I was just about to write that Baby Mae is a gem too! Literally same word.... gem. How she insisted on paying for her braces herself. Edit: and then Mae helped pay for her brother in law's funeral and never asked Paul for the money. 🥹
Good day! I sure appreciate your relationship and its clear to see how much you two appreciate each other and to have a agreed upon way to handle your money. Sounds like common sense to me and that seems to always work best. Peace ☮
Great Show! wife and I had a huge problems with money...due to lack of communication. Of course I was never home due to military service. Be Happy with your communication skills between you an Mae!!!
Yep, I agree with you Paul regarding an "allowance" for his GF or wife when the foreign man is taking her away from her source of income of which at least some of her income is used to support her parents.
I forgot to attach the comment to the money, but never too late. Wonderful video. Relaxed and direct and clear and thoughtful. Please pass along to Baby Mae that the beauty shop should be paying her. And good luck with the house build. You are inviting Wilma and Greg over for a tour, right?
Brilliant summary-----it seems as though every family has that Brother. My wife's brother is well educated but has the attitude that everyone else in the family will support his life style of doing nothing. He always seems to be able to drink and smoke but just cant get his head around earning an income to support himself or help his family----he always finds a way
You hit the nail on the head. My GF got spoiled and that’s on me, but she got used to it and when I cut it back do to health issues. She was seeing another man behind my back. I would help her sister out from time to time, both her and her husband worked, but they had 9 kids. To this day if her sister or brother need help, I would help if it’s within my means. We were together for 7 years and we parted on not good terms. The lady I have now has her own hardware business in Bacolod City and she does pretty well. I am happy with her. I am 5 months from 70 years. Love both you guys channels and of course I watch the Filipina Pea. You guys that spoil your ladies, beware. Take care guys.
@@youngandfree93 >sometimes, when they have money or own a house, they believe they have grown a brain. They don't see the source of their "fortune", it's very important to keep their reality grounded. lest they begin to think they own you too...
@@youngandfree93 Its the same everywhere. My niece is waiting for my sis to die... Niece said she won't have a house till age 40.. They will sell my sisters' house and use that for a down payment...Of course sis' house is paid off, and I expect them to piss all the money away. Miss mortgage payments and its all gone. She should have taught her daughter about money, and its too late now.
I laugh at these guys who do not believe in giving your gf a allowance, i give my gf around $400 a month. But she cleans, cooks, takes care of me and is loyal and nice girl. It is only fare, she is not your sex slave. If i was in USA i would be spending at least that on dinners or other stuff with a gf or wife in the usa. The money is nothing for me, and she can do what she wants with it. LIke give to mother or sisters, but she never asks for anymore than what i give her. Its only fair,
@@JamesHickman-g5c Why would u need a maid? If i am alone i would hire a maid to clean once a week, which is usally 1k to 2k each time. Some maids only take 500 pesos, but i have money so i pay good. I would never have a relationship if i had a maid,,,,,
The difference in western countries is women make enough money to pay for it themselves. Giving a partner an allowance is what parents do for children. Not when they are adults lol
@@youngandfree93 Yes, I think the word, "allowance" has that negative connotation. I believe, giving your partner some 'spending money' is in order (if she's not earning anything herself). Sadly, Filipinas have a reputation of lying a lot when it comes to money, but does not warrant being a financial control freak. In every relationship there must be a balance.
Hi Paul and Mae, I am living here in the Philippines with my wife and family. Enjoyed your insight on this subject. You guys as a couple puts a smile on my face. Good to see a happy couple. Keep up the good work!
Thank you Paul and Mae for this wonderful opportunity to figure out what is best for each one of us that has to take care of our Filipina, and her thoughts on family😊
👏No need to support for family because you have foreigner boyfriend or husband. I didn't ask anything from my boyfriend since i got a good education and im a degree holder, but he dont want me to work instead he's the one insisted me to support me every 15 and 30 of the month,. Cause we have another plan, he dont want me to pursue my teaching career cause we had another plan. But indeed my boyfriend help my brother in his college journey. He is not obligated to help my family but his just cery good man. A religious one . Im so proud of him. Thank you for sharing nice video👏👏👏👏
I guess some guys just try to buy the relationship for the best intentions but fall over from there. I agree with you Paul that it should always be living within your meals rather than trying to live a. Champagne lifestyle on a beer budget…it’s not sustainable, anyway here endith the sermon. All the best.
My situation totally different girlfriend has 3 kids that live with us and even though I got a modest income less than most retired here able to have a 4 bedroom house we cook in mostly but eat well, she rather have some 100 a kilo fish than salmon (not me) but sometimes I eat it but thats what she was use to if left up to her cheapest route every time don't have regular support for any family other than her and kids but I have helped many times but usually couple hundred pesos avg. 2 or 3 times a month so can't complain I think shes grateful for a better life for her and her kids and I was attracted to the fact she was a good momma and cook as well as looks our gap only 16 years notice I said only I'll stop now hehehe good video as usual Paul and Mae
I knew my filipina wife 8 years before i moved to cebu and married her. I told her many times that i am not her or her family's ATM. I told her to walk away if this was not acceptable. We married january 2023. No problems with the family. I do allow them to stay the weekend at our house, but i kick them out on sunday night. You have to set rules and make sure they are followed. I give my wife whatever she wants within reason, and she is happy to no longer be a poor girl from the province. BTW, a rock solid prenuptial agreement helps. If she bails on me or cheats, she gets nothing from the sale of the house. Cash is king here, and it is good to be the king.
In the Philippines, it is common for the Oldest Unmarried Female to work for the family. If you want her to stop working, you need to replace that income - 10K usually takes care of that since most Filipinas only make around 10K/month. Philippine Income monthly distribution: 22% earn < 10K is the Poverty line 36% 10-20K is the low income group 40% 20-125K is middle class 2% 125-210K is upper class < 1% > 210K the rich
I gave 15K per month. She could giving it all to her family if she wanted. She saved to get an iPhone etc so it was also a good way to learn to handle money
It's a legal requirement in the Philippines for kids to support the parents if needed, and the kids have the ability to do so. (Yes there is a law in the books) Article 195 of the Family Code.
Mae and Paul, You two should be the poster couple for FilAm's here! Most of your viewers would agree! I personally really get you Paul and if I don't ki k the bucket first, I'll make it down there and bug you. Juls and I have had to resort to "plan C" when it comes to us making it here. Finding reputable people or systems here have been a challenge The point I wanted to make was Filipina Pea had a returning guest who is her go to attorney - she announced that it is a new law on the books that if a sibling is working and drawing a steady income that they legally are held to pay a stipends to the parents no thly and also put their siblings thru school. This came as a complete shock to Pea and from the look and body language she was upset. Whether that meant that the expat husband was obligated to pitch in, I'm not certain? Anyhoo, you two be safe and happy.
Everyone needs money. It makes sense if you ask your Filipina to quit work then you should provide for all of her needs including giving her a monthly allowance which matches or exceeds her previous paycheck.
To each his own…my husband and I both worked but I am in charge with the money. I give allowance weekly before and now daily as we’re retired and travelling. We help my family and friends when and where needed but no monthly or regular allowance to help my family.
Paul, I think a lot of it has to do with if you have the money to give. If you can afford to give your partner money for their needs and to assist their family, do it. If it would cause you a financial hardship, don't. I think it's important to be SELF-RELIANT and unfortunately, it seems like there are a lot of Filipinos who have a difficult time being self-reliant. It should all depend on what you can afford to do because you should not be obligated to give. Bottom-line, I definitely agree with you!
Great video, Paul. Women like Baby Mae, to me, exemplify the reason that many of us travel to the Philippines. The fact that she admires and supports her parents is a great reason for me, at least, to seek out someone like her over her Western counterparts. If we can contribute to her parents life in a meaningful way and remove some of the burden from her, then yay us. A woman like that can make house a home, take care of us when we need it, and make us genuinely thankful to have them in our life. I have not experienced that kind of thankfulness in my past relationships, for sure. Lol
@@Ytorisv Yep, and I don't mind donating a little bit at all. I can afford a couple of hundred dollars a month to keep my wife home and replace what she was sending to her family, if I find the one I want to marry. Helping her helps me, as well, allowing us the time and freedom to hang out together and travel whenever I want to. A few hundred dollars a month isn't going to break my budget and I'd rather have her home with me then working her ass off and coming home exhausted every day after working 16 hours for 400 Pesos. To each their own, however. I know a lot of guys are so jaded and/or broke from being burned in the West that they squeak when a penny leaves their pockets. Fortunately, I haven't been burned that badly, and I'm not going to live that way. If someone thinks I'm being taken advantage of, oh well. It sure doesn't look like the Old Dog is being taken advantage of - as a matter of fact I'd say he struck gold and is living the dream a lot of us hope to emulate. Good luck to you in whatever future you would like to build.
The fillipinas here in america are the same except they work at great jobs. and rather stay here for opportunities. no bugs easy to drive her car, great pay, weather better, and she can save a lot. Mine likes it here..i tell her we would be in makati or bgc in a very nice place.. Not interested.. High floor..
How you handle it is spot on. The cheap charlies sometimes forget how much the family depends of their wife/GF. They also forget that the Phillipines Social Security is extremely low as well as a lack of social safety net. Secondly, you can't ignore the family structure/dynamics in asian cultures....the ones we used to have in the US. While you don't want to be an ATM, there has to be some balance in your relationship. Married couples in western countries pool their resources to support their families, don't let ones lack of setting boundaries initially, be cause for being cheap when it comes to family.
I was brought up that once you marry you and the in-laws are family, and you are obligated to help when you can so in my view it is normal to help the family. That being said you must not get carried away and hurt yourself helping out. As for girlfriends that is a very situational thing as to whether you support the girlfriend.
My Filipina has no living Parents but have 3 wonderful sons who have great jobs When I go there they take care of me. I take care of My filipina. She is 58 and I am 60. she is still shy about it and is TIGHT with the $.
Bravo Paul. An important fact of life in the Philippines. It's their culture to take care of their elders. It used to be like that here in the states back in the 50's and 60's, but our culture has changed so much since then. I grew up in an environment that my mom took on the responsibility of taking care of her elders, she was the oldest of her siblings. We actually all sat down to dinner every night, tv off, and actually enjoyed a nice conversation. Unfortunately, now with our technology, people seem to only be interested in watching their cellphones and less time with family.
Our family had 4 kids, and my parents didn't send money to their parents, which had at least some income for themselves. My OFW partner was a 'work-mule' for her family for 11 years. They spent every peso she sent on the 'good life,' neither saving for her, nor their future. One night while we're all drinking, the feeling of resentment, deep down, came out. No way I'm being a foreigner 'pay piggy' for the extended family, while none of the other siblings pay anything, and when any money sent will likely be mismanaged. Your kids are not meant to be your retirement plan.
Its like that in most countries not just the states. Although you know in Philippines you are lucky to make it past 70. People die younger here than developed countries. Old people become a burden on society in many developed countries sadly. Same goes for Japan and South Korea too. They don't have the tech savvy side or other common traits to keep up with the young folks.
@@youngandfree93 Isn't it ironic that old people from another country are expected to burden themselves paying for others? Not going to be anyone's welfare plan in my retirement. If they are healthy adults, they can contribute something and not just look for foreigner handouts. That's total BS.
Sir, your lady has great character. You choose well. You sir, are a lucky man. I'm from the west ( america) . I HAVE NEVER IN MY LIFE HAD A WOMAN LIKE HER.
You got a good woman Old Dog. All the best to you and BM. BTW, guys need to set limits with his woman at the very beginning of the relationship and to stick with it. Just my 2 centavos.
Hi guys My partner of 11 years is a high school teacher here in Thailand, I have no idea how much she makes per month and I’m not interested in finding out , she uses her salary to help her mum and family , I pay everything in our home and I also pay her mums electric and water bill, nobody asked me to do that , I just do it as it costs very little, this month it was 1100 baht around £23 or $30 , We take her to eat out about once a month with us which she loves , a little goes a long way , like you I can’t go bust or we all do , I live off savings as I have another 5 years till I get my Uk old age pension ( US social security ) , I retired early 3 years ago, I don’t have a set amount of budget , if we need it we get it , we almost never cook in the house , I go out for lunch we go to the market most nights for dinner , and 2 or 3 days over the weekend we go to our favourite restaurants usually, people just need to be mindful of their bank balance , and don’t be afraid to say no to money requests, You’re both living a good well balanced life and that’s what lasts Regards Davy 🏴🇹🇭
Paul; "Wow, both husbands died of cancer? What????" Baby Mae: "Same cancer." Oh..... Married right? You know it might be time to plan another vacation to Thailand? A few days in the sun and an afternoon getting a check up might be a good thing.
My wife does work (for now), but I do give her some money monthly. I can afford it though. But, she uses it to help her out. Mainly to help her family and help her save. That way I don't hear about her needing money for this and that. But we are still able to save when we can. But I do the heavy lifting of finances. So it does work out. Great video Paul on a subject not many would think of.
I don't give my girlfriend an allowance per say but in our budget we each get a monthly amount of money for whatever we want to buy. She gets money each month so if she wants to go clothes shopping, spend it on her family whatever. For me it also takes out some of the discussion about spending. She doesn't give me a hard time on what I buy (except for the price- she'll still tell me I paid too much) and I don't worry about what she buys.
I lived in the Philippines. For over a year. Had a great girlfriend great family. Never asked me for money. But there's something people don't talk about if you're a nice person and you have a heart. If something what happens in the family what it always does medical issues problems when they tell you they're going to have their tooth pulled when you know it could be fixed with the root canal or crown how you just walk away and say that's your problem. If your emotional at all they do become your family just like your family at home. The difference is your family home has resources to take care of issues the family in the Philippines do not. I for one get emotionally involved with the family I can not turned away in their moment of need. So what I decided no more relationships for me in the Philippines no more meeting the family once you get emotionally evolved it's hard to turn you back
Well, I see that, but in my case decided to share my blessings from my comfortable life here in the US. No strings, no thoughts of marriage, just to help someone. I did get scammed once, but cut that short after a few weeks. What remains is a way to feel good. I never look for a "transaction" to benefit me. Just seeing happy smiles is enough for me.
One thing when it's real problems & everyone's being honest. Finding that half of yesterday's shopping disappeared like magic, bills always paid late despite the money being on the table- the dishonesty is what got me.
That's because your a nice guy with a ton of empathy. That's good as long as the other half is nice and has a ton of empathy. The problem arises when ones niceness is seen as a weakness. These people will then use our empathy as a weapon to be taken advantage of. The said victim will be used and abused..
@@RandallGlatt my ex & her family had a definition of stealing, cheating & lying based on the traditional untang na loob, pasu lubong (remember the obligation, share the rewards). Anyone not raised in the group is fair game, including the foreign husband.
Hi Paul, I understand where you are coming from, and as you say there is no right or wrong. For us while I'm in fulltime work and my wife is running the home I want her to have her own independence, so I give her a good monthly allowance, topped up with enough to also cover the utilities. What she does with the money is entirely up to her. As long as the bills get paid, and she doesn't go into debt I'm happy. Maybe once I retire later in the year we will have to reassess?
It’s a Filipino culture to help your family even though it is not your responsibility! I myself is sending help on a monthly basis to my two brothers! One is a diabetic and the other one had a stroke! I understand it’s not my obligation but since I am able to afford with my small government pension plus my social security and it makes me feel good knowing that I’m able to provide for my family in the Philippines! I love ❤️ my siblings very much. MABUHAY PILIPINAS 🇺🇸❤️🇵🇭❤️🇺🇸❤️🇵🇭❤️🇺🇸🇵🇭
Stay in usa with a fillipina, no allowance needed she works makes 12500 usd a month, no damn allowance needed. Find one befriend a fillipino they have loads of single working fillipinas looking for you and they will introduce you to one. Educated and very good jobs. REALITY.. Just gotta understand the fillipino ways. a lot you wont meet in a bar you must be introduced.
I can agree or disagree, obviously it works for you both. What is your income, and what is her income? If you get really sick, can she work your budget? In marriage, I hate the word "allowance" for the one you love and are married to. Surely, she does a lot of work in the home without thought of "pay". But a long-term plan, like your housing project, is necessary.
I agree, the word 'allowance' implies a parent/child relationship, but spending money is okay. She needs a little freedom to spend something outside of just paying the bills, for personal effects and other things.
I think that’s thoughtful. It is the right thing to do. I’m greatful my husband and I work together as a team and there’s trust between us. But of course I am a stickler becomes to budget.
Paul, you and Mae are so fun to watch. You guys are a perfect match, I like how you guys are so comfortable teasing each other and the silliness between you. I watch alot of your videos, they are very helpful. I am planning a trip to Philippines in November, not to meet anybody, but I love the culture, and to figure out if I want to retire there. And Mae, your channel is phenomenal as well. I love your interview style, plus you interview some wildly beautiful women that are very sweet. I hope nothing but a fabulous life for the both of you. Keep up the great content my friends. Much respect!!
Hi guys, it's Eric.. It's kind of funny that living in Canada and just talking about the idea of moving to the Philippines shows the lack of knowledge by the Western culture. First few things I would hear is; They are just after your money or; if the women get a chance, they will marry you and then divorce, taking half ( again), lol. Anyway, I'm glad that at age 60, I'm getting educated through numerous TH-cam videos through various providers. The information is " Huge" and will help me in my future decisions. Too bad there are too many in the Western world that talk just for the sake of talking without knowing the facts. Keep up the good work, the both of you!.
I was a little nervous at the beginning of this video. For a moment I thought I stumbled upon a private home video where "Old Dog New Tricks" reverts to "Dirty Dog begs for Treats."
My Filipina was cleaning houses for 5K pesos a month. I told her to quit-she did. She now receives 5K pesos a month from me. She has never asked for a raise, never asked for more money but on occasion has asked for a small advance (500-1000 pesos). That’s just the way we roll here. No complaints.
Mine makes 12500 usd a month in silicone valley. Never asks for monies makes her own, Pays for medical from work for me, fantastic coverage. doesnt want any of my millions its all mine. Also pays for my gas. Kitchen is hers. Gets weird i have so much passive income.
The term Allowance is for KIDS. I trust my wife of 18 years with my entire pension and she can turn $100 into $200 by smart shopping. Plus she saves $$ into our bank account. 100% trust
Paul, you are one lucky guy ! You found a beautiful, sensible girl who has beauty and self-determination to take care of herself. This makes her even more attractive. Question for you, Paul. Do you think I could do something similar in a relationship on only 1500.00 a month ? Please be honest.
My Wife, before our marriage, stopped working when I came over in December. I've been supporting our family of 3 since then. But she also knows that if we're going to build savings, and take short trips, we'll need more income. So she's looking at jobs. At least until my U.S. house is sold, and we don't pay rent anymore. Then she can stop working, if she wants. It's just a matter of practicality. But everyone has their own needs, and situations. They just need to figure it out for themselves.
Indeed, money sent away is almost always a 'sacrifice,' since there's really no such thing as 'extra' money. The irony of it is that, after you send it away, many ladies will complain you have no money left for recreation or other 'optional' additions for the home and other wants. You are right to make her work to support her extended family. After all, it's 2024.
Good Lord Almighty what I'd give for a loyal sweetheart like Baby Mae.... I've said it before, but...what WOULD I give!?!?!? Question still remains....and funny enough, I retire in three days. Can't leave US though, son is here and I like certain toys too much to give them up. So there's your sign... Thank you both, I love your lives together!
I’ve never seen your wife in your videos till today Paul! They’re such good girls! I get there for the very first time in about a week! I have about $1300 a month to live on initially because I’m paying off credit debt and have a mortgage and vehicle payments in the US 😢 As far the allowance you speak of, if I get married, the VA increases the payment by $1000 so, giving a $400 allowance to a Filipina wife is totally okay 😂❤
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For all the good men out there this is just common sense to us about support and if you're coming to the Philippines for a traditional women then we have traditional obligations as men....
But if a tradional educated one comes here to work making almost 150k a year thats a whole new story. There are many like that in america just gotta find them.
I give my gf (living with me here in Dumaguete), a Php10k allowance so she has some independence. She can save it or spend it - none of my business. That way she doesn't have to ask me for money and it gives her peace of mind. She doesn't work, but keeps house and manages our budget perfectly. That's worth something.
I think its not unreasonable if they had to stop working because of you then it should be replaced. Also assuming you can afford it ! However it's tricky as it can be miss-understood.
I give my gf of 5 years an allowance. Probably more than I should but if she can put up with me for all these years then maybe she deserves it 🤷🏻♂️ Baby Mae is looking fabulous as always
Even here in the US, if the wife stops working, the man will fill in on her responsibilities. It doesn't get any more normal than that. She still has obligations and a man can't expect her to give up those obligations just because he's in the picture now. If shes supporting her family and you dont like that, then go find a girl that isn't supporting her family. It really is that simple. I think when you tack on the title of "allowance," you're inviting a litany of possible judgments. Its more important to define WHY she gets a set amount of money each month and what she is doing with it. Both partners have to have responsibilities in the financial plan for the house. People with no plan end up broke and devorced. Waiting on the next paycheck is not a plan and she shouldnt be looking at her "allowance" that way either. When it comes to supporting family, thats an individual choice. For me, support and help are two very different things. Ill help anyone I can but I wont let it become an expectation. Im very generous but Im no ones cash cow or savior. Lastly, learn to stand your ground and make it clear that you make the final decisions on YOUR income. More importantly, build relationships where other people respect that and understand that no means no and theres no debating the issue.
Or require her to work in order the provide for HER family. I have kids in the US too that I might want to help out, but would not ask her for help even if she's working. So no double standard there.
You’re lucky man! Baby Mae is a gem. I don’t have it like that with my GF of 1 yr. and counting …
What dont you have
I was just about to write that Baby Mae is a gem too! Literally same word.... gem. How she insisted on paying for her braces herself. Edit: and then Mae helped pay for her brother in law's funeral and never asked Paul for the money. 🥹
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Good day! I sure appreciate your relationship and its clear to see how much you two appreciate each other and to have a agreed upon way to handle your money. Sounds like common sense to me and that seems to always work best. Peace ☮
Pauley & Baby Mae - I love you❤ The more you share of yourselves with us the more we know how lovely you two are🥰🥰🥰
Great Show! wife and I had a huge problems with money...due to lack of communication. Of course I was never home due to military service. Be Happy with your communication skills between you an Mae!!!
Every couple is different so props for you two in making it work
Very well done video straight to the point, you guys do it right
Good stuff Paul; your videos are always very razor sharp. Baby Mae is looking pretty darn good looking too. Keep it alive and god bless to both you.
Yep, I agree with you Paul regarding an "allowance" for his GF or wife when the foreign man is taking her away from her source of income of which at least some of her income is used to support her parents.
Your video is the right way how to support Family!
It has been that way for 36 years !
Great video. Thank you both
Thanks!
Thank you very much!
I forgot to attach the comment to the money, but never too late. Wonderful video. Relaxed and direct and clear and thoughtful. Please pass along to Baby Mae that the beauty shop should be paying her. And good luck with the house build. You are inviting Wilma and Greg over for a tour, right?
Brilliant summary-----it seems as though every family has that Brother. My wife's brother is well educated but has the attitude that everyone else in the family will support his life style of doing nothing. He always seems to be able to drink and smoke but just cant get his head around earning an income to support himself or help his family----he always finds a way
Great video Paul, you and your lovely fit together.
You hit the nail on the head. My GF got spoiled and that’s on me, but she got used to it and when I cut it back do to health issues. She was seeing another man behind my back. I would help her sister out from time to time, both her and her husband worked, but they had 9 kids. To this day if her sister or brother need help, I would help if it’s within my means. We were together for 7 years and we parted on not good terms. The lady I have now has her own hardware business in Bacolod City and she does pretty well. I am happy with her. I am 5 months from 70 years. Love both you guys channels and of course I watch the Filipina Pea. You guys that spoil your ladies, beware. Take care guys.
You need boundaries sir. Younger folks will continue to take advantage over you if you don't.
@@youngandfree93 >sometimes, when they have money or own a house, they believe they have grown a brain. They don't see the source of their "fortune", it's very important to keep their reality grounded. lest they begin to think they own you too...
@@youngandfree93 Its the same everywhere. My niece is waiting for my sis to die... Niece said she won't have a house till age 40.. They will sell my sisters' house and use that for a down payment...Of course sis' house is paid off, and I expect them to piss all the money away. Miss mortgage payments and its all gone. She should have taught her daughter about money, and its too late now.
Mei, What a woman! Such good qualities. Great choice of a wife, and love!
This topic applies to men supporting women. Mae is a wonderful person. I see how respectful you both are to one another.
I laugh at these guys who do not believe in giving your gf a allowance, i give my gf around $400 a month. But she cleans, cooks, takes care of me and is loyal and nice girl. It is only fare, she is not your sex slave. If i was in USA i would be spending at least that on dinners or other stuff with a gf or wife in the usa. The money is nothing for me, and she can do what she wants with it. LIke give to mother or sisters, but she never asks for anymore than what i give her. Its only fair,
Yes, I see that logic. How much would you pay the maid?
@@JamesHickman-g5c Why would u need a maid? If i am alone i would hire a maid to clean once a week, which is usally 1k to 2k each time. Some maids only take 500 pesos, but i have money so i pay good. I would never have a relationship if i had a maid,,,,,
The difference in western countries is women make enough money to pay for it themselves. Giving a partner an allowance is what parents do for children. Not when they are adults lol
@@youngandfree93 so, she cleans, cooks, and sex you when u want? U sound like a typical male pig. Lol
@@youngandfree93 Yes, I think the word, "allowance" has that negative connotation. I believe, giving your partner some 'spending money' is in order (if she's not earning anything herself). Sadly, Filipinas have a reputation of lying a lot when it comes to money, but does not warrant being a financial control freak. In every relationship there must be a balance.
Hi Paul and Mae, I am living here in the Philippines with my wife and family. Enjoyed your insight on this subject. You guys as a couple puts a smile on my face. Good to see a happy couple. Keep up the good work!
Our pleasure!
Very good Vlog ! I agree completely about giviing the GF or wife an allowance.
You have a healthy approach. 👍
Thank you Paul and Mae for this wonderful opportunity to figure out what is best for each one of us that has to take care of our Filipina, and her thoughts on family😊
Our pleasure!
U got it figured out.. common sense and u have a good partner.. ur living the right way...
👏No need to support for family because you have foreigner boyfriend or husband. I didn't ask anything from my boyfriend since i got a good education and im a degree holder, but he dont want me to work instead he's the one insisted me to support me every 15 and 30 of the month,. Cause we have another plan, he dont want me to pursue my teaching career cause we had another plan. But indeed my boyfriend help my brother in his college journey. He is not obligated to help my family but his just cery good man. A religious one . Im so proud of him. Thank you for sharing nice video👏👏👏👏
Mae is a classy girl. Good hearted & sincere 🎉
Thanks Paul...nice...$$$ you got a good way to do it😇
I guess some guys just try to buy the relationship for the best intentions but fall over from there. I agree with you Paul that it should always be living within your meals rather than trying to live a. Champagne lifestyle on a beer budget…it’s not sustainable, anyway here endith the sermon. All the best.
Great VID, All You say is correct.
My situation totally different girlfriend has 3 kids that live with us and even though I got a modest income less than most retired here able to have a 4 bedroom house we cook in mostly but eat well, she rather have some 100 a kilo fish than salmon (not me) but sometimes I eat it but thats what she was use to if left up to her cheapest route every time don't have regular support for any family other than her and kids but I have helped many times but usually couple hundred pesos avg. 2 or 3 times a month so can't complain I think shes grateful for a better life for her and her kids and I was attracted to the fact she was a good momma and cook as well as looks our gap only 16 years notice I said only I'll stop now hehehe good video as usual Paul and Mae
I knew my filipina wife 8 years before i moved to cebu and married her. I told her many times that i am not her or her family's ATM. I told her to walk away if this was not acceptable. We married january 2023. No problems with the family. I do allow them to stay the weekend at our house, but i kick them out on sunday night. You have to set rules and make sure they are followed. I give my wife whatever she wants within reason, and she is happy to no longer be a poor girl from the province. BTW, a rock solid prenuptial agreement helps. If she bails on me or cheats, she gets nothing from the sale of the house. Cash is king here, and it is good to be the king.
In the Philippines, it is common for the Oldest Unmarried Female to work for the family. If you want her to stop working, you need to replace that income - 10K usually takes care of that since most Filipinas only make around 10K/month.
Philippine Income monthly distribution:
22% earn < 10K is the Poverty line
36% 10-20K is the low income group
40% 20-125K is middle class
2% 125-210K is upper class
< 1% > 210K the rich
I gave 15K per month. She could giving it all to her family if she wanted. She saved to get an iPhone etc so it was also a good way to learn to handle money
Exactly, same with me
If she doesn’t show love and loyalty for her family, don’t expect her to suddenly develop those characteristics for you, money or not.
All your thinking or replacing income for a girlfriend or partner is spot on when it comes to family obligation.
It's a legal requirement in the Philippines for kids to support the parents if needed, and the kids have the ability to do so. (Yes there is a law in the books) Article 195 of the Family Code.
Keep up the great work !!! Big. Dog.
iam back long time no see paul looks well hey paul i watch more of your vids when mae also on
Mae and Paul,
You two should be the poster couple for FilAm's here! Most of your viewers would agree! I personally really get you Paul and
if I don't ki k the bucket first, I'll make it down there and bug you.
Juls and I have had to resort to "plan C" when it comes to us making it here. Finding reputable people or systems here have been a challenge
The point I wanted to make was Filipina Pea had a returning guest who is her go to attorney - she announced that it is a new law on the books that if a sibling is working and drawing a steady income that they legally are held to pay a stipends to the parents no thly and also put their siblings thru school. This came as a complete shock to Pea and from the look and body language she was upset. Whether that meant that the expat husband was obligated to pitch in, I'm not certain?
Anyhoo, you two be safe and happy.
Seems logical and congratulations on your arrangement.
Great video and great information, thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Mae is kind and thoughtful lady 😊
Probably, but usually you won't know a person until you live with them...
@@brianphuket5951 I concur
Everyone needs money. It makes sense if you ask your Filipina to quit work then you should provide for all of her needs including giving her a monthly allowance which matches or exceeds her previous paycheck.
@@zetaone2669 gorgeous man
To each his own…my husband and I both worked but I am in charge with the money. I give allowance weekly before and now daily as we’re retired and travelling. We help my family and friends when and where needed but no monthly or regular allowance to help my family.
Paul, I think a lot of it has to do with if you have the money to give. If you can afford to give your partner money for their needs and to assist their family, do it. If it would cause you a financial hardship, don't. I think it's important to be SELF-RELIANT and unfortunately, it seems like there are a lot of Filipinos who have a difficult time being self-reliant. It should all depend on what you can afford to do because you should not be obligated to give. Bottom-line, I definitely agree with you!
Video first Paul! 😜😁
Great video, Paul. Women like Baby Mae, to me, exemplify the reason that many of us travel to the Philippines.
The fact that she admires and supports her parents is a great reason for me, at least, to seek out someone like her over her Western counterparts. If we can contribute to her parents life in a meaningful way and remove some of the burden from her, then yay us.
A woman like that can make house a home, take care of us when we need it, and make us genuinely thankful to have them in our life.
I have not experienced that kind of thankfulness in my past relationships, for sure. Lol
Yes, YOU donate every month.
@@Ytorisv ...and?
@@Ytorisv Yep, and I don't mind donating a little bit at all.
I can afford a couple of hundred dollars a month to keep my wife home and replace what she was sending to her family, if I find the one I want to marry.
Helping her helps me, as well, allowing us the time and freedom to hang out together and travel whenever I want to.
A few hundred dollars a month isn't going to break my budget and I'd rather have her home with me then working her ass off and coming home exhausted every day after working 16 hours for 400 Pesos.
To each their own, however. I know a lot of guys are so jaded and/or broke from being burned in the West that they squeak when a penny leaves their pockets. Fortunately, I haven't been burned that badly, and I'm not going to live that way.
If someone thinks I'm being taken advantage of, oh well. It sure doesn't look like the Old Dog is being taken advantage of - as a matter of fact I'd say he struck gold and is living the dream a lot of us hope to emulate.
Good luck to you in whatever future you would like to build.
The fillipinas here in america are the same except they work at great jobs. and rather stay here for opportunities. no bugs easy to drive her car, great pay, weather better, and she can save a lot. Mine likes it here..i tell her we would be in makati or bgc in a very nice place.. Not interested.. High floor..
I’m always glad to see your bird that sits behind you.
How you handle it is spot on. The cheap charlies sometimes forget how much the family depends of their wife/GF. They also forget that the Phillipines Social Security is extremely low as well as a lack of social safety net. Secondly, you can't ignore the family structure/dynamics in asian cultures....the ones we used to have in the US. While you don't want to be an ATM, there has to be some balance in your relationship. Married couples in western countries pool their resources to support their families, don't let ones lack of setting boundaries initially, be cause for being cheap when it comes to family.
simply say I have 1,000 only available... Do you want to come and get it? Lets see....
good info agre with giving replacement income, sounds reasonable
I was brought up that once you marry you and the in-laws are family, and you are obligated to help when you can so in my view it is normal to help the family. That being said you must not get carried away and hurt yourself helping out. As for girlfriends that is a very situational thing as to whether you support the girlfriend.
My Filipina has no living Parents but have 3 wonderful sons who have great jobs When I go there they take care of me. I take care of My filipina. She is 58 and I am 60. she is still shy about it and is TIGHT with the $.
OMG, what is she wearing 😮 Fredrick's of Cebu!
Paul likes it. Mae likes it. You don't have to watch. I've seen Taylor Swift and Cher in less.@@roselee4445
😂❤
Now that's funny...
Bravo Paul. An important fact of life in the Philippines. It's their culture to take care of their elders. It used to be like that here in the states back in the 50's and 60's, but our culture has changed so much since then. I grew up in an environment that my mom took on the responsibility of taking care of her elders, she was the oldest of her siblings. We actually all sat down to dinner every night, tv off, and actually enjoyed a nice conversation. Unfortunately, now with our technology, people seem to only be interested in watching their cellphones and less time with family.
Our family had 4 kids, and my parents didn't send money to their parents, which had at least some income for themselves. My OFW partner was a 'work-mule' for her family for 11 years. They spent every peso she sent on the 'good life,' neither saving for her, nor their future. One night while we're all drinking, the feeling of resentment, deep down, came out. No way I'm being a foreigner 'pay piggy' for the extended family, while none of the other siblings pay anything, and when any money sent will likely be mismanaged. Your kids are not meant to be your retirement plan.
Its like that in most countries not just the states. Although you know in Philippines you are lucky to make it past 70. People die younger here than developed countries. Old people become a burden on society in many developed countries sadly. Same goes for Japan and South Korea too. They don't have the tech savvy side or other common traits to keep up with the young folks.
@@youngandfree93 Isn't it ironic that old people from another country are expected to burden themselves paying for others? Not going to be anyone's welfare plan in my retirement. If they are healthy adults, they can contribute something and not just look for foreigner handouts. That's total BS.
Done well there Paul ‘ you seem to be a balanced couple
Hi Paul and baby Mae, yes I agree with youl ,
I agree with you, Paul.
Just spend it! Wisely. There are two areas to consider. Time horizon! Investment goals if any!
You’re looking well both of you 👍
Sir, your lady has great character. You choose well. You sir, are a lucky man. I'm from the west ( america) . I HAVE NEVER IN MY LIFE HAD A WOMAN LIKE HER.
You got a good woman Old Dog. All the best to you and BM. BTW, guys need to set limits with his woman at the very beginning of the relationship and to stick with it. Just my 2 centavos.
Great Show
Hi guys
My partner of 11 years is a high school teacher here in Thailand, I have no idea how much she makes per month and I’m not interested in finding out , she uses her salary to help her mum and family , I pay everything in our home and I also pay her mums electric and water bill, nobody asked me to do that , I just do it as it costs very little, this month it was 1100 baht around £23 or $30 , We take her to eat out about once a month with us which she loves , a little goes a long way , like you I can’t go bust or we all do , I live off savings as I have another 5 years till I get my Uk old age pension ( US social security ) , I retired early 3 years ago, I don’t have a set amount of budget , if we need it we get it , we almost never cook in the house , I go out for lunch we go to the market most nights for dinner , and 2 or 3 days over the weekend we go to our favourite restaurants usually, people just need to be mindful of their bank balance , and don’t be afraid to say no to money requests,
You’re both living a good well balanced life and that’s what lasts
Regards Davy 🏴🇹🇭
Can you also pay my flight over too? :D Thailand so exotic I love Full Moon Party.
Reality it doesnt. But your words sounded nice. life changes move with it.
Paul; "Wow, both husbands died of cancer? What????" Baby Mae: "Same cancer." Oh..... Married right? You know it might be time to plan another vacation to Thailand? A few days in the sun and an afternoon getting a check up might be a good thing.
I guess for some, marriage could be considered a cancer
@@Not_A_Tourist thats a good one but since i beat it I would never want another soul to get it.
@@peter-pg5yc marriage or cancer?
Good first 5 seconds....Very Funny.
My wife does work (for now), but I do give her some money monthly. I can afford it though. But, she uses it to help her out. Mainly to help her family and help her save. That way I don't hear about her needing money for this and that. But we are still able to save when we can. But I do the heavy lifting of finances. So it does work out. Great video Paul on a subject not many would think of.
I don't give my girlfriend an allowance per say but in our budget we each get a monthly amount of money for whatever we want to buy.
She gets money each month so if she wants to go clothes shopping, spend it on her family whatever. For me it also takes out some of the discussion about spending. She doesn't give me a hard time on what I buy (except for the price- she'll still tell me I paid too much) and I don't worry about what she buys.
I lived in the Philippines. For over a year. Had a great girlfriend great family. Never asked me for money. But there's something people don't talk about if you're a nice person and you have a heart. If something what happens in the family what it always does medical issues problems when they tell you they're going to have their tooth pulled when you know it could be fixed with the root canal or crown how you just walk away and say that's your problem. If your emotional at all they do become your family just like your family at home. The difference is your family home has resources to take care of issues the family in the Philippines do not. I for one get emotionally involved with the family I can not turned away in their moment of need. So what I decided no more relationships for me in the Philippines no more meeting the family once you get emotionally evolved it's hard to turn you back
Well, I see that, but in my case decided to share my blessings from my comfortable life here in the US. No strings, no thoughts of marriage, just to help someone.
I did get scammed once, but cut that short after a few weeks.
What remains is a way to feel good. I never look for a "transaction" to benefit me. Just seeing happy smiles is enough for me.
One thing when it's real problems & everyone's being honest. Finding that half of yesterday's shopping disappeared like magic, bills always paid late despite the money being on the table- the dishonesty is what got me.
That's because your a nice guy with a ton of empathy. That's good as long as the other half is nice and has a ton of empathy. The problem arises when ones niceness is seen as a weakness. These people will then use our empathy as a weapon to be taken advantage of. The said victim will be used and abused..
@@RandallGlatt my ex & her family had a definition of stealing, cheating & lying based on the traditional untang na loob, pasu lubong (remember the obligation, share the rewards). Anyone not raised in the group is fair game, including the foreign husband.
@@Nobody-dc6rm you just need boundaries. Learn to say no. Empathic people will struggle here because the country is ripe with poverty.
You two are so cute together
Good job, Paul. Sounds like you and Mae have it together!
Hi Paul, I understand where you are coming from, and as you say there is no right or wrong. For us while I'm in fulltime work and my wife is running the home I want her to have her own independence, so I give her a good monthly allowance, topped up with enough to also cover the utilities. What she does with the money is entirely up to her. As long as the bills get paid, and she doesn't go into debt I'm happy. Maybe once I retire later in the year we will have to reassess?
It’s a Filipino culture to help your family even though it is not your responsibility! I myself is sending help on a monthly basis to my two brothers! One is a diabetic and the other one had a stroke! I understand it’s not my obligation but since I am able to afford with my small government pension plus my social security and it makes me feel good knowing that I’m able to provide for my family in the Philippines! I love ❤️ my siblings very much. MABUHAY PILIPINAS 🇺🇸❤️🇵🇭❤️🇺🇸❤️🇵🇭❤️🇺🇸🇵🇭
Stay in usa with a fillipina, no allowance needed she works makes 12500 usd a month, no damn allowance needed. Find one befriend a fillipino they have loads of single working fillipinas looking for you and they will introduce you to one. Educated and very good jobs. REALITY.. Just gotta understand the fillipino ways. a lot you wont meet in a bar you must be introduced.
Until you get divorced and she takes half the house, you pay alimony, child support…..
I can agree or disagree, obviously it works for you both. What is your income, and what is her income? If you get really sick, can she work your budget? In marriage, I hate the word "allowance" for the one you love and are married to. Surely, she does a lot of work in the home without thought of "pay". But a long-term plan, like your housing project, is necessary.
I agree, the word 'allowance' implies a parent/child relationship, but spending money is okay. She needs a little freedom to spend something outside of just paying the bills, for personal effects and other things.
Nice of her.... she's a keeper.
I think sex videos is next on their agenda as they have beat the budget videos to death
You should really take your sick little mind and go and watch videos somewhere else.
Ok this is funny.
Now thats funny.. Senior sex.. Ill pass though, not my fetish
I think that’s thoughtful. It is the right thing to do. I’m greatful my husband and I work together as a team and there’s trust between us. But of course I am a stickler becomes to budget.
Paul, you and Mae are so fun to watch. You guys are a perfect match, I like how you guys are so comfortable teasing each other and the silliness between you. I watch alot of your videos, they are very helpful. I am planning a trip to Philippines in November, not to meet anybody, but I love the culture, and to figure out if I want to retire there. And Mae, your channel is phenomenal as well. I love your interview style, plus you interview some wildly beautiful women that are very sweet. I hope nothing but a fabulous life for the both of you. Keep up the great content my friends. Much respect!!
That’s how we repay our parents for working hard to raise us ❤
How is Juells doing these days? I can’t find any news about him 😢
He passed away 3 weeks ago
@@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 ohhh I’m so sorry and so sad on his passing away, thank you for replying.😢😢😢
Hi guys, it's Eric.. It's kind of funny that living in Canada and just talking about the idea of moving to the Philippines shows the lack of knowledge by the Western culture.
First few things I would hear is; They are just after your money or; if the women get a chance, they will marry you and then divorce, taking half ( again), lol.
Anyway, I'm glad that at age 60, I'm getting educated through numerous TH-cam videos through various providers. The information is " Huge" and will help me in my future decisions. Too bad there are too many in the Western world that talk just for the sake of talking without knowing the facts.
Keep up the good work, the both of you!.
I was a little nervous at the beginning of this video. For a moment I thought I stumbled upon a private home video where "Old Dog New Tricks" reverts to "Dirty Dog begs for Treats."
😂😂😂 so many men simpin' so hard here it's almost unbelievable. I'm sure these gals love it!
@@JamesHickman-g5c I was just playing with Paulie & Mae, I like those folks..
Paul , you're such a lucky git!
My Filipina was cleaning houses for 5K pesos a month. I told her to quit-she did. She now receives 5K pesos a month from me. She has never asked for a raise, never asked for more money but on occasion has asked for a small advance (500-1000 pesos). That’s just the way we roll here. No complaints.
Mine makes 12500 usd a month in silicone valley. Never asks for monies makes her own, Pays for medical from work for me, fantastic coverage. doesnt want any of my millions its all mine. Also pays for my gas. Kitchen is hers. Gets weird i have so much passive income.
Dam $150K a year! You got it made! Congrats
Looks like it working for you and Baby Mae so I would continue doing it.
Tacky video
The term Allowance is for KIDS. I trust my wife of 18 years with my entire pension and she can turn $100 into $200 by smart shopping. Plus she saves $$ into our bank account. 100% trust
Paul, you are one lucky guy ! You found a beautiful, sensible girl who has beauty and self-determination to take care of herself. This makes her even more attractive. Question for you, Paul. Do you think I could do something similar in a relationship on only 1500.00 a month ? Please be honest.
My Wife, before our marriage, stopped working when I came over in December. I've been supporting our family of 3 since then. But she also knows that if we're going to build savings, and take short trips, we'll need more income. So she's looking at jobs. At least until my U.S. house is sold, and we don't pay rent anymore. Then she can stop working, if she wants. It's just a matter of practicality.
But everyone has their own needs, and situations. They just need to figure it out for themselves.
Indeed, money sent away is almost always a 'sacrifice,' since there's really no such thing as 'extra' money. The irony of it is that, after you send it away, many ladies will complain you have no money left for recreation or other 'optional' additions for the home and other wants. You are right to make her work to support her extended family. After all, it's 2024.
@@JamesHickman-g5c She's the one who suggested working. From home.
Good Lord Almighty what I'd give for a loyal sweetheart like Baby Mae....
I've said it before, but...what WOULD I give!?!?!? Question still remains....and funny enough, I retire in three days.
Can't leave US though, son is here and I like certain toys too much to give them up. So there's your sign...
Thank you both, I love your lives together!
I’ve never seen your wife in your videos till today Paul! They’re such good girls!
I get there for the very first time in about a week! I have about $1300 a month to live on initially because I’m paying off credit debt and have a mortgage and vehicle payments in the US 😢
As far the allowance you speak of, if I get married, the VA increases the payment by $1000 so, giving a $400 allowance to a Filipina wife is totally okay 😂❤
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For all the good men out there this is just common sense to us about support and if you're coming to the Philippines for a traditional women then we have traditional obligations as men....
The younger generation is moving towards AI partners haha
But if a tradional educated one comes here to work making almost 150k a year thats a whole new story. There are many like that in america just gotta find them.
@@peter-pg5yc
I Haven't met a single one that makes a 150k or even half of that..either you are talking about a unicorn or I think your delusional
I give my gf (living with me here in Dumaguete), a Php10k allowance so she has some independence. She can save it or spend it - none of my business. That way she doesn't have to ask me for money and it gives her peace of mind. She doesn't work, but keeps house and manages our budget perfectly. That's worth something.
IN THE PHILIPINES, AS LONG AS YOU HAVE MONEY, YOUR FILIPINA WILL GIVE YOU HONEY, NO MONEY, NO HONEY.
love the way you do the talking for Baby Mae
Tasteless.
Sounds like someone didn’t get any honey
I CAN DEFINITIVELY SAY THIS IS NOT A TRUE STATEMENT.
@@Robin-xt7yoperhaps, but accurate nevertheless
Allowance is something parents give down to their kids. :D
Healthy and loving relationship.
I think its not unreasonable if they had to stop working because of you then it should be replaced. Also assuming you can afford it ! However it's tricky as it can be miss-understood.
I give my gf of 5 years an allowance. Probably more than I should but if she can put up with me for all these years then maybe she deserves it 🤷🏻♂️
Baby Mae is looking fabulous as always
Paul,,,,did you ever get in touch with No Stress Mike?
Mea is definitely a keeper😊
Until an alpha 35-45 y/o guy comes her way :D
Even here in the US, if the wife stops working, the man will fill in on her responsibilities. It doesn't get any more normal than that. She still has obligations and a man can't expect her to give up those obligations just because he's in the picture now. If shes supporting her family and you dont like that, then go find a girl that isn't supporting her family. It really is that simple.
I think when you tack on the title of "allowance," you're inviting a litany of possible judgments. Its more important to define WHY she gets a set amount of money each month and what she is doing with it. Both partners have to have responsibilities in the financial plan for the house. People with no plan end up broke and devorced. Waiting on the next paycheck is not a plan and she shouldnt be looking at her "allowance" that way either.
When it comes to supporting family, thats an individual choice. For me, support and help are two very different things. Ill help anyone I can but I wont let it become an expectation. Im very generous but Im no ones cash cow or savior.
Lastly, learn to stand your ground and make it clear that you make the final decisions on YOUR income. More importantly, build relationships where other people respect that and understand that no means no and theres no debating the issue.
Or require her to work in order the provide for HER family. I have kids in the US too that I might want to help out, but would not ask her for help even if she's working. So no double standard there.
@@JamesHickman-g5c Agreed.
Baby Mae. Don’t give paul to much allowance. He, ll just waste it lol
Lol, I'll make sure to keep an eye on Paul's spending habits!
It’s alway fun watching and learning your life journey, and all the fun yiur having along the way. Keep up the good 👍 work
Funny, I got no budget. but im humble and dont need much. waste is just fun..
Giving for a purpose is always a good thing, however, it is not always clear what the purpose is.