There is a difference between leader and a boss. The Boss is a strong personality who focuses on business outcomes rather than relationships. Whereas, Leaders take measured and make positive changes in relationships, business practices, and communications. Gone are the days of the bosses. In today’s world we need leaders who can inspire others to achieve greatness !
@@LilPW No he does not. Knowledge that forms an advice doesn't need perfect language. Everyone can express whatever idea they have. If you had a great background learning good English, kudos to you. But not everyone has your experience. English is not a language spoken only by nobles. Allow people to express themselves. Provide your correction in a meaningful manner.
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Autistic people and mimicking their favourite character on a show or starting to mimic the person we're talking to or even just accent echolalia. Sadly nothing in this was new for me. Autistic/ADHD people usually have to do 100% of communication bridging in conversations while neurotypical people do nothing because they just expect people to talk the way they do and if they have to put in any effort at all, vast majority of the time we're the issue, not them, and we're not trying hard enough to understand them, yet we're already in negative daily energy because it's the 2nd conversation of the day.
Because you overthink it, they don't expect anything, you think they expect anything, no one wants you to mimic some character or them, you think they want you to do that..
I know tons of ADHD and autistic people who speak weird because they are overthinking what they say, when they stop doing that, they sound exactly like everyone else, most people really don't care that much what anyone says, and if someone actually does, they are probably your friend and don't care if you sound strange anyway.. it's like you think you have to wear the color clothes I like or I will find you strange, when in reality I don't pay any attention to the color clothes your wearing, and I already forgot what color clothes I am wearing even though I chose them 4 hours ago..
@@dantalion447 you have completely missed the point, we are often not even aware we're starting to mimic accents, this is a completely normal phenomenon and even neurotypicals start to do it but it's a lot slower for them. Why do you think people pick up accents when they have lived somewhere for awhile? Autistics just do it a lot faster. Then there's the repeating words and phrases because the brain likes it, or we're holding onto it as a focus, the brain doesn't like it but trying to understand it, it's just fun. Different situations different reasons. You sound like you have no idea. "I know tonnes of ..." Means you haven't lived what it's like so you don't actually get to comment on what it's like for that group of people. Also if you've met one autistic person, then you've met one autistics person. Our ability to speak and if we can speak, how often we go non verbal, is different for each of us. If I don't stop to think about the sentence and how it's perceived then a lot of the time it doesn't come out as an understandable sentence. Just a couple of words if that. Stop speaking for people who have been bullied, who have constantly been told and forced to be who they are not, who are constantly taken advantage of or rejected for these differences or the uncanny valley.
@@Onthe9thlife3730 what I'm saying is you think people are judging you, and I'm sure some do, but the majority is not, if you pickup an accent that is done unintentionally, so it's not added work, I also have traveled and picked up accents, it wasn't work or required effort, I was actually unaware until I heard my own voice on recording, what I'm saying is I don't think as many people are bullying you or judging you as you think, if you come up to me, butcher a sentence, I really don't care, I might re ask you to clarify, or if I can figure out what you meant I just continue, I have people without any disorders that just have hard to understand voices and I can bearly make out what they say, I eventually figure it out, what I'm saying is your blaming people that are "Nero typical" for your hardships, which it's not them, or the majority, you think you have a hardship and you may, but your the one making yourself a victim, I can guarantee you 95 percent of people don't care or notice, from the way you type you talk better then 90 percent of normal people.. so I don't know how people are judging you when they have less ability to communicate them you.. and I'm not sure I'm not autistic, I don't believe I am, but I never was tested, because I could care less, I can function fine, and I don't have difficulty.. but I know many people with autism, ADHD, ADD.. most I would not have noticed unless they told me, yes there are the extreme cases, but from the way you type you don't know what they go through either, because you don't have that issues either.. if you are constantly bullied then you need to associate with better people, I have know someone who could bearly speak, I would not bully her, but I tried to get her to understand because as you knew her better she could speak fine, she had a mental block, that she is the one doing it to herself and she speaks fine, if you want to not speak, or you want to feel like that, that's fine, but you shouldn't blame everyone else, because most of at least many people are not judging you and don't care.. it's unfair to blame others as if they are targeting you when they are not.. obviously what I am saying is not coming through correctly because you would see I'm on your side if it was, but then I could say I'm in the same boat as you and people don't understand me, but I'm not going to say that everyone is trying to bully me because I don't believe that's true, yes my speech my get misinterpreted, but I don't think I'm being targeted to get mocked, maybe I'm wrong and I am though, but either way, I don't care.. make sense?
@DANTALION your wall of text was hard to read. You seem to think everyone is the same as you, they aren't. You're obviously in a nicer society than I am if there is no discrimination towards autistic/ADHD individuals, nor systematic discrimination that filters them out in job application systems. All the normal body behaviours of autistic people are deemed evidence of lying. Explaining a situation is, for some reason, also evidence of guilt. Being able to type out is completely different to talking in a face to face situation, the fact you've never had to think about that is evident by your comment. I'm victimising myself? I didn't even know I'm autistic and ADHD until 2-3 years ago. Prior to that I had no idea why everything was so hard for me yet everyone else managed to do things with ease, but the moment there was something I found easy to do suddenly that was proof that I should somehow be able to do everything else that everyone else was able to do and held to a higher standard then them because I could do something with ease that they couldn't do. I've always had trouble getting jobs, in fact I'm jobless right now because I can't find anything that fits my needs. Not wants, my needs, now that I know what they are, after a lifetime of being told I'm faking or just completely dismissing them. In my most recent job I was so burntout and in burnout for so long that my body was breaking down, I'm not going to go into my health issues but it's soooo (sarcasm) amazing that they all have disappeared or are healing after actually being able to sleep 20hours a day for 2-3 years. You have no idea what it's like just to be completely wiped out from getting up to go to the toilet or just get a drink of water. I have worked in several industries and despite putting in 200% while others out in 50% I still, for some unknown reason * eye roll * wasn't able to get into better jobs or roles in the company because of a little thing called the Uncanny Valley effect and people's unconscious discrimination. Your thinking about things, especially if you are autistic, is not the way others, especially neurotypical people, think about things. In fact all the companies that hire programmers have to deliberately go seeking autistic people for them because of how their systems reject them. I'm not responding anymore, I've had a life time of living on extreme hard mode while majority of people get it on easy, that to keep trying to explain it to someone that is just dismissing it is not worth my time or energy.
it doesnt work for me at least. when you told me about the interview and palm sweating, i connected immediately because i experienced the same thing and can share connection. but when you talk about poland and snow, i have zero connection. it's all about connection and sharing same experience but not about narrative/stories.
"It's not about what you say but how you say it" and this is exactly the problem with modern work culture in the west. It's all about style over substance. Machiavellian scheming, strategic communication, power dressing and verbal projection, social engineering, 'winning friends and influencing people'. Ugh. The sooner the need for these type of ted talks disappears, the better. Work culture is too rotten and shallow. It's time for a new approach: honesty, accountability, consideration of people's mental well being, and allowing people time and space to get their job done without constant surveillance and bullying from bosses who don't give a damn about their workers.
@@kekennedy TedX will not share their login details with every speaker. It was uploaded by TedX. But they will change it whenever they read the comments.
You can also try to ''truely'' empower and elevate your speech so much it comes off as nothing but platonic and fake, such is the case in this exact presentation..
@@joeblow5658 woosh, you don't know that it's a joke? That's why I capitalized it and put 3 exclamation marks next to it... That's unfortunate for you.. I was agreeing with you that they just said "how become louder " and changed it, because it sounds like they are screaming it with improper grammar while telling you at the same time not to raise your voice... But your inability to understand a very simple joke is not a great sign for your intelligence.. I'm sorry that my very simplistic joke that a small child would get flew right over your head.. it was so simplistic that it wasn't even funny because of how basic it was..
@@roca3543 I couldn't understand him either, can you recommend me a good Otolaryngology? I think I may have compounded wax like you said, I swim, does swimming cause ear wax buildup?
There is a difference between leader and a boss. The Boss is a strong personality who focuses on business outcomes rather than relationships. Whereas, Leaders take measured and make positive changes in relationships, business practices, and communications. Gone are the days of the bosses. In today’s world we need leaders who can inspire others to achieve greatness !
Learn how to read and write English concisely before giving your input on anything in it please and thank you.
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@@LilPW No he does not. Knowledge that forms an advice doesn't need perfect language. Everyone can express whatever idea they have. If you had a great background learning good English, kudos to you. But not everyone has your experience. English is not a language spoken only by nobles. Allow people to express themselves. Provide your correction in a meaningful manner.
@@punisherlee great
@@punisherlee I agree. Just because you're not a native speaker or your grammar isn't perfect, doesn't mean you don't have anything to say!
Make it immersive with details
Make it personal with emotions
Make it meaningful with what you learned
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1 . Make it immersive .
2 . Make it personal .
2. Make it meaningful .
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Immersive. It's why we've been telling stories for millions of years. Stories work.
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It's all about making the human connection.
Autistic people and mimicking their favourite character on a show or starting to mimic the person we're talking to or even just accent echolalia.
Sadly nothing in this was new for me.
Autistic/ADHD people usually have to do 100% of communication bridging in conversations while neurotypical people do nothing because they just expect people to talk the way they do and if they have to put in any effort at all, vast majority of the time we're the issue, not them, and we're not trying hard enough to understand them, yet we're already in negative daily energy because it's the 2nd conversation of the day.
Because you overthink it, they don't expect anything, you think they expect anything, no one wants you to mimic some character or them, you think they want you to do that..
I know tons of ADHD and autistic people who speak weird because they are overthinking what they say, when they stop doing that, they sound exactly like everyone else, most people really don't care that much what anyone says, and if someone actually does, they are probably your friend and don't care if you sound strange anyway.. it's like you think you have to wear the color clothes I like or I will find you strange, when in reality I don't pay any attention to the color clothes your wearing, and I already forgot what color clothes I am wearing even though I chose them 4 hours ago..
@@dantalion447 you have completely missed the point, we are often not even aware we're starting to mimic accents, this is a completely normal phenomenon and even neurotypicals start to do it but it's a lot slower for them.
Why do you think people pick up accents when they have lived somewhere for awhile?
Autistics just do it a lot faster. Then there's the repeating words and phrases because the brain likes it, or we're holding onto it as a focus, the brain doesn't like it but trying to understand it, it's just fun. Different situations different reasons.
You sound like you have no idea. "I know tonnes of ..." Means you haven't lived what it's like so you don't actually get to comment on what it's like for that group of people.
Also if you've met one autistic person, then you've met one autistics person. Our ability to speak and if we can speak, how often we go non verbal, is different for each of us.
If I don't stop to think about the sentence and how it's perceived then a lot of the time it doesn't come out as an understandable sentence. Just a couple of words if that.
Stop speaking for people who have been bullied, who have constantly been told and forced to be who they are not, who are constantly taken advantage of or rejected for these differences or the uncanny valley.
@@Onthe9thlife3730 what I'm saying is you think people are judging you, and I'm sure some do, but the majority is not, if you pickup an accent that is done unintentionally, so it's not added work, I also have traveled and picked up accents, it wasn't work or required effort, I was actually unaware until I heard my own voice on recording, what I'm saying is I don't think as many people are bullying you or judging you as you think, if you come up to me, butcher a sentence, I really don't care, I might re ask you to clarify, or if I can figure out what you meant I just continue, I have people without any disorders that just have hard to understand voices and I can bearly make out what they say, I eventually figure it out, what I'm saying is your blaming people that are "Nero typical" for your hardships, which it's not them, or the majority, you think you have a hardship and you may, but your the one making yourself a victim, I can guarantee you 95 percent of people don't care or notice, from the way you type you talk better then 90 percent of normal people.. so I don't know how people are judging you when they have less ability to communicate them you.. and I'm not sure I'm not autistic, I don't believe I am, but I never was tested, because I could care less, I can function fine, and I don't have difficulty.. but I know many people with autism, ADHD, ADD.. most I would not have noticed unless they told me, yes there are the extreme cases, but from the way you type you don't know what they go through either, because you don't have that issues either.. if you are constantly bullied then you need to associate with better people, I have know someone who could bearly speak, I would not bully her, but I tried to get her to understand because as you knew her better she could speak fine, she had a mental block, that she is the one doing it to herself and she speaks fine, if you want to not speak, or you want to feel like that, that's fine, but you shouldn't blame everyone else, because most of at least many people are not judging you and don't care.. it's unfair to blame others as if they are targeting you when they are not.. obviously what I am saying is not coming through correctly because you would see I'm on your side if it was, but then I could say I'm in the same boat as you and people don't understand me, but I'm not going to say that everyone is trying to bully me because I don't believe that's true, yes my speech my get misinterpreted, but I don't think I'm being targeted to get mocked, maybe I'm wrong and I am though, but either way, I don't care.. make sense?
@DANTALION your wall of text was hard to read.
You seem to think everyone is the same as you, they aren't. You're obviously in a nicer society than I am if there is no discrimination towards autistic/ADHD individuals, nor systematic discrimination that filters them out in job application systems.
All the normal body behaviours of autistic people are deemed evidence of lying. Explaining a situation is, for some reason, also evidence of guilt.
Being able to type out is completely different to talking in a face to face situation, the fact you've never had to think about that is evident by your comment.
I'm victimising myself? I didn't even know I'm autistic and ADHD until 2-3 years ago. Prior to that I had no idea why everything was so hard for me yet everyone else managed to do things with ease, but the moment there was something I found easy to do suddenly that was proof that I should somehow be able to do everything else that everyone else was able to do and held to a higher standard then them because I could do something with ease that they couldn't do.
I've always had trouble getting jobs, in fact I'm jobless right now because I can't find anything that fits my needs. Not wants, my needs, now that I know what they are, after a lifetime of being told I'm faking or just completely dismissing them.
In my most recent job I was so burntout and in burnout for so long that my body was breaking down, I'm not going to go into my health issues but it's soooo (sarcasm) amazing that they all have disappeared or are healing after actually being able to sleep 20hours a day for 2-3 years. You have no idea what it's like just to be completely wiped out from getting up to go to the toilet or just get a drink of water.
I have worked in several industries and despite putting in 200% while others out in 50% I still, for some unknown reason * eye roll * wasn't able to get into better jobs or roles in the company because of a little thing called the Uncanny Valley effect and people's unconscious discrimination.
Your thinking about things, especially if you are autistic, is not the way others, especially neurotypical people, think about things.
In fact all the companies that hire programmers have to deliberately go seeking autistic people for them because of how their systems reject them.
I'm not responding anymore, I've had a life time of living on extreme hard mode while majority of people get it on easy, that to keep trying to explain it to someone that is just dismissing it is not worth my time or energy.
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The typo kinda makes this even funnier..
yeah you just ruined his moment from the typo in the title
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Congratulations Carlos, excellent talk!! Gracias
it doesnt work for me at least. when you told me about the interview and palm sweating, i connected immediately because i experienced the same thing and can share connection. but when you talk about poland and snow, i have zero connection. it's all about connection and sharing same experience but not about narrative/stories.
Skill can be learned
"It's not about what you say but how you say it" and this is exactly the problem with modern work culture in the west. It's all about style over substance. Machiavellian scheming, strategic communication, power dressing and verbal projection, social engineering, 'winning friends and influencing people'. Ugh. The sooner the need for these type of ted talks disappears, the better.
Work culture is too rotten and shallow. It's time for a new approach: honesty, accountability, consideration of people's mental well being, and allowing people time and space to get their job done without constant surveillance and bullying from bosses who don't give a damn about their workers.
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非常好👍
That seems interesting... I'd probably watch it later cuz it's 12 am and I need to sleep.
“How become louder without raising your voice” lol you got a typo
30 minutes and it's still there. Funny to notice it 😂
English is his second language. But you would think Ted X would be in charge of posting these? 🤷
@@kekennedy TedX will not share their login details with every speaker. It was uploaded by TedX. But they will change it whenever they read the comments.
@@punisherlee they still hadn’t changed it…
awesome info!👌🏼👏🏼🙏🏼
That's Great!💯
Thank you!
Start by adding the preposition to the title of your talk
Ironically enough - had to raise up the volume at the beginning of video.
and couldnt even figure out how to be more louder
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What do you mean?
How become louder without raising voice
@@LoveFitsAll lol i hadn't even noticed it.
@@tapiwanashenhanga446 I'm being ridiculous but I do naturally see it and I do get annoyed every so often. ❤️
Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.
Couldn't agree more
Interesting I have talked about something similar in one of my videos, love this content
Typo in the title.
“How become louder” isn’t proper.
You can also try to ''truely'' empower and elevate your speech so much it comes off as nothing but platonic and fake, such is the case in this exact presentation..
How to* become louder (Please fix the title.)
Yep
How check video title to make sure right
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Use a megaphone
BY USING CAPLOCK
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Um.. shouldn't a Ted Talk have a properly worded title ? " how become louder"????
How to... HOW TO BECOME LOUDER.
HOW BECOME LOUDER!!!
@@dantalion447 ok illegal
@@joeblow5658 ohh I'm an alien, I'm a Legal alien, I'm an English man in New York.
@@dantalion447 English guy who doesn't know proper English hahaha...
@@joeblow5658 woosh, you don't know that it's a joke? That's why I capitalized it and put 3 exclamation marks next to it... That's unfortunate for you.. I was agreeing with you that they just said "how become louder " and changed it, because it sounds like they are screaming it with improper grammar while telling you at the same time not to raise your voice... But your inability to understand a very simple joke is not a great sign for your intelligence.. I'm sorry that my very simplistic joke that a small child would get flew right over your head.. it was so simplistic that it wasn't even funny because of how basic it was..
To*
pirate from the Caribbean m8y
Show more passion, it's your story!!!
Wow
How use proper grammar without auto-correct | Me | Here
Nicee another educational weedioo
How to*
I didn’t understand a word he said and he’s trying to teach?
well You should clean the wax in your ears pal, the message was clear
@@roca3543 you’re right! I’ll make an ear appointment. What would I do without you Buddy?!
@@roca3543 I couldn't understand him either, can you recommend me a good Otolaryngology? I think I may have compounded wax like you said, I swim, does swimming cause ear wax buildup?
Why would I have so many people remember what I said though? Am I that important?
Whats that pronunciation 🤔 "How become Louder"?
How I become
How to give a memorable speech by a person that cant do that.
7 months in Europe. HAAHAHAH
4th
If only I could remember dialogue 🫠