My boyfriend doesn't understand the need for lube because none of his previous partners needed it and i didn't as much before i got the nexplonone implant but i have to keep explaining that its normal and I'm so glad i had people like you tell me that before I started having sex.
The whole "staying friends with exes" hits real close to home. You saying that makes me realise that's exactly what I do. I was friends with all my exes until I started a long term relationship, and now I don't speak with any of them.
I remember there was research claiming that for every new romantic relationship a woman loses 2 friends, they never stated it but I just figured it made sense that first on the chopping block tends to be exes since a lot of people seem to be uncomfortable with the idea of their partner spending time with an ex. 🤷♂️ I did also rather wonder how loosely they were defining "friends" for the research. 🤔
@@whiskeryfacey Nah, there's no bad blood between me and him. It's just a bit awkward sometimes when it's 6am and I've not woken up properly and the first human being I make eye contact with is the guy I got dumped for
Oh, it's another episode of the unofficial Hannah Witton series "making the same videos like everyone else but a demonetised version"! 🤩 This was a great video, I admire the honesty and it made me think about my own sex life too.
I got FOUR ads on this! Evidently people advertising financial management apps, hearing aids, and diets aren’t overly concerned with the vague concept of “brand safety.”
It's Mast-UR-bation not Levi-o-SAR. I've never stayed friends with my exes. But I have reconnected with exes several years later and found that we could be at least friendly acquaintances. I've only tried to stay friends once, and that was very much so that neither of us had to give up having sex, but hooo boy and I glad that didn't last.
haha yeah tbh I've never been in a "sex with an ex" situation. I've always been very clear cut about that and not sure how I managed it. Certainly lots of exes I would have liked to continue sleeping with haha
? Not sure how a male and female can be friends unless both have zero attraction to one another. Not likely... I've always stayed safe and cut ties after the relationship even if benefits are offered. Just no real reason to give people false hope even if its clearly stated no strings attached it can still become emotional for one of the two party members.. Easy to be friends with opposite sex if your staying single though... soo many friends :D! But nothing but trouble once trying to settle down with someone... cant really say honey.. im going out with 5 other dudes or girls to a concert sorry you have to work. Would be too many trust issues for someone or worse the added temptation for cheating for one of them. Wanna ride all the rides stay single for that. :)
@@theonetruth1478 I've been friends with many women i found attractive or that found me attractive. There's a difference between being attracted to, wanting to have sex with, and actually trying to have sex with someone.
@@hannahwitton indeed, I have had multiple encounters with people who's looks just make me forget to breathe for a few moments... always too insecure to express that curiosity of infatuation out of a fear of coming off as creepy though :/
My partner and I have for the last two years had multiple conversations about the possibility of opening up our otherwise monogamous relationship, and rules and other stuff. We started to talk about it when he found out he wanted to go to a University in the other end of the country, and I had no idea what I was gonna do. So it kinda seamed relevant and natural to talk about, also because I'm somewhere on the ace spectrum, and bi (kinda wanting to explore that side of my orientation). But for now, we haven't had the desire to change how our relationship works. But just having had those conversations, and really just talking about our now 6-year long relationship, is so amazing.
The "tit job" question was so confusing to me! 😂 I thought they were asking if she would have plastic surgery but now I think they're talking about a sex thing...
@@ninjascotsman I believe she's said in past videos any decision about that would be made after she has children, as breast surgery can affect breast feeding
@@MicroSoftner That's not how the human body works, just in case you seriously think that it does. The size of your breasts is in no way an indicator of how high or low your milk production would be.
I'm friends with my ex. He was my first bf but we weren't intimate which I think helped us stay close. He came to mine and my husbands wedding and we all hang out still! 😊
I have a weird rule for friends and especially staying friends with exes, that is : would I be comfortable inviting them to my wedding ? If not, I don't bother putting in any effort to stay friends aha! Still in good terms though!
Aaaaye that’s how I’ve kind of thought of it too! Especially as Dan and I were creating the guest list. NOT A SINGLE PERSON EITHER OF US HAS SLEPT WITH (other than each other) IS INVITED. Not on purpose at all. Realised afterwards, like hmmmmm interesting.
With my most recent ex, I was comfortable with that idea and asked him if he wanted to be invited. Turned out HE was not comfortable with it though. So that didn't happen.
I loved this 😍 it was so interesting so learn more about you but even more it was interesting to actually see someone talk about their personal sex habits openly. You don’t see someone talking about this very often especially on TH-cam. Loved it thank you for this ☺️🥰
I was friends with my ex's until I had been with my current partner for 6 months or so. We've now been together for just over 6 years so I 100% agree with your theory! 😄😄
I dumped my ex 20 years ago because she thought she could change my mind about marriage and kids when I was VERY upfront about wanting neither. It lasted 2 years but it was only good for 1 and the rest was pressure that she thought she could "mold me" into the person she wanted me to be. I haven't seen her since the night we broke up and I hope I never do again. I also learned that it's STUPID to date your HS crush 10 years after graduation because the reality does NOT equal the fantasy and there's just no getting to know you phase! Lesson learned - the HARD way!
I admire your “open book” approach to all of the subjects you discuss on your channel. You are a breath of fresh air for your subscribers and I appreciate you sharing so much about you with us. Be well
If the guy can't tell you're not being pleased, find another guy. He's not paying attention to you. A friend once told me about a guy that kept asking her every few minutes if she had cum. She got tired of it, so she ended up saying yes.
Yep. That’s me. I’m on friendly terms with my exes but don’t talk to any of them regularly. But I think the reason we’re still on good terms is more like because I don’t like to lose someone I have some kind of positive relationship with. Maybe it comes from dating my friends, but when we don’t get along in a dating way, I usually want to have them in my life because we still have things in common and enjoy being around eachother.
No assumptions about you. Just knowledge based on what you’ve shared. Thanks for being open and allowing others to see what healthy communication looks like!
I'm on/off FWB with my longest-term ex (3 years, ended about 16 months ago), and we genuinely are very good friends, and we text most days. We sleep together occasionally for fun, but as soon as romance gets in the way we fall apart so we just avoid addressing it. Neither of us are looking for a relationship either with each other or with anyone else because we're at a transitional point in our lives (waiting to move out from home again to study master's degrees), so our situation suits us both... For now. I have NO idea where it's going to go when we both move on. I'd like to stay friends but I know there will always be something between us that would just complicate any new relationships. Long story short, it's a bloody mess but I'm just refusing to think about it until it actually matters 😂 I have another ex I'd love to genuinely be friends with but he was really hurt by the breakup, and another ex who blocked me on everything so I don't see us going for coffee any time soon lmao
My ex was my best friend before we went out so when we broke up it was pretty rocky for a solid couple years. But because I don’t hold grudges and we were legitimately friends we were able to return to an actual friendship. Not a common thing, amongst my friend group like 6-8 of us all started relationships at the same time, they all failed and I’m the only person on good terms with their ex.
What I mean when I tell people I'm friends with my ex is that we're on good terms as opposed to completely having cut off communications at the moment of break up.
Really glad that you’re feeling better about your body since the op! Your such a brilliant role model for young women, I love that you’re not afraid to talk about these things and be honest without feeling like you have to share too much! Do you ever do advice or answer questions that people send in? I’d love to get your take on some things!!
I don´t know, I think it´s really difficult to me to think that you can be a close friend with an ex that you used to have a relationship with, like a long term, serious and committed relationship. But I dunno, that´s just me!
I tried to remain friends with my exes but it often got too weird/turbulent, however I’m still close friends with exes from about 8 years ago and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I a still friendly with my first girlfriend but we don't talk that often. I'm close friends with one ex-boyfriend, but the best story is that I dated my best (girl)friend (since high school) for about two years. When we broke up, we stopped talking for two years. Last year, we reconnected and rolled right into being best friends as if nothing romantic ever happened between us. It's great. I love her so much (as friends). I missed my friend for so long, and I'm so grateful that we didn't lose those 15+ years of friendship 👭 (Sorry if my English is awkward, not my first language)
Ooof I related so hard when you talked about infatuation!!! If you’re comfortable with it I would love a video where you talk, about how you got yourself through those periods. I still struggle deeply with becoming very quickly obsessed and infatuated with someone, even after knowing they aren’t interested and deep down I’m not either 😅
What, for you, is the difference between feeling love for someone or being infatuated with (the idea of loving) someone ? I try to figure some things out for myself ... Thanks 😘 !! Edit : OMG, my heart. I'm not talking about my ex, but my crush (who crush-ed me) ... Because I still fancy her and care about her, but there's nothing I'd like more than be a good, genuine friend (more than we're now "on good terms"). But I can't do this. The feelings and fear are holding me back from any interaction, afraid to ruin things even more (if possible) 😭
I tried to stay friends with all of my exes. It lasted for a few years. The first ex turned out to be bad in a way I don’t wanna talk about in public. The second one we’re still okay. The third one we were too close and the friendship truly exploded in our faces. It was bad. It’s nice if it happens (and if you date in your friend group sometimes you gotta make it happen to keep the peace) but I don’t think it’s aspirational and doesn’t reflect whether you’re chill or not.
I was best friends with an ex for years, and it amounted to basically being an unofficial relationship because the feelings were still there underlying our constant communication (we initially broke up in large part because our jobs took us to different continents with no end in sight). A few weeks ago, after about four years of this, we officially stopped talking as we realized we didn't have a future together and our best friendship was hurting both us and our prospects for other relationships. So I 100% understand. For a long time I was the person saying you could be friends with an ex but as long as at least one of you has feelings for the other, it really isn't possible.
Can you make a video about that communication stuff? Seems very interesting and useful for being able to better understand loved ones and being better understood by them
Faking it always seemed to be a bad idea to me - you're just convincing your partner that they're doing it 'right' for you, and nothing changes or improves. Basically dooming yourself to no climax forever.. If you have ideas on how to make things work for you, speak up!
I just now, watching this, realized that I am exactly the same as you, Hannah. I have been "friends" with all my exes, but it's only because I secretly wanted to get back with them. I wanted to keep that potential alive. Huh. I've got some pondering to do about some of my friendships...
I find the question in relation to your health etc interesting. I was the opposite and has made me think was I doing it maybe to prove some thing to myself or partner. I have my bag due to cancer and after be healed I found myself more eager. I get the body issues and while people might say its different for a male I still wonder would I be looked at the same way as before as I was always happy with my body.
Now that you mentioned it, I think that's likely why I was still friends with my exes (and at least two were mutual in that regard). But I'm happily married and I'd never actually hang out with any of them so they are more just acquaintances now.
I was a very early bloomer in terms of masturbation, I didn't even know what sex was but I can remember "figuring out" my body around the age of 8. I remember taking a muslin cloth to school in my pants because it "felt good" and my teachers spotted it sliding down my tights because I had forgotten about it. They figured it was a comfort blanket and I was anxious about something, they told my mom and she got so angry at the school because I didn't carry it around at home and therefore something at school was making me anxious.. HAHAHA little did they know..
Yeah... I was once "friends" with one of my exes. Then I realized we weren't just friends, we were friends with benefits. There was a lot of sex involved, and I realized sex and weed were the entire basis of our friendship. 😂
I am in a open relationship.. and to hear you have left that door open is very interesting.. not that you and I would.. but kind of nice to hear.. most important thing I would say.. open communication between you and Dan and who ever else you invite into your world
I've only stayed friends with two of my ex's and that's solely because we realised that we never had any romantic/sexual attraction to each other in the first place otherwise I basically never talk to my ex's again (also because I moved country and haven't really had a partner since apart from the one I'm in a relationship with currently)
The part about exes was really interesting! (The rest too, lmao.) I mean, the usual meaning of being friends with exes is all about "do you still hear about them/talk to them" but it's never the frequency of such interactions and how deep those interactions are. Never thought about that! Cool stuff.
I love this channel so much because of the wise words you deliver and how open you are. In those ways you are the very model of what I think everyone should aim to be like.
Hannah: Lets talk about a misconception about masturbation... Me: Ohh, we’re gonna get into debunking masturbation myths in relationships. Hannah: The correct way to spell masturbation is... 😂 Completely on brand and the funniest thing I’ve heard all day.
So I'm new to this channel, only seen a few videos, so having an online presence thats this open to sex and related subjects is refreshing. We need more people this willing to share, if nothing else to destigmatize it all.
This was a fun video! I don't know how I missed the assumptions question on Instagram, but you had some good ones in there. I don't know if I would have been able to add much.
I'm on good terms with most of my exes, and one is now one of my closest friends. We had a brief intense affair, but it was over a decade ago. Now she's married to a great guy and they have two daughters.
Yes i'm always friends with exes!! I agree with your theory as well, but for me sometimes it's hard to let go because they were so important in your life for a while, I find it hard just to give that up and I always try and hold on to them being important to me. Sometimes it's forced and sometimes there are still feelings there, even if you know you aren't going to act on it. Never thought about that before! xx
I always get a laugh out of people talking about "long term" relationships. The term is totally relative. I've been with my wife for over 25 years so any relationship under 3 years to my mind is just barely getting started. 5 years is my idea of the minimum to call it long term but if you'd asked me 15 years ago my answer would have been different.
Did you make a video about your recent magical Disney World trip? I never expected to meet you there and so happy I did. You are as cute and adorable in person as you are in your videos.
I'm good friends with a few of my exes but with all of them we had some time where we didn't talk and then became friends later on once we had both moved on.
I feel very similarly about my (former) friendships with ex-flings. Even when we were "just friends" the friendship definitely relied on the underlying flirting/thrived on "the possibility." All of those relationships have fallen off since I've been in a long term relationship.
I'm not really friends with any of my exes, though I'm not opposed to being friends with them. The first one is just a case of losing touch. We dated in high school, and I haven't had contact with him since. I have no idea where he lives nowadays. He's not on social media or anything. The second one, I tried really hard (honestly way too hard) to be friends for a while. But he kind of gradually stopped talking to me, which I can't blame him for, because I was honestly kind of the clingy ex from hell after he dumped me. Now I'm pretty sure he lives in a different state, but if we hypothetically wound up in the same place at the same time, I think we could probably have an enjoyable friendly conversation. My last ex I have....complicated...feelings about, but I'm generally on good enough terms with him though that we could be friends if he wanted, and we do talk very occasionally. But he seems to not really want to maintain that friendship, so all the contact I have with him is pretty sparse.
I have a little bit of a different experience. I "dated" two people, M & B, before my current partner, F. F & I (me) been together for 3 1/2 years, so definitely nothing additional going on there. Neither of us have any desire for openness or anything else other than our relationship. I am still friends with one of my exs, M, who I was friends with before he (M) and I dated in uni, and I am not friends with my other ex, B, because he was kinda just a douche and I met him in my adult life. M has now also moved on and has been dating someone he knew back in high school. So I think the reason I stayed friends with M was not because of a sexual thing, although it could have been at first (I was broken up with so ya know I was still a little sore about it) but now its literally just another close friendship to me. I think once I started dating my current partner and knew he was my "one," it was easier for me to just view M as a friend that I knew I wanted to keep being friends with. M & my partner have also met and actually get along really well.
i thought an ex and me were "friends" we live on opposite ends of the country so we never hung out or anything, but i realised recently that he unfriended me and i was actually hurt, but i was only hurt because i could no longer see photos of his very cute. we broke up 2 years ago and ive been in a much better relationship for the past year and a half
I wish more girls were like you Hannah in regards to faking it. It is my pet hate when girls do that. It is not necessary and I’m sure most guys understand that a girl will not orgasm all the time. In fact us guys sometimes don’t have an orgasm as well. We are all different. Girls that are faking it are causing more harm than if they didn’t fake it.
Bang on with the friends with ex's thing I think - dated a girl who was friends with all her ex's and I always found it weird although they talked she never really let them know she was dating me... It's being afraid to let go of those 'potentials' that you have in your head of "yeah i'd probably bang/date them again." which probably isn't a sign you're totally committed/happy in your relationship
I did the exact same thing with my ex’s until I got into a serious relationship. I think that almost everyone that is friends with ex’s does the same thing. Almost.
its hard not say im on good terms with my ex because i met her through mutual friends and then became really good friends with even more of her friends n i remain friends with them now. the same goes for her with my friends. its hard to hang w them on a night out without having to see and interact with my ex.
I’m literally exactly like you!!! I got back together with my only ex because of this but now that I’m in a long term relationship I don’t talk to them anymore 😂
My boyfriend doesn't understand the need for lube because none of his previous partners needed it and i didn't as much before i got the nexplonone implant but i have to keep explaining that its normal and I'm so glad i had people like you tell me that before I started having sex.
The whole "staying friends with exes" hits real close to home. You saying that makes me realise that's exactly what I do. I was friends with all my exes until I started a long term relationship, and now I don't speak with any of them.
It’s weird when you have that realisation
I remember there was research claiming that for every new romantic relationship a woman loses 2 friends, they never stated it but I just figured it made sense that first on the chopping block tends to be exes since a lot of people seem to be uncomfortable with the idea of their partner spending time with an ex. 🤷♂️
I did also rather wonder how loosely they were defining "friends" for the research. 🤔
I know an open relationship would never been on the cards for me, because that would imply I'd ever get into a relationship at all
Aww sweetie... Don't say that! If you want to I will happen!
@@marieantoinettepaddelboot3149 Well of course I do but I haven't been with anyone since late 2014, and I don't think I appeal to anyone in that way.
Moooodddd, 😂. But also I’d feel soooo unloved if they wanted someone else 😂
Luca #56 omg same
You are not alone, i have never had a serious 100% big deal relationship, and i feel like me and many others will remain single for a long while.
I only have one ex, not friends with her. Her new boyfriend is a bus driver though and regularly drives the bus I take to work. So that's fun.
Just make sure he doesn't accidentally run over you.
@@whiskeryfacey Nah, there's no bad blood between me and him. It's just a bit awkward sometimes when it's 6am and I've not woken up properly and the first human being I make eye contact with is the guy I got dumped for
@@smurfmaster90 just look at it like he's your chauffeur 😅
Oh, it's another episode of the unofficial Hannah Witton series "making the same videos like everyone else but a demonetised version"! 🤩
This was a great video, I admire the honesty and it made me think about my own sex life too.
I got FOUR ads on this! Evidently people advertising financial management apps, hearing aids, and diets aren’t overly concerned with the vague concept of “brand safety.”
@@shayelea That's so great! I didn't get any but this gives me hope!
HAHAHA YUP!!!
Hmmm interesting!!
Hannah Witton I only watched one of the diet ads because there's only so much of that I can take!
It's Mast-UR-bation not Levi-o-SAR.
I've never stayed friends with my exes. But I have reconnected with exes several years later and found that we could be at least friendly acquaintances. I've only tried to stay friends once, and that was very much so that neither of us had to give up having sex, but hooo boy and I glad that didn't last.
haha yeah tbh I've never been in a "sex with an ex" situation. I've always been very clear cut about that and not sure how I managed it. Certainly lots of exes I would have liked to continue sleeping with haha
Caz Avery where your exes blind men?
So glad my mind wasn't the only one picturing that scene
? Not sure how a male and female can be friends unless both have zero attraction to one another. Not likely... I've always stayed safe and cut ties after the relationship even if benefits are offered. Just no real reason to give people false hope even if its clearly stated no strings attached it can still become emotional for one of the two party members.. Easy to be friends with opposite sex if your staying single though... soo many friends :D! But nothing but trouble once trying to settle down with someone... cant really say honey.. im going out with 5 other dudes or girls to a concert sorry you have to work. Would be too many trust issues for someone or worse the added temptation for cheating for one of them.
Wanna ride all the rides stay single for that. :)
@@theonetruth1478 I've been friends with many women i found attractive or that found me attractive.
There's a difference between being attracted to, wanting to have sex with, and actually trying to have sex with someone.
You’re so bloody right, I’ve never been in love but my god I’ve been infatuated with people even by just a look, countless times!
In infatuation from just a look, yuuupppp
@@hannahwitton indeed, I have had multiple encounters with people who's looks just make me forget to breathe for a few moments... always too insecure to express that curiosity of infatuation out of a fear of coming off as creepy though :/
Yup
My partner and I have for the last two years had multiple conversations about the possibility of opening up our otherwise monogamous relationship, and rules and other stuff. We started to talk about it when he found out he wanted to go to a University in the other end of the country, and I had no idea what I was gonna do. So it kinda seamed relevant and natural to talk about, also because I'm somewhere on the ace spectrum, and bi (kinda wanting to explore that side of my orientation). But for now, we haven't had the desire to change how our relationship works. But just having had those conversations, and really just talking about our now 6-year long relationship, is so amazing.
I have zero assumptions about you. Hope that helps.
The "tit job" question was so confusing to me! 😂 I thought they were asking if she would have plastic surgery but now I think they're talking about a sex thing...
I didn’t even think about the double meaning - definitely meant it as a sex thing
@@hannahwitton maybe i'm too innocent for this channel 😂❤
@@ninjascotsman I believe she's said in past videos any decision about that would be made after she has children, as breast surgery can affect breast feeding
@@smurfmaster90 if she has twins, she's got plenty of breast... For feedin.
@@MicroSoftner That's not how the human body works, just in case you seriously think that it does. The size of your breasts is in no way an indicator of how high or low your milk production would be.
I'm friends with my ex. He was my first bf but we weren't intimate which I think helped us stay close. He came to mine and my husbands wedding and we all hang out still! 😊
Aw love it!
I have a weird rule for friends and especially staying friends with exes, that is : would I be comfortable inviting them to my wedding ? If not, I don't bother putting in any effort to stay friends aha! Still in good terms though!
Aaaaye that’s how I’ve kind of thought of it too! Especially as Dan and I were creating the guest list. NOT A SINGLE PERSON EITHER OF US HAS SLEPT WITH (other than each other) IS INVITED. Not on purpose at all. Realised afterwards, like hmmmmm interesting.
With my most recent ex, I was comfortable with that idea and asked him if he wanted to be invited. Turned out HE was not comfortable with it though. So that didn't happen.
I loved this 😍 it was so interesting so learn more about you but even more it was interesting to actually see someone talk about their personal sex habits openly. You don’t see someone talking about this very often especially on TH-cam. Loved it thank you for this ☺️🥰
Love to lead by example ☺️
5:15 Hannah's number one kink, correcting spelling on the internet :-)
Spelling or masturbation?
I was friends with my ex's until I had been with my current partner for 6 months or so. We've now been together for just over 6 years so I 100% agree with your theory! 😄😄
I dumped my ex 20 years ago because she thought she could change my mind about marriage and kids when I was VERY upfront about wanting neither. It lasted 2 years but it was only good for 1 and the rest was pressure that she thought she could "mold me" into the person she wanted me to be. I haven't seen her since the night we broke up and I hope I never do again.
I also learned that it's STUPID to date your HS crush 10 years after graduation because the reality does NOT equal the fantasy and there's just no getting to know you phase! Lesson learned - the HARD way!
I admire your “open book” approach to all of the subjects you discuss on your channel. You are a breath of fresh air for your subscribers and I appreciate you sharing so much about you with us. Be well
I had a year and a half relationship between 17 and 19 too, glad I'm out of it now cause my new boyfriend treats me so much better :)
I have an ex friend that thinks she's friends with all her ex situationships when in reality they all hate her because she treated them so poorly. 😬
oh I LOVED this!
Thanks Mel!! 😘
I think not that many women actively “fake” an orgasm as much as they just dont say anything and their parter assumed theyve come bc of course lol.
If the guy can't tell you're not being pleased, find another guy. He's not paying attention to you.
A friend once told me about a guy that kept asking her every few minutes if she had cum. She got tired of it, so she ended up saying yes.
Yep. That’s me. I’m on friendly terms with my exes but don’t talk to any of them regularly. But I think the reason we’re still on good terms is more like because I don’t like to lose someone I have some kind of positive relationship with. Maybe it comes from dating my friends, but when we don’t get along in a dating way, I usually want to have them in my life because we still have things in common and enjoy being around eachother.
I've stayed friends with a few exes. Not a problem for me and them but often a problem for their current partners.
This was so interesting! It's so refreshing to hear someone talk about their sex lives/preferences so openly!
No assumptions about you. Just knowledge based on what you’ve shared. Thanks for being open and allowing others to see what healthy communication looks like!
I'm on/off FWB with my longest-term ex (3 years, ended about 16 months ago), and we genuinely are very good friends, and we text most days. We sleep together occasionally for fun, but as soon as romance gets in the way we fall apart so we just avoid addressing it. Neither of us are looking for a relationship either with each other or with anyone else because we're at a transitional point in our lives (waiting to move out from home again to study master's degrees), so our situation suits us both... For now. I have NO idea where it's going to go when we both move on. I'd like to stay friends but I know there will always be something between us that would just complicate any new relationships. Long story short, it's a bloody mess but I'm just refusing to think about it until it actually matters 😂 I have another ex I'd love to genuinely be friends with but he was really hurt by the breakup, and another ex who blocked me on everything so I don't see us going for coffee any time soon lmao
My ex was my best friend before we went out so when we broke up it was pretty rocky for a solid couple years. But because I don’t hold grudges and we were legitimately friends we were able to return to an actual friendship. Not a common thing, amongst my friend group like 6-8 of us all started relationships at the same time, they all failed and I’m the only person on good terms with their ex.
I thought you was poorly or really nervous for some reason...then i noticed I had the video on X0.75 speed 🤦🏻♀️
Hahaha
😂 😂
laughing my ass of loool
I think that for a successful relationship decisions and plans need to be mutually agreed, neither party should be in charge
I really like “no commitment zone” because I’ve been trying to explain/name that feeling for MONTHS now
What I mean when I tell people I'm friends with my ex is that we're on good terms as opposed to completely having cut off communications at the moment of break up.
Really glad that you’re feeling better about your body since the op! Your such a brilliant role model for young women, I love that you’re not afraid to talk about these things and be honest without feeling like you have to share too much! Do you ever do advice or answer questions that people send in? I’d love to get your take on some things!!
I don´t know, I think it´s really difficult to me to think that you can be a close friend with an ex that you used to have a relationship with, like a long term, serious and committed relationship. But I dunno, that´s just me!
I tried to remain friends with my exes but it often got too weird/turbulent, however I’m still close friends with exes from about 8 years ago and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Can you make a video about communicating about communication in a relationship, please?
I a still friendly with my first girlfriend but we don't talk that often. I'm close friends with one ex-boyfriend, but the best story is that I dated my best (girl)friend (since high school) for about two years. When we broke up, we stopped talking for two years. Last year, we reconnected and rolled right into being best friends as if nothing romantic ever happened between us. It's great. I love her so much (as friends). I missed my friend for so long, and I'm so grateful that we didn't lose those 15+ years of friendship 👭
(Sorry if my English is awkward, not my first language)
How to flirt without coming off as creepy? its a genuine question...both men n women
In this biased world no one thinks a woman is creepy when hitting or staring at a guy....
5:25 gave me Hermione Granger vibes
Ooof I related so hard when you talked about infatuation!!! If you’re comfortable with it I would love a video where you talk, about how you got yourself through those periods. I still struggle deeply with becoming very quickly obsessed and infatuated with someone, even after knowing they aren’t interested and deep down I’m not either 😅
What, for you, is the difference between feeling love for someone or being infatuated with (the idea of loving) someone ? I try to figure some things out for myself ... Thanks 😘 !!
Edit : OMG, my heart. I'm not talking about my ex, but my crush (who crush-ed me) ... Because I still fancy her and care about her, but there's nothing I'd like more than be a good, genuine friend (more than we're now "on good terms"). But I can't do this. The feelings and fear are holding me back from any interaction, afraid to ruin things even more (if possible) 😭
Bruh, Hannah must be a mind reader, how does she know what we are thinking!
She doesnt. Stop talking shit
As a non Native English speaker, this video induced a lot of searching for translation.^^
I tried to stay friends with all of my exes. It lasted for a few years. The first ex turned out to be bad in a way I don’t wanna talk about in public. The second one we’re still okay. The third one we were too close and the friendship truly exploded in our faces. It was bad. It’s nice if it happens (and if you date in your friend group sometimes you gotta make it happen to keep the peace) but I don’t think it’s aspirational and doesn’t reflect whether you’re chill or not.
I was best friends with an ex for years, and it amounted to basically being an unofficial relationship because the feelings were still there underlying our constant communication (we initially broke up in large part because our jobs took us to different continents with no end in sight). A few weeks ago, after about four years of this, we officially stopped talking as we realized we didn't have a future together and our best friendship was hurting both us and our prospects for other relationships. So I 100% understand. For a long time I was the person saying you could be friends with an ex but as long as at least one of you has feelings for the other, it really isn't possible.
I've just come across this channel. Honestly I'm addicted
Thanks! Welcome aboard!
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Can you make a video about that communication stuff? Seems very interesting and useful for being able to better understand loved ones and being better understood by them
Faking it always seemed to be a bad idea to me - you're just convincing your partner that they're doing it 'right' for you, and nothing changes or improves. Basically dooming yourself to no climax forever.. If you have ideas on how to make things work for you, speak up!
I just now, watching this, realized that I am exactly the same as you, Hannah. I have been "friends" with all my exes, but it's only because I secretly wanted to get back with them. I wanted to keep that potential alive. Huh. I've got some pondering to do about some of my friendships...
I find the question in relation to your health etc interesting. I was the opposite and has made me think was I doing it maybe to prove some thing to myself or partner. I have my bag due to cancer and after be healed I found myself more eager. I get the body issues and while people might say its different for a male I still wonder would I be looked at the same way as before as I was always happy with my body.
Now that you mentioned it, I think that's likely why I was still friends with my exes (and at least two were mutual in that regard). But I'm happily married and I'd never actually hang out with any of them so they are more just acquaintances now.
Great video Hanna, love your honesty and how natural you are
Definitely not friends with any of my exes. Sort of okay with like 2-3 of them but not friends. 🙃
I was a very early bloomer in terms of masturbation, I didn't even know what sex was but I can remember "figuring out" my body around the age of 8. I remember taking a muslin cloth to school in my pants because it "felt good" and my teachers spotted it sliding down my tights because I had forgotten about it. They figured it was a comfort blanket and I was anxious about something, they told my mom and she got so angry at the school because I didn't carry it around at home and therefore something at school was making me anxious.. HAHAHA little did they know..
Yeah... I was once "friends" with one of my exes. Then I realized we weren't just friends, we were friends with benefits. There was a lot of sex involved, and I realized sex and weed were the entire basis of our friendship. 😂
I am in a open relationship.. and to hear you have left that door open is very interesting.. not that you and I would.. but kind of nice to hear.. most important thing I would say.. open communication between you and Dan and who ever else you invite into your world
I've only stayed friends with two of my ex's and that's solely because we realised that we never had any romantic/sexual attraction to each other in the first place otherwise I basically never talk to my ex's again (also because I moved country and haven't really had a partner since apart from the one I'm in a relationship with currently)
The part about exes was really interesting! (The rest too, lmao.)
I mean, the usual meaning of being friends with exes is all about "do you still hear about them/talk to them" but it's never the frequency of such interactions and how deep those interactions are. Never thought about that! Cool stuff.
I love this channel so much because of the wise words you deliver and how open you are. In those ways you are the very model of what I think everyone should aim to be like.
Hannah: Lets talk about a misconception about masturbation...
Me: Ohh, we’re gonna get into debunking masturbation myths in relationships.
Hannah: The correct way to spell masturbation is...
😂 Completely on brand and the funniest thing I’ve heard all day.
The problem can be that you can deny things but people can still disbelieve you
Great vid as usual. They are always a learning moment but also funny and entertaining- cheers
So I'm new to this channel, only seen a few videos, so having an online presence thats this open to sex and related subjects is refreshing. We need more people this willing to share, if nothing else to destigmatize it all.
That video with Tim was the funniest shit I've ever seen omg
That thing about ex really resignated with me and made me reflect about my “friendship” with them. Thanks Hannah!
Me at 1:25: “Got to open Google, I guess.”
*closes Google tab*
Me at 2:17: “Might as well just leave Google open, then.”
I'm glad to know that I wasn't the only one :D
Some of these I had wondered but I thought it would be a bit rude to ask such personal stuff but that’s just me
Let's talk about socks, ba-by. Let's talk about you and me.
Marling year 10 went to Birmingham university and your professor, David Gange, told us that you have a very successful youtube channel.
Hey Hannah! Would you be able to do a video specifically about infactuation vs love please?
Dan definitely gets pegged weekly.
he's living the dream
I agree with the friends with exes and also infatuations being harder to get over!
This was a fun video! I don't know how I missed the assumptions question on Instagram, but you had some good ones in there. I don't know if I would have been able to add much.
Loved this! Maybe a video about working on your body image post-surgery could be cool sometime in the future!
I'm on good terms with most of my exes, and one is now one of my closest friends. We had a brief intense affair, but it was over a decade ago. Now she's married to a great guy and they have two daughters.
Yes i'm always friends with exes!! I agree with your theory as well, but for me sometimes it's hard to let go because they were so important in your life for a while, I find it hard just to give that up and I always try and hold on to them being important to me. Sometimes it's forced and sometimes there are still feelings there, even if you know you aren't going to act on it. Never thought about that before! xx
I always get a laugh out of people talking about "long term" relationships. The term is totally relative. I've been with my wife for over 25 years so any relationship under 3 years to my mind is just barely getting started. 5 years is my idea of the minimum to call it long term but if you'd asked me 15 years ago my answer would have been different.
Correcting the spelling of masturbation is the most Hannah thing Hannah has never done
100% agree on the sexual potential with exes part. And then you realise how much you’ve become completely different persons.
Did you make a video about your recent magical Disney World trip? I never expected to meet you there and so happy I did. You are as cute and adorable in person as you are in your videos.
Absolutely adored this, so mature but fun at the same time!!
I'm good friends with a few of my exes but with all of them we had some time where we didn't talk and then became friends later on once we had both moved on.
I feel very similarly about my (former) friendships with ex-flings. Even when we were "just friends" the friendship definitely relied on the underlying flirting/thrived on "the possibility." All of those relationships have fallen off since I've been in a long term relationship.
Not falling in love too easily but being infatuated often hit hard. I felt that lol
"as a cool girl..." Oh I so misheard that the first time. LOL (as a call girl)
I cant be friends with any of my exes bc there aren’t any
The headband is lit Hannah 😍
Very happy that the first question was what I wanted to know!
I'm not really friends with any of my exes, though I'm not opposed to being friends with them. The first one is just a case of losing touch. We dated in high school, and I haven't had contact with him since. I have no idea where he lives nowadays. He's not on social media or anything. The second one, I tried really hard (honestly way too hard) to be friends for a while. But he kind of gradually stopped talking to me, which I can't blame him for, because I was honestly kind of the clingy ex from hell after he dumped me. Now I'm pretty sure he lives in a different state, but if we hypothetically wound up in the same place at the same time, I think we could probably have an enjoyable friendly conversation. My last ex I have....complicated...feelings about, but I'm generally on good enough terms with him though that we could be friends if he wanted, and we do talk very occasionally. But he seems to not really want to maintain that friendship, so all the contact I have with him is pretty sparse.
I have a little bit of a different experience. I "dated" two people, M & B, before my current partner, F. F & I (me) been together for 3 1/2 years, so definitely nothing additional going on there. Neither of us have any desire for openness or anything else other than our relationship. I am still friends with one of my exs, M, who I was friends with before he (M) and I dated in uni, and I am not friends with my other ex, B, because he was kinda just a douche and I met him in my adult life. M has now also moved on and has been dating someone he knew back in high school. So I think the reason I stayed friends with M was not because of a sexual thing, although it could have been at first (I was broken up with so ya know I was still a little sore about it) but now its literally just another close friendship to me. I think once I started dating my current partner and knew he was my "one," it was easier for me to just view M as a friend that I knew I wanted to keep being friends with. M & my partner have also met and actually get along really well.
Ahhhh yes I’m super excited to watch, I love assumptions videos!! Hannah I hope you have a marvelous rest of your week!! 🥰🥰
I couldnt be friends with exes.. for some reason i cant imgaine my ex being with someone else and me knowing about it..
i thought an ex and me were "friends" we live on opposite ends of the country so we never hung out or anything, but i realised recently that he unfriended me and i was actually hurt, but i was only hurt because i could no longer see photos of his very cute. we broke up 2 years ago and ive been in a much better relationship for the past year and a half
I would love a video on communication in relationships!
I wish more girls were like you Hannah in regards to faking it. It is my pet hate when girls do that. It is not necessary and I’m sure most guys understand that a girl will not orgasm all the time. In fact us guys sometimes don’t have an orgasm as well. We are all different. Girls that are faking it are causing more harm than if they didn’t fake it.
Bang on with the friends with ex's thing I think - dated a girl who was friends with all her ex's and I always found it weird although they talked she never really let them know she was dating me... It's being afraid to let go of those 'potentials' that you have in your head of "yeah i'd probably bang/date them again." which probably isn't a sign you're totally committed/happy in your relationship
The friends with exes thing was so me! I was hoping you’d down that line of thought and you did 😍
I did the exact same thing with my ex’s until I got into a serious relationship. I think that almost everyone that is friends with ex’s does the same thing. Almost.
its hard not say im on good terms with my ex because i met her through mutual friends and then became really good friends with even more of her friends n i remain friends with them now. the same goes for her with my friends. its hard to hang w them on a night out without having to see and interact with my ex.
I’m literally exactly like you!!! I got back together with my only ex because of this but now that I’m in a long term relationship I don’t talk to them anymore 😂
its not funny but i think it is
Q in IG: you're not afraid to tell people what you like
Hannah: Yesn't