My grandmother decided she wanted a big 91st birthday party. She told everyone how lovely it had been to see them and what a privilege she had gotten to live so long but that this was her last birthday. Everyone kinda laughed it off. Three weeks later she found out she had colon cancer for a third time and she said 'I'm done, I'm ready to go home and see David', he was my grandfather who had died 20 years prior and she had missed him terribly. The next day she was in the active stages of dying. My favorite part of her story is how she woke up, twice, and said 'I'm not dead yet?!' She was gone in an hour. Lovely woman who had 4 children, 9 grandchildren, and 7 great grandchildren. I miss her but know she is happily with my grandfather now ❤
My daughter was diagnosed with a quick growing tumor. Scheduled for surgery. A couple days prior her dog was very ill. Vomiting, having accidents in the house. She went outside and laid down. My son came over to carry her back into the house. He told the dog that now was not her time to go, her momma (my daughter) needed her. Four months later, my daughters surgery was successful, and she was finishing her chemo.She was cleared to return to work. Her dog passed away shortly after we got the news. She had seemed to rally and stayed while she was needed.
My cousin had a sweet dog that was always at her side. When she passed suddenly at age 16, the 9 year old dog laid down in her bed next to the fireplace. She refused to move, eat or drink. She passed 2 days later. They are buried together ❤️
I have worked in EMS as a paramedic for over 40 years and have seen several patients doing exactly what you’re saying in this video. I remember transporting a patient in ambulance who was in hospice, to a scheduled medical appointment. While I was going over her paperwork, she was looking up, extending her arms and speaking to someone. I asked who she was talking to, and she said my father, look, he’s right there. To this day, I fully believe he was there getting her ready to go home.
Wow. No clue why the algorithm kicked this to my home thread … memories of my mom’s last 36 hours flooded back not so much about her process but about the immense humanity and Love that the caregivers like Julie put into the world every day. It is a special calling and I’ll never forget the angel that was there for my mom in the last moments. She knew exactly how to be and what to do to shepherd Mom home❤❤❤
My dad was hospitalized for Pneumonia, and his kidneys were beginning to fail. He seemingly got better quickly, so my family told my husband I to go to Ohio for a visit with my mother-in-law. A few days later I was told that Dad was passing. The nurse asked if any family member was missing. My sister said yes, my baby sister is out of town. The nurse said that he was waiting on my return. We went and saw him straight from the Train station. I told him that I was back and that I loved him. The next morning he passed away. A couple of nieces spent the night in his room. They said that he sat up in bed, and was looking like he was shaking hands with people. He also said that he saw my mom who had passed many years prior. He died at the age of 91.
Your videos are helping me be less scared. I am terminal liver patient who has chosen to forgo transplant and I am also 67 years old. I want someone younger to have the liver transplant as I have very low platelets and have come to terms with it.
God bless you. I have a friend who passed almost a year ago from cancer. She was 40 y/o with 3 small children. She had great faith and went through the battling, acceptance, and final journey home so gracefully. I have dreams of her every now again. The first was just a few days after her passing. She sat on my bed with me- it was so real. I told her that I couldn't believe she was gone. She smiled and told me, "But I'm right here silly". That was it; i truly feel like she was letting me know she was fine and still with us. Praying for you 🙏 ❤️
It's going to be good, peaceful death, you will go on, you will meet again your friendships and family, your suffering will end and you will be free. We do not remember when our consciousness begin and it will probably be similar in the end. I hope we will meet on the other side, when I get there. I'd love to meet you.
What a Godsend you are, Julie. My daughter is in the last days and stages of life and I am not afraid, because you and our Hospice team taught me what to expect. Bless you!
I’m glad you’re able to be strengthened with Julie and the comments. She’s precious to me. You’re blessed to have the knowledge of knowing your daughter is about to pass. My daughter died in her sleep after we had spent the day together. We just made a new commitment to always be there for each other and then she was gone. I feel her with me now and she passed in 2010. Nothing can move her spirit out of its place in my soul. God bless.
Thank you. My daughter slipped peacefully away between breaths, so gently and pain-free. I am sad beyond belief but have such consolation that her death was nothing like what she feared it would be.
my dad and I walked around the hospital a couple of days before he died, he hadn't been out of bed for months, I will always have the memory of that last walk together, it was a gift.
@@kmiller0402 I cannot make peace with a ****phile and his enabler. I am ok being "at odds" with them. I am at peace knowing they are nowhere near me and never will be again. I hope my Grandfather comes to get me. If that's real.
My husband passed at home on Hospice 6 months ago. He only was home for 3 days before he passed. As soon as he was brought in our dog jumped on his bed with him and pretty much stayed there till my husband passed. I have pics of them together during this time and the look on my dogs face says it all. He knew, no doubt in my mind he knew his master was leaving us. I still cry my eyes out looking at that pic. It's only been 6 months and we was married 30 yrs. I miss him more than I could ever say. Thank you for your videos....God bless
My wife had what we call "A really good day". Ate soup, chatted and laughed etc. Passed away 2 days later. We had seen this in our pets before. The really good day is real. What was unexpected was a few days after she passed I heard her in my head saying she loved me clear as a bell.
I had a strong presence of my mother in my room right after my father passed. I didn't see anything but felt the presence and said hi to her. She had passed a few mother before but I didn't feel anything until my father passed and at the time I didn't know he passed, found out the next day.
Some of the NDEs vids on youtube really explain pretty well what happens after we pass, no one wants to come back, here's some of the best to see: use quotes to get to the title “Life After Death Experience (NDE) with Steve Gardipee, Vietnam War Story” “Doctor Struck By Lightning; Learns The Secret Of Creation And Consciousness (NDE)” “Famous Cardiac Surgeon's Stories of Near Death Experiences in Surgery” “Lawyer Encounters Near Death Experience”
I felt my brother’s presence around me one day when I just couldn’t stop crying. I felt him literally supporting me from falling and telling me to let it out. It was so real. Is that his energy still here until he goes to his transition? I know I wasn’t imagining it. I’ve never felt that kind of energy around me before.
I visited my mom in the care center a few days before she passed. While I was there she kept looking out he room door and I asked if she was expecting someone. To my surprise she stated” Dad said he’d be by to get me. My mother was alert and oriented and Iasked her if she remembered that dad had passed on years ago to which she responded yes. Then she said well you better run along home and get dinner for the family. I kissed her goodbye and told her that if my dad said he’d be there to pick her up he would. She said she knew he would. That night she experienced a brain bleed and never regained consciousness and died about a week later.
The last 23 years of my law enforcement career was spent as a forensic investigator. In Canada all deaths re treated as a homicide until proven otherwise which means a thorough examination of scene, body and any witnesses including family. Having spoken with family and friends of the deceased I have observed many of the things you talk about. I was always there after the fact until the passing of my father. He was in his 80’s and had spent the last year in hospital. His last day my brothers, my mom and I stayed with him. He was lucid and talkative and it was a great day. Then he said something that jolted me. He said, I can’t wait to go home. I had heard that very thing from so many people in my investigations. We took turns the rest of the day going for something to eat, home to change, regular stuff. At midnight my brother took my mom home to get some rest. I stayed and sat by his bed holding his hand. One of the nurses came in and sat with me. My dad was sleeping but was squeezing my hand from time to time. I know the mechanics of death and thought it to be muscle contractions. His breathing became shallower and the nurse said that perhaps I should call my brother to bring my mom back. That’s when my dad squeezed my hand hard and said, no let her sleep. Less than a minute later he had passed. This was a great video. Thank you
My mom was in hospice in June of 2021. She was only in for about a week and then passed away from cancer. I had gone to get coffee for everyone. When I came back, her cat, Chloe, walked up to her. My mom was laying on the floor. She would not get in a hospice bed so we made her a little area next to her recliner. I watched Chloe when she approached my mom. She looked at my mom, looked up in the air, looked back at my mom and walked away. I went over immediately and she had passed away. PS: Chloe is safe and happy with my family in our home❤️
I am new to hospice but I have noticed that my cat seems to stay closer to me now Than before. He also stares at the corner of my bedroom wall and will stay there as soon as I turn off the lights. I Sure would like to see what he sees. He Has become my reason for living since he was adopted and I would not like him to feel alone and rejected again.
@@vals74 Praying for you and your cat and that he will be at peace when you pass. I truly believe our cats know what's going on and can understand and see the things we do. ❤🐾🙏💙
It moves me the loyalty of pets, in fact, it is a concern who will feed and care for my three spoiled cats and my dog when I leave this world. We don't have hospice here in Chile.
Thank you Julie. I was a Palliative Care nurse, so totally agree with you on all this. Re: Pets ... my Westie terrier used to come to work with me to a nursing home, (before my palliative stint) and was spot on in finding patients who were about to die. She would lie under the head of the bed, sometimes 2 days before, and stay there until the person died. Even if we moved that person to a quiet room, Missy would find them & go back under the head of the bed. She often stayed in the room afterward to 'comfort' the relatives. It was glaringly obvious that she saw this as her vital role.
My mom died a couple of weeks ago and she definitely experienced a "rally." On Saturday, she was up and about, laughing, eating and having fun with all of the family. We felt so encouraged and happy to see her back to "normal." Sadly, she passed two days later. I'm grateful that my siblings and I were able to have one beautiful final weekend with her, and then to be by her side when she took her last breath.
I too have a very similar story with my mom. It seems like it was a blessing that we were all there for her taking care of her end of life and making sure it was a smooth as a death can be.
Wow. Same here. She had been fading rather rapidly for about 2 weeks, then it appeared as is she was in a coma. Then all of a sudden she wakes up, and says she's hungry. What? And she really wanted a Diet Coke. We were elated and spent a day and a half laughing, joking, and reminiscing. At that point, I was sleeping on a pallet on the floor next to her bed. So a day and a half later she died. I woke up to her 'death rattle', and we were at ber bedside holding her hand. I sure wish I would have known about this rally. Thank you so much Julie for sharing!
Exactly the same with my mom. She was dying of congestive heart failure and living at her home while I cared for her. She mostly just slept and hardly ate toward the end. The morning, she died she was suddenly very aware and talking just like her old self. Within hours she went into heart failure and died that night at the hospital.
The best joke I ever heard was when me and a friend were visiting this very sweet elderly lady that we knew in the hospital, she had multiple health issues and could barely speak. My friend had known here for quit a while it was mostly us talking and her acknowledging what we were saying. she then motioned for us to get very close so she could tell us something she then said very softly "I am dying to get out of here" and started a soft choking , cackling but very robust long laugh. We had a good laugh with her and visiting hours were over. About six hours later she was gone.
I wrote a book called "Two Minutes At The Gate" about my NDE when I was in a bad car accident at age 19. My wife is a nurse. I personally can say so much of what you say is so true. I love this channel thank you. The dying part is not fun. But I am not afraid anymore of what's on the other side. Be well friends, no matter what stage of life you're in. Peace. It's all temporary.
Thomas Morelli You better be damn scared because you have been conned/deceived by a demonic spirit; it's an old trick of deception. Unless you have given your life to Jesus and been saved by his blood, anything you were told or shown came from a demon. This is one of the many tricks; it works brilliantly every time. Whatever your medical emergency was while you were out, they spoke right into your head and probably placed visions to make it so believable, but it's not real because it did not come from the Lord. Demons only have one job and one job, which is to lead you to hell by deception, period. So I am sorry to tell you that you have been deceived. Jesus does not do NDAs, and nor do the angels. They do not have the authority to do that. The sad thing is, you probably won't believe what I am saying. If you are not saved and have no proper Biblical understanding of history, what really went on in this world, knowledge, or discernment of what is really going on in this world right now and how things work, then you are basically as vulnerable as a Ternip. This woman in the video did not have an NDA, but they whispered into her head and convinced her, and now she is not fearful. The problem is they know she will come to TH-cam and tell people her story, which will validate someone else's story or convince someone not to worry and wa-la another soul off to the furnace. Do you know how many Christians fall for this? None, zero, nodda, because we know the truth, and when you are saved, they have no jurisdiction or legal right to do that to a spirit-filled (Holy Spirit)saved Christan. Jesus will be back any day now, and if you are not saved when He gets here, you will be left behind for the coming hell-on-earth nightmare that is on its way called the Seven Year Tribulation Period/The Judgment of Man. Give your life to Jesus Christ, eternal life or eternal death. It's up to you. Time is short.
My dad, who had emphysema really bad, he had died quite a few times and at the last minute he would somehow pull through. I asked him in them moments did he see or hear anything... Sadly he said no, I didn't he said it was black nothingness blind deaf and dumb, he would just wake up,
When my dad was in the hospital right before he passed away, I saw him counting something on the ceiling and when I asked him what he was doing, he said he was counting all of the humming birds up there💔. He was also,talking to some of his relatives who has passed away long before him. And yes, he got a spurt there for a night where he started eating again and that was it. He didn’t eat anything else and he passed away a few days later and I still miss him everyday🥺
Just watched your video. As a retired nurse, I can relate to the signs you are educating everyone about. Patients knowing they are dying is so true. When I was first out of nursing school, working several 16 hr shifts in a row, I had a patient who knew. She was elderly and we did not think she was going to die. She begged me toward the end of one of my several 16 hr shifts to stay with her that she was going to die that night and did not want to be alone. I felt guilty about having to leave, but having a family at home waiting on me, I did not stay…..I was devestated when I got to work the next day and found out she had passed during the night…….I never had another patient ask for me to stay, but she taught me if one ever did, to listen and stay………..
I really enjoyed your piece on one of your cases that made you believe in the after life. I took my degree and Air Force commissioning papers to Tyndall AFB to learn how to fly. When I wasn't flying I spent my down time spear fishing. During a tournament I went a little to deep and ran out of air at 95ft. My training told me to drop everything including my weight belt and make an emergency accent. I drowned at about 20ft. below the surface which put water in my lungs. That saved my life. During my ride to the Navy base and while in a 20hr. chamber ride I had a near death experience. During that NDE so many things happened I could write a book. Other NDE survivors did write them and I read everyone of them. I didn't say anything to my bosses because they would probably not let me strap a $42 million dollar F-15 to my buttocks. Thanks for your insight into your hospice, you have a wonderful gift.
Nurse Julie, I just saw your video for the first time and want to thank you for what you do. I had an experience that has stayed with me for over 25 years, and now I can look back on it and see that it was something you have noticed , and that is very meaningful to me. My mother had been fighting cancer for several years but seemed to be doing fairly well until she rather suddenly got worse and was hospitalized. She had fallen into a coma when my family notified me to come home. I drove 8 hours to get there and was unconsolable sitting in her room sobbing while she lay unconscious. The doctors told me she would not wake up, but after a few hours she did, and for that day and the next I was able to talk with her and tell her I loved her and asked her to be there for me when I pass away. She said she would if she could. She died that night as my brother and I were spending the night in her room. He woke up and saw that she was gone and then woke me up. Now I am 80 years old and know that before too long I may see her again. You have given me hope that may happen. Thank you.
Why wouldn’t you see her again . Did she accept Jesus as her personal Savior . Are you Saved ? Ask Jesus into your Heart . I ask for a sign if my dad was in Heaven and I received one . I know 10000000 % God is Real
This may be a bit different but I think it will help some animal lovers like myself. My sweet cat contracted leukemia and spent alot of his time resting. One morning I woke up and saw this cat get up and jump over a small pile of clothes in the floor and into the living room. I remember being so happy and thinking that he must be feeling better. I got out of bed and that cat wad laying on that pile of clothes dead! I believe I actually saw his spirit/soul continue on as he died. It was beautiful and very comforting.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. My 18 year old cat had been sleeping a lot more & slowing down, though there didn't seem to be anything really wrong with him. One night, I could not wake him up, and so I brought him into the bed with me. I was crying & holding him, pretty sure he was dying. In the morning, just as I was coming awake, I sensed him there next to me, up and awake, standing on the edge of the bed looking down at me. I was so thrilled that he was okay, that I said out loud, "Oh I'm so glad you're better!" and as I did I sat up and the blanket fell away to reveal him there, passed. I am sure he was there, his little soul, waiting for me to wake up to say goodbye. Still miss him. Love & peace to all.🙏
Two different times in my life I woke up and petted my dogs .one used to come up every night for a goodnight pet .it happened again after she died.it did NOT feel like a dream.a few months ago I was dead asleep and I HEARD my mom's voice just say my name,urgently.right by my ear .it was so audible,I sat up,wide awake.people will say these are just dreams,but I dream a lot,and these were different.
Mother passed away on July 5 of 1998. A few days later my brother handed me this young plant she had on the porch. I had to laugh. It was the most hideous thing I’d ever seen. It’s stems were hairy and it looked like it could grow into something monstrous. Mother had such a sense of humor and loved entertaining the grandkids. I thought surely she’d bought this plant for a joke. I took it to work and pretty much neglected it. My coworker admonished me, telling me to water it, that it would be a beautiful plant. I couldn’t believe the thing could ever be anything but unsightly, but I began taking care of it. Nearing the anniversary of Mother’s passing I prayed to see a sign that she was happily in a better place. I went home from work that weekend. I had to admit the plant had pretty leaves. After the holiday weekend I returned to work to find that the plant had four little white flowers. They were all facing my desk. I was a bit awestruck. I asked my coworker when she thought it bloomed. “Yesterday…July 5th.” One year to the day after Mother passed. One little white flower for each of her four children.
Following back surgery, my 81 year old husband was transported by ambulance to rehab, a 2 hour drive. My drive back took much longer as I had to take a different route. He was settled in although he had refused food. We had a good chat, he sent me off for food and rest. Within two hours he went into cardiac arrest. A friend pointed out that he had waited until he knew I was safely home to let go. It was comforting to hear her thoughts. It is what he would have done.
Thank you for this. When my great grandfather passed away he was in high spirits, he looked good, we expected him to be out of the hospital and back home. He had been in ICU after a 6th heart attack in his life. He was in recovery, talking, laughing, making jokes and eating well and just looked like he was ready to be home. We got a call the next morning that he had passed and it just didn't make sense to me. "The rally" explains this so well and it has given me a lot of closure on his passing from close to 30 years ago. So thank you again.
I think My Papa somehow knew his time was coming. He was perfectly healthy but died suddenly from an annurism. He was getting my Granny a cup of coffee in the kitchen and just collapsed. During the last few weeks before he passed, he changed the oil in their cars, fixed a few things around the house that needed repair, and went and had dinner with my aunt at her house (which he rarely liked to do). He even painted all the outdoor furniture! It was like he knew he was leaving soon and wanted to make sure my Granny would be ok after he was gone❤💕
I was an RN for 20yrs, worked mostly night shifts. I worked a few yrs in nursing homes, usually rehab side. Anyway, yes I witnessed everything you talked about except the animals because none around. Interesting stuff. In 20+yrs, I've never met another medical professional that experienced the same, or viewed it as you described. Except for waiting for family to say goodbye, that ive heard. Their first & only thought when they're talking to someone is they're having "hallucinations". No, they're not. There are ppl there to take them home. Very comforting to know.
Within 72 hours of my mother passing from lung cancer, she was in ICU. She began speaking in her native language of Tagalog and was laughing It appeared that she was focusing in on something at the end of her hospital bed. Most likely departed loved ones. She was laughing as she spoke. I don’t speak Tagalog and wished I knew what she was saying. I miss her dearly. She’s been with the Lord for 10 years now.
My neighbor was Filipina and had an aggressive brain tumor at the end of her life. She kept seeing women dressed in the old Filipina dresses of the 1900s, all in white. She'd talk to them and laugh but was upset they wouldn't come over closer to her. I feel they were calling her home.
Thank you so much for this. I wanted to ask something. Thirty years ago I worked in spiritual and religious care with seniors. One resident with Alzheimer’s Disease was dying. I was bedside a lot as she was in distress. She was Latvian I think and had been in a Soviet gulag. She was in hell. Somehow her brain had taken her back to the gulag and she was terrified. She had lost her English and we had no one who could speak Latvian. Sitting with her I felt her terror and the room felt strange, like there were unfriendly “spirits” there. Have you heard of something like this?
My mother passed away a month and a half ago, she was on hospice. I just want to thank you and all the hospice nurses out there. You all are incredible and so thankful for what you all do. Wish I would have seen your channel when my Mom was going through all the phases. Watching you now and everything you are talking about, my Mom went through. Again, thank you all for your care and compassion for our loved ones.
My wife was a hospice nurse for several years and I also had 20 years experience in healthcare at that time. We were present when my father died at home from pancreatic cancer. Neither one of us had ever experienced anything like it. He had been too weak and sick to raise his head for 2 weeks, unresponsive for a few days. It was a beautiful morning and the sun was on his face from the east window when he suddenly sat up in bed, opened his eyes and pointed at the windows and clearly spoke a few words in a language I've never heard. He never spoke any second language before that moment. He took a deep breath and slowly lowered himself back in his bed as he let out his last breath and was gone. Strangest thing I ever saw and wouldn't believe it if I hadn't been there and witnessed it with my wife. I have to admit it kinda shook us up in more ways than just losing a loved one.
When my dad passed away, his cat howled for almost a week and would only sleep on my dad's night-robe that my mom would put on the couch for him. This same cat also was very close to my parent's Dalmatian dog and when she died, the cat howled and was depressed for weeks. So yes! Animals can be very in tune with our spirits! Thank you so much for your videos! :)
My mom passed away on February 1 of this year. I truly believe she picked the date. Her wedding anniversary was January 31, my birthday was February 2 and I was retiring on February 3. The Monday before her passing she told my sister that our dad came to see her. I knew then she would be leaving us soon. She made sure that it wasn’t on one of those special days. I miss you Mom 💔
My father-in-law passed the day after my husbands birthday. My husband told me later that when he was alone with him (huge family, no one would leave) he asked his Dad “dad please don’t die on my birthday” ❤️ Also, there were many people with him all the time. The hospice nurse told all of that we need to all leave the room and let him be alone now and then. My SIL insisted on staying by his side. We finally got her to go for a walk and she was venting and upset that she was told to leave the room. I told her maybe your dad wants to die alone, forward the next day…everyone was going home to shower ect, my 2 SIL ( not the one who wouldn’t leave but 2 other ones) slept there that night. Very early the next morning she called me and my husband crying saying she thinks he’s gone. We lived literally around the corner, I told my husband to shower (he was anxious to go) that it may be the only time today he’ll get a chance to. I went up, my sister in laws were afraid to go up to him. So i did and put my face close to his and I wasn’t sure either until I put my finger under his nose and felt no breathing. We know he decided to get the heck going before the whole crew showed up again!! ❤️ Sorry for the long post!!😯 thank you Julie!
I'm sorry for you loss, but glad for the comforting events. That was thoughtful of your mom. My grandmother died on my mom's 61st birthday. There was precedent though. The day my mom was born, her great-grandmother died. My grandmother was especially close to HER grandma. And my mom's dad died on my 7th birthday.
When my wife was passing our chihuahua was always under the blanket. I found it kind of strange because we had just got her shelter about 3months prior. And to be more strange she passed away about 7 months later in the same exact spot under the blanket. And always remember how much they both loved each other.
I was an RN in a long term facility for many years. And I heard many stories, which I’ll convey when I remember them more clearly. One story I do remember is about an elderly fellow that kept asking people for a dime. When asked why, he replied that he needed to call his wife. The caregiver then remarked that his wife was deceased. He ignored her and kept insisting that she was waiting for his call. Finally one night someone gave him a dime for his , “phone call.” He was dead in the morning.
That's wild my great grandma road the busses all the time they cost a dime in that time she had a little tin from Limon drink powder she save the dimes in. I had it for many years after she died. I find dimes everywhere now in places that don't make sense. My grandmother her daughter us🎉to say I'll give you a shiny penny if you go to sleep, or a penny for your thoughts I find pennies too in the odd places. My grandparents raised my sister and I. I miss them all so much.
You’d think they’d have given that person a dime just because they thought she needed it. It’s very sad that someone ‘finally’ gave it to her. Brushing her off wasn’t kind. I wish the first person she asked could have done that. It’s about more than humouring someone elderly. I find that incredibly sad. It turned out to be her final wish - it wasn’t a lot to ask for. 😢
Hi Julie. I'm a nurse and have seen some of the things you talked about. But there was one thing you said that brought me great comfort. One time I had agreed to cover for another nurse at her clinic on my day off. Shortly after clinic opened I got a call from my mom to tell me that the nursing home had called to say that her aunt, who was like a third grandmother to us, had taken a bad turn and was actively dying. I was so distressed that I couldn't be with her. I cherished her and although she was over 100 years old, she had been fully cognizant until this day. My mom and another relative stayed as long as they could but had to leave - I think too stressful for them. They got a call as they arrived home informing them that Aunt Ellen died just minutes after they left. I've felt guilty about this ever since but hearing from you that some folks want to die alone was very comforting and would certainly have made sense for this unmarried but beloved member of our family. TY for this video.
I was particularly touched by what you said about animals. My mom's cat, Max, was particularly close to her. In the last 2 weeks of her life, he would stay right by her side with his head on her shoulder. He would leave for short periods of time to use the potty box and to drink or eat, and then he would immediately go back to her side. If we tried to take him away, he would cry. My sister and I took turns staying overnight, and then we would give my dad one night by himself. It was the night that neither my sister or I were supposed to be there. When I called to check and see how Mom was doing. My sister told me that her breathing had changed somewhat, it was more shallow and a little quicker, but there was no death rattle. She mentioned that something odd was happening with Max. That he was not jumping up on the bed to be with her, and was just laying under the bed. My sister said that even if they put him on the bed, beside her, he would jump down. I decided I was going to go that evening though I had not planned on it. I noticed that Mom's breathing had changed slightly, and she was quite warm from the fever. My dad had gone to bed, and I got up about 3:00 in the morning to go to the bathroom. I swabbed her mouth because it was so dry, and changed the cool cloth on her forehead. I talked to her and told her it was just the two of us, and that if she was ready to let go she could. I assured her that I would take care of whatever needed to be taken care of, and make sure that my dad was okay. I went to lay down on the couch beside her hospital bed, and I heard the change in her breathing again. I went to her bedside and held her hand and comforted her as she left this world. The only regret I have, is wondering if I should have gone and woken my father when I noticed that it was right at the end. I did not want to risk that the moment she passed on, she would have been alone. I wanted her transition to be calm and comforting. And it happened so fast - literally between when her breathing changed, and her last breath was about a minute. It has been 19 years since mom passed away, and there are times when it feels like it was just yesterday. Thank you to the people who have read the long-winded posts I've made. I hope that they bring comfort in some way to someone who may need it. I'm so grateful to have found hospice Julie's posts. They have been extremely helpful in both understanding what has happened in the people's lives who have passed, and also helping me to face my own fear of death.
You did the right thing, Pamela. I believe there was some reason she just wanted you beside her at the end. My condolences. The love of our parents never leaves us🙏💕
I am twice a widow and both husbands seemed to linger until I came back into the room before a faint squeeze of my hand and passing on. It is a sad but sacred moment and I have always felt honoured to be with someone's passing. I remember two pets who seemed to wait until I came back to pass in my hands. Heartbreaking, but knowing they did not die alone is comforting.
I came to my Great Aunt’s bedside, she was the only Grandma my brother and I ever had. By the time I got there she had lost her sight, my cousin told me but my Aunt kept saying how glad she was that I came even though she couldn’t see me. Sweetie is dying and she’s asking how my husband is. So loving I had to try not to lose it. She asked me to lay with her, she was cold as her body temperature kept changing. Warmed up she told me it was ok to get up. I raised up to face her and she was so excited because she could see me. She kept repeating she could see me describing the top I was wearing. How is it that’s she’s dying and I feel special?? Yes, amazing things can happen. Something I hope people here read, maybe you can do a video about it? For us not afraid to be with someone dying. I think it’s important we show up because the elderly have a lot people that may not be able to visit. And then there are family and friends that don’t feel they can handle it. I’ve noticed with some deaths I’ve had in my life, not all, few people will show up to visit the dying and after they all show up to comfort the family after. When I show up of course it’s because I want them to know I love them and care but I also feel like I’m standing in for all the people that can’t come. Does that make sense?
Yes, I think there are certain people who are given the talent and ability to be with people who are dying. I cherish that ability and have helped several loved ones transition to the other side.❤ it has been my honor and I have been blessed with such great joy to be with the dying. You are doing a great service to the family members who don’t have that ability.
My mom didn’t have a rally… for the month I lived with her in hospice, mostly when it was the 2 of us, she would say there were beautiful orbs flying around the room.. she would say I was her angel all the time.. call out to me all hours of the night and say I was her angels.. during the day she would say, did you see that.. did you see the orbs just buzzing around?? .. of course I saw nothing but she said they were only there when I was there.. and always me being her angel.. it was a very interesting experience.. and now my husband is dying of colon cancer.. he plans on staying home, so I am his main caregiver.. we live where a lot of things aren’t really offered for help.. so I do this mostly alone.. watching and listening to you Julie, has been soooo very helpful! I wish I had all this knowledge when I had to watch my sister pass away from pneumonia.. thank you so much for all this help!!! ❤
I saw rallying several times with my wife and I saw my Gauthier reach for thevheavens and a beautiful smile.Karen went peacefully with all of us there. I had just finished singing to her and she was gone.but I never thought my singing was that bad smiles thankyou😊❤
My husband is in hospice care now, he has GBM. Tonight he told me there were 2 men who come into our room to see him. Something to do with clothes. I feel (intuitively) that his cancer is progressing rapidly now. His speech and cognition are changing daily, its very hard to understand what he’s talking about so I go with it , he doesn’t get upset that way. Thank you for all the information and understanding. Hospice has given a great deal of comfort and support. You are very special ❤
When my mom was dying, the hospice info we got told of the dying person going over their lifetime; also "seeing" people they had problems with in their lifetime and resolving those problems. My mom was in a seemingly unconscious state, coming to every now and then to say things that didn't make sense to us. I wish I had written it all down - one thing I do remember she said was that her computer was going too fast. She had never been around computers-she was 87 years old. She died on my birthday when I had gone to the drugstore to fill her prescription.
Oh, and he promised me he’d come back to tell me if there was another “side” if it was possible. And he did! Some weeks later he appeared in a dream. Rattling keys! I turned to look and he was sitting on fence, looking healthy and happy! Smiling his biggest smile! Nodding his head as if to say “I told you I’d let you know!” I woke up abruptly and felt comforted.
My Dad promised me the same thing. He passed 13th September 2018. 8th November 2018 he came to me in a dream. I jumped over the coffee table to see him! I asked him if he made it to Valhalla, was it just as beautiful as we had hoped and he said "You're going to love it!"
I love reading your stories everyone. I keep hoping I will get some kind of sign or dream of my husband of 46 years who passed away on March 17. He had been in the hospital until the night before he passed, and was moved to a hospice where he passed that Friday morning about 10:25AM. I am most sorry that he passed alone. I was planning to bring his dog to visit him that afternoon, but I guess my husband didn't want to wait. I buried him on the 23rd. I was hoping to see some sign at the cemetery, he loved blue jays and cardinals, I thought if I saw one it would be his sign to me, but nothing so far.
i can not express how precious your videos are . thank you so much. when I was young, I had a friend in the age of 66. one day he came to the hospital. another friend and I went for a visit and we could not believe what we were seing . he looked 20 years younger, a pink smooth skin like a baby , shining and laughing with big eyes. from somewhere I heard it would be called Angel-Face immediateely before dying . I could not understand the situation , thought he never looked better and healthier and would leave the hospital soon. we never haver have seen him again. he died the next night . till today I was looking for the word Angel-Face . nothing found . does anyone know about ? is it what you call Rallye ? thank you very much !
YES! Mom had a sudden brain event - maybe a stroke- and was totally incoherent. Brought her back from the hospital to the medical unit at her retirement community, and she was out of it. In the afternoon, my brother arrived. She then had a window of lucidity for about 3 hours. Perfect, loving conversations with family and friends. She then drifted back into the coma, but didn't "leave" while everyone was there. The last person left the room and within 15 minutes she passed. Thanks for this video!!!
One day when my dad as he was dying from stomach cancer, he said he was seeing and talking to all our family members and friends that had died. He even asked if my sister and I could see them. He was also telling us what they were saying and gave us messages from them. I wasn't sure if he was hallucinating or not at the time. Well, after watching this video, I now know that they were all really there! Thank you, Julie!!
So true ... my mom was dying of uterine cancer .. was on morphine, and was 95% deaf when it got close, my sister called all 6 of us to come.. all did except my brother Peter who was too upset .. when he finally came my sister said "mom Peter is here" ... she sat bolt upright with her eyes closed and said "Peter".. with no hearing aid in to hear my sister tell her ! Beautifully amazing .. and that night there were only 3 of us there while mom was actively dying. At 11 pm my two sisters said to let them know if anything hapened .. I took first watch. I started dozing off later.. at 11:50 I heard her 'sigh' .. she was gone. I believe the angels came to get her as soon as we were all quiet. I have heard so many people say the same thing :) thanks for your show ... it helps give people closure. God bless !
My Dad was seeing our mom who preceded him in death by 3 yrs. He was in a nursing rehab and 3 weeks before he passed he kept telling us Mom would be in the hall, stop by the door and wave to him but wouldn't come in. Then the day he passed she was with him in the he room when we were there with him. He died a couple hours after he told us she was there with him. ❤️🙏
Hi Julie, my parents both went through visioning in a way it made it easier for me because they were very happy during that time, thank you love from the UK x
I believe the more we listen to these facts and experiences, the less we are afraid of dying. Thank you again for comforting this 76 yr old gal . Blessings, Nancy, Leland, N.C.
You mentioned that you were interested in hearing about experiences with animals and the different ways that they may act when they are ready to pass on. This is nothing in the “off the charts” category, but it really touched me. My cat of 17 years had been sick and back-and-forth to the veterinarian. Deep down, I knew his days were numbered, but I was in denial, and selfishly kept trying to take various measures to keep him alive. Even the vet herself tried to tell me that it was time. I had a very close bond with him. One day near the end, when he & I were sitting on the couch, I had my arm around him as usual, he turned his head and looked me dead in the eye in a way that I had never seen before. I knew instinctively what he was trying to convey, which was that it was time. I could absolutely see it in his eyes. I will never forget it. I tried to get him to do it again because it was so beautiful, but he only did it the one time. Not long after that, I brought him in to do the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life. You think you won’t survive it, but you do. My experience has been that both pets and people that have passed on come and have dream “visits” with me on & off for several months. Then it suddenly stops and they don’t visit anymore. It’s actually very interesting and amazing.❤
It was 5am in the morning when my Dad's breathing pattern changed. I slept next to him all night in a big recliner. I got my mom who was in the next room & we just stayed w him. Finally at 6:19, I stepped out to get a coffee and at 6:20 he transitioned. They told me, he waited till you left the room. The entire 3 and a half weeks of my father's dying, and that last 48 was THE most profound spiritual experience I've ever had. I was profoundly changed. Thank you for your video..
my mother died in a hospital ER a couple of years back. i went with in the ambulance and remained with her. after about 2 hrs, the medical staff were making arrangements for surgery & retting ready to move her to theatre. with that i told her i would leave for home & collect things for her for her hospital stay - and i would be back in about 3hrs (after surgery would have been completed). within 10 minutes of leaving i got a call to return to the hospital as she had "taken a turn for the worse". i was told she went into cardiac arrest within 5 minutes of me leaving. i was plagued for a long time, always thinking if i had just stayed for a little longer I could have been with her to the end. i was told some time later, many people hang on to life until their loved ones had left the room, in order to spare them the trauma of witnessing their death. almost the same happened with an aunt. her son was with her at the hospital, then her daughter called from hong kong. at that point her son went downstairs for a cigarette while his mother was on the phone to his sister. within minutes of the end of the call, she died.
Do you ever talk about what happens immediately after the patient dies? What you do, what experiences have you had? What the body does, etc? I am on hospice, and I have shared your videos and the shorts with my family. I can not even begin to tell you how helpful they have been. So, Thank you for all your information. Thank you for this channel I think you're doing such a great job! Best of all, I think you're helping by removing, or assisting with removing the fear of the death process, and what happens when that time occurs? Thank You Julie! I want my death to be 'celebrated as a time of graduation, or moving on' and although yes, there will be sadness, I have already seen a change in the views of death from my family. You're doing a great job. I have an excellent hospice team, whom I have grown to love. (It's only been a short time) but I feel like you are an active member of my team. Thank you Julie. Keep it up, our culture needs this education! ❤️
Thank you @mysti tin! You too are doing us all a great favor in sharing your thoughts. I hope your journey will be even better than you’ve planned for. ❤
Thank you for this! My mom had dementia and was in her last stages. She was staying with us. I was by her side for weeks thinking any minute she would pass. The hospice lady said she thought she was waiting for me to leave but I could bear the thought of her dying alone. She said mom's especially want to know their kids are OK before they pass and often want to protect them and pass when they are not in the room. After almost 6 weeks of staying by her side, I was so exhausted I was concerned I was going to pass out. So I went to lay down in my bed for a little bit. 20 minutes later I went into her room, and to my horror she had died! I was so angry and disappointed with myself for not staying with her. I felt I abandoned her. All the talk about her waiting till I was gone was no consolation. She had always been there for me (and the rest of our family) and I had failed her. She died alone and I didn't want that for her. She deserved a beautiful processional. Well, it has been years. I have heard this story numerous times in different settings and even counseled others when it was their loved one's time. But I still held onto my pain - it was one of my biggest regrets in life. Made me sick every time I thought about it. But somehow tonight, on the eve of Easter, and maybe because the passage of time, hearing you share these ... I felt myself really letting go and accepting that my sweet mom was probably doing just exactly that. She always took care of everyone and everything. Then she took care of herself. She waited until she had seen all her important family and friends, all her children and hosts of grandchildren were snuggled in bed and while everyone was good ... she took her heavenly father's hand and is now dancing on the streets of heaven. ❤ I can't thank you enough for sharing these little nuggets. What a sweet blessing it has been for me. ❤ Happy Reserection Day!
Diana Carr.... Though you weren't with her, she wasn't alone. Her "people" were waiting for her and she needed/wanted to join them while you weren't in the room. She looked in on you before heading on. When my family member passed my children each individually experienced a ""visit" that even their animals "watched". happen.
That happened with my mother. The day before she died, she came back to us and chastised us for crying. She was hospitalized for 9 days and died and the 10th. I live in Europe. I was on my way to the airport when I got the news. My niece is the spitting image of me. I am in my 50’s and she is 31. I was my mother’s caregiver for 7 years. I wouldn’t have changed that for the world. When my niece entered the hospital room, my mother saw her and said “Oh, Nanny, you’re here” and she smiled and then passed. It still amazes me. Two days after her death, I was in the car and her favorite song came on the radio. He favorite song was a TANGO from the 1930’s named “Por Una Cabeza (by a head- a song about a bet on a horse race where the horse won by a head). The song was played on a top 40 station. The DJ said it was requested? It is a Spanish song. My mother, was PR. I stopped on the side of the road and just cried. A policeman stopped me and asked if I was crying. I answered “A little bit”. I told him what happened and HE started to cry with me. I know that was ALL my mother’s doing. EVERY bit of it. I needed to know she was still with me, and now, I have my answer. I’ve had many other episodes like this one but I thought I would share that one, given the topic of this video. Thank you for sharing, Julie. It is FAB to know that you guys see this, too! You’re angels on earth 🌍….❤❤❤❤
My Nan experienced 'The Rally'.......she had the best day, she had had in months - sat up chatting, writing in her diary, the next day she was put on morphine via a drip & within 2 days she had passed............moments before her last breaths, she partially sat up, looked towards the bottom of her bed (so did the cat), she smiled, laid back down & passed, it was beautiful to see, as we all knew that was her husband, that had come for her Thank you for your informative videos - im learning so much xx
My momma did all these things my dad was the first one to come see her. She saw all of her relatives that had passed away. Before she passed away. I could see her talking to them and talking to Angels. My little poodle Buffy could see them as well. It was one of the saddest things I've ever done. But it was also one of the best things I've ever done!! helping my momma go to heaven! I miss her every day it's been 23 years. I miss my dad as well I know she's with him. He came for her first. I enjoy your videos. see you in the next one
My dog is currently dying and a couple of days ago, she just kept looking through me to the corner of the ceiling in our living room. I was hand feeding her at the time and she would not turn her head to me. She just kept staring at the ceiling, but like she was definitely seeing something. I told my son she must be seeing our other dog who dies a few years ago. I watched my mom do the same thing when she was dying and I love that my dog is doing it too ❤️
Just had a close friend who died. I visited him in the hospital about two weeks before and although he was in very bad shape, I did not expect him to die so quickly. Neither did the nurses or doctors. He did have a "rally" when I came back again the next day, laughing and joking. Now that I've watched your video, I can see him making the choice to go, although I will never know. Your video really helps in explaining the process. As an animal lover, I wept when you talked about how animals behave with their dying owners. The bond of love which animals can share with humans is truly profound and beautiful.
My sister opted for M.A.I.D and she didn’t want any of us there. Not parents, her best friend, no one. The cat was not having that. He sat on her lap the entire time. 💖 Damn, I love that cat.
My deepest condolences to you for your sister passing. You must have an amazing family to let her pass with dignity & the way she wanted. The cat knew, that's why it stayed with her 💙
I experienced visioning during my near-death experience when someone tried to murder me. A bright white light appeared to me my living room, up by the ceiling and it communicated with me. It could not have been more loving and compassionate! I'm so glad you're talking about this because I'm so damn sick and tired of people calling me crazy as a way of invalidating me.
I believe you, and I'm grateful you're still here. Thank you for sharing that with us. That's lovely, and provides hope for me when it's my turn to go home. God bless💛
Thank you Julia. Your videos have given me so much peace. I am not at the end of life so you have given me what to look for. Thank you ever so much. Hope when it is you time it will be very peaceful. Love to you and your family.
Julie, I am STUNNED! What you described about the-end-of-life, is EXACTLY what happened to my wife, who passed away from breast cancer, at our home. While on the hospital's radiation table, and when the technician was temporarily called-out of the room, my wife later related to me that her grandmother appeared to her, at the foot of the radiation table, about 5 or 6 weeks before my wife passed away. On my wife's last day of being coherent and conscious, my wife and I were sitting together, doing billing for her hospital care, and my wife was DOING JUST GREAT that day!! Her mother came into our room, watched her daughter for a few minutes, and tears started to well-up into her eyes. I excused myself from my wife, and I talked with her mother, who was a Minister's wife, outside of LaDonna's room. LaDonna's mother said to me, "Ron, you don't see it do you?" "See what?", I asked. LaDonna's mother replied, "Ron, I have seen this before. LaDonna is most likely having one last WONDERFUL DAY, here on earth!" It was TRUE! LaDonna refused to eat that evening, and went into a deep comma later that night. Early in the morning, 3 days later, she passed away. That was 29 years ago. I have NOT been able to stop crying ever since my wife's passing. Oh, how I SO want to be with her!! Julie, your description about the end of life STUNNED ME!! IT is EXACTLY HOW IT HAPPENED! ...and even the 'REACH' that you talked about, happened to my wife's Grandmother, when she IMMEDIATELY then passed away, thereafter,...as related by my wife's mother! Your talk portrayed how two women died in the manner, EXACTLY as you described, at the time of their deaths! WHOA!! UNBELIEVABLE!!
A blessing you are indeed, Nurse Julie. A retired general practice RN with several decades of service mostly with geriatrics, I believe Hospice care is the best thing since sliced bread. Honestly. About 2 weeks before my dad died of colon Ca, he saw and talked to his brother who had died in WWII in a B-26 crash. Dad had Hospice care and the family declared y’all were all angels -something I already knew😉 A few months prior, after my sister arrived at mom’s hospital bedside as she was dying (I was a post-op patient down the hall from her; I wagged my IV pole back and forth to her room, but so glad I could be there!) we noticed Mom seemed to be resting comfortably with eyes closed and regular breathing, just enough MS04 for comfort; so I gently squeezed her hand and softly said “Mom, it’s okay to go. We’re both here, and your daddy is waiting.” (Her beloved dad had died when she was only 6 years old.) Remarkably, as if she was just waiting for the cue, about 30 seconds later she took a deep sigh - and that was it. Again, thank you for what you do. I will definitely want Hospice one day❤️
As a former Hospice RN, and a family member of a parent, you are 100% correct in these “stages”. My Dad did the “rally” a day before he passed. True! Pets are often very cognitive & intuitive of death of their owners even if your just ill for a few days! Great videos, Julie! More people need to be AWARE of what great benefit hospice is in the dying process. Thank you!
This really helped me understand, and the whole process of dying seems to show me it’s a peaceful transition, my father died when I was 12 had bad heart, but the day before he did special things with each of us children I always thought he must have known, and now I understand he did. Then my mother died several years later at her bedside at her last moment I saw her look up I said what do you see, she looked up again seemed happy and that was last moment. I now have peace about their last moments and that is a priceless gift thank you.
My grandfather said that he saw his childhood best friend (who has been dead for many years) walking by the window. He actually got up to chase after him. He passed away a few hours later that night, at home in his bed. My mom was in the hospital and looking at a very specific point in the room she started talking to someone, inviting them to come closer. From the way she talked and the words she used I know it was my father. She also passed away that night in the early morning hours. I miss my family so much, but they're all gone now.
I often think of this old guy from our church, 99 years old. He was actually coherent and walked with a cane. No joke, he was fully cognitively sound. The big ongoing thing was everyone insisting he makes it to 100. He also told us that was his goal. He does make it to 100 but at the 100th celebration he informs us that his goal was to 'be 100'. To 'make it to 100' meant, in his definition, he had to live out 100 and then told us therefore the real milestone is actually 101. (then he will have accomplished 100). Everyone enjoyed that and sure enough at 101 we had a bigger thing and congrats because everyone remembered the idea.. he was to live OUT the 100th year so a big theme was about that 'live all of the 100th' and.. .. yep, the next morning he had passed away sometime in his sleep. After that, I've been convinced that ..yes, actually somehow some people are able to 'will themselves' to stay alive and I suppose 'release themselves' to death.
My grandma was a hospice nurse for a long time. She told me rallying used to be called a sunshine period. She used to tell the families to soak it in, take lots of pictures together, and ask ALL the questions. Video, tape record, and don't miss a thing. It's been the most helpful thing. I've been able to pass that knowledge on to so many families, even my husband's during his grandma's passing.
Love your videos! Animals have incredible senses for these things! I have experienced all of these phenomena in my 19 year career as a Palliative Care Nurse!!
When my grandfather passed, he had been hospitalized for several days and was expected to leave us anytime. Grandpa was a man of few words, one of the very best people I will ever know in this life. He was loved by every member of our family. The last day, he had been talking to "someone" but was pretty incoherent in his speech; however, we know he was actively and definitely speaking to someone or even more than one person, and speaking to God (he was a very devout Christian). There had been at least 5 people in his room every minute that day. At one point, this one announced they were leaving to go home to shower, another one to check in at work, this one had to go pick up their kids from school - whatever the reason, all of us except one of his sons left. Shortly after, the son who stayed went to get a cup of coffee and wasn't gone for more than 10 minutes - and when he returned, Grandpa died. I fully believe he chose to pass when everyone was out of the room. I definitely believe this happens in some of the dying. Thank you for this video.
I love hospice!!! You are extraordinary people. I'm on end of life care. And you're right it's like being on a roller coaster. One day you're up, next day you're down. Family isn't concerned because I don't look sick and there are days I'm up doing things. What they don't understand is I'm getting my house in order. I was my mother's caregiver for most of my life until she passed away. It's been almost a year. I heard her calling out my name the other day. I didn't answer I was afraid of what she would say. Gotta keep a sense of humor. But later, did acknowledge to her that I did hear. I have visions but mostly people I don't know. I thought I must be going crazy. Thank you for all you do. You are somebody's angel. ❤
My dad had visions weeks ahead of time. I once said "Hey Dad, what did you do today?" and he responded that he had been in the garden with his mom and dad very matter-of-fact. But when he passed he made sure that my mom, my sister and I were there with him. Very grateful for this! His transition was calm and I was holding his hand and it felt like we had a telepathic communication that everything was going to be okay.
A few days before my beloved dog Lilly died I woke up (she slept with me on my bed) and saw ethereal lights, shapes really, floating up from her sleeping body. As clear as day, but no one believes me. They say I was probably dreaming, but it was very real. She died soon after in my arms. I love her very much and still miss her.
glad to have run across this, as these things are true. In "Nam" & in E.R,s (EMT) beyond Kussmauls, I have watched for the rising of the white mist yet never have seen. At this time and not in the medical from 1994 I find myself with my wife of 25 yrs , after 14 yrs of remission , now in hospice with lymphatic cancer am happy to see these things s"spelled out." At 75 and have seen so many pass this is going to be so very hard. Thank you for listening, I needed to say something.
Thank you so much for this video! This is such important information. I have had countless pets throughout the years and have noticed in them much of what you describe with us. As for the human side: I lived with my Dad the last 1 1/2 year of his life and was his hospice care. He had a very vivid 'dream' about 4 1/2 months prior to his passing, where he saw his parents & me standing at his bedroom door. When he spoke of it, Dad mentioned that he never dreamed. I knew immediately that my Grandma, Grandpa and & had discussed Dad's leaving. At the end I brought him home. One of my cats was very fond of Dad. He was the one who wanted to be around and on Dad all the time. Dad was unresponsive outwardly, yet I knew he was aware (energetically) of my presence and what I was saying. Dad was a very social man. I am an only child and I was there with him day and night. I told him that it was OK to go, that I will be fine, but don't expect me not to cry. One morning, I opened the blinds and painted a verbal picture of the beautiful morning sky. It felt like it was time for him. I moved in closer and said, "Dad, it's a good day to die," and meant it. As I cleaned his face, I noticed the pulse in his neck stop. I expected the 'last gasp', but it never came. My cat didn't leave Dad until they came for the body. All I can say is, that was the most humbling and impactful experience of my life. I would do it again in a heartbeat. Bless you for all you do!
As the end was near for my Mom to pass. The nite before as I look; My 2 sweet fur babies A Lab and a Sheltie mix came to join me . I was w blanket & pillow on floor right near her. Suddenly both dogs came in and sat snug as could be one on right other in left. They were so tight against me I couldn’t move. I suddenly became aware they KNEW what they were doing! Guarding me with comfort & paying respect for the process. They seemed to know what their 😮given role was at this time. I sensed I was receiving an honor of loyalty to me and my beloved Mom
Thank you for another excellent video! Has anyone told you that there is a glow in your face. An aura of peace and happiness. Hard to explain what I see, yet I see it! Your eyes are shining, a different light. A glittering light...
Thank you for this, Hospice Nurse! It’s so important for both sides, I think. When my brother was in his final hours, right before he lost consciousness, he kept saying, “I need to go outside, I want to go outside”. We couldn’t take him off O2 as he was connected to the wall. His lungs were chewed up by Chinese drywall. He was trying to climb out of the bed. We (me and his nurse) were finally able to sit him on the edge of the bed so his feet could feel the floor. He fainted/passed out. He lived about 30 more minutes. I was grateful to be with him. The hospital staff was wonderful.
It’s not unusual for someone to want to get up or say I have to sit up when near death. I’m a nurse and if someone became assertive about the need to get up, we definitely pay attention.
@@GeminiTwinning Wanting /trying to get up right before death is different than air hunger, although they both are pretty common. (I’ve been an RN x 32 yrs., & was a FF/EMT/Paramedic for several years before/after I became an RN.)
A lot of what you talked about in this video happened when my wife passed. Thankful she was a super upbeat person who always looked for the positive in any situation so even after seven weeks in Hospice the amount of laughter coming from her room when the nurses and PSWs were attending to her was a joy to behold. The time spent in Hospice was an amazing experience, and not at all gut wrenching or traumatic, thankfully quite the opposite ❤
I just found your site and you are terrific! My best friend worked in hospice care and has opened my eyes to end of life care. To speak of it as a natural process has enabled me to talk to my family more easily about what may happen when I get nearer to that time in my life. I’ll keep watching you! (From this side!)
My aunt is starting this journey right now, or has been on it for several weeks already. I spend 6 hours a day with her, helping her eat, taking her outside into the sunlight, just being there providing companionship for those fleeting moments she is more lucid. Thank you so much for these videos... they are really, really appreciated.
I truly believe animals do not fear death. Danielle MacKinnon, an animal communicator, really does an amazing job explaining animals and dying. Her teachings brought me solace when I sent my beloved Oskar and Lacey home (over the Rainbow Bridge) together. 🌈💗
We lost our beloved 16 year old cat Tyler in 2021. Losing him was very very hard for all of us. His best friend Olive (also a cat), is now approaching 15. She's extremely bright and we communicate with her through tail wags, head shakes and eye blinks (and a bit of telepathy). Recently we were asking her if she missed Tyler. She communicated "No". I thought about it a bit and thought to ask her if she doesn't miss him because she still sees him. She communicated "YES!" and seemed so happy that I had figured that out. Through more questions and sleuthing we figured out that when she dreams, she can visit with any kitties who had passed on. I don't know exactly how that works, but it was really cool to know that she was able to be in touch with her beloved friends.
We have a winner for most moronic comment of the month! Of course animals fear death! Just go watch any of the thousands of nature videos where an animal is moving as fast as they can be it on land, water, or air to avoid a predator. They aren't playing a game of Tag; they know they will be eaten if they allow themselves to be caught. And the childish rainbow bridge story is so cringe that the writer won't even admit to writing it because they know how bad it is. Anyone who believes in the 3 abrahamic mythologies which predominate the west and mideast know that they are crystal clear that only humans are given "souls". Animals were just put here for us to eat and wear their fur. Obviously as an atheist I realized around the age of 6 that humans and animals didn't have souls but those with sufficiently advanced brains do have a consciousness. I am lucky that all the cats and dogs that I adopted in my life didn't die from being hit by cars or other accidents. I was able to take all of them to their vet to be put to sleep painlessly while I told them how much I loved them.
One thing we've started to do is bring dead pets back home so their siblings can say a final farewell and it really does seem to help them. They briefly groom their passed sibling and when all have said their goodbyes we take the dead one for cremation. The siblings don't spend any time looking for the passed pet, but they do seem sad for a day or two knowing they lost their friend.
Thankyou Julie - I am sure you are bringing comfort to a great many people through your honesty on this channel. Re 'visioning' - my mum died peacefully a few weeks ago. She was 92 yrs old and was widowed 7 years previously after a life-long happy marriage. Early in her wifow hood she told me she often wished she could dream about Dad - but to my knowledge only ever did so once. 2 weeks before she died she told me she had started to 'dream' about Dad as if he was with her and 'still alive' she said with a surprised smile! It was a tearful but happy and comforting visit - we will never forget it!
I am a dog sitter and when my brother was in his last day a little old lady dog came to stay with us. She walked into the house and took up a vigil at the foot of his bed. There she stayed for the next 36 hours. She would not move. When he passed it was during a brief nap I was taking in the afternoon. I woke from that nap with what I can only describe as a true feeling of awe. There are no words really. I walked out to the living room where he was and immediately knew he was gone and little Lacy came walking over to me. Her job was done and I’m forever grateful to that scruffy little angel. ❤
My Mom & her mother both spoke fluent Polish. Everyone in the home could tell when my Grandmother was on the phone because Mom's tone and demeanor instantly changed into sweet and super nice. When Mom was dying 15 years ago I was her caretaker during the day and one day as I'm sitting with her, Mom starts talking to an unseen person in Polish. I KNEW it was my Grandmother because of Mom's tone (and I can also speak some Polish). But Mom was carrying on a conversation with this unseen person. She would stop in mid-sentence when the other person spoke to her. This happened over several days. When Mom died....(there was almost always someone with her) Mom waited until she was alone for a few minutes....Mom was a private person and wanted to be alone when she passed. Spoczywaj w pokoju Mamo.
I learned a lot about the stages of dying from you. My mom is hospice in a nursing home w end stage Alzheimer’s disease. I’m always waiting for signs, but nothing yet. Thank you for talking about these patients…I feel some comfort from you. But my heart is breaking too😢
So sorry for you ...Alzheimer's is the worst ever. My family member had it. Lost the ability to communicate the last month. Two weeks before death I walked into the room to see my family member speaking to two people that I couldn't see. SPEAKING. .. but the language wasn't any I've ever heard before. I stood there just taking it all in. I knew I was witnessing a spiritual moment taking place. When it was over the inability to communicate had returned.
Thank you SO much for this video. My younger sister has Stage 4 breast cancer. She has told me twice now that she has felt someone nudge her on her shoulder. She’s lucid + communicates well. I’ve asked if she’s seen any of our deceased family members or any of her black Labs that she loved so much. “No not yet.” I know they’re around…I’ve prayed for them to be there for her when she passes.
Thank you for this wonderful info. My friend Sheila Shaw died and came back with afterlife story of meeting Christ who told her forgiveness and kindness are so important. Changed my life forever. Also, after my dear cat Boogie died, I woke up at 2am with her jumping over my head and running up and down the hall and then she disappeared forever. It was as if to say, "Look mom....I feel so good again!' I saw several other cats for a short minute after they passed. And your description of people before their passing is accurate with what I have witnessed. It is a miracle we live at all. Thank you again! ❤❤❤
I am forever thankful for hospice nurses for the care they gave our family, as well as my grandma, when she was dying. Educating us about the process helped so much. I was holding her hand when she passed. You never forget that.
When I was a CNA at a convalescent hospital, I saw the rally... Then a few hours before passing, she had the stare, but could verbalize what she was seeing... "God." With a smile I can only describe as beatific. I'll never forget it. My paternal grandmother told me that at her mother's deathbed, as she was passing she was greeted by her brother and his dog. ❤️
When my sister was dying a nurse told my mother she'd taken a turn for the better and would live. My mother went outside, dropped to her knees and thanked God for saving her little girl's life. When she went back in the hospital though a different nurse told her my sister had taken a turn for the worse and had just died. My mother still believed in God and spent the rest of her life believing that when she died God would let her be with her daughter again. One of my favorite quotes is from the beautiful book "Life of Pi" where Pi says of his experience of finding himself alone on a boat with a Bengal tiger in the middle of the ocean, "Solitude began. I turned to God. I survived.” I think that’s pretty much what my mother did and I think that’s pretty much the only way to deal with such a loss or with any great misfortune in life.
My husband also had the state and the beautific smile. He hasn't smiled in months due to advanced dementia, but he did so the day before he died. I was so astonished, I took a picture. His look was pure bliss.
My neighbor was 96 when he passed. He was quite active, always outside in his garden and pruning trees and bushes. Almost no maladies considering his age. One day we were having a conversation and he told me he saw his father with an angel. Fully described them as if they were standing right there. Kinda creeped me out but I forgot about it. He died like a week later in his sleep.
Thank you for explaining all this so well. I was at the hospital with my friend who had been taken off life support a few hours earlier. I had planned to stay there with him overnight so I headed home just to change clothes. While I was gone a very short time, that is when he died, and I have carried a heavy burden of guilt ever since, as I was all that he had and I left. Just as you said, he was one of those who was very private and liked his solitude. You have given me great comfort with this video. Again, thank you.
I’m a birth doula and midwives’ assistant and so much of what you talk about in the context of death, is applicable in the context of birth. I find it fascinating how the two really mirror each other in so many ways.
I agree. As my brother was taken to his home to pass, Hospice explained that he really couldn’t hear what we were saying, but just the muffled sounds of our voices. It reminded me of how a baby bears sounds in the womb. It made me feel better that he couldn’t actually beat us all talking about him and his health/impending death. I didn’t want him to hear all that. I just wanted him to be at peace to be able to pass peacefully.
As someone who is in the final stage of a lung disease , your videos are giving me a lot of easiness to what is to come . Thank you 😊
Wishing you peace, hope in eternity in God's arms, and all truth to be with you completely ❤❤😂
you are taking the next phase of your journey in the totality of your being and the universe. Wishing you ever peaceful path
Praise God,I will pray for you
You are in my thoughts
I wish you a peaceful transition, in the journey we will all be taking.
My grandmother decided she wanted a big 91st birthday party. She told everyone how lovely it had been to see them and what a privilege she had gotten to live so long but that this was her last birthday. Everyone kinda laughed it off. Three weeks later she found out she had colon cancer for a third time and she said 'I'm done, I'm ready to go home and see David', he was my grandfather who had died 20 years prior and she had missed him terribly. The next day she was in the active stages of dying. My favorite part of her story is how she woke up, twice, and said 'I'm not dead yet?!'
She was gone in an hour. Lovely woman who had 4 children, 9 grandchildren, and 7 great grandchildren. I miss her but know she is happily with my grandfather now ❤
My daughter was diagnosed with a quick growing tumor. Scheduled for surgery. A couple days prior her dog was very ill. Vomiting, having accidents in the house. She went outside and laid down. My son came over to carry her back into the house. He told the dog that now was not her time to go, her momma (my daughter) needed her. Four months later, my daughters surgery was successful, and she was finishing her chemo.She was cleared to return to work. Her dog passed away shortly after we got the news. She had seemed to rally and stayed while she was needed.
Wow. Compassion
Aw. So loyal.
Your daughter should check dr berg channel and guy tennenbaum survivor books.
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My youngest brother seemed to wait for me to leave so he could “exit”….
My cousin had a sweet dog that was always at her side. When she passed suddenly at age 16, the 9 year old dog laid down in her bed next to the fireplace. She refused to move, eat or drink. She passed 2 days later. They are buried together ❤️
I'm crying.
I have worked in EMS as a paramedic for over 40 years and have seen several patients doing exactly what you’re saying in this video. I remember transporting a patient in ambulance who was in hospice, to a scheduled medical appointment. While I was going over her paperwork, she was looking up, extending her arms and speaking to someone. I asked who she was talking to, and she said my father, look, he’s right there. To this day, I fully believe he was there getting her ready to go home.
Yes , This is NOT our home . Being with God for eternity is
Or maybe it was a demon taking on the appearance of her father.....
Wow. No clue why the algorithm kicked this to my home thread … memories of my mom’s last 36 hours flooded back not so much about her process but about the immense humanity and Love that the caregivers like Julie put into the world every day. It is a special calling and I’ll never forget the angel that was there for my mom in the last moments. She knew exactly how to be and what to do to shepherd Mom home❤❤❤
My dad was hospitalized for Pneumonia, and his kidneys were beginning to fail. He seemingly got better quickly, so my family told my husband I to go to Ohio for a visit with my mother-in-law. A few days later I was told that Dad was passing. The nurse asked if any family member was missing. My sister said yes, my baby sister is out of town. The nurse said that he was waiting on my return. We went and saw him straight from the Train station. I told him that I was back and that I loved him. The next morning he passed away. A couple of nieces spent the night in his room. They said that he sat up in bed, and was looking like he was shaking hands with people. He also said that he saw my mom who had passed many years prior. He died at the age of 91.
Thank you for sharing your experience.
Your videos are helping me be less scared. I am terminal liver patient who has chosen to forgo transplant and I am also 67 years old. I want someone younger to have the liver transplant as I have very low platelets and have come to terms with it.
God bless you. I have a friend who passed almost a year ago from cancer. She was 40 y/o with 3 small children. She had great faith and went through the battling, acceptance, and final journey home so gracefully. I have dreams of her every now again. The first was just a few days after her passing. She sat on my bed with me- it was so real. I told her that I couldn't believe she was gone. She smiled and told me, "But I'm right here silly". That was it; i truly feel like she was letting me know she was fine and still with us. Praying for you 🙏 ❤️
Lori, I hope you find peace on this journey. I find Julie's videos to be comforting, too.
Bless you beautiful soul. 💙🦋💙
Love and Light to you, Dear One. May His Blessings reign upon you
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It's going to be good, peaceful death, you will go on, you will meet again your friendships and family, your suffering will end and you will be free. We do not remember when our consciousness begin and it will probably be similar in the end. I hope we will meet on the other side, when I get there. I'd love to meet you.
What a Godsend you are, Julie. My daughter is in the last days and stages of life and I am not afraid, because you and our Hospice team taught me what to expect. Bless you!
I’m glad you’re able to be strengthened with Julie and the comments. She’s precious to me. You’re blessed to have the knowledge of knowing your daughter is about to pass. My daughter died in her sleep after we had spent the day together. We just made a new commitment to always be there for each other and then she was gone. I feel her with me now and she passed in 2010. Nothing can move her spirit out of its place in my soul. God bless.
I wanna wish you and your family comfort and many prayers during this time. 🙏
Love & prayers. 💚🙏
Sending Love and thoughts from England 💜🌹💜
Thank you. My daughter slipped peacefully away between breaths, so gently and pain-free. I am sad beyond belief but have such consolation that her death was nothing like what she feared it would be.
my dad and I walked around the hospital a couple of days before he died, he hadn't been out of bed for months, I will always have the memory of that last walk together, it was a gift.
That is a blessing….I have met so many sons and daughters that were at odds with their parents and/or never got a chance to make peace….❤
@@kmiller0402 I cannot make peace with a ****phile and his enabler. I am ok being "at odds" with them. I am at peace knowing they are nowhere near me and never will be again. I hope my Grandfather comes to get me. If that's real.
You will always have that. It was a gift for sure.
That’s love 💕
Beautiful
My husband passed at home on Hospice 6 months ago. He only was home for 3 days before he passed. As soon as he was brought in our dog jumped on his bed with him and pretty much stayed there till my husband passed. I have pics of them together during this time and the look on my dogs face says it all. He knew, no doubt in my mind he knew his master was leaving us. I still cry my eyes out looking at that pic. It's only been 6 months and we was married 30 yrs. I miss him more than I could ever say. Thank you for your videos....God bless
Dogs & other animals have a vastly better 'feel' than humans. Our dogs always KNEW when someone was terminally ill - It's the strangest thing.
My wife had what we call "A really good day". Ate soup, chatted and laughed etc. Passed away 2 days later. We had seen this in our pets before. The really good day is real.
What was unexpected was a few days after she passed I heard her in my head saying she loved me clear as a bell.
I had a strong presence of my mother in my room right after my father passed. I didn't see anything but felt the presence and said hi to her. She had passed a few mother before but I didn't feel anything until my father passed and at the time I didn't know he passed, found out the next day.
Some of the NDEs vids on youtube really explain pretty well what happens after we pass, no one wants to come back, here's some of the best to see: use quotes to get to the title
“Life After Death Experience (NDE) with Steve Gardipee, Vietnam War Story”
“Doctor Struck By Lightning; Learns The Secret Of Creation And Consciousness (NDE)”
“Famous Cardiac Surgeon's Stories of Near Death Experiences in Surgery”
“Lawyer Encounters Near Death Experience”
I felt my brother’s presence around me one day when I just couldn’t stop crying. I felt him literally supporting me from falling and telling me to let it out. It was so real. Is that his energy still here until he goes to his transition? I know I wasn’t imagining it. I’ve never felt that kind of energy around me before.
I visited my mom in the care center a few days before she passed. While I was there she kept looking out he room door and I asked if she was expecting someone. To my surprise she stated” Dad said he’d be by to get me. My mother was alert and oriented and Iasked her if she remembered that dad had passed on years ago to which she responded yes. Then she said well you better run along home and get dinner for the family. I kissed her goodbye and told her that if my dad said he’d be there to pick her up he would. She said she knew he would. That night she experienced a brain bleed and never regained consciousness and died about a week later.
That’s so interesting how we see this in pets as well. I hope you’re keeping well 🙏😊. Thank you for sharing.
The last 23 years of my law enforcement career was spent as a forensic investigator. In Canada all deaths re treated as a homicide until proven otherwise which means a thorough examination of scene, body and any witnesses including family. Having spoken with family and friends of the deceased I have observed many of the things you talk about. I was always there after the fact until the passing of my father. He was in his 80’s and had spent the last year in hospital. His last day my brothers, my mom and I stayed with him. He was lucid and talkative and it was a great day. Then he said something that jolted me. He said, I can’t wait to go home. I had heard that very thing from so many people in my investigations. We took turns the rest of the day going for something to eat, home to change, regular stuff. At midnight my brother took my mom home to get some rest. I stayed and sat by his bed holding his hand. One of the nurses came in and sat with me. My dad was sleeping but was squeezing my hand from time to time. I know the mechanics of death and thought it to be muscle contractions. His breathing became shallower and the nurse said that perhaps I should call my brother to bring my mom back. That’s when my dad squeezed my hand hard and said, no let her sleep. Less than a minute later he had passed. This was a great video. Thank you
Thank you for a beautiful story. Love is God and God is love.
Wow, thank you for sharing that. So he spoke that while still asleep? Was he a believer in Jesus?
Beautiful man, just beautiful. Thanks for sharing.
What a tender love your father displayed!!
Thanks for sharing. --WOW HE REALLY LOVED YOUR MOM❤❤
My mom was in hospice in June of 2021. She was only in for about a week and then passed away from cancer. I had gone to get coffee for everyone. When I came back, her cat, Chloe, walked up to her. My mom was laying on the floor. She would not get in a hospice bed so we made her a little area next to her recliner. I watched Chloe when she approached my mom. She looked at my mom, looked up in the air, looked back at my mom and walked away. I went over immediately and she had passed away.
PS: Chloe is safe and happy with my family in our home❤️
Omg....she saw your mother's soul as it left her body.
I am new to hospice but I have noticed that my cat seems to stay closer to me now Than before.
He also stares at the corner of my bedroom wall and will stay there as soon as I turn off the lights.
I Sure would like to see what he sees. He
Has become my reason for living since he was adopted and I would not
like him to feel alone and rejected again.
@@vals74 Prayers for you. I hope you have someone kind that will take him if you should pass.
@@vals74 Praying for you and your cat and that he will be at peace when you pass. I truly believe our cats know what's going on and can understand and see the things we do. ❤🐾🙏💙
You are so compassionate and unselfish. Your cat is so lucky to belong to you.
As a nurse who worked in hospice for 20 years, I can attest that these events Julie is describing happen all the time! Truly remarkable.💜
As someone who had a wonderful hospice nurse , I can only say you are wonderful people.
It moves me the loyalty of pets, in fact, it is a concern who will feed and care for my three spoiled cats and my dog when I leave this world. We don't have hospice here in Chile.
Thank you Julie. I was a Palliative Care nurse, so totally agree with you on all this. Re: Pets ... my Westie terrier used to come to work with me to a nursing home, (before my palliative stint) and was spot on in finding patients who were about to die. She would lie under the head of the bed, sometimes 2 days before, and stay there until the person died. Even if we moved that person to a quiet room, Missy would find them & go back under the head of the bed. She often stayed in the room afterward to 'comfort' the relatives. It was glaringly obvious that she saw this as her vital role.
My mom died a couple of weeks ago and she definitely experienced a "rally." On Saturday, she was up and about, laughing, eating and having fun with all of the family. We felt so encouraged and happy to see her back to "normal." Sadly, she passed two days later. I'm grateful that my siblings and I were able to have one beautiful final weekend with her, and then to be by her side when she took her last breath.
I too have a very similar story with my mom. It seems like it was a blessing that we were all there for her taking care of her end of life and making sure it was a smooth as a death can be.
Wow. Same here. She had been fading rather rapidly for about 2 weeks, then it appeared as is she was in a coma. Then all of a sudden she wakes up, and says she's hungry. What? And she really wanted a Diet Coke. We were elated and spent a day and a half laughing, joking, and reminiscing. At that point, I was sleeping on a pallet on the floor next to her bed. So a day and a half later she died. I woke up to her 'death rattle', and we were at ber bedside holding her hand. I sure wish I would have known about this rally. Thank you so much Julie for sharing!
Sorry for all your loved ones. I can attest that even pet cats have a "rally." I actually come to expect it nowadays.
Exactly the same with my mom. She was dying of congestive heart failure and living at her home while I cared for her. She mostly just slept and hardly ate toward the end. The morning, she died she was suddenly very aware and talking just like her old self. Within hours she went into heart failure and died that night at the hospital.
The best joke I ever heard was when me and a friend were visiting this very sweet elderly lady that we knew in the hospital, she had multiple health issues and could barely speak. My friend had known here for quit a while it was mostly us talking and her acknowledging what we were saying. she then motioned for us to get very close so she could tell us something she then said very softly "I am dying to get out of here" and started a soft choking , cackling but very robust long laugh. We had a good laugh with her and visiting hours were over. About six hours later she was gone.
That's rich! I'm going to try my best to remember to use that joke.
What a funny story. She was dying to get out of there. Very cool to hear she laughed and you💛
I wrote a book called "Two Minutes At The Gate" about my NDE when I was in a bad car accident at age 19. My wife is a nurse. I personally can say so much of what you say is so true. I love this channel thank you. The dying part is not fun. But I am not afraid anymore of what's on the other side. Be well friends, no matter what stage of life you're in. Peace. It's all temporary.
Where do I get the book?
Thomas Morelli You better be damn scared because you have been conned/deceived by a demonic spirit; it's an old trick of deception. Unless you have given your life to Jesus and been saved by his blood, anything you were told or shown came from a demon. This is one of the many tricks; it works brilliantly every time. Whatever your medical emergency was while you were out, they spoke right into your head and probably placed visions to make it so believable, but it's not real because it did not come from the Lord.
Demons only have one job and one job, which is to lead you to hell by deception, period. So I am sorry to tell you that you have been deceived. Jesus does not do NDAs, and nor do the angels. They do not have the authority to do that. The sad thing is, you probably won't believe what I am saying. If you are not saved and have no proper Biblical understanding of history, what really went on in this world, knowledge, or discernment of what is really going on in this world right now and how things work, then you are basically as vulnerable as a Ternip.
This woman in the video did not have an NDA, but they whispered into her head and convinced her, and now she is not fearful. The problem is they know she will come to TH-cam and tell people her story, which will validate someone else's story or convince someone not to worry and wa-la another soul off to the furnace. Do you know how many Christians fall for this? None, zero, nodda, because we know the truth, and when you are saved, they have no jurisdiction or legal right to do that to a spirit-filled (Holy Spirit)saved Christan.
Jesus will be back any day now, and if you are not saved when He gets here, you will be left behind for the coming hell-on-earth nightmare that is on its way called the Seven Year Tribulation Period/The Judgment of Man. Give your life to Jesus Christ, eternal life or eternal death. It's up to you. Time is short.
That could not have been alliterated any better…….❤
My husband didn’t have any of these. I was hoping to get more of a sense of the other side. I keep praying and looking for answers from God
My dad, who had emphysema really bad, he had died quite a few times and at the last minute he would somehow pull through.
I asked him in them moments did he see or hear anything...
Sadly he said no, I didn't he said it was black nothingness blind deaf and dumb, he would just wake up,
When my dad was in the hospital right before he passed away, I saw him counting something on the ceiling and when I asked him what he was doing, he said he was counting all of the humming birds up there💔. He was also,talking to some of his relatives who has passed away long before him. And yes, he got a spurt there for a night where he started eating again and that was it. He didn’t eat anything else and he passed away a few days later and I still miss him everyday🥺
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Just watched your video. As a retired nurse, I can relate to the signs you are educating everyone about. Patients knowing they are dying is so true. When I was first out of nursing school, working several 16 hr shifts in a row, I had a patient who knew. She was elderly and we did not think she was going to die. She begged me toward the end of one of my several 16 hr shifts to stay with her that she was going to die that night and did not want to be alone. I felt guilty about having to leave, but having a family at home waiting on me, I did not stay…..I was devestated when I got to work the next day and found out she had passed during the night…….I never had another patient ask for me to stay, but she taught me if one ever did, to listen and stay………..
Please don’t beat yourself up too much about this, after many 16 hour shifts caring for others you deserved a break, there is only so much you can do
I really enjoyed your piece on one of your cases that made you believe in the after life. I took my degree and Air Force commissioning papers to Tyndall AFB to learn how to fly. When I wasn't flying I spent my down time spear fishing. During a tournament I went a little to deep and ran out of air at 95ft. My training told me to drop everything including my weight belt and make an emergency accent. I drowned at about 20ft. below the surface which put water in my lungs. That saved my life. During my ride to the Navy base and while in a 20hr. chamber ride I had a near death experience. During that NDE so many things happened I could write a book. Other NDE survivors did write them and I read everyone of them. I didn't say anything to my bosses because they would probably not let me strap a $42 million dollar F-15 to my buttocks. Thanks for your insight into your hospice, you have a wonderful gift.
Nurse Julie, I just saw your video for the first time and want to thank you for what you do. I had an experience that has stayed with me for over 25 years, and now I can look back on it and see that it was something you have noticed , and that is very meaningful to me. My mother had been fighting cancer for several years but seemed to be doing fairly well until she rather suddenly got worse and was hospitalized. She had fallen into a coma when my family notified me to come home. I drove 8 hours to get there and was unconsolable sitting in her room sobbing while she lay unconscious. The doctors told me she would not wake up, but after a few hours she did, and for that day and the next I was able to talk with her and tell her I loved her and asked her to be there for me when I pass away. She said she would if she could. She died that night as my brother and I were spending the night in her room. He woke up and saw that she was gone and then woke me up. Now I am 80 years old and know that before too long I may see her again. You have given me hope that may happen. Thank you.
Why wouldn’t you see her again . Did she accept Jesus as her personal Savior . Are you Saved ? Ask Jesus into your Heart . I ask for a sign if my dad was in Heaven and I received one . I know 10000000 % God is Real
It would be better to show respect for her experience rather than making good use of it.
This may be a bit different but I think it will help some animal lovers like myself. My sweet cat contracted leukemia and spent alot of his time resting. One morning I woke up and saw this cat get up and jump over a small pile of clothes in the floor and into the living room. I remember being so happy and thinking that he must be feeling better. I got out of bed and that cat wad laying on that pile of clothes dead! I believe I actually saw his spirit/soul continue on as he died. It was beautiful and very comforting.
That’s amazing! I believe they’ll be there to greet us when we go!❤❤❤
Julie, are you still dating the new man?
Sorry but you're feline friend does not have a spirit that goes on.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. My 18 year old cat had been sleeping a lot more & slowing down, though there didn't seem to be anything really wrong with him. One night, I could not wake him up, and so I brought him into the bed with me. I was crying & holding him, pretty sure he was dying. In the morning, just as I was coming awake, I sensed him there next to me, up and awake, standing on the edge of the bed looking down at me. I was so thrilled that he was okay, that I said out loud, "Oh I'm so glad you're better!" and as I did I sat up and the blanket fell away to reveal him there, passed. I am sure he was there, his little soul, waiting for me to wake up to say goodbye. Still miss him. Love & peace to all.🙏
Two different times in my life I woke up and petted my dogs .one used to come up every night for a goodnight pet .it happened again after she died.it did NOT feel like a dream.a few months ago I was dead asleep and I HEARD my mom's voice just say my name,urgently.right by my ear .it was so audible,I sat up,wide awake.people will say these are just dreams,but I dream a lot,and these were different.
Mother passed away on July 5 of 1998. A few days later my brother handed me this young plant she had on the porch. I had to laugh. It was the most hideous thing I’d ever seen. It’s stems were hairy and it looked like it could grow into something monstrous. Mother had such a sense of humor and loved entertaining the grandkids. I thought surely she’d bought this plant for a joke. I took it to work and pretty much neglected it. My coworker admonished me, telling me to water it, that it would be a beautiful plant. I couldn’t believe the thing could ever be anything but unsightly, but I began taking care of it. Nearing the anniversary of Mother’s passing I prayed to see a sign that she was happily in a better place. I went home from work that weekend. I had to admit the plant had pretty leaves. After the holiday weekend I returned to work to find that the plant had four little white flowers. They were all facing my desk. I was a bit awestruck. I asked my coworker when she thought it bloomed. “Yesterday…July 5th.” One year to the day after Mother passed. One little white flower for each of her four children.
That's amazing.
Following back surgery, my 81 year old husband was transported by ambulance to rehab, a 2 hour drive. My drive back took much longer as I had to take a different route. He was settled in although he had refused food. We had a good chat, he sent me off for food and rest. Within two hours he went into cardiac arrest. A friend pointed out that he had waited until he knew I was safely home to let go. It was comforting to hear her thoughts. It is what he would have done.
Thank you for this. When my great grandfather passed away he was in high spirits, he looked good, we expected him to be out of the hospital and back home. He had been in ICU after a 6th heart attack in his life. He was in recovery, talking, laughing, making jokes and eating well and just looked like he was ready to be home. We got a call the next morning that he had passed and it just didn't make sense to me. "The rally" explains this so well and it has given me a lot of closure on his passing from close to 30 years ago. So thank you again.
I think My Papa somehow knew his time was coming. He was perfectly healthy but died suddenly from an annurism. He was getting my Granny a cup of coffee in the kitchen and just collapsed. During the last few weeks before he passed, he changed the oil in their cars, fixed a few things around the house that needed repair, and went and had dinner with my aunt at her house (which he rarely liked to do). He even painted all the outdoor furniture! It was like he knew he was leaving soon and wanted to make sure my Granny would be ok after he was gone❤💕
I was an RN for 20yrs, worked mostly night shifts. I worked a few yrs in nursing homes, usually rehab side. Anyway, yes I witnessed everything you talked about except the animals because none around. Interesting stuff. In 20+yrs, I've never met another medical professional that experienced the same, or viewed it as you described. Except for waiting for family to say goodbye, that ive heard. Their first & only thought when they're talking to someone is they're having "hallucinations". No, they're not. There are ppl there to take them home. Very comforting to know.
Within 72 hours of my mother passing from lung cancer, she was in ICU. She began speaking in her native language of Tagalog and was laughing It appeared that she was focusing in on something at the end of her hospital bed. Most likely departed loved ones. She was laughing as she spoke. I don’t speak Tagalog and wished I knew what she was saying. I miss her dearly. She’s been with the Lord for 10 years now.
My neighbor was Filipina and had an aggressive brain tumor at the end of her life. She kept seeing women dressed in the old Filipina dresses of the 1900s, all in white. She'd talk to them and laugh but was upset they wouldn't come over closer to her. I feel they were calling her home.
Thank you so much for this. I wanted to ask something. Thirty years ago I worked in spiritual and religious care with seniors. One resident with Alzheimer’s Disease was dying. I was bedside a lot as she was in distress. She was Latvian I think and had been in a Soviet gulag. She was in hell. Somehow her brain had taken her back to the gulag and she was terrified. She had lost her English and we had no one who could speak Latvian. Sitting with her I felt her terror and the room felt strange, like there were unfriendly “spirits” there. Have you heard of something like this?
Mahal Kita, Sugat Sugat!! 😅
Yes she is with Jesus . She is home now . Was she speaking in tongues maybe ?
My mother passed away a month and a half ago, she was on hospice. I just want to thank you and all the hospice nurses out there. You all are incredible and so thankful for what you all do. Wish I would have seen your channel when my Mom was going through all the phases. Watching you now and everything you are talking about, my Mom went through. Again, thank you all for your care and compassion for our loved ones.
My wife was a hospice nurse for several years and I also had 20 years experience in healthcare at that time. We were present when my father died at home from pancreatic cancer. Neither one of us had ever experienced anything like it. He had been too weak and sick to raise his head for 2 weeks, unresponsive for a few days. It was a beautiful morning and the sun was on his face from the east window when he suddenly sat up in bed, opened his eyes and pointed at the windows and clearly spoke a few words in a language I've never heard. He never spoke any second language before that moment. He took a deep breath and slowly lowered himself back in his bed as he let out his last breath and was gone. Strangest thing I ever saw and wouldn't believe it if I hadn't been there and witnessed it with my wife. I have to admit it kinda shook us up in more ways than just losing a loved one.
My mom has an 8 year old dog that started demising along with her (she is in hospice with advanced breast cancer) and thank you for your videos
When my dad passed away, his cat howled for almost a week and would only sleep on my dad's night-robe that my mom would put on the couch for him. This same cat also was very close to my parent's Dalmatian dog and when she died, the cat howled and was depressed for weeks. So yes! Animals can be very in tune with our spirits! Thank you so much for your videos! :)
Sweet cat. I love animals so much.
My mom passed away on February 1 of this year. I truly believe she picked the date. Her wedding anniversary was January 31, my birthday was February 2 and I was retiring on February 3. The Monday before her passing she told my sister that our dad came to see her. I knew then she would be leaving us soon. She made sure that it wasn’t on one of those special days. I miss you Mom 💔
I believe she wanted her passing to be on her own special day. Prayers of peace and comfort for you. ❤🙏💙
I believe she chose her date too -that was very kind of her
My father-in-law passed the day after my husbands birthday.
My husband told me later that when he was alone with him (huge family, no one would leave) he asked his Dad “dad please don’t die on my birthday” ❤️
Also, there were many people with him all the time.
The hospice nurse told all of that we need to all leave the room and let him be alone now and then.
My SIL insisted on staying by his side.
We finally got her to go for a walk and she was venting and upset that she was told to leave the room.
I told her maybe your dad wants to die alone,
forward the next day…everyone was going home to shower ect, my 2 SIL ( not the one who wouldn’t leave but 2 other ones) slept there that night.
Very early the next morning she called me and my husband crying saying she thinks he’s gone.
We lived literally around the corner, I told my husband to shower (he was anxious to go) that it may be the only time today he’ll get a chance to.
I went up, my sister in laws were afraid to go up to him. So i did and put my face close to his and I wasn’t sure either until I put my finger under his nose and felt no breathing.
We know he decided to get the heck going before the whole crew showed up again!! ❤️
Sorry for the long post!!😯 thank you Julie!
I’m sorry about your mom. I lost my own on 2/13 of this year.
I'm sorry for you loss, but glad for the comforting events. That was thoughtful of your mom. My grandmother died on my mom's 61st birthday. There was precedent though. The day my mom was born, her great-grandmother died. My grandmother was especially close to HER grandma. And my mom's dad died on my 7th birthday.
When my wife was passing our chihuahua was always under the blanket. I found it kind of strange because we had just got her shelter about 3months prior. And to be more strange she passed away about 7 months later in the same exact spot under the blanket. And always remember how much they both loved each other.
That is so sweet, thank you for sharing. Please accept my condolences💙🙏💙
They went “together” how loving
I was an RN in a long term facility for many years. And I heard many stories, which I’ll convey when I remember them more clearly. One story I do remember is about an elderly fellow that kept asking people for a dime. When asked why, he replied that he needed to call his wife. The caregiver then remarked that his wife was deceased. He ignored her and kept insisting that she was waiting for his call. Finally one night someone gave him a dime for his , “phone call.” He was dead in the morning.
That's wild my great grandma road the busses all the time they cost a dime in that time she had a little tin from Limon drink powder she save the dimes in. I had it for many years after she died. I find dimes everywhere now in places that don't make sense. My grandmother her daughter us🎉to say I'll give you a shiny penny if you go to sleep, or a penny for your thoughts I find pennies too in the odd places. My grandparents raised my sister and I. I miss them all so much.
You’d think they’d have given that person a dime just because they thought she needed it. It’s very sad that someone ‘finally’ gave it to her. Brushing her off wasn’t kind. I wish the first person she asked could have done that. It’s about more than humouring someone elderly. I find that incredibly sad. It turned out to be her final wish - it wasn’t a lot to ask for. 😢
@@possumbold Hopefully we have hearts that hear when say something... Good point to truly listen to ..💛
Hi Julie. I'm a nurse and have seen some of the things you talked about. But there was one thing you said that brought me great comfort. One time I had agreed to cover for another nurse at her clinic on my day off. Shortly after clinic opened I got a call from my mom to tell me that the nursing home had called to say that her aunt, who was like a third grandmother to us, had taken a bad turn and was actively dying. I was so distressed that I couldn't be with her. I cherished her and although she was over 100 years old, she had been fully cognizant until this day. My mom and another relative stayed as long as they could but had to leave - I think too stressful for them. They got a call as they arrived home informing them that Aunt Ellen died just minutes after they left. I've felt guilty about this ever since but hearing from you that some folks want to die alone was very comforting and would certainly have made sense for this unmarried but beloved member of our family. TY for this video.
Is it they want to die alone or don’t want their loved ones to see them pass? Maybe they don’t want that to be a memory for them.
@@lauramartinez7057 very possible. She always thought of others.
I was particularly touched by what you said about animals. My mom's cat, Max, was particularly close to her. In the last 2 weeks of her life, he would stay right by her side with his head on her shoulder. He would leave for short periods of time to use the potty box and to drink or eat, and then he would immediately go back to her side. If we tried to take him away, he would cry. My sister and I took turns staying overnight, and then we would give my dad one night by himself. It was the night that neither my sister or I were supposed to be there. When I called to check and see how Mom was doing. My sister told me that her breathing had changed somewhat, it was more shallow and a little quicker, but there was no death rattle. She mentioned that something odd was happening with Max. That he was not jumping up on the bed to be with her, and was just laying under the bed. My sister said that even if they put him on the bed, beside her, he would jump down. I decided I was going to go that evening though I had not planned on it. I noticed that Mom's breathing had changed slightly, and she was quite warm from the fever. My dad had gone to bed, and I got up about 3:00 in the morning to go to the bathroom. I swabbed her mouth because it was so dry, and changed the cool cloth on her forehead. I talked to her and told her it was just the two of us, and that if she was ready to let go she could. I assured her that I would take care of whatever needed to be taken care of, and make sure that my dad was okay. I went to lay down on the couch beside her hospital bed, and I heard the change in her breathing again. I went to her bedside and held her hand and comforted her as she left this world. The only regret I have, is wondering if I should have gone and woken my father when I noticed that it was right at the end. I did not want to risk that the moment she passed on, she would have been alone. I wanted her transition to be calm and comforting. And it happened so fast - literally between when her breathing changed, and her last breath was about a minute. It has been 19 years since mom passed away, and there are times when it feels like it was just yesterday. Thank you to the people who have read the long-winded posts I've made. I hope that they bring comfort in some way to someone who may need it. I'm so grateful to have found hospice Julie's posts. They have been extremely helpful in both understanding what has happened in the people's lives who have passed, and also helping me to face my own fear of death.
You did the right thing, Pamela. I believe there was some reason she just wanted you beside her at the end. My condolences. The love of our parents never leaves us🙏💕
I agree you did the right thing. You never left her side ❤
Thank you
@Pamela Rusch,
Thank you for sharing your story. Reading about other caregivers taking a break, and patients who choose to die alone is very helpful.
Bless you and thank you for your well written 'long winded' post.
I am twice a widow and both husbands seemed to linger until I came back into the room before a faint squeeze of my hand and passing on. It is a sad but sacred moment and I have always felt honoured to be with someone's passing. I remember two pets who seemed to wait until I came back to pass in my hands. Heartbreaking, but knowing they did not die alone is comforting.
You must have very tender, loving hands - able to communicate comfort.
@@jennyrenken8451 Thank you for your kind words. Be well!
Your hands sound lethal
@@bluedeemster3259 ...and what are you implying?
I agree with Jenny Renken, and cannot understand how the other commentors can be so heartless!
I came to my Great Aunt’s bedside, she was the only Grandma my brother and I ever had. By the time I got there she had lost her sight, my cousin told me but my Aunt kept saying how glad she was that I came even though she couldn’t see me. Sweetie is dying and she’s asking how my husband is. So loving I had to try not to lose it. She asked me to lay with her, she was cold as her body temperature kept changing. Warmed up she told me it was ok to get up. I raised up to face her and she was so excited because she could see me. She kept repeating she could see me describing the top I was wearing. How is it that’s she’s dying and I feel special?? Yes, amazing things can happen. Something I hope people here read, maybe you can do a video about it? For us not afraid to be with someone dying. I think it’s important we show up because the elderly have a lot people that may not be able to visit. And then there are family and friends that don’t feel they can handle it. I’ve noticed with some deaths I’ve had in my life, not all, few people will show up to visit the dying and after they all show up to comfort the family after. When I show up of course it’s because I want them to know I love them and care but I also feel like I’m standing in for all the people that can’t come. Does that make sense?
That is so kind of you. You have a special heart ❤️
Yes, I think there are certain people who are given the talent and ability to be with people who are dying. I cherish that ability and have helped several loved ones transition to the other side.❤ it has been my honor and I have been blessed with such great joy to be with the dying. You are doing a great service to the family members who don’t have that ability.
Yes, that makes sense. You'll be rewarded in Heaven for being so kind and selfless.
My mom didn’t have a rally… for the month I lived with her in hospice, mostly when it was the 2 of us, she would say there were beautiful orbs flying around the room.. she would say I was her angel all the time.. call out to me all hours of the night and say I was her angels.. during the day she would say, did you see that.. did you see the orbs just buzzing around?? .. of course I saw nothing but she said they were only there when I was there.. and always me being her angel.. it was a very interesting experience.. and now my husband is dying of colon cancer.. he plans on staying home, so I am his main caregiver.. we live where a lot of things aren’t really offered for help.. so I do this mostly alone.. watching and listening to you Julie, has been soooo very helpful! I wish I had all this knowledge when I had to watch my sister pass away from pneumonia.. thank you so much for all this help!!! ❤
I saw rallying several times with my wife and I saw my Gauthier reach for thevheavens and a beautiful smile.Karen went peacefully with all of us there. I had just finished singing to her and she was gone.but I never thought my singing was that bad smiles thankyou😊❤
My husband is in hospice care now, he has GBM. Tonight he told me there were 2 men who come into our room to see him. Something to do with clothes. I feel (intuitively) that his cancer is progressing rapidly now. His speech and cognition are changing daily, its very hard to understand what he’s talking about so I go with it , he doesn’t get upset that way. Thank you for all the information and understanding. Hospice has given a great deal of comfort and support. You are very special ❤
When my mom was dying, the hospice info we got told of the dying person going over their lifetime; also "seeing" people they had problems with in their lifetime and resolving those problems. My mom was in
a seemingly unconscious state, coming to every now and then to say things that didn't make sense to us. I wish I had written it all down - one thing I do remember she said was that her computer was going too fast. She had never been around computers-she was 87 years old. She died on my birthday when I had gone to the drugstore to fill her prescription.
The last thing my brother said to me was they’re coming to get me now.
A friend whose daughter was dying of cancer told her mom there were two men in suits who told her she would have to go with them.
@byrdie What is GBM, and did he pass?? 😢❤💝
@@cerorchid glioblastoma multiforme, an incurable form of brain cancer. I lost 3 siblings to it.
Oh, and he promised me he’d come back to tell me if there was another “side” if it was possible. And he did! Some weeks later he appeared in a dream. Rattling keys! I turned to look and he was sitting on fence, looking healthy and happy! Smiling his biggest smile! Nodding his head as if to say “I told you I’d let you know!” I woke up abruptly and felt comforted.
That's so beautiful! Thank you for sharing 💙🙏💙
My Dad promised me the same thing. He passed 13th September 2018.
8th November 2018 he came to me in a dream. I jumped over the coffee table to see him! I asked him if he made it to Valhalla, was it just as beautiful as we had hoped and he said "You're going to love it!"
I love reading your stories everyone. I keep hoping I will get some kind of sign or dream of my husband of 46 years who passed away on March 17. He had been in the hospital until the night before he passed, and was moved to a hospice where he passed that Friday morning about 10:25AM. I am most sorry that he passed alone. I was planning to bring his dog to visit him that afternoon, but I guess my husband didn't want to wait. I buried him on the 23rd. I was hoping to see some sign at the cemetery, he loved blue jays and cardinals, I thought if I saw one it would be his sign to me, but nothing so far.
WOW
i can not express how precious your videos are . thank you so much. when I was young, I had a friend in the age of 66. one day he came to the hospital. another friend and I went for a visit and we could not believe what we were seing . he looked 20 years younger, a pink smooth skin like a baby , shining and laughing with big eyes. from somewhere I heard it would be called Angel-Face immediateely before dying . I could not understand the situation , thought he never looked better and healthier and would leave the hospital soon. we never haver have seen him again. he died the next night . till today I was looking for the word Angel-Face . nothing found . does anyone know about ? is it what you call Rallye ? thank you very much !
YES! Mom had a sudden brain event - maybe a stroke- and was totally incoherent. Brought her back from the hospital to the medical unit at her retirement community, and she was out of it. In the afternoon, my brother arrived. She then had a window of lucidity for about 3 hours. Perfect, loving conversations with family and friends. She then drifted back into the coma, but didn't "leave" while everyone was there. The last person left the room and within 15 minutes she passed. Thanks for this video!!!
Thank you Julie. A blessing indeed 🌻
One day when my dad as he was dying from stomach cancer, he said he was seeing and talking to all our family members and friends that had died. He even asked if my sister and I could see them. He was also telling us what they were saying and gave us messages from them. I wasn't sure if he was hallucinating or not at the time. Well, after watching this video, I now know that they were all really there! Thank you, Julie!!
So true ... my mom was dying of uterine cancer .. was on morphine, and was 95% deaf when it got close, my sister called all 6 of us to come.. all did except my brother Peter who was too upset .. when he finally came my sister said "mom Peter is here" ... she sat bolt upright with her eyes closed and said "Peter".. with no hearing aid in to hear my sister tell her ! Beautifully amazing .. and that night there were only 3 of us there while mom was actively dying. At 11 pm my two sisters said to let them know if anything hapened .. I took first watch. I started dozing off later.. at 11:50 I heard her 'sigh' .. she was gone. I believe the angels came to get her as soon as we were all quiet. I have heard so many people say the same thing :) thanks for your show ... it helps give people closure. God bless !
My Dad was seeing our mom who preceded him in death by 3 yrs. He was in a nursing rehab and 3 weeks before he passed he kept telling us Mom would be in the hall, stop by the door and wave to him but wouldn't come in. Then the day he passed she was with him in the he room when we were there with him. He died a couple hours after he told us she was there with him. ❤️🙏
Your mom was there . This is not the Real World but , black and white. We all go home . Believe in Jesus as your personal Savior
Hi Julie, my parents both went through visioning in a way it made it easier for me because they were very happy during that time, thank you love from the UK x
I believe the more we listen to these facts and experiences, the less we are afraid of dying. Thank you again for comforting this 76 yr old gal . Blessings, Nancy, Leland, N.C.
You mentioned that you were interested in hearing about experiences with animals and the different ways that they may act when they are ready to pass on. This is nothing in the “off the charts” category, but it really touched me. My cat of 17 years had been sick and back-and-forth to the veterinarian. Deep down, I knew his days were numbered, but I was in denial, and selfishly kept trying to take various measures to keep him alive. Even the vet herself tried to tell me that it was time. I had a very close bond with him. One day near the end, when he & I were sitting on the couch, I had my arm around him as usual, he turned his head and looked me dead in the eye in a way that I had never seen before. I knew instinctively what he was trying to convey, which was that it was time. I could absolutely see it in his eyes. I will never forget it. I tried to get him to do it again because it was so beautiful, but he only did it the one time. Not long after that, I brought him in to do the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life. You think you won’t survive it, but you do. My experience has been that both pets and people that have passed on come and have dream “visits” with me on & off for several months. Then it suddenly stops and they don’t visit anymore. It’s actually very interesting and amazing.❤
It was 5am in the morning when my Dad's breathing pattern changed. I slept next to him all night in a big recliner. I got my mom who was in the next room & we just stayed w him. Finally at 6:19, I stepped out to get a coffee and at 6:20 he transitioned. They told me, he waited till you left the room. The entire 3 and a half weeks of my father's dying, and that last 48 was THE most profound spiritual experience I've ever had. I was profoundly changed. Thank you for your video..
my mother died in a hospital ER a couple of years back. i went with in the ambulance and remained with her. after about 2 hrs, the medical staff were making arrangements for surgery & retting ready to move her to theatre. with that i told her i would leave for home & collect things for her for her hospital stay - and i would be back in about 3hrs (after surgery would have been completed). within 10 minutes of leaving i got a call to return to the hospital as she had "taken a turn for the worse". i was told she went into cardiac arrest within 5 minutes of me leaving. i was plagued for a long time, always thinking if i had just stayed for a little longer I could have been with her to the end. i was told some time later, many people hang on to life until their loved ones had left the room, in order to spare them the trauma of witnessing their death. almost the same happened with an aunt. her son was with her at the hospital, then her daughter called from hong kong. at that point her son went downstairs for a cigarette while his mother was on the phone to his sister. within minutes of the end of the call, she died.
Do you ever talk about what happens immediately after the patient dies? What you do, what experiences have you had? What the body does, etc?
I am on hospice, and I have shared your videos and the shorts with my family. I can not even begin to tell you how helpful they have been. So, Thank you for all your information. Thank you for this channel I think you're doing such a great job! Best of all, I think you're helping by removing, or assisting with removing the fear of the death process, and what happens when that time occurs? Thank You Julie! I want my death to be 'celebrated as a time of graduation, or moving on' and although yes, there will be sadness, I have already seen a change in the views of death from my family. You're doing a great job. I have an excellent hospice team, whom I have grown to love. (It's only been a short time) but I feel like you are an active member of my team. Thank you Julie. Keep it up, our culture needs this education! ❤️
I hope your journey is a comforting one.
Thank you @mysti tin! You too are doing us all a great favor in sharing your thoughts. I hope your journey will be even better than you’ve planned for. ❤
Thank you for this!
My mom had dementia and was in her last stages. She was staying with us. I was by her side for weeks thinking any minute she would pass. The hospice lady said she thought she was waiting for me to leave but I could bear the thought of her dying alone. She said mom's especially want to know their kids are OK before they pass and often want to protect them and pass when they are not in the room.
After almost 6 weeks of staying by her side, I was so exhausted I was concerned I was going to pass out. So I went to lay down in my bed for a little bit. 20 minutes later I went into her room, and to my horror she had died! I was so angry and disappointed with myself for not staying with her. I felt I abandoned her. All the talk about her waiting till I was gone was no consolation. She had always been there for me (and the rest of our family) and I had failed her. She died alone and I didn't want that for her. She deserved a beautiful processional.
Well, it has been years. I have heard this story numerous times in different settings and even counseled others when it was their loved one's time. But I still held onto my pain - it was one of my biggest regrets in life. Made me sick every time I thought about it.
But somehow tonight, on the eve of Easter, and maybe because the passage of time, hearing you share these ... I felt myself really letting go and accepting that my sweet mom was probably doing just exactly that. She always took care of everyone and everything. Then she took care of herself. She waited until she had seen all her important family and friends, all her children and hosts of grandchildren were snuggled in bed and while everyone was good ... she took her heavenly father's hand and is now dancing on the streets of heaven. ❤
I can't thank you enough for sharing these little nuggets. What a sweet blessing it has been for me. ❤
Happy Reserection Day!
Diana Carr.... Though you weren't with her, she wasn't alone. Her "people" were waiting for her and she needed/wanted to join them while you weren't in the room. She looked in on you before heading on.
When my family member passed my children each individually experienced a ""visit" that even their animals "watched". happen.
Oh, yes. My husband had visions and reaching. Very comforting. ❤
That happened with my mother. The day before she died, she came back to us and chastised us for crying. She was hospitalized for 9 days and died and the 10th. I live in Europe. I was on my way to the airport when I got the news. My niece is the spitting image of me. I am in my 50’s and she is 31. I was my mother’s caregiver for 7 years. I wouldn’t have changed that for the world. When my niece entered the hospital room, my mother saw her and said “Oh, Nanny, you’re here” and she smiled and then passed. It still amazes me. Two days after her death, I was in the car and her favorite song came on the radio. He favorite song was a TANGO from the 1930’s named “Por Una Cabeza (by a head- a song about a bet on a horse race where the horse won by a head). The song was played on a top 40 station. The DJ said it was requested? It is a Spanish song. My mother, was PR. I stopped on the side of the road and just cried. A policeman stopped me and asked if I was crying. I answered “A little bit”. I told him what happened and HE started to cry with me. I know that was ALL my mother’s doing. EVERY bit of it. I needed to know she was still with me, and now, I have my answer. I’ve had many other episodes like this one but I thought I would share that one, given the topic of this video. Thank you for sharing, Julie. It is FAB to know that you guys see this, too! You’re angels on earth 🌍….❤❤❤❤
My Nan experienced 'The Rally'.......she had the best day, she had had in months - sat up chatting, writing in her diary, the next day she was put on morphine via a drip & within 2 days she had passed............moments before her last breaths, she partially sat up, looked towards the bottom of her bed (so did the cat), she smiled, laid back down & passed, it was beautiful to see, as we all knew that was her husband, that had come for her
Thank you for your informative videos - im learning so much xx
My momma did all these things my dad was the first one to come see her. She saw all of her relatives that had passed away. Before she passed away. I could see her talking to them and talking to Angels. My little poodle Buffy could see them as well. It was one of the saddest things I've ever done. But it was also one of the best things I've ever done!! helping my momma go to heaven! I miss her every day it's been 23 years. I miss my dad as well I know she's with him. He came for her first. I enjoy your videos. see you in the next one
My dog is currently dying and a couple of days ago, she just kept looking through me to the corner of the ceiling in our living room. I was hand feeding her at the time and she would not turn her head to me. She just kept staring at the ceiling, but like she was definitely seeing something. I told my son she must be seeing our other dog who dies a few years ago. I watched my mom do the same thing when she was dying and I love that my dog is doing it too ❤️
My mother passed tonight. It was a difficult week, but you helped us along. I greatly appreciate what you do.
Just had a close friend who died. I visited him in the hospital about two weeks before and although he was in very bad shape, I did not expect him to die so quickly. Neither did the nurses or doctors. He did have a "rally" when I came back again the next day, laughing and joking. Now that I've watched your video, I can see him making the choice to go, although I will never know. Your video really helps in explaining the process. As an animal lover, I wept when you talked about how animals behave with their dying owners. The bond of love which animals can share with humans is truly profound and beautiful.
My sister opted for M.A.I.D and she didn’t want any of us there. Not parents, her best friend, no one. The cat was not having that. He sat on her lap the entire time. 💖 Damn, I love that cat.
My deepest condolences to you for your sister passing. You must have an amazing family to let her pass with dignity & the way she wanted. The cat knew, that's why it stayed with her 💙
Please elaborate on M.A.I.D.,, thank you, God Bless
@@aletaboyette9634 oh yes, in Canada we call assisted death M.A.I.D. It stands for medically assisted induced death I think.
@@nicolepayne721 thank you!
Thank you for posting this. Your videos are helping me prepare for a coming devastating loss.
I experienced visioning during my near-death experience when someone tried to murder me. A bright white light appeared to me my living room, up by the ceiling and it communicated with me. It could not have been more loving and compassionate! I'm so glad you're talking about this because I'm so damn sick and tired of people calling me crazy as a way of invalidating me.
Read "Imagine Heaven"
So glad you survived, and are able to share your experience with others! ❤️🙏💞🪶
I believe you, and I'm grateful you're still here. Thank you for sharing that with us. That's lovely, and provides hope for me when it's my turn to go home. God bless💛
I believe you! thank you for sharing this experience it's so important!
Reckon you have been talking to the wrong people. I'm so glad folks are now talking about this stuff. To me it is wonderfully comforting.
Thank you Julia. Your videos have given me so much peace. I am not at the end of life so you have given me what to look for. Thank you ever so much. Hope when it is you time it will be very peaceful. Love to you and your family.
Thank God for Hospice Nurses! You are truly the best of the best!
Julie, I am STUNNED! What you described about the-end-of-life, is EXACTLY what happened to my wife, who passed away from breast cancer, at our home. While on the hospital's radiation table, and when the technician was temporarily called-out of the room, my wife later related to me that her grandmother appeared to her, at the foot of the radiation table, about 5 or 6 weeks before my wife passed away. On my wife's last day of being coherent and conscious, my wife and I were sitting together, doing billing for her hospital care, and my wife was DOING JUST GREAT that day!! Her mother came into our room, watched her daughter for a few minutes, and tears started to well-up into her eyes. I excused myself from my wife, and I talked with her mother, who was a Minister's wife, outside of LaDonna's room. LaDonna's mother said to me, "Ron, you don't see it do you?" "See what?", I asked. LaDonna's mother replied, "Ron, I have seen this before. LaDonna is most likely having one last WONDERFUL DAY, here on earth!" It was TRUE! LaDonna refused to eat that evening, and went into a deep comma later that night. Early in the morning, 3 days later, she passed away. That was 29 years ago. I have NOT been able to stop crying ever since my wife's passing. Oh, how I SO want to be with her!! Julie, your description about the end of life STUNNED ME!! IT is EXACTLY HOW IT HAPPENED! ...and even the 'REACH' that you talked about, happened to my wife's Grandmother, when she IMMEDIATELY then passed away, thereafter,...as related by my wife's mother! Your talk portrayed how two women died in the manner, EXACTLY as you described, at the time of their deaths! WHOA!! UNBELIEVABLE!!
I'm very sorry for your loss.
A blessing you are indeed, Nurse Julie. A retired general practice RN with several decades of service mostly with geriatrics, I believe Hospice care is the best thing since sliced bread. Honestly.
About 2 weeks before my dad died of colon Ca, he saw and talked to his brother who had died in WWII in a B-26 crash. Dad had Hospice care and the family declared y’all were all angels -something I already knew😉
A few months prior, after my sister arrived at mom’s hospital bedside as she was dying (I was a post-op patient down the hall from her; I wagged my IV pole back and forth to her room, but so glad I could be there!) we noticed Mom seemed to be resting comfortably with eyes closed and regular breathing, just enough MS04 for comfort; so I gently squeezed her hand and softly said “Mom, it’s okay to go. We’re both here, and your daddy is waiting.” (Her beloved dad had died when she was only 6 years old.) Remarkably, as if she was just waiting for the cue, about 30 seconds later she took a deep sigh - and that was it.
Again, thank you for what you do. I will definitely want Hospice one day❤️
As a former Hospice RN, and a family member of a parent, you are 100% correct in these “stages”. My Dad did the “rally” a day before he passed.
True! Pets are often very cognitive & intuitive of death of their owners even if your just ill for a few days! Great videos, Julie! More people need to be AWARE of what great benefit hospice is in the dying process. Thank you!
This really helped me understand, and the whole process of dying seems to show me it’s a peaceful transition, my father died when I was 12 had bad heart, but the day before he did special things with each of us children I always thought he must have known, and now I understand he did. Then my mother died several years later at her bedside at her last moment I saw her look up I said what do you see, she looked up again seemed happy and that was last moment. I now have peace about their last moments and that is a priceless gift thank you.
My grandfather said that he saw his childhood best friend (who has been dead for many years) walking by the window. He actually got up to chase after him. He passed away a few hours later that night, at home in his bed. My mom was in the hospital and looking at a very specific point in the room she started talking to someone, inviting them to come closer. From the way she talked and the words she used I know it was my father. She also passed away that night in the early morning hours.
I miss my family so much, but they're all gone now.
My condolences
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But their together.
No doubt, you will see them again.
I often think of this old guy from our church, 99 years old. He was actually coherent and walked with a cane. No joke, he was fully cognitively sound. The big ongoing thing was everyone insisting he makes it to 100. He also told us that was his goal. He does make it to 100 but at the 100th celebration he informs us that his goal was to 'be 100'. To 'make it to 100' meant, in his definition, he had to live out 100 and then told us therefore the real milestone is actually 101. (then he will have accomplished 100).
Everyone enjoyed that and sure enough at 101 we had a bigger thing and congrats because everyone remembered the idea.. he was to live OUT the 100th year so a big theme was about that 'live all of the 100th' and..
.. yep, the next morning he had passed away sometime in his sleep.
After that, I've been convinced that ..yes, actually somehow some people are able to 'will themselves' to stay alive and I suppose 'release themselves' to death.
My grandma was a hospice nurse for a long time. She told me rallying used to be called a sunshine period. She used to tell the families to soak it in, take lots of pictures together, and ask ALL the questions. Video, tape record, and don't miss a thing. It's been the most helpful thing. I've been able to pass that knowledge on to so many families, even my husband's during his grandma's passing.
Love your videos! Animals have incredible senses for these things! I have experienced all of these phenomena in my 19 year career as a Palliative Care Nurse!!
When my grandfather passed, he had been hospitalized for several days and was expected to leave us anytime. Grandpa was a man of few words, one of the very best people I will ever know in this life. He was loved by every member of our family. The last day, he had been talking to "someone" but was pretty incoherent in his speech; however, we know he was actively and definitely speaking to someone or even more than one person, and speaking to God (he was a very devout Christian). There had been at least 5 people in his room every minute that day. At one point, this one announced they were leaving to go home to shower, another one to check in at work, this one had to go pick up their kids from school - whatever the reason, all of us except one of his sons left. Shortly after, the son who stayed went to get a cup of coffee and wasn't gone for more than 10 minutes - and when he returned, Grandpa died. I fully believe he chose to pass when everyone was out of the room. I definitely believe this happens in some of the dying. Thank you for this video.
I love hospice!!!
You are extraordinary people.
I'm on end of life care.
And you're right it's like being on a roller coaster. One day you're up, next day you're down.
Family isn't concerned because I don't look sick and there are days I'm up doing things. What they don't understand is I'm getting my house in order.
I was my mother's caregiver for most of my life until she passed away. It's been almost a year. I heard her calling out my name the other day. I didn't answer I was afraid of what she would say. Gotta keep a sense of humor.
But later, did acknowledge to her that I did hear.
I have visions but mostly people I don't know. I thought I must be going crazy.
Thank you for all you do. You are somebody's angel. ❤
I love you so much Julie. You helped me so much before , during, and after my mom died. I think God sent you to me for strength
My dad had visions weeks ahead of time. I once said "Hey Dad, what did you do today?" and he responded that he had been in the garden with his mom and dad very matter-of-fact. But when he passed he made sure that my mom, my sister and I were there with him. Very grateful for this! His transition was calm and I was holding his hand and it felt like we had a telepathic communication that everything was going to be okay.
A few days before my beloved dog Lilly died I woke up (she slept with me on my bed) and saw ethereal lights, shapes really, floating up from her sleeping body. As clear as day, but no one believes me. They say I was probably dreaming, but it was very real. She died soon after in my arms. I love her very much and still miss her.
glad to have run across this, as these things are true. In "Nam" & in E.R,s (EMT) beyond Kussmauls, I have watched for the rising of the white mist yet never have seen. At this time and not in the medical from 1994 I find myself with my wife of 25 yrs , after 14 yrs of remission , now in hospice with lymphatic cancer am happy to see these things s"spelled out." At 75 and have seen so many pass this is going to be so very hard. Thank you for listening, I needed to say something.
Thank you so much for this video! This is such important information. I have had countless pets throughout the years and have noticed in them much of what you describe with us. As for the human side: I lived with my Dad the last 1 1/2 year of his life and was his hospice care. He had a very vivid 'dream' about 4 1/2 months prior to his passing, where he saw his parents & me standing at his bedroom door. When he spoke of it, Dad mentioned that he never dreamed. I knew immediately that my Grandma, Grandpa and & had discussed Dad's leaving. At the end I brought him home. One of my cats was very fond of Dad. He was the one who wanted to be around and on Dad all the time. Dad was unresponsive outwardly, yet I knew he was aware (energetically) of my presence and what I was saying. Dad was a very social man. I am an only child and I was there with him day and night. I told him that it was OK to go, that I will be fine, but don't expect me not to cry. One morning, I opened the blinds and painted a verbal picture of the beautiful morning sky. It felt like it was time for him. I moved in closer and said, "Dad, it's a good day to die," and meant it. As I cleaned his face, I noticed the pulse in his neck stop. I expected the 'last gasp', but it never came. My cat didn't leave Dad until they came for the body. All I can say is, that was the most humbling and impactful experience of my life. I would do it again in a heartbeat. Bless you for all you do!
As the end was near for my Mom to pass. The nite before as I look; My 2 sweet fur babies A Lab and a Sheltie mix came to join me . I was w blanket & pillow on floor right near her. Suddenly both dogs came in and sat snug as could be one on right other in left.
They were so tight against me I couldn’t move. I suddenly became aware they KNEW what they were doing! Guarding me with comfort & paying respect for the process. They seemed to know what their 😮given role was at this time. I sensed I was receiving an honor of loyalty to me and my beloved Mom
Thank you for another excellent video! Has anyone told you that there is a glow in your face. An aura of peace and happiness. Hard to explain what I see, yet I see it! Your eyes are shining, a different light. A glittering light...
Thank you for this, Hospice Nurse! It’s so important for both sides, I think. When my brother was in his final hours, right before he lost consciousness, he kept saying, “I need to go outside, I want to go outside”. We couldn’t take him off O2 as he was connected to the wall. His lungs were chewed up by Chinese drywall. He was trying to climb out of the bed. We (me and his nurse) were finally able to sit him on the edge of the bed so his feet could feel the floor. He fainted/passed out. He lived about 30 more minutes. I was grateful to be with him. The hospital staff was wonderful.
I just want to thank you for all you did to help your brother. He gave me the message to thank you.
@@TheJoan48 How did that happen? Do you know each other, or are you a psychic/medium of some sort? Just curious.
It’s not unusual for someone to want to get up or say I have to sit up when near death. I’m a nurse and if someone became assertive about the need to get up, we definitely pay attention.
My grandfather did this. The ICU nurses said it is common and called "air hunger." It was the last time he was conscious 😢
@@GeminiTwinning Wanting /trying to get up right before death is different than air hunger, although they both are pretty common. (I’ve been an RN x 32 yrs., & was a FF/EMT/Paramedic for several years before/after I became an RN.)
A lot of what you talked about in this video happened when my wife passed. Thankful she was a super upbeat person who always looked for the positive in any situation so even after seven weeks in Hospice the amount of laughter coming from her room when the nurses and PSWs were attending to her was a joy to behold. The time spent in Hospice was an amazing experience, and not at all gut wrenching or traumatic, thankfully quite the opposite ❤
What a wonderful blessing!
I just found your site and you are terrific! My best friend worked in hospice care and has opened my eyes to end of life care. To speak of it as a natural process has enabled me to talk to my family more easily about what may happen when I get nearer to that time in my life. I’ll keep watching you! (From this side!)
My aunt is starting this journey right now, or has been on it for several weeks already. I spend 6 hours a day with her, helping her eat, taking her outside into the sunlight, just being there providing companionship for those fleeting moments she is more lucid. Thank you so much for these videos... they are really, really appreciated.
I truly believe animals do not fear death. Danielle MacKinnon, an animal communicator, really does an amazing job explaining animals and dying. Her teachings brought me solace when I sent my beloved Oskar and Lacey home (over the Rainbow Bridge) together. 🌈💗
🐾🐾🌈 Hugs, dear pet parent. It's so hard to see them go. It's definitely a bond that lasts forever.
We lost our beloved 16 year old cat Tyler in 2021. Losing him was very very hard for all of us. His best friend Olive (also a cat), is now approaching 15. She's extremely bright and we communicate with her through tail wags, head shakes and eye blinks (and a bit of telepathy). Recently we were asking her if she missed Tyler. She communicated "No". I thought about it a bit and thought to ask her if she doesn't miss him because she still sees him. She communicated "YES!" and seemed so happy that I had figured that out. Through more questions and sleuthing we figured out that when she dreams, she can visit with any kitties who had passed on. I don't know exactly how that works, but it was really cool to know that she was able to be in touch with her beloved friends.
We have a winner for most moronic comment of the month! Of course animals fear death! Just go watch any of the thousands of nature videos where an animal is moving as fast as they can be it on land, water, or air to avoid a predator. They aren't playing a game of Tag; they know they will be eaten if they allow themselves to be caught. And the childish rainbow bridge story is so cringe that the writer won't even admit to writing it because they know how bad it is. Anyone who believes in the 3 abrahamic mythologies which predominate the west and mideast know that they are crystal clear that only humans are given "souls". Animals were just put here for us to eat and wear their fur. Obviously as an atheist I realized around the age of 6 that humans and animals didn't have souls but those with sufficiently advanced brains do have a consciousness. I am lucky that all the cats and dogs that I adopted in my life didn't die from being hit by cars or other accidents. I was able to take all of them to their vet to be put to sleep painlessly while I told them how much I loved them.
One thing we've started to do is bring dead pets back home so their siblings can say a final farewell and it really does seem to help them. They briefly groom their passed sibling and when all have said their goodbyes we take the dead one for cremation. The siblings don't spend any time looking for the passed pet, but they do seem sad for a day or two knowing they lost their friend.
@@CallowG 😪 Lacey groomed Oskar as he passed over 💗 She was very clear about her being! Thank you... you have given me comfort 🤗
Thankyou Julie - I am sure you are bringing comfort to a great many people through your honesty on this channel. Re 'visioning' - my mum died peacefully a few weeks ago. She was 92 yrs old and was widowed 7 years previously after a life-long happy marriage. Early in her wifow hood she told me she often wished she could dream about Dad - but to my knowledge only ever did so once. 2 weeks before she died she told me she had started to 'dream' about Dad as if he was with her and 'still alive' she said with a surprised smile! It was a tearful but happy and comforting visit - we will never forget it!
Julie: These are great videos. They take the fear out of dying--I mean they take the fear clear out!!
My mom is 88 and we are seeing this in her now. She saw children playing outside her hospital window, nobody was there.
I am a dog sitter and when my brother was in his last day a little old lady dog came to stay with us. She walked into the house and took up a vigil at the foot of his bed. There she stayed for the next 36 hours. She would not move. When he passed it was during a brief nap I was taking in the afternoon. I woke from that nap with what I can only describe as a true feeling of awe. There are no words really. I walked out to the living room where he was and immediately knew he was gone and little Lacy came walking over to me. Her job was done and I’m forever grateful to that scruffy little angel. ❤
beautiful
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Did you adopt the dog?
@@barbararobinson244 She has a family and was not up for adoption. I take care of dogs when their family is out of town.
Oh, now I understand. Nice story. I love dogs.
My Mom & her mother both spoke fluent Polish. Everyone in the home could tell when my Grandmother was on the phone because Mom's tone and demeanor instantly changed into sweet and super nice. When Mom was dying 15 years ago I was her caretaker during the day and one day as I'm sitting with her, Mom starts talking to an unseen person in Polish. I KNEW it was my Grandmother because of Mom's tone (and I can also speak some Polish). But Mom was carrying on a conversation with this unseen person. She would stop in mid-sentence when the other person spoke to her. This happened over several days. When Mom died....(there was almost always someone with her) Mom waited until she was alone for a few minutes....Mom was a private person and wanted to be alone when she passed. Spoczywaj w pokoju Mamo.
I learned a lot about the stages of dying from you. My mom is hospice in a nursing home w end stage Alzheimer’s disease. I’m always waiting for signs, but nothing yet. Thank you for talking about these patients…I feel some comfort from you. But my heart is breaking too😢
So sorry for you ...Alzheimer's is the worst ever. My family member had it. Lost the ability to communicate the last month. Two weeks before death I walked into the room to see my family member speaking to two people that I couldn't see. SPEAKING. .. but the language wasn't any I've ever heard before. I stood there just taking it all in. I knew I was witnessing a spiritual moment taking place. When it was over the inability to communicate had returned.
Thank you SO much for this video. My younger sister has Stage 4 breast cancer. She has told me twice now that she has felt someone nudge her on her shoulder. She’s lucid + communicates well. I’ve asked if she’s seen any of our deceased family members or any of her black Labs that she loved so much. “No not yet.” I know they’re around…I’ve prayed for them to be there for her when she passes.
Thank you for this wonderful info. My friend Sheila Shaw died and came back with afterlife story of meeting Christ who told her forgiveness and kindness are so important. Changed my life forever. Also, after my dear cat Boogie died, I woke up at 2am with her jumping over my head and running up and down the hall and then she disappeared forever. It was as if to say, "Look mom....I feel so good again!'
I saw several other cats for a short minute after they passed. And your description of people before their passing is accurate with what I have witnessed. It is a miracle we live at all. Thank you again! ❤❤❤
I am forever thankful for hospice nurses for the care they gave our family, as well as my grandma, when she was dying. Educating us about the process helped so much. I was holding her hand when she passed. You never forget that.
When I was a CNA at a convalescent hospital, I saw the rally... Then a few hours before passing, she had the stare, but could verbalize what she was seeing... "God." With a smile I can only describe as beatific. I'll never forget it.
My paternal grandmother told me that at her mother's deathbed, as she was passing she was greeted by her brother and his dog. ❤️
When my sister was dying a nurse told my mother she'd taken a turn for the better and would live. My mother went outside, dropped to her knees and thanked God for saving her little girl's life. When she went back in the hospital though a different nurse told her my sister had taken a turn for the worse and had just died. My mother still believed in God and spent the rest of her life believing that when she died God would let her be with her daughter again.
One of my favorite quotes is from the beautiful book "Life of Pi" where Pi says of his experience of finding himself alone on a boat with a Bengal tiger in the middle of the ocean, "Solitude began. I turned to God. I survived.” I think that’s pretty much what my mother did and I think that’s pretty much the only way to deal with such a loss or with any great misfortune in life.
My husband also had the state and the beautific smile. He hasn't smiled in months due to advanced dementia, but he did so the day before he died. I was so astonished, I took a picture. His look was pure bliss.
My neighbor was 96 when he passed. He was quite active, always outside in his garden and pruning trees and bushes. Almost no maladies considering his age. One day we were having a conversation and he told me he saw his father with an angel. Fully described them as if they were standing right there. Kinda creeped me out but I forgot about it. He died like a week later in his sleep.
Thank you for explaining all this so well. I was at the hospital with my friend who had been taken off life support a few hours earlier. I had planned to stay there with him overnight so I headed home just to change clothes. While I was gone a very short time, that is when he died, and I have carried a heavy burden of guilt ever since, as I was all that he had and I left. Just as you said, he was one of those who was very private and liked his solitude. You have given me great comfort with this video. Again, thank you.
I’m a birth doula and midwives’ assistant and so much of what you talk about in the context of death, is applicable in the context of birth. I find it fascinating how the two really mirror each other in so many ways.
Is there more you can tell to help us understand what you mean? It sounds fascinating.
Such as?
I agree. As my brother was taken to his home to pass, Hospice explained that he really couldn’t hear what we were saying, but just the muffled sounds of our voices. It reminded me of how a baby bears sounds in the womb. It made me feel better that he couldn’t actually beat us all talking about him and his health/impending death. I didn’t want him to hear all that. I just wanted him to be at peace to be able to pass peacefully.