2 things come to mind. 'The Long Goodbye' which starts at birth and Gibran's 'Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of life's longing for itself'. Teaching children to progress and leave is both the greatest joy and the greatest heartache
I made notes and hung them on my mirror. I am a mother of a one-year-old daughter. Any book or lecture recommendation for single mothers in particular? That's why I keep coming back to this channel to get my reality check. The lectures on parenthood and the topic of love are insightful here and I wish I listened to these lectures in my 20ies, when I physically separated from my parents. Thank you for your work!
My mother must have watched this video 💯 Btw, my entire family 😂 Btw, Introduction to Psychology should be taught in High school. Thank you, Prof.Vaknin. Your work is so necessary!
There seems to be some contradicting research on what is ideal for this 0-4 age group, especially in the attachment stage between 2-3. For example you mentioned before in the kibbutzim there was a special caregiver, is the child attached to that metapelet as opposed to the mother who they still see every week? Do they need one adult they trust or can there be multiple (like the mothers family) where the trust is "divided". Today in the west both parents work, they send their kid to day-care in that 0-4 age, not even a grandmother/aunt. Some studies try to say its beneficial for socialization but isnt it counter-intuitive to attachment? What counts as 'trauma' here seems to be very subjective, one kid might feel like parents abandoned him to this day-care, another might feel great for social opportunities. I'm only putting attention on this issue because finding ways to re-parent yourself as an adult seems to be a real challenge.
Dr. Sam, from what age should a mother allow her child to be exposed to the attacks/shame/ridicule/insults… from the outer world and should she be present or abcent at that moment. I know someone who has a 6 month old daughter and she has forbidden the father to take the child to the half sisters (one of which is the golden child of the father and is a top covert natcissist) because she is afraid they will put her down and cause her damage. She already witnessed one of them sticking their tongue out to her 😛😛
2 things come to mind. 'The Long Goodbye' which starts at birth and Gibran's 'Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of life's longing for itself'.
Teaching children to progress and leave is both the greatest joy and the greatest heartache
I made notes and hung them on my mirror. I am a mother of a one-year-old daughter. Any book or lecture recommendation for single mothers in particular? That's why I keep coming back to this channel to get my reality check. The lectures on parenthood and the topic of love are insightful here and I wish I listened to these lectures in my 20ies, when I physically separated from my parents. Thank you for your work!
I love the topic today you brought it up .
My mother must have watched this video 💯 Btw, my entire family 😂 Btw, Introduction to Psychology should be taught in High school. Thank you, Prof.Vaknin. Your work is so necessary!
Thank you very much.
Thanks Sam
any vids on reparenting the self after narcissistic abuse?
Watch the NA Healing playlist.
There seems to be some contradicting research on what is ideal for this 0-4 age group, especially in the attachment stage between 2-3. For example you mentioned before in the kibbutzim there was a special caregiver, is the child attached to that metapelet as opposed to the mother who they still see every week? Do they need one adult they trust or can there be multiple (like the mothers family) where the trust is "divided".
Today in the west both parents work, they send their kid to day-care in that 0-4 age, not even a grandmother/aunt. Some studies try to say its beneficial for socialization but isnt it counter-intuitive to attachment? What counts as 'trauma' here seems to be very subjective, one kid might feel like parents abandoned him to this day-care, another might feel great for social opportunities.
I'm only putting attention on this issue because finding ways to re-parent yourself as an adult seems to be a real challenge.
"Mother" is any maternal figure who fulfills the maternal functions.
Dr. Sam, from what age should a mother allow her child to be exposed to the attacks/shame/ridicule/insults… from the outer world and should she be present or abcent at that moment. I know someone who has a 6 month old daughter and she has forbidden the father to take the child to the half sisters (one of which is the golden child of the father and is a top covert natcissist) because she is afraid they will put her down and cause her damage. She already witnessed one of them sticking their tongue out to her 😛😛
The child should be allowed to follow a natural trajectory of personal growth without overprotective interference and regardless of age.