How bizarre! If that was him on his best behavior for a first date, just imagine how he'd devolve on future dates! He sounds quite scary and we're all glad you dumped him asap. You deserve someone special who shares your values and treats you with love and respect. Your soulmate is out there somewhere and you'll find each other sooner or later.
Only other women notice a pretty woman. I worked in a huge place full of young women many years ago and this is what I saw in *my* age group: Men just wanted a mousy-looking woman with no self-respect who they could use and abuse, and the women put up with anything. Put the men through school and then carry both the bread-winning and home-making jobs for the rest of their lives. Some of the men even confiscated their wives paychecks or told them what they could and couldn't buy with their own money left after paying their share of expenses. The men came home from work and sat on their asses while the wife worked until bedtime taking care of the babies he stuck her with. Or they were out seeing another woman. They routinely harassed and disrespected their wives for what reason I don't know. Then if she became disabled they took off. I don't know why those women didn't leave after a few months. It can't have been sex; they were raised being told it was enjoyable only to men, and keeping that information in mind by both marriage partners, it often was like that. I know women have more self-respect now but this video makes me wonder if they still have much of a chance of finding a man worth having around. Why give a huge hunk of time and effort for something that could wreck your life or is at best worthless?
Always meet the first few times in a public place and don't get into his car or go to his place if he lives alone or let him into your place if you live alone. Don't even let him know where you live at first. How long it would take to change this depends on his behavior and your instincts. It helps to have a big protective dog or to live with family members, especially if there's a man in the house.
OMGOSH JULIE, WHAT A NUT JOB! 🥜 GOD BLESS YOU & GRATEFUL YOU KNOW HOW BEAUTIFUL YOU ARE WITHOUT A MAN TELLING YOU. YOU KNOW YOUR WORTH HONEY! STAY BLESSED 🙏❤
And… in ONE “date”, Julie sees ALL red flags, embraces her beauty, empathy & spirit. Any energy not hers, RETURN TO SENDER! 📬 Lovely dress btw. Super creepy it was recognized. Well done! TY for sharing all your life experiences. Much love to you. 💗🕊️✨
As someone else said, this is called negging; insulting, then complimenting, then insulting. It’s meant to break a woman’s confidence, I’m glad it didn’t work on you! Block the number, because he will try to call back and do it some more
Many times the real them is not revealed until you meet them. I was talking to a guy that was introduced to me by a dear friend. We spoke for almost 3 months before we met. His first lie was he was 5'10. When we agreed to have lunch, he was shorter than me, and I am 5'4". He also told me he's used to sleeping with his dates the first night. Goodbye was immediate. Never saw him again...what a loser. He didn't sound like that on the cellphone.
Right?! Choosing that dress was a gift. However, even without it, her “date” was shouting his true nature from the rooftops.🚩I’m relieved elevator ride ended safely. Buh-bye! Stay safe all. ♥️
You handled it Great Julie. I am a Hospice Nurse , my 1st time commenting on your channel. Life is Short so loved how you kept it moving with that guy. I have shared your channel with other my co-workers Hospice Nurses. This is your calling. So Thank You... So YOU seem to have so much more to offer , so hope your dating life goes better. You have such a great way to expressing yourself, thanks for sharing.😎
The first sign of that conceited narcissistic behavior would have turned me on my heels away from him as fast as my little feet could carry me! His behavior spells DANGER.
This guy sounds like a total narcissist. You must beware of people like this. If he starts to love bomb you RUNNNNN for the hills! You know exactly who you are. Since getting sober you will have become more confident, reflective, self possessed AND you can spot a nutter from a mile away! The one thing I learned when I got sober 16 years ago was to trust my gut. This guy set off your red flags, believe that! I am a caretaker personality, never wanting to hurt other people this caused me no end of trouble. Julie, you are innately caring and compassionate and you know your boundaries…that’s kind of rare. You will find someone….and they will be VERY lucky to have been found! ❤🎉🤗🙋🏼♀️🇨🇦🕊💖☃️🤷🏼♀️ sending love, light and a hug! You have given me so much comfort. Thank you lady! 💖
So glad you know how to smell a rat right out of the gate and not let it get any further. We are better off alone if that's what's waiting. But there are good people in this world. We just have to get back on the horse. Kudos to you!
You dodged a bullet there! I swore off dating a couple years ago and I’m sticking to that! I know some great things can happen with online and I know it’s tough to meet people when we work a lot but there are Billions of great guys out there ! You deserve the best and I truly believe in Karma!!❤
Myyyy. You find him certifiable? What Utopia have you been living in?😉. The man was probably an Introvert and found her a little over powering. If they had talked a little bit more they may have been able to work through it. And had a good time. Maybe. No bad/mad people here, just misunderstandings.
@@petersavage9456 He behaved like a certifiable NPD nut job and was emotionally abusive to her. Nothing she did warranted for this treatment. You're making excuses for a bully and that my dear makes you an enabler.
I’ve run across some oddball people in my life but none as strange as the individual you’ve described. Especially after some preliminary communication prior. I thought he was going to say something about his ex wearing the same dress. But there seems to be a heck of a lot more going on with him other than the dress. Remember to lock your doors, too strange!
Oh Julie, I have had similar experience, I'm 54 and last time I went on an Internet date was 7yrs ago. Terrible narcissist I'd met and put me off for ever. Happier on my own now. I think it's dangerous too. Take care 🌹
You are so gorgeous Julie! What an absolute jerk! I'm so sorry. It's hard not to get jaded. At least you can laugh about it. What an odd reaction. Yellow florals must be his nemesis!
I’m sorry - you made me laugh. Your poor date was my entertainment for the night. You are safe. That’s good. At least you didn’t tell him what you do. That might have really freaked him out. You are a wonderful caring person. You’ll meet someone who realizes that and what a gem you are. And they’ll be crazy if they let you go!
Oh, girl. You've dodged a bullet there. Do not engage! If you engage at this point, he'll know he's got ya. Stay safe! Having your own hard-earned self-respect is what matters most 💜
Ms. Julie, you are an extraordinary human being. That male is a disordered zero. I'm sorry you experienced a toxic weirdo. There is a wonderful person out there for you !
Thanks for sharing this. Sorry he was such a jerk! You are fortunate to have got the Hell outa there! Had some horrible experiences like this in the past and one turned into a narcissistic abusive relationship that almost took my life! Not being dramatic. You are lovely and the right person will come to you soon.:) Thanks for all of your informative videos. I am a holistic practitioner, medium and death doula for people and animals. It is so important for people to not be afraid of passing and your videos are so great! Keep up the amazing work! Blessings! xo
Wow you sound like a very interesting person what with the line of work that you are in.....dont people have doulas for when they are having babies as well....what does a death doula do.....might take a look in you tube to see if there are any videos. :)
@@tashalennox4398 Hi yes there are birthing doulas...I provide spiritual support ,offer therapies like REIKI to the family and person who is passing. I work with the hospice doctors and nurses to provide all that they need to have a dignified passing and transition. I think the videos Julie does are so informative and helpful to people to understand more and to perhaps not be afraid of death and the entire process.
Holy cow that was terrible. Really happy that it's over and just stay away from that guy, he is not dealing with a full deck. Thanks for posting this it will help many women. ❤️
I can't imagine actually looking for someone to date online - much less meeting them in person. I'm pretty dang old (75) - so I guess that's it, Julie. I think you're incredibly courageous to have gotten that far - and SO GLAD you walked away pronto. Wonder how we managed to meet people before internet...work, school, friends, events? Its simply another way to meet people, but just seems creepy to me. One thing I've learned ? you NEVER truly know who people really are. Stay safe, Starchild! We love you❤
Yikes! You are too much fun for online dating-maybe get involved in an activity you like. I met my husband playing softball for the company I worked for. ❤
The internet is a great tool. But I do wonder whether it has made people impatient and intolerant of each other. I think online dating has encouraged a throw away attitude. If the person they meet is not PERFECT in all ways at the very first moment of meeting - then its off on to the next one. There are stories of lots of people who didn't hit it off at first but later became great friends or partners. I think both people did their part to bring this down. I think a lot of miss understandings too place Here.
@@DianaJG8 its nothing to do with meeting online. Its people's attitudes to each other. I'm sure he didn't do much to help, but she sounds like someone who gets angry fast if she thinks someone is being rude.
What an odd person. At least he didn't ask you to stop by his office on the way to dinner, which turned out to be a two hour Multi-Level Marketing seminar like a girl did to me once.
Narcs are horrible , never give away your energy and power babe ! You look amazing with that divine smile, and got a heart of gold , your the best ❤️❤️ 🙏
WOW! Just wow! Some people really need a few pointers before going out to a date; let alone some professional consultation… glad that you managed him out so humanly and professionally. Great job!
Thank you for sharing your story. It's so important for people to know you can get up, and walk away when those red flags are flying in the air right away. Don't wait!! You are lovely and amazing.
Oh my gosh RUNNNNNNN! Julie, you are gorgeous inside and out and that guy is a total creeper. Please be very careful, as I know you are, with online dating or even a blind date. These days, we can't be too careful. You handled the situation perfectly as was obvious by His shock. Bet, he's had a lot of dates that were unsettling for those poor women who he took advantage of their kindness. You keep wearing that dress too, girl. You are lovely! Stay safe and wishing you many blessesings.
AWKWARD! I'm glad you respected yourself and left. It's brutal out there. I did meet my husband online. But part of the process was crawling through the weeds! Stay safe!
That guy was messed up …! So you wore your favourite dress … what the hell! (And you look adorable, BTW!) You dodged a bullet, Julie … good call. Proud of you girl. 😘❤️🇨🇦
Well, always wonderful that it all became transparent right off. At least you wasted just a small amount of time. Love that you stood your ground and stood up for yourself. 👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗
Sorry to hear about your bad date. You have so much going for you. You just seem like a.really wonderful, caring and fun person. Don't settle for any less than the best, you deserve it. Unfortunately, I'm terminally ill and just hoping so much that I end up with a hospice nurse like you.
Good for you for knowing your own worth and leaving. You're strong, smart, and beautiful and you don't put up with BS. That's the full package, for someone who isn't intimidated by strong, sassy women.
Dear Nurse, and a good one too, there are a lot of strange people out there, and we all bump into them. What a brilliant move on your part just to go. So pleased you are happy and confident within yourself. He was seriously strange Julie, so glad he's gone.
If I was into girls I wouldn’t just date you, I would marry you. You’re so beautiful inside and outside, you have a kind heart and a generous compassionate soul. I wouldn’t mind dying near you because I know you would be there to comfort me. You’ll find the right person for you, the one that really deserves you, and I mean all of you !!! Blessings 💗🦋
Never stoop to that dudes level. You are fine as heck and an even better person! Its obvious this dude is not happy with himself. You are good! Approved! ❤️
You seem to be a very pleasant, kind and gracious lady. I cannot imagine ANYONE treating you in this manner for ANY reason, let alone over a dress! Godspeed dear lady!
Julie, You already know this, do not see this man again. If he texts you more and asks to meet again, gives you reasons for his behavior, but how he feels there is a special connection, etc and yada, yada - just block him.
Yessssss beautiful! Owning your worth! Never settle! Well done!!! Thanks for sharing! This is gonna help a lot of people to stand up for themselves! I'm loving who you are!!! ♥️
Wow! This sounds like something you’d see on a movie! Equally as uncomfortable as the scene in Bridesmaids when Kristin Wigg’s character goes on a blind date. (She sits with his weird kid waiting on him to get off of the phone as she overhears him talking crap about her to his ex…after his kid eats a few of her birth control pills…ends up excusing herself) Like your date, total nightmare! I find it absolutely weird that he recalled the photo of you in the same dress. He was “social media stalking” each of your photos! You dodged a bullet, thank goodness! 😂
🤣🤣🤣that even beats some of my bad date stories!! Glad you have a sense of humor besides being sweet and pretty. Thanks for sharing and I'm sorry I laughed so hard I cried.
I want to think the safe move would have been to excuse yourself to the powder room and avoid a potential dangerous elevator ride by leaving discreetly. Sounds like he was trying to reason with himself for being out of your league. Definitely his loss. Beauty can intimidate men that lack confidence.
So bizarre, you deserve so much better, and FYI you look stunning in that dress. Hold out for someone whom has his shit together & is as incredible as you are. 💙💙💙
I'm on the dating scene also and have had so many bizarre dates that I could write a book. This gave me a good laugh with you. Sorry you had to leave home for that
Can you imagine life with someone like that? "What's this? We ate spaghetti in 2019, we don't eat the same dish twice...how could you treat me so poorly?" What a mind bender.
Oh man, that was crazy. It's sad what people go through these day with dating. My daughter who is around your age goes through the same stuff. You deserve better, glad you stopped it before it could get worst.
Girlfriend, you handled yourself admirably. People can be so strange. You have to be so careful, and dating is overrated. I’m a straight woman and I don’t particularly care for men and the way that they think and behave. It was his loss, let’s just put it that way. Don’t worry; live your life; be happy; you do great work; and the right person will come along at the right time; probably when you least expect it.🙂
Hey Julie..I love that you are strong and confident Good that he showed his true nature early! There are idiots everywhere who often don't reveal themselves until its too late. You are gorgeous and deserve so much better. He should have concentrated on the content of the dress. We cant all afford new clothes just for a date! Onward and upward! :o) xx
Omg, that IS awful & I'm sorry you experienced that! Weirdos are one reason I do not online date. Granted, you can meet weirdos in real life, but my experience has been more so online. So I just do not use online platforms as my way.
You are one beautiful woman with one beautiful heart. It’s his total loss. I’d love to get to know you but… I’m a nice guy and while women don’t like that in men, I’m now totally comfortable with that. So that’s where it ends. Hope you find someone who appreciates you. Thank you for all your information in your channel. It’s been very helpful to say the least.
😳🤯😂 WOW. So glad you know that YOU are not the problem! It was a test. He wanted to see if you'd grovel and fight for his attention. Only a true Narcissist would get upset that you wore a dress he'd seen in a profile pic. Narcissists need to feel special because they have a black soul. He wanted to know you went out and bought a NEW dress in order to make him feel special!! The difference between you two is that YOU know you're awesome. He DOESN'T think this about himself so he needs others to make him feel awesome. (Belittling you to make himself feel better:) People like that run away from strong, confident individuals like you!!! Soooo glad he showed his true colors!
The Universe unfolds exactly as it should... from Max Ehrmann'a Desiderata. I HAD a trusted therapist who sometimes nods off to sleep during our session. At first I felt slighted; then a moment later I found it funny. THX 4 sharing your experience. Perhaps he just was too distracted by the dress because he wanted to wear it..... ; P I would send him swatch of similar material and the address of a local dressmaker!
What a CHARMING fellow!! And so adaptable to anything unexpected. (heavy sarcasm) This one will stand out in my personal catalog of strange experiences on a first date.
Ha! I’m so glad you know your value. There are probably a lot of women out there (myself being one of them for many years) who would have tried harder to get him to like you or apologize for wearing the same dress. These guys prey upon women with lower self esteem & can ruin their lives & leave them devastated. Not that you should do this but it would be hilarious if you went out with him again & wore the same dress 😂😂😂
He was strange, out of sorts by your dress.. Smart , beautiful, confident women 👌 you scared him silly! Thanks for sharing the way to politely get away safely. I really like your videos. Thank you for sharing a bit of your life.
Something to consider: Immediately becoming fixated on the appearance of a dress from a photograph-- this is behavior that definitely diverges from what we typically view as "normal." Not to medicalize this guy's strange thought processes, but... he could legitimately be operating in a compulsive kind of way that he himself is not fully aware of. I find the "I don't blame you" message interesting. Could indicate that he is starting to become aware of the bad vibes he puts out Meeting potential romantic partners online is a minefield. I'm middle-aged and widowed a year ago, not ready to get back out there yet, but I don't think I would go back to the hassle of online dating. The best ways to meet people are through mutually shared experiences or activities. I love Meetup for that. Hiking groups, dinner clubs, museum groups, I've met some great friends that way. It can also lead to romance, but the focus is just on having fun and communing with people. It's a more natural way of sizing people up, seeing if there is chemistry. Wishing you luck 💕
Thank God and God Bless! You are such a blessing to the people you nurse, and to this channel. Keep going, trying , striving, and never, ever give in or give up.
Julie...KUDOS to you!! Girl, that craziness happens soooo often. It's truly commonplace. That, my friend, just goes to show us how scary, bizarre, crazy, narcissistic and unstable people are. I'm so glad you walked out and saved yourself from God knows what. Be careful, stay safe 🙏❤ ...did you meet him online?
How bizarre! If that was him on his best behavior for a first date, just imagine how he'd devolve on future dates! He sounds quite scary and we're all glad you dumped him asap. You deserve someone special who shares your values and treats you with love and respect. Your soulmate is out there somewhere and you'll find each other sooner or later.
Yep. Your got one thing right.🤔 Your name. 😉
@@petersavage9456 A little touchy are we? Guess you must be the bad date then😂
Only other women notice a pretty woman. I worked in a huge place full of young women many years ago and this is what I saw in *my* age group: Men just wanted a mousy-looking woman with no self-respect who they could use and abuse, and the women put up with anything. Put the men through school and then carry both the bread-winning and home-making jobs for the rest of their lives. Some of the men even confiscated their wives paychecks or told them what they could and couldn't buy with their own money left after paying their share of expenses. The men came home from work and sat on their asses while the wife worked until bedtime taking care of the babies he stuck her with. Or they were out seeing another woman. They routinely harassed and disrespected their wives for what reason I don't know. Then if she became disabled they took off. I don't know why those women didn't leave after a few months. It can't have been sex; they were raised being told it was enjoyable only to men, and keeping that information in mind by both marriage partners, it often was like that. I know women have more self-respect now but this video makes me wonder if they still have much of a chance of finding a man worth having around. Why give a huge hunk of time and effort for something that could wreck your life or is at best worthless?
Always meet the first few times in a public place and don't get into his car or go to his place if he lives alone or let him into your place if you live alone. Don't even let him know where you live at first. How long it would take to change this depends on his behavior and your instincts. It helps to have a big protective dog or to live with family members, especially if there's a man in the house.
@@madwoman8297 🎯💯
He’s the type that puts others down to feel good about himself
Exactly!
Well that's putting it nicely...hahaha
OMGOSH JULIE, WHAT A NUT JOB! 🥜 GOD BLESS YOU & GRATEFUL YOU KNOW HOW BEAUTIFUL YOU ARE WITHOUT A MAN TELLING YOU. YOU KNOW YOUR WORTH HONEY! STAY BLESSED 🙏❤
And… in ONE “date”, Julie sees ALL red flags, embraces her beauty, empathy & spirit. Any energy not hers, RETURN TO SENDER! 📬 Lovely dress btw. Super creepy it was recognized. Well done! TY for sharing all your life experiences. Much love to you. 💗🕊️✨
As someone else said, this is called negging; insulting, then complimenting, then insulting. It’s meant to break a woman’s confidence, I’m glad it didn’t work on you! Block the number, because he will try to call back and do it some more
You deserve better Julie. Avoid the narcissists, weirdo’s and scaries. Stay safe and enjoy finding your perfect for you match.
Man did you dodge a bullet there! Good for you for confronting him and knowing your worth ❤
Oh my God!! He sounds scary…🥺
Julie, you deserve better. So glad you got outta there safe. Screen those guys a little closer next time.
Still, super glad you’re safe !
Many times the real them is not revealed until you meet them. I was talking to a guy that was introduced to me by a dear friend. We spoke for almost 3 months before we met. His first lie was he was 5'10. When we agreed to have lunch, he was shorter than me, and I am 5'4". He also told me he's used to sleeping with his dates the first night. Goodbye was immediate. Never saw him again...what a loser. He didn't sound like that on the cellphone.
How peculiar. He's triggered that you wore the same dress. Glad you asserted yourself Julie. You deserve a gentleman 🤗 Seriously weird date 🚩
It’s great that you wore that dress. It might have taken longer to spot this weirdo if you hadn’t. Onward and upward.
Right?! Choosing that dress was a gift. However, even without it, her “date” was shouting his true nature from the rooftops.🚩I’m relieved elevator ride ended safely. Buh-bye! Stay safe all. ♥️
You handled it Great Julie. I am a Hospice Nurse , my 1st time commenting on your channel. Life is Short so loved how you kept it moving with that guy. I have shared your channel with other my co-workers Hospice Nurses. This is your calling. So Thank You... So YOU seem to have so much more to offer , so hope your dating life goes better. You have such a great way to expressing yourself, thanks for sharing.😎
The first sign of that conceited narcissistic behavior would have turned me on my heels away from him as fast as my little feet could carry me! His behavior spells DANGER.
This guy sounds like a total narcissist. You must beware of people like this. If he starts to love bomb you RUNNNNN for the hills!
You know exactly who you are. Since getting sober you will have become more confident, reflective, self possessed AND you can spot a nutter from a mile away! The one thing I learned when I got sober 16 years ago was to trust my gut. This guy set off your red flags, believe that! I am a caretaker personality, never wanting to hurt other people this caused me no end of trouble. Julie, you are innately caring and compassionate and you know your boundaries…that’s kind of rare. You will find someone….and they will be VERY lucky to have been found! ❤🎉🤗🙋🏼♀️🇨🇦🕊💖☃️🤷🏼♀️ sending love, light and a hug! You have given me so much comfort. Thank you lady! 💖
So glad you know how to smell a rat right out of the gate and not let it get any further. We are better off alone if that's what's waiting. But there are good people in this world. We just have to get back on the horse. Kudos to you!
You dodged a bullet there! I swore off dating a couple years ago and I’m sticking to that! I know some great things can happen with online and I know it’s tough to meet people when we work a lot but there are Billions of great guys out there ! You deserve the best and I truly believe in Karma!!❤
He is certifiable! So glad you’re home safe! ♥️♥️♥️
Myyyy. You find him certifiable? What Utopia have you been living in?😉. The man was probably an Introvert and found her a little over powering. If they had talked a little bit more they may have been able to work through it. And had a good time. Maybe. No bad/mad people here, just misunderstandings.
@@petersavage9456 He behaved like a certifiable NPD nut job and was emotionally abusive to her. Nothing she did warranted for this treatment. You're making excuses for a bully and that my dear makes you an enabler.
Sounds certifiable to me too!
@@petersavage9456 He didn't want to talk, he asked for silence. He did get the "I don't blame you for leaving" part right.
She does not have to do social work on him. I'm a firm believer in "nip it in the bud". C-yah.
I’ve run across some oddball people in my life but none as strange as the individual you’ve described. Especially after some preliminary communication prior. I thought he was going to say something about his ex wearing the same dress. But there seems to be a heck of a lot more going on with him other than the dress. Remember to lock your doors, too strange!
I am so glad you got out of there. It truly sounds like something is broken with this man.
Oh Julie, I have had similar experience, I'm 54 and last time I went on an Internet date was 7yrs ago. Terrible narcissist I'd met and put me off for ever. Happier on my own now. I think it's dangerous too. Take care 🌹
You are so gorgeous Julie! What an absolute jerk! I'm so sorry. It's hard not to get jaded. At least you can laugh about it. What an odd reaction. Yellow florals must be his nemesis!
I'm really glad you ended it and that you got home safely.
I’m sorry - you made me laugh. Your poor date was my entertainment for the night. You are safe. That’s good. At least you didn’t tell him what you do. That might have really freaked him out. You are a wonderful caring person. You’ll meet someone who realizes that and what a gem you are. And they’ll be crazy if they let you go!
OMG it really does take all sorts 🤣🤣 I'm glad you walked out, that kind of behavior is not to be trusted. Watch out for his face in the news!
Oh, girl. You've dodged a bullet there. Do not engage! If you engage at this point, he'll know he's got ya. Stay safe! Having your own hard-earned self-respect is what matters most 💜
Ms. Julie, you are an extraordinary human being. That male is a disordered zero. I'm sorry you experienced a toxic weirdo. There is a wonderful person out there for you !
So glad I am past all that. You gave me a great laugh. Wonderful! Bless you for all the amazing work you are doing.
Don't think it was meant to be funny but everyone finds something funny. Lol.
You’re too beautiful and lovely as a person to endure such nonsense! You deserve a king to match the queen that you are!❤️❤️
This is bizarre. What a huge loss for this fellow. Beware of this person. Glad you followed your gut and ended the date. We all love you.
The saying, 'Don't cast your pearls before swine' comes to mind! ☹
Julie, you are a beautiful woman with so much to offer in an adult relationship. You are worth it ❤️
Thanks for sharing this. Sorry he was such a jerk! You are fortunate to have got the Hell outa there! Had some horrible experiences like this in the past and one turned into a narcissistic abusive relationship that almost took my life! Not being dramatic. You are lovely and the right person will come to you soon.:) Thanks for all of your informative videos. I am a holistic practitioner, medium and death doula for people and animals. It is so important for people to not be afraid of passing and your videos are so great! Keep up the amazing work! Blessings! xo
Wow you sound like a very interesting person what with the line of work that you are in.....dont people have doulas for when they are having babies as well....what does a death doula do.....might take a look in you tube to see if there are any videos. :)
@@tashalennox4398 Hi yes there are birthing doulas...I provide spiritual support ,offer therapies like REIKI to the family and person who is passing. I work with the hospice doctors and nurses to provide all that they need to have a dignified passing and transition. I think the videos Julie does are so informative and helpful to people to understand more and to perhaps not be afraid of death and the entire process.
I feel like you just described the last dozen dates I went on before I stopped dating altogether 3 years ago! Who needs it!
I am so glad you shared!! I have been on some ridiculous “ dates”. The kind that shock you. Keep sharing!
Holy cow that was terrible. Really happy that it's over and just stay away from that guy, he is not dealing with a full deck. Thanks for posting this it will help many women. ❤️
I can't imagine actually looking for someone to date online - much less meeting them in person. I'm pretty dang old (75) - so I guess that's it, Julie. I think you're incredibly courageous to have gotten that far - and SO GLAD you walked away pronto. Wonder how we managed to meet people before internet...work, school, friends, events? Its simply another way to meet people, but just seems creepy to me. One thing I've learned ? you NEVER truly know who people really are. Stay safe, Starchild! We love you❤
Yikes! You are too much fun for online dating-maybe get involved in an activity you like. I met my husband playing softball for the company I worked for. ❤
Bonnie - At 67 I 100% understand, but I found my someone online and I couldn't be happier for 15 years now. So, it CAN work out. ❤️
Bonnie you need to get a tinder
The internet is a great tool. But I do wonder whether it has made people impatient and intolerant of each other. I think online dating has encouraged a throw away attitude. If the person they meet is not PERFECT in all ways at the very first moment of meeting - then its off on to the next one. There are stories of lots of people who didn't hit it off at first but later became great friends or partners. I think both people did their part to bring this down. I think a lot of miss understandings too place Here.
@@DianaJG8 its nothing to do with meeting online. Its people's attitudes to each other. I'm sure he didn't do much to help, but she sounds like someone who gets angry fast if she thinks someone is being rude.
Pretty much the actions of a narcissist. Glad you walked away from that one.
What an odd person. At least he didn't ask you to stop by his office on the way to dinner, which turned out to be a two hour Multi-Level Marketing seminar like a girl did to me once.
Narcs are horrible , never give away your energy and power babe ! You look amazing with that divine smile, and got a heart of gold , your the best ❤️❤️ 🙏
Sounds like he knows he’s a wacky job.. 😂
You're not only a pretty angel but a wise one. I'm so glad you wore the dress that triggered his true self. Not a coincidence! You're loved.
WOW! Just wow! Some people really need a few pointers before going out to a date; let alone some professional consultation… glad that you managed him out so humanly and professionally. Great job!
Nothing better than a woman who knows her self worth and has high standards!
You go girl! Better things are right around the corner!
Thank you for sharing your story. It's so important for people to know you can get up, and walk away when those red flags are flying in the air right away. Don't wait!! You are lovely and amazing.
What an A hole!! At least you got a funny story out of the date 🤣 You deserve someone beautiful on the inside, just like you 💗
So glad you got out of there!! You are a beautiful example of how we need to honor ourselves!
Oh my gosh RUNNNNNNN! Julie, you are gorgeous inside and out and that guy is a total creeper. Please be very careful, as I know you are, with online dating or even a blind date. These days, we can't be too careful. You handled the situation perfectly as was obvious by His shock. Bet, he's had a lot of dates that were unsettling for those poor women who he took advantage of their kindness. You keep wearing that dress too, girl. You are lovely! Stay safe and wishing you many blessesings.
AWKWARD! I'm glad you respected yourself and left. It's brutal out there. I did meet my husband online. But part of the process was crawling through the weeds! Stay safe!
That guy was messed up …! So you wore your favourite dress … what the hell! (And you look adorable, BTW!) You dodged a bullet, Julie … good call. Proud of you girl. 😘❤️🇨🇦
You deserve a gentleman who treats you like a Queen
Well, always wonderful that it all became transparent right off. At least you wasted just a small amount of time. Love that you stood your ground and stood up for yourself. 👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗
Sorry to hear about your bad date. You have so much going for you. You just seem like a.really wonderful, caring and fun person. Don't settle for any less than the best, you deserve it.
Unfortunately, I'm terminally ill and just hoping so much that I end up with a hospice nurse like you.
Oh. My. Hell.....That is SO weird on so many levels 😳
You are amazing.
I'm glad you got outta there safely! Whew!
Good for you for knowing your own worth and leaving. You're strong, smart, and beautiful and you don't put up with BS. That's the full package, for someone who isn't intimidated by strong, sassy women.
This world has turned into a "Dumpster-Fire". This guy doesn't know what he's missing. I hope you find "Mr. Right".
Dear Nurse, and a good one too, there are a lot of strange people out there, and we all bump into them. What a brilliant move on your part just to go. So pleased you are happy and confident within yourself. He was seriously strange Julie, so glad he's gone.
Well done Julie, some people are just beyond understanding!
Be grateful he showed you exactly who he is from the start. Some people hide their true selves until much later.
Onward and upward Julie! 😁
If I was into girls I wouldn’t just date you, I would marry you. You’re so beautiful inside and outside, you have a kind heart and a generous compassionate soul.
I wouldn’t mind dying near you because I know you would be there to comfort me.
You’ll find the right person for you, the one that really deserves you, and I mean all of you !!!
Blessings 💗🦋
Never stoop to that dudes level. You are fine as heck and an even better person! Its obvious this dude is not happy with himself.
You are good! Approved! ❤️
Thank goodness you made an escape. Pleased to know you got away safely. 😊
You seem to be a very pleasant, kind and gracious lady. I cannot imagine ANYONE treating you in this manner for ANY reason, let alone over a dress! Godspeed dear lady!
Sounds like you escaped with your life right there! Love, love, love your content ❤️ ❤️❤️❤️
You just returned from a date in ... The Twilight Zone ... and I'm SO glad you returned from there!!!
Julie, You already know this, do not see this man again. If he texts you more and asks to meet again, gives you reasons for his behavior, but how he feels there is a special connection, etc and yada, yada - just block him.
Yessssss beautiful! Owning your worth! Never settle! Well done!!! Thanks for sharing! This is gonna help a lot of people to stand up for themselves! I'm loving who you are!!! ♥️
Wow! This sounds like something you’d see on a movie! Equally as uncomfortable as the scene in Bridesmaids when Kristin Wigg’s character goes on a blind date. (She sits with his weird kid waiting on him to get off of the phone as she overhears him talking crap about her to his ex…after his kid eats a few of her birth control pills…ends up excusing herself) Like your date, total nightmare! I find it absolutely weird that he recalled the photo of you in the same dress. He was “social media stalking” each of your photos! You dodged a bullet, thank goodness! 😂
🤣🤣🤣that even beats some of my bad date stories!! Glad you have a sense of humor besides being sweet and pretty. Thanks for sharing and I'm sorry I laughed so hard I cried.
I want to think the safe move would have been to excuse yourself to the powder room and avoid a potential dangerous elevator ride by leaving discreetly. Sounds like he was trying to reason with himself for being out of your league. Definitely his loss. Beauty can intimidate men that lack confidence.
She sounds like she's confident and clever enough to look after herself with a mans advice on such issues 😉
Yes, not only beauty, but confidence as well.
What a beautiful test for weirdest behavior ever. I never would've thought of it! Glad you and Captain Gaslight didn't work out!
I'd say it was a good thing you wore that dress. It's nice to know you're dealing with crazy right away! Stay safe out there!
Wow, DC, what great insight. Never thought of that.
So bizarre, you deserve so much better, and FYI you look stunning in that dress. Hold out for someone whom has his shit together & is as incredible as you are. 💙💙💙
I'm on the dating scene also and have had so many bizarre dates that I could write a book. This gave me a good laugh with you. Sorry you had to leave home for that
Can you imagine life with someone like that? "What's this? We ate spaghetti in 2019, we don't eat the same dish twice...how could you treat me so poorly?" What a mind bender.
Omg well done! Crazy people are out there plenty. Warm regards from Sweden 😊
Oh man, that was crazy. It's sad what people go through these day with dating.
My daughter who is around your age goes through the same stuff.
You deserve better, glad you stopped it before it could get worst.
Good for you, follow your instincts ladies. Sorry you had to go through this and thank you for sharing this with us.
Wow that man has issues. Type of guy that could get agressive and abusive further along a relationship. Thank god he showed immediately. Good for you!
Girlfriend, you handled yourself admirably. People can be so strange. You have to be so careful, and dating is overrated. I’m a straight woman and I don’t particularly care for men and the way that they think and behave. It was his loss, let’s just put it that way. Don’t worry; live your life; be happy; you do great work; and the right person will come along at the right time; probably when you least expect it.🙂
If he can get “thrown for a loop” that easily, and “being thrown for a loop” results in assholery, well-I’m speechless.
Hey Julie..I love that you are strong and confident Good that he showed his true nature early! There are idiots everywhere who often don't reveal themselves until its too late. You are gorgeous and deserve so much better. He should have concentrated on the content of the dress. We cant all afford new clothes just for a date! Onward and upward! :o) xx
Omg, that IS awful & I'm sorry you experienced that! Weirdos are one reason I do not online date. Granted, you can meet weirdos in real life, but my experience has been more so online. So I just do not use online platforms as my way.
You did the right thing. There were so many red flags with that guy.
You are one beautiful woman with one beautiful heart. It’s his total loss. I’d love to get to know you but… I’m a nice guy and while women don’t like that in men, I’m now totally comfortable with that. So that’s where it ends. Hope you find someone who appreciates you. Thank you for all your information in your channel. It’s been very helpful to say the least.
Thank God you have real self-confidence. You dodged a narcissist!!!!
😳🤯😂 WOW. So glad you know that YOU are not the problem!
It was a test. He wanted to see if you'd grovel and fight for his attention. Only a true Narcissist would get upset that you wore a dress he'd seen in a profile pic. Narcissists need to feel special because they have a black soul. He wanted to know you went out and bought a NEW dress in order to make him feel special!!
The difference between you two is that YOU know you're awesome. He DOESN'T think this about himself so he needs others to make him feel awesome. (Belittling you to make himself feel better:)
People like that run away from strong, confident individuals like you!!!
Soooo glad he showed his true colors!
The Universe unfolds exactly as it should... from Max Ehrmann'a Desiderata. I HAD a trusted therapist who sometimes nods off to sleep during our session. At first I felt slighted; then a moment later I found it funny. THX 4 sharing your experience. Perhaps he just was too distracted by the dress because he wanted to wear it..... ; P I would send him swatch of similar material and the address of a local dressmaker!
Check that guy’s criminal history. I’m not even kidding. He sounds dangerous to me. Be careful.
Scary girl...and he's very self absorbed it seemed lol! So dang proud of you to choose to end it!
Sounds like this guy could easily have turned out to be dangerous, definitely a good move to exit asap at the first hint of such behaviour
Well, if you're ever in Colorado... Good food, good conversation, good time - guaranteed!🥰
That was a really good date. You found out what you needed to know in the minimum amount of wasted time.
Oh, sis, I’m so glad you walked out!
What a CHARMING fellow!! And so adaptable to anything unexpected. (heavy sarcasm) This one will stand out in my personal catalog of strange experiences on a first date.
Lol! Thanks for sharing. Glad you dodged that bullet and that you’re safe. Watch your back for a while in case he stalks you.😬
Ha! I’m so glad you know your value. There are probably a lot of women out there (myself being one of them for many years) who would have tried harder to get him to like you or apologize for wearing the same dress. These guys prey upon women with lower self esteem & can ruin their lives & leave them devastated. Not that you should do this but it would be hilarious if you went out with him again & wore the same dress 😂😂😂
Haha. Men dammit. Lol. Sounds like he's going to ask to try again lol
He was strange, out of sorts by your dress.. Smart , beautiful, confident women 👌 you scared him silly!
Thanks for sharing the way to politely get away safely.
I really like your videos.
Thank you for sharing a bit of your life.
Something to consider: Immediately becoming fixated on the appearance of a dress from a photograph-- this is behavior that definitely diverges from what we typically view as "normal." Not to medicalize this guy's strange thought processes, but... he could legitimately be operating in a compulsive kind of way that he himself is not fully aware of. I find the "I don't blame you" message interesting. Could indicate that he is starting to become aware of the bad vibes he puts out
Meeting potential romantic partners online is a minefield. I'm middle-aged and widowed a year ago, not ready to get back out there yet, but I don't think I would go back to the hassle of online dating. The best ways to meet people are through mutually shared experiences or activities. I love Meetup for that. Hiking groups, dinner clubs, museum groups, I've met some great friends that way. It can also lead to romance, but the focus is just on having fun and communing with people. It's a more natural way of sizing people up, seeing if there is chemistry. Wishing you luck 💕
Thank God and God Bless! You are such a blessing to the people you nurse, and to this channel. Keep going, trying , striving, and never, ever give in or give up.
You are awesome !! Great story ❤👍🏻
Julie...KUDOS to you!! Girl, that craziness happens soooo often. It's truly commonplace. That, my friend, just goes to show us how scary, bizarre, crazy, narcissistic and unstable people are. I'm so glad you walked out and saved yourself from God knows what. Be careful, stay safe 🙏❤ ...did you meet him online?
I am so glad you got out of that situation as fast as you could. That was sort of scary.