Yes yes now you're walking in heaven sweetheart because narcs have ruined millions of lives in this universe!!!!! I wish you well and take good care of yourself......nobody has power over you unless you give them !!!!
This video couldn't have come at a better time. In the last couple of months I've realized that I'm stuck in fight or flight. Hypervigilent, avoidant, easily aggitated, especially by noise. I didn't see that listed but any disturbance to my quiet makes me upset. When I think about the sounds that make me upset, they're really not anything out of the ordinary. I've recently bought a pair of noise cancelling headphones that have helped. And the nightmares! It's so interesting that you mentioned it because I had never thought of that as being a sympton of fight or flight. In the past several months its dawned on me that I never have pleasant dreams. I can't remember the last pleasant dream I've had; they're always about some sort of struggle or danger.
I realize this video is two years old, but this information is gold. Thank you Michelle for explaining why we still feel this way after removing people from our life or going no contact. I can’t thank you enough. I am working on the wellness of my nervous system.
I definitely live like this now and did growing up. My mom was always yelling at me. One time she slapped me across the face because she hit herself on her elbow. She said it was a reflex. This year resolution is to go no contact with her. I’m going to have enough saved to leave my husband end of this year. I just feel so guilty. I feel bad. I don’t know why. It’s just a sad feeling. Guess maybe I’m just scared.
I've been programmed to walk on eggshells literally since before I was born and perpetually after but I somehow developed into this bold, strong, capable, charismatics, self-disciplined but unorthodox, loving, principled but non-judgemental, compassionate and pragmatic, giving, trusting, wild but honest and just fiercely in favor and pursuit of OUR collective potential to thrive but humble, low-key person that I loved and loved being, who simply loved others for who they were(*), not just what they could become or offer. Now though, I check nearly ALL OF THE BOXES to the worst extreme with assessments and "checks" and I'm trying not to give up but per the usual, I'm alone in the pursuit of recognition and understanding but especially any prospect or hope to reverse or escape the diminished and despairing state I've reduced myself to. I'm trying, as I always have, to understand but no one else can be bothered because of this petty squable or that vain, insignificant pursuit. Making it less a matter of "how" do I get back, but "why" bother? When "eggshells" are what's valued and sought to be preserved, when "spilled milk" is what's being regarded and "mourned" while everything of true value and any opportunity to protect, encourage or elevate as much is continually dismissed, scoffed at and readily forfeit in exchange. 🤷🏾♀️🏳️
I believe calling people toxic is abusive, unhelpful, untrue, uninspiring, unnecessary and unkind. Behavior can be toxic not people. So sad that you people do this to people. Anything for a buck.
The worst thing is feeling anxious when certain people walk into the room or even a text message from certain people can bring anxiety
That's how it once was, but once getting rid of the narcissis I'm walking on sunshine 🌅 👍
Yes yes now you're walking in heaven sweetheart because narcs have ruined millions of lives in this universe!!!!! I wish you well and take good care of yourself......nobody has power over you unless you give them !!!!
I'm on super fight mode all the time after eggshellwalking for a very long time. :o reactive as hell!
This video couldn't have come at a better time. In the last couple of months I've realized that I'm stuck in fight or flight. Hypervigilent, avoidant, easily aggitated, especially by noise. I didn't see that listed but any disturbance to my quiet makes me upset. When I think about the sounds that make me upset, they're really not anything out of the ordinary. I've recently bought a pair of noise cancelling headphones that have helped. And the nightmares! It's so interesting that you mentioned it because I had never thought of that as being a sympton of fight or flight. In the past several months its dawned on me that I never have pleasant dreams. I can't remember the last pleasant dream I've had; they're always about some sort of struggle or danger.
Narcisstic bosses are particularly bad about anger and blame games because of the hierarchy in a workplace.
They never take accountability
I think I have almost all of the signs, smh. I’m stuck!
I freeze.
That is so very true. It is exactly what happens. Thank you Michelle.
This is the video I have been hoping to see. Describes my situation almost to a T.
I realize this video is two years old, but this information is gold. Thank you Michelle for explaining why we still feel this way after removing people from our life or going no contact. I can’t thank you enough. I am working on the wellness of my nervous system.
I not agree, because the narcissist makes the victim angry and it makes the victim look’s like the crazy and angry person.
This sounds like me. I’ve always thought my loved one was causing it but now I’m realizing it’s unhealthy responses on my part.
I definitely live like this now and did growing up. My mom was always yelling at me. One time she slapped me across the face because she hit herself on her elbow. She said it was a reflex. This year resolution is to go no contact with her. I’m going to have enough saved to leave my husband end of this year. I just feel so guilty. I feel bad. I don’t know why. It’s just a sad feeling. Guess maybe I’m just scared.
Spot on! Thank you.
Like Rambo said!!!!!! You don't just shut it off!!!!!
I have all the symptoms 😳
I've been programmed to walk on eggshells literally since before I was born and perpetually after but I somehow developed into this bold, strong, capable, charismatics, self-disciplined but unorthodox, loving, principled but non-judgemental, compassionate and pragmatic, giving, trusting, wild but honest and just fiercely in favor and pursuit of OUR collective potential to thrive but humble, low-key person that I loved and loved being, who simply loved others for who they were(*), not just what they could become or offer.
Now though, I check nearly ALL OF THE BOXES to the worst extreme with assessments and "checks" and I'm trying not to give up but per the usual, I'm alone in the pursuit of recognition and understanding but especially any prospect or hope to reverse or escape the diminished and despairing state I've reduced myself to. I'm trying, as I always have, to understand but no one else can be bothered because of this petty squable or that vain, insignificant pursuit. Making it less a matter of "how" do I get back, but "why" bother? When "eggshells" are what's valued and sought to be preserved, when "spilled milk" is what's being regarded and "mourned" while everything of true value and any opportunity to protect, encourage or elevate as much is continually dismissed, scoffed at and readily forfeit in exchange. 🤷🏾♀️🏳️
Wow, I have most of the issues you listed.
I have heart problems!
👍👍👍👍👍
I have gut issues.
I believe calling people toxic is abusive, unhelpful, untrue, uninspiring, unnecessary and unkind. Behavior can be toxic not people. So sad that you people do this to people. Anything for a buck.