FIVE COMMON MISTAKES PEOPLE DO IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT ALWAYS ENDS IN BREAK UP - FEMI LAZARUS

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  • FIVE COMMON MISTAKES PEOPLE DO IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT ALWAYS ENDS IN BREAK UP - FEMI LAZARUS
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  • @helenogom8183
    @helenogom8183 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    1, impatience and haste.
    Go slow while in the relationship so it will last. Get to know them, study their values, observe them, take your time, evaluate their personality and don’t forget to take your time with them unless you like pain(then you can go fast).
    2, over rating people
    Study people and don’t over expect. Be careful of premature validation. If you want to live long be careful of your expectations…Beware of people who might want to take advantage of your small season... Do not allow anyone to possess you. They are people who don’t like you, they only need your validation. Take your time to study and relate with people and also be smart while at it.
    3, Underrating people
    You can’t sum people by the season you met them in, some are in their last phase of being small. Don’t leave a man who is in the last phase of his smallness for a Man who is in the last phase of his greatness, you will REGRET it.
    4, Assumption
    Never assume people’s intention until they say it. And even after they say it observe their actions to further understand the truth which they may not say with their lips. Never assume they intend to go far till they say it. Always value the moment with people for times change.
    5, communication
    People communicate what they don’t mean and fail to communicate what they mean. Be open to speak your mind and always clear the air.
    6,
    7,

    • @ijjns66
      @ijjns66 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you

    • @sochiwisdom2898
      @sochiwisdom2898 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Are these the point he made?

  • @MsDestinydiva
    @MsDestinydiva 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    This man is so smart he softens with humor and hits with hard truth amen

  • @stellaekwubiri7577
    @stellaekwubiri7577 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    Don't leave a man who is at the end stage of his small season for a man who is at the end stage of his big season. This hit differently

    • @folasadeolajuyin4629
      @folasadeolajuyin4629 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      True. Very true. It struck me in a different way.

    • @odinakachukwunweke9466
      @odinakachukwunweke9466 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Nice

    • @josephademola8494
      @josephademola8494 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's really deep! And it takes a lady with great discernment to detect this but I also pray after detecting that greed & selfish interest will not override it

    • @swirlsbox
      @swirlsbox 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      What if it’s the other way round?

  • @ogunmolugift8549
    @ogunmolugift8549 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    "Study people and do not over except" 👌Man will always be man.

  • @damiakinlaja6164
    @damiakinlaja6164 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +77

    1) Impatience and haste (Take your time. Study their orientation. Observe. Evaluate their personality. Don’t get too excited that you forget to take your time. Except you love pain sha)
    2) Overrating. They assume people’s character should be based on their tongues. Or your perceived character of them. Be emotionally smart. Be careful of immature validation. Don’t forget their humanity. If you plan to do this for long you just minimize chances for offense.
    BTW: Be careful of people who want to take advantage of your small season. (People can be of help. But don’t let them posses you)
    3) Mistake of Underrating someone
    4) Mistake of assumption
    5) Communication issue.
    Side note: Remember some people don’t like you they just need your validation.

    • @Choice_Omorigbe
      @Choice_Omorigbe 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you was helpful

    • @vja9990
      @vja9990 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      They don't only need validation but "help". They've seen your kind personality and potentials and want to exploit them qhile hiding in the name of love.

    • @Triple_Bii
      @Triple_Bii หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for this summary, you made it easier writing my own note🙏

  • @joyceboluwatife874
    @joyceboluwatife874 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Impatience and haste : take things slowly .
    Observe and study them well evaluate their personality
    2 overeating: some times people and not bad just that u over rate them be careful of inmature or premature validation ....stop over expecting things from people .don’t trust people 100 percent expect humanity to manifest from people
    Be patient 😊
    3 underrating people : don’t leave a man at the last face of his smallness or the one at the last phase of his great ness
    4 mistake of assumption : spell what ever is in ur mind out
    Value the moment u share with people
    5 communications:people either communicate what they don’t mean or refuse to communicate what they mean

  • @OlatunjiFeranmi-pf8zj
    @OlatunjiFeranmi-pf8zj หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    My own question is that
    How do u know God is directing you to someone
    And also when God want u to leave a relationship sir

  • @josephademola8494
    @josephademola8494 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Emotional Intelligence( Emotional smartness). I love this part sir

  • @stellamisomali1990
    @stellamisomali1990 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Such a great message, amen!

  • @anthonyokabor2944
    @anthonyokabor2944 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The Lord is your strength apostle, thanks for your message

  • @SharonEjembi
    @SharonEjembi 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m happy with this preaching

  • @edehcynthia407
    @edehcynthia407 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you Jesus for this message 🙌

  • @obianujunkemabeze
    @obianujunkemabeze 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Your preaching is a bomb,it has really helped me

  • @aloysiusngozi9709
    @aloysiusngozi9709 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This word is personally for me. Thank you sir.

  • @fionalewinson5199
    @fionalewinson5199 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I love this Pastor honesty.

  • @DeborahOmede-jm6ys
    @DeborahOmede-jm6ys 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am blessed. Thank you, sir.

  • @andhijeltu2108
    @andhijeltu2108 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This message has enlightened me and I'm grateful to God for coming across this message ❤

  • @awaniiyanuoluwa2113
    @awaniiyanuoluwa2113 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for this sir. God bless you and your family.

  • @LovableMe137
    @LovableMe137 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is so funny but very helpful! Thank you 😂

  • @Sisi_ojuolape
    @Sisi_ojuolape 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I am blessed
    Thank you Apostle
    The Lord will bless you more with wisdom from above

  • @oluebubefaitholub995
    @oluebubefaitholub995 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I wished i came across this earlier 🥺😞 but i pray God's give me the grace to do right 😢 next time

  • @forkalaurantine8731
    @forkalaurantine8731 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This message just saved a situation. Thank you Sir

  • @jhubtv9431
    @jhubtv9431 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    More grace Pastor Femi
    Greater Grace Sir

  • @chiomastephanieadanma8495
    @chiomastephanieadanma8495 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you sir for these

  • @agankokohappiness7500
    @agankokohappiness7500 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you Jesus ❤
    I love this teaching.
    I will listen to this over and over again till it sticks.

  • @oyewusigbengajoseph4549
    @oyewusigbengajoseph4549 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    When people are in your life for a season, value the season you share...

  • @thusomosia4019
    @thusomosia4019 หลายเดือนก่อน

    👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏Glory to God..Just simple Wisdom.

  • @oviewisdom3083
    @oviewisdom3083 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Everything I got from this message is keep your expectations low in that way you will know how to out do the rest

  • @debbiesclothingmore5721
    @debbiesclothingmore5721 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you sir for this.

  • @thomasTBJ
    @thomasTBJ 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is true..
    Wish I heard this last year.

  • @mercyayomide7149
    @mercyayomide7149 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you very much for this sir

  • @VilmaBaebi
    @VilmaBaebi หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m happy that I’m currently living by all this pastor said.i learnt the hard after my last relationship ended years ago.i had to learn!

  • @modingbongmodi1675
    @modingbongmodi1675 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you JESUS

  • @christianjoseph68
    @christianjoseph68 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    It's what God keeps that is kept
    🔥🔥🔥

    • @DeborahUdoh-oe5ot
      @DeborahUdoh-oe5ot 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Good bless you sir. I'm really bless

  • @olaloyeeniola1522
    @olaloyeeniola1522 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It is what God keeps that is kept...God please bless me with wisdom

  • @simonsonia6667
    @simonsonia6667 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Premature validation
    Emotional intelligence 🙌🙌

  • @emehfrancisca6604
    @emehfrancisca6604 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😢😢kaii..gate man
    I've learnt my lessons
    Thank you Apostle Femi Lazarus 🙏

  • @lindabadu3738
    @lindabadu3738 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you so much for your words I've really learnt a lot ❤

  • @user-hh9cb4rf4i
    @user-hh9cb4rf4i 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you 😊 sir for telling us the truth

  • @IfunanyaIhugba
    @IfunanyaIhugba 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This came in timely💯 Thank you Sir

  • @Okorochinenyenwa
    @Okorochinenyenwa 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you sir... U have been adding value to my life

  • @rosaliadavid3954
    @rosaliadavid3954 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you Sir, I learned something

  • @ogunmolugift8549
    @ogunmolugift8549 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    "Study people and do not over except" 👌

  • @cyprianlydia5374
    @cyprianlydia5374 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    More wisdom sir 👏

  • @EvidenceNyirenda
    @EvidenceNyirenda 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Powerful word ❤

  • @Dammydray
    @Dammydray 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A wise person should analyze this speech bit by bit.... there is so much knowledge in this speech...most of what this speech is all about is what am struggling in my relationship right now.. and trying to make my partner understand the challenges within and how to resolve it

  • @rosaliadavid3954
    @rosaliadavid3954 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you Sir

  • @MsDestinydiva
    @MsDestinydiva 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    9:17 he who pays the dictates chooses the tune amen!

  • @ConsultantZaram
    @ConsultantZaram 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    In relating with people please take your time...be patient

  • @sophiaodion
    @sophiaodion 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Lord pls help to wait on you

  • @okamary8271
    @okamary8271 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ahhhh timely message

  • @EbiBestman
    @EbiBestman 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Lord, grant me wisdom 🙏

  • @MojisolaAribo
    @MojisolaAribo 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Nice talk thanks u sir

  • @jamesgraceene7563
    @jamesgraceene7563 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm blessed Sir

  • @miracleukamaka7336
    @miracleukamaka7336 หลายเดือนก่อน

    God bless you sir

  • @muotohchinelojennifer7679
    @muotohchinelojennifer7679 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you sir 😌😊

  • @user-iw8ue7zo2o
    @user-iw8ue7zo2o 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Ive learnt something today and im glad ive come across this sermon❤️🤚🏾.
    From today it's different 🤚🏾💯

  • @nancymarvelous9566
    @nancymarvelous9566 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Entitlement, Impatience 💯

  • @Sarahpelz98
    @Sarahpelz98 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love this message 😂❤
    Find your bearing

  • @ImmaculatePeters
    @ImmaculatePeters 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Very powerful

  • @gloryyussuf4335
    @gloryyussuf4335 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love you sir
    You have scartered this table sir
    Thanks sir 🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯

  • @samuelejimuofor1432
    @samuelejimuofor1432 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    What happened to the old day of believers seeking for God's direction for a partner and wait on God's direction until he makes it clear on whom the partner is? It seems this generation of young ministers are teaching people to relegate God in their quest to find a spouse and rather depend on their sight, knowing fully well you can only know what someone wants you to know about him/her(some people have dark secrets). If you decide to get too close to an opposite sex the probability of falling into sexual immorality is high. Our forefathers who didn't know God married by asking people close to the individual they want to marry about the person's character and also consult their deities to find out about the family and person. They didn't need to date everyone around them to find out who's compatible, yet their marriage lasted till death and they mostly married as virgins. Why dont we christians return back to consulting God who knows the End even before the beginning to give us our spouse. God gave Eve to Adam, adam didn't need to test her, God still gives spouses if you depend on him

    • @JerryAlumka
      @JerryAlumka หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I wonder the same thing too. Should we focus on discerning who God wants us to marry or should we use our mind to detect based on some pointers?

    • @kingsleyimiefoh899
      @kingsleyimiefoh899 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Our parents consulted deities that weren't God yet their marriage lasted not cuz of their fake gods but because of the efforts made by the man and woman going into marriage. Even if God himself gives u a spouse,if u don't put efforts to make it grow and work,it will fail.

    • @JerryAlumka
      @JerryAlumka หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@kingsleyimiefoh899 But I believe we need to hear from God because marriage is beyond just being happy, it's about destiny and kingdom. If destiny is settled, we can now focus on putting efforts to make it work.
      I pray God gives us more wisdom and direction in life.

    • @samuelejimuofor1432
      @samuelejimuofor1432 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@kingsleyimiefoh899 have you ever witnessed a believer who married a devil disguised as a good person? Haven't you seen ministers who married terrible partners that were used to destroy their ministry? God formed the institution called marriage, and it'll be f00lishness to choose a partner without his leading. Seek for God's direction for a partner, then you both do your own part to make the marriage work.

    • @kingsleyimiefoh899
      @kingsleyimiefoh899 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@JerryAlumka God won't come down to give you answers,however he gives you signs to know that a particular partner will be good for you. We know what we should look out for in his word and also we pray about partners that God should reveal the bad ones or show the intention of people coming your way. When u have people throwing advances that their behaviour doesn't tune with the promises of God in his word to us,you know it ain't it cuz his word can't lie as He is same yesterday,today and forever.

  • @OhwavworuaFaith
    @OhwavworuaFaith หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank u sir ❤

  • @abimbolavictoria2852
    @abimbolavictoria2852 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very true

  • @ugonnaihueze9893
    @ugonnaihueze9893 หลายเดือนก่อน

    They will boo you 😂😂😂😂😂
    Powerful lesson sir❤

  • @Officialmora-kd7ue
    @Officialmora-kd7ue 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Powerful

  • @josephinenyankoon1421
    @josephinenyankoon1421 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    'capital letter tongue ' 😂😂😂😂😂😂this one got me laughing

  • @estheremmanuelsilas3664
    @estheremmanuelsilas3664 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I wish I heard this last week November

  • @Jesssuuusss_.
    @Jesssuuusss_. 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very inspiring❤

  • @Thebranchchanneltv
    @Thebranchchanneltv 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Are there witnesses in the house. . Apostle, this is massive

  • @ireneaneke6567
    @ireneaneke6567 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My Pastor

  • @jenilove8186
    @jenilove8186 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Don't expect too much from people, and don't be impatience and take ur time.

  • @MsDestinydiva
    @MsDestinydiva 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    11:12 no Dey underrate be smart , don’t leave those last stage of greatness for last stage of smallness, don’t judge by how you met them

  • @Reetah23
    @Reetah23 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Please can you be uploading the title of the messages?

  • @MsDestinydiva
    @MsDestinydiva 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    0:05 😂😂😂😂 why is this man so funny , put love in reserve love and why you love em

  • @chizzyorakwue2923
    @chizzyorakwue2923 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Exactly, you are very correct sir

  • @tejiriisaac860
    @tejiriisaac860 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I wish i heard this message before now😢

    • @timilehinmarcus8584
      @timilehinmarcus8584 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s okay it is not to late to change. Trust me ❤ We learn and unlearn 😊

  • @ikenuaonyinye5821
    @ikenuaonyinye5821 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    "Dont get too exicted that you forget to take your time."

  • @MsDestinydiva
    @MsDestinydiva 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    2:40 😂😂😂😂 it’s true oooo stay smart out here

  • @MojisolaAribo
    @MojisolaAribo 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yes sir

  • @caragudza3823
    @caragudza3823 หลายเดือนก่อน

    From today onwards, i wil do this

  • @MsDestinydiva
    @MsDestinydiva 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    10:26 there are ppl who don’t like you ! They just need your validation , Dey take time oooo avoid traps and see through smoke screens - applies to allllll relationships,,, Dey take time ooo

  • @kassimdokas9517
    @kassimdokas9517 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Pls what's the title of this message?

  • @graceykapya2777
    @graceykapya2777 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Amen have learnt

  • @EunicemayNjoku-pv2rn
    @EunicemayNjoku-pv2rn 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Observe people!

  • @NjoakenBernice
    @NjoakenBernice หลายเดือนก่อน

    GOD help me

  • @comfortinyang7644
    @comfortinyang7644 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I wish i heard this in March. Now i'm heartbroken...i rushed things

    • @tbagtech
      @tbagtech หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sorry comfort 😢

    • @IgeKehinde-Mary
      @IgeKehinde-Mary หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sorry, you will overcome!

    • @tbagtech
      @tbagtech หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@IgeKehinde-Mary hi kehinde

    • @IgeKehinde-Mary
      @IgeKehinde-Mary หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tbagtech Hi

    • @giftedward8736
      @giftedward8736 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Healing is coming to you... Trust God

  • @kolawoleomoyajowo3613
    @kolawoleomoyajowo3613 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    How then do you balance taking time to study someone before taking it further into a relationship, and spending too much time in talking stage?

    • @folasadeolajuyin4629
      @folasadeolajuyin4629 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It is only God that knows the heart of a person. People can pretend for as long as.......... but the holy spirit knows the heart of that person and he will let you in on it.
      The holy spirit helped me too in my single season. I had this guy I planned hooking up with. A pastor friend actually approved of him when I expressed my fears about some of his shortcomings as enlightened by the holy spirit.
      The Pastor waived it aside by saying "no human is perfect." "All humans are imperfect. Whoever you marry eventually will have a flaw too.
      Yes! Whoever I eventually marry will have his own shortcomings but not shortcomings that will destroy my life or detrimental to my destiny, not flaws that will make living hell, not flaws that will make my life a waisted one.
      The holy spirit must have prepared someone that will be able to help my destiny. Cos the reason for our lives is to fulfill our life dreams. Whoever the holy spirit prepared for us will be able to help us achieve the reason for our existence all through our life time.
      Yes! He may have flaws, not flaws that are detrimental to our reason for living or capable enough to mar our destiny.
      This is actually the job of the holy spirit. He knows the heart of every human and knows what is good or bad for us.
      I can't think of any other capable person that can help on this journey of knowing the hearts of Men and making a choice of a life partner than the almighty Holy Spirit.
      He will do a good job!

    • @isaacoladimejikolade8798
      @isaacoladimejikolade8798 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Comprehension is a rare gift

  • @twanazimw8484
    @twanazimw8484 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My God, this is my message 😂

  • @koachglobal
    @koachglobal 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Tested and trusted😂😂😂

  • @elizabethlizabethan558
    @elizabethlizabethan558 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    👏👏👏

  • @MsDestinydiva
    @MsDestinydiva 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    12:34 they communicate what they don’t mean or what they mean they can’t communicate

  • @MojisolaAribo
    @MojisolaAribo 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    It important not to assume

  • @MsDestinydiva
    @MsDestinydiva 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    7:40 it’s true ppl change….. don’t live By Compliments as you’ll die by critics, be wise or you’ll get. Offense and die ooo 9:17 I cannot be bought !

    • @MsDestinydiva
      @MsDestinydiva 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hosanah 😂😂

  • @AyodejiOwonibi
    @AyodejiOwonibi 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    But can you talk about marriage after three months of knowing each other??

  • @mabemary3453
    @mabemary3453 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🙏

  • @jennifermpemba4642
    @jennifermpemba4642 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The gate man😢😢😢😅

  • @CiSea-Fresh
    @CiSea-Fresh 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Mine dated me for a year and
    Promised me everything but just yesterday he told me he never loved me

  • @amakalgbobuche2975
    @amakalgbobuche2975 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    People character are not based on the gravity of their tongue

  • @AngelicaHutchinson1
    @AngelicaHutchinson1 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    “Sometimes people are not bad,you just expect too much” Kai 😭
    “If you want to live long, be careful of your expectations”
    “When people are hailing you; watch their lips, people can change”
    “Don’t get so attach to the point that, you don’t expect their humanity. If you plan to do this thing for long; you must minimize the chances for offense.”
    “You can’t keep every relationship forever; it’s what God keeps that is kept. Value every relationship when you have the opportunity to.”