The gag is they didn’t take care of the relaxed hair. Then went natural and didn’t take care of that. And then now went back to relaxers to not take care of that either. 🙄. Some people just need to wear wigs and keep it moving.
If they want hair but don't want to do it, they need to invest money in going to the every week or every 2 weeks. Lol! When i gey tired of doing my hair, I let the professionals do it. My hair is not perfect but it is now my crown instead of being views as a burden. I'd rather not hate any part of me.
Even when i get my hair straightened there is still some work involved. When you get your hair relaxed, you worry about that new “nappy” growth 😅 and in both, the humid, water, etc is always a major enemy. This summer I worse my hair in its natural state even with a bit of a blowout but I wasn’t afraid of water like I usually was before. Now I’m in braids and wash them 2 times a week, applying a bit of castor oil (with tea tree) on my edge and back of my hair, and now putting clear blue magic hair grease bc winter is HERE and I need all the moisture I can get. I don’t have to worry about knots + major shrinkage bc it’s in braids so I just air+towel dry it faster. And I don’t avoid getting it wet as much bc my hair dryer broke 😢
Right. Too many people think that if they straighten their hair that they no longer have to do anything with it. There are also a lot of people who think that having natural hair just means you leave it alone to matte and tangle up like a birds nest as if you dont need to moisturize, detangle, wash, etc.
The way that they make natural hair sound like a prison is so horrible! I understand that when you’re giving your natural hair a go for the first time it can be frustrating/confusing bc it’s so different than being relaxed or having wigs, but where’s the effort to find out what works for them? A routine? Knowing their porosity/density and studying how women with that hair type do their hair? Sigh
It's girls drama😂 I mean I am guy with long natural hair and I don't see the issue with this 4c hair thing, I just twist every time leave it alone take it down and like that. 🤷 And I hardly see guys who grow out their 4c hair complain or maybe it's just me.
I think it’s definitely a preference and how you want to wear your hair. Y’all need to STOP bullying black women into wearing natural hair! I’m natural but as soon as my hair grows out more I’m going back to relaxing my hair. Wear your hair the way you want to wear it. Stop listening to other people when it’s your hair! Find the best hair care routine for you! And natural hair for me has been horrible but I don’t knock it for others. And guess what you get cancer from Everything so live your life!
The issue is they're probably trying to get their hair to do what it shouldn't do. These women have the easiest length of hair to work with. They could do a roller set, pin curls, braid out, etc. there's a woman at my job with the same length of hair as the first couple of women and she has her hair in a cute style almost every day. Black women make things harder on themselves.
@@NamasteInYourLane I was wearing cute hairstyles to school everyday when I was in uni and my hair was their length too. And I was on a very tight budget but I still found a way.
It's interesting how struggling with natural hair is the only struggle black women aren't willing to go through. Relaxers causing health problems, wigs tearing off your scalp or destroying your hairline etc are worthy struggles apparently
My mom has “straight hair looks better” ingrained in her but couldn’t go on doing relaxers for another decade. It was weakening her “strong African hair” too much and started showing its effects. Now she’s locked and I have to pour positivity into her. Recently a stupid r-cist says she doesn’t look like she takes care of herself. Sickening world. Her hair locked looks perfectly fine. She even ties it back a bit for “professionalism”
I'll say it again....the reason most bw get frustrated with their natural hair, especially when its the coiliest type, is because they want their hair to do things other hair types can but coily hair types cant/shouldn't. We want to blend in, we want to be everything but what we are.
Yep. When I talk to girls with 4c hair you can just tell most of their frustration with their hair comes from them trying to make their hair look like they are mixed or something. You have kinky hair, a wash n go won't look like wet and wavy. The obsession with loose curls that fall is doing them in. Do styles that work for your hair and show off your texture.
refering to your natural hair as "a forest" is insane, colonialism won fr. and I agree with you, I don't get why they always feel the need to announce that they are relaxing their hair. when I cut off my relaxed hair, I didn't go on NTA news to say I'm cutting my hair.
I love the forest. 😅 I love trees. I love a nice carpet. These are positive words of affirmation for me. I'm fat but I love the curves, the cuddly, the chubby, the juicy, the springy, the thickness, the softness. I don't know if it's my sensory-seeking autistic brain but I love the forest that grows out of my head. If I had stronger strands i would play in my hair all day every day but my strands are too fine and fragile for that. When i get hair fatigue, I go to the salon or trichologists clinic and let them care for and style it. I never liked my relaxed hair. too flat. Never could get it to hold volume, bumps or curls.
@@WilliamsPinch Me either! Forests are complex ecosystems that support so much life, including ours. The Amazon rainforests are called "the lungs of the earth." There's even something called "forest bathing" which is helpful for relaxation and therapy. What is so bad about forests that it's compared to natural hair?
We NEED to start teaching our young black little ladies to maintain, love, and wear their natural hair from a young age instead of calling it "nappy", brushing and combing their hair all hard to where it makes them cry, perming it, and putting braids and a weave in 24/7. When I was younger I had crochet braids in year round. I hadn't seen my real hair less than 8 times a year when the braids were taken down until I was in high-school and I went completely natural. Maybe that's the deal with these women, they were never taught to love their hair. It starts with us so we can decrease these things in the future and somebody please tell em these perm boxes have CANCEROUS chemicals but some of em rather risk it then take care of their curls. CRAZY.
@@actuallyjulieeit’s crazy because I’ve had natural hair all of my daughter’s life (13 yrs) and she still doesn’t love her hair ( we both have microlocs). She sees other races at her school with straight hair and wants to fit in. I talk to her about how unique our hair is and how beautiful it is because of its uniqueness. Unfortunately at her age she only wants to fit in. I hope once she gets a bit older she will realize standing out is way more amazing.
@@marleyhill34 100% they will put so much time and effort into styling and installing wigs etc but won’t do the same for their natural hair. Same goes for maintaining relaxed hair
The second girl the way she handles her natural hair and relaxed hair is so rough, that’s why it’s breaking and it’s gonna continue to break just because of the handling (rat tail comb, combing while wet and tight ponytail) Natural hair is not the problem, she’s the problem
The public cry for help about how terrible their natural hair is sooooo annoying. When that lady made the video where she was on the verge of tears cos she decided to leave her hair dry overnight, i blocked her immediately. I was so irritated by her making that video because then there were black women in the comments making natural hair seem like a literal curse. I fear its too late for us, but I love your channel sm and will never stop supporting 💗
So these girls that just hate natural hair so much are basically telling all of us that we're a natural hair that they do not like how we look. I'm so disgusted with this anti-kinky hair in our community. It's such a bad example for the young girls.
It’s not Jim Crow if these are people that are not black Americans. This is just self hate that Africans and then black Americans and black peoples from other places always had for their physical appearance.
At 42, I’ve seen this cycle before. It’s tiresome and disappointing. I’m convinced that people are willfully ignorant about natural hair because ain’t no way they don’t know how to care for it in this day and age.
6:43 She could also comb her natural hair easily like this if she just took five minutes to detangle it ! How has she been natural for three years but she didn't learn basic haircare ?
You ll be surprised I know a lot of women who keep their hair in braids and wigs non stop. And don’t know how to style their own hair. Now one of them I know their hair has completely fallen out and they asking me for help. After I tried to tell them to leave the braids alone.
You mean comb her hair with that tiny comb? 😭 I doubt. But yeah she doesn't seem to want to take any time detangling or moisturizing. So all the best to her.
That would just be a depressing video. I tried to make this one light-hearted as well cause it can get triggering hearing those words from the creamy-crack heads. But all the best to them.
@@actuallyjuliee I understand but it needs to be done people say this so casually they dont know its rooted in self hate and on the flipside treating black people that dont have 4c hair like animals Nd trying to make it seem you are lucky to not have their texture. Its messed up and no one to blame for that. I thought we left this behaviour in the 2010s but many people take pride in hating what God gave them
Hi , I just want to say i binged watched your channel yesterday and decided to wear my hair out to work. I've been wearing a kinky curly wig which mimics my hair type. last night, I unravelled the cornrows under my wig and put my hair in chunky twists, loosened the twists this morning and made a simple up do. It was raining on my way to work this morning but I tried not to let it bother me, shrunken hair is still hair. Keep doing what you are doing.
You asked, so I’m answering lol I’m not ok Juliee. lol I did cream crack. Hated every second of it so I’ve big chopped again for the 2nd time. Lol your video makes me feel better tho because I loveee my curls and curl pattern. So I feel like this big chop was exactly what I needed. I know it will grow back because I’ve grown it out before. I promise this is the last time I’ll ever put chemicals in my head!! I was looking at old pics and videos today and wanted to cry because idk how I ever thought anything besides my curls could ever be better. I love your channel and thank for the encouragement. #NewSubbie
Oh darling I'm doing fine. Thank you. May God help black women. 😢 My regret was ever letting relaxers touch my scalp. That shit has effects even when you have stopped using it. Thank God for starting afresh. I asked God to forgive me for ever talking down on what He created.
😅😅😅 since you asked 😂😂😂😂😂. I am back from work. Eating fried sweet potatoes with salad in wrapper. I am doing well. Hope you good. Keep the content coming 😂
I will admit there was a MOMENT in time when i hated my hair because it would get SO tangled and i would get so frustrated trying to detangle my hair. However, it was my fault because i didnt comb my hair regularly. I would sit and let my hair get tangled up for days. Then when it was time to wash it, i would struggle to detangle, before, during, and after washing it. It was my fault. I neglected my hair and caused the problem. Now i comb my hair every other day and keep my hair from knotting up. It makes wash day easier too. If i straight my hair, it would go down to my boobs. Lol
I got relaxed at 5yr old hair broke off severely by 10yrs old, then got a S Curl, ended up natural but didn't know how to take care of it. At 12 I relaxed again when hair was healthier. At 19 was pregnant was natural again, wore braids whole pregnancy, hair grew so much. At 29 hair broke off bad, remembered when I wasn't relaxing my hair it was long and healthy, decided to stop relaxing my hair. I've been natural and happy for 11yrs. ❤
I don't know if it's just me but natural hair is more aesthetically pleasing than relaxed hair anyways, especially for us low density girlies. I say this as someone who basically had relaxed hair my whole life until I started my natural hair journey in 2020. Natural hair is definitely more demanding but it's really not that bad, and I appreciate the versatility that it affords me as well, that's the other thing with relaxer if we set aside all the health risks associated with relaxed hair, the styles are limited and they don't look as good imo. Also I agree I respect their decision but I hate the negative talk about our hair because it's genuinely so special, and it's harmful
I honestly think relaxed hair is harder to maintain. Trying not to sweat or get hair wet in the rain was not for me😂😂😂😂 I’ll take my forest all day, but I’m always loving all black hair! Yall sooooooo gorgeous either way ❤❤❤❤
I got family who swoon over my hair and complain bout there’s. Meanwhile I be at war with my hair SOMETIMES( if I fall depressed - ) and I’ve got 3c-4a curls . But I’ve never fr been into wigs hardcore , like when I danced that’s when I wore them lots. But once I retired from dancing in clubs I’m back in my natural hair 24/7. Best decision I made was to go natural. I never had issues when I was relaxed . But I find it easier to straighten my hair natural. Vs, when I was relaxed I hated it. I love how flowy my hair is when flat ironed with volume naturally. Vs when relaxed it was just flat . The last relaxer I got didn’t take and that was a decade ago. Right now on my journey is to thicken my hair back up because I fell very ill this past summer and it shows in my hair. The shaft is thinner than the roots. Now that I’m back well I’m on a healthy hair journey . I didn’t neglect my hair but it def shows the state my body was in via the mid-shaft downward.
I remember being finally GROWN & pissed 😤 that my hair was permed as a child & then I as a teen keep it going until I found & 👀 just how many options I had to explore… & even when it’s “so called nappy” just remember I’m happy & NAPPY 😂❤🎉😊🙏🏾👏🏾🌺🌹🌸🗣️🎤🎶🎶🎶#WOOOO & im 50 in November & been natural for 20 years 🥰😊
That is why I locked my hair. I don’t like wigs, but honestly I honestly don’t have the time and skill and the tolerance of pain that is sometimes required. I think I have found my vibe
My mum is Nigerian and since I was young, she was always conscious about not tugging at my edges as it was common amongst Nigerian women to loose their edges. Whenever I went to do my hair, she’d tell the stylist not to tug too tightly. Thank you mum!
I always laugh when people go back to creamy crack just to put it in a ponytail and then a wig😂. I’m like you can do that with natural hair --all that drama for a newborn baby ponytail 😂
Wig heist😂😂😂😂. There is obsession of wig in Nigeria. Both Male and female need to have re-orientation to love and care for our hair. Our entertainment industry are not even trying to potray how the African woman actually looks like. The reason I don't watch Nigeria movies is the heavy makeup, different colors of wigs, false lashes, long nails and the wannabeness of American.
It's crazy cos even Americans are wannabe latinas cos they PEDASTALISE straight wigs and loose curls. It's embarrassing some people don't even know what real black hair looks like 😂
I wish they would relax their hair privately. Many people do not understand the level of self hate they have for themselves! No other set of people wear other people's hair. The only time we see non black wearing wigs if for hallowen
I wish my hair were a forest or a jungle. That’s actually beautiful to me. My hair is very fine. I am trying to grow my hair and I can’t wait for it to become a FOREST 🌳 ☺️
As someone who has DEFINITELY sworn off relaxers for close to a decade, and is now enjoying the luxury of my well-taken care of NATURAL AFRICAN hair, i find the rantings of those ladies reverting to hair relaxers absolutely irritating(to put it lightly)The only saving grace for me, are your hilarious comments🤣🤣🤣.Much ❤❤❤❤❤ to you sis.
I'm doing fine sis How about you 😁😁? Thanks for this video. Personally I hated how flat my hair would feel after relaxing nd I somehow knew relaxers wasn't for me nd I thank God for showing me the right way. I hv been natural for 5 yrs nd I wish I had gone natural earlier. I was relaxed for 4 yrs actually. It was right after high school, I adore my natural soooooo much nd ur videos are really encouraging ❤❤❤. Thank you
What's so sad is that the manufacturers of these relaxers won't change the dangerous ingredients. Why would they when black women are still willing to use them.
You’re fuxking stupid 😂 Kenya was FINALLY decolonized during the 1960s… that’s more than halfway through the 1900s. Too close and the generational scars are hot off the press
when people relax natural hair just to put wigs on top of it... Also, its crazy to me how people relax their hair and they don't even apply the relaxer right, so it ends up looking awful anyway. If you're going to damage your hair with one of the harshest chemicals available, at least make sure you're applying it right smh.
I pity these women who cannot embrace their natural locs. I've been natural since birth. I was lucky to have a mother teach me to love my hair and care for it. When I was 14, I once tried a wig just to see what straight hair would look like on me. I absolutely HATED it. It was hot, it felt foreign on my head, my scalp formed more dandruff than normal and it just felt like I wasn't being my authentic self. After a week, I got rid of it and went back to my fluffy, bouncy curls. I had noticed that I got more attention with the wig from men which is another reason that made me uncomfortable. Then I learned about the dark side of the wig industry, how they exploit poor Asian and African women for their hair to make wigs. That's BAD juju some black women are putting on their heads. Though I am personally against wigs, extensions, anything that is fake hair, I can't police what black women wanna do with their hair. I do hope more black women stop wearing fake hair and embrace their naturals. From what I see, it is slowly happening. What use to be straight or spanish wave wigs or relaxers in the 2000's all the time, I am now seeing more naturals, more black women wearing wigs that FIT THEIR NATURAL TEXTURE. It is changing. Because of this, more non-black people are seeing the beauty in afro hair and black women.
I think it’s definitely a preference and how you want to wear your hair. Y’all need to STOP bullying black women into wearing natural hair! I’m natural but as soon as my hair grows out more I’m going back to relaxing my hair. Wear your hair the way you want to wear it. Stop listening to other people when it’s your hair! Find the best hair care routine for you! And natural hair for me has been horrible but I don’t knock it for others. And guess what you get cancer from Everything so live your life!
Rest. Rest ijn. People who wear relaxed hair bully naturalists. It’s funny how when we call it out it’s us bullying you. Relax your hair all you want no one gives a flying f.
10:19 LOL reminds of a TH-camr i found yesterday who gets that type of jericurl to make her type 4 look type 3a-2c but her entire TH-cam is just wigs. Not one video showing her hair.
Lack of quality products, lack of moisture and protein, lack of proper detangling, lack of trims (even with the relaxer she couldn't comb it through the ends, and constant braids and wigs. If you can't maintain natural hair, you'll be bald with relaxers. No, thank you, those chemicals are not good for the health.
It’s sad when you can’t even go to elders in your family to get natural hair advice because everyone is either wear wig, relaxed or a straight natural.
As someone who works with people with hair loss....The traction alopecia cases I have seen caused by frontals is devastating! But then I noticed a pattern, most of these women aren't even self aware enough to see their "problem". When I try to educate them about the dangers of those badly done frontals, they trivialize it. Slowly I went from having empathy for them to resenting and laughing at them. (Not sorry!😂) Then you see the "newly relaxed" crowd ehhh...they should gloat o😂😂😂, when we gloat about all the health issues (ED, Fibroids, CCC Alopecia and Cancer) they will incur because of the use....make dem nor vex o. Since y'all don't value your own lives, who is we to value it for you???
She said😅😂 amount of glues and cements you people put on your hair had me lmao because that's what you women stay away from that shit it's ok to add hair stop with cement and glues no more being g lazy asses well someone had to tell you 😘🙌🫶
I’m angry with this video, because I’m angry with the women in this video. That first woman didn’t even moisturize her hair properly post relaxer. She just ran the product through her hair, AND THEN when she put her hair in a ponytail there was excess product. The rat tail comb didn’t even go through her hair all the way! Just cause your hair is relaxed doesn’t mean it doesn’t get tangled. Notice how the hair texture from the woman in the first video is similar to the woman in the third video. The difference is one learned how to take care of her hair. The more you learn, the easier it is. That second girl angered me even more because it’s clear that this woman didn’t take the time to learn how to take care of her hair. Your hair is dry and you’re crying that you can’t pass a comb through. Crazy. Now yes I love wigs, and Glueless wigs are the way to go. But wigs are not bad because when done correctly, wigs can help your hair grow. And I agree, I hate when someone depends on wigs to define themselves as beautiful. It’s not the genes! You’re just too impatient! To test my hair growth, I made the decision to bleach my hair and got highlights…July 13, 2022 to July 13, 2024, my highlights grew out and my hair is exactly the same length. This showed me that in TWO YEARS my hair grew 12-14 inches. I personally love my hair to my shoulders because it’s too hot for Miami. But now? Now I’ll make it a personal mission to grow my hair waist length because women like this will forever aggravate me.
They keep trying to do their hair as if they are ww. You're black, learn to take care of BLACK hair. If you were meant to have straight hair, God would've given you straight hair. Embrace the things your hair can actually do, not force it to be something it doesn't wanna be.
Let me be devils advocate against team natural: if you want to be natural, cool. It’s nice to embrace your natural beauty. But the thing is there is nothing wrong in saying we are tired of being natural. My hair is natural rn, I love my Afro…. But I also struggle with chronic depression and 4c hair texture I don’t know how to manage. If I braid it, it breaks. If I leave it out it tangles up and breaks when I detangle. But I don’t feel like I can go back to relaxers without yall shaming me (like you’re doing in the comments and this video) and I don’t want to shave my hair off (because everyone will say it’s either I’m an ashawo or I’ve lost my mind). If I relaxed it, I’d at least be able to comb/wash my hair without having a mental breakdown. Let’s normalize letting black women do what they want with their hair, whether it’s team natural, braids, wigs, relaxers or shaving it off. I think the both sides have become mean girls and need to put down the burn book. Again, this is a natural girl talking. Who knows I might just go bald so I can know peace.
@@calypsoandchill girl no one is shaming anyone for having relaxed hair. It's coming online to make videos demonizing 4c hair and making it seem like it's the reason for climate change and inflation that is ridiculous and we are tired of it. The fact that you don't want to do what you really want with your hair for your own betterment because of what people would say is not it. For what it's worth, if I'm trying to keep my hair away for a long time without touching it, I do 'loose African threading'. I can wear it out and it keeps my hair stretched. Check out West African Doll to see what it looks like. Good luck on your self discovery journey.
I agree..the fact is that it's really hard and time consuming to deal with some types of hair. I have 4c too and I really can't deal with it in it's natural state. Way too stressful.
You're not being the devil's advocate, you literally stated that you didn't know how to manage your hair either, like the woman in the video. Two strand twists are an option. I struggle with depression, and know how to manage my 4c hair. I truly love being black, and love my hair. I have went over a month without caring for my hair due to depression, but i would never blame my hair texture for that, because my hair is not the problem.
I don’t want to hear nothing from angry natives from the motherland Y’all won’t do sisterlochs or braids or anything right without taking someone’s edges Ehhh let the women choose
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The gag is they didn’t take care of the relaxed hair. Then went natural and didn’t take care of that. And then now went back to relaxers to not take care of that either. 🙄. Some people just need to wear wigs and keep it moving.
If they want hair but don't want to do it, they need to invest money in going to the every week or every 2 weeks. Lol! When i gey tired of doing my hair, I let the professionals do it. My hair is not perfect but it is now my crown instead of being views as a burden. I'd rather not hate any part of me.
Even when i get my hair straightened there is still some work involved. When you get your hair relaxed, you worry about that new “nappy” growth 😅 and in both, the humid, water, etc is always a major enemy. This summer I worse my hair in its natural state even with a bit of a blowout but I wasn’t afraid of water like I usually was before. Now I’m in braids and wash them 2 times a week, applying a bit of castor oil (with tea tree) on my edge and back of my hair, and now putting clear blue magic hair grease bc winter is HERE and I need all the moisture I can get. I don’t have to worry about knots + major shrinkage bc it’s in braids so I just air+towel dry it faster. And I don’t avoid getting it wet as much bc my hair dryer broke 😢
Right. Too many people think that if they straighten their hair that they no longer have to do anything with it. There are also a lot of people who think that having natural hair just means you leave it alone to matte and tangle up like a birds nest as if you dont need to moisturize, detangle, wash, etc.
The way that they make natural hair sound like a prison is so horrible! I understand that when you’re giving your natural hair a go for the first time it can be frustrating/confusing bc it’s so different than being relaxed or having wigs, but where’s the effort to find out what works for them? A routine? Knowing their porosity/density and studying how women with that hair type do their hair? Sigh
Exactly
It's the dramaaaa for me
It's girls drama😂 I mean I am guy with long natural hair and I don't see the issue with this 4c hair thing, I just twist every time leave it alone take it down and like that. 🤷 And I hardly see guys who grow out their 4c hair complain or maybe it's just me.
@@vichi...2136exactly! I mostly keep my hair in twists / mini braids too and my hair has been thriving.
I think it’s definitely a preference and how you want to wear your hair. Y’all need to STOP bullying black women into wearing natural hair! I’m natural but as soon as my hair grows out more I’m going back to relaxing my hair. Wear your hair the way you want to wear it. Stop listening to other people when it’s your hair! Find the best hair care routine for you! And natural hair for me has been horrible but I don’t knock it for others. And guess what you get cancer from Everything so live your life!
The issue is they're probably trying to get their hair to do what it shouldn't do. These women have the easiest length of hair to work with. They could do a roller set, pin curls, braid out, etc. there's a woman at my job with the same length of hair as the first couple of women and she has her hair in a cute style almost every day.
Black women make things harder on themselves.
@@NamasteInYourLane I was wearing cute hairstyles to school everyday when I was in uni and my hair was their length too. And I was on a very tight budget but I still found a way.
It's interesting how struggling with natural hair is the only struggle black women aren't willing to go through. Relaxers causing health problems, wigs tearing off your scalp or destroying your hairline etc are worthy struggles apparently
@@natasharules6737 so true. They draw the line at natural hair. It's very interesting.
This!!
Let's not even get into the socio economic struggles that black women will go through willing but their natural hair a no no.
My mom has “straight hair looks better” ingrained in her but couldn’t go on doing relaxers for another decade. It was weakening her “strong African hair” too much and started showing its effects. Now she’s locked and I have to pour positivity into her. Recently a stupid r-cist says she doesn’t look like she takes care of herself. Sickening world. Her hair locked looks perfectly fine. She even ties it back a bit for “professionalism”
THIS! THIS! THIS!
Bleeding edges out in the streets is diabolical🤞🏾😭😭😭..
I can't even imagine. People are really out here doing wig heists.
I'll say it again....the reason most bw get frustrated with their natural hair, especially when its the coiliest type, is because they want their hair to do things other hair types can but coily hair types cant/shouldn't. We want to blend in, we want to be everything but what we are.
Yep. When I talk to girls with 4c hair you can just tell most of their frustration with their hair comes from them trying to make their hair look like they are mixed or something. You have kinky hair, a wash n go won't look like wet and wavy. The obsession with loose curls that fall is doing them in. Do styles that work for your hair and show off your texture.
refering to your natural hair as "a forest" is insane, colonialism won fr.
and I agree with you, I don't get why they always feel the need to announce that they are relaxing their hair.
when I cut off my relaxed hair, I didn't go on NTA news to say I'm cutting my hair.
@@bevbevbev_ not NTA. 😂😂
Oh I can't stand it when they do that
Just relax it and shut up
Girls are watching
I love the forest. 😅 I love trees. I love a nice carpet. These are positive words of affirmation for me. I'm fat but I love the curves, the cuddly, the chubby, the juicy, the springy, the thickness, the softness. I don't know if it's my sensory-seeking autistic brain but I love the forest that grows out of my head. If I had stronger strands i would play in my hair all day every day but my strands are too fine and fragile for that. When i get hair fatigue, I go to the salon or trichologists clinic and let them care for and style it. I never liked my relaxed hair. too flat. Never could get it to hold volume, bumps or curls.
Forests are beautiful! I didn’t understand the negative connotation initially.
@@WilliamsPinch Me either! Forests are complex ecosystems that support so much life, including ours. The Amazon rainforests are called "the lungs of the earth." There's even something called "forest bathing" which is helpful for relaxation and therapy. What is so bad about forests that it's compared to natural hair?
We NEED to start teaching our young black little ladies to maintain, love, and wear their natural hair from a young age instead of calling it "nappy", brushing and combing their hair all hard to where it makes them cry, perming it, and putting braids and a weave in 24/7. When I was younger I had crochet braids in year round. I hadn't seen my real hair less than 8 times a year when the braids were taken down until I was in high-school and I went completely natural. Maybe that's the deal with these women, they were never taught to love their hair. It starts with us so we can decrease these things in the future and somebody please tell em these perm boxes have CANCEROUS chemicals but some of em rather risk it then take care of their curls. CRAZY.
@@SugarSista820 it starts from the developmental years. That's why many can never unlearn these behaviours.
@@actuallyjulieeit’s crazy because I’ve had natural hair all of my daughter’s life (13 yrs) and she still doesn’t love her hair ( we both have microlocs). She sees other races at her school with straight hair and wants to fit in. I talk to her about how unique our hair is and how beautiful it is because of its uniqueness. Unfortunately at her age she only wants to fit in. I hope once she gets a bit older she will realize standing out is way more amazing.
It's giving pre plucked, pre bleached and all your front hair is in the sink
@@somtoobiorah206 I'm cryeeen 😂😭😭
They will do anything but learn how to do their natural hair properly😂
One lady just told me she was busy. I hate the word because people use it as an avoidance.
@@marleyhill34 100% they will put so much time and effort into styling and installing wigs etc but won’t do the same for their natural hair. Same goes for maintaining relaxed hair
@@MaNoZubecause they hate their natural hair texture
@@BlueVeins-k6b very true
The second girl the way she handles her natural hair and relaxed hair is so rough, that’s why it’s breaking and it’s gonna continue to break just because of the handling (rat tail comb, combing while wet and tight ponytail)
Natural hair is not the problem, she’s the problem
So true. That rat tail comb test is a sure way to lose all your hair.
The public cry for help about how terrible their natural hair is sooooo annoying. When that lady made the video where she was on the verge of tears cos she decided to leave her hair dry overnight, i blocked her immediately. I was so irritated by her making that video because then there were black women in the comments making natural hair seem like a literal curse. I fear its too late for us, but I love your channel sm and will never stop supporting 💗
So these girls that just hate natural hair so much are basically telling all of us that we're a natural hair that they do not like how we look. I'm so disgusted with this anti-kinky hair in our community. It's such a bad example for the young girls.
That Jim Crow mindset is strong with some people.
It’s not Jim Crow if these are people that are not black Americans. This is just self hate that Africans and then black Americans and black peoples from other places always had for their physical appearance.
THIS! It's giving slave mentality.
At 42, I’ve seen this cycle before. It’s tiresome and disappointing. I’m convinced that people are willfully ignorant about natural hair because ain’t no way they don’t know how to care for it in this day and age.
Same! I think some of these ppl are literally opps, they work for the government at putting out disinformation
Unfortunately, they don’t.
6:43 She could also comb her natural hair easily like this if she just took five minutes to detangle it ! How has she been natural for three years but she didn't learn basic haircare ?
And is on social media as If they aren't ppl who show you how to treat your hair. It's sad and her hair looks horrible smh
You ll be surprised I know a lot of women who keep their hair in braids and wigs non stop. And don’t know how to style their own hair. Now one of them I know their hair has completely fallen out and they asking me for help. After I tried to tell them to leave the braids alone.
@@SixFives5StarChicAnd they'll probably blame it on having 4c hair again...
You mean comb her hair with that tiny comb? 😭 I doubt. But yeah she doesn't seem to want to take any time detangling or moisturizing. So all the best to her.
@@actuallyjuliee No. I meant with a wide tooth comb. Nobody can comb african hair with this tiny comb. It was never made for it.
I know it shouldn’t be funny but that woman having her wig snatched “wig heist” has me dying.
I wish someone can make a video on DISGUSTING words that people casually use to describe natural hair
That would just be a depressing video. I tried to make this one light-hearted as well cause it can get triggering hearing those words from the creamy-crack heads. But all the best to them.
@@actuallyjuliee I understand but it needs to be done people say this so casually they dont know its rooted in self hate and on the flipside treating black people that dont have 4c hair like animals Nd trying to make it seem you are lucky to not have their texture. Its messed up and no one to blame for that. I thought we left this behaviour in the 2010s but many people take pride in hating what God gave them
@@actuallyjuliee it would be cool if you did a video analyzing videos that use dog whistles for natural hair ❤
I feel bad for that last lady. I consider that assault. Left her bleeding and all
It's insane. I'd be traumatized.
Right! They probably would have yanked someone's real hair like that too if it was long. That's violent af.
16:40 👎👎
16:54👍👍
Hi , I just want to say i binged watched your channel yesterday and decided to wear my hair out to work. I've been wearing a kinky curly wig which mimics my hair type.
last night, I unravelled the cornrows under my wig and put my hair in chunky twists, loosened the twists this morning and made a simple up do. It was raining on my way to work this morning but I tried not to let it bother me, shrunken hair is still hair.
Keep doing what you are doing.
❤❤❤❤🎉
@@bevbevbev_ aw i love that!
You asked, so I’m answering lol I’m not ok Juliee. lol I did cream crack. Hated every second of it so I’ve big chopped again for the 2nd time. Lol your video makes me feel better tho because I loveee my curls and curl pattern. So I feel like this big chop was exactly what I needed. I know it will grow back because I’ve grown it out before. I promise this is the last time I’ll ever put chemicals in my head!! I was looking at old pics and videos today and wanted to cry because idk how I ever thought anything besides my curls could ever be better. I love your channel and thank for the encouragement. #NewSubbie
Aw. I hope you feel better soon. 💕
The creamy crack is a temporary solution to a permanent issue or however that saying goes. 😆
Oh darling I'm doing fine. Thank you.
May God help black women. 😢 My regret was ever letting relaxers touch my scalp. That shit has effects even when you have stopped using it. Thank God for starting afresh. I asked God to forgive me for ever talking down on what He created.
😅😅😅 since you asked 😂😂😂😂😂. I am back from work. Eating fried sweet potatoes with salad in wrapper. I am doing well. Hope you good. Keep the content coming 😂
Sounds goood.
And thank you. I'm trying 💕
We good. Preparing for a hurricane over here 😅
Girl, yes! Lol 😅
Omg. Stay safe. 💕
Even if your hair is relaxed, why on earth would you run a rat tail comb to comb your hair?
That's why their hair is bent and broken
I will admit there was a MOMENT in time when i hated my hair because it would get SO tangled and i would get so frustrated trying to detangle my hair. However, it was my fault because i didnt comb my hair regularly. I would sit and let my hair get tangled up for days. Then when it was time to wash it, i would struggle to detangle, before, during, and after washing it. It was my fault. I neglected my hair and caused the problem.
Now i comb my hair every other day and keep my hair from knotting up. It makes wash day easier too. If i straight my hair, it would go down to my boobs. Lol
Wig heist 😂 my Godd
I got relaxed at 5yr old hair broke off severely by 10yrs old, then got a S Curl, ended up natural but didn't know how to take care of it. At 12 I relaxed again when hair was healthier. At 19 was pregnant was natural again, wore braids whole pregnancy, hair grew so much. At 29 hair broke off bad, remembered when I wasn't relaxing my hair it was long and healthy, decided to stop relaxing my hair. I've been natural and happy for 11yrs. ❤
I don't know if it's just me but natural hair is more aesthetically pleasing than relaxed hair anyways, especially for us low density girlies. I say this as someone who basically had relaxed hair my whole life until I started my natural hair journey in 2020. Natural hair is definitely more demanding but it's really not that bad, and I appreciate the versatility that it affords me as well, that's the other thing with relaxer if we set aside all the health risks associated with relaxed hair, the styles are limited and they don't look as good imo. Also I agree I respect their decision but I hate the negative talk about our hair because it's genuinely so special, and it's harmful
Exactlyy. Everything you said. Like, relax if you must but stop the dramaaa
Yall should try head band wigs!!! They are easy and such a game changer. This also does not ruin your edges
Hope she files a police report.
I honestly think relaxed hair is harder to maintain. Trying not to sweat or get hair wet in the rain was not for me😂😂😂😂 I’ll take my forest all day, but I’m always loving all black hair! Yall sooooooo gorgeous either way ❤❤❤❤
I am doing well! just had a smoothie bowel i made myself!
Yummy!
Calling their hair a forest is so beautiful to me, sad to hear that it’s seen used in a negative way.
I got family who swoon over my hair and complain bout there’s. Meanwhile I be at war with my hair SOMETIMES( if I fall depressed - ) and I’ve got 3c-4a curls . But I’ve never fr been into wigs hardcore , like when I danced that’s when I wore them lots. But once I retired from dancing in clubs I’m back in my natural hair 24/7. Best decision I made was to go natural. I never had issues when I was relaxed . But I find it easier to straighten my hair natural. Vs, when I was relaxed I hated it. I love how flowy my hair is when flat ironed with volume naturally. Vs when relaxed it was just flat . The last relaxer I got didn’t take and that was a decade ago.
Right now on my journey is to thicken my hair back up because I fell very ill this past summer and it shows in my hair. The shaft is thinner than the roots. Now that I’m back well I’m on a healthy hair journey . I didn’t neglect my hair but it def shows the state my body was in via the mid-shaft downward.
I remember being finally GROWN & pissed 😤 that my hair was permed as a child & then I as a teen keep it going until I found & 👀 just how many options I had to explore… & even when it’s “so called nappy” just remember I’m happy & NAPPY 😂❤🎉😊🙏🏾👏🏾🌺🌹🌸🗣️🎤🎶🎶🎶#WOOOO & im 50 in November & been natural for 20 years 🥰😊
That is why I locked my hair. I don’t like wigs, but honestly I honestly don’t have the time and skill and the tolerance of pain that is sometimes required. I think I have found my vibe
The amount of panting and running for a snatched wig. The unlearned lessons. The accumulated laughter that is bursting at the seems.
My mum is Nigerian and since I was young, she was always conscious about not tugging at my edges as it was common amongst Nigerian women to loose their edges. Whenever I went to do my hair, she’d tell the stylist not to tug too tightly. Thank you mum!
I’m doing good 😭 sis
I'm glad 😄💕
I always laugh when people go back to creamy crack just to put it in a ponytail and then a wig😂. I’m like you can do that with natural hair --all that drama for a newborn baby ponytail 😂
Wig heist😂😂😂😂. There is obsession of wig in Nigeria. Both Male and female need to have re-orientation to love and care for our hair. Our entertainment industry are not even trying to potray how the African woman actually looks like. The reason I don't watch Nigeria movies is the heavy makeup, different colors of wigs, false lashes, long nails and the wannabeness of American.
I can't stop staring at those awful wigs when watching the movies. Ugh.
It's crazy cos even Americans are wannabe latinas cos they PEDASTALISE straight wigs and loose curls. It's embarrassing some people don't even know what real black hair looks like 😂
My dissertation is partly about this
It's getting worse as of late in the Caribbean too. Caribbean women looking like carbon copies of Sexxy Red 🤢🤮
Ive did everything with my natural hair happy i stop relaxing it since middle school! I now have dreads n im happy asf
I wish they would relax their hair privately. Many people do not understand the level of self hate they have for themselves! No other set of people wear other people's hair. The only time we see non black wearing wigs if for hallowen
That’s not true you just don’t realize it
Back to back braided extensions, wigs, and weaves. Constantly. Literally hate black hair more than anyone else.
Natural hair is so painful ! ..that's why I decided to go back to relaxers and burn my scalp every 3 weeks for the rest of my life. 😅😅😅😅
😂😂
I wish my hair were a forest or a jungle. That’s actually beautiful to me. My hair is very fine. I am trying to grow my hair and I can’t wait for it to become a FOREST 🌳 ☺️
The first girl had pretty hair :(
Me watching thos video while twisting my head of 4c hair and thanking God for it.
Very well-thought and expressed talking points. Love it. New subbie❤
Nooo 😭🤣 I wasn’t ready for the girl getting her wig snatched at 1:03 🤣😭😭
side note: I like the cats background in the beginning of the video,
As someone who has DEFINITELY sworn off relaxers for close to a decade, and is now enjoying the luxury of my well-taken care of NATURAL AFRICAN hair, i find the rantings of those ladies reverting to hair relaxers absolutely irritating(to put it lightly)The only saving grace for me, are your hilarious comments🤣🤣🤣.Much ❤❤❤❤❤ to you sis.
@@fatimaahmed7249 💕💕
I'm doing fine sis
How about you 😁😁?
Thanks for this video. Personally I hated how flat my hair would feel after relaxing nd I somehow knew relaxers wasn't for me nd I thank God for showing me the right way. I hv been natural for 5 yrs nd I wish I had gone natural earlier. I was relaxed for 4 yrs actually. It was right after high school, I adore my natural soooooo much nd ur videos are really encouraging ❤❤❤. Thank you
@@abigailamoah5555 💕💕
What's so sad is that the manufacturers of these relaxers won't change the dangerous ingredients. Why would they when black women are still willing to use them.
Colonialism was last century we're in a new century now forget about it.
No hope for some folks huh
It's the truth. Much like slavery was in another century. Get over it.
You’re fuxking stupid 😂 Kenya was FINALLY decolonized during the 1960s… that’s more than halfway through the 1900s. Too close and the generational scars are hot off the press
when people relax natural hair just to put wigs on top of it... Also, its crazy to me how people relax their hair and they don't even apply the relaxer right, so it ends up looking awful anyway. If you're going to damage your hair with one of the harshest chemicals available, at least make sure you're applying it right smh.
I pity these women who cannot embrace their natural locs. I've been natural since birth. I was lucky to have a mother teach me to love my hair and care for it. When I was 14, I once tried a wig just to see what straight hair would look like on me. I absolutely HATED it. It was hot, it felt foreign on my head, my scalp formed more dandruff than normal and it just felt like I wasn't being my authentic self. After a week, I got rid of it and went back to my fluffy, bouncy curls. I had noticed that I got more attention with the wig from men which is another reason that made me uncomfortable. Then I learned about the dark side of the wig industry, how they exploit poor Asian and African women for their hair to make wigs. That's BAD juju some black women are putting on their heads.
Though I am personally against wigs, extensions, anything that is fake hair, I can't police what black women wanna do with their hair. I do hope more black women stop wearing fake hair and embrace their naturals. From what I see, it is slowly happening. What use to be straight or spanish wave wigs or relaxers in the 2000's all the time, I am now seeing more naturals, more black women wearing wigs that FIT THEIR NATURAL TEXTURE. It is changing. Because of this, more non-black people are seeing the beauty in afro hair and black women.
You may also notice that women criticizing their natural hair that way are often the same bleaching their skin
Oh hey! I did this too 😂
I think it’s definitely a preference and how you want to wear your hair. Y’all need to STOP bullying black women into wearing natural hair! I’m natural but as soon as my hair grows out more I’m going back to relaxing my hair. Wear your hair the way you want to wear it. Stop listening to other people when it’s your hair! Find the best hair care routine for you! And natural hair for me has been horrible but I don’t knock it for others. And guess what you get cancer from Everything so live your life!
Rest. Rest ijn. People who wear relaxed hair bully naturalists. It’s funny how when we call it out it’s us bullying you. Relax your hair all you want no one gives a flying f.
10:19
LOL reminds of a TH-camr i found yesterday who gets that type of jericurl to make her type 4 look type 3a-2c but her entire TH-cam is just wigs. Not one video showing her hair.
3:27 I thought I was rough with my hair but that is insane. 😅
She looks like she's about to put on boxing gloves and get in the ring with it 😭
@@actuallyjuliee😂😂😂
Lack of quality products, lack of moisture and protein, lack of proper detangling, lack of trims (even with the relaxer she couldn't comb it through the ends, and constant braids and wigs. If you can't maintain natural hair, you'll be bald with relaxers. No, thank you, those chemicals are not good for the health.
Sad for them
Ah, I didn't know you were Nigerian 😂. Lovely ❤
Yes! I'm Igbo.
It’s sad when you can’t even go to elders in your family to get natural hair advice because everyone is either wear wig, relaxed or a straight natural.
As someone who works with people with hair loss....The traction alopecia cases I have seen caused by frontals is devastating! But then I noticed a pattern, most of these women aren't even self aware enough to see their "problem". When I try to educate them about the dangers of those badly done frontals, they trivialize it. Slowly I went from having empathy for them to resenting and laughing at them. (Not sorry!😂)
Then you see the "newly relaxed" crowd ehhh...they should gloat o😂😂😂, when we gloat about all the health issues (ED, Fibroids, CCC Alopecia and Cancer) they will incur because of the use....make dem nor vex o. Since y'all don't value your own lives, who is we to value it for you???
*My Sister, I just dey laugh oooo. This silly girl in this video should relax her pubic hair as well. Mtsheeew*
0:22 she bleached her face? her hands look dark.
Could be because the ring light is directed at her face? But she does have that gray undertone that comes from skin bleaching, so maybe.
She said😅😂 amount of glues and cements you people put on your hair had me lmao because that's what you women stay away from that shit it's ok to add hair stop with cement and glues no more being g lazy asses well someone had to tell you 😘🙌🫶
She's not even putting the relaxer in right. I'm surprised it wasn't breaking her hair strands while she's applying it.
I'm doing you how are you? 😂
im ok
I’m angry with this video, because I’m angry with the women in this video. That first woman didn’t even moisturize her hair properly post relaxer. She just ran the product through her hair, AND THEN when she put her hair in a ponytail there was excess product. The rat tail comb didn’t even go through her hair all the way! Just cause your hair is relaxed doesn’t mean it doesn’t get tangled. Notice how the hair texture from the woman in the first video is similar to the woman in the third video. The difference is one learned how to take care of her hair. The more you learn, the easier it is. That second girl angered me even more because it’s clear that this woman didn’t take the time to learn how to take care of her hair. Your hair is dry and you’re crying that you can’t pass a comb through. Crazy.
Now yes I love wigs, and Glueless wigs are the way to go. But wigs are not bad because when done correctly, wigs can help your hair grow. And I agree, I hate when someone depends on wigs to define themselves as beautiful. It’s not the genes! You’re just too impatient! To test my hair growth, I made the decision to bleach my hair and got highlights…July 13, 2022 to July 13, 2024, my highlights grew out and my hair is exactly the same length. This showed me that in TWO YEARS my hair grew 12-14 inches. I personally love my hair to my shoulders because it’s too hot for Miami. But now? Now I’ll make it a personal mission to grow my hair waist length because women like this will forever aggravate me.
Just because you have relaxed hair doesn’t mean it’s magical. It still takes care.
Julie I'm fine.
I'm wearing Black drawers.
No more info to provide. How are you?
Bye.
You're not gonna give her your social security number?
@@matxalenc8410right 😂😂 she skipped the most important question
Ohh we matching 💃
Hey girl I’m fine , How are you???
@@HadiyaCamilleBeautyCentral I'm great. Be well 💕
Julie I’m doing alright Alhamdulillah.
I’m wearing blue underwear and I don’t have social security number.
Hope you’re doing well too 😂❤
I'm doing well 😂❤️
They keep trying to do their hair as if they are ww. You're black, learn to take care of BLACK hair. If you were meant to have straight hair, God would've given you straight hair. Embrace the things your hair can actually do, not force it to be something it doesn't wanna be.
1:31 I’m new but I’m doing good 1:42 unmmm 😅 ima ignore that part
*They should relax their pubic hair as welll. Mtsheeew* 😕
Alladat, and still ended up under a wig. SMH.
Dry hair was my BIGGEST enemy when I had to comb
Glad I learnt to use moisturizers❤
I'm so glad you found your way to moisturizers!
Let me be devils advocate against team natural: if you want to be natural, cool. It’s nice to embrace your natural beauty. But the thing is there is nothing wrong in saying we are tired of being natural. My hair is natural rn, I love my Afro…. But I also struggle with chronic depression and 4c hair texture I don’t know how to manage. If I braid it, it breaks. If I leave it out it tangles up and breaks when I detangle. But I don’t feel like I can go back to relaxers without yall shaming me (like you’re doing in the comments and this video) and I don’t want to shave my hair off (because everyone will say it’s either I’m an ashawo or I’ve lost my mind). If I relaxed it, I’d at least be able to comb/wash my hair without having a mental breakdown. Let’s normalize letting black women do what they want with their hair, whether it’s team natural, braids, wigs, relaxers or shaving it off. I think the both sides have become mean girls and need to put down the burn book. Again, this is a natural girl talking. Who knows I might just go bald so I can know peace.
@@calypsoandchill girl no one is shaming anyone for having relaxed hair. It's coming online to make videos demonizing 4c hair and making it seem like it's the reason for climate change and inflation that is ridiculous and we are tired of it. The fact that you don't want to do what you really want with your hair for your own betterment because of what people would say is not it.
For what it's worth, if I'm trying to keep my hair away for a long time without touching it, I do 'loose African threading'. I can wear it out and it keeps my hair stretched. Check out West African Doll to see what it looks like. Good luck on your self discovery journey.
I agree..the fact is that it's really hard and time consuming to deal with some types of hair. I have 4c too and I really can't deal with it in it's natural state. Way too stressful.
You're not being the devil's advocate, you literally stated that you didn't know how to manage your hair either, like the woman in the video. Two strand twists are an option. I struggle with depression, and know how to manage my 4c hair. I truly love being black, and love my hair. I have went over a month without caring for my hair due to depression, but i would never blame my hair texture for that, because my hair is not the problem.
I don’t want to hear nothing from angry natives from the motherland
Y’all won’t do sisterlochs or braids or anything right without taking someone’s edges
Ehhh let the women choose
@@Shineynsparkles angry natives from the motherland is crazy. Shift abeg with your coconut head.