This video would have saved my baby girl’s life this past May. I was 29 weeks and had an appointment with my OB a week before. He walks in and asks if the baby moves a lot. I told him well she really doesn’t move much. There were no follow up questions after that. He measures my belly and checked her heartbeat. He said she sounds perfect and that some babies just don’t move too much. I felt relived with his assurance. A week later I decided to call the doctor again because I felt that the movement was really decreasing and I just wanted an ultrasound to make sure she was ok. At that point, he sent me for an ultrasound and I found out she had no heartbeat. It was the worst moment of my life and I’m still heartbroken and know this pain will never go away. Just wish I had been a better advocate for my baby girl.
This is absolutely horrific and I am SO sorry this happened to you but please understand that if you become pregnant again, the chances of this occurring again are low based on this unfortunate experience. My new website will be up in two weeks. At that time, I will reach out to you and provide you with some tools that I believe, will help you. There are also some online support groups that you might find helpful. I plan to reach out to them soon myself for purposes of rendering support. Thank you so much for sharing your story because I'm sure it will help someone. I'm sending you a virtual hug.
I lost my daughter in October. I went to my normal weekly appointment and her cord pressure was abnormal, so they set me up for a follow up the coming Tuesday. I went to the ER down the street at 2am Saturday because she just didn't feel right, she wasn't moving as much as normal. The doctor there found her heart beat, told me to keep my ob appointment, and sent me home, said they get bigger and run out of room. I wish i would have known more at the time.
First, let me express my deepest condolences on the loss of your love ones. Regretfully, the ER doctor didn't have your entire history because you were clearly high risk. Although I need to update my videos, please share this one with someone if you think it will help them. If you get pregnant again and have questions, please ask them on my website, www.smartmothersguide.com or on my Facebook page.. Thanks so much for your comment. I'm sure it will help someone.
Thanks for watching my video and so sorry for my delayed responses to some of you. I had some personal issues going on which are now resolved. I will be producing more videos on the future and thank you all for watching.
my daughter has a friend that was pregnant with her second baby and when she was just a week from delivery she was suddenly not feeling much movement. She went to see her doctor who told her that was normal,but she still knew something wasn't right and went back to the doctor. Her doctor kept doing tests and sending her back home for a few days.Finally after doing an ultrasound it showed no heart beat.The baby was still born.The umbilical cord was pinched
I"m extremely sorry to hear this. I know this is a delayed response but feeling NO fetal movement is not normal, even late in the pregnancy. The baby is growing out of room but you should still feel movement.
The fact that you listened to your own instincts and sent mom to hospt. Seems so simple but with a lot attitudes of we want as little and or no intervention as possible. The horror stories where people are told to just trust their bodies is insane. Thank you for being a doctor who goes the extra mile.
Aw, thank you so much for the kind words! I DO believe women should "trust their instincts but then VOICe their concerns with their physician or midwife. I encourage all women to please speak up if they have concerns. If you're pregnant, you're carrying a "gift" in that womb. Your unborn baby needs you to speak up.
My son is happy and healthy and almost 26 years old. He hardly moved at all during my entire pregnancy - I remember feeling one hard kick in the ribs around 6 months, and beyond that, if he was moving, I didn't feel it.
Happy everything turned out okay but sadly, a viewer contacted me recently and reported a stillbirth because she repeatedly reported decreased fetal moement to her physician whomarginalized her complaint. You were very fortunate.
My son (first born) I hadn't felt him move much for 2 days...didn't think much of it bc I did feel him move just not much. Decided to call my OB couldn't hurt. She told me to come in immediately and did an ultrasound..her urgency made my anxiety skyrocket..but there he was moving away on the screen..I went on to deliver a healthy baby even though he came a little early. Though everything was fine....I was so happy I had an OB that took these things seriously.
That was an outstanding response from your OB. Very happy things turned out okay. "Better safe than sorry" has always been my motto, and it has served me well. Thx for sharing!
Thank you for this video! This just happened to my sister today after telling her OBgyn that she was feeling less movement from the baby. The brushes her off and now she has a stillbirth and is in the hospital now. I’m so hurt for her. They wouldn’t even check her concerns.
At 37 weeks my water broke, I went into labor, labored 12 hours, baby seemed fine and there was a heartbeat, dr. came in eventually and did a forceps delivery, and the baby was born not alive. Umbilical cord 2x around neck but not tight, Dr. said. This seems atypical from most stillbirth stories I've heard where the baby dies and then you deliver. My question is with what happened for us is this still considered a stillbirth? Or do you call it something else???
I lost my baby girl 15 days back, at my 28 weeks.. I had covid during my 9th week but no symptoms.. I recovered soon... My doctor says baby's death may be due to post covid complications... but i don't believe it as I was asymptomatic...also it had been 2 months since I was tested positive.. Then Anamoly scans, down syndrome test everything were normal... Now, I had normal delivery and asked to visit after six weeks for checkup and also to know why baby had died inside womb... It's very disturbing and confusing on to know ur baby is no more and reason is unknown inspite of having a healthy pregnancy reports and diet..
Thank you so much. I appreciate your taking the time to watch it and then give a comment. The feedback is greatly appreciated. Continued to be blessed.
I wish you were my doctor for this pregnancy, its my third one after two loses. One miscarriage and stillbirth.. I went in to the doctor because my baby kept hiccuping and she said it was normal, but i told her the hiccups were there for about two days straight almost non stop, she sent me home, not even a week later the baby moved very violently and the next morning i was feeling very slow in and out movements when i put my hand on my belly. I went in to the hospital and there was no heart beat..my baby had the umbilical wrapped tightly around his neck when i delivered him...I wish my midwife would've listened to my concerns..now im almost sure that my baby's oxygen was being cut off and the continuous hiccups were a sign that could've saved his life and my heartbreak..
Honeybeehive wow I'm so sorry to hear your story I hope things have gotten better for you and your family wish you never had to go through something like this
lesa tuaefe i was 33 weeks, when i delivered my baby his umbilical cord was wrapped tightly around his neck, which the midwife stated insufficient oxygen could've been a possibility but my husband and i did not send him in for an autopsy so we will never really know if that was the exact cause..Also even though i was feeling that in and out movement the day i found out there was no longer a heartbeat, the midwife said most likely the baby had passed away the night before when i had felt him turn violently, and that the movement i was feeling was sort of like a muscle spasm due to my body preparing for delivery.. I would count the 'kicks' as actual significant movement even more than the hiccups.. l hope everything goes well this time for me and you as well..
I am so very, very sorry to hear this sad news and please forgive my delayed response. I have been involved in a very nasty divorce for almost 2 years which left me little time to address my blog. I know this experience is painful but don't be discouraged. If you decide to become pregnant again, reach out to me at my website, www.smartmothersguide.com, sign up for the newsletter and address any concerns you might have . Thanks for sharing your story and stay strong.
My stillbirth could have been prevented. They found my baby was born still at 32 weeks due to pregnancy induced thrombophelia. I have recently come to know that symptoms of this is severe pain in the mother's limbs due to blood clots. At 6 months gestation I was experiencing severe pain and swelling in both my hands and arms but was sent home by my doctor stating that it wasn't anything to worry about. Also in hindsight, I wasn't feeling my baby girl moving very much within the last few weeks before she died. Is there anything I can do about this negligence on my doctor's behalf? She is now retired.
Hi Amy. First, my condolences regarding your loss. Losing a baby is devastating to both the parents, extended family and believe it or not, in most instances, the physician. My recommendation regarding your question of negligence is to consult with an attorney as liability is not my area of expertise. What I can recommend is having a full work-up by either a hematologist or high risk pregnancy doctor (a.k.a. maternal fetal medicine specialist). Regretfully, these tests are not part of the prenatal routing screening unless there is a family or personal history suspicious or outright conditions. May your daughter's memory be blessing and may this never happen to you again.
The problem sometimes is not that the mother has not notice the change of pattern prior to the tragic, it is that the medical fields lack doctors like you who listens and the system is too strained with resources and is flawed. I voiced my concern to two doctors and none of them listened, they checked the baby’s heartbeat and sent me away, and my baby died the very next day.
OMG, I'm so sorry that happened to you. Do you think an advocacy course for pregnant moms would be helpful? Different things should be done, depending on how many weeks you are. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.
@@DrLindaOBGYN Thank you Dr.Burke. Yes, I think through my experience I realized that pregnant mums can feel so powerless in the process especially when we lack access to the right information and devote all our trust in whoever we were seeing at the time. we need to know that we have a voice and to be taught to use our voice more effectively when we don’t get doctors like you who listens. I also really appreciate that you are one of the very few doctors who actually would say some stillbirths can be prevented, we just need to do more to prevent it, whereas a lot of doctors I have come across just believe it’s not preventable and if it happens, well, there’s nothing we can do, just try again in one year’s time.
I told them that the baby does not move like it used too... I'm 23 weeks that time and they brushed it off because it needs to be 27 above weeks to count the movements... Now I had a stillbirth and don't know how to cope with it....
I am extremely sorry to hear this. The most important thing you need right now is support. There are three Facebook Stillbirth Support Groups and here is a link to other organizations that you might find helpful. Thanks for sharing your story. I'm sending you a virtual hug and I hope you find this link helpful. www.verywellfamily.com/miscarriage-support-organizations-2371339
I know this video is old, but I am currently almost 27 weeks pregnant with my first child. My question is how often should I be feeling movement throughout the day? I have been a nervous wreck throughout my entire pregnancy because I have been so scared of miscarriages and stillbirths. I get very scared if I don’t feel my baby move for two hours
Thanks for your comment. First, have you discussed your concerns with your OB professional and if so, what advice have they offered? It's okay to be concerned about your pregnancy but do not be paralyzed from fear. Fear is not your friend. Follow whatever recommendations your healthcare provider makes. After 23 wks, you should feel your baby move for at least 10 minutes in a 4-hr period. I hope this helps and try to enjoy your pregnancy. It is one of the most meaningful moments in your life.
I told my midwife that I don’t feel my baby a lot these days only at night and when I am sitting and I felt him in waiting room but when she did this movement test I want clicking and when she took my blood pressure I felt a little movement and she said I felt him too... I wish she has done my ultrasound :( later That day my baby died Inside me
I'm so sorry to hear this, Fasiha. How many weeks were you? Did you express your concerns to your midwife? It would be helpful for her to know how you feel.
I am extremely sorry to hear this, especially since he was full term. What do you think we, as the medical community, can do to help moms like you? I think it's important that we hear your suggestions.
@@DrLindaOBGYN most difficult part is that we don’t even know the reason..... they just said that baby Didn’t get nutrition for last 2-3 days .... before that everything was ok .... baby weight was also 2.6 kg. It was my first baby. 😭😭😭😭
OMG, I'm incredibly sorry to hear this. Before you get pregnant again, try to get a "stillbirth" workup done by either your healthcare provider or a high-risk specialist (maternal-fetal medicine) to make sure you don't have any risk factors that you might not have been aware of.
Ninga, I am so VERY sorry this happened. Did your physician or midwife explain what happened? If not, try to obtain some information so you will be empowered if you become pregnant again. I'm praying for your comfort and peace.
@@DrLindaOBGYN thank you🙏 Dr. They said,i had severe preeclampsia, Its been 11 month already since that happen Dr.do you think if im expecting again the chance to get preclampsia again very high? Can i have a healthy pregnancy after preclampsia?
This video would have saved my baby girl’s life this past May. I was 29 weeks and had an appointment with my OB a week before. He walks in and asks if the baby moves a lot. I told him well she really doesn’t move much. There were no follow up questions after that. He measures my belly and checked her heartbeat. He said she sounds perfect and that some
babies just don’t move too much. I felt relived with his assurance. A week later I decided to call the doctor again because I felt that the movement was really decreasing and I just wanted an ultrasound to make sure she was ok. At that point, he sent me for an ultrasound and I found out she had no heartbeat. It was the worst moment of my life and I’m still heartbroken and know this pain will never go away. Just wish I had been a better advocate for my baby girl.
This is absolutely horrific and I am SO sorry this happened to you but please understand that if you become pregnant again, the chances of this occurring again are low based on this unfortunate experience. My new website will be up in two weeks. At that time, I will reach out to you and provide you with some tools that I believe, will help you. There are also some online support groups that you might find helpful. I plan to reach out to them soon myself for purposes of rendering support. Thank you so much for sharing your story because I'm sure it will help someone. I'm sending you a virtual hug.
God bless your soul for saving this woman’s baby !!!💖
I lost my daughter in October. I went to my normal weekly appointment and her cord pressure was abnormal, so they set me up for a follow up the coming Tuesday. I went to the ER down the street at 2am Saturday because she just didn't feel right, she wasn't moving as much as normal. The doctor there found her heart beat, told me to keep my ob appointment, and sent me home, said they get bigger and run out of room. I wish i would have known more at the time.
First, let me express my deepest condolences on the loss of your love ones. Regretfully, the ER doctor didn't have your entire history because you were clearly high risk. Although I need to update my videos, please share this one with someone if you think it will help them. If you get pregnant again and have questions, please ask them on my website, www.smartmothersguide.com or on my Facebook page.. Thanks so much for your comment. I'm sure it will help someone.
Thanks for watching my video and so sorry for my delayed responses to some of you. I had some personal issues going on which are now resolved. I will be producing more videos on the future and thank you all for watching.
my daughter has a friend that was pregnant with her second baby and when she was just a week from delivery she was suddenly not feeling much movement. She went to see her doctor who told her that was normal,but she still knew something wasn't right and went back to the doctor. Her doctor kept doing tests and sending her back home for a few days.Finally after doing an ultrasound it showed no heart beat.The baby was still born.The umbilical cord was pinched
I"m extremely sorry to hear this. I know this is a delayed response but feeling NO fetal movement is not normal, even late in the pregnancy. The baby is growing out of room but you should still feel movement.
The fact that you listened to your own instincts and sent mom to hospt. Seems so simple but with a lot attitudes of we want as little and or no intervention as possible. The horror stories where people are told to just trust their bodies is insane. Thank you for being a doctor who goes the extra mile.
Aw, thank you so much for the kind words! I DO believe women should "trust their instincts but then VOICe their concerns with their physician or midwife. I encourage all women to please speak up if they have concerns. If you're pregnant, you're carrying a "gift" in that womb. Your unborn baby needs you to speak up.
Wish you were my OB. Sometimes I call me Drs office for advice if i dont feel right, they dont even call me back.
J&A R mines too. Stillbirth at 22weeks💔
@@kayonnaroberts1988 I'm so sorry to hear that ❤
My son is happy and healthy and almost 26 years old. He hardly moved at all during my entire pregnancy - I remember feeling one hard kick in the ribs around 6 months, and beyond that, if he was moving, I didn't feel it.
Happy everything turned out okay but sadly, a viewer contacted me recently and reported a stillbirth because she repeatedly reported decreased fetal moement to her physician whomarginalized her complaint. You were very fortunate.
@@DrLindaOBGYN I had a stillbirth at 41 weeks in January 2023, is it safe for me to get pregnant again?
My son (first born) I hadn't felt him move much for 2 days...didn't think much of it bc I did feel him move just not much. Decided to call my OB couldn't hurt. She told me to come in immediately and did an ultrasound..her urgency made my anxiety skyrocket..but there he was moving away on the screen..I went on to deliver a healthy baby even though he came a little early. Though everything was fine....I was so happy I had an OB that took these things seriously.
That was an outstanding response from your OB. Very happy things turned out okay. "Better safe than sorry" has always been my motto, and it has served me well. Thx for sharing!
Thank you for this video! This just happened to my sister today after telling her OBgyn that she was feeling less movement from the baby. The brushes her off and now she has a stillbirth and is in the hospital now. I’m so hurt for her. They wouldn’t even check her concerns.
At 37 weeks my water broke, I went into labor, labored 12 hours, baby seemed fine and there was a heartbeat, dr. came in eventually and did a forceps delivery, and the baby was born not alive. Umbilical cord 2x around neck but not tight, Dr. said. This seems atypical from most stillbirth stories I've heard where the baby dies and then you deliver. My question is with what happened for us is this still considered a stillbirth? Or do you call it something else???
I lost my baby girl 15 days back, at my 28 weeks.. I had covid during my 9th week but no symptoms.. I recovered soon... My doctor says baby's death may be due to post covid complications... but i don't believe it as I was asymptomatic...also it had been 2 months since I was tested positive.. Then Anamoly scans, down syndrome test everything were normal... Now, I had normal delivery and asked to visit after six weeks for checkup and also to know why baby had died inside womb... It's very disturbing and confusing on to know ur baby is no more and reason is unknown inspite of having a healthy pregnancy reports and diet..
Wowww thank you Doctor for sharing!!I pray to God I find a high risk doctor who cares like you! God Bless
Thank you so much. You're very kind.
I have learnt from this story. Bless you for sharing
Thank you so much. I appreciate your taking the time to watch it and then give a comment. The feedback is greatly appreciated. Continued to be blessed.
We need drs like you , today's drs are all out to line their pockets
You are so kind. This video is so old but unfortunately, the information is still very relevant. I appreciate your comment.
I wish you were my doctor for this pregnancy, its my third one after two loses. One miscarriage and stillbirth.. I went in to the doctor because my baby kept hiccuping and she said it was normal, but i told her the hiccups were there for about two days straight almost non stop, she sent me home, not even a week later the baby moved very violently and the next morning i was feeling very slow in and out movements when i put my hand on my belly. I went in to the hospital and there was no heart beat..my baby had the umbilical wrapped tightly around his neck when i delivered him...I wish my midwife would've listened to my concerns..now im almost sure that my baby's oxygen was being cut off and the continuous hiccups were a sign that could've saved his life and my heartbreak..
Honeybeehive wow I'm so sorry to hear your story I hope things have gotten better for you and your family wish you never had to go through something like this
Honeybeehive how many weeks were you? Im 19 weeks and i keep gettn hiccups , goes on for hours,
lesa tuaefe I’m currently 28 weeks
lesa tuaefe i was 33 weeks, when i delivered my baby his umbilical cord was wrapped tightly around his neck, which the midwife stated insufficient oxygen could've been a possibility but my husband and i did not send him in for an autopsy so we will never really know if that was the exact cause..Also even though i was feeling that in and out movement the day i found out there was no longer a heartbeat, the midwife said most likely the baby had passed away the night before when i had felt him turn violently, and that the movement i was feeling was sort of like a muscle spasm due to my body preparing for delivery.. I would count the 'kicks' as actual significant movement even more than the hiccups.. l hope everything goes well this time for me and you as well..
I am so very, very sorry to hear this sad news and please forgive my delayed response. I have been involved in a very nasty divorce for almost 2 years which left me little time to address my blog. I know this experience is painful but don't be discouraged. If you decide to become pregnant again, reach out to me at my website, www.smartmothersguide.com, sign up for the newsletter and address any concerns you might have . Thanks for sharing your story and stay strong.
My stillbirth could have been prevented. They found my baby was born still at 32 weeks due to pregnancy induced thrombophelia. I have recently come to know that symptoms of this is severe pain in the mother's limbs due to blood clots. At 6 months gestation I was experiencing severe pain and swelling in both my hands and arms but was sent home by my doctor stating that it wasn't anything to worry about. Also in hindsight, I wasn't feeling my baby girl moving very much within the last few weeks before she died. Is there anything I can do about this negligence on my doctor's behalf? She is now retired.
Hi Amy. First, my condolences regarding your loss. Losing a baby is devastating to both the parents, extended family and believe it or not, in most instances, the physician. My recommendation regarding your question of negligence is to consult with an attorney as liability is not my area of expertise. What I can recommend is having a full work-up by either a hematologist or high risk pregnancy doctor (a.k.a. maternal fetal medicine specialist). Regretfully, these tests are not part of the prenatal routing screening unless there is a family or personal history suspicious or outright conditions. May your daughter's memory be blessing and may this never happen to you again.
The problem sometimes is not that the mother has not notice the change of pattern prior to the tragic, it is that the medical fields lack doctors like you who listens and the system is too strained with resources and is flawed. I voiced my concern to two doctors and none of them listened, they checked the baby’s heartbeat and sent me away, and my baby died the very next day.
OMG, I'm so sorry that happened to you. Do you think an advocacy course for pregnant moms would be helpful? Different things should be done, depending on how many weeks you are. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.
@@DrLindaOBGYN Thank you Dr.Burke. Yes, I think through my experience I realized that pregnant mums can feel so powerless in the process especially when we lack access to the right information and devote all our trust in whoever we were seeing at the time. we need to know that we have a voice and to be taught to use our voice more effectively when we don’t get doctors like you who listens. I also really appreciate that you are one of the very few doctors who actually would say some stillbirths can be prevented, we just need to do more to prevent it, whereas a lot of doctors I have come across just believe it’s not preventable and if it happens, well, there’s nothing we can do, just try again in one year’s time.
I told them that the baby does not move like it used too... I'm 23 weeks that time and they brushed it off because it needs to be 27 above weeks to count the movements... Now I had a stillbirth and don't know how to cope with it....
I am extremely sorry to hear this. The most important thing you need right now is support. There are three Facebook Stillbirth Support Groups and here is a link to other organizations that you might find helpful. Thanks for sharing your story. I'm sending you a virtual hug and I hope you find this link helpful. www.verywellfamily.com/miscarriage-support-organizations-2371339
I know this video is old, but I am currently almost 27 weeks pregnant with my first child. My question is how often should I be feeling movement throughout the day? I have been a nervous wreck throughout my entire pregnancy because I have been so scared of miscarriages and stillbirths. I get very scared if I don’t feel my baby move for two hours
Thanks for your comment. First, have you discussed your concerns with your OB professional and if so, what advice have they offered? It's okay to be concerned about your pregnancy but do not be paralyzed from fear. Fear is not your friend. Follow whatever recommendations your healthcare provider makes. After 23 wks, you should feel your baby move for at least 10 minutes in a 4-hr period. I hope this helps and try to enjoy your pregnancy. It is one of the most meaningful moments in your life.
Thank you doctor...
You are very welcome. Thanks for watching my video.
Bless you n thanks
A very nice video was seen
Thanks for watching. I appreciate your kind words.
I told my midwife that I don’t feel my baby a lot these days only at night and when I am sitting and I felt him in waiting room but when she did this movement test I want clicking and when she took my blood pressure I felt a little movement and she said I felt him too... I wish she has done my ultrasound :( later That day my baby died Inside me
I'm so sorry to hear this, Fasiha. How many weeks were you? Did you express your concerns to your midwife? It would be helpful for her to know how you feel.
....yasss yasss doc..
I lost my baby boy at 37+5 weeks .... it was the worst day of my life .....
I am extremely sorry to hear this, especially since he was full term. What do you think we, as the medical community, can do to help moms like you? I think it's important that we hear your suggestions.
@@DrLindaOBGYN most difficult part is that we don’t even know the reason..... they just said that baby Didn’t get nutrition for last 2-3 days .... before that everything was ok .... baby weight was also 2.6 kg. It was my first baby. 😭😭😭😭
OMG, I'm incredibly sorry to hear this. Before you get pregnant again, try to get a "stillbirth" workup done by either your healthcare provider or a high-risk specialist (maternal-fetal medicine) to make sure you don't have any risk factors that you might not have been aware of.
I had stillbirth at 30 weeks due to preeclampsia. Can u plz tell me how can I prevent precclampsia in my next pregnancy. I'm scared.Plz reply me.
They say taking aspirin
My delivery was stillbirth in 41 week but I know why is heppend. My pregnancy it normal but
Could you please ask the question again? I'm not sure I understand what you're asking.
I had still born at 28 week😭😭😭
Ninga, I am so VERY sorry this happened. Did your physician or midwife explain what happened? If not, try to obtain some information so you will be empowered if you become pregnant again. I'm praying for your comfort and peace.
@@DrLindaOBGYN thank you🙏 Dr.
They said,i had severe preeclampsia,
Its been 11 month already since that happen
Dr.do you think if im expecting again the chance to get preclampsia again very high?
Can i have a healthy pregnancy after preclampsia?