Sobriety is not a "one size fits all" thing, Living with liver disease

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  • @dianehodge2011
    @dianehodge2011 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +14

    Thanks for the reminders. Everyone is different. This is my first (in a lot of years) sober holidays. I'm doing good so far but try not to over think it. Getting really close to 1 yr. I don't want to get complacent, so one day at a time!

    • @crybabychrononaut
      @crybabychrononaut 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

      I'm in the same boat. 9 months for me! We got this.

  • @Tracey..H
    @Tracey..H 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +25

    Slayer needs prayer. Hes in tough shape. Lets lift him up

    • @KaraLey98
      @KaraLey98 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

      I’m in!! 🕊️🌤️

    • @Tracey..H
      @Tracey..H 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

      @KaraLey98 :)

    • @Lisa-s7x
      @Lisa-s7x 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

      This guy is struggling. He is releasing his thoughts/emotions out to the whole world. I love this man❤

    • @KaraLey98
      @KaraLey98 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@Lisa-s7x You mean Slayer, right? Not LD?

    • @andrewhazenberg3398
      @andrewhazenberg3398 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

      @@Lisa-s7x I feel so concerned for him . Slayer is such an awesome person. I truly hope and pray that he will be ok .🙏🙏❤

  • @Maniokini
    @Maniokini 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +6

    Your honesty amazes me. Ty for telling your journey. It will help others 😊

  • @honestmicky
    @honestmicky 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +13

    Thanks for this excellent video, much appreciated. It's Saturday night and I'm sober. Waking up on Sunday morning with energy and a clear head is miraculous. You look amazing today bro ❤️

  • @paulandrew4415
    @paulandrew4415 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +8

    I love the woods L.D. im glad your feeling better, i sincerely hope nothing else goes wrong for awhile. God bless

  • @ankejacobs4649
    @ankejacobs4649 10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    You are really so encouraging.. especially saying that you’re proud of us 🤗 Thank you ☺️

  • @Micru866
    @Micru866 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +8

    Hey LD so true there’s no one fits all approach to either sobriety or addiction. You know my journey started last year just to stop drinking altogether to get healthy. I had found you and your story resonated with me. Well it’s been an up and down, stop and go, still trying to not have the glass of wine or bottle! Still trying not to throw a few back just because it’s the weekend and we’re celebrating. Still trying, I didn’t start this journey thinking I had AUD but the way you describe addiction today really drove the message. If you can’t stop then it’s addiction. Well there you have it. As addiction has different levels and I’m not at the severe point it makes it easier to continue to indulge even though I know I’ll be disappointed the next day. I’m not drinking today but not sure about tomorrow. I want to figure it out because I do want to be at my healthiest and drinking any amount is not going to help with that. I check many of those boxes, drinking fast, drinking alone, drinking to numb, drinking to just enhance the moment, hiding and lying. It’s pretty clear that this has been a problem for some time. Sure I don’t drink to the point I black out (thankfully) but I don’t know how to fully quit. Sorry for the long winded message. As always thank you for all that you do.

  • @JoshJorg44
    @JoshJorg44 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +10

    I was also a chef in the restaurant industry for many years. And I worked at a brewery no less.
    I got out of restaurants about 10 years ago, but have still struggled with drinking. I can't do other stuff anyway now because I'm a truck driver, but I've still drank too much.
    My problem is the weekends mostly, but I would way overdo it, and for the last few months it was every day.
    I am on day 10 now with no alcohol and I'm already feeling better. I was having pains in my liver area, had body itching, and some other symptoms, and I knew it was time to stop to heal my body.

    • @Leo_Leo13
      @Leo_Leo13 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@JoshJorg44 that’s great you have those first 10 days done! Glad your symptoms are going away already too 😀

    • @KaraLey98
      @KaraLey98 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      Keep healing-glad you’re better 🌤️☀️

    • @kathrynminnick8986
      @kathrynminnick8986 5 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@JoshJorg44 Congratulations!! Keep it up!!

    • @kathrynminnick8986
      @kathrynminnick8986 5 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@JoshJorg44 Congratulations!! Keep it up!!

  • @yvonneshaub6111
    @yvonneshaub6111 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

    Hey Ld, im still in the early stages of getting my sleep right..i dont sleep much over 6 hours still..however, one thing i know is that even though im still not sleeping 8 hours, i dont feel like crap anymore..i dont miss that tired feeling all day and i can appreciate not having a immediate headache as soon as i open my eyes..its not easy though because my aud is a combination of a lot of things, childhood trauma, a way of controlling my adhd, so there's many layers to my addiction and a lot of people may have layers to their addiction too..i know if i mess up im going to wake up again feeling like complete dog doo and thinking why i did what i did..so i cant promise tomorrow or next week..its just day by day..as always ,great video LD, God Bless!..

  • @CraigFox-lt6lt
    @CraigFox-lt6lt 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    I've been around it most of my life, when until about 1 and a half years, then I discovered you about 1 year ago and have hardly missed an episode since, thanks buddy!

  • @MarcusLambert-gt2ow
    @MarcusLambert-gt2ow 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +10

    I was the opposite Ld. I actually loved the powder but it always goes to that same place on that road , broke , alone . Busted and disgusted. Then I got clean years later everybody said have a beer it’s legal . And it is as long as you don’t drive .. but it will kill you dead . 🙏 Thankyou lord for sobriety

  • @Maniokini
    @Maniokini 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +9

    Addiction sucks. Started at 18 yrs old i quit off and on for 6 ys. Drank every other day from 24 to 43. I quit and sober since . Self love and willpower ❤

  • @Leo_Leo13
    @Leo_Leo13 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +6

    I totally agree with this. I was sober over 5 years without joining any particular programs and had no problem. I did relapse for a few months and then moved to a new state so I’ve chosen to attend some meetings to meet other sober women to hang out with since I hadn’t met any for the first year after I moved. I don’t follow any specific programs but I do some daily writing and meditation which helps me deal with my CPTSD, which in turn keeps me from wanting alcohol.

  • @lillyrose9715
    @lillyrose9715 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    After searching for solutions as a family member, Ive come across ppl who are strongly of the opinion that there is only one way to get sober.
    I really appreciate you sharing your insight, that there are multiple paths to sobriety. Thank you LD ❤.

  • @Gr8Blue
    @Gr8Blue 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    It's consistent variety of indoor, outdoor, interactive and/or chill videos and movies. And intentional avoidance of high-risk situations. Christmas, it turns out, is THE hardest holiday to avoid alcohol so far. SO many gatherings are based around intoxication, but still not a drop since July 🎉 It's crazy how different it is for everyone. My son replaced meth with Red Bulls and monsters. And lots of short walks around the neighborhood. Strength n clarity be with us all🙏🍀 Thanks for another helpful video, LD. Lookin well❤️‍🔥

  • @MarcusLambert-gt2ow
    @MarcusLambert-gt2ow 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +8

    #1 again baby !! Hope everybody is having a safe sober weekend . Not only will your health get better but you also will notice you have more money .. I use to get a buzz and want to buy everybody in the place a round or two . Go back to work Monday with a hangover and broke ..

  • @sjla2009
    @sjla2009 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +7

    Addicted to food is awful because you have to eat 😢
    It really seems impossible

  • @judithowens8212
    @judithowens8212 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    Hi LD, I'm living hearing you talk about leaving room for individual choice and expression, on the path to sobriety. Like you said, there are broad brush-strokes of things that we all need to be doing, like eating in a healthier way, reducing temptations, etc, but 'the path' that someone else has found, and now wants to be a guru for everyone, is not necessarily the path for you. It may be. But it's often...' this worked for me so it will work for everyone, unless you're lazy'. This kind of dogmatism, like, I have the answer and just do it, is very fascist, and leaves no room for individual circumstances. I know people who have stopped, cold turkey. I know people who have tapered down, then given it up, or actually stayed down at a low level. Everyone IS different, as you say.
    Your support to everyone, no matter how they choose to improve themselves, is inspiring. Thankyou.

  • @crybabychrononaut
    @crybabychrononaut 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    Been thinking good thoughts for you ❤ love your channel.

  • @RedLightsGreenLights
    @RedLightsGreenLights 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    Thanks for the video.

  • @CMoore8539
    @CMoore8539 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Thumbs Up 👍 and shared out.❤ Thank you for the Great Video!!!😊

  • @andrewhazenberg3398
    @andrewhazenberg3398 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    Last night was our company Christmas party . Even though I am almost 29 months sober , I still get a bit of anxiety about being around all my coworkers and staff when most of them are gonna be drinking. I am glad that I went to it and I had a great time . I saw a lot of people that I haven’t seen in a while, and everyone said that I looked healthy and happy. I am actually a lot more sociable now that I am sober. Watching other people that are getting loaded is quite an eye opener from a sober point of view . 😄

    • @kathrynminnick8986
      @kathrynminnick8986 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

      Congratulations!! On 29 months, on maintaining your sobriety at the Christmas party, on being able to have a great time without drinking, on the compliments you received for looking healthy and happy, on your newfound sober sociability, and on seeing what drunkenness looks like from a sober perspective!!! A lot of good things!!! 😊

    • @andrewhazenberg3398
      @andrewhazenberg3398 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@kathrynminnick8986 Thank you very much ❤

    • @KaraLey98
      @KaraLey98 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

      It’s hard to connect with ppl when you walk into a party and everyone else is on a wavelength which you aren’t sharing.
      But that’s only one place and a mood which exists only in that room and when you walk out, you’ll grateful for the peaceful feeling in your head, and your body.. feeling great and knowing you can depend on the stability of this good healthy mood!✌️🕊️☮️

  • @Laura-hk4th
    @Laura-hk4th 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    Weather looks really beautiful 😍

    • @ShadesOClarity
      @ShadesOClarity 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      It does. The color saturation of the video looks really good,.

  • @kathrynminnick8986
    @kathrynminnick8986 5 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you for always encouraging tolerance and compassion. I greatly appreciate and admire your open-heartedness and love for everyone here. You set a great tone for the channel. It is wonderful to be able to come to a place that is suffused with love and good vibes. Thank you so much for creating this lovely place!!!!! 😊❤😊❤

  • @Fanfan30303
    @Fanfan30303 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

    Thanks for the video. Exercise definitely gets those brain chemicals going to feel good. Another thing is rituals, like coffee and other things like herbs and supplements. I’ve been using saffron lately in pill form, really seems to get me feeling good

  • @crybabychrononaut
    @crybabychrononaut 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Needed this. People in my group are driving me nuts, & I'm pretty over it. The self righteousness in that room. Ugh! And I'm sick of the 70 year old guy who hasn't had a drink since he was 22. Get over it, dude!! I think you can quit going to AA 3 nights a week after 48 years. Cult! Lol

  • @davidlafond8327
    @davidlafond8327 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    Alcohol was the "it" drug for me. I've used the green stuff and the white powder, but alcohol was the only one that became a problem for me. Besides, I was always terrified of needles so I never got into the super hard drugs, thank God! You're right, LD! We're all different and we have to find our own solutions for staying sober. Exercise, family support, and music are my top things, and definitely watching your videos is also helpful! I've done rehab several times, but it's not meant to be a silver bullet that will keep you sober. Same with AA (which never really worked for me). Regardless of which route you take, it takes work on your part and you have to make the decision in your heart that you're DONE with whatever your drug of choice is! Like you said, there is no right or wrong, there's just what works for you! Stay strong everyone, and prayers to our friend Slayer because I know he's really hurting right now!! God bless! 🙏❤

    • @Mmoose712
      @Mmoose712 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Agree David, prayer's for Slayer. LD, could you please contact Slayer? He's in the hospital.

  • @RonsMom40-pu1en2gj4p
    @RonsMom40-pu1en2gj4p 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    No words today, just a whole lotta ❤❤❤😊!

  • @shelleydelavigne5755
    @shelleydelavigne5755 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you for your voice of reason , especially now.

  • @lisagreene1458
    @lisagreene1458 6 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I always appreciate you and enjoy your content for helping so many people including myself! Thank you so much! It's great to have encouragement! So appreciated!

  • @oldroscoe2590
    @oldroscoe2590 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    We enjoyed the effects of drinking because it gave us a short cut to what we wanted. Like most short cuts there is a reason why there is longer more stable way to get to our destinations. We are a bag of chemicals including dopamine and serotonin which ought to be kept in balance naturally. Let Mother Nature do her job as intended. I quit drinking 35 years ago, I had to if I was going to make it to retirement.

  • @lizroberts6615
    @lizroberts6615 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Another.brilliant helpful video LD,I love that you have beautiful bright blue skys,I haven’t saw bright blue skys in forever.hope you enjoyed getting out to places with your wife and kids getting last minute Christmas gifts,I wish I could get a decent nights sleep,but since my liver messed up with fibrous I’m on sleeping medication from I’ve been in my twenties but now they don’t work,I get about five hours I know it’s not enough my dad always told me you need to get at least 8 hours sleep a night ,it’s what your body needs but I’m sitting in bed now and it’s 6.30am in the morning and I’ve taken my medication three hours ago but I’m still watching you and commenting,and I feel quite alert,It usually takes me until about 8,00 o’clock before I go to asleep so my daughter lets me sleep until about 1.30 I never nap during the day,but it will still be the same as usual when I go to bed I love watching true crime on TV,then I get notified your on LD,then I watch your video then it’s back to true crime,Thanks for another great video LD 🙏🙏🙏prayers for you and your family ❤️

  • @ShadesOClarity
    @ShadesOClarity 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

    Your scene looks good. Looks like Golden Hour is approaching. A lot of times you catch it out there. I got some golden light on Satan this morning. Maybe I should have switched angles and left him in the dark. Good topic. I had a friend back in the mid 90s to 2008. That was the year he died. He was the first person I ever knew who rode the Horse. He just could not get sober. He was dodging the law and finally left the country and ended up in South Korea teaching English. He finally had a decent job, some friends and a girlfriend. Then I find out he passed out on a couch after ingesting Oxycontin and Xanax and never woke up. He was the first person I knew who died from addiction, but he hasn't been the last by a long shot.

    • @esther4706
      @esther4706 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      You ok Shades?

    • @ShadesOClarity
      @ShadesOClarity 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@esther4706 Sure. Why do you ask?

    • @esther4706
      @esther4706 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      Just because of your comment.. wasn't sure how you felt. ​@@ShadesOClarity

    • @ShadesOClarity
      @ShadesOClarity 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@esther4706 That was a long time ago that my friend passed. I think about him occasionally. We both played guitar and were really into music. The Shades vs. Satan is a skit I do on my channel. I don't know if you have ever seen it. I don't know if that is what you are referring to.

    • @ImkeSinner-wv2md
      @ImkeSinner-wv2md 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      You should have a priest do an exorcism on you.

  • @boxergirl7293
    @boxergirl7293 5 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Great content today as always you’re so helpful!❤ I hope you have a great day. 🎉

  • @esther4706
    @esther4706 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    I'm totally jealous for your weather. Looking at the blue sky.. it's just grey here in Germany where I live, from morning until night! Best wishes LD...

    • @loiscassels8966
      @loiscassels8966 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      The wind was so fierce today that my power was out for 3 hours. ❤️🇨🇦

  • @Maniokini
    @Maniokini 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

  • @Kristen10-22
    @Kristen10-22 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    We are all unique, our addictions started out from trauma, everyone handles trauma differently.
    The worst thing anyone can do when another person is having a rough go is comparing him or her to another.
    “If he can do it you can too”
    Recovery is unique and should only be handled by professionals. Period

  • @miganhawkins8390
    @miganhawkins8390 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

    It took me several times to try and get sober. Last drop was October 27th. I have some days that I struggle even though I don't have any desire of going back. Sorry had to edit the date. Had a brain fart on what month it is now 😖😫.

    • @ShadesOClarity
      @ShadesOClarity 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Good on you.

    • @miganhawkins8390
      @miganhawkins8390 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      @ShadesOClarity thanks brother

  • @ajoepetrucceJr
    @ajoepetrucceJr 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Promised my fiance that before we got married I would quit, 47+ years sober

    • @kathrynminnick8986
      @kathrynminnick8986 16 นาทีที่ผ่านมา

      What a wonderful story and wonderful gift to your future life partner!! Doesn’t work for everyone to “get sober for someone else,” but it worked for you and that’s all that matters-goes along with LD’s theme: everyone must find his/her own path. Congrats again!! 🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊

  • @Mmoose712
    @Mmoose712 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    I'm the same way. If i don't get a good nights sleep i don't feel right and i do the goofiest stuff

  • @Lisa-s7x
    @Lisa-s7x 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    ❤any addiction has a beginning Their are so many factors involved

  • @05BabyReg
    @05BabyReg 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Totally. No one should be forced to believe that, for example, AA is the only way. I'm not an addict or alcoholic but my brother is--he religiously attends AA and has drank the kool aid full throttle. Good for him, but I remember I went to NA with a prodromal schizophrenic friend of mine about twenty years ago. They were trying to tell him that antipsychotics were bad for him. Well, that's what he clearly needed and never got what he required, and now he's in a group home. Sad.
    We should be more open minded to all approaches. Thanks LD ❤️🙏

  • @Thelma1805
    @Thelma1805 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Addiction is a constant daily struggle. My mum, after becoming estranged and losing her brother to alcohol, has come to terms with the fact that I will always battle my demons. We just have to do our best and keep on keeping on.

  • @maryangel2701
    @maryangel2701 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

    I love you LD and hope u are doing well .... I currently am stopping cold turkey today so pray for me........also I know it's not exactly what we are on this channel for but I am in freezing cold weather and all I have is a sweater...I am desperately asking if anyone can help me with a winter coat size 3,x....... please let me know if you can help.....God bless

    • @kathrynminnick8986
      @kathrynminnick8986 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

      Quitting alcohol abruptly can be dangerous (life-threatening) depending on how much/how long you were drinking before. As LD says, always speak with a doctor before you quit in order to get medical advice or medication to avoid these bad outcomes. Best of luck!!!

    • @paulandrew4415
      @paulandrew4415 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Ya it's winter, where in the world are you, go to a shelter or something for help

    • @kathrynminnick8986
      @kathrynminnick8986 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      As for your material needs, I encourage you to see if your area has a Society of St. Vincent de Paul chapter or Salvation Army chapter. Both of those organizations do a great deal to help people in need. Local churches, houses of worship, and various community organizations also often help people in need. Especially at this time of year, I think charities are very active. I think this strategy would help you get what you need (a coat that fits and suits you) in a timely way. Good luck!!

  • @joelweidenfeld471
    @joelweidenfeld471 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    When you got the MONEY you aint got the mind.... when you got the mind you ain't got the MONEY...... when you got the HEALTH you ain't got the mind ....when you ain't got the HEALTH you got the mind.......the answer to the problem lies steps above and I wouldn't even call it a problem as that feeds into the people in government who help make it one , thus a issue is a BETTER term..

  • @Kristen10-22
    @Kristen10-22 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Most insurance companies only pay for detox then they let loose

  • @deniserusinski5354
    @deniserusinski5354 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Shades has a great subject today. Its giving liquor for xmass gifts. I am not a drinker and one time i got grey goose for a present. I literally lost my S&>T. I find that a lazy , i have to bring a gift go to the liquor store at the last minute gift. Insulting! Anyway thats my 2cents.

  • @crybabychrononaut
    @crybabychrononaut 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Seven in the morning, the birds are chirping... we've all been there! Ugh. Booze + coke hangover is from Hell!

  • @DebraReule
    @DebraReule ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    👏👍🙏♥️🫂

  • @deniserusinski5354
    @deniserusinski5354 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Who is slayer? Is there more to his title, I put in Slayer and get a metal band.

  • @Mmoose712
    @Mmoose712 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Are you homeless Mary Angel? Can you find a shelter to stay at?

  • @KaraLey98
    @KaraLey98 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Thanks for another good one, LD… instead of just breezing through the holidays, we need to put the brakes on and look around and understand we are in charge of our own actions instead of mindlessly following the group model of thinking whatever happens, happens.. We are in charge of our own selves-things do not happen by themselves without a decision on our part..🌤️💌🕊️💕