A lot of the people I've seen who are busy all the time are not doing things that need to be done. They clean things that aren't dirty, rumage through things that are not causing a problem, and just just burn up nervous energy.
I think this is guilt passed down from generation to generation etc., the other one is cleanliness is next to godliness.......please just chill out people, those spoons don't need bleaching or other pointless tasks.
@@MissAnn-xu9oo if they have too much energy then maybe cardio? Someone like that in the house is annoying and disruptive to others, the same way when someone is in a bad mood and it creates an atmosphere.....go for a run or something but just stop being inconsiderate with others in your home.
My Mum labelled me as "born lazy" , I used to think I really was. Now at 40 I know I just have a low energy level and I need to pace myself. It's totally ok!
I like to think, read, learn, and do something creative or repetitive on my own. I am a night owl, too. I tend to clean house and do laundry once in a while (keep things orderly and have a lot of clothes). My goal has always been “no school no work no busy life”. I retired early and now live my ideal life. I am really at peace being a lazy hermit.
@@mochipiiTo people that don't like to read, readers seem "lazy". I love reading, it's my favorite thing in the world, and whenever I sit or lay down to read, my partner can't stand it. For them we're doing nothing.
I'm sorry but I discovered I have every single trait of a person with ADHD. To make things really worse I have a very stressfull job - nothing close to 9 -5 and don't exactly have a salary. My place is on the verge of hoarding, but I really love to read, watch movies, listen and learning. Everything else is tough, and even my work shores are resenting.@@mochipii
Comparisons to other people can be our biggest downfall. You tend to only see what you don't do, or what you aren't - not what you DO do and who you are.
As an introvert I love "doing nothing". I like slow/intentional living. I am also into MBTI which helped with understanding myself (I tested as an INFJ). And I noticed other personalities e.g. ESTPs ENTJs they work a LOT. I would never be able to live life at this pace. We're not lazy. We need to understand ourselves, there may be so many things behind all of this. Can be stress, can be anxiety, depression, ADHD, CPTSD, OCD, physical symptoms, we may be introvert, we may be experiencing burnout, maybe we don't eat well, not sleeping well, spending too much time on our phone which takes away dopamine, maybe we have unmet needs (e.g.close connections with others) etc etc etc. It's our toxic culture that tells us we're lazy. It's important that we follow our own path, we treat ourselves with acceptance and compassion ❤ Comparison is a thief of joy. Live your life at your own pace ❤
It's not laziness, it's something going on in you body( inflammation, constant stress ect.) You body trying to protect itself. I know ot from personal experience. After years of pain, sleepless nights I had steroid shot done in my hip. Righ away I felt like a new person. Waking up 6 in a morning, refreshed , full of energy and doing declatering in my house all day long.
agree! inflammation can really weigh you down. I'd been living with a gut imbalance most of my life and not really knowing how to deal with it until I went on a low-histamine diet to deal with my issues. Feels like I have a new life now
Lori is actually being responsible by relaxing and recouperating her strength. If she burnt out from overwork that would be terrible for her family her patients and work mates and herself. We all have to take care of ourselves properly. Im sure the kid who cleaned 5he room felt proud to help and to earn some pocketmoney too
I have been told that I’m lazy most of my life. Never more so than during the years when I was a single parent to two children, running a law, practice, working 80 to 100 hours a week, and spending my limited free time sitting on the couch doing literally nothing Other than thinking about my cases and all the stuff I should be doing. I have a nocturnal circadian rhythm which means that I struggle horribly to be awake in the morning. So my work hours tended to be something like 10 AM to three or 4 AM with almost 0 breaks. For decades, I slept 2 to 4 hours a night every single night of the week. And yet I would hear constantly that because I couldn’t make myself get up one hour into my sleep at 7 AM. I was lazy. It’s now my goal to practice laziness every single day.
I'm not lazy, I'm getting older and I'm done with pushing meself til I drop from exhaustion. Single again😊 and my kids are raised and on their own, it's my time now to do absolutely nothing if i don't want to 😊
This is me. I keep clear path, take out garbage and cook twice a week to last me. I still work as a nurse...at night so yeah once I get home, uniform off, shower, BED and leave me the hell alone...I live alone so no problems there.😊 I do a deep cleaning (shredding papers, clothes keep toss give about twice a year). That's it. That's all. Simple life. I am getting back into exercising because it makes sense.
4 twelve hour ICU shifts per week?!? I did 3 per week and I was zapped! Plus, when you deal with life and death regularly, everything else seems small and insignificant by comparison.
Exactly. Doing overtime and wondering why she’s tired? The worst example they could use in this podcast is an ICU nurse. They’re always dying to do more to compete w each other
I love this. It needs to be recognised, the unnecessary pressure often comes from one's own mindset. Once you realise Why you are procrastinating, you are saved from it.
Lazy people are the smartest people in the world... They just needs something more stimulating & challenging.. to invest their time- They just need to explore more...
I love how the resounding advice is to have self-compassion, and that Laurie's laziness is the very thing that's making her physically and mentally demanding vocation sustainable for her. Listen to your body, it will never fail you. Thank you, it was a fun listen ☺
They should study these “active people” 10 years or more later. As a person that in my 30’s that went to school full time, worked full time, ran around chasing kids to regional sport events, performed committee work, and did my chores, by my mid-40’s, once the kids moved on to their own lives and I graduated, I felt like I was lazy because I would just tell myself I could do it later. I sit around thinking I should do that, and often wonder if I burned up all my drive in my 30’s.
I wld bet if you are doing that much in your 30s, you probably are quite busy now still, just relatively less, but without measuring, you just THINK your 40-self cant compare to your 30-self. The number of things your 40-self is accomplishing is probably somebody's 30-self. I say this cus I can push myself hard for a week but totally have to recuperate the next week. The amt of exertion one can endure is limited by the body's natural activity level, I feel.
I need you just need some form of recalibration & 're-tiring' of sorts. Then, move on from there. Don't get stuck into idleness for too much. Cheers & mabuhay, from my end--the Philippines!
I used up my drive in my 20s. As an immigrant; attending university, commuting 5 hours a day, working a couple hours on weekdays and a full shift on the weekends while learning the language just drained me.
@anonymousone6075 Love how you want to shit on people to make yourself feel better. Do you want a cookie? Want a prize? Want to be told how special you are?
Very interesting. I'm over 70 now and I've always characterised myself as being 'lazy'. This goes back to my childhood, youth and education. I was very good at some things and received lots of praise for being 'bright'. Other things, I was less good at (obviously!). Being complemented for my 'talents' meant I tended to concentrate on the things that I found easier and justified my inattention to the things I found difficult by saying to myself that I had already proved my worth and there was no need to try too hard on those 'other' things. So, I've always prioritised the things that gave me the most pleasure, which tend to be the creative, more 'abstract' things, whilst shunning the mundane (but essential) tasks I find less rewarding. I'm more resigned to it now and, as I don't have to go to work on a daily basis any more, I can give free reign to the things that give me the most satisfaction - my daughters and grandchildren, my (small, but valued) circle of friends, my art and woodwork, crosswords, reading, vegetable gardening, walking and, most importantly . . . daydreaming. I will often visualise and imagine doing something to the extent that, once I've done it in my imagination, I don't feel the need to make it reality and go on to something else. To do so, requires a different kind of effort. Probably why I never submitted my MA graduate thesis, even though I'd done all the necessary research and thinking. I just didn't feel the need. Nature or nurture? I don't know. I think I always have had a bent towards the less material side of life, which was definitely reinforced by my academic education. Do I feel fulfilled and happy? Just let me sit down and ponder that for a while and I might come to a conclusion. Or, I might not . . .
I feel the same way as Lori. I am a software developer who works 12h days regularly and I love working, but doing anything around the house is the absolute hardest thing for me to get done. I have months of unopened mail, trash piling up, dirty dishes, etc. By the end of the day, I am so mentally drained that the thought of doing any physical activity is just too overwhelming. I get between 500 and 1000 steps per day.
@@dorotak6280 I actually have one that comes every two weeks specifically to make myself pick up before she comes. It’s the only copping mechanism I’ve found that helps!
Before I got far into the video, I thought “it’s probably ADHD or some dopamine imbalance”. Could also be autistic inertia. I was raised by a type A personality mother who always told me I was lazy, so I grew up feeling immense guilt when I didn’t get anything done during the day. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized my mother was an outlier - and she often was “lazy” herself, but was demanding of others. I have to constantly remind myself that it’s okay to take a day off or to give yourself what you need at the time. I also have fibromyalgia, so imagine telling someone who’s chronically tired and in pain that they’re lazy.
I have low energy a lot of times. I work in retail and try to do active tasks to get more steps in and stuff (such as getting carts). I’m an introvert which can drain me after social situations. I have mild to moderate anxiety and depression, and I also have iron deficiency. Some days I have more energy and some days I have very little. I’m trying to workout at least four days a week. I also am an adult violin student and try to practice four or five days a week. I have a lot of different creative hobbies which cycle around, and some days I don’t get to them. A lot of my evenings and days off involve binging TH-cam (sometimes I color or do something else while watching/listening). My bedroom is often messy and cluttered (I live with my parents still) and, due to being a kid at heart who collects dolls and stuffed animals, I have come to conclusion that my room will never look like an adult’s bedroom, lol. I also have a lot of my art supplies in my room as well.
One thing I learned was never compare with those who are on top of the pyramid. There is always a small number of people who are genetically far beyond of the average. They don't feel as bad as us in same level of tiredness or frustrations. They may also decide to weigh in work over other parts of lives. And the successful people are less likely showing their struggling side for sure
I feel that, by pushing themselves so hard and constantly being busy and having an unhealthy level of stress, most people set bad examples of how we should live. A slower pace is healthier. I know this now I am recovering from CFS after pushing myself so hard in life.
I have thought about the word lazy and thought it may apply to me only because I did not have a better word for how I felt at the time. But now I accept that I have more decision fatigue and introverted burnout stemming from my job and then combined with my procrastination, I feel unproductive. But I have to keep reminding myself of how much work that I really do in effort to not be so hard on myself.
I also struggle with productivity. I didn't know it was because i had adhd. I'm nearly 35. You may want to look into a diagnosis. Olivia Lutfallah has an excellent channel with a ton of adhd content. See if you relate to it.
I agree with Laurien! I work hard and when I came home, I Iove my sofa. On the weekend I don't like to do nothing. I confessed that I am shame about this. Now I learnt about self compassion, I will try to use. Thanks for help me.
I would wonder if that nurse who feels "lazy"as she doesn't go to thr gym or committe meetings or organise the cupboards,whether she is putting in more effort emotionally into her nursing too ...? who knows but maybe and things like emotional labour are not as easy to see as organised cupboards or going to committee meetings,not saying that those things aren't important too but sometimes the things we don't see being done or are not as visible can get missed and a job like nurising which involves alot of physical jobs but also ALOT of emotional care if done well is harder to quantify. But otherwise a really interesting podcast looking at why we might have reisitance to certain tasks and consider ourselves "lazy"when it might be about emotional regulation or the judgements and stories we tell ourselves about certain tasks/activities
I grew up being told I'm lazy, making excuses, not trying hard enough, etc. These words messed with my self esteem so much and I really believed it was just a part of my personality. I reached a point of almost laying down and accepting that was just who I was because some tasks just felt too challenging. And sometimes, I'd project the same notion I was told on to others who didn't deserve it/needed just as much compassion in the same areas as me... I only retrospectively realize how ableist and unfair this was. I'm not proud of this. Anyways, I was diagnosed at 26 as Autistic with ADHD. This makes so much make sense. I'm unlearning seeing myself as lazy and working to give myself more grace for the chronic burnout and anxiety I feel just trying to survive in a world not built with people like me in mind.
There's a difference between being lazy and being tired and needing a rest. Its ok to laze around Three months later, I'm listening to this again. My past' self made a note for my future' self (i.e. now) I have been made to feel guilty for needing extra rest. I work at least 12 hours a day, 7 days a week, in my job as a Care' giver. I'm 66 yrs old and its been suggested, to put it politely, that I'm too old. I'm not too old 😂...I do a physically and mentally challenging job. Don't be guilted out Nic 😁👍🏾💕
I am disabled, yet even still can't turn off the voice in my head that says I should get up and do something productive. Even though my health dictates I rest , I feel guilty.
@@phybe_seto for me it’s my mums voice and my mother in laws voice but they are not saying it about me they are saying to me about somebody else. If it was said about me I would have the opportunity to defend myself. So what would a kinder voice say? ‘ I can see that person needs to rest because of her health’
Right, our minds often play a subconscious script that isn't even our own thoughts and beliefs! It's someone else's but we internalize it. The more we're aware of the inner critic, the more we can question it, who's voice is that, is it serving me, how can I change the narrative so it's more loving and empowering for me. Often with that mindfulness, starts the journey towards self-love and healing. ❤
I found this podcast pretty informative and thought-provoking! I did shame myself with L word as well, being a mom of 4 and working as a part time teacher and keeping the 4-storey house clean sounds a lot for some. By delegating my chores helped me a lot and I have ‘lazy’ days per week to recharge myself.
I often feel this way, but then I look around at what I actually get done from month-to-month and it's WAY more than most people. I've come to accept that life is hectic and demanding and I need time to decompress. I still get all my sh** done, but I definitely say "no" more often to invitations knowing I have limited energy as I get older (I'm 50, I have three university degrees and a full-time career and a small homestead).
My mom once branded me as 'born lazy.' I used to believe it, but at 40, I understand I simply have a low energy level, and I need to pace myself. And that's completely fine
Ahhhh. Coffee. I don’t drink coffee and I can’t keep up with coffee drinkers. My mum used to drink lots of coffee at work and then she would crash every weekend and didn’t realise why. The doctor asked about her coffee consumption and everything clicked. She stopped drinking it. I can’t take caffeine and neither can one of my sons.
I feel lazy and sometimes feel guilt because of it. But then I think logically and realize that I live in a clean house, I'm raising three kids, work 2 jobs, cook our meals and then I conclude that I'm everything but. I guess we just have an inner voice that keeps bugging us wanting more and more. It's important to ignore it and let ourselves be lazy when we feel like doing nothing.
One of the problems is with comparisons. I'm a housekeeper and put out amazing physical energy at work, but yet I compare myself to those who go to the gym after work or run their entire days off (my sister too), but WE, me and Lori run all day. We shouldn't have the energy left that our sisters do who maybe just work in an office (mine does). They're likely to be more mentally drained, but not physically. They likely have a reasonable need to get in some physical activity by the end of their day, while I walked over 10,000 steps in my day to their low low number.
I just project, visualize, and feel what I would feel in the future after I finish what I should be doing. That helps a ton and mkaes me less lazy... Maybe that should be a suggested task for other people as well?
also if you speak to yourself nicely in third person it can help .I.E : "john i know you dont want to get up and do this but just put a timer on for 5mins and you will feel so much better when you are done . You dont have to do all of it . 5mins is better than 0 . then u can have a 10min nap"
That sounds like an idea I could use. I thought this vidéo does not even understand what it is to be lazy. But I am quite sure that if I tell myself 5 mins is better than none I shall end up by getting the job done. Thanks for the tip
They briefly briefly mentioned autism. Every activity and thought takes a certain amount of energy and everyone fluctuates in terms of how much. Cleaning one's room might take one person a medium amount of energy and therefore be doable, but it might take another person (like a person with autism) a lot of energy because they have to mentally prepare and deal with a million internal questions, like do I need this piece of paper? If yes, where should it live? Oh, in my file cabinet. But should it be filed under Bills or Auto? And maybe I actually need to create a new folder, so I have to find my blank folders and tags. Oh, and btw I have a ton of stuff I have to move out of the way of my file cabinet before I can reach it. Oh, and my cat puked in front of it, apparently, so I have to clean that up first. Oh, but where are the paper towels and-- oops I'm out of enzymatic pet cleaner, so I need to go to the store, but I don't need anything else for awhile, so everything else gets put on hold because things have to be done in a particular order, and while I'm doing all this running around in my head and am exhausted, I haven't accomplished very much. Maybe I haven't explained this all very well...
Loved this! It reaffirms what my mentor has been telling me to do for a long time and I finally implemented more rest, hobbies, and family time into my schedule recently. I am happier because I’m much more efficient in my day-to-day activities, and on time with my goals. Before I always felt lazy and behind.
I like that they didn't want to judge laziness, but I also think this kind of sidestepped the actual question by not choosing a truly "lazy" person to follow. What about those of us who don't walk 17,000 steps a day? :) Also, I feel like Laurie herself was not really satisfied with the conclusion. They were saying she devotes so much of herself to her job that she can't also balance her home life... If that's true, she either has to devote less care to her job, find a new job, or accept that her home life will remain the way it is.
I’m an overnight nurse and work 12hr (minimum) shifts and I feel this to my CORE…I wasn’t like this before I was a nurse…so I blame it wholly on my profession. It is what it is I suppose…
Ive burnt out before. It took only a little over 1 year. I had worked hard and and never took a break mentally or physically and didn't spend quality time with my family or friends for basically the entire time and this was for a job I LIKED. The worst part is I never even got as much done as when I eventually healed from my burnout in another similar position. Recouperation is 100% required for productivity.
In Thailand, people say they are "too lazy" and seem proud of themselves. I was shocked when I kept hearing it as a response to "you should put in more effort", amongst my students. I figured that what they meant to say was "i can't be bothered" but didn't have the English. However, I'm not entirely sure. I think that they may have a less negative attitude to laziness here in Thailand.
You are not alone Laurie. Sometimes, I also feel like doing nothing but laying down watching something. After listening to this amazing podcast, I have come to understand why and to be much more easy on myself. As long as we do our important daily tasks the rest is not so much important. Don't you think so? Who agrees with me?
Wow, this was fascinating. I’m in this period at the moment due to trauma, depression and anxiety. But I work and work hard. I’m a team player and I can’t cut corners so I give my job my whole. But I’m so unmotivated and prefer to be on my own out of work and need it to just numb out of the world and distract myself from things that I should be getting on with. I wasn’t like this ever before, so I have a guilt complex over me at the moment. I find myself lying and pretending I’m busy to be alone and avoiding socialising because I’m so tired. I just want to be left alone when I’m not working. At work I’m completely different and no one would know how I’m feeling at the moment. Mines is depression, I know it is. But I’m also 56, so I am not as young as I used to be. I also had chemotherapy and my energy levels never come back. It is better but a toxic divorce going through chemo and cancer treatment just killed me in so many ways. I’m hoping one day I’ll wake up and snap out of it. 🤞
People have stated I am lazy before, but I have re-framed it to be energy conserving. I can be highly focused task oriented and get a lot done, when I can rest I do. I conserve my energy, I am not lazy.
This speaks to me because I struggled with this too and turns out I may have EDS. There's days when I feel amazing and to others I look like I have endless energy, but other days, I feel like crying if I lift my head off the pillow. I think it is absolutely physiological, and we just don't understand our bodies, especially our brains and hormones, enough to explain it. If we did, I think it would be a lot easier to get diagnosed and treated for invisible chronic conditions like EDS or CFS.
I thought I was lazy. I had the desire and motivation to do things but not the energy and focus to follow through and ended up feeling frustrated and disappointed. I had PCOS, general anxiety and low B12. With stress management, supplements, a better diet and medication I now have energy to do most of the activities I would like to do and I find working out much easier. I wish I had taken my health more seriously earlier on.
My entire lifetime I felt the same, now that I’ve been diagnosed with anxiety and ADHD disorder, I understand the body imposes limitations on you, don’t mark yourself with negative titles
I think lazy isn’t really a thing unless you’re dropping major balls. It’s boredom that is the red flag. I almost can’t imagine being bored like I used to feel as a teenager. If you’re bored you just don’t find things rewarding or you’re not challenging yourself enough.
I love relaxing and doing nothing on my days off. I'm also an intervert and enjoy time alone. I quit beating myself up for not getting things done... life is too short.
I know a couple folks in their 30s that do not have severe disabilities, have only had few short term jobs in their lives, don't provide for the family financially, and only minimally provide household care/labor for those who are working. One still lives with his parents. Their survival is based on others providing with the providers getting significantly less support than their efforts in return. The podcast does not describe capable people who literally don't put in honest effort, even for their own creative endeavors or hobbies.
I think the issue of laziness was still not dealt with. I don't have a job and so I started a master's degree. However I'm not doing well because I feel lazy most times. My grades aren't so good and I still wake up most days feeling like not doing anything when I've not even done any hardwork for a week.
It's an issue of lack of motivation. We have the desire to do so much but the willpower is lacking. I find myself in the same situation as you so I resonate with everything you've said 100%.
Sensitive considered people tend to need more rest. As I grow old I care less about other ppl opinions and left unhelthy world standards, I also value now my ears ready to hear smo who need it @work, encourage ppl, help if I can or pray🙏, l will keep doing that while being compasionate to myself, I ❤ it, my incredible husband chose me for that and support me...I'm happy. I feel very greatful and want to share what has been given to me with w/others, even thou I will never be rich or a boss lady or whatever. ❤ one another :)
As someone who has to talk herself into cleaning her apartment, I totally relate. Like for some reason, cleaning it's a mental block for me. I think I do it so infrequently the habit just won't even begin to form.
😂 me too. But despite what they say in this vidéo it is not good to be lazy. You feel so much satisfaction when you have got a job you don't want to do done
I think that she needs to change the language in her head. There are lazy people, but she's not that. Recuperation is a better word. She's recuperating.
I remember about 20 years ago telling a colleague that I was the lazy one in my family. I have no problem having dirty dishes in the sink--I get to them eventually. I can sleep until noon and read until 3 am. My colleague looked at me as if I were insane. She told me flat out that I was not lazy. I work like crazy at my job. I'm perfectly free to relax at other times.
I run a super busy landscaping business and have plenty of energy to keep going and getting things done until bed time. Don’t drink, eat well, stay active- I believe the key.
Maybe its laziness with some ppl but with others its literally a slower metabolism or lack of energy due to whatever reasons... for me i have a slow metabolism ever since i was a kid... other kids ran around and i would be the one laggin behind always. I later foundvout i actually have asthma and i really think that was part of it. I also have an autoimmune disease and the inflamation zaps all my energy. Ive been called "lazy" my whole life and couldnt be further from the truth. I want to do so many things and just have no energy and when i fo feel i have some energy it quickly becomes difficult cuz i get outa breathe at times and cough a lot
I 57 years old, I procrastinate, and while not officially diagnosed with ADHD, my children have been diagnosed as adults with ADHD and we all have the same traits. I walk, run and hike about 12k steps pet day, and do not consider myself lazy, but I get a bit of anxiety if im not working 12 to 14hrs a day. I can totally relate to this podcast!
After 4 days of a physically, mentally and emotionally job in the ICU it’s natural that she needs to replenish her energy reserves. If important things are being neglected on the home front she will need to take a portion of her days off to get things in order. Even a small investment of time will help the household and make her feel less “ lazy”. But the most important thing is to rest enough to regain some energy first.
I think it's better when we prioritize and nurture our values to those things that give us long term satisfaction. I think many of us procrastinate because of anxiety, of failing, of the pain, of the shame, etc.
I am a very low energy person and have been for my whole life. It makes life very difficult. My battery never charges above about 20%. I think of things that I want to do, but am frustrated by lack of energy.
I have become a “lazy”person ever since working at early childhood education centers. I feel like every time I get back home (and even on the weekend) I just want to laze around and do nothing. I feel like am drained from the whole overstimulation at work and the screams of babies and toddlers. 😂 then I put off cleaning the house or running errands until I don’t have any more food in the pantries 😅
How much is our overproduction at work driving over consumption? Maybe we need to learn to slow down so that we can navigate a lower oil/gas/coal energy intensive world?
Laziness and sloth are heavy burdens that weigh you down. Fasting and prayer make you agile and strong. It's hard to tell one from the other except by the results. "Thought" requires a great deal of energy to generate. If you are a thinker, you need to sleep. Thoughts are wounds that need time to heal.
Sad really most of us not even knows if it is laziness/ depression or a health condition. I feel like I am loosing a lot but barely able to get up. I work and then go to bed. That's my life for past few years. Love my work and used to work harder with less breaks not sure why I am still tired🤷
This totally resonated with me. I consider myself to be lazy. But I'm doing a full time nursing degree, I have 2 jobs one in community care and one for the NHS at a hospital. I walk 4-6 miles per 13 hour shift. I also have 2 kids to run around after.I get high marks in my assignments for uni but I procrastinate a lot and housework can be a huge barrier for me. I do the minimum to keep the house clean. I can sleep in til noon on my days off 😂 I really wish I was more proactive on days off and not so exhausted!
I do what I need to do. I am minimalistic, organised, if I do dinner I wash, put away as I go, if I have a bath I clean it after etc, I hoover & mop daily and so there is never any big chores. I go gym daily, I cycle. But I do these tasks religiously because I need a clear head - if I am not doing the above I am in bed (with fresh washed sheets ha) socially I am completely lazy - cba with social interaction. So I am obsessed with being organised so I CAN REST and have NOTHING to do, NOTHING on my mind and can FLOAT AWAY :-)
I can understand what the woman in this story is saying about the way she feels. I work in a hospital and I see how the people I work with function on different levels of energy. I am a technician in a psych unit and Sometimes when I do my three days , I don't want to even feel the obligation to do anything the rest of the week. She said she works four days/ 12 hours a day but that is a long day that people are not built to actually do. You have to factor in the time it takes to rest up to get energy to go to work and get ready for work then you are driving for who knows how long and that can be tiring sometimes. Not only is her body recovering but also her brain.
There is a difference between laziness, being overtired and procrastinate. Soon we'll see a BBC video saying: "sleeping 3 hours per day is all you need to be happy", "excercise is bad for your body and mind", "Studies say that you don't need to blink during your day."
Man, I love this episode. I feel like I can relate and understand why I feel low energy levels most of the time. Awesome insight! I'll definitely try to be more compassionate with myself, recharge, and do stuff that make my life more meaningful 🥰
It’s easy to just say words and behaviors we are ashamed of or don’t like simply don’t exsist because we don’t want to face ourselves for who we really are. Laziness is real. No point in pretending it doesn’t exist so you can say you aren’t. Everyone struggles with laziness sometimes . It’s human nature.
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A lot of the people I've seen who are busy all the time are not doing things that need to be done. They clean things that aren't dirty, rumage through things that are not causing a problem, and just just burn up nervous energy.
Facts. I'm the evidence.😢
So true. This used to be me and now I see it so obviously I’m others and they don’t seem to realise it!
I think this is guilt passed down from generation to generation etc., the other one is cleanliness is next to godliness.......please just chill out people, those spoons don't need bleaching or other pointless tasks.
If nervous energy they need to burn the energy. Better for everyone. Just stand to the side.
@@MissAnn-xu9oo if they have too much energy then maybe cardio? Someone like that in the house is annoying and disruptive to others, the same way when someone is in a bad mood and it creates an atmosphere.....go for a run or something but just stop being inconsiderate with others in your home.
I’m too lazy to watch the whole video but I’m just glad someone is rethinking my laziness.
That's funny
Ha! Very good 😂
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My Mum labelled me as "born lazy" , I used to think I really was. Now at 40 I know I just have a low energy level and I need to pace myself. It's totally ok!
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Were you ever diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome?
You should also look into an adhd diagnosis.
@@yengsabio5315 that's a different thing.
@@threadbearr8866 also a different thing. There's other symptoms
I like to think, read, learn, and do something creative or repetitive on my own. I am a night owl, too. I tend to clean house and do laundry once in a while (keep things orderly and have a lot of clothes). My goal has always been “no school no work no busy life”. I retired early and now live my ideal life. I am really at peace being a lazy hermit.
Same here. Yay for us!
No you're not. Your 1st paragraph doesn't describe lazy.
@@mochipiiTo people that don't like to read, readers seem "lazy". I love reading, it's my favorite thing in the world, and whenever I sit or lay down to read, my partner can't stand it. For them we're doing nothing.
I'm sorry but I discovered I have every single trait of a person with ADHD. To make things really worse I have a very stressfull job - nothing close to 9 -5 and don't exactly have a salary. My place is on the verge of hoarding, but I really love to read, watch movies, listen and learning. Everything else is tough, and even my work shores are resenting.@@mochipii
My dream life
Comparisons to other people can be our biggest downfall. You tend to only see what you don't do, or what you aren't - not what you DO do and who you are.
I do this! Then I focus my attention on all my achievements and all the good I have done in the world, and it helps
Yes! Therapy really taught me to look at my own progress and compare to myself in the past.
I agree with your comment but also giggled at "dodo". 🤭
As an introvert I love "doing nothing". I like slow/intentional living. I am also into MBTI which helped with understanding myself (I tested as an INFJ). And I noticed other personalities e.g. ESTPs ENTJs they work a LOT. I would never be able to live life at this pace.
We're not lazy. We need to understand ourselves, there may be so many things behind all of this. Can be stress, can be anxiety, depression, ADHD, CPTSD, OCD, physical symptoms, we may be introvert, we may be experiencing burnout, maybe we don't eat well, not sleeping well, spending too much time on our phone which takes away dopamine, maybe we have unmet needs (e.g.close connections with others) etc etc etc.
It's our toxic culture that tells us we're lazy. It's important that we follow our own path, we treat ourselves with acceptance and compassion ❤
Comparison is a thief of joy. Live your life at your own pace ❤
I'm an estp but I also procrastinate at home and worry a lot. Also I have B12 deficiency and possibly ADHD so just all over the shop really
It's not laziness, it's something going on in you body( inflammation, constant stress ect.) You body trying to protect itself.
I know ot from personal experience. After years of pain, sleepless nights I had steroid shot done in my hip. Righ away I felt like a new person. Waking up 6 in a morning, refreshed , full of energy and doing declatering in my house all day long.
But aren't steroids having negative effects long term on heart?
agree! inflammation can really weigh you down. I'd been living with a gut imbalance most of my life and not really knowing how to deal with it until I went on a low-histamine diet to deal with my issues. Feels like I have a new life now
Lori is actually being responsible by relaxing and recouperating her strength. If she burnt out from overwork that would be terrible for her family her patients and work mates and herself. We all have to take care of ourselves properly. Im sure the kid who cleaned 5he room felt proud to help and to earn some pocketmoney too
I have been told that I’m lazy most of my life. Never more so than during the years when I was a single parent to two children, running a law, practice, working 80 to 100 hours a week, and spending my limited free time sitting on the couch doing literally nothing Other than thinking about my cases and all the stuff I should be doing. I have a nocturnal circadian rhythm which means that I struggle horribly to be awake in the morning. So my work hours tended to be something like 10 AM to three or 4 AM with almost 0 breaks. For decades, I slept 2 to 4 hours a night every single night of the week. And yet I would hear constantly that because I couldn’t make myself get up one hour into my sleep at 7 AM. I was lazy. It’s now my goal to practice laziness every single day.
I love the warmth and kindness of the interviewer, along with his obviously quick mind. A great listen.
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It sucks to be a low energy person. It leads to a boring life. I have no energry for anything except a boring low key job and essential house chores.
You may be low in vitamin D ☀️
Also a healthy diet can help with energy levels
I'm not lazy, I'm getting older and I'm done with pushing meself til I drop from exhaustion. Single again😊 and my kids are raised and on their own, it's my time now to do absolutely nothing if i don't want to 😊
EXACTLY!❤
Bingo!!!
This is Life❤❤
This is me. I keep clear path, take out garbage and cook twice a week to last me. I still work as a nurse...at night so yeah once I get home, uniform off, shower, BED and leave me the hell alone...I live alone so no problems there.😊 I do a deep cleaning (shredding papers, clothes keep toss give about twice a year). That's it. That's all. Simple life. I am getting back into exercising because it makes sense.
@@jacquelynn2051 your life sucks cause being a nurse especially at night is misery knocking on your door.
4 twelve hour ICU shifts per week?!? I did 3 per week and I was zapped! Plus, when you deal with life and death regularly, everything else seems small and insignificant by comparison.
So how is that being lazy, lmao
I think it’s better when you read about people in books. All this other random non sense makes no sense.
@@gallopinggoose7997med surg here. three days a week has me burnt out fr
Exactly. Doing overtime and wondering why she’s tired? The worst example they could use in this podcast is an ICU nurse. They’re always dying to do more to compete w each other
And a mom on that 🙄
Well good for you that you have a job to run to.
I love this. It needs to be recognised, the unnecessary pressure often comes from one's own mindset. Once you realise Why you are procrastinating, you are saved from it.
Lazy people are the smartest people in the world...
They just needs something more stimulating & challenging.. to invest their time- They just need to explore more...
I don't like exploring because people are psychotic
I love how the resounding advice is to have self-compassion, and that Laurie's laziness is the very thing that's making her physically and mentally demanding vocation sustainable for her. Listen to your body, it will never fail you. Thank you, it was a fun listen ☺
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They should study these “active people” 10 years or more later. As a person that in my 30’s that went to school full time, worked full time, ran around chasing kids to regional sport events, performed committee work, and did my chores, by my mid-40’s, once the kids moved on to their own lives and I graduated, I felt like I was lazy because I would just tell myself I could do it later. I sit around thinking I should do that, and often wonder if I burned up all my drive in my 30’s.
I wld bet if you are doing that much in your 30s, you probably are quite busy now still, just relatively less, but without measuring, you just THINK your 40-self cant compare to your 30-self. The number of things your 40-self is accomplishing is probably somebody's 30-self.
I say this cus I can push myself hard for a week but totally have to recuperate the next week. The amt of exertion one can endure is limited by the body's natural activity level, I feel.
you are not lazy. You have accomplished more than most who may live for 99 yrs. Be proud, really. You sound like you had a good fun 30's .
I need you just need some form of recalibration & 're-tiring' of sorts. Then, move on from there. Don't get stuck into idleness for too much.
Cheers & mabuhay, from my end--the Philippines!
I used up my drive in my 20s. As an immigrant; attending university, commuting 5 hours a day, working a couple hours on weekdays and a full shift on the weekends while learning the language just drained me.
@anonymousone6075 Love how you want to shit on people to make yourself feel better. Do you want a cookie? Want a prize? Want to be told how special you are?
Very interesting. I'm over 70 now and I've always characterised myself as being 'lazy'. This goes back to my childhood, youth and education. I was very good at some things and received lots of praise for being 'bright'. Other things, I was less good at (obviously!). Being complemented for my 'talents' meant I tended to concentrate on the things that I found easier and justified my inattention to the things I found difficult by saying to myself that I had already proved my worth and there was no need to try too hard on those 'other' things.
So, I've always prioritised the things that gave me the most pleasure, which tend to be the creative, more 'abstract' things, whilst shunning the mundane (but essential) tasks I find less rewarding. I'm more resigned to it now and, as I don't have to go to work on a daily basis any more, I can give free reign to the things that give me the most satisfaction - my daughters and grandchildren, my (small, but valued) circle of friends, my art and woodwork, crosswords, reading, vegetable gardening, walking and, most importantly . . . daydreaming. I will often visualise and imagine doing something to the extent that, once I've done it in my imagination, I don't feel the need to make it reality and go on to something else. To do so, requires a different kind of effort. Probably why I never submitted my MA graduate thesis, even though I'd done all the necessary research and thinking. I just didn't feel the need.
Nature or nurture? I don't know. I think I always have had a bent towards the less material side of life, which was definitely reinforced by my academic education. Do I feel fulfilled and happy? Just let me sit down and ponder that for a while and I might come to a conclusion. Or, I might not . . .
I feel the same way as Lori. I am a software developer who works 12h days regularly and I love working, but doing anything around the house is the absolute hardest thing for me to get done. I have months of unopened mail, trash piling up, dirty dishes, etc. By the end of the day, I am so mentally drained that the thought of doing any physical activity is just too overwhelming. I get between 500 and 1000 steps per day.
get a cleaner once a week. It will change your life. You will not want to live in a dirty place ever again.
@@dorotak6280 I actually have one that comes every two weeks specifically to make myself pick up before she comes. It’s the only copping mechanism I’ve found that helps!
You need to reprogram your life. It's senseless and illogical the way you have configured it.
Before I got far into the video, I thought “it’s probably ADHD or some dopamine imbalance”. Could also be autistic inertia. I was raised by a type A personality mother who always told me I was lazy, so I grew up feeling immense guilt when I didn’t get anything done during the day. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized my mother was an outlier - and she often was “lazy” herself, but was demanding of others. I have to constantly remind myself that it’s okay to take a day off or to give yourself what you need at the time. I also have fibromyalgia, so imagine telling someone who’s chronically tired and in pain that they’re lazy.
I do as little as possible. All the time. In fact this brief comment is all I can bothered to do.
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I have low energy a lot of times. I work in retail and try to do active tasks to get more steps in and stuff (such as getting carts). I’m an introvert which can drain me after social situations. I have mild to moderate anxiety and depression, and I also have iron deficiency.
Some days I have more energy and some days I have very little. I’m trying to workout at least four days a week. I also am an adult violin student and try to practice four or five days a week. I have a lot of different creative hobbies which cycle around, and some days I don’t get to them. A lot of my evenings and days off involve binging TH-cam (sometimes I color or do something else while watching/listening).
My bedroom is often messy and cluttered (I live with my parents still) and, due to being a kid at heart who collects dolls and stuffed animals, I have come to conclusion that my room will never look like an adult’s bedroom, lol. I also have a lot of my art supplies in my room as well.
One thing I learned was never compare with those who are on top of the pyramid. There is always a small number of people who are genetically far beyond of the average. They don't feel as bad as us in same level of tiredness or frustrations. They may also decide to weigh in work over other parts of lives. And the successful people are less likely showing their struggling side for sure
People are TIRED.
😂 I know I am
I feel that, by pushing themselves so hard and constantly being busy and having an unhealthy level of stress, most people set bad examples of how we should live. A slower pace is healthier. I know this now I am recovering from CFS after pushing myself so hard in life.
i believe some folks just have a natural energy level
I have thought about the word lazy and thought it may apply to me only because I did not have a better word for how I felt at the time. But now I accept that I have more decision fatigue and introverted burnout stemming from my job and then combined with my procrastination, I feel unproductive. But I have to keep reminding myself of how much work that I really do in effort to not be so hard on myself.
I also struggle with productivity. I didn't know it was because i had adhd. I'm nearly 35. You may want to look into a diagnosis. Olivia Lutfallah has an excellent channel with a ton of adhd content.
See if you relate to it.
I agree with Laurien! I work hard and when I came home, I Iove my sofa. On the weekend I don't like to do nothing. I confessed that I am shame about this. Now I learnt about self compassion, I will try to use. Thanks for help me.
I don’t like to do anything*
That's not lazy ma'am 🤪
I would wonder if that nurse who feels "lazy"as she doesn't go to thr gym or committe meetings or organise the cupboards,whether she is putting in more effort emotionally into her nursing too ...? who knows but maybe and things like emotional labour are not as easy to see as organised cupboards or going to committee meetings,not saying that those things aren't important too but sometimes the things we don't see being done or are not as visible can get missed and a job like nurising which involves alot of physical jobs but also ALOT of emotional care if done well is harder to quantify.
But otherwise a really interesting podcast looking at why we might have reisitance to certain tasks and consider ourselves "lazy"when it might be about emotional regulation or the judgements and stories we tell ourselves about certain tasks/activities
I think I am not lazy with work, but lazy with certain non-work activities.
I grew up being told I'm lazy, making excuses, not trying hard enough, etc. These words messed with my self esteem so much and I really believed it was just a part of my personality. I reached a point of almost laying down and accepting that was just who I was because some tasks just felt too challenging. And sometimes, I'd project the same notion I was told on to others who didn't deserve it/needed just as much compassion in the same areas as me... I only retrospectively realize how ableist and unfair this was. I'm not proud of this. Anyways, I was diagnosed at 26 as Autistic with ADHD. This makes so much make sense. I'm unlearning seeing myself as lazy and working to give myself more grace for the chronic burnout and anxiety I feel just trying to survive in a world not built with people like me in mind.
There's a difference between being lazy and being tired and needing a rest. Its ok to laze around
Three months later, I'm listening to this again.
My past' self made a note for my future' self (i.e. now)
I have been made to feel guilty for needing extra rest. I work at least 12 hours a day, 7 days a week, in my job as a Care' giver. I'm 66 yrs old and its been suggested, to put it politely, that I'm too old. I'm not too old 😂...I do a physically and mentally challenging job.
Don't be guilted out Nic 😁👍🏾💕
Then why are you here this is for lazy people not for someone who likes to brag about how hard they work 🙄
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@@kittytonic87 bite me
@@nicolarollinson4381 fight me
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I am disabled, yet even still can't turn off the voice in my head that says I should get up and do something productive. Even though my health dictates I rest , I feel guilty.
Same
Who's voice is that? What would a more loving, helpful, voice say?
@@phybe_seto for me it’s my mums voice and my mother in laws voice but they are not saying it about me they are saying to me about somebody else. If it was said about me I would have the opportunity to defend myself. So what would a kinder voice say? ‘ I can see that person needs to rest because of her health’
Right, our minds often play a subconscious script that isn't even our own thoughts and beliefs! It's someone else's but we internalize it. The more we're aware of the inner critic, the more we can question it, who's voice is that, is it serving me, how can I change the narrative so it's more loving and empowering for me. Often with that mindfulness, starts the journey towards self-love and healing. ❤
@@phybe_seto My father's voice.
Lazy, tired, tired of waking up to a list full of chores day after day, we just need a break sometimes.
I found this podcast pretty informative and thought-provoking! I did shame myself with L word as well, being a mom of 4 and working as a part time teacher and keeping the 4-storey house clean sounds a lot for some. By delegating my chores helped me a lot and I have ‘lazy’ days per week to recharge myself.
I often feel this way, but then I look around at what I actually get done from month-to-month and it's WAY more than most people. I've come to accept that life is hectic and demanding and I need time to decompress. I still get all my sh** done, but I definitely say "no" more often to invitations knowing I have limited energy as I get older (I'm 50, I have three university degrees and a full-time career and a small homestead).
We are ´lazy´ because we are not doing what someone else wants us to do.
Nuh, if I woke up tired and can't even play computer games or watch tik tok
My mom once branded me as 'born lazy.' I used to believe it, but at 40, I understand I simply have a low energy level, and I need to pace myself. And that's completely fine
it could be ADHD too where youre focused on so much its hard to pick on thing to work on.
I'd use the term "Energy efficient."
Ahhhh. Coffee. I don’t drink coffee and I can’t keep up with coffee drinkers. My mum used to drink lots of coffee at work and then she would crash every weekend and didn’t realise why. The doctor asked about her coffee consumption and everything clicked. She stopped drinking it. I can’t take caffeine and neither can one of my sons.
I feel lazy and sometimes feel guilt because of it. But then I think logically and realize that I live in a clean house, I'm raising three kids, work 2 jobs, cook our meals and then I conclude that I'm everything but. I guess we just have an inner voice that keeps bugging us wanting more and more. It's important to ignore it and let ourselves be lazy when we feel like doing nothing.
I'm jealous of those who can do a lot of things energetically. I just can't do it. Little things can make me exhausted.
One of the problems is with comparisons. I'm a housekeeper and put out amazing physical energy at work, but yet I compare myself to those who go to the gym after work or run their entire days off (my sister too), but WE, me and Lori run all day. We shouldn't have the energy left that our sisters do who maybe just work in an office (mine does). They're likely to be more mentally drained, but not physically. They likely have a reasonable need to get in some physical activity by the end of their day, while I walked over 10,000 steps in my day to their low low number.
I just project, visualize, and feel what I would feel in the future after I finish what I should be doing.
That helps a ton and mkaes me less lazy...
Maybe that should be a suggested task for other people as well?
also if you speak to yourself nicely in third person it can help .I.E : "john i know you dont want to get up and do this but just put a timer on for 5mins and you will feel so much better when you are done . You dont have to do all of it . 5mins is better than 0 . then u can have a 10min nap"
That sounds like an idea I could use. I thought this vidéo does not even understand what it is to be lazy. But I am quite sure that if I tell myself 5 mins is better than none I shall end up by getting the job done. Thanks for the tip
They briefly briefly mentioned autism. Every activity and thought takes a certain amount of energy and everyone fluctuates in terms of how much. Cleaning one's room might take one person a medium amount of energy and therefore be doable, but it might take another person (like a person with autism) a lot of energy because they have to mentally prepare and deal with a million internal questions, like do I need this piece of paper? If yes, where should it live? Oh, in my file cabinet. But should it be filed under Bills or Auto? And maybe I actually need to create a new folder, so I have to find my blank folders and tags. Oh, and btw I have a ton of stuff I have to move out of the way of my file cabinet before I can reach it. Oh, and my cat puked in front of it, apparently, so I have to clean that up first. Oh, but where are the paper towels and-- oops I'm out of enzymatic pet cleaner, so I need to go to the store, but I don't need anything else for awhile, so everything else gets put on hold because things have to be done in a particular order, and while I'm doing all this running around in my head and am exhausted, I haven't accomplished very much. Maybe I haven't explained this all very well...
Relatable
Loved this! It reaffirms what my mentor has been telling me to do for a long time and I finally implemented more rest, hobbies, and family time into my schedule recently. I am happier because I’m much more efficient in my day-to-day activities, and on time with my goals. Before I always felt lazy and behind.
Starting at 32:11 I replaced “work/ICU/hospital” with “family/kids” and I think it spoke to me and took guilt away and gave me internal peace
I like that they didn't want to judge laziness, but I also think this kind of sidestepped the actual question by not choosing a truly "lazy" person to follow. What about those of us who don't walk 17,000 steps a day? :) Also, I feel like Laurie herself was not really satisfied with the conclusion. They were saying she devotes so much of herself to her job that she can't also balance her home life... If that's true, she either has to devote less care to her job, find a new job, or accept that her home life will remain the way it is.
It doesn't address the problem of Real lazyness which is a lack of motivation
I’m an overnight nurse and work 12hr (minimum) shifts and I feel this to my CORE…I wasn’t like this before I was a nurse…so I blame it wholly on my profession. It is what it is I suppose…
Ive burnt out before. It took only a little over 1 year. I had worked hard and and never took a break mentally or physically and didn't spend quality time with my family or friends for basically the entire time and this was for a job I LIKED. The worst part is I never even got as much done as when I eventually healed from my burnout in another similar position. Recouperation is 100% required for productivity.
In Thailand, people say they are "too lazy" and seem proud of themselves. I was shocked when I kept hearing it as a response to "you should put in more effort", amongst my students. I figured that what they meant to say was "i can't be bothered" but didn't have the English. However, I'm not entirely sure. I think that they may have a less negative attitude to laziness here in Thailand.
You are not alone Laurie. Sometimes, I also feel like doing nothing but laying down watching something. After listening to this amazing podcast, I have come to understand why and to be much more easy on myself. As long as we do our important daily tasks the rest is not so much important. Don't you think so? Who agrees with me?
Wow, this was fascinating. I’m in this period at the moment due to trauma, depression and anxiety. But I work and work hard. I’m a team player and I can’t cut corners so I give my job my whole. But I’m so unmotivated and prefer to be on my own out of work and need it to just numb out of the world and distract myself from things that I should be getting on with.
I wasn’t like this ever before, so I have a guilt complex over me at the moment. I find myself lying and pretending I’m busy to be alone and avoiding socialising because I’m so tired. I just want to be left alone when I’m not working. At work I’m completely different and no one would know how I’m feeling at the moment. Mines is depression, I know it is. But I’m also 56, so I am not as young as I used to be. I also had chemotherapy and my energy levels never come back. It is better but a toxic divorce going through chemo and cancer treatment just killed me in so many ways.
I’m hoping one day I’ll wake up and snap out of it. 🤞
People have stated I am lazy before, but I have re-framed it to be energy conserving. I can be highly focused task oriented and get a lot done, when I can rest I do. I conserve my energy, I am not lazy.
This speaks to me because I struggled with this too and turns out I may have EDS. There's days when I feel amazing and to others I look like I have endless energy, but other days, I feel like crying if I lift my head off the pillow. I think it is absolutely physiological, and we just don't understand our bodies, especially our brains and hormones, enough to explain it. If we did, I think it would be a lot easier to get diagnosed and treated for invisible chronic conditions like EDS or CFS.
I thought I was lazy. I had the desire and motivation to do things but not the energy and focus to follow through and ended up feeling frustrated and disappointed. I had PCOS, general anxiety and low B12. With stress management, supplements, a better diet and medication I now have energy to do most of the activities I would like to do and I find working out much easier. I wish I had taken my health more seriously earlier on.
Which kind of Dr. did you seek help or you did these changes yourself?
What medication helped you?
My entire lifetime I felt the same, now that I’ve been diagnosed with anxiety and ADHD disorder, I understand the body imposes limitations on you, don’t mark yourself with negative titles
I guess your not lazy as long you have work to provide for yourself. You are just relaxing, that is the right term. Not lazy.
I think lazy isn’t really a thing unless you’re dropping major balls. It’s boredom that is the red flag. I almost can’t imagine being bored like I used to feel as a teenager. If you’re bored you just don’t find things rewarding or you’re not challenging yourself enough.
I couldn't agree more. You've got the nail right on the head. Thank you!
I love relaxing and doing nothing on my days off. I'm also an intervert and enjoy time alone. I quit beating myself up for not getting things done... life is too short.
I know a couple folks in their 30s that do not have severe disabilities, have only had few short term jobs in their lives, don't provide for the family financially, and only minimally provide household care/labor for those who are working. One still lives with his parents. Their survival is based on others providing with the providers getting significantly less support than their efforts in return.
The podcast does not describe capable people who literally don't put in honest effort, even for their own creative endeavors or hobbies.
You are describing my brother! He lives off my parents, has not worked for years, and is the laziest person on the planet.
My friend is a nurse in a private hospital. Her shift is of only five hours and then also earns a very good salary.
Well, I am talking about India.
I think the issue of laziness was still not dealt with. I don't have a job and so I started a master's degree. However I'm not doing well because I feel lazy most times. My grades aren't so good and I still wake up most days feeling like not doing anything when I've not even done any hardwork for a week.
It's an issue of lack of motivation. We have the desire to do so much but the willpower is lacking. I find myself in the same situation as you so I resonate with everything you've said 100%.
Sometimes, it's an issue of boredom. I'm almost always bored and feel very lonely.
Sensitive considered people tend to need more rest. As I grow old I care less about other ppl opinions and left unhelthy world standards, I also value now my ears ready to hear smo who need it @work, encourage ppl, help if I can or pray🙏, l will keep doing that while being compasionate to myself, I ❤ it, my incredible husband chose me for that and support me...I'm happy. I feel very greatful and want to share what has been given to me with w/others, even thou I will never be rich or a boss lady or whatever. ❤ one another :)
As someone who has to talk herself into cleaning her apartment, I totally relate. Like for some reason, cleaning it's a mental block for me. I think I do it so infrequently the habit just won't even begin to form.
😂 me too. But despite what they say in this vidéo it is not good to be lazy. You feel so much satisfaction when you have got a job you don't want to do done
I don’t care what people say or think about me anymore!!!! I do as I please!!!!
I think that she needs to change the language in her head. There are lazy people, but she's not that. Recuperation is a better word. She's recuperating.
Laurie isn't lazy.She is taking care of herself.Our health care workers do very important work and deserve our respect and care.
I remember about 20 years ago telling a colleague that I was the lazy one in my family. I have no problem having dirty dishes in the sink--I get to them eventually. I can sleep until noon and read until 3 am. My colleague looked at me as if I were insane. She told me flat out that I was not lazy. I work like crazy at my job. I'm perfectly free to relax at other times.
I run a super busy landscaping business and have plenty of energy to keep going and getting things done until bed time. Don’t drink, eat well, stay active- I believe the key.
Maybe its laziness with some ppl but with others its literally a slower metabolism or lack of energy due to whatever reasons... for me i have a slow metabolism ever since i was a kid... other kids ran around and i would be the one laggin behind always. I later foundvout i actually have asthma and i really think that was part of it. I also have an autoimmune disease and the inflamation zaps all my energy. Ive been called "lazy" my whole life and couldnt be further from the truth. I want to do so many things and just have no energy and when i fo feel i have some energy it quickly becomes difficult cuz i get outa breathe at times and cough a lot
I 57 years old, I procrastinate, and while not officially diagnosed with ADHD, my children have been diagnosed as adults with ADHD and we all have the same traits. I walk, run and hike about 12k steps pet day, and do not consider myself lazy, but I get a bit of anxiety if im not working 12 to 14hrs a day. I can totally relate to this podcast!
I'm eo glad you guys made this video. We are so stressed and need more down time 😢
Love the way this video makes ppl like me rethink laziness. So relieved!
After 4 days of a physically, mentally and emotionally job in the ICU it’s natural that she needs to replenish her energy reserves. If important things are being neglected on the home front she will need to take a portion of her days off to get things in order. Even a small investment of time will help the household and make her feel less “ lazy”. But the most important thing is to rest enough to regain some energy first.
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5:09 oh dear
Same but good thing i found the time now to watch it 😅
這麼新聞速食的年代，我很感謝BBC還是持續做了很多專業的深入報導，這一則專題真的讓人很有感觸很希望能夠做點什麼，結果BBC竟然沒有直接在TH-cam 開放簡易donate功能~~
I think it's better when we prioritize and nurture our values to those things that give us long term satisfaction.
I think many of us procrastinate because of anxiety, of failing, of the pain, of the shame, etc.
I got my last born son at the age of 41...he is the life of our quiet life😅. I love him so much❤
I love being lazy on my day off. So what if my project I think about is not completed on the only day off? It was not tragic.
Exactly, it’ll be there tomorrow. I can do it whenever.
I feel this too, it seems to be worse if you have any level of social aversion, especially when you live with family
I am a very low energy person and have been for my whole life. It makes life very difficult. My battery never charges above about 20%. I think of things that I want to do, but am frustrated by lack of energy.
It's a gift to have energy to get lots done and I feel sort for people with no motivation to do as little as possible.
I have become a “lazy”person ever since working at early childhood education centers. I feel like every time I get back home (and even on the weekend) I just want to laze around and do nothing. I feel like am drained from the whole overstimulation at work and the screams of babies and toddlers. 😂 then I put off cleaning the house or running errands until I don’t have any more food in the pantries 😅
We live in a world that drains us of everything and asks for more.
How much is our overproduction at work driving over consumption? Maybe we need to learn to slow down so that we can navigate a lower oil/gas/coal energy intensive world?
I'm short term ambitious to be long term lazy.
Laziness and sloth are heavy burdens that weigh you down. Fasting and prayer make you agile and strong. It's hard to tell one from the other except by the results. "Thought" requires a great deal of energy to generate. If you are a thinker, you need to sleep. Thoughts are wounds that need time to heal.
Sad really most of us not even knows if it is laziness/ depression or a health condition. I feel like I am loosing a lot but barely able to get up. I work and then go to bed. That's my life for past few years. Love my work and used to work harder with less breaks not sure why I am still tired🤷
This totally resonated with me. I consider myself to be lazy. But I'm doing a full time nursing degree, I have 2 jobs one in community care and one for the NHS at a hospital. I walk 4-6 miles per 13 hour shift. I also have 2 kids to run around after.I get high marks in my assignments for uni but I procrastinate a lot and housework can be a huge barrier for me. I do the minimum to keep the house clean. I can sleep in til noon on my days off 😂 I really wish I was more proactive on days off and not so exhausted!
Lazy is such a lazy word, we're all different and some people have different ideas and energy levels. It's infuriating, the judgment from people.
I do what I need to do. I am minimalistic, organised, if I do dinner I wash, put away as I go, if I have a bath I clean it after etc, I hoover & mop daily and so there is never any big chores. I go gym daily, I cycle. But I do these tasks religiously because I need a clear head - if I am not doing the above I am in bed (with fresh washed sheets ha) socially I am completely lazy - cba with social interaction. So I am obsessed with being organised so I CAN REST and have NOTHING to do, NOTHING on my mind and can FLOAT AWAY :-)
I can understand what the woman in this story is saying about the way she feels. I work in a hospital and I see how the people I work with function on different levels of energy. I am a technician in a psych unit and Sometimes when I do my three days , I don't want to even feel the obligation to do anything the rest of the week. She said she works four days/ 12 hours a day but that is a long day that people are not built to actually do. You have to factor in the time it takes to rest up to get energy to go to work and get ready for work then you are driving for who knows how long and that can be tiring sometimes. Not only is her body recovering but also her brain.
It’s whether you’re content not doing anything or wanting to do things but having no energy
Valid point made here.
There is a difference between laziness, being overtired and procrastinate. Soon we'll see a BBC video saying: "sleeping 3 hours per day is all you need to be happy", "excercise is bad for your body and mind", "Studies say that you don't need to blink during your day."
OMG. Thanks for recommending this video to me. It helps a lot
It's all about your energy level and how much motivation you have to do something.
Your lessons help me stay calm and rational when trading. Thank you for your expertise and experience!
Man, I love this episode. I feel like I can relate and understand why I feel low energy levels most of the time. Awesome insight! I'll definitely try to be more compassionate with myself, recharge, and do stuff that make my life more meaningful 🥰
It’s easy to just say words and behaviors we are ashamed of or don’t like simply don’t exsist because we don’t want to face ourselves for who we really are. Laziness is real. No point in pretending it doesn’t exist so you can say you aren’t. Everyone struggles with laziness sometimes . It’s human nature.
Honestly, I am going to re-think if I need more BBC content in my life.