The acceptance and unconditional love that Charlotte has for George in this show is one of the most romantic things I’ve seen on film, but it comes at a cost. I appreciate that the show didn’t shy away from showing how being a George’s primary emotional support system and eventual caretaker took a toll on her relationship with her children. Without proper medication and doctors who actually knew how to treat him George relied on Charlotte greatly and as his condition worsened I imagined that increased. It wasn’t George’s fault that he was ill and despite his illness he was a loving husband and brought a lot of joy to Charlotte’s life so she never regrets her decision to stay with him. At the same time Charlotte is only human so between being a wife (and sometimes emotional caretaker), being a queen and being a mother something had to give. I know the show wasn’t completely historically accurate, but I think it touched on a lot of very real dynamics and experiences that will resonate with many people.
This…. You actually see this dynamic foreshadowed right before his speech to parliament. He’s terrified and when Charlotte arrives to see him off he angrily asked where she’s been and she tells him she’s been with the baby. That moment in context with the rest of the story made me believe that Charlotte probably had many moments where she had to leave the children with nurses to go support George. The children (understandably) resent being left, but this was the cost of caring for George.
Really well said. I love so much that this series potrayed even the very lovable characters as flawed and honestly potrayed the consequences of their decisions. I thought Queen Charlotte did a great job of portraying how the stress of leadership combined with caretaking can take a toll on other relationships. Charlotte does not really seem to have close, intimate relationships other than with George... even her friendship with Lady Danbury has a certain distance to it. I loved how real this all felt.
I haven’t seen it- but I was wondering about his decline- he got very scary obsessed she was going to disappear and would stand over her watching her sleep during one period of psychotic break. The topic could go so many ways I was just curious how they handled it
I love to see non-horror representation for people with psychosis and related mental illnesses. It really wears on you, when the only people you see in media who share your label are monsters, murderers and freaks. Not often you see a TV show or movie presenting someone with psychosis as someone who is frightened, a bit confused, but ultimately worthy of love.
This series is amazing for a number of reasons, but I'm always amazed and touched by how sincerely and accurately they portray loving someone with a more severe mental illness. It's something I've never seen in media before; the story isn't a joyless tragedy, he isn't the villain for his condition, and it isn't another heartless "love will cure him" story. The show doesn't shy away from showing what an absolute struggle it can be sometimes or how it can negatively affect your own mental health and your relationship with others, but it also doesn't use those downsides as reason to leave and never look back. It shows the pure joy and love that can exist between two people regardless of, and even at times because of, mental illness; how that kind of relationship requires a deeper level of trust, honesty, and vulnerability than any other that can kindle a very powerful and uniquely intimate bond. It shows her loving him, but still pushing him to grow and while still upholding boundaries for her own sake. She supports him to the best of her ability without letting it get to the point of having a seriously negative impact on her or their responsibilities. It really is a beautiful and realistic portrayal that we need more of in media, so that more people can see it and not have to feel the shame and fear that George and so many real people do. Loving someone with mental illness may come with it's own unique challenges, but that doesn't mean they/we deserve love any less than anyone else.
I can't cry to save my life, but man, I shed a tear during: "Your line will live on." "OUR line." "Yes, our line will live on." "You did not go over the wall?" 😭
The "Come hide from the heavens when me" gets me everytime. The pure love and act of reaching out instead of having to ask because sometimes you're so lost you can't. Its so beautiful
This series hit me especially hard. I discovered I had a seizure disorder literally the day after my first kiss with my husband. I did everything I could to make the man leave me. I didn't want to make him face so much uncertainty, and I was hit with the knowledge that having children would be dangerous, if not deadly. Still, he stayed, he married me, and he's been by my side for 13 years now. I've undergone multiple surgeries, alcohol addiction, a head-on collision with a truck, and a number of other horrible things that should have made him walk away, but he stayed. My person is my husband and my 'under the bed' has become our fan-den.
I loved this series where I couldn't get into the other Bridgerton story lines. Years ago I moved out of the "master" bedroom and into the smallest room of the house. I decorated it to suit me. My family named it The Sanctuary. Seven years later (and nine years ago) my husband died. I now have run of the whole house, but The Sanctuary is where I feel safe and protected and at home. I don't have an under-the-bed person other than myself, but I am optimistic about someone with whom I have a very strong connection. He has "issues" and people are not going to understand "us" but when I watched this series I particularly loved the last under-the-bed scene. I felt that my decision to bring this person with issues into my life was validated as I am perfectly willing - committed - to meeting him where he is.
This ending broke me. I can't watchbit without crying my eyes out. It reminds me so much of my grandparents. They were married for 65 years, and my grandfather suffered from dementia and Alzheimer's and had been declining for the past 7 years. He sometimes remembered things, especially about their younger years, and would say the sweetest things to my grandma. Other times he was like George and in his own world and didn't know anything else but that. There were good days and bad days. But in the end, my grandpa always kissed her and even though he may not have remembered everything, he always said thank you. She never left him. It truly was a "you did not go over the wall" under the bed situation. He sadly passed away in back in July, a couple of weeks before my son was born, his 10th great grandchild.
For those of us with medical conditions, I can relate to trying to force the one I love to leave. I especially appreciated your advice that this should not be my decision, but it’s hard when you love them and want the best for them. You know you can’t be the best for them.
My ex boyfriend struggled a lot with mental health issues and he often tried to make me leave. It drove a wedge between us that didn't need to be there. I would have stayed with him because I knew what a wonderful person he is and I wanted to support him. But he drew back and pushed me away and eventually I had to give up on our relationship because it was only me fighting for it. When you have someone with you who says that they want to stay with you, please respect their decision. Let them see what is going on and help them understand your situation and if they chose to stay that is their decision to make. It's difficult to accept love when you feel unlovable but you have to try if you want to keep this person in your life.
Queen Charlotte was such a pleasure to watch and I'm so glad they made it. The love they shared was just so beautiful. And the under the bed scenes were just beautiful.
I actually felt validated when you said that you can be your own under the bed person, so thank you for that. During my life I have learned I can only rely on myself and while at times this was awful, especially when I faced sexual abuse as a child but I am incredibly strong now and have learned through counselling and a lot of self education and work on myself how to overcome the ongoing issues that arise from this. I am actually happy that I had no one to help me through it as it has made me an incredibly optimistic and capable woman. I know that I will make it through whatever life throws at me. As for my under the bed place it is meditation and art. When I am at my most triggered or overwhelmed or in the grips of my complex PTSD I withdraw to my computer to make digital art or I use meditation to calm myself. Music is also good. Anyways these are my under the bed answers. Thank you so much for therapising Bridgerton 😊
That is so incredibly inspiring! You go girl, you are awesome!! (As a person who has similar issues but struggling with independence that is role modelling for me so thank you) This capability is very rare and could he incredibly hard sometimes, so as one random stranger to another; I am proud of you!
Before I got proper support and treatment for my OCD, I hid/downplayed my symptoms to basically everybody out of shame. Then a few years ago my anxiety reached the level of psychosis and I ended up in the psych ward for a couple of months. And NOBODY judged me. I had so much support during that time (and since, when I still need it), but beyond the overt shows of support I was more shocked by how... CASUALLY everyone took it. It was like, "Oh, look, you're out of the hospital! Just on a weekend pass? Well, it's good weather for it!" and then later, "How's your recovery? Feeling okay today? That's great! More tea?" Everybody treating my OCD as normal and okay (even on bad days) has been life-changing for me. I still prioritize relying on myself and my medical team for support, but I know I can be transparent about my experience and people will still like, love, and accept me -- and that when I do need their help, they'll be there. And that's EVERYTHING.
That moment under the bed, after he couldn't make the speech, made me cry because I knew exactly how he felt, and it was conveyed so realistically that it hurt. I've been for years in therapy for various reasons, but despite getting incredibly better, I could never get completely rid of my social anxiety which haunts me to this day. However I remember a few years back I had a time I was feeling great, very optimistic and sure that I was out of the tunnel finally...I always wanted to do teather and never did because of the anxiety, but I finally felt confident that I could. So I tried...went to the first lesson...and after the first few exercises, which I found extremely hard because of how vulnerable they made me feel...I blanked out, mind empty... started crying, then had a panic attack, first one after years... then a second one after which I gathered my stuff and ran home. There I had my third one. I was so mortified, I felt so defeated that I couldn't get up for days. Years of therapy felt like fresh paint that washed off like nothing, and I was broken. " There's no better. There is no cure. This is who I am." Those words are exactly what I told my doctor soon after, but I will thank her for eternity for proving me wrong! I never got completely rid of my social anxiety, but I did learn to manage it better, and it has made my life a lot easier.
This whole story of Queen Charlotte and King George really warmed my heart and hit me right in the feels. As for a spot or person for me that would be "under the bed", I'd say for me, that's always been a relationship with God and Jesus Christ. I've not always been able to open up to people (still struggling with it, but working on it) and to share a vulnerable side of myself so talking to God who already knows my heart is comforting. When my grandfather (who had a large part in raising me) passed away 4 years ago, I took it very hard and moved away from my "under the bed" refuge and felt very, very alone. Remembering that isolating feeling is important to kind of remind myself that it's not weak of me to need to lean on God or those around me, and much like Charlotte wants to be there for George, there are also people who want to be there for me too; all I have to do is let them. So yeah, that was my long-winded way of saying my "under the bed" person is more spiritual but I'm working on letting someone close to me emotionally to also be that person. If nobody's told you yet today, you're loved, you're worthy of that love and you are exactly where you need to be
This hit really hard. When you asked who is your safe person/ under the bed person I burst into tears. For me it was my grandmother. She passed in 2019. I could literally tell her anything. She never judged me and loved me unconditionally. I've since turned to therapy and also had to become my own under the bed person. It's hard some days but I make video journals and seek therapy when I desperately need support. Thank you for showing how we can become that person for ourselves.
I didn't realize until now, I no longer have an under the bed place and I have been abandoning myself as my under the bed person. I want to work on being better at that.
I came to this series late. I saw one of your other reviews and sat down to finally watch Queen Charlotte 👸🏽. I LOVED the series. Beautiful story telling. I would love it if you could look at NBCs new show called Found. There's some interesting things going on in that show. It's about a woman who starts a firm who looks for missing people who aren't covered in the media. The main character is motivated by the fact that she was abducted as a teen and held for a year only to have to rescue herself. But the twist is that she finds him when as an adult and is holding him captive in her basement. I would love for you to review their dynamic.
There's a couple of things I do when I'm overwhelmed, about to have a panic attack, or when I'm unable to fall asleep. I find a quiet corner or a comfy chair after I grab my crochet hook my yarn and my pattern and just start counting stitches.
I don’t really have a “under the bed person”. However, I do have an “under the bed” place, which is the forest, I just feel safest there, or inside of my closet if there are no forests.
I think this place and this person doesn’t have to be the same every time! Last time I had a very rough emotional episode I got out of a bad place by writing a long text about where I am emotionally and posting it on my private channel! Didn’t know I could be my own under-the-bed person, but turns out I can, it actually made me feel better! usually I’d talk to my best friend, but this time I couldn’t for an important reason. And I feel more and more that if I don’t give love and acceptance to myself, then nobody can really help me, I’m proud that I’m taking steps towards being my own comforting person )
Thanks for sharing this. I've also turned into my under the bed person. I make video journals and talk to myself. I post privately to myself also. I haven't posted on awhile but I still make my videos.
My under the bed place is a camping tent in the middle of nowhere. I love the sound of rain hitting the tent. I feel safe and protected there. It blocks out the noises of my mind.
I haven’t actually watched all of Queen Charlotte yet but after seeing these clips I’m definitely going to finish it. I think my under the bed place is just my bedroom in general because it’s comfortable and safe and I don’t need to be anyone but myself.
I’m learning to be my own “under the bed person”. I still turn to others for emotional support when it’s needed, but I’m done with all the years of self-loathing I wasted my life on. I just want to feel good and be happy, and I want to be able to love myself. Anyway, loved the video, keep up the good work 👍
I loved these scenes with them. It does take its toll on her, and other relationships. But that she does not "go over the wall" to escape at any point is so, so beautiful. While I never tried to actually go over the wall, or have gone under the bed with my spouse, I know the strength as well as the difficulty and emotional pain that takes, and where you do give up other things to be able to be there for them.
I loved watching this series for the way it portrayed mental illness and the impact of severe mental illness on a relationship. My brother has bipolar disorder with psychosis and we could never as a family get him to get treatment consistently. Paranoia made him fear me and my sisters. My mother felt responsible and my father thought that this was weakness that he could just decide to jettison if he really wanted to. It was only after he self medicated with street drugs to bring himself out of a manic psychotic episode and ended up with a brain injury that we could finally help him. Now he has the best life possible with the right medication and loving support from his sisters and one of his brother’s in law but at what a cost. We need to find better ways to deal with mental illness in our society.
My “under the bed place”, is in the shower. I have secondary depression and anxiety and sometimes I get overwhelmed with stress and emotions. I find taking a break, taking a breath and having a shower really helps. I allows me to not think about anything, it helps me feel warm, the only sound is the water, I can lock myself away from everyone and everything and be alone. It helps me to ground myself when I am in an emotional, depressive or anxious state as well as helping to remind myself that I am ok, that I am allowed to have these feelings, and that whatever is going on in my life isn’t going to cause any world ending harm. So I guess my “under the bed person” is myself, treating myself as I would my best friend. And I would gladly give that advice to anyone, talk to yourself just like you would if your friend was in your situation. That they (you) are aloud to feel upset, they (you) will get through it and will find happiness again. Live your best life my friends! ❤
I've found my "under the bed" person, and he actually helped me get better when I was down, not by himselt tho. I started my therapy two months before we started dating and it was a long, sometimes hard process, I had a lot of work in it but his patience and empathy clearly helped a lot in it. With him I had the experience of safety and affection that I struggled to believe in. I am so released to have this video because his workplace just moved out of the city we live in, so I literally have the situation when your "under the bed" person is only there for you in half (or less or 2 out of 5) of the times, it is hard and impossible without self-love and resilience but love and support survives it! I really needed this video, it helped me to not feel alone with this problem and cry a bit by myself, for myself.... I'm probably just very emotional because I'm too tired to function (I struggle with sleeping alone) but this show lights the process, thank you mended light☀️💖🌺
This seen is so beautiful that I SOBBED the first time I watched it. Watching it back, I’m still crying. The acceptance and unconditional love is just so beautiful. My partner is my “under the bed person”. He doesn’t always know what to say, but he’s always there for me 🥰
My 'under the bed' place is my desk, it's a corner desk, with a view of my enclosed backyard. I have my laptop, I have my books, and my notebooks as well. I can turn my back on the world, and just sit in the corner and let my racing mind go blank. And when I'm at my worst, when i've spent too much time there, hiding, my best friend just has this prenatural sense, I swear, she comes in, and sits on the bed across my desk and talks to me. Just about random stuff, until whatever I've been repressing just comes out. And she'll listen to me while I'm finally talking/crying about all the things that are bugging, all the things I pretend aren't bugging me and don't matter, and she tells me my feelings are valid, and then gives me terrible advice. I love her, but her advice is terrible. Heck, maybe she does it on purpose to make me laugh. Either way, her support, or even just knowing that no matter what I have her support, makes life a little easier for me to bear when I'm in my dark place.
This is a fantastic series, thank you for therapizing Queen Charlotte, would you be willing to look into Lady Danbury across the main series and her youth in Queen Charlotte?
My safe place (with myself) is out in the woods surrounded by trees and a stream nearby, where I don’t hear any cars or peoples noises. Just me and the grandness of nature. I related to this series a lot, especially during this past summer when my fiancé had a very long and terrible bipolar manic episode, something I had never seen before and was not prepared for. I felt lost, angry, sad, helpless, and I found myself alone for almost four months. I would go and see him after weeks, only to be turned away like Charlotte was when she went to see George in his observatory. I filled my days, filled with trying to come up ways to help while also keeping myself from falling apart. Closer to the end, when he stopped pushing me away, I latched on and took control of the situation, and became his safe person as he fought his demons until they all left for good. These four and a half months taught me strength and resilience and showed me how much stronger I was capable of loving, even though 99% of the time I was alone. Mental illness is no easy feat, but it’s possible to endure even the hardest most crippling of times. He has told me I’m his safe place many times, that I ground him, and I’m glad he’s aware that he cannot be my safe place when he isn’t well. We all need to take care of ourselves even if we have a safe person.
I am remarkably lucky. My under the bed person is my adult daughter. We have worked hard these past 44 years, the full span of her life, forging that relationship, overcoming mental illness on both sides, but more importantly a shared illness and chronic pain. We are both zebras in that we have a very rare genetic disease that we share. To have given birth to my soulmate, my best friend, seems impossible, scandalous almost, and yet powerful and breathtakingly fortunate. I fear when I pass which will be soon, I am comforted in knowing that her under the bed person other than myself is her husband, her soulmate, and as well as her best friend that lives nearby. So I know that these two people will be there under the bed with her when I am gone. People these days often find themselves alone and suffering from loneliness. Finding your under the bed person is even more important these days than it ever has been before.
Awww. That was sooo beautiful! I'm literally my own "in my bed" person. Bed is cosy, warm, soft and safe and full of thick blankets and some emotional support stuffed animals that I've kept since childhood. Most importantly, as a person with AD(H)D brain + physical challenges, bed is the place where can ca concentrate in my internal live, without having to worry about physical damage 😅. Aka no bruises or pulled muscles and the likes, cause I was too hyper-focused internally, to monitor what my physical body is up to!
Thank you so much for your work... Under my bed there would be a horse I guess 😅 Connection with animals rarely requires words ao your mind calms down and you finally get to hear your own thoughts❤
I love when George says "Edward is going to be a father?" with joy all over his face. Charlotte is preoccupied with ensuring a clear, long line of succession (understandably so-- the whole country's future depended on it), that she has set aside any personal joy about her son becoming a parent. George, on the other hand, has relied on Charlotte and their children as his anchor, so he is overjoyed one of his children will get to experience that. (To be fair, Charlotte may also not care about Edward being a dad because he has already fathered children, or that George is amazed because he cannot keep track of time/how old his children are. But I prefer to think that George is excited that his son will get to experience fatherhood)
I often vent to myself about my problems and talk about struggles to myself. I used to do it because I had no one to talk and my conversations with myself were usually imagined conversations with people I wanted to talk to. I did it so much that when people talked about going to the person you share everything thing with it made me feel weird because I was alone and didn’t have anyone to talk to but sometimes I wouldn’t feel alone or I would for a moment forget that I didn’t have person I went to. Now I do have people I talk to friend’s, family, and my therapist. I still imagine conversations with people and talk to myself when I am alone though. I always thought it was weird and sad that I would just talk to myself and share my struggles and problems in my imagined conversations and I thought it was a bad thing. Until I saw this. When you talked about being our own under the bed person I realized that I was my own under the bed person. You made me realize that what I do is ok and not something to worried or ashamed of. Thank you.
My room is my safe space. For a large part of my childhood I shared a living space my mom and brother. I finally have my own room and even my own bathroom. I express self love through my skin and nail care routine. When I was younger I bit my nails all the time and got so frustrated when my nail polish was messed up so I didnt paint them for a long time. I broke the habit and can finally paint my nails without that anger I had. I was diagnosed with a neurological condition a year ago. I wasn’t treating my brain fairly while I was living alone. I was in a bad place mentally and drinking heavily. My mother almost forced me to move in with her and she’s helped me quit drinking and helped me get on a regular medication schedule.
My under the bed place is my childhood shower. Sadly it doesn't exist anymore. I used to spend ages standing under hot water, thinking or singing or not thinking. My new shower is a bath tub and I don't like it very much. But I hope that I can make it better with some upgrades. My under the bed person is my boyfriend. He's supported me through depression and OCD. It was a time where I also couldn't be 100% his partner because I didn't feel happiness and I didn't feel love and he still chose to stay because he knew they were there somewhere. It's amazing when you find that person
God is my under the bed person….my perfect loving father when my human relationships are failing….he will always be there for anyone who needs him and i know he will never fail me
I don’t think I’ve found my under the bed place, yet. Hopefully one day. Dressing up, dressing well, that does help, I guess mine atm are items not a place.
What's your opinion on what we see of her parenting methods in the scenes with her children? Especially the one where she gives her third son William advice on love and marriage minutes before he gets married?
I go to quiet spaces where I can just be alone. I do it at work, I do it at home, at school, everywhere, everyday. That’s where I can breathe again and let the tension roll off so I can face the day.
My under the bed is literally under the covers it’s gonna sound sad …. More than likely pathetic but I stick all my stuffed animals under the covers arrange them in a circle so they form a wall with a gap for me to lay in the middle and I literally pull the covers over so it looks like a roof or den I tend to do that when anxiety gets the better of me or I’m in a dark place , can relate to George this has hit on a very sore point for me I wanna thank you for your encouragement for me and others to open up Jono 😢☮️💚💔
@@KCallia I completely agree with you =^_^= I never had friends growing up got bullied a lot I saw my plushy’s as friends , they never judged me , always listened and good for hugs , and wiping tears away when your sad of upset , rare qualities I’ve never found in human friends but those qualities I’ve found in animal friends pets and stuffies plushy’s kinda sad I know ….. =;^;=
My safe space used to be the boiler cupboard where I really couldn't fit. X'D I would hide in there if there was a knock on the door or something similar unexpected. I must have looked absolutely ridiculous, lol! Now I know I can choose not to answer and I feel safe enough to actually do it most of the time, with my dog alongside.
My husband IS my husband because first he was my under the bed person. And my under the bed place is in a sunbeam, on the couch, by our front. And I am in a similar ish situation, though roles reversed. When I went out to convince my friend to be my now husband I did not have the numerous medical issues I have now. I took run into the head space of encouraging him to leave, for his happiness, but he does not climb the wall...he stays. It's hard though, feeling like I lied to him, even though neither of us were aware of current issues. But all I want is for him to be happy. I do my best.
When I saw the Saprea commercial, just having watched you guys for awhile, I wondered whether the organization might be connected to Tim Ballard somehow, so I looked into the company. I’m happy to say they seem to be opposed to the narrative Ballard presents about how child s trafficking occurs and are working to provide real support and solutions to the vast majority of cases of CSA. And I’m sure they would be opposed to the very many horrific and serious allegations against him right now. I just thought I would post this in case others are wondering about it.
My under the bed was a fifth floor balcony situated at the junction of five roads.It was such a free space that it calm down my mind.Unfortunately that balcony is gone, so is my peace of mind. My under the bed person will be one of my cousin, myself and TH-cam, your channel and cinema therapy included.I try to draw strength to be empathetic to others and try to see thir point of view or in general pov that is unlike mine, to see if there is something that I can do to play the situations differently.Some times it, works some times doesn't. But, meanwhile, I get to grow a bit and sometimes that's enough. I am a huge procrastinator. So, this pushes help me sometime
My under the bed place was the stables and my under the bed person was "my" horse ❤ Then I moved away from home and now I am trying to find such a place again
In moments where I am completely overstimulated (when I feel like every sensory input is just to much to a level that light, sounds, smells etc seem to physically hurt) , my safe place is in my bedroom (shutters down), lying in my bed, half on the side, beyes closed and my forehead down on the mattrass. Sometimes I rub my front head up and down on it, because these moments tend to come with headaches and that helps a little. About feeling panicky, I have yet to find a place to help me then.... I had panick attacks as teenager in school. Then I would lock myself in toilet cabin. The problem was that I got more and more panicky, being afraid to come out again and face the strange looks. Then time passed, and when the bell rang for the next school lesson, the other students would have left, but going to my class too, arriving late... impossible. So I wanted to flee home, but I knew my mother would be terribly angry and my sister pick on me about it (again). She would also yell on me on the phone when I called her from the toilet in despair. Some terrible memories. Most of all the feeling of it... I haven't even watched the series, but George is so lucky to have someone at his side in this hell of a situation. And in his life. And damn can I relate to him feeling like he does not deserve that. I don't have an "under the bed person" I'm afraid, neither is this myself... I'm pretty alone after all. I bought myself an 24inch doll a few years ago. Not quite a real reborn one (I could never afford one of those), but really cute. She's a girl named Shaya and she gets cuddled and kissed a lot when I feel the need to. I am in therapy though, but the talks with my psychiatrist are usually once a week and sheduled. The only emergency possibility for me would be a hotline that has been vakant due to organisatory problems since about november (yes, I know because I tried a few times over the christmas/year's end holidays). And it's the only one. I'm not doing well, but it's okay.
My under-the-bed place is in my online game 😅 I live in a house full of abusive and vitriol so I have no physical escape just yet, so I play my game and live in a different world completely 😅 my friends there cheer me up when needed and I can live in peace on there
These clips are heart wrenching. So beautiful. But, what if my under the bed person is gone. My husband was only one who saw and accepted all of me. And he has now been in heaven for 9 months..
People have made comments before about how either sad and lonely OR great and healthy is (depends on the person), that my 'under the bed person' is me. Long story short: since my teens I've been afraid of my emotional well-being being reliant exclusively on other people or just external sources. I make it a priority to feel happy and healthy and validated just for being me. Now as an adult my 'under the bed place' has basically turned into my whole apartment. I've always wanted to be able to host friends and family for meals and stuff: but I feel safer when my space is wholly MY SPACE. I don't have to shove all my messiness (figurative and sometimes literal) into even one room or one corner. This CAN sometimes turn into unhealthy self-isolation, but I've made a point to develop coping skills and habits that keep me out there and not alone. Don't worry though: I've got friends who see and accept me :)
Ever thought of doing 'One Piece'? The anime and the live action? I think you'd find a lot of things to talk about there - optimism, confidence, bravery to go for what you want, feeling like you owe someone your life, wondering if you deserved to have been born at all, working through grief and loss, being a chronic liar, basing your life on a promise, loneliness, guilt, your beliefs vs the people you care about, knowing when to walk away and when to fight, what's the line between tough love and physical abuse, trauma, gaslighting, determination to go through with a decision/dream no matter what else is going on around you. We have all of that in the anime, and in one season of the live action we've seen a third of that so far with other seasons to tell show us the rest. I'd love to get your opinion on the characters throughout the seasons.
Interestingly I am very lucky person and I have three such happy calm places. One with my partner in our couch and cozy blanket, one with my best friend in his or my car and one by myself curled up with my favourite books. I loved this series even though I didn't really enjoy the original Brighton series.
My under the bed place is on the back of my horse. Sounds strange but I have terrible anxiety and the only time my mind lets me be at peace is when I sit in that saddle and it's just me and my boy. And my horse has this way of knowing that if I cant decide where to go, he makes the decision for me and always gets me home safe (proven as I had a concussion and forgot how to get home but he got me home anyway!) for once I don't have to be the one to make all the decisions. My heart horse has got me. Never left my side when I had a nasty fall (not his fault) I think ive realised that he is my under the bed person too🤭🤍
This series set my expectations back onto a healthy level. Where I would go for peace is on my roof. Not that I recommend that. It's just in a familiar place (well... ON. Because... my roof.) and I get to look at the stars. Sometimes it's a good game to see how many meteors I can spot while looking, listening to some music. It's a great getaway. AGAIN. Don't--go onto your roof unless you used to be a curious child like me. (
I was hoping you’d do those scenes. I have BPD, depression, anxiety, CPTSD. I go to therapy and have made great strides, but there are days, times, situations where I am not my best. Where I’m so emotionally unstable that I am not functional for myself or my partners. I write. I take myself away into my fantasy worlds where I can explore and work through what’s happening in ways that feel safe and cathartic. When it’s too overwhelming for even that, I grab a blanket and crawl into my closet because it’s warm, dark, small, and there’s almost no stimulation. I listen to soft music, or a meditation video to help stop my panic attack and sleep, to give myself a chance to calm down and process. Right now I’m trying to be my own support person. I have people who have offered, but I’m in a place where I would rather deal with those things on my own, and my partners help me return to ordinary life when I’ve come out. To just see me for the man they love and allow me to return and do my best even though I may have needed a few hours to wrestle my demons.
I don’t cry at shows or movies okay, like literally ever. That being said, this show makes me sob like a fucking baby every single time. Can’t even watch a reaction video of it 😂😭
I don't know that I have an under-the-bed-place, but I do have a person and that is my sister. When life gets to be too much we can hang on the phone for literal hours, talking about video games and tv shows or fantasizing about moving abroad together and having some goats lol
Hey, Jono! Could you do a video on Sanditon? It has 3 seasons, but it is an amazing and short-lenght TV show! When it comes to marriages I believe Tom and Mary Parker have a beautiful marriage. I would love to hear your opinion on that subject.
The acceptance and unconditional love that Charlotte has for George in this show is one of the most romantic things I’ve seen on film, but it comes at a cost. I appreciate that the show didn’t shy away from showing how being a George’s primary emotional support system and eventual caretaker took a toll on her relationship with her children. Without proper medication and doctors who actually knew how to treat him George relied on Charlotte greatly and as his condition worsened I imagined that increased. It wasn’t George’s fault that he was ill and despite his illness he was a loving husband and brought a lot of joy to Charlotte’s life so she never regrets her decision to stay with him. At the same time Charlotte is only human so between being a wife (and sometimes emotional caretaker), being a queen and being a mother something had to give. I know the show wasn’t completely historically accurate, but I think it touched on a lot of very real dynamics and experiences that will resonate with many people.
This…. You actually see this dynamic foreshadowed right before his speech to parliament. He’s terrified and when Charlotte arrives to see him off he angrily asked where she’s been and she tells him she’s been with the baby.
That moment in context with the rest of the story made me believe that Charlotte probably had many moments where she had to leave the children with nurses to go support George. The children (understandably) resent being left, but this was the cost of caring for George.
Really well said. I love so much that this series potrayed even the very lovable characters as flawed and honestly potrayed the consequences of their decisions. I thought Queen Charlotte did a great job of portraying how the stress of leadership combined with caretaking can take a toll on other relationships. Charlotte does not really seem to have close, intimate relationships other than with George... even her friendship with Lady Danbury has a certain distance to it. I loved how real this all felt.
I haven’t seen it- but I was wondering about his decline- he got very scary obsessed she was going to disappear and would stand over her watching her sleep during one period of psychotic break. The topic could go so many ways I was just curious how they handled it
I love to see non-horror representation for people with psychosis and related mental illnesses. It really wears on you, when the only people you see in media who share your label are monsters, murderers and freaks. Not often you see a TV show or movie presenting someone with psychosis as someone who is frightened, a bit confused, but ultimately worthy of love.
Grabbing the tissues for this. I cannot make it thru without crying no matter how many times I've watched the "under the bed" scene
I don’t grab the tissues, I just ball my eyes out every single time, Jesus, the MUSIC TOO?! EXCUSE ME?! 🥹😭
Forreal!! Everything about that scene makes me so emotional!@@lolzam4108
Same! Such a beautiful moment. I'm already crying just thinking about it.🥲💜
Same!!
I know I cry every time at this scene.
This scene made me cry so bad. I've never seen love and mental illness depicted so tenderly.
This series is amazing for a number of reasons, but I'm always amazed and touched by how sincerely and accurately they portray loving someone with a more severe mental illness. It's something I've never seen in media before; the story isn't a joyless tragedy, he isn't the villain for his condition, and it isn't another heartless "love will cure him" story. The show doesn't shy away from showing what an absolute struggle it can be sometimes or how it can negatively affect your own mental health and your relationship with others, but it also doesn't use those downsides as reason to leave and never look back. It shows the pure joy and love that can exist between two people regardless of, and even at times because of, mental illness; how that kind of relationship requires a deeper level of trust, honesty, and vulnerability than any other that can kindle a very powerful and uniquely intimate bond. It shows her loving him, but still pushing him to grow and while still upholding boundaries for her own sake. She supports him to the best of her ability without letting it get to the point of having a seriously negative impact on her or their responsibilities. It really is a beautiful and realistic portrayal that we need more of in media, so that more people can see it and not have to feel the shame and fear that George and so many real people do. Loving someone with mental illness may come with it's own unique challenges, but that doesn't mean they/we deserve love any less than anyone else.
I can't cry to save my life, but man, I shed a tear during: "Your line will live on."
"OUR line."
"Yes, our line will live on."
"You did not go over the wall?" 😭
The "Come hide from the heavens when me" gets me everytime. The pure love and act of reaching out instead of having to ask because sometimes you're so lost you can't. Its so beautiful
This series hit me especially hard. I discovered I had a seizure disorder literally the day after my first kiss with my husband. I did everything I could to make the man leave me. I didn't want to make him face so much uncertainty, and I was hit with the knowledge that having children would be dangerous, if not deadly. Still, he stayed, he married me, and he's been by my side for 13 years now. I've undergone multiple surgeries, alcohol addiction, a head-on collision with a truck, and a number of other horrible things that should have made him walk away, but he stayed. My person is my husband and my 'under the bed' has become our fan-den.
❤❤❤❤❤ i love this
I love the transition and the symbolism of these scenes. The under the bed moments are the foundation of their marriage.
“You did not go over the wall” 😭 this show was so good and always makes me bawl
"if what we have is half, we will make it the very best half... i love you" ...BROKE me 😭😭😭😭😭😭
and then "come... hide from the heavens with me..." 😭😭😭😭😭😭🥰🤎
I loved this series where I couldn't get into the other Bridgerton story lines. Years ago I moved out of the "master" bedroom and into the smallest room of the house. I decorated it to suit me. My family named it The Sanctuary. Seven years later (and nine years ago) my husband died. I now have run of the whole house, but The Sanctuary is where I feel safe and protected and at home. I don't have an under-the-bed person other than myself, but I am optimistic about someone with whom I have a very strong connection. He has "issues" and people are not going to understand "us" but when I watched this series I particularly loved the last under-the-bed scene. I felt that my decision to bring this person with issues into my life was validated as I am perfectly willing - committed - to meeting him where he is.
This ending broke me. I can't watchbit without crying my eyes out. It reminds me so much of my grandparents. They were married for 65 years, and my grandfather suffered from dementia and Alzheimer's and had been declining for the past 7 years. He sometimes remembered things, especially about their younger years, and would say the sweetest things to my grandma. Other times he was like George and in his own world and didn't know anything else but that. There were good days and bad days. But in the end, my grandpa always kissed her and even though he may not have remembered everything, he always said thank you. She never left him. It truly was a "you did not go over the wall" under the bed situation. He sadly passed away in back in July, a couple of weeks before my son was born, his 10th great grandchild.
RIP to your g-pa... Blessings on your g-ma... joy to you and your family 🤎
For those of us with medical conditions, I can relate to trying to force the one I love to leave. I especially appreciated your advice that this should not be my decision, but it’s hard when you love them and want the best for them. You know you can’t be the best for them.
My ex boyfriend struggled a lot with mental health issues and he often tried to make me leave. It drove a wedge between us that didn't need to be there. I would have stayed with him because I knew what a wonderful person he is and I wanted to support him. But he drew back and pushed me away and eventually I had to give up on our relationship because it was only me fighting for it.
When you have someone with you who says that they want to stay with you, please respect their decision. Let them see what is going on and help them understand your situation and if they chose to stay that is their decision to make. It's difficult to accept love when you feel unlovable but you have to try if you want to keep this person in your life.
Queen Charlotte was such a pleasure to watch and I'm so glad they made it. The love they shared was just so beautiful. And the under the bed scenes were just beautiful.
OK fine, I’ll watch Bridgerton again and I’ll cry because of you.😭😭😭
I actually felt validated when you said that you can be your own under the bed person, so thank you for that. During my life I have learned I can only rely on myself and while at times this was awful, especially when I faced sexual abuse as a child but I am incredibly strong now and have learned through counselling and a lot of self education and work on myself how to overcome the ongoing issues that arise from this. I am actually happy that I had no one to help me through it as it has made me an incredibly optimistic and capable woman. I know that I will make it through whatever life throws at me. As for my under the bed place it is meditation and art. When I am at my most triggered or overwhelmed or in the grips of my complex PTSD I withdraw to my computer to make digital art or I use meditation to calm myself. Music is also good.
Anyways these are my under the bed answers.
Thank you so much for therapising Bridgerton 😊
That is so incredibly inspiring!
You go girl, you are awesome!!
(As a person who has similar issues but struggling with independence that is role modelling for me so thank you)
This capability is very rare and could he incredibly hard sometimes, so as one random stranger to another; I am proud of you!
Thanks for covering this series Jono! I really liked the depiction of mental illness and how loved ones can make a huge difference…
OK I'm balling my eyes out. These scenes always get me, they're so beautiful and bittersweet. And to think the baby is the future Queen Victoria
Before I got proper support and treatment for my OCD, I hid/downplayed my symptoms to basically everybody out of shame. Then a few years ago my anxiety reached the level of psychosis and I ended up in the psych ward for a couple of months.
And NOBODY judged me. I had so much support during that time (and since, when I still need it), but beyond the overt shows of support I was more shocked by how... CASUALLY everyone took it. It was like, "Oh, look, you're out of the hospital! Just on a weekend pass? Well, it's good weather for it!" and then later, "How's your recovery? Feeling okay today? That's great! More tea?"
Everybody treating my OCD as normal and okay (even on bad days) has been life-changing for me. I still prioritize relying on myself and my medical team for support, but I know I can be transparent about my experience and people will still like, love, and accept me -- and that when I do need their help, they'll be there. And that's EVERYTHING.
Different illness, same situation. I feel remarkably lucky and seen and validated. I only wish everyone got this kind of support
Wow, you have amazing support ❤
Makes me cry. EVERY. TIME.
That moment under the bed, after he couldn't make the speech, made me cry because I knew exactly how he felt, and it was conveyed so realistically that it hurt.
I've been for years in therapy for various reasons, but despite getting incredibly better, I could never get completely rid of my social anxiety which haunts me to this day.
However I remember a few years back I had a time I was feeling great, very optimistic and sure that I was out of the tunnel finally...I always wanted to do teather and never did because of the anxiety, but I finally felt confident that I could.
So I tried...went to the first lesson...and after the first few exercises, which I found extremely hard because of how vulnerable they made me feel...I blanked out, mind empty... started crying, then had a panic attack, first one after years... then a second one after which I gathered my stuff and ran home. There I had my third one.
I was so mortified, I felt so defeated that I couldn't get up for days. Years of therapy felt like fresh paint that washed off like nothing, and I was broken.
" There's no better. There is no cure. This is who I am." Those words are exactly what I told my doctor soon after, but I will thank her for eternity for proving me wrong!
I never got completely rid of my social anxiety, but I did learn to manage it better, and it has made my life a lot easier.
This whole story of Queen Charlotte and King George really warmed my heart and hit me right in the feels. As for a spot or person for me that would be "under the bed", I'd say for me, that's always been a relationship with God and Jesus Christ. I've not always been able to open up to people (still struggling with it, but working on it) and to share a vulnerable side of myself so talking to God who already knows my heart is comforting. When my grandfather (who had a large part in raising me) passed away 4 years ago, I took it very hard and moved away from my "under the bed" refuge and felt very, very alone. Remembering that isolating feeling is important to kind of remind myself that it's not weak of me to need to lean on God or those around me, and much like Charlotte wants to be there for George, there are also people who want to be there for me too; all I have to do is let them. So yeah, that was my long-winded way of saying my "under the bed" person is more spiritual but I'm working on letting someone close to me emotionally to also be that person.
If nobody's told you yet today, you're loved, you're worthy of that love and you are exactly where you need to be
This hit really hard. When you asked who is your safe person/ under the bed person I burst into tears. For me it was my grandmother. She passed in 2019. I could literally tell her anything. She never judged me and loved me unconditionally. I've since turned to therapy and also had to become my own under the bed person. It's hard some days but I make video journals and seek therapy when I desperately need support. Thank you for showing how we can become that person for ourselves.
I didn't realize until now, I no longer have an under the bed place and I have been abandoning myself as my under the bed person. I want to work on being better at that.
I came to this series late. I saw one of your other reviews and sat down to finally watch Queen Charlotte 👸🏽. I LOVED the series. Beautiful story telling.
I would love it if you could look at NBCs new show called Found. There's some interesting things going on in that show. It's about a woman who starts a firm who looks for missing people who aren't covered in the media. The main character is motivated by the fact that she was abducted as a teen and held for a year only to have to rescue herself. But the twist is that she finds him when as an adult and is holding him captive in her basement. I would love for you to review their dynamic.
I just love that Charlotte meets George where he is
Damn it I haven't even watched the show and I ended up crying and sobbing, it's so sad and beautiful, I want to experience a love like that
There's a couple of things I do when I'm overwhelmed, about to have a panic attack, or when I'm unable to fall asleep. I find a quiet corner or a comfy chair after I grab my crochet hook my yarn and my pattern and just start counting stitches.
I don’t really have a “under the bed person”. However, I do have an “under the bed” place, which is the forest, I just feel safest there, or inside of my closet if there are no forests.
I think this place and this person doesn’t have to be the same every time! Last time I had a very rough emotional episode I got out of a bad place by writing a long text about where I am emotionally and posting it on my private channel! Didn’t know I could be my own under-the-bed person, but turns out I can, it actually made me feel better! usually I’d talk to my best friend, but this time I couldn’t for an important reason. And I feel more and more that if I don’t give love and acceptance to myself, then nobody can really help me, I’m proud that I’m taking steps towards being my own comforting person )
Thanks for sharing this. I've also turned into my under the bed person. I make video journals and talk to myself. I post privately to myself also. I haven't posted on awhile but I still make my videos.
@@Celery459 such an interesting format of keeping journal! Thanks for sharing it too^^🤲🏻
What a lovely video. 😊
For the safe space, that would be the bathroom with any book alone. Helps decompress after a long day at work or doing errands.
My under the bed place is a camping tent in the middle of nowhere. I love the sound of rain hitting the tent. I feel safe and protected there. It blocks out the noises of my mind.
This makes me cry each time.
that ending scene always makes me cry even after seeing it so many times and knowing the words, it gets me every single time
I haven’t actually watched all of Queen Charlotte yet but after seeing these clips I’m definitely going to finish it. I think my under the bed place is just my bedroom in general because it’s comfortable and safe and I don’t need to be anyone but myself.
And now I'm crying again. Love that ending under-the-bed scene.
I’m learning to be my own “under the bed person”. I still turn to others for emotional support when it’s needed, but I’m done with all the years of self-loathing I wasted my life on. I just want to feel good and be happy, and I want to be able to love myself. Anyway, loved the video, keep up the good work 👍
This series was amazing! My under the bed person is my late husband, my best friend. He may be gone but no one can take him away from me.
I loved these scenes with them. It does take its toll on her, and other relationships. But that she does not "go over the wall" to escape at any point is so, so beautiful. While I never tried to actually go over the wall, or have gone under the bed with my spouse, I know the strength as well as the difficulty and emotional pain that takes, and where you do give up other things to be able to be there for them.
I love how you summed the Charlotte's situation at the end. It's beautiful, and as someone who is there own someone, it made me feel valid. Thank you.
I loved watching this series for the way it portrayed mental illness and the impact of severe mental illness on a relationship. My brother has bipolar disorder with psychosis and we could never as a family get him to get treatment consistently. Paranoia made him fear me and my sisters. My mother felt responsible and my father thought that this was weakness that he could just decide to jettison if he really wanted to. It was only after he self medicated with street drugs to bring himself out of a manic psychotic episode and ended up with a brain injury that we could finally help him. Now he has the best life possible with the right medication and loving support from his sisters and one of his brother’s in law but at what a cost. We need to find better ways to deal with mental illness in our society.
My “under the bed place”, is in the shower. I have secondary depression and anxiety and sometimes I get overwhelmed with stress and emotions. I find taking a break, taking a breath and having a shower really helps. I allows me to not think about anything, it helps me feel warm, the only sound is the water, I can lock myself away from everyone and everything and be alone. It helps me to ground myself when I am in an emotional, depressive or anxious state as well as helping to remind myself that I am ok, that I am allowed to have these feelings, and that whatever is going on in my life isn’t going to cause any world ending harm. So I guess my “under the bed person” is myself, treating myself as I would my best friend. And I would gladly give that advice to anyone, talk to yourself just like you would if your friend was in your situation. That they (you) are aloud to feel upset, they (you) will get through it and will find happiness again. Live your best life my friends! ❤
I've found my "under the bed" person, and he actually helped me get better when I was down, not by himselt tho. I started my therapy two months before we started dating and it was a long, sometimes hard process, I had a lot of work in it but his patience and empathy clearly helped a lot in it. With him I had the experience of safety and affection that I struggled to believe in. I am so released to have this video because his workplace just moved out of the city we live in, so I literally have the situation when your "under the bed" person is only there for you in half (or less or 2 out of 5) of the times, it is hard and impossible without self-love and resilience but love and support survives it! I really needed this video, it helped me to not feel alone with this problem and cry a bit by myself, for myself.... I'm probably just very emotional because I'm too tired to function (I struggle with sleeping alone) but this show lights the process, thank you mended light☀️💖🌺
This seen is so beautiful that I SOBBED the first time I watched it. Watching it back, I’m still crying. The acceptance and unconditional love is just so beautiful.
My partner is my “under the bed person”. He doesn’t always know what to say, but he’s always there for me 🥰
I’d be interested to see him breakdown Meredith and Christina from Grey’s Anatomy. They’re each other’s “under the bed” person
This! My sister and I both hid under the bed whenever my parents used to fight. To me, it's such a realistic place to go hide from problems.
My 'under the bed' place is my desk, it's a corner desk, with a view of my enclosed backyard. I have my laptop, I have my books, and my notebooks as well. I can turn my back on the world, and just sit in the corner and let my racing mind go blank. And when I'm at my worst, when i've spent too much time there, hiding, my best friend just has this prenatural sense, I swear, she comes in, and sits on the bed across my desk and talks to me. Just about random stuff, until whatever I've been repressing just comes out. And she'll listen to me while I'm finally talking/crying about all the things that are bugging, all the things I pretend aren't bugging me and don't matter, and she tells me my feelings are valid, and then gives me terrible advice. I love her, but her advice is terrible. Heck, maybe she does it on purpose to make me laugh. Either way, her support, or even just knowing that no matter what I have her support, makes life a little easier for me to bear when I'm in my dark place.
This is a fantastic series, thank you for therapizing Queen Charlotte, would you be willing to look into Lady Danbury across the main series and her youth in Queen Charlotte?
My safe place (with myself) is out in the woods surrounded by trees and a stream nearby, where I don’t hear any cars or peoples noises. Just me and the grandness of nature. I related to this series a lot, especially during this past summer when my fiancé had a very long and terrible bipolar manic episode, something I had never seen before and was not prepared for. I felt lost, angry, sad, helpless, and I found myself alone for almost four months. I would go and see him after weeks, only to be turned away like Charlotte was when she went to see George in his observatory. I filled my days, filled with trying to come up ways to help while also keeping myself from falling apart. Closer to the end, when he stopped pushing me away, I latched on and took control of the situation, and became his safe person as he fought his demons until they all left for good. These four and a half months taught me strength and resilience and showed me how much stronger I was capable of loving, even though 99% of the time I was alone. Mental illness is no easy feat, but it’s possible to endure even the hardest most crippling of times. He has told me I’m his safe place many times, that I ground him, and I’m glad he’s aware that he cannot be my safe place when he isn’t well. We all need to take care of ourselves even if we have a safe person.
I am remarkably lucky. My under the bed person is my adult daughter. We have worked hard these past 44 years, the full span of her life, forging that relationship, overcoming mental illness on both sides, but more importantly a shared illness and chronic pain. We are both zebras in that we have a very rare genetic disease that we share. To have given birth to my soulmate, my best friend, seems impossible, scandalous almost, and yet powerful and breathtakingly fortunate. I fear when I pass which will be soon, I am comforted in knowing that her under the bed person other than myself is her husband, her soulmate, and as well as her best friend that lives nearby. So I know that these two people will be there under the bed with her when I am gone. People these days often find themselves alone and suffering from loneliness. Finding your under the bed person is even more important these days than it ever has been before.
I wonder if Alan cried as hard as I did at this scene 😭
Awww. That was sooo beautiful!
I'm literally my own "in my bed" person. Bed is cosy, warm, soft and safe and full of thick blankets and some emotional support stuffed animals that I've kept since childhood. Most importantly, as a person with AD(H)D brain + physical challenges, bed is the place where can ca concentrate in my internal live, without having to worry about physical damage 😅. Aka no bruises or pulled muscles and the likes, cause I was too hyper-focused internally, to monitor what my physical body is up to!
Thank you so much for your work... Under my bed there would be a horse I guess 😅 Connection with animals rarely requires words ao your mind calms down and you finally get to hear your own thoughts❤
I love when George says "Edward is going to be a father?" with joy all over his face. Charlotte is preoccupied with ensuring a clear, long line of succession (understandably so-- the whole country's future depended on it), that she has set aside any personal joy about her son becoming a parent. George, on the other hand, has relied on Charlotte and their children as his anchor, so he is overjoyed one of his children will get to experience that.
(To be fair, Charlotte may also not care about Edward being a dad because he has already fathered children, or that George is amazed because he cannot keep track of time/how old his children are. But I prefer to think that George is excited that his son will get to experience fatherhood)
I often vent to myself about my problems and talk about struggles to myself. I used to do it because I had no one to talk and my conversations with myself were usually imagined conversations with people I wanted to talk to. I did it so much that when people talked about going to the person you share everything thing with it made me feel weird because I was alone and didn’t have anyone to talk to but sometimes I wouldn’t feel alone or I would for a moment forget that I didn’t have person I went to. Now I do have people I talk to friend’s, family, and my therapist. I still imagine conversations with people and talk to myself when I am alone though. I always thought it was weird and sad that I would just talk to myself and share my struggles and problems in my imagined conversations and I thought it was a bad thing. Until I saw this. When you talked about being our own under the bed person I realized that I was my own under the bed person. You made me realize that what I do is ok and not something to worried or ashamed of. Thank you.
My room is my safe space. For a large part of my childhood I shared a living space my mom and brother. I finally have my own room and even my own bathroom. I express self love through my skin and nail care routine. When I was younger I bit my nails all the time and got so frustrated when my nail polish was messed up so I didnt paint them for a long time. I broke the habit and can finally paint my nails without that anger I had.
I was diagnosed with a neurological condition a year ago. I wasn’t treating my brain fairly while I was living alone. I was in a bad place mentally and drinking heavily. My mother almost forced me to move in with her and she’s helped me quit drinking and helped me get on a regular medication schedule.
I❤ Bridgeton & Queen Charlotte (This Prequel Show!)
My under the bed place is my childhood shower. Sadly it doesn't exist anymore. I used to spend ages standing under hot water, thinking or singing or not thinking. My new shower is a bath tub and I don't like it very much. But I hope that I can make it better with some upgrades. My under the bed person is my boyfriend. He's supported me through depression and OCD. It was a time where I also couldn't be 100% his partner because I didn't feel happiness and I didn't feel love and he still chose to stay because he knew they were there somewhere. It's amazing when you find that person
My 'under the bed' is me laying on the floor listening to music. Sometimes getting up and just dancing with the songs if needed.
God is my under the bed person….my perfect loving father when my human relationships are failing….he will always be there for anyone who needs him and i know he will never fail me
I don’t think I’ve found my under the bed place, yet. Hopefully one day. Dressing up, dressing well, that does help, I guess mine atm are items not a place.
What's your opinion on what we see of her parenting methods in the scenes with her children? Especially the one where she gives her third son William advice on love and marriage minutes before he gets married?
QC and KGIII had a great plan for their children that got derailed by the time, energy, and disruption of his mental illness.
My “under bed person” is my cat. He is always there for me and senses when I have bad days with my mental health.
I go to quiet spaces where I can just be alone. I do it at work, I do it at home, at school, everywhere, everyday. That’s where I can breathe again and let the tension roll off so I can face the day.
I thought I was done sobbing over this series and this scene 😭😭😭
“Be your own anchor.” -Melissa McCall.
Me, sobbing, this Video is my under the bed 😭♥️
My under the bed is literally under the covers it’s gonna sound sad …. More than likely pathetic but I stick all my stuffed animals under the covers arrange them in a circle so they form a wall with a gap for me to lay in the middle and I literally pull the covers over so it looks like a roof or den I tend to do that when anxiety gets the better of me or I’m in a dark place , can relate to George this has hit on a very sore point for me I wanna thank you for your encouragement for me and others to open up Jono 😢☮️💚💔
A plushie fort is the opposite of lame! You have an army of cuddle to support you 💗💗
@@KCallia I completely agree with you =^_^= I never had friends growing up got bullied a lot I saw my plushy’s as friends , they never judged me , always listened and good for hugs , and wiping tears away when your sad of upset , rare qualities I’ve never found in human friends but those qualities I’ve found in animal friends pets and stuffies plushy’s kinda sad I know ….. =;^;=
I agree my stuffed animals were there for me when no one else was.
@@natalie8472 I’m glad I’m not alone :)
My safe space used to be the boiler cupboard where I really couldn't fit. X'D I would hide in there if there was a knock on the door or something similar unexpected. I must have looked absolutely ridiculous, lol! Now I know I can choose not to answer and I feel safe enough to actually do it most of the time, with my dog alongside.
My husband IS my husband because first he was my under the bed person. And my under the bed place is in a sunbeam, on the couch, by our front.
And I am in a similar ish situation, though roles reversed. When I went out to convince my friend to be my now husband I did not have the numerous medical issues I have now. I took run into the head space of encouraging him to leave, for his happiness, but he does not climb the wall...he stays. It's hard though, feeling like I lied to him, even though neither of us were aware of current issues. But all I want is for him to be happy.
I do my best.
I think it's basically agreed now that George had some form of bipolar but that he also suffered from dementia later in life.
When I saw the Saprea commercial, just having watched you guys for awhile, I wondered whether the organization might be connected to Tim Ballard somehow, so I looked into the company. I’m happy to say they seem to be opposed to the narrative Ballard presents about how child s trafficking occurs and are working to provide real support and solutions to the vast majority of cases of CSA. And I’m sure they would be opposed to the very many horrific and serious allegations against him right now. I just thought I would post this in case others are wondering about it.
My under the bed was a fifth floor balcony situated at the junction of five roads.It was such a free space that it calm down my mind.Unfortunately that balcony is gone, so is my peace of mind. My under the bed person will be one of my cousin, myself and TH-cam, your channel and cinema therapy included.I try to draw strength to be empathetic to others and try to see thir point of view or in general pov that is unlike mine, to see if there is something that I can do to play the situations differently.Some times it, works some times doesn't. But, meanwhile, I get to grow a bit and sometimes that's enough. I am a huge procrastinator. So, this pushes help me sometime
Please make a video about the TV show Fringe.
Loved this video! But nothing showed up when you pointed at the end
My under the bed place was the stables and my under the bed person was "my" horse ❤
Then I moved away from home and now I am trying to find such a place again
In moments where I am completely overstimulated (when I feel like every sensory input is just to much to a level that light, sounds, smells etc seem to physically hurt) , my safe place is in my bedroom (shutters down), lying in my bed, half on the side, beyes closed and my forehead down on the mattrass. Sometimes I rub my front head up and down on it, because these moments tend to come with headaches and that helps a little.
About feeling panicky, I have yet to find a place to help me then....
I had panick attacks as teenager in school. Then I would lock myself in toilet cabin. The problem was that I got more and more panicky, being afraid to come out again and face the strange looks. Then time passed, and when the bell rang for the next school lesson, the other students would have left, but going to my class too, arriving late... impossible. So I wanted to flee home, but I knew my mother would be terribly angry and my sister pick on me about it (again). She would also yell on me on the phone when I called her from the toilet in despair. Some terrible memories. Most of all the feeling of it... I haven't even watched the series, but George is so lucky to have someone at his side in this hell of a situation. And in his life. And damn can I relate to him feeling like he does not deserve that.
I don't have an "under the bed person" I'm afraid, neither is this myself... I'm pretty alone after all. I bought myself an 24inch doll a few years ago. Not quite a real reborn one (I could never afford one of those), but really cute. She's a girl named Shaya and she gets cuddled and kissed a lot when I feel the need to.
I am in therapy though, but the talks with my psychiatrist are usually once a week and sheduled. The only emergency possibility for me would be a hotline that has been vakant due to organisatory problems since about november (yes, I know because I tried a few times over the christmas/year's end holidays). And it's the only one.
I'm not doing well, but it's okay.
My under-the-bed place is in my online game 😅 I live in a house full of abusive and vitriol so I have no physical escape just yet, so I play my game and live in a different world completely 😅 my friends there cheer me up when needed and I can live in peace on there
I am the George in my situation, and am grateful to have my husband who deals with my nonsense.
These clips are heart wrenching. So beautiful.
But, what if my under the bed person is gone. My husband was only one who saw and accepted all of me. And he has now been in heaven for 9 months..
People have made comments before about how either sad and lonely OR great and healthy is (depends on the person), that my 'under the bed person' is me. Long story short: since my teens I've been afraid of my emotional well-being being reliant exclusively on other people or just external sources. I make it a priority to feel happy and healthy and validated just for being me.
Now as an adult my 'under the bed place' has basically turned into my whole apartment. I've always wanted to be able to host friends and family for meals and stuff: but I feel safer when my space is wholly MY SPACE. I don't have to shove all my messiness (figurative and sometimes literal) into even one room or one corner. This CAN sometimes turn into unhealthy self-isolation, but I've made a point to develop coping skills and habits that keep me out there and not alone.
Don't worry though: I've got friends who see and accept me :)
Omgg I’m dead I always cry at this scene
Ever thought of doing 'One Piece'? The anime and the live action? I think you'd find a lot of things to talk about there - optimism, confidence, bravery to go for what you want, feeling like you owe someone your life, wondering if you deserved to have been born at all, working through grief and loss, being a chronic liar, basing your life on a promise, loneliness, guilt, your beliefs vs the people you care about, knowing when to walk away and when to fight, what's the line between tough love and physical abuse, trauma, gaslighting, determination to go through with a decision/dream no matter what else is going on around you.
We have all of that in the anime, and in one season of the live action we've seen a third of that so far with other seasons to tell show us the rest. I'd love to get your opinion on the characters throughout the seasons.
Yeah...I don't have an under the bed person and I can't be my under the bed person all the time. Not even half the time. But, I'm still going.
Not me crying AGAIN! 😢
Interestingly I am very lucky person and I have three such happy calm places. One with my partner in our couch and cozy blanket, one with my best friend in his or my car and one by myself curled up with my favourite books.
I loved this series even though I didn't really enjoy the original Brighton series.
my under-the-bed place is the labyrinth at a City park.... haven't found my under-the-bed person......... yet!
Goddamit, just watching the snippets makes me cry.
My under the bed place is on the back of my horse. Sounds strange but I have terrible anxiety and the only time my mind lets me be at peace is when I sit in that saddle and it's just me and my boy. And my horse has this way of knowing that if I cant decide where to go, he makes the decision for me and always gets me home safe (proven as I had a concussion and forgot how to get home but he got me home anyway!) for once I don't have to be the one to make all the decisions. My heart horse has got me. Never left my side when I had a nasty fall (not his fault) I think ive realised that he is my under the bed person too🤭🤍
This series set my expectations back onto a healthy level.
Where I would go for peace is on my roof. Not that I recommend that. It's just in a familiar place (well... ON. Because... my roof.) and I get to look at the stars. Sometimes it's a good game to see how many meteors I can spot while looking, listening to some music. It's a great getaway. AGAIN. Don't--go onto your roof unless you used to be a curious child like me. (
She doesn’t see George as a man lost in his psychosis 3/4 of the time…. She sees the man she married … ❤
I was hoping you’d do those scenes.
I have BPD, depression, anxiety, CPTSD. I go to therapy and have made great strides, but there are days, times, situations where I am not my best. Where I’m so emotionally unstable that I am not functional for myself or my partners.
I write. I take myself away into my fantasy worlds where I can explore and work through what’s happening in ways that feel safe and cathartic. When it’s too overwhelming for even that, I grab a blanket and crawl into my closet because it’s warm, dark, small, and there’s almost no stimulation.
I listen to soft music, or a meditation video to help stop my panic attack and sleep, to give myself a chance to calm down and process.
Right now I’m trying to be my own support person. I have people who have offered, but I’m in a place where I would rather deal with those things on my own, and my partners help me return to ordinary life when I’ve come out.
To just see me for the man they love and allow me to return and do my best even though I may have needed a few hours to wrestle my demons.
crying 😢
I don’t cry at shows or movies okay, like literally ever. That being said, this show makes me sob like a fucking baby every single time. Can’t even watch a reaction video of it 😂😭
My under the bed person is actually not a person but my dog
I think my safe space is the floor in our kitchen directly in front of the oven. There everything is better
My spot is the toilet. Always and forever
My under the bed place is definitely “in my sleep”
I don't know that I have an under-the-bed-place, but I do have a person and that is my sister. When life gets to be too much we can hang on the phone for literal hours, talking about video games and tv shows or fantasizing about moving abroad together and having some goats lol
Hey, Jono! Could you do a video on Sanditon? It has 3 seasons, but it is an amazing and short-lenght TV show! When it comes to marriages I believe Tom and Mary Parker have a beautiful marriage. I would love to hear your opinion on that subject.