask, not tell, somebody to do something, but I am a really good worker on my own, so I was given the responsibility of managing a team. I've been doing it for 6 years now, and I am the goofy boss that tries to get everyone laughing, lots of praising and just keep it upbeat to the point they don't even realize how hard they're actually working. The hardest part for me is when somebody deviates from the instructions I gave them, or says I didn't explain something enough (that really enrages me because I go above and beyond getting tools ready, going over work instructions and prints and getting retention samples). Aside from just doing the job for them, idk what else I can do to satisfy them at that point.
Ever since I was younger I've been trying to find my purpose. Dreaming about my future and what I'd like to be or to do. I often dreamed about saving the world. I honestly thank some of the people around me who have really given me information to solidify a lot of my values. I want to save the world and I know that every day even if I enjoy the job like writing. Work is work and being lazy will stop me from doing it. I keep going because I'm always dreaming how it's going to pay off and be so rewarding. What I am doing doesn't fit with the way the world works. It's completely unconventional and people would think I'm insane but I don't care I think it will work. It's my purpose man!
Personality tests often type me as ISFJ, but I often find myself relating a lot to INFP descriptions, especially this aspect of problems INFPs have… it’s why I still haven’t dedicated myself to any career or profession, and why I often have crises about finding where I’ll fit in-a job, a home, a place where everything will fit my values. It’s driving me insane, and the idea that I just have to put up with it forever because people (and society at large) won’t change depresses me to no end. I’m not on a mission to change the world anymore like when I was younger, but I still try to change things on a smaller level, and it feels like not even that is working. There’s always something that stops me. The world is just so cruel sometimes
Hello....I am a 40 something year old INFP. I think Dave's frame is spot on: i.e. there are trade offs in life; some times "means to an end" just is; and the tribe/self balancing act to manage.
Thank you for this- definitely what I needed to hear. I speak with customers daily at a small company in a high pressure environment. My job is basically explaining technical concepts (Te) to customers while at the same time pretending to be warm and friendly (Fe). I'm still not the best at my job but I learned how to use my Te in order to try and respond in a logical effective manner and also how to act professional even though us INFPs value authenticity so much. Developing my inferior function and a shadow function exhausts me everyday but these functions unfortunately have value not only at my job but also in the real world. I'll use these more developed functions at my next experience which will hopefully be something I'm more passionate about.
True true true trrrruuuueeeeee!!!! Finally I found that one job ( including douchebags and a...holes here and there ) where I can make a difference - even if it's just for that one child that gains a little more self confidence and believes in it's capabilities. The money I earn is not that much, my bosses are a...holes but I love working with children to assist them through their school career ( I am not a teacher, I assist children with ADHD or autism during the school day to give them the opportunity to visit regular schools ). This is so rewarding for me ❤
I taught high school social studies for 18 years. Every bit of what you said in this video. The rewarding aspects of teaching (basically getting paid to tell stories, working with quality people, and inspiring young people/ helping them navigate adolescence) made it possible for me to deal with the parts that I absolutely hated (the institutional aspects of education- so basically everything else). It was not a dream job by any means, but it facilitated the larger value of supporting my family. And most of the time it was more good than bad from a rewarding vs taxing point of view.
As an INFP I actually do a great job of using BOTH Ne (gathering) and Si. It's the Fi-Te issue I struggle with. The big struggle is using the Ne and Si in a defensive way instead of in an extraverted way. The C-PTSD from long-term childhood, physical abuse didn't help either. When we use our Ne defensively questioning others ways, we're protecting and not growing enough in an extraverted way, Ne. We no longer live life by the surprises it can offer, or enjoy what life can bring beyond our Fi ideals. We can't always trust our Fi. The introverted energy is like gravity. We can't always rely on it. It's good to question it.
'When we use our Ne defensively questioning others ways, we're protecting and not growing enough in an extraverted way, Ne.' wow this hits hard and is the exact realization i am going through recently! I realized that in my current relationship I've been acting out of my false insecure beliefs (stemming from trauma) and instead of being honest about these beliefs/insecurities and having an open conversation, I've been acting interrogating, asking indirect questions to figure out / confirm my skeptic beliefs about the other's character for myself... Which was so unfair to my partner. I want to try my best to work on this and indeed question my fi more critically. :,)
I'm the second INFP. I ignore my SI. I have gotten better, by surrounding myself with people who keep me grounded, but man that Ne keeps me floating. LoL I do work I HATE those damn sensors. They make me feel stupid and I hate that.
Wow sensors make me feel stupid too because I have problem with sensory stuff and I'm so afraid that if I don't know how to do something or I don't figure out fast enough that they will criticise me (which they do lol). I've always got enfp on tests but after seeing this video and reading these comments I wonder if I'm an infp.
On an extremely serious note, this is by far my favorite video by you. Thorough, detailed, practical, well layered, relatable, & concise. (Still fighting back the urge to say something snarky though 😏)
This is why I'm gonna go into psychology and writing because those are two of the only careers field that I could think if that could simultaneously give me the control/comfort that I need in my life without being completely exasperated by the boring monotonous routine and commitments, because I only care about what I'm doing.
INFP and I refuse to remove my lip piercing. Seriously why can't these people leave us alone, all that should matter is that we do our job properly for the number of hours that is mentioned in the contract.
"Forgot the goals...dreamed black holes Jumped on the train...to work in pain Lived too less ...worked too blind Forgot myself ...forgot the world And lived in my ...own little world Where everything stands still" My Own Little World by THYX It's a great INFP kind of song.
Damn good video, this is my entire world explained. At 35 years old I still have problems dealing with the tribe but I make it a point to engage with it because its a real challenge that makes me feel good when it comes together.
Living as a sleep-play INFP, which I do, is very difficult, conflicted, and stressful. It tears you up from the inside and outside, and it never gets better. However, we all have to do things we hate, and I think you're right that finding a rewarding goal is key. Nice video.
The major problem is when the Demon functions need to be used 90+% of the time and being told all the time that the Demon functions are what one should be as an identity!
This might literally be the first time I've commented on any TH-cam video ever- seriously. But, for some reason I had to. You are f'g hilarious. That was it. That's all I felt like saying.
Struggled with this at my last job. I became ill every other week because I couldn't stand the environment and the coworker that worked along side me. It was awful and such a relief to be at my new place but even though the reward is higher it can get me down every week. It helps that I liket my coworkers and I get noticed for my work occasionally.
As an Fi user I can say that... that's weird. Even when I was a teen I knew my self very well, is just... I don't kwon, I just knew what was going on with me. Maybe check it out again would be good 😅. Sorry for my bad english, I'm still lerning and this is my way to practice. Anyway, I hope you understood what I tried to say 😆.
I think INFPs can also go through that. Especially if they lean more towards Fi-Ne than Fi-Si like Dave mentioned. I've experienced that too. You know what you want deep down, you really do, but your Ne can think of all the things that could go wrong, or the other side of things, and u find it easy to question yourself. Or even, you know what u want, but it doesn't align with the tribe, so u question yourself. You could still be an INFP. And if you are, the key is to spend some more time with yourself, and accept what comes to you without judgement. You can figure it out from there, but introspection is key.
Guys, if you guys have not visited their (yes, their) website, you should really check it out. It’s objectivepersonality.com. There’s more information about all this, and I would really suggest you sign up for their class as well. They have weekly QnA’s and classes where they type a public figure and go through how they did that. You can then also email them 4 questions a week.
This makes a lot of sense, I base my life and actions off of morality but science and facts also play a huge part in how I perceive the world and myself. I am unwilling to compromise my morals but am becoming more willing to compromise my comfortablity in my life. I truly hate confrontation and all my life I would put off any type of confrontation until it was impossible to deal with the issue passively. I am an animal rights activist because animals are the most oppressed individuals and I feel a strong moral imperative to stand up for them. Even tho I hate confrontation I force myself to compromise this because fighting for the rights of animals is the most important thing to me, I’ve never felt so strongly about something in my entire life. I would say this likely makes me an si, I base my decisions on morality but make sure to also consider science and logic. When I went vegan the biggest factor was that my actions didn’t align with my morals when I ate meat, then I thought about the animals and put myself in their situation and I could almost feel all their pain it effected me so profoundly. After that I did as much research on the science and the logical decision was to go vegan because it was the best action that fit my morals plus I knew the science and was confident in my decision. Now I am an activist, even tho the world is such a horrible place I cannot waste my only opportunity to help the animals.
I was contemplating moving countries switching my major the list continues I just can't seem to feel at home I am still young and I am afraid I'll burn out one day but I have a very realistic family that reins me in when I have turmoil like this I can weigh my pros and cons and be ok its not perfect but its better than where I was before type of mind iver matter approach
I think I naturally tend to lean on the Ne more, but as I get older I've learned to use the Si a lot more. I've found a career in medical research where I can grow crystals out of protein and shoot them with X-rays as part of my job. My living room walls at home are covered with pictures of crystals that I've grown. I found a career that's a great mix of useful productivity and creativity, and it contributes to the wellbeing of others. Great balance for my personality.
Thank you for this! I was kinda confused why I often think differently to plenty of other INFPs despite knowing full well that personal feelings and imagination are the most important things for me. Now I'm sure that I really am INFP, just the Si savior type.
I’m an INFp I am FI and I don’t know what the hell I want, I don’t even know what I want, I don’t know what my values are I have no clue, my SI doesn’t even work 😂 I need help has anyone figured this shit out
I believe one struggles with using the tribe values (Fe) to validate their own reasons (Ti) while the other struggles with sacrificing their own values (Fi) to engage tribe reasons (Te).
Pursuing despite all the sucky circumstances one has to contend with- ah, there's the INFP rub! (Seriously, it's really hard. No situation, no person will match my vision of the ideal, so the lifetime struggle is to get over that and move past it.)
What is the best way to succeed as an INFP? I do not care for myself or my own feelings, or what happens to me, as long as I have succeeded and brought better good to the world
Personality tests type me as an ESTJ all the time, especially Sakinorva. Kinda ironic, I took the test at your page (probably not as good as a consultation but I'm poor af) and I got Fi-Si.
Ws the 1st INFP described in the video Sleep-Consume (Fi-Si, Fi-Ne) and the 2nd Consume-Sleep (Fi-Ne, Fi-Si)? If so, what would a Sleep-Blast INFP (Fi-Si, Si-Te) and a Consume-Play INFP (Fi-Ne, Ne-Te) look like?
Cstank5 - Correct, if it's their top Animal. An INFP cannot have Si-Te (Blast) or Ne-Te (Play) as their first Animal, but they can have one of them as their second. A Sleep first INFP (Fi-Si) can have either Consume (Fi-Ne) or Blast (Si-Te) as their second Animal. A Consume first INFP (Fi-Ne) can have either Sleep (Fi-Si) or Play (Ne-Te) as their second Animal. There are 4 possible combinations of 1st & 2nd Animals for each type.
I guess a Sleep-Blast INFP (Fi-Si, Si-Te) would be focused on organizing facts based on their personal values (Fi-Si Sleep) and then be finding ways to communicate simple truths about this to the tribe (Si-Te Blast). I guess a Consume-Play INFP (Fi-Ne, Ne-Te) would be focused on gathering abstract concepts based on their personal values (Fi-Ne Consume) and then be finding ways to implement these abstract concepts in the real world (Ne-Te Play).
have been trying to work out if I'm INFJ (the '10 reasons why INFJ are single' convinced me I am this one lol) or INFP then I do another test and it tells me i'm strongly ENTP. I give up!
Hey guys, I discovered your channel yesterday and have been binge watching (& many times replaying) your videos. They’re super clear and informative, love the short format as well. I really like the layered approach of starting with an either or question and now I’m all into trying to understand if my friends are Deciders or Observers - I’m having a lot of fun! Question: all the tests I’ve done online (sometimes taken the same multiple times) I got ENFJ as a result. And I could truly relate to that, still can. However, last year I went through major life changing events, professionally & relationship wise, which really pushed me into digging into my self (above the tribe). Now, I feel more secure and stable and when I re-did the test today, I got INFP - which I saw is the mirror to ENFJ. Is it possible that I change personality type due to life events (ENFJ -> INFP) or, is it that I had to face & work with my Demons/shadow, and now have a more stable relationship between my Fe and Ti as an ENFJ (which is mistaken for an INFP through the rest)? Is there a way to find out? Thank you so much for sharing all this content, it’s mind-blowing!
unfortunately this wont work for me, what is worth in the end of the day and what is not can change very easily for me so the external "benefits" or "candies" however to call it will never lure me. I found it work for me to rely on my ne to shift the perspective so i can dive into it and do the Te thing in my own way having the same results anyway without going on compromises and cuts to my fi. If we dont want to adapt our views then we can bring our world with us and create/expend it along the way But my Si literally doesn't exist at this point
I’m 38 and I’ve just had to realize that I will probably always feel lonely and I just have to accept that. Writing helps if nobody listens I guess. I need to accept that everyone is different.
I am Fi-Ne Si-Te But when I join the army I became more Fi-Si Ne-Te I can’t explain it but I experienced both It’s not that I don’t respect one over the other. It’s the people around me don’t respect the one or the other. I just learn to adjust and explore ways to make things work.
"Oh, no, wait a minute, the tribe's not moving...they're still being assholes!" LOOOOOOL, story of my life!! XD I'm really trying to figure out which function is the one I lean on most when I need something to help me out along with the Fi though. I suspect it's Ne given that my description of my thought processes (especially at work) is, "Throw spaghetti at the wall to see what works." Only after the spaghetti has been thrown does my Si get to work getting it organized. XD
I don’t think you got the Colbert thing correct. I’m an INFP and if there’s something were really into, which I believe is probably the case for Colbert, he’s not sacrificing 90% of his day because he knows that’s what he ‘has to do’ …he’s doing what he believes in 90% of his day because the way he probably sees it is that he his is affecting the world through his show. Not sure if that makes sense but bottom line he’s into what he does and isn’t compromising as you stated
MBTI says I'm a INFP(A) .. I agree I'm definitely Fi first above all.. definitely CpsB.. the more I watch your stuff I think I'm Fi/Si good with Ne too, butt not so much Te, but I don't know if that's accurate because I'm just really reserved and for a long time dealing with abandonment issues from childhood and so on; but I can talk to strangers fine but I'm really thinking to myself "what's this person going to teach me?" Through wisdom and knowledge of facts or experience in new behaviors of sorts 🤷🏼♂️ I feel like I'm definitely consume and play but I'm going to sign up and find out
Thiago Caçador I've seen those, I'm just not getting what exactly organising concepts & facts (Ni & Si) mean. Maybe because I haven't seen those two dominant in anyone around me. As for myself, I am very certain that I'm an Fi dominant, but I can't confirm if my auxiliary function is Se or Ne. Amongst my friends, I've correctly guessed Fe, Ti, Se & somewhat Ne dominance, but their auxiliary & tertiary status are what confuse me.
In the classes we learn to leave the functions for last when typing. The parts you try to figure out first is Observer or Decider, temperament (IxxP, ExxJ, ExxP, IxxJ), letters (NF, SF, NT,NF), and the animals. If you're sure you're IxxP and Fi savior, next you need to look at whether you're NF (values things in the abstract) or SF (values things in the physical, real world). And then whether you're Di + Oe (Consume), or Di + Oi (Sleep). Your 2nd savior could be Si or Ni, instead of Se or Ne.
Astralblood Thanks for this input! :) Yes I'm quite certain I'm an IxxP. As for NF vs SF, I feel like I kinda do both, I do tend to focus on details & give analogies in details while in a conflict & I do tend to focus more on present than future, but I'm not zero imaginative either, I do enjoy depth in everything, be it novels or movies or characters or TV shows. I really enjoy & respect the depth, may it be the author/director's skill, or the cinematography, or the actor's brilliance or even the soundtrack that conveys the proper emotion. Yes I've seen the Di+Oe & Di+Oi video of Dave, but I can't pinpoint myself on that. I feel as if it's the jumping of functions from aux to tert & vice versa.
You talk here about Savior Fi being non-moveable- isn’t non-moveable associated with the Masculine factor and can be either De (Te or Fe) or Di (Fi or Ti)? It’s also possible that in this case you’re meaning it simply in the practical sense that there’s only one of me trying to move an entire herd of the Tribe, basically being outnumbered.
Wait hold on, what? INFP with saviour Si? How is that possible? Aren't they Fi-Ne by definition? I haven't seen that anywhere in any of the places I've read, how does that work?
Emotions are Overrated and are very unreliable...I agree and from a rational point of view this is all Very True, Great Video DaveSP, Thank you for making it !
To fellow INFPs who are thinking "maybe it's this job, this country, this relationship" as quoted in the video.
He is right that it's always going to be shit in the end, and that does indeed sink in when you get to around 30.
However, as you cycle through these experiences, you can find ones that are close to your ideal or romanticised view in some aspects.
In fact, it is possible to experience things that are even more beautiful than you could have imagined.
And the suffering will make you wiser, in a sense more authentic to the human experience than perhaps any other type.
To reconcile your Fi and Te, follow your heart stoutly, take in everything, and don't look back little hobbit.
"And the suffering will make you wiser, in a sense more authentic to the human experience than perhaps any other type." - Exactly. This is where poetic content comes from for INFPs
Oh my, haven’t sent *that* character in a while
But back to your thoughts - yes! Bigly! Thancc yu
yessss, im 34 now and every dream land dream job was crap. now i found my "calling" in dog grooming care
omg the pleasure when being called little hobbit😍
it's fun to keep changing stuff up though, and it caters to our strengths
Anyone who understands it's the tribe that needs to change is correct. The lack of self awareness and conspicuous absence of psychological education in our culture tells us this. But ironically, that change starts within individuals, including yourself. Accepting, coming to terms with, and overcoming your suffering by getting to know yourself rather than projecting and escaping yourself is the work, and this content represents a powerful tool to that end.
Amen bro.
one apsect of the video I think is a problem is the assumption that INFPs are fighting against everyone else when in fact we are very flexible. I would say that INFPs can make excellent teachers and diplomats... and thats hardly fighting the rest of the world
@@atomiccritter6492 yes, except with an INFP it's often an internal struggle not outward fighting, so they make good teachers and diplomats because they want to help the world change. Speaking as an INFP in my mid 40s...
How very INFP of you 😂
This has blown me away. Man... This is me. Damn it, you've literally put everything into perspective. This is what I needed. I could cry! I've just been waiting for you to give a video about INFP other than all the rubbish airy-fairy, negative stuff associated with this type! Thank you from the bottom of my heart! Keep doing what your doing!!!
Normally with the Infp type description, they always appear as air heads. As an Intp ( primarily a thinker), I always hade a dislike for the way Infps act. I want to thank you, Your comment helped changing my perspective. We actually share a similar quality that I could never see, because of our differences. It gives me a lot of peace, thank you for the perspective.
Hailey darling INFPs are actually very intelligent, analytical and deep. Much like INTPs we’re constantly trying to figure things out. As some INTP I saw say online, INTPs and INFPs think in a very similar fashion, INFPs just think about people a lot more
@@sashamotovylets1753 I would say that it's half think and half dream
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Yoru Hi very true. But what is reality really? Sometimes dreams make more sense than reality .
@@sashamotovylets1753 Can't switch off that dreamy button but every since I started writing stories my day and night dreams have been about my characters. I show up rarely as a supporting role to keep them going. INFP to the unconcious XD
Wow, this is me. INFP here, became a nurse and have worked for over 40 years in geriatrics and rehab. I knew I could not let myself get promoted as I would then have less contact with the patients. I knew that the closer I was to the patients the happier I was. I also had problems with managers who were bullies and narcissists. I found that working part time solved all of my issues. I wasn't there enough for my blood pressure to go up, and the flexibility of nursing allowed me to work when the bullies weren't around. I always tell my patients that it is them that makes it all worthwhile. When I am nervous about going to work (I think I will always be nervous no matter how old I am) I remind myself how wonderful my co workers and my patients are and suddenly I feel so much better.
Hmmm I'm a 30 year old INFP and the best way I've found to deal with existing in the world is accepting the need to compromise and constantly reminding myself that it will make my ability to use my weaker functions stronger and growth is good. It also helps to remind myself that balance is key. I mean, sure, I WANT to be all Fi 24/7 and ignore the rest of the world the same way that I WANT to sit around watching netflix in bed 24/7 but that wouldn't be healthy and my life would be really imbalanced. Better to watch netflix whenever I can and also still be able to pay my bills than to watch netflix so much that I can't afford to pay my netflix bill. Even jobs that you might associate with something an INFP might want to do, like writing, for instance, end up requiring a lot of extroverting with editors and during book signings as well as attention to details that may not interest an INFP. Sometimes you just gotta suck it up so that you CAN do what you wanna do. It's the price you pay.
Wise words. I'll keep this in mind. Thank you. :)
I'm 19 and this advice is really helping when I'm putting things into perspective
I'm 31 and I noticed I did this too, but probably took it way too far.
In high school I had my heart broken, shut down emotions, and basically swung in the exact opposite direction. Learned to be extroverted-ish when I need to be, confident, logical and data driven (studied economics b/c although I wanted to do philosophy I also didn't want to be homeless), and work at a bank doing taxes now 😅. Since looking into mbti and remembering I'm an infp, I realized I used to be very creative, driven by emotions ect. And honesty, I have adhd and most of my "impulsivity" seems to be when after looking at all the data and logic of a situation I end up just following my feelings anyway on a decision.
I want to start writing again, because I used to do poetry and such that nobody will ever see. But tapping back into that level of vulnerability (even when I'm alone) has become very hard and embarrassing. Although when I can I do remember the feeling of feeling everything and trying to express it in a million ways.
I guess what I'm saying is, find a balance. The ability we have is amazing, don't take it for granted, honeing, and honoring it is worth the effort.
Any tips for figuring it all out would be great. Always collecting new perspectives 😁
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Gotta work to pay Netflix, got it 👍
Writing. Only in writing. I know it's a lot of work. But it's the only place where I can create a home, a world.
I am an infp but i can't write.. how do you start, any tips?
uje pagaz As an amateur writer myself I can’t guarantee I can give the best advice but I do know that there are plenty of TH-cam channels out there that do give out writing advice (warning that there are ones who treat their methods like it’s the only way or best way to write but that’s not the case. Basically hear a variety of opinions and don’t take any one person’s ideas as the word of god).
Long story short, you just have to write, even if you think what you’re writing is garbage, and try experimenting with different techniques and keep learning.
Here’s a few channels I think can help off the top of my head:
Unicorn of War (some of his old videos are writing advice)
Terrible Writing Advice
There are more out there I just can’t think of any lol.
Anyway I wish you the best of luck on your writing endeavors.
@@Mynti_Dragon thanks a lot
@@ujepagaz8495 Robert Mckee and John Truby. Read them!
I love writing !!!!!!
3:54 "and then you hit about 30.."
_okay, cool! maybe it gets better for me!_
"...and then things get really depressing."
This vid started on such a positive note and ended on such a cynical one. Agreed with the first stuff. FOR INFPs: The best way to get through our crap is no longer put saving the world on our shoulders and accept that every person (literally based off of their MBTI) is trying to do something good in some way and that they are not going to do it through the classic Fi means of extreme moral living like we do. That is fine and in fact amazing because we need others to bring practical good things into the world like money.
Using our Te for good is another great thing - analyzing systems and procedures and precisely naming descriptions and definitions of functions and terms to control, manipulate or push towards the next positive action is hugely impactful to grow so we can use it for good.
The truth is we can’t predict the future with Ne well without enough Si information. So being present in the moment, analyzing how systems work right in front of us in real time is super important in learning how to use Ne to predict the future well and accurately.
Also none of this is possible without laying off of Fi perfect morality in the world and Ne idealism or dreamland of that morality. Let go of those then do the last two things I said.
As you begin to function more with Se & Te moments to add to your Si ram and also analyze many systems and procedures and learn new things in books in such through Te, you will rule the mofo-ing world.
The last step after you’ve done all that though is letting yourself go back to your Fi and Ne and grieve all you’ve lost that you’ve dreamed of in reality. You can’t turn off Fi and Ne as they do still spark hopes and dreams along the way even if you’re not foolishly expecting them to come into reality without looking at the fact of what has happened in front of you or taken the time to understand those events with your Te. Fi and Ne are always there and are super emotions so going back to crying it out, journaling it out, writing poetry about what was lost or what was disappointing is all worth doing regularly because its always a part of you.
I think any mature person whose value is worth their weight is going to have to figure out how to live in the the real world. But it is an immature person that compromises their values to "get along" in the world. You stick to what makes you, you in the center of your being, and just let the world exist as it's going to do. Don't change yourself though, or you will lose the inner peace that having a solid moral framework grants you. The answer is to stay true to that integrity, and use your life to preach and be the change you want to see in the world. Not everyone has to hop on board for you to be successful, just say your peace of mind and accept that you cannot always change people, you can only plant seeds for change, and that's enough because it's the best you can do.
I think you should go over this video again. Hes saying "change what you do", not "change who you are". Ultimately, you do have to adapt to the world, there is just no way around that.
One could argue they are the same. :) Actions reflect integrity and authenticity of identity.
Excellent! Well spoken!!!
:)
A good example of really questionable change for the sake of fitting in is this: I remember someone in the TH-cam comments saying that you have to throw away your dignity in order to make progress towards a goal in the entertainment industry. If I can expand, I'm pretty sure they are trying to argue that its okay being taking advantage of, either sexually or some other way, because the end result is worth it. They get attention, they get rich and they get whatever else they want.
Granted, a lot of actors will have sexual misconduct issues in Hollywood. But rather than standing up for it, they'd rather make money and fit in. I'm not sure why people can't accept what the world looks like from the perspective of the INFP or the ENFJ. Throwing away your dignity for these things sounds like a really poor choice. It's just perpetuation of abuse and you're willing to make money for it. For an INFP, if someone said, "Hollywood is only for people who are willing to degrade themselves." - we're not gonna bother with those same people. And I'm not talking about the people these things have happened to but friends that support you can't really be your friends or respectable. To an INFP, anything that leads to degradation is no longer a dream that's worthwhile.
The thing about certain personalities that I've learned from watching C.S. Joseph is that some tend to make friends with criminals and degenerates - mirroring those with poor moral quality and never seeing anything wrong with it. Mentioning these people as if they are really worthwhile and then wondering why they are losers. Your friends being a reflection of self is really important for remembering who you really need to be. I really don't know why people compromise self-respect first.
To be fair to movie art. I'm not saying that every relationship in Hollywood or every movie where an actor has to portray something that makes them uncomfortable should be a sign that we all avoid trying something different or risky but man. If it takes years to overcome what you regret about the choice, really only one time at that rate or to be more fair to my argument - never at all.
PREACH!!!!
I feel like I tend to be an Ne-dominant INFP, but I fluctuate to Si-dominant when I’m under stress or in a grumpy mood. Then I go from Lala land to control freak 🙃
gurrl.....omg, preach. Same.
Fi - Si loop when you are stressed. Google it
Ugh... the more I understand these functions, the more pissed off I am about how much my family applauded me when I was running on solely my demon functions. I just feel like they don't care about things I'm actually good at, and they don't realize how exhausting it was for me to be obsessing about Te stuff all the time out of fear.
Hugs. That is rough.
I deal with the tribe with humor. Its the only way I've found to easily connect with people without making myself totally vulnerable, yet I'm establishing a rapport with them. I'm a manager at my job and it's really not my comfort zone. I am the type to ask, not tell, somebody to do something, but I am a really good worker on my own, so I was given the responsibility of managing a team. I've been doing it for 6 years now, and I am the goofy boss that tries to get everyone laughing, lots of praising and just keep it upbeat to the point they don't even realize how hard they're actually working.
The hardest part for me is when somebody deviates from the instructions I gave them, or says I didn't explain something enough (that really enrages me because I go above and beyond getting tools ready, going over work instructions and prints and getting retention samples). Aside from just doing the job for them, idk what else I can do to satisfy them at that point.
Ever since I was younger I've been trying to find my purpose. Dreaming about my future and what I'd like to be or to do. I often dreamed about saving the world. I honestly thank some of the people around me who have really given me information to solidify a lot of my values. I want to save the world and I know that every day even if I enjoy the job like writing. Work is work and being lazy will stop me from doing it. I keep going because I'm always dreaming how it's going to pay off and be so rewarding. What I am doing doesn't fit with the way the world works. It's completely unconventional and people would think I'm insane but I don't care I think it will work. It's my purpose man!
Personality tests often type me as ISFJ, but I often find myself relating a lot to INFP descriptions, especially this aspect of problems INFPs have… it’s why I still haven’t dedicated myself to any career or profession, and why I often have crises about finding where I’ll fit in-a job, a home, a place where everything will fit my values. It’s driving me insane, and the idea that I just have to put up with it forever because people (and society at large) won’t change depresses me to no end. I’m not on a mission to change the world anymore like when I was younger, but I still try to change things on a smaller level, and it feels like not even that is working. There’s always something that stops me. The world is just so cruel sometimes
Hello....I am a 40 something year old INFP. I think Dave's frame is spot on: i.e. there are trade offs in life; some times "means to an end" just is; and the tribe/self balancing act to manage.
self vs tribe vs forest
Literature
Forest = E - P
The Infastructure = I - J
The Independence = I - P
The Tribe = E - J
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Why the forest?
vs. Road bike.
Thank you for this- definitely what I needed to hear. I speak with customers daily at a small company in a high pressure environment. My job is basically explaining technical concepts (Te) to customers while at the same time pretending to be warm and friendly (Fe). I'm still not the best at my job but I learned how to use my Te in order to try and respond in a logical effective manner and also how to act professional even though us INFPs value authenticity so much. Developing my inferior function and a shadow function exhausts me everyday but these functions unfortunately have value not only at my job but also in the real world. I'll use these more developed functions at my next experience which will hopefully be something I'm more passionate about.
Yep, to communicate with Americans you must use Fe
True true true trrrruuuueeeeee!!!!
Finally I found that one job ( including douchebags and a...holes here and there ) where I can make a difference - even if it's just for that one child that gains a little more self confidence and believes in it's capabilities. The money I earn is not that much, my bosses are a...holes but I love working with children to assist them through their school career ( I am not a teacher, I assist children with ADHD or autism during the school day to give them the opportunity to visit regular schools ). This is so rewarding for me ❤
I taught high school social studies for 18 years. Every bit of what you said in this video. The rewarding aspects of teaching (basically getting paid to tell stories, working with quality people, and inspiring young people/ helping them navigate adolescence) made it possible for me to deal with the parts that I absolutely hated (the institutional aspects of education- so basically everything else). It was not a dream job by any means, but it facilitated the larger value of supporting my family. And most of the time it was more good than bad from a rewarding vs taxing point of view.
As an INFP I actually do a great job of using BOTH Ne (gathering) and Si. It's the Fi-Te issue I struggle with. The big struggle is using the Ne and Si in a defensive way instead of in an extraverted way. The C-PTSD from long-term childhood, physical abuse didn't help either. When we use our Ne defensively questioning others ways, we're protecting and not growing enough in an extraverted way, Ne. We no longer live life by the surprises it can offer, or enjoy what life can bring beyond our Fi ideals. We can't always trust our Fi. The introverted energy is like gravity. We can't always rely on it. It's good to question it.
'When we use our Ne defensively questioning others ways, we're protecting and not growing enough in an extraverted way, Ne.' wow this hits hard and is the exact realization i am going through recently! I realized that in my current relationship I've been acting out of my false insecure beliefs (stemming from trauma) and instead of being honest about these beliefs/insecurities and having an open conversation, I've been acting interrogating, asking indirect questions to figure out / confirm my skeptic beliefs about the other's character for myself... Which was so unfair to my partner. I want to try my best to work on this and indeed question my fi more critically. :,)
I wish I'd been ready to hear this ten years ago! But glad it all hits home now, and right on the eve of my 30th birthday just like you said lol
I'm the second INFP. I ignore my SI. I have gotten better, by surrounding myself with people who keep me grounded, but man that Ne keeps me floating. LoL
I do work I HATE those damn sensors. They make me feel stupid and I hate that.
T Lee saame! Tho ignoring my Si makes me suuuper lazy. Like a week of not wanting to do something about it lol
Yesss I have a ISTP friend who makes me feel weird for diving into different topics when I talk to him
Wow sensors make me feel stupid too because I have problem with sensory stuff and I'm so afraid that if I don't know how to do something or I don't figure out fast enough that they will criticise me (which they do lol). I've always got enfp on tests but after seeing this video and reading these comments I wonder if I'm an infp.
You're Ne
@@JJ-io9ms I've had an istp who made me feel like shit as well... Guess it's typical with them.
On an extremely serious note, this is by far my favorite video by you.
Thorough, detailed, practical, well layered, relatable, & concise.
(Still fighting back the urge to say something snarky though 😏)
This is why I'm gonna go into psychology and writing because those are two of the only careers field that I could think if that could simultaneously give me the control/comfort that I need in my life without being completely exasperated by the boring monotonous routine and commitments, because I only care about what I'm doing.
I'm ISFP and been told by work that my look needs to.improve but no long hair beard for lifs
Charles Benson
You're absolutely everywhere
And all types :D infp, infj, isfp...
Well I'm ISFP after searching so I'll stick with that (:
Is it worth it?
INFP and I refuse to remove my lip piercing. Seriously why can't these people leave us alone, all that should matter is that we do our job properly for the number of hours that is mentioned in the contract.
"Forgot the goals...dreamed black holes
Jumped on the train...to work in pain
Lived too less ...worked too blind
Forgot myself ...forgot the world
And lived in my ...own little world
Where everything stands still"
My Own Little World by THYX
It's a great INFP kind of song.
Damn good video, this is my entire world explained. At 35 years old I still have problems dealing with the tribe but I make it a point to engage with it because its a real challenge that makes me feel good when it comes together.
"Where is there a collection of INFPs who made it?" - Davesuperpowers
Living as a sleep-play INFP, which I do, is very difficult, conflicted, and stressful. It tears you up from the inside and outside, and it never gets better. However, we all have to do things we hate, and I think you're right that finding a rewarding goal is key. Nice video.
The major problem is when the Demon functions need to be used 90+% of the time and being told all the time that the Demon functions are what one should be as an identity!
This might literally be the first time I've commented on any TH-cam video ever- seriously. But, for some reason I had to.
You are f'g hilarious.
That was it. That's all I felt like saying.
Struggled with this at my last job. I became ill every other week because I couldn't stand the environment and the coworker that worked along side me. It was awful and such a relief to be at my new place but even though the reward is higher it can get me down every week. It helps that I liket my coworkers and I get noticed for my work occasionally.
where's the microphone
Casey
Hey Mr neistat
the damn Se XD
i luld
I don't know who I am or what I want or what I like or what's important... Am I not an INFP then?
same, but I'm INFP
I think Fi develops with time too...
iCaptainVM Are you two related?
As an Fi user I can say that... that's weird. Even when I was a teen I knew my self very well, is just... I don't kwon, I just knew what was going on with me.
Maybe check it out again would be good 😅.
Sorry for my bad english, I'm still lerning and this is my way to practice. Anyway, I hope you understood what I tried to say 😆.
are you an Enneagram 9 by any chance? 9s don't really know who they are or what they want, about 20% of INFPs are 9s
I think INFPs can also go through that. Especially if they lean more towards Fi-Ne than Fi-Si like Dave mentioned. I've experienced that too. You know what you want deep down, you really do, but your Ne can think of all the things that could go wrong, or the other side of things, and u find it easy to question yourself. Or even, you know what u want, but it doesn't align with the tribe, so u question yourself. You could still be an INFP.
And if you are, the key is to spend some more time with yourself, and accept what comes to you without judgement. You can figure it out from there, but introspection is key.
it wrongly assumes there are no good work environments for an INFP
I like learning facts to validate who I am as a person besides just using habitual behaviour from my past to peice my personality together
this really motivated me to stop getting dejected about work. thanks for this!
Guys, if you guys have not visited their (yes, their) website, you should really check it out. It’s objectivepersonality.com. There’s more information about all this, and I would really suggest you sign up for their class as well. They have weekly QnA’s and classes where they type a public figure and go through how they did that. You can then also email them 4 questions a week.
Oh you mean it works now haha
Thank you for this wake-up call and reality check! Very helpful and consoling at the same time.
I was crying about this yesterday
Adam de Hombre Not crying about this does not make you less of an INFP.
lmao sAme
hey whut duz ur name mean?
Crying about which part?
I'm in my 30's and the world is so depressing to me. I tought I'm developing depression but now I know it's just my stupid personality.
Sorry I gotta comment - about 30 seconds in you got me cackling about myself as an INFP - Moving along now to watch the rest 😆
This makes a lot of sense, I base my life and actions off of morality but science and facts also play a huge part in how I perceive the world and myself. I am unwilling to compromise my morals but am becoming more willing to compromise my comfortablity in my life. I truly hate confrontation and all my life I would put off any type of confrontation until it was impossible to deal with the issue passively. I am an animal rights activist because animals are the most oppressed individuals and I feel a strong moral imperative to stand up for them. Even tho I hate confrontation I force myself to compromise this because fighting for the rights of animals is the most important thing to me, I’ve never felt so strongly about something in my entire life. I would say this likely makes me an si, I base my decisions on morality but make sure to also consider science and logic. When I went vegan the biggest factor was that my actions didn’t align with my morals when I ate meat, then I thought about the animals and put myself in their situation and I could almost feel all their pain it effected me so profoundly. After that I did as much research on the science and the logical decision was to go vegan because it was the best action that fit my morals plus I knew the science and was confident in my decision. Now I am an activist, even tho the world is such a horrible place I cannot waste my only opportunity to help the animals.
Anyone else agree that this one here is one of the best videos done by Dave lately?
I was contemplating moving countries switching my major the list continues I just can't seem to feel at home I am still young and I am afraid I'll burn out one day but I have a very realistic family that reins me in when I have turmoil like this I can weigh my pros and cons and be ok its not perfect but its better than where I was before type of mind iver matter approach
Outside of having great information & insight your videos are truly fucking hilarious.
I'm the Fi-Si INFP.
I think I naturally tend to lean on the Ne more, but as I get older I've learned to use the Si a lot more. I've found a career in medical research where I can grow crystals out of protein and shoot them with X-rays as part of my job. My living room walls at home are covered with pictures of crystals that I've grown. I found a career that's a great mix of useful productivity and creativity, and it contributes to the wellbeing of others. Great balance for my personality.
Thank you for this! I was kinda confused why I often think differently to plenty of other INFPs despite knowing full well that personal feelings and imagination are the most important things for me. Now I'm sure that I really am INFP, just the Si savior type.
Excellent, Dave!
That's actually pretty sad... I get it, but it's sad. I want a happy dreamland. Why can't I have it?
I feel the exact same.
I feel exactly like this. I fantasize about a utopian future all the time it's so sad but I can't help it sometimes :(
I’m an INFp I am FI and I don’t know what the hell I want, I don’t even know what I want, I don’t know what my values are I have no clue, my SI doesn’t even work 😂
I need help has anyone figured this shit out
What is a sure way to tell if your problem with the Tribe is Fi or Ti in nature?
I believe one struggles with using the tribe values (Fe) to validate their own reasons (Ti) while the other struggles with sacrificing their own values (Fi) to engage tribe reasons (Te).
Luke Reynolds very good description
Pursuing despite all the sucky circumstances one has to contend with- ah, there's the INFP rub! (Seriously, it's really hard. No situation, no person will match my vision of the ideal, so the lifetime struggle is to get over that and move past it.)
Im resilient with my job as a nurse. That job is the most tiring for me but because of money at least I get some to buy me copes.
What is the best way to succeed as an INFP? I do not care for myself or my own feelings, or what happens to me, as long as I have succeeded and brought better good to the world
I think about quitting my job , Because its tedious and never ending, so done tbh , not sure what I want to do though.. so that's that
Personality tests type me as an ESTJ all the time, especially Sakinorva. Kinda ironic, I took the test at your page (probably not as good as a consultation but I'm poor af) and I got Fi-Si.
Ws the 1st INFP described in the video Sleep-Consume (Fi-Si, Fi-Ne) and the 2nd Consume-Sleep (Fi-Ne, Fi-Si)? If so, what would a Sleep-Blast INFP (Fi-Si, Si-Te) and a Consume-Play INFP (Fi-Ne, Ne-Te) look like?
dude what
I get what you mean with Dave superpowers "animals" but where are you getting Si-Te and Ne-Te. That would be ISTJ and ENFP
Cstank5 - Correct, if it's their top Animal. An INFP cannot have Si-Te (Blast) or Ne-Te (Play) as their first Animal, but they can have one of them as their second. A Sleep first INFP (Fi-Si) can have either Consume (Fi-Ne) or Blast (Si-Te) as their second Animal. A Consume first INFP (Fi-Ne) can have either Sleep (Fi-Si) or Play (Ne-Te) as their second Animal. There are 4 possible combinations of 1st & 2nd Animals for each type.
www.erictb.info/archetypes.html read this. it might help you out
I guess a Sleep-Blast INFP (Fi-Si, Si-Te) would be focused on organizing facts based on their personal values (Fi-Si Sleep) and then be finding ways to communicate simple truths about this to the tribe (Si-Te Blast).
I guess a Consume-Play INFP (Fi-Ne, Ne-Te) would be focused on gathering abstract concepts based on their personal values (Fi-Ne Consume) and then be finding ways to implement these abstract concepts in the real world (Ne-Te Play).
Hard for me to hear the “f “word, but I love what you had to say
have been trying to work out if I'm INFJ (the '10 reasons why INFJ are single' convinced me I am this one lol) or INFP then I do another test and it tells me i'm strongly ENTP. I give up!
Could you do INFJ next?
(I know they have nothing to do with INFPs I just want a video)
Same here, I'd love an INFJ video! :)
It's hard to compromise with my Fi
Yup.
Dr. Mark Albion call's it: "The 'laundry.'"
Good stuff.
It'd be cool to see an ISFP vid (too).
(Thanks)
What I really feel right now. 😭😭
That's insightful, thanks🤔🤔🤔
OK this actually hits home.
that's why infp thrives on affirmation
Hey guys, I discovered your channel yesterday and have been binge watching (& many times replaying) your videos. They’re super clear and informative, love the short format as well. I really like the layered approach of starting with an either or question and now I’m all into trying to understand if my friends are Deciders or Observers - I’m having a lot of fun! Question: all the tests I’ve done online (sometimes taken the same multiple times) I got ENFJ as a result. And I could truly relate to that, still can. However, last year I went through major life changing events, professionally & relationship wise, which really pushed me into digging into my self (above the tribe). Now, I feel more secure and stable and when I re-did the test today, I got INFP - which I saw is the mirror to ENFJ. Is it possible that I change personality type due to life events (ENFJ -> INFP) or, is it that I had to face & work with my Demons/shadow, and now have a more stable relationship between my Fe and Ti as an ENFJ (which is mistaken for an INFP through the rest)? Is there a way to find out? Thank you so much for sharing all this content, it’s mind-blowing!
unfortunately this wont work for me, what is worth in the end of the day and what is not can change very easily for me so the external "benefits" or "candies" however to call it will never lure me. I found it work for me to rely on my ne to shift the perspective so i can dive into it and do the Te thing in my own way having the same results anyway without going on compromises and cuts to my fi. If we dont want to adapt our views then we can bring our world with us and create/expend it along the way
But my Si literally doesn't exist at this point
"Where can I find that out in the world"
*Hugs close friends and the relationships I've built over many years*
It's right in front of me.
Trying to understand an infp requires a bunch of microtransactions of patience and trust. And it's pay to win
On pay-to-win: th-cam.com/video/hhAJV5D353w/w-d-xo.html
I’m an INFP and has avoidant personality disorder 🥴🥴🥴 life is fucking hard may I say
I’m 38 and I’ve just had to realize that I will probably always feel lonely and I just have to accept that. Writing helps if nobody listens I guess. I need to accept that everyone is different.
I am
Fi-Ne Si-Te
But when I join the army
I became more
Fi-Si Ne-Te
I can’t explain it but I experienced both
It’s not that I don’t respect one over the other.
It’s the people around me don’t respect the one or the other. I just learn to adjust and explore ways to make things work.
Can't believe you returned.
nice graphics with your explanation, thanks
Truthfully, I can switch between the demon functions of my type depending on minutia of the circumstance or problem
I'd love you to do same video but with ENFP
Great video, Dave.
That ending tho.
Holy shit now I am torn whether I am INTP or an INFP, and I thought I was so sure
"Oh, no, wait a minute, the tribe's not moving...they're still being assholes!" LOOOOOOL, story of my life!! XD I'm really trying to figure out which function is the one I lean on most when I need something to help me out along with the Fi though. I suspect it's Ne given that my description of my thought processes (especially at work) is, "Throw spaghetti at the wall to see what works." Only after the spaghetti has been thrown does my Si get to work getting it organized. XD
I don’t think you got the Colbert thing correct. I’m an INFP and if there’s something were really into, which I believe is probably the case for Colbert, he’s not sacrificing 90% of his day because he knows that’s what he ‘has to do’ …he’s doing what he believes in 90% of his day because the way he probably sees it is that he his is affecting the world through his show. Not sure if that makes sense but bottom line he’s into what he does and isn’t compromising as you stated
Could you please make some more videos on infj? I know you have made a few already so anything would be appreciated. Thank you.
The awareness of no such thing like the dream land is half of the solution of misfiting
This was amazing. Thank you
MBTI says I'm a INFP(A) .. I agree I'm definitely Fi first above all.. definitely CpsB.. the more I watch your stuff I think I'm Fi/Si good with Ne too, butt not so much Te, but I don't know if that's accurate because I'm just really reserved and for a long time dealing with abandonment issues from childhood and so on; but I can talk to strangers fine but I'm really thinking to myself "what's this person going to teach me?" Through wisdom and knowledge of facts or experience in new behaviors of sorts 🤷🏼♂️ I feel like I'm definitely consume and play but I'm going to sign up and find out
Spot on. My life story.
What kind of reward?
ISFP please!
Same as INFP, only change is Se-Ni instead of Ne-Si. Look for S and N video and organize vs gather video. You'll get it.
Thiago Caçador
I've seen those, I'm just not getting what exactly organising concepts & facts (Ni & Si) mean. Maybe because I haven't seen those two dominant in anyone around me. As for myself, I am very certain that I'm an Fi dominant, but I can't confirm if my auxiliary function is Se or Ne. Amongst my friends, I've correctly guessed Fe, Ti, Se & somewhat Ne dominance, but their auxiliary & tertiary status are what confuse me.
In the classes we learn to leave the functions for last when typing. The parts you try to figure out first is Observer or Decider, temperament (IxxP, ExxJ, ExxP, IxxJ), letters (NF, SF, NT,NF), and the animals.
If you're sure you're IxxP and Fi savior, next you need to look at whether you're NF (values things in the abstract) or SF (values things in the physical, real world). And then whether you're Di + Oe (Consume), or Di + Oi (Sleep). Your 2nd savior could be Si or Ni, instead of Se or Ne.
Astralblood
Thanks for this input! :)
Yes I'm quite certain I'm an IxxP. As for NF vs SF, I feel like I kinda do both, I do tend to focus on details & give analogies in details while in a conflict & I do tend to focus more on present than future, but I'm not zero imaginative either, I do enjoy depth in everything, be it novels or movies or characters or TV shows. I really enjoy & respect the depth, may it be the author/director's skill, or the cinematography, or the actor's brilliance or even the soundtrack that conveys the proper emotion.
Yes I've seen the Di+Oe & Di+Oi video of Dave, but I can't pinpoint myself on that. I feel as if it's the jumping of functions from aux to tert & vice versa.
@@nachiketpargaonkar8646 u sound isfp
Are you going to do a video like this for all the types?
You talk here about Savior Fi being non-moveable- isn’t non-moveable associated with the Masculine factor and can be either De (Te or Fe) or Di (Fi or Ti)? It’s also possible that in this case you’re meaning it simply in the practical sense that there’s only one of me trying to move an entire herd of the Tribe, basically being outnumbered.
How the heck do you do it Dave?
Wait hold on, what? INFP with saviour Si? How is that possible? Aren't they Fi-Ne by definition? I haven't seen that anywhere in any of the places I've read, how does that work?
I am having the exact same question!
'Your brains natural mode'(Fi-Ne) vs 'your environment & nurturing '(Fi-Si)
Wheres the microphone
How do you know if you're Fi / si vice versa?
How do you know if it's worth it?
I secretly get annoyed sometimes when I Fi like something and my tribe approves it.
Emotions are Overrated and are very unreliable...I agree and from a rational point of view this is all Very True, Great Video DaveSP, Thank you for making it !