I’m an Introvert and Lonely. What’s Your Advice?
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- I’m an Introvert and Lonely. What’s Your Advice?
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So many people are going through this. It took a lot of courage for him to call in!
This pandemic has made me more annoyed with people. I have more fun with myself and my cat most times. Nothing to be ashamed about.
Me too 😚😁 ... Love being at home ... My cat is amazing .. we play ball together 😊🐱
Right on.
Friendliest comment about women with cats 😺 I have ever seen by far 😊.
Your comment could be taken the wrong way; hope you're not filming it. 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
I used to be very extroverted but as I’ve gotten older I’ve definitely turned into an introvert! The more people I meet, the more I love my dog lol
I consider myself an extroverted introvert. I love hanging out with my friends and family, and I kinda like the mingling when I travel. For the most though, I prefer large chunks of time at home by myself.
Same.
It’s OK to be an introvert. Just marry another introvert like I did lol. Sometimes we never even speak to each other - it’s nice and peaceful here and we both like it that way. We are about to celebrate our 33rd anniversary.
Never even speak to each other?
Sounds like the perfect relationship to me lol
@@leojohnwayne1422 at an engineering college lol - we are both engineers as is our son.
@@oneontheinternet of course, but not a lot of chitchat:)
Could be a solution but how to find another introvert to marry? If they are introverts, they won't be exposed somewhere, right?
I almost always have to push myself to get out and get exercise and/or socialize with people. I found a meet-up group that hikes (killing two birds with one stone, exercising snd interacting with people) and a lot of those people have become like family members to me.
Being an introvert has many rewards that extroverts never realize
What kind of advantages？
@@Melly16yr10
1. We're able to spot b.s from a mile away
2. Our lives are virtually drama free and we like it that way
3. A lot of introverts are usually empaths
4. We don't have a problem being in our own company for too long
5. A lot of us are creative
Social media extrovert, face to face introvert. Simple. Introverts are very good at being Social media butterflies because you can turn off the phone/computer and regroup.
Same
guess what, social media is not real....delete it and get on with real life.
It's nice to see there are so many introverts. As a kid I felt there was something wrong with being an introvert, but now that I'm older, being an introvert is nothing to be ashamed of. This is especially true in the science and tech related fields that I work in.
Easy answer: try beekeeping. Thousands of the cutest little girls that all want to kill me, and actively are trying to do that. They are so adorable. Bees are such better company than most people. Only other bad thing is that they are always singing songs, but they never know the words, so they just 'hum' the lines. (but seriously, beekeeping is a wonderful hobby that is used to treat everything from depression to PTSD)
I’m dealing with this I get excited and make plans then get anxiety as day get closer.
Many people are going through this! Including me! Thanks for the help. I need to show up! Everybody just show up!
Being an introvert has its perks.
I used to leave work everyday hours early. No one ever noticed and I never got fired.
he withdrew from social life because of a breakup. doesn't sound like introversion to me. sounds like depression.
You are who you are. Love yourself and find someone like you
I'm a fake extrovert. I learned how to be one from trauma to sales, so, basically, my whole life.
It's funny, I feel my body turning it on. Whenever I'm in a relationship people can't even believe it and that's usually why they end.
I can be the life of the party better than 99% of people , the center of gravity on bar stool conversation... But it's not natural it feels like running, it's not walking. I can't do it for a while, but not all the time.
sounds like you are not true to yourself 😢
You should really just be yourself then the people meant for you will gravitate toward you
I'd rather feel a pang of loneliness than be forced to socialise. 😂
U and me both
Yes. I think a lot of us would rather spend time with our dogs. I think he might like to meet people at a dog park . Those people are usually nice.
I’m an introvert but that’s just because people scare me and being by myself is nice
I really love the quiet time. You can do more without distractions from other people.
I was told by a Doctor that there's help for people like me.🙄
😂😂😂
Too many confuse being antisocial (and grief) with introversion. We like having friends. We just run out of social battery sooner. If he's an introvert, he can socialize his way by hanging out on one or in small groups, rather than big large settings (unless you love the event).
We are also particular about the types of friends we keep. Certain personality types irks us, lol!
I think you mean asocial, not actually antisocial.
I’m introverted too... I get severe hot flashes when in public settings and especially being put on the spot. It’s hard because I want to get married but meeting men is so hard for me. Would love to connect to this guy if he creates such community.
I'm the kind who would go to a party and make friends with the dog.
Same
The "curse" of being an introvert. You want to go to the party. But after a short period, you'd rather go home and be by yourself again. People drain me SO fast, especially the wrong type of people. Finding someone that I can be around without getting drained is almost impossible. The search continues......
This was a great question and segment.
I am an introvert, I got over it thankfully and got a wife now, but I do rather spend time at home with my wife than go out with friends. Maybe I have another kind of problem xD
co-dependency?
I find that when you turn down invites they stop inviting you, which makes sense since you're essentially rejecting them.
I always tell myself to not turn down an invite unless I genuinely can't make it.
Think of it as showing up for yourself and it'll hold you accountable to yourself.
But what if people are constantly inviting you to any old rubbish that you're not interested in?!
I'd rather people make the effort to learn who I am (likes/dislikes) and only invite me somewhere if they think I'd have a genuine interest in going to that place.
E.g. A few years ago I befriended a woman who lived round the corner from me. She was highly extroverted and quite a free spirit. She was always looking for somewhere to go, and would go anywhere for the sake of getting out of the house (that is SO not me). I was constantly turning down her invites because she was inviting me to places I'd never go (e.g. pantomimes, concerts by singers/genres I've never heard of etc). When I realised that she would never understand my need to only go places I'm interested in (because I'm never actually looking for reasons to get out of the house), I told her that we can remain friends, but I'll be the kind of friend who will go out for meals with you, and go on long walks.... that's it, lol!
I find that I'm introverted cause it's better than running crazy trying to find something to fill the void of loneliness.
I'd rather sit in a corner. Drink my mocha. Study, write, read, play games and watch videos.
But I'm totally extroverted. When I want to be. I can be at the center of a dance stage showing off a new dance move with an instructor. Just like the best of them.
I’m thankful I have the opportunity to feel loneliness.
I'm interested why you might feel that way
The human existence is fickle
I agree with you - loneliness goes against our natural desire to cohabit and be close to others. It’s good to practice.
@@dashingmay because I was in a toxic relationship for 5 years and I was robbed of solitude but provided zero companionship. So now that I’m finally single and the loneliness starts to get to me I remember how miserable I was when I had to share my life with someone. So there’s tremendous comfort I find in the loneliness, of course I’m not perfect at it I still yearn for human interaction at times but I’m so much happier now that I’m free from my previous living situation.
@@Vizio_Foreign how so?
I think a serious question he needs to ask himself is whether he’s actually introverted or whether he’s socially lazy. This is the realization I had to make with myself. I realized I had placed mental barriers on myself to be social, great on conversation, talking to everyone, etc. I simply wanted someone else to break through it for me. A great way to know that is judging how you’d respond when out in public and someone strikes a conversation with you. Do you get excited? If they asked about your interest, would you happily respond? I knew I would, but I never wanted to put in the work to get myself into those kinds of conversations. So as a result, I was very unapproachable and quite frankly unmemorable to other people. Which is why I was so consistently left to myself so many times. I confused that for being introverted when in reality, I just needed to socially disciplined a little bit more.
I'm with this dude....I'll take my 2 dogs over humans any day!!!.....LOLOLOL
Lol same
I'm glad I came across your content 😌
Go out , but dont be too hard on yourself if you don’t go once in a while , it takes strength
So can relate, have a job dealing with public have grown to hate people and find em exhausting yet its unnatural to be alone.
That was great advice, thank you! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I got tired of people calling me quiet so I just start being more of an initiator/conversation starter..
The hardest thing is to move into a new country where you don’t speak their language on top of that you are extremely introvert, this make things even harder to make friends. I hate this feeling but people never know how this feeling is consuming me
I lived abroad longterm when I was barely 18, I know exactly how you feel. It is incredibly difficult & lonely. Just hang in there. And don't pressure yourself to have some big exotic adventure. The things you find that sustain you & being peace, even small things, stick to them.
I’m in the same boat, try meet up, i met my partner there
I needed this.
When he misunderstood John’s question 🤣🙃
@Neverhadbefore why not have a sense of humor? Lol it was funny bro
@Neverhadbefore it was a cute misunderstanding. I think it was funny too.
I took it not as a misunderstanding but attempt at joke. 😉
THAT WAS AWESOME. PRACTICE
This is easier in normal life, but my area is still in hardcore lockdown with no end in sight. Hanging out with anyone is a crime now a days.
people are hanging out; they're just inviting you.
Introvert here to 😊
There’s a difference between being an introvert and being traumatized. A lot of introverts are traumatized and don’t know it.
Great message. So true
.... so true
I totally get this caller. We may have been separated at birth.
Be a Yes man 😁
Introvert vs extrovert is not so much about being outgoing. It is more about your energy level. Introverts need time for themselves to recharge. Extroverts get charged up from the social interactions. And even then it is a spectrum, you are not 100% I or E.
Lots of people have signs of depression because of the pandemic. First step is to be conscious of your thoughts. Cognitive therapy can do wonders.
As I get older, I find myself rather be home alone. I'm just tired of people's nonsense, and we're told to accept people as they are. But people don't necessarily do the same with me. Always telling me how I should be. But I never tell people the same.
I like his sense of humor. 8-)
Wow I have never related to something so much in my life
I want the same thing 😟but doing is hard when I don’t go i feel the Loneness is always within me .
I’m an introvert and a loner - plus I love non human animals more. All I’d like is have friends who accept me for me and I’ll accept them as them, but we go to concerts or to the movies or for a walk together. We talk if we feel like it, or one side talks, or both quiet together? That’s fine too.
i'm confuse at some point i remember he'd say do not go out if you do not feel like it guilt over resentment, but on this he said just go out and do it, even for an hr..!🤔
I think it’s funny how John and his buddies do this self deprecating talk about themselves and each other but as a joke.
He sure made it not sound like just get out there, by saying just get out there,
I’m introvert to the point my wife has to make call for any of my appointments I hate it I don’t know how to change I almost starting to give up
I have about 2 friends left, and I’m totally cool with it. It’s not because people don’t like me. I get asked to hangout with work friends. I just don’t. I wonder if something it wrong with me
Yip.
As long as you're happy there is absolutely NOTHING wrong...and don't let anyone tell you different.
If you've got 2 good friends, you're fortunate.
John, you don't seem to be an introvert based on your podcast and speaking at events. Could you elaborate?
There are quite a few public people that are still introverts. I can't see him being a total introvert. He might be an in-betweener that leans a bit to introversion. Though I wonder sometimes, because it seems to be cool to say you're an introvert these days. I find people that aren't introverts at all claiming to be one, just because they need some alone time.
does johns hair look grey
He could be an ambivert
Introverts are like yeah, but no.
John is clueless
7:00 delony show
Im an introvert love not having to kiss as$
Why is being a social justice warrior/ wanting equal rights and justice being painted as something bad?!
I can tell you why from my observation. All of the SJW I know are all talk and no action, unless it makes them look good or gain them social brownie points. The biggest one I know posts all the “right” things on social media but does NOTHING to actually make a positive change. She gets a dopamine hit from looking righteous. In fact, she lost one long term friend from saying something racist.
Lol sorry to laugh 0:31
Introverts are like yeah, but no.
Introverts are like yeah, but no.
Introverts are like yeah, but no.