You'll Never Break The Trauma Bond If You Do This
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 ก.ย. 2024
- Break The Trauma Bond Course:
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chapters
00:00 Understanding Trauma Bonds
00:00 The Nature of Narcissistic Relationships
00:00 Cognitive Dissonance and Euphoric Recall
00:00 The Narcissist as a Drug
00:00 The Cycle of Regulation and Dysregulation
00:00 Breaking the Trauma Bond
00:00 Self-Regulation Techniques
00:00 Introducing the Break the Trauma Bond Program
00:00 Conclusion
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Hi Danish is the training pre-recorded?
@@danielakolundzija50 yes. It is pre recorded
@@narcabusecoach thank you 🙏
Vital information with spectacular alive green mother nature.
"They keep you under water, and dont let you die, bring you back and let you breath for few seconds, and put you under water again"....perfectly said
Excellent analogy... you've described continuous torture
But women line up for this treatment and the chance to enable and fuel.
@@shrimpeyes4662 So do some men.
@@jogriffiths5766 fair shout but woman are far more guilty of this than men. Both cowards with no identity or backbone, these people need to do a huge amount of self work.
Just want to cry…. 😰😥 true about the nervous system. The anxiety is the worst pain.., it feels like you don’t want to love again
So true
❤ 🙏 please Believe in yourself, (free downloads are available to help you notice red flags in relationships,these can also help to recognise what +how we were conditioned by family, schools , churches etc ) give yourself time to heal , and love who you are , someone who is finally aware, and now has important information+knowledge that you need for you 💯 you are important,you are needed in this world,and with time when you are ready you will take the chance to find someone one the same frequency as you to love again,this person will not love bomb you , they will respect your wanting to take things slowly and get to know all about them and you will not compare them to the ex narc ,as you will be far to interested in finding new things in your life that you enjoy as well💯💞❤️💪 # we've got this, healing journeys take time for each situation and each person as we're all different people,💞💯🌟😘
I relate to every word. The last sentence is a short description about my life these days. Mental pain and anxiety every day. But I believe we'll make this happen, one day we'll be free and happy. Stay strong ❤
@@liseduedue2715 ok so I totally understand where you're coming from ,nor do I disagree, 😔😟 sadly my other comment was removed 🚩🚩🚩🙄🤦 it wasn't disrespectful to anyone , 😞 as I understand totally where Danish is coming from on this subject
If that's what you call love then you really don't want to love again. You prob call rapists great guys that mean we'll.....
The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalised
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
You won't regret it
I heard it put this way ... we get addicted to Relief.
good one too🙌🏽💥
Spot on Danish. You have described it so well. To break the trauma bond we need to start doing the things we like and enjoy, start moving our bodies, listen to music, exercise, eat good nutricious foods, sleep well, pamper ourselves, be patient, compassionate, loving and caring towards ourselves.
Also might I add separation and then being around only good kind people
Just divorced my covert narcissist husband of 31 yrs. He never thought I’d leave. I’ve been incredibly ill a decade ( med injury) so he was my “ caregiver “. He went from being physically abusive to verbally and emotionally abusive. There were lots of highs and lows. Im regaining my health back and he assaulted me Dec 5th. I kicked him out that night and filed for divorce 6 days later. He could not respect a regular restraining order, calling 58 times, text 326 times and showing up here 4 times. He threatened me that if i didn’t drop the RO , “ things wouldn’t end well for me” so now he has a criminal protection order against him for 3yrs. Ugh 😑 we have kids and gkids. It has been very difficult but im happy now. Divorced for a lil over two months now and he’s paying me alimony. I honestly blv I would have gotten healthier a long time ago without him . Silence is golden. Protect your peace ❤
I didn't believe it before, but it's true. People with narcissistic behavior bring down EVERYONE around them. Health, wealth, emotional health. 9 months no-contact, and I am still financially struggling but my peace of mind is priceless. There's a better life away from the narcissists.
@@mvbigmagic4048 , I’m still struggling financially too since I have been disabled a decade. I’m not working yet and only counting on alimony and a tiny amount in disability. The good thing is my mobile home is paid off and the space rent is cheap. He signed it over to me and the only car that was paid off. Otherwise, I couldn’t afford to have a roof over my head.
Take some accountability for the fact you had babies with a mentally ill man and are no doubt raising narc babies to continue the cycle.
Women will enable absolutely anything to fit in and be accepted.
That's great that you got away after years! That takes alot of courage and strength! Your a rockstar!! Happy for you! Wishing you a peaceful a happy future!😊
@@LisaTalcott-g2t , thank you so much!
This is by far the best explanation of Trauma Bond I have ever heard !! Thanks for this information, this helps so much !
When l left. I had not realized how traumatized and shocked l was. My denials of what l had dealt with emerged. My body collapsed into chronic fatigue and depression. I could not function. That's how much anxiety l carried in my mind and body around him. I never felt safe. Still healing 2 years later.
I'm 5 years out of 35 years of this abuse I'm still healing
When I was 18 years old, I met a guy traumatized me, even ten years later at this moment, I still feeling that anxiety
Only your awareness saved my life. It helped me to take control of my mind. Thank you
I’m here for u dear
Keep going sugar, knowing is half the battle, you're the strong smart one, know this, keep watching and learning, this stuff's fascinating, your husband's a jerk, he pulls off your wings and expects you to fly, give him nothing, you gave your all and look what it got you, do as you pls, your turn has come believe it! 🎉❤😊
5:46 underwater…that really struck a chord
This is perfect, Danish. You put it right into my experience. Now I see I DO look back to my father bathing three happy, "dirty" children in the tub and the love and care that I felt from him. I kept myself bonded with those wondrous memories. But now I actually see that he was playing a role then as "the good, Christian father". When I look closer I can see problems with those times too and the motivations behind them. I can see I was actually doing a lot of the relationship and love in my head as I was caring for him instead of actually getting caring for me. And the "discipline" was all for what he needed from us as he was using us for his love and not giving anything at all.
The best explanation I ever heard of the trauma bond: thank you so much!💛
Fanish, I just have to thankyou!!! Since I started watching your videos I was so confused and you have helped me see leaving my narccicist mother. My whole identity is lost. I am glad I walked away years ago. But I'm suffering now with chronic fatigue syndrome. Careful everyone! Listen to Danish, because they will try to pull you back in!!! I've gone through this journey alone. I even tried to reconcile twice, just to be smashed into the ground again. Stay away! Fight for yourself!!!
Danish**
Body self regulate...the answer!! Thankyou!
Most women are addicted to narcs, why do you think there's so many single mothers? Then they raise the narc babies into narcs in a zero/low control environment as golden boys.
Recently I am facing all this....i am oscillating like a pendulum between good and bad memories shared with my covert narcissist husband....it brings a lot of health issues and hormonal disbalance...my friends and relatives complain that i am confused...but they don't understand that I am trauma bonded....i feel tired explaining them...also get angry with myself abt this....but i am recovering very fast by getting enlighten daily by you Danish🙏hope i will soon get completely over by this trauma bonding🙏
Pls don't feel hopless in thsi situation believe me I had gone through the same emotional abuse and here at the healing point ...get some frnd better who can listen to u and understand....or start making random frnd in online where u pour out stuff ...don't get me wrong ..u hav to tel and someone to listen ...and journal
Be kind with yourself...feel wat ever it comes don't try to distract
Wishing you a new beginning of joy❤
This is absolutely what I'm feeling now. Congnitive dissonance. Thank you for your excellent videos Danish.
So true, I am going through that now. It is a fight inside me.
I can't tell if I'm hot or cold. I took a winter jacket on my daily walk. It was 76 degrees Fahrenheit outside
Amazing description of trauma bond!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
If you can get this!!!!! You are on your way ❤❤❤ 😂 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
What a lovely setting!
Thank you for all you do, Danish
I needed to hear this THANK YOU!
The work you do is excellent. Thank you
Thank you 🧡🌻
Thank you so much for this video Danish🙏💜
Thank you for sharing. I am no contact to them all, my own family, children, grandchildren, because they are really dangerous for me. Now i have started to be healed. As long as i did have contact, they used traumabonding to destroy and devastate me in my soul
Thank you 😊 especially about craving them seconds 😮💨😮💨
brother youre literally an inspiration for me, im taking psychology for degree!! cant wait
it's not only your personal experience holding you back, but social conditioning (and media brainwashing), like make women responsible for men's behavior from early age (boys will be boys) or normalized family toxicity (you can't treat your mother like that)
it's hard to break the bond when you got pressed from every corner to tolerate toxic behavior
This video was extremely helpful! Thank you! ❤
I feel like I'm breaking that bond. I don't love my mother anymore. The thought of her makes me sick.
Old memories are coming back. Makes it all much worse. She was only nice when I did exactly what she wanted, so it means nothing.
Sick of my family enabling and defending bad behaviour. 😮💨
@Songbirds321 thank you 🩷 that's so kind of you. Trying not to lose hope. Leaving is the goal ✨️ wishing you all the best 🙏
Thank you Danish!This is perfect! God bless you!!!
Very well explained❤
the one thing that healed me was forgiveness, forgive them everyday.
I’m trying to disconnect from his presence…I promise
Till I learnt my insecurities that made me believe narcissist loved me I couldn’t let go of trauma bond. Even the proof that he screwed me wanted me to believe he loved me but did what he did to take care of himself.
Great Video !
We should never be kind to people who are not well liked or respected. Worse, treat them like us. Because at the end of the day they will want to vibe with us be part of us that they can’t do as they don’t vibe with us. So they start talking down and ill treating so we become like them and now they can vibe with us
it's true 2 years no contact, nervous system is still recovering, brain fog, chronic anxiety, memory problems, mood swings, depression, isolation, social phobia etc it's torture but it's getting better very slowly, i hate her...
I will buy them all kites prior to an electrical storm and encourage them to chill by flying it by enjoying storm 🌬💨🌩🌫 gusts! 🤠🙆🙃 🎠🏖
Thanks!
Waiting. . .
Thanks Danish ❤
Very, Very, true 💯
Hi Danish. I have a question or two for you and hoping you will make a video. I'm asking in this video comment section because it is your most current video and I'm hoping you will see my questions: Why does my narcissistic husband want my things when he can afford to buy his own? He has his own house and I have my own house, he has actually asked me to trade houses with him. I said no. I bought an toaster oven on sale, showed him the sale so he could get one for his house. Nope, he waited until I received mine then wanted to trade me his old toaster oven for my new one and even said he would pay me the price I paid for it. I said no. These are only 2 examples, there are more. Please make a video to answer these questions!
He either is jealous of you and sounds like it or he wants still control over you or he a miser. 😊
Yes all.happening to me
Y r in trauma bond , listen to heart...no need outside validations
For years I was addicted to my sexual boy toy, but after being hurt by his lying.
I am a strong woman who eventually became bored by the drama up and downs.
No money, kicked him out and all I have is SS for retirement. :(
I'm over getting water boarded..no thx..over 12 years narc free..breathing freely😊
Liberate me too 😭⛓️
Do all programs in Hindi please
I feel like tired and emotional pain in my body all the time and it's very tough for me to wake in the morning.i sleep around 12 hours yet feel tired all the time and his question roam all the time in my mind what did you do in this almost 1 year of our breakup.i have only answer that I am alive atleast otherwise you left me for dying every day with anxiety.atleast m struggling to feel happiness
कृपया इसका हिंदी में अनुवाद भी भेजिए
I believe you, but I'm addicted to him, his sex, his smell, I love him or I'm jus delusional
He may be a demon.
Could be limerance
Yeah your delusional but that's all women, women think emotionally and that's exactly what the narc uses. It's also how sex trafficking works they get the woman addicted to them and then put her to work.
Women will literally enable nothing to fit it once they have been isolated, look at any cult.
Women never take accountability and will never learn, they just follow their emotions and go back to the gutter.
One thing i want to know if anyday narcissist face their karma like related to money 💰 corruption n all if they face social media and public troll and all maybe they're not cares at all. But how their separated family wife and little baby face those trolls and accusation?? Its really terrible @Danish basir
I think the solution is to get regulated by the narcisist but not only by him😅😁.....you have to have a cover-up for the lows😂😂😂
you r so cuteeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Thanks!