She has a job ... she is taking care of her special needs daughter... she said she is getting $800 a month the judge should let her be if she can take care of her daughter and live off $800 a month that is enough work on it's own.. if she wants more money then she should get a job.. if tax payers don't want to give a single mom $800 to take care of her special needs daughter who do they give the money to??
She doesn’t have a job. The teachers at her daughter’s school is taking care of her daughter. After school, she’s being a parent just like any other parent. The problem is she broke the law and has to pay fines but can’t afford to pay them. The judge is requiring she get the job to complete probation and fees or instead revoke probation and just complete jail time. It’s one or the other. Being a special needs parent doesn’t mean you’re above the law and can’t be punished for felonious behavior.
...she can get a part-time job. The 800 a month is supposed to be supplemental to help take care of her daughter. Imagine how much that child is going without, because she is supporting herself and her mother on supplemental income. Smh
@@pinkbooklessons oh ok I get that.. I thought she is just being required to get a job cos she is living off the $800 she gets for her daughter.. that makes sense then.. she has to pay fines if she can't afford it she gets a job.. but if she can live on section 8 and $800 per month she shouldn't be required to get a job just cos the $800 is for the child..
@@omotayoolarewaju4597 who in their right minds in this economy thinks $800 is enough to live off of for her and her daughter? What about unexpected emergencies? In the end, she needs to get a job point blank period
@@SMTS1159 yeah but that's her problem... if she can make it work OK if she can't she gets a job but you can't force her to work cos the $800 is exclusively for the child..
Glad the judge wasn’t tolerating that nonsense. When men get behind, it goes on their “credit report” or face “jail time”. Women / mothers needs to be held “accountable” as well. Make them provide proof.
damn right - receipts should be given for EVERYTHING BOUGHT FOR THE CHILD. no receipts or any left over GOES BACK TO THE FATHER. If benefits state £500 a month for a child(In UK) then no matter how much the father earns or has, you only get 250 a month per child, your ass can pay 50% of what the child needs as your its mother, and if you can't - THE FATHER HAS DEFUALT CUSTODY THEN. No more are women using men/children for an easy PAY DAY. My ex-wife used to say - you lay, you pay - well guess what ladies, that is now going to bite you back HARD. YOU PAY NOW ASWELL.
And even you choose well, men can change and abandon you… but this is the world married men have always lived in since No Fault Divorce- a man can do everything right and one day the woman says “I’m not happy”, or she is caught cheating, and can find another man to support her while the actual father of her kids is still paying her CS… … it’s not marriage men fear, it’s divorce.
@@jared2880 good men won’t leave u or change on u. Hence why women use to Bring back men to their homes and let their father decipher weather they are good enough. Too bad there so many fatherless ppl
@@josephinestafford4466 why does it matter that a man said this? And the point still stands. Women are the ones who chose to spread it to men. Get married before u have a child
Exactly!!! Some Women will find excuses but at the end of the day, you chose that man to have kids with. Esp, when they aren’t married. Unfortunately, most of the responsibility falls on the mother
She is crying when she says her rent is $138. She has no reason to cry. My rent is $2300. I recently moved and couldn’t find anything cheaper. That’s a reason to cry. This woman is completely living off her daughter and the state. This is wild! She just has excuse after excuse. Edit to add: I have a special needs child and my husband and I work and get no help. My neighbors have a severely disabled child and they both have a job.
Many families make do with a single bedroom situation. It's about living within their means. She has a 2 bed/2ba home - outrageous! What's wrong with a one bedroom for the mom and daughter? Caring. loving parents make sacrifices for their children, not take advantage of them. And especially they don't take advantage of their disabled child!
Good for you you still have no right to compare! this woman is one single parent doing it alone she isn't living off of her child or tax payers I pay taxes if my tax money can't go to a single stay at home mom who's child has special needs than who can it go to ? It's no easy feet to get SSI for a child so she must have a serious medical condition ! If she makes too much money then she will lose section 8 and won't be able to afford the bills even with her added income because once she gets a job the amount for SSI will decrease as well there is nothing wrong with using the child's check for their shelter. Or electric ( kid might need it for medical equipment) and her vehicle either she needs to be able to bring her child to and from all her medical appointments and therapy and school the only thing this mom is guilty of is drinking and driving not cool but I'm not sure why this. Judge would rule she isn't allowed to work in the medical field or with children. Wtf. Force her to go back to work and then take away her best options for employment ake it make sense
@@beckydustin4713 Yes, she is living off her child and Section 8 is taxpayer funded. I agree with you that part of child support is for shelter, utilities, food, clothing and medicare care. PART because she is responsible for half the financial, too. Many people with a child would be happy to have even a one-bedroom or even a studio apartment. Who's taking care of her disabled child if she's out drinking and driving? Cars take money, drinks, too. Mom's hair, makeup, nails shouldn't be paid for out of her child's support, either. I don't necessarily believe it when said she wasn't paying. Car payment, insurance, gas, R&M... shouldn't be paid for out of her child's support money. Her daughter goes to school, mom can get part time or hourly gigs housecleaning. Any "leftover" child support money should be put in a savings account for the child's future. What the judge ruled is very common these days: no working as a caregiver or with children because those clients/patients are vulnerable to the bad judgement or bad character of the convicted.
@@janebrown3587exactly and there is no way someone can live even humanely on $800 a month let alone TWO PEOPLE. I bet their section 8 apartment is disgusting and dirty and look that woman ignores her daughter... She even admitted she wasn’t taking her to the therapies that were free SMDH
As a man who is paying for my son and watching his mother not have a job in over 4 years because she is living off my sons child support and the taxpayers, I approve of this judge and I hope she gets a nomination to the Supreme Court one day.
You pay taxes, too, right? You've already helped pay for any public assistance she may be getting. Notice how some women will continue to get food stamps, maybe reduced even though you're making those weekly payments. That's supposed to be temporary, but some years later still getting free care, while most people are working 40+ hours a week. I haven't heard Welfare Queen in a long time. But guess who's a dead beat even when you are making those payments.
That tramp is mad cause a (black) woman denied her access to abuse her daughter's benefits, and her white entitlement card has finally expired. It's about time a real judge hold these welfare recipients accountable, enough is enough!
@@kwadwog8168 The thing I'm happy for this case, that judge know the games women play to abuse the system, and didn't held back on that alcoholic, which is probably a reason her child is disabled, but she'll never admit it.
@Jeremiah Osborne False Equivalency, my man. This isnt a hearing about a crime, its an update for her probation for a PREVIOUS CRIME THIS DRUNK DRIVER HAS ALREADY BEEN CONVICTED OF. SHES A CRIMINAL IN THE EYES OF THE LAW. GET THAT PART RIGHT. The lady in this video needs help,and that help starts from within. Shes already gotten housing help, food help, medical help... now she needs to help herself. And as for being accused of a crime, I dont blindly ride or die for a family member. I have children of my own to consider. Usually when you ride or die, the ride option gets taken off thee table immediately. Dont be stupid. I aint doing time with or for nobody.
My niece is special needs. Her mom had so many medical appointments she lost two great jobs. So she went to school and took a crash course and became her daughters CNA. A nurse recommended she do this and runs a program through the hospital for parents to become their child’s CNA. No reason for this woman to be unemployed and live off the child’s money. Lots of single parents out there that have jobs
I worked with a nurse who had a special needs teenager; I only found out about it because she got a call from the caregiver. This woman put herself through school to be able to support her daughter. I respect that. Compared to my mother in law who adopted one of her grandkids with special needs and lives off what the government gives her (SSN, Section 8, Medical, etc), trust me, there is a service she can obtain; she gets it and does not even work a part-time while my niece is in school all day. I heard the same complaint from her that this woman was making: what if my niece gets sick, she is a full-time mom, etc.
The judge said at 13:25 that she can’t be a home health care provider for her daughter or work with minors. I respectfully disagree. She could be trained to do family health care assistance and make $400 a week. She could save her daughter’s money. Through Medicaid, if you live as a family member advocate and caregiver, you can get paid to take care of your family member. THE FAMILY MEMBER MUST RECEIVE MEDICAID. The following states have paid healthcare advocacy for family: New York Nevada Missouri Pennsylvania Arizona Indiana Georgia Connecticut Colorado Oregon Massachusetts Furthermore, if the family member is incapacitated, they can also have an aide for around the clock treatment overnight. Before you throw me under the bus and get the rope ask yourself do you trust a stranger alone with your special needs family member or if you want them institutionalized? Thank you and I’ll sip on a glass of stfu now.
Right even when I was a SAHM for my kids (I work now that they are in school) I found ways to make money online and contribute. Once upon a time I was a single mom as well. Always hustled even from home. No excuses!
@@judyk7499She is the grandparent and did not bring the child into the world or have to take the child in, she had raised her kids why should she have work extra when she is already financially out of pocket raising them! It was not her responsibility, why make her life more difficult!
@@UnscrupulousAgitator she tells my suns that she's not taking anything from me. My sun doesn't believe me even when I showed him my paycheck. That's why accountability is a must and every dollar these dead beat women get should get audited.
Child support payments arw being used by the state as a corrupt business model. The more people on child support, the more money the state is making provided by federal dollars paid by the taxpayers.
That judge probably heard that story, with the same tears and theatrics 10 times...that day. Judge like, I'm about to drop a mix tape with all these baby momma tears real soon.
I dated a girl who's a mother of 4 getting an SSI check for 2 kids for $1,050, Food stamps was $900, child support $1,200 electric payments $2,000 a year by SRP, she had her mom pick the kids up and got extra money because she labeled her mom as a afterschool daycare for the kids and was getting $600 a week from the Gov and because 1 child was 3 years old. She had 1 bill and that was rent but because she had section8 her went was $34 a month. System needs to be changed and this Judge needs to be on everyone's case.
She's saying she's been a "full time parent" to justify spending money for her daughter but that money could cover a babysitter easily. She thought the judge was gonna miss that???
My ex-wife was like this: she was getting $2300/mo in CS and used it between my daughter (oldest) and her other two (2) younger kids. I got a new judge who immediately gave me custody and made my ex pay $519/mo in CS. My ex cried and blamed me that her and her other kids were gonna be homeless and how I was a heartless b*stard, "How could you do this to us?!" and that "$519 is too much. I have to younger kids". The judge told her to suck it up and to also pay me back for the 3 months of private school tuition that my daughter's scholarship didn't cover that I had to pay out of pocket that was included in the CS...also to get a job and to "stop being a bum!"
Five years ago, I was in a line at a grocery store. A woman had greeted a pregnant woman (I guess they knew each other) convo went like this, “girl you pregnant again?” “Yeah Chile, gotta keep that section 8 rollin”
Yes, also this is encouraging and enabling women to get divorced rather than try and make a relationship work because they can get handouts if they do.
The issue with that is that narrative is becoming false more and more as time goes on. Women are becoming more of the issue for single parenting. Not just a dad not having good relationships. Courts are favoring women for them to get social checks and keep dad on child support. The other person has that correct. The 1 factor over looked here is that raising a disabled child is not that simple. People being let go from jobs for that is not an oh well next job. Jobs are not that easy to get. Most entitled people these days don't know what job hunting itself is anymore. This judge don't know what she's talking about anymore like there's a job around every corner. But also I see that this mother also seems more then calm even while in court but the biggest issue is dad leaving bc child is disabled and their is no child support.
Can we get a round of applause for this lovely judge telling the lady how it is and in the most respectful manner. We need more judges and other people involved in the justice system like this woman
I was REALLY upset watching this drama unfold. She said she can’t work bc her daughter has special needs and she has to be available since she’d lost jobs due to leaving to care for her baby. Then it’s revealed she’s appearing in court for a DUI! I was so mad at her. She cried,” I’m the only one doing this and that!” But really she’s irresponsible and self indulgent.
her story also didnt add up, she said she didnt work for 8 years, and then she said she lost jobs....she said she was "supposed" to take her kid to appointmennts, dosnt mean she did.
Since the Family Leave Act was approved no worker need lost their job due to caring for sick family. She may not like getting time off without pay, but she could still get time offand keep her job.
100% agree. The way this woman started breaking down at the mere mention of getting a job shows me this tactic has probably worked on other judges in the past. So satisfying to see this judge stand up for what’s right for the child.
What, a judge who finally tells the truth! I LOVE IT! More women need to hear this judges advice. There has to be more accountability for the poor choices they make.
@@monsterensemble351 Facts. My mother did that . Called herself a boss chick because she was getting a government handout for years.stuntin. She worked while collecting that money and flipped it into a house. But then her husband died and now she's alone at 65. She doesn't want to get a job now because of the covid requirement for employees in the hospital because She thinks the gov't is trying to take her out. She has to work in a new field starting from the bottom making shit money and her house is currently under foreclosure.
I know so many people who know how to work the system. They live on section 8, foodstamps, state health ACHSS. There bf live in their home making money. They sell their pills. Smh.
It's a lot of single mothers who live off of their children's child support and it's sad. They constantly take the child's father back to court to get an increase so they can sit at home and do nothing.
I get your frustration, but what do you suggest? Should the government criminalize not having a job? Well, that would really jam up the prisons. What should happen to the kids? Put them in foster care? The system is already maxed out in many places. What if the fathers aren't interested or can't take the kids. I don't think the police will have much enthusiasm for going into poorer neighborhoods and dragging women and children out of their homes. I'm also pretty sure they won't go into wealthy areas and drag women out. What if a mother is doing a good job of taking care of her kids. Should the gov. have the right to remove the kids because she doesn't have a job if there is no proof of abuse or mistreatment of any kind? I'm not a fan of government overreach.
I’m no fan of the baby momma phenomenon, but no stay-at-home parent “does nothing.” The mother definitely needs to work to try and help herself, and it’s painfully obvious this particular woman has no moral compass & no intention of doing so. God bless this judge.
@@robhardman1286 Um, give custody to the fathers? Who have demonstrated the ability to support themselves and their kids. It’s not rocket science. And if the father goes to jail for being a broke ass, so too should the mother. At least if they’re locked up, they won’t be out here breeding more losers. I’m sick of watching these section 8 queens getting thousands per month in food stamps, eating steak and shrimp every night, paying like $30 in rent, and child support they’re using for their clothes, hair, and nails, while I’m busting my ass 10 to 12 hrs/day, taking leftover sandwiches to work for lunch.
Absolutely disgraceful. And a dui? Who tf are you? AND YES YOU ARE USING YOUR DAUGHTER!! I don’t know this Judge, but we need more like her. Preaching nothing but the truth. Only language she knows is Truth.
We need more Judges like this! She is honestly helping this woman by holding her accountable for probably one of the only times in her life and is trying to better her life.
There was one where I'm from in Ga. He was sympathetic and when it was actually needed but he also didn't take crap and excuses from nobody. He also told you if you didn't do what was needed to do than your butt will be in a 6x8 cell.
This judge is absolutely right. If the mom have time to get two DUIs then she can get employment. I would have given her the maximum time allowed for probation with the condition that she remain employed with proof. Actually this judge was nice when she dismissed her DUI Fines.
This judge dropped some serious facts. I am speechless especially as the judge did not fall for the tears and excuses. I guess there is some hope after all. Thank you, PBL, for posting this video.
Only simps are moved by those crocodile tears. I have to know why you're crying in order for me to be touched. If you're crying to manipulate me, I'm immune to dem shits like a last survivor in an extinction level event pandemic.
I worked while I raised three kids alone with no child support and no welfare... You just make it happen. My last job interview (before I finally had to quit working due to health issues) was actually with the company that came to me because they wanted me to work with them. After years of being afraid of losing jobs due to issues with the kids, I decided to see just how badly this company wanted me 😊. At the end of the interview I very nicely and politely let the owner know that I would love to work with them but that I was a mom first with three kids in school and I was never again going to be afraid to tell my boss I had a kid emergency and had to leave-how did they feel about single moms? He literally threw his head back and laughed, told me he was going through a divorce and was going to be a single dad, and that between the two of us we would figure it out. As long as one of us was there to answer the phones it was all good. I can't tell you how good it felt knowing I finally had a boss that truly understood and truly didn't care. I didn't have to be afraid every time the phone rang and it was one of the kids school. I didn't have to be afraid when I made a doctor's appointment in the middle of the day. I didn't have to be afraid when one kid woke up with 104 fever and the other kid fell out of a tree and broke their arm 3 hours later. I was finally working for an adult that understood kids have to come first. I stayed with them for 7 years and only left when the business closed.
My mom did the same thing same situation. I'm the only boy with older and younger sisters. It wasn't easy but between after school programs and gov. aid we survived the worst of it while my mom tried finding better jobs. Once she did the aid stopped and by that time we were in middle and high school so we could get food going if she had to work late. It's hard but not impossible so it does annoy me when you get some of these single mothers acting like they should be some sort of special case to everyone else.
You are so lucky to have had a great boss like that. Because some people with kids have no understanding boss and no one to look after the kids when they work. After school programs only go to 6pm in my country and there is nothing in the weekends. Much part time work is evening and weekend work. So you get put into a position were either you work and leave your kids at home illegally and risk their safety/custody or you don't work. You deserve praise for your hard work and sacrifice (and your dedication staying with that company) but at the same time; some people are not in a situation to work. Every situation is unique. However let us agree that the woman in the video is NOT one of them!
I was involved in a car wreck with a drunk driver at only 10 months old. At 9, my mother left my abusive father with absolutely no child support. When I reached 12, complications arose from the wreck over a decade before and I had to go through surgery after surgery every year, more than once a year, for the next 10 years. Yes. My mother lost her job because she refused to let me be alone right before and after my surgeries and ended up on welfare, but she got another job and got off of it. This happened over and over throughout the years, but she never attempted to make any excuse not to work and live off of money that she didn't make!
i hope you made something out of yourself after going through such adversity and your mom making such sacrifices for you! mothers can be pretty amazing. hope all is well 🙏
I started my own business to avoid this very thing. All of my daughters ssi goes to HER needs, HER appointments, HER maintenance. And when she moves out, she has a bank account with money in it to be able to comfortably start her life.
@@vanessatheurbantarotgoddes2192 that’s deflection. The purpose of his comment was about the mother. The father isn’t even in the trial and he’s still to blame for this woman being a bum.
@@arawilson I never said he was or wasn’t an issue. I only stated that she’s the one that’s on trial so she’s at focus. I hate when people use others to divert attention from there wrongdoings. He may be a complete piece of crap but if he was on trial we wouldn’t give 2 craps about what the mom’s role. My only point is to focus on the matter at hand: she’s using her childs money and the governments as her only source of income instead of working herself.
@@TheDCGuitar13 Without question! This country might need to copy the Romanian laws when it comes to divorce. Both parties walk away with everything they came in with over there
She is not the only one living like that. I see so many women on section 8, food stamps free this free that and they keep popping out babies because they get everything for free. They drive nice vehicles, get their hair and nails done, and don't have a job because they are stay-at-home moms when all their kids are in school. We the taxpayers struggle with our lives because we are supporting them. I am so sick of it.
I used to feel the same way but with all the money we send over seas, use for studies in our country and others and the money we pay these crooked politicians, who gives a f***! Anymore?
Y’all can give up that whole I’m paying for your right to live bullshit. The fact that y’all think everyone on government assistance is just unemployed and at home shows how out of touch y’all really are with reality. All cause y’all see a few bad apples do it. Most people on government assistance have jobs. There isn’t enough section 8 or based on income housing to support y’all claims that everyone can just be at home not working. Government assistance isn’t inclusive to just single mothers. If that was the case there wouldn’t be men and women getting the SAME BENEFITS
Because there's plenty of women who has children for this all the time. They get housing food stamps wic's and a check. Off their children. I remember back in late 70s when this person was drawing a check of 2 thousand dollars and food stamps of about 2 thousand dollars month. She was living in fancy house and driving a new car. All while getting this money off the taxpayers.
I'm well into 6 figure income and between the bills, braces, mortgage, etc it's rough. Must be nice being a human farm animal. And the government is the farmer. It's b.s
As a former SINGLE MOM and having a 14 month old and a 2 wk old I was out working a fair to take care of my babies! I was truly a single mom. I didn’t receive child support I didn’t get public assistance other then medical. I was doing this in February in ALASKA!!! When I was again a single mom with 2 under 2 and a baby on the way guess what I was washing dishes at a steak house up until 3 days before I gave birth! 5 days after giving birth and 3 days after getting out of the hospital I was right back washing those dishes!!!! Why? Cause a REAL mom will do anything and everything she needs to so her babies r taken care of!!! Did I intend to be a single mom with 3 babies? Nope but I made the choice to lay down with my ex so I made the choice to do what I had to do! Working 10-12 hrs 6 days a wk made sure I kept my promise to my babies that I would ALWAYS do what I had to do to provide for them!
I love how mom is VERY carefully controlling that tone and volume. She doesnt have the deck stacked in favor like most other mothers in the courtroom. The other woman has all the power and mom is trying to use her softest voice. It’s an instinctive defense mechanism that works on men. I love watching a woman firmly shutdown another’s manipulative tactics! 😂😂😂
Being a single dad with full custody, everything my son got came from the sweat of my brow. I did without to make sure he had a great life and I wouldn't change a thing♡
That is the difference between a parent and a mother/father. A parent puts the needs of a child first. Hat off to you Sir, I wish you and your son all the best.
I love love love this judge! She said everything that I have said and got dragged for. Listen up people. This judge speaks the truth about these dead beats living off of the tax payers money!
I am blown away at the leniency she received for her 2 DUI'S. She'd be looking at mandatory jail time, community service, fines out the wazoo, a weekend driving school, license revoked, and probation if she lived near me. And she's still whining about having to get a job to pay her fines and actually take care of her daughter? What a dunce.
I'm in Minnesota and I have friends with dwi n I'm telling you that I never heard of that, maybe she drops some tears n talked about her child hopefully wasn't in the vehicle with her.
Yeah around here Dui start at like $10,000. Factoring in a cheap lawyer, fines, classes probation, potential drug test. More classes. and a oversight officer through a state police force that goes like 3 years after a you completed all the first stuff. I think the next one is basically double cost and jail time on your weekends and a breath machine in your car. The things you hear listening to drunk ladies talk.
Not just to pay the fines, she needs to work period, and not live off her child's SSDI checks. She is so stuck on her daughter, that she is used to depending on her daughter's money. And she has stunted herself.
Yesss.... we need more judges like her to tell the truth and see it for what it is. She speaking truth!!! 🔊 love it make them more accountable period!!!
"You chose him." I'm so glad she said that. Regarding the child actor Jackie Coogan whom the judge mentioned: When he came of age, he discovered his mother and stepfather had spent the millions he'd earned, and he was broke. This led to the Child Actor's Bill passed in 1939 to avoid this happening to other child actors.
Unbelievable. I was a single mom of a special needs child who busted my ass to put myself through school while working a full time job. Dad paid no child support at all and I had no family help. I never once received any benefits from the state. You figure it out. We lived by the skin of our teeth for years. Robbing Peter to pay Paul but after years of struggling, I received my bachelors, my masters and passed my boards. So it’s all about will power.
Super happy and proud of you. Here’s the thing though a lot of young single parents think this flex. That’s a hard life! And only someone built like you can manage! Most will only create generational traumas because if their lack of accountability. Bless you and your family and I hope one day our culture as a whole will understand the value of being a parent
Super proud of you!! I did it too (no special needs). I'm proud of MYSELF. We're showing our kids that ya life is hard and sucks sometimes but ya gotta get out there and kick some ass to have a good life. I don't owe anyone anything! Zero debt and an education nobody can take away from me. You're a queen mama!! Sending love ❤️
Pardon my French. But Fuck yea. You're an amazing woman, and mother. I'm on the other side of the spectrum and my ex wife isn't paying and won't visit. I'm so glad to hear you made it out of the shit.
Omg. This is my first time tuning in and whew this is…. 😳. When the law has to hold women accountable for the continuous madness we are faced with is mind blowing. 🙏🏿 Thank you for sharing this
Damn I’m a single mom and actually do it on my own AND I’m disabled!. It’s wild that this female has every single assistance possible and refuses to work. Wild
Facts!! I was like damn! She on everything that’s available! Sheesh! I’ve been doing 5 yrs without any of that! I’d rather a job then do all that!! That’s to much to keep with also 😂
@@vincentcarroll471 my child is not “special needs” but does have severe kidney issues. She almost died when she was five. Her father and I are not together because while I was by my child’s side in the hospital he decided to cheat. He decided when he wants to come around and even when he wants to pay support. It was hard at first and obviously extremely painful. But my daughter and I are much happier and healthier. All I do is work and take care of my child. I don’t date or party or entertain bs. I do everything in my power to protect my peace and be a stable healthy parent. I wouldn’t change it
I have to give this judge her flowers. She is THE definition of a woman this is not staying on code with this “sisterhood” 👏🏾 Side note: When she said. You choose that person to have a child with. I started clapping. Standing ovation.
My late grandmother did the same thing. Went from working 2 jobs, to wanting to keep me and my brother because SSI (after my mother died when I was 9 and my brother was 8, of leukemia) for the pair of us, was more than she was making working 2 jobs. As soon as we hit 18, it was 'you need to move out'. Some people let money change them so much and it shows.
my ex-stepmother did something similar (somehow it was worse) with my half-siblings. She lost the kids eventually, lying to the courts, only living off the government and child support, and kids were never going to school to the point they were multiple grades behind. She tried to handicap them mentally by withholding education and social skills so she could collect checks on their potential disability. True evil.
Pink Book, I truly appreciate the quality of your content and that you do not discriminate on gender or nationality when providing your lessons. Keep ‘em woke.
Awesome case study. It’s very interesting to see the contrast between the male judges we’ve seen and the female judges, in terms of how they address these women in court. The men must be afraid of being criticized for being stern. The women judges talk to them the way their mothers should have.
She has a job ... she is taking care of her special needs daughter... she said she is getting $800 a month the judge should let her be if she can take care of her daughter and live off $800 a month that is enough work on it's own.. if she wants more money then she should get a job.. if tax payers don't want to give a single mom $800 to take care of her special needs daughter who do they give the money to??
She doesn’t have a job. The teachers at her daughter’s school is taking care of her daughter. After school, she’s being a parent just like any other parent. The problem is she broke the law and has to pay fines but can’t afford to pay them. The judge is requiring she get the job to complete probation and fees or instead revoke probation and just complete jail time. It’s one or the other. Being a special needs parent doesn’t mean you’re above the law and can’t be punished for felonious behavior.
...she can get a part-time job. The 800 a month is supposed to be supplemental to help take care of her daughter. Imagine how much that child is going without, because she is supporting herself and her mother on supplemental income. Smh
@@pinkbooklessons oh ok I get that.. I thought she is just being required to get a job cos she is living off the $800 she gets for her daughter.. that makes sense then.. she has to pay fines if she can't afford it she gets a job.. but if she can live on section 8 and $800 per month she shouldn't be required to get a job just cos the $800 is for the child..
@@omotayoolarewaju4597 who in their right minds in this economy thinks $800 is enough to live off of for her and her daughter? What about unexpected emergencies? In the end, she needs to get a job point blank period
@@SMTS1159 yeah but that's her problem... if she can make it work OK if she can't she gets a job but you can't force her to work cos the $800 is exclusively for the child..
Section 8, welfare, food stamps, daughters SSI, child support.
Her: I do it all on my own 🙄
The nerve of these Morons😂
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They all claim independence while getting help from everyone yet they actually do very little or nothing.
Well explained!
Glad the judge wasn’t tolerating that nonsense. When men get behind, it goes on their “credit report” or face “jail time”. Women / mothers needs to be held “accountable” as well. Make them provide proof.
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damn right - receipts should be given for EVERYTHING BOUGHT FOR THE CHILD. no receipts or any left over GOES BACK TO THE FATHER. If benefits state £500 a month for a child(In UK) then no matter how much the father earns or has, you only get 250 a month per child, your ass can pay 50% of what the child needs as your its mother, and if you can't - THE FATHER HAS DEFUALT CUSTODY THEN. No more are women using men/children for an easy PAY DAY.
My ex-wife used to say - you lay, you pay - well guess what ladies, that is now going to bite you back HARD. YOU PAY NOW ASWELL.
Lazy females like that use the kids as a meal ticket
I totally agree with you
Its not *What* *makes* *YOUTHINK* 7:42 ITS YOUR ARE LIVING OFF OF YOUR DAUGHT... *IN*A*FACT* *SKUNK....* chameleon or something
"You chose him". These are the words these women need to acknowledge.
And even you choose well, men can change and abandon you… but this is the world married men have always lived in since No Fault Divorce- a man can do everything right and one day the woman says “I’m not happy”, or she is caught cheating, and can find another man to support her while the actual father of her kids is still paying her CS…
… it’s not marriage men fear, it’s divorce.
@@jared2880 good men won’t leave u or change on u. Hence why women use to Bring back men to their homes and let their father decipher weather they are good enough. Too bad there so many fatherless ppl
@@josephinestafford4466 why does it matter that a man said this? And the point still stands. Women are the ones who chose to spread it to men. Get married before u have a child
@@jared2880 women see the red Flags but ignore them that’s your fault yall don’t take accountability for none off your decision but blame it on us.
Exactly!!! Some Women will find excuses but at the end of the day, you chose that man to have kids with. Esp, when they aren’t married. Unfortunately, most of the responsibility falls on the mother
She is crying when she says her rent is $138. She has no reason to cry. My rent is $2300. I recently moved and couldn’t find anything cheaper. That’s a reason to cry. This woman is completely living off her daughter and the state. This is wild! She just has excuse after excuse. Edit to add: I have a special needs child and my husband and I work and get no help. My neighbors have a severely disabled child and they both have a job.
Many families make do with a single bedroom situation. It's about living within their means. She has a 2 bed/2ba home - outrageous! What's wrong with a one bedroom for the mom and daughter? Caring. loving parents make sacrifices for their children, not take advantage of them. And especially they don't take advantage of their disabled child!
She's Pathetic Weak women.. period
Good for you you still have no right to compare! this woman is one single parent doing it alone she isn't living off of her child or tax payers I pay taxes if my tax money can't go to a single stay at home mom who's child has special needs than who can it go to ? It's no easy feet to get SSI for a child so she must have a serious medical condition ! If she makes too much money then she will lose section 8 and won't be able to afford the bills even with her added income because once she gets a job the amount for SSI will decrease as well there is nothing wrong with using the child's check for their shelter. Or electric ( kid might need it for medical equipment) and her vehicle either she needs to be able to bring her child to and from all her medical appointments and therapy and school the only thing this mom is guilty of is drinking and driving not cool but I'm not sure why this. Judge would rule she isn't allowed to work in the medical field or with children. Wtf. Force her to go back to work and then take away her best options for employment ake it make sense
@@beckydustin4713 Yes, she is living off her child and Section 8 is taxpayer funded. I agree with you that part of child support is for shelter, utilities, food, clothing and medicare care. PART because she is responsible for half the financial, too. Many people with a child would be happy to have even a one-bedroom or even a studio apartment. Who's taking care of her disabled child if she's out drinking and driving? Cars take money, drinks, too. Mom's hair, makeup, nails shouldn't be paid for out of her child's support, either. I don't necessarily believe it when said she wasn't paying. Car payment, insurance, gas, R&M... shouldn't be paid for out of her child's support money. Her daughter goes to school, mom can get part time or hourly gigs housecleaning. Any "leftover" child support money should be put in a savings account for the child's future. What the judge ruled is very common these days: no working as a caregiver or with children because those clients/patients are vulnerable to the bad judgement or bad character of the convicted.
@@janebrown3587exactly and there is no way someone can live even humanely on $800 a month let alone TWO PEOPLE. I bet their section 8 apartment is disgusting and dirty and look that woman ignores her daughter... She even admitted she wasn’t taking her to the therapies that were free SMDH
FINALLY A JUDGE WHO IS ABOUT CHECKING THAT LIFE. WE NEED MORE LIKE HER.
Crazy how the women judges see thru the scam, but the men simp judges be all on the mom side.
No we don't.
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No this judge has no compassion or understanding at all
@@mariacrouch7109 good, these slobs need a nasty wake up call. so many weak leeches
As a man who is paying for my son and watching his mother not have a job in over 4 years because she is living off my sons child support and the taxpayers, I approve of this judge and I hope she gets a nomination to the Supreme Court one day.
Well AllRight!
Hope you get you’re son Sir.
I hope your situation change she needs to work that’s your daughter money not hers
@@belizegal29 he won't because the court makes money off those payments.
You pay taxes, too, right? You've already helped pay for any public assistance she may be getting. Notice how some women will continue to get food stamps, maybe reduced even though you're making those weekly payments. That's supposed to be temporary, but some years later still getting free care, while most people are working 40+ hours a week. I haven't heard Welfare Queen in a long time. But guess who's a dead beat even when you are making those payments.
I absolutely love this judge. We just don't see this often enough, especially from other women. Her nickname should be judge accountability.
@Jeremiah Osborne No, I wouldn't. My father taught us better, and we have ACCOUNTABILITY WITHIN OUR OWN FAMILY, even at 50 years old
That tramp is mad cause a (black) woman denied her access to abuse her daughter's benefits, and her white entitlement card has finally expired. It's about time a real judge hold these welfare recipients accountable, enough is enough!
@@kwadwog8168 The thing I'm happy for this case, that judge know the games women play to abuse the system, and didn't held back on that alcoholic, which is probably a reason her child is disabled, but she'll never admit it.
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@Jeremiah Osborne False Equivalency, my man. This isnt a hearing about a crime, its an update for her probation for a PREVIOUS CRIME THIS DRUNK DRIVER HAS ALREADY BEEN CONVICTED OF. SHES A CRIMINAL IN THE EYES OF THE LAW.
GET THAT PART RIGHT.
The lady in this video needs help,and that help starts from within. Shes already gotten housing help, food help, medical help... now she needs to help herself.
And as for being accused of a crime, I dont blindly ride or die for a family member. I have children of my own to consider. Usually when you ride or die, the ride option gets taken off thee table immediately. Dont be stupid. I aint doing time with or for nobody.
I would NOT be crying in front of a judge if my rent was $138 a month!
Okay! My life would be peaceful lmaoooo
$138 a month for rent would be a blessing
$138 for rent is crazy, she out here really living life Scott free
but its going up… how dare they
Especially for a 2 bed 2 bath. Some studio apartments where I live go for $1100 market rate.
@@dillonjoseph1961 I live in a small 2 bedroom apartment 1 bath , $1300, and I thought that was kinda cheap
You can recycle cans and bottles and come up with that amount every month 🤣
@@dillonjoseph1961 right I pay 1300.00 for a 1 bd in Ohio
Once the Judge put on her glasses I knew it was over🤣🤣🤣
She started to roast that azz! 😂
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Just like Judge Judy!!
Indeed, let the straightening begin…🤣😊.
My niece is special needs. Her mom had so many medical appointments she lost two great jobs. So she went to school and took a crash course and became her daughters CNA. A nurse recommended she do this and runs a program through the hospital for parents to become their child’s CNA. No reason for this woman to be unemployed and live off the child’s money. Lots of single parents out there that have jobs
I worked with a nurse who had a special needs teenager; I only found out about it because she got a call from the caregiver. This woman put herself through school to be able to support her daughter. I respect that. Compared to my mother in law who adopted one of her grandkids with special needs and lives off what the government gives her (SSN, Section 8, Medical, etc), trust me, there is a service she can obtain; she gets it and does not even work a part-time while my niece is in school all day. I heard the same complaint from her that this woman was making: what if my niece gets sick, she is a full-time mom, etc.
The judge said at 13:25 that she can’t be a home health care provider for her daughter or work with minors. I respectfully disagree. She could be trained to do family health care assistance and make $400 a week. She could save her daughter’s money.
Through Medicaid, if you live as a family member advocate and caregiver, you can get paid to take care of your family member. THE FAMILY MEMBER MUST RECEIVE MEDICAID. The following states have paid healthcare advocacy for family:
New York
Nevada
Missouri
Pennsylvania
Arizona
Indiana
Georgia
Connecticut
Colorado
Oregon
Massachusetts
Furthermore, if the family member is incapacitated, they can also have an aide for around the clock treatment overnight. Before you throw me under the bus and get the rope ask yourself do you trust a stranger alone with your special needs family member or if you want them institutionalized?
Thank you and I’ll sip on a glass of stfu now.
Right even when I was a SAHM for my kids (I work now that they are in school) I found ways to make money online and contribute. Once upon a time I was a single mom as well. Always hustled even from home. No excuses!
@@judyk7499She is the grandparent and did not bring the child into the world or have to take the child in, she had raised her kids why should she have work extra when she is already financially out of pocket raising them! It was not her responsibility, why make her life more difficult!
Still why knock people down verbally so much as it changes nothing, shame brings people down.
As a man who pays child support, this is the best judge I've seen.
From what I see american men get shafted on child support.
Don't you think there should be accountability of those CS funds?
Show proof that money goes to the child?
@@UnscrupulousAgitator she tells my suns that she's not taking anything from me. My sun doesn't believe me even when I showed him my paycheck. That's why accountability is a must and every dollar these dead beat women get should get audited.
Child support payments arw being used by the state as a corrupt business model. The more people on child support, the more money the state is making provided by federal dollars paid by the taxpayers.
Yes
Please let this judge go viral. We need more like her.
She's fantastic. I've seen her in action before.
No we don't. She's disgusting.
Bexar County Texas don’t play
I wish I could like this comment a thousand times!
Watch Law Talk With Mike and you'll see a lot of this judge in action.
The judge sipping her drink while the smooth brain single mom is telling her life story needs to be a meme😂😂😂😂
I second that 😂
Smooth brain tho ?!?!😂😂😂
@@Willardbeans00just one wrinkle would’ve made her know better than the ish she tried in court😂😂😂
Single brain is GENEROUS 🤣
That judge probably heard that story, with the same tears and theatrics 10 times...that day.
Judge like, I'm about to drop a mix tape with all these baby momma tears real soon.
I dated a girl who's a mother of 4 getting an SSI check for 2 kids for $1,050, Food stamps was $900, child support $1,200 electric payments $2,000 a year by SRP, she had her mom pick the kids up and got extra money because she labeled her mom as a afterschool daycare for the kids and was getting $600 a week from the Gov and because 1 child was 3 years old. She had 1 bill and that was rent but because she had section8 her went was $34 a month. System needs to be changed and this Judge needs to be on everyone's case.
These women must be stopped... it's getting outta hand. She just don't wanna work
She's Mexican of course she doesn't want to work
i salute ya woman
My sister is the same way and her and her daughter live with me.
She's saying she's been a "full time parent" to justify spending money for her daughter but that money could cover a babysitter easily. She thought the judge was gonna miss that???
THAT PART!💯
Yup, she's a full-time mother w/time to drunk drive. But no time to find a job or to work. Please make it make sense.
She's not a full time parent. Single mothers are the worst parents and she did not demonstrate that she's an exception.
Or day care or something.
@@KtotheG I noticed to used that as a crutch to justify her lazy lifestyle.
This judge deserves an AWARD 🥇 speaking nothing but straight facts! I agree on everything she said through this hearing 💯 👏🏾
She's probably has had hundreds of people like this lady in front of her justifying leeching of the system time after time.
Nah.. the only thing I agree with her on is the part about living off of her child..
str@ightalk1 & Company...👊
I loved every single second of every minute of this video. It's time that these elected officials start holding these 304s feet to the 🔥...
Love this Judge. I am so sick of these government leaches.
My ex-wife was like this: she was getting $2300/mo in CS and used it between my daughter (oldest) and her other two (2) younger kids. I got a new judge who immediately gave me custody and made my ex pay $519/mo in CS.
My ex cried and blamed me that her and her other kids were gonna be homeless and how I was a heartless b*stard, "How could you do this to us?!" and that "$519 is too much. I have to younger kids".
The judge told her to suck it up and to also pay me back for the 3 months of private school tuition that my daughter's scholarship didn't cover that I had to pay out of pocket that was included in the CS...also to get a job and to "stop being a bum!"
@@ptk4392 NYS is 17% for one child so I made close to $162K/year after taxes.
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Salute to u my dude..God smiled on u when he put u in front that judge....love to see it.🙏🏾
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Ain’t no fun when the rabbit has the gun!! Her and the other kids are not your responsibility….this how they think
Children are just businesses for some women. The system allows it. We definitely need some change.
Most women. I was paying enough child support to my ex to cover her mortgage and my kids still weren't getting the stuff they needed.
Five years ago, I was in a line at a grocery store. A woman had greeted a pregnant woman (I guess they knew each other) convo went like this, “girl you pregnant again?” “Yeah Chile, gotta keep that section 8 rollin”
@@bagley232 Dag! Crazy!
More like pawns and stock options. They delete them like it's nothing, too.
@@bagley232 😳😳🤯🤯
We need more judges like this. She's a real one
We need more judges like this. We need to stop this pattern of mothers and fathers living off their children.
I know you're trying to not be controversial, but we all know it's women that are doing this, not men.
It's mostly the mothers because the father is not in the picture and never had a stable relationship with the mother
Yes, also this is encouraging and enabling women to get divorced rather than try and make a relationship work because they can get handouts if they do.
The issue with that is that narrative is becoming false more and more as time goes on. Women are becoming more of the issue for single parenting. Not just a dad not having good relationships. Courts are favoring women for them to get social checks and keep dad on child support. The other person has that correct. The 1 factor over looked here is that raising a disabled child is not that simple. People being let go from jobs for that is not an oh well next job. Jobs are not that easy to get. Most entitled people these days don't know what job hunting itself is anymore. This judge don't know what she's talking about anymore like there's a job around every corner. But also I see that this mother also seems more then calm even while in court but the biggest issue is dad leaving bc child is disabled and their is no child support.
Does the child not eat food wear clothes live in the housecyes she does plus needs to be transported to school
So many states need this judge. This is how you hold people accountable. Kudos to you
Yes, the whole system needs accountability... If we don't get hold of it soon, it will be too late...-pp
Can we get a round of applause for this lovely judge telling the lady how it is and in the most respectful manner. We need more judges and other people involved in the justice system like this woman
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She read her the riot act. No tolerance for whining or excuses.
It’s a shame the defendant just sat there shaking her head no the whole time, she’ll never stop with the excuses and selfishness
Stop, people, this country doesn't have a job for everyone. She is taking care of a child. That judge should not be on the bench....
Stealing from her daughter, and DUI on top of that? Wow irresponsible.
Boo hoo hoo ? No, get a job because we’re paying your bills & im sick of it. 😡
This was too good. These types of women need to be stopped.
I didn't realize she was there for drunk driving. I was so caught up in her crying about paying $138 for rent being so stressful.
I was REALLY upset watching this drama unfold. She said she can’t work bc her daughter has special needs and she has to be available since she’d lost jobs due to leaving to care for her baby. Then it’s revealed she’s appearing in court for a DUI! I was so mad at her. She cried,” I’m the only one doing this and that!” But really she’s irresponsible and self indulgent.
That's every person, paying taxes, ❤️ in Texas Baby. They paying for the child.
her story also didnt add up, she said she didnt work for 8 years, and then she said she lost jobs....she said she was "supposed" to take her kid to appointmennts, dosnt mean she did.
Since the Family Leave Act was approved no worker need lost their job due to caring for sick family. She may not like getting time off without pay, but she could still get time offand keep her job.
100% agree. The way this woman started breaking down at the mere mention of getting a job shows me this tactic has probably worked on other judges in the past. So satisfying to see this judge stand up for what’s right for the child.
A DUI ? While she has a special needs at home ? She`s lucky she didn`t get sent to jail.
Love the judge. She really drove it home!
In 47 years, I have NEVER seen someone be ordered to get a job and LITERALLY cry 🤣 PBL Bringing mo' Heat Than Miami 💯
FINALLY. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
A woman holding another woman accountable. Imagine if this became a trend.
Never
@@williamh.gatesiii8183 Actually, women are more judgmental and critical toward other women than men are. This judge is common.
Trend shet, I do it every day.
We wish brother, women have gotten away with being scandalous for far too long.
I love this judge.
What, a judge who finally tells the truth! I LOVE IT! More women need to hear this judges advice. There has to be more accountability for the poor choices they make.
By far, the best judge I’ve seen on these cases.
My mother got a whole 3 bedroom apartment based off her kids then proceeded to start kicking everyone out lol 😂
Mom is foul for that……. real talk…….
Reap what you sow. Those same children she kicked out are the only ones that would have been around when she gets old. But choices have been made!
@@monsterensemble351 Facts. My mother did that . Called herself a boss chick because she was getting a government handout for years.stuntin. She worked while collecting that money and flipped it into a house. But then her husband died and now she's alone at 65. She doesn't want to get a job now because of the covid requirement for employees in the hospital because She thinks the gov't is trying to take her out. She has to work in a new field starting from the bottom making shit money and her house is currently under foreclosure.
@@ralphpinkins5619 Good, that's how it should be
That's supposed to be the kids apartment, smh
Thank God! A judge that knows what's going on and not going for the bullsh*t. We need more of her
This judge has no clue and how she's fired.
@@burna21bit watcha mean she has no clue? Everything she said about the mother is correct 🤷🏾♂️
@@burna21bit ur retarded or a troll lol
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I know so many people who know how to work the system. They live on section 8, foodstamps, state health ACHSS. There bf live in their home making money. They sell their pills. Smh.
Judges like this will never get the shine they deserve. That's why we need channels like PBL!!!!!
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@@pinkbooklessons keep doing your thing sis
I respect this judge so much she ALWAYS puts the needs of the children involved in her cases as top priority.
Section 8 and receiving social security from her daughter. She’s living every single baby mothers dream
It's a lot of single mothers who live off of their children's child support and it's sad. They constantly take the child's father back to court to get an increase so they can sit at home and do nothing.
That's why we aren't dating them. The single mother boycott is spreading across the world, too.
I get your frustration, but what do you suggest? Should the government criminalize not having a job? Well, that would really jam up the prisons. What should happen to the kids? Put them in foster care? The system is already maxed out in many places. What if the fathers aren't interested or can't take the kids. I don't think the police will have much enthusiasm for going into poorer neighborhoods and dragging women and children out of their homes. I'm also pretty sure they won't go into wealthy areas and drag women out. What if a mother is doing a good job of taking care of her kids. Should the gov. have the right to remove the kids because she doesn't have a job if there is no proof of abuse or mistreatment of any kind? I'm not a fan of government overreach.
That’s their way of getting back at him since he left the relationship.
I’m no fan of the baby momma phenomenon, but no stay-at-home parent “does nothing.” The mother definitely needs to work to try and help herself, and it’s painfully obvious this particular woman has no moral compass & no intention of doing so. God bless this judge.
@@robhardman1286 Um, give custody to the fathers? Who have demonstrated the ability to support themselves and their kids. It’s not rocket science.
And if the father goes to jail for being a broke ass, so too should the mother. At least if they’re locked up, they won’t be out here breeding more losers.
I’m sick of watching these section 8 queens getting thousands per month in food stamps, eating steak and shrimp every night, paying like $30 in rent, and child support they’re using for their clothes, hair, and nails, while I’m busting my ass 10 to 12 hrs/day, taking leftover sandwiches to work for lunch.
Every child support court should have a judge like her.
Fyi Child support says (in CA) it goes against public policy to make a mom/CP work. Lol Just nuts!
Absolutely disgraceful. And a dui? Who tf are you? AND YES YOU ARE USING YOUR DAUGHTER!! I don’t know this Judge, but we need more like her. Preaching nothing but the truth. Only language she knows is Truth.
We need more Judges like this! She is honestly helping this woman by holding her accountable for probably one of the only times in her life and is trying to better her life.
facts
If you only knew how ignorant this statement is.
@@burna21bit It's not ignorant It's accountability but you on the other hand are ignorant.
@Khalfrank great you replied to my comment with my comment. Great comeback 👏.
@@burna21bit I'm only pointing out the irony about you. Too bad your brain is too small to comprehend that.
FINALLY! A judge with a brain & morals!
They need judges like her in Georgia. That judge nailed it in the head!!! She was not falling for the sob stories!!!
Yes we do badly
They already have dumbass judges like her in Georgia
There was one where I'm from in Ga. He was sympathetic and when it was actually needed but he also didn't take crap and excuses from nobody. He also told you if you didn't do what was needed to do than your butt will be in a 6x8 cell.
This judge is absolutely right. If the mom have time to get two DUIs then she can get employment. I would have given her the maximum time allowed for probation with the condition that she remain employed with proof. Actually this judge was nice when she dismissed her DUI Fines.
I love this judge! We need more like her who will speak truth to these grifters.
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Appreciate you PBL. We need this for child support
Love this judge. Why can't more people in government be like her, with common sense?
Totally agreed
God Bless this judge for protecting, not only the daughter, but the tax payers that are being taken advantage of by people like this mother.
She is lucky she is not having her daughter taken from her.
This judge dropped some serious facts. I am speechless especially as the judge did not fall for the tears and excuses. I guess there is some hope after all. Thank you, PBL, for posting this video.
Crocodile tears of a woman only go so far with another woman.
She learned this the hard way that day in court 😂
Croc tears for real 💯
Plus, don't NOTHING piss off an educated, disciplined woman like her complete opposite.
What u expect? They good at playing the victim. It’s in they DNA
Only simps are moved by those crocodile tears. I have to know why you're crying in order for me to be touched. If you're crying to manipulate me, I'm immune to dem shits like a last survivor in an extinction level event pandemic.
@@MyNameIsUnavailable This was a light-but-heavy bar
I worked while I raised three kids alone with no child support and no welfare... You just make it happen. My last job interview (before I finally had to quit working due to health issues) was actually with the company that came to me because they wanted me to work with them. After years of being afraid of losing jobs due to issues with the kids, I decided to see just how badly this company wanted me 😊.
At the end of the interview I very nicely and politely let the owner know that I would love to work with them but that I was a mom first with three kids in school and I was never again going to be afraid to tell my boss I had a kid emergency and had to leave-how did they feel about single moms?
He literally threw his head back and laughed, told me he was going through a divorce and was going to be a single dad, and that between the two of us we would figure it out. As long as one of us was there to answer the phones it was all good.
I can't tell you how good it felt knowing I finally had a boss that truly understood and truly didn't care. I didn't have to be afraid every time the phone rang and it was one of the kids school. I didn't have to be afraid when I made a doctor's appointment in the middle of the day. I didn't have to be afraid when one kid woke up with 104 fever and the other kid fell out of a tree and broke their arm 3 hours later. I was finally working for an adult that understood kids have to come first. I stayed with them for 7 years and only left when the business closed.
My mom did the same thing same situation. I'm the only boy with older and younger sisters. It wasn't easy but between after school programs and gov. aid we survived the worst of it while my mom tried finding better jobs. Once she did the aid stopped and by that time we were in middle and high school so we could get food going if she had to work late. It's hard but not impossible so it does annoy me when you get some of these single mothers acting like they should be some sort of special case to everyone else.
You are so lucky to have had a great boss like that. Because some people with kids have no understanding boss and no one to look after the kids when they work. After school programs only go to 6pm in my country and there is nothing in the weekends. Much part time work is evening and weekend work. So you get put into a position were either you work and leave your kids at home illegally and risk their safety/custody or you don't work.
You deserve praise for your hard work and sacrifice (and your dedication staying with that company) but at the same time; some people are not in a situation to work. Every situation is unique. However let us agree that the woman in the video is NOT one of them!
My new boss is the same way and I’m so happy!
Cool story bruh but nobody cares write a book instead of writing it in a comment section of a u tube video 🙄
@@JeffHoward74same to you why run your mouth here
I was involved in a car wreck with a drunk driver at only 10 months old. At 9, my mother left my abusive father with absolutely no child support. When I reached 12, complications arose from the wreck over a decade before and I had to go through surgery after surgery every year, more than once a year, for the next 10 years. Yes. My mother lost her job because she refused to let me be alone right before and after my surgeries and ended up on welfare, but she got another job and got off of it. This happened over and over throughout the years, but she never attempted to make any excuse not to work and live off of money that she didn't make!
@michael Stevenson Prayers to you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 and 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾for your mother.
i hope you made something out of yourself after going through such adversity and your mom making such sacrifices for you! mothers can be pretty amazing. hope all is well 🙏
Shout out to Super Mom, LOVE THAT! 🙏🏾
Abusive huh, did she file a police report?
@@Janthony1977 yea where is the police report
I started my own business to avoid this very thing. All of my daughters ssi goes to HER needs, HER appointments, HER maintenance. And when she moves out, she has a bank account with money in it to be able to comfortably start her life.
We need more judges like this. Men have been treated unfairly for years.
@@vanessatheurbantarotgoddes2192 that’s deflection. The purpose of his comment was about the mother. The father isn’t even in the trial and he’s still to blame for this woman being a bum.
@@tasiahoyt3526 he left them and doesn't pay child support, so he's an issue here too.
@@arawilson I never said he was or wasn’t an issue. I only stated that she’s the one that’s on trial so she’s at focus. I hate when people use others to divert attention from there wrongdoings. He may be a complete piece of crap but if he was on trial we wouldn’t give 2 craps about what the mom’s role. My only point is to focus on the matter at hand: she’s using her childs money and the governments as her only source of income instead of working herself.
I love this judge!!!! I wish there were more judges like her!!!
Thank god for this judge.
Judge keeping it Real and holding this young lady accountable 👏🏽💯👏🏽💯👏🏽💯👏🏽💯
Oh no! ACCOUNTABILITY!! A baby momma’s kryptonite!
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I LOVE THIS JUDGE!!!! We need more just like her👍
If more judges said get a job or go to jail during divorce proceedings, More men would get married.
Marriage rates would skyrocket, bruh
Right 😂
@@WMB6022they think it’s having to pay for shit that drives men away. Nah. It’s paying for shit after divorce that does.
BIG FACTS!!!
@@TheDCGuitar13 Without question! This country might need to copy the Romanian laws when it comes to divorce.
Both parties walk away with everything they came in with over there
Judge Boyd ain’t taking this baby mama bullshit!
She is not the only one living like that. I see so many women on section 8, food stamps free this free that and they keep popping out babies because they get everything for free. They drive nice vehicles, get their hair and nails done, and don't have a job because they are stay-at-home moms when all their kids are in school. We the taxpayers struggle with our lives because we are supporting them. I am so sick of it.
I used to feel the same way but with all the money we send over seas, use for studies in our country and others and the money we pay these crooked politicians, who gives a f***! Anymore?
Y’all can give up that whole I’m paying for your right to live bullshit. The fact that y’all think everyone on government assistance is just unemployed and at home shows how out of touch y’all really are with reality. All cause y’all see a few bad apples do it. Most people on government assistance have jobs. There isn’t enough section 8 or based on income housing to support y’all claims that everyone can just be at home not working. Government assistance isn’t inclusive to just single mothers. If that was the case there wouldn’t be men and women getting the SAME BENEFITS
Thats why I believe in forced sterilization. The majority of people do NOT know how to raise children. Stupid people.
Because there's plenty of women who has children for this all the time. They get housing food stamps wic's and a check. Off their children. I remember back in late 70s when this person was drawing a check of 2 thousand dollars and food stamps of about 2 thousand dollars month. She was living in fancy house and driving a new car. All while getting this money off the taxpayers.
I'm well into 6 figure income and between the bills, braces, mortgage, etc it's rough. Must be nice being a human farm animal. And the government is the farmer. It's b.s
As a former SINGLE MOM and having a 14 month old and a 2 wk old I was out working a fair to take care of my babies! I was truly a single mom. I didn’t receive child support I didn’t get public assistance other then medical. I was doing this in February in ALASKA!!! When I was again a single mom with 2 under 2 and a baby on the way guess what I was washing dishes at a steak house up until 3 days before I gave birth! 5 days after giving birth and 3 days after getting out of the hospital I was right back washing those dishes!!!! Why? Cause a REAL mom will do anything and everything she needs to so her babies r taken care of!!! Did I intend to be a single mom with 3 babies? Nope but I made the choice to lay down with my ex so I made the choice to do what I had to do! Working 10-12 hrs 6 days a wk made sure I kept my promise to my babies that I would ALWAYS do what I had to do to provide for them!
I’m rooting for you and your bundles of joy. You’re a warrior ❤️👑 thanks for sharing and working your ass off.
You’re sensational
Okay and that's inhumane ?
I love how mom is VERY carefully controlling that tone and volume. She doesnt have the deck stacked in favor like most other mothers in the courtroom. The other woman has all the power and mom is trying to use her softest voice. It’s an instinctive defense mechanism that works on men. I love watching a woman firmly shutdown another’s manipulative tactics! 😂😂😂
💯 It's called "neoteny". She's obviously skilled at using it but she doesn't know it only works on men.
That sympathy bs only works on men. Women see straight through it because they know the game.
Being a single dad with full custody, everything my son got came from the sweat of my brow. I did without to make sure he had a great life and I wouldn't change a thing♡
That's how it should be 💯 responsible parents deprive themselves so their children can have everything they need.
david sizemore. Good on you david. Cheers.
That is the difference between a parent and a mother/father. A parent puts the needs of a child first.
Hat off to you Sir, I wish you and your son all the best.
Facts!! I’ve done the same for 5yrs now!!
Children do better with their father anyways
I love love love this judge! She said everything that I have said and got dragged for. Listen up people. This judge speaks the truth about these dead beats living off of the tax payers money!
shouts out to the judge we need more judges like her hold these mothers accountable
"You're going to jail, you're going to jail" 🎶🎵
Love that! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I am blown away at the leniency she received for her 2 DUI'S. She'd be looking at mandatory jail time, community service, fines out the wazoo, a weekend driving school, license revoked, and probation if she lived near me. And she's still whining about having to get a job to pay her fines and actually take care of her daughter? What a dunce.
Spending money for her kid on booze
Or if she was a male…
I'm in Minnesota and I have friends with dwi n I'm telling you that I never heard of that, maybe she drops some tears n talked about her child hopefully wasn't in the vehicle with her.
Yeah around here Dui start at like $10,000. Factoring in a cheap lawyer, fines, classes probation, potential drug test. More classes. and a oversight officer through a state police force that goes like 3 years after a you completed all the first stuff. I think the next one is basically double cost and jail time on your weekends and a breath machine in your car. The things you hear listening to drunk ladies talk.
Not just to pay the fines, she needs to work period, and not live off her child's SSDI checks. She is so stuck on her daughter, that she is used to depending on her daughter's money. And she has stunted herself.
I cried laughing when you memed that guy dancing & singing, "Yo going' 2 jail!" 😂😂😂
Yesss.... we need more judges like her to tell the truth and see it for what it is. She speaking truth!!! 🔊 love it make them more accountable period!!!
The way the judge is sipping her drink is killing me 😂😂😂😂
I noticed that and I almost fell off the bed laughing.🤣🤣
😁😂😂😂😂😂😂
Vodka?
Just guessing
@@darrylg3861 🫢
Need more judges like her. She must be tired of women like her
We need more judges like this
"You chose him." I'm so glad she said that. Regarding the child actor Jackie Coogan whom the judge mentioned: When he came of age, he discovered his mother and stepfather had spent the millions he'd earned, and he was broke. This led to the Child Actor's Bill passed in 1939 to avoid this happening to other child actors.
Unbelievable. I was a single mom of a special needs child who busted my ass to put myself through school while working a full time job. Dad paid no child support at all and I had no family help. I never once received any benefits from the state. You figure it out. We lived by the skin of our teeth for years. Robbing Peter to pay Paul but after years of struggling, I received my bachelors, my masters and passed my boards. So it’s all about will power.
Way to go! Best of luck to your family.
Super happy and proud of you. Here’s the thing though a lot of young single parents think this flex. That’s a hard life! And only someone built like you can manage! Most will only create generational traumas because if their lack of accountability. Bless you and your family and I hope one day our culture as a whole will understand the value of being a parent
Super proud of you!! I did it too (no special needs). I'm proud of MYSELF. We're showing our kids that ya life is hard and sucks sometimes but ya gotta get out there and kick some ass to have a good life. I don't owe anyone anything! Zero debt and an education nobody can take away from me. You're a queen mama!! Sending love ❤️
A woman of a rare find, and getting rarer by the year. Glad you're doing well!
Pardon my French. But Fuck yea. You're an amazing woman, and mother. I'm on the other side of the spectrum and my ex wife isn't paying and won't visit. I'm so glad to hear you made it out of the shit.
We need more judges like her 💯
Where is this energy from the court system when it comes to these type of women living off child support for their child/ children???
Omg. This is my first time tuning in and whew this is…. 😳. When the law has to hold women accountable for the continuous madness we are faced with is mind blowing. 🙏🏿 Thank you for sharing this
Take a drink every time the Judge says “Get a job” 😂😂😂
We would all be hospitalized if we did that.
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LOL! Right!?
Death by alcohol poisoning
@@TheTayquann Lol!! Good one!!
Judge is amazing we need more like her !
Love this judge! I wish we had more like her! Why can't adults be responsible? Nothing is free...someone is paying for it somewhere.
Seeing a judge, with common sense, is a breath of fresh air.
Damn I’m a single mom and actually do it on my own AND I’m disabled!. It’s wild that this female has every single assistance possible and refuses to work. Wild
Facts!! I was like damn! She on everything that’s available!
Sheesh!
I’ve been doing 5 yrs without any of that!
I’d rather a job then do all that!!
That’s to much to keep with also 😂
I've met super disabled people who were super independent
Because all that would disappear.
@@textdaemcee exactly. You hit the nail on the head.
@@vincentcarroll471 my child is not “special needs” but does have severe kidney issues. She almost died when she was five. Her father and I are not together because while I was by my child’s side in the hospital he decided to cheat. He decided when he wants to come around and even when he wants to pay support. It was hard at first and obviously extremely painful. But my daughter and I are much happier and healthier. All I do is work and take care of my child. I don’t date or party or entertain bs. I do everything in my power to protect my peace and be a stable healthy parent. I wouldn’t change it
I have to give this judge her flowers. She is THE definition of a woman this is not staying on code with this “sisterhood” 👏🏾
Side note: When she said. You choose that person to have a child with. I started clapping. Standing ovation.
Here's the thing...Did she?
Yep as Kevin Samuels always explained. Rip to the Godfather, Kevin Samuels. He was right! His message lives on.
I so appreciate & respect Judge Boyd.
Can we please, please get more of this reality check for today's men and women!
I love this judge! We need about 10k more like her.
This "mother" is very pitiful & should be ashamed of herself. Salute to the judge.
This judge is great. She has no problem asking questions and speaking the truth.
My late grandmother did the same thing. Went from working 2 jobs, to wanting to keep me and my brother because SSI (after my mother died when I was 9 and my brother was 8, of leukemia) for the pair of us, was more than she was making working 2 jobs. As soon as we hit 18, it was 'you need to move out'. Some people let money change them so much and it shows.
The lack if money, she did what she did because of the lack of money .
my ex-stepmother did something similar (somehow it was worse) with my half-siblings. She lost the kids eventually, lying to the courts, only living off the government and child support, and kids were never going to school to the point they were multiple grades behind. She tried to handicap them mentally by withholding education and social skills so she could collect checks on their potential disability. True evil.
@@BasicName02 Munchausen by proxy… damn shame…
We need more judges like her
I hope and pray I never be in child support or divorce court
Then don't have kids and don't get married and you will never have to worry 😆
The #1 cause of divorce is marriage.
Pink Book, I truly appreciate the quality of your content and that you do not discriminate on gender or nationality when providing your lessons. Keep ‘em woke.
Awesome case study. It’s very interesting to see the contrast between the male judges we’ve seen and the female judges, in terms of how they address these women in court. The men must be afraid of being criticized for being stern. The women judges talk to them the way their mothers should have.