Only Narcissists are Driven By These Things
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00:00 Introduction to Narcissistic Motivation
01:22 Sadistic Pleasure from Others' Misfortune
05:13 Fear of Stagnation and Constant Need for Achievement
00:00 Deprivation and Lack of Abundance
00:00 Fantasy of Defeating Rivals
00:00 Scarcity Mindset and Paranoia
00:00 Conclusion
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To a narcissist it's all about image. They are the great pretenders.
🎯Well said
My narc friend said, "I play dumb real good," which after time, I realized they are just fake, empty, soulless.
To be fair playing dumb is what a lot of successful businesses men and women do to gain opportunities in certain ways, but I see what you mean
To be fair its a good tactic to play dumb sometimes...when people think they are smarter or better than you they are more likely to show their true self...so play dumb a little at the start of a relationship to see a bit of the real them before you open up and show your true self to them...this works well in friendships and work situations but not recommended for love interests I think :-/
@@lukedudley5030Exactly! This works really well against the narc. They get sloppy and are less elaborate with their schemes, making them painfully obvious.
Playing dum, is just being Lazy, so that You will do Everything for Them. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄. Been there, Through that.
Same here!! In my experience,with narcissitic people they acted "dumb" among other things the manipulative games that suck in their supply as it were
Narcissists are like a vampire shark hybrid monster. They must have someone else's energy to suck to survive and they will die if they stop constantly moving. I cannot truly imagine how empty their soul is while simultaneously having a mind that is always in terror of losing something. Truly a depraved way of being.
😂love that multi-word description!
Also, they ALWAYS think they know everything!! Even when they are incorrect they will divert their own faults on someone else.
Narcissists will pretend to help you while seeing you as a burden. They set traps and snares for you, and usually just want to use you for their own personal gain. They'll sabotage your relationships. My narcissist mother and her husband want to interfere with other people's relationships, saying what will and won't happen, when they don't know the hearts or feelings of other people. They love to see you suffer and will partake in it.
There seems to be two different types of narc parents. Ones that want the overachievers and those who don’t want their kids to achieve anything.
*achieve everything to make them look good
Narcissists also like to keep their family in a dark and miserable place, always in scarcity. My father made so much money, but we always lived in a broken house with very poor condition . While he built himself the prettiest rooms seperately upstairs. He did the same with other things like clothes, travelling, etc.
My ex did the same
My dad is like that, wow
My narc ex used to say about other people: "tell 'em nothing, take 'em nowhere". Good advice for the narcissist. Once I started doing that to him and before I went no contact, he said to me that I'm hard to read and he never knows what I'm thinking. Rare honesty indeed.
I know someone who only cares about what people think and how it looks and being in control.Thats their miserable lifes.
Hi Danish I learnt about narcissistic personality disorder from your videos. I lost my daughter last September and my brother did not speak to me even a single word to comfort me we are having issues he is always pushing me to do what he says but this time it was really inhuman and cruel on his part. Ive grown up in a absolute toxic environment. My father has all the traits of overt narcissist. He's always treating my brother well and treats me like trash. It would be great if you make some videos on how we could release the trauma stored in our bodies.
Dr Roger Callahan book: Tapping healer within. Tells you how to tap on acupuncture
meridian points to release trauma.
Thank you for mentioning this, did this therapy years ago, did not know name @@lindabradley6185
I practice prayer; measure your faith to sum your request. ■ I ask the Lord God Almighty to have these that I have bond and delievered to him, that he has them tormented 2000 times and 2000 folds now on earth, hell, and the lake of fire burning in brimstone; in his Son's Name, Jesus. I thank him. M
Sorry for your loss. Healing starts with self compassion towards yourself this will lighten your grief and help you rebuild healthy boundaries for yourself. Take your time and go at your own pace. If you believe in god center him in this process it’ll help you keep moving through when you feel lost or weak
Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator digitalinvestigate@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...
They always have ill intention motives for sure.
I believe that because they lack inner peace and the inability to reflect within themselves, they are highly motivated to always be on the hunt to find the next shiny object to fill their void. They may(?) find a shiny object, but whatever it is, whether it be ie. a partner or status, will never be enough. They also lack the ability to preserve the shiny object they sought, hence returning to the dark void of turmoil they understand well and reside in. Life of always chasing their tail.
They are Sadist. I had three in my extended family. Tons in extended family. On both sides.
It's all about the show, that's why others won't believe u. Don't concern urself with wht others think they know. Be strong and stand ur ground in wht u know is truth!
I think that they thrive in reactions and enjoy a soap opera lifestyle. They are the stars of the show. They almost obtain celebrity status in their minds as they live out their fantasies at other people's expense. The drama is real, so considering that I've been born into a family of narcissists I've learned to play the game only my game is their shame. I've mastered a way of dealing them what they dish out in a playful and almost enjoyable way that keeps them coming back for more. You have to balance an accepting spirit, yet non tolerance to their behavior. It's definitely one for the books but if you seasoned enough you just might earn their trust which, to me is the key to unlock the code in which they carry inside of them. You cannot change them, but you sure as heck can change how you handle them without succumbing to their tactics.
The narcissist over here been trying to defeat me, but he can't. I'm well ahead of him. In terms of education, job position, assets and etc. He's jealous of me. I'm not bragging it, but this is the truth between me and him.
I want to leave a message because I feel really devastated right now. I just sent my narcissistic partner to hell. I can't take it anymore. I just got a job that I'm really nervous about because it requires a lot of skill. And he's just trying to sabotage me, making me feel insecure about being able to do it. He doesn't give me peace or support to be able to prepare myself properly. And all he does is annoy me by accusing me of cheating on him at my new job. It really pisses me off. This is crazy, how much he disrespects me. 😭😭😭😭
I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s hard, but please try to find your peace and leave him. Enable your support system. Life is so much better without someone bringing you down.
I'm so sorry, but stay strong and try to focus on your job, so you'll have financial stability. I'm away from my narcissist about a year and it's the best thing I could do to my life ( or I wouldn't have a life anymore)
When I called him after 1 month today, rather than talking with me normally, he cursed me , abused me by using very bad language , cursed me for being female, cursed my parents and family. You know why because I asked him how can you do this with me. I am being stone walled since last many years by this horrible horrible monster.. just because I am against betrayal and I cannot forget his multiple betrayals.. he shooed me like a dog...that's his modesty and class... he is not even a human being.. he is live Demon..
Yes, they do shout at you as if you were a dog!!!
Yes even I experienced the same things..those bad words, talking bad about my family n so on...n blaming me ...
Thank you Danish. Your videos have really been helping me and my sister.
My answer o what drives narcissists is 1 Fear, 2 Greed.
Thank you Danish for all you do and the knowledge you provide regarding these demons. I was in a narcissistic relationship which I was so in love with him I was blind sided to the point I lost myself within him because it was ALWAYS about him. However I loved him more than anything and after 9 years found out he was cheating and I had Substantiated evidence and he still lied . It’s crushing me, however I am trying slowly to get over him . Still struggling with the pain he caused me.
Was married to one for 17 years everything you said is correct one thing I did notice that this person could not stay still they mine got the best of them and they fake friends as well events to make them feel good
Vicarious achievements, exactly! We are not their puppets.
I think what motivates a narcissist to their weird hateful behavior is being around good people with good morals and conversations. They seem to need a mud bath afterwards. I’m like why does this narcissist go into hateful mode almost immediately after church, after men’s ministry meetings or bible study??it’s like clockwork. I can pretty much predict it
Yes very true. My husband was absolutely crazy at 40+ for the computer degree, which was of no use as he is already in government service. He used to carry around his laptop every evening and drive out of home with his laptop in the car every evening. But I smell something fishy by his actions 😂. Maybe on the pretext of computer knowledge he went elsewhere. Only God knows. At present he has abandoned me and my children
So when I was a child I saw this horrible accident pic where there was all blood like a person beheaded all the sensitive injured parts that could trigger anybody in my father gallery and I got panic attack but I started questioning my feelings I was very young 13 14 smt that something is really wrong with me like I should be toughen up as papa is having no problem with it and here me being so triggered and tearing up by see this poor dead man ahhh now I see and connect the dots what actually was wrong and missing it was beautiful gift EMPATHY yeah it was missing and constant self doubt actually started from there
These rotten people are full of trickery, they present what is , when it is what's not and it can be soooo confusing to you😮
In my experience, 💯% well said!! My narcissitic "parents" were living through me & trying to make me do what they wanted which wasn't wanting the best of me.
Excellent. I consider this to be a huge red flag at the beginning of relationships- Someone who is ambitious, and too driven. That might be the easiest measure of NPD to recognize upfront.
Wow, so good! What do you have about children of of narcissist abuse by two narcissistic parents turning into tortured narcissists them selves? I'm curious and anxiously awaiting an answer. Pushing 60 and all these years of torture and failed relationships, many at my own causation, I wish to learn.
I think they driven by opportunities. Like: I'll go there because some certain influential people will be there in the same way that discards other meetings with simple people.
Scarcity mindset and paranoia!! Yes 👍🏻
So true..
Think of all of the wonderful things that motivate you: For Example...You love your child, so you're striving to make life better for him/her. Now, take that lovely motivation and pervert it, reverse it...(you h@te your own child, so you're a total slacker to make his/her life miserable) ...THAT is Narcissistic motivation.
Things that motivate a narcissistic are :
Getting into conflict
Creating chaos
Gaslight the big one
Is it possible that a narcissist doesn't know that he/she is a narcissist??
Absolutely! They don’t self reflect, lack empathy and have no remorse for their manipulative and abusive behaviour. Very few of these personality disordered people will seek professional help.
"They go for the worse case scenario " oh no lol
I'm displaying some of these behaviours, but I think I'm not a narcissistic person.
When narcissists are outlawed, Government would shut down.
After living my Narc mom, husband and sis-in-law(implanted on purpose by my mother). Danish is spot on
6:32 My two narc bros had a massive fallout. One said take me down, i will take you down with me.
Lavel of difference is incalculable
They fantasize about defeating rivals (you) in the nonsense games they themselves create!
My motivations are all based on how my partner would feel 😅
Danish is it possible that a Narc.married to a narc ?
Are you sure that the second person is no an enabler ? Enablers r supporting towards narc actions
Kesay pata lagaen
Aisay lag raha hai jaisay har waqt har koi aap ko imitate ker raha hai
Danish kya aap ko maloom hai k NARCISSIST PSYCHOLOGIST b hotay hain
Jo khud ko dunya ka sabh se bara psychologist kehtay hain
My id is shown in valid on above given link kindly tell me what's the problem?
Yes AND Western/capitalistic cultures push the constant achievement- nothing is enough. If they would just really appreciate it when you give them that vicarious rush - but they act like it is nothing to you and brag to others. Others think they are such great parents/partner BC they think the N. Gives YOU that validation when there’s no audience! Ha! If only! Thanks Danesh.
Danish batao sach ka pata kesay chalay ga
Danish sach ka pata kesay chalay ga
ok thats funny... now I understand why my kid does everything opposite of what her father wants...kids are way too intelligent than we are...
Koi kesay iss baat ka pata lagaey kya theek hai kya ghalat
Hmmm. Being the VICTIM of the narcissist imprints fear and scarcity deeply. With no support system (N system fam) adult poverty, unemployment can be terrifying. Has nothing to do with being a narcissist.
Abb kya koi narcissists abuse recovery coach b narcissists hai
Har jagah bahroopiye bethay hain koi kesay pata lagaey ga
Koi kesay iss baat ka pata lagaey
Kesay iss pool se bahir niklen
Kya aap b narcissistic abuse ko imitate ker rahay ho
Some of this sounds like ocd or anxiety not narcissism per se
there is overlap
Ι feel like a slave
Danish abb toh darr lagta hai k kya narcissists narc abuse recovery coach b hotay hain
Narcissists ka toh pool hai bohat bara
Sounds like your dad has some unhealed trauma.
All fake fake fake
they want to kill painfull truth about them and fulfil their dream 😅
Insecurity ■ [t]heir insecurity is what 'motivates' [t]hem. M
Which also causes immense jealousy of others!!!
@@77sunflowers [T]hey tell me that!! ■ M