No doubt, this could have helped nursing staff tremendously last night, handle my mom with much more respect. 85 years old, maybe 95 pounds, and they had to call security. I know I could have done better with these techniques- even with only what I have learned: 1 Remove the threat 2 Create space 3 Be on his/her side 4 Get at or below eye level 5 Use hand-under-hand 6 Breathe in sync 7 Calm voice 8 Relax body 9 Attend to needs 10 Be willing to go where he/she is
I needed this help so badly... I'm actually in tears because this will legitimately help me TREMENDOUSLY. My 64 year old father suffers from logopenic PPA and this is a great resource for me. Thank you so much for what you're doing. ❤️
I'm so glad the video is helpful. I wasn't familiar with logopenic PPA, but I googled it. My Mom also had aphasia and spoke very slowly. Have no doubt your patience will be rewarded a thousand times over if you persist. You may find the video at this link encouraging: myalzheimersstory.com/2014/12/23/heaven-can-count/
Thank you Teepa. Your form of training has helped me get through the days when I am weak to get through my day when i work. Even though I struggle with autism and I work as a caregiver working for residents with Alzheimer's and dementia, I have never thought I was lost to what I had to do. But now i had found so many answers and techniques to deal with this situation. Thank you Teepa Snow. Keep up the good work for all of us
Dear Teepa, you truly are a godsend and an inspiration. Thank you so very much for your inspirational and informative videos. Please keep doing what you do. You are amazing x
Thanks for this - it helped with my husband, who at 79 flared up at pretty much anything even the slightest not his way, and last night with Widowed Neighbor. She is also 79 and lost her spouse about 4 years ago; she's been on meds of some kind, went off them when her son placed her for observation twice since Christmas, and returned home recently. Her ravings showed paranoia and most of all, deep sadness that her son had "done this to her." I let her cry on my shoulder on the front porch and eventually led her back to her home next door. I wasn't afraid of her but it was a near thing due to her loud voice, tight and tense body and abject weeping. Poor lady, last Wednesday she was even more distressed but seems to have changed the percentage of her distress in five days from 90 per cent anger, 10 per cent sadness, to their opposite numbers. She banged on the door and rang the bell rapidly last night.
Oh Teppa!! Bravo!! What an amazing woman you are!! This is.. An incredible show of compassion, Christ's love, a gift you are sharing with us all. So thank you!
I found this video so effective because I have been in this situation with my family and handled it strictly with intuition. I appreciate seeing I had the right idea and then getting the refinement of the steps demonstrated by Teepa. Thank you!
@Teepasnow, I find your techniques for supporting people living with dementia, very helpful. You help to validate emotions ,which helps someone to feel heard and this often helps to de-escalate situations. My only concern is that by making out that the other staff are 'bad people' may make issues for them in the future. It may be more helpful to say "the staff are a little confused , they are really kind people trying to help, but I can see that you were a little scared of them". How about we try again with them. We want to build bridges not divides.
Dear Teepa, thank you so much for your help in this difficult journey with my precious mom. Being her caregiver is the hardest job I will ever have as I lose a little more of her every day. Your Teepa's GEMS has meant so much to me. While I am so grateful for this time to be a blessing to her, I also hate seeing her as a toddler sometimes. I am forever grateful to my husband for coming alongside me as a helpmate and to God for his perfect timing in allowing this transition. And I am so thankful for finding your tremendous videos. You are such a blessing!
I Love your videos!! Extremely Informative and Entertaining!! I wish I saw them back when I was caring for my own Father. Especially This video!! All of your videos would have Really Helped!! My Dad is in a "home" now. Now, I Live in Fear of becoming "my Father". Well, I will continue watching and Loving your videos!!
Good stuff. Depends on how far it has gone down the rabbit hole tho. You want to prevent that if you can. You notice Dr. Snow said they still had to get her into the emergency vehicle because Of course this fear and rage state is an emergency. So don’t fool yourselves on the seriousness. Someone could get hurt. You learn to walk away sometimes. Choose your battles. For sure, I am not wrestling my sister to the ground. She’s as strong as a mule and just as stubborn. Fortunately we’re at the stage where flare ups may be forgotten in 15 minutes or so and then the opposite emotions occurs. All sugary sweetness and light. Gifts even. Whew! The parent has to parent thru the tantrums.
I was in the hospital with cancer being diagnosed. Had one ultrasound and the technicians left so many bruises on me turning me this way and that in addition to being rude. Fast forward ICU doctor wanted another ultrasound I said I would not have one if I had to have these same technicians. Those awful women showed up and I said no. A woman came and used this technique on me. She promised to stay with me to keep the technicians accountable. As soon as they started, she left. I do not have dementia. I know exactly what happened. Use it on people with dementia but NOT those of us that can think. I get furious thinking about her even yet. If I knew her name I would write a letter of complaint. I hate that I was manipulated!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
They are always too quick to drug patients. My dad went from stage 4 LBD to stage 6 just from a ride home in an ambulance. I didn’t think he needed the ambulance at all, but they convinced me if he fell when we got home I wouldn’t be able to get him up. He was talking, lucid, he was fine when he left the hospital. When he got home he had soiled himself, was drooling, and never spoke again.
How I view de-escalation : it just means to be nice to a person, to send a positive energy to a person for example, if one day my neighbor asks me to help him carry heavy bags if he is smiling to me, and speaking to me in a nice way, I will help him because he sent me a positive energy if he isn't smiling to me, and speaking in an obnoxious way, I won't help him because he sent me a negative energy. If you are nice to a person (aka sending a positive energy), the person will comply If you are not nice to a person (aka sending a negative energy), the person won't comply when you watch american police videos, cops are doing it wrong, there is a person that is holding a knife, and you have police officers yelling loudly and obnoxiously "DROP THE KNIFE !!" they say that 50 times and the person never complies, cops are not being nice to the person, therefore, the person never complies, but now, if the cops talk nicely and quietly with a smile and say "we understand you have problems in your life, tell us your problems, you and us can make something together" here, they are being nice to the person, the person is going to comply
That’s awesome how you were able to do that. We have a problem that my father keeps insisting that my mom has moved their house without his permission. He keeps trying to leave to “go home” when he’s already there. It’s been very challenging. He’s very angry and my mom and says he wants her move out.
My Alzheimer's Story we have tried. We’ve taking for a drive uses the gps to show him we are going to his house, but it starts up again within minutes or hours. He’s threatens to get an attorney to divorce my mom. We know it’s only the dementia talking, but it’s very hard to deal with. My mom is 78 and small framed. It’s a difficult situation
@@cledesma2409 I'm so sorry. I suggest you try to enlist the help of a dementia care coach to work with you and your family - someone who can be there physically to see and hear how it all goes down. I'm sorry I can't be of any more help than that :(
@@cledesma2409 I don't know if you have seen this one but you may find some helpful stuff here (it's about 45 minutes long): myalzheimersstory.com/2016/12/08/5-surefire-ways-to-stop-anger-and-aggression-in-people-who-live-with-alzheimers-disease-in-the-mid-and-later-stages/) Try as much as possible to step into his reality
You can take someone's side, but you are never supposed to feed into someone's delusions, nor are you supposed to challenge them. A better response would be to CALMLY tell everyone to leave and say something like "See, now everyone has left. It's just the two of us. Please tell me what's going on. I'm here to help you." Everything needs to be said in a very calm voice. You can't fight fire with fire here. You can combat yelling with a soft but commanding voice.
I see your point, but I don't agree, because people in the mid to later stages of Alzheimer's disease and sometimes other forms of dementia are often unable to articulate "what's going on."
My aunt that lives with us has Dementia, but she's still able to feed, bathe, dress, and groom herself. Mom coddles her like a baby and allows her to coddle her dog. My aunt and I bump heads a lot when it comes to the dog because even though I'm not an animal expert, it seems I know how animals should behave. My aunt makes a big fuss over the stupidest, littlest things. She makes a big fuss over her dog licking the floor. In a way, I can see why, but Dad and I used to argue that's what dogs do. She thinks I hate her. Deep down inside, I love her, but it's hard to show it to her.
I’m a trained nursing assistant who works for hospice in a private care but I want more training from you . Please come to New York City . How can I contact you . Please help me
No doubt, this could have helped nursing staff tremendously last night, handle my mom with much more respect. 85 years old, maybe 95 pounds, and they had to call security. I know I could have done better with these techniques- even with only what I have learned:
1 Remove the threat
2 Create space
3 Be on his/her side
4 Get at or below eye level
5 Use hand-under-hand
6 Breathe in sync
7 Calm voice
8 Relax body
9 Attend to needs
10 Be willing to go where he/she is
Thanks for sharing your story. Maybe you can find a way to share the video with the nursing staff...
Right?! Why aren't ppl trained in these techniques?
@@shelbyclark4620 I’d say that’s what Teepa thinks should be done for families- she’s my best source of information, next to Careblazers on TH-cam.
There’s nobody like Teepa. But we can learn.
I needed this help so badly... I'm actually in tears because this will legitimately help me TREMENDOUSLY. My 64 year old father suffers from logopenic PPA and this is a great resource for me. Thank you so much for what you're doing. ❤️
I'm so glad the video is helpful. I wasn't familiar with logopenic PPA, but I googled it. My Mom also had aphasia and spoke very slowly. Have no doubt your patience will be rewarded a thousand times over if you persist. You may find the video at this link encouraging: myalzheimersstory.com/2014/12/23/heaven-can-count/
Every time the conversation of dementia comes up, I tell everyone how great TIPA has made mine and my mom's life
Thank you Teepa. Your form of training has helped me get through the days when I am weak to get through my day when i work. Even though I struggle with autism and I work as a caregiver working for residents with Alzheimer's and dementia, I have never thought I was lost to what I had to do. But now i had found so many answers and techniques to deal with this situation. Thank you Teepa Snow. Keep up the good work for all of us
Dear Teepa, you truly are a godsend and an inspiration. Thank you so very much for your inspirational and informative videos. Please keep doing what you do. You are amazing x
+helen06121 I'll pass the message along...
Thanks for this - it helped with my husband, who at 79 flared up at pretty much anything even the slightest not his way, and last night with Widowed Neighbor. She is also 79 and lost her spouse about 4 years ago; she's been on meds of some kind, went off them when her son placed her for observation twice since Christmas, and returned home recently. Her ravings showed paranoia and most of all, deep sadness that her son had "done this to her." I let her cry on my shoulder on the front porch and eventually led her back to her home next door. I wasn't afraid of her but it was a near thing due to her loud voice, tight and tense body and abject weeping. Poor lady, last Wednesday she was even more distressed but seems to have changed the percentage of her distress in five days from 90 per cent anger, 10 per cent sadness, to their opposite numbers. She banged on the door and rang the bell rapidly last night.
Often the meds cause more problems than they solve :(
Teepa you are a God sent to all dementia caregivers and their loved ones. thank you
I have a very high anxiety, and this is definitely what I would want someone to do when I’m in a high escalation like that.
Me too!
Thank you Teepa, every time I feel like I am alone taking care of my dementia mother, I watch your videos and I have hope.
IAM A LIVE IN CARE GIVER AND I BELIEVE MY PATIENT IS GETTING DEMENTIA...THIS IS SO EDUCATIONAL....THANK YOU !!!
This lady is fantastic at her job
Thank you Teepa, the ride is a bit less bumpy by you sharing your knowledge and expertise.
Thank you so much Teepa I work with elders in memory care. You have helped me to do a much better job helping our elders. I am forever grateful. Karen
Oh Teppa!! Bravo!! What an amazing woman you are!! This is.. An incredible show of compassion, Christ's love, a gift you are sharing with us all. So thank you!
I wish I had found you sooner. Thank you so much for what you do.
Oh Teepa, I come find this video every time I need it and refresh myself in the ways to de-escalate situations. Thankyou so much for posting this one!
I found this video so effective because I have been in this situation with my family and handled it strictly with intuition. I appreciate seeing I had the right idea and then getting the refinement of the steps demonstrated by Teepa. Thank you!
Yay Mary Lou!
@Teepasnow, I find your techniques for supporting people living with dementia, very helpful. You help to validate emotions ,which helps someone to feel heard and this often helps to de-escalate situations. My only concern is that by making out that the other staff are 'bad people' may make issues for them in the future. It may be more helpful to say "the staff are a little confused , they are really kind people trying to help, but I can see that you were a little scared of them". How about we try again with them. We want to build bridges not divides.
Teepa is a national treasure!
Dear Teepa, thank you so much for your help in this difficult journey with my precious mom. Being her caregiver is the hardest job I will ever have as I lose a little more of her every day. Your Teepa's GEMS has meant so much to me. While I am so grateful for this time to be a blessing to her, I also hate seeing her as a toddler sometimes. I am forever grateful to my husband for coming alongside me as a helpmate and to God for his perfect timing in allowing this transition. And I am so thankful for finding your tremendous videos. You are such a blessing!
Dear Judy, I will forward your message to @TeepaSnow :)
God does give His grace to handle situations and also has perfect timing!
My mom was recently diagnosed with lbd, I've been in ems for 30 years, thanks so much for this. But it is still so difficult
Yes, it is. I'm so sorry :(
I Love your videos!! Extremely Informative and Entertaining!! I wish I saw them back when I was caring for my own Father. Especially This video!! All of your videos would have Really Helped!! My Dad is in a "home" now. Now, I Live in Fear of becoming "my Father". Well, I will continue watching and Loving your videos!!
Bravo!!! Thank you for the gift, the lesson and insight. This is so useful and I feel so hopeful knowing this.
This is an excellent video thank you. ‘be willing to go where she/he is’. I will remember that every day! Thank you so much ❤️
Great n I applaud you! Everyone in healthcare should watch this. Thank you
We can't wait to see you in Salem this summer! God Bless you!!
Thank you Mrs. Snow❤
You are WONDERFUL 🙏
This woman is good!
Fabulous Teepa!
Yep, she is :)
Good stuff. Depends on how far it has gone down the rabbit hole tho. You want to prevent that if you can. You notice Dr. Snow said they still had to get her into the emergency vehicle because Of course this fear and rage state is an emergency. So don’t fool yourselves on the seriousness. Someone could get hurt. You learn to walk away sometimes. Choose your battles. For sure, I am not wrestling my sister to the ground. She’s as strong as a mule and just as stubborn. Fortunately we’re at the stage where flare ups may be forgotten in 15 minutes or so and then the opposite emotions occurs. All sugary sweetness and light. Gifts even. Whew! The parent has to parent thru the tantrums.
Oh, how I wish you could train All people working with people struggling with dementia!
Me too
I so enjoyed becoming a PAC coach, but it was unfortunate my facility did not want to adopt this practice.
Congratulations on becoming a PAC coach. So sorry about your facility :(
I was in the hospital with cancer being diagnosed. Had one ultrasound and the technicians left so many bruises on me turning me this way and that in addition to being rude. Fast forward ICU doctor wanted another ultrasound I said I would not have one if I had to have these same technicians. Those awful women showed up and I said no. A woman came and used this technique on me. She promised to stay with me to keep the technicians accountable. As soon as they started, she left. I do not have dementia. I know exactly what happened. Use it on people with dementia but NOT those of us that can think. I get furious thinking about her even yet. If I knew her name I would write a letter of complaint. I hate that I was manipulated!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
They are always too quick to drug patients. My dad went from stage 4 LBD to stage 6 just from a ride home in an ambulance. I didn’t think he needed the ambulance at all, but they convinced me if he fell when we got home I wouldn’t be able to get him up. He was talking, lucid, he was fine when he left the hospital. When he got home he had soiled himself, was drooling, and never spoke again.
I'm so sorry this happened to you and your dad :(
This was excellent !
Teepa is the best
Thank you, Teepa. 🌞👍🏼✨💝
How I view de-escalation :
it just means to be nice to a person, to send a positive energy to a person
for example, if one day my neighbor asks me to help him carry heavy bags
if he is smiling to me, and speaking to me in a nice way, I will help him
because he sent me a positive energy
if he isn't smiling to me, and speaking in an obnoxious way, I won't help him
because he sent me a negative energy.
If you are nice to a person (aka sending a positive energy), the person will comply
If you are not nice to a person (aka sending a negative energy), the person won't comply
when you watch american police videos, cops are doing it wrong,
there is a person that is holding a knife,
and you have police officers yelling loudly and obnoxiously "DROP THE KNIFE !!"
they say that 50 times and the person never complies,
cops are not being nice to the person, therefore, the person never complies,
but now, if the cops talk nicely and quietly with a smile and say "we understand you have problems in your life, tell us your problems, you and us can make something together"
here, they are being nice to the person,
the person is going to comply
Dear God I wish I could come to a class😞😞😞I’m so tired of Mom telling me I’m always doing everything wrong.
Teepa I need you in my nursing home for a particularly client i'd like to see your approach
The world needs like a hundred Teepas
We all need to try to BE Teepa ❤️❤️❤️❤️. So much compassion for any situation. 🥰
Love her !
That’s awesome how you were able to do that. We have a problem that my father keeps insisting that my mom has moved their house without his permission. He keeps trying to leave to “go home” when he’s already there. It’s been very challenging. He’s very angry and my mom and says he wants her move out.
I'm so sorry :(
I'm wondering it there's a way you could "turn the story around" to fit what he believes...?
My Alzheimer's Story we have tried. We’ve taking for a drive uses the gps to show him we are going to his house, but it starts up again within minutes or hours. He’s threatens to get an attorney to divorce my mom. We know it’s only the dementia talking, but it’s very hard to deal with. My mom is 78 and small framed. It’s a difficult situation
@@cledesma2409 I'm so sorry. I suggest you try to enlist the help of a dementia care coach to work with you and your family - someone who can be there physically to see and hear how it all goes down. I'm sorry I can't be of any more help than that :(
My Alzheimer's Story thank you. We’ve watched your videos for help. Thanks so much
@@cledesma2409 I don't know if you have seen this one but you may find some helpful stuff here (it's about 45 minutes long): myalzheimersstory.com/2016/12/08/5-surefire-ways-to-stop-anger-and-aggression-in-people-who-live-with-alzheimers-disease-in-the-mid-and-later-stages/)
Try as much as possible to step into his reality
i love her !
This would work with anyone in distress.
Yes, it would in most cases, whether the person lives with dementia or not.
Annette Mattes not necessarily.
Brilliant!
You can take someone's side, but you are never supposed to feed into someone's delusions, nor are you supposed to challenge them. A better response would be to CALMLY tell everyone to leave and say something like "See, now everyone has left. It's just the two of us. Please tell me what's going on. I'm here to help you."
Everything needs to be said in a very calm voice. You can't fight fire with fire here. You can combat yelling with a soft but commanding voice.
I see your point, but I don't agree, because people in the mid to later stages of Alzheimer's disease and sometimes other forms of dementia are often unable to articulate "what's going on."
My aunt that lives with us has Dementia, but she's still able to feed, bathe, dress, and groom herself. Mom coddles her like a baby and allows her to coddle her dog. My aunt and I bump heads a lot when it comes to the dog because even though I'm not an animal expert, it seems I know how animals should behave. My aunt makes a big fuss over the stupidest, littlest things. She makes a big fuss over her dog licking the floor. In a way, I can see why, but Dad and I used to argue that's what dogs do. She thinks I hate her. Deep down inside, I love her, but it's hard to show it to her.
WOW!♥️🤗🙏 Amazing!
I’m a trained nursing assistant who works for hospice in a private care but I want more training from you . Please come to New York City . How can I contact you . Please help me
My uncle is a different type of person. I doubt this would work on him
You are amazing, I have learned so much from you, but can you sell me some PATIENCE🙏
If only it could be bought...
Great
BASKETBALL SPACE We say aloud when either is too distressed lol
Tell me more...
if they can hear you..lol
Notice that she also uses a lot of gestures and body language :)
Teepa, please go train police and first responders.
Shes good!
very, very, very good.