The irony is that most young women will absolutely choose a "toxic, narcissistic man" over a man who is emotionally available, a good communicator, and has similar values.
Thats true a lot of women I know who are good people (at least on paper) are going out with men whom have already cheated on them, are drunks, drug users & sellers, violent, abusive, etc. I think a lot of it is that these women believe that they can change these man-boys and treat the endeavor as their personal pet project. Meanwhile, good, nice, moral, responsible, working men and dare I say REAL men get looked over. I think it's also important to recognize that this has only happened within the past 30 odd years and only has occurred in western societies. No matter how one squares it, the fact is that modernity and western liberalism has led to a unique situation that has never existed before until now.
Its to do with the fact they have a hard time knowing what sort of love and attention they deserve or that its cool to be with a bad boy or... they feel safe with him because he seems tough. Not all girls are like that but it definitley does happen.
Who gives a shit? The only person who can make you feel happy and the best you can is YOU! I’m so tired of hearing my fellow men bitch about MULTIPLE women. Isn’t one girl breaking your heart enough to make you realize to live life for yourself? Goddamn.
@@wallaceahtone6149 Honestly? A lot of it has to do with upbringing. These women, while many of them are good, also have some problems too. Most of these women have daddy issues to a degree and chase after these toxic men BECAUSE they have traits of their own father. Not to mention that most of these good women aren't really good women at all. They're bad women with some good traits. The really good women who grow up in religious and traditional families tend to go for the good men. This has been going on since 1965 with the invention of Hormonal Birth Control and it really kicked off in the early 1990s with the rise of Third Wave Feminism, Neo-Modernity and the worst offender, Hollywood for molding people into these stereotypes.
I’ll tell you, women play hard to get way too strong. I’m not gonna become a psychic or a 7 figure entrepreneur to get my dream girl. More like a nightmare
I agree. As a woman I approve this message. Lol, I used to think playing hard to get was the answer but it’s not. It can attract and create super toxic dynamics. It’s better to be authentic
That's true . I was in a horrible toxic relationship. I took responsibility for it though..... because if I was healthy I would have never gone into a relationship like that so I've been working on myself how about you? Do you think you're unlucky ....or do you think there's something in you that attracted that toxic relationship?
Who says that being single means that you have to be lonely? Being single for me at least has been awesome, not a care in the world, just focused on me and my hobbies, and mates lmao
I am so glad that I am an old married man with a great wife and daughter in a happy home. Facing the challenge of dating in today's world would be daunting and ultimately depressing. No wonder the suicide rates are so high these days. Thanks for trying to help and give hope to others Courtney.
Bravo Paul you're blessed greatly. My amazing wife of 32 years went home to Jesus from Liver Cancer 1.5 years ago. Been a rough road - never dreamed I'd be dating or trying to at 58 years. It's sure not easy ! Not to diss divorced women but they're either so wounded or carrying baggage that most are morbidly emotionally unhealthy. The healthy & attractive (inner & outer beauty) ones are 95% already married (duh). So, appreciate what you have - none of us are guaranteed tomorrow. Gonna take a major miracle to find my #2. GOD has this. Just gotta be ready....
there's other reasons too. declining middle class, less collage enrollment (collage and uni has become a massive scam anyways) increased and heavier drug use...etc all of this impacts single young men with little to nothing to lose
I'm 37. I've spent the last 20 years devoting my life and following the dreams of my high school sweetheart. After 2 kids, a vasectomy and trying to give her everything she wanted, she dropped a bomb on me. She admitted that she never actually fell "in love" with me. I've spent the majority of my life following the dreams of a woman only for her to shut me out of mine. I'm a single dad now and focusing solely on my young boys and myself and I couldn't be happier.
The idea that if men " step up their game" all of a sudden all these women will materialize out of thin air ready for relationships is hilarious Does any of these people even understand supply and demand?
Unfortunately very few people understand supply and demand. This is hardly the only stupid thing we do or think because we don't understand it. They also don't understand that women actually DO care about looks, or that dating apps, by connecting people without a community, make it extremely easy for male models to have 8-10 girlfriends simultaneously.
Being single doesn't automatically equate to being "lonely." I'm single, and I don't feel lonely. I'm focusing on myself. I just graduated nursing school and started my first job at a major hospital. I'm still grieving the death of my mother who passed one year ago, right in the middle of the biggest break up (heart break) of my life to someone I'd been having feelings with since I was about 12 years old. Between the stress and strain of school, my mother being sick last year and finally passing away and the stress of that relationship, the last thing my brain or emotions can handle right now is the complications of all of these crazy standards women have these days. I won't waste my time on dating sites other than browsing to remind myself there are others out there. I never message anyone, just quietly browse and keep it moving. In my experience you stand a much better chance when a woman naturally gets a chance to know you and vice versa (church, work, school, neighbors etc) and you learn that there are characteristics about each other that you value such that you don't' put as much demand on some of the other more unrealistic things. Social media allows an image to be portrayed that creates these false standards and values. Anyway, I'm enjoying the freedom of not having to live up to these extreme expectations while I take time to rebuild myself and heal. My day will come. In the mean time...
Sorry to hear about your mom. On your last point, I said the same thing 20 years ago with the "in time" reminder but time goes by fast remember... and I'm still single. I've found dating most of the time now days is a waste of time. You're probably better off focusing on yourself and being happy that way.
Your not alone. I think this generation needs more men to understand how women and men actually behave and not go off of what media has planted in our minds. Its important to love at your fullest and in order to do that you must first learn to love yourself and give yourself the opportunity to heal from anything you have gone through in the past. Nature always finds itself returning to its natural balance and all we must do is learn and abide by nature itself so we can become the best and most capable version of ourselves.
Don’t forget; it’s not just finding a women who’s interested in you. It’s finding someone who is interested in you AND you are interested in them on multiple levels. I’ve had women interested in me but I didn’t feel compatible with them. Some people say I have high standards, but really what I’m looking for at a basic level is that “click,” that true feeling of connection. You have to feel it and they have to feel it. But beyond the “click,” they have to want the same things you want-not in everything! But definitely in terms of dating/a relationship. If they want to get married and have kids and you don’t, that could be a problem. If they want a long term partner who will protect them and always be there for them and need them and become their whole world, and you want a more casual, easy going thing, that could also be a problem. I guess what I’m saying is don’t bend over backwards (no pun intended) because finally, a woman is interested in you. You get to have standards too. And that might make it harder to find the “right” one, but it could just be that much better if/when you do meet her.
Give me a break. I’m a middle age former “chad” pulling in 200k year and I’m fit. What’s “available “ is feminist overweight entitled single moms who still believe they are the prize...
He anit struggling as a former Chad he just knows a quality woman when he sees one and all the ones that haven’t been ran through are the ones he mentioned 🤣
You are 100% correct. I've worked hard and have been fortunate to be successful. I'm 6' tall and scored a 9.2 on the photofeeler app. Zero debt, large home with an exotic in the garage. I've been single for years as most modern women are not only huge, they are also huge liabilities.
The reason why so many women took pleasure in the first article is because it’s a feminist’s dream. I noticed a lot of misandry which is very disappointing when women reacted to this article. The article is written in a social media pop psychology magazine. It’s not peer reviewed and it’s not a longitudinal study. It’s not a true academic article. It was written by a clinical psychologist with no academic Track Record per se. Seems like it’s just some sort of survey. I can assure you that women are pretty lonely as well and it’s because of women’s expectations and social media. There is too much of a divide between the sexes now. It’s done neither men or women any favours.
I think there's an article too in the same website called "Strategic singlehood of black women". I've nothing against them but it's basically the same thing as this article only they're applauding these women for "defying stereotypes" while in this article with men, they're blaming men for being lonely and single.
The guy who was quoted was also a couples therapist and his own evidence were the *couples* in his office, aged 20-45. No insight into the scores of single people who are single with any investigation as to why. The only reason this got any sort of traction online is that women always love having a stick to beat men with. But any sort of interrogation would see that this whole article is full of shit, and the second article is just “one of those people” broadcasting her hatred to a public sphere.
I can also testify that women are lonely too. And I often hear that the sea of male options they get on the apps is mostly douche bros you wouldn't want to be friends with after reading their intros. I have dates who gave up on the apps because of how toxic it feels for them to go through all the crap intros they get.
@@octoking9611 I bet there are lonely women too no doubt about it. But they way the medias are portraying it is the problem here. They're single, they are empowered not minding that they are lonely. Men are single and lonely, heh it's your fault. This creates a certain kind of tunnel vision for all of us... sadly
Met a girl who wanted to have everything. Being with me because of my personality, but also wanted to sleep around with someone else because they had the money, which I didn't. Took her of my life. Seeing how common it is for women to cheat, after talking to female coworkers, I've decided being single is the best option.
LazGato, the real problem is that most women are just very slutty nowadays unfortunately. And they just don't know how to commit to only one guy. Total low life losers that they always will be. Been there.
Go and improve your finances. You are not entitled to women hust because you are "nice". I am a woman and i am working on everything about me. I do not have time to entertain broke "nice" guys. I will not sponsor a relationship. I thought you men say you are leaders. You want to lead her into poverty?
@@Uke2405 chill with the "yOu'Re NoT eNtItLeD tO wOmEn", like come on, i hear this argument way too often and it's always used in the wrong context. just because he calls out some shitty behavior doesn't mean he thinks he's entitled to something
@ijeonu2405 Poverty at what levels? how much do they demand for the privilege of being with them? is this just turning into how can I buy loyalty, a prostitute will be loyal for enough money, shouldn't love have more meaning than finances? And the answer is men need to stop allowing women to dictate what they have to do when there is no appropriate reciprocation. Maybe being lonesome martyrs not basing our worth upon how much we produce but how we act and treat others. I know tribal people who have nothing but love, trailers yet they still love each other, is that wrong? are those women devaluing themselves by loving men who aren't making 6 figures?
@@Uke2405In a relationship the exchange is supposed to be time, intimacy, etc. If this guy's gf wanted to dump him she should have like a grown woman. Instead she cheated so she could be treated how she felt she deserved and used the bf as an emotional douche bag. Cheating is never excusable for anyone in Western society. We don't do scarlet letters or lashes anymore. Divorce like a grown adult then sleep around imo.
I've been married twice. The first cheated on me for 6 of the 8 years we were together. Chalk that one up to being naïve. The second one started great but then we had a kid and she lost all interest. I never felt more alone than when I was with her. She finally moved on after several years of couples counseling. Money well spent, right? Well now I'm older, been raked over the coals and have zero desire for marriage of any kind. I can be emotionally available to someone who has the capacity to show me that I matter to her on a regular basis, but beyond that there will be no more weddings. Being alone sucks. I fucking hate it. But that's still preferable to being locked up with someone who can toss my feelings aside whenever they feel like it and make you pay for that privilege. When my ex wives needed me I was there for them in their worst times. When I needed them they fucking vanished. Never again.
I feel your pain as I was married to my ex for 15 years and the last 3-5 years of the marriage was the worst. Felt abandoned emotionally when you give her everything you have, sacrifice your time to make her happy but nothing in return. I feel the same way about marriage, never again. Lots of time and money wasted
@@octoking9611 alot of men willingly get walked all over in relationships. many cannot set any kind of boundaries due to the fear of lack and being alone. that's all I am saying. I am not advocating for a war, nor looking for one. Quite the opposite
@@sleepsound3107 Right, then if that's what you're talking about, for sure these types of men should raise their standards. It's a turn off for anyone to be with a push over who wont speak their mind, friend or partner.
i concur, one of the many factors in this phenomenon is that high value men are willing to lower their standards for low value woman and for women its the opposite because of high value men, however for this to work a mass amount of men especially high value men (top 20%) need to stop dating lower value women, not saying that they should stop dating, just saying that people should start going for people their level however, the solvable is getting alpha males to act like sigma males and convincing low value men to not give in to desperation and giving women more attention and respecting their value
The long list of unrealistic expectations that a lot of these women have is the reason I gave up on dating apps. I like your channel, you have honest, solid, and subjective advice that is spot on. Not sleazy or unrealistic. I didn't come here becasue I NEED help, rather, I figured since I am single I might as well hear what you have to say. Glad i did.
The problem is that there was a reason why the dating apps were created: it's tough to have relationships outside of them. It can require years of personal effort and emotional suffering to get dates. Workplaces have been persona non-grata for decades. Old Fashioned dating worked, sort of, back in the 1920's to 1950's when men and women went to the same high school and college and found their spouse during those years. Dance halls were designed for people to be able to converse on the dance floor, tightly together, and then talk at tables while today the music blares at 80db continuously. You can join different activities but that only adds a few people at a time to your social circle that may not pan out. Women HATE dating apps because it loses their advantage that they can pretend to not be looking for a relationship (and therefore play harder to get) but at the same time, there are fewer men asking them out physically. So they get on them, get flooded with validation, and drop out hence few women are on them to actually get into relationships.
I wish we could all go back to the old days of courting in person and actually building real relationships with people. That way you're actually interacting with them in a natural setting and not judging based solely on looks and checklists.
Right totally agree. I do believe such a "Courtship" model still can be practiced, it's just more practical & prevalent in smaller sub-society groups. For example at my Evangelical church, amongst either the whole congregation or our smaller 'microchurch' Bible study group, I'm on the alert for potential ladies to Court (dating with Biblical guidelines). I'm 58 & widower 2 years ago, after 32 years of faithful marriage to an amazing lady. Also, its my "mindset" wherever I may find a lady, be it at Pickleball league or motorcycle touring, lol. Best wishes to ya !
@@psalm2forliberty577 Sorry that you lost your wife - it sounds like you two had a great marriage and true love. It’s great that you have your church community where you can find someone with aligned values. Having a positive mindset and enjoying your hobbies that involve people is honestly the best way to find a partner who can join you on your journey of life. Best wishes!
Time for men to write an article “Not a 10/10 super model? Women, it’s time you put in the work to become a super model so that average men will like you.”
I agree. These articles make it sound like men need to 'up our game', but since I have become single again, as Courtney said, a lot of women have 'unrealistic standards and expectations'. I don't want this to sound the wrong way, but it probably will- I've seen a LOT of women on dating sites, and in person that expect top shelf when they themselves are closer to bottom shelf. They don't 'up their game', they just seem to expect and act like they warrant a certain standard just because they are a woman. I know not all women are like this, but there seems to be a whole lot that are.
@@williambassett6962 plus, what incentive does a man have to up his game? I know it's hurtful for a lot of women to read, but the best versions of themselves are when they are younger (24ish), fitter, childless, and more easy-going. The women who make these standards tend to be older, out of shape, single mothers who have bad personalities. If a man put himself to be what these women want, he'll likely start aiming for younger and more attractive women.
“I think there a lot of men out there who aren’t trying.” Women: *Treat men like dirt for 40+ years* Men: *Stop bothering* Women: “Men aren’t trying anymore.”
I can almost see that. A lot of men tend to give up for 'stuff'. Let themselves go, blue pill up, and wonder why women aren't at their feet. They (myself included) should always be working at the self. Workout, eat right, read, learn, and maintain healthy habits. That way when, and I mean WHEN not if, you get rejected it doesn't affect you.
@@minabotieso6944 What? He even took the trouble to use colons, quote marks, and boldface! How much more effort can one put into a comment? You didn't even end your sentence with a period, ffs!
I really love the "if you are being horrible to a person trying to help you, then how are you going to fare against a person who is not" That's what I call hitting two birds with one stone. Way to go girl!
You hit the nail on the head about the top 2% of men many women go after: If they are going to get what they want anyway, why should they bother improving themselves? For those women that are willing to consider the “average” guys, ya’all can just work together on what’s important to you! My wife and I agreed long ago that taking care of our bodies is important to us, so we both work to keep up our health and appearance. I didn’t have the six pack when we met, but I’ve agreed to not let it become a keg either! It’s a teamwork thing.
I am one of those men not putting in any effort, and it's not because I want to play the victim, it's because the game women are playing is bullshit. It isn't fair, or honest, or interesting, plain and simple. I tried playing it for about 5 years straight and sunk into the deepest depression of my life because of it. Modern women have ludicrous standards; they are delusional, combative/disagreeable, self-centered, and repulsively promiscuous. Good women are extremely rare and I would just rather spend my time with friends/family than spend anymore of my life looking for a needle in a haystack while being shit on by cows.
Yup, as Courtney pointed out, most women today will totally write a guy off if he’s not over 6 foot, good looking, and rich. I find this to be especially funny when you find realize that 90% of these women are completely vile people once you get to know them
"Someone told me the other day that he felt bad for single people because they are lonely all the time. I told him that's not true. I'm single and i don't feel lonely. I take myself out to eat, buy myself clothes. I have a great time by myself. Once you know how to take care of yourself, company becomes an option and not a necessity " From Keanu Reeves obviously but it's really true. This quote got me evaluating things in my life. Lately, I've been having a great time on my own. I've had so many great and new adventures on my own.
I needed to read this. Recently severed ties with my ex after a few months of trying to remain friends. Told her I couldn't be around her without longing for physical affection. It felt hollow. I miss her but I think it's for the best. Anyway your comment reminded me that I can be ok my myself. I dont want to be needy and have a woman in my life to take the edge off loneliness. The connection should be genuine.
Amen to that. I too do similar things for self gratification. Plus a hobby...I have goals...no woman in mind either. I'd rather self gratification than external validation. I'm always happy, never lonely
Being single and being lonely are two different things, not everyone has a focused determination to make being with someone a priority in their lives and appreciate their freedom and privacy, and its also possible to be in a relationship and still feel alone (or worse) if you're with the wrong person. Most of the time when two people meet who are into each other, it wasn't intended or neither were looking for it anyway, they were just going about their day
@@josephkoval5434 its healthy to get a break to evaluate, its just getting used to not being around that person and thats usually the difficult part for anybody, like stopping a drug almost, though certaintly isn't "the end" of happiness or the last person you'll ever be with, and good that you are focusing on just living your life and not in a negative way
I was equally lonely in most of my relationships. I feel sorry for him being dependent on another human for happiness. I know what that’s like, and it’s no place to be.
People don't usually mention in these conversations how a lack of public spaces has made meeting people harder. If a town/city lacks viable options for single people to meet each other then a lack of romantic relationships is expected.
I know this video is old and you probably won't see this, but in response to the nasty and vile things some people say to you, I just want to say you're wonderful Courtney. Thank you for what you do :)
Neoliberalism did more to fuck it up than feminism to be honest. I fucking hate how everything is commodified including loneliness. What a fucking sick joke. Dating apps have the same business model as only fans except the content creators don't get the money.
I've this issue with online dating; most women are either NPCs or just want the attention till some one "better" comes along. The dating pool for 30+ is rough man.
The unacknowledged secret is that most women actually have terrible social skills and cannot even lead a conversation. They get by and appear "social" because of the massive Halo effect created by being a female.
Courtney, I agree with you 100%! The rise of social media has played a massive role in the steady decline in not only romantic relationships, but just healthy relationships in general. Once again, you are right on the money. Thanks again for sharing your insight. 🙏
Right! It isnt women's fault ... Let's blame Men!!! smDh !! I'm alone, wildly successful, retired VERY young Male who now Travel over half the year, wintering near a Cali beach resort town. I am ALONE, SINGLE .. but I am NOT lonely. ***Today's women are HORRID*** Feminism and now Post-Modernism has murdered the soul of women producing women who have literally zero in common with Honorable, and Graceful, and Kind humans... Why would I allow one of these "creatures" into my life? Answer: I won't America was once a successful and Liberty filled country, where Women had the most comfortable of lives and the Liberty to do as they pleased. America WAS better than other countries because of our Legal system, accountabilities, and Liberties... But now, thanks to the "forward thinking" of Baby Boomers and their Post Modernism script for America the women **have to work** must work and slave at jobs they dislike or even hate ... and (apparently) women must slut themselves out too. smh. Me, I pay no taxes, refusing to support the unfairness of "equity" -- which is the OPPOSITE of Equality. I refuse to support the Collective, specifically because it is the OPPOSITE of Volunteerism. Our forefathers created a "more perfect union" and Women (mostly women, using Marxism / Feminism / Leftism) destroyed it.. Men On Strike by Dr. Helen Smith explains why we will NOT participate while Marxists turn America into a 3rd world country. Women: You broke this, so YOU have to admit where you were wrong and FIX IT, because men can not undo the massive influence and power women have.. If you don't fix what you broke, this will be the end of a once fine country. Label me John MGTOW Galt, because I am enjoying the decline.
Courtney I just wanted to encourage you to keep doing what you do. I'm probably not in your typical target group (60 year old single male) but what you say resonates with someone even at my age. You are defiantly wise beyond your years. Some topics I already had knowledge of (painfully earned at times) and agree with. I have also learned a lot from you and I thank you for passing it on. I'm not actively trying to use these lessons to end my singleness but instead trying to better myself for my own peace. So again thank you. P.S. Guys listen to her even if you don't like what she's saying. Courtney really is trying to help
I really do wish there was help but it looks like women have just turned around and left us here and they really don't care. So The economy will continue to crash because there is no reward for the common working man. These things are not unrelated And we're not terrible people for being average Damn it.
Her level of understanding and consideration towards men is unbelievable, really pleased to see that women like Courtney still do exist, much appreciated.
@@IndranilHalder007 Dude she is a chick on the internet thirst trapping guys for subs. Men are so desperate for female approval, she is clever she knows it is a lucrative busines. If you cant see this, you miss many things and I would advice you stay away from women because they eat guys like you for breakfast.
There's also the Nice Guy Paradox that is rarely ever addressed. The men that will treat women right are usually very shy or introverted so the ones approaching women are the extroverted, loud guys but those are the same jerks women always complain about when they talk about men. So as you can see we end up in this vicious cycle that gets us nowhere.
So women should be encouraged to approach men to break the ice. Initiate contact. Since women are the gatekeepers of mate selection anyway, they should be the initiators. Since they are the mating arbiters, they should be burdened with the risk of rejection too. I saw one video where this was suggested. I love it when women have initiated contact with me. Most of my relationships have happened that way.
I think another problem is that nice guys (in the GENUINE sense of the word) who are kind, stable and reliable are often seen as a bit boring and milquetoast. It might seem counterintuitive for women to go for the sort of men who aren’t reliable or stable but those “bad boy” types probably do seem more fun to a lot of women. And that air of danger (and slight hint of psychopathy) can make them seem more exciting. I wasn’t the Bad Boy type in my teens or 20s at all but I think I understand the appeal they have to women.
As a woman, I have no issue with nice guys, I love them, the only problem is when there is a lack of attraction. If some is nice and you're attracted to them, there's no issue. When we aren't attracted to someone, they we blame it on nice when that's not the issue. For me, I like skinny, nerdy guys and there's no problem as long as I think he's cute.
As a man of this young generation, who remain single, I can admit, that its not about any standards at all. I was raised to be respectful, emotionally available with common values of family and so on, and till this day, when I'm 25 years old, being in the relationship market for 9 years, I remain single with 0 relationships behind. All girls, that I was trying to commit or even just to invite on a single date, preferred more rough men or said that I'm "too nice" or not interested, leaving me in their friendzone. So, its not about any standards, its just about lie to us, men, about how do women actually work, and, things are becoming better, since we have some statistics about homosexual marriages, and they show us, that modern women aren't able to maintain any relationships at all. So, good luck, girls. I'm quitting.
I get your frustration man, I really do.. Myself and many others feel the struggle as well. But please keep your heart open to the possibilities. You deserve peace of mind over anything else. All the best mate :)
@@newbiegain117 I see why its not working and to make it work I need to rebuild myself completely out of what teached me my parents, and this goal is technically achievable, but we also need to change marriage laws, and for me its totally impossible, because I have a lot of other interesting things to do, instead of pursuing the couchie
@@Liam-bi6lm yes, keeping mind open for new is a good thought, but, since I've raised by my parents with the rules how to live in 1990-s, it makes me unable to continue life in 2020-s, because everything changed, including abilities to make money and raising of a family. There is no way to get it back, and I have no desire to do so, so for me this new way began with giving up all that goals and ideas that was cultivated by my parents, school and older generations in general.
@@newbiegain117 disagree. Dating is rigged against men. And this man realizes that the return on investment in dating is a net negative in about 90 percent of cases for men. If you want men to continue to commit to a rat race just for female validation while women aren't even holding up their end of the bargain, you do that. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
We need to ban smartphones and all dating apps and we need to go back like it was 15 years ago. 15 years ago women were approaching. With an Italian background from Canada. I'm 55 years old, 5.10 average, never married and have no kids. I've given up on women. Today women are on their cell phones 24/7. No one talks face to face anymore. I can't wait till AI will be destroying women and only then will women be begging for men. I have my condo and money so I'll die with my money in peace with no drama. Today 80% of the women are insecure and toxic. Relationships are dead, it's all hookups now with high body counts. Women marry to control the marriage so married men end up cheating or being stuck in sexless marriage. Marriage brings nothing for the men. I guess I'm off the market anyway for being average.
@@hkchan1339 There was a video a while back about this. A guy put up a chart of women, with "hot," on the x-axis, and "crazy," on the y-axis. Most informative. 😃
Historically, the main places you meet a partner are immediate community(friends, church, school, hobbies, etc), and in the workplace. We've all but killed most of our "communities", and we run the risk of termination at work. Not worth the risk unless there is genuine attraction between both parties.
what exactly is driving women to being so selective these days? Because selective women get horny too, and are certainly not going without dick. It could be that women are getting validation and sexual satisfaction simply by holding a smartphone app in one hand while holding a vibrator in the other. Also, we have the top 1% of men taking advantage of dating apps and burning through the women on these apps at the expense of the bottom 99%.
As a 68-year-old man, I can tell you that the dating situation hasn’t gotten any better as I’ve gotten older. Many women still have extensive laundry lists of requirements even in their 60’s. Keep in mind, that 90% of these women are fairly recently divorced. In my case I’ve been divorced for 30 years. Ladies, you are eliminating the majority of potential dates with your list of requirements/expectations before we’ve even met and had lunch.
@@arthurmorgan2906 We all get old and become decrepit even men, so women are still attractive to men the same age don't worry about that, you will learn if you make it to crappy oldness. Having said that he's absolutely correct, I have talked to men in my age group - men I meet in my industry and they all have the same story women in their 50+ 60+ have extensive lists of demands of what they want from men. I am sure those dating app women are a small group of women, however, they and online dating are best avoided and any women with a list should be bypassed and not seen as a challenge. The best thing, to do, is to do your own thing and keep an open mind, one day the fates may be kind and a compatible woman may cross your path, if not you get to live your own life - don't diss on women or waste any energy moaning about what women may or may not do, just move along accept reality and have a fun and meaningful life. There is a world of exciting stuff out there that does not involve smashing your head into concrete dating apps every night, it is what it is.
I myself have not met the expectations of any woman I asked out on a date. They’ve always been nice and polite about it but the underlying message was always, “you’re not what I’m looking for”. I went about 8yrs not dating, went on one date with a girl and same story. Really starts to get to you and the thought of always being alone and never being good enough is almost unbearable.
That's what I used to hear when I was still dating. I have the three 6's, so when girls would decline a 2nd date they'd say "you're too far, not the right political party, not the correct religion, not a dog person, not the right job" etc etc. their list of must-haves is a mile long
@@danothin9137 it's seems Iike your a good looking nice guy. Is that accurate? If so, I was that too. Have you ever heard the saying "you can do anything you want to a girl except bore her"? If that's the case drop the "nice guy" mentality, and have some edge to yourself when speaking to women. Best of luck.
@@timothysalinas37 Yep that’s me. I’m a sincere guy and an introvert. I believe I’ve been working on the best version of myself for years I just tell myself I haven’t met the right one yet but I feel afraid to put myself out there anymore because idk if I could handle being told I’m not good snobby again
I actually feel like the ones I showed my more emotional side to, really tried to communicate and really gave attention to the relationship with, showered them with little treats they liked, ran away the fastest. The girls I've found have literally treated me like the stereotypical man lol. The more I've shown I want to be committed to them the faster they ran away. So I definitely feel like women can be just as shallow as men.
Women who won’t appreciate the emotional side of a man, are women who are emotional unavailable themselves!!! Don’t change!!! Remain the person you are , y will find your match. Best of luck
@@Kristi012 I know you're coming from a good place, but this is absolutely the worst advice you can give to a man. Women don't even understand themselves. You are instinctively disgusted by emotional men. Don't spread false information that further hurt men by encouraging them to be emotional. That will only cause them more suffering. Men must learn stoicism. That is the only path to masculinity.
@@vecterI believe in honest communication and respectfulness between men and women. It’s nice to be appreciated for showing interest, that is why I wouldn’t suggest for men to hide their emotions. But, then again, since you’re a man you must know better than me😄. I appreciate your answer! Hopefully it helps anyone who reads it!!!
I feel it is simple: In the last 4 or 5 years of dating it has become a death sentence to the relationship if I ever dare to hold the woman I am seeing accountable for something she has said or done. As long as I never do that then she is totally happy with me.
The independent article was a horribly bad argument. She goes on about all the lonely men (not selected men) then cites the feedback of all her girlfriend's dating experiences (selected men) on how they are all douchy, and emotionally unavailable. No sweetie. The men you are dating have options, so when you swipe right on them and are eager to date him, he comes at you with " who are you, again?' this is not the deomgraphic of men who are lonely, and have no relationships. It's the 50 men you swiped left on to get to your date
Had a girl tell me on a date that she wants the guy to court her, buy her flowers, that she’s old school, believes the woman should raise children and the men be the provider.. then she proceeded to tell me she sees another guy only when she’s horny and wants to fuck, that she talked to her sister about fucking her step brother, or that she flew 1000 miles to fuck a guy… (literal words)… Basically, translated, it’s more or less like this “I want everything but not only have I nothing to offer, but I can afford to be here, say those things, and you can’t do anything about it because I have so many options”…. Totally disgusted by most
Problem is women dont mind being held accountable when they are with an attractive toxic looking guy. They just have a problem when the guy is an average looking guy.
All those women who nodded their head to that article demanding men up their game BETTER REALISE that as soon as they hit 40 they'll be experiencing the female version of it. It's easy, to lecture others, when you've never experienced it.
@D Murphy Thank you. As soon as a man wrote the original article it was only a matter of time until insecure women came out an articles to try and make themselves into a victim. All of this proves how much equality is garbage.
@@sumairshirazi I don't think this is a gender or sex issue. It's all down to a society which has become age and image obsessed. Bare in mind, our society, sells fruit after sorting perfect looking fruit from the less than perfect looking fruit. This is the same society, where women and men on Instagram, fake EVERY SINGLE ONE of their pictures just to look perfect. Anyone upping their game won't change the fact they'll be rejected no matter how 'perfect' they look.
Well people often think leaving is taking accountability. People question themselves, why am I not content and happy with the relationship. But here's a thought. If you would not give into superficiality and put in effort, you would be happy and content. People twist truths, completely overlooking every good aspect of a person and tunnel vision in on the insignificant "bad." And the if the person makes continuous growth and supports you, patience goes a long way. Comparing people to others creates unrealistic standards. Your person signed up to serve you, willing to put in effort for your standards only. Winning the genetic lottery is nice, but if your preference is on the surface and they don't value you enough to be with you. Says a lot about lack of self-love.
That’s white people for ya when you give them stuff and don’t educate them what colonialism gave them privilege and status and wealth and power and feel entitled to everything they touch or do 😂💀🤡
Thank you Courtney. Enlightening as always. The more I watch the more I get convinced that relationships are a big toxic waste of time. Guys are better off having friends with benefits, no strings attached. Learn to love and better ourselves. That is the real problem for SOME guys these days, not loving themselves.
Thank you for your kind approach when dealing with men’s issues. In my experience it seems difficult for men to speak about challenges we are facing without facing backlash, skepticism, and ridicule. Your posture here is very appreciated.
The same women who demand to be equal to men are the SAME who magically drop that attitude as soon as men ask to be treated EQUALLY. Modern feminism is full of women who LOVE to preach and be congratulated but have COMPLETELY forgotten "Deeds not words".
I know right??? Like woman these days don’t realize that men are deprived of attention and intimacy and say things like “why do men think they are entitled to our bodies and company” and I’m like “same way women feel entitled and depend on men for protection, money, and status, men and women have different needs and thanks to this modern feminist culture women think they down men anything, but want the man to do everything, relationships are all about give and take”
Or you can also just date someone who believes in having rights without being an extremist. Most feminist women are not crazy and they would probably agree with you. I met a lot of feminists and none of them are like the one you describe.
@@octoking9611 Women are also women. Not everything in their life has to be about feminism. Modern feminism is not about empowering women because it's too political and corporate. And your experience isn't mine. And vice a versa.
@@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw Modern women and feminism is behaving like the male dominated society feminism was a reaction to. Never listening. Being dismissive of the men's feelings. Making men go their own way. Women did exactly the same, quite rightly, when they realised they were getting a shitty deal. Apply it to any group and you'd get the same result.
Sometimes you can only work on yourself so much. I’d never want my other half to be perfect in every way. Dating is like a puzzle when you put your pieces with hers and become one amazing couple. You complete the other person where they may not be strong at. We have to stop putting such high expectations for the other person to someone. I find it more attractive when the other person shares life’s struggles and shortcomings and how they’ve grown through the hard times.
Hence opposites attract. If your a stress head you trait you admire in your partner may be they are laid back. It’s good to have things in common but the most attractive trait in your partner is the trait often what you wish you were.
Nicely said. Our western society has forgotten people are people. Social media and technology has done a fair amount of damage to how we treat and view people. Faults and flaws are vital to a person's development. Without them no one grows or evolves. Plus, perfection is boring. There's nothing to engage.
You are right on target as usual Courtney! I'm also appalled that people are writing terrible comments on your videos. You give great advice and I've heard nothing but kindness coming from you. I think you're great!
When society tells us that our behavior is “toxic” without addressing the other side of the coin, then it makes sense why men would be backing away from relationships. The double standard is real.
I applaud this woman for calling out the whole "emotionally available" BS that "studies" float out there. There are a lot of single lonely women too. I am newly single guy at 40 and I can tell you from the women I know that are over 30, the big thing is they have really, really, really unrealistic expectations about LOOKS and WEALTH. Women over 30 used understand guys their age do not look like underwear models anymore, but not today. I do not know if it is dating apps where they maybe get attention from a really good looking, young guy that makes them think they can "have it all" or what. But I cannot remember another time where so many women in their 30's and 40's seem to want only rich tall handsome guys with swimmer's bodies. The last woman I dated is in her mid 30's and her last BF was a 26 year old model. (she is very good looking) And she was shattered that he did not want to settle down and have kids with her..seriously. I was just baffled at this. Guys over 30 lose their metabolism, they work, they do not have the time to get ripped. Plus, doing anything too hard on your back and knees is painful and takes forever to recover. Most 50 year olds are not Tom Brady, yet woman seem to think that should be the norm. And yeah, I have some money, but I am not an internet billionaire and a lot of women seem to think that at 40 you should be able to drop everything and take a $30000 vacation to Fiji with them. Women 30 years ago did not act that way. They wanted a stable guy who provided who treated them well. That is not good enough for older women anymore. They seem to have kept the attitude of when they were 21, and that is toxic. And then they post sad social media posts about how they "can't find anybody". Yes, they could, literally find a good guy tomorrow, but they all want the 1% guy. That is a prescription for loneliness.
I mean, it's totally understandable. Any attractive woman is going have SO many guys in their dm's. It takes a strong character to not go for the bigger, better deal all the time. Social media and OLD in particular are hypergamy on steroids for some women. If she's well over 30, attractive and still on OLD that's can be the Red Flag right there. she could have ejected when younger for the right guy but if you stay on the CC for too long she becomes ad-dick-ted and she's never going to settle because the guy she's looking for is an amalgam of all the best things in guys she dated in the past. That guy simply doesn't exist or if he does he's so high-value he's nailing 20-25 girls and she's just an after thought. Honestly, as a newly single guy at 40 I'd be shooting younger. You want that girl before she's jaded also. Start hitting up 22+ yo girls looking for a mature man. They're out there and will be a lot less trouble than Ms 30+ "don't need a man but I want a man".
Yeah this is one of the best videos I've seen. Extraordinary amount of truth telling throughout this video. I appreciate this coming from a women's point of view. Thank you for uploading!
Shahid - couldn’t agree more! I’m not going to do the “men need to…” thing. I am responsible for me and becoming the best man I can become. A never ending path. @Courtney - appreciate your perspectives and content.
The problem is unless your unpredictable or unavailable you won’t be seen as a potential challenge. Once people figure you out they lose interest really quick and then line up the next person.
Last weekend a girl picked me out of a group at a bar for pool with her friends. I was killing it but on the 8 ball, I sunk it but scratched at the same time and lost it for us. She instantly went cold on me. Later at another bar I walked up to her and mentioned how the last shot really fucked it up between us and she agreed. Literally a scratch shot disqualified me to her. That is what we are up against.
Courtney you are the older sister and best friend many of us don’t have. You are a high value women creating quality content. We appreciate you and your advice. 🤗
Hey Courtney! I’m an extremely introverted male here with no interest in having a girlfriend or marriage at all. I subscribe to your channel because you help keep me aware of the world I’m living in but to be honest, I’m apathetic to it. I see your channel as a resource for my own self help. I value the insight you provide because it helps me to understand others and myself better. I love how you cut through the superficial entanglements of people and address the substantive issues that truly matter. I also love your perspectives and want to thank you for being you! This was another awesome video! Thanks!
It's so refreshing to hear from a woman like Courtney say that the current relationship challenges are not all the men's fault. I think what she says is spot on. I am so grateful for Courtney and her channel.
Straight women are messed up too. We all need therapy to address our traumas, a plan to address them, self-love and practice being honest about our wants, needs and dating intentions. What we end up with are manipulative psychological dating ‘tricks’ because we are all collectively so damaged and untrusting of each other and we sink deeper into a hole of mutual resentment. It’s pathetic. We’re adults.
Online dating has made the dating world into a "free market", it is no surprise that something as beautiful as the search for love starts looking like the cutthroat way companies do their business
@@FirsToStrike So what would you prefer? Creating the Federal Dating and Romance Department so you can have a mate picked for you? This sh!tty situation is no one's fault but the people involved in the dating market. This includes men as well.
@@bobleglob162 bunching all men up is stupid likewise bunching up all women. not everyone of the same gender dates the same way, has the same conditions (the difference in dating experience of average women and fairly ugly women is immense), and looks for the same thing. But online certain narratives have been established that try to minimize nuance and "tell you how it is". I think if people went back to irl dating things would be better, and thats only possible if we encourage decent men to start talking to women irl
Being ALONE and being LONELY aren’t the same thing I’m objectively much more alone than I have been since in I deleted social media But oddly enough I feel better being alone than I have in ages, I may make a video reply to this to go deeper on this
A lot of what she talked about is the reason I deleted social media. I want to find a quality woman but the first test of that is humility and that's an automatic disqualifier for the modern mindset seems like.
The problem is that women now are all 10s and no longer can be average, and it’s impossible to shame women the way they shame us. Prior to social media/dating apps men didn’t have trouble getting women on their looks/economic level. But now, it’s near impossible to find a HUMBLE, level headed woman who’s realistic about what her actual options are given where she is visually/mentally/economically.
And Ffs there's a whole Reddit thread attacking "nice guys" by femmos and soon as you try to put in your 2cents worth, you are banned!! Imagine a men's thread attacking women like they do men with such vitriol? Would be taken down in the first day!..
I am a lonely single man of 23 and I have learned to be my own compliment. People look at me in a weird way but they need others to feel fullfilment while me in solitude had incorporate it into my daily basis. I feel free and calm☺️❤️
That's all that matters because people don't understand that self-esteem comes from the self and not society. If you know who you are and what you are capable, and you also like yourself, that puts you far above the majority of people out there
@@LatimusChadimus 100% agree with any of the words you said you such a wise man and that's so true, the fact that self steem came with the love and care for self and not from others cause love is something who born inside one person and if you just receve it you are not feelling it in your being.
@@alonsoquirosgranados7568 haha its a tough road. If you focus on building yourself and your character you will gain more from that than you will from a women. Learn from all you relationships and friendships. Good and Bad and All your struggles You will long for that connection with someone, it will make you feel so broken and defective and unlovable. But i will tell you, to focus on YOUR mission. I might not get a silverlining in my life, but i can still be a positive influence to the peoples lives I touch, and if I can make anyones life, just a little better, or make someone see things different, and to introduce people to biblical ideas. Then maybe thats just the plan God has for me. Maybe I do stay single....but what I do is more important to God then my fleshly needs. Best of Luck in your walk Hopefully you dont go through liver failure like I did.😅
This channel in general is a huge testament to how amazing my girlfriend really is. I’m a 5’ 10” $50k/year construction worker and she loves me for who I am. I really do consider myself lucky, even more so after watching these videos. This dating market is just lies and double standards, but I know for a fact that not all women are like that. Good luck
@@meisterchlerp3771 I like to think so. I’m not overweight, but I’m no Chris Hemsworth either. 5’ 10” 150 lbs white dude with blonde hair and a farmers’ tan.
I'm 24 years of age never been in a relationship and I became immune to loneliness you can be a good communicator but at the end a man will never be enough for a women.
Not entirely, it depends on how much security and how enthralling you are to her because women are extraordinarily insecure and a lot of them lack personality and substance and if you can be that for them a lot of the times they will follow you around for years. Although as soon as you validate them a lot of them do turn away but that is because of the mental health issues the internet and feminism are breeding
@@fischersfritz468 yeah I'm the same as them and I know this isn't sustainable that's why I'm starting to enhance the communities around me so at the very least I have some network in the future
I'm in my mid 30s, single, never been married, no kids, good job, live alone, no debt, and paid my cars with cash.. and I've been single for 15 years. A gave up a few years ago, but I try again every now and again. However, the bad attitudes, always having their face buried in their phone, and lack of communication skills made me think maybe I'm just not what modern women are looking for. It's too bad, I would've made a good husband and father. Love the content Courtney, hope it helps fellas who still got a chance!
Really good video. So glad to see a woman who understands and tries to understand the struggle men have these days. Honestly its so brutal out there for the "standard" man
"garbage men" let that sink in, that's how a lot of women actually view the average guy who isn't making 6 figures and frequenting the gym, the regular guy. i may not be necessarily impressed with every woman i know or see, but i don't think i've ever thought of any of them as garbage
there are plenty of garbage humans, usually need to listen to them talk for a bit before you can sort them into that bin though since not everything can be judged by face value
It's called gaslighting and it happens to men more. Men end up going through a relationship doubting their ability to make quality decisions. Then, after the relationship is prematurely ended due on her part, she takes everything. No wonder men are lonely and more depressed.
Two toxic messages that are being brain fed to women that need to be corrected: 1. Every woman is a 10/10 2. Every woman deserves the very best I am sure the writers of the article wouldn't mention these as possible causes for men and women's loneliness and depression. Bravo Courtney for such a great video and being so honest and wise in your views 👏👏🙏 Hoping that more men and women watch and learn from your videos
Was talking to a girl the other day and she was like “you’re telling me ugly women don’t deserve handsome guys”.. I am truly shocked at the sense of entitlement and lack of accountability most show in the dating process, especially
Sarakartraining: I'm shocked at your comment!? I know you think that you actually sound smart, saying such a stupid & toxic thing!....But I hate to break it to you bud.... ALL Men and Women should see/believe that they are a 10 out of 10 and if the "very best" represents a good looking, healthy and overall trustworthy decent person... Then hopefully they would likewise believe and therefore strive for the very best in anyone that they are considering committing too in a relationship!? The problem that you (and many other people on here have) is somewhere along the way... you convinced yourself that you are entitled to something!? The truth is, no one owes you anything!!! Just because you have a need or desire (because your lonely, horny, attracted to someone or whatever) doesn't mean that they are responsible for accommodating your need or desire! And to think so or worse, actually get mad when they don't.... say's a lot more about you then it does about them!
@@jw4245 it's not stupid or toxic, believing that you're somehow a 10, then you're perfect then that's hype up you ego and think you deserve every man, and they live in unrealistic lives, that's why it's not good to think like that, people need to be humble but also confident in themselves with good reasons, and constantly improve, but thinking you're a 10 and you deserve everything when realistically you're not , is some of self-entitlement that women have .
@@gianmarcocovi4983 Wow, the levels of delusion have gone to such heights 😂😂. Your second sentence is a very powerful message for both genders. Never approach dating with a sense of entitlement and always work on self improvement to attract and keep good partners
"be what you want to attract" is a great summation. work on yourself and be the best version of you. when you become that, the confidence you will have in yourself will help you realize your dream girl is not one of these toxic social media types anyway, and you will start to meet the quality women you seek. i.e. don't blame the fish - use the right bait, the right equipment, and fish in the right pond.... not sure why this popped up in my feed, but interesting channel Courtney. good luck with it.
Ok, so I'm slim, financially secure, not desperately addicted to social media validation and constantly staring at my phone, have interests that go beyond taking pouting selfies and shopping, no kids due to bad decisions I made in the past, own my home outright, can cook well and keep a clean tidy environment, enjoy quiet time and don't need to be constantly entertained, not sexually needy in fact I'm almost 4 years celibate it means that little to me, can repair and build things, play musical instruments, not addicted to drink/drugs, no cluster B mental issues. I'm pretty happy with who I am... So where's my female equivalent then? I'd settle for one that had half my list ticked.
I’ve left the dating market. To much bullshit. It’s actually more rewarding focusing on my life and passions, working out, more focus at work, gardening, reading, learning. Much better than playing a game.
There's way too many factors as to why men are more lonely than ever, but to suggest that it all lies on the shoulders of men is just disingenuous and pathetic. Instead of offering up solutions or ways to cure said loneliness, you have an article essentially saying that men must "lEveL uP" and meet women's standards and this is one of the roots of the issue. All this talk about being "emotionally available" usually comes from women who can do it themselves.
Imagine if this was the other way around; men blaming women. The article would be shut down and ridiculed to hell and would likely never even see the light of day.
It's unbelievable how shallow and unrealistic so many women have become. Why would any man want to deal with these expectations when there's already so much societal pressure on them. It's no wonder they are going they're own way and most of the time choosing to be single and happy. And for the record, just because you're single doesn't mean you're lonely.
Thank you for covering this topic as a female TH-camr. There is a lot of hate towards men and dating. I truly believe most men are considerate guys who just want to find someone who invests energy into dating as well.
I absolutely love your videos Courtney, you have help me see many things that I did not noticed about myself and the dating environment, thank you and keep up the good work!
Me personally. I’ve been the happiest for a long time been single. Focused on myself building career , lifestyle , house proud and investing in my self ( trainning, making money). I went to a friends wedding the other week and found myself very energy drained from the whole day. I enjoyed myself for sure but I was glad to get the day done. Many beautiful women there who where available but I didn’t have to urge to approach. I think I’ve gone down the single road for so long that I’m lost in the enjoyment of it and don’t want anyone to halt my progress. I know people call me weird as I’m constantly on the go and never relaxing. But when my brain in moving so quickly relaxing is for when I sleeping. I’ve had some experience with women ghosting , wasting my time or even stood up. To the point where I don’t even given them a thought yet they try and get back into my life. Once you done that to me the respect is gone and I respect myself way more. So when i ghost I’m the worst person. Hence social media is deactivated for me. This TH-cam is the only interaction I have to people outside my life/ work.
Courtney you are GREAT. Thank you for making these insightful, articulate, and respectful videos sharing your wisdom. I'm finding them very helpful, and I think that ALL single people would benefit from hearing the points that you make so eloquently.
Courtney, your content is genuine, sincere and accurate. Everything about this channel is wholesome and good. There is absolutely nothing to criticize. You are a wonderful spokeswoman for this content. Whoever “bashes” you (man or woman) for your content should be ashamed of themselves and banned from this channel.
I will I will agree with you here. I don't get why people are so obsessed with super tall men and I've seen several TH-cam videos girls talking about how they have to be over 6 ft something and I always had no issues with any height back when I was dating. My height shorter taller didn't matter to me, because I'm an individualist and I just noticed the unique person not their physical attributes per se. But I see that it's become a trend with young women today and it's just weird so I get you on that one.
I don't see a lot of "lonely" men, but I do see a lot of men who have just quit caring about trying to please or impress women. Men are better suited to living a more solitary life. What I see a lot of are women in their 30's and 40's who are desperate and anxious about ending up alone with a herd of cats or being single moms forever. Feminism and the delusion of women all thinking they are 10's is leading to a lot of wine moms and ranting on social media. Men want women, but women need men. If you doubt this see who every woman calls when the air conditioning breaks, or the car won't start, or pretty much anything that requires something more than a smart phone.
thats the thing and because men make a society that meet a lot of their needs from men indirectly they think men as disposable or not important until its too late, mhh lul I want this to continue the more bitter and unhappy people in the west is proper punishment and suffering for their delusions and willful ignorance lmao this is just a minor symptom of greater problems in them western countries.
What defines "lonely?" I'm a mid 50's single man who would rather be alone than to go out on a limb for the (romantic) companionship of a woman. I'm divorced because of a woman who couldn't deal with a "midlife crisis" (that term is debatable). You spend a large portion of your life working, setting up your spouse for financial security in case of your earlier than her departure from this earth. You treat them like a queen and hope she never wants for anything. You give her "me time" while spending a lot of time listening during "our time." I'm not a model, but I'm of average weight (within military standards), I dress fashionably, and I still have all my own (white) teeth and (salt/pepper) hair. Then one day out of the blue she says, "you've treated me great; you've given me everything I wanted, and I love you. But I don't want to be married to you anymore." Once the divorce was final and people asked her what happened, she commonly replied "he didn't do anything wrong. It was all me." So... "Lonely men?" Not me. Before I'd ever trust another woman again, I'd deep clean my ears with an ice pick. I'd rather die alone. In case you can't tell, I've developed trust issues and a sour attitude, but not towards everybody. I still enjoy the entertainment of your videos. This is my first comment, I think. Most of the time I just watch and tell you how wrong you are. 😊 But it's all in good fun. 👍 Keep up the good work.
Hang in there! When it comes to women, no man is truly safe in this war. I seen guys that abused women mentally and sometimes Physically (my dad) yet she treated him like a king and they're still together now for over 35 years. My mom for being in her late 50s. Looks better than most women in there 40s. My dad however, let himself go. Makes no sense, but that's women for ya.
Do you know what you did right with your life? I'll tell you. Everything. You, unfortunately, did everything right in a society in which the government not only gives women financial incentive to ruin your life, but a government that promotes and celebrates her for doing so. I wish you the best as you rebuild your fortune.
Well when scores of men will convince a 2 and a 4 that they are as attractive as an 8 or 9, you get extreme rejection and extreme entitlement. Simps and the dilution of social media is not only causing mental health problems but it is causing dating market problems. As a guy above an 8 I'm fine with 6s &7s. Pleasant, above average, kindly. "A pleasant 7 will always be better than a bishhy 9," remember that fellas
To be honest, I only date women that are around a general 6 or 7. They might not be the "hottest" girl around, but they're usually much better people, much more compatible partners, and more loyal as well.
Around my social circles it's common to hear women say no man is worth it. And they expect us to agree. Actually that phrase you said "not all man do that" has become a joke in their mouths. So it's nice to hear it from a woman. I wish more women watched your channel, Courtney.
An average looking woman can get a 100 matches a day on tinder, likely gets approached at least a few times a month irl, and she will pay attention to the one guy treating her like garbage and making her feel like shit. What does this tell men? Treat her like garbage and make her feel like shit if you don't want to be lonely and have your basic needs met. People wonder why Andrew tate exploded on the internet that is why. Why is it that every woman I've gone out with this year has an abusive past with some ex boyfriend even tho it's so easy for you to find a new man the second he's an asshole to you
@@octoking9611 No, I believe it's a majority of women idk where you live but you're lucky to have good women that won't hit up a Chad or Tyrone near you. Then complain about needing a guy that won't cheat on her or treat her badly. When loads of nice guys would love to but can't because your "not enough for her" It's happen to me time and time again this is why I'm 23 turning 24 still single and because of that Chad or Tyrone. They also sometimes turn lesbian and say "I don't go for guys anymore" either that or they have expectations that the guy can't control like their height "oh your to short". For me personally I feel like I have to try way too hard and put a ton of effort into someone only for them to say no. Then they get mad thinking you're trying to manipulate them. When you tell them you're depressed they think it's because of them, but it not you've just been hurt time and time again. They give you some kind of some kinda speech say man up you'll find someone like they understand what I've been going through. Like "I've been single once too! Get over it man up" when they literally have Chads and Nice guys alike all lined up. These are just some of the thoughts and experiences I have bottled up and cause no one can have an opinion or civilized conversation between peers nowadays without backlash or being looked at as a bad person.
Dude, idk how I hadn't come across your channel until yesterday. Your content is SO GOOD! It's nice to receive some validation for the struggles of men in the modern dating sphere, but I also love how you hold us accountable as well and motivate men to take better care of themselves and make sure they're doing everything they can to level up in all this craziness.
Bob Edwards -- The next time someone tells you that "a plain reading of scripture" commands, "wives submit to your husbands," feel free to show them this photo. It's a "plain reading" of Ephesians 5:22 from our oldest available Greek manuscript. And no, the word "submit" is not there. There is a place just above what is now labeled verse 22, where every Christian that is filled with the Holy Spirit will demonstrate this by "submitting one to another out of reverence for Christ," but this by no means applies exclusively to wives or women. Every follower of Jesus Christ will demonstrate the presence of God's Spirit in their lives by showing the same kind of love and humility one to another that Christ modeled for us. That, I believe, is a more faithful "plain reading of Scripture."
Oh my god, you are really, really good at this. I don't know your educational background or career background, but this is your calling. You should have a talk show. I've never seen a young lady who is so spot on in her assessments and evaluations, as well as her ability to articulate a point to where her audience can plainly understand her. I stumbled on your channel and I'm very impressed. This is where you belong. Thanks, I'll show myself out.
Just because someone is single doesn't mean they're lonely. And just because someone is married doesn't mean they are not lonely. Someone said to a friend of mine who was planning to divorce her husband "It's better to be single and looking to that right relationship than to be married and looking for a way out of a bad relationship".
Don't hand me that crap! Both the man and woman are MARRIED! That means they've found which one works out the best for them, gone on the right amount of dates. However, if you are mentally "challenged", like me, it's a hell of a lot harder to get somebody to date..
The wench that plans to divorce her husband is still thinking she's young; if she divorces her hubby she'll be in for a serious wake up call; no man wants old used up a$$........
It’s just better to be single. Honestly. Women don’t know what they want. Sorry I’m wrong, they always want something better because they’re never happy. There is literally nothing in marriage for men. It’s a fools paradise.
Here’s a fact for you to consider, life is simple, women make it complicated. A lot of men do not want any more complications than they already have to deal with. One other issue is the MeToo movement, most men won’t even acknowledge a woman much less talk to her. It’s simply not worth the time or effort. In closing, marriage is yet another issue, why would any man get married? The State has control of everything in a divorce, which absolutely favors the woman. These are three valid reasons the topic you’re covering is a moot issue.
Amen brother Bob. The only thing the feminist movement did, is ruin the lives of women. At no other time in history have women been more equal to men, yet their unhappiness is at all time highs. Just good the statistics of women's depression and sadness. Even Courtney admits that woman have the advantage of choice. And with this abundance of choice, they are still the most depressed they've ever been. The article Courtney is reading says "men are lonely and sad", yet it's really the wen that are. They are trying to be strong and independent, but yet they still want a man. Jokes on them. The more men they drive on to being alone, the more unhappy they will be.
I always find it incredibly hypocritical when hear these SAME arguments from women I know in my life (It's mens' fault because they are emotionally immature, don't have good values, etc etc.) - then I offer them male friends I know whom I think are good catches and have those values that would geta long with those women - and I'm met with the same tired responses "well...he's just not my type....well...I don't like red-heads....well his teeth are a little crooked....well he's only 5 foot 10 and I prefer 6 feet".
@@JesusChrist5000 No, it's primarily physical reasons in my case. They have not even met the guy. game is not the big mover everyone thinks it is. it's required, but so it a baseline physical attractiveness. A guy with good looks and good game = killer A guy with average looks and good game = can also do well a guy with below average looks and good game = will struggle immensely. The problem is most women catagorize most men as below average
@@psychosylocibin exactly. They have not met the guy yet, but are making a determination based purely on looks. And they assume since other women dont want the guy, then he is undesirable .
I was happy to get a video in my feed from a woman giving honest and realistic advice for both sides. Thanks for the encouragement in the right direction.
@@FGj-xj7rd I was challenging your point about average women not wanting average men. Majority of people fall within average spectrum. Most couples I’m seeing IRL generally match each other. Loneliness has risen across the board in most Western societies for various macro and micro reasons.
I have never been married or helped to bring any children into the world. My last relationship or partnership ended January of 2005. I spent the following 8 years trying to date women I thought I had a connection with, which led to nowhere. The last woman I tried to date pretended to like me only to make her ex jealous. They are now married and I still stand alone. After that fiasco, I left my home State in favor of a new home. I thought maybe a change of scenery might help. Though it didn't seem to help on the dating front, what it did do for me was give me a fresh start and a new perspective on myself and how I can contribute in this life not having a family. It gave me 5 to 7 years of self-reflection and repair, a necessary evolution of soul and character. I entered middle age a few years back, and have lost hope in ever getting married or starting a family. After my father passed away in 2019, not having a family hit me pretty hard, as I always wanted to get married and have a family. My father always wanted to be a granddad; but now that will never happen. So as I stated earlier, now I'm middle-aged, and ironically in the best financial state I've ever been in; but thanks to inflation that doesn't mean much, and I haven't dated in so long I kind of feel like I don't know how to anymore. I watch your videos and other content creators to try to get some kind of an idea of how to get back in the game; but the best game I can muster up is being the one who rescues his neighbors once in awhile when they get out of hand and need some assistance. I feel like that's all I am, the doormat women can come to when they need it. Just wanted to share another lonely man's tale.
Right on, S.A.W. 👍 The story you share practically mirrors my life path so far, even the father passing in that year. Hopefully we can find love. I’ve seen grown women become giddy school kids when browsing through media sites of men offering up who they are, etc, for consideration. Like a 75% off at a toy store full of children, these girls ramble through the pics/ bios, no man appears remotely good enough, it’s just a self attention / entertainment evening for them.
My favorite comment you said and I have been putting into practice the last few years is “Be who you want to attract”. I know who I am as a person and know how to treat the one I care about. If I want something in a partner, I want to be able to have that trait as well
Women are taught that they "deserve" a man that is 6'1 and makes $250,000 a year and they are willing to ride the carousel until they realize they passed up all the good guys and are now alone with 3 cats and a kid or two. Men should not rescue these women under any circumstances.
I can totally relate. I’m a 27 years old lonely man and i’m liking it. I don’t know if this is a good or bad thing but being lonely has given me a sort of freedom to which i started to get addicted.
Hey Courtney, been following you ever since you reacted to an Alpha M video. I just wanted to take the time to thank you and to let you know that your work actually makes a difference, and has helped me personally in more than one way. Keep it up, and thanks again from the bottom of my heart, you never know when or how you might be saving someone's life. God bless, have an amazing day!
I think the best thing men can do at this point is just focus on themselves and let the chips fall where they will. If you don’t end up with anybody that you dreamt of and you stay single than it wasn’t meant to happen.
The irony is that most young women will absolutely choose a "toxic, narcissistic man" over a man who is emotionally available, a good communicator, and has similar values.
Thats true a lot of women I know who are good people (at least on paper) are going out with men whom have already cheated on them, are drunks, drug users & sellers, violent, abusive, etc. I think a lot of it is that these women believe that they can change these man-boys and treat the endeavor as their personal pet project. Meanwhile, good, nice, moral, responsible, working men and dare I say REAL men get looked over. I think it's also important to recognize that this has only happened within the past 30 odd years and only has occurred in western societies. No matter how one squares it, the fact is that modernity and western liberalism has led to a unique situation that has never existed before until now.
Victims of their own hypergamy
Its to do with the fact they have a hard time knowing what sort of love and attention they deserve or that its cool to be with a bad boy or... they feel safe with him because he seems tough. Not all girls are like that but it definitley does happen.
Who gives a shit? The only person who can make you feel happy and the best you can is YOU! I’m so tired of hearing my fellow men bitch about MULTIPLE women. Isn’t one girl breaking your heart enough to make you realize to live life for yourself? Goddamn.
@@wallaceahtone6149 Honestly? A lot of it has to do with upbringing. These women, while many of them are good, also have some problems too. Most of these women have daddy issues to a degree and chase after these toxic men BECAUSE they have traits of their own father.
Not to mention that most of these good women aren't really good women at all. They're bad women with some good traits. The really good women who grow up in religious and traditional families tend to go for the good men.
This has been going on since 1965 with the invention of Hormonal Birth Control and it really kicked off in the early 1990s with the rise of Third Wave Feminism, Neo-Modernity and the worst offender, Hollywood for molding people into these stereotypes.
I’ll tell you, women play hard to get way too strong. I’m not gonna become a psychic or a 7 figure entrepreneur to get my dream girl. More like a nightmare
Absolutely lol
It's not worth it. Not what so ever
I agree. As a woman I approve this message. Lol, I used to think playing hard to get was the answer but it’s not. It can attract and create super toxic dynamics. It’s better to be authentic
Veritas!!! Well stated!
I actually studied fake psychics. And even if you become psychic they dgaf about anything but the 7 figures. Trust me I can (cold) read their minds.
I have been single for several years now, and have decided that being lonely is far superior to being in toxic relationships.
I agree. It's better to be alone than in a bad and toxic relationship contrary to "experts" who used to say otherwise.
That's true .
I was in a horrible toxic relationship.
I took responsibility for it though..... because if I was healthy I would have never gone into a relationship like that
so I've been working on myself
how about you? Do you think you're unlucky ....or do you think there's something in you that attracted that toxic relationship?
I do get vouts of loneliness at times
Same here, these articles are always seem to be half truths written to just bash men.
Who says that being single means that you have to be lonely? Being single for me at least has been awesome, not a care in the world, just focused on me and my hobbies, and mates lmao
I am so glad that I am an old married man with a great wife and daughter in a happy home. Facing the challenge of dating in today's world would be daunting and ultimately depressing. No wonder the suicide rates are so high these days. Thanks for trying to help and give hope to others Courtney.
Glad to hear you are happy paul! Cheers
Ditto.
Bravo Paul you're blessed greatly.
My amazing wife of 32 years went home to Jesus from Liver Cancer 1.5 years ago.
Been a rough road - never dreamed I'd be dating or trying to at 58 years.
It's sure not easy !
Not to diss divorced women but they're either so wounded or carrying baggage that most are morbidly emotionally unhealthy.
The healthy & attractive (inner & outer beauty) ones are 95% already married (duh).
So, appreciate what you have - none of us are guaranteed tomorrow.
Gonna take a major miracle to find my #2.
GOD has this.
Just gotta be ready....
there's other reasons too. declining middle class, less collage enrollment (collage and uni has become a massive scam anyways) increased and heavier drug use...etc
all of this impacts single young men with little to nothing to lose
Ok boomer😂
I'm 37. I've spent the last 20 years devoting my life and following the dreams of my high school sweetheart. After 2 kids, a vasectomy and trying to give her everything she wanted, she dropped a bomb on me. She admitted that she never actually fell "in love" with me.
I've spent the majority of my life following the dreams of a woman only for her to shut me out of mine. I'm a single dad now and focusing solely on my young boys and myself and I couldn't be happier.
I'm sorry to hear that. Stay Strong.
Well keep focuon your kids. I've been at this for 7 years post divorce and my life couldn't be better
Classic story
That’s terrible-I’m sorry to hear that I’m glad you are doing better now.
That's why I never want to be married.
The idea that if men " step up their game" all of a sudden all these women will materialize out of thin air ready for relationships is hilarious
Does any of these people even understand supply and demand?
It’s like guaranteeing student loans, if every man gets their status game up, women just slide the bar up.
Men need to stop being simps, period
@@Saixjacket Yup. If every man became a millionaire the women would want billionaires. By definition most men cannot be high value
They are supplying, but we are not demanding. It really is too much work, find a nice hobby and it's cheaper and easier
Unfortunately very few people understand supply and demand. This is hardly the only stupid thing we do or think because we don't understand it. They also don't understand that women actually DO care about looks, or that dating apps, by connecting people without a community, make it extremely easy for male models to have 8-10 girlfriends simultaneously.
Being single doesn't automatically equate to being "lonely." I'm single, and I don't feel lonely. I'm focusing on myself. I just graduated nursing school and started my first job at a major hospital. I'm still grieving the death of my mother who passed one year ago, right in the middle of the biggest break up (heart break) of my life to someone I'd been having feelings with since I was about 12 years old. Between the stress and strain of school, my mother being sick last year and finally passing away and the stress of that relationship, the last thing my brain or emotions can handle right now is the complications of all of these crazy standards women have these days.
I won't waste my time on dating sites other than browsing to remind myself there are others out there. I never message anyone, just quietly browse and keep it moving. In my experience you stand a much better chance when a woman naturally gets a chance to know you and vice versa (church, work, school, neighbors etc) and you learn that there are characteristics about each other that you value such that you don't' put as much demand on some of the other more unrealistic things. Social media allows an image to be portrayed that creates these false standards and values. Anyway, I'm enjoying the freedom of not having to live up to these extreme expectations while I take time to rebuild myself and heal. My day will come. In the mean time...
god bless u
That’s rough. Hope you’ll feel better soon and enjoy the freedom in the meantime.
Sorry to hear about your mom. On your last point, I said the same thing 20 years ago with the "in time" reminder but time goes by fast remember... and I'm still single. I've found dating most of the time now days is a waste of time. You're probably better off focusing on yourself and being happy that way.
Your not alone. I think this generation needs more men to understand how women and men actually behave and not go off of what media has planted in our minds. Its important to love at your fullest and in order to do that you must first learn to love yourself and give yourself the opportunity to heal from anything you have gone through in the past. Nature always finds itself returning to its natural balance and all we must do is learn and abide by nature itself so we can become the best and most capable version of ourselves.
I couldnt agree more. I totally feel the same, and I am very sorry to hear about your mother. Such a burden is hard to carry on your own.
Don’t forget; it’s not just finding a women who’s interested in you. It’s finding someone who is interested in you AND you are interested in them on multiple levels. I’ve had women interested in me but I didn’t feel compatible with them. Some people say I have high standards, but really what I’m looking for at a basic level is that “click,” that true feeling of connection. You have to feel it and they have to feel it. But beyond the “click,” they have to want the same things you want-not in everything! But definitely in terms of dating/a relationship. If they want to get married and have kids and you don’t, that could be a problem. If they want a long term partner who will protect them and always be there for them and need them and become their whole world, and you want a more casual, easy going thing, that could also be a problem. I guess what I’m saying is don’t bend over backwards (no pun intended) because finally, a woman is interested in you. You get to have standards too. And that might make it harder to find the “right” one, but it could just be that much better if/when you do meet her.
This comment is gold!
Give me a break. I’m a middle age former “chad” pulling in 200k year and I’m fit. What’s “available “ is feminist overweight entitled single moms who still believe they are the prize...
200k is a joke 🤣
Damn bro. Even the chads are struggling nowadays?
He anit struggling as a former Chad he just knows a quality woman when he sees one and all the ones that haven’t been ran through are the ones he mentioned 🤣
You are 100% correct. I've worked hard and have been fortunate to be successful. I'm 6' tall and scored a 9.2 on the photofeeler app. Zero debt, large home with an exotic in the garage. I've been single for years as most modern women are not only huge, they are also huge liabilities.
On point 100%. I make good money, fit, no debt, yet live simply with no flash. If you aren't "apparent" finding a date/partner is much harder.
Bo Burnham said it best. “If you want love, lower your expectations a few, because Prince Charming would never settle for you”
Not a few. Like 70 percent
wow how about leave females alone for good ok
we like taller good looking guys so what?? even they can't change our opinions. we don't want you. get a life.
The reason why so many women took pleasure in the first article is because it’s a feminist’s dream. I noticed a lot of misandry which is very disappointing when women reacted to this article. The article is written in a social media pop psychology magazine. It’s not peer reviewed and it’s not a longitudinal study. It’s not a true academic article. It was written by a clinical psychologist with no academic Track Record per se. Seems like it’s just some sort of survey. I can assure you that women are pretty lonely as well and it’s because of women’s expectations and social media. There is too much of a divide between the sexes now. It’s done neither men or women any favours.
In one word- feminism. And trace that back where it came from..
I think there's an article too in the same website called "Strategic singlehood of black women". I've nothing against them but it's basically the same thing as this article only they're applauding these women for "defying stereotypes" while in this article with men, they're blaming men for being lonely and single.
The guy who was quoted was also a couples therapist and his own evidence were the *couples* in his office, aged 20-45. No insight into the scores of single people who are single with any investigation as to why.
The only reason this got any sort of traction online is that women always love having a stick to beat men with. But any sort of interrogation would see that this whole article is full of shit, and the second article is just “one of those people” broadcasting her hatred to a public sphere.
I can also testify that women are lonely too. And I often hear that the sea of male options they get on the apps is mostly douche bros you wouldn't want to be friends with after reading their intros. I have dates who gave up on the apps because of how toxic it feels for them to go through all the crap intros they get.
@@octoking9611 I bet there are lonely women too no doubt about it. But they way the medias are portraying it is the problem here. They're single, they are empowered not minding that they are lonely. Men are single and lonely, heh it's your fault. This creates a certain kind of tunnel vision for all of us... sadly
Met a girl who wanted to have everything. Being with me because of my personality, but also wanted to sleep around with someone else because they had the money, which I didn't. Took her of my life. Seeing how common it is for women to cheat, after talking to female coworkers, I've decided being single is the best option.
LazGato, the real problem is that most women are just very slutty nowadays unfortunately. And they just don't know how to commit to only one guy. Total low life losers that they always will be. Been there.
Go and improve your finances. You are not entitled to women hust because you are "nice". I am a woman and i am working on everything about me. I do not have time to entertain broke "nice" guys. I will not sponsor a relationship. I thought you men say you are leaders. You want to lead her into poverty?
@@Uke2405 chill with the "yOu'Re NoT eNtItLeD tO wOmEn", like come on, i hear this argument way too often and it's always used in the wrong context. just because he calls out some shitty behavior doesn't mean he thinks he's entitled to something
@ijeonu2405 Poverty at what levels? how much do they demand for the privilege of being with them? is this just turning into how can I buy loyalty, a prostitute will be loyal for enough money, shouldn't love have more meaning than finances? And the answer is men need to stop allowing women to dictate what they have to do when there is no appropriate reciprocation. Maybe being lonesome martyrs not basing our worth upon how much we produce but how we act and treat others. I know tribal people who have nothing but love, trailers yet they still love each other, is that wrong? are those women devaluing themselves by loving men who aren't making 6 figures?
@@Uke2405In a relationship the exchange is supposed to be time, intimacy, etc. If this guy's gf wanted to dump him she should have like a grown woman. Instead she cheated so she could be treated how she felt she deserved and used the bf as an emotional douche bag.
Cheating is never excusable for anyone in Western society. We don't do scarlet letters or lashes anymore. Divorce like a grown adult then sleep around imo.
I've been married twice. The first cheated on me for 6 of the 8 years we were together. Chalk that one up to being naïve. The second one started great but then we had a kid and she lost all interest. I never felt more alone than when I was with her. She finally moved on after several years of couples counseling. Money well spent, right? Well now I'm older, been raked over the coals and have zero desire for marriage of any kind. I can be emotionally available to someone who has the capacity to show me that I matter to her on a regular basis, but beyond that there will be no more weddings. Being alone sucks. I fucking hate it. But that's still preferable to being locked up with someone who can toss my feelings aside whenever they feel like it and make you pay for that privilege. When my ex wives needed me I was there for them in their worst times. When I needed them they fucking vanished. Never again.
Marriage just ain't what it's all made out to be
I feel your pain as I was married to my ex for 15 years and the last 3-5 years of the marriage was the worst. Felt abandoned emotionally when you give her everything you have, sacrifice your time to make her happy but nothing in return. I feel the same way about marriage, never again. Lots of time and money wasted
Been there and got the same prize
Hang in there man. Don't give up.
@@brianborich2401 wow just wow. I would take back EVERYTHING I got her
I think it is time that us men started raising our relationship standards.
Bro, just be a good guy that you'd wanna date or at least hang out with. You don't need more than that. There's no war to fight.
@@octoking9611 alot of men willingly get walked all over in relationships. many cannot set any kind of boundaries due to the fear of lack and being alone. that's all I am saying. I am not advocating for a war, nor looking for one. Quite the opposite
@@sleepsound3107 Right, then if that's what you're talking about, for sure these types of men should raise their standards. It's a turn off for anyone to be with a push over who wont speak their mind, friend or partner.
Actually, it is time men realize their value and start respecting themselves.
i concur, one of the many factors in this phenomenon is that high value men are willing to lower their standards for low value woman and for women its the opposite because of high value men, however for this to work a mass amount of men especially high value men (top 20%) need to stop dating lower value women, not saying that they should stop dating, just saying that people should start going for people their level however, the solvable is getting alpha males to act like sigma males and convincing low value men to not give in to desperation and giving women more attention and respecting their value
The long list of unrealistic expectations that a lot of these women have is the reason I gave up on dating apps. I like your channel, you have honest, solid, and subjective advice that is spot on. Not sleazy or unrealistic. I didn't come here becasue I NEED help, rather, I figured since I am single I might as well hear what you have to say. Glad i did.
Well most of the time I dont even know what those expectations are in the first place
The problem is that there was a reason why the dating apps were created: it's tough to have relationships outside of them. It can require years of personal effort and emotional suffering to get dates. Workplaces have been persona non-grata for decades. Old Fashioned dating worked, sort of, back in the 1920's to 1950's when men and women went to the same high school and college and found their spouse during those years. Dance halls were designed for people to be able to converse on the dance floor, tightly together, and then talk at tables while today the music blares at 80db continuously. You can join different activities but that only adds a few people at a time to your social circle that may not pan out.
Women HATE dating apps because it loses their advantage that they can pretend to not be looking for a relationship (and therefore play harder to get) but at the same time, there are fewer men asking them out physically. So they get on them, get flooded with validation, and drop out hence few women are on them to actually get into relationships.
Same here !
@@user-hf2dr7sh4y whats misogynistic abot Tate ?
She doesn't need to show half her tits though.
I wish we could all go back to the old days of courting in person and actually building real relationships with people. That way you're actually interacting with them in a natural setting and not judging based solely on looks and checklists.
Right totally agree.
I do believe such a "Courtship" model still can be practiced, it's just more practical & prevalent in smaller sub-society groups.
For example at my Evangelical church, amongst either the whole congregation or our smaller 'microchurch' Bible study group, I'm on the alert for potential ladies to Court (dating with Biblical guidelines).
I'm 58 & widower 2 years ago, after 32 years of faithful marriage to an amazing lady.
Also, its my "mindset" wherever I may find a lady, be it at Pickleball league or motorcycle touring, lol.
Best wishes to ya !
@@psalm2forliberty577 Sorry that you lost your wife - it sounds like you two had a great marriage and true love.
It’s great that you have your church community where you can find someone with aligned values. Having a positive mindset and enjoying your hobbies that involve people is honestly the best way to find a partner who can join you on your journey of life. Best wishes!
get offline and that is a huge start.
Time for men to write an article “Not a 10/10 super model? Women, it’s time you put in the work to become a super model so that average men will like you.”
I agree. These articles make it sound like men need to 'up our game', but since I have become single again, as Courtney said, a lot of women have 'unrealistic standards and expectations'. I don't want this to sound the wrong way, but it probably will- I've seen a LOT of women on dating sites, and in person that expect top shelf when they themselves are closer to bottom shelf. They don't 'up their game', they just seem to expect and act like they warrant a certain standard just because they are a woman. I know not all women are like this, but there seems to be a whole lot that are.
@@williambassett6962 Most women are aiming outside of their pay grade. It’s why dating is the shitshow it is.
@@lockyp204 yep... bottom shelf expecting top shelf.
Average woman's waist size is 39 inches, 24 is ideal.
@@williambassett6962 plus, what incentive does a man have to up his game? I know it's hurtful for a lot of women to read, but the best versions of themselves are when they are younger (24ish), fitter, childless, and more easy-going. The women who make these standards tend to be older, out of shape, single mothers who have bad personalities. If a man put himself to be what these women want, he'll likely start aiming for younger and more attractive women.
“I think there a lot of men out there who aren’t trying.”
Women: *Treat men like dirt for 40+ years*
Men: *Stop bothering*
Women: “Men aren’t trying anymore.”
Today's women don't deserve men. and under today's UNFAIR legal system women don't deserve men's commitment. Label me John MGTOW Galt.
You at least weren’t trying with this comment
@@minabotieso6944 lmao, you made my day, thank you
I can almost see that. A lot of men tend to give up for 'stuff'. Let themselves go, blue pill up, and wonder why women aren't at their feet. They (myself included) should always be working at the self. Workout, eat right, read, learn, and maintain healthy habits. That way when, and I mean WHEN not if, you get rejected it doesn't affect you.
@@minabotieso6944 What? He even took the trouble to use colons, quote marks, and boldface! How much more effort can one put into a comment? You didn't even end your sentence with a period, ffs!
I really love the "if you are being horrible to a person trying to help you, then how are you going to fare against a person who is not"
That's what I call hitting two birds with one stone. Way to go girl!
You hit the nail on the head about the top 2% of men many women go after: If they are going to get what they want anyway, why should they bother improving themselves?
For those women that are willing to consider the “average” guys, ya’all can just work together on what’s important to you! My wife and I agreed long ago that taking care of our bodies is important to us, so we both work to keep up our health and appearance. I didn’t have the six pack when we met, but I’ve agreed to not let it become a keg either! It’s a teamwork thing.
I like your use of the idea of TEAMWORK. (From a woman) I just joined a gym and amazingly I'm actually ENJOYING it
@@LisaFenton-h7f yeah, it’s a real blessing just seeing what our bodies can do!
I am one of those men not putting in any effort, and it's not because I want to play the victim, it's because the game women are playing is bullshit. It isn't fair, or honest, or interesting, plain and simple. I tried playing it for about 5 years straight and sunk into the deepest depression of my life because of it. Modern women have ludicrous standards; they are delusional, combative/disagreeable, self-centered, and repulsively promiscuous. Good women are extremely rare and I would just rather spend my time with friends/family than spend anymore of my life looking for a needle in a haystack while being shit on by cows.
Right on, thanks 👍👍👍
You’re not wrong.
Yup, as Courtney pointed out, most women today will totally write a guy off if he’s not over 6 foot, good looking, and rich. I find this to be especially funny when you find realize that 90% of these women are completely vile people once you get to know them
Yeah, I completely agree. I just have no need and interest to play into their bullshittery.
Agree completely! Dating is like looking for a needle in a needle stack. The whole process is painful!
"Someone told me the other day that he felt bad for single people because they are lonely all the time. I told him that's not true. I'm single and i don't feel lonely. I take myself out to eat, buy myself clothes. I have a great time by myself. Once you know how to take care of yourself, company becomes an option and not a necessity "
From Keanu Reeves obviously but it's really true. This quote got me evaluating things in my life. Lately, I've been having a great time on my own. I've had so many great and new adventures on my own.
I needed to read this. Recently severed ties with my ex after a few months of trying to remain friends. Told her I couldn't be around her without longing for physical affection. It felt hollow. I miss her but I think it's for the best. Anyway your comment reminded me that I can be ok my myself. I dont want to be needy and have a woman in my life to take the edge off loneliness. The connection should be genuine.
Amen to that. I too do similar things for self gratification. Plus a hobby...I have goals...no woman in mind either. I'd rather self gratification than external validation. I'm always happy, never lonely
Being single and being lonely are two different things, not everyone has a focused determination to make being with someone a priority in their lives and appreciate their freedom and privacy, and its also possible to be in a relationship and still feel alone (or worse) if you're with the wrong person. Most of the time when two people meet who are into each other, it wasn't intended or neither were looking for it anyway, they were just going about their day
@@josephkoval5434 its healthy to get a break to evaluate, its just getting used to not being around that person and thats usually the difficult part for anybody, like stopping a drug almost, though certaintly isn't "the end" of happiness or the last person you'll ever be with, and good that you are focusing on just living your life and not in a negative way
I was equally lonely in most of my relationships. I feel sorry for him being dependent on another human for happiness. I know what that’s like, and it’s no place to be.
People don't usually mention in these conversations how a lack of public spaces has made meeting people harder. If a town/city lacks viable options for single people to meet each other then a lack of romantic relationships is expected.
This is true. I've had more dates and action with women since going out to public places for events more often.
But but the globalists need division
yep. Tinder is not a public space.
yknow, thats actually a really good point. i hadnt considered that before
Right, and highly public places include bars and clubs. As someone who no longer drinks, I find no interest in going to these establishments.
I know this video is old and you probably won't see this, but in response to the nasty and vile things some people say to you, I just want to say you're wonderful Courtney. Thank you for what you do :)
Simp.
Yeah I'm kinda over the "it's men's fault" BS. The absolute nonsense that exists due to feminism and modern women is mind blowing!
Neoliberalism did more to fuck it up than feminism to be honest.
I fucking hate how everything is commodified including loneliness.
What a fucking sick joke.
Dating apps have the same business model as only fans except the content creators don't get the money.
Even if a woman picks me she puts in literally 0 effort. That's the real problem
Exactly, they could have a huge crush on you and will put in absolutely zero effort to make a connection. It's weird.
I've this issue with online dating; most women are either NPCs or just want the attention till some one "better" comes along. The dating pool for 30+ is rough man.
You just stated the problem
The unacknowledged secret is that most women actually have terrible social skills and cannot even lead a conversation. They get by and appear "social" because of the massive Halo effect created by being a female.
Zero effort to get you into their bed as well. Just a simple text message.
Courtney, I agree with you 100%! The rise of social media has played a massive role in the steady decline in not only romantic relationships, but just healthy relationships in general. Once again, you are right on the money. Thanks again for sharing your insight. 🙏
Right! It isnt women's fault ... Let's blame Men!!! smDh !!
I'm alone, wildly successful, retired VERY young Male who now Travel over half the year, wintering near a Cali beach resort town. I am ALONE, SINGLE .. but I am NOT lonely. ***Today's women are HORRID*** Feminism and now Post-Modernism has murdered the soul of women producing women who have literally zero in common with Honorable, and Graceful, and Kind humans... Why would I allow one of these "creatures" into my life? Answer: I won't
America was once a successful and Liberty filled country, where Women had the most comfortable of lives and the Liberty to do as they pleased. America WAS better than other countries because of our Legal system, accountabilities, and Liberties... But now, thanks to the "forward thinking" of Baby Boomers and their Post Modernism script for America the women **have to work** must work and slave at jobs they dislike or even hate ... and (apparently) women must slut themselves out too. smh. Me, I pay no taxes, refusing to support the unfairness of "equity" -- which is the OPPOSITE of Equality. I refuse to support the Collective, specifically because it is the OPPOSITE of Volunteerism.
Our forefathers created a "more perfect union" and Women (mostly women, using Marxism / Feminism / Leftism) destroyed it.. Men On Strike by Dr. Helen Smith explains why we will NOT participate while Marxists turn America into a 3rd world country. Women: You broke this, so YOU have to admit where you were wrong and FIX IT, because men can not undo the massive influence and power women have.. If you don't fix what you broke, this will be the end of a once fine country. Label me John MGTOW Galt, because I am enjoying the decline.
Courtney I just wanted to encourage you to keep doing what you do. I'm probably not in your typical target group (60 year old single male) but what you say resonates with someone even at my age. You are defiantly wise beyond your years. Some topics I already had knowledge of (painfully earned at times) and agree with. I have also learned a lot from you and I thank you for passing it on. I'm not actively trying to use these lessons to end my singleness but instead trying to better myself for my own peace. So again thank you. P.S. Guys listen to her even if you don't like what she's saying. Courtney really is trying to help
So if you try to you’re a creep and don’t try get nothing modern woman don’t make sense
I really do wish there was help but it looks like women have just turned around and left us here and they really don't care. So The economy will continue to crash because there is no reward for the common working man. These things are not unrelated And we're not terrible people for being average Damn it.
Her level of understanding and consideration towards men is unbelievable, really pleased to see that women like Courtney still do exist, much appreciated.
Courtney is pretty awesome. Not gonna lie.
Stop simping.
@@poligon333 This is the problem. If you cannot highlight and appreciate the right person then how can you even expect a right person in your life.
@@IndranilHalder007 Dude she is a chick on the internet thirst trapping guys for subs. Men are so desperate for female approval, she is clever she knows it is a lucrative busines. If you cant see this, you miss many things and I would advice you stay away from women because they eat guys like you for breakfast.
Be cautious...chameleons are everywhere
There's also the Nice Guy Paradox that is rarely ever addressed. The men that will treat women right are usually very shy or introverted so the ones approaching women are the extroverted, loud guys but those are the same jerks women always complain about when they talk about men. So as you can see we end up in this vicious cycle that gets us nowhere.
Agreed. Sometimes the nice guys aren't giving enough edge. Women don't want a holes but they do want excitement
So women should be encouraged to approach men to break the ice. Initiate contact. Since women are the gatekeepers of mate selection anyway, they should be the initiators. Since they are the mating arbiters, they should be burdened with the risk of rejection too. I saw one video where this was suggested. I love it when women have initiated contact with me. Most of my relationships have happened that way.
Honestly agreed I'm so freaking shy bruh i want to get rid of it. It's not that easy tho
I think another problem is that nice guys (in the GENUINE sense of the word) who are kind, stable and reliable are often seen as a bit boring and milquetoast.
It might seem counterintuitive for women to go for the sort of men who aren’t reliable or stable but those “bad boy” types probably do seem more fun to a lot of women.
And that air of danger (and slight hint of psychopathy) can make them seem more exciting.
I wasn’t the Bad Boy type in my teens or 20s at all but I think I understand the appeal they have to women.
As a woman, I have no issue with nice guys, I love them, the only problem is when there is a lack of attraction. If some is nice and you're attracted to them, there's no issue. When we aren't attracted to someone, they we blame it on nice when that's not the issue. For me, I like skinny, nerdy guys and there's no problem as long as I think he's cute.
As a man of this young generation, who remain single, I can admit, that its not about any standards at all. I was raised to be respectful, emotionally available with common values of family and so on, and till this day, when I'm 25 years old, being in the relationship market for 9 years, I remain single with 0 relationships behind.
All girls, that I was trying to commit or even just to invite on a single date, preferred more rough men or said that I'm "too nice" or not interested, leaving me in their friendzone. So, its not about any standards, its just about lie to us, men, about how do women actually work, and, things are becoming better, since we have some statistics about homosexual marriages, and they show us, that modern women aren't able to maintain any relationships at all. So, good luck, girls. I'm quitting.
There is enough dating content out there, red pill+pua
I get your frustration man, I really do.. Myself and many others feel the struggle as well. But please keep your heart open to the possibilities. You deserve peace of mind over anything else. All the best mate :)
@@newbiegain117 I see why its not working and to make it work I need to rebuild myself completely out of what teached me my parents, and this goal is technically achievable, but we also need to change marriage laws, and for me its totally impossible, because I have a lot of other interesting things to do, instead of pursuing the couchie
@@Liam-bi6lm yes, keeping mind open for new is a good thought, but, since I've raised by my parents with the rules how to live in 1990-s, it makes me unable to continue life in 2020-s, because everything changed, including abilities to make money and raising of a family. There is no way to get it back, and I have no desire to do so, so for me this new way began with giving up all that goals and ideas that was cultivated by my parents, school and older generations in general.
@@newbiegain117 disagree. Dating is rigged against men. And this man realizes that the return on investment in dating is a net negative in about 90 percent of cases for men. If you want men to continue to commit to a rat race just for female validation while women aren't even holding up their end of the bargain, you do that. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Thank you Courtney, for all you do, I personally appreciate your material on this topic. Social media has really led many away from reality.
We need to ban smartphones and all dating apps and we need to go back like it was 15 years ago. 15 years ago women were approaching. With an Italian background from Canada. I'm 55 years old, 5.10 average, never married and have no kids. I've given up on women. Today women are on their cell phones 24/7. No one talks face to face anymore. I can't wait till AI will be destroying women and only then will women be begging for men. I have my condo and money so I'll die with my money in peace with no drama. Today 80% of the women are insecure and toxic. Relationships are dead, it's all hookups now with high body counts. Women marry to control the marriage so married men end up cheating or being stuck in sexless marriage. Marriage brings nothing for the men. I guess I'm off the market anyway for being average.
“Why aren’t all of you men 6 ft tall, make 6 figures or more, and have a 6 pack abs! Grrr! It’s your fault!”
Why aren’t all women actual 9s with an amazing personality and not crazy ?
😂😂
I think it’s cause women
don’t understand that no one is born perfect you can’t have everything that’s just life get tf over it
That’s why when women say there 10s there stupid af
@@hkchan1339 There was a video a while back about this. A guy put up a chart of women, with "hot," on the x-axis, and "crazy," on the y-axis. Most informative. 😃
Historically, the main places you meet a partner are immediate community(friends, church, school, hobbies, etc), and in the workplace. We've all but killed most of our "communities", and we run the risk of termination at work. Not worth the risk unless there is genuine attraction between both parties.
Precisely, and the covid lockdown nonsense had a lot to contribute to that.
what exactly is driving women to being so selective these days? Because selective women get horny too, and are certainly not going without dick. It could be that women are getting validation and sexual satisfaction simply by holding a smartphone app in one hand while holding a vibrator in the other. Also, we have the top 1% of men taking advantage of dating apps and burning through the women on these apps at the expense of the bottom 99%.
True and heartbreaking.
As a 68-year-old man, I can tell you that the dating situation hasn’t gotten any better as I’ve gotten older. Many women still have extensive laundry lists of requirements even in their 60’s.
Keep in mind, that 90% of these women are fairly recently divorced. In my case I’ve been divorced for 30 years.
Ladies, you are eliminating the majority of potential dates with your list of requirements/expectations before we’ve even met and had lunch.
Let those ladies learn the hard way
lol you cant be serious. Old hags have extensive requirements? My lord... Im out of words...
@@arthurmorgan2906 We all get old and become decrepit even men, so women are still attractive to men the same age don't worry about that, you will learn if you make it to crappy oldness. Having said that he's absolutely correct, I have talked to men in my age group - men I meet in my industry and they all have the same story women in their 50+ 60+ have extensive lists of demands of what they want from men. I am sure those dating app women are a small group of women, however, they and online dating are best avoided and any women with a list should be bypassed and not seen as a challenge. The best thing, to do, is to do your own thing and keep an open mind, one day the fates may be kind and a compatible woman may cross your path, if not you get to live your own life - don't diss on women or waste any energy moaning about what women may or may not do, just move along accept reality and have a fun and meaningful life. There is a world of exciting stuff out there that does not involve smashing your head into concrete dating apps every night, it is what it is.
@@woodliceworm4565 Quite right, I managed perfectly well during the 1960's and 70's, without all this modern day dating app rubbish.
They just aren’t worth it. If you manage to tick all those boxes then you’re a Chad and looking for something better.
Thanks Big Sis! Solid advice once again. The lack of accountability in society as a whole is astounding.
I myself have not met the expectations of any woman I asked out on a date. They’ve always been nice and polite about it but the underlying message was always, “you’re not what I’m looking for”. I went about 8yrs not dating, went on one date with a girl and same story. Really starts to get to you and the thought of always being alone and never being good enough is almost unbearable.
Not poking at you. Are you overweight?
That's what I used to hear when I was still dating. I have the three 6's, so when girls would decline a 2nd date they'd say "you're too far, not the right political party, not the correct religion, not a dog person, not the right job" etc etc. their list of must-haves is a mile long
@@timothysalinas37 nope. I’m in excellent shape. Hit the gym 5-6 days a week. I don’t have a six pack but clear muscle definition
@@danothin9137 it's seems Iike your a good looking nice guy. Is that accurate? If so, I was that too.
Have you ever heard the saying "you can do anything you want to a girl except bore her"?
If that's the case drop the "nice guy" mentality, and have some edge to yourself when speaking to women.
Best of luck.
@@timothysalinas37 Yep that’s me. I’m a sincere guy and an introvert. I believe I’ve been working on the best version of myself for years I just tell myself I haven’t met the right one yet but I feel afraid to put myself out there anymore because idk if I could handle being told I’m not good snobby again
I actually feel like the ones I showed my more emotional side to, really tried to communicate and really gave attention to the relationship with, showered them with little treats they liked, ran away the fastest. The girls I've found have literally treated me like the stereotypical man lol. The more I've shown I want to be committed to them the faster they ran away. So I definitely feel like women can be just as shallow as men.
I literally feel like I've been too nice
Never be emotionally vulnerable with women. NEVER. They will lose ALL RESPECT for you INSTANTLY. You must be her immovable mountain. Period.
Women who won’t appreciate the emotional side of a man, are women who are emotional unavailable themselves!!! Don’t change!!! Remain the person you are , y will find your match. Best of luck
@@Kristi012 I know you're coming from a good place, but this is absolutely the worst advice you can give to a man. Women don't even understand themselves. You are instinctively disgusted by emotional men. Don't spread false information that further hurt men by encouraging them to be emotional. That will only cause them more suffering.
Men must learn stoicism. That is the only path to masculinity.
@@vecterI believe in honest communication and respectfulness between men and women. It’s nice to be appreciated for showing interest, that is why I wouldn’t suggest for men to hide their emotions. But, then again, since you’re a man you must know better than me😄. I appreciate your answer! Hopefully it helps anyone who reads it!!!
I feel it is simple: In the last 4 or 5 years of dating it has become a death sentence to the relationship if I ever dare to hold the woman I am seeing accountable for something she has said or done. As long as I never do that then she is totally happy with me.
The independent article was a horribly bad argument. She goes on about all the lonely men (not selected men) then cites the feedback of all her girlfriend's dating experiences (selected men) on how they are all douchy, and emotionally unavailable. No sweetie. The men you are dating have options, so when you swipe right on them and are eager to date him, he comes at you with " who are you, again?' this is not the deomgraphic of men who are lonely, and have no relationships. It's the 50 men you swiped left on to get to your date
Had a girl tell me on a date that she wants the guy to court her, buy her flowers, that she’s old school, believes the woman should raise children and the men be the provider.. then she proceeded to tell me she sees another guy only when she’s horny and wants to fuck, that she talked to her sister about fucking her step brother, or that she flew 1000 miles to fuck a guy… (literal words)…
Basically, translated, it’s more or less like this “I want everything but not only have I nothing to offer, but I can afford to be here, say those things, and you can’t do anything about it because I have so many options”…. Totally disgusted by most
Problem is women dont mind being held accountable when they are with an attractive toxic looking guy. They just have a problem when the guy is an average looking guy.
Modern women are spoiled children
That makes being single sound like paradise to me.😎#CopeIsKing #HoldDaLine
I’m 43 and since the 90’s women have really changed. It’s the internet that changed that. Girls of your a 5 you stick to 4-6’s. You’re not all 10’s!
This article is all over the place. Thank you for covering this.
🙌🏼
Now all the sudden women need us or at least concerned that’s funny af😂😂
I think a lot of adult problems are all over the place.
Agreed, and obviously written by a woman FROM a woman's perspective.
All those women who nodded their head to that article demanding men up their game BETTER REALISE that as soon as they hit 40 they'll be experiencing the female version of it.
It's easy, to lecture others, when you've never experienced it.
Agreed one of my mom's friends is actually going through that and is regretting it.
@D Murphy Thank you. As soon as a man wrote the original article it was only a matter of time until insecure women came out an articles to try and make themselves into a victim.
All of this proves how much equality is garbage.
@@sumairshirazi I don't think this is a gender or sex issue. It's all down to a society which has become age and image obsessed.
Bare in mind, our society, sells fruit after sorting perfect looking fruit from the less than perfect looking fruit.
This is the same society, where women and men on Instagram, fake EVERY SINGLE ONE of their pictures just to look perfect.
Anyone upping their game won't change the fact they'll be rejected no matter how 'perfect' they look.
COPE. Women have options until they're 70.
@@tusk1375 till they reach the grave.
It's just so much easier to blame others for your own lack of effort...male or female.
Yeah problem is the females lack effort is AIWAYS over looked.
Well people often think leaving is taking accountability. People question themselves, why am I not content and happy with the relationship. But here's a thought. If you would not give into superficiality and put in effort, you would be happy and content. People twist truths, completely overlooking every good aspect of a person and tunnel vision in on the insignificant "bad." And the if the person makes continuous growth and supports you, patience goes a long way. Comparing people to others creates unrealistic standards. Your person signed up to serve you, willing to put in effort for your standards only. Winning the genetic lottery is nice, but if your preference is on the surface and they don't value you enough to be with you. Says a lot about lack of self-love.
That’s white people for ya when you give them stuff and don’t educate them what colonialism gave them privilege and status and wealth and power and feel entitled to everything they touch or do 😂💀🤡
No it's much easier to do when you're female
Thank you Courtney. Enlightening as always. The more I watch the more I get convinced that relationships are a big toxic waste of time. Guys are better off having friends with benefits, no strings attached. Learn to love and better ourselves. That is the real problem for SOME guys these days, not loving themselves.
Thank you for your kind approach when dealing with men’s issues. In my experience it seems difficult for men to speak about challenges we are facing without facing backlash, skepticism, and ridicule. Your posture here is very appreciated.
The same women who demand to be equal to men are the SAME who magically drop that attitude as soon as men ask to be treated EQUALLY.
Modern feminism is full of women who LOVE to preach and be congratulated but have COMPLETELY forgotten "Deeds not words".
This is so true
I know right??? Like woman these days don’t realize that men are deprived of attention and intimacy and say things like “why do men think they are entitled to our bodies and company” and I’m like “same way women feel entitled and depend on men for protection, money, and status, men and women have different needs and thanks to this modern feminist culture women think they down men anything, but want the man to do everything, relationships are all about give and take”
Or you can also just date someone who believes in having rights without being an extremist. Most feminist women are not crazy and they would probably agree with you. I met a lot of feminists and none of them are like the one you describe.
@@octoking9611 Women are also women. Not everything in their life has to be about feminism.
Modern feminism is not about empowering women because it's too political and corporate.
And your experience isn't mine. And vice a versa.
@@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw Modern women and feminism is behaving like the male dominated society feminism was a reaction to.
Never listening. Being dismissive of the men's feelings. Making men go their own way.
Women did exactly the same, quite rightly, when they realised they were getting a shitty deal. Apply it to any group and you'd get the same result.
Sometimes you can only work on yourself so much. I’d never want my other half to be perfect in every way. Dating is like a puzzle when you put your pieces with hers and become one amazing couple. You complete the other person where they may not be strong at. We have to stop putting such high expectations for the other person to someone. I find it more attractive when the other person shares life’s struggles and shortcomings and how they’ve grown through the hard times.
just never overshare, because women find it off putting if you do
Facts brother
@@DonovanAenslaed absolutely! This would be something to share after dating a while.
Hence opposites attract. If your a stress head you trait you admire in your partner may be they are laid back.
It’s good to have things in common but the most attractive trait in your partner is the trait often what you wish you were.
Nicely said. Our western society has forgotten people are people. Social media and technology has done a fair amount of damage to how we treat and view people.
Faults and flaws are vital to a person's development. Without them no one grows or evolves. Plus, perfection is boring. There's nothing to engage.
You are right on target as usual Courtney! I'm also appalled that people are writing terrible comments on your videos. You give great advice and I've heard nothing but kindness coming from you. I think you're great!
When society tells us that our behavior is “toxic” without addressing the other side of the coin, then it makes sense why men would be backing away from relationships. The double standard is real.
I applaud this woman for calling out the whole "emotionally available" BS that "studies" float out there. There are a lot of single lonely women too. I am newly single guy at 40 and I can tell you from the women I know that are over 30, the big thing is they have really, really, really unrealistic expectations about LOOKS and WEALTH. Women over 30 used understand guys their age do not look like underwear models anymore, but not today. I do not know if it is dating apps where they maybe get attention from a really good looking, young guy that makes them think they can "have it all" or what. But I cannot remember another time where so many women in their 30's and 40's seem to want only rich tall handsome guys with swimmer's bodies. The last woman I dated is in her mid 30's and her last BF was a 26 year old model. (she is very good looking) And she was shattered that he did not want to settle down and have kids with her..seriously. I was just baffled at this. Guys over 30 lose their metabolism, they work, they do not have the time to get ripped. Plus, doing anything too hard on your back and knees is painful and takes forever to recover. Most 50 year olds are not Tom Brady, yet woman seem to think that should be the norm.
And yeah, I have some money, but I am not an internet billionaire and a lot of women seem to think that at 40 you should be able to drop everything and take a $30000 vacation to Fiji with them. Women 30 years ago did not act that way. They wanted a stable guy who provided who treated them well. That is not good enough for older women anymore. They seem to have kept the attitude of when they were 21, and that is toxic. And then they post sad social media posts about how they "can't find anybody". Yes, they could, literally find a good guy tomorrow, but they all want the 1% guy. That is a prescription for loneliness.
Yep. And they become jaded and mean in their older years.
Sooooo many facts in this comment.
I’m going to the Philippines 🇵🇭 if I divorce for a wife .
I mean, it's totally understandable. Any attractive woman is going have SO many guys in their dm's. It takes a strong character to not go for the bigger, better deal all the time. Social media and OLD in particular are hypergamy on steroids for some women. If she's well over 30, attractive and still on OLD that's can be the Red Flag right there. she could have ejected when younger for the right guy but if you stay on the CC for too long she becomes ad-dick-ted and she's never going to settle because the guy she's looking for is an amalgam of all the best things in guys she dated in the past. That guy simply doesn't exist or if he does he's so high-value he's nailing 20-25 girls and she's just an after thought.
Honestly, as a newly single guy at 40 I'd be shooting younger. You want that girl before she's jaded also. Start hitting up 22+ yo girls looking for a mature man. They're out there and will be a lot less trouble than Ms 30+ "don't need a man but I want a man".
"They seem to have kept the attitude of when they were 21, and that is toxic" yeap, check out Finland PM news if you haven't.
Yeah this is one of the best videos I've seen. Extraordinary amount of truth telling throughout this video. I appreciate this coming from a women's point of view. Thank you for uploading!
Shahid - couldn’t agree more! I’m not going to do the “men need to…” thing. I am responsible for me and becoming the best man I can become. A never ending path. @Courtney - appreciate your perspectives and content.
The problem is unless your unpredictable or unavailable you won’t be seen as a potential challenge. Once people figure you out they lose interest really quick and then line up the next person.
Og grandma on Andrew Tate no wonder why today women get cheated cuz they go after these bums
Last weekend a girl picked me out of a group at a bar for pool with her friends. I was killing it but on the 8 ball, I sunk it but scratched at the same time and lost it for us. She instantly went cold on me. Later at another bar I walked up to her and mentioned how the last shot really fucked it up between us and she agreed. Literally a scratch shot disqualified me to her. That is what we are up against.
The scratch saved you dude.
Courtney you are the older sister and best friend many of us don’t have. You are a high value women creating quality content. We appreciate you and your advice. 🤗
Hey Courtney! I’m an extremely introverted male here with no interest in having a girlfriend or marriage at all. I subscribe to your channel because you help keep me aware of the world I’m living in but to be honest, I’m apathetic to it.
I see your channel as a resource for my own self help. I value the insight you provide because it helps me to understand others and myself better. I love how you cut through the superficial entanglements of people and address the substantive issues that truly matter. I also love your perspectives and want to thank you for being you! This was another awesome video!
Thanks!
It's so refreshing to hear from a woman like Courtney say that the current relationship challenges are not all the men's fault. I think what she says is spot on. I am so grateful for Courtney and her channel.
Straight women are messed up too. We all need therapy to address our traumas, a plan to address them, self-love and practice being honest about our wants, needs and dating intentions. What we end up with are manipulative psychological dating ‘tricks’ because we are all collectively so damaged and untrusting of each other and we sink deeper into a hole of mutual resentment. It’s pathetic. We’re adults.
I havent dated in forever, but it does seem very mercenary. It's all about manipulation and exploitation. Use and discard.
I believe there is hope for you. One cannot hope to address a problem unless first one understands the problem.
Online dating has made the dating world into a "free market", it is no surprise that something as beautiful as the search for love starts looking like the cutthroat way companies do their business
@@FirsToStrike So what would you prefer? Creating the Federal Dating and Romance Department so you can have a mate picked for you?
This sh!tty situation is no one's fault but the people involved in the dating market. This includes men as well.
@@bobleglob162 bunching all men up is stupid likewise bunching up all women. not everyone of the same gender dates the same way, has the same conditions (the difference in dating experience of average women and fairly ugly women is immense), and looks for the same thing. But online certain narratives have been established that try to minimize nuance and "tell you how it is". I think if people went back to irl dating things would be better, and thats only possible if we encourage decent men to start talking to women irl
Being ALONE and being LONELY aren’t the same thing
I’m objectively much more alone than I have been since in I deleted social media
But oddly enough I feel better being alone than I have in ages, I may make a video reply to this to go deeper on this
If you get a German Shepherd, you will never be alone. They are a lot smarter than a lot of people I know too!
@@bobmcgehee1749 and more honest and loyal than some women I've dated and/or married earlier in my life :)
A lot of what she talked about is the reason I deleted social media. I want to find a quality woman but the first test of that is humility and that's an automatic disqualifier for the modern mindset seems like.
Exactly I'm having same experience with you
It's a distinction this article doesn't make. It equates being alone to being lonely.
The problem is that women now are all 10s and no longer can be average, and it’s impossible to shame women the way they shame us. Prior to social media/dating apps men didn’t have trouble getting women on their looks/economic level. But now, it’s near impossible to find a HUMBLE, level headed woman who’s realistic about what her actual options are given where she is visually/mentally/economically.
Don't forget to mention that the simps are on their sides.
And Ffs there's a whole Reddit thread attacking "nice guys" by femmos and soon as you try to put in your 2cents worth, you are banned!! Imagine a men's thread attacking women like they do men with such vitriol? Would be taken down in the first day!..
Right on, thanks 👍👍
I do feel a genuine desire from you that you want to help. Thanks for posting!
I am a lonely single man of 23 and I have learned to be my own compliment. People look at me in a weird way but they need others to feel fullfilment while me in solitude had incorporate it into my daily basis. I feel free and calm☺️❤️
That's all that matters because people don't understand that self-esteem comes from the self and not society. If you know who you are and what you are capable, and you also like yourself, that puts you far above the majority of people out there
@@LatimusChadimus 100% agree with any of the words you said you such a wise man and that's so true, the fact that self steem came with the love and care for self and not from others cause love is something who born inside one person and if you just receve it you are not feelling it in your being.
I had my first and last relationship at 23.....im 35 now, still single.
Good Luck.
@@hamsterSNAKE I want to be like you and I know I will :)
@@alonsoquirosgranados7568 haha its a tough road. If you focus on building yourself and your character you will gain more from that than you will from a women. Learn from all you relationships and friendships. Good and Bad and All your struggles
You will long for that connection with someone, it will make you feel so broken and defective and unlovable. But i will tell you, to focus on YOUR mission.
I might not get a silverlining in my life, but i can still be a positive influence to the peoples lives I touch, and if I can make anyones life, just a little better, or make someone see things different, and to introduce people to biblical ideas. Then maybe thats just the plan God has for me. Maybe I do stay single....but what I do is more important to God then my fleshly needs.
Best of Luck in your walk
Hopefully you dont go through liver failure like I did.😅
This channel in general is a huge testament to how amazing my girlfriend really is. I’m a 5’ 10” $50k/year construction worker and she loves me for who I am. I really do consider myself lucky, even more so after watching these videos.
This dating market is just lies and double standards, but I know for a fact that not all women are like that. Good luck
Is she fat, lonely and desperate, to the point she "settled" for you?...
That's the real question.
Are you a good looking guy?
@@meisterchlerp3771 I like to think so. I’m not overweight, but I’m no Chris Hemsworth either. 5’ 10” 150 lbs white dude with blonde hair and a farmers’ tan.
Make the most of it,brother
You either must be a really good looking guy or your wife is an ugly fat hag. lol
I'm 24 years of age never been in a relationship and I became immune to loneliness you can be a good communicator but at the end a man will never be enough for a women.
Not entirely, it depends on how much security and how enthralling you are to her because women are extraordinarily insecure and a lot of them lack personality and substance and if you can be that for them a lot of the times they will follow you around for years. Although as soon as you validate them a lot of them do turn away but that is because of the mental health issues the internet and feminism are breeding
Consider yourself lucky. 34 Asian loner here, I got rejected so many times because I'm not American citizen.
At your age I thought like you too.
Some decades later... nope it doesn't work forever
@@fischersfritz468 yeah I'm the same as them and I know this isn't sustainable that's why I'm starting to enhance the communities around me so at the very least I have some network in the future
@@fischersfritz468 BS, I'm 40, it does indeed work forever. Quit simpn
I'm in my mid 30s, single, never been married, no kids, good job, live alone, no debt, and paid my cars with cash.. and I've been single for 15 years. A gave up a few years ago, but I try again every now and again. However, the bad attitudes, always having their face buried in their phone, and lack of communication skills made me think maybe I'm just not what modern women are looking for. It's too bad, I would've made a good husband and father. Love the content Courtney, hope it helps fellas who still got a chance!
Bro, grab your passport.
Really good video. So glad to see a woman who understands and tries to understand the struggle men have these days. Honestly its so brutal out there for the "standard" man
"garbage men" let that sink in, that's how a lot of women actually view the average guy who isn't making 6 figures and frequenting the gym, the regular guy. i may not be necessarily impressed with every woman i know or see, but i don't think i've ever thought of any of them as garbage
there are plenty of garbage humans, usually need to listen to them talk for a bit before you can sort them into that bin though since not everything can be judged by face value
I've heard men call women garbage too. There are a lot of bitter hateful people in this world.
Thank you for helping solve the current nonsense in the dating scene without being biased, you are appreciated Courtney
It's called gaslighting and it happens to men more. Men end up going through a relationship doubting their ability to make quality decisions. Then, after the relationship is prematurely ended due on her part, she takes everything. No wonder men are lonely and more depressed.
Two toxic messages that are being brain fed to women that need to be corrected:
1. Every woman is a 10/10
2. Every woman deserves the very best
I am sure the writers of the article wouldn't mention these as possible causes for men and women's loneliness and depression.
Bravo Courtney for such a great video and being so honest and wise in your views 👏👏🙏 Hoping that more men and women watch and learn from your videos
Was talking to a girl the other day and she was like “you’re telling me ugly women don’t deserve handsome guys”.. I am truly shocked at the sense of entitlement and lack of accountability most show in the dating process, especially
Right on, thank you !👍👍
Sarakartraining: I'm shocked at your comment!? I know you think that you actually sound smart, saying such a stupid & toxic thing!....But I hate to break it to you bud.... ALL Men and Women should see/believe that they are a 10 out of 10 and if the "very best" represents a good looking, healthy and overall trustworthy decent person... Then hopefully they would likewise believe and therefore strive for the very best in anyone that they are considering committing too in a relationship!?
The problem that you (and many other people on here have) is somewhere along the way... you convinced yourself that you are entitled to something!? The truth is, no one owes you anything!!!
Just because you have a need or desire (because your lonely, horny, attracted to someone or whatever) doesn't mean that they are responsible for accommodating your need or desire! And to think so or worse, actually get mad when they don't.... say's a lot more about you then it does about them!
@@jw4245 it's not stupid or toxic, believing that you're somehow a 10, then you're perfect then that's hype up you ego and think you deserve every man, and they live in unrealistic lives, that's why it's not good to think like that, people need to be humble but also confident in themselves with good reasons, and constantly improve, but thinking you're a 10 and you deserve everything when realistically you're not , is some of self-entitlement that women have .
@@gianmarcocovi4983 Wow, the levels of delusion have gone to such heights 😂😂. Your second sentence is a very powerful message for both genders. Never approach dating with a sense of entitlement and always work on self improvement to attract and keep good partners
"be what you want to attract" is a great summation. work on yourself and be the best version of you. when you become that, the confidence you will have in yourself will help you realize your dream girl is not one of these toxic social media types anyway, and you will start to meet the quality women you seek. i.e. don't blame the fish - use the right bait, the right equipment, and fish in the right pond.... not sure why this popped up in my feed, but interesting channel Courtney. good luck with it.
That's great advice. Funnily, there's a risk that when you live by it, you're in demand, but virtually no one is good enough for you.
Ok, so I'm slim, financially secure, not desperately addicted to social media validation and constantly staring at my phone, have interests that go beyond taking pouting selfies and shopping, no kids due to bad decisions I made in the past, own my home outright, can cook well and keep a clean tidy environment, enjoy quiet time and don't need to be constantly entertained, not sexually needy in fact I'm almost 4 years celibate it means that little to me, can repair and build things, play musical instruments, not addicted to drink/drugs, no cluster B mental issues. I'm pretty happy with who I am... So where's my female equivalent then?
I'd settle for one that had half my list ticked.
I’ve left the dating market. To much bullshit. It’s actually more rewarding focusing on my life and passions, working out, more focus at work, gardening, reading, learning. Much better than playing a game.
King
You Hit the nail on the head with this video thank you very well put
There's way too many factors as to why men are more lonely than ever, but to suggest that it all lies on the shoulders of men is just disingenuous and pathetic. Instead of offering up solutions or ways to cure said loneliness, you have an article essentially saying that men must "lEveL uP" and meet women's standards and this is one of the roots of the issue. All this talk about being "emotionally available" usually comes from women who can do it themselves.
I agree I agree 100% . I would say it's part women's fault as well for setting up unrealistic standards as well.
Spot on
Imagine if this was the other way around; men blaming women. The article would be shut down and ridiculed to hell and would likely never even see the light of day.
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It's unbelievable how shallow and unrealistic so many women have become. Why would any man want to deal with these expectations when there's already so much societal pressure on them. It's no wonder they are going they're own way and most of the time choosing to be single and happy. And for the record, just because you're single doesn't mean you're lonely.
Exactly
Thank you for covering this topic as a female TH-camr. There is a lot of hate towards men and dating. I truly believe most men are considerate guys who just want to find someone who invests energy into dating as well.
I absolutely love your videos Courtney, you have help me see many things that I did not noticed about myself and the dating environment, thank you and keep up the good work!
Me personally. I’ve been the happiest for a long time been single. Focused on myself building career , lifestyle , house proud and investing in my self ( trainning, making money). I went to a friends wedding the other week and found myself very energy drained from the whole day. I enjoyed myself for sure but I was glad to get the day done. Many beautiful women there who where available but I didn’t have to urge to approach. I think I’ve gone down the single road for so long that I’m lost in the enjoyment of it and don’t want anyone to halt my progress. I know people call me weird as I’m constantly on the go and never relaxing. But when my brain in moving so quickly relaxing is for when I sleeping. I’ve had some experience with women ghosting , wasting my time or even stood up. To the point where I don’t even given them a thought yet they try and get back into my life. Once you done that to me the respect is gone and I respect myself way more. So when i ghost I’m the worst person. Hence social media is deactivated for me. This TH-cam is the only interaction I have to people outside my life/ work.
Courtney you are GREAT. Thank you for making these insightful, articulate, and respectful videos sharing your wisdom. I'm finding them very helpful, and I think that ALL single people would benefit from hearing the points that you make so eloquently.
Courtney, your content is genuine, sincere and accurate. Everything about this channel is wholesome and good. There is absolutely nothing to criticize. You are a wonderful spokeswoman for this content. Whoever “bashes” you (man or woman) for your content should be ashamed of themselves and banned from this channel.
I will I will agree with you here. I don't get why people are so obsessed with super tall men and I've seen several TH-cam videos girls talking about how they have to be over 6 ft something and I always had no issues with any height back when I was dating. My height shorter taller didn't matter to me, because I'm an individualist and I just noticed the unique person not their physical attributes per se. But I see that it's become a trend with young women today and it's just weird so I get you on that one.
god bless you
I don't see a lot of "lonely" men, but I do see a lot of men who have just quit caring about trying to please or impress women. Men are better suited to living a more solitary life. What I see a lot of are women in their 30's and 40's who are desperate and anxious about ending up alone with a herd of cats or being single moms forever. Feminism and the delusion of women all thinking they are 10's is leading to a lot of wine moms and ranting on social media. Men want women, but women need men. If you doubt this see who every woman calls when the air conditioning breaks, or the car won't start, or pretty much anything that requires something more than a smart phone.
thats the thing and because men make a society that meet a lot of their needs from men indirectly they think men as disposable or not important until its too late,
mhh lul I want this to continue the more bitter and unhappy people in the west is proper punishment and suffering for their delusions and willful ignorance lmao this is just a minor symptom of greater problems in them western countries.
What defines "lonely?" I'm a mid 50's single man who would rather be alone than to go out on a limb for the (romantic) companionship of a woman. I'm divorced because of a woman who couldn't deal with a "midlife crisis" (that term is debatable). You spend a large portion of your life working, setting up your spouse for financial security in case of your earlier than her departure from this earth. You treat them like a queen and hope she never wants for anything. You give her "me time" while spending a lot of time listening during "our time." I'm not a model, but I'm of average weight (within military standards), I dress fashionably, and I still have all my own (white) teeth and (salt/pepper) hair. Then one day out of the blue she says, "you've treated me great; you've given me everything I wanted, and I love you. But I don't want to be married to you anymore." Once the divorce was final and people asked her what happened, she commonly replied "he didn't do anything wrong. It was all me." So... "Lonely men?" Not me. Before I'd ever trust another woman again, I'd deep clean my ears with an ice pick. I'd rather die alone. In case you can't tell, I've developed trust issues and a sour attitude, but not towards everybody. I still enjoy the entertainment of your videos. This is my first comment, I think. Most of the time I just watch and tell you how wrong you are. 😊 But it's all in good fun. 👍 Keep up the good work.
stay strong mate
Hang in there! When it comes to women, no man is truly safe in this war. I seen guys that abused women mentally and sometimes Physically (my dad) yet she treated him like a king and they're still together now for over 35 years. My mom for being in her late 50s. Looks better than most women in there 40s. My dad however, let himself go. Makes no sense, but that's women for ya.
Do you know what you did right with your life? I'll tell you. Everything. You, unfortunately, did everything right in a society in which the government not only gives women financial incentive to ruin your life, but a government that promotes and celebrates her for doing so. I wish you the best as you rebuild your fortune.
@Syam Cid Unfortunately, I'm not the first and I won't be the last. Thanks for your response. ✌️
@@marco18979 💪 Always!
Thank you.
Well when scores of men will convince a 2 and a 4 that they are as attractive as an 8 or 9, you get extreme rejection and extreme entitlement. Simps and the dilution of social media is not only causing mental health problems but it is causing dating market problems. As a guy above an 8 I'm fine with 6s &7s. Pleasant, above average, kindly. "A pleasant 7 will always be better than a bishhy 9," remember that fellas
No man wants a real relationship with a nagging bully no matter how beautiful she is.
Those 9s will be pumped and dumped until they hit the wall.
@@fugu4163 unless they magically gain morals, personality and set personal boundaries 🤣🤣 not without a daddy they won't...
And don't ever thinking of rejecting a fattie, unless you want to get cancelled
Unfortunately those pleasant 7s are getting rarer because dating apps and social media make them believe they are 9s now
To be honest, I only date women that are around a general 6 or 7. They might not be the "hottest" girl around, but they're usually much better people, much more compatible partners, and more loyal as well.
Around my social circles it's common to hear women say no man is worth it. And they expect us to agree. Actually that phrase you said "not all man do that" has become a joke in their mouths. So it's nice to hear it from a woman. I wish more women watched your channel, Courtney.
I just read a comment from two, both triggered.😁
An average looking woman can get a 100 matches a day on tinder, likely gets approached at least a few times a month irl, and she will pay attention to the one guy treating her like garbage and making her feel like shit. What does this tell men? Treat her like garbage and make her feel like shit if you don't want to be lonely and have your basic needs met. People wonder why Andrew tate exploded on the internet that is why. Why is it that every woman I've gone out with this year has an abusive past with some ex boyfriend even tho it's so easy for you to find a new man the second he's an asshole to you
you can only treat her like crap and still have her IF youre a true CHAD... else you'll end up with a restraining order
@@renaissanceman5847 facts
That's not true. Maybe you're just interested in that type of women. The women I date like good guys and despise the bad boys.
@@octoking9611 No, I believe it's a majority of women idk where you live but you're lucky to have good women that won't hit up a Chad or Tyrone near you. Then complain about needing a guy that won't cheat on her or treat her badly. When loads of nice guys would love to but can't because your "not enough for her" It's happen to me time and time again this is why I'm 23 turning 24 still single and because of that Chad or Tyrone. They also sometimes turn lesbian and say "I don't go for guys anymore" either that or they have expectations that the guy can't control like their height "oh your to short". For me personally I feel like I have to try way too hard and put a ton of effort into someone only for them to say no. Then they get mad thinking you're trying to manipulate them. When you tell them you're depressed they think it's because of them, but it not you've just been hurt time and time again. They give you some kind of some kinda speech say man up you'll find someone like they understand what I've been going through. Like "I've been single once too! Get over it man up" when they literally have Chads and Nice guys alike all lined up. These are just some of the thoughts and experiences I have bottled up and cause no one can have an opinion or civilized conversation between peers nowadays without backlash or being looked at as a bad person.
@@octoking9611 women will always say that if they are attracted to you after all they dont want you thinking that they are a 304.
Dude, idk how I hadn't come across your channel until yesterday. Your content is SO GOOD! It's nice to receive some validation for the struggles of men in the modern dating sphere, but I also love how you hold us accountable as well and motivate men to take better care of themselves and make sure they're doing everything they can to level up in all this craziness.
Bob Edwards
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The next time someone tells you that "a plain reading of scripture" commands, "wives submit to your husbands," feel free to show them this photo.
It's a "plain reading" of Ephesians 5:22 from our oldest available Greek manuscript. And no, the word "submit" is not there.
There is a place just above what is now labeled verse 22, where every Christian that is filled with the Holy Spirit will demonstrate this by "submitting one to another out of reverence for Christ," but this by no means applies exclusively to wives or women.
Every follower of Jesus Christ will demonstrate the presence of God's Spirit in their lives by showing the same kind of love and humility one to another that Christ modeled for us.
That, I believe, is a more faithful "plain reading of Scripture."
Oh my god, you are really, really good at this. I don't know your educational background or career background, but this is your calling. You should have a talk show. I've never seen a young lady who is so spot on in her assessments and evaluations, as well as her ability to articulate a point to where her audience can plainly understand her. I stumbled on your channel and I'm very impressed. This is where you belong. Thanks, I'll show myself out.
Thank you for the kind comment! I appreciate it ☺️
You are so wise beyond your years! So glad I started following You!!
Just because someone is single doesn't mean they're lonely. And just because someone is married doesn't mean they are not lonely. Someone said to a friend of mine who was planning to divorce her husband "It's better to be single and looking to that right relationship than to be married and looking for a way out of a bad relationship".
Don't hand me that crap! Both the man and woman are MARRIED! That means they've found which one works out the best for them, gone on the right amount of dates. However, if you are mentally "challenged", like me, it's a hell of a lot harder to get somebody to date..
The wench that plans to divorce her husband is still thinking she's young; if she divorces her hubby she'll be in for a serious wake up call; no man wants old used up a$$........
It’s just better to be single. Honestly. Women don’t know what they want. Sorry I’m wrong, they always want something better because they’re never happy. There is literally nothing in marriage for men. It’s a fools paradise.
@@mattjahnke239 Well I mean the fact that divorce rates are going up proves that is not fully true.
@@shaunfirebird OK, what do you mean by that?
Here’s a fact for you to consider, life is simple, women make it complicated. A lot of men do not want any more complications than they already have to deal with. One other issue is the MeToo movement, most men won’t even acknowledge a woman much less talk to her. It’s simply not worth the time or effort. In closing, marriage is yet another issue, why would any man get married? The State has control of everything in a divorce, which absolutely favors the woman. These are three valid reasons the topic you’re covering is a moot issue.
Amen brother Bob. The only thing the feminist movement did, is ruin the lives of women. At no other time in history have women been more equal to men, yet their unhappiness is at all time highs. Just good the statistics of women's depression and sadness.
Even Courtney admits that woman have the advantage of choice. And with this abundance of choice, they are still the most depressed they've ever been.
The article Courtney is reading says "men are lonely and sad", yet it's really the wen that are. They are trying to be strong and independent, but yet they still want a man.
Jokes on them. The more men they drive on to being alone, the more unhappy they will be.
I always find it incredibly hypocritical when hear these SAME arguments from women I know in my life (It's mens' fault because they are emotionally immature, don't have good values, etc etc.) - then I offer them male friends I know whom I think are good catches and have those values that would geta long with those women - and I'm met with the same tired responses "well...he's just not my type....well...I don't like red-heads....well his teeth are a little crooked....well he's only 5 foot 10 and I prefer 6 feet".
women will unconsciously pick out physical flaws as justification for rejecting a guy when the reality is the guy is boring or lacks game
@@JesusChrist5000 No, it's primarily physical reasons in my case. They have not even met the guy. game is not the big mover everyone thinks it is. it's required, but so it a baseline physical attractiveness.
A guy with good looks and good game = killer
A guy with average looks and good game = can also do well
a guy with below average looks and good game = will struggle immensely.
The problem is most women catagorize most men as below average
@@psychosylocibin exactly. They have not met the guy yet, but are making a determination based purely on looks. And they assume since other women dont want the guy, then he is undesirable .
I was happy to get a video in my feed from a woman giving honest and realistic advice for both sides. Thanks for the encouragement in the right direction.
The average woman doesn't want the average man. Social media has solidified this.
Get of social media and observe real life.
Lots of average women with average men and they are happy together.
@@ogolden8315 The loneliness stats are taken from real life.
@Not Convinced and men!!!
@@FGj-xj7rd I was challenging your point about average women not wanting average men. Majority of people fall within average spectrum. Most couples I’m seeing IRL generally match each other.
Loneliness has risen across the board in most Western societies for various macro and micro reasons.
I have never been married or helped to bring any children into the world. My last relationship or partnership ended January of 2005. I spent the following 8 years trying to date women I thought I had a connection with, which led to nowhere. The last woman I tried to date pretended to like me only to make her ex jealous. They are now married and I still stand alone.
After that fiasco, I left my home State in favor of a new home. I thought maybe a change of scenery might help. Though it didn't seem to help on the dating front, what it did do for me was give me a fresh start and a new perspective on myself and how I can contribute in this life not having a family. It gave me 5 to 7 years of self-reflection and repair, a necessary evolution of soul and character.
I entered middle age a few years back, and have lost hope in ever getting married or starting a family. After my father passed away in 2019, not having a family hit me pretty hard, as I always wanted to get married and have a family. My father always wanted to be a granddad; but now that will never happen.
So as I stated earlier, now I'm middle-aged, and ironically in the best financial state I've ever been in; but thanks to inflation that doesn't mean much, and I haven't dated in so long I kind of feel like I don't know how to anymore. I watch your videos and other content creators to try to get some kind of an idea of how to get back in the game; but the best game I can muster up is being the one who rescues his neighbors once in awhile when they get out of hand and need some assistance. I feel like that's all I am, the doormat women can come to when they need it. Just wanted to share another lonely man's tale.
Right on, S.A.W. 👍 The story you share practically mirrors my life path so far, even the father passing in that year.
Hopefully we can find love. I’ve seen grown women become giddy school kids when browsing through media sites of men offering up who they are, etc, for consideration. Like a 75% off at a toy store full of children, these girls ramble through the pics/ bios, no man appears remotely good enough, it’s just a self attention / entertainment evening for them.
Don't give up hope, you'll find what you're looking for!
My favorite comment you said and I have been putting into practice the last few years is “Be who you want to attract”. I know who I am as a person and know how to treat the one I care about. If I want something in a partner, I want to be able to have that trait as well
Women are taught that they "deserve" a man that is 6'1 and makes $250,000 a year and they are willing to ride the carousel until they realize they passed up all the good guys and are now alone with 3 cats and a kid or two. Men should not rescue these women under any circumstances.
Unless that woman makes 10 c more without lifting a pinky
I can totally relate. I’m a 27 years old lonely man and i’m liking it. I don’t know if this is a good or bad thing but being lonely has given me a sort of freedom to which i started to get addicted.
Hey Courtney, been following you ever since you reacted to an Alpha M video. I just wanted to take the time to thank you and to let you know that your work actually makes a difference, and has helped me personally in more than one way. Keep it up, and thanks again from the bottom of my heart, you never know when or how you might be saving someone's life. God bless, have an amazing day!
Ms. Ryan, I really appreciate your introspective narrative on this topic. Thank you!
I think the best thing men can do at this point is just focus on themselves and let the chips fall where they will. If you don’t end up with anybody that you dreamt of and you stay single than it wasn’t meant to happen.