To my sisters, it is okay to be single or wait however long it takes to find the right one. Don't let society make you feel less than for being single. It is much better to be happy alone! Trust me....
Black Women refuse to date out, it's not that they think it's wrong to be single or wait however long it takes, they JUST want a Black Man. Is the BBC that good?
I honestly don’t understand why some women find it so difficult to be alone!!! It’s annoying asf and sometimes we as women just need to heal first from past wounds and then; perhaps we can sense the red flags prior to any long term committment because when you’re not fully healed, you can miss the red flags because you’re far more focused on the relationship as well as super distracted bc the WRONG man will keep you that way; unfortunately. 😩😞😢
This is so true! I met someone gave me some really sad days! So glad its over🙏 leave at the first red flag. That’s me now, I don’t play about any more.
Dear Humans, Please stop making women feel like they *need* a partner to be happy. This man was beneath her, and it cost her her life. RIP Lovely Lady.
Yes I agree so much., But then there is this most natural urge for a women to want a family and kids....Women need to trust their instincts and what close frineds or parents advice them to do. There are many ways to live a happy life, it doesn`t have to be marriage, Lauren had a happy life and he destroyed it, what a coward he is, hope he burns in hell forever.
True that woman don't "need" a man, however, if they choose to have children, their kids need a father in their HOME. You just gotta pick your partner very wisely.
I agree. I bet if she would’ve just adopted a baby or got a sperm donor, she would be thriving with her beautiful family and community right now. We don’t need marriage or a male in order to feel fulfilled in life in this day in age. Stay happily safe and single.
@@fredajordan5704 Nope. That’s what adoption and sperm donors are for. Don’t even need a man anymore. She had her dad and uncle as good father figures.
@nadagabri5783 Thank you so much for the EMPATHY and SYMPATHY that you show to the VICTIMS of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. BLAMING the VICTIM SEEMS to BE in FASHION.
@@sexytrinny52 we all have to use common sense. What is the point of red flags/warning signs if we do not heed them? Can we honestly say there was “absolutely nothing” she could have done to avoid this outcome? We can support the victim but have our eyes open simultaneously. Don’t let other women be victims because you refuse to acknowledge that there are things we can do to ensure better outcomes.
@@sexytrinny52 no, she’s right. There were too many red flags even her friends tried to warn her against staying with him. They did background checks, which she should’ve done, and everything trying to convince her to leaves him. I feel so bad that for some reason she felt she had to deal with a man who lied to & cheated on her. Look how violent he turned out to be.
@@sexytrinny52 i’m not sure if you’re being sarcastic. She seemed like a wonderful woman. I thought it was tragic that she overlooked certain things. I was not in any way blaming her
@@nadagabri5783the person wasn’t being sarcastic. Unfortunately a lot of women have that girl code thing going on. Like you can’t call out when they didn’t do their part to protect themselves. We the sane ones have to be cautious cuz evil never rests 😔
Ladies, I don't care if you're lonely, pushing 40, or feeling like you're running out of time, please don't ever rush to get married. Don't ignore red flags, don't ignore your families and friends concerns. It's one of THE most important decisions you'll make in your life for your life! Prior to meeting him, although she didn't have romantic love, she had so much love and support from friends and family. You could feel it in this video. He envied her, kept her isolated, and tore her down. He had no business being with her and he knew that. My condolences to her friends and family. This should have never happened.
Yes. Beautifully said. She didn't have romantic love, but she had so many other kinds of love from family, friends and coworkers. This shows how important it is to count your blessings, and practice gratitude for what you have, because you may lose it all chasing after something you don't.
@@plynn136 you don’t know her. You know what you saw from 20 minutes. She was trying to leave. It is incredibly hurtful to her loved ones to see comments saying she should’ve done things or known better.
@@ConsciousRespects Give it a rest. Why do I have to have known her personally? She was every woman like I am. Each of us is our own "first defense". Yes, she should have known better than to MARRY a man who lied to her by commission and omission and did not want her to meet his mother or kids BEFORE the wedding.
If you’re marrying a man, and NO ONE shows up for him….if that isn’t a red flag then I don’t know what is. RIP to this beautiful lady, and condolences to her loved ones 🙏.
@@keepitfrankwithfentse so if you don’t have friends you’re a red flag? Babygirl open your mind. Life ain’t the same for everyone. Everyone isn’t willing to accept a piece of a person even if it’s a friend
Exactly, Just like my ex, a Bible carrying church bandit, with a dark soul. Out there he appeared great to everyone but was a demon at home. Rip lovely lady.
This is why people really need to trust their family and close friends when it comes to relationships. Sometimes they can see things you can’t. Rip to this sweet lady
A lot of times the person will label the friend or family member as being jealous or too judgmental. They don’t want to see the red flags or can’t see them because they don’t want to be lonely.
@@brittanyb5942True! Sometimes they are DEAD wrong! Whew! Sometimes the only time you can trust that advice is if everyone around you is saying the same thing about your significant other.
Tony, thank you for this message of honesty and truth. I was married for 25 years my husband was so controlling and abusive. I could not take a bubble bath without him knocking on the door, screaming, "come out; you've been in there too long." He was hooked in porn, drugs, and women. I was advised by my mother to let him do what he want to because he's my "husband." Worst advice ever! I've been divorced over 21 years; bought my own house 4 years ago, retired, work part-time and live as a single woman strictly according to God's laws. I thank God for you everyday for teaching the truth! I love my life...70 years old and still trusting God for my life each and every day. Thank you for being so passionate about your purpose. May God continue to bless you and your family!!
Praise God! Thank you, Jesus for your comfort and perfect peace for this dear woman! To God Be The Glory! God's rich, rewarding, unlimited outpour of blessings to you Linda and your dear family. May He keep you all covered in the shield of His unmovable and unshaken shield of protection.
My father hated my ex (MANY years ago) within 5 mins of meeting him. Funny thing is, my ex barely said a word within those first 5 minutes. The moment we had a free moment my dad said ‘he’s no good, get rid of him’… That always stuck with me but he didn’t say why he felt that way, so I carried on… 12 months later he had tried to unalive me! Luckily, I got rid of him after a year of him stalking me. People tend to see things we are too blinded to see. Never take external feedback about a potential partner as a grain of salt. It could literally be life or death! RIP Lauren 🙏🏾
My father told me the same exact thing about my ex husband. I married him anyway and almost lost my life. I’m so thankful that God got me out of that situation.
True. I left my ex four months after giving birth to our only child together, my son. He collapsed my lung & could've ended my life. I never looked back.✅
A high achieving and accomplished black woman should avoid a black man who has no achievements; it never ends well. She had a lot of education, a good job, a home, friends who loved her, he had none of these things. It was a recipe for disaster.
THIS! I find myself in this position now in knowing not to open myself up to a man who is beneath where I'm at. EDIT: My apologies to everyone who responded to my original comment. I should have conveyed better as to what I was agreeing with. As stated in my below responses, I am not in a relationship because I don't want to settle. The original commenter made some great points about being an accomplished woman that should avoid a man who has no achievements. This is what I was saying that I agree with. My apologies for the misunderstanding.
@@poet82nYou are in a great position because you KNOW THIS! The worst thing is when you are blessed and highly favored with many good, solid things going on in your life minus any avoidable drama and you don't recognize that you are above the fray. You good girl. I'm all for a loving, uplifting, mutually fulfilling relationship but I'm against selling your soul just to say that you have a man. It never works out. Even when you stay...you imprison yourself.
I tell everyone that videos like this on TH-cam gave me the courage to LEAVE my situation, and has SAVED my LIFE! Thank you for posting this video and raising awareness! If it even touches one person, this young lady's passing was not in vain. Her beautiful smile is radiating the angels. R.I.P. beautiful.
Loneliness can be a hell of a thing. It can truly make a person desperate to have somebody by any means necessary. I’m so sorry this happened to her 😭.
Very true. Like it flushes all common sense. No friends Can’t meet the mom Can’t come over to his house No job Like literal ref flags but because you wanted the ring you brush that away. We have to do better and trust our family and friends too
Yeah, but in this case, where was e to go?? He had nothing to loose, he just didn`t care, The right time was missed to end this relationship, marrying him was Lauren biggest mistake.
This is heart breaking. Hearing this young woman's story makes me realize that it's perfectly fine to stay single. I hope her family can find healing and peace.
The fact that he gave her a fake address from the beginning of meeting him was the kicker for me. Dude's only intention was finding a vulnerable woman who would take care of his worthless arse. Wish she would have taken heed to what her loved ones were trying to tell her because she certainly deserved better.
You can tell this girl was loved and full of energetic life. Look at all the weddings 💒 she’s been to and spoke at. She had so much love to deliver to each and every person she made contact with. May her soul rest in peace. 🕊️
I dated this man who wanted me to move away from people,he would say,"we need to find a place,away from everybody" he tried abusing me,until he found out that I fight and hit back.
I dated a demon like him once. They’re extremely difficult to get rid of as their ego and victim complex is unmatched. They’re relentless in their rein of terror in your life. It can be paralyzing. If you know someone is in an abusive situation reach out and see if they’re okay. These narcs isolate you and this can be the result. Rest in peace Lauren. 🌈💜✨
He was a narcissist and a predator, going after intelligent women who are successful in their lives and careers. Such women tend to settle because some men are very insecure about a successful career woman who is winning at life. It’s so sad. She was so loved and it seems she was such a loving friend as well. I pray her soul finds rest.
She sounds like a wonderful human. Her friends obviously loved her deeply. I believe that she is looking over them and misses them as well. It’s always okay to ask for help. Those who love you won’t judge you
Absolutely beautiful words. Many more people need to know that it is perfectly ok to tell someone. In fact, PLEASE tell someone, report domestic abuse & do research on potential partners. If they have nothing to hide, it shouldn’t be an issue. Sadly, many of the smartest people are most concerned with saving face. Rest in peace Lauren.💔🥀🕊️
@dolinaj1 Death comes to all of us at some point. However, how one dies can make the pain of losing someone very difficult to accept. Yet, lessons learned from the choices others make can be helpful. I can only speak for myself. My takeaways from all of these sentiments are that when you are in an abusive relationship, do not be too proud or ashamed to reach out. Take the threats and abuse seriously. People who love you will not judge you. Don't be concerned with what people think. Get out and save yourself. If you don't get it, that's okay. But it is not cool to be dismissive of others. A life could be saved.
I knew Lauren and her family. Her maternal grandfather (Mr. Earl Barthe’ a master plasterer ) was a legendary figure in New Orleans’ African American/Creole society. They were all very nice people and Lauren I remember was very smart and kind hearted. OMG, I cannot believe she went through this. Heartbreaking, absolutely heartbreaking.
" IT'S TRULY, TRULY HEARTBREAKING ".... Sending MY CONDOLENCES and PRAYERS to the family and WHO LOVED HER !!! Amen to YOUR comment , and THANK YOUR POST... "I FELT EVERY WORD!!! ❤❤😭😭😭
*Even if he lived with his mother, she SHOULD’ve been able to visit him. *Her finding an empty lot at the “address” he gave as his own was GOD’s way of saving her from him. *When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE THEM THE FIRST TIME!! (Maya Angelou) This is heartbreaking 💔
Ladies! You cannot be 'everything' to a person. If he has nothing when you meet him, honey it's not going to change. When you leave your are taking the roof over his head, the clothes on his back, the food in his stomach. You're making that person homeless. People react badly to that.
I get what you're saying, but the wording triggered me. The departing partner is not "making the other person homeless." The person being left is making themselves homeless by destroying their marriage via abuse and infidelity, for one, and by not being able to provide for themselves as a single person, for two. Each person has a right to leave the relationship how they entered it. If he entered without his own roof, clothes and food, then it's not her fault that that's how he's leaving.
@@Lynn.B. True but the onus is on the person who CHOSE to engage & get involved with a person who is not on solid footing! We aren’t talking about 20 year olds, he was a fully grown adult who didn’t have a pot to piss in nor a window to throw it out of! Lauren was too damn desperate and unfortunately it cost her her life. He was an overdressed bum! Sadly there are a lot of “Lauren’s” in this world. Until society changes this narrative that a woman is not valued or respected unless she’s married, this types of cases will continue to happen.
@@watsonar70 I agree with most of what you said, except for the part about onus. We stay placing all the responsibility on women, even when they're victimized. Yes, she was likely desperate to be married, and she let that override her obviously high intelligence. But I think it's also true that there was not just one desperate person in this situation. There were actually two. She was desperate for marriage, and he was desperate for provision. If the shoe were on the other foot, and he was the person who decided to leave the marriage, it's highly unlikely that she would have harmed him for exercising that right, even though she was desperate to be married. So, his desperation gives him no more right to harm her than hers would have given her the right to harm him.
@@watsonar70your last line…yesss all the way yesssss! Thats the true culprit in my opinion. Societies brutal pressures upon women need to stop. Society also needs to stop creating men like him who have forever been told they have all the power and they feel they own women and can do whatever they want with them.
@@yvonnecortes_ Absolutely!!! My mom drilled it in my head as a child that my value and worth was not predicated on a man! She divorced my dad because of his mistreat of her. My grandmother hated my daddy and told my mama to RUN away from him but she didn’t. So she suffered! And I do mean suffered! She ignored the read flags, or warning signs as they used to say. She made sure that I understood completely that a person’s family and their upbringing is a reflection of what you can expect in that relationship! When Lauren went to his “house” and saw an empty lot, that was the pivotal point! That was the time to loose his number and run as far away as possible. Instead she kept “wanting” a relationship despite the lies and bad behavior. It’s ok to be single ladies!
Ladies, DO NOT ignore the red flags! Even if you don't immediately identify it as a red flag, your gut will be telling you something is off! Friends and family, if you get a bad vibe from the guy, TELL YOUR LOVED ONE! I didn't see the flags for what they were and ignored my gut. That got me 13 years of narcissistic abuse, and the aftermath I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. It took over 3 years to recover from the trauma. RIP Lauren. There's a special place in hell for that POS murderer (and all the black-souled abusers out there).
My guy friend bought a Ak Gun yes but make a long story short I cut him off in silence block him no contact are text I'm glad I seen other signs of course he was married two times nope I just cut it off
I don’t understand why we don’t listen to those we respect. This woman was surrounded by people that truly loved and cared for her. SEVERAL people told her he was off! Either you value the opinions of the handful of people you trust and believe have your best interest at heart or you go it alone. It is exceedingly rare that someone in your close circle doesn’t see ANY red flags when there is a psychopath/sociopath/narcissist/abuser in the mix. And YES this goes for both men and women. And NO I’m not victim blaming, I am shouting to all of us still here to LISTEN to those that love us.
Sometimes people want to be in a relationship so much that they refuse to see the reality. In my case, my friend preferred to distance herself from me, because she didn't want to hear the truth.
@@mych5778 Sadly yes it could have. And if I don’t listen to anyone else, I’m listening to my DADDY! I absolutely hate these stories and it scares me terribly at this point to meet new men. Heartbreaking for her friends and family 💔
She did. She really seemed to be a bright light in the dark world, and there are way too many men out there who want to extinguish those bright lights. This is so sad.
@tulaakatracey1629 that’s the problem with a lot of people, you can’t fix a broken person because you didn’t break them. This hero and captain save a ho# complex is why so many people are loosing their lives. A grown person will change IF and that’s a mighty big IF they feel there’s something wrong with them and/or they want too. Hard lessons that should be learned in your 20s but definitely by your 30s.
This is why I can’t STAND when people say “narcissists are only 1% of society if that” NO there are tons of stories like this that make up at least 30% of the population! There are all narcs bruh. It’s sick out here. A bunch of walking demons. Reprobate minds. This man sounds like my ex! RIP to her. & I PRAY that we all have more discernment when dating.
Thanks so much for the extensive coverage on this woman giving dimension to her story and life. She mattered! Major news outlets with true crime reporting and major shows like Dateline/2020 NEVER do this deep dive with Black women victims so this level of professional investigative and heartfelt reporting is what is needed. Thank you.
It doesnt fit their narrative of white man bad. If the Reggie was white in this case it would have gotten nationwide coverage. They dont care about the victims only pushing certain narratives to demonize and divide people.
I believe he envied her because she was friendly,had lots of friends,was bubbly and everyone loved her.He seemed like he had no friends was antisocial and was a loner.
They say most men hate women, just use them for sex and raising children. Prefer their buddies over their families. Even the ones who seem decent. What does it say about humans and relationships?
Nah he’s like most loser BM…they hate themselves and the mother that birthed them. They want to be kept BW so bad and are insanely jealous of us because they can’t be us and know deep down they will NEVER AMOUNT TO NOTHING ESPECIALLY AT HIS AGE
The devil is BUSY. He was Sent...from the devil. We Think ohhh... GOD send this "Wonderful Person". But, ALOT of People DON'T Realize The devil sends People too! 🤨😐😒
It's the red flags for me. I don't understand how people are so fixed on marriage when there are clearly red flags all over the place. I hate that this happened to her. It is obvious she was loved by many but married an evil man.
@@Sylvia-d7wfor a woman to feel the need to sleep with a knife for protection from the same person who you share your home with is way too much. She should've left immediately as soon as she felt that fear.
When I graduated from college with a high paying executive job, I started dating an unemployed, uneducated man from the hood. I paid for everything etc. The day I told him, it was over, he choked me until I passed out and broken several of my fingers. He thought he unalived me. When I made arrived at the ER, the doctors said I was lucky to be alive. I feel so sorry listening to Lauren's story, my abuser displayed all the same behavior as her husband.
I'm so sorry you went through this! I dated a narc who I suspect was cheating. He was always disappearing. When I finally broke up with him he stalked me. He would pop up at my job, apt, parent's house. Crazy man.
I mean no disrespect...but I was struck by your story have a few questions. In the beginning, did you feel taken advantage of from the start? Did you not find his low-status to be a turnoff, as most women like men to be providers or at least equals? What was the appeal when you could have had anybody?
Ladies, listen to your friends! If you have a father who says no, LISTEN! Don't try to make love happen. Let it happen organically. Red flag 1) can't meet his family/friends! 2) Isn't transparent about his life, friends, employment, where he lives, etc. RUN! This story is so sad.
My friend is set to marry a man who she has not met any of his friends or family. He lied about who he lived with. Had me follow him home one night because he never seen my car. He went to church but she couldn’t come. He said he use to be a cop but she has seen no proof. She asked him to buy a house with her in Texas, he refused. She bought a house herself and moved to Texas and broke up with him. He wormed his way back in her life and home he didn’t help purchase. She says he pays half the bills. I just try to be there for her but she has lost friends behind not heeding the red flags from this man. She lost a son a few years ago to gun violence and he was there for her, I believe that’s what has her stuck. I just hope it works out.
@@gonegirl9114 This is EXACTLY why I tell my daughters NEVER listen to ANY of your friends who isn't married or in a relationship leading to marriage. This woman is grown as HELL. But y'all want to be instant psychologist. Please let this woman be happy if it's her choice. This is why so many of our black women are STILL SINGLE. They are STILL doing detective work.
Since I`m a true crime addict I have to say this tragic case touches me more than others....Lauren had a perfect life until she met this loser psycho, She was bright, charming and had a promising future infront of her plus so many remarkable true friends, all of them special ppl, that only wanted her very best. Her dad is just as amazing. I`m so sorry this happened to Lauren, may she RIP and I`m very happy Nikki got away alive.
I feel like unfortunately that's why this dispicable coward inserted himself into her life she was so loving and caring that he manipulated and exploited this absolute beautiful angel for his own selfishness. He's the definition of evil 🤬🤬🤬
He was truly a loser.I have those kinds trying to be with me but i make sure I never take even $1 from them.I pay for everything I eat so that they never hold anything over my head.
At this point, normalize getting background checks on your potential partner before getting into a serious relationship or marriage. Also it's so important to listen to your family & friends when they tell you something is off about your partner. They're usually right.
That’s not enough... Background checks won’t reveal marriages, divorces, protective orders and children. I understand your reasoning but obtaining true background checks is actually very difficult and expensive.
She overlooked every red flag. Sometimes as we get older our craving for companionship causes us to overlook red flags and makes us vulnerable to predators such as this. Very sad. 😢😢😢😢😢
My 1st husband pulled a gun on me, I stayed. My 2nd husband asked me what would I do if he hit me, I moved out. Plz leave at the 1st instance or before. So many families. So much sadness.
She married this guy knowing he could not keep a job, he had no friends or family, he stayed with his mommy and was a serial cheater. I hope women learn from this.. Leave Pookie and Ray Ray alone. These guys are dangerous.
@naturalista123 True, but it's rare for someone to do this if they're established and successful. A man or woman that has nothing to lose will always be a risk.
@@nomadictravelerfromTx Yes more of a risk if nothing to lose, but crazy come rich & successful too. It's about control & ego. He's ugly outside & inside, don't be so good to losers ladies, most men online have issues/are narcissists, be very careful. Don't be desperate for anything or too much of a "go getter" which blinds you to reality. RIP Lauren🕊💔
Unfortunately, as black women the men of our own community are often times our greatest threat both emotionally and financially. As accomplished ladies who have so much to offer, please don’t settle for a dusty bandit like this. There are many black men out there who are simply using good women as meal tickets because they don’t have two pennies to rub together. RIP Lauren.💛
Some Black men??? You are being far too kind. It's all of them. Every. Single. Last. One. Of. Them Divest. Date out. Marry up That's the only way Black women can have peace and prosperity.
@@lynnd.5135 I hate to say it, but maybe it would’ve benefited her to date out and explore other races of men. We can’t keep doing this to ourselves, black women deserve much better.
Honestly can't understand why some individuals think they can just own their partner.. A person who they didn't know before. These people need to be locked up forever
Sad story. She gave him more than the benefit of the doubt. The fake address would have shaken my soul. The "no you can't meet my mother" would have been a complete no no. No friends or family involved in the wedding...nada. No employment history...nope. So many questions that are unanswered...no thanks. His body language seems uncomfortable. Like some others have said, it's never a good idea to forewarn a person that you're leaving or want them to leave. If you and your spouse are sleeping in separate rooms, it's time to get out before you get to that point. I'm surprised they didn't go to couples counseling or didn't mention that. She seemed like the type who would go that route as a last resort before putting him out. It's clear she was a very kind woman who had good intentions. We have a problem with men in society....all across the board. I say that to my husband all the time and he agrees. Men are so messed up!
100% this! But even before that his job history/stability, him living with his mama (sir, you are 40+ and unless there are some medical/MH issues that SHE needs support with, that's a no for me), and then the friends/family saying they don't care for him (like all of them said it!) would've been enough for me. I might not have even known about the address because we'd be over by then. I feel so sorry for her kindness being taken advantage of as weakness. May her memory be a blessing to all who love her and hear her story.💗
@@intensepassion3382That is so sad as a marriage should be a joining of families, business....a joyful, positive occasion. Welp, stay involved. Sometimes people just need someone to talk to. I do understand where you are coming from though as certain people go flip mode AFTER marrying. I rebuke all evil towards your daughter. No evil weapon formed against her shall prosper. Amen. Also let her know that if froggy ever wants to leap...come get her Mother and get out of there. Don't feel ashamed baby, I know you loved him and thought he was a good family man.
@@Lex-jv9zn It's so sad too. All they have to do is look around. There's even DATA to show what's happening. But they don't want to hear the truth about their kangz. you're right
These stories keep me single and happy, there are many of these stories (all the online dating end like this) she did no background check no family attended 🤷🏽♂️, if your giving a man money regularly and taking care of him basically you got a problem
I met a man, within a week I found out he was a convicted R and a registered SO..his case had a special * on it..come to find out its because his victim was special needs. A prescription bottle fell out his car, I handed it to him, noticing the name he gave me wasn't the name on the bottle..he had cashapp some $$ before our 1st date..I thought it was a good sign that he offered to pay for my mani pedi..from Google to background check with the money he had sent because the cashapp had the same name on the bottle..nobody but GOD. Follow your intuition and decrement and dont give the benefit of the doubt to NOBODY.
Single seems to be the best option these days. Too many narcs and psychopaths looking for victims. They wear a mask for a while to trick you then the demon appears. So sad. RIP.
Ladies and Gentleman…PLEASE judge people in your life off their actions and not the words they say that you want to hear. They often don’t match up in anyway, but we tend to ignore the reality in favour of the dream of what we want, especially when in love. It can be hard to ignore your heart, but we have to stop ignoring glaring multiple red flags. I’m glad this man is in jail. RIP to the victim.
Thanks so much for sharing Lauren’s story. She was clearly a remarkable woman & I loved what her friends, colleagues, and father had to say about her. Her passing is a true loss.
She was in love with the concept of love and family. But everything about him was a lie, fake, and he had no identity. I'm sorry this happened to her. He used her story to control her and marry her, and she started to see he was a dangerous person. She didn't deserve what happened to her, I feel for her family during there tome of grief. Prayers to family and friends 🙏 ❤️
I feel sorry for this poor lady! My condolences to her family and friends. There were many red flags. 1. She found him from the internet. 2. He was living with his mom. 3. He was isolating her from everybody. Please pay attention to these kinds of signs everyone.
We ladies have to listen to our parents especially when it comes to relationships. I didn’t listen to my father and ended up in a marriage with a narcissist, glad I left alive with my two children and started life all over again. I have learned the hard way. RIP lady.
Met a narcissist and I was so smart, so charming, everything nice. After one month he proposed marriage. I said no!!! I don't even know you that well. After that, I was mediocre, insecure, no good, everything negative!!! So one-day he showed up to my place and asked me to use the bathroom. I told him to go to the nearest gas station!! He never got over that. Then I blocked him.!!! My sincere condolences to the family and friends.
Rest Peacefully Lauren🕊️ She was my oldest daughter's elementary School friend.. Condolences and Prayers to her mother Trudy, whom I lived down the street from, and her father Charles 🙏🏽 this is so heartbreaking to watch😢
Meeting people the normal way is a risk within itself but that whole online dating is very dangerous. It seems like all kinds of weirdos are on them, it's a hard hell no for me!!!
Yep, it's a hard hell NO for me too. Online dating is a predators playground. It's like entering a room with a 100 people in it, and 90 of them are predators.
Unfortunately, some women feel a need to get married and have children when they reach a certain age. The more accomplished the woman, the more the pressure to have the perfect family. Sadly, in Lauren's case, she ignored the advice of her family and friends. She probably wanted to see the good in this man. She probably thought divorce would be looked as a failure. Even the most accomplished person may have insecurities that they overcompensate for. This story saddens me because of her trust in the wrong person. Let her story be a cautionary tale for others. Let her death not be in vain. God bless her family for sharing.
AMEN.... And there was a lot of red flags with this man number one was she met hin on a online dating website THAT'S DANGEROUS I have seen so many become Missing or Killed on these websites, AND that is why the Scripture Says WAIT ON THE LORD BECAUSE GOD IS THE ONLY, ONLY THAT'S KNOWS EVERYBODY INSIDE OUT GOD KNOWS OUR EVERY THOUGHT BEFORE WE EVEN THINK IT NOW THAT IS A AWESOME GOD 🙏🙏!!!
@tangee8252 Yes, you are correct. I think the feeling is more acute in women who feel like their time clock is running out. Like another poster commented, she may have felt the need to get married since a lot of her friends were. This happened in my college class when people were coupling up. Then, when people got married and bought homes, some felt the need to compete and rush into marriage or buy a bigger home in a more exclusive neighborhood. It is sad when societal or familial pressures burden people to act in such ways. I have seen many divorces from such pressures. Although it was not said about what made Lauren Charles dog her heels into this man, I am sure she felt some kind of way. May she rest in peace. Such a tragic loss.
@verajones9158 Yes. You are correct as well. Yet, when we pray, sometimes we don't pray for right things or God reveals himself and we don't listen. I have been guilty of both myself until I learned to be a more prayerful person. We have to be honest with God and with ourselves. I thank God for his mercy and grace. I am still a work in progress 🙏🏽.
@@diva70smusic Me Too I am guilty of it myself, no shame here I met a man and for some reason when I trying to meet up with him up with him after a few months, he never showed up to meet me and I thank GOD HE BLOCKED 🚫 WHATEVER WAS TRYING TO HARM ME THIS IS WHY I LOVE GOD take care!!!
I’m 41 years old and every since I was a kid, I thought I would grow up, easily get married only have to be with 1 man. I’m still not married but I don’t care. Once someone start acting weird I’m out and I’m okay 👌🏾
I had the same exact situation, hearing the stories trucks such a nerve in me. I’m so thankful that the Lord moved me and I listen to him and he moved me. I have become slightly afraid of my husband and not sure what he would do. No, he was never physically abusive, but he was so verbally and emotional and bullying that I just couldn’t take it anymore. I knew that that’s not right and he never did anything wrong. If anything went wrong anything it was always my fault. thank you to the Lord I got my own apartment. I’m happy I don’t feel on edge I don’t feel uncomfortable in my spirit, thank the Lord!! ladies please please get out if you have to go with just the clothes on your back leave . God will make away for you trust him
I'm so sorry this happened to an amazing woman. I can honestly say. When listening to the story. My eyes filled with tears. God bless her family and friends.
Too many red flags .He didn't talk much, You didn't meet the Mom, his address was a vacate lot ,he had two children he didn't tell you about. Go with your GUT it might save your life and don't ignore the red flags. This is very sad and unsettling. Prayers to her family and my deepest condolences. It's
@@kam1106 There is a difference between being quiet and being sneaky, stand-offish, manipulative and calculating! People who don’t engage with your friends and family after a certain period of time are hiding something! They don’t talk so that they don’t lie and have to worry about what they said. There is a thing as being too quiet! Just like with kids, when they are loud and playing, you know their safe! The minute the silence continues for more than 2 minutes, there is a problem. They sleep or hurt! That’s what them old country folks told me when I was growing up!
Only a coward attacks a sleeping person and I’m sorry her family continues to suffer to this day, a death of a child is impossible to overcome, you just learn to go onward.
I stumbled across this video and very sad to see this young lady taken away because she wanted to just be loved. But she was truly loved by so many others. Sending hugs and condolences to her family and friends.
He definitely did not bring to the table to match what she had at the table. They were Unequally yoked from day one. Sorry but she married down and settled with this loser. He’s pathetic.
She wasnt that attractive so her options for a man who met her accomplishments were low. She married someone on her level…Being equally yoked refers to spiritual beliefs and serving the same god, not net worth.
I completely understand the shame that you feel when you’re with a person like that. I hope we can teach our children and loved ones that there’s no shame in wanting to love and be loved. The actions of the ab-sive partner are not a reflection on their v-ctims and it’s okay to reach out for help. RIP angel. He didn’t deserve to be in the presence of her light 🕊️
The misleading address in the beginning was where this relationship should've ended, very unfortunate!! It breaks my heart that this caring, educated woman dismissed so many red flags!!
Sometimes red flags are over looked because women at a certain age often feel as though this may be their last chance at getting married and starting a family.
This breaks my heart. She was so well loved, she radiates a good spirit in her pictures and through the memories of her dad and friends. Ladies love yourself first. Marriage, children do not complete you…don’t settle and do the background check early on 💜🥺
I have a friend like Lauren, the only difference is that it's a male friend. The most humble, intelligent, funny, kind man I have ever known. His wife has isolated him from his friends and family. When he had finally gotten up the courage to leave her, she disclosed that she was pregnant. So he stayed. She abuses him mentally and emotionally, on some occasions physically. My concern is for what could possibly happen. I don't believe she would do the unthinkable, but what if he hurt himself? Thank you for sharing Lauren's story, it motivates me to "speak up and not mind my own business!" To Lauren's family; I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I had the honor of meeting her. May you be comforted in knowing that Lauren's story, terribly tragic, may save someone else. I am definitely going to try.💞🙏 My love to all.❤️
She was smart, lovely, had great friends, and she was an empath. Empaths love to help and, sometimes, they attempt to rescue people. This is something a narcissist gravitates toward.
Please victims if ANYONE hurt you, manipulate you, belittle you... tell your friends and most of all this person do not love you. Because they dont have your best interest. There is zero shame on you only on the abuser.
Wow she had so many people that love her, many of us don’t have a fraction of the love she had. She was so blessed before even meeting this monster she settled for.
My condolences to her family. May she R.I.P. He's a heartless soul. He was jealous of her and the other women and wanted what they had. He seemed to hate women, but wanted to drain them of their resources instead of working to earn his own.
Never warn your abuser, remove yourself, things can be regained.
I agree when he refused to leave the home I would have packed my bags and left!!!😢
@@dianeporter7137 I did exactly that and acted like I was going to work and the children to school
Should be common sense
Females don't listen for shit! They love telling a man what they won't or won't do. 🤦🏾♀️
@@missalphaomegagod-2u Smart move
To my sisters, it is okay to be single or wait however long it takes to find the right one. Don't let society make you feel less than for being single. It is much better to be happy alone! Trust me....
Black Women refuse to date out, it's not that they think it's wrong to be single or wait however long it takes, they JUST want a Black Man. Is the BBC that good?
🙌🏾🙌🏾
Hmmmm….Cynthia G is on to something
I honestly don’t understand why some women find it so difficult to be alone!!! It’s annoying asf and sometimes we as women just need to heal first from past wounds and then; perhaps we can sense the red flags prior to any long term committment because when you’re not fully healed, you can miss the red flags because you’re far more focused on the relationship as well as super distracted bc the WRONG man will keep you that way; unfortunately. 😩😞😢
@@roshellegouldbourne787 BBC is trash and ever since I rebuked it my flower has been fresh and blossoming!
A man who has nothing of his own has nothing to lose. I rather be alone than be with a narcissist crazy man.
Absolutely 💯
Right
Exactly, he was upset bc his meal ticket was leaving.
This right here! Those are the scariest people.
Ditto
Having the wrong partner can make your life miserable. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. This was awful.
Yesss it can!
Fact
This is so true! I met someone gave me some really sad days! So glad its over🙏 leave at the first red flag. That’s me now, I don’t play about any more.
She was the wrong partner for him.
Dear Humans, Please stop making women feel like they *need* a partner to be happy. This man was beneath her, and it cost her her life. RIP Lovely Lady.
Yes I agree so much., But then there is this most natural urge for a women to want a family and kids....Women need to trust their instincts and what close frineds or parents advice them to do. There are many ways to live a happy life, it doesn`t have to be marriage, Lauren had a happy life and he destroyed it, what a coward he is, hope he burns in hell forever.
@@fredajordan5704 she should have picked someone else, someone genuine person like her, not a jealous pos.
True that woman don't "need" a man, however, if they choose to have children, their kids need a father in their HOME. You just gotta pick your partner very wisely.
I agree. I bet if she would’ve just adopted a baby or got a sperm donor, she would be thriving with her beautiful family and community right now. We don’t need marriage or a male in order to feel fulfilled in life in this day in age. Stay happily safe and single.
@@fredajordan5704 Nope. That’s what adoption and sperm donors are for. Don’t even need a man anymore. She had her dad and uncle as good father figures.
That she married him after she found out he lied to her about his address is sad and tragic. She definitely was not listening to her intuition.
@nadagabri5783
Thank you so much for the EMPATHY and SYMPATHY that you show to the VICTIMS of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. BLAMING the VICTIM SEEMS to BE in FASHION.
@@sexytrinny52 we all have to use common sense. What is the point of red flags/warning signs if we do not heed them? Can we honestly say there was “absolutely nothing” she could have done to avoid this outcome? We can support the victim but have our eyes open simultaneously. Don’t let other women be victims because you refuse to acknowledge that there are things we can do to ensure better outcomes.
@@sexytrinny52 no, she’s right. There were too many red flags even her friends tried to warn her against staying with him. They did background checks, which she should’ve done, and everything trying to convince her to leaves him. I feel so bad that for some reason she felt she had to deal with a man who lied to & cheated on her. Look how violent he turned out to be.
@@sexytrinny52 i’m not sure if you’re being sarcastic. She seemed like a wonderful woman. I thought it was tragic that she overlooked certain things. I was not in any way blaming her
@@nadagabri5783the person wasn’t being sarcastic. Unfortunately a lot of women have that girl code thing going on. Like you can’t call out when they didn’t do their part to protect themselves. We the sane ones have to be cautious cuz evil never rests 😔
Ladies, I don't care if you're lonely, pushing 40, or feeling like you're running out of time, please don't ever rush to get married. Don't ignore red flags, don't ignore your families and friends concerns. It's one of THE most important decisions you'll make in your life for your life!
Prior to meeting him, although she didn't have romantic love, she had so much love and support from friends and family. You could feel it in this video. He envied her, kept her isolated, and tore her down. He had no business being with her and he knew that.
My condolences to her friends and family. This should have never happened.
Please don’t blame her for this.
@@ConsciousRespects Stop popping up saying this. She ignored her intuition and glaring red flags.
Yes. Beautifully said. She didn't have romantic love, but she had so many other kinds of love from family, friends and coworkers. This shows how important it is to count your blessings, and practice gratitude for what you have, because you may lose it all chasing after something you don't.
@@plynn136 you don’t know her. You know what you saw from 20 minutes. She was trying to leave. It is incredibly hurtful to her loved ones to see comments saying she should’ve done things or known better.
@@ConsciousRespects Give it a rest. Why do I have to have known her personally? She was every woman like I am. Each of us is our own "first defense". Yes, she should have known better than to MARRY a man who lied to her by commission and omission and did not want her to meet his mother or kids BEFORE the wedding.
If you’re marrying a man, and NO ONE shows up for him….if that isn’t a red flag then I don’t know what is. RIP to this beautiful lady, and condolences to her loved ones 🙏.
Yea but they're preaching you can't vet and there's no red flags.
Not necessarily sometimes he could be unlucky with friends and family
@@BRI2020-d8x true not everyone is privileged enough to have supportive, trustworthy friends and family.
@@ravenwhite9986 I get family but friends? Nah...that is a red flag.
@@keepitfrankwithfentse so if you don’t have friends you’re a red flag? Babygirl open your mind. Life ain’t the same for everyone. Everyone isn’t willing to accept a piece of a person even if it’s a friend
A narcissist is the closest thing to a demon that you will ever encounter.
Absolutely
Exactly,
Just like my ex, a Bible carrying church bandit, with a dark soul. Out there he appeared great to everyone but was a demon at home. Rip lovely lady.
This is a FACT,
I think a psychopath would be
They are demons....
This is why people really need to trust their family and close friends when it comes to relationships. Sometimes they can see things you can’t. Rip to this sweet lady
Sometimes they are wrong. My mom told me to stay with my ex bc she said I had nothing else to do with my life.
A lot of times the person will label the friend or family member as being jealous or too judgmental. They don’t want to see the red flags or can’t see them because they don’t want to be lonely.
So true sometimes when you see the truth and point it out they turn on you instead.
TRUST GOD AT ALL TIME, CAUSE YOUR FAMILY WILL TURN THERE BACK ON YOU AS WELL.
@@brittanyb5942True! Sometimes they are DEAD wrong! Whew! Sometimes the only time you can trust that advice is if everyone around you is saying the same thing about your significant other.
It's ok to be embarrassed because you picked the wrong one.
This dude doesn’t look like the normal Pookie but obviously he is.
🤷🏽♂️🤦🏼♂️
@@carpediem4512no he’s one good guys not a thug that’s what they say.
You can’t vet men. Ladies stay single!
Or you don’t even have to be embarrassed. Players mess up too. It happens.
Tony, thank you for this message of honesty and truth. I was married for 25 years my husband was so controlling and abusive. I could not take a bubble bath without him knocking on the door, screaming, "come out; you've been in there too long." He was hooked in porn, drugs, and women. I was advised by my mother to let him do what he want to because he's my "husband." Worst advice ever! I've been divorced over 21 years; bought my own house 4 years ago, retired, work part-time and live as a single woman strictly according to God's laws. I thank God for you everyday for teaching the truth! I love my life...70 years old and still trusting God for my life each and every day. Thank you for being so passionate about your purpose. May God continue to bless you and your family!!
Amen
I am so happy for you!
Praise God! Thank you, Jesus for your comfort and perfect peace for this dear woman!
To God Be The Glory! God's rich, rewarding, unlimited outpour of blessings to you Linda and your dear family. May He keep you all covered in the shield of His unmovable and unshaken shield of protection.
Wah I'm happy for you
🙏🏽❤️🔥
My father hated my ex (MANY years ago) within 5 mins of meeting him. Funny thing is, my ex barely said a word within those first 5 minutes. The moment we had a free moment my dad said ‘he’s no good, get rid of him’… That always stuck with me but he didn’t say why he felt that way, so I carried on… 12 months later he had tried to unalive me! Luckily, I got rid of him after a year of him stalking me. People tend to see things we are too blinded to see. Never take external feedback about a potential partner as a grain of salt. It could literally be life or death! RIP Lauren 🙏🏾
My father told me the same exact thing about my ex husband. I married him anyway and almost lost my life. I’m so thankful that God got me out of that situation.
'Unalive' never heard that word before but it makes a whole lotta sense.
Why not just say "kill"?
@@zaneblane8160 because some social media outlets will flag certain words or remove/block videos if you use them
@@zaneblane8160 Because the SM police will flag your comment using that word. Some call it a violation of community rules.
Abuse should not be a red flag. It is a deal breaker.
Exactly.
100%
True. I left my ex four months after giving birth to our only child together, my son. He collapsed my lung & could've ended my life. I never looked back.✅
Absolutely
Men never marry a woman 👠 that keeps a lot of her friends up in her personal business the devil will use them to destroy your marriage 😢
A high achieving and accomplished black woman should avoid a black man who has no achievements; it never ends well. She had a lot of education, a good job, a home, friends who loved her, he had none of these things. It was a recipe for disaster.
They were so unequally yoked. 😥
Unfortunately this is so true 😢
THIS! I find myself in this position now in knowing not to open myself up to a man who is beneath where I'm at.
EDIT: My apologies to everyone who responded to my original comment. I should have conveyed better as to what I was agreeing with. As stated in my below responses, I am not in a relationship because I don't want to settle. The original commenter made some great points about being an accomplished woman that should avoid a man who has no achievements. This is what I was saying that I agree with. My apologies for the misunderstanding.
@@poet82nYou are in a great position because you KNOW THIS! The worst thing is when you are blessed and highly favored with many good, solid things going on in your life minus any avoidable drama and you don't recognize that you are above the fray. You good girl. I'm all for a loving, uplifting, mutually fulfilling relationship but I'm against selling your soul just to say that you have a man. It never works out. Even when you stay...you imprison yourself.
Yes! Thank you for saying this! They are too dangerous and volatile.
I tell everyone that videos like this on TH-cam gave me the courage to LEAVE my situation, and has SAVED my LIFE! Thank you for posting this video and raising awareness! If it even touches one person, this young lady's passing was not in vain. Her beautiful smile is radiating the angels. R.I.P. beautiful.
He did not love her from the get go. He just wanted the life she came with it!
🤔🤔🤔
Yeah like the Queen maker states we are resources for men and men are incapable of love
And felt uncomfortable and hated her because of her accomplishments
Obviously,when a man doesn't have money and you do,you can almost always guarantee,he is there for what you can give him nothing more nothing less.
Yeah you can tell from the photos. He just looked unmotivated in the eyes. RIP Lauren
Loneliness can be a hell of a thing. It can truly make a person desperate to have somebody by any means necessary. I’m so sorry this happened to her 😭.
Facts.
Agreed 100
So true.
Very true. Like it flushes all common sense.
No friends
Can’t meet the mom
Can’t come over to his house
No job
Like literal ref flags but because you wanted the ring you brush that away. We have to do better and trust our family and friends too
@@bsims7725 Exactly, and the fake address to a vacant lot 😞
Never tell an Abuser that you want to get out of the toxic relationship!
Thank you!
@@deenad3562 no problem, friend
Yeah, but in this case, where was e to go?? He had nothing to loose, he just didn`t care, The right time was missed to end this relationship, marrying him was Lauren biggest mistake.
@@fredajordan5704 . No , because It Happens with boyfriend / girlfriends / Partners without marriages also.
Of course it does. Yet in this particular case things could have went differently if Lauren had listened to her dad and friends....@@JeffM.-ok6ny
This is heart breaking. Hearing this young woman's story makes me realize that it's perfectly fine to stay single. I hope her family can find healing and peace.
It absolutely is!
I can't get past the detective or journalist giggles, when she describes the condition of the bedroom Lauren was found in.
The fact that he gave her a fake address from the beginning of meeting him was the kicker for me.
Dude's only intention was finding a vulnerable woman who would take care of his worthless arse.
Wish she would have taken heed to what her loved ones were trying to tell her because she certainly deserved better.
You can tell this girl was loved and full of energetic life. Look at all the weddings 💒 she’s been to and spoke at. She had so much love to deliver to each and every person she made contact with. May her soul rest in peace. 🕊️
She was she was a great person..her n my cousin were best friends
@@fashionizkee8734sorry for you and your cousin loss!
@@fashionizkee8734 I’m so truly sorry for your loss 😢 prayers remain up for your fam
@fashionizkee8734 She didn't Love Herself Enough!
@iwhippedcreamcode4642 ummm you don't know her n I did so please watch your ignorant comments
I went to college with Lauren. I can still see her smile and her dancing in my mind. I can still hear her accent. She was so nice.
“The number one tool of an abuser is isolation.”
I dated this man who wanted me to move away from people,he would say,"we need to find a place,away from everybody" he tried abusing me,until he found out that I fight and hit back.
I dated a demon like him once. They’re extremely difficult to get rid of as their ego and victim complex is unmatched. They’re relentless in their rein of terror in your life. It can be paralyzing. If you know someone is in an abusive situation reach out and see if they’re okay. These narcs isolate you and this can be the result. Rest in peace Lauren. 🌈💜✨
Yep
Amen 🙏
He was a narcissist and a predator, going after intelligent women who are successful in their lives and careers. Such women tend to settle because some men are very insecure about a successful career woman who is winning at life. It’s so sad. She was so loved and it seems she was such a loving friend as well. I pray her soul finds rest.
Eventually we all meet people like this all the time, my kids father was like this, turned out to be a sexual predator creep.
Best Comment❤️ Definitely a Demon.
She sounds like a wonderful human. Her friends obviously loved her deeply. I believe that she is looking over them and misses them as well. It’s always okay to ask for help. Those who love you won’t judge you
Absolutely beautiful words. Many more people need to know that it is perfectly ok to tell someone. In fact, PLEASE tell someone, report domestic abuse & do research on potential partners. If they have nothing to hide, it shouldn’t be an issue. Sadly, many of the smartest people are most concerned with saving face. Rest in peace Lauren.💔🥀🕊️
@@mom2babygkaterad946 Truer words!!
Beautiful words. This should imprinted on a card and posted on every mirror.
Absurdly sentimental statement: Dead is dead.
@dolinaj1 Death comes to all of us at some point. However, how one dies can make the pain of losing someone very difficult to accept. Yet, lessons learned from the choices others make can be helpful. I can only speak for myself.
My takeaways from all of these sentiments are that when you are in an abusive relationship, do not be too proud or ashamed to reach out. Take the threats and abuse seriously.
People who love you will not judge you. Don't be concerned with what people think. Get out and save yourself. If you don't get it, that's okay. But it is not cool to be dismissive of others. A life could be saved.
I'm so sorry to all those who loved her for their loss. She seemed like an incredible human being. ❤
She was.
She was
Are they twins siblings in the thumbnail pic.?
Why did he kill his twin ?
@Bando-fx4mf no that was his wife ... did you not watch it 😩
I knew Lauren and her family. Her maternal grandfather (Mr. Earl Barthe’ a master plasterer ) was a legendary figure in New Orleans’ African American/Creole society. They were all very nice people and Lauren I remember was very smart and kind hearted. OMG, I cannot believe she went through this. Heartbreaking, absolutely heartbreaking.
Thank you. Reading people suggest she was somehow at fault angers me. You described her & her family.
No one is immune to the manipulation of a devilish narcissist. May she rest in paradise and he rot in hell.
" IT'S TRULY, TRULY HEARTBREAKING ".... Sending MY CONDOLENCES and PRAYERS to the family and WHO LOVED HER !!! Amen to YOUR comment , and THANK YOUR POST... "I FELT EVERY WORD!!! ❤❤😭😭😭
*Even if he lived with his mother, she SHOULD’ve been able to visit him.
*Her finding an empty lot at the “address” he gave as his own was GOD’s way of saving her from him.
*When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE THEM THE FIRST TIME!! (Maya Angelou)
This is heartbreaking 💔
Exactly! Those two points stood out for me…that would have been the end of it.
Man! That empty lot situation would’ve sent me on my way.
@@Queen_EL11 with haste!!
Yea, I dunno how she was able to continue with him after that 🤷🏾♀️
Very heartbreaking. 😭
Ladies! You cannot be 'everything' to a person. If he has nothing when you meet him, honey it's not going to change. When you leave your are taking the roof over his head, the clothes on his back, the food in his stomach. You're making that person homeless. People react badly to that.
I get what you're saying, but the wording triggered me. The departing partner is not "making the other person homeless." The person being left is making themselves homeless by destroying their marriage via abuse and infidelity, for one, and by not being able to provide for themselves as a single person, for two. Each person has a right to leave the relationship how they entered it. If he entered without his own roof, clothes and food, then it's not her fault that that's how he's leaving.
@@Lynn.B. True but the onus is on the person who CHOSE to engage & get involved with a person who is not on solid footing! We aren’t talking about 20 year olds, he was a fully grown adult who didn’t have a pot to piss in nor a window to throw it out of! Lauren was too damn desperate and unfortunately it cost her her life. He was an overdressed bum! Sadly there are a lot of “Lauren’s” in this world. Until society changes this narrative that a woman is not valued or respected unless she’s married, this types of cases will continue to happen.
@@watsonar70 I agree with most of what you said, except for the part about onus. We stay placing all the responsibility on women, even when they're victimized. Yes, she was likely desperate to be married, and she let that override her obviously high intelligence. But I think it's also true that there was not just one desperate person in this situation. There were actually two. She was desperate for marriage, and he was desperate for provision. If the shoe were on the other foot, and he was the person who decided to leave the marriage, it's highly unlikely that she would have harmed him for exercising that right, even though she was desperate to be married. So, his desperation gives him no more right to harm her than hers would have given her the right to harm him.
@@watsonar70your last line…yesss all the way yesssss! Thats the true culprit in my opinion. Societies brutal pressures upon women need to stop. Society also needs to stop creating men like him who have forever been told they have all the power and they feel they own women and can do whatever they want with them.
@@yvonnecortes_ Absolutely!!! My mom drilled it in my head as a child that my value and worth was not predicated on a man! She divorced my dad because of his mistreat of her. My grandmother hated my daddy and told my mama to RUN away from him but she didn’t. So she suffered! And I do mean suffered! She ignored the read flags, or warning signs as they used to say. She made sure that I understood completely that a person’s family and their upbringing is a reflection of what you can expect in that relationship! When Lauren went to his “house” and saw an empty lot, that was the pivotal point! That was the time to loose his number and run as far away as possible. Instead she kept “wanting” a relationship despite the lies and bad behavior. It’s ok to be single ladies!
Ladies, DO NOT ignore the red flags! Even if you don't immediately identify it as a red flag, your gut will be telling you something is off! Friends and family, if you get a bad vibe from the guy, TELL YOUR LOVED ONE! I didn't see the flags for what they were and ignored my gut. That got me 13 years of narcissistic abuse, and the aftermath I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. It took over 3 years to recover from the trauma.
RIP Lauren. There's a special place in hell for that POS murderer (and all the black-souled abusers out there).
My guy friend bought a Ak Gun yes but make a long story short I cut him off in silence block him no contact are text I'm glad I seen other signs of course he was married two times nope I just cut it off
Good advice.
I feel like there were other signs before he bought that gun. Am I correct? @@Pheneria-dv6zw
Wrong address and unverifiable employment was enough for me 😂 I was done
@@jdbakerassociates what’s crazy was he was supposed to be living with his mom. And the fact that the friends had to do the background check!
I don’t understand why we don’t listen to those we respect. This woman was surrounded by people that truly loved and cared for her. SEVERAL people told her he was off! Either you value the opinions of the handful of people you trust and believe have your best interest at heart or you go it alone. It is exceedingly rare that someone in your close circle doesn’t see ANY red flags when there is a psychopath/sociopath/narcissist/abuser in the mix.
And YES this goes for both men and women.
And NO I’m not victim blaming, I am shouting to all of us still here to LISTEN to those that love us.
Sometimes people want to be in a relationship so much that they refuse to see the reality.
In my case, my friend preferred to distance herself from me, because she didn't want to hear the truth.
Red flags is red flags...for warnings comes before destruction....not victim shaming...stating the obvious
@@caribbeanqueen9894 Been there friend smh It sucks.
100% CORRECT!!! LISTENING WOULD HAVE SAVED HER LIFE!!!
@@mych5778 Sadly yes it could have. And if I don’t listen to anyone else, I’m listening to my DADDY! I absolutely hate these stories and it scares me terribly at this point to meet new men. Heartbreaking for her friends and family 💔
Reggie didn't like her FRIENDS BECAUSE THEY SAW RIGHT THROUGH HIM 🙏🙏 for her Dad!!!
Bingo
Or because he couldn’t control them
@@fatimahaidara5064that part
@@fatimahaidara5064 💯 Now SAY SO!!!!
He felt beneath them
She seemed like a light in this world. RIP Lauren.
She did. She really seemed to be a bright light in the dark world, and there are way too many men out there who want to extinguish those bright lights. This is so sad.
The darkness mission is to put out the light.
And those are the ones they like the best
Men never marry a woman 👠 that keeps a lot of her friends up in her personal business the devil will use them to destroy your marriage 😢
She probably thought she could fix/help him. You can't fix a narcissist
Nope. You can’t.
@tulaakatracey1629 that’s the problem with a lot of people, you can’t fix a broken person because you didn’t break them. This hero and captain save a ho# complex is why so many people are loosing their lives. A grown person will change IF and that’s a mighty big IF they feel there’s something wrong with them and/or they want too. Hard lessons that should be learned in your 20s but definitely by your 30s.
@@watsonar70 yeah. So anyways, did this guy have a troubled childhood before doing this.
A background check can save your life! It’s ok to be single .
@@AnotherShyFlower agreed. I was just asking did this man have a troubled childhood?
This is why I can’t STAND when people say “narcissists are only 1% of society if that” NO there are tons of stories like this that make up at least 30% of the population! There are all narcs bruh. It’s sick out here. A bunch of walking demons. Reprobate minds. This man sounds like my ex! RIP to her. & I PRAY that we all have more discernment when dating.
You hit the nail on the head. There are so many of them. Demons with low vibrations....
This actually behavior of a sociopath gon psycho
The 1% figure is about narcissists who've been diagnosed by a psychiatrist. The rest are hiding in plain sight.
Thanks so much for the extensive coverage on this woman giving dimension to her story and life. She mattered! Major news outlets with true crime reporting and major shows like Dateline/2020 NEVER do this deep dive with Black women victims so this level of professional investigative and heartfelt reporting is what is needed. Thank you.
Yes, it is very well done. I’m glad it explored all aspects of this situation!
I agree, it’s nice to her a story more about how amazing she is Vs the monster he is!!
It doesnt fit their narrative of white man bad. If the Reggie was white in this case it would have gotten nationwide coverage. They dont care about the victims only pushing certain narratives to demonize and divide people.
I feel so bad for her father...sure hope he's healing and remembering all the good times he got to share with his beloved daughter.
I feel the same way. What a great loss, what a wonderful daughter he had.
This man hated this woman.. so tragic
I agree I believe he never likes her she was probably "generous" and caring he is a DUSTY psychopath
I believe he envied her because she was friendly,had lots of friends,was bubbly and everyone loved her.He seemed like he had no friends was antisocial and was a loner.
He was jealous of her.
They say most men hate women, just use them for sex and raising children. Prefer their buddies over their families. Even the ones who seem decent. What does it say about humans and relationships?
Nah he’s like most loser BM…they hate themselves and the mother that birthed them. They want to be kept BW so bad and are insanely jealous of us because they can’t be us and know deep down they will NEVER AMOUNT TO NOTHING ESPECIALLY AT HIS AGE
This is why I’m single and plan on staying that way! Ladies you DO NOT need a man or a marriage to be happy!!!!
Thanks for reminding me
Amen
Sad some are so desperate
Yes this is the very reason why I’m still single after being in a abusive relationship mentally physically and emotionally it’s not worth it
She has great friends and a wise, loving dad. It's sad that this happened to her. Smh.
It’s sad that she didn’t trust her dads insight.😕Rip Angel 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌺🌸🌺🌸🌺🌸🌺🌸🌺🌸🌺🌸Condolences to her family and friends🙏🏾
@@p.s.706
EXACTLY, Because a Man knows a Man!!!!
The devil is BUSY. He was Sent...from the devil. We Think ohhh... GOD send this "Wonderful Person". But, ALOT of People DON'T Realize The devil sends People too! 🤨😐😒
@@tinaBabe4 💯💯!!
It's the red flags for me. I don't understand how people are so fixed on marriage when there are clearly red flags all over the place. I hate that this happened to her. It is obvious she was loved by many but married an evil man.
The desperation.
I was thinking the same thing. To overlook all those red flags just to be married.
@@Sylvia-d7wfor a woman to feel the need to sleep with a knife for protection from the same person who you share your home with is way too much. She should've left immediately as soon as she felt that fear.
@@shayvidatvI agree. That’s the biggest red flag of them all
@@shayvidatv Agreed.
When I graduated from college with a high paying executive job, I started dating an unemployed, uneducated man from the hood. I paid for everything etc. The day I told him, it was over, he choked me until I passed out and broken several of my fingers. He thought he unalived me. When I made arrived at the ER, the doctors said I was lucky to be alive.
I feel so sorry listening to Lauren's story, my abuser displayed all the same behavior as her husband.
Please tell me he went to jail
I'm so sorry you went through this! I dated a narc who I suspect was cheating. He was always disappearing. When I finally broke up with him he stalked me. He would pop up at my job, apt, parent's house. Crazy man.
I mean no disrespect...but I was struck by your story have a few questions. In the beginning, did you feel taken advantage of from the start? Did you not find his low-status to be a turnoff, as most women like men to be providers or at least equals? What was the appeal when you could have had anybody?
Totally empathize with you but I want to add that an executive, high paying man will unalive you too. It's done "every day".
Never tell a man it is over just disappear and get out of the state.
This is heartbreaking. She seemed like such a beautiful soul. My condolences to her family and all who loved her.
Ladies, listen to your friends! If you have a father who says no, LISTEN! Don't try to make love happen. Let it happen organically. Red flag 1) can't meet his family/friends! 2) Isn't transparent about his life, friends, employment, where he lives, etc. RUN! This story is so sad.
He apparently even lied about having children.
My friend is set to marry a man who she has not met any of his friends or family. He lied about who he lived with. Had me follow him home one night because he never seen my car. He went to church but she couldn’t come. He said he use to be a cop but she has seen no proof. She asked him to buy a house with her in Texas, he refused. She bought a house herself and moved to Texas and broke up with him. He wormed his way back in her life and home he didn’t help purchase. She says he pays half the bills. I just try to be there for her but she has lost friends behind not heeding the red flags from this man. She lost a son a few years ago to gun violence and he was there for her, I believe that’s what has her stuck. I just hope it works out.
@@gonegirl9114 Hope ot works out, too.
@@gonegirl9114it's not going 😢
@@gonegirl9114 This is EXACTLY why I tell my daughters NEVER listen to ANY of your friends who isn't married or in a relationship leading to marriage. This woman is grown as HELL. But y'all want to be instant psychologist. Please let this woman be happy if it's her choice. This is why so many of our black women are STILL SINGLE. They are STILL doing detective work.
Please do a background check before you get too entangled with someone. Also, ladies never move a man into your home!
Or a woman
Listen!!! Never!!!
Agreed
Background checks do t tell everything. Better learn to trust your gut, and end it the moment you sense something isn't right.
Exactly. Trying to put them out, is the hardest thing ever.
Since I`m a true crime addict I have to say this tragic case touches me more than others....Lauren had a perfect life until she met this loser psycho, She was bright, charming and had a promising future infront of her plus so many remarkable true friends, all of them special ppl, that only wanted her very best. Her dad is just as amazing.
I`m so sorry this happened to Lauren, may she RIP and I`m very happy Nikki got away alive.
I feel the same way! I watch the ID Channel all the time.
I feel like unfortunately that's why this dispicable coward inserted himself into her life she was so loving and caring that he manipulated and exploited this absolute beautiful angel for his own selfishness. He's the definition of evil 🤬🤬🤬
She should have watched that station. She wouldn’t be so trusting.
Amen 🙌🏾🙏🏾
He was truly a loser.I have those kinds trying to be with me but i make sure I never take even $1 from them.I pay for everything I eat so that they never hold anything over my head.
At this point, normalize getting background checks on your potential partner before getting into a serious relationship or marriage. Also it's so important to listen to your family & friends when they tell you something is off about your partner. They're usually right.
That’s not enough... Background checks won’t reveal marriages, divorces, protective orders and children. I understand your reasoning but obtaining true background checks is actually very difficult and expensive.
Thank you!
@@Jujubean9795 They can still provide very useful information if any. Isn't it better to be a little informed than not at all?
@@SLLCont I really hate how misused the term "victim blaming" is. Passing useful information that could help potential victims is not victim blaming.
She overlooked every red flag. Sometimes as we get older our craving for companionship causes us to overlook red flags and makes us vulnerable to predators such as this. Very sad. 😢😢😢😢😢
My 1st husband pulled a gun on me, I stayed. My 2nd husband asked me what would I do if he hit me, I moved out. Plz leave at the 1st instance or before. So many families. So much sadness.
👋👋👋👋👋👋👋👋
There are a lot of demonic people around us. We have to pray and fast consistently to depict these wicked entities.
She married this guy knowing he could not keep a job, he had no friends or family, he stayed with his mommy and was a serial cheater. I hope women learn from this.. Leave Pookie and Ray Ray alone. These guys are dangerous.
Very true.
Yes. But unfortunately it's not just pookie and ray ray who do this.
@naturalista123 True, but it's rare for someone to do this if they're established and successful. A man or woman that has nothing to lose will always be a risk.
And have nothing to loose
@@nomadictravelerfromTx Yes more of a risk if nothing to lose, but crazy come rich & successful too. It's about control & ego. He's ugly outside & inside, don't be so good to losers ladies, most men online have issues/are narcissists, be very careful. Don't be desperate for anything or too much of a "go getter" which blinds you to reality. RIP Lauren🕊💔
Unfortunately, as black women the men of our own community are often times our greatest threat both emotionally and financially. As accomplished ladies who have so much to offer, please don’t settle for a dusty bandit like this. There are many black men out there who are simply using good women as meal tickets because they don’t have two pennies to rub together. RIP Lauren.💛
Why though? We always
Articulate the same shit. Why are some black men this way???
Some Black men??? You are being far too kind. It's all of them. Every. Single. Last. One. Of. Them
Divest. Date out. Marry up
That's the only way Black women can have peace and prosperity.
There are not enough good black men to even pick from smh. This is why this great woman settled.
@@elyisrael2457 Because they’ve received accolades and support from us that they don’t deserve. We incentivize the bare minimum as black women.
@@lynnd.5135 I hate to say it, but maybe it would’ve benefited her to date out and explore other races of men. We can’t keep doing this to ourselves, black women deserve much better.
Honestly can't understand why some individuals think they can just own their partner.. A person who they didn't know before. These people need to be locked up forever
Nope they need to suffer the same fate or worse (burn in hell)!
A firing squad is cheaper! And more fitting
Sick!
Most men online this day in time has a evil motive.
Men like this are looking for sex and money on these online dating sites.
Yup. All the trash are online looking for prey…
EXACTLY!!! THAT'S WHY I WILL NEVER GO ONLINE LOOKING FOR LOVE.!!
Most men women choose to be with stop acting like all men are like this 😂
Yesssss
Ladies stop being so desperate, choose carefully, pay attention. Play attention to the Red Flags
He probably told her all the things that she wanted to hear, and he wined and dined her in the beginning
Men and women both
Please don’t blame Lauren for this.
@ProtectWomenDesigns she just made a statement...smh
@@Chitownhomestead she’s my best friend. I’m allowed to ask someone to not imply that she was desperate.
Sad story. She gave him more than the benefit of the doubt. The fake address would have shaken my soul. The "no you can't meet my mother" would have been a complete no no. No friends or family involved in the wedding...nada. No employment history...nope. So many questions that are unanswered...no thanks. His body language seems uncomfortable. Like some others have said, it's never a good idea to forewarn a person that you're leaving or want them to leave. If you and your spouse are sleeping in separate rooms, it's time to get out before you get to that point. I'm surprised they didn't go to couples counseling or didn't mention that. She seemed like the type who would go that route as a last resort before putting him out. It's clear she was a very kind woman who had good intentions. We have a problem with men in society....all across the board. I say that to my husband all the time and he agrees. Men are so messed up!
100% this! But even before that his job history/stability, him living with his mama (sir, you are 40+ and unless there are some medical/MH issues that SHE needs support with, that's a no for me), and then the friends/family saying they don't care for him (like all of them said it!) would've been enough for me. I might not have even known about the address because we'd be over by then. I feel so sorry for her kindness being taken advantage of as weakness. May her memory be a blessing to all who love her and hear her story.💗
You can literally see the light in her eyes dim as time went by 💔💔💔 Poor Lauren. May she rest in peace 🙏🏼
I see this in our former pastors wife n it's so sad....
I really wish black women would see the patterns here. I'm tired of covering these stories.
I want this story to be one spread far and wide. My daughter just married Saturday, and I'm afraid.
@@intensepassion3382That is so sad as a marriage should be a joining of families, business....a joyful, positive occasion. Welp, stay involved. Sometimes people just need someone to talk to. I do understand where you are coming from though as certain people go flip mode AFTER marrying. I rebuke all evil towards your daughter. No evil weapon formed against her shall prosper. Amen. Also let her know that if froggy ever wants to leap...come get her Mother and get out of there. Don't feel ashamed baby, I know you loved him and thought he was a good family man.
@SAMA BW see the patterns, but they choose to overlook it. They love building up their kangz 🤷♀️
@@Lex-jv9znright, they are haters
@@Lex-jv9zn It's so sad too. All they have to do is look around. There's even DATA to show what's happening. But they don't want to hear the truth about their kangz. you're right
These stories keep me single and happy, there are many of these stories (all the online dating end like this) she did no background check no family attended 🤷🏽♂️, if your giving a man money regularly and taking care of him basically you got a problem
I met a man, within a week I found out he was a convicted R and a registered SO..his case had a special * on it..come to find out its because his victim was special needs. A prescription bottle fell out his car, I handed it to him, noticing the name he gave me wasn't the name on the bottle..he had cashapp some $$ before our 1st date..I thought it was a good sign that he offered to pay for my mani pedi..from Google to background check with the money he had sent because the cashapp had the same name on the bottle..nobody but GOD. Follow your intuition and decrement and dont give the benefit of the doubt to NOBODY.
Key Word.....
SINGLE and loving JESUS❤🙏!!!
I feel the same way.
#metoo
Single seems to be the best option these days. Too many narcs and psychopaths looking for victims. They wear a mask for a while to trick you then the demon appears. So sad. RIP.
Ladies and Gentleman…PLEASE judge people in your life off their actions and not the words they say that you want to hear. They often don’t match up in anyway, but we tend to ignore the reality in favour of the dream of what we want, especially when in love. It can be hard to ignore your heart, but we have to stop ignoring glaring multiple red flags. I’m glad this man is in jail. RIP to the victim.
Dad and friends didn't like him. He had no family and friends, nothing to offer her, and lied about his address why would she marry him
Pressure of society and what she felt was supposed to be a genuine relationship
Let's not victim blame! Ppl like you are the reason ppl don't reach out for help!
Thanks so much for sharing Lauren’s story. She was clearly a remarkable woman & I loved what her friends, colleagues, and father had to say about her. Her passing is a true loss.
She was in love with the concept of love and family. But everything about him was a lie, fake, and he had no identity. I'm sorry this happened to her. He used her story to control her and marry her, and she started to see he was a dangerous person. She didn't deserve what happened to her, I feel for her family during there tome of grief. Prayers to family and friends 🙏 ❤️
It’s scary how many women are murdered by their significant others so often. Makes me want to remain single.
Period.
I feel sorry for this poor lady! My condolences to her family and friends. There were many red flags. 1. She found him from the internet. 2. He was living with his mom. 3. He was isolating her from everybody. Please pay attention to these kinds of signs everyone.
1000% FACTS💛🌻⭐🌞🎉Y THA YOUNG LADY FELL FOR 💪🗡️🔥👿🔥!!!
4. He was not anywhere near a provider, and
5. He was a pathetic LIAR.
The Queen maker talks exactly about this kind of shit and some women are .mad at what she talk but she keep saying men are incapable of love
@BrendaBaBoom Queenmaker warns ⚠️ us of this and some women have the nerve to get mad
And he hid 2 kids from her
We ladies have to listen to our parents especially when it comes to relationships. I didn’t listen to my father and ended up in a marriage with a narcissist, glad I left alive with my two children and started life all over again. I have learned the hard way. RIP lady.
Met a narcissist and I was so smart, so charming, everything nice. After one month he proposed marriage. I said no!!! I don't even know you that well. After that, I was mediocre, insecure, no good, everything negative!!! So one-day he showed up to my place and asked me to use the bathroom. I told him to go to the nearest gas station!! He never got over that. Then I blocked him.!!! My sincere condolences to the family and friends.
I'm glad you were cautious
Rest Peacefully Lauren🕊️ She was my oldest daughter's elementary School friend.. Condolences and Prayers to her mother Trudy, whom I lived down the street from, and her father Charles 🙏🏽 this is so heartbreaking to watch😢
Trudy passed in 2011.
@MellyTwelly, Thank you for the info...Rest peacefully Trudy 🕊️ I pray that her and Lauren are together 🙏🏽
We need Femicide laws!
Now‼️💯
You need common sense....
@@ericthered1140reading isn’t fundamental I guess 🥴
How would that be different than homicide law?
Lol we need more laws against murder? Unless the law of God is in the heart ❤️ people will kill each other.
She was so loved by so many people. That tells you so much about this woman. I know she is missed.
That fake address issue wasn’t a red flag it was a King size bed sheet. To beat her like that is unimaginable. Condolences to the family.
This story is so heartbreaking. It’s sad that she wanted a partner sooo bad that she ignored the warning signs 💔
Meeting people the normal way is a risk within itself but that whole online dating is very dangerous. It seems like all kinds of weirdos are on them, it's a hard hell no for me!!!
It don’t matter on and offline
@@SJ-jd8uh exactly!! That's why I said the normal way.
Yep, it's a hard hell NO for me too. Online dating is a predators playground. It's like entering a room with a 100 people in it, and 90 of them are predators.
Yep
I knew quite a few marriages that began online.... no matter where you meet then, they will eventually die themselves, it's up to you to leave
Abuse starts with verbal and emotional.
Unfortunately, some women feel a need to get married and have children when they reach a certain age. The more accomplished the woman, the more the pressure to have the perfect family.
Sadly, in Lauren's case, she ignored the advice of her family and friends. She probably wanted to see the good in this man. She probably thought divorce would be looked as a failure.
Even the most accomplished person may have insecurities that they overcompensate for. This story saddens me because of her trust in the wrong person.
Let her story be a cautionary tale for others. Let her death not be in vain. God bless her family for sharing.
It is women of all ages who may want to get married and have children
AMEN....
And there was a lot of red flags with this man number one was she met hin on a online dating website THAT'S DANGEROUS I have seen so many become Missing or Killed on these websites, AND that is why the Scripture Says WAIT ON THE LORD BECAUSE GOD IS THE ONLY, ONLY THAT'S KNOWS EVERYBODY INSIDE OUT GOD KNOWS OUR EVERY THOUGHT BEFORE WE EVEN THINK IT NOW THAT IS A AWESOME GOD 🙏🙏!!!
@tangee8252 Yes, you are correct. I think the feeling is more acute in women who feel like their time clock is running out.
Like another poster commented, she may have felt the need to get married since a lot of her friends were. This happened in my college class when people were coupling up.
Then, when people got married and bought homes, some felt the need to compete and rush into marriage or buy a bigger home in a more exclusive neighborhood.
It is sad when societal or familial pressures burden people to act in such ways. I have seen many divorces from such pressures. Although it was not said about what made Lauren Charles dog her heels into this man, I am sure she felt some kind of way. May she rest in peace. Such a tragic loss.
@verajones9158 Yes. You are correct as well. Yet, when we pray, sometimes we don't pray for right things or God reveals himself and we don't listen. I have been guilty of both myself until I learned to be a more prayerful person.
We have to be honest with God and with ourselves. I thank God for his mercy and grace. I am still a work in progress 🙏🏽.
@@diva70smusic
Me Too I am guilty of it myself, no shame here I met a man and for some reason when I trying to meet up with him up with him after a few months, he never showed up to meet me and I thank GOD HE BLOCKED 🚫 WHATEVER WAS TRYING TO HARM ME THIS IS WHY I LOVE GOD take care!!!
I’m 41 years old and every since I was a kid, I thought I would grow up, easily get married only have to be with 1 man. I’m still not married but I don’t care. Once someone start acting weird I’m out and I’m okay 👌🏾
I had the same exact situation, hearing the stories trucks such a nerve in me. I’m so thankful that the Lord moved me and I listen to him and he moved me. I have become slightly afraid of my husband and not sure what he would do. No, he was never physically abusive, but he was so verbally and emotional and bullying that I just couldn’t take it anymore. I knew that that’s not right and he never did anything wrong. If anything went wrong anything it was always my fault. thank you to the Lord I got my own apartment. I’m happy I don’t feel on edge I don’t feel uncomfortable in my spirit, thank the Lord!! ladies please please get out if you have to go with just the clothes on your back leave . God will make away for you trust him
Good for you! Verbal & emotional abuse is equally as bad as physical abuse! Often that's where it starts and ends up with beatings & murder.
You did the ABSOLUTE right thing. They don't always start with the physical abuse. It's the verbal and emotional and work their way up.
When the “love language” turns FOUL it’s time to leave.
I'm so sorry this happened to an amazing woman. I can honestly say. When listening to the story. My eyes filled with tears. God bless her family and friends.
Too many red flags .He didn't talk much, You didn't meet the Mom, his address was a vacate lot ,he had two children he didn't tell you about. Go with your GUT it might save your life and don't ignore the red flags. This is very sad and unsettling. Prayers to her family and my deepest condolences. It's
It’s so sad that we’ve gotten to the point that a person who doesn’t talk much is a red flag. Other than that, this is spot on.
@@kam1106 There is a difference between being quiet and being sneaky, stand-offish, manipulative and calculating! People who don’t engage with your friends and family after a certain period of time are hiding something! They don’t talk so that they don’t lie and have to worry about what they said. There is a thing as being too quiet! Just like with kids, when they are loud and playing, you know their safe! The minute the silence continues for more than 2 minutes, there is a problem. They sleep or hurt! That’s what them old country folks told me when I was growing up!
What a terrible loss. So sorry to all of Lauren's people that loved her.
The most dangerous time in a relationship is when a good woman is trying to LEAVE a (pos) man.
He did not deserve her. So sad. Just a pure devil
not at all
If she felt he deserved her to the point of marrying him then who are you to say otherwise
@@aselyne5631exactly. People say things so loosely.
@@aselyne5631 because he fn killed her. And I think you’re a clown
@@leviq92 ✌🏽
Only a coward attacks a sleeping person and I’m sorry her family continues to suffer to this day, a death of a child is impossible to overcome, you just learn to go onward.
Sir, i invite you to look upon the Book of Job
I stumbled across this video and very sad to see this young lady taken away because she wanted to just be loved. But she was truly loved by so many others. Sending hugs and condolences to her family and friends.
He definitely did not bring to the table to match what she had at the table. They were Unequally yoked from day one. Sorry but she married down and settled with this loser. He’s pathetic.
Exactly evil parasite
❤
She wasnt that attractive so her options for a man who met her accomplishments were low. She married someone on her level…Being equally yoked refers to spiritual beliefs and serving the same god, not net worth.
Exactly, and surely he had an inferiority complex about it
@@pickmeisha your name matches. You must be a troll 😂
Unfortunate that the 🎌 were overlooked. This is definitely a cautionary tale.
Japanese flags ?
Did you mean: 🚩?
Right I can’t understand why she didn’t run the other way
Most bw die because of desperation of being with any man
@@dammitmomlol
I completely understand the shame that you feel when you’re with a person like that. I hope we can teach our children and loved ones that there’s no shame in wanting to love and be loved. The actions of the ab-sive partner are not a reflection on their v-ctims and it’s okay to reach out for help.
RIP angel. He didn’t deserve to be in the presence of her light 🕊️
The misleading address in the beginning was where this relationship should've ended, very unfortunate!! It breaks my heart that this caring, educated woman dismissed so many red flags!!
My deepest condolences to Lauren's family, friends, and those who loved her. Rest in Peace, Lauren.
Sometimes red flags are over looked because women at a certain age often feel as though this may be their last chance at getting married and starting a family.
This is me now…41 holding on to a man I feel may kill me one day smh
This breaks my heart. She was so well loved, she radiates a good spirit in her pictures and through the memories of her dad and friends. Ladies love yourself first. Marriage, children do not complete you…don’t settle and do the background check early on 💜🥺
I have a friend like Lauren, the only difference is that it's a male friend. The most humble, intelligent, funny, kind man I have ever known. His wife has isolated him from his friends and family. When he had finally gotten up the courage to leave her, she disclosed that she was pregnant. So he stayed. She abuses him mentally and emotionally, on some occasions physically. My concern is for what could possibly happen. I don't believe she would do the unthinkable, but what if he hurt himself? Thank you for sharing Lauren's story, it motivates me to "speak up and not mind my own business!" To Lauren's family; I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I had the honor of meeting her. May you be comforted in knowing that Lauren's story, terribly tragic, may save someone else. I am definitely going to try.💞🙏 My love to all.❤️
Sending well wishes to your friend and I hope he can realize his worth 🥺
@@HeidiAtuafulMJ thank you. He needs all the prayers we can give him.💞🙏
She was smart, lovely, had great friends, and she was an empath. Empaths love to help and, sometimes, they attempt to rescue people. This is something a narcissist gravitates toward.
Thank you for telling her story. Thank you for giving her the voice that he took from her.
She looks like she was beautiful inside and out. Its so incredibly sad that this horrible man took her life. RIP Lauren
He looked like he had a problem, you can see it in his eyes. I'm so sorry for your loss🙏🏼❣️😇
Please victims if ANYONE hurt you, manipulate you, belittle you... tell your friends and most of all this person do not love you. Because they dont have your best interest.
There is zero shame on you only on the abuser.
Wow she had so many people that love her, many of us don’t have a fraction of the love she had. She was so blessed before even meeting this monster she settled for.
My prayers go out to Lauren’s family and friends. So sorry this happened 🙏🏽🙏🏽
My condolences to her family. May she R.I.P. He's a heartless soul. He was jealous of her and the other women and wanted what they had. He seemed to hate women, but wanted to drain them of their resources instead of working to earn his own.
Great point 👍🏽
@@BrendaBaBoom I agree. This man is such a misogynistic psychopath, a sociopath, and an idiot.