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Personality Hacker I have an issue I have taken a lot of tests and I either score infp or intp with t and p very close in percentage it is like I am in between
@@kokomanation I occasionally get a J instead of a P, or a T instead of an F. I think we have the capacity to use either function, but if you look back on your experiences and the choices you've made you can probably pin it down to one or the other based on the process you have used in the past. For example, my alternating Thinking and Feeling functions. I think a LOT about a lot of things. But my decision-making usually comes from a Feeling position, informed by my logical side. I want people to be able to thrive and be their unique selves, but my way of going about that is always based on finding the most logical, permanent way to achieve it. And where my J/P versatility is concerned, that seems to depend on whether I'm having an experience or trying to solve a problem.
Does the book offer better steps for INFPs to grow? I got the starter kit because it said there was a "growth series" but all I got was 1 video on growth. I bought it for growth. I already knew from your free vids/podcasts that I need to develop exploration as my co-pilot. Not sure what I paid for :(
I am an INFP because I did tests on the past but I am not 100% sure! - I hate hypocritical people. I am honest all the time. I don't lie. I don't need to because I don't hide. I live with authenticity and I am the same person everywhere I go! I don't adapt my personality to people I met. I fit or I dont! - I don't like and I don't respect people who take all the attention, driven by power and ambition or maybe I do if it is for the good cause not for personal interests! I wanted to be a movie producer because I create utopia in my head! I like to imagine positive scenarios of life and I don't understand why nothing change in the world. We are big observants, watching others doing things we are not interested to follow. I dont like to follow anyone! I am very difficult to convince if no one brings me strong and logic arguments that I am straight away agree with! - I think INFPS don't have a goal in earth or our goal is too unaligned with others that going for it would be a non-sense for majority of them. We are creators, innovators and fixors! Passion is a strong driver! Discovering and Exploring things is our main passion. Authenticity is our key function to analyze our discovery and to judge what to do with it, if it's good or bad and if it needs a change or not, if it is a piece of art or a complete shit! We don't want to change or evolve! We don't feel the need! We are happy when things around us is HARMONIOUS. We are SENTINELLES, GUARDIAN OF PEACE! - My favorite color is YELLOW! I am born the 25th October! Waiting for your comments! Thanks!
there is a common misconception that Introverts (personality types) are always "introverted" (behaviour) and vice versa. In reality we are all both extroverts and introverts depending upon the situation and our current state of being. When we refer to the personality types Introvert and Extrovert, we aren't really referring to the behaviours per se, but instead we are actually referring to a description of how that person drains and recharges their energy (ie external environment vs internal world).
Facebook is the only social media I have. I don't like it but it's the only way I have to connect with certain people in my life, and it can also provide good group spaces. I just never cared to get into any other social media.
I used to be addicted and cared too much about social media platforms. I deleted the facebook app itself off of my phone and only use messenger to keep in touch with people. Why spend time browsing on a platform on which people post their drama and show and artificially crafted version of their life? Id rather connect more personally and spend my time growing with myself and those i love than browsing other people's lives.
As an INFP this took me a long time to actually sink in: Just because you understand why someone did something and can emphatize with them doesnt mean that the thing they did wasnt bad. For some reason, its hard to turn on the judging side of myself.
Yes! I seem to be the only person at the moment able to empathize with Will Smith while everyone else flat out cancels him. It doesn't mean i think what he did was right, I just can see it from his side.
@@IndieRockerHippy well I am actually an ENFP as I have figured out, but still this comment applies. And YES! I see so much of myself in him and I see myself potentially making the similar kind of mistake under similar circumstances. I dont know how to feel about that, I dont know wether to be even more distrusting in myself or to try to be me more compassionate towards myself... the key to not getting to that point is to communicate firmly your opinions, how you feel and express your emotions authentically, to the right person, the one causing you suffering. You have to have your needs met so you dont even think of hurting other people in any way, intentionally or not... its all so much easier said than done when your brain is always telling you:"what if your wrong?" In my mind, I am always very possibly wrong.
@@zajaiva5 Exactly. Everyone makes mistakes, especially us introverted feelers because sometimes our emotions in the moment get the better of us. So many people saying " There's so many ways he could've dealt with it, he could've talked to Chris etc" but in that moment Will didn't think it through from all angles. His anger clearly took over. He definitely deserves compassion - and so do you in those moments. Honestly, Chris came off looking like a hero and Will is now being portrayed as this evil guy who deserves nothing but hate, but really he's the one who needs help. He obviously has some issues going on that he needs to work on. I hope he's doing ok and that all the hate isn't affecting his mental health too much.
@@IndieRockerHippy Yeah ...Will Smith/Chris Rock incident a non-issue... the thought police would have us making a mountain out of a molehill...when all that happened was an unfortunate display of emotions by adults, when all of us are prone to that.
"What gender would you assign to the number 8?" **gets distracted for 10 minutes pondering the gender of a number** 8 should be male and female in one, because it's symbol is a vertical infinity. So, it must be capable of self-replication (like trees), producing a never-ending cycle. ...I don't know why I think that. It just Felt right. :3
Omg that’s so weird! I got distracted by the same thing and was about to write a comment but thought nah! Till I saw ur comment ^^ don’t know why I’m excited though 😂😂😂 Btw: in Arabic the gender of the number 8 is feminine, most numbers I think but it just for the way it’s used in speech not its real identity lol 😝
ENTP: I got distracted with the same thing, but I'm thinking, 'oh shit, what are the grammatical consequences of gendered numerals and how can I work that concept into any of the languages I've started building but left abandoned.'
Jheez I've was thinking about this too, but I hadn't thought about in this way! That's so interesting and oddly makes sense lool I think I agree with you! Haha
Journey or is an infinity a horozontal 8? Ooooooh...To me an an infinity symbol is just a circle (cycle) that got twisted. And I agree..an 8 is ungenderable.
gg pz I have one from a time I know I was only able to sit-up... no one believe me .... I remember it because my father was yelling at my mother, who just sat there with tears in her eyes, and I go like. “I gotta to something! But what? Oh yeah I can cry and have my mom pick me up, so I can comforting her!” Cry’s, mom picks me up, but suddenly dad picks me up and I go like. “Nooo I wanted to comfort mom not you, cry/yells hardcore makes my dad scared and he give me back to my mother, and I shut up and just sit there.. Do not ask what my dad was yelling about, I did not understand what was being said, I pick it up from emotions from my parents. Figure a child with INFP personality is pretty “scary” my mind worked completely deference from everyone else. “Sigh”
Yes! I still remember my first memory. It's really surreal but I hold it dear to my heart. From where I walked, my first sentence, lighting of the day and what I even smelled in that moment.
I get more of a "memory tableaux," where I can only remember a particular moment, but not what led up to it, or happened afterward. Earliest on was of being carried in a room full of babies, only everything had a yellow tint. I don't know if it was just a dream I had as a kid, or a memory of a memory, if that makes any sense. I don't think babies can actually focus on their surroundings that early, which is why I don't want to claim it as a real memory.
Me too, but I love it here :D I'm also a HSP, so being around too many sights, sounds or PEOPLE is just torturous. My body and mind shut down. Despite anti-anxiety meds PLUS stimulants, I fall asleep under the constant barrage of information and emotion. I'm not nearly as bad as I used to be (before meds). I used to behave as if I had narcolepsy and I would fall asleep while talking to someone or while driving :O So, no... I think I'll continue keeping life low key lol
I have always thought there was something wrong with me my entire life. I have never been able to express myself well verbally. I think I may even come off as intimidating to other people, or as if I am stuck up, when that's not the case at all. I just have a difficult time approaching others, or thinking of the right thing to say. I have put on a social anxiety defense mode out of being hurt by others in the past due to my way of just being, but I am trying hard to combat this by thinking of something terrible going on in the world which I should be pitching in to help fix (Another thing that makes me emotional, and that I think about constantly), and I find this to be a great tool in stopping my social anxiety when I am in small talk with another individual, for example. I like to explain my mind to people using my filter analogy; picture a filter with a wide end on one side, and a narrow end on the other. When I try to talk to people, I have all of these thoughts, battling feelings/emotions going on inside my head. They all end up coming out all at once on the wide end, and you can only imagine how weird I sound when they jumble up and try to make it through the narrow end. Plus, I have this thing where I think of something new in the middle of conversation, and immediately change the subject constantly. Or when someone says something very simple to me, I may overthink it, which ensues anxiety that I won't say something right, and in the end I just won't even know what to say. Or I will say something but it will sound so stupid and I'll be kicking myself about it later. When I was little and switched schools, it was so difficult to make friends. And I was only friends with the mentally-Ill. So I guess people started to think I might be a bit mentally Ill, but I simply enjoyed their company far more than anyone else. As a result, I've always had issues trying to make friends. I still go over conversations/public presentations I had over 5 years ago, and think about what I could've said differently over and over again in my mind. Because it is like my mind is so coagulated almost all the time, which is why I constantly go on technology or write in a journal because I can express myself so much better in the written word, and just relieve my thoughts. Drawing also helps tremendously. It's like therapy for me. Another thing I've always had is being very self-concious in every way. Being self- conscious about making friends is an interesting one. When I was younger, I took to video games as an outlet, and in these games people had perfect friendships that I desired so badly. And it always made me wonder why I could never experience one, or why people didn't take their friends seriously. I always take my friends so seriously, I will do anything for them, I want to help them, and make them be happy. I want to get to know everything about them. I care so much about them, yet at the same time, I still need my withdrawal mode which always confuses people. But my idea of fun was always different from other people. Everyone wanted to go to parties or go to the prom or what have you. but I always wanted to do something like write a story with someone, or talk about my feelings, or walk in the park. But many other times, I never know what I want to do with people. I won't want to do anything. I want to be home, alone, reading a book/writing a book. Or somewhere in nature. I've also always had a difficult time with concentration on what people are saying. I oftentimes wander off into my own world. Sometimes I'll be listening intently but my own thoughts will be too loud, oh so very loud, so I end up completely missing what they had said. Happened all the time in school. Always got As, so most teachers wouldn't try to take me out if my dreamworld, but some felt as if it was the right thing to do and I had always hated that. I hated being asked a question on the spot, and one of my teachers disliked how I never rose my hand to answer questions. However, this was because other people always rose their hand 1 second after they asked the question. I needed way more contemplating time. And I have constant battles with wanting to make people happy, but staying true to my values or the truth at the same time. The truth doesn't always make people happy, in fact it makes them sad/angry more often than not. Which makes it so difficult because, I value truth so much but at the same time, I just want to make people happy so bad. I've only met one other INFP in my life, and oh wow. The joy of finally being able to talk to someone who understands you, and even acts similar, is staggering. This is just scratching the surface. But I was able to find myself so much better when I got out of brick-and-mortar schooling, and took to online school. There are many good things about bring an INFP too, though. Such as being able to emphasize with someone on such a deep level. I just wish that I had started developing my weaknesses way earlier in life.
Fellow INFP here! It felt as if I'm the one who wrote your comment. We overthink, we nitpick, we come off weird or awkward or stuck up because we inevitably have to withdraw every now and again. We're lucid dreamers and daydreamers. We often lose ourselves in nature. We value truth but we're so tactful because we empathise with others so we do our best not hurt their feelings...I could go on. I learnt of this personality type just recently, and it feels so liberating to finally erase the idea that there was something wrong with me. I wish I had a fellow INFP friend to just connect with.
PH Joel Mark Witt I express myself *far* better in writing than verbally. I'd much rather have a conversation with someone in text messaging, rather than talking on the phone.
Is it weird that after reading the comments and watching this video, I shed a single tear? Not of sadness, but of happiness, of feeling like I part of something.
Im an INFP and im 24 years old. I have to admit i let my Memory part take the whole of me. I had troubled childhood, people leaving in and out of my life, and i let that hold me from exploring other things. I'''m always afraid. Currently, im trying my best to take risks and explore the world.
I can shake your hand. History can crush your future in a matter of second. The only weaon you could use is to say, today iam that who i want to be. Reset yourself. If our dreams can be so real... we can erase them with ease in the future. But why do reallife memories not getting erased? Because we alow reality to be more superior than our dreams. My advice to you is: Your past is as important as every day dream you have. I want to share something with you wich gave me alot of positive energy to take a new start and life view. Please watch this musictrack and clip, and realize that we as dreamers can create peace and beauty out of chaos😃. I hope you will give me the results afterwards. ✊
So, I’m currently working a 12-step program and one of the sayings is “Let go and let God.” I’ve been thinking about that a whole lot lately, and what it really means. I think, and it’s relevant here, it means that we can fearlessly make a decision one way or another and it’s ok, God’s got it covered. We can make a decision to explore and take risks and once we make that decision we don’t have to worry about it because it will turn out exactly as it is supposed to - what we think it will turn out as or how we want it to turn out is irrelevant, so there’s freedom in just letting it be what it is!
Xamire don’t give up I’ve had a dream since I was 5 years old to be an actress kept listening to naysayers for too long. Now at age 38 have my first leading role in a community theatre production so it’s never too late. Hope to be able to eventually become professional.
As an INFP, I've struggled all my life with the temptation to shutter-in. My mind can keep me well entertained, and I enjoy envisioning a grandiose future. But I know I have to get out there to stay relevant. Over the years I've participated in and led a public speaking club, I've volunteered for political organizations, led local campaigns and have a successful career in sales. Currently, I'm running for school board. I've raised a family of five. I like to say I've lived the life of someone twice my age. I don't know how I've been able to keep my sanity. My alone time is sacred.
My ten year old process often holds me back. A lot of the time I feel like I can't really speak my mind about something. I'm too afraid to speak up or defend myself or even other people. I often choose not to say something I want to say, or I leave out certain details. I also second guess myself in making a difference. I get overwhelmed and think I can't do something. For example, choosing a career path has been hard for me. I'm afraid to take risks and I'm afraid to be challenged. I'm afraid to fail. I'm afraid to waste my time. I've overcome a lot of fears in my life, but being completely me and speaking up and exploring and stepping out is what I struggle with. I feel like I'm boxing myself in and all I want to do is flail my arms around, shout, run, jump, touch the sky, and not care what happens or what anybody thinks. You know how people do parkour? That's what I want to do with life.
Hi I'm an infp also, used to go on personality cafe but believe it or not I'm impersonated and harrassed and someone with server access deleted all my posts, so I quit. I've been into mbti since 2012 but my first infp result was 1997.
Exactly the same way... Now i know why i'm like this.i I thought its just me and something is wrong with me😭 but its just my personality, oh now i know😭
As an INFP, going travelling (backpacking) has really helped my personal growth, and I completely agree with the idea that INFPs need to experience the world around them in order to maintain realism in their idealism.
I'm not only an INFP, I am an authentic soul and I love who I am. Being an INFP is a blessing because we don't conform to society. So embrace yourself. You are more than just what you identify with or what others think you should be. You are a beautiful soul as well 💕
hi, fellow infp friend. i am different too. I think of INFP as the TRUTH seekers ! i am constantly on search for truth ! no only i search i also can instantly recognise truth even its burried behind 100-fals facts ! it is amazing i like being infp, its challange and rewarding also. but more challenging
At the age of 5 ,one day after school when my older sister was not there to take me home I decided to have an adventure and walked in the other direction actually exploring the streets of the town. From what I recall the police were called to look for me,and my parents and everyone thought I was lost. I ve spent my life being underestimated by family and conservative culture around me. At 73 I am breaking out of the cocoon again. I later stepped out at age 17 to study art teaching and explored that world then again at 26 the reality of truth in Jesus Christ. Thanks for the reminder to break out of my shell again and overcome the fear and take another risk.
Agghh... I let my 10 year old rule me for 41 years. So upsetting. Duly noted. Childhood trauma is a reason I can see myself giving over to fear. This month, going to yoga class. Working towards my certification...Why?...because my soul has been telling me to take action on it for a year. Experience...here I come. Better late than never, right?
So true. The last month I've gone skydiving (something I was sure I'd never be able to do) and tried ecstacy (figured I'd want to do this once in my life). I've become so much more confident and now feel that it has helped me be the person I want to be, not afraid to explore the world. I implore you to find things to do outside of your comfort zone, that's when, at least for me at this time, you'll find yourself. I know, it sounds cheesy and anecdotal and it partly is, but it's the best advice I can give for a moment in time when I truly felt that I was going back to being a shut in (even though Ive always been charismatic and fun once I actually am energized enough to do it. Exploration helps us stay energized and interested.)
Ahh in so glad you said that. I'm 23 in a few days. And I've just come to realize that. It's scary I feel like a 10 year old. I have a decision I'm too afraid to make and I don't take risk. I over analyze small details that are useless based on my past experiences. I know it's irrational cause we normally don't go off logical thinking. We as infps are soooooo guided by that 10 year old when we are afraid especially when that 10yr been through things that tell him no
Lol! It is true - we do like writing extremely long messages! Haha. So totally guilty! My elementary school child was correcting me the other day because my text messages were really long! Lol, she told I don’t know how to text correctly, that texts are supposed to be only a few words, or 1-2 sentences MAX. Lol. She was quite passionate about how “wrong” I was doing texts!!!
As an INFP, I understand completely how exploration is so healthy for us. I have found the pandemic and being shut-in really difficult and not good for mental health.
im a male and an infp - a,i dont really have anxiety and a lot of people see me as a funny guy,although i spend most of my time in my head,i manage to keep my relationship with my friends which are extrovert and introvert ones,when i am having a bad day,i dont get upset,i skip reality and spend my time in my head,no one actually see my anger since im good at managing it excluding my family,i really do feel happy being an infp-a
For a long time I always thought these personality sites were worthless and just wanted money but you've changed that because you actually talk about how I can make best use of my INFP type. People always think I'm lazy and stuck in my head but whenever I do get something done people are maxed how I learned it or done this goal so fast and how I did it when it seems impossible. I wish I could do it more often but without having that inner fire I just don't know how or just don't care really lol. I know that sounds crappy...but I think I may just have to check out your site now because I really want to be able to help others and how to do it. Wow just amazing video thank you sooooo much!
kristi Balibrera thanks for the feedback. We have a really great deep dive INFP article and podcast over on the main PH website. Would love to get your feedback about those too.
I can't help but giggle at the accuracy. Exploration is ingrained in my soul, and I shall stay the course of adventurin'! Thank you for this information and the push to be a better INFP! & to my fellow INFP's, YOU GOT THIS!! We are not one to conform and settle; keep progressing to be the best YOU, you can be! I believe in you!
I'm always struggling with the outside world, and how things that affect me doesn't bother anyone else. Once I open up, and began talking I always feel down afterwards..
I am a 19 years old female and I think it is funny when talks about the infp questioning 'What if numbers had gender' because when I was little I actually assigned genders to numbers like 8 was a really old lady to me and 7 was a young cool guy and 6 was a little old man and so on..
My experience is that my exploring the world has often been seen by others as rebellion, so it sure is something to learn that this is how I leverage my own growth... Also, I don't think you talked about it here, but you have elsewhere, you are right on that INFPs don't need to be understood, only accepted and validated.
As an INFP I have stayed inside most of my life and could not find the will to get out and hang with or meet new people. I do enjoy it when it happens but I don't like doing it myself. I recently decided to take a big step against everything I am and even though I'm extremely nervous I'm flying out to Tongue Point, Oregon. I will be leaving Sour lake, Texas October 3rd to start my life working on merchant ships. I have never ridden in a plane before and I'm 19. I just want to explore the world. I hope to become a captain and travel different continents and adventure. Life feels boring and I hate being told what to do. I don't like snobs and I don't understand why people get so hurt over drama. I felt like I was the only one in the world who is going against the grain. Until I found out just now that there are people who share my same personality and it makes me happy! I want to meet them and see if they like the same music as me or if they share a common interest. I want to discover things that no one has seen before but not become screaming popular just want to be respected and someone people look up to in life. And I will be damned if people try to tell me what I can and cannot do with my life. ADVENTURE!!
@@ritikadharwani3408 I'm 23 now about to be 24 and let say I've experienced alot in the past 4 years. I've flown in a plane about 12 times now. I understand why drama hurts and I learned everyone has their own version of going against the grain. Its okay for people to have some influence on your life just remember to stay true to your self. The adventures I went on were incredible and I wouldn't change them if I could. I fell in love had heart breaks made good friends who faded into memories. Had people I care about pass away. Made animal friends and lost them to illness. Worked on a boat been through blizzards and driven 18wheelers. Lifes what you make it never let anyone tell you otherwise. The adventures are there waiting for you to take the first step. I can't promise you'll succeed but in the end you'll never forget the experiences you've had. Everyday move toward a better version of yourself and you'll find everything falls into place.
As an INFP, I really do relate to exploration as growth. Since I was a teenager, I always felt deep down that I wanted to settle down and have children, but I didn't trust myself because I was so unrealistically idealistic about so many things. So, I didn't. I graduated from university, lived in Asia as a teacher, travelled the world, went to grad school, got a great job. Yes, I even took improv classes. I realized in doing these things, that I was pretty fearless in trying new things, everything, and "going at it alone" a lot more than most people. I also made a LOT of mistakes and learned a lot from them. Finally, I came back around to meet my husband. I'm happier than I've ever been with my husband and two kids, but I don't think I would have been as satisfied had I not explored, made mistakes, and sanded down my lofty ideals.
I'm doing my last year of highschool and have absolutely no idea of what I wanna do after that; I don't know what I wanna do with my life, making decisions has always been a huge struggle. I overthink everything, whether it's the stupidest thing or the deepest philosophical thing. I always find pros and cons for any option and any side. Whenever I witness two people fighting I see both points of view and I won't even intervene, even when I think I should. I can't get myself to stand up for me or for someone else, which is disappointing because I know I should and could if only I could let go of my insecurities and not care about anything. I always feel observed, judged, and I'll behave according to what I think other people think of me. I somehow hate it but I also like it, I wanna change but also not because that's me. I guess I should go out of my comfort zone a bit more and find peace embracing myself idk. Either way it's very cool to know that there are so many people that feel exactly like me and that I'm not alone. Thank you internet.
my memory is so against me it literally is like a 10 year old child, when i am not able to do the things i want to do bevause i have social anxiety and too many expectations of own self i sink into depression because i remember all my past heavy traumas. i love exploring though when i am able to i live for it. currently i am abroad away from support systems and i have way too many ideal situations for my self. this has helped a lot in my understanding
I once realized I wanted to just be so I said it out loud "I want to just be" , I felt I was I was being attacked by my friends persistence on questioning me on what I mean. I didn't know how to explain it beyond that statement. After awhile, I started to cry because I couldn't take his aggressive questioning. Haha granted I was under the influence.
Im 14. Im really thankful that I was able to discover this early, as I am on the path to becoming a shut-in already, and I shudder to think of how I may have went on without this knowledge.
You will be okay "usually"....calculations predict approximately 25 % of failure. Not worth it because the pain counter weights and possible benefit 20 times over....oh maybe a little anxiety mixed in with all of that
This explains all of my struggles and my desires to see the world. And, why I can't stop traveling more and more.. I'm in Iceland at this moment (extrem for someone who lives in Florida)
I'd say everyone in my car is a 3 year old... My brain is like a group of toddlers trying to function and survive without an adult present. And somehow we've managed to not die yet. Though to be fair I do still live with my parents so we'll see what happens when I try to live on my own.
We hear from a lot of INFPs why struggle with this. Hang in there. As you get into your co-pilot you'll discover that your 10-yr-old supports you in really helpful ways.
Someone was telling me about the 5 love languages, and wanted to know what mine was. After thinking for a minute, I said: None of those would make me happy, What I value most in life is space and trust. She just stared at me blankly for awhile, and then left without saying a word. I since found out I am an INFP, and it makes sense why I saw my "love language" as space.
INFP here. I love your clear explanation, one of the first i've come across to clearly explain all aspects without talking in Myers-Biggs terms only. For me, the last few years I've been the defensive INFP, by staying in "safe" environments and comfort zones, such as my home and my friends and family. Time to explore!!!!!!! Thank you!
Sorry I could only get through a quarter of the video 2:28 . My mind started to wonder. Then I realized what's the point, I already missed most of what you said when I refocused on the video. INFP 🙋♀️🤷♀️🤦♀️
Omg. Me. *Nodding in agreement* Having somebody validate all of this is a great feeling. It seems like A LOT of people have a hard time understanding an INFP? Just from my personal experiences. Thank you for this. It also helps me trust that this overwhelming feeling to relocate to another state I have is what I need to do. Again thank you!
INFP here. Anyone else have a conversation, then reconstruct it in their head (I usually take out the awkward moments, stutters, etc.) so from then on I remember it going a lot more smoother and nice than it actually was?? It doesnt happen with every encounter but it happens to a lot of them..
Amazing. As an INFP i agree with everything haha. I love how you guys have your own terms for the individual types haha. Idk if this is an INFP thing or a me thing but i do enjoy listening to you guys explain more on our type because it just feels like you guys get us. Its feels almost like something is taken off of my back to have somebody actually get where I'm coming from. to the community - If you guys haven't checked out their podcast you guys should definitely check that out. A lot of insight going on there. I was laughing at some parts because they were so dead on. -Peter (Brian)
+Peter Vendoza Thanks for the kind words and support. Did you get a chance to read the new article I just released? Love to hear your thoughts: www.personalityhacker.com/infp-personality-type/
This video totally nailed it for me. It explains the activities I chose to do when I was a kid, and why I get too wrestless at work. When I go to test things out people look at me like why are you doing that? People get impatient with me when I want to explain things more in depth than just the surface. For me its the small and the big things. Small problems like figuring out how my home network works, or big like deciding my career path. When I decide about what to do the risks are usually second on my mind and I want to go do it. But sometimes my wife or someone doesnt like the idea and wants to stop me. Im always coming up with a new idea to try or experience.
*Jan 15th, 2021:* I keep resigning myself to fear (tertiary, memory) when it comes to college coursework. I'm in first year, and I've done basically nothing since the start of the semester because I'm so afraid of getting it wrong. The standard for work is so high, and I feel like if I'm less than perfect there's no point, causing myself endless anxiety. It's incredibly immature of me really, but I've had to defer my place in college for a year until I can get my mind back in order. My mental health has been awful, because I've hermited myself due to lockdowns. I have no friends left. I've decided to put off college so I can get outside, get a job, get friends, and harness Ne so I can apply it when I try college again. I'll be back in six months to tell you how it goes.
"Really, was that it?!" Super accurate for me, made me smile involuntarily. Also, 8 is super non binary in my eyes. Like that one friend who looks good in everything.
After COVID I got like that, barely leaving my house except for working and buying my groceries. Now I came back with my people, and I'm much better, I even took several risks, changing my career etc 💪
Thanks for that Joel :) Actually, just last week I was able to get out and explore a part of the hills / mini mountains near where I live that I've never been to before. I've been stuck studying for months, actually, and haven't been able to get out much but.. I got out and I felt soooo much better! As I was driving I was getting excited at the anticipation of going somewhere new, and the freedom to just be able to GET OUT felt amazingly refreshing! But the thing is, I had to more or less force myself to do that. I had a day off and could have / was tempted just to play video games for most of the day - but, I knew getting out would better my mental state and make me feel refreshed. To other infps reading this, when you feel the urge / need to get out. Do it. It doesn't have to be huge explorations or anything like that. For example, I need to study for an exam today. Usually I just get to work because that's what I have to do, and resist the urge to do what I want to do. Which sometimes has to be done :P. However, today I'm going to go for walk for a bit before I study because I feel that will give me the break in routine that I need and it gets me up and active. So, look for little opportunities like that, as well as the big ones!
Trev Dylan getting back to nature in solitary contemplation is soothing for us it means our overactive minds have a chance to slow down be relaxed and creative and not worry about all of life’s problems
Hah! Now I feel inspired enough to pick that one hobby I always wanted to do up, just to drop it tomorrow and get back to playing video games and procrastinating. 👌
Thank you so much for this. I'm an INFP person, and all my life I have tried to play it safe. Rarely did I try to go out of my comfort zone. I knew deep inside my mind that the only way I will grow is to go out and explore the world. So, now it is time to bring my regular schedules to a halt, and go miles away from my usual comfort zone :) Once again, I can't really express how much I appreciate you for making this video :)
Thanks for this explanation! The primacy of exploration in growth really caused a lightbulb to go on. Intuitively I've known that I need to explore but never had the validation to verbalize it. My memory function definitely gets to drive too often, especially because it agrees with my entirely SJ family, and I do get very shut down if I give in to it. I think I'll be able to hold my ground better in meeting my needs just understanding this. The part about giving and receiving love was validating too; I have had to work very hard to help my friends and family feel loved outside my definitions... Love your insights!
+Sarah Walker Thanks Sarah. I wrote an article over on our PH site that you may like to read. I talk about getting validation as an INFP, how to motivate yourself and a bunch of other topics. Would love to hear your feedback.
I find that I do my best work and achieve the highest happiness after I've had enough time locked inside my room. The more time I spend alone in the saftey of my own cell, the sharper and more productive I become.
I really have experienced that Exploration is the way to growth for an INFP. In my teenage years and college years I was really able to grow my Exploration through foreign travel and locally just driving and biking in new places,areas and roads. It was the time I felt my best and most alive and authentically me. Later I got stuck in my Memory process and started feeling very dead to life and down. I was living and working in the same "block". Also I became scared to travel places when once before I thrived off of these adventures. Then I started taking walks(I was reading the Artist's Way) and exploring the area I living in. All of a sudden I came alive again. It was such a little risk for me and such a big reward. Right now my Exploration involves taking my bicycle and going for a ride in the foreign city I live in. I find that if I choose a place I want bike to along the way Exploration just happens. That is easier for me then just going and randomly biking somewhere. It gives a safety net and then with that suggestion of a destination the Exploration just takes over. The purpose of biking to the park becomes secondary or only part of discovering a whole new neighborhood or finding a new restaurant or museum or cool nature area. It often opens me up to interacting with strangers which is out of my comfort zone.
Hey! I really want to get that book the artists way! Funny thing is I was just looking at it the other day too, I have her book " walking in this world" and thought it was the first one at first haha and yeah I can really relate to a lot of the things you and our other fellow INFPs think
This is great advice! You both have a gift for clarity. Basically I feel healthier in Ne-Te mode. It is kind of an irony that INFPs can really shut themselves in and be very safe when by nature when they are out they are rather creative, experimental, and can be quite adventurous. It is like an unlocked capacity. When unlocked it is easy to develop because it comes so naturally and makes us feel in tune with who we are. But it is also easy to shut in, but then feel quite uncomfortable. An easy problem to solve with a change of mind.
+Type Tips I liked how you explained that. I wrestle with this all the freakity time. I jus wish I was one extreme or the other lol, be easier to be decisive this way ^_^
i cannot handle the hate in this world...the eyes of people i distrust....ah...none of it seems worth it. I will just have to accept my creative side when i return home in Paradise. This world is too cold for me....
This video made me feel really depressed because I'm struggling with being a shut in and in a small town that doesn't offer much... so it feels pointless just walking outside when this town is so dull..
^ same... Bars aren't my scene. Maybe I will go to the library tomorrow or just go visit some friends. I have been in full hermit mode for so long. It is miserable.
Playing it safe has shown mostly in my romantic relationships...I might dip my toe in but let memory take over and bail out when I should let myself explore and enjoy
I definitely agree with this. I have had the advantage of being surrounded by a LOT of intuitive friends and for me having people who will embraced hypothetical scenarios and odd ideas, "following the rabbit trails" provided so much of my character growth. Especially as introverts, we dislike trying to explain Authenticity to people because it's so often considered thoughtless nonsense which discourages the INFP immensely. But if you let an INFP connect with you through Exploration they'll be able to extrovert all the interesting questions flying around behind their eyes and rather than coming off as mystical or pretentious (thinking they know what's right without proving it, ect) they come off as incredibly creative and fun to talk to. Ne strengthening has been most evident for me in my school career. My major is heavily science based and I connect the material I learn to other things I know, especially social comparisons. What you said about "if 8 were a gender what would it be?" is exactly how I think often times when trying to learn. I once rewrote a line of Shakespeare to be about lymph fluid because that's just how the information made sense to me in that moment. I think that's sort of your quintessential INFP use of Ne. Very creative, abstract, almost allegorical in how we constantly personify everything.
+Rachael L Thanks for sharing your thoughts about this. I'd really like to hear your thoughts about this INFP article I just published: www.personalityhacker.com/infp-personality-type/
My current experiences as an INFP is trying out for Track. This year is my first year doing sports as a sophomore in high school. I've just finished Powerlifting which was with plenty of friends but there are even less in Track. Now a week ago i was so excited to do track because i knew itd keep in in shape and its be new. But yesterday was the first meeting and i left fairly intimidated and even made the decisions last night that i wouldn't do it. After this tho im positive that i have to do it. My whole life ive wanted to explore but every bad experience shut me out more and more. This video helped tremendously, thank you!
@5:13 That is so true. That's why I chose the university I go now. I had fear of going out and living by myself for a while especially in Manhattan which I barely know how to navigate in. I don't even know the subway system. But I purposely cornered myself so I don't have way to avoid and practically forced myself to do shit I don't like. After a week, I was like "why was I afraid? Why was even a big deal." I live in dorm now w other people, going to uni far from my home, knew manhattan and the subway system like the back of my hand within a month or so. Sometimes you just gotta force yourself to get out there. Every week on sunny days I would wonder anywhere without any agenda. Trying out new food is what I do all the time anyway. Like I mean you can't really get lost in a city, if you are just use google map and subway app lolll
thats what im planning on doing, going to college far from home even though i love my home and am a home body. i always feel like i need to shove myself out of my comfort zone in order to do anything worth while.
Really really enjoyed the information here, only found out I was an INFP about seven months ago!! But it feels GREAT knowing my general type so I can understand how to use that information to be a better and more successful human being :)
I know that I have to take risks in order for me to grow but when something bad happens to you so bad that it turns you into "hermit mode". it somehow traumatize me to go back out again. it took me a long time to recover before I get back out again.
wow,i gotta say this does ring true for me! I do stay at home a lot,when i sometimes have that thought of going out to explore the nature outside of town.When i go to the grocery store,i typically don't try new things without having looked it up online even though i may kind of want to do it anyway. i liked that video. Taking more risks is something i...have already started to do.Namely with wearing a pendant for the first time in my life.I wanted to but was wary of the opinion of others.It's a nice way to express myself.
SirenoftheVoid As a new experience I took a short one term class doing pole fitness at the tender age of 37 one of the most empowering things I ever did even though ultimately I wasn’t able to do most of the moves due to a lack of strength and coordination. It did however improve my confidence and enable me to have a more positive body image
Here's a question for my fellow INFPs.... how do you transition conversation from light hearted (superficial) to deeper ,more personal topics?? I tend to be good at either light hearted conversation or deeper conversations but I really have no clue as to how to go from one to another in a natural , organic way. Any help with this would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
i’m not an infp but i’m fi dominant (isfp).. alain de botton talked a bit about how to do so in his book called modern manners. small talk and light hearted topics are great ways to go deeper. going deep right away isn’t something most people are comfortable with but if you keep giving follow up questions or ask them to clarify a bit of smudge or vagueness in what they said it can lead you to their truest thoughts and feelings, unless of course they stubbornly deflect or leave the convo.
Wow! This is so me! People do often see me as self centered or as not caring, but that is not how I am at all. This video helps me to understand why my loved ones see me in that light, and I really want to learn how to communicate my actual authentic self. I am 57 years old and want to live my life to the fullest and yet it seems like I can’t get out of that place in my head where I see possibilities to actually living out my best life. I am close to becoming a shut in, with drawn from the outside world! I do not want my life to end this way! Alone and 😔 lonely.
Hello (INFP) I really like the 7:00 part with our Si function... really glad to have black on white on this matter. there's a real 'conflict' going on in my head where I'm basically telling my Si function to fo while I try things out but I must say that its presence can dominate when you're feeling 'weak' and that truly puts you back, just the way you describe 7 minutes in. I do agree that the solution is to grow and use your Exploration function or as I would call it - simply being curious. A small word but for an INFP it means the world because not least of our imaginativeness. will be returning with a comment with more depth after my workout.
+The Shortcut Shaman that would make sense!! I am very curious by nature too, but spend way too much time on the internet... sometimes it's for good things like, I watch some youtube videos or DIY stuff so I can then try new stuff on my own. But I will also waste a lot of time kind of wandering not knowing what to do and feel bored... and it's like I forget that there is an outside world to explore... its much more comfortable to just sit there in my comfort zone... I knew I had to explore and try new things to grow, but fear keeps me shut down most of the time, especially when it comes to moving. I got anxiety and fear that my body can't handle it (like sports) and that there's something wrong with my heart (like a lot of hypochondriac people)... I am working on that part now so I can finally get out and explore moving my body! I did in the past but had some tachycardia episodes while doing sports, and that shut me down completely regarding any sports... Sometimes, I'm even afraid to move at all... I guess that is the memory part, the 10 y old? I think the internet makes me hyperactive because there is so much to explore and I don't have enough time to explore everything I would like to! And sometimes, I feel bored, and there's too many choices of things to do and get overwhelmed with choices, and end up doing nothing because "what if I choose the wrong thing to do at that time?" That totally sounds absurd haha, but that's what happens in my mind...
While this can be true for our minds, please try to be simple minded, like myself. It makes life so much easier. I use to 'turn on' music in my head, makes me focus muuch better. I work in a store mostly handling the wares and customers but not cashier because I have social phobia, can become 'scared' of crowds, easier to make mistakes. I am max introvert so I tend to isolate myself by default. I go to the gym and meet people which is great+store work but I feel like I'd need more of a social life other than parties (not that I party much at all). It's an amazing feeling to 'know' that people aren't potential murderers all the time.
I'm personally not a fan of the car analogy as this serves to confuse me having already known about the cognitive functions before finding Personality Hacker. However, saying that I need to expand on exploration rather than extraverted intuition makes a lot more sense. I'm planning to study abroad this upcoming spring, and though I know that this is something I've always wanted to do/get out of my college experience, I haven't been able to adequately explain why. The explanation of exploration served to somewhat help with that and lead me to realize that I'm not as crazy for wanting to do this as I may seem to others. Keep it up, and looking forward to more :)
+Vulory I am an INFP also and went aboard during my college years. I would say it was the highlight of my college education and I think it is because when in engaging in exploration I feel the most balanced and alive. I am sure u will have a great time. Enjoy your spring semester!
There was a period of time in my life where I was so traumatized over being sexually harassed while walking in public that I purposefully stayed at home ALL the time and would even get anxiety about walking to my car. I stayed in my room a lot and was afraid to go outside. Definitely the darkest time in my life. So I can attest to the INFP shut-in
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Personality Hacker I have an issue I have taken a lot of tests and I either score infp or intp with t and p very close in percentage it is like I am in between
@@kokomanation I occasionally get a J instead of a P, or a T instead of an F. I think we have the capacity to use either function, but if you look back on your experiences and the choices you've made you can probably pin it down to one or the other based on the process you have used in the past. For example, my alternating Thinking and Feeling functions. I think a LOT about a lot of things. But my decision-making usually comes from a Feeling position, informed by my logical side. I want people to be able to thrive and be their unique selves, but my way of going about that is always based on finding the most logical, permanent way to achieve it. And where my J/P versatility is concerned, that seems to depend on whether I'm having an experience or trying to solve a problem.
Does the book offer better steps for INFPs to grow? I got the starter kit because it said there was a "growth series" but all I got was 1 video on growth. I bought it for growth. I already knew from your free vids/podcasts that I need to develop exploration as my co-pilot. Not sure what I paid for :(
Authenticity is double edged. It can leave you paralyzed when you don't feel any options you have is who you are
I am an INFP because I did tests on the past but I am not 100% sure!
- I hate hypocritical people. I am honest all the time. I don't lie. I don't need to because I don't hide. I live with authenticity and I am the same person everywhere I go! I don't adapt my personality to people I met. I fit or I dont!
- I don't like and I don't respect people who take all the attention, driven by power and ambition or maybe I do if it is for the good cause not for personal interests!
I wanted to be a movie producer because I create utopia in my head! I like to imagine positive scenarios of life and I don't understand why nothing change in the world. We are big observants, watching others doing things we are not interested to follow. I dont like to follow anyone! I am very difficult to convince if no one brings me strong and logic arguments that I am straight away agree with!
- I think INFPS don't have a goal in earth or our goal is too unaligned with others that going for it would be a non-sense for majority of them.
We are creators, innovators and fixors! Passion is a strong driver! Discovering and Exploring things is our main passion. Authenticity is our key function to analyze our discovery and to judge what to do with it, if it's good or bad and if it needs a change or not, if it is a piece of art or a complete shit!
We don't want to change or evolve! We don't feel the need! We are happy when things around us is HARMONIOUS. We are SENTINELLES, GUARDIAN OF PEACE!
- My favorite color is YELLOW! I am born the 25th October!
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I grew from INTJ to INTP to INFP.. but i was told I forced myself in being an INTP/J :P .. so deep
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Yes we are...I feel the same
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Aleron Zacchaeus INFP here! Nice to know others exist. I feel alone most of the time.
Infps are truly Enfps we just reserve it for the ones we are close to.
Totally agree with this statement. One of my best friends is an ENFP.
there is a common misconception that Introverts (personality types) are always "introverted" (behaviour) and vice versa. In reality we are all both extroverts and introverts depending upon the situation and our current state of being. When we refer to the personality types Introvert and Extrovert, we aren't really referring to the behaviours per se, but instead we are actually referring to a description of how that person drains and recharges their energy (ie external environment vs internal world).
@@gozzywozzy485 yeah!
couldn’t agree more
100% agree
I play it safe by watching TH-cam videos on how to grow instead of diving into real life.
Yesss this is truth
Same..
me too lmao
It is a very valid approach for personal growth ... I do this a lot! ;-)
You know you're an infp when:
Nice job trying to get a bunch of infps to use facebook,most infps I've encountered hate fb
Krunk Cobain This made me laugh way too hard...
Is it true?
I only use facebook and only that.
I just find the other social media platform a waste of time.
Facebook is the only social media I have. I don't like it but it's the only way I have to connect with certain people in my life, and it can also provide good group spaces. I just never cared to get into any other social media.
I used to be addicted and cared too much about social media platforms. I deleted the facebook app itself off of my phone and only use messenger to keep in touch with people. Why spend time browsing on a platform on which people post their drama and show and artificially crafted version of their life? Id rather connect more personally and spend my time growing with myself and those i love than browsing other people's lives.
Same. I tried using facebook once and deleted it in a matter of minutes after scrolling through and making my account
did this video just explain who I am as a car. I want to cry.
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Same problem...
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As an INFP this took me a long time to actually sink in: Just because you understand why someone did something and can emphatize with them doesnt mean that the thing they did wasnt bad.
For some reason, its hard to turn on the judging side of myself.
INTP/INFP personal value is the one that judge is it good or bad. totally agree! it is subjective.
Yes! I seem to be the only person at the moment able to empathize with Will Smith while everyone else flat out cancels him. It doesn't mean i think what he did was right, I just can see it from his side.
@@IndieRockerHippy well I am actually an ENFP as I have figured out, but still this comment applies. And YES! I see so much of myself in him and I see myself potentially making the similar kind of mistake under similar circumstances. I dont know how to feel about that, I dont know wether to be even more distrusting in myself or to try to be me more compassionate towards myself... the key to not getting to that point is to communicate firmly your opinions, how you feel and express your emotions authentically, to the right person, the one causing you suffering. You have to have your needs met so you dont even think of hurting other people in any way, intentionally or not... its all so much easier said than done when your brain is always telling you:"what if your wrong?" In my mind, I am always very possibly wrong.
@@zajaiva5 Exactly. Everyone makes mistakes, especially us introverted feelers because sometimes our emotions in the moment get the better of us. So many people saying " There's so many ways he could've dealt with it, he could've talked to Chris etc" but in that moment Will didn't think it through from all angles. His anger clearly took over. He definitely deserves compassion - and so do you in those moments. Honestly, Chris came off looking like a hero and Will is now being portrayed as this evil guy who deserves nothing but hate, but really he's the one who needs help. He obviously has some issues going on that he needs to work on. I hope he's doing ok and that all the hate isn't affecting his mental health too much.
@@IndieRockerHippy Yeah ...Will Smith/Chris Rock incident a non-issue... the thought police would have us making a mountain out of a molehill...when all that happened was an unfortunate display of emotions by adults, when all of us are prone to that.
"What gender would you assign to the number 8?"
**gets distracted for 10 minutes pondering the gender of a number**
8 should be male and female in one, because it's symbol is a vertical infinity. So, it must be capable of self-replication (like trees), producing a never-ending cycle. ...I don't know why I think that. It just Felt right. :3
Journey 😂😂😂😂😂
Omg that’s so weird! I got distracted by the same thing and was about to write a comment but thought nah! Till I saw ur comment ^^ don’t know why I’m excited though 😂😂😂
Btw: in Arabic the gender of the number 8 is feminine, most numbers I think but it just for the way it’s used in speech not its real identity lol 😝
ENTP: I got distracted with the same thing, but I'm thinking, 'oh shit, what are the grammatical consequences of gendered numerals and how can I work that concept into any of the languages I've started building but left abandoned.'
Jheez I've was thinking about this too, but I hadn't thought about in this way! That's so interesting and oddly makes sense lool I think I agree with you! Haha
Journey or is an infinity a horozontal 8? Ooooooh...To me an an infinity symbol is just a circle (cycle) that got twisted. And I agree..an 8 is ungenderable.
So let me ask my infp fellows....anyone who has vivid memory of their lives from like age 3 onwards......????
Even earlier. I have a memory from the highchair!! Not kidding!
gg pz I have one from a time I know I was only able to sit-up... no one believe me .... I remember it because my father was yelling at my mother, who just sat there with tears in her eyes, and I go like. “I gotta to something! But what? Oh yeah I can cry and have my mom pick me up, so I can comforting her!” Cry’s, mom picks me up, but suddenly dad picks me up and I go like. “Nooo I wanted to comfort mom not you, cry/yells hardcore makes my dad scared and he give me back to my mother, and I shut up and just sit there.. Do not ask what my dad was yelling about, I did not understand what was being said, I pick it up from emotions from my parents. Figure a child with INFP personality is pretty “scary” my mind worked completely deference from everyone else. “Sigh”
Yes! I still remember my first memory. It's really surreal but I hold it dear to my heart. From where I walked, my first sentence, lighting of the day and what I even smelled in that moment.
I get more of a "memory tableaux," where I can only remember a particular moment, but not what led up to it, or happened afterward. Earliest on was of being carried in a room full of babies, only everything had a yellow tint. I don't know if it was just a dream I had as a kid, or a memory of a memory, if that makes any sense.
I don't think babies can actually focus on their surroundings that early, which is why I don't want to claim it as a real memory.
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I've definitely become the physically shut in hermit.
Same...
I swear to God. I hate it but I can't stand being around too many people or around people too long.
Me too, but I love it here :D I'm also a HSP, so being around too many sights, sounds or PEOPLE is just torturous. My body and mind shut down. Despite anti-anxiety meds PLUS stimulants, I fall asleep under the constant barrage of information and emotion. I'm not nearly as bad as I used to be (before meds). I used to behave as if I had narcolepsy and I would fall asleep while talking to someone or while driving :O
So, no... I think I'll continue keeping life low key lol
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me too...
I have always thought there was something wrong with me my entire life. I have never been able to express myself well verbally. I think I may even come off as intimidating to other people, or as if I am stuck up, when that's not the case at all. I just have a difficult time approaching others, or thinking of the right thing to say.
I have put on a social anxiety defense mode out of being hurt by others in the past due to my way of just being, but I am trying hard to combat this by thinking of something terrible going on in the world which I should be pitching in to help fix (Another thing that makes me emotional, and that I think about constantly), and I find this to be a great tool in stopping my social anxiety when I am in small talk with another individual, for example.
I like to explain my mind to people using my filter analogy; picture a filter with a wide end on one side, and a narrow end on the other. When I try to talk to people, I have all of these thoughts, battling feelings/emotions going on inside my head. They all end up coming out all at once on the wide end, and you can only imagine how weird I sound when they jumble up and try to make it through the narrow end. Plus, I have this thing where I think of something new in the middle of conversation, and immediately change the subject constantly. Or when someone says something very simple to me, I may overthink it, which ensues anxiety that I won't say something right, and in the end I just won't even know what to say. Or I will say something but it will sound so stupid and I'll be kicking myself about it later. When I was little and switched schools, it was so difficult to make friends. And I was only friends with the mentally-Ill. So I guess people started to think I might be a bit mentally Ill, but I simply enjoyed their company far more than anyone else.
As a result, I've always had issues trying to make friends. I still go over conversations/public presentations I had over 5 years ago, and think about what I could've said differently over and over again in my mind. Because it is like my mind is so coagulated almost all the time, which is why I constantly go on technology or write in a journal because I can express myself so much better in the written word, and just relieve my thoughts. Drawing also helps tremendously. It's like therapy for me.
Another thing I've always had is being very self-concious in every way. Being self- conscious about making friends is an interesting one. When I was younger, I took to video games as an outlet, and in these games people had perfect friendships that I desired so badly. And it always made me wonder why I could never experience one, or why people didn't take their friends seriously. I always take my friends so seriously, I will do anything for them, I want to help them, and make them be happy. I want to get to know everything about them. I care so much about them, yet at the same time, I still need my withdrawal mode which always confuses people. But my idea of fun was always different from other people. Everyone wanted to go to parties or go to the prom or what have you. but I always wanted to do something like write a story with someone, or talk about my feelings, or walk in the park. But many other times, I never know what I want to do with people. I won't want to do anything. I want to be home, alone, reading a book/writing a book. Or somewhere in nature.
I've also always had a difficult time with concentration on what people are saying. I oftentimes wander off into my own world. Sometimes I'll be listening intently but my own thoughts will be too loud, oh so very loud, so I end up completely missing what they had said. Happened all the time in school. Always got As, so most teachers wouldn't try to take me out if my dreamworld, but some felt as if it was the right thing to do and I had always hated that. I hated being asked a question on the spot, and one of my teachers disliked how I never rose my hand to answer questions. However, this was because other people always rose their hand 1 second after they asked the question. I needed way more contemplating time.
And I have constant battles with wanting to make people happy, but staying true to my values or the truth at the same time. The truth doesn't always make people happy, in fact it makes them sad/angry more often than not. Which makes it so difficult because, I value truth so much but at the same time, I just want to make people happy so bad.
I've only met one other INFP in my life, and oh wow. The joy of finally being able to talk to someone who understands you, and even acts similar, is staggering.
This is just scratching the surface. But I was able to find myself so much better when I got out of brick-and-mortar schooling, and took to online school. There are many good things about bring an INFP too, though. Such as being able to emphasize with someone on such a deep level. I just wish that I had started developing my weaknesses way earlier in life.
Fellow INFP here! It felt as if I'm the one who wrote your comment. We overthink, we nitpick, we come off weird or awkward or stuck up because we inevitably have to withdraw every now and again. We're lucid dreamers and daydreamers. We often lose ourselves in nature. We value truth but we're so tactful because we empathise with others so we do our best not hurt their feelings...I could go on. I learnt of this personality type just recently, and it feels so liberating to finally erase the idea that there was something wrong with me. I wish I had a fellow INFP friend to just connect with.
Thanks for sharing where your at. Do you find yourself able to express yourself in writing better than verbally?
PH Joel Mark Witt I express myself *far* better in writing than verbally. I'd much rather have a conversation with someone in text messaging, rather than talking on the phone.
Thank you very much for writing this! It's so relatable I was about to tear up..
Me too i cant talk Sometimes it is hard to express my self
Is it weird that after reading the comments and watching this video, I shed a single tear? Not of sadness, but of happiness, of feeling like I part of something.
You're not alone...enjoy that feeling. Knowing you are valid just the way you are for once with certainty is a blessing.
Gaia hey you’re not alone! Trust me! If somehow you wanna be internet buddy, i’m on instagram
Yay! You're not alone anymore! I wish the best for you. We will get through this. We are rare. We are special. We deserve to thrive :)
That is so sweet, I love you🥰
Im an INFP and im 24 years old. I have to admit i let my Memory part take the whole of me. I had troubled childhood, people leaving in and out of my life, and i let that hold me from exploring other things. I'''m always afraid. Currently, im trying my best to take risks and explore the world.
I can shake your hand. History can crush your future in a matter of second. The only weaon you could use is to say, today iam that who i want to be. Reset yourself. If our dreams can be so real... we can erase them with ease in the future. But why do reallife memories not getting erased? Because we alow reality to be more superior than our dreams. My advice to you is: Your past is as important as every day dream you have.
I want to share something with you wich gave me alot of positive energy to take a new start and life view.
Please watch this musictrack and clip, and realize that we as dreamers can create peace and beauty out of chaos😃. I hope you will give me the results afterwards. ✊
You are me
faye m i feel this so much. and im 24 too.
So, I’m currently working a 12-step program and one of the sayings is “Let go and let God.”
I’ve been thinking about that a whole lot lately, and what it really means.
I think, and it’s relevant here, it means that we can fearlessly make a decision one way or another and it’s ok, God’s got it covered. We can make a decision to explore and take risks and once we make that decision we don’t have to worry about it because it will turn out exactly as it is supposed to - what we think it will turn out as or how we want it to turn out is irrelevant, so there’s freedom in just letting it be what it is!
Xamire don’t give up I’ve had a dream since I was 5 years old to be an actress kept listening to naysayers for too long. Now at age 38 have my first leading role in a community theatre production so it’s never too late. Hope to be able to eventually become professional.
First I thought he is describing us through showing a female sanitary pad, then I realised it's a car. Yay for INFP imagination 😁
Andrea C 😂😂😂 same
Same 👏🤣
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Hahahahahahaha OMG!!
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As an INFP, I've struggled all my life with the temptation to shutter-in. My mind can keep me well entertained, and I enjoy envisioning a grandiose future. But I know I have to get out there to stay relevant. Over the years I've participated in and led a public speaking club, I've volunteered for political organizations, led local campaigns and have a successful career in sales. Currently, I'm running for school board. I've raised a family of five. I like to say I've lived the life of someone twice my age. I don't know how I've been able to keep my sanity. My alone time is sacred.
Friend In Liberty because that’s how we recharge our energy when burnout in solitary contemplation
When you said "my mind kept me well entertained"... So true
Glad you made it out there. I decided years ago the world was a better place without me.
@@curiositea258 gezz lol
Wow, no one really cares.
My ten year old process often holds me back. A lot of the time I feel like I can't really speak my mind about something. I'm too afraid to speak up or defend myself or even other people. I often choose not to say something I want to say, or I leave out certain details. I also second guess myself in making a difference. I get overwhelmed and think I can't do something. For example, choosing a career path has been hard for me. I'm afraid to take risks and I'm afraid to be challenged. I'm afraid to fail. I'm afraid to waste my time. I've overcome a lot of fears in my life, but being completely me and speaking up and exploring and stepping out is what I struggle with. I feel like I'm boxing myself in and all I want to do is flail my arms around, shout, run, jump, touch the sky, and not care what happens or what anybody thinks. You know how people do parkour? That's what I want to do with life.
Elysia I feel exactly the same way
It's almost unbelievable to read from fellow INFPs like you. And I thought I was just crazy. So liberating
Hi I'm an infp also, used to go on personality cafe but believe it or not I'm impersonated and harrassed and someone with server access deleted all my posts, so I quit. I've been into mbti since 2012 but my first infp result was 1997.
I felt exact too.... OMG today is amazing discovery !
Exactly the same way... Now i know why i'm like this.i
I thought its just me and something is wrong with me😭 but its just my personality, oh now i know😭
As an INFP, going travelling (backpacking) has really helped my personal growth, and I completely agree with the idea that INFPs need to experience the world around them in order to maintain realism in their idealism.
I'm not only an INFP, I am an authentic soul and I love who I am. Being an INFP is a blessing because we don't conform to society. So embrace yourself. You are more than just what you identify with or what others think you should be. You are a beautiful soul as well 💕
Be you-nique
hi, fellow infp friend. i am different too. I think of INFP as the TRUTH seekers ! i am constantly on search for truth ! no only i search i also can instantly recognise truth even its burried behind 100-fals facts ! it is amazing i like being infp, its challange and rewarding also. but more challenging
awwww i love you too 🥺💗
At the age of 5 ,one day after school when my older sister was not there to take me home I decided to have an adventure and walked in the other direction actually exploring the streets of the town. From what I recall the police were called to look for me,and my parents and everyone thought I was lost. I ve spent my life being underestimated by family and conservative culture around me. At 73 I am breaking out of the cocoon again. I later stepped out at age 17 to study art teaching and explored that world then again at 26 the reality of truth in Jesus Christ. Thanks for the reminder to break out of my shell again and overcome the fear and take another risk.
@@margaretnewcombe489 🤍
I love all my fellow INFPs nice to know we aren't alone.
Agghh... I let my 10 year old rule me for 41 years. So upsetting.
Duly noted. Childhood trauma is a reason I can see myself giving over to fear.
This month, going to yoga class. Working towards my certification...Why?...because my soul has been telling me to take action on it for a year.
Experience...here I come. Better late than never, right?
TK W Right!
TK W absolutely
So true. The last month I've gone skydiving (something I was sure I'd never be able to do) and tried ecstacy (figured I'd want to do this once in my life). I've become so much more confident and now feel that it has helped me be the person I want to be, not afraid to explore the world. I implore you to find things to do outside of your comfort zone, that's when, at least for me at this time, you'll find yourself. I know, it sounds cheesy and anecdotal and it partly is, but it's the best advice I can give for a moment in time when I truly felt that I was going back to being a shut in (even though Ive always been charismatic and fun once I actually am energized enough to do it. Exploration helps us stay energized and interested.)
Ahh in so glad you said that. I'm 23 in a few days. And I've just come to realize that. It's scary I feel like a 10 year old. I have a decision I'm too afraid to make and I don't take risk. I over analyze small details that are useless based on my past experiences. I know it's irrational cause we normally don't go off logical thinking. We as infps are soooooo guided by that 10 year old when we are afraid especially when that 10yr been through things that tell him no
Just know that you’re doing the best you can with where you’re at in life. I wish you well. Love and light to everyone!🙏🏻💚🌎💫☝🏼
You know we are INFPs when we wrote vERY loNg comments
Let me tell you about my story-- ok no
Haha
Lol, I literally just did that on another INFP video, felt bad for the comment being so long :D
I hate long comments sometimes, and I find myself writing a long ass text when it comes to shit like this. XD
Lol! It is true - we do like writing extremely long messages! Haha. So totally guilty! My elementary school child was correcting me the other day because my text messages were really long! Lol, she told I don’t know how to text correctly, that texts are supposed to be only a few words, or 1-2 sentences MAX. Lol. She was quite passionate about how “wrong” I was doing texts!!!
wow...i just did that..now i feel regret😜
9:10
Me: nodding
Video: As an INFP you're probably nodding in agreement
Me: mindblown
Thanks for the feedback.
LiB Aina Me too
LiB Aina jajaja also it happened to me it is amazing
Lmao
SAAME
As an INFP, I understand completely how exploration is so healthy for us. I have found the pandemic and being shut-in really difficult and not good for mental health.
im a male and an infp - a,i dont really have anxiety and a lot of people see me as a funny guy,although i spend most of my time in my head,i manage to keep my relationship with my friends which are extrovert and introvert ones,when i am having a bad day,i dont get upset,i skip reality and spend my time in my head,no one actually see my anger since im good at managing it excluding my family,i really do feel happy being an infp-a
For a long time I always thought these personality sites were worthless and just wanted money but you've changed that because you actually talk about how I can make best use of my INFP type. People always think I'm lazy and stuck in my head but whenever I do get something done people are maxed how I learned it or done this goal so fast and how I did it when it seems impossible. I wish I could do it more often but without having that inner fire I just don't know how or just don't care really lol. I know that sounds crappy...but I think I may just have to check out your site now because I really want to be able to help others and how to do it. Wow just amazing video thank you sooooo much!
kristi Balibrera thanks for the feedback. We have a really great deep dive INFP article and podcast over on the main PH website. Would love to get your feedback about those too.
kristi Balibrera isn't that so insulting! People really think we are dumb and spacey and have no clue of the brilliant minds we have!!
As an Infp would you date another Infp? Answers anyone
No i wouldn't
I relate to this so much. If I don’t have that burning passion then I don’t care to do it lol.
I can't help but giggle at the accuracy. Exploration is ingrained in my soul, and I shall stay the course of adventurin'! Thank you for this information and the push to be a better INFP! & to my fellow INFP's, YOU GOT THIS!! We are not one to conform and settle; keep progressing to be the best YOU, you can be! I believe in you!
Thank you for the comment and feedback. - Joel
INFP, and I'm an artist, and athlete.
Oh artist its very beautiful well I'm a calligrapher and also INFP
I'm always struggling with the outside world, and how things that affect me doesn't bother anyone else. Once I open up, and began talking I always feel down afterwards..
I feel like this guy just picked my brain apart, and ldk how comfortable I am admitting that. 😅
This is just how you are wired. No content from your brain was released at this time 😃
I am a 19 years old female and I think it is funny when talks about the infp questioning 'What if numbers had gender' because when I was little I actually assigned genders to numbers like 8 was a really old lady to me and 7 was a young cool guy and 6 was a little old man and so on..
Angelique Lopez stg thought I was the only one, I always thought 7 and 1 were boys while 8 and 6 were girls lmao. Nice to know there are ppl like me
wow me and my mom used to talk about this when i was a kid. we did the same thing. i am infp she's entj
me too
Angelique Lopez used to a sign colors to numbers and days and months
Isn't that related to synesthesia?
When you are new to this personality stuff, and you almost cry because you realize you are not alone
Wow, my inner 10 year old is controlling me completely and this just opened the door, as well as my literal bedroom door. Thank you for this. 🙏🏼
My experience is that my exploring the world has often been seen by others as rebellion, so it sure is something to learn that this is how I leverage my own growth... Also, I don't think you talked about it here, but you have elsewhere, you are right on that INFPs don't need to be understood, only accepted and validated.
+Deborah James Thanks for the feedback. Yes - you are right. In our newest article on the PH site I write about the need for validation.
As an INFP I have stayed inside most of my life and could not find the will to get out and hang with or meet new people. I do enjoy it when it happens but I don't like doing it myself. I recently decided to take a big step against everything I am and even though I'm extremely nervous I'm flying out to Tongue Point, Oregon. I will be leaving Sour lake, Texas October 3rd to start my life working on merchant ships. I have never ridden in a plane before and I'm 19. I just want to explore the world. I hope to become a captain and travel different continents and adventure. Life feels boring and I hate being told what to do. I don't like snobs and I don't understand why people get so hurt over drama. I felt like I was the only one in the world who is going against the grain. Until I found out just now that there are people who share my same personality and it makes me happy! I want to meet them and see if they like the same music as me or if they share a common interest. I want to discover things that no one has seen before but not become screaming popular just want to be respected and someone people look up to in life. And I will be damned if people try to tell me what I can and cannot do with my life. ADVENTURE!!
CreamsodaGaming we are deep thinkers who like to do things our own way outside the box
Wow ! More power to you ❤ I wish someday I also get strength to leave behind everything and do whatever feels right to me.
@@ritikadharwani3408 I'm 23 now about to be 24 and let say I've experienced alot in the past 4 years. I've flown in a plane about 12 times now. I understand why drama hurts and I learned everyone has their own version of going against the grain. Its okay for people to have some influence on your life just remember to stay true to your self. The adventures I went on were incredible and I wouldn't change them if I could. I fell in love had heart breaks made good friends who faded into memories. Had people I care about pass away. Made animal friends and lost them to illness. Worked on a boat been through blizzards and driven 18wheelers. Lifes what you make it never let anyone tell you otherwise. The adventures are there waiting for you to take the first step. I can't promise you'll succeed but in the end you'll never forget the experiences you've had. Everyday move toward a better version of yourself and you'll find everything falls into place.
As an INFP, I really do relate to exploration as growth. Since I was a teenager, I always felt deep down that I wanted to settle down and have children, but I didn't trust myself because I was so unrealistically idealistic about so many things.
So, I didn't. I graduated from university, lived in Asia as a teacher, travelled the world, went to grad school, got a great job. Yes, I even took improv classes.
I realized in doing these things, that I was pretty fearless in trying new things, everything, and "going at it alone" a lot more than most people. I also made a LOT of mistakes and learned a lot from them.
Finally, I came back around to meet my husband. I'm happier than I've ever been with my husband and two kids, but I don't think I would have been as satisfied had I not explored, made mistakes, and sanded down my lofty ideals.
I'm doing my last year of highschool and have absolutely no idea of what I wanna do after that; I don't know what I wanna do with my life, making decisions has always been a huge struggle. I overthink everything, whether it's the stupidest thing or the deepest philosophical thing. I always find pros and cons for any option and any side. Whenever I witness two people fighting I see both points of view and I won't even intervene, even when I think I should. I can't get myself to stand up for me or for someone else, which is disappointing because I know I should and could if only I could let go of my insecurities and not care about anything. I always feel observed, judged, and I'll behave according to what I think other people think of me. I somehow hate it but I also like it, I wanna change but also not because that's me. I guess I should go out of my comfort zone a bit more and find peace embracing myself idk. Either way it's very cool to know that there are so many people that feel exactly like me and that I'm not alone. Thank you internet.
Oh you def are not....spiritual family. Spread far and thin ...
I feel exactly the same way! As i was reading this comment i felt as if i wrote it lol
I'm in my junior year and I could not relate more.
You're not alone!
@M Z sooo, what are you doing now? I guess you graduated
my memory is so against me it literally is like a 10 year old child, when i am not able to do the things i want to do bevause i have social anxiety and too many expectations of own self i sink into depression because i remember all my past heavy traumas. i love exploring though when i am able to i live for it. currently i am abroad away from support systems and i have way too many ideal situations for my self. this has helped a lot in my understanding
Thanks for sharing your experience. Keep focusing on getting into that co-pilot process. That's where the magic is.
I once realized I wanted to just be so I said it out loud "I want to just be" , I felt I was I was being attacked by my friends persistence on questioning me on what I mean. I didn't know how to explain it beyond that statement. After awhile, I started to cry because I couldn't take his aggressive questioning. Haha granted I was under the influence.
Im 14. Im really thankful that I was able to discover this early, as I am on the path to becoming a shut-in already, and I shudder to think of how I may have went on without this knowledge.
I love this. So true. Once you get passed the fear you'll usually be okay.
You will be okay "usually"....calculations predict approximately 25 % of failure. Not worth it because the pain counter weights and possible benefit 20 times over....oh maybe a little anxiety mixed in with all of that
He: Dont let your Memory process steal your happiness....
Me: Stupid Memory process....
This explains all of my struggles and my desires to see the world. And, why I can't stop traveling more and more.. I'm in Iceland at this moment (extrem for someone who lives in Florida)
If i had the money,i'd be somewhere else right now too.
All of my income pretty much goes into seeing the world and eat! :)
Angie Barta I feel like every INFP wants to visit Iceland...
that being said, how was it?
I'd say everyone in my car is a 3 year old...
My brain is like a group of toddlers trying to function and survive without an adult present. And somehow we've managed to not die yet.
Though to be fair I do still live with my parents so we'll see what happens when I try to live on my own.
This described me so well! Playing safe and having hesitations all the time. I had doubt that I'm an INFP. Now I'm sure. Thanks for the video!
looks like my 10 year old process get the better of me
We hear from a lot of INFPs why struggle with this. Hang in there. As you get into your co-pilot you'll discover that your 10-yr-old supports you in really helpful ways.
Someone was telling me about the 5 love languages, and wanted to know what mine was. After thinking for a minute, I said: None of those would make me happy, What I value most in life is space and trust. She just stared at me blankly for awhile, and then left without saying a word. I since found out I am an INFP, and it makes sense why I saw my "love language" as space.
Likewise ...peace and space are all i desire
INFP here. I love your clear explanation, one of the first i've come across to clearly explain all aspects without talking in Myers-Biggs terms only. For me, the last few years I've been the defensive INFP, by staying in "safe" environments and comfort zones, such as my home and my friends and family. Time to explore!!!!!!! Thank you!
Currently in that stage but it HAS to change!
i thought no one would understand how i feel... i'm so glad i found this
Get out of comfort zone, we know we can. Its always when I pushed myself to do something, and realise its easy. Why am i thinking so much lol
Sorry I could only get through a quarter of the video 2:28
. My mind started to wonder. Then I realized what's the point, I already missed most of what you said when I refocused on the video. INFP 🙋♀️🤷♀️🤦♀️
Omg. Me. *Nodding in agreement*
Having somebody validate all of this is a great feeling. It seems like A LOT of people have a hard time understanding an INFP? Just from my personal experiences. Thank you for this. It also helps me trust that this overwhelming feeling to relocate to another state I have is what I need to do. Again thank you!
Thank you +crystal Keiper (sugar) for watching and the feedback. Glad it resonates with you.
INFP here. Anyone else have a conversation, then reconstruct it in their head (I usually take out the awkward moments, stutters, etc.) so from then on I remember it going a lot more smoother and nice than it actually was?? It doesnt happen with every encounter but it happens to a lot of them..
I find that writing helps me explore, and often-times I find it scary to write deep stories, though after I start it's usually easy to keep going.
I write raps but it never comes out I end up talking about myself so it's more like a journal
Amazing. As an INFP i agree with everything haha. I love how you guys have your own terms for the individual types haha. Idk if this is an INFP thing or a me thing but i do enjoy listening to you guys explain more on our type because it just feels like you guys get us. Its feels almost like something is taken off of my back to have somebody actually get where I'm coming from.
to the community - If you guys haven't checked out their podcast you guys should definitely check that out. A lot of insight going on there. I was laughing at some parts because they were so dead on.
-Peter (Brian)
+Peter Vendoza Thanks for the kind words and support. Did you get a chance to read the new article I just released? Love to hear your thoughts: www.personalityhacker.com/infp-personality-type/
+Peter Vendoza Where can I find these podcasts?
+Jojo R. If you have an iOS device u can download the app from the App Store. And search mind hacks there!
Cool, thank you Peter Vendoza , I have an android and looked on google play but none resembling podcasts :) I'll keep looking around!
+Jojo R. If you go to their website I believe they have links to their podcasts!
This video totally nailed it for me. It explains the activities I chose to do when I was a kid, and why I get too wrestless at work. When I go to test things out people look at me like why are you doing that? People get impatient with me when I want to explain things more in depth than just the surface. For me its the small and the big things. Small problems like figuring out how my home network works, or big like deciding my career path. When I decide about what to do the risks are usually second on my mind and I want to go do it. But sometimes my wife or someone doesnt like the idea and wants to stop me. Im always coming up with a new idea to try or experience.
+Bryce Welch Thanks for sharing your experience.
*Jan 15th, 2021:*
I keep resigning myself to fear (tertiary, memory) when it comes to college coursework. I'm in first year, and I've done basically nothing since the start of the semester because I'm so afraid of getting it wrong. The standard for work is so high, and I feel like if I'm less than perfect there's no point, causing myself endless anxiety. It's incredibly immature of me really, but I've had to defer my place in college for a year until I can get my mind back in order.
My mental health has been awful, because I've hermited myself due to lockdowns. I have no friends left.
I've decided to put off college so I can get outside, get a job, get friends, and harness Ne so I can apply it when I try college again.
I'll be back in six months to tell you how it goes.
As an INFP, this video was SO beneficial to me, I can barely put it to words. Thanks so much for the info & advice to my growth as a human being 🖤
"Really, was that it?!" Super accurate for me, made me smile involuntarily.
Also, 8 is super non binary in my eyes. Like that one friend who looks good in everything.
I’ve been a shut in for over two years and am working really hard to get out of it haha
okay after watching this video I'm almost certain I am an INFP rather than INFJ as I had previously thought. this really hit home
After COVID I got like that, barely leaving my house except for working and buying my groceries. Now I came back with my people, and I'm much better, I even took several risks, changing my career etc 💪
Thanks for that Joel :)
Actually, just last week I was able to get out and explore a part of the hills / mini mountains near where I live that I've never been to before. I've been stuck studying for months, actually, and haven't been able to get out much but.. I got out and I felt soooo much better! As I was driving I was getting excited at the anticipation of going somewhere new, and the freedom to just be able to GET OUT felt amazingly refreshing!
But the thing is, I had to more or less force myself to do that. I had a day off and could have / was tempted just to play video games for most of the day - but, I knew getting out would better my mental state and make me feel refreshed.
To other infps reading this, when you feel the urge / need to get out. Do it. It doesn't have to be huge explorations or anything like that. For example, I need to study for an exam today. Usually I just get to work because that's what I have to do, and resist the urge to do what I want to do. Which sometimes has to be done :P. However, today I'm going to go for walk for a bit before I study because I feel that will give me the break in routine that I need and it gets me up and active. So, look for little opportunities like that, as well as the big ones!
+trevor Bergshoeff Great ideas Trevor. I hope some of these ideas will help other INFPs.
Trev Dylan getting back to nature in solitary contemplation is soothing for us it means our overactive minds have a chance to slow down be relaxed and creative and not worry about all of life’s problems
I've been living like a hermit. Starting in 2016 I'm going to explore my community and religions.
Memories keep me afraid to explore the world. The world is so damn mean 😖💔
Hah! Now I feel inspired enough to pick that one hobby I always wanted to do up, just to drop it tomorrow and get back to playing video games and procrastinating. 👌
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LOL relatable
Thank you so much for this. I'm an INFP person, and all my life I have tried to play it safe. Rarely did I try to go out of my comfort zone. I knew deep inside my mind that the only way I will grow is to go out and explore the world.
So, now it is time to bring my regular schedules to a halt, and go miles away from my usual comfort zone :)
Once again, I can't really express how much I appreciate you for making this video :)
Thanks for this explanation! The primacy of exploration in growth really caused a lightbulb to go on. Intuitively I've known that I need to explore but never had the validation to verbalize it. My memory function definitely gets to drive too often, especially because it agrees with my entirely SJ family, and I do get very shut down if I give in to it. I think I'll be able to hold my ground better in meeting my needs just understanding this. The part about giving and receiving love was validating too; I have had to work very hard to help my friends and family feel loved outside my definitions... Love your insights!
+Sarah Walker Thanks Sarah. I wrote an article over on our PH site that you may like to read. I talk about getting validation as an INFP, how to motivate yourself and a bunch of other topics. Would love to hear your feedback.
+Joel Mark Witt Where can i find this article you speak of? I am an INFP also, would love to read it :)
+Jojo R. Here's a page with links to all the best INFP stuff we've created: www.personalityhacker.com/resources-infp/
I find that I do my best work and achieve the highest happiness after I've had enough time locked inside my room. The more time I spend alone in the saftey of my own cell, the sharper and more productive I become.
I really have experienced that Exploration is the way to growth for an INFP.
In my teenage years and college years I was really able to grow my Exploration through foreign travel and locally just driving and biking in new places,areas and roads. It was the time I felt my best and most alive and authentically me.
Later I got stuck in my Memory process and started feeling very dead to life and down. I was living and working in the same "block". Also I became scared to travel places when once before I thrived off of these adventures. Then I started taking walks(I was reading the Artist's Way) and exploring the area I living in. All of a sudden I came alive again. It was such a little risk for me and such a big reward.
Right now my Exploration involves taking my bicycle and going for a ride in the foreign city I live in. I find that if I choose a place I want bike to along the way Exploration just happens. That is easier for me then just going and randomly biking somewhere. It gives a safety net and then with that suggestion of a destination the Exploration just takes over. The purpose of biking to the park becomes secondary or only part of discovering a whole new neighborhood or finding a new restaurant or museum or cool nature area. It often opens me up to interacting with strangers which is out of my comfort zone.
Hey! I really want to get that book the artists way! Funny thing is I was just looking at it the other day too, I have her book " walking in this world" and thought it was the first one at first haha and yeah I can really relate to a lot of the things you and our other fellow INFPs think
This is great advice! You both have a gift for clarity. Basically I feel healthier in Ne-Te mode. It is kind of an irony that INFPs can really shut themselves in and be very safe when by nature when they are out they are rather creative, experimental, and can be quite adventurous. It is like an unlocked capacity. When unlocked it is easy to develop because it comes so naturally and makes us feel in tune with who we are. But it is also easy to shut in, but then feel quite uncomfortable. An easy problem to solve with a change of mind.
lol "you are probably nodding in agreement." That was kind of creepy because right than I sort of was.
+Type Tips I liked how you explained that. I wrestle with this all the freakity time. I jus wish I was one extreme or the other lol, be easier to be decisive this way ^_^
i cannot handle the hate in this world...the eyes of people i distrust....ah...none of it seems worth it. I will just have to accept my creative side when i return home in Paradise. This world is too cold for me....
This video made me feel really depressed because I'm struggling with being a shut in and in a small town that doesn't offer much... so it feels pointless just walking outside when this town is so dull..
^ same... Bars aren't my scene. Maybe I will go to the library tomorrow or just go visit some friends. I have been in full hermit mode for so long. It is miserable.
@@hephaestus85 me too....too anxious to even want to work or do anything challenging anymore...too much pain
Playing it safe has shown mostly in my romantic relationships...I might dip my toe in but let memory take over and bail out when I should let myself explore and enjoy
I found my people. More understood by an TH-cam video than by anyone else in my life
I definitely agree with this. I have had the advantage of being surrounded by a LOT of intuitive friends and for me having people who will embraced hypothetical scenarios and odd ideas, "following the rabbit trails" provided so much of my character growth. Especially as introverts, we dislike trying to explain Authenticity to people because it's so often considered thoughtless nonsense which discourages the INFP immensely. But if you let an INFP connect with you through Exploration they'll be able to extrovert all the interesting questions flying around behind their eyes and rather than coming off as mystical or pretentious (thinking they know what's right without proving it, ect) they come off as incredibly creative and fun to talk to.
Ne strengthening has been most evident for me in my school career. My major is heavily science based and I connect the material I learn to other things I know, especially social comparisons. What you said about "if 8 were a gender what would it be?" is exactly how I think often times when trying to learn. I once rewrote a line of Shakespeare to be about lymph fluid because that's just how the information made sense to me in that moment. I think that's sort of your quintessential INFP use of Ne. Very creative, abstract, almost allegorical in how we constantly personify everything.
+Rachael L Thanks for sharing your thoughts about this. I'd really like to hear your thoughts about this INFP article I just published: www.personalityhacker.com/infp-personality-type/
*This video seems right*
My current experiences as an INFP is trying out for Track. This year is my first year doing sports as a sophomore in high school. I've just finished Powerlifting which was with plenty of friends but there are even less in Track. Now a week ago i was so excited to do track because i knew itd keep in in shape and its be new. But yesterday was the first meeting and i left fairly intimidated and even made the decisions last night that i wouldn't do it. After this tho im positive that i have to do it. My whole life ive wanted to explore but every bad experience shut me out more and more. This video helped tremendously, thank you!
Holy moly most exciting thing I've learned watching this video is that you can ramble non verbally. Rambling and Wandering are synonymous!!! 🤯
Ooop not me being the worst-case scenario for an INFP: Hermit achievement unlocked.
@5:13 That is so true. That's why I chose the university I go now. I had fear of going out and living by myself for a while especially in Manhattan which I barely know how to navigate in. I don't even know the subway system. But I purposely cornered myself so I don't have way to avoid and practically forced myself to do shit I don't like. After a week, I was like "why was I afraid? Why was even a big deal." I live in dorm now w other people, going to uni far from my home, knew manhattan and the subway system like the back of my hand within a month or so. Sometimes you just gotta force yourself to get out there. Every week on sunny days I would wonder anywhere without any agenda. Trying out new food is what I do all the time anyway. Like I mean you can't really get lost in a city, if you are just use google map and subway app lolll
Ani Chen
That’s awesome :)
thats what im planning on doing, going to college far from home even though i love my home and am a home body. i always feel like i need to shove myself out of my comfort zone in order to do anything worth while.
Yup your right I dont like leaving my house or taking risk because I been playing it safe.
fellow INFP here :) feels comforting to read and hear this. so true, so true :)
Really really enjoyed the information here, only found out I was an INFP about seven months ago!! But it feels GREAT knowing my general type so I can understand how to use that information to be a better and more successful human being :)
I have this theory that infp's have a lot of virgo energy in their birth charts.
Migena Nikdhima Interesting. Sun-Saturn conjuction in ♍️, north node as well. I’m an amateur astrologer, and of course an INFP ☺️.
Virgo sun Cancer moon Scorpio rising ....yeah I am a literally a conscious paradox
I have moon and ascendant in virgo.
@@migenanikdhima8971 that is ...wow. Interesting. I have no words. A pure breed....rare i imagine
@@lupression4457 I guess we are. I left this comment here in case other infps agree or disagree with it.
I'm a 24 year old female INFP and I prefer to text I especially avoid Facetime
OMG, I've become a physical shut-in... Thank you so much for this great advice !!!!!
I always felt as if I were afraid to be happy...
I know that I have to take risks in order for me to grow but when something bad happens to you so bad that it turns you into "hermit mode". it somehow traumatize me to go back out again. it took me a long time to recover before I get back out again.
Oh good grief. I accidentally hit report spam. Please ignore that, TH-cam!
+katherandefy Yikes. Thanks for stopping by to watch.
wow,i gotta say this does ring true for me! I do stay at home a lot,when i sometimes have that thought of going out to explore the nature outside of town.When i go to the grocery store,i typically don't try new things without having looked it up online even though i may kind of want to do it anyway. i liked that video.
Taking more risks is something i...have already started to do.Namely with wearing a pendant for the first time in my life.I wanted to but was wary of the opinion of others.It's a nice way to express myself.
SirenoftheVoid As a new experience I took a short one term class doing pole fitness at the tender age of 37 one of the most empowering things I ever did even though ultimately I wasn’t able to do most of the moves due to a lack of strength and coordination. It did however improve my confidence and enable me to have a more positive body image
"behavior can be helpful but it isn't the complete picture when figuring out your personality." on point
Omg this actually answers all of my blocks in life, but at the same time scares me of how real it is
This is wonderful. It's like a dictionary of an INFP's brain. though not all words are inside.
Here's a question for my fellow INFPs.... how do you transition conversation from light hearted (superficial) to deeper ,more personal topics?? I tend to be good at either light hearted conversation or deeper conversations but I really have no clue as to how to go from one to another in a natural , organic way. Any help with this would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
i’m not an infp but i’m fi dominant (isfp).. alain de botton talked a bit about how to do so in his book called modern manners. small talk and light hearted topics are great ways to go deeper. going deep right away isn’t something most people are comfortable with but if you keep giving follow up questions or ask them to clarify a bit of smudge or vagueness in what they said it can lead you to their truest thoughts and feelings, unless of course they stubbornly deflect or leave the convo.
This is the most authentic INFP evaluation I have ever seen on the Internet. And the most helpful
Wow! This is so me! People do often see me as self centered or as not caring, but that is not how I am at all. This video helps me to understand why my loved ones see me in that light, and I really want to learn how to communicate my actual authentic self. I am 57 years old and want to live my life to the fullest and yet it seems like I can’t get out of that place in my head where I see possibilities to actually living out my best life. I am close to becoming a shut in, with drawn from the outside world! I do not want my life to end this way! Alone and 😔 lonely.
Hello (INFP) I really like the 7:00 part with our Si function... really glad to have black on white on this matter. there's a real 'conflict' going on in my head where I'm basically telling my Si function to fo while I try things out but I must say that its presence can dominate when you're feeling 'weak' and that truly puts you back, just the way you describe 7 minutes in. I do agree that the solution is to grow and use your Exploration function or as I would call it - simply being curious. A small word but for an INFP it means the world because not least of our imaginativeness. will be returning with a comment with more depth after my workout.
+Ethan Michell Thanks for sharing your feedback and the part that struck you.
+The Shortcut Shaman that would make sense!!
I am very curious by nature too, but spend way too much time on the internet... sometimes it's for good things like, I watch some youtube videos or DIY stuff so I can then try new stuff on my own. But I will also waste a lot of time kind of wandering not knowing what to do and feel bored... and it's like I forget that there is an outside world to explore... its much more comfortable to just sit there in my comfort zone...
I knew I had to explore and try new things to grow, but fear keeps me shut down most of the time, especially when it comes to moving. I got anxiety and fear that my body can't handle it (like sports) and that there's something wrong with my heart (like a lot of hypochondriac people)... I am working on that part now so I can finally get out and explore moving my body! I did in the past but had some tachycardia episodes while doing sports, and that shut me down completely regarding any sports... Sometimes, I'm even afraid to move at all... I guess that is the memory part, the 10 y old?
I think the internet makes me hyperactive because there is so much to explore and I don't have enough time to explore everything I would like to! And sometimes, I feel bored, and there's too many choices of things to do and get overwhelmed with choices, and end up doing nothing because "what if I choose the wrong thing to do at that time?" That totally sounds absurd haha, but that's what happens in my mind...
While this can be true for our minds, please try to be simple minded, like myself. It makes life so much easier. I use to 'turn on' music in my head, makes me focus muuch better. I work in a store mostly handling the wares and customers but not cashier because I have social phobia, can become 'scared' of crowds, easier to make mistakes. I am max introvert so I tend to isolate myself by default. I go to the gym and meet people which is great+store work but I feel like I'd need more of a social life other than parties (not that I party much at all). It's an amazing feeling to 'know' that people aren't potential murderers all the time.
You got this! Hope you had time to explore already! Otherwise, now is your chance! Go go go! ;)
I definitely have become a shut in the last 4 months....
Cooking dinner everyday is always good exploration for me with sauces and recipies
Your consistent behaviors define your personality.
I'm personally not a fan of the car analogy as this serves to confuse me having already known about the cognitive functions before finding Personality Hacker. However, saying that I need to expand on exploration rather than extraverted intuition makes a lot more sense. I'm planning to study abroad this upcoming spring, and though I know that this is something I've always wanted to do/get out of my college experience, I haven't been able to adequately explain why. The explanation of exploration served to somewhat help with that and lead me to realize that I'm not as crazy for wanting to do this as I may seem to others.
Keep it up, and looking forward to more :)
+Vulory Thanks for the kind words.
+Vulory I am an INFP also and went aboard during my college years. I would say it was the highlight of my college education and I think it is because when in engaging in exploration I feel the most balanced and alive. I am sure u will have a great time. Enjoy your spring semester!
Really great video. The best I've seen so far, and very helpful.
Thanks for the kind words and feedback.
There was a period of time in my life where I was so traumatized over being sexually harassed while walking in public that I purposefully stayed at home ALL the time and would even get anxiety about walking to my car. I stayed in my room a lot and was afraid to go outside. Definitely the darkest time in my life. So I can attest to the INFP shut-in