How to Not Let Toxic Family Drain You (4 Biblical Tips) Day 2
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Day 2: How to Not Let Toxic Family Drain You
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Day 3: 7 Gaslighting Phrases Manipulators Use to Control You.
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Day 4: When You Go 'No-Contact', Others May React This Way
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Day 5: Overcoming Toxic Thoughts that Run in your Family
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Day 6: Setting Boundaries with Toxic Family
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Day 7: 7 Signs of a Covert Narcissist
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Day 8: 3 Ways to Disarm a Narcissist
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Day 9: When Toxic Family Uses Special Occasions to Reconnect
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Day 10: How a Covert Narcissist Controls You Through Disorientation
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Your right 👍
Amen amen
I love god amen
Watching a year later.
I always say, I will never let someone else’s toxicity change my kind heart. I will simply disengage and move on. I will not allow myself to become as they are. Thank you for this great video.
Yes!!! I was so tempted to be a b earlier to my aunt and wanted to take revenge but what good will that do me? Nothing. My heart is pure, I dislike drama, hatred, I avoid it all. I cannot be mean and ugly. What goes around comes around.
When you learn to say no and walk away from toxic family peace will find you 🙏
Amen
I had enough with toxic relatives im drained i want to be left alone..to take a deep breath pray and stay close and focus on God i love love Peace.
Me too, it’s just unfortunate when it is one of your children.
I went to Northern Essex Community College in Haverhill Massachusetts ❤🎬student of international relations & politics_
A Professor told us about the 1/3rd RULE & IVE BEEN SHARING IT FOR OVER 30 YEARS
1 OUT OF 3 HATES YOU,
1 OUT OF 3 COULD CARE LESS ABOUT YOU,
1 OUT OF 3 LOVES YOU_
STICK TO YOUR OWN KIND❤🎬
Me too
@@lisagamet5505 oh my yes and also grandchildren... He wasnt like this until he became involved w his partner ...Frightening full blown narcissist.. I dont feel like I know him anymore :( My heart is breaking ~ Father God help us all
Amen
Absolutely, it isn't possible at this time to live in peace so I'm out! I'm off the toxic carousel of 25 years, and I'm not getting back on and I'm not going to be the scapegoat anymore. I've grieved the relationship and I know only God can restore the relationship. At the end of the day, I've realized they aren't rejecting me they are rejecting Christ in me so I will let God deal with them. I will continue to listen to the Holy Spirit on how to continue to heal my heart and move forward with the purpose that I was created for. Thanks Kris for all your help! I really appreciate your content!
I needed this thank you ❤
@@LashayneHampton I just started reading Good Boundaries and goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurst and it has been so helpful to me. It has made me see the dysfunction I have been in and I've been a part of for the last 25 years and it is helping me to move towards being more emotionally mature and to set healthy boundaries. This book is helping me to understand what boundaries are and why they are so important in any relationship. Just thought I'd share so hopeful it might help someone else out of their dysfunctional relationships. Hang in there!
Same here. Scapegoat no more. After 50 years of it I’m out. Moved to another county and am living peacefully.
@@hello122ful Couldn't have said it better myself. My own narcissistic mother (78) is currently "imploding" healthwise but I refuse to return to a toxic relationship. She can afford to "buy care" so I stay far away from her. Proverbs 1:20-33 🙏
@Laura Fulmer-Hays Lysa Tyrkhurst is a God send to me right now. This may be hard but God comforts me in my distress because of His mercy and grace.
I love that you said that “your not the one”. If God hasn’t changed them then you wont be able to.
😂
Well we don't know if God is trying to change them or not. God works in mysterious ways. Although the author claims to be a Christian. We need to assess the content in our own way with brains God gave us.
I tried to be a friend to my sister, but all she did was push me away with her remarks.
So true how do I stop scarife my life I have no life I have it to them don't no how to get it back it's working on my mind and body soul heart and am a mess I feel like am loosing my mind
@@jeandandridge9107i was you. I hope what I'm about to say helps. Walk away. It's not you. God isn't the author of confusion. It took me sooo long to understand what God wanted from me because I thought He wanted me to keep trying. But I realized that they were influencing me to be bad like them. I couldn't influence them to be good. So Jesus said he didn't come to make peace but to turn people away from family members. And if we love them more then God that's a sin. We must walk away. And Jesus also says it will be family you have to walk away from and we'll be rewarded for choosing God over any family member. Even your own children or parents. God tells us HE is our father when our own parents are bad to us. Walk away in total peace knowing Jesus said this was going to happen turning family against family because of Him. And we must Choose him over our family. It is written. So Walk away and get the good Lords peace running through you. It's amazing. As soon as I read those passages it was easy because God says so. Then the complete peace immediately followed. That must be the reward He mentions for choosing Him and walking away from them. If there is another reward coming, wonderful. But this peace is PRICELESS. And is reward enough. Go with God child. Always choose God and you will never go wrong. Don't take a few years to figure this out. You're hindering your walk with Christ. Your growth. I asked the holy spirit to give me the right words because your comment was me a few years ago. If I can help you to not have to endure the agony your going through like I did for years then God's spirit was working in me to reach you. He doesn't want you going through this. He loves you so much. I felt the need to say that just now.
I truly pray God let's this resonate in your heart and soul. So that you know I'm speaking His truth. It's in 1st Corinthians chapter 15 and Matthew chapter 16. These 2 are the ones that stick in my brain. It is written after all. There are no exceptions. God wants you, demands you to walk away and follow His Son. Please let me know if this has helped you. I'm praying for you and others alike. If I can help one person from going through this struggle now then I will be so happy. God bless you God's child. Again He really loves you and wants you to prosper. Now I don't talk like that. Thank you Holy Spirit. I feel really good about this. It's going to resignate in every fiber of your being like it does mine. Total peace. Now go be fabulous for God and start your life anew. From this day forward. That's what He wants you to do. Follow Jesus.
I find she's right. The toxicity is infectious and all you can do is get away from it to save your own soul. Fortunately I had enough self awareness to see how it was effecting me to be able to do something about it. The problem is when it is in your household and you are constantly exposed to it, it creeps up on you like the frog in hot water. You spend too much time trying to fix the unfixable, and when you finally learn that it has already damaged you, and it makes it very difficult to trust anyone anymore.
@@debb789Hi, I left but the cost was nearly my life. However, the option to stay and focus on all the inner work that heals seems like it may have worked. Also😊, in my case, I would’ve missed being saved. After I left, I accepted Christ, my true healer.
Pray the Armor of God in your life daily as well.
Totally agree with the baiting. Narcissists constantly bait and say you're the problem.
This! 🔥🔥🔥
So grateful to here this from a Christian perspective. It's FAR more complex than "forgiveness, tolerance, or turning the other cheek." May God bless your ministry
abundantly in 2023 🙏✝️❤️
I'm so glad you're finding it helpful!
@@Kris_ReeceI second that, thank you so much, Jesus wasn't a pushover - that's the teachings of people trying to control and exploit us. More Grace to you, thank you 🙏✨️❤️🇬🇧
I raise my eyebrows, chuckle to myself and walk away unbothered. Being unbothered has a chilling effect. It means, what you said just bounced off the walls. I do not play with little kids. This playground is only for the grown and mature.
I bet they like that. Haha. Good job for not playing the game.
Oh that is a perfect response! I want to remember that. Thanks.
Well said! I've learned through listening to videos (especially Kris, who is the best), that the most powerful thing we can do is to "not play their game." They have no idea how to handle that! It literally shuts them down because we are no longer prey. Tammy Joyce, who has some good videos about destructive narcisists, calls your response " the grey rock" response. You are not giving them anything, so they must find another scapegoat.
I hope to be like you one day! I get triggered and bothered so easily and my goal is to be unbothered!!!
No matter what they will never change.
So true but they only treat me this way
Wow, your comment that God loves them more than we do and if He hasn't been able to convince them to change what makes us think we can brought me to tears. I've been so wrapped up in sacrificing my happiness in a relationship because I believed that my behavior would change theirs that I've made it my mission. It's not. I feel a weight lifted.
@cassiefulmer1944 how have you been since? I've given flowers and gifts but I am also giving up that behavior. Not sure what's next.
After 25 years of being married- I pick & choose when or if I even go to a family gathering. I do not feel obligated what so ever to attend. You can really tell the manipulative family members when you don’t attend - because the mask comes off completely. And you will get a text or phone call from them. I’m not remotely fazed at all. I do not need to explain why I did not go - to anyone anymore.
I’m currently going thru this at this very moment and trying not to feel the need to explain myself
I don't usually get contact from them when I refuse to go, but my husband found out by a family member we DO trust that the people I've been suspicious of, have been talking c*** this whole time. It was more validation than anything. It's frustrating because if I defend myself I'll look bad, and if I say nothing...then it's up to others to come forward and ask. Unfortunately because I'm the in-law /outsider it seems the family will just immediately side with their blood.
I was very close to some of them, as were my kids. Even my husband has been abused by these individuals in the past, and I was the one persuading him to seek an active relationship with them TBH...before I understood. These individuals harm the others in the family that are siding with them against me. It's sad but nothing I can do but pray and keep my family from that toxicity.
It's easy because they put zero effort in to being around us, they just guilt trip my husband and amongst one another blame me for him not wanting anything to do with them. I'm just glad our marriage is healthier and that I no longer try to force him to deal with that either.
💙 There's enough in life to be busy with, I'm sad for my kids not having a lot of local healthy family relations....but we've done all we can do. Grateful for what we have protected that we have here at home.
Blood relatives are overrated .
we have been led to believe that "Family " is the most important thing in life . well, it ISN'T .
whats most important is living and transmitting love , compassion ,kindness and peace . Not as a rule but in an endless stream that fills one's subjectivity and spills onto those in close proximity ..
Having a narcissistic mother has been a living hell! She still does the same crap she’s done to me since I was a child.i can only be around her in small doses. My brother, didn’t visit for 8 yrs! It’s not just me.
My family is constantly telling me I'm always defensive. "You ever notice that I'm not defensive around people who don't attack me?" #165,743 of things you can't say and get away with. They never see the bloody dagger in their own hands.
I'm sorry. Sounds like could be gaslighting. My in laws have treated me like trash since the get. For no reason other than they were stuck on my (to be) husband's ex. Yeah- they would "accidentally" call me her name and ask my husband (bf at the time) how she was doing and he would remind them he doesn't know/care and that she cheated on him...
Sadly I was trying to persuade my husband to have better relations with his family, especially once we had kids. But they kept blaming me for us not being around. (Not their own toxic behavior...a lot way worse than the ex gf stuff, and not his choice, but my fault according to them).
I bent over backwards and I regret it. Depressing waste of time it was. Come to find out, once we actually stepped back from gatherings during the shut downs, my sister in law was talking mad c*** on me that whole time.
She also was the one to randomly start texting every day then would drop off the Earth for a year and come back "so sorry" ..etc. But cleverly would get me into conversations just to act like a victim everytime I have an opinion she doesn't agree with. I'm done with the mind games. It's a huge relief. ❤
Don't sacrifice yourself. Good message. Thanks. Amen
All i ever wanted was civil family events, not people feeling obligated to attend. You know the ones who show up, that sit and stare at their phone for hours, or the ones who deliberately try to get arguments started. The ones who are entitled and never offer a hand to help. So now family events are limited to a select few and the event is so nice with the reduced stress. I'm not worn out from mental exhaustion afterwards.
The entitled ones are my family, so drained they never happy with anything always wants and never give anything in return
This is exactly what my family had been doing for as long as I have lived. I have cut the bothers off and God removed our parents through death. I have no intention of ever seeing them again. If they come by out of my control I am gracious and kind but stay aloof without sharing anything with them. These kinds of people will criticize you for being closed, it doesn't matter what you say or do or not say or do they will find a way to demean.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my TH-cam channel 11 months ago about self development. Now I have 2,119 subs and > 2k hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
What is difficult is when you're a grandchild who was raised with Aunts and Uncles who have their own issues with each other and which stem from a very strict upbringing. Unfortunately, like a curse it affects poor family dynamics has affected the younger generation. I tell you, it's more challenging to cut family ties when some of your family members are also Christians
They may be weak Christians so don't pattern after them.
As a therapist who deals with A LOT of clients who deal with narcissists, I am so thankful that I have a source of information from a Christian point of view to refer clients to watch!! It is so helpful to have reinforcement of what we discuss in sessions. I also like that you mentioned Faithful Counseling as affordable mental health care is a much needed part of our spiritual journeys that we often neglect. God wants us to be whole and provides resources like you and your channel to help guide us to healing. Thank You!
I’m Muslim but this lady has amazing words. Thank you. THANK U
@@AisyaZack Jesus says turn the other cheek. It's not always easy to walk away, but promises, he will be with you always. & No stranger to family issues. John 3:16 for God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever believeth in him shall not perish but shall have everlasting life. He died for our sins so we don't have to die. He cares about what we care about. Our job as Christians is to love him obey him and keep his commandments.
I don't apologize to mom anymore. She told me after I did "if you ment is then you wouldn't keep doing it" so I just don't go there anymore. I take it before God and Gid alone. If I mess up in my responses to her.
Thank you Ms. Kris, these videos, you have been so very helpful. I am learning how to deal with toxic people and my mother. I am learning and fixing my own toxic behaviors that I unfortunately was taught and caught growing up.
I have recently been implementing some of your suggestions before God lead me to you. I just wasn't sure if I was doing right in a Godly way. You have given me confirmation. And more tools to use.
Thank you again, and God's Blessing
Thank you Kris 💐 The rumination and feelings
of helplessness are DEFINITELY the worst. Prayers for you and all viewers 🙏✝️💐
I say no! And when they ask. I said because I said so .and I will not explain why. It makes them mad but they leave me alone. If they ask me why. I tell them it is none of their business and I don't owe them an explanation.
Limited contact person and on phone. My mental health is important.
Yes, I live with them and am asking God to make a way out. I heard them talking about me today.
This was just what I needed today! It's hard when the toxic person is your mother but you've made me feel much better!
Yes, this is my situation too.
+1
Tell me about it am dealing with this right now
Same here
Hope you are free from her. I still live with mine. It’s difficult.
Boundaries is helping me. Disengaging for me also has been helpful
I really needed this today! I’ve realized I had a toxic family for a few years now. It all came to a head recently. Most of them are definitely narcissists, and I was the scapegoat. I’m sure I have remnants of it on me from dealing with it for so many years. So so toxic! Since I realized it though a few years ago, I’ve been going to God and letting Him work in me, just to go back for more. NO LONGER! I am done. I will not let this pass to my children, in the name of Jesus!! Thank you for this ❤
Mine is a family of nice people who are one way to me and the exact opposite to others about me. Only told Mom my business to find out she broke her word and had been telling the siblings all my business. Hard to get over being betrayed so long and dumb me, never knew it. When you are my age and just realized some of these things, it’s embarrassing.
I understand, but it's ok. God reveals what we're supposed ti know when He wants us to know, or when He knows we can handle it ❤
I am the opposite to all of that only because my family is toxic and crazy. Because they are so negative, manipulative, codependent and narcissistic, I have recognized those patterns since I was a kid and I have made an effort to stay away from that behavior, but I get so tired of the behavior and it seems to get better with time. It’s so frustrating
SHOULD NOT BE!
"They're not looking for an explanation, they're looking to find a way in." Wow!
Wow God speaks through you
. . It h has been so exhausting. Thank God for this channel it is still untapped subject in the church. I have not known where to turn. I can’t believe how much she says is what I have experienced. I pray that anyone else going through this to lean on Jesus Christ because we are not alone!
The reason it is not tapped on, is because God said help your own or your worse than an infidel, and the Church does not want the responsibility of helping a bunch of orphans.....................YOU JUST HAVE GOT TO LEARN HOW TO DEAL SPIRITUALLY UNLESS IT IS TRULY TAKING YOUR FAITH DOWN, STAND STRONG AND BOLD IN THE WORD FIGHT demons NOT PEOPLE...AMEN ...TOO MANY FAMILIES BEING BROKE UP, BY ALL THE NARCISSIST TALK, SACRIFICIAL LOVE TO SAVE THEM AS JESUS DID , AMEN
She is very good ! I just starting listening to her . As far as family members are concerned stay away from them as much as possible !!!
My issue is the Grandchild. Had to step back as the situation is not sustainable. The Mother is constantly steeped in drama and turning the child against me,so toxic. I realised that trying to rescue the child only makes them feel that they have to choose. After yrs of being manipulated into parenting a Grandchild I realised, not my role. The compulsory weekend sleepovers so the parent can party are now going to be fun days out with the child delivered home. If I am discarded as I am no longer useful I will have to adjust. I am aware of the manipulation now.
!!! I have always felt obligated to explain myself, because they are family, and they’re only asking because they love me, right? Thank you for this very valuable insight! ❤️
My mom did this all the time when I used to visit her for the holidays. I've stopped doing that.
For example: if I participated in a conversation with one of her friends while out to a dinner, on the right home, my mom would accuse me of "monopolizing the conversation".
I'm trapped in the car with her, and she knew it. That's why she chose that moment to start her gaslighting garbage.
I do not visit her AT ALL anymore after I noticed I'd always have PTSD symptoms after getting home to NYC after visiting her.
I have this mother. When I include women of her age, in my life(including visiting my elderly Aunt once a year) she accuses me of disrespecting HER and says I clearly “…don’t know who your mother is”🤷♂️
Every time I’m around her even if I handled the situation while I was there, I leave feeling like I have to take an inside shower to get the smell of smoke off of me.
@@annetteselent 😢
If i did not let go ..i almost had a nervous break down but God i thank him for saving me ..i give respect where it is due but im not getting close ..the holy spirt will lead me ......toxic people needs delivefance
Had those crazy neighbors, and it lasted until they went to the nursing home. Still have some crazys here, but they are more silent. Many abusive people everywhere.
Thanks Kriss. I'm still ruffled by my narc brother, who calls the shots and makes snap demands from his empath gaslighted sister! I've been stressed and depressed by this for so many years. Your videos are seriously helping me take a stand and say, no in a respectful way, but when narc abuse still hurts trust is hard to find. I admit to some remaining struggles with co-dependency from serious early attachment disorders, but Christ has really helped to change me in a positive way towards making important boundaries. I've tolerated narcissistic abuse for many decades . Now it's time to say, enough is enough, at the same time realizing that God cares that we all accept work towards healing from any pathological disorders and not run from them in Christ - fight or flight?. 😊😊❤️🙏
Remembering "NO" is a complete sentence is very helpful.
Thank you, I struggle with codependency and developmental trauma with my mom it’s hard I’m happy to see you are evolving and growing.
Prayers for you as you continue to heal
And be who God created you to be
I needed to hear that I am not the one. I suffer from tragic codependency. Been running from these impulse to “fix” others as long as I can remember. I have diligent prayer life and am always seeking to grow closer to Christ. My renewed focus is ask God to help me to see others as He does. My response is my responsibility. I get so triggered - I lose sight of my own self control. Deliver me Oh Lord. ✨🙏✨
Jesus said NOTHING many times in the bible and he WALKED away from people when approriate
God sent me here for your Guidance❣️ Thank You Both❤🙏 ❤
Exactly. Instead of us explaining things, we can say, “Its self explanatory”. What a sick need these people have…an addiction to excitement and attention.
35 years of dreading every holiday because I had to spend it with in-laws. Not just mom and dad-in-law but siblings as well. Mom and dad-in-law both gone now and have been free of those siblings for 6 years. No more torture.
Everything you said was a blessing to hear. I deeply appreciate you and your work. I especially appreciated how you stressed the fact that they won’t “get it” and never will. May God bless you greatly ❤
I also loved how you emphasized the fact that we can become toxic ourselves if not self checked. I agree and felt admonished in love. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing :)
Experienced them through decades ... everywhere as a vessel of darkness against the Holy Spirit.
Love your channel! It’s nice having a biblical perspective!
I am from INDIA watching in 2024 ...Thankyou mam ...i found it really helpful
Kris, your videos are life changing! Better than any counseling session I have ever had. Between you and early mornings with God, I am doing so much healing!!!!❤️🩹
1000% agree
New to your channel, great video. Number three is really the key, I stopped telling my family anything about what I was doing and the shock LOL. They didn't know how to act and still don't know how to act. As the youngest, over the last ten years I realized I was the family scapegoat. People loved getting me riled up then saying I was the 'angry one'. Everyone has been shut out and I love it.
@taliajournee212 how did you reach this point, my family has labeled me as a problem child because of sexual trauma and them blaming me, covering it up with God will get the glory.. I will be 29 and I’m starting a new era of not telling anyone anything , did you just stop telling them things or was it gradual..
Sorry for the rant I’ve never met people who struggled with this so my mind is blown
The Lord said to me through another…..MY PROBLEMS ARE NOT OUTSIDE OF ME BUT INSIDE OF ME.
She is right….no one can make us do anything. We decide how we react which is why my problem is within me.
We are in the biblical end times. Get saved and rapture ready now!
True!
Remember the fourth commandment KJV is reminding us of Genesis 2:2&3. Jesus is our example not Constantine.
Agreed
Psalms 37 10 11 29 offers hope 🌴
I am so ready for the Lord's return. I'm tired of being the scapegoat and disrespected by my own children. I'm going no contact with all but one of them.
What happened for me in an "in the moment" event, was because of the growing of companionship with God being with me all the time when I am out and about (grocery store, events of any kind) is an immediate "NO, that is displeasing to Father God" comment. This comment came out my mouth one day unexpectedly. The lady acquaintance left right away and never came back. Something said or shown to me now is about, not only do I hear it or see it but so does God. He accompanies me always when I'm out, even to the laundry room. Remember He is also called "Emmanuel." You are not alone.
youre godliness repels evil, and as she wasnt a Godly christian, her evil spirit could not abide in your presence. its all good!!
This is my first year of standing up and deciding to have Christmas with my sons and husband alone.
I am done sucking up with disrespect and gifts that mean nothing to me. It was a hard decision but I am at peace
Thank you Dr Kris❣️you broke this topic down to a “T” 👍🏼
I have put boundaries in place many times over with a toxic mother, they have been ignored & disregarded, it’s true, they really don’t care or will never “get it”…your Christ centered videos have been truly helpful & comforting
Many blessings to you & yours🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍
Nothing is impossible with my Lord 🙏🏻 Amen and thank u Kris!
The narcissist in my life is not only my brother, but a minister of which fellowship I was removed as well as my husband. I spent a year and a half struggling with have I repented, am I bearing fruit, and other issues. In the meantime, he got all of his elders and everybody else in the organization to shun me. They won’t speak to me, and those that will speak to me have extremely tight boundaries. It left me very much alone. But I have learned so many of these lessons she is talking about and I’m so grateful for her ministry! I’ve learned a lot.
Thank you so much for this! I’ve been struggling living within the circle of my toxic relatives, and when i attempted to go out, my own mom would drag me to the thought of being ungrateful for how they helped me. Now I realized how their attitude towards me affected how I behave to the extend that I dont even know its already wrong, i hope, my mom would be more concerned to what happened to me during those past years and acknowledge me as her own child instead of her being into her siblings and relatives so much
It's November 2024, I'm watching a year later, it has been a blessing, thank you, God bless.
It is currently 12:43 where I am and I had to find this video because of the sadness and pain in my heart due to my toxic grandmother and it hurts me to have resentment and to have to avoid her but I can’t keep crying and praying for a change and I don’t do the work so I’ve been longing for the right advice on how to respond back to her passive aggression and slick remarks without allowing her to flip the script due to my reaction and so I tend to shut down or go and cry and I almost feel like I’m being bullied but I STILL want to have a loving relationship with her and I’ll never take the opportunity to disrespect but I have to defend myself 😢God help me not be a coward because I know it’s a sin
I would love to hear you talk about how to recognize God’s peace in a relationship/friendship/etc vs the illusion of peace in forms like stuffing emotions, etc… I think this would make a great video. 🎉
This is timely today. I am jointly selling parents estate and exhausted. My HOA is hassling me and much bullying, selective favoritism, etc. & toxic family members. Your prayer suggestion, “Vindicate me Oh God and defend my cause against unGodly people from the deceitful & unjust man. Deliver me.” ‘This is in God’s hands not mine. I can only make peace when possible…as much as it depends on me. If I am the problem then chg. If not, then there is nothing I can do. If I am not the oroblem then there is nothing I can do.to make peace.”
We do not have to make peace at all costs. Do not justify their behavior. Remove myself Psalm 84:11. “Righteousness & Justice are the foundation of God’s throne”
This is a great reminder. Thank you.
❤all of your videos are soo good! I only wish I had heard them 40 years ago!! My first toxic marriage lasted 4 long years! The second lasted 31 years because I had already been a “failure” so I kept praying and staying!! Thank you! I’ve been divorced 5 years and still trying to heal from all of the emotional and mental and sometimes physical.
I definitely fight against traits ad behavior that’s toxic I picked up especially coming to parenting I’ve always feared becoming my mother.
Im moving. Doesn't matter anymore.
Hearing the words "You are not the ONE!" was a gift. Thank you for that as I sit here wondering how I got snookered into feeling emotional over my family attempting to manipulate my life again and my reasoning that I somehow can change what they do through my pleas for them to change! Handing this one over to the ONE who can do all things! Not me! Amen!
"Resist the temptation to make this your mental focus." As soon as I heard those words, I literally couldn't stop the tears. It's been over 2 years of running to my parents rescue and trying my best to clean up the messes from their bad decisions. I'm now mentally exhausted, and can't do it anymore. I've watched so many self help videos- but that one line literally touched me in a way that was like you were speaking directly to me. Wow.
I’m up against a very toxic brother and a toxic mother. I had to go for counselling because I was going through a n awful guilt. Now 2 yrs on and with the help from my Lord, I can finally deal with them although they are still trying their hardest to get to me. Thank you Kriss for this video and helping me to understand it’s my response I need to concern myself with.
I love this! God will bring justice.
It’s 3am, I was just praying for clarity- confused if maybe I was out in this situation to “fix” it. This was an answer from god. Thank you
I get exactly what you’re saying and allowed myself to react instead of respond. I gave up being around my family a long time ago for good reasons, I helped my brother not too long ago because he’s almost 80 years old and no one was stepping up to help him, in the process of doing this I got to know him better and so the experience was beneficial for me. I’m moving forward with taking care of myself and getting the much needed help in dealing with the abuse that I’ve taken so I can be kinder to myself and anyone I decide to bring into my life. Thank you for sharing 🥰
Thank you so much.This video was liberating!! I am not the one! Praise the Lord Jesus Christ!!🙏🙏
This is exactly what I needed right now going through so much narcissistic toxicity in my family thank you so much and God bless
🙏🙏🙏🌎✝️ Thank God I understand about Jealous people trying to destroy someone's family
Religious or not, this is a great source of insight/information/perspective for people dealing with this.
Toxic people and situations are here to teach us how to ascend and seek LOVE
Yes! Its always me im the problem etc ..its never possible.so glad i found this channel i am not the one .. to make them get it. Amen 🙏
I've been going through this for years with my family for living by myself, but they try to fish for things by having me feel guilty about things that they're doing. But I'll let God deal with them because I can't fish evil for evil with them. I know that God has a plan for me, and I'm going to stick with his plan for my life.
I am learning so much !!!!!!!!! So Thankful Kris!!
Thank you - i understand - they aren't going to get it. I've finally accepted that I'm not the problem with my DIL who no matter what I do finds fault in everything I do, or don't do. The kicker is I live in another state, rarely see them or communicate with them because I've learned from the past with her. I have to let go of the future I thought I would have with them - that is the saddest thing.
Wow. 100% my family dynamic. This is very healing. Thank you god bless.
The absolute bottom line is that often we get caught up in a cycle of giving our power and energy away without even knowing it . Over time we realise it but are trapped in the cycle of having surrendered your power just to keep the peace . Then we realise when enough is enough and that peace between two people don’t matter anymore so you kick them to the curb to find what does matter is peace within yourself .
Thank you so much for this i needed this I pray anybody that’s going through this I pray you make it out!
Being reminded that I am not the one, is so powerful and brings such relief from that burden. Thank you
Biblical perspective is what is important.
We are surrounded by neighbors who are all narcissists. Can't move. Gray rock is the option most of the time. Nothing deters them. Evil to the core. Only God can change this and nothing appears to be changing. Worked with one 30 years and nothing changed. We are not the one, but not taking their garbage either. They are above no one. Keep praying for wisdom, but man, how long?
It's happening to alot of people. Why? No idea. Very man-unkind.
My sister @7:20 in the video I’ve come to a point where I am done…I’m learning to stay away from anyone that robs my joy…
This video was a blessing for me❤️
Absolutely great message. Be you, be authentic and stay in Faith 💞❤️💞
Very enlightening! This balance between sanity and wellbeing vs. relationship is a thin line that is both delicate and detrimental. Thank you for the biblical and practical wisdom 😊
New follower here! God bless!
I’m SO BLESSED I found you!
I love Kris Reece! She is so right and she gives amazing advice from a faith standpoint.
Choosing avoidance is a very good choice.
Oh my gosh...God bless you. I've needed this so much. I get sucked dry this time of year. It's exhausting then I'm sad. I related to all of this. I feel completely under attack. Sadly the person has successfully manipulated the others around and they are blind .... he continues to attack me every visit...no one backs me . I try hard to just avoid being there. I truly love my family though... except him....I just can't be around him. He truly is Satan's pawn. I'm confused why that can't see thru his toxic behavior. Makes me want to cry
Know what you are dealing with. For me it's my sister. She has turned my nephew and my Great nephews, niece against me. Her son died and now it's like I don't want to attend the funeral because I too lost my daughter and it will bring flash backs
So, I know she won't care. I am asking God how to deal with this.😢
Stop going you can see your family on another day
Amen thanks for blessing Us with this lesson. I’m glad I found You❤
Completely true what Kris is saying. Isolated on my part and ostracized on their part after being the family scapegoat and bearing the burden of blame for family members as long as i can remember. Slowly rebuilding my life without toxic family dynamics.
I cant wait to come back to this very video inner peace 🕊️ with myself and amend my relationship with my eldsst son and regain our strength and energy lord help us to the power of willingly put in the work to sanity to work on recovering our love and souls from the foolish selfish insane decisions and toxic codependent unhealthy reverse roles reckless negative energy my first born endured because of his unstable toxic mother im picking up the peices of glass sharp hot glass with no protection cutting myself knowing its not the way to do it i will come back stronger better amd my sons will follow suit and i will remember this day thus time and what im feeling to keep fighting lord you know my heart cure my family lord ill leave what i cant control to you and today i choose wisdom and better me love me ❤ in your name i claim this message to me from higher self guidence from our lord Jesus Christ aman so be it