How to Develop Emotional Wisdom: Tips and Tricks (Buddhist Talk with Mental Health)

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  • How to Develop Emotional Wisdom: Tips and Tricks (Buddhist Talk with Mental Health)
    Emotional wisdom or developing a caring heart seems to be a difficult thing for most people to develop. My experience has taught me that it's not that people CAN'T do it, but they have been taught how. In the physical world, education is directed towards achieving financial stability, developing the physical body, etc that we don't put too much emphasis on the development of the heart or emotions. For this "Saturday Feel Good" I combine my experience in mental health and Buddhism to bring you tips and tricks to developing emotional wisdom.
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  • @northernvampire9633
    @northernvampire9633 3 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    I was in a dark place 6 years ago . Drink and drugs got the best of me. One day i woke up wanting to be Buddhist. What was Buddhism. It was the only thing that made me love my inner slef now i help the homeless i dont take drugs I wake up at 430 . It works clam the mind . Give. Help others. Be kind . Then die with no regrets ❤

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Wow. Congratulations and thank you so much for sharing. I'm glad you're in a good place now. Keep up the great work and keep sharing with the world.
      Rooting for you all the way from Thailand ❤❤

    • @sun0raylight994
      @sun0raylight994 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Truth is undeniable , ugly and hurtful but when one looks in the mirror they have to look in the mirror and see themselves for who they truly are I believe you achieved a mountain of a goal by beating your drinking drug addiction so I would like to compliment you on that achievement and I would like to share something with you the biggest lie that we have been told is that we we die our souls are everlasting our body dies and at that moment the soul extracts all the information from the body to learn from it to get the experience and knowledge. I'm sure you've been told that you have free will the only one that's can affect your free will without your permission is your soul we're taught to fear death at all costs and we never truly diebecause imagine a world if everybody knew this for sure people would be uncontrollable in a good way just they would do what they want to do instead of what keeps them safe the truth is kept from us because you can't have control without a certain level of fear ☮️out

    • @northernvampire9633
      @northernvampire9633 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@nickkeomahavong01 that means alot thank you!❤🕉

    • @xunrenxu2924
      @xunrenxu2924 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are so amazing, able to have self-realization and reflection; taking your courage to change your life in the dark with kindness and compassion. You are so inspiring.

    • @annacosta2939
      @annacosta2939 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow that's beautiful, congratulations!

  • @loidatorres10
    @loidatorres10 2 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    This is what the school should teach the children at a young age. Thank you with all my heart ❤️

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      sadhu sadhu. thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂

  • @Lizjos
    @Lizjos 3 ปีที่แล้ว +146

    I am buddhist and I believe in peace but nowadays its been very difficult for me to survive.. finally i found this channel and I am trying to be good..wish me good wishes ...

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Beautiful 😊 welcome to the channel my friend. You got this. Just slowly make small adjustments day by day :-)

    • @gingersutton8240
      @gingersutton8240 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Best wishes to you. I too am having a hard time w upseting emotions.
      Blessings to Ven. Nick!

    • @kaymuldowney6752
      @kaymuldowney6752 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you so much You're such a man of God I'm a catholic from Ireland and your religion is actually more Jesus s teaching but back then the world rejected Jesus and going forward We ve lost sight of Jesus and have become judge mental so we re rejecting Jesus too He gave us some wonderful examples in his parables just readings the new testaments Jesus went against the powers of the times and represented the poor and struggling people and saw the terrible way they were treated That's why he was put to death and died a shameful horrendous death ?? But he left a huge legacy to the whole world by his suffering and death he showed God the Father his love for us all and Christianity grew Praise be Jesus Christ Praise be God the Father

    • @lumsaukuan4757
      @lumsaukuan4757 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Dont give up, stay strong

    • @kellyclark7517
      @kellyclark7517 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@kaymuldowney6752 Slainte! 🇮🇪

  • @itsthatsem
    @itsthatsem 3 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    EVERY human being on this planet should watch this. I appreciate you Ven Nick for doing this. Thank you SO much🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Awwwe thank you for your kind words. I'm glad you resonate with it. ❤❤❤🙏

    • @aubreyminnaar3466
      @aubreyminnaar3466 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nickkeomahavong01 14

  • @akshamsha
    @akshamsha 5 ปีที่แล้ว +105

    Why don't these types of video comes in video suggestions and gets views ?
    You are role model for me.
    Lots of respect towards you.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      AWWWWW Thank you AK! This means the world to me. I appreciate your support :)
      HAHAHA. Yeah, these types of videos don't get that many views because they are not as exciting and flashy as other videos. But I continue to do them because my channel is more focus on healing the soul and developing a spiritual life. But one day we will get there :)

    • @marktanz1188
      @marktanz1188 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Because Entertaining gets more clicks sadly and not meaningfull and educational videos. Clicks, likes and money rules our sociaty now a days.. What a world to be in.. I am glad I can see through this.

  • @Driesketeer
    @Driesketeer ปีที่แล้ว

    It makes me so happy to realize that 1000s of people are studying this beside me.

  • @nickkeomahavong01
    @nickkeomahavong01  5 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    Enjoy!!! Hope this was helpful :) Let me know if you learned anything new?

    • @leahc8347
      @leahc8347 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I feel all your videos are helpful! x

    • @varianilin9539
      @varianilin9539 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The first new thing i learn today is to be brave and ask honest feedback to get a better connection rather than making a fantasy that other people like me. The second is i ask my inner child just now, should i mend my relationship with my old friend that i stop contacting, and the little me told me to forgive and start talking to that friend. There are a lot to digest and practice, hopefully i can do these tips constantly. Thank you, Bhante 🙂

    • @leahc8347
      @leahc8347 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@varianilin9539 Most honest feedback when coming from a loving place even it is critical, often wont hurt as much if its not judgemental, even it does cause remorse to hear and a true heart will want to hear, but Im abit concerned if you say you have to be brave if what you are hearing from someone is not coming from a loving place, rather than just worrying you might be bruising your ego. Be decerning only you know .
      Also our inner child wants friends and want to forgive, BUT be very careful if you are overlooking self respect if this person in perticular hurt or disrespect you, hasnt apoligised or respected your emotions, you dont have to forgive by staying in contact if it is not healthy (working for your souls purpose) ;you can forgive from afar. Good friends are important. They are meant to uplift you. Search for that, lifting up your needs and who you are, is important for flow and happiness. Peace is not just a forgiveness of a friend by turning a blind eye, just mentioning this.
      Be decerning.
      Peace

    • @zsazrutkowski601
      @zsazrutkowski601 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      besides the wonderful info - i learned that there is someone who cares about people so much that he gave this time and priceless advice for free and from the heart. most grateful.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@zsazrutkowski601 ❤️

  • @dbiswas
    @dbiswas 5 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    Hi Nick, it's great to see your video. Guess what? :) I am right now in Thailand and joined the meditation retreat at Koh Samui. It was because I was inspired by you. I think few month back I had mentioned in one of your video as comment, that my wife decided to separate after being married for 21 years. It has been a blow to my emotions as well as financially. But you have been my strength and guiding star. I feel much better, although the pain and anger has not gone completely. It's hard for me, especially knowing that I loved and trusted this person so much. I just wanted to say thank you, and I just love your video. I will be flying back to Seattle next week and start a new life. This was my first trip to Thailand and just fell in love with this place. Thai people are amazing, even they are so poor but they always smile and happy. I guess, there is lot to learn from them.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  5 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      AWWWW. Of course I remember you. Thank you for taking the time to post this. I'm happy to hear things are moving along and you are stepping out of your comfort zone. This post is so beautiful. It gave me chills reading it and made me tear up simply because my heart goes out to you. I've been in that position before and I understand the burden that it comes with. I'm extremely proud of you.
      I'm very happy that you got to go to Thailand. The people really are beautiful like you said. I'm glad your heart is softing and slowly healing. I was just typing out a comment to another viewer a few minutes ago in another post, but really what you are doing is taking steps to EMPOWERING yourself. It's beautiful to watch from the outside and just know I'm cheering for you from a distance. Sending you good wishes my friend. Save up money and come back to Thailand again. Make the time and space to get quiet everyday :)

    • @katybenson4172
      @katybenson4172 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I had to leave a relationship that meant material things were changing. I was so afraid to pay my own bills and support myself. If I had only known it's worth it to lose everything to be in a place of peace and confidence in myself. I have actually done better financially because my energy flows from my tranquility and peace. I also realized that simple and smaller home is wonderful. You will eventually enjoy life with less money and things.

    • @kimkeck6266
      @kimkeck6266 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@katybenson4172 Hi Katy...everything you said applies to me! I was hysterical after finding out my whole 40 years with my ex...from 18 to 58...was a complete lie.
      Turns out that I was married to a malignant narcissist....I knew something was wrong just didn't know what.
      I am in complete shock BUT I am free!
      He stayed with me until my $700,000 inheritance was almost gone.
      Cheated the whole time AND had an affair with an ugly old women for 10 years!! I had no idea!😳
      Anyway, peace from another woman who knows your pain!🙏🌷🥰

  • @groovyladyliss
    @groovyladyliss 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Holy moly! Yes! All of this. Everything is so valuable to help develop emotional wisdom. My favorite tip is about including the other person in the language. It is such an important thing to help strengthen the bond between people. I have seen and felt this with my son, who is 14. By making a point to more consistently include both he and I in my statements to him, especially when he started ignoring me and not wanting to talk with me as much, it has made him more chatty and interactive with me. I will also bring him little surprises randomly that I know he likes, like his favorite slush, something sentimental, or gift him freedom from having to unload the dishwasher. It has helped so much. Raising a teenager has challenges, but doing these things have helped so much.

  • @MrSarosham
    @MrSarosham 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    After watching hundreds of vedios on different topics,you are one of very few who speak from his heart and not caring the commercial aspect of the content.No subscription or like the vedio request...I sincerely thank you

  • @olindalopes6362
    @olindalopes6362 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Taking my meal after work and attention with your teacher 🙏

  • @dannymeske3821
    @dannymeske3821 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I like your humor! I am happy you made it to America! You are easy to understand in an American Buddhist way!

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much 😊 I try to keep it simple.

  • @michaelcampbell173
    @michaelcampbell173 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your videos are really helping me with my depression and learning how to be a good person.

  • @SundayBoy72
    @SundayBoy72 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Teacher. 21/10/23.
    Thank you for the revision. I wonder if Teacher will be creating any new Saturday feel good videos. Really enjoy the wisdom.
    Transference of merits to Teacher for your kindness. May Teacher continually be healthy, clear mind and resolved. Love ❤️ from Singapore 🇸🇬

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thank you so much and not at the moment :)

  • @vickyrosler8326
    @vickyrosler8326 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you for your gift of spiritual teaching! If more people saw your videos and applied your teaching to their lives, we would have a much better world.

  • @Painting384
    @Painting384 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I really like the speed of your talk/speech. Listening as the first thing in the morning 😊

  • @yasar2mohd259
    @yasar2mohd259 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I was brought up with being very respectful to my elders or everyone. But in this day the younger generation isn't like this. I'm not saying everyone, but kids younger than me tell you point blank what they think and how they feel. They don't care how it comes out or who it hurts. These videos that you share Venerable Nick I wish kids can see it and learn from it.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yes the respect to our elders is so important. This is something that we practice daily in the monastery.

  • @ReneeRidgeway
    @ReneeRidgeway 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    💜🙏🤗Thank you for all the positive support ! I am grateful I found this channel and for you Nick💜🙏🤗

  • @silentkayak
    @silentkayak 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thank you Brother Nick for your videos. I only just learned about you. This makes me think of the saying: "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear."

  • @zennaturalist2543
    @zennaturalist2543 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Thank you,ive been relearning through my healing process. Ive been in a difficult long term relationship. I put that person wants and needs ahead of mine the entire time and it wasnt reciprocated. Im drowning in depression and anxiety. So i decided i needed to heal and relearn myself. Thank you for this. I will incorporate these into my process.

  • @gmusic715
    @gmusic715 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I am captivated! The pandemic situation has really led to me reconsidering what is important. The routines I led before are gone, and this kind of teaching and knowledge is the most valuable information to me. How to care for my family near and far. How to be at peace no matter what the circumstances. Something I am trying to teach to my little ones. Thank you for sharing your story and your knowledge.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Awww thank you so much Ginny. Wishing you well from Thailand ❤❤🙏

    • @lapointdaniel
      @lapointdaniel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Me too, Ginny. I have felt lost but returning to my spirituality and being mindful. It’s nice to not feel alone.

  • @sushithaunnikrishnan3956
    @sushithaunnikrishnan3956 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    After watching,
    I feel like so soft and loveable person
    Thank you nick 🙏🏼🌻

  • @kathleendeyo9322
    @kathleendeyo9322 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are more out going than you admit or you would not enjoy presenting these FABULOUS videos.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much Kathleen

  • @julielim3680
    @julielim3680 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Ven Nick, I am not a religious person and nor do I practices spirituality but I do practices good deed to all sentient being that is including animals, to me I consider this an act of giving, and on a scale of 1/10 ,I give myself 7.

  • @someoneelse6618
    @someoneelse6618 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Sadhu Sadhu
    Thank you!

  • @KaddyFeast
    @KaddyFeast 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I am 8 min in and already learning and feeling love! I LOVE your videos!

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      sadhu sadhu. thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂

  • @tedbonnot8910
    @tedbonnot8910 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    such a beautiful and seamless blend of practical mental health practices and spiritual wisdom, love this so much. thank you!

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Awwwe thank you so much Ted. ❤❤❤🙏

    • @trick4276
      @trick4276 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well said 🌺

  • @rebekanewbold507
    @rebekanewbold507 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great job. My brother in compassion. :)

  • @marthacervantes2041
    @marthacervantes2041 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I just listened to this information this morning. It is well explained, simple to understand and also not difficult to practice. Nick, I am learning to understand myself more. I have a lot of homework to do and I will begin by meditating every day. Thank you Nick. Know that you are changing my life🙏🏻

  • @spectacularhatlady
    @spectacularhatlady 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Stumbled upon when searching for renewing myself during the outbreak and found finally found peace of mind as well as my soul. Thank you.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      sadhu sadhu. thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂 welcome to the channel kaye.

  • @Areya-Sunshine
    @Areya-Sunshine 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you, this is excellent advice. I am a recently certified Reiki Master and am constantly learning how to be a better healer as well as person. I want to help heal as many people as I can with the time I have on this Earth. Thank you so much, Namasté 🙏🏽

  • @elirazhas-nave6035
    @elirazhas-nave6035 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just fell in love with what you say how you talk and with your pleasant personality.

  • @relaxingfinance6023
    @relaxingfinance6023 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm a man and I see emotion as a beautiful thing but only if one can see it from a different perspective. I never take it for granted or see it as weakness. I always appreciate when someone share their emotion with me because it takes a lot for someone to bring it out especially in this world we live in today.

  • @buddhaneosiddhananda8499
    @buddhaneosiddhananda8499 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The easiest way to change your life... is by the amazing power of deliberate intent ..

  • @susanswinny588
    @susanswinny588 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The true greatness of this channel is that Ven. Nick demonstrates wisdom in action.
    He knows that our own experiences have brought us to this moment in our life journey.
    His talk is to the point with kindness, showing images and sounds of people and nature.
    He respects individuals' abilities by giving us time and space to glimpse what he practices.
    Each of us carries emotions or feelings stored in our body (and subconscious), based on the physiology we are born with and the experiences that mold our physiology over time.
    Practicing silence, stillness, meditation, observation, and precepts are useful modalities that can bring us in touch with ourselves and bring us greater clarity in our perceptions of reality.
    These practices are some ways to wash the dust off the windshield of our minds.
    We can use these practices to upgrade our own openness and awareness to see ourselves in the clearest possible light...
    During our sitting practice.
    During any given moment in life as it arises.
    So that we too can give space to ourselves and others...
    To observe life more clearly...
    To allow us to see and shift our behaviors for the benefit of all.
    Last Saturday, I read Nick's book, "The Buddhist Cleanse: The One-Day Spiritual Detox".
    The next day, I lived the Buddhist Cleanse.
    Very useful to allow the individual to experience and determine its usefulness.
    It empowers us with the space to see for ourselves.
    Thank you, Ven. Nick!
    BTW, the week before I did the "cleanse", my emotional state had become very depressed due to the stressors of our covid times.
    I questioned whether I'd be able to bounce back from long work hours that had led me to diminished focus and life balance.
    My prior boss was gone and desks near mine were now empty.
    My boss and his boss were new to the company and still learning.
    We had twice the workload due to the pandemic. We were the "lucky survivors".
    Finally, last weekend, in serious need of revitalization and self-confidence, I read a post from another of Ven. Nick's followers posted a mention of the Buddhist Cleanse and how it helped him.
    This motivated me to read the book in a couple of hours (short read), gather my resolve, and do it the following day.
    Speaking from my experience...
    It helped renew my sense of purpose and confidence in my abilities, to be more present with everyone including my husband, cats, and coworkers.
    To prioritize my sleep.
    To pay attention to when and what I eat.
    To exercise even when it's cold and cloudy.
    To do some major housecleaning (chop wood, carry water).
    I'm deeply grateful for all I have and for love.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow this is so beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. We are proud of you😀😀 please keep up the great work Susan!!!

  • @suecastillo4056
    @suecastillo4056 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    This is a big classroom... Thank you for sharing and teaching us love and service... and keeping it going... and for your constant seeking higher knowlege and practicing it. You are a wonderful and loving role model...🙏🏻♥️🌈🦋🌸🐞🤗

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you so much for your kind words sue. Glad you enjoyed it ☺️

  • @mommaria1968
    @mommaria1968 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I am grateful to hear your journey to the US (not all the negativity that happened) but how you became aware that the experience created intuition.

  • @Tokoa144
    @Tokoa144 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I will watch this video many times more as there is so much to remember. Thank you again good monk, you answer my prayer..

  • @shidehhafezi6826
    @shidehhafezi6826 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The way we talk to other people is a reflection of the way with talk to ourselves.

  • @ilariatremolada379
    @ilariatremolada379 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Dear Nick, thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the work you do for us ❤️ You shine a light on this earth with your compassion, wisdom and vulnerability. Keep on shining! ☀️

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Aww thank you so much! I’m glad it resonates with you 😊

    • @ilariatremolada379
      @ilariatremolada379 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nickkeomahavong01 🙏❤️🌈

  • @cristina-xl5yc
    @cristina-xl5yc 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks from Italy!

  • @selena-565
    @selena-565 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is wonderful. I am going to start asking myself the question...Right now...what do I need? The "right now" is really what matters. 💕

  • @ru.kiddingme
    @ru.kiddingme 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    In my life experience (hitting 70 years!), I have been emotionally wounded many times. I have been mocked or insulted or ridiculed or shamed or rejected or bullied for aspects of my appearance (knobby knees, bald spot, skin "whiter than the belly of a fish", you name it), comparatively poor physical performance, being socially awkward, etc. In every case the meanness of others has come out of the blue, often from someone with whom I am barely acquainted (or a school teacher or a work associate or a woman I am interested in meeting). I have never reacted violently or with threats. Mostly I have ignored the meanness of the others and just let it pass.
    However the wounds have stayed with me. I carry a great deal of shame and sorrow (i.e. loneliness, alienation, and wishing for what might have been). Part of that shame is because I feel I have not "stood up for myself" in these situations. I try to have balanced healthy relationships, but it is hard to come up with a mindful response to abrupt targeted meanness on the spur of the moment.
    So at 35:30 I was hoping for some "emotional wisdom" as to what a monk would do in response to put downs and personal insults. Also, how to heal my emotional "battle scars"? Any thoughts?

    • @amandeepbaghiana4510
      @amandeepbaghiana4510 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I have a lot of respect for your honesty. I'm commenting not because I have an answer, but because I'm impressed that you are able to hold yourself calmly through insults and sly remarks. I think that takes more strength than insulting the person back and giving them a reaction. I hope you find clarity on this problem, but I would also take the time to appreciate that you never gave in to that anger and lost it whenever people insult you.

    • @erigerontriteleia
      @erigerontriteleia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I could relate with everything you said in your post. I’m also close to your age. It’s hard to believe that people feel so free to insult and put us down, and we’d not been assertive enough to have a quick reply to put these people in their place and make them learn how to treat us better. Let’s hope and pray, that the passing of time would make us become more assertive and put boundaries to people who are rude. There’s still time to teach people how they should treat us - that is, with respect. God bless!

    • @varianilin9539
      @varianilin9539 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I think you can use the tips on 24:46 and ask your inner child about this.
      Sometimes i imagine my younger self who face an unpleasant situation and give her my presence, my smile and my hug. I imagine more mature me hugging the vulnerable me.
      I've experience sexual harassment by strangers on the street or in swimming pool and this suffers me a lot, i thought i should've found a rock and throw it to him. That i should've stand for myself. But i never met these strangers anymore.
      My anger lasted for years and i try to find answer to deal with this too.
      Here is what i do to soothe my feelings : when i feel angry, i try to bring it to awareness, to feel it, be aware of it and practice breathing in and out. I say to myself : "hi, anger, you come again, stay as long as you need to and i will take care of you. " After that, surprisingly, i don't feel so angry anymore. (I read this tip from a book about Anger by Thich Nhat Hanh)
      I have a wound, also anger of why people did such a rude thing to me. But i put down the questions of why people hurting me (i won't find any satisfying answer for this), and focus on healing my pain.
      I try not to bite but i am also learning how to hiss right back to the people who is rude. That it's okay to hiss.
      💚

    • @varianilin9539
      @varianilin9539 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @amandeepbaghiana Can't agree more, maybe he saw it as "i didn't stand up for myself". As it is a weakness, but actually he is stronger than that, he didn't hurt back! 💚

    • @faithnorks
      @faithnorks 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      🥰

  • @debbiegibson3835
    @debbiegibson3835 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I loved loved these tips from you, especially the ones of changing my language for my child, so I thank you so much!

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much. I'm glad it resonates Debbie

  • @howtogetthatmantolisten
    @howtogetthatmantolisten 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “How am I doing” is an excellent tip. Thank you 🙏

  • @jillmorton3096
    @jillmorton3096 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love the rooster crowing in the background🙃🙂

  • @meghabansode8484
    @meghabansode8484 ปีที่แล้ว

    Vandami bhante ji.. Very peaceful impformation Thanku bhante 🙏🙏🙏sadhu sadhu sadhu

  • @annacosta2939
    @annacosta2939 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Love your energy and smile, thank you!🧡🙏🧘‍♀️

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      sadhu sadhu. Thank you so much anna 🙂🙂

  • @GaminGawdess
    @GaminGawdess 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This video was a true eye opener. I never realized how little emotional intelligence I was not taught was unaware of. Plus I now have tools to learn a better way of thinking that can improve my life and others 🙏🏾

  • @kubasniak
    @kubasniak 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow You're laosian! I worked with these people here in Canada at my first job. Very cool and family oriented people. Cheers from Poland!

  • @lindaanderson1308
    @lindaanderson1308 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love the lemon , lime ending , so simple & true . Thanks ! 🦋🐝

  • @erinnjohnson8791
    @erinnjohnson8791 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Coming from an LPC student standpoint I really enjoyed how you addressed the content and nature of the individual by implementing tips that focuses on the essence of inner-being instead of the “problem”. I’ve never heard a therapeutic-perspective that creates and embodies an assessment for self-exploration but, also putting their nature in the proper context of spiritual wisdom. Well done Mr. Keomahavong. 🌱

  • @TheGramcracker08
    @TheGramcracker08 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is one of your best “shares” and it provides so many practical tools. ❤️

  • @bonniehowlingcrane580
    @bonniehowlingcrane580 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So inspiring. I just want to keep listening and keep learning...

  • @janeclausen141
    @janeclausen141 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Right now my heart feels so big, that it could jump out of my chest - simply because I can relate so much to what you are talking about.
    Get feedback is what I miss the most nearly every where - it newer realy come to my mind, that I can ask myself.
    The two person language I for sure will try to be much better to. The things you talk about I know but the way you talk, the excampels you give makes me understand in a new way. Thank you so much and thank you for your laugh, sharing and time. )(

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Awww thank you so much jane. I'm glad it was helpful. Yes try it out and keep us updated :)

  • @mariahartsfield5467
    @mariahartsfield5467 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loved it. Thank you for being you.

  • @stardustdiamond8576
    @stardustdiamond8576 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you much appreciated lots of gratitude

  • @pearltaylor1179
    @pearltaylor1179 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your words of wisdom and depth have brought me unfathomable peace.

  • @faithnorks
    @faithnorks 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So much good stuff in your messages. I like how you deliver it "When the student is ready the teacher will appear" quote is powerful.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much susanna.

  • @Dansteindler
    @Dansteindler 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I can't express how much your videos have helped me. I'm truly grateful.

  • @anamisidro8453
    @anamisidro8453 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Amazing. Thank you. Essence is a blessing 🙏

  • @archanabhatt9077
    @archanabhatt9077 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much. You have shared do-able steps and tips which are extremely helpful. I will start practicing these right away.🙏

  • @diva555sg
    @diva555sg 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nick, thanks for sharing. You did very well & have a heart of gold!

  • @marypiazza1942
    @marypiazza1942 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love listening to you. Thank you for the wisdom!

  • @DunnWisdom
    @DunnWisdom 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This us powerful! Thank you

  • @TammyLifeMovies
    @TammyLifeMovies 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm doing my meditation and praying more consistently..Thank You Ven Nick.🙏🧘‍♀️

  • @clintgore3331
    @clintgore3331 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love listening to.you..

  • @journeywjess
    @journeywjess 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for shining your light and wisdom with us. I have learned so much from you!🙏🏼💛

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm glad to hear Jessie. Thank you so much. I'm glad it's helpful 😃

  • @rebeccareyna4137
    @rebeccareyna4137 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    this was put together so nicely. Thank you! from the bottom of my heart. You're doing God's work for humanity

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sadhu sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much Rebecca. It’s my pleasure

  • @lapointdaniel
    @lapointdaniel 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for giving your time and experience, Brother Nick.

  • @Jh-mp2rd
    @Jh-mp2rd 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just want to say thank you Nick for posting videos online! I look forward to listening to your teaching all the way from America. I am walking a path that seeks wisdom and guidance, it's so refreshing to listen to you. You give me some inner hope that we can all change for the good. Thank you😁

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Aw, thank you so much. I'm glad these videos are helpful. Greetings to you from Thailand :-)

  • @alexf800
    @alexf800 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for all that your share and give so much generosity. Much love for you and your fellow monks.

  • @celinamelchiori5212
    @celinamelchiori5212 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi, Nick! I appreciate a lot your video and I made a decision to pratice everyday some these tips. Thank you for these teachings!!!!

  • @khunmaw22222
    @khunmaw22222 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I retired to Udon Thani about 6 months ago. I quit drinking 2.22.22 and meditation has been a big part of sobriety although I've been learning mostly off You Tube videos. I've been following your talks for awhile and they've been very helpful. If you know of any temples that teach meditation and Buddhist teaching in English in my area, please let me know. Thank you.

  • @kimberlydavis5034
    @kimberlydavis5034 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for taking the time to teach emotional wisdom. I really appreciate it.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      sadhu sadhu. thank you so much kimberly 🙂🙂🙂 I will try to do an updated version of this soon :)

  • @bethanychristiansen7499
    @bethanychristiansen7499 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I LOVED this!! ✨❤️💫 Thank you Monk Nick (I hope it’s okay to call you this, I’ve told so many friends about you!!)

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes definitely. You can use monk nick, venerable nick or luang pi nick. It Luang pi simply means brother monk. And thank you so much for your support. Im glad this content resonates with you :) Hope you are doing well Bethany! stay safe my friend.

  • @mitranoori9684
    @mitranoori9684 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love the way you teach, and would love to meet you someday.

  • @chomarhtun2942
    @chomarhtun2942 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you 🙏🙏🙏

  • @victoriajensen8484
    @victoriajensen8484 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you again from my heart 🙏🏼 you are helping me so much and I’m deeply appreciative 💕

  • @meenak3357
    @meenak3357 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love your videos. Appreciate your help in spreading the knowledge!!

  • @allanvonmehren3096
    @allanvonmehren3096 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Very beautiful, thank you for sharing this wisdom in such a caring and compassionate way

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much Allan. Glad you enjoyed it ❤❤❤🙏

  • @melwills3822
    @melwills3822 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That was excellent Nick🙏🏻 Thank you so much for putting such a great video together. I’m in my fi al year of counselling studies and l found your practical tools to be ones that l hope to use one day. Many thanks for this offering, may you always have peace and love in your heart. 💓

  • @jillmorton3096
    @jillmorton3096 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Listening to you is so relaxing😊

  • @amandeepbaghiana4510
    @amandeepbaghiana4510 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really appreciate this advice, it's helping me out tremendously in this time of my life

  • @katrinavatgjoni5775
    @katrinavatgjoni5775 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I felt your words, your examples, your experience.. Thank you 🙏

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much Katrina

  • @fitfiddle4286
    @fitfiddle4286 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Nick you're helping me so much. As a female I wish I could have the option to even consider being a monk but this channel is helping so so many of us. I Thankyou for this from My heart❤️

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Happy to help! sadhu sadhu. thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂 if you are ever in thailand, you are welcome to visit us at our retreat center. www.papaemeditation.org. If you are interested in a women's program, they have some in Myanmar and Sri Lanka.

    • @fitfiddle4286
      @fitfiddle4286 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nickkeomahavong01 I would love that very much its such a beautiful country ice spent time in chiang Maí. Greetings from ireland

    • @raqueldeshow9678
      @raqueldeshow9678 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      :( Why can't women be a monk?

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@raqueldeshow9678 are you interested? They have programs for women in Myranmar and Sri Lanka.

    • @raqueldeshow9678
      @raqueldeshow9678 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nickkeomahavong01 More so interested in why women can or can not be monks. But Thank you :)

  • @wwp00h
    @wwp00h 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love this. Very to the point advice and on point with realistic examples. Hopefully i can commit in incorporating this in my life.

  • @Christ_Is_Life10-10
    @Christ_Is_Life10-10 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much for sharing this valuable information! It is EXACTLY what I needed!

  • @jeansaben9954
    @jeansaben9954 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    always thank you for the wisdom

  • @malcolmpuhawan3695
    @malcolmpuhawan3695 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for sharing wisdom, knowledge and experiences. Good health and blessing to you... From the Philippines.

  • @michaelcampbell173
    @michaelcampbell173 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much

  • @kelliinman9041
    @kelliinman9041 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m so glad I found your channel! I’ve been drawn to Buddhism for a few years and the teachings have opened my eyes and something clicked in my busy mind and over emotionally charged life. I love your story with your brothers and how we talk differently according to their personalities. You made me laugh because it’s so true and I’m learning to change my language and tone with them. Great tips and thank you!!😊

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you Kelli. I'm glad it's helpful 😊😊

  • @umam6487
    @umam6487 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thankyou 🙏

  • @zouzou6424
    @zouzou6424 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks 👍

  • @Dei1751____
    @Dei1751____ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Valued every piece of this advice, thank you for sharing. 🙏

  • @sheilabrennan4481
    @sheilabrennan4481 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Always timely!!

  • @aysimabrokx9925
    @aysimabrokx9925 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you,

  • @shamdhala
    @shamdhala 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Luang Pi,thanks again and Deeper Bow.

  • @NB-ky3xx
    @NB-ky3xx 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks so much for sharing words of wisdom.

  • @waterwomanknits
    @waterwomanknits 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for this wonderful presentation. Would love to see a K-12 curriculum in the West on emotional wisdom and self-compassion. I see more often young people in my life being taught meditation or breathing exercises by public school teachers, which is a start. After decades of swinging between anxiety and depression, I finally learned how to shift my energy and observe myself to prevent these cycles. For example, when I become aware my heart is contracting and I lean toward depression, I know it is time for me to give to someone in some way. If I have no money, I pray for someone who is suffering. I also learned to go to the natural world for healing, nurturing and restoration. Nature can compost our emotions and just as we need Earth, Earth appreciates our compassionate presence.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm hoping to develop a curriculum for schools also 😊 I think it's important