10 Shocking Truths About The Hidden Dangers Of Beauty!
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My sister is very attractive. Wherever she goes, people stare at her. She is also very talented and highly educated. She struggles with some of the things you mentioned, but she doesn't care anymore about people. She happens to be my best friend as well. I don't mind having good looking people around me. They are a delight to my eyes, and what matters is that they have a good ❤️. I guess I am not an insecure person.
Have an unbothered attitude ❤
My daughter is a gorgeous woman, very intelligent, well educated, kind and funny. She was hospitalized for anorexia - I almost lost her. The most interesting thing I noticed of all the young women in her unit in the hospital was they were all beautiful women suffering the from the same illness. She struggled with constant negative comments from other women who worked very hard to destroy her confidence, eye rolling, ignorant comments about anything they could latch onto to and it worked. Her large circle of friends started to dwindle as they collectively joined in the relentless pursuit to bring her down to their level and it resulted in a very serious health issue. Sadly, there is so much truth to this as I witnessed first hand.
#1 Jealousy is the top. Always having to play yourself down is exhausting. I refuse to play that game. I just figure it's their problem. I never get invited to parties, events etc. It's so blatantly obvious. I gave up on trying to have friends. Men can also be evil. I've also experienced it with family members. They call you stuck up, or that you think you're better than them. 🥴 True beauty is much more than skin-deep.
Boo hoo...
Get a life, people! 😂
Thank you for doing this video! 🙏🏻
Amen to that ! Frustrated men are indeed terrible. They try to make a move and if you politely decline they’re angry … start rumours behind your back and try to ruin your reputation. And family members who think you ( think ) you are better than them … I have also given up …
Sad truth
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Same for me
Such a great topic! I was a beautiful young woman, but I didn't know it! Seems like everyone else knew it. Women friends would use you so they could get attention. People wanted to be around you because they thought you knew something that they didn't. I was so naive! I really had no idea...I just didn't think that way. As time passed, I began to sense that somehow I was a bit different, and my looks made me different! It can be a curse because you never know if people really like you for you, or for your looks. In ways you are left out. The prettiest girl in school, but no date for the prom. Guys would not approach you. And so it goes. I'm in my 70's now, and look 50. God has blessed me! You are not looked at for your generous nature or kindness. People think they know who you are just because of your looks. It is a treasure when people don't judge you for the wrong reasons. Frederique you are a treasure for taking the brave step to bring this to your channel. Aging is a wonderful process, and living a full life whether you are pretty or not, is the key to a happy life! Love to all!
I am a woman of a certain age and STILL get the jealousy crap! BUT I have learned that people who insists on judging me superficially have no place in my life. I REFUSE TO MAKE MYSELF SMALLER or dim my light to make sure their egos are intact. I celebrate my beauty! Yes it is a gift…. From God! I am pretty and I stand proud and grateful. Who cares about small minded people. Worthwhile people, see me as a whole person, period and respect me for who I am.
Cheers to you😊 a lioness does not care what the sheep think of her. Hug from Germany ❤
Same!! F em! I cared for way too many years and all the tiptoeing around peoples fragile egos doesn't even help. they see that as licensed to act a fool even more. So now I stand 10 toes down in being attractive. I’m glad you are doing the same. 💅
Oh my goodness I am so glad you did a video on this topic!!! It is never talked about and it needs to be! This can be so shocking to any women who decides to loose weight, change their hairstyle and start wearing makeup. They suddenly start looking prettier and then they start getting treated badly...it is damaging. I decided to let my hair grow long and grey. Most people told me I looked beautiful but some would throw a sneaky insult. When I see a beautiful woman I smile a big smile and say to myself you go girl! Yes tell her she's pretty, great hair or great outfit! I have a sister in law who is beautiful and instead of being jealous around her I love to learn from her. Ok I talk to much..lol. Thanks for the video and you are beautiful, smart and funny!
You are kind as well as beautiful. I too smile at other women who look good and pay them heartfelt compliments. It's so tribal to be jealous and unsupportive. I try to be kind and positive instead and people smile back! Jealous people are so miserable. I also compliment men of all ages if they look good, I am 58 so they know I'm not coming on to them! I smile at them, say they look stylish and walk past which makes me and them feel good and connected x
I have dealt with jealous co-workers, bosses, friends, and ex boyfriends. I never knew what was up, honestly I was clueless at the time until my 30’s and then it clicked. I try to be humble and down to earth to all and even downplayed myself just to avoid the drama. I’m older now and can handle myself much better than when I was younger. So I feel more confident handling the awkward or bad behavior from others.
All this is true. I had a friend 20 years ago who was sooo pretty but she had all the problems you mentioned here. She was the nicest sweetest person though. She can’t keep a BF because they are so insecure and jealous of her. So sad. It is a shame.
“People can forgive even your talent, but they will never forgive your beauty.” ~ Monica Bellucci
In the words of Bruce Springsteen - "you ain't a beauty but, hey, you're alright". Being one of the "alright" or even being described as "ugly" " it was always hard to feel sorry for the beautiful, regardless of knowing objectively that the "beautiful" among us are susceptible to the same insecurities as we who are "alright". With age comes wisdom (usually) and we look beyond the physical and look for the beautiful souls.
There has been so much talk about “pretty privilege”, but there is definitely an unpleasant side to being beautiful. There are so many insecure men and women out there, and they can make life hell for you if you let them. I avoid insecure people like the plague.
I was really pretty as a young woman. Things got so bad for me with jealous people that I buzz cut my hair so that I wouldn’t be as attractive. I’m 54 now and as I look back, I wish I had been less sensitive.
I'd say you still are. I've seen plain women being really bitchy to beautiful women of all ages.
I did the same! I'm the same age as you. Been mistreated by men and women all my life. Went fat in my 40s - I think I overate to keep people off my back. I'm back to a size 10 now and feel great. I'm going to enjoy being an attractive middle-aged woman. I no longer care about the haters :)
To avoid stares and people approaching you on the street, I use sunglasses, it doesn't allow the eye contact and people are less able to connect with you. I also for many years would tell people I was a morticians assistant, this would get rid of any flirty men lol x
Mom was sooo right about jealousy. Mom was a lovely red-haired Bette Davis look alike in her youth. Yet her mom and sis in law (both only average looking) gave her put downs. Mom also told me to be careful of woman on the work force who will be jealous of a cute petite figure. I was put down in lower school grades in the gym locker room for being too thin. But as a "mature" woman in theater dressing rooms, plus sized women were jealous. It seems like we could never win.
100%!!! This resonates so much. I will never forget in college when asking my roommate why I can't find a nice guy to commit to me (they just wanted to sleep with me), she said: it's because you're too pretty. It felt like an insulting compliment! Been treated badly in the workplace for the same reason, by coworkers and my superiors. Totally agree. Very enlightening video! Thank you for bringing awareness to this! Women definitely treat attractive women differently too, and it can be so isolating and disheartening at times to find true, solid friends- without the jealousy factor.
You are right in that we assume beautiful people have no problems and a smooth ride in life and it's not true.
This resonates with me, especially when I was younger. I have blond hair, green eyes, and an hourglass shape with DDs. Many females hated me. Now that I’m mid life, I am enjoying the company of having more secure female friends. In the past I’ve been bombarded with dumb blond jokes by the insecure, and harassed and even stalked by men. After graduation, every single one of my guy friends, confessed that they had wanted more than just friendship….one of them being my boyfriend’s best friend!! I didn’t recognize it until years later that it really has affected how I am around men. I now blush very easily around them and get nervous. I seriously probably need to consider therapy!!LOL!
So long as beautiful people don’t base their complete identity on being beautiful - they’ll be fine.
They're the ones with the problem. Keep your head high and go girl!
This is so open-hearted and helpful. Thank you so much for sharing. Sadly, my mother was so jealous of me, she told the hairdresser to chop off my three foot long ponytail when I was becoming a young woman. Her jealousy persists even now when she is 87 and I am 62. She also broke the string of pearls she gave me when my grandmother brought me matching pearl earrings. It has been a wound I have sadly relived throughout my life. I married a handsome, successful intellectual man who was the male male version of my mother-coercively controlling and sabotaging of my own academic career. For so long I was asleep to the fact that the people who are supposed to love and protect you the most are exacting the opposite diabolical behavior against me. It is a difficult thing to accept that I spent so many decades cooperating in my own oppression unknowingly. I pray that there will be many beautiful and gifted young women who can hear these cautionary tales of truth, and break the broken trauma bonding cycle that allows such perpetration to continue to occur in an ever escalating pattern. God bless you, Freddie.☮️✝️💜✝️☮️
Jealousy : Let's also talk also about men or women being very uncomfortable with high IQ persons. Although I'm not a 'show girl', it 'transpires' in a conversation. It also drives men nuts : Feeling inferior, they cannot bear to be in such a relationship. It sums up my life.
I've been punched by my BFs for this very reason.
Morals : Better be alone than in bad company!
I work in a male dominated place and we travel for work a lot. I have my male colleagues meet me for dinner with their partners (I reach out to phone their partner directly) and they can learn I have zero interest in their partners so they would be more assured. I also never date in my workplace so then both men and women can see I just want to do my job and nothing more so don’t even try hitting on me, judge or treat me like I might. It makes my life easier.
Teased at school for having red hair , trying to fit in
But after school grew red hair long and curly, wear little makeup and with a lot less friends
Had few relationships but men fuelled with jealousy
Now own a lovely home put right, drive nice cars and luxury clothing .. very few women like me lol
I attract men by looks but as soon as they hear a well spoken voice with intelligence they run 🏃♂️ fine by me though
You go girl! More power to you!
Dear Frédérique, I can’t agree more! I was not beautiful I think but was more like pretty and young. Gosh, when I got older, passed through some transformations I realized how much easier my life became. I just don’t want to comment on harassment, I think that some weight issues I had at certain time of my life was actually subconscious reaction of my body to protect itself.
I was just telling this a good friend of mine. It made me uncomfortable just to even say out loud but I told her that being beautiful has been a curse in many ways especially with men. Men want to use you as arm candy and don’t respect you. I’m having a hard time finding a man that doesn’t want to put me down. I’m single now and waiting for someone confident enough to truly love me. It’s been a hard journey. Also people will invite to make them look better. My ex husband would bring me around his friends because he was praised but behind closed doors he was a monster. I dated a guy after I was divorced and that guy too started to put me down. His friends would say I was out of his league he then became so mean to me. He didn’t support anything I said or did. Any way it does have some advantages but the men I attract are 🤮. I have standards and I won’t settle.
Thank You for a great topic Frederique. Jealousy is the hardest to handle. Family can be just as cruel. Many people like to put you in the position of being the object of the gaze and to isolate you. The gossip gangs seem to thrive on this behaviour. If you are articulate and capable - get ready to be torn down.
Beautiful people who don't know they are / have a low opinion of themself can also end up getting groomed and abused by creeps. I don't regard myself as beautiful, but this for sure happened to me in both my work and private life during my late teens, 20's and 30's as it happens to so many women. And you ARE beautiful, Frederique! 😃
I agree!! Even my own sister said that married and single woman can’t hangout together and we are sister but I am the single one. Sad. But I wouldn’t down grade myself for her or anyone because I genuinely believe that right people will love you for who you are.
Thank you so much for talking about this. I have looked for books on this subject but they are hard to find. Beautiful People are afraid to discuss it. You said it well!
You are so welcome!
Everything that you talked about has happened to me. I am now in my sixties and most of these things are still happening to me. I have always wanted to have more friends than one or two but that has always been a problem and still is. I can't believe that women are still acting this way to me since I am no spring chicken. Love your videos and I am so glad that you talked about this subject.
Thank you for bringing this into a conversation. It is so sadly true. I truly appreciated listening.
This is so true. I was in the USAF for 30 years and most of the bad treatment I suffered from was by less attractive women…it’s very sad. My hard work and accomplishments were always diminished by being told by other women that the position or rank I received was due to my looks alone.
Thank you for talking about it. Most people are mean and can’t accept themselves as they are. Beautiful and smart people are a threat to their self-esteem which is already very low.
Otherwise influencers would never have millions of followers as it is the case now.
All my life I thought I was ugly because of the jealousy and rejection from other girls, especially after I got my hourglass figure at 12. I spent most of my life hiding away from mens over attention by overeating and becoming morbidly obese. Only after 40 did I meet enough kind and wise people to allow me to heal and dare become healthy and sexy. I've never gotten so many compliments on my looks, so I finally could be confident enough to wear sexy lingerie at 43 yo.
Being born pretty is not as easy as it sounds, thank you for opening up
Wow did that hit home! Thank you so much for covering a difficult topic. I was a professor in major US urban universities most of my life and then at the age of 45 quit academia because of the constant sexual harassment from the staff and other professors. Also had three stalking incidents and the last one was so bad, I was almost killed. Men don't like being told "I'm not interested" even if it's in the kindest way. The US has a huge problem with toxic masculinity, as I'm sure most woman have already noticed. Men like getting what they want, and try to take it without permission. I now live in remote town on the coast of the Pacific NW. Not much culture or amenities here, but I feel safe. Life is a trade off in so many ways.
When you are attractive and young and go interview for a proper job, the HR person would be "we don't think you are good for the job, but we have a great opportunity for you as a receptionist. It's a great way for you to meet everyone and learn about the job" They just wanted an attractive person to be at the door when the clients arrive. I even had a friend who had an internship and she asked if she could stay, and the guy said "girls like you are nice to have around to look at, but we don't hire girls like you for serious positions"
I thought being hired because of beauty was a good thing 😂.
The rage both men and women can display when a beautiful women politely but firmly says “no thank you” is dangerous. Men trying to follow you home when you leave the cafe, police officers ignoring your request for help-you probably led him on, humans are grossly illogical. They want to be near you, own you, but not hear you. No one will come to your aid. It is a dangerous world for objects of desire.
Well we are all somewhere on a continuum and can always see people who are more attractive than we are, no matter who you are. So there will be envious people. You actually don't have to be beautiful to get that, you could be just nice looking, stylish, independent, confident, smart, wealthy, talented and so on. I never knowingly befriend women who are female competitive. I don't want friends like that.
Thanks for speaking out about these issues! I've dealt with this my entire life! I'm soon to be 65 years old with grown children & grandchildren; however, I've maintained my looks & figure. Most people do not believe my grown children are my biological children & will ask me!!! That really ticks me off! My mother told me when I was about a pre-teen how I would be treated in life due to being very attractive, personable, well mannered and intelligent as she had experienced it all her life! When I started junior high school I began being teased unmercifully everyday! When I got home, I would cry to my mother & that's why she decided to tell me I had to toughen up. Mom gave me great advice as she told me this was a mixed blessing. She told me not to take it personally as it wasn't personal! She said it's going to feel very personal but hold your head high & move on. Don't allow anyone to make you feel something is wrong with you. Although, Mom understood & helped me a lot before her death; however, I've experienced some really lonely painful moments in my life. Thanks for opening up about this topic! I've never talked about this with anyone!
I have been told that I am ugly all my life by my own family (including my son) and friends, yet some have told me that I am not that 'bad' looking. I think what you have said is all true about attractive people. Unfortunately, we live in a society where people judge you on the way you look, if you are good-looking it is assumed that you have a good character and are smarter than others. Don't they say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, what some find beautiful, others find average. I think kindness makes a person beautiful. Great video, really positive. From Perth WA.
I am SO Sorry to hear how you've been treated. Everyone is beautiful!!! Look outside of your family. They don't sound like they will ever accept your beauty. It's not YOU it is the system of negativity your family clings to. I believe it is a symptom of insecurity to belittle others, as why would any truly confident person need to do it? 🌻🌹🌷
I'm so sorry that your family talks that way to you.
You must be a gentle, kind soul or people wouldn’t dare speak to you that way. What is the point of their saying someone isn’t attractive to them? They are just projecting their dissatisfaction with their lot🤷🏼♀️
Maybe hone a few sharp and clever rrsponses to shut them down?
Girls at my school told me that I would not marry because I was sp ugly, what did I do I married the first who would have me! Big mistake and what followed was a life trying to people please. What did not help was that my mother died when I was 5 and the stepmother wanted the husband (my dad) but not the kids.
When I was much younger I remarked to my grandmother that I wished I were pretty. She wisely told me that pretty is superficial yet beauty reveals itself slowly. I’ve never forgotten her message to me and have noticed in getting to know people over the years how profoundly true it is.
When I was in college I went to some random party in another state with some friends and happened to bump into a guy I went to high school with (from my neighborhood). I was so happy to see someone I knew and we immediately started catching up. This was a million years ago when the flash dance style was popular so I was wearing a sweatshirt that was cut up and my back was very open. This woman came up to me and SLAPPED me on my naked back and said “He’s MINE!!” I was so shocked I could barely speak. Epilogue: She was nobody to him and he ended up marrying a friend of mine that I introduced him to. Crazy, huh?
Wow it's amazing how pyscho and jealous people can be. Sorry you went through that. People need to stop being haters.
Have an unbothered attitude. ❤
People can be jealous about anything, even if you're not beautiful. If you look happy, confident, successful, well-off, well-dressed, it can lead to suspicion, abuse and jealousy, even hate from other women.. I am definitely not conventionally beautiful and I've been the target of jealousy even from my own mother (inter-generational jealousy is an interesting topic). I believe I've had a lot of doors closed in my face when it comes to jobs, relationships, friendships, on account of my looks. I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of very good-looking people who have wanted to be my friend, smiled at me or been kind. At 58 I am OK and even love my body and face but all my life a lot of (ignorant) people have taken an immediate dislike to me based on my appearance, literally just before they even heard me speak. On the other hand I think my looks have shielded me from predatory men when I've been in dodgy situation through naivety. I am glad I am not a jealous person, I think they're endlessly miserable (and dangerous)
You just described the story of my life. Everything you mentioned I have experienced still to this date women dislike me for no reason it is horrible. I graduated with honors with my college degree, I am well traveled and speak 4 languages.
Thank you for this video, beautiful lady. You are STUNNING and yes, other women will be jealous and men will feel entitled. Either way, true & authentic beauty triggers insecurities in others. No matter what, may you never shrink yourself! I have far fewer friends now, and am better for it. I spend more time with people 10 & 20 years older than me or younger than me, because I feel safer around them. No competition or comparison. Being in a position to either learn or to teach is a good place. You can feel more accepted & appreciated for just being your beautiful self. Love you, Frederique! 😘
❤I always enjoy seeing your posts …this one is great !!!right on point!!!thank you for sharing this
Bonjour Frédérique, sujet très intéressant, le jugement sur les personnes très belles a toujours existé et existera toujours et surtout maintenant avec les réseaux sociaux, la jalousie, les critiques, malheureusement ces personnes souffrent certainement. Je n'ai jamais été un prix de beauté mais j'ai eu des gens jaloux autour de moi ou critiques et ce n'est pas plaisant mais en vieillissant on les évite . Merci pour cette vidéo et très bonne fin de soirée ou pour toi la matinée. 😗😗😗
Love your video Frederique, you touched on something that I frequently face in my own personal life too, the jealousy, the insecurity of men, the unwanted comments, the criticism, the stares, the family drama ....I could go on and on. Never talked about it to anyone before because there's really nobody I can talk to about it. Thanks for opening up my eyes to something I unfortunately already knew.
They all truths, but most damaging is that, after these experiences you started putting up defences and they become reinforced after each experience and later they become part of your personality
I am so happy that you have done this video and thank you for sharing. I have gone through life where people have been mean towards me and I had a lot of self doubt thinking it was my fault. I have very few friends. I was told at times that I was fat. I am so glad these people are well and truly out of my life. Sometimes I do suffer with depression. I think you are definitely a beautiful woman 🌺
So sad, and oh so true!😢
I don't consider myself a "beauty" by no means but I have an attractive body, especially for my mid-40s. But what I want to tell you about happened in my mid-30s.
As I said, I'm in good shape (thanks, genetics! I'm a couch potato!). However, I like my clothes to be on the looser side, and nothing too short or revealing. You cannot imagine how many people call me out on that, call me a nun, tell me I have to show off my body "because I can". Until, for a special party where I considered it appropriate, I got a dress that was on the tighter and shorter side. Excessive for me, but nothing many of the people (well, women!) involved in this wouldn't put on on a daily basis. Long story short, the next day I was the village talk for how I came there to flirt with all men, and how disrespective this was to my husband who was also present (and loved my outfit!), and especially the high heels that made me taller than him (I'm taller even barefoot! He never seemed to mind!). All in all, I apparently came there to show my husband that I could do better and to try and snatch all other husbands I could...😡 I didn't even dance or walk around too much! I consider myself lucky not to be on social media.
And as I said, there were other women with very similar style of dresses, but all were shorter and heavier than me. And most of them still looked gorgeous, maybe even more because I did feel a bit insecure.
People are incredibly jealous.
Thank you for presenting this topic. I experienced most of the reactions you covered for several decades of my life, I'm older now and very secure in my own skin, personally and professionally. When I was in college, I was called Stuck up and arrogant - and I simply was not interested to accept every boy's invite to go out with them. In graduate school, I was still very young, girls didn't become friends with me due to my looks, few even said they don't get attention when I'm around them. At work, omg you're so right about female boss! Now, your discussion made me think to have a conversation with my daughter. She's stunningly beautiful, intelligent and resilient and she is in Medical School & will be a physician - I need to have a conversation with her about this topic which I'm sure she has experienced 10 times more than her mother. Merci Frederique! 🙏❤️
Those people who are critising others looks, i wonder where the hell they get the time to do so! That's their issue! Get out there people, do you! Challenge yourself, true self esteem does not come from the exterior, of course make the best of yourself, get out , exercise, in the nature, have a giggle. ❤
Thank you for talking about this. Yes, beautiful women are consistently harassed and over-judged.
All of this is sadly and very painfully true. A person can only take so much ridicule before they want to crawl into a hole and not have to deal with people anymore. I have been told that I am absolutely gorgeous (whatever), but getting and keeping friends good luck with that. I couldn't tell you many times I have been told that im too beautiful to be single, yet i can't attract a man at all. I don't put as much effort into putting myself together on a daily basis as i would really like to because I don't want to stand out. My social circle is very small, and they are significantly older than I am, so their points of view are very different, and I'm treated as a normal person
I like beautiful people. I don’t feel jealous. I have a lovely friend, she really is a beauty. Perhaps I am a weird female, but I am capable to give compliments to beautiful women!!!
It’s simple. Do what you want to be happy with yourself. Dress for you and what makes you feel beautiful. Give them something to talk about and don’t give a darn what they have to say
Dear Frederique, I hope this comment finds you well!! I relate with you in so many ways. I have had some of the same feelings and experiences. I am proud of you for having a video of this nature about looks and how you can be treated unkindly. I am not the kind of person that holds on to things, and I'm very forgiving. My best friend told me she hated me because I was pretty and then slept with my boyfriend, I believe just to hurt me. My own sister did the same which started an alienation from my family. I am older now and yet I still feel judged by many by my looks. Did it help me find jobs when I was younger, if it was a man hiring , it sure did. Even my teacher's hit on me. So really, it makes me think about people. I'm very friendly and meet people easily....it's just hard to trust when it's all said and done. It has made me stronger and resilient... I like myself and my company but sometimes, I'd like to meet someone. I trust myself, but I also have found that people are not what they appear. I didn't plan on writing like this, but so many things you talked about touched me. I appreciate you..Thank you Frederique.🌹❤️☺️🪻🦋🌞💐
Thanks for this. I never thought of myself as beautiful, but in my 20's i definitely experienced sexual harassment and unwelcome physical contact. I was young and very fit, nicely dressed, but no beauty. My one consolation, is now that I'm a chubby, grey haired almost 70 year old, i am invisible. I can do my own thing and nobody pays me any mind. For those who experience unwanted attention and smack talk, sorry, it's not fun, but time is a great leveller. I hope you find friends and significant others who can see you for you as a person.
Frederique, as i was carefully listening to you... i realised that those problems, we ALL have them!!
I believe the common denominator here for ALL is the lack of knowing and appreciating the good in oneself and embracing it ❤
Because if we ALL did, people would not project their insecurities or self-hate on others, and everyone would be walking in confidence and not fear.
There is more to the person than their physical body, I love this quote "people are like books waiting to be read"... each person is special treasure ❤ as so are you, Frederique 🤗
The struggle is real. You work so hard to overachieve and prove yourself. It's challenging not to become reclusive.
As someone with average looks (according to the status quo), I had the opposite problem. I had pretty people ghost me,
ignore me and fight me coz I wasn't as pretty as them. I've been told (verbally and non-verbally) that I am not it. This has
literally ruined my whole life even though I feel beautiful inside. I have stopped caring at this age. But I have missed/lost
many opportunities in my life and it really isn't fair. I must say I will never feel sorry for the conventional pretty people as they
ALWAYS have an attitude towards people who don't look like them, just coz we weren't born pretty, we will never be accepted by
society even though we accept ourselves. It really sux!!
Thank you for speaking on this. It can be a lonely existence if you are not aware and do not learn mechanisms to attract the right people into your life.
Honestly it's so hard and depressing
I personally found that beautiful people also more smart and kind
Because their great qualities have a mark of beauty
Hi! Beauty is power. We all want power. Too much of anything can cause problems. I grew up thinking that I was ugly and guys never talked to me; this video was an eyeopener. ❤
I was born very plain looking but had a lot of surgeries to enhance my modeling career so Iv experienced the two differences. It took a lot of adjusting to how people and society treat you. It’s very extreme people’s reaction to you, even aggressive. I’m lucky I’m 5’11 so that helps with the safety issue. At times the hatred gets so overwhelming, there’s a few times Iv snapped and confronted and intimidated them. Overall it’s far better, the benefits out way the bad. Opens so many doors. I use it to my advantage as it welds huge power.
What a great insight into the pitfalls of being a beautiful person. I’ve always been a very good looking woman and have experienced a lot of the things you’ve said. Once I even had a man in a passing car looking at me so long he ran into the car in front of him! 😂😂. At almost 76 now, I still think I look good for my age and that’s important to me. Aging is a gift that many people don’t get to enjoy. Making the best of what you have should be the goal. I’m so sorry people make rude or critical remarks to you, they are probably just jealous. I think you are gorgeous, classy, sweet and funny. 💋💋💋💋 to you darling!!
I agree with all the points you made in this video. There are definitely some burdens to being beautiful.
Absolutely!
So true! I’ve struggled with this all my life which is very hurtful. Always trying to put myself down to appease others. And not liking myself and feeling insecure. Such a waste of my youth. I’m old now and I don’t care what anyone thinks. It’s more peaceful to be alone. Im wise to it now. It’s like if you’re attractive you have to pay. Also, the wrong kind of men are attracted to you for the wrong reasons. I really appreciate this video! Thank you!
Thank you very much for your French bravery to make this video, Frédérique :) Everything is true. Too much hidden envy, hypocrisy and cruelty against beautiful people. It’s the first video I spotted, actually, protecting the human rights of beautiful people. Not “in trend”, unfortunately.
Truth Fréderique a good point and oportunity to talk about
Thank you so much for this video ❤. There is so much truth here. Beauty will not help your career with other women.
This is so true ... thank you for sharing.
Thanks for listening
I’ve been betrayed so much because of my looks, also attracted the wrong people. Mostly shallow souls, everything you get with beauty is very temporary. I have to watch my eye contact, the way I smile, the way I frown, everything is perceived wrong. I’ve learn to gather skills and become anonymous with them until I can’t hide any more and it allows people to see my brains and not prejudge me.
Thank you for this video, I experienced everything you mentioned, and I even lost my job because of jealousy. Please make more videos on this issues ❤
Thank you, I will
Tellement vrai! Merci de parler pour nous.
Hi I have just come upon your chanel. You are a wonderful lady and thank you for being here for us x I really appreciate your honesty and time .
You’re beautiful inside & out. All valid points 🌞🌸
Thank you so much!
i've followed you for a while but really loving the content even more lately!! I'm a 59 yo women and you're an inspiration!
Yay! Thank you!
Thank you for sharing these sad truths about beauty. I have dear ones who have suffered and struggled because of their beauty and attractiveness. 🤗
You are so welcome
This video is soooo true. I am not consider my self as a beautiful person, but a lot of people consider me as attractive. This caused in my life more pain then you can even imagine. This is all true, people who are more attractive than others pay price for this.
Thank you for this video ❤
Many many thanks for speaking out loud on this subject. Yes many many times u end up being a happy loner because of some jealousy ppl. Always afraid to talk to ppl s husbands lol coz they approach for conversation when they see beauty. Some women also hv so many endless questions about yr life lol but I always say to myself it's God given n au naturel. Thanx Fredrick ❤❤
Oh what a fantastic subject 👍 For each point i have story 🥴 i had same expireanc just like you🤔😧😕 and yes sometimes i lower the way i look just to prevent "problem" Thank you for talking about it🙏
Absolutely agree with everything. I have been dealing with these issues all my life. From the predator vibes from men to women that hate you for no reason. It is exhausting. I have learned through the years that I am a true and authentic person and the problem/s that others have with me have nothing to do with me… its their own ego and self esteem that needs sorting. Thank you so much for bringing this subject to light!
I love your videos ! You are THE best ! So informative , please don’t dampen down your amazing personality under pressure from jealous cruel people , your bubbly natural personality is always so refreshing , non pretentious , stay true to yourself Frederique ! ❤
Thank you so much!!
You are SO STUNNING! THANK YOU SO so so so MUCH FOR this video❤❤❤.
You are so welcome!
I'm so glad you discussed this topic Frederique. I remember when I was modeling in Paris for the first time, that all the models would wear no makeup and put their long hair up in a bun. I know you know what I'm talking about, during show season. I remember getting into a really small old elevator on a casting one time with a top model and she was bare faced with her hair in a bun. Of course she was still beautiful but doing this downplayed her looks a lot. I thought, I'm not famous but I better do that too. European men can become really aggressive when they see beauty on the street, the French and the Italians. I wasn't used to American men being like that as much. In Milan, one guy even tried to do something to me on my way into the subway, I won't say. Anyway, I don't mind being older and not as hot LOL, sometimes being beautiful was overwhelming and scary.
I agree completely! I’m now 40 and until a few years ago used to downplay myself in all ways as to not attract attention. This gets you know here. I am not interested in what these toxic individuals think of me and it’s definitely their problem.. I can smell them a mile away and know the usual jibes and passive aggressive actions that go along with it. Always associate with people who are better than you (where possible) and don’t worry about what others think 🤩
Why they hate and bully in school and college used to upset me. I realized that looks fade but inner beauty never does. Accept yourself for who you are and hold your head up high. I wore glasses and plain clothes which helped me. If you get involved in sports and dance it builds confidence in being you.
A resounding 'yes'. Now that I'm an 'old lady', life is so much simpler for me. Yay!
What a great video, so true! Attractive people don't have it as good as others think. Years ago when I worked in retail, there was a girl who got such unwanted attention from men, to the point of having to call the police. By the way, where is your white top from? it is lovely!
Thank you so much for this video. Just two weeks ago a man I thought was a good friend of mine asked me out and I said I would go out as friends but he told me he couldn't be my friend as he was too attracted to me. I didn't want to lose his "friendship" so I tried going out but felt trapped. I got ahold of myself and told him that I respected that he couldn't be just friends but I also respected myself to be true to my feelings.
Also, always had a hard time making girl friends as many thought I was "competition".
And, finally, it's harder to find a mate because with people asking you out constantly you don't get to know people before having to make decisions.
I am getting a little better at being brave enough to be clear and firm and not be manipulated into relationships I don't want.
Thank you Frederique❤️🙏
Thank you for this. ❤
Thank you for making this video. I would (and still do) look in the mirror and see all my imperfections. However, it was the awful treatment from others that told me I must be prettier than I thought I was. I’ve experienced everything you have discussed here and like others commenting, I have tried to come across as humble as I can, even put myself down, clammed up and became very shy, so I wouldn’t be seen to try and draw attention to myself.
I hear all the time about “pretty privilege” and how everyone will treat a pretty girl more positively… yes, sometimes very secure men might be nice to you, but on the whole, I felt like I was being gaslighted, because to me nothing could be further from the truth most of the time.
When I see a pretty girl being herself and being comfortable with being the centre of attention I almost feel jealous of the freedom she feels not to feel shamed or that she needs to hide herself away. At the same time I think, good for you.
Now I’m older and I don’t look as pretty as I did in my youth, people tend not to notice me as much, but once I start to get chatting to people or spend time around people, I feel it creep in. People are still jealous and threatened. I still feel the need to hide myself away and it’s exhausting. I’m still left out often and struggle to make female friends. Men still don’t take me that seriously, although it has improved.
I wish I knew you in my younger years 🙏 you are so right! Thank you for telling this! 🌸🦋♥️
Thank you for saying all of this. It’s all so true!
I agree with you 100% but I have also seen the other side of the coin when the beautiful girl who was not qualified for the job and was a total airhead got a position that she clearly did not deserved just because of the way she looked. Everybody knew it. Two years later she married one of the main bosses of the firm. The beautiful girls are not always the ones been victimized or harassed. Sometimes they are the ones with all the advantages especially when it really matters.
Career blocking, bitchy work colleagues, bullying and as for men they are like wolves it is difficult when you are younger
Thankyou for this resonates so much with me! I am 50 and have experienced all these when in fact I am just genuine and nice. I don’t wear much make up and keep my hair natural and I look healthy as I enjoy keeping fit and active. It started in high school my highly academic “best friend” ditched her studies and developed an eating disorder as she was jealous of my smaller clothing size even though I was more petite, I felt so betrayed. Men think you’re easy if you’re polite or aloof if you won’t chat! I’ve been grabbed in the workplace and in clubs with my friends and I settled down quite young probably because of this 😊
I feel sorry for beautiful men and women who don't age well, or become very bloated/overweight. It must be such a shock to them after their youthful good looks. I believe that my modest looks are going to serve me well as I'm getting older. I have become happy with the way I look though I still wonder what my life would have been like if I'd had more regular facial features or better skin (I suffered from acne for many years, happily now resolved).