Candid, clear and cool - covering important aspects of every couple's dilemma. I like the way you described it as building intimacy in the marriage relationship. We must always focus on giving of ourselves which might involve not being so demanding and deciding to wait for the most opportune time. True love is focussed on unselfish consideration of our spouse.
Hey im kind of at a crossroads. My wife has basically cut off all sex she has 2 children i stepped in as a step father. Its difficult our boy has adhd which at times can defimitely prove overwhelming. My problem is we had such a healthy sex life and then she kind of abruptly ended it. She says shes not in the mood. Imm the communicative type after a while of no intimacy i adressed it very honestly and was very caring in asking if theres anything wrong or anything i could help with to maybe stimulate a change. She said she is struggling with the housework i do my share 50 percent. But i said ill do more im now at the point i work i cook clean put the kids to bed drive them to school pick them up repeat. And she seems in a slump she sleeps 18 hours a day. I asked of maybe she wanted to see if a doctor could help if shes depressed or just maybe lacking vitamins. Shes been very irritable lately hypercritical of me. And it seems the more i do the less she puts in. I raised this concern yet again she agreed we need more us time. Amd we began doing date nights which resulted in intimacy and closeness yay. However it was short lived and she began to say she doesnt want to go out anymore. I said ok maybe next week. I picked a movie got her some of her favorite snacks. Figured we could have a stay in date night she seemed upset at it. She gives cold shoulder silent treatment alot. Shes very closed off despite my creating a safe and open space and always wncouraging her to share. Well long story short date night is done she lets the kids stay up til 11 or later even on school nights sleeps all day and is awake at night and basically refuses intimacy and says it isnt important. Ive expressed that its not fair to arrive at that conclusion alone but im feelimg helpless. Weve had the odd date night the last few months but she gets home says shes in the mood then passes our or invites the kids to sleep with us which essentially is another way of ensuring no intimacy. Im very thoughtful always expressing my love bringing gifts and tokens of my love. But its beginning to feel like she is using sex as a bargaining chip and i feel like i have no say and even when she agrees we need sex it usually is just a thought amd she makes no effort to actually try. And if i mention it she says she doesnt want to plan. But then shell say hey tonight its on. And guess what falls asleep. I domt really have a support network and im beginning to feel disconnected and unloved any tips beyomd the casual do more would be appreciated as im literally doing everything and its seems the more i give the more i loose. Please help anything is appreciated
Sounds like you got fish hooked... there are 4 legs to a chair and we have 2 hands... you can't be responsible for holding up the whole chair by yourself. And what she is doing sounds manipulative.
Candid, clear and cool - covering important aspects of every couple's dilemma. I like the way you described it as building intimacy in the marriage relationship. We must always focus on giving of ourselves which might involve not being so demanding and deciding to wait for the most opportune time. True love is focussed on unselfish consideration of our spouse.
Just found your channel and love it!! Congrats on #2! We have a 3 year old and a 4 month old.
btw we are worship pastors at a non denom church. So encouraging to see other married couples!
Thanks... helpful
Wow 2-3 times a week. we have a 8 month old our 2 and we had sex 3 times since she was born and I feel like my wife is ok with it
I needed this video. I have a 3yr old
Thank you
Glad it was helpful!
Man this guy has it made. A wife who wants to have sex! She is a keeper
Maybe there are a lot of things men can do to... To attract /motivate her and his self to have a healthy relationship
but what about the noise?
Hey im kind of at a crossroads. My wife has basically cut off all sex she has 2 children i stepped in as a step father. Its difficult our boy has adhd which at times can defimitely prove overwhelming. My problem is we had such a healthy sex life and then she kind of abruptly ended it. She says shes not in the mood. Imm the communicative type after a while of no intimacy i adressed it very honestly and was very caring in asking if theres anything wrong or anything i could help with to maybe stimulate a change. She said she is struggling with the housework i do my share 50 percent. But i said ill do more im now at the point i work i cook clean put the kids to bed drive them to school pick them up repeat. And she seems in a slump she sleeps 18 hours a day. I asked of maybe she wanted to see if a doctor could help if shes depressed or just maybe lacking vitamins. Shes been very irritable lately hypercritical of me. And it seems the more i do the less she puts in. I raised this concern yet again she agreed we need more us time. Amd we began doing date nights which resulted in intimacy and closeness yay. However it was short lived and she began to say she doesnt want to go out anymore. I said ok maybe next week. I picked a movie got her some of her favorite snacks. Figured we could have a stay in date night she seemed upset at it. She gives cold shoulder silent treatment alot. Shes very closed off despite my creating a safe and open space and always wncouraging her to share. Well long story short date night is done she lets the kids stay up til 11 or later even on school nights sleeps all day and is awake at night and basically refuses intimacy and says it isnt important. Ive expressed that its not fair to arrive at that conclusion alone but im feelimg helpless. Weve had the odd date night the last few months but she gets home says shes in the mood then passes our or invites the kids to sleep with us which essentially is another way of ensuring no intimacy. Im very thoughtful always expressing my love bringing gifts and tokens of my love. But its beginning to feel like she is using sex as a bargaining chip and i feel like i have no say and even when she agrees we need sex it usually is just a thought amd she makes no effort to actually try. And if i mention it she says she doesnt want to plan. But then shell say hey tonight its on. And guess what falls asleep. I domt really have a support network and im beginning to feel disconnected and unloved any tips beyomd the casual do more would be appreciated as im literally doing everything and its seems the more i give the more i loose. Please help anything is appreciated
Sounds like you got fish hooked... there are 4 legs to a chair and we have 2 hands... you can't be responsible for holding up the whole chair by yourself. And what she is doing sounds manipulative.
You guys are such bad parents wow
Thank God for his grace!