So many men are not truly capable of truly loving a woman or being in a healthy relationship. And if they are a narcissist forget it they lack too much empathy to even be considered human.
Not even true. A man will marry a woman just to trap her and get her to tend to him. Dont be fooled. Ill NEVER accept a ring from a man i have doubts about. I might be unwed forever 😂@@ayeshak6822
I knew my ex didn't love me, and I mess with him cause I didn't love myself. I love me now 🥰. He tried coming back, but I love myself too much to allow him in my space.
Simple. I just stare into his eyes. If there’s no light in his eyes when he sees me walking toward him, like he’s happy to see me, or if his gaze is locked on my body instead of My Eyes, then he’s not The One.
This I used to see in my ex, I never noticed him excited to see me coming in or walking toward him… he was on his cell phone or looking somewhere else, and also had the wondering eyes.
I left for this reason and he's now stalking me. Same as the others I saw with the same behavior. I've had two going on three restraining orders because I see this and leave before the coworker gets slept with...here's him...lol why would you lower your worth and compare yourself to her. She's an inbred. I saw ALL the signs. He just thought I was stupid. He was stupidly in love at first until I got tired of him putting me on a pedestal deciding to stir up the pot. Smh jokes on him now as he looks for me in every girl and lights up when I enter the room. Breaking his neck to see me. Smh reasons why I just don't date. It takes a man all of two secs for you to piss him off that day or not do or say something he doesn't like then go looking with his eyes for anothers attention or entertainment
That last lady isn’t wrong. I told the guy I was dating that I liked receiving flowers, it made me feel cared for and appreciated. He got mad at me and said I didn’t appreciate what he was already doing for me. Never again.
I only got them when they messed up 😅 because the soft Mama's boy mom told him it's the best way to apologize 😅not say I'm sorry not changed behavior just sum flowers 😅 & gifts are not my love language either
These videos make me sad bc you can hear how the man gets a pass for being terrible, and women just have to be more aware of the tricks and manipulation men provide….bc boys will be boys.
Also pay attention to men with vices.... they are able to pretend when they are under the influence! Thats why they ask you if you drink or smoke.... some may not be able to love anyone, but the vices can definitely have them pretending well! Take alcohol, either they will be mean and tell you how they really feel and then blame it on alcohol when sober and realize their cover is blown orrrr they are really nice and appreciative when they are drinking but when sober they are less affectionate and just more distant
I agree with this. The last guy was a heavy drinker. He started out love bombing me then later while under the influence he would name call, roll his eyes at me, even flirted with other women in front of me. When he was sober he would say he didn’t remember any of it.
@@nomessnostress I learned the hard way. I dated one guy who when he will get drunk. The real him would show. Long story short when he was drunk he was say the most hurtful things put his hand on me or try to. Be careful ladies.
If you're confused about his love, he doesn't love or want you. It's very simple. Men are simple creatures. We're the complicated ones. When men want something, they'll go after it. You'll 100% know it.
Facts if you’re confused that means he doesn’t want you. I was confused about a guy for the longest time and he himself told me that if he loves somebody they’ll know. So after not knowing for like 6 months I left and then months and months later he texted me saying he was sorry but I never texted back. Men have a way of coping he was just going through the stages of grief. He was feeling regret but that still doesn’t mean he loved me he just was feeling lonely and realized he might have lost a potential future, kids etc. But if he didn’t love me during the relationship why would it be different now. I never answered
Thank you honestly I’m not even gonna watch this video because I know my man loves me. It’s Satan putting up like this in my algorithm to distract me. Because he knows I have obsessive thoughts
Yeah he was all of these things. It took 4 years for me to realize. And then the next man was ALL ACTION and ZERO WORDS. No fake crap!! 👏 stay safe ladies
The thing is, my man does apologise. But he doesn't change. When I call him out he literally says "I'm so sorry. I've been an idiot." But does he correct the behaviour? No. I'm so tired. I just want my freackin' peace back 😭
Omg, been there. This is a strong narc trait. Or borderline. Both are terrible partners, and super immature. You don't want to be with a man who refuse to grow as a person. He will only hold you back in your own growth, and you will be in constant frustration and stress. You talk about being "so tired". That is a huge sign that he is draining your energy. Your life force. That is clearly not someone you are supposed to be with. The fact that you are watching this video is a sign in itself that your intuition is trying to tell you something. Do yourself a favour and leave. Focus on yourself again, learn to love yourself and realise that you deserve someone who truly loves you. But you won't find him until you learn to love yourself, and know your worth. When you know your worth, you won't settle for an ass who causes so much frustration and inner turmoil. You won't let any damn guy destroy your inner peace. It's not worth it. Plus, you will age ten times faster when dealing with someone like that, and that's a fact. Just leave. You will thrive once you're on the other side of the healing phase (which is important to go through, don't go rebounding and ignore that important work). Best of luck to you, sister.
This happened because you didn't have any boundaries... When he did something at first you should have left him for a while to let him know your not playing games... But staying with him and showing him all he has to do is apologize, that means you have entitled him to a routine and now he knows he's above reproach....
@@vashtikelly6837Not always. I have boundaries and I'm a cut throat Person sometimes guys act like this once they get comfortable In the relationship like either you just agreed to be with them. You just moved in together. You just had his baby. You just got married like some of them, Think their job is over after something major happens and they just stop caring about you, spontaneously.
I just figured this out, too. At first, I was sad but now IDKY but I feel free. I realize I knew this all along anyway. I’m no longer deceiving myself. Hopefully, I won’t let a man do it ever again.❤
Do you know what these videos say to me? 1) Men snitch 😅 (cool...keep it coming); and 2) Men can ABSOLUTELY communicate. 😂 They just choose when they feel like doing it. If they feel like they can get your attention...they're chatty Kathys. 🗣
Agreed, but this also tell me that women aren't that socially or emotionally intelligent or aware (they only are when it comes to understanding women) because reading male behaviour is no challenge. Regardless of gender, your partner will tell you how they feel using actions...is that not universal knowledge??
Another sign is if he cheats on you. None of the guys mentioned that. Cheating=no respect for you. And also if they are secretive and not transparent with you.
He never opens up shiw emotions and he never apologizes...no special moments, never prioritizes time...he's not in love with me and never was and probably never will.
Men are a waste of time. After everything they already do, the worst part is we don't know which one comes with which game. no point in even signing up to play.
We dont need them 😅maybe your desperate as 😅 men are not food air nor shelter 😅most women already have or can get these without men @@MoonlitGoddessDeV
Instead of getting mad about looking at another woman, get even and look at another man with a nice car. That'll either piss them off or give them a reality check that 2 can play that game.
What's even the point of playing games with each other? That's a sign of a toxic relationship! Just leave! You can't build trust and genuine connection when one or both try to make each other jealous and play petty games with each other. It's dishonest and a huge sign that you lack good communication, respect and understanding, which is so so so important in a healthy relationship. If a guy tries to make me jealous or play games in any way, I bounce immediately! I deserve a mature man with respect for himself and respect for me, who is emotionally mature enough to communicate when he feels insecure or hurt or whatever would make a person want to play games. Raise your standards, ladies, instead of stooping down to their level and settle for less than you deserve. If you play games too, you don't really deserve a good man. What goes around comes around. Karma. Law of attraction, etc.... It's pretty simple. Plus. Morals, ffs. Be a good person.
Very good 👍🏾 now I will be intentionally writing out my secret “rule book” of what it requires to date me. No more settling, and definitely no more benefit of the doubt. Thanks to everyone and their 2 cents
Yup. They build you up to tear you down. I could not understand how a man could be the most amazing and the most horrible person I have ever been with until, a random person mentioned the word "sociopath" . I started to research what that exactly meant, and it was kind of terrifying. Ultimately , that information is what finally allowed me to stop trying to figure out why he was like that and to get away before it cost me long term brain injuries , and nearly my life.
SO THANKFUL OF THESE MEN!! So sick of men,and some women who are the good little pickmes,trying to justify this behavior!!! I always said,if a man has wondering eyes,he can say you're his world all he wants,but he's proving that we are never good enough for them,and that they want to have their cake and eat it too!! I will NEVER be ok with it!!
Some guys will apologize profusely and initiate sex. Sex does not mean love and apologies don't mean they're sorry. Their other actions need to match what they say and prove love.
The thing about seeing people’s character it is not as hard as we think. Guys who move too fast are always the biggest red flag. Just take the time to know someone instead of falling for their words or looks, no one is that good at pretending. So if you take things really slow the real ones will work for you the pretenders lose patience and show their true colors. Knowing people as friends first is also a good way of knowing because they will have their guards down and show their real characters. After my past whenever I have guy friends I really listen to what they say, and truly understand who they are. I don’t paint a different picture of who they are, who they show you is who they really are. If you take the time to know someone then you can walk away without emotionally investing in anyone.
The 1st guy said everything. I experienced all 3 of these with my last boyfriend and the one before. That’s a whole 11 years of my life I didn’t know this was them faking love. 💔❤️🩹😞
Yes that Young man did.. Wondering staring eyes right in front of you like ur not even there.. Initiate Initiate Initiate.. n yes ur responsibility accountability blame blame..
The first guy sounds like all dudes lol 😂 honestly. They all have wondering eyes 👀 lol and say it’s in their nature, then they do the bare minimum efforts and they never take accountability lol 😂 ever
My previous marriage was 10 years of zero effort and 10 years of zero accountability. Ladies, if this is your man? Leave him in the dust. He is not worth your energy!
It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
I just searched for Father Akunna online indeed he is a very generous man and the most powerful spell caster that I have ever seen he brought my husband back to me with so much love ❤
The wandering eye thing is so true. My hubby would straight up do double takes at other women while walking with me 😓 it was so embarrassing that my man publicly embarrassed me like that. I still resent and give him h*ll over his infidelity all the time now. The love has grown to hatred.
@@Xanderlovesyou1 I felt that way too and I still did it. It was difficult for me and my kids afterwards for a space of time but it got better. When you get tired enough, you'll figure it out. Until then, I'm praying for your strength. 🙏🏿
This was fascinating! I loved all this "straight from the horse's mouth" education! I'll be paying serious attention to the above red flags from now on!!
If you try sharing something with them and they just tell you they can't relate or don't ask questions about the things you love or interest you. It doesn't matter how much he says he loves you, if he truly loves you he'll wanna know E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G. About you. You won't need to ask him to be interested in the things you try sharing with him... It doesn't matter if it's outside of his interest. You are supposed to be the center of his interest
And don't care at all...funny you stupid ass hoes don't have shit to talk about besides my life .your own people to do hateful and f-cked up is unnatural. Thank God, I no longer support or look out for people who hate me, especially those that are my color...Lawsuits don't care. Find a life. 😎🤣🗑️⚖️💯
THANK YOU SOOO MUCH FOR THIS COMPILATION AND THANK YOU SOO SOO MUCH TO ALL THESE MEN ❤ I act like an emotional fool at times and fall for the same trap again and my oh my these dudes they talk like sum siren and lure you into believing they truely love you man its soo hard to tell the difference but i always end up gettin hurt💔
@@soulsearcher7077 or,maybe,they also know it's wrong and are warning us,unlike a majority of men who pretend it's "In ThEiR nAtUrE" and choose to die in that hill
Because that’s a tell-tale sign. If they’re ALL saying that same one thing then you should listen and take that as a warning. They know what they’re like… The fact that every single one of them mentioned “wandering eyes” in each of their lists tells you a lot.
2:35 We know number two is an experience lair.. He warning women already by telling us four signs a man pretending to love you when he held up five fingers 🤦🏾♀️
Same 21 years down the drain, but too sick, too poor, too alone with no support to leave. I will take my last breath around this man. Hopefully my next life will be nicer to me.
I love this video sooooo much..... those guys are telling the truth..... I ve been through this already, those informations are not new to me..... but Lady with her headphones and blanket is terrible!!!!!! she is not happy at all... bcz of not being loved.....
basicaly Do not tolerate any bs. See the slightest red flag? Ghost them and never speak to them again. Save your time and jump to the next man. Adopt a gold digger mindset. It will save your money and time. Do not chase! They don't want you (based on their actions) that's okay. Do them a favor and remove your presence in their life. Adopt very very high standards and you will never have to worry again. In general avoid people that stress you, they make you look older and uglier while you boost their ego.
My ex was great for saying "I love you.' and then showing me how much he hated me. No effort. I had 2 and 3- the lack of accountability for his actions- he would do something and just get silent- never saying sorry or when I called him out on his actions or tell him how I felt, he would tell me my feelings were wrong or just get silent. I also found out he was hiding some pretty major things that were happening and never told me- things that would affect our lives in ways, such as possibly losing our home, money issues, etc. The intentional fight starting was the worst. Men will stay while being bare minimum because they still benefit in some way.
1. Wandering eyes. 2. Zero effort. You have to initiate everything. 3. Blame you for everything. 1. Words don't match actions. 2. Does not open up to you. 3. Never apologizes about anything. 4. Openly flirts with others./Wandering eyes. 1. Only affectionate when he wants something from you. 2. Wandering eyes. 3. Does not prioritize your needs. 1. Excessive PDA - over doing it. Not authentic. 2. No special moments. 3. No serious discussions. 4. Power games. Manipulation, Coercion, power struggles. 5. You don't know much about eachother. 6. Sex is the only thing keeping you together. He keeps test driving the car. Won't buy it. 1. Keeps bringing up his ex. 2. Holds a grudge over you as reason/excuse why he can't do nice things for you. 3. He can't be nice to you. 1. Wandering eyes. 2. Views sex with you as a chore. Doesn't initiate. 3. Takes no accountability for anything bad in the relationship. 1. Wandering eyes. 2. Acts loving when you're around family. 3. Looks at half naked girls online constantly. 1. He talks about other girls or his ex. 2. He pulls back affections quickly. 3. After an argument he acts like he cares. During argument he does not care. 1. Acts nice after he hurts you. 2. Try ro change you. 3. Always needs space. 1. "My man don't have a romantic bone in his body." 2. Ladies need to set the standard for how a man treats you.
My ex said that I was not normal and really jealous because he was not staring at a girl I accused him of staring at. He always looked at other women and the age didn't matter either. He would stare at high schoolers and even women in their 50s. YET, he would get jealous when his friends and I got along very well, or when a waiter was a little "too nice". He was one of the most manipulative men I have ever met and he even admitted to me that his ex accused him of the same thing...he had also cheated on her. I am 28 and he's going to be 37. Glad I left him. I deserve a lot better.
No empathy, all talk no action, make you feel like the bad guy, etc. And plus it doesn't matter if he keeps on apologizing they're going to do it again anyway I'm sorry I learned this from experience I am pretty much all action cuz I'm like come on man You know better if you're going to do it again don't apologize.
I think these are all spot-on, but I think there's one type these men all missed. It's the Morally Good Guy Who Treats You with Respect and Cares for You but Lacks DESIRE for You. This guy treats you GREAT. He treats you with respect, like a human. He enjoys your company. He doesn't have the wandering eyes and isn't afraid to have the conversations. You get along well. BUT as most women know, we have an intuition. We notice that the ROMANTIC acts he does, while being correct, seem... well-intentioned but performative. The flirtation is somehow off. And there are typically strange bedroom issues. I think this happens when a man finds a woman he likes enough and sees as dateable material, but the DESIRE/PHYSICAL attraction isn't strong/isn't working for him the right way. So he thinks he can be happy with a partner as long as most of the other stuff is there. He's also treating the woman right in all the ways a guy should, so it's confusing to encounter this. But we women sense something is missing and can become insecure about it without knowing why. We're taught, "If you find a good guy you'll grow to love him," but sexual and romantic attraction are usually a prerequisite for romantic relationships. I don't think these men are doing it to use women like some of the examples above-- they are thinking they can "settle.". Some may be desperate not to be alone.
This is a great point! Thank you for mentioning it. If a good guy isn’t attracted to you but pretends to himself he is, it won’t be long until you’re both miserable.
I knew that my first boyfriend sucked but my last boyfriend (second bf) I thought really loved me and that we had a good relationship but the more I look back on it, I realize he was actually very toxic and would manipulate me a lot and after watching this definitely realize he was pretending to love me. He made me cry a lot in our relationship and he would never apologize, he would just silent treatment me until I apologized
Theres a lot of “he didnt or doesnt love me” comments on here and I’m beginning to think its THE MEN that dont know what they want tbh.. 😂 Ladies have dignity and if he doesnt love you then its time to GO .. dont waste your precious time, and give the one that WILL love you the time he deserves.. Btw I also know a lot of men who end up leaving the good girl for the toxic one and they shoot themselves in the foot.. And LASTLY, 😂 when youve been married a long time and they have slipped or have been slipping for a long time.. well the one that usually files for Divorce is the woman.. And she DONT COME BACK 😂
I realised all of this too late because he was my first and I had no one to compare him to. I spent all of my 20’s with a man child who taught me what it was like to feel real loneliness even in a relationship
Realized past male who I dumped three years ago was a "narcissist." He still hasn't been accountable. He was a "master" manipulator. I was fooled. He should get an academy award.🏆
The crazy thing is my man acts like it’s so difficult to not look at other women because I’ve expressed VERY clearly I do not like that … and he looks so uncomfortable trying to control himself 🤦🏻♀️ it hurts always seeing him act like this when a beautiful women is around in our presence… I can’t imagine what he does when I’m not around … 😔
Or the moment you split & he finds another girlfriend that he was in love with , acts like (tells you ) they are done & you’re stupid to go back JUST to realize things feel fake….i choose to end things & he IMMEDIATELY Goes back to her & they live together now. SMH , never let them show you more than ONCE!
I want to hit home that his wandering eye was the most subtle indicator…but was the biggest sign he had issues surrounding women. Especially because he lied about it. If a man can’t control his eyes when out with you and then denies it, I’m sorry, but he’s for the streets. A glance here and there is one thing but outright staring is quite another. He will cheat on you, take it from me.
wow, I've been only in 1 relationship and the guy at 0:01 his 2nd point of having to initiate things in the relationship really hit me, cause its what i had to do and never feeling beautiful to my ex, then he broke up with me. So i decided to go back to school and better my life, i still pray i can try to find love out there but its up in the air.
So good to learn from real men (yes, I know ALL men are not like the guys in the video but still). I mean, as a woman, or maybe just my personality, for me it's super weird a guy would be in a long-term committed relationship with a woman he's not really into... I mean what's the point? 😅 Just to avoid being single? And I mean, wouldn't you WANT to be with someone you are into? How could you get to know her if you're with someone else (that you're not that into)?
Plot twist: You're single and you just wanna know who to avoid in the future
Plot twist, single for life, just curious
@@nofybn7794 Better than being with a man like this
@nofybn7794 Hell yeah, on board
@@P3rcyCrib Plot twist: Here for the tea 🍵
Facts 😂❤
When a guy says he’s “a natural flirt” I don’t even let them finish the sentence. I’ll evaporate into the distance.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
T H A N K Y O U . I was called & insecure for it, I was like whatever you say boo boo 👋🏻😎
Yeah I call that bull. He doesn't love you xD
@@e.c.1975 😆
Never chase a man.
I will catch up to him n make pay
@@Passionatelyfruits lmfao
Never
"chase a check,never chase a bitch"
Never chase anybody
The moment any guy I was dating flirted with another woman, he was gone.
Yep 😂
@elizabethmanwaring3940 smart woman 💯 I stayed with my ex narc and lived to REGRET it. My self-esteem/confidence is still in recovery 😔
😂
Good 😊
What kind of men are these men that are willing to just lie and fake being in a relationship? Why?
So many men are not truly capable of truly loving a woman or being in a healthy relationship. And if they are a narcissist forget it they lack too much empathy to even be considered human.
How to know a man loves you: He asks you to be his wife, not his girlfriend.
@@ayeshak6822and that’s that you should repost that in the comments
Exactly periodt 💯
@@loveorabove5106 right
Not even true. A man will marry a woman just to trap her and get her to tend to him. Dont be fooled. Ill NEVER accept a ring from a man i have doubts about. I might be unwed forever 😂@@ayeshak6822
Another sign... You're watching this video
@@gb259 ha!
Period lol
Nope. I was curious what signs they listed. Based on these lists, my husband definitely loves me. ❤
😂😂
Nope he doesn’t have any of these signs I’m just crazy
I knew my ex didn't love me, and I mess with him cause I didn't love myself. I love me now 🥰. He tried coming back, but I love myself too much to allow him in my space.
Good for you
Same it took almost 7 years to realize it signing them papers Asap! been having Jewels- love how I love you on
Repeat
That’s what’s up.
Amen
Simple. I just stare into his eyes. If there’s no light in his eyes when he sees me walking toward him, like he’s happy to see me, or if his gaze is locked on my body instead of My Eyes, then he’s not The One.
This I used to see in my ex, I never noticed him excited to see me coming in or walking toward him… he was on his cell phone or looking somewhere else, and also had the wondering eyes.
Hence the reason why you should respect yourself and walk away when the respect is absent…
All facts. The moment you see this: run and never look back!
I left for this reason and he's now stalking me. Same as the others I saw with the same behavior. I've had two going on three restraining orders because I see this and leave before the coworker gets slept with...here's him...lol why would you lower your worth and compare yourself to her. She's an inbred. I saw ALL the signs. He just thought I was stupid. He was stupidly in love at first until I got tired of him putting me on a pedestal deciding to stir up the pot. Smh jokes on him now as he looks for me in every girl and lights up when I enter the room. Breaking his neck to see me. Smh reasons why I just don't date. It takes a man all of two secs for you to piss him off that day or not do or say something he doesn't like then go looking with his eyes for anothers attention or entertainment
That last lady isn’t wrong. I told the guy I was dating that I liked receiving flowers, it made me feel cared for and appreciated. He got mad at me and said I didn’t appreciate what he was already doing for me. Never again.
This guy just told me I deserve them but never bought me any
I only got them when they messed up 😅 because the soft Mama's boy mom told him it's the best way to apologize 😅not say I'm sorry not changed behavior just sum flowers 😅 & gifts are not my love language either
Still haven't received any from him...nor any ceasing of the abusive treatment.
@@Ultamamiand you are still there. It doesn't matter what you have to do or leave behind, leave.
@HotHoneyAndSpice
I know this is cliche, have you ever concidered dating a woman?
These videos make me sad bc you can hear how the man gets a pass for being terrible, and women just have to be more aware of the tricks and manipulation men provide….bc boys will be boys.
They’re not going to love you when they don’t love themselves 💯
REAL TALK!!!
Also pay attention to men with vices.... they are able to pretend when they are under the influence! Thats why they ask you if you drink or smoke.... some may not be able to love anyone, but the vices can definitely have them pretending well! Take alcohol, either they will be mean and tell you how they really feel and then blame it on alcohol when sober and realize their cover is blown orrrr they are really nice and appreciative when they are drinking but when sober they are less affectionate and just more distant
I agree with this. The last guy was a heavy drinker. He started out love bombing me then later while under the influence he would name call, roll his eyes at me, even flirted with other women in front of me. When he was sober he would say he didn’t remember any of it.
Mmm mmm mmmm
I actually know someone like this 😮
@@nomessnostress I learned the hard way. I dated one guy who when he will get drunk. The real him would show. Long story short when he was drunk he was say the most hurtful things put his hand on me or try to. Be careful ladies.
@Lacavadoe I'm sorry that happened! But yes these men be fighting all kinds of demons and try to self medicate
If you're confused about his love, he doesn't love or want you. It's very simple. Men are simple creatures. We're the complicated ones. When men want something, they'll go after it. You'll 100% know it.
Facts if you’re confused that means he doesn’t want you. I was confused about a guy for the longest time and he himself told me that if he loves somebody they’ll know. So after not knowing for like 6 months I left and then months and months later he texted me saying he was sorry but I never texted back. Men have a way of coping he was just going through the stages of grief. He was feeling regret but that still doesn’t mean he loved me he just was feeling lonely and realized he might have lost a potential future, kids etc. But if he didn’t love me during the relationship why would it be different now. I never answered
Thank you honestly I’m not even gonna watch this video because I know my man loves me. It’s Satan putting up like this in my algorithm to distract me. Because he knows I have obsessive thoughts
When you know you know it's time to go
@@gsanchez5116 mhmm. Took me 6-7 years
@@slipcaseslitpace girl you're in denial
Ladies, love yourselves first !! ❤❤❤
Yeah he was all of these things. It took 4 years for me to realize. And then the next man was ALL ACTION and ZERO WORDS. No fake crap!! 👏 stay safe ladies
The thing is, my man does apologise. But he doesn't change.
When I call him out he literally says "I'm so sorry. I've been an idiot."
But does he correct the behaviour? No.
I'm so tired. I just want my freackin' peace back 😭
Leeeeave hiiiiim~
Or at least point it out first but if he doesn’t change leave him. It’s not worth your precious time
Omg, been there. This is a strong narc trait. Or borderline. Both are terrible partners, and super immature. You don't want to be with a man who refuse to grow as a person. He will only hold you back in your own growth, and you will be in constant frustration and stress. You talk about being "so tired". That is a huge sign that he is draining your energy. Your life force. That is clearly not someone you are supposed to be with. The fact that you are watching this video is a sign in itself that your intuition is trying to tell you something. Do yourself a favour and leave. Focus on yourself again, learn to love yourself and realise that you deserve someone who truly loves you. But you won't find him until you learn to love yourself, and know your worth. When you know your worth, you won't settle for an ass who causes so much frustration and inner turmoil. You won't let any damn guy destroy your inner peace. It's not worth it. Plus, you will age ten times faster when dealing with someone like that, and that's a fact. Just leave. You will thrive once you're on the other side of the healing phase (which is important to go through, don't go rebounding and ignore that important work). Best of luck to you, sister.
This happened because you didn't have any boundaries...
When he did something at first you should have left him for a while to let him know your not playing games...
But staying with him and showing him all he has to do is apologize, that means you have entitled him to a routine and now he knows he's above reproach....
Then leave before you become his miserable wife.
@@vashtikelly6837Not always. I have boundaries and I'm a cut throat Person sometimes guys act like this once they get comfortable In the relationship like either you just agreed to be with them. You just moved in together. You just had his baby. You just got married like some of them, Think their job is over after something major happens and they just stop caring about you, spontaneously.
1st guy is so spot on
Most def , it’s hurts to realize
" Don't be led by the flesh", magnificent!
Shout out to these guys for making these videos esp those who put emphasis on a man treating a woman badly & emotionally abusing her
So basically nobody has ever truly loved me…Yup, I'm embarrassed and that’s sad.
Damn now I wouldn’t say that. ❤️🙂☺️
Same @Lacavadoe 😢
I just figured this out, too. At first, I was sad but now IDKY but I feel free. I realize I knew this all along anyway. I’m no longer deceiving myself. Hopefully, I won’t let a man do it ever again.❤
Most men are incapable of love.
❤❤❣️❣️🙏🏼🙏🏼I PRAY GOD PUT THE RIGHT MAN IN YOUR LIFE @@myboringpowerpoints7782
Do you know what these videos say to me?
1) Men snitch 😅 (cool...keep it coming); and
2) Men can ABSOLUTELY communicate. 😂 They just choose when they feel like doing it. If they feel like they can get your attention...they're chatty Kathys. 🗣
Agreed, but this also tell me that women aren't that socially or emotionally intelligent or aware (they only are when it comes to understanding women) because reading male behaviour is no challenge.
Regardless of gender, your partner will tell you how they feel using actions...is that not universal knowledge??
@@labreynthWomen get fed lies to the point they start doubting themselves 😊 Men don't get fed lies cuz they're the lying factory.
@@DiamondsRexpensive Women get fed lies by fake men. Men get fed lies by manipulative women
You guys are fighting for what reason? Because someone of the opposite sex hurt you in the past? 😂
@@ScorpioKay1027 males r so shit repulsive sometimes ughh
Another sign is if he cheats on you. None of the guys mentioned that. Cheating=no respect for you. And also if they are secretive and not transparent with you.
Wandering eye is mentally cheating
I absolutely was thinking this. The gaslighting is wild!
I imagine everyone knows that a guy who cheats on you doesn't love you.
Especially if he has a baby on you.
that goes also with the wondering eyes
He never opens up shiw emotions and he never apologizes...no special moments, never prioritizes time...he's not in love with me and never was and probably never will.
Going through the same right now! Hope you're are ok!
Men are a waste of time. After everything they already do, the worst part is we don't know which one comes with which game. no point in even signing up to play.
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4b 4life
All men are not cut from the same cloth and you will never be happy if you think they are 😮😮😮
I wish we never needed them for anything other than professional reasons.
We dont need them 😅maybe your desperate as 😅 men are not food air nor shelter 😅most women already have or can get these without men @@MoonlitGoddessDeV
Instead of getting mad about looking at another woman, get even and look at another man with a nice car. That'll either piss them off or give them a reality check that 2 can play that game.
Just leave. Two can but don't have to play that game.
What's even the point of playing games with each other? That's a sign of a toxic relationship! Just leave! You can't build trust and genuine connection when one or both try to make each other jealous and play petty games with each other. It's dishonest and a huge sign that you lack good communication, respect and understanding, which is so so so important in a healthy relationship. If a guy tries to make me jealous or play games in any way, I bounce immediately! I deserve a mature man with respect for himself and respect for me, who is emotionally mature enough to communicate when he feels insecure or hurt or whatever would make a person want to play games. Raise your standards, ladies, instead of stooping down to their level and settle for less than you deserve. If you play games too, you don't really deserve a good man. What goes around comes around. Karma. Law of attraction, etc.... It's pretty simple. Plus. Morals, ffs. Be a good person.
Sounds exhausting. I would just end it.
Women need to pay attention to all the men who like them instead of the women their men like 😂😂
Why waste time pissing them off to get back at them by "playing games". That just makes you as bad as them. Just move on and find someone better. 🙄
I don't mess with men anymore... they genuinely scare me, too many ulterior motives i just cant keep up🙄
Same
Me neither, it's exhausting..they're not worth it
@highlovevibration they aren't worth it 😂
Very good 👍🏾 now I will be intentionally writing out my secret “rule book” of what it requires to date me. No more settling, and definitely no more benefit of the doubt.
Thanks to everyone and their 2 cents
Yes❤❤❤
Literally the dog in me just barked baby she was sleep this jus gave me more ammunition 😂
Yup. They build you up to tear you down. I could not understand how a man could be the most amazing and the most horrible person I have ever been with until, a random person mentioned the word "sociopath" . I started to research what that exactly meant, and it was kind of terrifying. Ultimately , that information is what finally allowed me to stop trying to figure out why he was like that and to get away before it cost me long term brain injuries , and nearly my life.
Been there. It was a long hard road out of hell. Sometimes, alone is better.
Lots of men use women
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SO THANKFUL OF THESE MEN!! So sick of men,and some women who are the good little pickmes,trying to justify this behavior!!! I always said,if a man has wondering eyes,he can say you're his world all he wants,but he's proving that we are never good enough for them,and that they want to have their cake and eat it too!! I will NEVER be ok with it!!
Why are you blaming "some women" for the men's bad behavior?
Some guys will apologize profusely and initiate sex. Sex does not mean love and apologies don't mean they're sorry. Their other actions need to match what they say and prove love.
Always remember especially when it comes to men. Actions speak louder than words.
Guy #1 was so on point
Not even black guy at 6:30 was accurate 💯
A woman being the only one initiating segg is wild
The thing about seeing people’s character it is not as hard as we think. Guys who move too fast are always the biggest red flag. Just take the time to know someone instead of falling for their words or looks, no one is that good at pretending. So if you take things really slow the real ones will work for you the pretenders lose patience and show their true colors. Knowing people as friends first is also a good way of knowing because they will have their guards down and show their real characters. After my past whenever I have guy friends I really listen to what they say, and truly understand who they are. I don’t paint a different picture of who they are, who they show you is who they really are. If you take the time to know someone then you can walk away without emotionally investing in anyone.
The wandering eye IS A PROBLEM LADIES. I didn’t know this when I was with my now ex of 9 years. 💔❤️🩹
Christina Milian said this about Nick Cannon B4 his baby spree.
That is rude and disrespectful.
Wow, I’m sorry.
Damn girl 9 years....okurrrrr
I been said this. But I was told I was jealous lol 😂
A 'good' man is one who hasn't shown he's a bad one..... yet.
The 1st guy said everything.
I experienced all 3 of these with my last boyfriend and the one before. That’s a whole 11 years of my life I didn’t know this was them faking love. 💔❤️🩹😞
Yes that Young man did..
Wondering staring eyes right in front of you like ur not even there..
Initiate Initiate Initiate..
n yes ur responsibility accountability blame blame..
@@araceli5321?
Wow! And that long? Just why? Ppl are weird
The first guy sounds like all dudes lol 😂 honestly. They all have wondering eyes 👀 lol and say it’s in their nature, then they do the bare minimum efforts and they never take accountability lol 😂 ever
@@Jesslit101 exactly smh,and any smart woman knows it's bs
When he's sweet on you one minute and cold as ice the next, when he's consistently inconsistent towards you
That decorated hotel room is definitely not a flex. I feel sorry for those girls who find that romantic
How much i needed to hear this after seeing my ex and doubted if i should try to get back with him.. he checks all these points
My previous marriage was 10 years of zero effort and 10 years of zero accountability. Ladies, if this is your man? Leave him in the dust. He is not worth your energy!
Psychopaths!! ALL of them are psychopaths.
😂😂😂
Correct😂😂😂😂
It really does seem that way doesn’t it 😂😅
Amen!😂😂😂😂aaaaahhhhh this comment sent me over!!😂😂😂
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It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
I'II quickly search for him online. Thank you.
I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; his absence is keenly felt.
I promise you will not regret it.
I just searched for Father Akunna online indeed he is a very generous man and the most powerful spell caster that I have ever seen he brought my husband back to me with so much love ❤
Watching this.... i realize ive never been loved before.... Ever.
Same here, but I've always known, deep down.
The wandering eye thing is so true. My hubby would straight up do double takes at other women while walking with me 😓 it was so embarrassing that my man publicly embarrassed me like that. I still resent and give him h*ll over his infidelity all the time now. The love has grown to hatred.
Girl leave him. Stop wasting yourself on trash 😂
@@neferpitou5427 I feel trapped, I think he does too. With kids and money involved it’s harder to leave.
@@neferpitou5427 I’ve tried but he won’t give up
@@Xanderlovesyou1you're not trapped. You're being lazy. You only get one chance at life. Get divorced NOW!!!!!
@@Xanderlovesyou1 I felt that way too and I still did it. It was difficult for me and my kids afterwards for a space of time but it got better. When you get tired enough, you'll figure it out. Until then, I'm praying for your strength. 🙏🏿
The question is why are they pretending when they can just be with someone they can be real with?
Because they don't have any other options atm, most likely.
This was fascinating! I loved all this "straight from the horse's mouth" education! I'll be paying serious attention to the above red flags from now on!!
Awwww my man really is the best man ever
You are so lucky lady ❤
good!!
This gives me hope, I’m happy for you sis!! 🥰
Happy for you queen you deserve it
Oh thank you GOD for the messages. I need to hear this. The ending part is so hard. It hurts and im trying to stop the pain.
This is an eye opener. I have felt with this and wasn’t sure but thank you for the info it is very helpful.
If you try sharing something with them and they just tell you they can't relate or don't ask questions about the things you love or interest you. It doesn't matter how much he says he loves you, if he truly loves you he'll wanna know E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G. About you. You won't need to ask him to be interested in the things you try sharing with him... It doesn't matter if it's outside of his interest. You are supposed to be the center of his interest
Good advice for teens💯
Not me realizing my ex never loved me 😂😂😂
Same here sis
And don't care at all...funny you stupid ass hoes don't have shit to talk about besides my life .your own people to do hateful and f-cked up is unnatural. Thank God, I no longer support or look out for people who hate me, especially those that are my color...Lawsuits don't care. Find a life. 😎🤣🗑️⚖️💯
You and me both girl 😅
Same 💯
😂😂😂😂Whew Chile not an ounce of love
THANK YOU SOOO MUCH FOR THIS COMPILATION AND THANK YOU SOO SOO MUCH TO ALL THESE MEN ❤
I act like an emotional fool at times and fall for the same trap again and my oh my these dudes they talk like sum siren and lure you into believing they truely love you man its soo hard to tell the difference but i always end up gettin hurt💔
Comparing a woman to a car is a perfect example of objectification 😂
I thought it was a complement when he called me a big body Benz but than I had to realize that it’s not at all 🤦🏾♀️
Most of this guys says the same thing is that " hes got the wandering eyes "
no fr they just copy and pasting lazy af. they’re prob the kind of guy they’re warning abt
@@soulsearcher7077hahaha exactly what I thought
@@soulsearcher7077 still, they're all agree with that one thing. Most people in the comments too
@@soulsearcher7077 or,maybe,they also know it's wrong and are warning us,unlike a majority of men who pretend it's "In ThEiR nAtUrE" and choose to die in that hill
Because that’s a tell-tale sign. If they’re ALL saying that same one thing then you should listen and take that as a warning. They know what they’re like… The fact that every single one of them mentioned “wandering eyes” in each of their lists tells you a lot.
2:35 We know number two is an experience lair.. He warning women already by telling us four signs a man pretending to love you when he held up five fingers 🤦🏾♀️
I laughed out loud 😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I peeped that too 😂! My man really went "Four signs 🤚🏾..."😂😂😂
@@tatacousin 😭😭😂😂
Then proceeded with "his words do not match his actions" 🤣🤣🤣
Yup my husband hates me
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Me too. I wish tik tok was around when i was 20. Wouldn't have wasted so much time.
I guess mine is not in love with me either
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Same 21 years down the drain, but too sick, too poor, too alone with no support to leave. I will take my last breath around this man. Hopefully my next life will be nicer to me.
I love this video sooooo much..... those guys are telling the truth..... I ve been through this already, those informations are not new to me..... but Lady with her headphones and blanket is terrible!!!!!! she is not happy at all... bcz of not being loved.....
basicaly
Do not tolerate any bs.
See the slightest red flag? Ghost them and never speak to them again. Save your time and jump to the next man.
Adopt a gold digger mindset. It will save your money and time.
Do not chase! They don't want you (based on their actions) that's okay. Do them a favor and remove your presence in their life.
Adopt very very high standards and you will never have to worry again.
In general avoid people that stress you, they make you look older and uglier while you boost their ego.
don't think good women live happy that way iether
adopting the same user mindset / on full defense
Great Signs of Narcissism and fully demonized men.
Whelp this just shows i was never loved just lusted after...whelp oh well im single forever now anyway
Same here, but it's all good. Peace = priceless.
Everything in life is transactional
I can apply this to my toxic family. Maybe they don’t truly love me?! Maybe that’s where the low standards come from?
My ex was great for saying "I love you.' and then showing me how much he hated me. No effort. I had 2 and 3- the lack of accountability for his actions- he would do something and just get silent- never saying sorry or when I called him out on his actions or tell him how I felt, he would tell me my feelings were wrong or just get silent. I also found out he was hiding some pretty major things that were happening and never told me- things that would affect our lives in ways, such as possibly losing our home, money issues, etc. The intentional fight starting was the worst. Men will stay while being bare minimum because they still benefit in some way.
1. Wandering eyes.
2. Zero effort. You have to initiate everything.
3. Blame you for everything.
1. Words don't match actions.
2. Does not open up to you.
3. Never apologizes about anything.
4. Openly flirts with others./Wandering eyes.
1. Only affectionate when he wants something from you.
2. Wandering eyes.
3. Does not prioritize your needs.
1. Excessive PDA - over doing it.
Not authentic.
2. No special moments.
3. No serious discussions.
4. Power games. Manipulation, Coercion, power struggles.
5. You don't know much about eachother.
6. Sex is the only thing keeping you together. He keeps test driving the car. Won't buy it.
1. Keeps bringing up his ex.
2. Holds a grudge over you as reason/excuse why he can't do nice things for you.
3. He can't be nice to you.
1. Wandering eyes.
2. Views sex with you as a chore. Doesn't initiate.
3. Takes no accountability for anything bad in the relationship.
1. Wandering eyes.
2. Acts loving when you're around family.
3. Looks at half naked girls online constantly.
1. He talks about other girls or his ex.
2. He pulls back affections quickly.
3. After an argument he acts like he cares. During argument he does not care.
1. Acts nice after he hurts you.
2. Try ro change you.
3. Always needs space.
1. "My man don't have a romantic bone in his body."
2. Ladies need to set the standard for how a man treats you.
Thank you for confirming that my ex-husband never loved me (because I still feel guilty for leaving him).
My ex said that I was not normal and really jealous because he was not staring at a girl I accused him of staring at. He always looked at other women and the age didn't matter either. He would stare at high schoolers and even women in their 50s. YET, he would get jealous when his friends and I got along very well, or when a waiter was a little "too nice". He was one of the most manipulative men I have ever met and he even admitted to me that his ex accused him of the same thing...he had also cheated on her. I am 28 and he's going to be 37. Glad I left him. I deserve a lot better.
“Putting pineapple on pizza, where it absolutely belongs” 🤣🤣🤣😁😁😁☺️☺️☺️ that came out so effortlessly 😂😂😂 I might give it a try! 🤔 LOL
It's good if you're REALLY hungry 😋 😆
That's called Hawaiian pizza 🍕🍕
With ham, not pepperoni
When you look at him and wonder what it was you saw in him 🤔
These are signs too he doesn’t love himself
Exactly!!!
No empathy, all talk no action, make you feel like the bad guy, etc.
And plus it doesn't matter if he keeps on apologizing they're going to do it again anyway I'm sorry I learned this from experience I am pretty much all action cuz I'm like come on man You know better if you're going to do it again don't apologize.
Thank God for the real men putting us on game
Love is like a cough it cant be hidden
I think a sneeze fits
I think these are all spot-on, but I think there's one type these men all missed.
It's the Morally Good Guy Who Treats You with Respect and Cares for You but Lacks DESIRE for You.
This guy treats you GREAT. He treats you with respect, like a human. He enjoys your company. He doesn't have the wandering eyes and isn't afraid to have the conversations. You get along well. BUT as most women know, we have an intuition. We notice that the ROMANTIC acts he does, while being correct, seem... well-intentioned but performative. The flirtation is somehow off. And there are typically strange bedroom issues.
I think this happens when a man finds a woman he likes enough and sees as dateable material, but the DESIRE/PHYSICAL attraction isn't strong/isn't working for him the right way. So he thinks he can be happy with a partner as long as most of the other stuff is there. He's also treating the woman right in all the ways a guy should, so it's confusing to encounter this. But we women sense something is missing and can become insecure about it without knowing why. We're taught, "If you find a good guy you'll grow to love him," but sexual and romantic attraction are usually a prerequisite for romantic relationships.
I don't think these men are doing it to use women like some of the examples above-- they are thinking they can "settle.". Some may be desperate not to be alone.
THAT IS LITERALLY USING 😂😂 You're not very bright! 😂
This is a great point! Thank you for mentioning it. If a good guy isn’t attracted to you but pretends to himself he is, it won’t be long until you’re both miserable.
So dangerous and a waste of time
Thank you!! Gentlemen
Wandering eyes 💯😞
I knew that my first boyfriend sucked but my last boyfriend (second bf) I thought really loved me and that we had a good relationship but the more I look back on it, I realize he was actually very toxic and would manipulate me a lot and after watching this definitely realize he was pretending to love me. He made me cry a lot in our relationship and he would never apologize, he would just silent treatment me until I apologized
Theres a lot of “he didnt or doesnt love me” comments on here and I’m beginning to think its THE MEN that dont know what they want tbh.. 😂
Ladies have dignity and if he doesnt love you then its time to GO .. dont waste your precious time, and give the one that WILL love you the time he deserves..
Btw I also know a lot of men who end up leaving the good girl for the toxic one and they shoot themselves in the foot..
And LASTLY, 😂 when youve been married a long time and they have slipped or have been slipping for a long time.. well the one that usually files for Divorce is the woman..
And she DONT COME BACK 😂
I realised all of this too late because he was my first and I had no one to compare him to. I spent all of my 20’s with a man child who taught me what it was like to feel real loneliness even in a relationship
Realized past male who I dumped three years ago was a "narcissist."
He still hasn't been accountable.
He was a "master" manipulator. I was fooled. He should get an academy award.🏆
I'm married, and #2 is spot on. 😢cl
3 signs 🪧
He breathes
He walks
He blinks 🥴
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The crazy thing is my man acts like it’s so difficult to not look at other women because I’ve expressed VERY clearly I do not like that … and he looks so uncomfortable trying to control himself 🤦🏻♀️ it hurts always seeing him act like this when a beautiful women is around in our presence… I can’t imagine what he does when I’m not around … 😔
All men do this and try to make up the dumbest excuses on why. They are NOT WORTH IT
Or the moment you split & he finds another girlfriend that he was in love with , acts like (tells you ) they are done & you’re stupid to go back JUST to realize things feel fake….i choose to end things & he IMMEDIATELY Goes back to her & they live together now. SMH , never let them show you more than ONCE!
That 4th guy nailed it!
I want to hit home that his wandering eye was the most subtle indicator…but was the biggest sign he had issues surrounding women. Especially because he lied about it. If a man can’t control his eyes when out with you and then denies it, I’m sorry, but he’s for the streets. A glance here and there is one thing but outright staring is quite another. He will cheat on you, take it from me.
I realized I had never been loved🥲
Amazing video
Glad you think so! 😊
Wish I heard this 10 years ago 😮
We watching this while single : 👁️👄👁️
😂😂 Good for you!
wow, I've been only in 1 relationship and the guy at 0:01 his 2nd point of having to initiate things in the relationship really hit me, cause its what i had to do and never feeling beautiful to my ex, then he broke up with me. So i decided to go back to school and better my life, i still pray i can try to find love out there but its up in the air.
So good to learn from real men (yes, I know ALL men are not like the guys in the video but still). I mean, as a woman, or maybe just my personality, for me it's super weird a guy would be in a long-term committed relationship with a woman he's not really into... I mean what's the point? 😅 Just to avoid being single? And I mean, wouldn't you WANT to be with someone you are into? How could you get to know her if you're with someone else (that you're not that into)?
Whats stranger u gonna put up with it
any how
Wish I'd have just followed my gut and intuition I didn't even know I wasn't loved till all this.
Why didn't i see this video like 20 years ago. 😢
Why am i such a dumb ass 😢
I still wouldn't have listened then, probably gonna ignore it now 😂
If you don't feel loved by your guy thats the #1 sign
When his energy changes split on him without notice