When I go cold, I warm up to myself. It gives me time to nurture my thoughts, and distract myself with hobbies and things that I love about my life. I don’t think that going cold means you’re playing games, I think it a survival mechanism.
Amen to that‼️‼️‼️ I do the same thing. Relationships, or trying to maintain an equilibrium is time consuming and draining, but yet we still want them around. So when a guy starts acting weird, I pull back and take that time to myself and get caught up on things I’ve neglected, projects I need to finish and personal growth and grooming…almost like giving myself a tuneup or an oil change….a little self-maintenance
..@Laloudia...if you are really enjoying yourself as you mention, what reason do you you have to go cold..you should rather share your joy with others!!! If there is no valid reason, nobody deserves to receive your coldness...
I think he means when a woman hits the point of not giving a f anymore generally the man can feel it because it’s genuine and once we get to that point it’s not acting homie
@@jahsistjohn1588indifference is really when you show no feelings- it’s neutrality. Which is the best approach in my opinion, being rude shows you care, being nice makes them think that they could still try to play with you. Indifference to me is just giving them nothing
It's kind of f-ed up that men don't respect unconditional love and kindness. You have to be a strong person to love other people that way. I guess it's that way of the world and we have to do the stupid dance. Sigh.
If you want to receive love or anything in life you got to be mean & cold a bit & show some attitude. Unfortunately whether we like it or not that's attractive & it shows you respect yourself & people feel drawn to that. People need to see different shades of you else you will be taken for a ride. Anything unconditional will always be taken for granted be it time, money, energy or kindness.
Alex… I really believe you would be a great teacher at university about psychology, intimacy and emotional intelligence. Anyway, you will always succeed at what you do ♥️ Great work. Thank you!
You’re wise because a right guy will not put you in a position where you act cold. Logic is flawed here, how is it possible to for you to be ALWAYS there but he is the one who decides to take you for granted? If this logic was true then shouldn’t you also BE BORED of being always there and have wandering eyes even if he always appreciated it? Trust me, I’ve always been hot and cold type but only to realise that they care more about their own ego and can’t survive happily without you so they will do any stupid petty things to get you back, if you gotta be cold then those guys are wandering street dogs who only deserve insincere and inconsistent people.
Some guys yalk to other girls in a romantic manner,when you mention it,they act defensive and wave it off but still say they love you😢. If he takes you for granted,walk away..my neighbor is suffering this
Alex this is one of your best videos in a while. This message is spot on. More on this topic, please!!! (Also are you using your old “toxic stick” as the pointer?!?😂)
Can u suggest a general area of your videos to put on a new recruit? There's so much gold over the TL of years atp, that I don't wanna overwhelm the newbie.
I want a man who respects me and enjoyes my being warm nature..there will be always time to become cold if something bad happenes; otherwise he will not recognise what wrong he did...
As a guy who stumbled on this channel…I can say this advice is bad at best and stupid at worst …If you have to fake “cold” feelings to get respect, I’m sorry that’s manipulation, and one thing I can say about the top quality men, they can sniff out manipulation like a dog… A high quality person gets respect they want or they walk, no questions asked…If you have to manipulate it out of someone then it’s already a loosing battle…It may work on dumber men…But smart me won’t fall for it…They either respect and like you or they don’t period…Sure you may be able to pull some strings to manipulate some of his behavior…But the only way a high quality men will respect you, if he truly likes you from the get go…Manipulation is bullshit
I also disagree with this advice. I'm a girl and if someone was being cold towards me, I would assume that they are either a) going through personal problems or b) that they don't like me and are trying to cut me off. Either way, I would also start being distant. Do guys think this way too? Because I don't believe that all guys are chasers, especially guys who are more introverted and shy.
@@sof5611 Don't be "cold" back, just walk..Thats my point...If someone is playing games with you..Or "acting" cold say what's on your mind, and walk away if he doesn't want to change....No tit for tat, one upping, games ,etc...Just say whats on your mind, and if you dont like how your being treated, leave...
Yeah, however, the catch is most men aren’t as sharp as you think. I’ve met countless men in my life. From alpha to gamma, I’ve seen it all. Men are textbook. If you show real care, affection and love, they pull away. If you have strong boundaries and give hot and cold treatment, they’re drawn to you like conquest. This hot and cold stuff will also work on women but not all women. But with men, I’d say success rate is a 100% because their mind rules over their intellect, even for smart men. If women put men on a pedestal, they’ll be met with utter disregard. However, if women start seeing (and treating) men as the children that they are, women can literally have so much fun in the dating market.
When I go cold, I warm up to myself. It gives me time to nurture my thoughts, and distract myself with hobbies and things that I love about my life. I don’t think that going cold means you’re playing games, I think it a survival mechanism.
Amen to that‼️‼️‼️ I do the same thing. Relationships, or trying to maintain an equilibrium is time consuming and draining, but yet we still want them around. So when a guy starts acting weird, I pull back and take that time to myself and get caught up on things I’ve neglected, projects I need to finish and personal growth and grooming…almost like giving myself a tuneup or an oil change….a little self-maintenance
..@Laloudia...if you are really enjoying yourself as you mention, what reason do you you have to go cold..you should rather share your joy with others!!! If there is no valid reason, nobody deserves to receive your coldness...
I think he means when a woman hits the point of not giving a f anymore generally the man can feel it because it’s genuine and once we get to that point it’s not acting homie
Boundaries make people respect you. Not coldness or playing games.
That's what boundaries are...u set them and when ppl cross them u move away and present them w coldness.
@ I would rather go for indifference
@@urvashipokharna9285indifference is when you don’t have feelings.
@@jahsistjohn1588indifference is really when you show no feelings- it’s neutrality. Which is the best approach in my opinion, being rude shows you care, being nice makes them think that they could still try to play with you. Indifference to me is just giving them nothing
Respect > Love
PREACH 👏
It's kind of f-ed up that men don't respect unconditional love and kindness. You have to be a strong person to love other people that way. I guess it's that way of the world and we have to do the stupid dance. Sigh.
It's like weak men who are friend zoned.
I don’t appreciate foolish men.
If you want to receive love or anything in life you got to be mean & cold a bit & show some attitude. Unfortunately whether we like it or not that's attractive & it shows you respect yourself & people feel drawn to that. People need to see different shades of you else you will be taken for a ride. Anything unconditional will always be taken for granted be it time, money, energy or kindness.
Women don't even respect love and kindness, it's human nature to take it for granted
I chase crappy men away on purpose by texting them everyday at 6am, 10am, 3pm and 6pm, 100% effective😂😂😂😂😂 they run
Alex… I really believe you would be a great teacher at university about psychology, intimacy and emotional intelligence.
Anyway, you will always succeed at what you do ♥️ Great work. Thank you!
Yessss!! Great idea, and I agree! Alex needs to do this! I'd love to help contribute to his education, if he chooses to. :)
Meaning.... not being available all the time ❤❤❤
Weldone
If you turn cold and he dnt prove himself.Simple he not that into you.
This just doesn’t seem worth it
Stop being lazy and boring.
@@mardigras33 girl you look boring , you’re like 49 attacking people on the Internet😂
You’re wise because a right guy will not put you in a position where you act cold. Logic is flawed here, how is it possible to for you to be ALWAYS there but he is the one who decides to take you for granted? If this logic was true then shouldn’t you also BE BORED of being always there and have wandering eyes even if he always appreciated it? Trust me, I’ve always been hot and cold type but only to realise that they care more about their own ego and can’t survive happily without you so they will do any stupid petty things to get you back, if you gotta be cold then those guys are wandering street dogs who only deserve insincere and inconsistent people.
THANKYOU FATHER ALEX FOR MAKING INFORMATIVE VIDEOS ! ❤
Some guys yalk to other girls in a romantic manner,when you mention it,they act defensive and wave it off but still say they love you😢.
If he takes you for granted,walk away..my neighbor is suffering this
I hate that it has to happen but it definitely does.
Good point, will want respect, "especially if they've been f****d over" that's when you demand respect!
Let me be the first one to say I just f*ckin love male whistleblowers 🥰🥰🥰 thank you for your service, sir.
Am naturally cold with strangers i don't do it on purpose and yes i feel like there are men that r attracted to me even tho i don't do anything
Sameeee. Then my coworker thinks I want them bc I'm nice and it's just my personality underneath my coldness 😆
Alex this is one of your best videos in a while. This message is spot on. More on this topic, please!!! (Also are you using your old “toxic stick” as the pointer?!?😂)
I love how you make your videos concise. Fact full, straight to the point, engaging and brief... I'll keep watching ❤🎉🎉🎉🎉 anytime 👍
You get a lot more attractive, mindfully as you're getting older and wiser. 😉
Not my autistic ass, thinking that this video was a joke about how when women get cold and steal their jacket 💀💀💀💀
😂😂😂
This is great advice
Daddy Alexis.... is there a holiday discount code for your courses?
Yes, coupon code black
You're so funny 😂 all good 👍 Father Alex 🙏
I love your pattern if video ❤❤
I love the video 😍
Wow you just blew my mind father 🙏🏽❤️🔥🤯
Brilliant discussion
Excellent Analysis
Thank you Sir
Impactful video
create more vids like this to help us women
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Yay first comment. I’m ready! *in my spongebobs voice*
Some of u have no idea how to take the meat and leave the bones. 😂 sheesh.
Can u suggest a general area of your videos to put on a new recruit? There's so much gold over the TL of years atp, that I don't wanna overwhelm the newbie.
It was not like that in the 1970 s and 1980 s,...it was the opposite.
How was it back then? 😮
I want a man who respects me and enjoyes my being warm nature..there will be always time to become cold if something bad happenes; otherwise he will not recognise what wrong he did...
It's up to you if you want to become a cold-hearted woman!
As a guy who stumbled on this channel…I can say this advice is bad at best and stupid at worst …If you have to fake “cold” feelings to get respect, I’m sorry that’s manipulation, and one thing I can say about the top quality men, they can sniff out manipulation like a dog…
A high quality person gets respect they want or they walk, no questions asked…If you have to manipulate it out of someone then it’s already a loosing battle…It may work on dumber men…But smart me won’t fall for it…They either respect and like you or they don’t period…Sure you may be able to pull some strings to manipulate some of his behavior…But the only way a high quality men will respect you, if he truly likes you from the get go…Manipulation is bullshit
I also disagree with this advice. I'm a girl and if someone was being cold towards me, I would assume that they are either a) going through personal problems or b) that they don't like me and are trying to cut me off. Either way, I would also start being distant.
Do guys think this way too? Because I don't believe that all guys are chasers, especially guys who are more introverted and shy.
@@sof5611 Don't be "cold" back, just walk..Thats my point...If someone is playing games with you..Or "acting" cold say what's on your mind, and walk away if he doesn't want to change....No tit for tat, one upping, games ,etc...Just say whats on your mind, and if you dont like how your being treated, leave...
Yeah, however, the catch is most men aren’t as sharp as you think. I’ve met countless men in my life. From alpha to gamma, I’ve seen it all. Men are textbook. If you show real care, affection and love, they pull away. If you have strong boundaries and give hot and cold treatment, they’re drawn to you like conquest. This hot and cold stuff will also work on women but not all women. But with men, I’d say success rate is a 100% because their mind rules over their intellect, even for smart men. If women put men on a pedestal, they’ll be met with utter disregard. However, if women start seeing (and treating) men as the children that they are, women can literally have so much fun in the dating market.
ok but why he kinda....