I am a 26 Y/O man and I have stopped dating for the next 6 months. I want to have a nice career and feel more comfortable with my self. Dating is marginally overrated by social media and people. Update: I upgraded my job $10k+ and now at %75 for my apartment down payment.
Depends on what you want! If you’re at a point in your life when you’re ready to settle down, then there’s nothing wrong with putting more of your energy towards dating, but I think the most important part is focusing on being happy with yourself and in love with the life you’re creating, instead of thinking a relationship/dating is gonna fix everything you’re not happy with. Taking full responsibility over your life and happiness is massive 👌🏼
I'm nearly 40 and I can tell you as a man dating gets better with age. I have access to women that wouldn't give me the time of day when I was in my 20s and in the building stages of my life. You'll be surprised in the amount of women between the ages of 25-30 who are into older guys.
The only self respecting life is an unmarried one brother *MGTOW. Don't take relationships seriously when your in your 20s it is a time where they are 'living their best life' which is why 1/3rd carry an STD when compared to 1/8 men or 1/13th if we exclude gay men. So if you do have something short term wear a hazmat suit if not a johndom 😂
What a poor soul , paying "relationship premium value" to a woman who self valued herself & her primal submission as a FWB / Fling / one night material. It's because of guys like this , that women will keep deceiving men .
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤❤
I want to add to a point on being a "good girl". As a guy I want someone who has their own life and is able to set boundaries. For example if a guy asks a women to go over at 10 pm I think it is super attractive to be able to explain how that is inconsiderate and creepy. I think it is manipulative to artificially create this. I don't agree with having "goddess" vibes because that brings a level of entitlement. Instead evaluate how you are being treated and know you have intrinsic self worth and be able to know and honor your boundaries. Going out of the way to be convenient is what you do for someone you have a stronger bond with and not someone you are just getting to know. I also would not call anyone a loser. That is really judgmental towards many guys. I would instead replace that word with men who lack self confidence and self love.
I totally agree to what you said. Although I think she didn't mean goddess as some sort of entitlement, it was more for females who have had anxious attachment style and a consistent record of so called "unhealthy relationships". It was a sort of analogy for women to have so they can believe they have some intrinsic value as you said.
Although I do not necessarily disagree with your overall advice, I would like to highlight that there is absolutely nothing "creepy" when it comes to a man inviting a woman to his house late at night for sex(and vice versa of course). So called "creepy" behaviour mostly includes non-consensual interactions that violate the personal boundaries of others, while simultaneously verging on criminality on top of it all. Not every inconsiderate behaviour out there should be classified as "creepy", otherwise we run the risk of pathologising normal and natural sexual impulses(regardless of gender that is).
As a guy, let me try to help. Secure commitment up front. Period. No excuses. If you participate in hookups or situationships, especially if you sleep together on the first date or if he hits you with the “hey big head, come over” at odd hours of the night and you still do it, you have to take a step back and re-evaluate your behavior. In my experience, I always say up front that I want things casual and take things slow, but the women pretend to go along with it until they catch feelings and start badgering me about a relationship. A degree of accountability has to take place or you will continue to chase dudes who aren’t interested and thinking you can change his mind all because he’s “so hot, omg” Secure commitment up front. If Brad or Chad or Tyrone doesn’t want the same things as you, don’t sleep with him. Only entertain men who take you seriously. You can’t hookup and then expect a guy to take you seriously. PS: Your advice is pretty solid for the most part. I like seeing women holding other women accountable. It’s severely lacking in current times. Keep up the good work.
I agree with the guy's comment! Real confidence comes from having taken risks, tested yourself and achieving what it is you wanted to get. We can't be confident if there's no palpable thing to place that on and convincing yourself that you're a big knower of life without having experienced its challenges that build you is a recipe for superficiality. Men, just like women who sense when a guy talks the talk, but doesn't walk the walk, will see that you're putting on a front. Why would a strong man work to get someone who can't be an equal partner?
I was seeing, mostly speaking with this Chad guy, went on 3 dates with him. So he like to speak over the phone but i need presence and beeing wtith the person. So this one day i asked if he wanna grab a coffee or go on a walk after work. He said: naaaaa i'm going home. So i took a step behind and left him on his space. He didn't speak with me anymore and neither did i. I don´t chase a man who doesn't want to be with me. No problem, because now i dont waste anymore of my time with him and that's ok. Sometimes we need to take steps behind and see things clearly.
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤❤
Dating should be a self made decision, not feeling like the world is expecting you to be in a relationship. I've being single for years now, and I've got to love myself the more and thoughtless about people's opinions, I didn't wanted to be in a relationship because of people being too selective (you'll never be enough for them) and also didn't want to build negativity around dating
Men are being taught not to chase as well. I’ll have sky high interest for a girl but will resist texting her because it has more often pushed them away than if I allowed for space and for them to handle the day to day communication
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤❤
Wow! 1. I’ve been watching your videos for years and missed you so much. Yet it was so worth it! Hope for more🙌 2. The advices and the way you clarified each statement and gave particular examples were so helpful! I’m just sitting and thinking about everything. I’m in a 2-year relationship (not super perfect recently but we hear each other), so it actually pointed at a few things I haven’t thought about. I don’t let the male chase, am a bit shy to communicate my preferences, let him “go first to shower” & so on (even though I get up 3 hours earlier haha). A LOT to think about. Thank you. 3. You look adorable❤️
Would love to hear your thoughts on how to live with differences: cultural, age (I.e. 10 years), moving together when you’re in different counties and so on. Simply put, how to make a thriving long-term relationship with a foreigner😁
i also hard pass experience in relationship😢but i just need to move on as friends advised, i still have to trust someone to build a better relationship that would lead to marriage🎉
Lots of great advice for a pretty short video. This was very well organized, to the point but also very descriptive. I can't say if it'll produce an immediate result in me but the Hermes bag analogy really put things into perspective. I've very much struggled with seeing my worth and if I'm honest, I think even men I've dated have wondered why I've gone for them, only to realize I have low self worth and use that against me by treating me any which way.
I would like to comment on guys liking compliments about achievement at 12:35, As a guy I want to say for me, at least, this is dead wrong. It sounds like the commentor is basing self confidence off of societal expectations of success. (Disclaimer I haven't watched the video). From my perspective self confidence from self love is sustainable, while egocentric extrinsic forms of self love is unsustainable because so much is out of your control. What happens when you can no longer achieve the things that you once did or when you fail at achieving? Then your self worth goes with it. This mindset also makes you judgmental to those who have achieved less than you and envious of people who have achieved more. You can absolutely have goals and achieve, but know that even without those you are inherently valuable just by being you, which I believe you said earlier. As a guy I would much rather have a compliment about my character and values. "You are so empathetic and make me feel seen" over "You are really good at changing a tire". I am confused as to are you endorsing this or are you making a generalization about guys? I want to have an in good faith discussion,
Thank you for sharing this! I believe the first half is applicable to men too. I tend to pursue women who are not fully committed, leading to relationships that fizzle out after a couple of months. The less they are committed, the more I fall in love with them. Oddly, I hadn’t considered the root of this behaviour until now (I assumed it was a common problem). But yes, I was bullied in school. Perhaps it’s time for a little introspection… ;)
I’ve been following your channel for years and it’s one of my favourite safe place on the internet for sure. However I don’t completely agree with your last comment “show don’t tell”, because I truly figured it’s way more complicated to make sure your partner understand yourself when you don’t articulate your thoughts with words. Plus I am convinced we need communication all along a relationship and not only to address an issue, though this comes from my experience in a long term relationship whereas it seemed like you were talking about newish relationships, I don’t really know!
Ты делаешь великое дело! Ты являешься эталоном английской речи и притягательной особой для изучения английского языка. Не сильно ошибусь если заявлю, что я не единственный подписчик кто слушает тебя ради изучения красивой английской речи
Really liked the video. Especially cause there wasn't any unnecessary bla bla you brought things straight to the point and explained everything so well. Impressed by you being so articulate 😊 ❤loved the Hermes example. Such a good way to explain it😊👌
Thanks for the video. The Five Things That Helped me Attract My Dream Partner were: 1) Learning to practice self compassion 2) Learning to be more authentic 3) Putting myself out there and committing to learn as much as I can about the person in front without allowing my judgements to take control 4) Having fun whilst dating 5) Learning to have continue with my own life whilst dating and not making it my sole priority.
Thank you so much for this video. I recently dumped and i understand after this video that i was really ok with him not texting and everything. I always said yes to what he likes to eat. I really took 😅 a huge burden on me. I think i can be back to my previous self being always confident on myself.
Hi Nika, I don't usually comment on videos but I wanted to tell you that I've been subscribed to your channel since the early days (and I think we're the same age) so I feel like I've grown along with you and your content, love your recent videos btw! Kisses from Spain:)❤
Hi Nika! I loved your video. I recently ended a 10-year-long relationship in which I wasn't happy and in which I found myself being disrespected in many ways. Now I am taking an alone period to solve some issues around confidence and knowing my value. And to be honest the thought of putting myself out there again is scary to me. Could you make a video on where to meet/find guys? I know it is a stupid question, but I really wouldn't like to date people from apps because my past experiences were bad, and men usually like to go straight to bed. I am also coming from an Eastern European country. Thank you love! New subscriber here
Hi I hope im not too late but I recommend you follow solid dating advice accounts that will help you date securely: dating.intentionally and alittlenudge are fantastic accounts on ig which teach you all the ins and outs on how to date successfully ☺️ hope it helps!
Nika, this was a great video, thanks for posting it. Although you come from a pretty traditional, cisgender hetero perspective, so much of what you said applies also to us gay boys trying to date men, find life partners or even just hookups. Very consistent message with guy who talk on this topic like Matthew Hussey. In any case, I love your energy! I think it would be so fun to have a coffee with you somewhere, hang out and talk about life. You have a wonderfully positive and pragmatic perspective. And your Hermès analogy was spot on: it applies directly to my dating life, actually - which is pretty hard for me to say, but true, nevertheless. Thanks for helping me see that!
where was this video ALL MY ADULT LIFE!?! the hermes comparison and the hunting /conquering for men *mind is blown* why did i not understand this earlier? omg i love you and your amazing content so much, THANKS A MILLION!
33years Alione living a life? My education is graduate? My life is wait a woman save me my life as a life partner? My life is wait a woman share life with me as a life partner? You are interested in my alone life? you are help support with me as a life partner? you are any question about my alone life? I am reply to you?🌹🌹🌹🌹🙏🙏🙏
Yes, I loved the longer video! Thanks for your great work here. Would it be possible for you to make one about friendship? I have a great partner, but the right friends are more difficult to find for me. Keep shining! :)
A little reminder that hook-up culture isn't made for women! When we make love, our body releases hormones that makes us more attached to the person or in a long period etc... makes us fall for the other. So yes some of us feel special enough they believe they won't be impact by that, but in most case THIS IS NOT THE CASE. So everytime you sleep with a new guy your body get attached to him, your soul takes from him, and adding more guy to water down feelings only add new feelings to deal with. So yes, maybe am I talking to one of those women who don't get attached for sh*t but it often comes from a place of anxiety, high masculine energy Wich isn't really better for most people. I am not saying that if you really enjoy hook-up you should stop simply to take biology into account
Wow! The way that you talk is like I'm sitting with my best wise friend and she's giving me advice 🥰You cannot believe how much I need these to hear and I'm definitely going to watch it again! Thank you 😍
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤❤
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤❤
Every time you say good girl, I laugh. hahaha. Yes, I think more and more women should allow men to be men and not do the work for them. Plus how would you know if he likes you if you go after them 24/7. Radiate in your feminine energy.
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤❤
i saw this girl working at fast food place i said you are having a great hair day, i gave her my order she gives me the bag i say thanks your doing a great job i smiled and walked away. Was that too forward? Rwo compliments that's good or too much
Dear Nika! I'm so glad I came across your video! I'm also from Slovenia and it's a very special feeling when you can find one of yours talking about that type of content (I rarely find Slovenian girl talking about femininity)!🥰 I have a question that has been bothering me for a long time and I hope you will be able to help me.😅 What does it mean in Slovenia to start dating? How does this work? Where do you find single men (especially masculine men)? Is there a "special place" where single people gather especially in Ljubljana (that's not a night club or tinder)? I am a student, 22 years old, and I live in Ljubljana during the week. I have never had a man approach me in my life (I tried to approach them first, but it ended in failure). Trying to go in our students campus, students parties. tinder etc. (even if these things are really not my cup of tea) and nothing (I trying to meet new people on event I like like wine/whisky festivals but problem is that men do not even have conversation with me). I learned to live alone, I enjoy being alone, but for a long time I wanted someone with whom I could enjoy together. It's frustrating to hear that just be in your feminine energy and the guys will come on their own (they don't, they never have)... I would greatly appreciate it if you could explain this dating enigma to me.😊
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤
One comment about @16:39 As a man, I'll make a move if I know the girl truly gives the vibe of a grown up. Usually I initiate, and if I meet mainstream, generic comments, I back off to pay respect and look for meaningful conversations. Girls have to allow more room for initial talking. Not all men are total losers, leaving the high quality men to self sell "authentically" before a humble, kind, flattering approach. P.S. Engineering is not very sexy :)
Wait, this woman is so beautiful she should just quit dating and pick one of those 500 guys chasing her. Heck, Chad and Tyrone would change their ways for her.
I don’t disagree with pounding home the fact that you need to know your value. But I don’t know that some of the examples such as “goddess” is the right way to go about it. That would be like someone giving men advice and telling them that they are all presidents or kings. It’s not so much confidence as it is narcissism. I’ve noticed that narcissism seems to be getting worse in general, from things like social media and dating apps. People may not be a diagnosed narcissist, but they truly don’t know how to stay in their lane. If that makes sense
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤❤
I think a massive problem with what you're saying is meeting up with someone being about the sushi when its really meeting up with the person you like. I want a commitment/significant relationship with a woman, but i would never give a difficult woman a serious chance. What if i take you to a sushi spot and you ended up liking it? I would disqualify you immediately for being close minded.
Thanks for sharing. I have a question for you. Why do the ladies have photos of them sent to me but never respond to me in any type of way??? I would appreciate the feedback.
Okay okay I'll stop just fun and fun. Why fun? I run right under the sun. 😊 Ight, a blooming June bright flower that's sour but sweet. Are you a sour patch kid? Or a warhead? It'll be fun in the sun as your lashes fall down slow over the bold gold with eyes, love lust luck, which is your favorite? Mine is the first but with a ton of laughter. 🙎♀️"Welcone to the neighborhood newcomer." "Thanks, and are all of the people here just as friendly as you?" "Yeah, but I'm really the crazy and suspect one you gotta worry about, that's why I had the courage to welcome you😊" FOR I AM....❤ 💙❤️😇✌️😊
I am a 26 Y/O man and I have stopped dating for the next 6 months. I want to have a nice career and feel more comfortable with my self. Dating is marginally overrated by social media and people.
Update: I upgraded my job $10k+ and now at %75 for my apartment down payment.
Depends on what you want! If you’re at a point in your life when you’re ready to settle down, then there’s nothing wrong with putting more of your energy towards dating, but I think the most important part is focusing on being happy with yourself and in love with the life you’re creating, instead of thinking a relationship/dating is gonna fix everything you’re not happy with. Taking full responsibility over your life and happiness is massive 👌🏼
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I'm nearly 40 and I can tell you as a man dating gets better with age. I have access to women that wouldn't give me the time of day when I was in my 20s and in the building stages of my life.
You'll be surprised in the amount of women between the ages of 25-30 who are into older guys.
@@deadcell1 that's gross 😃👍
The only self respecting life is an unmarried one brother *MGTOW.
Don't take relationships seriously when your in your 20s it is a time where they are 'living their best life' which is why 1/3rd carry an STD when compared to 1/8 men or 1/13th if we exclude gay men.
So if you do have something short term wear a hazmat suit if not a johndom 😂
Just broke it off with an FWB and 2 weeks later I’m dating a guy who gives me princess treatment 💅
What a poor soul , paying "relationship premium value" to a woman who self valued herself & her primal submission as a FWB / Fling / one night material.
It's because of guys like this , that women will keep deceiving men .
I'm so grateful for women like you, who elevate others instead of fueling hatred and nonsense competition. What an absolute muse!
When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.
She is fueling gaslighting.
Fortunately I have discovered that it’s good to keep all aspects of my personality regardless of what society says because I’m awesome.
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤❤
I want to add to a point on being a "good girl". As a guy I want someone who has their own life and is able to set boundaries. For example if a guy asks a women to go over at 10 pm I think it is super attractive to be able to explain how that is inconsiderate and creepy. I think it is manipulative to artificially create this. I don't agree with having "goddess" vibes because that brings a level of entitlement. Instead evaluate how you are being treated and know you have intrinsic self worth and be able to know and honor your boundaries. Going out of the way to be convenient is what you do for someone you have a stronger bond with and not someone you are just getting to know.
I also would not call anyone a loser. That is really judgmental towards many guys. I would instead replace that word with men who lack self confidence and self love.
I totally agree to what you said. Although I think she didn't mean goddess as some sort of entitlement, it was more for females who have had anxious attachment style and a consistent record of so called "unhealthy relationships". It was a sort of analogy for women to have so they can believe they have some intrinsic value as you said.
Although I do not necessarily disagree with your overall advice, I would like to highlight that there is absolutely nothing "creepy" when it comes to a man inviting a woman to his house late at night for sex(and vice versa of course).
So called "creepy" behaviour mostly includes non-consensual interactions that violate the personal boundaries of others, while simultaneously verging on criminality on top of it all.
Not every inconsiderate behaviour out there should be classified as "creepy", otherwise we run the risk of pathologising normal and natural sexual impulses(regardless of gender that is).
Wow!
I appreciate your wise words.
Healthy, feminine, but at the same time grounded, strong and firm. 👏🏻
As a guy, let me try to help. Secure commitment up front. Period. No excuses. If you participate in hookups or situationships, especially if you sleep together on the first date or if he hits you with the “hey big head, come over” at odd hours of the night and you still do it, you have to take a step back and re-evaluate your behavior.
In my experience, I always say up front that I want things casual and take things slow, but the women pretend to go along with it until they catch feelings and start badgering me about a relationship. A degree of accountability has to take place or you will continue to chase dudes who aren’t interested and thinking you can change his mind all because he’s “so hot, omg”
Secure commitment up front. If Brad or Chad or Tyrone doesn’t want the same things as you, don’t sleep with him. Only entertain men who take you seriously. You can’t hookup and then expect a guy to take you seriously.
PS: Your advice is pretty solid for the most part. I like seeing women holding other women accountable. It’s severely lacking in current times. Keep up the good work.
if couples see each other just a few days a week does it prevent a break up?
I agree with the guy's comment! Real confidence comes from having taken risks, tested yourself and achieving what it is you wanted to get. We can't be confident if there's no palpable thing to place that on and convincing yourself that you're a big knower of life without having experienced its challenges that build you is a recipe for superficiality. Men, just like women who sense when a guy talks the talk, but doesn't walk the walk, will see that you're putting on a front. Why would a strong man work to get someone who can't be an equal partner?
This was amazing!!! ❤ Could you do a video on maintaining that self worth and dynamic when in a long term relationship/marriage???
Not interested in being in a relationship, but a lot of this advice applies to friendships and chasing other people to be friends with.
I was seeing, mostly speaking with this Chad guy, went on 3 dates with him. So he like to speak over the phone but i need presence and beeing wtith the person. So this one day i asked if he wanna grab a coffee or go on a walk after work. He said: naaaaa i'm going home. So i took a step behind and left him on his space. He didn't speak with me anymore and neither did i. I don´t chase a man who doesn't want to be with me. No problem, because now i dont waste anymore of my time with him and that's ok. Sometimes we need to take steps behind and see things clearly.
Exactly! And with that you make space for something way better to come along💞
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤❤
It felt like a big sister talk, thank you ✨
Dating should be a self made decision, not feeling like the world is expecting you to be in a relationship. I've being single for years now, and I've got to love myself the more and thoughtless about people's opinions, I didn't wanted to be in a relationship because of people being too selective (you'll never be enough for them) and also didn't want to build negativity around dating
That's really brilliant as long as you love it. it's cool for you to be single for the rest of your life sure wishing you a peaceful one at that.
Men are being taught not to chase as well. I’ll have sky high interest for a girl but will resist texting her because it has more often pushed them away than if I allowed for space and for them to handle the day to day communication
I really like the set boundaries with short sentences advice!
I feel that young people have sooo much wisdom to share nowadays. Incredibly rich video, thank you! 💗
Okay that's cool sure when you put your heads down sure you can also acquire what you seek for too.
When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.
Hello Nika! You should have a podcast. I'd be listening to you!
Agree😍 I’d pay for the subscription
One day💭☺️
@@NikasInnerBeautyI had a curry
What would be really great as well would be if at the end of the video there were actionable outcomes to do listed.
i have a very anxious attachment style and have watched a lot of these videos. The Hermes analogy is SO GOOD!!
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤❤
Wow!
1. I’ve been watching your videos for years and missed you so much. Yet it was so worth it! Hope for more🙌
2. The advices and the way you clarified each statement and gave particular examples were so helpful! I’m just sitting and thinking about everything. I’m in a 2-year relationship (not super perfect recently but we hear each other), so it actually pointed at a few things I haven’t thought about. I don’t let the male chase, am a bit shy to communicate my preferences, let him “go first to shower” & so on (even though I get up 3 hours earlier haha). A LOT to think about. Thank you.
3. You look adorable❤️
Would love to hear your thoughts on how to live with differences: cultural, age (I.e. 10 years), moving together when you’re in different counties and so on. Simply put, how to make a thriving long-term relationship with a foreigner😁
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When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.
Love watching
This movie
Very impressive
Ohh my God..
I will love to have a long lasting relationship❤❤
i also hard pass experience in relationship😢but i just need to move on as friends advised, i still have to trust someone to build a better relationship that would lead to marriage🎉
Lots of great advice for a pretty short video. This was very well organized, to the point but also very descriptive. I can't say if it'll produce an immediate result in me but the Hermes bag analogy really put things into perspective. I've very much struggled with seeing my worth and if I'm honest, I think even men I've dated have wondered why I've gone for them, only to realize I have low self worth and use that against me by treating me any which way.
I would like to comment on guys liking compliments about achievement at 12:35, As a guy I want to say for me, at least, this is dead wrong. It sounds like the commentor is basing self confidence off of societal expectations of success. (Disclaimer I haven't watched the video). From my perspective self confidence from self love is sustainable, while egocentric extrinsic forms of self love is unsustainable because so much is out of your control. What happens when you can no longer achieve the things that you once did or when you fail at achieving? Then your self worth goes with it. This mindset also makes you judgmental to those who have achieved less than you and envious of people who have achieved more. You can absolutely have goals and achieve, but know that even without those you are inherently valuable just by being you, which I believe you said earlier. As a guy I would much rather have a compliment about my character and values. "You are so empathetic and make me feel seen" over "You are really good at changing a tire". I am confused as to are you endorsing this or are you making a generalization about guys? I want to have an in good faith discussion,
Please make a video on moving on from heartbreak/breakup.
Feel ya pains 👌
Loved the tip “show don’t tell”
Thank you for sharing this! I believe the first half is applicable to men too. I tend to pursue women who are not fully committed, leading to relationships that fizzle out after a couple of months. The less they are committed, the more I fall in love with them. Oddly, I hadn’t considered the root of this behaviour until now (I assumed it was a common problem). But yes, I was bullied in school. Perhaps it’s time for a little introspection… ;)
I’ve been following your channel for years and it’s one of my favourite safe place on the internet for sure. However I don’t completely agree with your last comment “show don’t tell”, because I truly figured it’s way more complicated to make sure your partner understand yourself when you don’t articulate your thoughts with words. Plus I am convinced we need communication all along a relationship and not only to address an issue, though this comes from my experience in a long term relationship whereas it seemed like you were talking about newish relationships, I don’t really know!
It is a wonderful video. I love the advice and the way you express yourself so clearly. The message really reasonates with me. Thanks!❤
Yeii! Thank you for the advice!☺️🌞
my pleasure 🥰🧡
Ты делаешь великое дело! Ты являешься эталоном английской речи и притягательной особой для изучения английского языка. Не сильно ошибусь если заявлю, что я не единственный подписчик кто слушает тебя ради изучения красивой английской речи
Really liked the video. Especially cause there wasn't any unnecessary bla bla you brought things straight to the point and explained everything so well. Impressed by you being so articulate 😊
❤loved the Hermes example.
Such a good way to explain it😊👌
Thanks for the video. The Five Things That Helped me Attract My Dream Partner were:
1) Learning to practice self compassion
2) Learning to be more authentic
3) Putting myself out there and committing to learn as much as I can about the person in front without allowing my judgements to take control
4) Having fun whilst dating
5) Learning to have continue with my own life whilst dating and not making it my sole priority.
This is a great talk! The only critique I have is that much of what yo say is gendered behavior really isn't. Unhealthy behavior has no gender.
Thank you so much for this video. I recently dumped and i understand after this video that i was really ok with him not texting and everything. I always said yes to what he likes to eat. I really took 😅 a huge burden on me. I think i can be back to my previous self being always confident on myself.
Hi Nika, I don't usually comment on videos but I wanted to tell you that I've been subscribed to your channel since the early days (and I think we're the same age) so I feel like I've grown along with you and your content, love your recent videos btw! Kisses from Spain:)❤
Awh thank you so much for supporting me for so long! It means the world 💞💞
When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.❤
Hi Nika! I loved your video. I recently ended a 10-year-long relationship in which I wasn't happy and in which I found myself being disrespected in many ways. Now I am taking an alone period to solve some issues around confidence and knowing my value. And to be honest the thought of putting myself out there again is scary to me. Could you make a video on where to meet/find guys? I know it is a stupid question, but I really wouldn't like to date people from apps because my past experiences were bad, and men usually like to go straight to bed. I am also coming from an Eastern European country.
Thank you love! New subscriber here
Same situation girl but mine was a marriage
And yes dating apps are almost impossible to navigate for people like us 😢😢
Hi I hope im not too late but I recommend you follow solid dating advice accounts that will help you date securely: dating.intentionally and alittlenudge are fantastic accounts on ig which teach you all the ins and outs on how to date successfully ☺️ hope it helps!
I love this! Can you give advice on being single and wanting it to be that way for an era, but craving some company at the same time?
Nika, this was a great video, thanks for posting it. Although you come from a pretty traditional, cisgender hetero perspective, so much of what you said applies also to us gay boys trying to date men, find life partners or even just hookups. Very consistent message with guy who talk on this topic like Matthew Hussey. In any case, I love your energy! I think it would be so fun to have a coffee with you somewhere, hang out and talk about life. You have a wonderfully positive and pragmatic perspective. And your Hermès analogy was spot on: it applies directly to my dating life, actually - which is pretty hard for me to say, but true, nevertheless. Thanks for helping me see that!
What a lovely comment! Thank you💞
@@NikasInnerBeautyI’m single alone and I’m not in college I want some guidance please
Fortunately my life is better than expected and I feel more loved than ever. Now the best part is being myself and keep being myself. 🤩🇺🇸🦋🌹💜👻🔥🍉🎃🇺🇸
where was this video ALL MY ADULT LIFE!?! the hermes comparison and the hunting /conquering for men *mind is blown* why did i not understand this earlier? omg i love you and your amazing content so much, THANKS A MILLION!
The book "The Dating App Confessions" by Tindell has some pretty good advice and experiences.
I love your videos and tips. I do the exercises you give in your videos. A I see changes on my approach to dating and my self respect
Awhh i love that! Thank youu💞💞
I love your videos and tips.
Me watching this while in a healthy relationship just to make sure I’m good 🌝
Every second of this video is amazing ! I love it, thank you so much for talking with so much clarity 🙏🏻😇
Love this - not controversial at all!!!!
Great video hon! Subscribed, keep up the amazing work and excited to see even more great things here! ❤
Poor Chad :( haha! Great content Nika, loving the natural flow and pace of the videos. Thanks for creating and sharing :)
Love love love watching you ❤ thank you so much for sharing so much wisdom 💫
this is very helpful
I love this Nika! Woman needs this type of advice ❤
33years Alione living a life? My education is graduate? My life is wait a woman save me my life as a life partner? My life is wait a woman share life with me as a life partner? You are interested in my alone life? you are help support with me as a life partner? you are any question about my alone life? I am reply to you?🌹🌹🌹🌹🙏🙏🙏
Yes, I loved the longer video! Thanks for your great work here. Would it be possible for you to make one about friendship? I have a great partner, but the right friends are more difficult to find for me. Keep shining! :)
Just subbed. Great advice and amazing content. I'm a guy and wish more women saw this content.
❤ really good advice thank you
A little reminder that hook-up culture isn't made for women! When we make love, our body releases hormones that makes us more attached to the person or in a long period etc... makes us fall for the other. So yes some of us feel special enough they believe they won't be impact by that, but in most case THIS IS NOT THE CASE. So everytime you sleep with a new guy your body get attached to him, your soul takes from him, and adding more guy to water down feelings only add new feelings to deal with. So yes, maybe am I talking to one of those women who don't get attached for sh*t but it often comes from a place of anxiety, high masculine energy Wich isn't really better for most people. I am not saying that if you really enjoy hook-up you should stop simply to take biology into account
I learned a lot of things about dating.😊THANK YOU Nika🙌✨💫
My pleasure 🥰
Great video Nika : ) You so nailed it to the point with these advice, thank you!
She’s good at what she does best
When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.❤
Wow! The way that you talk is like I'm sitting with my best wise friend and she's giving me advice 🥰You cannot believe how much I need these to hear and I'm definitely going to watch it again! Thank you 😍
Yes, please make a video on stepping into your feminine energy!!!
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤❤
Watching this video to improve my English ^^
Excellent! I liked the Hermes analogy very much 👌
One of the best videos I’ve seen lately!!! Thank you so much for this 😍😍🙏
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤❤
Needed these dating advices. Thanks a lot dear ❤
This was phenomenal oh my god video of the year!!
Every time you say good girl, I laugh. hahaha. Yes, I think more and more women should allow men to be men and not do the work for them. Plus how would you know if he likes you if you go after them 24/7. Radiate in your feminine energy.
top of the standard, lady. I love you : *
absolutely great video!! thank you. ai like the long video
Loved ur video!! So so sooo helpfull thanks🤍
Amazing! Thanks!
Thank you. 🦋🦋you’re beautiful. have a good day
i love your videos you're great
Love it!
I love this!!
I love your dating advices!!
Thank you so much!❤
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤❤
Soooo true!
This is a wonderful video !
i am tierd of good looking people giving advice about how to date ... especialy women .
especialy women that are tierd of chad ...
i saw this girl working at fast food place i said you are having a great hair day, i gave her my order she gives me the bag i say thanks your doing a great job i smiled and walked away. Was that too forward? Rwo compliments that's good or too much
Dear Nika! I'm so glad I came across your video! I'm also from Slovenia and it's a very special feeling when you can find one of yours talking about that type of content (I rarely find Slovenian girl talking about femininity)!🥰 I have a question that has been bothering me for a long time and I hope you will be able to help me.😅 What does it mean in Slovenia to start dating? How does this work? Where do you find single men (especially masculine men)? Is there a "special place" where single people gather especially in Ljubljana (that's not a night club or tinder)? I am a student, 22 years old, and I live in Ljubljana during the week. I have never had a man approach me in my life (I tried to approach them first, but it ended in failure). Trying to go in our students campus, students parties. tinder etc. (even if these things are really not my cup of tea) and nothing (I trying to meet new people on event I like like wine/whisky festivals but problem is that men do not even have conversation with me). I learned to live alone, I enjoy being alone, but for a long time I wanted someone with whom I could enjoy together. It's frustrating to hear that just be in your feminine energy and the guys will come on their own (they don't, they never have)... I would greatly appreciate it if you could explain this dating enigma to me.😊
This was a 10/10, thank you so much Nika! 😊❤
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤
That's inspiring, thanks for sharing!
So wise!
i LOVED this.
I’m definitely not more developed than a bird they are actually more spiritual and spiritually evolved than us
Cheers feom Bulgaria! ❤
One comment about @16:39 As a man, I'll make a move if I know the girl truly gives the vibe of a grown up. Usually I initiate, and if I meet mainstream, generic comments, I back off to pay respect and look for meaningful conversations. Girls have to allow more room for initial talking. Not all men are total losers, leaving the high quality men to self sell "authentically" before a humble, kind, flattering approach. P.S. Engineering is not very sexy :)
Loved your videos :)
Wait, this woman is so beautiful she should just quit dating and pick one of those 500 guys chasing her. Heck, Chad and Tyrone would change their ways for her.
Hi Gary
Nika loved the video, but please the shorter versions of videos are better
I don’t disagree with pounding home the fact that you need to know your value. But I don’t know that some of the examples such as “goddess” is the right way to go about it. That would be like someone giving men advice and telling them that they are all presidents or kings. It’s not so much confidence as it is narcissism. I’ve noticed that narcissism seems to be getting worse in general, from things like social media and dating apps. People may not be a diagnosed narcissist, but they truly don’t know how to stay in their lane. If that makes sense
I really love your content. I was struggling with that in the past, and now I can realize everything you talk about.. I love your channel 💗💗💗💗
Awesome content! Thank you 🙏
A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.❤❤
Princess charming😂
Love this kind of videos! Thank you for sharing, please do more like this.
What if he likes me a lot and want a long term relationship with me , but he can't and is not expressing his feeling becsuse of the age gap between us
Thank u❤
I think a massive problem with what you're saying is meeting up with someone being about the sushi when its really meeting up with the person you like. I want a commitment/significant relationship with a woman, but i would never give a difficult woman a serious chance. What if i take you to a sushi spot and you ended up liking it? I would disqualify you immediately for being close minded.
So amazing
Thanks for sharing. I have a question for you. Why do the ladies have photos of them sent to me but never respond to me in any type of way??? I would appreciate the feedback.
Okay okay I'll stop just fun and fun. Why fun? I run right under the sun. 😊
Ight, a blooming June bright flower that's sour but sweet. Are you a sour patch kid? Or a warhead?
It'll be fun in the sun as your lashes fall down slow over the bold gold with eyes, love lust luck, which is your favorite? Mine is the first but with a ton of laughter.
🙎♀️"Welcone to the neighborhood newcomer." "Thanks, and are all of the people here just as friendly as you?" "Yeah, but I'm really the crazy and suspect one you gotta worry about, that's why I had the courage to welcome you😊"
FOR I AM....❤
💙❤️😇✌️😊
I'm 30 y o girl , I never dated 😂😂
And it’s okay 🤍