I agree that it should not be viewed as a kink, but it's not like naming a sex act is some super uncommon thing. There are very few things in sex that don't have a weirdly specific name, so not calling pegging pegging seems to me to make it stand out more from other sex acts, than just giving it a name.
i think what she meant was more like changing the name to something fresh and less stigmatized. which is entirely in the realm of possibility, i think, bcuz pegging is a slang word and slang changes constantly
@@lemo8986 I disagree, the example she gave was using anal sex with a dildo - so no slang, no new terms. Kind of like masturbation. Most people don't really differentiate between masturbation with or without a toy. Why is anal different?
@@lemo8986 There's two separate criticism of the term. The first is that there is an issue with the particular word and where it came from so it should be changed. But there is also a separate group of people who believe that there shouldn't be a term for it at all. Hannah discussed the second criticism on an episode of Doing It with Quinn Rhodes.
@@BeingTheHunt then i guess i misunderstood what she was trying to say, my bad! if that was her meaning, then i think there should be a word for those who want to use it and those who dont can avoid using it. Its like music genres, to some theres just pop, rap, metal, etc but to those who want to be more specific theres pop-punk, trap rap, and death metal. if that makes sense as for where it came from, savage is a bit of a dumbass but, personally, i think putting it up to a vote was a good idea. let the people decide, art from the artist, blah blah blah. perhaps someone else in future who isnt a vile person could make another vote and try for a new term if we need one at all
@@lemo8986 Yes, if people use a word to refer to something then that's what it means, no offence is intended by it. I know Hannah is a fan of using many different words to define other things, why should sex acts be different? To me it's like she's saying someone shouldn't say they're "going to the shop", they should say they're "going out".
I love the chill vibe combined with so much interesting and important info! Keep educating, you do it so well in a way that’s so easy for people to connect with and understand
5:44 Even if something is "female in some way" it seems very problematic that that would make it "degrading, humiliating, or weak" for a man to do. This isn't just a homophobic idea, this is very much a sexist idea. The Ancient Romans saw being penetrated as weak and feminine, and made you less of a man, and that wasn't rooted in homophobia but sexism, and a controlling idea of class and gender (and that being a woman made you like a slave and that being a slave made you like a woman).
It is none of that. It's just ones sexuality. Nothing wrong with that. Humiliating would be being forced to be penetrated, if you're a straight male. Or being forced to penetrate a woman, if you're a gay male. Examples...
Which was not the case in ancien greece, where anal sex was normal for both genders and practiced by all. There is also records of pharaohs getting pegged by their wives during rituals.
I think this is my favorite video of yours, and I've been watching for years! It has the perfect mix of "clinical" explanation and yet personal phrasing that still makes it feel like just talking with a friend
What part of this was clinical. She's talking about men getting pounded. Which only means 1 thing for the man. Deep down inside he's hiding what he truly is.
I love how you addressed so many nuances in such an articulated and concise way. This video is super informative for newbies to the topic and also brings some new perspectives to someone who’s already familiar! I loved that you included so many viewer testimonies from so many unique points of view. Fantastic as always!
nice thing about it is being able to sum up a paragraph in one word. makes communicating about stuff a lot easier when you don't have to repeat a long statement multiple times in a short period. i can see all the points you mentioned. was just reminded of how slang works in a technical field. If instead of saying RAM it had to be described every single time
I think it is interesting how penetrating is socially perceived as being synonymous with having power. While from one angle one might see the act of penetration as being powerful (given that one is "entering someone else's territory" or one is dominating the other, which is an act of power), from another angle, the act of providing "space" for penetration, the act of facilitating the passage of something, might be viewed as powerful as well. Take perhaps a silly example of a phone charger in an electric socket. Is one of these positions, being the charger or the socket, more powerful than the other? No. It is the social context that assigns power to these positions.
Nahh penetrating definitely is dominant, and it's socially precieved that way because it makes sense lol And in your words, providing space for penetration is clearly submissive lmao and the socket analogy is just stupid wtd
You're quite right; it's a matter of perspective and imagination. Penetration can be viewed as envelopment, as being surrounded, absorbed, disappeared, taken. "Oh no, you've taken my phallus from me, and incorporated it into your body! It's surrounded! Will I ever get it back?"
@@imdebaws3715 My wife's attitude towards senior sex changed one she pegged me. In our mid and late 60's, our regular sex life had become all but not existent. But, after a girls-night- over, my wife discovered pegging and introduced this wonderful sex play to me. Usually timid, my wife found a new passion, my ass. And, i am loving it. She also loves the power she feels f_ _king me good, hard and deep. She now demands I wear her underwear when we reverse role play. I never thought I'd go that far. But, the excitemen
I feel like 'cishet dudes can also enjoy putting things in their butt' should be enough explaination of why pegging is popular but we live in a society
Stavljanje i uguravanje stvari u guzicu je grubo rečeno ali da,savršeno je ugodno,riješava se stresa i apsolutno je dobro vježbati masažu prostate.Bolji je užitak i od orgazma👍❤️🍀
Fun fact. Stimulating the prostate which is best done through anal penetration, has been shown to decrease the risk of prostate cancer. Do it for your health people!
yaaas, my favorite sex ed youtuber talking about my favorite kink. i get that some men would be afraid of getting called "gay" or something, but if they can pass that mental barrier, they would experience so much pleasure. and male g spot is right there for a reason
Hi, Hannah! First of all, thank you for this video it was very informative and fun. The topic of pegging is really nuanced, as it gets at the heart of a lot of the frankly damaging social ideas around penises, penetration, and power. It is a cultural reality in our society that penises and penetration are associated with power, and I feel like you pointed that out often when talking about why strapping it on can make people feel empowered and help them embody new or different roles in sex. I also recognize that many of the ideas you were sharing came directly from people who like pegging, whose ideas reasonably reflect these cultural ideals. I worry though that you didn't take the time to critique some of the harmful aspects of this idea. I appreciate you pointing out the perspective that "pegging" as a term sanitizes the act of anal sex, but I feel you didn't really address the harmful nature of the cultural association of penises with power. The confidence that comes from pegging is real, but it comes from outdated and harmful beliefs about gender and genitals. Penises are just genitals, and while the cultural association with power is relevant in discussions of pegging, it is not inherent. The act of getting fucked in the ass is not inherently submissive, it is just one of many ways to experience pleasure. The association of penises with power, and of being penetrated with being submissive reinforces a fear we have in our society of penises, which harms transfeminine people with penises, and maintains systems of homophobia, transphobia, and misogyny. This video was extremely well crafted, and I am not about to start calling people out for using the term pegging, but I feel in this context I would be remiss not to point out how reinforcing the association of penises with power (rather than critiquing it) maintains certain systems of oppression. Thanks again for the thoughtful video, I really love your content!
Oooh yes all really good points!! I think it’s great to celebrate that people feel really powerful when pegging but also important to examine wwwwwhhhyyyyy. Why is being the one with the penis/strap-on seen are more powerful/dominant! Thanks for raising!
Very nice to read this! Just a few moments ago I wrote the comment stating that this super dominant talk makes me super uncomfortable. I got super uncomfortable and almost angry feeling with the penis/penetration = dominant and couldn't really understand why it is rubbing me the wrong way that much. Reading this makes me understand abit more. I struggle seriously a lot with my sexuality and I think it might be due to this dominating narrative
You rise a good point, Try to remember everybody is different and enjoy different aspects. But I think its the power dynamic that most people enjoy, at least for me. Being bent over is very valuable position with no direct control, So it takes trust which is a great bonding excise. When I'm submissive I gain a lot of indirect control and feel powerful, more powerful then topping. Obviously everyone is different, so difficult people enjoy different aspects, But I do think it not cultural but mostly inherent for many people.
@@pupip55 I really appreciate your perspective here! I want to clarify that I don't think it is wrong or bad for people to feel powerful in various sexual positions -- again, that confidence is real and a product of very real social relationships! And I agree that bottoming can feel both vulnerable AND powerful. I do want to encourage you to think about why you think attaching certain meanings to certain positions is inherent. Physical pleasure is inherent and may be associated with specific positions, but the meanings we associate with those positions aren't.
7:19 To me, the one that is dominating is the one penetrating. It's my POV, and I think majority thinks like me, idk... Also, to me, a straight male that likes to be penetrated, it's not really straight, but bissexual. To me that's just how it is, straight males only like to penetrate females, not being penetrated, even if by their female partner. A so called straight male that's likes being penetrated it is just someone affraid to admit is own sexuality, and can "get a taste of it" without being called bissexual or gay, wich is still perceived as offensive to most of them, Because of well, society, you know what I mean. In the end, doesn't really matter how you indentify, how you have pleasure or who you have it with, or what do you call it. They're just labels and names, that's all. Again, this is my own POV, each rightfully has its own, based on many things. In the end, just do whatever you want and be respectful towards everybody else, and be happy 💪🙏✌❤
I don't see it as qinky at all. It should be a part of regular vanilla seggs (I don't mean everyone should like it I mean it should be a regular dish on the menu). It's not like women strapping other women is considered qinky. I think removing it from being considered qink and just calling it strapping will go a long way to normalize it
I think you’ve touched on this before, but I’d love to see you do stuff to do with people who are disabled. Like sex when things down below don’t work as we expect them to, or in my case, sex when you have chronic pain
@@forestno0k I appreciate that some might not like it but as a person with a few disabilities both visible and not, it’s my preference. It’s always a difficult one to navigate. Much like should we be saying (for example) a person with autism, or an autistic person. I think it’s all subjective. But I mean no offence :)
Please never use differently abled again and instead just use disabled. That is BY FAR the more preferred term to use and many people are actually offended by "differently abled" myself included.
@@thequeerrunner5745 for the autism point definitely go with autistic as default and adjust if someone prefers person with autism. Autistic is the generally preferred term (many of us find person with autism offensive!). I’d you wanted an in between, “person on the autism spectrum” is pretty neutral!
Opening up here... I'm a trans woman and I've personally never had a problem with the term pegging or found it gendered, although I didn't know it's origins. I also think you you omitted critical information about douching which people who are curious about this stuff would likely want to know. Thanks for your great content Hannah.
For me personally, i find douching causes more mess. I just make sure i play at the right time of day, use condoms on my toys and jump in the shower when I'm done. I've never had any big problems, accidents, or complaints from partners.
Douching if done too often can actually be quite harmful for the body. It's more about ensuring you go to the bathroom before hand and even using a finger just go check you're 'clean' enough etc
I am curious why you didn't mention cleaning out prior to pegging. I have never tried pegging, so I am not sure what the standard procedures are. However, I find it interesting that I have only ever heard cleaning out discussed by gay male content creators (e.g. Watts the Safeword), even though people of all genders and sexual orientations engage in anal play/sex.
I was thinking the same thing! A bisexual male friend told me all about it. I never thought about cleaning, it's not mentioned in fiction books or movies I've read and watched.
Douching (cleaning out) if done too often can actually be harmful or the body and in fact isn't needed if you frequently go to the bathroom and ensure you go before you plan to engage in any sort of act involving the anus etc.
I don’t have any hard evidence to back this up but it really seems to be more common in the LGBT+ community, especially w gay men. I talk about this stuff w people a lot and I’ve never met a cis woman who douches before anal. It’s also generally not recommended by professionals for health reasons. It’s not gonna kill you and it’s a personal choice, but that could be another reason it’s not suggested. I think hygiene is also kind of a different topic, like I wouldn’t expect information on cleaning a vulva in a video on piv sex if that makes sense
@@leggyegg2890 I expect everything from Hannah's Channel. :-D I had half a year of bladder infections after not doing proper hygiene around piv sex. I didn't know you are supposed to wash the vulva (directly or least a few hours) before having piv sex and I also didn't know you are supposed to pee directly after. Apparently this bladder infection after intercourse is very common with women and I never knew before I got it myself. So a video on sex and hygiene would be appreciated @Hannah_Witton.
@@emmynoether9540 I’d love to see this video too - and sorry that happened, that sucks! I actually went through a similar thing and it’s definitely something people need more info on I know Sexplanations has a video on the topic for anyone that’s curious or unsure but I’d love to see one from Hannah too ☺️
Giving certain acts a name may also make it a bit more easy for people to communicate their desires. Pegging for example maybe easier for couples to discuss the topic. I don't care what its called, what's more important is being able to communicate with each other and discuss sex, sexual fantasies etc...
5:24 maybe it could end up with a new name, but to describe something instead of using the term for it is so inefficient. Sure if you draw a blank on something (or dont know the term), you have to describe it (or describe it because you're doing it sensually while transitioning between poses or foreplay or something).
Personal values and experiences. There's no right or wrong - it's a question each individual has a unique answer to and with time it's also likely to change.
Fun topic!! I would like to try this act sometime. One thing though, the whole narrative of "feeling powerful being the one penetrating"... it implies that receiving isn't powerful or active and I don't relate!! Like, for me (a cis woman), I feel powerful letting my partner in, I'm the one enveloping or embracing the other, I'm getting what I want (obviously he does too, being a consensual relationship). I understand historically why it seems submissive, but it doesn't ring true, right?? As if being vulnerable were bad, as if it weren't the most powerful move after all.
Have heard from a friend who’s is a sexual assault survivor that it makes her feel powerful. Whilst you may feel that way others do not, they struggle to enjoy penetrative sex from their experience but say when they are pegging it kinda gives them control and power back.
@@wowsuchname1939 I also feel that healing as a survivor, which was an unexpected bonus as my experience was 20 years ago. My husband loves it too. We trust each other in all areas of life. I think any sexual experience requires trust and sexual abuse is the ultimate betrayal. Your mind can heal but the body holds trauma longer than we realize. Sex is therapeutic in so many ways, individual and shared in its expression and somewhat creative too. Sex awakens all chakras, not just the root and sacral which are physically touched. Embodiment is so important for life and fulfillment on all levels. Sex is a wonderful primal tool for this. Yoga is another wonderful tool for embodiment and healing. Yoga is mind, body and breath connection - a way of life in moving prana i.e. energy.
So, the comment about lube is super on point. It tends to be pretty dry back there, and trying to force things can lead to tearing which you _really_ want to avoid. It also ups the friction, which can lead to other potential health consequences I think we'd all like to avoid, as well. If you're using a toy, then make sure you have a lube that won't damage it. For the first time, use a *lot.* You can dial it down in subsequent sessions until you know where the sweet spot is. And make sure to test it on all participants prior to fun time to ensure nobody has any surprise allergies or sensitivities. Finding out "the hard way" is absolutely unfun when talking about sex. I learned I have a sensitivity to the spermicide on some condoms my boyfriend had that way, and it was pretty much hell until my body managed to flush everything. I'd hate to think what would have happened were I legitimately allergic.
So grateful for the queer viewpoints discussed in these videos. I’m the first to admit that I need more education on the topic, as I was raised in a more conservative household. Hearing about the whole queer spectrum is so great for expanding my mindset
Start small, you will be tempted to get the medium size but honestly go small to start. Also take it really slow and don't make it weird. Us men unfortunately have been made to feel we are gay because we enjoy something outside of the vanilla.
I love that you said, your sexuality still is valid if you do not have sex. As someone who doesn't really have sex or even associates with dating (not for not wanting it, just busy life lol) and someone who used to strongly identify as gay - over the last few years my lack of interactions with queer people in the community or even being attracted to people of the same gender or not having the experience that I thought I should have - has made me question if I really even am on the queer spectrum anymore. Numerous conversations and reassurances with friends definetley make me feel better about the fact that sexual history or attraction or anything does not have to do with how you identify - But this one line feels like a mantra that I should adopt when I'm feeling a bit off.
Hello Hannah! This may sound odd. But I work in an art museum where one of our most famous artworks is 72 vagina cast moulds, from all walks of life age ect, all different, all beautiful! While I was dusting them (making them presentable) it got me thinking... would you ever consider doing a video on this subject? And maybe the difference in pre vs post birth? I know there's not that much information on how your vulva feels/heals/looks after baby and the subject is very taboo. I feel like it would be such a great educational video. Just food for thought! Thanks for your time! And congratulations on your pregnancy! Sending love ❤ and good vibes!! Feel free to reach out if you'd like more information on the artwork!
tangent thought, if the pegger lays down on their back and the peggee sits on the strapon and rides it, is it still pegging? Like if the sub/dom roles are reversed but the strapon wearer/receiver are kept the same, does it need a new term or does it still fall into the same? --edit-- position mentioned at 12:08, so i guess in this context the "roles" have no bearing on the term just the strapon/anal defines it
Married almost 40 years and I'm still passionately in love her. There's no wrong making love to the person you love. We have not tried it but we have talked about pegging. There's a lot of information about pegging. Do your homework. You don't want to send the one you love to the hospital. With a embarrassing injury?
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Where you are right, you are right. There is never too much lube. There are only idiots who buy it from the wrong store. Humans are also nothing more than a dry-nosed primate aka mammal. The lube a vet uses will do the job just as well as the sex shop stuff, it's just a lot more affordable. At an online dealer in Germany, for example, KERBL Lubricating Gel VetGel costs between €9.14/l and €5.38/l for a purchase of 5 bottles, all including VAT and shipping. 2, 3 or 4 liters are in between, the stuff is also a little cheaper in 5-liter canisters, but handling it in the bedroom/playroom at home is more unwieldy. The 1 liter bottle is the better solution and if you buy more at once the price is right too. Whereby the provider and price is only an example, if you search, you will certainly always find a cheaper offer, also from other manufacturers. "Lubricating gel to make hands and arms slippery and an excellent skin protection during rectal and vaginal examinations" says in the description, so it's not only suitable for pegging, but also for fisting. Since it is water-based, it does not damage the silicone toys either.
No, it isnt because its a trauma or anything. Its just for us men, we arent used to being fucked, we are used to fucking. While pegging itself isnt inherently a femdom thing, there is an undeniable power exchange in it from the side of the man to and in favor of the woman. So, that power exchange is one we as men we arent used to, so it makes the man feel emotionally vulnerable and in need of after care and holding the man close after it. And even it being more important if the woman decided to be dominant or display dominance in the bedroom, which would make the man feel more vulnerable despite both enjoying their time. Hope that answers your question.
I think it's interesting that it's called pegging and not anal sex. On the podcast "unladylike" they talked about how it's about "protecting" straight men from being associated with gay sex. Although I'm aware that the term came from Dan savage.
I kinda like the fact it is different from "anal sex' to be honest. I think clarity in sex acts is never a bad thing. The main thing is that pegging has a stigma about "toxic masculinity" i guess
"7:19 To me, the one that is dominating is the one penetrating. It's my POV, and I think majority thinks like me, idk... Also, to me, a straight male that likes to be penetrated, it's not really straight, but bissexual. To me that's just how it is, straight males only like to penetrate females, not being penetrated, even if by their female partner. A so called straight male that's likes being penetrated it is just someone affraid to admit is own sexuality, and can "get a taste of it" without being called bissexual or gay, wich is still perceived as offensive to most of them, Because of well, society, you know what I mean. In the end, doesn't really matter how you indentify, how you have pleasure or who you have it with, or what do you call it. They're just labels and names, that's all. Again, this is my own POV, each rightfully has its own, based on many things. In the end, just do whatever you want and be respectful towards everybody else, and be happy 💪🙏✌❤" Sorry for the lazyness, that was a comment I wrote just some minutes ago. I think you are right tho, "straight" man just don't like to admit they like to get f*cked lmao Btw, pegging doesn't always have to be anal
Something about how most of this is resolving around domination kind of talk makes me extremely uncomfortable and almost angry. The penetration/penis = dominating really rubs me the wrong way, but I don't fully understand why.
My girlfriend talk me into trying it. This was over 20 years ago.. I was very apprehensive.. but there is something about it that can be very stimulating for both male and female.. for the man it's a good prostate massage, and for the woman there is the role reversal of domination 🤗
i love being pegged by a lovely lady doing as im told but unfortunately cant for my life find one willing near me to do it i have tried over and over its impossible
“Never understood the appeal, but people are into what they’re into. If the people involved are up for it, it doesn’t hurt anyone.” - Max, 1. “I want to try it for two reasons: 1) I’m pretty submissive I’ll admit. The idea of being pegged is kind of a fetish I’ve had. 2) You need to experiment a little in your life. Otherwise, it’s just so boring.” - George, 2. “Willing to try if it was that important.” - Eashan, 3. (This three statement of the above people seemed unbelievable) ⬆️⬆️⬆️
Never given it much thought, can’t say I’m overly keen on the idea. Would probs only allow it if the person I was with was desperate to try it and we’d been together for ages. Partially think it’s a question of dominance but also the unknown. Definitely would have to be steps in between as well, not going straight for it. I'm willing to try it for two reasons: 1) For prostate massage purposes. Because prostate massage has endless benefits. It is also discussed on Google, TH-cam and books. 2) For the purpose of gratification in it, so that the participants get a touch of heaven. I swear to God, if this is done carefully, then It will undoubtedly create great love between the couple. Otherwise it's so boring. ☺️☺️☺️
I feel like if I DID participate I would just refer to it as sex.... Why do strangers or the world need to know what hole is being penetrated and by who it what. Idk just my opinion but honestly it is just sex to me and only the details are important for people involved. Maybe some people want pointers? And that's why they're sharing? Idk 😶
Reading some of the comments shows me tbh how insecure many guys are and how afraid they are of strong women who like being in charge. As a straight guy, nothing wrong with being pegged and if done right is super fun!
It's just sex people not that big of a deal if I was ina relationship and my GF want to swap underwear because it her idea why not it doesn't make me a cross dresser .
I knew about how was named, and made a joke a few years ago about how due to the attitudes around it's more like probing(aliens). I did not know the writer's issues, this seems to be a common thing lately of writer's with shite morals. From where I am pegging is still a relatively gendered term. But only when a woman does it to man. The rest of the time I hear strap on sex or just anal. Pegging is on my to do list with my partner, we both just have stomach issues so hard to schedule.
Is Dan Savage controversial? I didn’t know this, damn. I have been listening to his podcast for the past year or so and didn’t hear him make any victim blaming or transphobic comments that I noticed. If anything I do remember him being trans affirming. So here’s hoping he changed but thanks for bringing it up. Also, I always thought of pegging as simply using a strap on dildo to penetrate anything in any type of person. Didn’t know there where gender connotations there till your podcast ep. Not sure if this is a more common definition with younger generations?
Whew boy is he ever controversial. I personally don’t care for him myself but I think his off color comments mostly come from understandable human ignorance that can be corrected. He’s treated asexuality as a joke in the past, which I hope has changed.
I've listened for several years. I think it's mostly from situations where he tried to make a joke and it was the wrong context or just wasn't funny, or someone just got offended when it was a decent joke. His jokes won't land the same for a younger vs older crowd, but far as I can tell he says what he does lovingly, and apologizes when his meaning doesn't come across. He's pretty supportive of everyone living their most authentic lives as long as that way doesn't truly harm anyone.
@@aellalee4767 yeah I agree with that from my short time listening to him. And with the listener response calls/tweets he adds at the end of episodes, he often gets corrected by people on things he said, and I really glad he shares those corrections, I learn a lot from them too.
He's a floored human who owned his past mistakes and is open about his process of learning from them. I'm trans and a survivor, who has been listening to The Savage Lovecast for 5 years and I've never heard anything unthinking that he hasn't held himself accountable for in the following episode. All the stuff Hannah mentioned are things from much earlier in his decades long career and are things he talks of as harmful ideas that he is grateful to have been re-educated on.
trans person here, i always found the idea hot haha idk, i treat it the same as someone saying "anal" like some folk say its kinky, and others just say its sex, same as pegging :)
"The word 'pegging' sanitize the queerness of the act". As a queer people AND a non-english native speaker I watch this debate from afar and a bit confuse 😂😅
The notion that "penises and penetration are associated with power" is highly contestable actually, in fact, the archetypal image throughout the anthropological record of “The vagina dentata, or devouring feminine" paradigm runs quite contrary to the modern concept of a plain "dominate vs submissive" dialectic... this unfortunate reduction of a real sexual (or social for that matter) relationship to a simple binary dynamic is a fairly recent projection, throughout the vast majority of human history people understood relationships to be dynamically complex (composed of many components which may interact with each other). -- In Homer's Odyssey, Odysseys is ensnared by the goddess Calypso, the description of the hero Odysseus at the point that he is rescued by Athena is a shocking refutation of our myopic mischaracterization of our past as psychologically shallow and/or "toxically masculine". Calypso in the Odyssey is a nymph who fell in love with Odysseus, one of the Trojan War’s heroes after he drifted into Calypso’s island of Ogygia. She was banished to this island as a punishment for siding with the Titans during the War of the Titans. Being the island’s sole inhabitant, Calypso was proclaimed ruler of Ogygia when Zeus created men. Calypso is commonly characterized as “maiden eternal,” insinuating her as impenetrable, but Calypso characteristics in the Odyssey are somewhat different. Homer speaks about her with admiration for who she is rather than what she looks like.However, as a sweet and charming nymph with immortal beauty, Calypso seduced Odysseus and offered him immortality so that he can stay with her and be her husband forever. She bestowed a cloak, a skin-tight shirt, and a leather wrap around Odysseus, ensuring that he would be protected from the elements while still obeying her every wish. Odysseus, on the other hand, was not persuaded and still intends to return to Penelope, his wife. As a result, Calypso imprisons Odysseus on the island for seven years and *forces him to be her lover*, making Odysseus miserable. -- Lévi-Strauss (2004), analyzing Amerindian myths and taking the Toba-Pilaga group of South America as an example to address the mythical origin of women, relates that: "Formerly men used to hunt and store their supply of game on the thatched roofs of their huts. One day, in their absence, a group of women came down from the sky and stole all the meat. The same thing happened the next day, and the men, who did not know that women existed, set Rabbit to watch. But Rabbit slept all the time, and the grilled meat was stolen. The next day Parrot stood guard, hidden in a quebracho tree, and he saw the women, who had toothed vaginas. After remaining quiet and motionless at first, Parrot threw a fruit down from the tree onto the women who were feasting below. The women began by accusing each other and then they discovered Parrot and began to fight about whose husband he should be. They threw things at each other, and one of the sticks went astray and broke the bone under the parrot’s tongue. Being now struck dumb and compelled to express himself through gestures, he could not make the men understand what had happened." The fact that the masculine phallus is quite literally subsumed by the feminine vagina in the act of intercourse reveals that the consideration of one being greater or lesser than the other has always been an really stupid way to think about it. These are just two examples off the top of my head which certainly would seem to contradict the common caricature of human history as basically: "oppressor male dominates oppressed submissive female": The first instance in which the erasure of the divine feminine occurs is in Judaism, but because the mythological source of the Hebrew Bible was Babylonian the attempt to suppress the feminine aspects of Mesopotemian mythology ultimately failed to produce a culture in which the feminine had been repressed, the Abrahamic project of facilitating a patriarchal order to the exclusion of the feminine really only began to take root in Rome (and it's colonial territories) after the First Council of Nicaea established the first Christian canon in 325 CE... at which point the misogyny was really starting to simmer (as portended by the horrific murder of Hypatia of Alexandria by Christian zealots in 415 CE). Of course from then on the degrees of cultural misogyny fluctuated across time from: the fall of Rome (476 CE), the establishment of the first Caliphate and Islam by Muhammad (661 CE), the Byzantines, the Ottomans, through to the end of the medieval period (476 CE), and was finally challenged during the enlightenment (1685-1815 CE) out of which grew feminism and modernity as we know it today... despite the best of efforts the Abrahamic dogmas never managed to fully expunge ostensibly "Jewish"/"Christian"/"Islamic" peoples of their paganism, and thank the gods for that fact. Having laid the literary groundwork for what would eventually developed into the literary movement of romanticism, Goethe proclaimed the reasseration of the Feminine over the creative endeveaurs of post-enlightenment culture: "The eternal feminine draws us on high".
Context for Helluva Boss: Blitzo (THE O IS SILENT!!!!!) is the boss. Moxxie is working for Blitzo. Millie is Moxxie's wife. This episode is called truth seekers and humans have captured the two demons---oh yeah, they're demons btw--and spilled some type of truth serum into the room. Onto the funny clip thing--------- Moxxie: ........ Just, ask me something I wouldn't answer. Blitzo: Does Millie ever peg you? Moxxie: Sometimes--EW, FUCK! GROSS! Hilarious, I highly recommend.
This is something me and my partner are interested in. I have been wondering because he would like me to peg him. Love to learn more from you. Thank you for this information!
'Only 30 !' I think that if you have not explored it by 30 you are not sexually curious or into exploration of sex. It's shameful that the word 'pegging' is a no-go word. It is not in anyway a violent connotation in it.
I agree that it should not be viewed as a kink, but it's not like naming a sex act is some super uncommon thing. There are very few things in sex that don't have a weirdly specific name, so not calling pegging pegging seems to me to make it stand out more from other sex acts, than just giving it a name.
i think what she meant was more like changing the name to something fresh and less stigmatized. which is entirely in the realm of possibility, i think, bcuz pegging is a slang word and slang changes constantly
@@lemo8986 I disagree, the example she gave was using anal sex with a dildo - so no slang, no new terms.
Kind of like masturbation. Most people don't really differentiate between masturbation with or without a toy. Why is anal different?
@@lemo8986 There's two separate criticism of the term. The first is that there is an issue with the particular word and where it came from so it should be changed. But there is also a separate group of people who believe that there shouldn't be a term for it at all. Hannah discussed the second criticism on an episode of Doing It with Quinn Rhodes.
@@BeingTheHunt then i guess i misunderstood what she was trying to say, my bad!
if that was her meaning, then i think there should be a word for those who want to use it and those who dont can avoid using it. Its like music genres, to some theres just pop, rap, metal, etc but to those who want to be more specific theres pop-punk, trap rap, and death metal. if that makes sense
as for where it came from, savage is a bit of a dumbass but, personally, i think putting it up to a vote was a good idea. let the people decide, art from the artist, blah blah blah. perhaps someone else in future who isnt a vile person could make another vote and try for a new term if we need one at all
@@lemo8986 Yes, if people use a word to refer to something then that's what it means, no offence is intended by it. I know Hannah is a fan of using many different words to define other things, why should sex acts be different? To me it's like she's saying someone shouldn't say they're "going to the shop", they should say they're "going out".
I love the chill vibe combined with so much interesting and important info! Keep educating, you do it so well in a way that’s so easy for people to connect with and understand
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the way you speak so inclusively, with such ease, always brings me so much joy 💛
5:44 Even if something is "female in some way" it seems very problematic that that would make it "degrading, humiliating, or weak" for a man to do. This isn't just a homophobic idea, this is very much a sexist idea. The Ancient Romans saw being penetrated as weak and feminine, and made you less of a man, and that wasn't rooted in homophobia but sexism, and a controlling idea of class and gender (and that being a woman made you like a slave and that being a slave made you like a woman).
It is none of that. It's just ones sexuality. Nothing wrong with that.
Humiliating would be being forced to be penetrated, if you're a straight male. Or being forced to penetrate a woman, if you're a gay male. Examples...
Which was not the case in ancien greece, where anal sex was normal for both genders and practiced by all. There is also records of pharaohs getting pegged by their wives during rituals.
The Romans were freaks. And any male who does this is a freak also
I think this is my favorite video of yours, and I've been watching for years! It has the perfect mix of "clinical" explanation and yet personal phrasing that still makes it feel like just talking with a friend
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What part of this was clinical. She's talking about men getting pounded. Which only means 1 thing for the man. Deep down inside he's hiding what he truly is.
I love how you addressed so many nuances in such an articulated and concise way. This video is super informative for newbies to the topic and also brings some new perspectives to someone who’s already familiar! I loved that you included so many viewer testimonies from so many unique points of view. Fantastic as always!
nice thing about it is being able to sum up a paragraph in one word. makes communicating about stuff a lot easier when you don't have to repeat a long statement multiple times in a short period. i can see all the points you mentioned. was just reminded of how slang works in a technical field. If instead of saying RAM it had to be described every single time
I think it is interesting how penetrating is socially perceived as being synonymous with having power. While from one angle one might see the act of penetration as being powerful (given that one is "entering someone else's territory" or one is dominating the other, which is an act of power), from another angle, the act of providing "space" for penetration, the act of facilitating the passage of something, might be viewed as powerful as well.
Take perhaps a silly example of a phone charger in an electric socket. Is one of these positions, being the charger or the socket, more powerful than the other? No. It is the social context that assigns power to these positions.
Nahh penetrating definitely is dominant, and it's socially precieved that way because it makes sense lol
And in your words, providing space for penetration is clearly submissive lmao and the socket analogy is just stupid wtd
You're quite right; it's a matter of perspective and imagination. Penetration can be viewed as envelopment, as being surrounded, absorbed, disappeared, taken. "Oh no, you've taken my phallus from me, and incorporated it into your body! It's surrounded! Will I ever get it back?"
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Exactly. There is such thing as a "power bottom" being in control and dominant whilst being penetrated is 100% a thing.
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My wife's attitude towards senior sex changed one she pegged me. In our mid and late 60's, our regular sex life had become all but not existent. But, after a girls-night- over, my wife discovered pegging and introduced this wonderful sex play to me. Usually timid, my wife found a new passion, my ass. And, i am loving it. She also loves the power she feels f_ _king me good, hard and deep. She now demands I wear her underwear when we reverse role play. I never thought I'd go that far. But, the excitemen
I feel like 'cishet dudes can also enjoy putting things in their butt' should be enough explaination of why pegging is popular but we live in a society
Stavljanje i uguravanje stvari u guzicu je grubo rečeno ali da,savršeno je ugodno,riješava se stresa i apsolutno je dobro vježbati masažu prostate.Bolji je užitak i od orgazma👍❤️🍀
Fun fact. Stimulating the prostate which is best done through anal penetration, has been shown to decrease the risk of prostate cancer. Do it for your health people!
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do not deceive people they are many ways of preventing prostate cancer, this pegging issue is satanic.
yaaas, my favorite sex ed youtuber talking about my favorite kink. i get that some men would be afraid of getting called "gay" or something, but if they can pass that mental barrier, they would experience so much pleasure. and male g spot is right there for a reason
Thank you for putting work in to make an educational video while knowing it will be demonitized ❤️
Not only that I had to see a warning before the video
I definitely learnt something new! This is something that has always peeked my curiosity.
Hi, Hannah! First of all, thank you for this video it was very informative and fun. The topic of pegging is really nuanced, as it gets at the heart of a lot of the frankly damaging social ideas around penises, penetration, and power. It is a cultural reality in our society that penises and penetration are associated with power, and I feel like you pointed that out often when talking about why strapping it on can make people feel empowered and help them embody new or different roles in sex. I also recognize that many of the ideas you were sharing came directly from people who like pegging, whose ideas reasonably reflect these cultural ideals. I worry though that you didn't take the time to critique some of the harmful aspects of this idea. I appreciate you pointing out the perspective that "pegging" as a term sanitizes the act of anal sex, but I feel you didn't really address the harmful nature of the cultural association of penises with power. The confidence that comes from pegging is real, but it comes from outdated and harmful beliefs about gender and genitals. Penises are just genitals, and while the cultural association with power is relevant in discussions of pegging, it is not inherent. The act of getting fucked in the ass is not inherently submissive, it is just one of many ways to experience pleasure. The association of penises with power, and of being penetrated with being submissive reinforces a fear we have in our society of penises, which harms transfeminine people with penises, and maintains systems of homophobia, transphobia, and misogyny. This video was extremely well crafted, and I am not about to start calling people out for using the term pegging, but I feel in this context I would be remiss not to point out how reinforcing the association of penises with power (rather than critiquing it) maintains certain systems of oppression. Thanks again for the thoughtful video, I really love your content!
Oooh yes all really good points!! I think it’s great to celebrate that people feel really powerful when pegging but also important to examine wwwwwhhhyyyyy. Why is being the one with the penis/strap-on seen are more powerful/dominant! Thanks for raising!
Very nice to read this! Just a few moments ago I wrote the comment stating that this super dominant talk makes me super uncomfortable. I got super uncomfortable and almost angry feeling with the penis/penetration = dominant and couldn't really understand why it is rubbing me the wrong way that much.
Reading this makes me understand abit more. I struggle seriously a lot with my sexuality and I think it might be due to this dominating narrative
You rise a good point, Try to remember everybody is different and enjoy different aspects. But I think its the power dynamic that most people enjoy, at least for me.
Being bent over is very valuable position with no direct control, So it takes trust which is a great bonding excise. When I'm submissive I gain a lot of indirect control and feel powerful, more powerful then topping.
Obviously everyone is different, so difficult people enjoy different aspects, But I do think it not cultural but mostly inherent for many people.
@@pupip55 I really appreciate your perspective here! I want to clarify that I don't think it is wrong or bad for people to feel powerful in various sexual positions -- again, that confidence is real and a product of very real social relationships! And I agree that bottoming can feel both vulnerable AND powerful. I do want to encourage you to think about why you think attaching certain meanings to certain positions is inherent. Physical pleasure is inherent and may be associated with specific positions, but the meanings we associate with those positions aren't.
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To me, the one that is dominating is the one penetrating. It's my POV, and I think majority thinks like me, idk...
Also, to me, a straight male that likes to be penetrated, it's not really straight, but bissexual. To me that's just how it is, straight males only like to penetrate females, not being penetrated, even if by their female partner. A so called straight male that's likes being penetrated it is just someone affraid to admit is own sexuality, and can "get a taste of it" without being called bissexual or gay, wich is still perceived as offensive to most of them, Because of well, society, you know what I mean.
In the end, doesn't really matter how you indentify, how you have pleasure or who you have it with, or what do you call it. They're just labels and names, that's all.
Again, this is my own POV, each rightfully has its own, based on many things.
In the end, just do whatever you want and be respectful towards everybody else, and be happy 💪🙏✌❤
I like it because prostate go brrr
I don't see it as qinky at all. It should be a part of regular vanilla seggs (I don't mean everyone should like it I mean it should be a regular dish on the menu). It's not like women strapping other women is considered qinky. I think removing it from being considered qink and just calling it strapping will go a long way to normalize it
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i think i need a colour-coded bookshelf like hers
It's beautiful! She has mentioned having trouble finding the right book if she doesn't know which colour the spine is 🤣
@@TinksiehTink especially love that top shelf, how the colour just fades from red-orange to pink
I think you’ve touched on this before, but I’d love to see you do stuff to do with people who are disabled. Like sex when things down below don’t work as we expect them to, or in my case, sex when you have chronic pain
Agree! But reminder Disabled isn’t
a dirty word and most disabled people feel uncomfortable with words such as ‘differently abled’ :)
@@forestno0k I appreciate that some might not like it but as a person with a few disabilities both visible and not, it’s my preference. It’s always a difficult one to navigate. Much like should we be saying (for example) a person with autism, or an autistic person. I think it’s all subjective. But I mean no offence :)
Please never use differently abled again and instead just use disabled. That is BY FAR the more preferred term to use and many people are actually offended by "differently abled" myself included.
Points made - have edited accordingly
@@thequeerrunner5745 for the autism point definitely go with autistic as default and adjust if someone prefers person with autism. Autistic is the generally preferred term (many of us find person with autism offensive!). I’d you wanted an in between, “person on the autism spectrum” is pretty neutral!
excellent video hannah i love this
Opening up here... I'm a trans woman and I've personally never had a problem with the term pegging or found it gendered, although I didn't know it's origins. I also think you you omitted critical information about douching which people who are curious about this stuff would likely want to know. Thanks for your great content Hannah.
For me personally, i find douching causes more mess. I just make sure i play at the right time of day, use condoms on my toys and jump in the shower when I'm done. I've never had any big problems, accidents, or complaints from partners.
@@ben_9134 That's a really good point to bring up. I'd love a follow up about this from Hannah with varying opinions and stuff.
Douching if done too often can actually be quite harmful for the body.
It's more about ensuring you go to the bathroom before hand and even using a finger just go check you're 'clean' enough etc
What is douching?
Douching isn't something that's necessary at all in the least bit.
I am curious why you didn't mention cleaning out prior to pegging. I have never tried pegging, so I am not sure what the standard procedures are. However, I find it interesting that I have only ever heard cleaning out discussed by gay male content creators (e.g. Watts the Safeword), even though people of all genders and sexual orientations engage in anal play/sex.
I was thinking the same thing! A bisexual male friend told me all about it. I never thought about cleaning, it's not mentioned in fiction books or movies I've read and watched.
Douching (cleaning out) if done too often can actually be harmful or the body and in fact isn't needed if you frequently go to the bathroom and ensure you go before you plan to engage in any sort of act involving the anus etc.
I don’t have any hard evidence to back this up but it really seems to be more common in the LGBT+ community, especially w gay men. I talk about this stuff w people a lot and I’ve never met a cis woman who douches before anal.
It’s also generally not recommended by professionals for health reasons. It’s not gonna kill you and it’s a personal choice, but that could be another reason it’s not suggested.
I think hygiene is also kind of a different topic, like I wouldn’t expect information on cleaning a vulva in a video on piv sex if that makes sense
@@leggyegg2890 I expect everything from Hannah's Channel. :-D I had half a year of bladder infections after not doing proper hygiene around piv sex. I didn't know you are supposed to wash the vulva (directly or least a few hours) before having piv sex and I also didn't know you are supposed to pee directly after. Apparently this bladder infection after intercourse is very common with women and I never knew before I got it myself. So a video on sex and hygiene would be appreciated @Hannah_Witton.
@@emmynoether9540 I’d love to see this video too - and sorry that happened, that sucks! I actually went through a similar thing and it’s definitely something people need more info on
I know Sexplanations has a video on the topic for anyone that’s curious or unsure but I’d love to see one from Hannah too ☺️
Wonderful video! Very informative and I loved it!!
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Can’t wait to put this on my Watch Later List and put it on while at work and forget it’s on the playlist while washing dishes with coworkers
Giving certain acts a name may also make it a bit more easy for people to communicate their desires. Pegging for example maybe easier for couples to discuss the topic.
I don't care what its called, what's more important is being able to communicate with each other and discuss sex, sexual fantasies etc...
5:24 maybe it could end up with a new name, but to describe something instead of using the term for it is so inefficient. Sure if you draw a blank on something (or dont know the term), you have to describe it (or describe it because you're doing it sensually while transitioning between poses or foreplay or something).
What is the difference between a kink and just a regular sex act? I feel like there is a lot that has changed since I learned about sex
Personal values and experiences. There's no right or wrong - it's a question each individual has a unique answer to and with time it's also likely to change.
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Fun topic!! I would like to try this act sometime.
One thing though, the whole narrative of "feeling powerful being the one penetrating"... it implies that receiving isn't powerful or active and I don't relate!! Like, for me (a cis woman), I feel powerful letting my partner in, I'm the one enveloping or embracing the other, I'm getting what I want (obviously he does too, being a consensual relationship). I understand historically why it seems submissive, but it doesn't ring true, right?? As if being vulnerable were bad, as if it weren't the most powerful move after all.
Yes!
Have heard from a friend who’s is a sexual assault survivor that it makes her feel powerful. Whilst you may feel that way others do not, they struggle to enjoy penetrative sex from their experience but say when they are pegging it kinda gives them control and power back.
@@wowsuchname1939 I also feel that healing as a survivor, which was an unexpected bonus as my experience was 20 years ago. My husband loves it too. We trust each other in all areas of life. I think any sexual experience requires trust and sexual abuse is the ultimate betrayal. Your mind can heal but the body holds trauma longer than we realize. Sex is therapeutic in so many ways, individual and shared in its expression and somewhat creative too. Sex awakens all chakras, not just the root and sacral which are physically touched. Embodiment is so important for life and fulfillment on all levels. Sex is a wonderful primal tool for this. Yoga is another wonderful tool for embodiment and healing. Yoga is mind, body and breath connection - a way of life in moving prana i.e. energy.
So, the comment about lube is super on point. It tends to be pretty dry back there, and trying to force things can lead to tearing which you _really_ want to avoid. It also ups the friction, which can lead to other potential health consequences I think we'd all like to avoid, as well. If you're using a toy, then make sure you have a lube that won't damage it. For the first time, use a *lot.* You can dial it down in subsequent sessions until you know where the sweet spot is.
And make sure to test it on all participants prior to fun time to ensure nobody has any surprise allergies or sensitivities. Finding out "the hard way" is absolutely unfun when talking about sex. I learned I have a sensitivity to the spermicide on some condoms my boyfriend had that way, and it was pretty much hell until my body managed to flush everything. I'd hate to think what would have happened were I legitimately allergic.
This was really interesting! Thank you Hannah, I honestly thought pegging was some completely different. Definitely learnt a thing or two today. 👍
Well if you thought only men who are on the other team then You were correct. I don't know why a woman is on this subject anyway
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I loved this video, it's so interesting and helped educate me further
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So grateful for the queer viewpoints discussed in these videos. I’m the first to admit that I need more education on the topic, as I was raised in a more conservative household. Hearing about the whole queer spectrum is so great for expanding my mindset
Me and my partner haven't tried pegging yet but I have expressed that its something I'm interested in and he is willing to try it :)
Hell yeah have fun 😎
Tell us how you guys felt ☺️
Have fun and enjoy yourself!
Start small, you will be tempted to get the medium size but honestly go small to start. Also take it really slow and don't make it weird. Us men unfortunately have been made to feel we are gay because we enjoy something outside of the vanilla.
Howd it go?
I love that you said, your sexuality still is valid if you do not have sex. As someone who doesn't really have sex or even associates with dating (not for not wanting it, just busy life lol) and someone who used to strongly identify as gay - over the last few years my lack of interactions with queer people in the community or even being attracted to people of the same gender or not having the experience that I thought I should have - has made me question if I really even am on the queer spectrum anymore. Numerous conversations and reassurances with friends definetley make me feel better about the fact that sexual history or attraction or anything does not have to do with how you identify - But this one line feels like a mantra that I should adopt when I'm feeling a bit off.
This is about boy/girl pegging not lesbian strapon sex lol.
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Hello Hannah! This may sound odd. But I work in an art museum where one of our most famous artworks is 72 vagina cast moulds, from all walks of life age ect, all different, all beautiful! While I was dusting them (making them presentable) it got me thinking... would you ever consider doing a video on this subject? And maybe the difference in pre vs post birth? I know there's not that much information on how your vulva feels/heals/looks after baby and the subject is very taboo. I feel like it would be such a great educational video. Just food for thought! Thanks for your time! And congratulations on your pregnancy! Sending love ❤ and good vibes!! Feel free to reach out if you'd like more information on the artwork!
I like it because it feels right 🙇♀️
Ayyyy I'm comment #200 woohoo!😛🥳✌
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tangent thought, if the pegger lays down on their back and the peggee sits on the strapon and rides it, is it still pegging? Like if the sub/dom roles are reversed but the strapon wearer/receiver are kept the same, does it need a new term or does it still fall into the same? --edit-- position mentioned at 12:08, so i guess in this context the "roles" have no bearing on the term just the strapon/anal defines it
Love your videos Hannah, keep up the good work. you rock.
I mean, Deadpool was willing to do it.. 😏
Deadpool is so awesome
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really loved this video!
Married almost 40 years and I'm still passionately in love her. There's no wrong making love to the person you love. We have not tried it but we have talked about pegging. There's a lot of information about pegging. Do your homework. You don't want to send the one you love to the hospital. With a embarrassing injury?
Hi Hannah. I want to let you know that even though I am logged in and over 18 when I go to watch this video it gave me a disclaimer which I agreed to so I could proceed to watching it. After I accepted the disclaimer it still wouldn't let me play the video. It just kept displaying the ! in the circle This video may be inappropriate for some users. message. Is anyone else having this problem?
No I can see it fine.
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Where you are right, you are right. There is never too much lube. There are only idiots who buy it from the wrong store.
Humans are also nothing more than a dry-nosed primate aka mammal.
The lube a vet uses will do the job just as well as the sex shop stuff, it's just a lot more affordable.
At an online dealer in Germany, for example, KERBL Lubricating Gel VetGel costs between €9.14/l and €5.38/l for a purchase of 5 bottles, all including VAT and shipping. 2, 3 or 4 liters are in between, the stuff is also a little cheaper in 5-liter canisters, but handling it in the bedroom/playroom at home is more unwieldy. The 1 liter bottle is the better solution and if you buy more at once the price is right too. Whereby the provider and price is only an example, if you search, you will certainly always find a cheaper offer, also from other manufacturers.
"Lubricating gel to make hands and arms slippery and an excellent skin protection during rectal and vaginal examinations" says in the description, so it's not only suitable for pegging, but also for fisting.
Since it is water-based, it does not damage the silicone toys either.
Hvala na izlaganju i novim idejama ,volim fisting i sigurno ću pokušati naći veterinarski lubikant👍
Fantastic video!
is after care to prevent trauma? I don't understand after care and would like to know more about that
No, it isnt because its a trauma or anything. Its just for us men, we arent used to being fucked, we are used to fucking. While pegging itself isnt inherently a femdom thing, there is an undeniable power exchange in it from the side of the man to and in favor of the woman. So, that power exchange is one we as men we arent used to, so it makes the man feel emotionally vulnerable and in need of after care and holding the man close after it. And even it being more important if the woman decided to be dominant or display dominance in the bedroom, which would make the man feel more vulnerable despite both enjoying their time. Hope that answers your question.
I think it's interesting that it's called pegging and not anal sex. On the podcast "unladylike" they talked about how it's about "protecting" straight men from being associated with gay sex.
Although I'm aware that the term came from Dan savage.
I kinda like the fact it is different from "anal sex' to be honest. I think clarity in sex acts is never a bad thing. The main thing is that pegging has a stigma about "toxic masculinity" i guess
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To me, the one that is dominating is the one penetrating. It's my POV, and I think majority thinks like me, idk...
Also, to me, a straight male that likes to be penetrated, it's not really straight, but bissexual. To me that's just how it is, straight males only like to penetrate females, not being penetrated, even if by their female partner. A so called straight male that's likes being penetrated it is just someone affraid to admit is own sexuality, and can "get a taste of it" without being called bissexual or gay, wich is still perceived as offensive to most of them, Because of well, society, you know what I mean.
In the end, doesn't really matter how you indentify, how you have pleasure or who you have it with, or what do you call it. They're just labels and names, that's all.
Again, this is my own POV, each rightfully has its own, based on many things.
In the end, just do whatever you want and be respectful towards everybody else, and be happy 💪🙏✌❤"
Sorry for the lazyness, that was a comment I wrote just some minutes ago.
I think you are right tho, "straight" man just don't like to admit they like to get f*cked lmao
Btw, pegging doesn't always have to be anal
I feel so sorry for all women whose names are Peg or Peggy. Also reminds me of the song "Peggy sue". Now I can imagine who Peggy sues.
10:46 please tell me that the title chosen there was on purpose
I first heard about pegging from the show The Bold type and have been interested ever since, so thank you for this video ;)
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Something about how most of this is resolving around domination kind of talk makes me extremely uncomfortable and almost angry. The penetration/penis = dominating really rubs me the wrong way, but I don't fully understand why.
Pegging is sort of featured in Deadpool (2016) movie
I know this is like reaaally off topic, but I really liked Hannahs earrings :D Anyone got any clue where they are from? :)
My girlfriend talk me into trying it. This was over 20 years ago.. I was very apprehensive.. but there is something about it that can be very stimulating for both male and female.. for the man it's a good prostate massage, and for the woman there is the role reversal of domination 🤗
Yeah. Its really fun. My wife talked me into trying it recently. She feels really powerful when she pegs me.
Been there done that and I agree also my wife loves to play games with it.
i love being pegged by a lovely lady doing as im told but unfortunately cant for my life find one willing near me to do it i have tried over and over its impossible
“Never understood the appeal, but people are into what they’re into. If the people involved are up for it, it doesn’t hurt anyone.”
- Max, 1.
“I want to try it for two reasons: 1) I’m pretty submissive I’ll admit. The idea of being pegged is kind of a fetish I’ve had. 2) You need to experiment a little in your life. Otherwise, it’s just so boring.”
- George, 2.
“Willing to try if it was that important.”
- Eashan, 3.
(This three statement of the above people seemed unbelievable) ⬆️⬆️⬆️
Never given it much thought, can’t say I’m overly keen on the idea. Would probs only allow it if the person I was with was desperate to try it and we’d been together for ages. Partially think it’s a question of dominance but also the unknown. Definitely would have to be steps in between as well, not going straight for it. I'm willing to try it for two reasons: 1) For prostate massage purposes. Because prostate massage has endless benefits. It is also discussed on Google, TH-cam and books. 2) For the purpose of gratification in it, so that the participants get a touch of heaven. I swear to God, if this is done carefully, then It will undoubtedly create great love between the couple. Otherwise it's so boring. ☺️☺️☺️
I feel like if I DID participate I would just refer to it as sex.... Why do strangers or the world need to know what hole is being penetrated and by who it what. Idk just my opinion but honestly it is just sex to me and only the details are important for people involved. Maybe some people want pointers? And that's why they're sharing? Idk 😶
That's how you see it and how you feel about this subject. Others can have the opposite feelings/thoughts over it.
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Reading some of the comments shows me tbh how insecure many guys are and how afraid they are of strong women who like being in charge. As a straight guy, nothing wrong with being pegged and if done right is super fun!
It's just sex people not that big of a deal if I was ina relationship and my GF want to swap underwear because it her idea why not it doesn't make me a cross dresser .
Have you read Butch Heroes by Ria Brodell?
How else will the clothes stay on the washing line ?
A great video. Very much on point.
BA-HAA-HAA-HAA!
Yes, I did. I wasn't familiar with the term or it's meaning. And still not convinced on experimenting.🤗😏
I knew about how was named, and made a joke a few years ago about how due to the attitudes around it's more like probing(aliens). I did not know the writer's issues, this seems to be a common thing lately of writer's with shite morals.
From where I am pegging is still a relatively gendered term. But only when a woman does it to man. The rest of the time I hear strap on sex or just anal.
Pegging is on my to do list with my partner, we both just have stomach issues so hard to schedule.
Howd it go?
Is Dan Savage controversial? I didn’t know this, damn. I have been listening to his podcast for the past year or so and didn’t hear him make any victim blaming or transphobic comments that I noticed. If anything I do remember him being trans affirming. So here’s hoping he changed but thanks for bringing it up.
Also, I always thought of pegging as simply using a strap on dildo to penetrate anything in any type of person. Didn’t know there where gender connotations there till your podcast ep. Not sure if this is a more common definition with younger generations?
Whew boy is he ever controversial. I personally don’t care for him myself but I think his off color comments mostly come from understandable human ignorance that can be corrected. He’s treated asexuality as a joke in the past, which I hope has changed.
I've listened for several years. I think it's mostly from situations where he tried to make a joke and it was the wrong context or just wasn't funny, or someone just got offended when it was a decent joke. His jokes won't land the same for a younger vs older crowd, but far as I can tell he says what he does lovingly, and apologizes when his meaning doesn't come across. He's pretty supportive of everyone living their most authentic lives as long as that way doesn't truly harm anyone.
@@aellalee4767 yeah I agree with that from my short time listening to him. And with the listener response calls/tweets he adds at the end of episodes, he often gets corrected by people on things he said, and I really glad he shares those corrections, I learn a lot from them too.
He's a floored human who owned his past mistakes and is open about his process of learning from them. I'm trans and a survivor, who has been listening to The Savage Lovecast for 5 years and I've never heard anything unthinking that he hasn't held himself accountable for in the following episode. All the stuff Hannah mentioned are things from much earlier in his decades long career and are things he talks of as harmful ideas that he is grateful to have been re-educated on.
@@maygee9878 I might give him another chance, based on what the other replies have said. Thanks for sharing your experiences as listeners of his show.
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Check out your fellow U-tuber Godemiche at th-cam.com/users/G-silicone for more pegging talk.
what did I stumble into. 2 am Video moment.
quite interesting though. I finally know what that term means.
I told my wife this is something i would like to try and she said okay it feels amazing
The sweetest thing a woman can do for a man.
trans person here, i always found the idea hot haha idk, i treat it the same as someone saying "anal" like some folk say its kinky, and others just say its sex, same as pegging :)
"The word 'pegging' sanitize the queerness of the act".
As a queer people AND a non-english native speaker I watch this debate from afar and a bit confuse 😂😅
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which country are you from
i need it too
I'd love to try it but I've never had a sexual partner or boyfriend who showed any sign they'll be open to it (pun non intended)
You could ask him like my girlfriend asked me, and hope for the best. In my case, I immediately broke up with her.
@branex33😂😂😂 😂😂😂😂
Dan Savage is controversial? Only if you're Rick Santorum 😉
I wonder how many voter were golfers? Pegging it up.
It comes down to this - role reversal!
Anything goes... If you talk about it, I will listen. Glad you & baby are both fine, welcome to parenting or grandparenting in my case.
How many times did you stumble over cis sexual script 😂
The near smile at 12:33 made me laugh! It's true, you really need to emotionally prepare for this shit ;)
The notion that "penises and penetration are associated with power" is highly contestable actually, in fact, the archetypal image throughout the anthropological record of “The vagina dentata, or devouring feminine" paradigm runs quite contrary to the modern concept of a plain "dominate vs submissive" dialectic... this unfortunate reduction of a real sexual (or social for that matter) relationship to a simple binary dynamic is a fairly recent projection, throughout the vast majority of human history people understood relationships to be dynamically complex (composed of many components which may interact with each other).
-- In Homer's Odyssey, Odysseys is ensnared by the goddess Calypso, the description of the hero Odysseus at the point that he is rescued by Athena is a shocking refutation of our myopic mischaracterization of our past as psychologically shallow and/or "toxically masculine". Calypso in the Odyssey is a nymph who fell in love with Odysseus, one of the Trojan War’s heroes after he drifted into Calypso’s island of Ogygia. She was banished to this island as a punishment for siding with the Titans during the War of the Titans. Being the island’s sole inhabitant, Calypso was proclaimed ruler of Ogygia when Zeus created men. Calypso is commonly characterized as “maiden eternal,” insinuating her as impenetrable, but Calypso characteristics in the Odyssey are somewhat different. Homer speaks about her with admiration for who she is rather than what she looks like.However, as a sweet and charming nymph with immortal beauty, Calypso seduced Odysseus and offered him immortality so that he can stay with her and be her husband forever. She bestowed a cloak, a skin-tight shirt, and a leather wrap around Odysseus, ensuring that he would be protected from the elements while still obeying her every wish. Odysseus, on the other hand, was not persuaded and still intends to return to Penelope, his wife. As a result, Calypso imprisons Odysseus on the island for seven years and *forces him to be her lover*, making Odysseus miserable.
-- Lévi-Strauss (2004), analyzing Amerindian myths and taking the Toba-Pilaga group of South America as an example to address the mythical origin of women, relates that: "Formerly men used to hunt and store their supply of game on the thatched roofs of their huts. One day, in their absence, a group of women came down from the sky and stole all the meat. The same thing happened the next day, and the men, who did not know that women existed, set Rabbit to watch. But Rabbit slept all the time, and the grilled meat was stolen. The next day Parrot stood guard, hidden in a quebracho tree, and he saw the women, who had toothed vaginas. After remaining quiet and motionless at first, Parrot threw a fruit down from the tree onto the women who were feasting below. The women began by accusing each other and then they discovered Parrot and began to fight about whose husband he should be. They threw things at each other, and one of the sticks went astray and broke the bone under the parrot’s tongue. Being now struck dumb and compelled to express himself through gestures, he could not make the men understand what had happened."
The fact that the masculine phallus is quite literally subsumed by the feminine vagina in the act of intercourse reveals that the consideration of one being greater or lesser than the other has always been an really stupid way to think about it. These are just two examples off the top of my head which certainly would seem to contradict the common caricature of human history as basically: "oppressor male dominates oppressed submissive female":
The first instance in which the erasure of the divine feminine occurs is in Judaism, but because the mythological source of the Hebrew Bible was Babylonian the attempt to suppress the feminine aspects of Mesopotemian mythology ultimately failed to produce a culture in which the feminine had been repressed, the Abrahamic project of facilitating a patriarchal order to the exclusion of the feminine really only began to take root in Rome (and it's colonial territories) after the First Council of Nicaea established the first Christian canon in 325 CE... at which point the misogyny was really starting to simmer (as portended by the horrific murder of Hypatia of Alexandria by Christian zealots in 415 CE). Of course from then on the degrees of cultural misogyny fluctuated across time from: the fall of Rome (476 CE), the establishment of the first Caliphate and Islam by Muhammad (661 CE), the Byzantines, the Ottomans, through to the end of the medieval period (476 CE), and was finally challenged during the enlightenment (1685-1815 CE) out of which grew feminism and modernity as we know it today... despite the best of efforts the Abrahamic dogmas never managed to fully expunge ostensibly "Jewish"/"Christian"/"Islamic" peoples of their paganism, and thank the gods for that fact. Having laid the literary groundwork for what would eventually developed into the literary movement of romanticism, Goethe proclaimed the reasseration of the Feminine over the creative endeveaurs of post-enlightenment culture: "The eternal feminine draws us on high".
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@@overkill6403 It's not my intention to annoy.
I never been peged , but I would love to as I do like women to play with my p-spot it is so pleasurable
A video on sex aftercare would be really interesting!
They spread nonsense and lies. This encourages homosexuality and is not good
I would like to try it some day.
Context for Helluva Boss: Blitzo (THE O IS SILENT!!!!!) is the boss. Moxxie is working for Blitzo. Millie is Moxxie's wife. This episode is called truth seekers and humans have captured the two demons---oh yeah, they're demons btw--and spilled some type of truth serum into the room. Onto the funny clip thing---------
Moxxie: ........ Just, ask me something I wouldn't answer.
Blitzo: Does Millie ever peg you?
Moxxie: Sometimes--EW, FUCK! GROSS!
Hilarious, I highly recommend.
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i clicked on it faster than im ready to admit
This is something me and my partner are interested in. I have been wondering because he would like me to peg him. Love to learn more from you. Thank you for this information!
@Jessica Fraser
How did you first react when he brought up the subject?
Howd it go?
Can you do a scat video
Bruh
Absolutely Feckin Awesome
They dont. How would you know ?
Could do without the whole "power dynamics" and "role reversal" thing. Its not about that really.
at this point, we should be talking about what is wrong with people who dont like pegging😑
Wow, that was so freaking wild.
I wish I could experience this with you..
Being pegged is a great experience and I love the role reversal!
Agree. I am very open to it
Surprised you didn't bring up douching when talking about the issue of shit.
'Only 30 !' I think that if you have not explored it by 30 you are not sexually curious or into exploration of sex. It's shameful that the word 'pegging' is a no-go word. It is not in anyway a violent connotation in it.
I wish more girls would peg... I even wish they'd come to get to know me already with pegging in mind...
It's extremely unlikely to get shit anywhere when pegging if the peggee prepared properly with douching or enemas
🎶 I'm peggin', peggin' you 🎶
🎶 So, put your loving hand out, baby 🎶 😄
@pile333
You ruined the song for me! No!
@@MistahUnknown 😄