You’d think it’s common sense and something that would be before you start…. It apparently people are dumb as dogshit and it takes reality to hit them in the head before they realise what is completely obvious to others.
I am a photographer at heart, I love George Hurrells photos in general, his pictures of old school Hollywood stars is pure art! Women shoving items up their holes for all to see is art these days?!!! kind of twisted!
Proved by mods harassing those being honest with them about it and treating those as hating harassers and banning them for "reason" labelled as something against ToS. The world will continue to function only if justice is brought back to the justice system and every platform adopts due process. Unbalanced messaging, esp enforced to be, is dangerous for all.
It really goes both ways. I'm losing my attraction to women. Everywhere online I'm bombarded with content designed to lure in my attention featuring very pretty women, and it all feels like a waitress trying to flirt with me in hopes of getting a big tip. With so many people being content-minded, all this overflows into real life, making interactions feel like targeted ads and manipulation
BOOM. Even here this prostitute in denial is disgusted with men because she doesnt get to have her cake and eat it too by taking all their money and also being treated like a queen.
@@QuartuvLarry lmao that's a lose lose situation. The only way that works is to push pull, if you don't know how to do that they will always loose attraction. If I really care I'd at least do that If I don't care that much and she's only the type I'd smash I won't do as much push pulling I'll just try to see if I can get them cheeks. If she's playing hard to get or go cold on me oh well, she wasn't worth my dedication she was already passed her prime there's no way I would have got off the market for her.
@@QuartuvLarry Exactly. Basically, dating only seems to work for sociopaths. If you can't stand the woman you're dating and thus don't mind to treat her rather horrible and with disrespect and not caring about her, THEN she chases you. But as soon as you treat her kind, she thinks "hm, this guy is boring, why does he give me everything i want? I NEED drama!" and she leaves. It's basically like a warped version of kindergarten. Obviously, there's no point in doing this to someone. If you love them, why would you? And if you don't, why would you? For "fun"? How can it be fun with someone you can't stand?
A lot of girls are sold the lie that promiscuity and hyper-sexualizing themselves is empowering. Just look at pretty much any music video or women's magazine. Ffs even the superhero chicks need to be sexy and hot! The dudes just fly or skip about in glorified Spanx and shove a balled up sock or sausage down there to appear more endowed. And for a time, SW can *seem* empowering. "I'm making money doing stuff I used to do for free for guys who aren't even here anymore!" Or whatever. But the reality eventually creeps in once someone starts dirty talking in a really degrading way. Just because someone is getting paid doesn't mean they want to be spoken to like that by strangers or even their chosen partner. Disrespect is disrespect regardless of monetary transactions or line of work. Even strip clubs have their rules and bouncers to protect the performers; just because you paid for a lap dance doesn't give you the right to grope or say nasty things. They're still human beings with thoughts and feelings regardless if their clothes are on or off. You can request they remove garments; you do not need to call names. (Guaranteed; the ones that turned her off were saying things like "you dirty sl*t" and worse in a horny way. I'm not sure anyone enjoys being called that by randos, even if they are paying.) If someone wants to be called things in a feisty way, they'll let you know.
Oh my God yes what is wrong with these toxic feminist types? Keyword toxic. Big difference from regular feminist etc. I've never seen one of them that makes any sense. Them: "so I chose to hit myself in the face with a hammer. now I hate hammers because they hurt"
She said something about other "real" sw. OF is real SW, don't fool yourself. Pimping yourself for $5/a month (or whatever) is still getting pimped. Pimped to people who like their 5*x werkers at $5/month. You will get so many sic effers. It's not fine art, it's cheap purient consumer art. Don't be at the whim of cheap consumers, or don't be a sold product at all. Life feels so much better that way.
@@littlejimmy7402OF is better than sleeping around. A virgin who has OF is incomparably better as option for stable relationship than woman without OF but even 1 previous sexual partner
@@littlejimmy7402 I definitely wouldn't marry non-virgin. Probably wouldn't marry a girl with onlyfans too, but out of two aforementioned options the girl with OF is much better candidate to be a concubine, all other things equal
Much like she's fed up with running into vulgar and disrespectful guys, its just as exhausting being a single guy on dating apps and constantly coming across women that only seem to be interested in your wallet when you're genuinely trying to meet someone.
Intentionally selling pics to men that are willing to pay you is no different than hooking. Of course she is attracting the worst men in the world. But, to be disgusted with men while selling them sex is a contradiction. Just think about how her potential daughters will see her.
No offence, but if you can’t provide for your wife and kids, I don’t know why you’re even dating. If you aren’t broke you have nothing to worry about. Unless, of course, you want women to do house work for free and still go to work and take care of the kids…
@@Rosetta-gp9mkand here comes the shame. If a guy is actively dating, that means he probably has some form of resources. The issue is these women think it isn't good enough for their average looking ass. When I get to my financial peak, I won't be settling for no average looking chick who thinks she deserves somebody that's resourceful and is basing it off of how she treated some pookie in her past. FOH.
“If you stare into the abyss, the abyss stares back at you” We all make our choices. When you dance with the Devil, you've got to be ready to suffer the consequences.
Some people don't know they're dancing with the devil... totally different subject matter I got into business with the wrong company owner thinking they were a good person and I got burnt and I've never met a more disgusting evil manipulative self absorbed individual in my life but it happened and I was attacked for months and months almost a year now and shit still goes on even so that I've taken legal action. Some of us are so caring and kind we give other the benefit of the doubt. But where there is money there is greed where there is greed there is the devil. The entire world is captized off of greed I hate to break it to you but it's everywhere and people are forced into it... people do it because they have too not because they want too... because we made it a necessity to live.
@@Tenebrisvis I'm sorry that happened to you but it emphasizes the importance of using your brain. Do your due diligence. Find out what you are getting into. Learn the consequences. You can't blame someone for taking advantage of you because you are st*pid.
50 years ago in college I took a class in Deviant Psychology. One thing we discussed was the known psychic damage that occurred to sex workers. Her comments and laments backs up what we discussed 50 years ago.
As a cop it was sad to watch "Sex Workers!" go from naive & lively to dead inside. Even without drugs and alcohol (usual) it didn't take long. Great informants but little else to recommend them. They disappeared after a couple of years or died, usually by suicide.
American Women want to be Men. Transgender Men want to be women. It’s weird. It’s a mess. Capitalism (Capitalizing) and Feminism fucked them up in the head bro. I learned my lesson. Abandon these schmucks. Stop encouraging these women and supporting this platform.
This is so true. I was in the Navy. I got out after 6 years. My sister's best friend, who was always cute, and shy, and sweet, decided to put herself through college by being a stripper. If she did anything more than that, I wouldn't be surprised, but I'm willing to bet she did, but maybe it was just stripping. Either way, she was a changed person. More harsh, more serious, less friendly, less sweet, no more natural sweet smiles, an angry look in her eyes at all times, more masculine, etc... She was changed, and obviously damaged. Not at all friendly, like she was before I went into the Navy. Stripping/sex work had definitely left it's mark on her.
@@Rigidflex17 yeah, treating ppl like sh*t or just a thing to be used us a drain on ppl. It doesn't apply only to sex workers, but also ppl who are bullied, neglected, repeatedly lied to, etc etc etc.
Humans have a very carnal side that comes out online. Even though she’s disgusted by her lustful male audience, her lust and greed for money and attention makes her as equally as disgusting. The customer and clients relationship are dependent on each other. She is not a victim
I dont think so, I think it's like a lot of things in life. You can "know" the risks or possible costs but not really KNOW the cost or risks. Its like learning the hard way, we all have at least one if not more instances in our lives where our parents told us "you shouldn't do that, trust me, I know/have been there" but we ignore their advice or disregard it. Our modern society and culture is one focused so much so on the individual experience that we are practically taught to ignore others experiences to aquire our own instead. The overwhelming mentality of "just because it didn't/doesn't work for you, doesn't mean it won't work for me!" It's just one of the side effects of where our society is at in this time of transition from one standard and norm to a new one.
@@marcusherts9345 Clearly she wants her cake and eat it. To her, the only flaw with OF is the "disgusting" men who use it. If her subscribers were all perfect top tier single men, with Harvard degrees, who treated her like royalty and never jerked off to her content, she'd have no problem with it. Unfortunately for her, no such men would ever need to subscribe to OF.
There is a joke about dudes drinking in a bar that go out the back door to drain the lizard and all have an encounter with a dude wielding a baseball bat. Bloody joke applies here. Sadly.
I've never really understood this argument. Is it really "getting" them if you buy from their OF,? You get to see what they look like naked, sure, but you don't get to hold them, you don't get to feel them in your arms, you don't get to hear them say "I love you" (or you don't get to hear them say that and MEAN it, anyway), you don't get to go on dates with them - all you get is the pure visceral lust of seeing an attractive woman nude. But that's not really "getting" someone in the relationship sense. A lot of OF subscribers delude themselves into thinking otherwise, that their subscription "means" something, but they're just paying money for porn.
And also..... Attention men: If you can't afford her for $1000/hr, she won't sacrifice her assets for a relationship with you. Our society, has a problem. And I'm not sure how to bridge that gap. I'm not even sure there's a desire to do so at this point 🤷🏾
I was mostly with her until about 6mins in when after all that she said she'd never quit... Some people can't be helped. A walking contradiction from the first part of her talk.
same. what does that even mean "i would have to be physicaly stopped?" like have a horrible accident and be maimed for life and ugly? why cant this emotional and mental health issues be enough? she deserves what comes to her and what will never come to her.
Its like when you try to help someone who falls down, you try to lend a hand but they refuse and instead sit there for 2 minutes. The only that can help them are themselves
You can guide a horse to water but you can't make it drink. A friend's cousin got into OF and she's miserable, constantly complaining about it and always filling the void with materialistic things, she's currently on vacation in Fance (and even there she's keeping us updated on how men aren't s*it)
That is the reality of being an adult: you have to live with the consequences of your actions. She chose to be an OF model, so she has to deal with the potential mental health issues and negative reactions associated with it. That said, the guys who shame women like this yet subscribe to the content are extremely pathetic.
@@ajtaylor8750 men have been hypersexualing girls and women for..... forever! Subsequently illiciting and soliciting sexual activity from those girls and women, and then turning around and shaming them, or worse abandoning them, sometimes even when pregnancies are involved. And women; it can be a whole other topic why, have been participating in this behavior in the entire time of civilization. It's been a vicious circle of the darkest pits of humanity for thousands of years.... ....... I don't understand the accuracy or the value, of putting blame or responsibility on modern day women using websites. It's just a cop-out to find an easy answer, instead of diving into complicated and uncomfortable conversations about who are as humans in the societies we designed intentionally. You can't cover all of that in forum comments
when you said "you are what you attract" it made me grin because i have attracted a VERY WEIRD girl. my family always said to stop being weird so women would like me, but i didn't like the boring normal women, and who i ended up with was this wonderful weird girl who we frolic around in our itiosyncratic glee!
Well, you accept your level or area.... but this woman in the video refuses to accept this is what she is, this is her level. Taking this step is already a selective process, even if she says she did it for "artistic purposes". LOL
Last 4mins of this video are gold. “Society defines success in such a shallow way.” And “True success is being at peace with yourself and what you are bringing to the world.” I couldn’t agree more. These statements hold soo much truth and are powerful.
"Society" is too broad of a term and population for assigning blame. There are plenty of subsections of society that don't define success in a "shallow way." Blaming "society" for having wealth worship is not a profound realization. It's a cop out.
Let's face it, we men are initially very visual (initially) when it comes to attraction to women. But, to me, the most attractive qualities in a woman are who she really is and how she carries herself in life. I'm physically attracted to my wife, but also, I love how she cares about others, and is thoughtful. She's a great mother for our children.
I can't sympathize with someone that judges, condemns and blames people for buying and engaging in content she is selling. Accountability is extremely lacking here. She brought this on herself. No one forced her.
yes, but she is also regretting it, how many women on OF are going public about something like that? could you name a few? doesn't something like this actually reaffirms everything we criticize about what is wrong with women?
@@camilonattor Don't judge them by their words, judge them by their actions. If she says she regrets it but continues doing it, she doesn't regret it.
Nope. OF women are ruining men for themselves. When she is willing to do what is basically SW, of course men are going to treat you like a lady of the night. Why would she expect to be treated like a princess? It's not horny men's fault that they are horny and she sells pics of her body. It's the logical outcome.
So a woman that does sexually explicit things for men to make money is shocked that men send sexually explicit, unfiltered messages. For fcks sake, the lack of accountability is staggering.
It’s a bit like if I’m an NFL player but I’m shocked and appalled that anyone would watch such a violent sport and ask me for comments on NFL games. And I’m stunned that my knees are terrible and I’ve lacerated my spleen and broken my collarbone. Why can’t they just write me checks and buy my jersey
Where is your praised accountability when it comes to those man with wifes and kids that slander and send most disgusting messages to OF workers? Why don't they show it to their bosses, customers, their parents or kids? Why are you not condemning them? Where is the accountability suddenly?
@@HysteriaXHF it shouldn't be about making more money??..it should be making enough to live comfortably and having time for work-life balance...also enrichment of positive people (family and friends) around her so she can grow into a all rounded human being...but that's all she's doing is causing mental health issues for herself and other people in her life...
She's only complaining because she wants sympathy and the attention that brings. So that someone will make her feel better about her choices, so that she can continue to repeat them and profit from them.
morals ? did she kill someone ? its just a body, getting naked. go to some tribes and being naked and showing boobs is normal and no woman can make money from being naked. Its just that in our world they made being naked bad
@@laturista1000Do you think it's because of parental issues in the household? Most households contain single moms raising their children and lack father figures.
17:38 Great observation about the bad ways we define success in America. You never hear things like "that person is at peace and no longer lives paycheck to paycheck" defined as success.
She exploits lonely men and then trashes them and calls them disgusting. And then the "I'm not a quitter thing was bonkers". Imagine being hooked on drugs or something and then saying "I'm not a quitter" lol. She was all over the place. That's fine if you are just working out your thoughts, but you need to do some self reflection to collect your thoughts after. I doubt she did that.
"I always see things to the very end..." clearly she hasn't asked herself "to what end?" If she doesn't stop now the end is gonna look a whole lot worse than it would if she quit now.
clearly pointed out the mistake she has been repeating over again again this thig has no end she will go back for money and men will keep watching her. this shit is so toxic
120ish years ago, my great-great grandfather talked to my great grandfather about the girls who worked in saloons in mining towns. How depressed they were in private; how the life they were leading was a dead end; how they were likely to randomly end their own lives. Same still holds true today. Just online instead of a saloon.
Yeah, so many people want to claim the world is getting worse and the good old days are gone, but nothing's changed at its core. The world is as beautiful and horrible as its always been.
Thank you for telling the story of your gg-grandfather and great grandfather. It’s insightful. I am a firm believer that the majority of people working in the sex related “jobs” do not want to be there. The fact that our culture has worked so hard to sanitize/legitimize it, in my opinion, is actually more harmful than helpful for the people that are caught up in that vicious cycle of degradation.
“Expressing myself through my art” “I’m not a quitter I want to see it to the end”, absolutely ridiculous response, what she means to say is that I’m making good money with the little work and resources I’m putting in. No man that I know sees this as art they see her as an object or an chance to feel something. It’s all about money on her end and men getting off and finding connection to a fake relationship. BOTH PARTIES ARE WRONG
Some women need to wake up and stop referring to anything sexually suggestive as "art". Art implies there's talent. It doesn't take talent to take your clothes off. "Empowering" is another stupid way of describing it. If you're hooked on money and attention, that isn't empowering. It's sad.
She's deluded... It's the modern day version of the old fashioned nasty PEEP SHOW that used to litter Time Square Manhattan before Time Square Church & Rudy G cleaned it up
@@Kreymoreshe literally says “there’s no amount of money you can give me that would make me give myself away”… but also that she isn’t quitting, so idk wtf she’s talking about at all, there is an amount of money, you have been purchased, that’s your value, the delusion is strong in this one
This is my first time watching you, Courtney, and I love your compassion and wisdom. The subject of this video is actually pretty heartbreaking, but a subject that needs to be addressed. One thing that struck me was when the woman who has an Only Fans account stated: "I never want to please a man in any way, shape or form". The sad part is that pleasing another person (not just physically, but also emotionally and relationally) is a part of our identity, and something that we were created to do - with one person, in the context of a committed relationship. It's really encouraging to me to see this message being put out there in a public forum.
It's hard for me to sympathize with the person being featured. She exploits men's biological realities for money and self gain and still finds a way to shame men about it. Ugh.
Also, it's very bad business sense to sell people a product and then shame them for wanting to buy the product. Make up your mind! Do you want people to buy your product or not? Anyone with an ounce of sense knows you don't treat your loyal customers that way...they're the reason why you still have a job.
I mean, there's definitely still stuff to shame there. Did you hear the part where men with wives, girlfriends, and children were subscribing to her content and making explicit demands of her? I think that's always still worth shaming. We shouldn't make excuses for those kinds of guys.
@@TheCommunistColin maybe we just need to bring shame back in general. shame husbands for not being faithful, and shame OF models for making it so easy for husbands not to be faithful. used to be he had to pay a pretty penny for an escort and meet at some motel 6 or whatever; now it's a simple $5 from the comfort of his home or wherever he has internet access.
Can’t believe that this isn’t obvious to everyone.. if a girl did porn in the 90s, she’d be shunned by everybody! Now they’re amazed that people have issues with onlyfans which is just porn
The may think, well feel, it's more private, but it's the internett. That's the whole point to start with. Harsh outcome, but they played this game willingly.
I don't think there's anything wrong with doing porn, but its not a job for everyone but everyone thinks they can do onlyfans and be okay. I saw an interview with a porn actress that said unless you're already a very sexually active person above the norm before starting sex work and enjoy it for what it is you really wont enjoy doing it as your job.
@@Mastermind111111 Oh I don't care. More private? No, it's more public than ever. I do not care to investigate what type of porn a woman did, it's porn. I'm not interested in context.
If anyone voluntarily lowers themselves to the gutter, for any reason, they can’t complain about what flows their way and they get covered in. Your video’s should be offered up to social academics! Great video!
Isn't that a Monster Magnet song? "Bummer," I think, Something to the effect of "Some people go to bed with Lucifer,/ Then they cry, cry, cry, when they don't greet the day with God."
She's exploiting the worst part of humanity and complains about results of attracting the worst part of humanity. Yet she's no quitter! Sounds pretty insane actually. Probably the type of insanity it would take to begin such line of work.
OF aint the gutter, If a woman wants to take advantage of her looks to make money, fine. Who cares? I personally think sex work should be 100% legal. The issue is the internet is forever, and thats that. Realize that and then do what you want with open eyes.
@@rjframe4410 Well in part it comes down to someone’s intention. As they say the devil is in the details, and if the intent is to take advantage of or manipulate a person, just for unnecessary personal gain, then that is lowering one’s self to the gutter. If however it is done out of necessity or desperation then that is an entirely different matter. If a woman has absolutely no other means of support, then go right ahead. I’ll be the first to legalize the world oldest business transaction. In no way do I look down upon that. But if it’s done like, this is no big deal, and it’s manipulative, or takes advantage because of weakness or for fun then that’s inappropriate and immoral. The other part is that society has these little things like morals, norms, etc., AND they are extremely judgmental, rightly or wrongly. This is the way the world works, right?
@@molassescricket6663 MY point is that you dont have to be desperate to make money this way, you could legitimately enjoy it, thats fine. Fun isnt immoral, the ethical issue comes in when you couch it in manipulation and then shame folks for participating. Basically if you ARE going to do this kinda work, dont crap on people for engaging as customers for the service your providing.
I'm a female and I just never understood what part of "I'm a fine piece of meat, come purchase bits of me, shower your animality onto me" sits comfortable in a person's psyche. I mean I understand when people have to resort to sex work when financially desperate, but when one of my female friends opened up their OF not for desperate reasons, in my mind was like, dude.. that shit's donna backfire at you mentally. The money's not worth it. I just told her be careful, and let her do what she wanted..
People always act like it’s lucrative thing and that’s contributing to the problem. Even you sort of implied that when you told her the money is not worth it. The average OF girl makes like a hundred dollars a month, not even. 95% won’t be able to make any living off OF, if not more, and few will be able to make it much of a side hustle. They’ll likely be worse off than when they started and will have a lot more difficulty in other aspects of life because of it, namely in dating and relationships.
I think at least part of it is because they (women who start an OF for extra spending money) think, consciously or subconciously, they can distance themselves from the fact that they are selling sex. On camera or in person, you are still selling yourself as a product and other people will treat you the way you treat yourself. I think another part is that current society lies about sex work not being a shameful occupation.
Who in the western world has to resort to sex work? Give me a break, there are jobs out there, nobody needs to do it. I get on chatting apps and every other girl is trying to sell something, it's getting insane.
@joschmo4497 Facts! They WANTED to do it just like choosing to be a thot. I'm glad someone like you has that mindset. Millions of Jobs going around that they could do but decide to go for being a online prostitute. I agree. Also, OF can be around forever. Her bosses or managers could come across her past. Same for a future spouse. She made herself a piece of meat and sees the reality of being treated as such. Nothing Empowering and artistic about being a online prostitute. Not to mention many OF girls sleeps with clients in real life. I agree that no one should resort to onlyfans and I wish it was banned or never existed.
"You are what you attract" is a very good point and is valid in all parts of life. It's surprising that you got death threats from women angry about your opinion of OF. I think you're very wise Courtney and, as a woman, I agree with most of your videos that I have seen. I think you speak for many women because you give a balanced view.
There's such a weird dynamic here. She feels bad about the way men interact with her on the service and calls them creepy without seeming to realize that what she's doing is just as creepy if not more so.
Money's probably too good. Principles are easy to discuss but it's a lot harder to walk them when you take an honest look at how hard it's going to hit you in the pocketbook. Why do an entry level job like waitress when it's quick, easy money to take your clothes off? Of course you don't realize all the other drawbacks like stalkers and losing faith in people until later.
It makes her too much money. She gets to sell images of herself online and make a nice middle to upperclass income without putting in any real work. In reality, if it lasts her for about 10 years, she could retire and live comfortably for the rest of her life.
I just want to say, thank you for “speaking the truth in love”. You are honest, but gracious. It is really refreshing, and very needful. I’ve found it so distasteful when I’ve heard various people speaking truth with contempt and disdain. You have a kind spirit. Please keep doing what you’re doing! ❤
Maybe part of the problem is they never hear harsh truths, contempt and disdain. That's why so many women go around thinking everyone who criticizes them is a "hater". Some people need to hear harsh, unfiltered truths. Some people need a gentler approach.
I left a job because it didn't align with my values, had rude coworkers, and I felt hollow when working there. I found a different job with kind, empathetic people for a 20% cut in pay and I'd do it again. Growing and surrounding yourself with good people is so important. I hope this girl finds whatever she is looking for.
Well said. Good for you for making a hard but necessary choice. At the end of the day, going against our values and or just the decency of human nature always comes at a price that money cannot erase.
@@mmm-mmmA 304 is girl who behave and essentially live like a prostitute, or act promiscuously with men, like women who like being cat-called for sex. (Note. I just learned this a few weeks ago myself. lol) Jesus Bless! :)
Great video, Courtney! I closed my OF account (on the customer side) a month ago and I feel so much BETTER about myself. It's scary how addicting things like that can be especially when you're in an isolated part in your life.
Addiction to this content comes from hopelessness often. Got to invest back into yourself. Health and fitness, hobbies, career. You will attract a good partner. Perhaps in the states or elsewhere
Porn acts on the parts of the brain that many recreational drugs. Good to put it behind you and concentrate on meaningful real life respectful connections with women
Good job king, do NOT let temptation control your life and swerve you off the path of self-development and growth. Be better. Be stronger. Be the man that your grandfathers would be proud. You took a crucial step forward, now never return to that sad part of your life. Good job brother.
I pray for hungry children, people intentionally starved to death, and people who die for a valiant cause. I have no prayers or tears for people looking for being animals for easy money and calling it "art".
Twenty years ago, I briefly dated a women who'd posed for an adult magazine; she'd moved to LA from music school, had no money, and got approached by someone to pose. She felt gross afterwards. Nowadays, you don't need to be approached. It's easy to start making adult content, but there's a lack of awareness about the potential consequences.
It's not lack of consequence. They firmly believe they are that special and exceptional, that it won't happen to them. That they'll be different. No matter how much you warn them. Hence why we'll state facts of the rule, they'll always throw in a exception because they internalize everything and they're speaking about them being the exception.
Yup once your body is posted, it's forever. The OF lie requires that you have thousands of followers putting out cash. Most might be lucky to get a few hundred dollars
Society use to tell women that was harmful to them. Feminism taught them to sell their bodies but negotiate the price, progressivism demands a no shame culture. We've allowed a very nihilistic culture to take hold.
Here's the messed up part, there are so many millions of girls on that website, that only the top 7% make $1000 a month. Yet every time I see one bragging about their placement, I imagine a guy bragging about being a baller for working part time at 7/11. Point is, remember back in ths day, when girls needed drugs, or crap tons of money to cross that line? Now, they're bascially doing porn for free. Think about this, imagine if millions of girls flocked to the strip clubs and dod all of the things, danced on stage, gave lapdances, etc... but at the end of the night, they were handed a $20 bill for all of their trouble. Now... imagine if those same women showed up, night after night for that $20. This OF thing clearly isnt about the money... that's how far off the rails we as a society have gone.
problem is though she wont quit , because she has not actually learned anything as evident by this video , she will keep making the same kind of mistakes while abdicating all responsibility for them....
Mainly because its double bind. When girl is virgin, good men are mad, because no "test drive". When good men get that test drive, they leave to find another virgin, if unlucky Non virgin end up unmarried(because the same good guys are not into girls with too much test drive trials behind), and left to buy themselves life with their already ruined body. Men are never accountable, for some reason, for pressure zeros to get to high body counts. Good men never marry their first girls for life.
Yep. She's seeing the horny, desperate, sleazy side of men because she's sharing the horny, desperate, sleazy side of herself. The men are a reflection, a mirror. She shouldn't lose hope or attraction to men. She should learn to value herself differently, create a different energy and attract a different energy from men.
People treat others in the way they present themselves. Her view of men is soured because she surrounded herself with sexual deviants that saw her as sexual object and not a person and now she’s seems to think most men are like that. That’s not the case. That’s just the bubble she encapsulated herself in.
Very true. That's a big issue I saw with most women. I no longer believe this "He was the bad guy, I'm the victim" stuff. Of course the guy is usually a bad guy, but those women CHOOSE the bad guys. They won't even see the nice guys or feel utterly bored by them. If I only met Lorena Bobbett kind of women, I'd also think they're all harpyies.
She's justifying, which leads to making herself right by continuing it. She's a self trapped being, a victim, which is a very low tone of beingness. This is not good. The service facsimiles kick in, and it's "them who's wrong," but she also knows she's wrong. This is obvious as you see her drop-down emotion tone to grief. A sociopath is someone who makes others wrong for the condition they themselves created. She's ethically doomed until she takes full responsibility. Don't call someone a role model when she's just a confused being. Being sympathetic to her doesn't break her overt motivator sequence. It gives her further justifiers to further enslave herself. Thus, her "quitter" type comment. That's a justifier. So she creates the overt again, motivates and justifies. The Dwindling Spiral. Basic ethics people.
You noticed that, huh. Not only was/is “it” (assuming that thing is a female) extraordinarily ugly, but everything that spewed from its head hole was mind numbing, vacuous, pettily narcissistic flatulence. Its inability to understand context and its lack of self awareness was/is maddening. I mean, the sheer privilege it’s been afforded by America! In its shithole of origin, it would be beating clothes against the shore of some muddy river. I would wager it’s been given a free college education to boot.
No kidding after 2 minutes of the speech i had to scroll to the comments to see what the actual fuck she was talking about doing. ah, Only fans, of course.
“True success is being at peace with yourself and what you bring into the world” couldn’t have said it any better. I’m just trying to be a good man, getting better everyday, and letting the world rage around me. Treat people right, that includes yourself.
You really are like a bigger sister to all of us men Courtney, you're so wise and classy and non judgmental, you really are a positive influence to us all, you are definitely making a difference, please don't ever stop, you're a huge help and such a bright light in this world.
As a 20-something woman from NYC who watches your content regularly I just want to say that you are so well-spoken and beautifully convey these difficult topics with such grace. Love to support xxx
Must not have watched the whole video. She's extremely jaded now and is a man hating feminist. She uses the guys she comes across as a wallet and nothing else.
Should she actually stumble onto a taker, she”ll keep the OF a secret until one of his buddies shows him….then it’s bye bye and she won’t understand why….silly women
There's a great song by Morcheeba called [I] "Gained the world" [but lost my soul] that touches this issue in a great way. Lyrics: [Verse 1] I heard I lost it on the grapevine I must admit I had a great time There are words for people like me But I don't think there's very many [Chorus] I've gained the world and lost my soul Maybe it's 'cause I'm getting old All the people that I know Have gained the world and lost their soul [Verse 1] There's no persuasion that I'm into I've made some sense of what we've been through We should form a new foundation If we could find the right location [Bridge] Is it prey, on display I'm feeling weak
As many have stated, it's hard for me to have empathy for someone who lacks any accountability and who acts as if men forced her to do OF. She went in thinking she could get over on these dudes, but she only played herself in the end.
None of what you state is true. It's like you never watched the whole video. She didn't act like men forced her to do it. And what does "thinking she could get over on these dudes" even mean? No-one is forcing men to pay for OF lol
@@oblitafier She has exploited herself for quick cash (getting over on men), nothing more. She created the OF account, she posted select photos for said money. She is having buyer's remorse now(choosing to have OF) and has to live with the choices she made. Part of life as an adult.
Hi Courtney, I just want to say thank you for everything you do and the work you do for us men. I'll admit, I was one of those men in your comment section that use to just spread the hate because I was hurt. I was in the "manosphere black pill" for a while until I stumbled upon your content. The videos you have made slowly restored hope within me. You convinced me that a lot of the things I felt about myself were mostly all in my head and that I can improve to be better. My journey towards healing actually started with your channel. I say this because I understand where you are coming from with your burnout perspective. You are like a bigger sister to many of us and I hope that this lets you know that you are making a positive change in many of us. Thank you for everything you do and bless you!!!
It's ironic that she calls her male fans "disgusting" but what she is doing is disgusting! What type of men was she expecting to attract while doing Only Fans??? I'm so tired of women complaining that there are no good men out there to date! There are tons of good men out there but these women always gravitate toward the "bad boys" and when they get hurt by those men, they always say that there are no good men! Yes, there are good men out there but you choose not to date them!
Most good women aren't complaining that there aren't any good men. The good women are with good men already. Somehow, the type of woman shown in this video are the ones some men choose to listen to and conclude that "all women are complaining". IG and OF model types are not the majority of women. They are the fake ones and usually the loudest. The good women usually aren't like this the same way the good men aren't usually the alpha gym bro caricature.
She changed her narrative multiple times with no recognition that she had done it. “I’m not going to stop, but I don’t like doing it.” No accountability.
Reminds me of what that elderly woman said in that BBC interview: “Feminism is good for any woman under the age of 30”. Fun and games until you need to move forward, more or less
Women want the power of men, the privileges of women, the accountability of children, the responsibility of infants, and the superiority of God. And when they can't get any of this on their own what are they do? They blame men. I wonder if this woman is going to blame men for the faults of women doing whatever they want however they want just because they FEEL like it
Courtney, you are too kind. This woman is truly disgusting, and her speech tells me that she never learned anything because she is still not taking full responsibility. How could she actually be so dumb as to not know from the beginning that she’s putting herself in an unfavourable position in exchange for money, and then blame it on men? She also thinks that the men on only fans represent the entire male population. Even when I’m single, I would never visit that website, and every man I know and surround myself with is the same. How could someone ever think that whoring out their bodies is an act of empowerment? Narcissism. That’s why. If it makes you feel good to have all that attention while exploiting men for their money, you are a narcissist. If posting on OF didn’t make her undatable by the male population, this video sure sealed the deal.
Haha sure she is kind. She is minting money from men by bitc*ing about low quality women to give sympathy to men so that men feel there is someone "who understands". There are many women like these out there "teaching" men what they should do right so that one random woman can enter your house and own it for life and enslave you. If you are among the "not everyone is the same" category of men, that's exactly how you fall in the bottomliess pit. Trust me buddy, make money, have fun, enjoy your life and have hobbies. Once in a while when your mind plays games about finding a woman, that's when you come to these sites and celebrate yourself.
This is a much needed video. I’ve been married 34 years to the same awesome lady. Over the last few decades, I have watched the moral degeneration of both men and women. No single gender is at fault but there sure is a lot of finger pointing! There are consequences to actions - guaranteed. There is only one set of rules that will never fail and man is not the source of those rules.
I think it started with women being the focus of manipulation by the world elite. The women control the men. So the men adjusted their behavior. To get with the women.
I do agree that at this current point - no one single gender is to blame ANYMORE - however who started it? See because I have a feeling if somebody was able to look back and see where it started, they would see that it generally started on the female side talking crap about men. HEAR ME OUT NOW HEAR ME OUT. Men back in the day used to treat women like crap, however they are dead and they are gone. Society was built off of the world that they made. We today are not to blame for their actions. There are a lot of things that men can do that women cannot or at minimum regularly choose not to do, just as there's things that women can do that men either cannot or choose not to do etc. For example men are stronger, in order for this debate to work you need to compare the strongest Vs the strongest etc. Example you can't compare a female bodybuilder to an average man, you have to compare the best of both genders of the sport etc. Just like men don't generally like applying makeup for a job, or selling stereotypical female products door to door to old women etc. That is all because of the way society has been constructed. It rubbed certain women the wrong way, they hated it and they felt as if they were being done wrong by men because men built the society back in the day. It then gathered and gained momentum, to the point to where we men nowadays who are innocent - and are not to blame for what men who are dead and rotting in the ground did - ARE BEING HATED ON for the way that society has been for ages! As if it can change overnight?!! Because as we all know if we have common sense - there are fools and scumbags on both sides etc. There are crazy women who play mind games and beat their man and cheat and lie. There are also abusive, creepy, and controlling men who torture their women just like women torture man sometimes. But the real issue with the TOXIC SIDE OF THE FEMINIST MOVEMENT is that we are all being blamed for the past doings of long dead men. The internet is being weaponized by both sides YES, however the momentum gaining on the side of the women hating on men (which is sexist by definition) is what created the (yes it's pathetic) "incel movement" etc. All because women had to hate on the way society was constructed. As if all those famous rich and successful men did not bust their ass to get where they are. I'm taking neither side they're both idiots. But I have a feeling that the toxic feminist movement started it all. (note there is a big difference between toxic feminists and feminists in general)
She had three options. 1. Marry a good guy, he might not be a Chad though. 2. Get a normal job, support yourself. 3. Be a whore, there's no turning back from this. She chose three and is now crying about it.
She'll never find a guy she wants though. She'll have to settle for some sleazeball if she wants anyone. Cause no self respecting man is going to wife a whore
Crying about it? ... Or reflecting on the new things she learned from her experience? Not everyone knows the future, or what they'll discover about the new things they get into. The same thing happens with people's jobs or careers, sometimes it takes years doing it for them to realize how much they dislike it.
All a woman has to do is have a conversation with a stripper for an hour to understand the mess they are getting themselves into. Strippers have the most authentic experience of that lifestyle.
she think it's just a bunch of disgusting horny dudes. THe reality is that people are not paying these OF for fun, many will have issues with their previous relationships and are using this and other s*x workers as an outlet / distraction from their life.
@@keithmoriyama5421 Usually the easier and faster you get money the bigger the consequences. Like a guy who becomes a drug dealer, he can make a ton of money very quickly but more then likely he's going to end up in prison or dead.
@@keithmoriyama5421 🤔In what situation? When speaking of sex work in general, whether it's OF, stripper, Pronstar, escort ect it's pretty well established that your trading earning a sizable amount of money in a relatively short period of time in exchange for the loss of future employment prospects as well as the ability to be employed in a variety of industries such as teaching or childcare as well as personal and professional reputation loss.
Can apply this logic to almost any job or career path. Like becoming a doctor and thinking you’re not going to deal with difficult patients that won’t always take your advice etc…
This is sad, wishing her and anyone going through any mental health problems a steadfast recovery 🙏 But if she doesn’t learn from her mistakes it’s gonna end up really bad
The saddest part is this heart-felt message won't affect those who are hearing it. OF "models" will keep doing it until the money runs out and the horny men will just move on to the newest model.
She jumped in because she wanted to make money by leading a bunch of "horny guys" on. She could be totally honest here or did she meet a really nice guy that she'd like to have a real relationship with so now she's crying about being morally conflicted. I'm sure this happens with some women. I'm sure there's many women that quit after the 1st day, but she kept it up for a long time. I have a hard time taking this for face value. Regardless of that, here's definitely a message. It can it leave unexpected deep scars, people really need to think about the downside of O.F. not just making quick cash.
I've met a lot of women in my life. Their past experiences with men very much shape how they are, for better or worse. To deliberate seek out the worst men for the worst experiences is self-sabotaging in the extreme.
@@avasdv Yes it does, though it seems to me that it shapes more how men interact with women while for women it shapes more how they see themselves. On average, of course. YMMV.
@@avasdv I've spoken to hundreds of women, and I truly mean hundreds. The more in depth I got to know them, the less I want to do with them. When I was younger, I used to be romantic, now I don't want much to do with women past getting off. The more I learn how women perceive relationships and just small insignificant daily interactions, the more disgusted I become. I used to think women were the romantic gender, oh boy how wrong was I.
But maybe it's a good thing that she's seen how men truly can be. So many women are too trusting and then find out the man they love is paying these OF models. She even admitted some of them have kids.
Her: its damaging my mental health Also her: I'm not going to quit because i like to see everything to the very end. I wont quit unless im physically stopped. Willingly damaging your mental health. Until the "very end." Please realize what you are saying girl
What pisses me off is that she says that men are disgusting but she has no idea what it’s like to be a man. None of these women know what it’s like to be a man. I don’t think women understand what it’s like for men, and what attracts us visually and sexually. Women will never understand what it’s like for a man and controlling your sexual urges. Some men can do it, and some men have a trouble.
Sounds like she was calling men using OF disgusting and while from a man's perspective they may not be disgusting, they are simps however. C'mon man, paying to see naked ladies in current year?
Don't ever expect a woman to care about your struggles. If you are trying to get rid of a woman, tell her that you lost your job, or have no money, or are depressed, or have cancer... she will dump you and start looking for another chump.
@@EvilFandango Just because some of us men haven’t payed to look at girls on the internet doesn’t mean she can just look down on all men like that. The complete disrespect and disregard for men is disgusting and dangerous. We all know what is like as man and some of us are better than others but it’s no excuse. We need to be trying to uplift each other as men.
She's complaining about the men but she is doing it lol. The point should be, she want to do it, maybe for the wrong but she's doing it. And men want to do want they are doing. No sex shame.
True, the women who say shit like that are the same ones who will say "no uterus, no opinion" when men talk about women issues. But you missed her point. The kind of men who throw money at them can say some nasty stuff they wouldn't in polite company. I bet they take out their IRL frustrations on those girls. Because the veil of anonimity and such. Moreover, the kind of men who subscribe to them aren't the most moral of the bunch. And yes, if you subscribe to them for other reason than to distribute their pics for free to undermine this disgusting market, you're disgusting.
I don't feel bad for her at all. She made her decision, and has to live with the consequences like a grown up. The site she sold herself on didn't force her to do it. Now, she doesn't want to take any responsibility by falsely claiming it was art, so she can an alternative narrative. Cause the men she desires don't want her after discovering she has been on that site.
"Growing and evolving is not quitting. Evolving to the next stage of your life, growing into an individual and discovering who you are. This can include leaving things and people behind and that's okay, it doesn't make you a quitter. It means you're growing and moving on." Very Inspirational and thank you I needed to hear this today.
CHOICES HAVE CONSEQUENCES..... .......the moment that one realizes that their true WORTH is priceless... ......and you literally walk along that path with Genuine Virtue and Enlightenment..... ..... your Clarity of discernment reveals to you a Divine Internal PEACE -|-
Because they already know the answer, it's no of course not I don't want a pervert. Like so why would they think the inverse would be any different? The double standards & lack of accountability are just mind numbing sometimes.
Genuine question, but don't most men use some kind of porn? A lot of men are paying for it. Aside from of maybe being more interactive, what is the difference?
@@fitthickchic6732 No we aren't paying for it. When we want to rub one out we fire up Pornhub or XVideos or any number of tube sites for free. When we're done we don't even think about the girls or anything afterwards. Besides just because we find someone attractive or watch their movies doesn't mean we want to date or marry them. Do you envision dating/marrying everyone you find attractive? Of course not. Are you also going to tell me you'd be ok dating a guy that's banged countless women on film & probably even more off? No you wouldn't & studies prove it. Women don't want dudes with high body counts anymore than men do. Studies also show that promiscuity effects men & women the same way: Diminished ability to pair bond, increase risk of cheating, lack of impulse control, etc. These women & their customers are both simps it's just guys are simping for the girls & these girls are simping for the money. Thus neither should be taken seriously for the exact same reason, they're all exploiting each other as well as themselves.
OF is also a learning platform, but its about sex education. you can find there courses about erotic massage, BJ technics, how to get down on girl, anal sex technics, etc. So actually it depends on reason why people are going there and which type of content they consume or produce there. It could be used for improving relations in real world.
@@fitthickchic6732Yes there is no difference. And 90% of women are already with men who look, pay and subscribe to porn or OF Of course they will never willingly admit it 😂
Thanks Courtney, for talking about a subject that needs addressing about what can happen & your empathy for both parties & what positive change can do!!
In a way, I really understand her and how she's feeling. I felt so much of the same way while teaching, after I got burnt out. Like literally to the point where I don't want anything to do with teaching anyone else's kids ever again. I can empathize. Even the part about not being a quitter...I'm just so thankful I was able to quit for something better, because that mentality alone would've made it so hard to leave.
Same… as a therapist I feel the same way. You see the machine behind the passion and it really sucks the life out of it. What did you end up doing instead?
@grumpyschnauzer I got pregnant, resigned on maternity leave, took my retirement distribution early, and plan on homeschooling. I've been very lucky my husband was able to find a way to double his income, so we could afford that. I never wanted to feel so bitter about teaching and so disgusted by other people's kids, but...burnout just leaves you feeling so used and manipulated.
I had the same. Taught philosophy and literature for some tears. And then after so much inpoliteness, agression, rudeness, entitlement I just felt: this is not for me. I got out as well. Now lets heal.
@p382742937423y4 the healing part...I'm not even sure what that looks like beyond letting some time pass in my new life to get some distance from my old life. It's been 9 months since my last day of work...and I'm starting to feel less bitter than I felt while in it, but there's still this part of me that just wants to go off on all the reasons I quit.
Even after having gone through the OF experience and reaching an epiphany, she still doesn't "get it." She is a sex worker. It does not matter if she has changed her mind or decided to "stop." She is going to be a sex worker for the rest of her life with all that entails. The men she "meets" on OF are not the kind of men she would want in her life, but she has effectively limited herself to those men when it comes to potential partners. If she ever meets a decent man, and learns how to appreciate such a man, it will only underline what she has thrown away. Decent men, the kind of men who avoid OF, do not want to be associated with a sex worker. All men have to deal with their sexuality, just as all women have to deal with their emotions. Those men who strive to live a moral life, those men who respect and appreciate women as people instead of sex objects, those men who make model husbands and fathers, _those men_ are not on OF.
Most women should know that OF fans is a bad idea. They should need to live through it to learn from it. The best lessons you can learn are from other peoples mistakes.
most women are alergic to taking ownership of their own shyte decisions and tend to look for external reasons to hang the blame on. she made her bed. let her lay in it.
I just can't wrap my head around how someone can sell explicit photos/videos of them doing embarrassing things for money. These women are selling their souls for money. I feel really bad for these women. OF needs to stop.
This woman didn’t learn anything . I saw her in another video and she said that she’s going to continue doing OF . The worst part is her calling the men who support her lifestyle disgusting. She’s the disgusting one for not taking accountability, she’s disgusting for having no self awareness and she’s the disgusting one for being a vapid narcissist.
That's such a shame. I was just about to commend her for putting out the reality out there to deter young women making the same decision only to see that she's still doing it. Like, what?? Obviously she must be one of the few making good money considering the majority average of OF "models" make less than $200 a month.
I find it interesting how she tries to shame Men for having a sexual desire and paying her bills. She is just providing a service, nobody cares about her.
That would be the logical take right? We'd have to understand the root cause to stop this from becoming a pattern. When you're in deep all you can think about is how wrong this is. How wrong you are. Now there's something wrong with you too. You don't feel any different and you certainly don't think you can change because some of the thoughts likely going through her head are being damaged goods. Why bother changing if she doesn't believe she's better than this? That's how negative cycles loop you in.
At last someone had the guts to come out with the bitter truth time is the healer it will take some time but she will come out more stronger and thanks to you to bringing out such a good episode and hoping men too realise the respect they deserve
I’m glad you figured out the thing about posting your friends opinions on video. It was very effective at illustrating the point but left those people vulnerable and attracted negative energy
The way you refer to it as an "industry" like any other line of work or ecosystem of businesses, while still acknowledging that it is not healthy for the parties involved, is respectful and humanizing. It's easy to point fingers and belittle those involved, but you don't. Good video. Edit: After reading some other comments, it does seem backwards to be judgmental of her customers. It is like opening a restaurant and being surprised when your customers act hangry.
What this girl really means is, 'I'm not making as much money on OF as I thought I would, so I'm quitting, but I'll blame it on male toxicity so I don't have to admit defeat.'
yeah, the first months when she was fresh and trending were amazing, now that the revenue stream is tiny she feels like a cheap w.... - as we all know, she's NOW ready to settle down.
I agree with your point about " Quitting." Her use of that term for moving past this stuff kind of knocked me back. A person who quits drugs and alcohol is not considered " a quitter." lol. Not in the normal sense of the word. It's not a character flaw to quit things that are destroying you.
I think this will soon resolve itself. I think we are months away from OF girls being able to cover their faces with AI filters that render them unrecognizable. I just saw a lip syncing demo which was still rough, but the rate this is improving is incredible. After that, the OF girl will be replaced with text prompts and AI. People can make their own prompts and see custom movies and have the models say exactly what they want.
Such a sad state our modern dating sphere is in. Women disrespecting their own bodies for money online without understanding the consequences. Men indulging in their lesser urges, wasting money on redundant things and pressuring women into sex work. Educational systems that don't educate our youth properly on healthy relationships and sex. Political agendas that aggravate all of the above issues. Is a crazy world out there.
It's not the educational system to blame for teaching unhealthy and unrealistic relationships. Religious organizations deserve the bigger blame for their fantasy 'right' relationship that people cannot achieve then allow men to blame the woman for his failures. Also, the unrealistic relationship show on all TV and movies regardless of what side they come from.
The truth is that for one woman that regret, there are dozens who are happy with it riding on their Porsche, traveling and outsourcing their DMs to some dude in Asia and not dealing with all that tough messages! So it's easy money and everybody is happy in general.
Someone at work told me that she's not your girlfriend because you are just renting her. She's not yours. It's just your turn. She belongs to the streets. In a way it's kind of true. The name girlfriend means temporary. She can leave you at any time just like a contract job. The employer can end your contract at any time.
The same applies to wives. It's only your turn until they get bored or decide to monkey branch. They get paid to divorce their husbands. Marriage is only a commitment for men.
She sells herself online and ends up not feeling great about how it makes her feel. What a shocker.
True lol
exactly. she dehumanized herself and now feels the effects of it.
But at the same time she won't ever stop until someone physically stops her sounds like a death sentence
Exactly!!
You’d think it’s common sense and something that would be before you start…. It apparently people are dumb as dogshit and it takes reality to hit them in the head before they realise what is completely obvious to others.
"Its fun, its art, you make money" social media is the end of humanity, no doubt.
Facts
Art haha … womens power is in self delusion. It’s truly amazing. She justifies corn to herself by telling herself it’s not corn, it’s art
I am a photographer at heart, I love George Hurrells photos in general, his pictures of old school Hollywood stars is pure art! Women shoving items up their holes for all to see is art these days?!!! kind of twisted!
Proved by mods harassing those being honest with them about it and treating those as hating harassers and banning them for "reason" labelled as something against ToS. The world will continue to function only if justice is brought back to the justice system and every platform adopts due process. Unbalanced messaging, esp enforced to be, is dangerous for all.
It truly is ... and none of these young girls realize it is forever! Hope the money buys them something nice, it won't be a future.
It really goes both ways. I'm losing my attraction to women. Everywhere online I'm bombarded with content designed to lure in my attention featuring very pretty women, and it all feels like a waitress trying to flirt with me in hopes of getting a big tip. With so many people being content-minded, all this overflows into real life, making interactions feel like targeted ads and manipulation
Couldn’t have said it better
On top of that, they lose interest when you DO show attraction 🙄😔
BOOM. Even here this prostitute in denial is disgusted with men because she doesnt get to have her cake and eat it too by taking all their money and also being treated like a queen.
@@QuartuvLarry lmao that's a lose lose situation. The only way that works is to push pull, if you don't know how to do that they will always loose attraction. If I really care I'd at least do that If I don't care that much and she's only the type I'd smash I won't do as much push pulling I'll just try to see if I can get them cheeks. If she's playing hard to get or go cold on me oh well, she wasn't worth my dedication she was already passed her prime there's no way I would have got off the market for her.
@@QuartuvLarry Exactly. Basically, dating only seems to work for sociopaths. If you can't stand the woman you're dating and thus don't mind to treat her rather horrible and with disrespect and not caring about her, THEN she chases you.
But as soon as you treat her kind, she thinks "hm, this guy is boring, why does he give me everything i want? I NEED drama!" and she leaves.
It's basically like a warped version of kindergarten. Obviously, there's no point in doing this to someone. If you love them, why would you? And if you don't, why would you? For "fun"? How can it be fun with someone you can't stand?
Who would have thought that mental health would be tied to self respect?🙄
A lot of girls are sold the lie that promiscuity and hyper-sexualizing themselves is empowering. Just look at pretty much any music video or women's magazine. Ffs even the superhero chicks need to be sexy and hot! The dudes just fly or skip about in glorified Spanx and shove a balled up sock or sausage down there to appear more endowed. And for a time, SW can *seem* empowering. "I'm making money doing stuff I used to do for free for guys who aren't even here anymore!" Or whatever. But the reality eventually creeps in once someone starts dirty talking in a really degrading way. Just because someone is getting paid doesn't mean they want to be spoken to like that by strangers or even their chosen partner. Disrespect is disrespect regardless of monetary transactions or line of work. Even strip clubs have their rules and bouncers to protect the performers; just because you paid for a lap dance doesn't give you the right to grope or say nasty things. They're still human beings with thoughts and feelings regardless if their clothes are on or off. You can request they remove garments; you do not need to call names. (Guaranteed; the ones that turned her off were saying things like "you dirty sl*t" and worse in a horny way. I'm not sure anyone enjoys being called that by randos, even if they are paying.) If someone wants to be called things in a feisty way, they'll let you know.
Nearly sounds like fantasy and hate for progress & women empowerment🙄.. the old tale says, "If the children won't listen, let them experience"
"I'm really proud of doing it, but the people who buy it are disgusting."
_No, that's not how this works._
Its like she thinks this is a dating app. She only wants single, attractive men to peruse her content lol.
She's disgusting also, like her clientele. A hoe attracts Johns. Simple.
We used to call them "prick teasers" (polite version) Now we can label them as "only fools models"...same old ending... enjoy your cats.
Oh my God yes what is wrong with these toxic feminist types? Keyword toxic. Big difference from regular feminist etc.
I've never seen one of them that makes any sense.
Them: "so I chose to hit myself in the face with a hammer. now I hate hammers because they hurt"
@syttorak7629 there's no "regular feminist." Everyone under 70 is inculcated into the Mis-education of Feminism.
It's not about hating, it's about accepting accountability for your role in choosing this lifestyle.
My sentiments exactly
She said something about other "real" sw. OF is real SW, don't fool yourself. Pimping yourself for $5/a month (or whatever) is still getting pimped. Pimped to people who like their 5*x werkers at $5/month.
You will get so many sic effers. It's not fine art, it's cheap purient consumer art. Don't be at the whim of cheap consumers, or don't be a sold product at all. Life feels so much better that way.
@@littlejimmy7402OF is better than sleeping around. A virgin who has OF is incomparably better as option for stable relationship than woman without OF but even 1 previous sexual partner
@@jimmcneal5292 If you want to marry a corn star you can.
@@littlejimmy7402 I definitely wouldn't marry non-virgin. Probably wouldn't marry a girl with onlyfans too, but out of two aforementioned options the girl with OF is much better candidate to be a concubine, all other things equal
Much like she's fed up with running into vulgar and disrespectful guys, its just as exhausting being a single guy on dating apps and constantly coming across women that only seem to be interested in your wallet when you're genuinely trying to meet someone.
Intentionally selling pics to men that are willing to pay you is no different than hooking. Of course she is attracting the worst men in the world. But, to be disgusted with men while selling them sex is a contradiction. Just think about how her potential daughters will see her.
No offence, but if you can’t provide for your wife and kids, I don’t know why you’re even dating. If you aren’t broke you have nothing to worry about. Unless, of course, you want women to do house work for free and still go to work and take care of the kids…
Or women that do Onlyfans.
What is onlyfans?????
@@Rosetta-gp9mkand here comes the shame. If a guy is actively dating, that means he probably has some form of resources. The issue is these women think it isn't good enough for their average looking ass. When I get to my financial peak, I won't be settling for no average looking chick who thinks she deserves somebody that's resourceful and is basing it off of how she treated some pookie in her past. FOH.
“If you stare into the abyss, the abyss stares back at you” We all make our choices. When you dance with the Devil, you've got to be ready to suffer the consequences.
Eventually, the piper is going to want to get paid.
Satan wants his pound of flesh, and he's going to get it
Some people don't know they're dancing with the devil... totally different subject matter I got into business with the wrong company owner thinking they were a good person and I got burnt and I've never met a more disgusting evil manipulative self absorbed individual in my life but it happened and I was attacked for months and months almost a year now and shit still goes on even so that I've taken legal action. Some of us are so caring and kind we give other the benefit of the doubt. But where there is money there is greed where there is greed there is the devil. The entire world is captized off of greed I hate to break it to you but it's everywhere and people are forced into it... people do it because they have too not because they want too... because we made it a necessity to live.
@@Tenebrisvis Even the ones who know like to downplay it and deny that it's harming them
@@Tenebrisvis I'm sorry that happened to you but it emphasizes the importance of using your brain. Do your due diligence. Find out what you are getting into. Learn the consequences. You can't blame someone for taking advantage of you because you are st*pid.
50 years ago in college I took a class in Deviant Psychology.
One thing we discussed was the known psychic damage that occurred to sex workers.
Her comments and laments backs up what we discussed 50 years ago.
As a cop it was sad to watch "Sex Workers!" go from naive & lively to dead inside. Even without drugs and alcohol (usual) it didn't take long. Great informants but little else to recommend them. They disappeared after a couple of years or died, usually by suicide.
American Women want to be Men.
Transgender Men want to be women.
It’s weird. It’s a mess.
Capitalism (Capitalizing) and Feminism fucked them up in the head bro.
I learned my lesson. Abandon these schmucks. Stop encouraging these women and supporting this platform.
This is so true. I was in the Navy. I got out after 6 years. My sister's best friend, who was always cute, and shy, and sweet, decided to put herself through college by being a stripper. If she did anything more than that, I wouldn't be surprised, but I'm willing to bet she did, but maybe it was just stripping. Either way, she was a changed person. More harsh, more serious, less friendly, less sweet, no more natural sweet smiles, an angry look in her eyes at all times, more masculine, etc... She was changed, and obviously damaged. Not at all friendly, like she was before I went into the Navy. Stripping/sex work had definitely left it's mark on her.
gotta tell it to the men who support prostitution. there'd be no market without the demand.
@@Rigidflex17 yeah, treating ppl like sh*t or just a thing to be used us a drain on ppl. It doesn't apply only to sex workers, but also ppl who are bullied, neglected, repeatedly lied to, etc etc etc.
Humans have a very carnal side that comes out online. Even though she’s disgusted by her lustful male audience, her lust and greed for money and attention makes her as equally as disgusting. The customer and clients relationship are dependent on each other. She is not a victim
she was indoctrinated w/ anti-family
brainwashing for decades so also
NOT not a victim but yeah
she chose to make it worse
It's a mirror of each others issues really.
Would co-dependent be an appropriate characterization?
only a victim of herself
and refusing to take
responsibility thus
repeat offends
@@anthonybasile6079 … symbiotic may be a better characterization
She makes it sound like everyone in her life didn’t tell her these consequences before she chose this line of work.
I bet she doesn’t struggle with spending the money she earns from it,
That’s why she’s not quitting..🤦♂️
I dont think so, I think it's like a lot of things in life. You can "know" the risks or possible costs but not really KNOW the cost or risks. Its like learning the hard way, we all have at least one if not more instances in our lives where our parents told us "you shouldn't do that, trust me, I know/have been there" but we ignore their advice or disregard it. Our modern society and culture is one focused so much so on the individual experience that we are practically taught to ignore others experiences to aquire our own instead. The overwhelming mentality of "just because it didn't/doesn't work for you, doesn't mean it won't work for me!" It's just one of the side effects of where our society is at in this time of transition from one standard and norm to a new one.
She’s like that dude in jail for selling heroin.
@@marcusherts9345 Clearly she wants her cake and eat it. To her, the only flaw with OF is the "disgusting" men who use it. If her subscribers were all perfect top tier single men, with Harvard degrees, who treated her like royalty and never jerked off to her content, she'd have no problem with it. Unfortunately for her, no such men would ever need to subscribe to OF.
@@alexsherel3344 she a dumb ass to me eye
She's the bartender that hates the alcoholics.
I 'll drink to that 😊
Most do or at least tolerate them while they charm them out of their money. A bartender is a salesman.
By that logic though being a bartender isn't shameful so being an OF model wouldn't be shameful.
There is a joke about dudes drinking in a bar that go out the back door to drain the lizard and all have an encounter with a dude wielding a baseball bat. Bloody joke applies here. Sadly.
Attention, ladies: If men can get you for $5/month, they won't pay with a relationship.
Great point
*surprised pikachu face*
I've never really understood this argument. Is it really "getting" them if you buy from their OF,? You get to see what they look like naked, sure, but you don't get to hold them, you don't get to feel them in your arms, you don't get to hear them say "I love you" (or you don't get to hear them say that and MEAN it, anyway), you don't get to go on dates with them - all you get is the pure visceral lust of seeing an attractive woman nude. But that's not really "getting" someone in the relationship sense. A lot of OF subscribers delude themselves into thinking otherwise, that their subscription "means" something, but they're just paying money for porn.
And also.....
Attention men: If you can't afford her for $1000/hr, she won't sacrifice her assets for a relationship with you.
Our society, has a problem. And I'm not sure how to bridge that gap. I'm not even sure there's a desire to do so at this point 🤷🏾
@@TheCommunistColin
Yeah, but it's only $5/month, so who cares? It's good enough to get off, and that's all these guys want.
I was mostly with her until about 6mins in when after all that she said she'd never quit...
Some people can't be helped. A walking contradiction from the first part of her talk.
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same. what does that even mean "i would have to be physicaly stopped?" like have a horrible accident and be maimed for life and ugly? why cant this emotional and mental health issues be enough? she deserves what comes to her and what will never come to her.
Its like when you try to help someone who falls down, you try to lend a hand but they refuse and instead sit there for 2 minutes. The only that can help them are themselves
You can guide a horse to water but you can't make it drink.
A friend's cousin got into OF and she's miserable, constantly complaining about it and always filling the void with materialistic things, she's currently on vacation in Fance (and even there she's keeping us updated on how men aren't s*it)
She belongs to the streets.
That is the reality of being an adult: you have to live with the consequences of your actions. She chose to be an OF model, so she has to deal with the potential mental health issues and negative reactions associated with it. That said, the guys who shame women like this yet subscribe to the content are extremely pathetic.
Agreed from start to finish. Thanks AJ! Have a great weekend ❤️
@@AlexanderSkinnerVids That made me hit the facepalm. Like darling c'mon now 🤦
Preach
@@ajtaylor8750 men have been hypersexualing girls and women for..... forever! Subsequently illiciting and soliciting sexual activity from those girls and women, and then turning around and shaming them, or worse abandoning them, sometimes even when pregnancies are involved. And women; it can be a whole other topic why, have been participating in this behavior in the entire time of civilization. It's been a vicious circle of the darkest pits of humanity for thousands of years....
....... I don't understand the accuracy or the value, of putting blame or responsibility on modern day women using websites. It's just a cop-out to find an easy answer, instead of diving into complicated and uncomfortable conversations about who are as humans in the societies we designed intentionally. You can't cover all of that in forum comments
I don't think the people who shame are the same people who subscribe...I could be wrong though
when you said "you are what you attract" it made me grin because i have attracted a VERY WEIRD girl. my family always said to stop being weird so women would like me, but i didn't like the boring normal women, and who i ended up with was this wonderful weird girl who we frolic around in our itiosyncratic glee!
Well, you accept your level or area.... but this woman in the video refuses to accept this is what she is, this is her level. Taking this step is already a selective process, even if she says she did it for "artistic purposes". LOL
Yep, "You are what you attract" is a very stupid thing to say, particularly in dating, where you want someone who brings you something new, different.
@@TheSelflessVibeI think he was agreeing with the quote.
@@nokateno indeed
That's so sweet! i am happy for you :)
Last 4mins of this video are gold. “Society defines success in such a shallow way.” And “True success is being at peace with yourself and what you are bringing to the world.” I couldn’t agree more. These statements hold soo much truth and are powerful.
exactly
"Society" is too broad of a term and population for assigning blame. There are plenty of subsections of society that don't define success in a "shallow way." Blaming "society" for having wealth worship is not a profound realization. It's a cop out.
Very true.
Let's face it, we men are initially very visual (initially) when it comes to attraction to women. But, to me, the most attractive qualities in a woman are who she really is and how she carries herself in life. I'm physically attracted to my wife, but also, I love how she cares about others, and is thoughtful. She's a great mother for our children.
@ElizabethSanto22 - Let me guess? You're on Only Fans, and yet bizarrely you feel morally superior to men! LOL!
@ElizabethSanto22 lol You sound triggered by a guy that says he loves his wife.
I can't sympathize with someone that judges, condemns and blames people for buying and engaging in content she is selling. Accountability is extremely lacking here. She brought this on herself. No one forced her.
I agree 100%.
Yep👍🏽
yes, but she is also regretting it, how many women on OF are going public about something like that? could you name a few? doesn't something like this actually reaffirms everything we criticize about what is wrong with women?
@@camilonattor She is regretting it BUT she says she will no stop, and yes, this is a great point for MGTOW and for Red Pill, at the same time.
@@camilonattor Don't judge them by their words, judge them by their actions. If she says she regrets it but continues doing it, she doesn't regret it.
Not only are the top 20% of men on Tinder ruining men for women, but now the bottom 20% of men on Only Fans are ruining men for women.
Underrated comment imho. The plot thickens
And women are ruining themselves in the process for no reason
Nope. OF women are ruining men for themselves.
When she is willing to do what is basically SW, of course men are going to treat you like a lady of the night. Why would she expect to be treated like a princess? It's not horny men's fault that they are horny and she sells pics of her body. It's the logical outcome.
Top 20%? Barely 10%, probably. How many women would treat respectfully a man who is the 17th best man of a city with only 100 guys?
@mba2ceop
So a woman that does sexually explicit things for men to make money is shocked that men send sexually explicit, unfiltered messages. For fcks sake, the lack of accountability is staggering.
It’s a bit like if I’m an NFL player but I’m shocked and appalled that anyone would watch such a violent sport and ask me for comments on NFL games. And I’m stunned that my knees are terrible and I’ve lacerated my spleen and broken my collarbone.
Why can’t they just write me checks and buy my jersey
"Accountability is like kryptonite for modern women" - K.S. RIP
I scrolled down the comment to exactly fint your comment. The two side pov of a situation is so so frustrated
Exactly, it’s beyond remarkable just how delusional and insane these types are
Where is your praised accountability when it comes to those man with wifes and kids that slander and send most disgusting messages to OF workers? Why don't they show it to their bosses, customers, their parents or kids? Why are you not condemning them? Where is the accountability suddenly?
What's insane to me is that even after she expresses how much this has messed her up she still plans on doing it
It's the programming she's conflicted with and her internal emotions
She has no other skill or talent, all she has. Plus she likely makes more money then any other job so she is stuck with the money issue.
@@HysteriaXHF it shouldn't be about making more money??..it should be making enough to live comfortably and having time for work-life balance...also enrichment of positive people (family and friends) around her so she can grow into a all rounded human being...but that's all she's doing is causing mental health issues for herself and other people in her life...
she said it herself, its pride, and arrogance.
She's only complaining because she wants sympathy and the attention that brings. So that someone will make her feel better about her choices, so that she can continue to repeat them and profit from them.
Actions have consequences. She forsake her morals and values for a quick buck. She reaped what she sowed.
Facts...can't go complaining now. The reality is the money probably slowed up and she got hit with a rude awakening
morals ? did she kill someone ? its just a body, getting naked. go to some tribes and being naked and showing boobs is normal and no woman can make money from being naked. Its just that in our world they made being naked bad
Gentlemen! Passport bros! and Invest in chewy and Pets shops. "All the single ladies! All the single ladies!" Beyonce predicted all this!
Accountability is kryptonite to modern women. especially OF women.
@@laturista1000Do you think it's because of parental issues in the household? Most households contain single moms raising their children and lack father figures.
17:38 Great observation about the bad ways we define success in America. You never hear things like "that person is at peace and no longer lives paycheck to paycheck" defined as success.
She exploits lonely men and then trashes them and calls them disgusting. And then the "I'm not a quitter thing was bonkers". Imagine being hooked on drugs or something and then saying "I'm not a quitter" lol. She was all over the place. That's fine if you are just working out your thoughts, but you need to do some self reflection to collect your thoughts after. I doubt she did that.
I agree with your statement but the Red Pill men also exploit men. They just have a different way of making lonely men give money.
"I always see things to the very end..." clearly she hasn't asked herself "to what end?" If she doesn't stop now the end is gonna look a whole lot worse than it would if she quit now.
@@geegee_509W statement
I have zero interest in using OF. Men who use it are simps who are happy to pay out large sums of money to get precious little in return.
clearly pointed out the mistake she has been repeating over again again this thig has no end she will go back for money and men will keep watching her. this shit is so toxic
120ish years ago, my great-great grandfather talked to my great grandfather about the girls who worked in saloons in mining towns. How depressed they were in private; how the life they were leading was a dead end; how they were likely to randomly end their own lives. Same still holds true today. Just online instead of a saloon.
Dude fucking, this also explains why dumb shit happens here lol
Yeah, so many people want to claim the world is getting worse and the good old days are gone, but nothing's changed at its core. The world is as beautiful and horrible as its always been.
Thank you for telling the story of your gg-grandfather and great grandfather. It’s insightful. I am a firm believer that the majority of people working in the sex related “jobs” do not want to be there. The fact that our culture has worked so hard to sanitize/legitimize it, in my opinion, is actually more harmful than helpful for the people that are caught up in that vicious cycle of degradation.
@@Suzette-gb7ujThey make good cash while f***** strangers, it's their choice.
"I owe my soul to the company whore"
“Expressing myself through my art” “I’m not a quitter I want to see it to the end”, absolutely ridiculous response, what she means to say is that I’m making good money with the little work and resources I’m putting in. No man that I know sees this as art they see her as an object or an chance to feel something. It’s all about money on her end and men getting off and finding connection to a fake relationship. BOTH PARTIES ARE WRONG
Some women need to wake up and stop referring to anything sexually suggestive as "art". Art implies there's talent. It doesn't take talent to take your clothes off.
"Empowering" is another stupid way of describing it. If you're hooked on money and attention, that isn't empowering. It's sad.
@@coolbreeze5683 So true, good point, totally agree with you.
If she could regain her dignity by removing the content but had to give ALL the money back, she 100 percent would not.
She's deluded... It's the modern day version of the old fashioned nasty PEEP SHOW that used to litter Time Square Manhattan before Time Square Church & Rudy G cleaned it up
@@Kreymoreshe literally says “there’s no amount of money you can give me that would make me give myself away”… but also that she isn’t quitting, so idk wtf she’s talking about at all, there is an amount of money, you have been purchased, that’s your value, the delusion is strong in this one
This is my first time watching you, Courtney, and I love your compassion and wisdom.
The subject of this video is actually pretty heartbreaking, but a subject that needs to be addressed.
One thing that struck me was when the woman who has an Only Fans account stated: "I never want to please a man in any way, shape or form".
The sad part is that pleasing another person (not just physically, but also emotionally and relationally) is a part of our identity, and something that we were created to do - with one person, in the context of a committed relationship.
It's really encouraging to me to see this message being put out there in a public forum.
It's hard for me to sympathize with the person being featured. She exploits men's biological realities for money and self gain and still finds a way to shame men about it. Ugh.
This is a great point as well and it certainly crossed my mind while I watched. Definitely inspired my “you attract what you are” point lol
Also, it's very bad business sense to sell people a product and then shame them for wanting to buy the product. Make up your mind! Do you want people to buy your product or not? Anyone with an ounce of sense knows you don't treat your loyal customers that way...they're the reason why you still have a job.
I mean, there's definitely still stuff to shame there. Did you hear the part where men with wives, girlfriends, and children were subscribing to her content and making explicit demands of her? I think that's always still worth shaming. We shouldn't make excuses for those kinds of guys.
@@TheCommunistColin maybe we just need to bring shame back in general. shame husbands for not being faithful, and shame OF models for making it so easy for husbands not to be faithful. used to be he had to pay a pretty penny for an escort and meet at some motel 6 or whatever; now it's a simple $5 from the comfort of his home or wherever he has internet access.
Imagine shaming customers for buying the product you were selling..
Can’t believe that this isn’t obvious to everyone.. if a girl did porn in the 90s, she’d be shunned by everybody! Now they’re amazed that people have issues with onlyfans which is just porn
I think the difference is most of it is solo, not with a man, and it is more private. But yeah
The may think, well feel, it's more private, but it's the internett.
That's the whole point to start with.
Harsh outcome, but they played this game willingly.
I don't think there's anything wrong with doing porn, but its not a job for everyone but everyone thinks they can do onlyfans and be okay. I saw an interview with a porn actress that said unless you're already a very sexually active person above the norm before starting sex work and enjoy it for what it is you really wont enjoy doing it as your job.
@@Mastermind111111 Oh I don't care. More private? No, it's more public than ever. I do not care to investigate what type of porn a woman did, it's porn. I'm not interested in context.
If anyone voluntarily lowers themselves to the gutter, for any reason, they can’t complain about what flows their way and they get covered in. Your video’s should be offered up to social academics! Great video!
Isn't that a Monster Magnet song? "Bummer," I think,
Something to the effect of "Some people go to bed with Lucifer,/ Then they cry, cry, cry, when they don't greet the day with God."
She's exploiting the worst part of humanity and complains about results of attracting the worst part of humanity. Yet she's no quitter! Sounds pretty insane actually. Probably the type of insanity it would take to begin such line of work.
OF aint the gutter, If a woman wants to take advantage of her looks to make money, fine. Who cares? I personally think sex work should be 100% legal. The issue is the internet is forever, and thats that. Realize that and then do what you want with open eyes.
@@rjframe4410 Well in part it comes down to someone’s intention. As they say the devil is in the details, and if the intent is to take advantage of or manipulate a person, just for unnecessary personal gain, then that is lowering one’s self to the gutter. If however it is done out of necessity or desperation then that is an entirely different matter. If a woman has absolutely no other means of support, then go right ahead. I’ll be the first to legalize the world oldest business transaction. In no way do I look down upon that. But if it’s done like, this is no big deal, and it’s manipulative, or takes advantage because of weakness or for fun then that’s inappropriate and immoral. The other part is that society has these little things like morals, norms, etc., AND they are extremely judgmental, rightly or wrongly. This is the way the world works, right?
@@molassescricket6663 MY point is that you dont have to be desperate to make money this way, you could legitimately enjoy it, thats fine. Fun isnt immoral, the ethical issue comes in when you couch it in manipulation and then shame folks for participating.
Basically if you ARE going to do this kinda work, dont crap on people for engaging as customers for the service your providing.
I'm a female and I just never understood what part of "I'm a fine piece of meat, come purchase bits of me, shower your animality onto me" sits comfortable in a person's psyche. I mean I understand when people have to resort to sex work when financially desperate, but when one of my female friends opened up their OF not for desperate reasons, in my mind was like, dude.. that shit's donna backfire at you mentally. The money's not worth it. I just told her be careful, and let her do what she wanted..
People always act like it’s lucrative thing and that’s contributing to the problem. Even you sort of implied that when you told her the money is not worth it. The average OF girl makes like a hundred dollars a month, not even. 95% won’t be able to make any living off OF, if not more, and few will be able to make it much of a side hustle. They’ll likely be worse off than when they started and will have a lot more difficulty in other aspects of life because of it, namely in dating and relationships.
man.. that's rough. And a hundred bucks to sell your conscience? Can't imagine..... @@Ryan-cb1ei
I think at least part of it is because they (women who start an OF for extra spending money) think, consciously or subconciously, they can distance themselves from the fact that they are selling sex.
On camera or in person, you are still selling yourself as a product and other people will treat you the way you treat yourself.
I think another part is that current society lies about sex work not being a shameful occupation.
Who in the western world has to resort to sex work? Give me a break, there are jobs out there, nobody needs to do it. I get on chatting apps and every other girl is trying to sell something, it's getting insane.
@joschmo4497 Facts! They WANTED to do it just like choosing to be a thot. I'm glad someone like you has that mindset. Millions of Jobs going around that they could do but decide to go for being a online prostitute.
I agree. Also, OF can be around forever. Her bosses or managers could come across her past. Same for a future spouse. She made herself a piece of meat and sees the reality of being treated as such. Nothing Empowering and artistic about being a online prostitute. Not to mention many OF girls sleeps with clients in real life. I agree that no one should resort to onlyfans and I wish it was banned or never existed.
"You are what you attract" is a very good point and is valid in all parts of life. It's surprising that you got death threats from women angry about your opinion of OF. I think you're very wise Courtney and, as a woman, I agree with most of your videos that I have seen.
I think you speak for many women because you give a balanced view.
There's such a weird dynamic here. She feels bad about the way men interact with her on the service and calls them creepy without seeming to realize that what she's doing is just as creepy if not more so.
She also doesn’t want to stop in spite of all the things she states and how it is negatively affecting her mentally.
@@christoph3187 There's science on that.
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Right? Kinda don't get to complain if your living is made by giving your audience mental illness in real time.
Solipsism manifest
More than that, she is contributing to create the creepy men she despises.
Her: it's so degrading mentally and I hate it
Me: mhm mhm facts yeah no yeah it is.
Also her: I don't wanna quit and I won't
Me: WHAT 😭😭😭
Money's probably too good. Principles are easy to discuss but it's a lot harder to walk them when you take an honest look at how hard it's going to hit you in the pocketbook. Why do an entry level job like waitress when it's quick, easy money to take your clothes off? Of course you don't realize all the other drawbacks like stalkers and losing faith in people until later.
I imagine part of it is that she worked hard to build up this business/income and to give that up is difficult to accept.
She's abit tarded...
Not much maturity or accountability on her part
It makes her too much money. She gets to sell images of herself online and make a nice middle to upperclass income without putting in any real work. In reality, if it lasts her for about 10 years, she could retire and live comfortably for the rest of her life.
I just want to say, thank you for “speaking the truth in love”. You are honest, but gracious. It is really refreshing, and very needful. I’ve found it so distasteful when I’ve heard various people speaking truth with contempt and disdain. You have a kind spirit. Please keep doing what you’re doing! ❤
🥺🤍 you are so kind, thank you!
Maybe part of the problem is they never hear harsh truths, contempt and disdain. That's why so many women go around thinking everyone who criticizes them is a "hater". Some people need to hear harsh, unfiltered truths. Some people need a gentler approach.
I left a job because it didn't align with my values, had rude coworkers, and I felt hollow when working there. I found a different job with kind, empathetic people for a 20% cut in pay and I'd do it again. Growing and surrounding yourself with good people is so important. I hope this girl finds whatever she is looking for.
There are videos of her getting railed by bbc on the internet. Doubt she’ll find anything professional
She's looking for cash, and got it. "Be careful what you wish for...."
Well said. Good for you for making a hard but necessary choice. At the end of the day, going against our values and or just the decency of human nature always comes at a price that money cannot erase.
Similar experience. Some things are harder these days, but most days I’m a good deal more satisfied.
She acted like a 304, invited anybody into it, and then got treated like a 304...My God, how could this have happened!
@@mmm-mmm Type 304 into a calculator, then turn it upside down and see what it says…
@@ridethelapras 😂
@@mmm-mmmA 304 is girl who behave and essentially live like a prostitute, or act promiscuously with men, like women who like being cat-called for sex. (Note. I just learned this a few weeks ago myself. lol)
Jesus Bless! :)
It took me a minute because that is my area code, lol
Legend says the Elders have been contemplating this for millennia
Great video, Courtney! I closed my OF account (on the customer side) a month ago and I feel so much BETTER about myself. It's scary how addicting things like that can be especially when you're in an isolated part in your life.
Proud of you! 🤗
Addiction to this content comes from hopelessness often. Got to invest back into yourself. Health and fitness, hobbies, career. You will attract a good partner. Perhaps in the states or elsewhere
Porn acts on the parts of the brain that many recreational drugs. Good to put it behind you and concentrate on meaningful real life respectful connections with women
Good job king, do NOT let temptation control your life and swerve you off the path of self-development and growth. Be better. Be stronger. Be the man that your grandfathers would be proud. You took a crucial step forward, now never return to that sad part of your life. Good job brother.
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Pray for her. She is feeling what it feels like to “sell your soul”.
No victims. Only volunteers...
I pray for hungry children, people intentionally starved to death, and people who die for a valiant cause.
I have no prayers or tears for people looking for being animals for easy money and calling it "art".
Waste of prayer
To be LOVED for one's decency rather than one's physicality is priceless.
Twenty years ago, I briefly dated a women who'd posed for an adult magazine; she'd moved to LA from music school, had no money, and got approached by someone to pose. She felt gross afterwards. Nowadays, you don't need to be approached. It's easy to start making adult content, but there's a lack of awareness about the potential consequences.
It's not lack of consequence. They firmly believe they are that special and exceptional, that it won't happen to them. That they'll be different. No matter how much you warn them. Hence why we'll state facts of the rule, they'll always throw in a exception because they internalize everything and they're speaking about them being the exception.
Yup once your body is posted, it's forever. The OF lie requires that you have thousands of followers putting out cash. Most might be lucky to get a few hundred dollars
Society use to tell women that was harmful to them. Feminism taught them to sell their bodies but negotiate the price, progressivism demands a no shame culture. We've allowed a very nihilistic culture to take hold.
thats the deal
they fail the marshmallow test
Here's the messed up part, there are so many millions of girls on that website, that only the top 7% make $1000 a month. Yet every time I see one bragging about their placement, I imagine a guy bragging about being a baller for working part time at 7/11. Point is, remember back in ths day, when girls needed drugs, or crap tons of money to cross that line? Now, they're bascially doing porn for free.
Think about this, imagine if millions of girls flocked to the strip clubs and dod all of the things, danced on stage, gave lapdances, etc... but at the end of the night, they were handed a $20 bill for all of their trouble. Now... imagine if those same women showed up, night after night for that $20. This OF thing clearly isnt about the money... that's how far off the rails we as a society have gone.
Correct... stopping destructive behavior isn't "quitting", it's growing.
problem is though she wont quit , because she has not actually learned anything as evident by this video , she will keep making the same kind of mistakes while abdicating all responsibility for them....
...and when good men tell them this will devalue them, they accuse us of being oppressive and controlling
Mainly because its double bind. When girl is virgin, good men are mad, because no "test drive". When good men get that test drive, they leave to find another virgin, if unlucky Non virgin end up unmarried(because the same good guys are not into girls with too much test drive trials behind), and left to buy themselves life with their already ruined body.
Men are never accountable, for some reason, for pressure zeros to get to high body counts.
Good men never marry their first girls for life.
and insecure.
Yep. She's seeing the horny, desperate, sleazy side of men because she's sharing the horny, desperate, sleazy side of herself. The men are a reflection, a mirror.
She shouldn't lose hope or attraction to men. She should learn to value herself differently, create a different energy and attract a different energy from men.
Yeah, but she's lacking the self-reflection for that to click. She still thinks her sleazy side is art.
Too late for her, nothing but eee-motional DAMAGE!
No high value man is gonna wife up an only fans model. She’s a 304
Truer words spoken
Too late. She is done
People treat others in the way they present themselves. Her view of men is soured because she surrounded herself with sexual deviants that saw her as sexual object and not a person and now she’s seems to think most men are like that. That’s not the case. That’s just the bubble she encapsulated herself in.
True but over 100 mill subs ON OF is rediculous to the few million creators
Very true. That's a big issue I saw with most women. I no longer believe this "He was the bad guy, I'm the victim" stuff. Of course the guy is usually a bad guy, but those women CHOOSE the bad guys. They won't even see the nice guys or feel utterly bored by them.
If I only met Lorena Bobbett kind of women, I'd also think they're all harpyies.
Well said. Onlyfans, porn, the hypersexualization of women and modern technology has ruined male and female relationships.
She's justifying, which leads to making herself right by continuing it. She's a self trapped being, a victim, which is a very low tone of beingness. This is not good. The service facsimiles kick in, and it's "them who's wrong," but she also knows she's wrong. This is obvious as you see her drop-down emotion tone to grief. A sociopath is someone who makes others wrong for the condition they themselves created. She's ethically doomed until she takes full responsibility. Don't call someone a role model when she's just a confused being. Being sympathetic to her doesn't break her overt motivator sequence. It gives her further justifiers to further enslave herself. Thus, her "quitter" type comment. That's a justifier. So she creates the overt again, motivates and justifies. The Dwindling Spiral. Basic ethics people.
That was her choice. Remember my body, my choice. Well there you go.
What struck me is how she managed to put 5 sentences of content in a never ending speech.
You noticed that, huh. Not only was/is “it” (assuming that thing is a female) extraordinarily ugly, but everything that spewed from its head hole was mind numbing, vacuous, pettily narcissistic flatulence. Its inability to understand context and its lack of self awareness was/is maddening. I mean, the sheer privilege it’s been afforded by America! In its shithole of origin, it would be beating clothes against the shore of some muddy river. I would wager it’s been given a free college education to boot.
No kidding after 2 minutes of the speech i had to scroll to the comments to see what the actual fuck she was talking about doing. ah, Only fans, of course.
She'd make a great politician 😆
I agree. She needs to hire an editor. I was bored to death after 3 minutes. So I went to comments which was more jnformative.
“True success is being at peace with yourself and what you bring into the world” couldn’t have said it any better. I’m just trying to be a good man, getting better everyday, and letting the world rage around me. Treat people right, that includes yourself.
You really are like a bigger sister to all of us men Courtney, you're so wise and classy and non judgmental, you really are a positive influence to us all, you are definitely making a difference, please don't ever stop, you're a huge help and such a bright light in this world.
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@@CourtneyRyan Do you have telegram? Or is that a scam thing that replied to my other comment on this video?
@@cutekittens228I'm sure it was a scam. Only Checkmark Courtney is real here.
Assume anything telegram related that you see on TH-cam is a scam. It’s a very popular botted scam that TH-cam has yet to do anything about
Yeah, I appreciate her honesty and accurate insights. A rarity.
As a 20-something woman from NYC who watches your content regularly I just want to say that you are so well-spoken and beautifully convey these difficult topics with such grace. Love to support xxx
You are so kind, thank you 🤍
Edit: You’ll never know what my original comment was. Trolololololololool ha ha ha ha!
Wait till she gotta tell future kids about it ha
Wait till her looks go and has no back up plan
Must not have watched the whole video. She's extremely jaded now and is a man hating feminist. She uses the guys she comes across as a wallet and nothing else.
Should she actually stumble onto a taker, she”ll keep the OF a secret until one of his buddies shows him….then it’s bye bye and she won’t understand why….silly women
@@Db-pq7zw
What looks?
There's a great song by Morcheeba called [I] "Gained the world" [but lost my soul] that touches this issue in a great way.
Lyrics:
[Verse 1]
I heard I lost it on the grapevine
I must admit I had a great time
There are words for people like me
But I don't think there's very many
[Chorus]
I've gained the world and lost my soul
Maybe it's 'cause I'm getting old
All the people that I know
Have gained the world and lost their soul
[Verse 1]
There's no persuasion that I'm into
I've made some sense of what we've been through
We should form a new foundation
If we could find the right location
[Bridge]
Is it prey, on display
I'm feeling weak
Like it says in the Bible...
As many have stated, it's hard for me to have empathy for someone who lacks any accountability and who acts as if men forced her to do OF. She went in thinking she could get over on these dudes, but she only played herself in the end.
At least it's hard for you to feel empathy....I don't have *any* empathy for her so in that respect you're better than I.
None of what you state is true. It's like you never watched the whole video. She didn't act like men forced her to do it. And what does "thinking she could get over on these dudes" even mean? No-one is forcing men to pay for OF lol
@@oblitafier She has exploited herself for quick cash (getting over on men), nothing more. She created the OF account, she posted select photos for said money. She is having buyer's remorse now(choosing to have OF) and has to live with the choices she made. Part of life as an adult.
Hi Courtney, I just want to say thank you for everything you do and the work you do for us men. I'll admit, I was one of those men in your comment section that use to just spread the hate because I was hurt. I was in the "manosphere black pill" for a while until I stumbled upon your content. The videos you have made slowly restored hope within me. You convinced me that a lot of the things I felt about myself were mostly all in my head and that I can improve to be better. My journey towards healing actually started with your channel. I say this because I understand where you are coming from with your burnout perspective. You are like a bigger sister to many of us and I hope that this lets you know that you are making a positive change in many of us.
Thank you for everything you do and bless you!!!
Oh my, you have no idea how much this means to me. I’m so glad I could help. Hugs! 🤍🤍
@@CourtneyRyan I think that he meant "older" sister, not bigger sister.😁
so how did it work for you so far?
@@bogdankovalenko5096 I have a date coming up next week.
@@joshuabenitez3260 good luck, man
It's ironic that she calls her male fans "disgusting" but what she is doing is disgusting! What type of men was she expecting to attract while doing Only Fans??? I'm so tired of women complaining that there are no good men out there to date! There are tons of good men out there but these women always gravitate toward the "bad boys" and when they get hurt by those men, they always say that there are no good men! Yes, there are good men out there but you choose not to date them!
True that
Story old as time. Nothing new under the sun.
With the amount of reach OnlyFans now has, it's safe to say that there are plenty of outwardly good men using that platform.
Most good women aren't complaining that there aren't any good men. The good women are with good men already. Somehow, the type of woman shown in this video are the ones some men choose to listen to and conclude that "all women are complaining". IG and OF model types are not the majority of women. They are the fake ones and usually the loudest. The good women usually aren't like this the same way the good men aren't usually the alpha gym bro caricature.
@@coolbreeze5683 Hey hey, I’m a hardcore gym guy, and good/nice guy. Guess it’s not very common but still lol
She changed her narrative multiple times with no recognition that she had done it. “I’m not going to stop, but I don’t like doing it.” No accountability.
Stupid af, that's all there is to it...
Reminds me of what that elderly woman said in that BBC interview: “Feminism is good for any woman under the age of 30”. Fun and games until you need to move forward, more or less
Women want the power of men, the privileges of women, the accountability of children, the responsibility of infants, and the superiority of God. And when they can't get any of this on their own what are they do? They blame men. I wonder if this woman is going to blame men for the faults of women doing whatever they want however they want just because they FEEL like it
Amen brother.
We cant let these women roam free with no accountability. Its time to hit the reset button
Thats…… Thats a great point.
@@genshinsage”We can’t let these women”
Dude they not a Dog, just ignore them 😅
*entitled childish people
Courtney, you are too kind. This woman is truly disgusting, and her speech tells me that she never learned anything because she is still not taking full responsibility. How could she actually be so dumb as to not know from the beginning that she’s putting herself in an unfavourable position in exchange for money, and then blame it on men? She also thinks that the men on only fans represent the entire male population. Even when I’m single, I would never visit that website, and every man I know and surround myself with is the same. How could someone ever think that whoring out their bodies is an act of empowerment? Narcissism. That’s why. If it makes you feel good to have all that attention while exploiting men for their money, you are a narcissist. If posting on OF didn’t make her undatable by the male population, this video sure sealed the deal.
Haha sure she is kind. She is minting money from men by bitc*ing about low quality women to give sympathy to men so that men feel there is someone "who understands". There are many women like these out there "teaching" men what they should do right so that one random woman can enter your house and own it for life and enslave you. If you are among the "not everyone is the same" category of men, that's exactly how you fall in the bottomliess pit. Trust me buddy, make money, have fun, enjoy your life and have hobbies. Once in a while when your mind plays games about finding a woman, that's when you come to these sites and celebrate yourself.
As an actual creative it irks me when people in the sex industry say that they’re creative …. It’s such an insult
You: I make art, I love character art the most. what do you do?
Her: I spread my legs and moan.
This is a much needed video. I’ve been married 34 years to the same awesome lady. Over the last few decades, I have watched the moral degeneration of both men and women. No single gender is at fault but there sure is a lot of finger pointing! There are consequences to actions - guaranteed. There is only one set of rules that will never fail and man is not the source of those rules.
I think it started with women being the focus of manipulation by the world elite. The women control the men. So the men adjusted their behavior. To get with the women.
You don’t need to be politically correct but liberal trash women are at fault
You were a means to an end Paul.
I do agree that at this current point - no one single gender is to blame ANYMORE - however who started it?
See because I have a feeling if somebody was able to look back and see where it started, they would see that it generally started on the female side talking crap about men. HEAR ME OUT NOW HEAR ME OUT.
Men back in the day used to treat women like crap, however they are dead and they are gone. Society was built off of the world that they made. We today are not to blame for their actions. There are a lot of things that men can do that women cannot or at minimum regularly choose not to do, just as there's things that women can do that men either cannot or choose not to do etc. For example men are stronger, in order for this debate to work you need to compare the strongest Vs the strongest etc. Example you can't compare a female bodybuilder to an average man, you have to compare the best of both genders of the sport etc.
Just like men don't generally like applying makeup for a job, or selling stereotypical female products door to door to old women etc. That is all because of the way society has been constructed. It rubbed certain women the wrong way, they hated it and they felt as if they were being done wrong by men because men built the society back in the day. It then gathered and gained momentum, to the point to where we men nowadays who are innocent - and are not to blame for what men who are dead and rotting in the ground did - ARE BEING HATED ON for the way that society has been for ages! As if it can change overnight?!! Because as we all know if we have common sense - there are fools and scumbags on both sides etc. There are crazy women who play mind games and beat their man and cheat and lie. There are also abusive, creepy, and controlling men who torture their women just like women torture man sometimes.
But the real issue with the TOXIC SIDE OF THE FEMINIST MOVEMENT is that we are all being blamed for the past doings of long dead men. The internet is being weaponized by both sides YES, however the momentum gaining on the side of the women hating on men (which is sexist by definition) is what created the (yes it's pathetic) "incel movement" etc.
All because women had to hate on the way society was constructed. As if all those famous rich and successful men did not bust their ass to get where they are. I'm taking neither side they're both idiots. But I have a feeling that the toxic feminist movement started it all. (note there is a big difference between toxic feminists and feminists in general)
@@OpenCarry2024, men treating women like crap in the past, how common was it?
She had three options.
1. Marry a good guy, he might not be a Chad though.
2. Get a normal job, support yourself.
3. Be a whore, there's no turning back from this.
She chose three and is now crying about it.
zactly
She will find a husband because too many SIMPS out there !
She'll never find a guy she wants though. She'll have to settle for some sleazeball if she wants anyone. Cause no self respecting man is going to wife a whore
I was thinking the same thing, she's crying about bad decisions. Now she's gonna have to live with them.☹️
Crying about it? ... Or reflecting on the new things she learned from her experience?
Not everyone knows the future, or what they'll discover about the new things they get into. The same thing happens with people's jobs or careers, sometimes it takes years doing it for them to realize how much they dislike it.
All a woman has to do is have a conversation with a stripper for an hour to understand the mess they are getting themselves into. Strippers have the most authentic experience of that lifestyle.
she think it's just a bunch of disgusting horny dudes. THe reality is that people are not paying these OF for fun, many will have issues with their previous relationships and are using this and other s*x workers as an outlet / distraction from their life.
How do you know that?
@@keithmoriyama5421
Usually the easier and faster you get money the bigger the consequences. Like a guy who becomes a drug dealer, he can make a ton of money very quickly but more then likely he's going to end up in prison or dead.
@@drfye Do you actually know any strippers personally that are in that situation?
@@keithmoriyama5421
🤔In what situation? When speaking of sex work in general, whether it's OF, stripper, Pronstar, escort ect it's pretty well established that your trading earning a sizable amount of money in a relatively short period of time in exchange for the loss of future employment prospects as well as the ability to be employed in a variety of industries such as teaching or childcare as well as personal and professional reputation loss.
Can apply this logic to almost any job or career path. Like becoming a doctor and thinking you’re not going to deal with difficult patients that won’t always take your advice etc…
LOL
This is sad, wishing her and anyone going through any mental health problems a steadfast recovery 🙏
But if she doesn’t learn from her mistakes it’s gonna end up really bad
shes on the OF because ppl like you... the f are you feeling sad about?
True that. At least there are good people that care for people's minds and strengths.
The saddest part is this heart-felt message won't affect those who are hearing it. OF "models" will keep doing it until the money runs out and the horny men will just move on to the newest model.
She jumped in because she wanted to make money by leading a bunch of "horny guys" on. She could be totally honest here or did she meet a really nice guy that she'd like to have a real relationship with so now she's crying about being morally conflicted. I'm sure this happens with some women. I'm sure there's many women that quit after the 1st day, but she kept it up for a long time. I have a hard time taking this for face value. Regardless of that, here's definitely a message. It can it leave unexpected deep scars, people really need to think about the downside of O.F. not just making quick cash.
I've met a lot of women in my life.
Their past experiences with men very much shape how they are, for better or worse.
To deliberate seek out the worst men for the worst experiences is self-sabotaging in the extreme.
@@avasdv Yes it does, though it seems to me that it shapes more how men interact with women while for women it shapes more how they see themselves. On average, of course. YMMV.
Very interesting and a difference to ponder.
@@avasdv I've spoken to hundreds of women, and I truly mean hundreds. The more in depth I got to know them, the less I want to do with them. When I was younger, I used to be romantic, now I don't want much to do with women past getting off. The more I learn how women perceive relationships and just small insignificant daily interactions, the more disgusted I become.
I used to think women were the romantic gender, oh boy how wrong was I.
But maybe it's a good thing that she's seen how men truly can be. So many women are too trusting and then find out the man they love is paying these OF models.
She even admitted some of them have kids.
She grew a conscience…..but still 7 months into it, she’s taking every penny
Courtney, just a suggestion: Can you make a video trying to come up with one good reason for a man to get married?
There are none
End of video
💯 yes, and she should watch some of Pearl Davis's takes on marriage and react to that.
There is no ONE reason to get married, that’s something you yourself need to find in someone you meet.
Haha I’ll ask my husband to put a list together 😂
@@CourtneyRyan 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
"I wont stop until I'm made to stop." These people cant be helped. You reap what you sow.
Each thistle plant can produce up to 40,000 seeds
Sow thistle, soon you'll have a field.
Sow wheat, soon you'll have a field.
Her: its damaging my mental health
Also her: I'm not going to quit because i like to see everything to the very end. I wont quit unless im physically stopped.
Willingly damaging your mental health. Until the "very end." Please realize what you are saying girl
Wow, who would have thought selling yourself would turn out badly? 😭
Everybody faces consequences for their actions, good or bad
What pisses me off is that she says that men are disgusting but she has no idea what it’s like to be a man. None of these women know what it’s like to be a man. I don’t think women understand what it’s like for men, and what attracts us visually and sexually. Women will never understand what it’s like for a man and controlling your sexual urges. Some men can do it, and some men have a trouble.
Sounds like she was calling men using OF disgusting and while from a man's perspective they may not be disgusting, they are simps however. C'mon man, paying to see naked ladies in current year?
Don't ever expect a woman to care about your struggles.
If you are trying to get rid of a woman, tell her that you lost your job, or have no money, or are depressed, or have cancer... she will dump you and start looking for another chump.
@@EvilFandango Just because some of us men haven’t payed to look at girls on the internet doesn’t mean she can just look down on all men like that. The complete disrespect and disregard for men is disgusting and dangerous. We all know what is like as man and some of us are better than others but it’s no excuse. We need to be trying to uplift each other as men.
She's complaining about the men but she is doing it lol. The point should be, she want to do it, maybe for the wrong but she's doing it. And men want to do want they are doing.
No sex shame.
True, the women who say shit like that are the same ones who will say "no uterus, no opinion" when men talk about women issues.
But you missed her point. The kind of men who throw money at them can say some nasty stuff they wouldn't in polite company. I bet they take out their IRL frustrations on those girls. Because the veil of anonimity and such. Moreover, the kind of men who subscribe to them aren't the most moral of the bunch.
And yes, if you subscribe to them for other reason than to distribute their pics for free to undermine this disgusting market, you're disgusting.
I don't feel bad for her at all. She made her decision, and has to live with the consequences like a grown up. The site she sold herself on didn't force her to do it. Now, she doesn't want to take any responsibility by falsely claiming it was art, so she can an alternative narrative. Cause the men she desires don't want her after discovering she has been on that site.
"Growing and evolving is not quitting. Evolving to the next stage of your life, growing into an individual and discovering who you are. This can include leaving things and people behind and that's okay, it doesn't make you a quitter. It means you're growing and moving on." Very
Inspirational and thank you I needed to hear this today.
Don't expect a man to respect you if you don't have self respect
CHOICES HAVE CONSEQUENCES.....
.......the moment that one realizes that their true WORTH is priceless...
......and you literally walk along that path with Genuine Virtue and Enlightenment.....
..... your Clarity of discernment reveals to you a Divine Internal PEACE
-|-
When women ask if a man would date them if they were on onlyfans, they never asked the inverse: would they date a guy that subscribed to onlyfans?
Because they already know the answer, it's no of course not I don't want a pervert. Like so why would they think the inverse would be any different? The double standards & lack of accountability are just mind numbing sometimes.
Genuine question, but don't most men use some kind of porn? A lot of men are paying for it. Aside from of maybe being more interactive, what is the difference?
@@fitthickchic6732 No we aren't paying for it. When we want to rub one out we fire up Pornhub or XVideos or any number of tube sites for free. When we're done we don't even think about the girls or anything afterwards.
Besides just because we find someone attractive or watch their movies doesn't mean we want to date or marry them. Do you envision dating/marrying everyone you find attractive? Of course not. Are you also going to tell me you'd be ok dating a guy that's banged countless women on film & probably even more off? No you wouldn't & studies prove it. Women don't want dudes with high body counts anymore than men do.
Studies also show that promiscuity effects men & women the same way: Diminished ability to pair bond, increase risk of cheating, lack of impulse control, etc. These women & their customers are both simps it's just guys are simping for the girls & these girls are simping for the money. Thus neither should be taken seriously for the exact same reason, they're all exploiting each other as well as themselves.
OF is also a learning platform, but its about sex education. you can find there courses about erotic massage, BJ technics, how to get down on girl, anal sex technics, etc. So actually it depends on reason why people are going there and which type of content they consume or produce there. It could be used for improving relations in real world.
@@fitthickchic6732Yes there is no difference. And 90% of women are already with men who look, pay and subscribe to porn or OF
Of course they will never willingly admit it 😂
Thanks Courtney, for talking about a subject that needs addressing about what can happen & your empathy for both parties & what positive change can do!!
Lack of values or rather good strong values are lacking these days.
Agreed
morality values, good and truth values
narcissism is the value-base in this era, and awareness with a care for doing different the avenue for change
@zerpblerd5966 yup! I'd also add sadism is also on the rise. In fact three dark personalities - narcissism, Machiavellism, and psychopathy.
In a way, I really understand her and how she's feeling. I felt so much of the same way while teaching, after I got burnt out. Like literally to the point where I don't want anything to do with teaching anyone else's kids ever again. I can empathize. Even the part about not being a quitter...I'm just so thankful I was able to quit for something better, because that mentality alone would've made it so hard to leave.
Same… as a therapist I feel the same way. You see the machine behind the passion and it really sucks the life out of it. What did you end up doing instead?
@grumpyschnauzer I got pregnant, resigned on maternity leave, took my retirement distribution early, and plan on homeschooling. I've been very lucky my husband was able to find a way to double his income, so we could afford that. I never wanted to feel so bitter about teaching and so disgusted by other people's kids, but...burnout just leaves you feeling so used and manipulated.
I had the same. Taught philosophy and literature for some tears. And then after so much inpoliteness, agression, rudeness, entitlement I just felt: this is not for me.
I got out as well. Now lets heal.
@p382742937423y4 the healing part...I'm not even sure what that looks like beyond letting some time pass in my new life to get some distance from my old life. It's been 9 months since my last day of work...and I'm starting to feel less bitter than I felt while in it, but there's still this part of me that just wants to go off on all the reasons I quit.
Even after having gone through the OF experience and reaching an epiphany, she still doesn't "get it." She is a sex worker. It does not matter if she has changed her mind or decided to "stop." She is going to be a sex worker for the rest of her life with all that entails. The men she "meets" on OF are not the kind of men she would want in her life, but she has effectively limited herself to those men when it comes to potential partners. If she ever meets a decent man, and learns how to appreciate such a man, it will only underline what she has thrown away. Decent men, the kind of men who avoid OF, do not want to be associated with a sex worker.
All men have to deal with their sexuality, just as all women have to deal with their emotions. Those men who strive to live a moral life, those men who respect and appreciate women as people instead of sex objects, those men who make model husbands and fathers, _those men_ are not on OF.
"Sure, I hate my life.... but I'm no quitter!"
The female capacity for stubbornness and refusing accountability is incomprehensible
The sophistry of women is infinite.
The *human* capacity. Fixed that for you.
She still thinks little of her followers😅😅
@@calmexit6483 No. I had it right the first time
@@Britton_Thompson That's a shame. I thought you might be sharper.
We all have to live and learn from the decisions we make.
Most women should know that OF fans is a bad idea. They should need to live through it to learn from it. The best lessons you can learn are from other peoples mistakes.
most women are alergic to taking ownership of their own shyte decisions and tend to look for external reasons to hang the blame on. she made her bed. let her lay in it.
I just can't wrap my head around how someone can sell explicit photos/videos of them doing embarrassing things for money. These women are selling their souls for money. I feel really bad for these women. OF needs to stop.
If you are making 500 a day you think otherwise.
They never had a soul, and I don't feel bad for them. Stop treating them like victims, they're the drug dealers.
This woman didn’t learn anything . I saw her in another video and she said that she’s going to continue doing OF . The worst part is her calling the men who support her lifestyle disgusting. She’s the disgusting one for not taking accountability, she’s disgusting for having no self awareness and she’s the disgusting one for being a vapid narcissist.
right? she is disgusting herself by doing all those disgusting things but as always blames men for that. typical modern wymen with no accountability
That's such a shame. I was just about to commend her for putting out the reality out there to deter young women making the same decision only to see that she's still doing it. Like, what?? Obviously she must be one of the few making good money considering the majority average of OF "models" make less than $200 a month.
She said she was still going to do it in this video. She admitted it was because of pride and that she's no quitter.
I find it interesting how she tries to shame Men for having a sexual desire and paying her bills. She is just providing a service, nobody cares about her.
That would be the logical take right? We'd have to understand the root cause to stop this from becoming a pattern. When you're in deep all you can think about is how wrong this is. How wrong you are. Now there's something wrong with you too. You don't feel any different and you certainly don't think you can change because some of the thoughts likely going through her head are being damaged goods. Why bother changing if she doesn't believe she's better than this? That's how negative cycles loop you in.
At last someone had the guts to come out with the bitter truth time is the healer it will take some time but she will come out more stronger and thanks to you to bringing out such a good episode and hoping men too realise the respect they deserve
she wont. she is dead
I’m glad you figured out the thing about posting your friends opinions on video. It was very effective at illustrating the point but left those people vulnerable and attracted negative energy
So sad for this to even exist!
The way you refer to it as an "industry" like any other line of work or ecosystem of businesses, while still acknowledging that it is not healthy for the parties involved, is respectful and humanizing. It's easy to point fingers and belittle those involved, but you don't. Good video.
Edit: After reading some other comments, it does seem backwards to be judgmental of her customers. It is like opening a restaurant and being surprised when your customers act hangry.
What this girl really means is, 'I'm not making as much money on OF as I thought I would, so I'm quitting, but I'll blame it on male toxicity so I don't have to admit defeat.'
She keeps saying the phrase, "if I'm being honest"
IF is a big word.
Maybe she's not being honest at all. She just wants more money.
She's probably making a LOT of money from it. She has a unique and exotic look. But now she can't walk away from that easy income.
yeah, the first months when she was fresh and trending were amazing, now that the revenue stream is tiny she feels like a cheap w.... - as we all know, she's NOW ready to settle down.
I agree with your point about " Quitting." Her use of that term for moving past this stuff kind of knocked me back. A person who quits drugs and alcohol is not considered " a quitter." lol. Not in the normal sense of the word. It's not a character flaw to quit things that are destroying you.
I think this will soon resolve itself. I think we are months away from OF girls being able to cover their faces with AI filters that render them unrecognizable. I just saw a lip syncing demo which was still rough, but the rate this is improving is incredible. After that, the OF girl will be replaced with text prompts and AI. People can make their own prompts and see custom movies and have the models say exactly what they want.
Such a sad state our modern dating sphere is in.
Women disrespecting their own bodies for money online without understanding the consequences.
Men indulging in their lesser urges, wasting money on redundant things and pressuring women into sex work.
Educational systems that don't educate our youth properly on healthy relationships and sex.
Political agendas that aggravate all of the above issues.
Is a crazy world out there.
Yeahhhh, well…. Courtney isn’t the savior you think she is.
She married a multimillionaire after all. A goofy feminine multimillionaire….
"pressuring women into sex work...." ????? What are you talking about????
It's not the educational system to blame for teaching unhealthy and unrealistic relationships. Religious organizations deserve the bigger blame for their fantasy 'right' relationship that people cannot achieve then allow men to blame the woman for his failures. Also, the unrealistic relationship show on all TV and movies regardless of what side they come from.
It's good that women are becoming increasingly aware of these thing unfortunately she will need to live with it.
Thank you Courtney!
You are bold for bringing this to light. I’m wondering if there are young women who dislike that you put this on your channel.
The truth is that for one woman that regret, there are dozens who are happy with it riding on their Porsche, traveling and outsourcing their DMs to some dude in Asia and not dealing with all that tough messages! So it's easy money and everybody is happy in general.
See how naive I am! I never even thought that they may outsource their DMs to somebody else!
Someone at work told me that she's not your girlfriend because you are just renting her. She's not yours. It's just your turn. She belongs to the streets. In a way it's kind of true. The name girlfriend means temporary. She can leave you at any time just like a contract job. The employer can end your contract at any time.
I see someone watches Coach Greg Adams 😂
@@MarylandGuy-ey3st I don't know who that is. Lol
The same applies to wives. It's only your turn until they get bored or decide to monkey branch. They get paid to divorce their husbands. Marriage is only a commitment for men.
@@VideoGameRoom32I think you and him will agree on things if your original comment is anything to go off of