Personality traits for success in PhD | IIT prof's advice | PhD Admission
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- In this video, I discuss the personality traits that are essential for successfully completing a PhD. Overall, these personality traits can be grouped into three categories:
1. Openness to criticism, Resilience, and Adaptability
2. Courage and Independence of Thought
3. Selfishness and Street-Smartness
This video is part of a TH-cam playlist where I give various general advice to students at different levels (Bachelor, Master, PhD):
• Advice to students
Video by: Dr Jeevanjyoti Chakraborty, Mechanical Engineering Department, IIT Kharagpur
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"This kind of passive subservient behaviour is good for World peace but not for research" ~JJC 2022
Wish I had such advice before starting my PhD. Your words remind me the day when I first show my paper's draft to my advisor and his comments on it 😵💫
I am sure you have come a long way since then! :)
Thank you so much Professor. Currently I am pursuing my PhD from IIT. I have returned to academia after a long gap. Earlier while doing my MPhil, I had given up mid-way. I was in the batch 2014-16 but couldn't submit the dissertation even after completing almost 75% of the work. I went on for job, did job for more than 5 years and in between I re-registered by the end of 2017 and submitted in mid 2018. I can relate to your words. I have joined PhD in the spring semester of 2021 and I hope I will be focused and will be able to do a good research work. Your guidance is something I admire a lot.
Thank you for sharing your story. It is indeed commendable how despite breaks you have been steadfast in your journey. I wish you the very best for your PhD that it may be indeed be fruitful and your subsequent career matches your aspirations. (And, thank you for the kind words regarding the video!)
@@Prof_JC Thank you so much.
Very deep and a rare insight for the students like me who desires to join the PhD in the coming years. Heartfelt gratitude for you Sir.
9:00 Usually the PhD students have the virtue of helping others, they are kind ---> but too much of this virtue creates a constant desire to please everybody
*Solution--> Follow the Golden Mean between selflessness and selfishness,*: Bring little selfishness i.e. select a few from everybody, and only help others when your own work is complete, try to convert informal work to formal work.
Asadharon Video sir!
Nicely summarized! Thanks a lot!
@@Prof_JC Sir, if possible Kindly make one video on how you organize your study( & research work) and how you focus on studying for long hours... how you avoid daydreaming... although there are many suggestions in YT but none from IIT professor
@@SurajKumar-wj6cl I think it is better to take such advice/tips from other students. The kind of focus that profs have to give is somewhat different from that of students.
@@Prof_JC okay Sir....
Hello Professor, very nice explanation and informative video as usual. Especially when u mentioned the point " Healthy dose of selfishness and learning to say no" made a lot of sense. And the visuals were amazing like the joker, Lord of the Rings and above all my favorite hero Keanu Reeves 😃. Thank you
Thank you Madam once again for watching and appreciating the video. And I am glad you liked the visuals. But I wonder if perhaps they are bit outdated for this generation of students! My favourite movie is the Matrix and you would be amazed how many from this current generation has not watched this cult classic. (By the way, I am pinning your comment; hope you won't mind.)
@@Prof_JC Not at all Professor. It's my pleasure. Really visuals were amazing. Especially Lord of the Rings Gollum scene was simply awesome, and the final joker touch is one of my favorite quote. My brother always used to tell me that, since I am a bit emotional person. I believe ,this generation is more sunk into web series than movies. I still remember getting scolding from my mom for watching Matrix, without preparing for the exam, though Speed remains my all time favourite movie of Keanu . Thank you Professor.
@@sandhya5236 I remember watching Speed ... it was the mid nineties!
@@Prof_JC yes Sir, it was in mid nineties only. Even I am also 90s kids.
@@sandhya5236 wahhh what a healthy discussion going on but mam what's ur job now 😁😁😁
Excellent words and it is quintessential for one aspiring a career in research.. Prof. JC keeps inspiring students across the world 👏
Thank you!
@@Prof_JC sir can i connect to u after jee for career advice sir,, these jee teachers will eat up ur passion.. Up to what domain I think 😂😂so it's upto u,plz help me 🙂 if I connect to u.. 🙃🙃ur lovely ❤kiddie
A much needed advice Prof JC. Thank you for sharing your advice.
Sir your words are true for life in general.. Lots of respect to u sir🙏
True sir, all your suggestions are very helpful in daily life. Thank you so much for making the video.
Sir, thank you so much. I eagerly wait for your videos. Your advice really help a lot.
These are the actual parameters that makes research different and unique from other things. You have to work on so many aspects (academically and non-academically) at the same time which can really check your mental perseverance. Thats why in order to stay cool and self focused it is very important that we focus on these things- health(both physical and mental), emotional intelligence, spirituality.
Thank you.
Completely agreed!
Thank you for your insights, Sir, I am one such student who has not understood the concept of selfishness and ruined my Ph.D. This video has brought tears to my eyes but I am loving your videos which I have found recently.
Thank u so much sir ,I'm pursuing my PhD from Electrical Engineering Department NIT Silchar,your video really helping me a lot in surviving the PhD journey throughout
thank you for all the advice!
I like this man as a mentor🙏🙏🙏
What a video Professor!! I don't anyone would give such a precious piece of advice as available here. Thanks a ton!
Thanks a lot!
Fantastic video, as usual, Sir! Got to know about many aspects which are not usually discussed. And the clips and images were amazing :)
Thank you! Especially for continually watching the videos.
Thank you very much Sir for this raw introspection. I really like the last part. ❤️
Thank you!
Sir I literally admire your words. Your advice is something different which is not very much available in these times. Keep continuing
Thank you for the kind words!
Beautifully discussed. 👏👏👏
Very well explained Sir and raw truth 👍👍
Inspiring as usual. Thank you sir for your motivation and suggestions to the upcoming young researchers. We need these talks to get better ourselves.
Thank you!
Respected Sir! You are doing a great service to the student community by giving genuinely good advice. We really look up you! Thank you Sir!
Thank you!
Thankyou for the video sir.
Thanks for this video ❤️❤️
It was very knowledgeable for me.
Sir, the way you explain the difference between the mentality of a worker and a researcher was outstanding. There is not much difference in the thought process of a researcher and entrepreneurs. Both have independent approach and they are their own boss.
"Cau you please give some glimpse on the life of an IIT professor. What are the oppertunity and challenges faced... How is the work life balance and freedom."
thankyou prof. for putting this kind of content. I hope you keep doing this. because there is not much information on youtube related to this kind of stuff in indian perspective and an indian prof.
Thank you for the kind words.
Amazing Explanation...Please make a video on types of questions asked to PhD condidates while applying for interviews in industrial and academic sectors.
Hello professor,
I am really fascinated about research. As my branch is also electronics and telecommunication so I want to do research on electronics domain.But the main problem these days are research facilities are very underrated and very few people motivate to do research.sir my one request is that please make a video regarding research work and research facilities after doing mtech,so that the youth will inspire to follow their dream on this domain
Thank you sir
Nice advice sir, i also feels same to be in disguise is best for some geniuine reasonss #jee 2022 aspirant
Thank you sir, for such motivational and informative videos. Your all videos are really very practical and truth and shows me clear picture of the path in which I am moving forward. Hope to meet you in the future.
Thank you for thd kind words. Are you from IIT KGP?
Well said sir👏👏..im about to quit my PhD... Hearing your words , i will continue and take the criticism to any extent and resiliant now
All the best! Stay strong.
I would say that constructive criticism from the supervisor is the best boost in one's research career. However, there is a thin line between arrogance and goodwill. A supervisor must be open to debates on their comments. If a student doesn't feel that a few comments are worth following, the supervisor must be able to convince them that they are wrong. Unfortunately, many supervisors presume debates to be threats to their authority and wish that the student follows them to the letter. This culls creativity, which is another necessary trait for being a good researcher.
Hi JC, fellow teacher here. I enjoy your videos and direct students towards them for the great advice. All the qualities you mention are really important for PhD students. However, the examples in this video are perhaps a little bit more relevant for the top students who have good advisers.
The typical PhD students face a range of challenges like indifferent or incompetent adviser, frustration at the lack of papers, pressure to complete/ get postdoc, disenchantment with research and the subject itself, high level of isolation, high degree of stress and so on. I think it might help students a lot if you could talk about some of these in your upcoming videos.
Thank you for your kind comment. You have raised an important issue. However, as you may guess, my own experience has been on the extremely positive side. And, the friends I had during my PhD days mostly had such positive experiences. I did hear about negative cases but they were very rare. Since I don't have the first hand knowledge about that (fortunately!), I don't think it would be okay for me to give advice on such matters.
Life has so much to teach us. It will make the arrogant humble.
PhD is one such lesson of life. The purpose of life is to learn, unlearn, learn and grow. I imagine how good it would be if we could carry forward all these life experience into another life... 😃 But it would not be good for the balance in nature. Nature will not allow it. Anyway enough of the philosophy. 😀
Really liked your video. Keep posting such good stuff.
Very inspiring talk sir!! Can you please tell us about advantages/disadvantages of MTech to PhD switch over course and compare it with regular PhD after Mtech?
Hey Prof, thanks a lot for these videos - my wife is currently pursuing her PhD from IIT and has had to face many of the relatable situations you've talked about here.
It'd be super-awesome if you can continue to make more content related to PhD - with a topic request to potentially focus on for the next video:
How to develop the mindset & skills of a quality researcher
Thank you :)
Thank you for the suggestion. And, all the best to your wife!
"Identify the gap that is there" (at 7:00)... I think this pretty much sums up everything that a PhD student is required to do.
We need a Prof. like you who can unfold all these small but extremely important facts one by one. Sir, please keep on making videos related to PhD related topics as much as possible. It will encourage and support many students emotionally and mentally. Thanks.
Thank you for the very kind words. Can you please share the kind of videos you think would be useful for PhD?
@@Prof_JC Sir, these are some, which is in my mind. 1. How to optimize the time during the coursework period? 2. When should we approach our supervisor, is it okay to meet him/her everyday. 3. What is a general expectation of a Prof with his PhD students. 4. What are some common mistakes which PhD scholars do during their PhD. 5. How to learn "to write academic paper". Etc
@@MdSajid-fd7zf Thank you for the suggestions.
Thanks JC sir for creating such content :) this was a much needed video for everyone. Academic superstars to imposter syndrome is quite a journey.
P.s : personality trait for world peace was a good one 😁
Thank you!
Your videos are the anecdotes to the challenges we face and about to face in our Ph.D. life. I really appreciate that sir.
Thank you sir for inspiring us. We are really blessed that our country have such motivating figure like you to guide the Ph.D. students in the right direction.
Thank you indeed for the kind words!
Respect+ from IIT Kanpur. It would be great to listen more of these more often.
Thank you. Here is the link to the whole playlist on similar videos: th-cam.com/play/PLjqHSJaE98hnbB3n6qZf0xH1QneBx9zwk.html
Great suggestions Prof. JC 👍
Thank you.
Feedback and (constructive) criticism is so important, it's a bit diffcult for me understand how studients struggle with it so much. I have a supervisor who has never provided any significant guidance at all and i gradually lost all interest in the work. All of the research work that has been published under his name (as last author) is infact the independent and unsupervised work of his research scholars, who have some how managed to scrape through. I personally don't know how i will make it. I have been grateful for any criticism of my work from any professor in my subject area. It has all helped me so much even though it's few and far between. I have had to personally seek out feedback. And i make sure to tell them i am open hearing anything including some harsh words. But then again, they have limited time and they're not my supervisors so i am not comfortable bothering them too much.
Another personality trait is so central for PhD students that it deserves another video... INTEGRITY AND ETHICAL VALUES (or more aptly, the LACK OF Integrity, and APATHY towards ethical values !!!!!!)... Unfortunately in many universities in India, a PhD is often undertaken solely for the purpose of compliance, to fulfill the requirements of education regulators like UGC or AICTE.... Those who undertake and complete a PhD with this mindset go on to become Faculty, and perpetuate the same mindset in their PhD students... The only preoccupation of such Faculty/ Supervisors is not to get caught by plagiarism software (there are other software which help in this !!!!!!) and to get the minimum required number of publications any which way, to show a pretense of research !!!... This is a different kind of "Selfishness" !!!... The young PhD student knows that this is not the right attitude, but as everyone is going through the motions of a PhD, he/ she follows the herd. 🐑🐑🐑
Thankfully I never had to face this situation at IIT Kharagpur. So it never came to my mind! Primarily, because it is something of a given. If a video were to be made on how to become rich, surely it would not be necessary to say "Don't steal!" On a more serious note, I completely agree with you that such kinds of "PhDs" are going on ... it is extremely unfortunate and a black mark on our profession. I think the best advice I would give to young students thinking of going for a PhD is be very careful against joining such institutes where there is this kind of culture. I know there is a lot of subtlety involved and just making such sweeping remarks is not going to change anything. But to address this problem, we have to strike at the root of the problem in terms of how the system works ... just asking young students to inculcate integrity and ethical values will hardly make a dent.
It is like an entrepreneurial journey indeed!😅
Thank you sir for your guidance again...
Sir a lot of us have a lot of miscellaneous work in hand by second year, so we fail miserably in planning our work ending up in a poor productivity. I would be very pleased if you throw some light in this area in your upcoming videos, sir.
Again, thanks sor for a great video.😊
Thank you for consistently watching my videos! You have broached an important issue: productivity! In fact, if you just search around on the internet, you will realize that there is an entire industry (books, software, hardware, gadgets and what not) built up around it. And, there is no dearth of "gurus". I think if you go through these you will slowly begin to realize that none of the advice given by others will exactly fit yours. You will get some good ideas from others but ultimately you will have to build a system which is your own ... most importantly it must be something that is in sync with your personality style and your mental speed, your own level of laziness (we will have that!). You could take a look at the books and blog posts of Cal Newport. He himself is an exemplar of productivity (he is a professor in CS, writes non-CS books, does podcasts, and a bunch of other things in addition to having a proper family life).
@@Prof_JC Thank you for your reply, sir.
I'll definitely look into those materials.🙂
@@Prof_JC Deep Work by Cal Newport!
sir, it would be nice if you could make a video of your journey to becoming a professor.
I am a 4 th ( Fourth) standard dropout. Now aged 50, I hope to study further from elementary things. Your videos are insightful and helpful
Hello Sir,
Independence of thoughts is mostly discouraged by the seniors/system esp at workplace
Thanks for making such videos
We are talking about PhD here. Every supervisor that I know of wishes his/her PhD students to develop this independence of thought!
Dear Professor,
Can you please talk in the topic if mid-income family' student should try to pursue doctoral study abroad even if he/she has not a good Overall CGPA but found passion for research after masters degree ?
Sir, can you make videos on mental health of students?
The most interesting video I have ever watched......
You mean in this channel, I think? :)
@@Prof_JC that I don't know 😅...
@@varunvirat7327 I will take that! And thank you. :) I hope you saw it till the end for the joker bit.
Thank you so much for your wonderful talks.
We need mentors like you who talk about ground realities of academia .
I have one question, i have completed by masters in 2018 and didn't got enrolled in PhD cos of some reasons, but i really want to dive into this, but many people say that institutes don't consider students having gap years, is that true?.
What else i should do then?
Thank you. To the best of my knowledge, the gap years by themselves don't disqualify anyone. However, you have to look up the rules for the PhD admission process specific to a particular institute that you are interested in applying.
Very well organized and fluent explanation Sir! I want your much needed advice on following
I am in my 2nd sem of Mtech(online) and the major barrier i am facing is the Reading part. Reading everything from a computer screen is actually putting lot of strain on my eyes since I am passionate about reading research papers and articles. So is this how mtech and phd is going to be? If so, I am thinking of taking a break after my Mtech before starting Phd. Will this gap hamper my research profile?
I did ask this to my profs. but want your POV. Apology for incovenience of reading this big para.
Thank you. All of us are suffering from eye strain especially with everything online during this pandemic. During PhD if we can finally get back to a normal physical lab routine, then you can get papers printed out for reading. If possible, try to avoid taking a break. It can sometimes hamper the pace and focus.
Thank you sir for your suggestions, I am a PhD scholar in IIT KGP, and this pandemic time is also affecting my work. Can you also help how to plan PhD and keep up the motivation?? Your suggestions are very helpful.
Thank you. But I am really hoping that such a video would very soon be no longer necessary!
PhD র চাপের কথা অনেকে বলেন,, অনেকে কি কি ভাবে chance পাওয়া যাবে ,,NET exam এর question ও discuss করেন, তা necessary ও ,,কিন্তু আপনার ভিডিওতে আপনি খুব সুন্দর করে সত্যি টাকে ,,real problems গুলো কে share করেছেন। তার জন্য অসংখ্য ধন্যবাদ। TH-cam এর দয়ায়, আপনার প্রচেষ্টায় জিনিস গুলো কে খুব সহজ করে বুঝতে পারছি ।।
Thank you very much for the kind words. Khub bhalo laglo shune je video gulor theke kichu labh hochche!
@@Prof_JCapni bangali?
Sir can you please make a video on that how with low gate score a student can do direct PhD from IIT's . Is there a written test and interview procedure?? Please sir I will be grateful to you if you enlighten me about this procedure of getting into iits for PhD.
This is exactly what happened to me in my master's thesis
Sir, my self Numan Siddique Mazumder, persuing PhD in mechanical engineering department. My PhD topic is numerical simulation of fuel droplet evaporation process. My supervisor is Prof.Asis Giri.. He has completed his Ph.D from IISc bengalore. Prof.Suman Chakraborty and my supervisor are known to each other..Sir, I have gone through your publication.. how did u publish so many articles in top journals at the age 32..! Kuddos to you sir...your publication gives me lots of motivation in work.. you are the real hero of my life. 🙏✌️✌️
Thank you for the very kind words! But note that there are others who have a stronger publication record than I have! But I think a major reason behind what I was able to achieve was the culture of paper writing that Prof. Suman Chakraborty fostered in his research group. I carried a bit of that culture to my postdoc also.
Sir I also faced harsh criticism when I was drafting a research proposal recently. I am currently in 3rd year.
Are you doing your PhD here in India? As long as the criticism is from your supervisor, take it in your stride. Of course, it is important to note the difference between professional criticism and abusive language (I am sure your professor was doing the former!).
@@Prof_JC actually sir I am in my 3rd year B.Tech at mnnit allahabad .
I drafted a proposal for research internship at IIT Kanpur so took help of a professor with whom I am doing some research .
The criticism was constructive one as I had no prior knowledge of academic writing.
My field of interest is CFD
Hello sir, I am interested in pursuing my phd in a different stream(CSE/AI-ML) which is not same as my bachelor's(Electronics) so is it a good idea or should I stick to my domain even though they share a lot of common theorie's and concept's?
Sir Kash apne yhe video phele bani hoti tho mere time na waste hota in chizon Mae. Thanks 😊
Are you already a PhD student?
Yes sir from Thapar University
In thermal insulation and durability in building for energy efficiency using simulation (fem)
I see. It is certainly an important topic. But it is up to you now how much you can extract out of it and make a career in it. The supervisor will be there, but ultimately (as I mentioned in the video), it will be up to you. I know some students initially get a feeling of disillusionment ... but slowly they adapt. I suggest that you trust yourself, focus, and take complete responsibility on what you have to do. All the best!
u have thoroughly explained about the phd successful traits. Why did u add Dracula at the end?
Thank you. That's not Dracula! That's the famous Joker character from the movie The Dark Knight. The actor is Heath Ledger who won an Oscar for this role. And that line I included at the end is a very famous one.
Thank you sir.. For the great video it's really helpful.. More to see videos like this.. ❤❤❤❤.
Sir, from where I am able to contact you..!.
Thanks and regards ❤
Thank you for the kind words. Quite a few other students have contacted me through email; that's the best way.
@@Prof_JC sir your mail id is it on iitkgp website??
Hai sir, I did m.tech in thermal engineering, which softwares should I learn for my department
Greetings Professor,
As always, great advice and tips for students starting their PhD career. Thank's a lot!
Thank you Hemanth! I hope your work and studies are going great. :)
Yes, Professor.
The research work started this quarter and it's a good start. Lots of things to learn 😀.
@@hemanthy9610 Great! Stay in touch.
@@Prof_JC sure, Professor.
Sir? HC Verma book is enough for jee physics?
Sir, My 10th is second Division can i get a chance to do phd in some USA universities? Although i m pursuing my M.Tech. in Signal and Image Processing at NIT ROURKELA. Right now my M. Tech. Is going on. I m in first yr second sem. Please guide me.
For PhD in the US, the main things they will look for are your academic performance in Bachelor's and Master's levels, and if you have any publication from your project works. Especially, if you have a publication, it can seriously make your case strong. All the best!
Sir I'm currently pursuing PhD from a state university. I want to discontinue my PhD since my supervisor is not having much subject knowledge and Dont know how to guide too. If anything is given for correction my supervisor won't do it . And say that just send the paper or abstract. Since I know that my supervisor is not having much knowledge so that I won't go for discussion and Im fed up. I think it's a better idea to discontinue. I'm qualified for JRF. Then also i had made a mistake.
Sir currently I am a iit aspirant
2022 and to being a selfish it may be help to get iit
All the best!
@@Prof_JC thanku sir🙏
Sir do you teach freshers at iitkgp?
I taught 1st year Mechanics from 2019 to 2021.
Sir is there any difference between iphd and phd specially, there degree values are same etc?
Make a video on the above topic please, it's a humble request to you sir?
Do you mean "Integrated PhD" ... as in the programme where a M.Tech student converts into a PhD programme? If so, there is no difference in the value at all. In fact, only the best students are selected for such conversion.
Sir is the marks/CPI we get in the course work of PhD matters in Assistant professor job selsction in IITs. If yes, then how much minimum CPI criteria is there for PhD course
Sir please reply🙏
Sorry for the late reply. The grades that you obtain in PhD coursework do not matter at all for faculty position selection at the IITs.
@@Prof_JC thank you Sir🙏
I wish i had seen this video before dropping out of phd. I thought i was not good enough and was very bad in taking criticism
Edit: i realised i failed grandly in all aspects.
Grateful to you, Prof. However, don't you think being selfish makes the atmosphere of the lab toxic just like in corporate world. Instead, we may help our juniors by just giving them hints and let them do things by themselves.
Giving hints and tips as part of daily interactions is not just fine but a part of a healthy lab culture. What I mentioned in the video was that sometimes, some students take it upon themselves to write the code or run the simulation just because they are more capable ... and then more students approach them which ultimately hampers the student's own work. In order to avoid such a situation, a healthy dose of "selfishness" is required. People need to learn how to say "no" in a polite way.
@@Prof_JC Exactly, Professor. Honestly, your videos are helping me in building myself, here at IIT Delhi. You are shaping my thoughts. Thank you very much, Professor.
@@AkashDeep-st6ms Thank you. All the best!
Respected sir,is it ok to start PhD at the age of 27?
Just try to finish it before you are 32. Certain fellowships at the postdoc level in India have the age limit of 32.
@@Prof_JC ok Sir, Thanks for your valuable feedback 😊
I’m in agreement with most of what’s said but selfishness is not the correct term to use. Being able to say no in order to have down time or recreational time or time to do dissertation research is not being selfish. Doing research and writing a dissertation is a team sport requiring support from many at the university, the committee, family friends, colleagues, etc. no one can go it alone everyone needs help at some point. It’s all about time management. To label time management as selfishness is just ignorant click bait.
Thank you for the comment. This video is part of a series targeted primarily at the student community in India. I did my own PhD in India and I am currently also a faculty member in India. I am guessing you are from the US. So there is something of a cultural gap in the interpretation of how I used "selfish".
I have known supervisors having to tell their own students to be a bit more selfish for their own sake. There is a subtlety here that goes beyond time management, and to properly understand that one would have to grow up in this cultural setting.
Furthermore, the point I made at the end regarding converting an informal help to a formal collaboration and to ensure getting proper credit by being included in the author list is something which many students never think about. And, it was something which was taught to me by my own supervisor. And this again goes beyond time management.
Even in a non-academic setting, what passes off as self-care and me-time in the West, can often get labelled as selfish here in India.
I think it is rather unfortunate that you felt necessary to term something as "ignorant click bait". You could have just asked why I am using the word "selfish".
I know it can be difficult for people to view the world through anything other than the lens of the cultural setting that they were brought up in. But I hope I was able to explain the situation.