How To Stop Over Explaining Yourself

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  • @healerscreek
    @healerscreek ปีที่แล้ว +150

    My mother questioned everything I did and said to the extreme degree. Never being taken at your word and never being believed is so harmful to children. I get very anxious, overexplain, and then become angry any time anyone questions me, even friendly people asking friendly questions out of curiosity. It's an automatic response. Very timely video. Thanks, Kenny! 😊

    • @Lioness_of_Gaia
      @Lioness_of_Gaia ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I can relate. 🥰

    • @Xxxxxrrr6464
      @Xxxxxrrr6464 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Same

    • @leighanneboles4386
      @leighanneboles4386 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I'm not the only one? Thank you.

    • @goddessvibes08
      @goddessvibes08 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I had a boyfriend like this. He's the one who did damage.

    • @mizelle4096
      @mizelle4096 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      +I also get very defensive when someone asks a question! I realized I was never believed by my mother (maybe both parents) mom ruled the house though. it even crept into my early adulthood.

  • @artanddesign8006
    @artanddesign8006 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +76

    I think most people including me, over explain due to fear of being misunderstood

    • @earthrooster1969
      @earthrooster1969 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Exactly. That 'fear' is more relevant than being 'misunderstood'. Confident people say things the way they see fit...not overtly concerned being understood or not...

    • @amandacompher1807
      @amandacompher1807 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes! 💯

    • @simev500
      @simev500 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@artanddesign8006 As @earthrooster1969 put it, I also think that that ‘fear’ of not being taken seriously might also be what any narcissist would sniff out as his/her supply like a shark follows the trail scent of blood in the water.

    • @Lacroix999
      @Lacroix999 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Yes! I do this because everywhere I turn, people misunderstand what I’m trying to say and in part, much of that is because I just feel like I see the world in a completely different way. It’s not all black and white, but a whole world of colors in between. And people think because you say one thing, that means something else just because they can’t expand their thinking to allow for such things to be possible.

    • @dragon7153
      @dragon7153 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​​@@Lacroix999Thank you! This is how it happens with me as well. I sometimes feel like I'm taking crazy pills because I will try to be very precise with my wording so as not to be misunderstood only to have the other person claim that I said something else, often because they are ignorant of certain concepts or words.

  • @lynny5908
    @lynny5908 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    And I over apologize too

    • @TangomanX2008
      @TangomanX2008 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Sorry to hear that.

    • @lynny5908
      @lynny5908 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I hear you, me too.

    • @lylyimmy
      @lylyimmy 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes me too

  • @adamtobin8132
    @adamtobin8132 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Im a huge over explainer too Kenny. The shame when reflecting back afterwards really resonated with me. It’s obvious now I’m frustrated from being completely codependent with someone emotionally unavailable and projecting all over the place in real life.

  • @user-ov4wr5yu4r
    @user-ov4wr5yu4r 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    As a scapegoat, I'm going to be blamed no matter what. If I can explain my position and persuade them of my righteousness, I won't get blamed! But of course, it's futile. Remember, I said No Matter What.

  • @jessicadah-mk8up
    @jessicadah-mk8up ปีที่แล้ว +21

    “It is not our pain.” Wow 🥺 that touched me

  • @brendanthebdog
    @brendanthebdog 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    My heart breaks when I notice that my inner child starts exaggerating and even making up fantastic stories just to get noticed. To be noticed I had to resort to extremes. Over-explaining to random strangers has been extremely uncomfortable for me and them. I feel the pain of strangers over-explaining and just want to stop them and say - "you're okay, you can just be, you don’t have to frantically convince me to like you."
    Feels good to be a human being and not a human doing or impressing.

  • @michellescalia2142
    @michellescalia2142 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    My mother often gave me the third degree, and pressured me to explain myself. She also shamed me constantly for my behavior which felt like I had to explain how wrong I was to her so she would be satisfied.

  • @deep_freeze_0580
    @deep_freeze_0580 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    16:10 - „You’re safe. I am here. I’ll protect you.”
    When I heard this, tears broke through. Thank You Sir Weiss for sharing. ❤

  • @Michelina22
    @Michelina22 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Yes I’m an over explainer and also say “sorry “ all the time for unnecessary things

  • @scottherod7732
    @scottherod7732 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    @3:51 "I am hoping that if I can put the words together in a way that matters to YOU, I'll finally get your attention!" Wow! I can so relate to that. That was me with both my parents, who were often too busy to notice. Mom was often too preoccupied on the phone talking with friends to give me attention. Dad was always too busy correcting my grammar to really hear my talking points.

  • @glittergirl3052
    @glittergirl3052 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I think there is also over explaining when you feel afraid of someone’s anger. For example, not feeling safe to set boundaries or say no so you feel the need to explain your boundary or decision. This can be a conditioned protective response also learned in childhood akin to fawning used to avoid triggering anger in insecure aggressive people.
    They don’t accept simple a no. They demand explanation. And if you don’t provide one, watch out.

    • @stephanielane6863
      @stephanielane6863 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I don't think it's just from childhood. It can be from adolescent too.

    • @annadawson5325
      @annadawson5325 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes, this resonates with me too. They want/ expect an explanation then complain you talk too much…narcissistic 😢

  • @freakofnurture40
    @freakofnurture40 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    You’re adding a lot of happier years to peoples lives with this content, I’m so grateful to find this channel. Thank you!!

  • @glittergirl3052
    @glittergirl3052 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This makes so much sense. My mom and sister were very one-sided and needy. They would talk without pause. I desperately wanted them to take interest in me and my life but they were too self-interested to care about me. So, I overexplained to try to get them to hear me. I also felt very judged and felt that I had to explain my decisions and imperfections even the smallest ones to avoid the criticism. It was my way of trying to head it off before the snarky comments were thrown my way.

  • @GeorgeDonnelly
    @GeorgeDonnelly ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I am so grateful for these videos of yours. I over-explain, and it gets me into trouble. Thank you.

  • @Karen-mx2fp
    @Karen-mx2fp 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    As soon as you said what that child piece of us needs is grace and forgiveness I broke down. You are exactly right.

  • @adamtobin8132
    @adamtobin8132 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Also, I’m 40 and finally feeling that there is an adult inside me who can calm my wounded inner child. It’s like an awakening of a little confidence idk.

  • @Post-ModernCzechoslovakianWar
    @Post-ModernCzechoslovakianWar 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    6:47-6:57 This is honestly an amazing insight. Sometimes I'm feel so embarrassed and ashamed of how I have acted I want to fall into a victim mindset, because than I could have an excuse for not having control. That isn't healthy, and I must be able to own up and fix my genuine faults.
    What you described makes sense, since it's the reverse. To be constantly ignored by your parents must be painful, and would make you feel powerless. So it makes sense why a young child would blame himself, so he then would feel he has power, and therefore he thinks he can change things. Wherein really in this situation he is innocent, and his parents did the wrong.
    I have definitely over-explained and over-apologized in the past. I got work to do.

  • @fgauer1
    @fgauer1 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I am really going to work on the last suggestion in this video, bringing the 'adult' into the world more consciously. All too often I'm leaving the 'child' me to roam around and try and make sense of things that are going on day to day, and reacting as such. And this is coming from a human who is 60+ years old. Thank you for the great content.

  • @tessellatiaartilery8197
    @tessellatiaartilery8197 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Great video. I love your channel, book and podcast. Your advice is helpful here. But actually sometimes I find whenever you might repeat yourself I like it. I think you are a kind, warm person and it actually comes across as enthusiastic and personable, authentic and lovable rather than overly cerebral and distant. I am happy I found your channel and resources. You have helped me very much and I often listen to you - on repeat! 😊

  • @AlisonRuthless
    @AlisonRuthless ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Oh my word, you are one of the only people that verbally expressed what I recently learned by intense introspection/self-analysis (something I have lots of experience with, unfortunately) - blaming ourselves gives us a measure of power. Because feeling at the mercy of others seems to magnify the sense of shame, rejection, & powerlessness. And if self-blame was reinforced by those around us (especially in our formative years) by their blaming us as well for whatever was going wrong at the time, then that is often going to become our *default setting* (for lack of better words) when faced with this sort of suffering.

  • @131Hania
    @131Hania ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This personal stories are so helpful to me, because i see myself in it, also helps me remember my own stories, as well as giving myself permission to experience it.

  • @ImmortalAmbitions
    @ImmortalAmbitions ปีที่แล้ว +33

    For me, some of the over explanations are partially due to being massively misunderstood.

    • @ladylucid1169
      @ladylucid1169 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Or also attempting to reason them into wanting to hear you out. Trying to convince them why you’re worthy of their understanding. Feeling inherently below others personally as if not allowed accommodation or even reasonable excuses for anything not completed perfectly in specific way.

    • @anniefenn7323
      @anniefenn7323 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@ladylucid1169 Yes, l hear you and can totally relate 😔💞

    • @KristinaHoneyHavenFarm
      @KristinaHoneyHavenFarm 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ladylucid1169 Yes, this resonates with me the most rather than the video. I don't remember feeling ignored, but I do remember massive misunderstandings and just wanting to be heard. Perfectionism, so not wanting to start without running your ideas past someone for validation. It seemed like I could never do anything right in some people's eyes (except in school; schoolwork was a very validating thing, although peer relationships very often were not). I also felt sometimes that I simply did not understand social construct, because in polite company, if I said something I would get shushed, but my sisters could say the same thing shortly thereafter and not be shushed. Hmm, so I realized that the ignoring would be that sometimes I had to repeat things multiple times to get acknowledgement that anyone heard me the first or second time; this would be in the midst of group interactions including family.

  • @tf1354
    @tf1354 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Awesome. I’ve learned much through my grandchildren about what little children need and now I can apply that to my inner child. Thank-you

  • @1Marflowa
    @1Marflowa ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I never knew that this video , is what I needed my whole life. Thank you soooo much ❣️

  • @friendlybrilliant4902
    @friendlybrilliant4902 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I do it becasue of a fear of being judged based on a misinterpretation of what I was trying to say.

  • @glittergirl3052
    @glittergirl3052 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you. Sometimes when I’m going through a lot, I have been tuned out. It’s so hard to be present. I see my poor daughter over explaining trying to get me to be there. I feel so bad. I apologize and tell her it’s not her that I’m tired or have some things going on. I need a little time and I will be more available soon. I’ve been grieving some tough losses and I’m trying to balance it with taking care of her needs. I’m so tired.

    • @stefaniakonstantinidou981
      @stefaniakonstantinidou981 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Pray and you ll get the power

    • @suzannortega6671
      @suzannortega6671 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sorry you’re having trouble but when you have a child, it’s not about you anymore. You must put yourself aside to be there for the child.

    • @glittergirl3052
      @glittergirl3052 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@suzannortega6671 I realize that but nobody is perfectly present 100 percent of the time. That’s not realistic. If you have ever been very ill or tired or dealing with the death of your parents, you are not giving your all but doing the best you can. Your response lacks compassion and feels judgemental. It’s like saying, “sorry not sorry.”

  • @warm69blue
    @warm69blue 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    feedback: I feel that you explain so you stay near those that feel hurt by truth and until they say aaaa now I see the light (were this goes) and you are incredible

  • @taraelmegreen5527
    @taraelmegreen5527 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Dang!!! Great talk! This parentified child of 2 addicts and 3x Vietnam Vet....I appreciate your efforts and direct suggestions/information! God bless you, so many of us who are chronic "over-explainers", we've struggled, beat ourselves up and so much negative self talk and shame....I've had some loving ppl start to tell me abt this and I'm so grateful, I so badly want to heal....

  • @dawnalawrence6584
    @dawnalawrence6584 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    In my case I keep explaining myself because I'm always afraid that people will get the WRONG impression of me- why I'm doing or not doing something etc. It's very important to me that people do not accuse me falsely.

  • @_mlktea
    @_mlktea 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Knowing how to weave in and out of these emotional states is huge! Definitely something I'd never considered.
    I love talking to my little self. I sit side by side with her on a set of porch stairs.

  • @rayel4366
    @rayel4366 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks.. I often over explain myself... Will try these suggestions.

  • @PotsandPansWhatsPotsandPans
    @PotsandPansWhatsPotsandPans 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’ve found it so helpful to tell my inner child when a task is just for adult me and my higher self. It’s lead to a few beautiful moments where she feels free and just excited for drive there on a beautiful day.

  • @johnscott3795
    @johnscott3795 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Powerful stuff man , I gotta be there for the little guy within now he's been giving freedom thos morning (after watching this video, Journaling and many tears ) from having to manage my life up to now , and get to be the source of the love that I feel instead , IL take the reigns now in my communication and interactions with adults and he can come out and play with the dogs and cats and other kids sometimes 😊

  • @grannyblaylock623
    @grannyblaylock623 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    THANKS I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS SOME TIMES I OVER EXPLAIN THINGS AND DIDN'T KNOW WHY .👍👍🤗

  • @andrea859
    @andrea859 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow. A heartfelt thankyou for this video.

  • @Cocacola2358-h5d
    @Cocacola2358-h5d 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    From what you've said i can clearly understand the reasons behind. But one question ,why I'm so annoyed when have to listen to people (even myself) who explaining something over and over again. I 'm really appreciate your dedication, thank you so much. ❤

  • @BAsed_AFro
    @BAsed_AFro 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Many folks today heavily struggle with A - The need to be right no matter what and B - With having their conditioned belief sets challenged in any way.
    Think of all that we were just subject to over the past 4 years!?

  • @joy0134
    @joy0134 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    ❤️Thank you so much for making these videos!!!❤️

  • @sajeevisacbaby4814
    @sajeevisacbaby4814 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Mr Kenny, I don't know how to thank you for this great information thank you sir love you from India

  • @seanacai
    @seanacai 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for you genuineness and revealing your inner self, this is a wonderful clip

  • @timjohnson2186
    @timjohnson2186 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you and I hope you heal

  • @LindaGrey-wm9uc
    @LindaGrey-wm9uc 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Very powerful presentation!

  • @strongasagirl4434
    @strongasagirl4434 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yep! It’s me. I grew up with nice but emotionally unavailable parents. I have ADHD.

  • @shadesofrecovery6485
    @shadesofrecovery6485 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi Kenny. Thank you so much for this video. I have struggled with this for a very long time. This was very calming and comforting and has given me some new hope.

  • @acaciajessamine
    @acaciajessamine 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great explanation of why we overexplain. Validating and helpful for my healing. Thank you.

  • @suzannortega6671
    @suzannortega6671 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Bravo 👏 You broke this down & explained it just right!!

  • @juliarobinson2524
    @juliarobinson2524 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your message is profound and life changing. Ill be watching again, taking notes, and sharing. Thank you.

  • @edebeaupre7833
    @edebeaupre7833 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thanks...for caring, sharing, being compassionate. Same here pretty much...GodBless youvery much😇

    • @kennyweiss
      @kennyweiss  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You are so welcome

  • @smartypants6198
    @smartypants6198 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Sorry, but I was thinking, "Kenny is not succinct." But always self aware and same area, different outfit and still matching. Too adorable! On a serious note, I've tried to remember the event of origin of a feeling. Even in meditation or before I go to sleep. It doesn't come up. And I know I have a lot of memories but can't access

  • @me-ke2qf
    @me-ke2qf 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great insights! For me, over-explaining came from being made to feel stupid. I had to explain the details before my answer was seen as worthwhile.

  • @ccbluesky9780
    @ccbluesky9780 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow! Thank you! You explain this so cleary❤❤❤

  • @woebaby
    @woebaby หลายเดือนก่อน

    I used to overexplain constantly. As a leader I've learned to just state what I want or what I've observed and only give explanation if it really adds value. I can't even begin to say how much more efficient, powerful, and clear I am.
    Explain when explanation is desired by your listener not when you feel the need to do it for yourself and your explanations become a service not a chore.
    If you are reading this, I believe in you, you can do it to.

  • @Ranaelibrik
    @Ranaelibrik 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    (Thank for all the healing that you've done)

  • @sirtree9080
    @sirtree9080 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Bravo 👏👏 thank You!

  • @souadmaaseik7103
    @souadmaaseik7103 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you from Morocco ,this resonates with my life.

  • @dadmiraldankbar3720
    @dadmiraldankbar3720 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The bonus tip was especially useful tool I think, especially as I think about stepping into potentially contentious discussions or topics with my ex wife about kid stuff. I turn into this blithering mess trying to explain myself and she gets increasingly demanding the more I talk and just tears everything apart that I’ve prepared to say. It makes setting boundaries almost impossible with her too, because then I feel compelled or manipulated into over explaining boundaries so that she can just ignore them and abuse me even more since she sees the boundaries as new buttons to push.

    • @dampergoldenrod4156
      @dampergoldenrod4156 ปีที่แล้ว

      Your sick nasty wife no doubt goes out in public and starts this garbage with other men.. your problem has become a problem for society in general.

  • @brishellebrooks9345
    @brishellebrooks9345 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Video was recommended. Didn’t think I needed it but it was very insightful and helpful. I do notice my harmed inner child comes out here and there and the last step of pausing before you enter spaces will REALLY help me. We are now safe secure and protected in Jesus name fr. ❤ Thanks so much for this content. You have a new subscriber.

  • @MickieMuellerStudio
    @MickieMuellerStudio 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you! That last tip is everything!!

    • @kennyweiss
      @kennyweiss  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad it was helpful!

  • @sarahmurphy-nf4yl
    @sarahmurphy-nf4yl 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Your videos are excellent.

  • @johnscott3795
    @johnscott3795 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much mate. I was wondering what the heck was up with me , I’ll keep your vid for to remind me❤

  • @kristinmeyer489
    @kristinmeyer489 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I appreciate your videos, advice and suggestions. Thank you.

    • @kennyweiss
      @kennyweiss  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You are so welcome!

  • @spilledit
    @spilledit 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you, Kenny. This is Exactly what i do as well. I got to a point that when someone is making me feel like i need to keep explaining, then they are no longer my friend.

    • @kennyweiss
      @kennyweiss  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You're welcome :)

  • @liana2136
    @liana2136 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is such a helpful video... thank you!!!

  • @Xxxxxrrr6464
    @Xxxxxrrr6464 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Seeing this video at a great time. Seen the TH-cam short version first

  • @therocknrollcook
    @therocknrollcook ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Omg this is absolutely true ❤😮

  • @christinerogerson9400
    @christinerogerson9400 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are spot on Kenny on many things. Never heard things explained this way before .
    Kids need to hear this. ❤

  • @lynny5908
    @lynny5908 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My parents were like that also. They would just sit in their favorite chairs and tune everyone else out especially eachother. They never disgust anything Infront of us kids. There was very little family conversation going on in our house.

    • @warriormanmaxx8991
      @warriormanmaxx8991 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      *discussed

    • @lynny5908
      @lynny5908 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sorry for the typo, thanks for the correction

    • @suzannortega6671
      @suzannortega6671 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I can relate with that!!

    • @lynny5908
      @lynny5908 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@suzannortega6671 did it drive you crazy growing up too?

  • @emmaleajackson5037
    @emmaleajackson5037 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just found you! 😢 I needed this explanation at this point in my life. I understand it’s my responsibility now to heal so I am working on reparenting myself to move from the wounded child I didn’t realize I am dealing with😢

  • @polyglotmona
    @polyglotmona 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I instantly subscribed when I heard your voice. Thank you for being you 👍

    • @kennyweiss
      @kennyweiss  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wow, thank you

  • @poliapashalieva115
    @poliapashalieva115 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you -found your video while looking for content on over explaining and it’s the best content,explaining everything in such a kind trauma informed and supportive manner. Thank you.🙏

    • @kennyweiss
      @kennyweiss  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You are very welcome. I’m happy that it helped you.

    • @poliapashalieva115
      @poliapashalieva115 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Something I want to add , is that actually this trait of over explaining (which many call toxic ) has in fact helped many grow into teachers, healers, speakers where detail and understanding is highly valued and needed, the ability to say something in many different ways to be understood is essential. And that is so visible and felt in your video. Thank you for your work 🙏

  • @sandrawright8109
    @sandrawright8109 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Excellent podcasts. I just want to say you are an extremely elegant well dressed man. Love your style

  • @nanettesue1287
    @nanettesue1287 ปีที่แล้ว

    Excellent! Now I know why I over explain! Thank you!

  • @Jacqueoldfield
    @Jacqueoldfield ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Kenny 💜

  • @m_g4547
    @m_g4547 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What a fantastic video, so real

  • @ruksarharoon7278
    @ruksarharoon7278 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Im so happy to be learning all this things because now im a mother i can raise my daughter better and without mental health issues unlike me

    • @yvonnep.5194
      @yvonnep.5194 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same here 😔

  • @chrislong2204
    @chrislong2204 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Kenny your content is so great! I like repeat messages because abuse often affects our cognitive abilities (executive function, brain fog, etc.). Repeating points helps abuse survivors to learn better. 🎉❤

  • @VictorSnake718
    @VictorSnake718 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Love the video. Thank you

  • @jaimeamby5568
    @jaimeamby5568 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are a sweetheart! Great advice for an over explainer like me! I was always kind of wondering, what it was all about, when it came out again- sideways, upside down, and sometimes even backwards. So now I know! And I know what to do about it. Thank you

  • @adiroots
    @adiroots ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for these tips. I realize I do this in speech and text. Of late I feel like others tune me out or answer with short responses. Recently I was on the phone with a friend who dozed off while I was talking. He said he was tired. But I accept I have the tendency to ramble.I then end up feel ashamed. I'm going to try to be more conscious of striking a balance.

  • @sherrianmorganMS
    @sherrianmorganMS 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is a timely video.

  • @lynny5908
    @lynny5908 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Oh no.. I do that same thing. I over explain so much.

  • @dani5639
    @dani5639 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    “The child blames themselves to get power cause at that moment they feel powerless ”
    If we are to blame then we can change the outcome, but thats not true 😢
    That hit me so hard . Explains why i negatively ruminate about my self . Thank u for this video

  • @ronnieredneck9162
    @ronnieredneck9162 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks 🙏🏼

  • @blakelycreative3171
    @blakelycreative3171 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks for explaining this.. ha ha..seriously, I appreciate this information. thx

  • @michaelcale272
    @michaelcale272 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Your content is awesome

  • @francesmartel7948
    @francesmartel7948 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I felt like the scapegoat in my last marriage-he was EXTREMELY abusive -verbally & mentally. My family made me feel like that too, sometimes-although they have no idea 🤷🏽‍♀️ what I’m talking about.

  • @estherhirsch4460
    @estherhirsch4460 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Kenny you explain and rexplain so we get it how we can receive it and it speaks to us. I reasly like and see your caring intention. I also find tgat relistening to a pidcast or many on the same topic is the benefit of hearing the same from different angles. Also true saying it once is also a stmnt to others, Ill say it once so listen

  • @bethberry320
    @bethberry320 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is so helpful

  • @judybw706
    @judybw706 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Lucy you got some “spraining to do!

  • @tonih3433
    @tonih3433 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ❤ beautiful video. Thank you

    • @kennyweiss
      @kennyweiss  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @ttytghgfg3322
    @ttytghgfg3322 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    10/10 video 💪🏽🔥

  • @divineverse7122
    @divineverse7122 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    God bless you. Thankyou 💜🕊💚✌️☀️☮️🕯💫

  • @VonsWanderingMind
    @VonsWanderingMind 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you ❤

    • @kennyweiss
      @kennyweiss  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're welcome :)

  • @CashtynSomethingCool
    @CashtynSomethingCool 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I'm an unemotional person, and this made me feel emotional, damn

  • @Theowlhawk
    @Theowlhawk ปีที่แล้ว

    Love your videos, appreciate ❤

    • @kennyweiss
      @kennyweiss  ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad you like them!

  • @CaToRi-
    @CaToRi- 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My over explaining started after marrying a man I didn’t know has inattentive ADD and Aspergers. For many years I thought I wasn’t communicating well. Now I need to unlearn to over explain 😞

  • @poohbear6759
    @poohbear6759 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Is that the same reason for oversharing ?

  • @ninab7542
    @ninab7542 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank u!! ❤

    • @kennyweiss
      @kennyweiss  ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome 😊

  • @stephanielane6863
    @stephanielane6863 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    How do you know where it is in your body?