My anxiety has been *really bad* living in New York City. A Vlog.
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- Disclaimer: this video is not trying to romanticize anxiety and depression or make struggling with mental health "aesthetic" in any way because it's not. The sole intention of sharing this is to hopefully help someone not feel so alone in their anxiety and depression. And yes, I've been clinically diagnosed for years :) If you're feeling similar to me in this video, please know you're not alone and it's okay to reach out for help & support. Love you.
So anyways, sit back, grab a cup of coffee, and I hope you enjoy the video :)
Living alone in new york city is no joke. It's a huge privilege, yes, but there are a lot of mental health challenges I didn't think I would face by living alone for so long. This video is my trying to navigate that when my anxiety and depression get really bad. Thanks for your patience waiting for the next video. Love ya!
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Disclaimer: this video is not trying to romanticize anxiety and depression or make struggling with mental health "aesthetic" in any way because it's not. The sole intention of sharing this is to hopefully help someone not feel so alone in their anxiety and depression. And yes, I've been clinically diagnosed for years :) If you're feeling similar to me in this video, please know you're not alone and it's okay to reach out for help & support. Love you.
I go through the same. I recently visited New York . You give me so much insight on how to live in NYC. Watching from Kenya 🇰🇪
Sometimes our body gets to a point where we need some help. Being on anxiety medication does make a difference hon.
Thank you for this video it means so much to me to know I’m not alone.
It's nice to see the non-glamour of NYC and anxiety that can come with the city.
It's the absolute pits isn't it? Going to bed feeling fine one night and waking up feeling like absolute wallop the next morning without a single explanation for it. I don't know if it helps but you're not alone and you never will be. Your problems will always belong to you and you never have to share specifics but there's a family here who genuinely care about you and we can all relate to how you're feeling. I actually talk to myself in a mirror when I'm going through it. It's whatever works I suppose 😂. But we follow you because we care about you and for a lot of us your videos are an escape from our own problems so we're grateful to you for having the confidence (even though it probably feels like you don't) for sharing your life with us. It's 1:40am here so I'm off to bed. Hope the move is going well!!!!!
So well said. I agree.
Sending you love, Chelsea! A quote that helped my anxiety lately: “You cannot keep birds from flying over your head but you can keep them from building a nest in your hair.”
thank you 🥹💕
I love this. When I am down I refer to that feeling as "the sad birds".
Hi Chelsea, I’m a therapist please don’t give up on therapy it can actually be helpful lol sometimes we just need to find the right fit for us for a therapist and that can take time. It may be beneficial for your anxiety to look into EMDR or DBT therapy then you can search for a therapist who utilizes that. Also finding someone who specializes in anxiety is also a plus. PsychologyToday is a great resource to search what you are looking for and you can have consult calls to get to know the therapist first. Anyway I really enjoy your vlogs and I think it is important to normalize expressing your emotions such as anxiety I appreciate your videos because you are so real which can be hard to find on the internet anymore lol
Hey Chelsea! As a fellow New Yorker living alone in Manhattan, I love your videos! You’re so relatable and very entertaining. I’ve struggled with anxiety before and found that making friends and having a good support system really helped. I didn’t think of myself as a social person before, but going out and meeting people has made all the difference in my life. Let me know if you ever want to hang out and do something in the city.
Therapy has never worked for me either. I just try to focus on taking good care of myself by eating healthy, exercising on a consistent basis, sleep 6-8 hrs a day, be social at least once a week or every other week, and excel at work. I also try to create 1 short term and 1 long term goal and try to focus on that. But besides that there’s nothing else u can do but keep pushing forward. Depression/anxiety comes and goes, welcome it, observe it and just keep pushing. Accepting it makes it more manageable than resisting it. Wishing you the best.
I had the feeling something was up. I'm relieved to see you doing better and grateful you're sharing this very personal battle that's going on with yourself. I had to deal with depression for most of my life and what a mess it was. Countless lost opportunities, self-sabotaged relationships and very few moments where I didn't feel like suffocated by the amount of dread squeezing my brain. You've been generous enough to give us a glimpse of your struggles in the past before, so let me tell you how amazed I am about all the remarkable things you were able to achieve despite your body constantly trying to make you run against a brick wall. Not only having the courage to move to New York City but also the self-awareness to change career paths in order to build a sustaining life, powering through illness-related drowsiness and low-energy to commute every morning to a demanding job where you have to look presentable, be mindful of office etiquette and bombarded with workload. You also managed to ignore your screaming anxiety to start a TH-cam channel walking around in midst of the staring public holding up a camera, pointing it at yourself and talking to it, teaching yourself how to edit and be consistent enough in quantity and quality to grow your subscribers from a respectable 3K not long ago to a whooping 37K today. Most importantly you achieved all that by staying a kind, vulnerable and self-aware person who refuses to let her struggles make her become bitter and lash out at others. During my long stretch of years sitting in the hole, living behind shut curtains I did exactly none of that. Zero. You've been working constantly, fighting hard against the tide and it can be messy at times. You're entitled to take moments of rest and self-care. It's well deserved.
Man, thank you. So incredibly thoughtful of you to write this. I'm so sorry it's been tough for you. No matter your journey has been like, I can tell you are the kindest person, so thoughtful, with a huge heart. Thank you 💓
I hope you aren’t too hard on yourself for the years you feel you “wasted”… life is hard, and it’s especially tough when you are struggling with depression, which leaves you feeling even more depleted and drained than you otherwise would.
It’s not easy to change, and I think subconsciously a lot of us with depression feel incredibly demoralized because we can’t even imagine a future worth fighting for.
Anyways, I just wanted to say that I hope you can forgive yourself for your past, if you are holding any ill feelings towards yourself regarding this. You deserve compassion too.
@@Amber24426 Thank you for this. A little surprised as my comment was about making her feel better, it wasn't suppose to be about me. However I genuinely appreciate your kind words.
It’s genuinely so comforting to know someone else thinks a good meal the night before really peps up your health the next day. Forcing myself to make a nutritious meal can be so exhausting, especially when I’m rotting in bed just wanting a premade pizza. I’ve been working on using that energy to make dinner and it’s really been paying off in my happiness longevity.
I loved the progression in this video, going from a low low to the highest of highs! Making friends??! GOOD 👏🏻FOR👏🏻 YOU👏🏻 💕I hope we both continue to put ourselves out there for that glimmer of a good experience that makes the week that much better.
Thank you for this video, I long for your videos and they seem to upload when I need them the most. It’s almost like having a long distance friend and catching up 🥺
You got thissss!!!!! Sending hugs, love 💓
dude i love your videos so much its insane. i havent liked a youtuber this much since the good days of youtube when there was so much less and when it was so much more sincere and not a corporate machine of content creation, keep crushing everyone will keep watching
It’s nice to see such honesty about the realities of struggling with a mental illness + living in a big city! A lot of people seem to think that loneliness and all your other problems will disappear once moving into the city but I think it’s the opposite lol. Urban isolation is a thing guys!
If you ever find yourself craving for something to read, I recommend “The Lonely City: Adventures in the Art of Being Alone” by Olivia Liang! It’s a wonderful mix of a memoir, social commentary, and art biography that centers around urban isolation (the author is from NY and there’s plenty to read about that). I’m in the middle of reading it rn and loving it so far!
I don't know why but watching videos of people feeling down while I am feeling down somehow gives me hope. I see people living their lives even when they are not feeling the best and it reminds me that I can keep pushing forward too.
My daughter has anxiety and sometimes calls me and asks me just to talk. And I do. I talk to her about my day, my life, my pets etc. it carry’s her to the other side of a panic attack. I always end with advising about diet and enough sleep. I think everyone needs someone that will listen, chat, whatever you need. That’s why therapists work. Vitamins, food, sleep and limited social media 🥰 she still has anxiety (30 years) but she is happily married with 2 kids and seems better as she gets older and kids get older. She does admit that she has to limit watching news and toxic friends and family.
My daughter is the same! She calls me and I tell her about my day etc. and advise her to eat healthy….it makes her feel much better. Moms are always there!
Haven't watched all of this yet....but... having dealt with severe anxiety in the past, what I can say is that having the 'basics' sorted goes a long way in helping you heal.
Getting your nutrition, hydration and sleep consistently is massively beneficial.
If I have a 'down day' and things aren't working well, I can guarantee one of these three things is 'up the wall' on that day. 9 times out of 10 for me, if I'm not eating well then I get lower...quicker... that's usually the culprit.
Also, working out is another core facet of my life that I have to have in place. If I'm in the gym regularly, things work a lot better.
If this helps someone out, even a bit.... I'd be stoked.
Keep up the hard work Chelsea, the videos are fab.
Chelsea I appreciate that you normalize that it’s ok not to be ok, and baby steps are a huge accomplishment! What a comforting video. I hope you continue to take care of yourself and see how amazing you are, inside and out ❤
I have been worried about your missing from the channel. I have said a few prayers and so happy to see you back. Stay healthy and well. Take the time you need.😇🥰
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Hello Chelsea, I found your channel recently and I've been loving it, it's like a cozy company when I'm lonely in my apartment. (I've been living alone for the first time in my life for 7 months now, since I got into medical school). I wanted to congratulate you on this channel cause I know it must be really hard work, and it's very well done! 🎉😊
Also, commenting on the therapy part, you are not alone, I also never felt therapy was any help for me. I also have depression and anxiety, and unfortunately all my experiences with therapy had been awful. I would always feel worse after every session. I've been to three therapists until now, and I don't plan on going to another one any time soon, cause I've been so much better ever since my last therapist left me (yes, she left me and it was awful, but life without her got better). Maybe if the opportunity comes, and I feel like it's a match, I'll give therapy a go again, but for now I'm better off without it. Therapy unfortunately is not going to help everyone with every type of problem. And not every therapist is prepared to deal with the needs we present to them.
But, whatever it is you are going through, continue to be patient like you have been, and it will work out. If you believe in God, have faith He is watching over for you, just do the best you can, be patient with yourself each day, don't give up, and the solution will come. I'm sure you already know this, but just in case you needed a reminder... It will pass! You are doing great!
Much love, all the way from Brazil 🇧🇷🎉❤❤
I’ve been struggling with anxiety for a few years it can be really debilitating and the fact that you are getting up, going out and to work and trying to feed and look after yourself is really commendable x it’s hard being alone as you have to show up for you. I often don’t so this really is an inspiring vlog so thank you 😊 you’re doing great! 🙌🏼 x 🇬🇧 follower 💚
I'm so sorry you're going through it too. Thanks for the love, sending it right back
This vid hits new heights. The bubbly Mr. Rogers music, the ASMR food prep, the NYC tour, and CC in all her gorgeous splendor in a magnificent dress. My day is complete........my life, not so much. But a great day.
You are a breath of fresh air in the TH-cam/ influencer space! ✨ Love your videos and vibe thanks for keeping it real about big city living ❤
Hey there, you're struggling with things that some of us are afraid to share. Thank you for being transparent, you're not alone.
Missed you Chelsea! I totally understand dealing with anxiety. When I was your age (I’m now 66) the wisdom was basically “suck it up buttercup”. Mental health advocacy just sadly not a thing. I was in my late 40s when circumstances brought me to seek professional intervention. I have added a world of tools to my life management toolbox over the years with the help of phenomenal professionals. We, your people, love you and will always be here to listen and cheer you on! You know how to find a therapist that is a better fit. This latest one was not your person! Carry on girl❤️
We've come a long way in mental health treatment, Sharon......thanks to pioneers like yourself.
Can u not get a medical centre n USA t recommend a therapist? Its very risky just getting one off the net. Decades ago a doctor i was attending recommended a therapist n they were tops. Also friend recommendations but this is hit n miss
Chelsea, you don't have to proof anything to anyone, least of all yourself. All you have to do is BE. You don't need to have things accomplished at a certain age. Just be. Relax. Let the day unfold. I surrender everything to God every morning and let the day take me where it may, knowing I'm guided, protected, and loved. Anything that happens is perfect. It took me years to figure this out and now it's a new life. I have a daughter who is in her 30s and lives with her dog. No children, no partner, and it is totally okay. Please don't stress, you're doing phenomenal. All the best to you
Hey, Chelsea!
Watched you vid after my own rough couple of months, and still it's the best thing in my TH-cam feed. Just watching you go through your life and being open about your own struggles helps many, me included.
Thank you.
Sending you all the good vibes Andrei! Hope you’re doin ok now :)
As someone who struggles with mental health myself thank you for sharing this and showing that we cannot just be reduced to our mental illnesses and that we can function on all kinds of levels and that we are much more than our diagnoses! ❤️
Since finding your page, I have become very fond of your videos. It's as if I am catching up with an old friend. I appreciate you sharing your life, and the non-glamourous way of living that most of us other than the 1% live. I find your videos relaxing, and look forward to when you post. Happy that you're back, I am sorry you're going through a hard time, I and I am sure most of your viewers, can very much relate
Hi Chelsea fellow anxiety sufferer. My recommendation for basic self care.Sometimes writing it down in a list helps and you can tick it off or alternatively write down things achieved yes even brushing your teeth. It would be eat simple healthy meals not anything ultra processed. ( Your meal looked excellent) No or limited alcohol. A 30 min walk (in nature if you can) but round the block is fine. Have a shower & brush teeth. Prioritse sleep and yes its okay to rest/spend extra time in bed. Have some treats a nice cup of coffee a bunch of flowers. Walk through your day step by step. Know that you will come out the other side. Don't make any life changing decisions when you feel like this. Good luck with your therapist hunt keep changing til you find one that fits. Xx
V. relatable and thank you for actually showing your struggles. When I'm in a bad mental place I end up eating the same things over and over again because of texture and taste (but those things tend to be unhealthy), I struggle *hard* when trying to make nutritious things for myself. Also Girls is 100% my go-to comfort watch 😂 I'm glad you managed to do some loving things for yourself. 💕
Fellow mental health therapist here 🙋🏼♀️ also struggle with anxiety from time to time. Some advice: ask yourself what is triggering you and then ask yourself why it’s triggering you … remember you can only control what you can. Be mindful, try and live in the moment. Take care of yourself 🥰 Okay, that’s my TedTalks for the day 😉 seriously though, I absolutely love your videos !!! My husband and I just moved from NY ! Watching your videos makes me feel calm. You’re doing great 🦋
You were missed, nice to see you back Chelsea 🥰
Don't know if you know Mel Robbins but her vlog is very relatable and inspirational. I'm no stranger to anxiety so I can relate. Diet, sleep and copper. I for one am glad you are able to talk about anxiety, yours, which is also mine and ours and by that I mean other viewers. Life has never been so hard as the last few years and oh my f' God if I had a dollar for every ambulance, fire truck and cop car, I could fly to NY tomorrow. Nobody tells you what a death trap Hawaii is. If they did no one would come here. Just keep breathing, that's all I want to do. People think it's Paradise and it is if you just pop on over for a visit. But life here ain't like that, which is why so many come and then realize the truth and bail. Ya got youth and beauty, and I can tell brains on your side. So you're going to be great. Greatness just takes time. Meet ups and isolating when I need to helps. I'm an hsp empath so modern urban life requires for me both and yes home has to feel like sanctury. And grounding in Nature helps too.
Yay. Made my day to see you back with a new vlog. Your honesty is really appreciated and it takes a lot of courage to share as you do!
Thank you for pulling back the curtain and showing the world your struggles. Your strength helps a lot of us who haven’t figured out how to be that way yet.
LOVED this vlog! Thank you for sharing your experience and showing it so authentically. I’m moving to NYC in a few months and struggle with anxiety but this video gave me SO much peace. You’re amazing. :)
Ahhh thank you!! 🥹best of luck with your move!!
Anxiety tends to be the worse when you first wake up and at night before bed.
I love you so much. I live alone in Charlotte and have been for the last 2 years. Not a comparable city but the feelings are a total match. I plan to move to NY very soon to push myself to another level- just turned 30 yesterday and I’m dream chasing😅 anyway, just wanted to tell you I love you and that you are loved and I CAN’T believe I just found your channel today. We’re all in this crazy life cycle together but it’s all about growth at the end of the day. Just meeting you, but I’m proud of you. Keep going and I will too ❤️
much love, gabriel
I love when you push yourself to have a social plan and it just makes you feel soo good!
the best feeling!!
Hi Chelsea. I'm from Brazil 🇧🇷 and I really like your videos. Thanks for showing a little bit of your day to day life. ❤ Hugs 🤗
Love your attempts to eat healthily and to go socializing. They seem so encouraging for you and the vibe spreads. And, I noticed, every little step counts though it doesn’t look so at first. Let’s keep going and trying!
So sorry to hear you are having a rough time. I have been feeling similarly, so I have chosen to be kind to myself!! I have been framing doing self care as giving myself a gift or like something I would love to do for someone else. It has helped a lot. Also, I have been meditating (Apple Fitness, babyyyyy) and there is a kindness playlist that really helps. Thanks for being vulnerable. It brings us all together.
Hope you always feel better, Chelsea. I discovered your channel during the days of overwhelming existential dread, and was lucky enough to ever bump up with you once in the city.
The stories and clips you posted shows how unbelievably courageous and authentic you are. It is from you that I know there's still someone not leading a shiny life in the city, that we are both feeling lonely at times in the hustle and bustle and that it is okay to share your feelings even when you are not super rich, not having high social status and perhaps being vulnerable.
In such a long period before I found your channel, I thought social media had become a battleground for aggressive people to post toxic photos and videos to simply go viral and pump money into their pocket. However, you are like a beacon in the storm, and it's from you, the algo started to recommend me more and more videos from imperfect people all around the world. I started to really understand the saying "no matter where we're from, no matter who we are, we are more the same than different."
Just hope you won't be haunted by anxiety or depression, and can always find love and support when they are in need.
Hi Chelsea! I was wondering if I missed a video and thought about you, but glad to know you’re okay albeit struggling. I’m really grateful for your willingness to share this part of your life with us. As someone who also struggles with anxiety, I’m always at war with the thoughts in my head and lately, I’ve found solace in falling off the map. Even though that’s not really ideal, it helps give me the push I need to get back on track. I hope this period of life is temporary and even though healing isn’t linear, I know we are all just trying do our best to live. I hope you keep thriving and I’m not sure how much this would mean coming from a stranger, but I’m happy you exist. Lots of love from LA ❤
Hei Chelsea ☺️ sending so much love from the another end of the world. Munich, Germany. Watching your videos is so good! I also deal with some mental issues and somehow I really find myself in your life. As a single woman with a 9/5 in a big city. Sending love and hug! ❤
The shift that occurs after growth also scares me because of the reason you mentioned. It can feel very heavy when you have to adjust the things that no longer fit in your life or, at an equal or greater level, very disheartening when you have to let go of what doesn't fit (especially when it is people). Thank you very much for sharing with us and happy to hear that you are on the positive end of things now!
Just discovered your channel and binge-watched all your recent videos haha…. Absolutely love your videos!!!:))
Hey Chelsea, I genuinely enjoy watching your videos and can totally relate as a fellow 30-something navigating everyday life in a big city while dealing with mental health challenges. It's refreshing to see someone embrace their 'ordinary' and vulnerable side. That being said, if you ever feel like deleting your channel entirely or simply posting on your own terms, that's absolutely valid. Just remember to prioritize yourself and your well-being. Take care!
Anxiety sucks! Living alone, working a lot, not spending enough time outdoors and comparing myself to others is what exacerbates my anxiety and depression, but I always sit down in those depressive episodes and ask myself what's wrong. I also remind myself that I love myself and I will fight for myself and my happiness. I am my own number one priority. Praying and saying affirmations are also effective coping mechanisms at least for me. I hope you get better soon! ❤
Also something funny that I saw on tik tok: Just a reminder that if you are still alive you're not struggling with depression, depression is struggling with you 👊
Hi Chelsea! ❤❤❤
Thank-you for caring! I get encouragement from watching your videos as you are a great example of being authentic. I also deal with anxiety and was introduced to Arbonne, InnerCalm, Adaptogenic De-Stress Powder. It has Ashwagandha and Saffron in it and you add the powder to water and drink it. It is very tasty!
I take it when I am feeling overwhelmed by anxiety and within a half an hour my anxiety decreases from a 10 to 1. It is a natural way to calm one’s nervous system when it is feeling overwhelmed.
I order it online and it gets shipped to my door! I thought I would share this with you, as I know how well it works for me in calming anxiety. ❤️❤️❤️🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦
Thanks for sharing -ashwagandha gets alot f mention for anxiety -i did take it years ago n didnt notice that much difference but i might try again
I've gone to therapy for a long time, at different stages in my life. It's important to remember that not all therapists are a good fit. It can be hard to find someone that fits but the pay off is worth the effort. Psychology Today is a great resource to review profiles beforehand but if the person ends up not being a good fit, its perfectly fine & normal to end the sessions and find someone else ❤❤❤
glad to see you back, Chelsea!! I know this feeling a little too well and totally understand where you’re coming from. you got this!! ❤
Thanks Corey 💕
i have been binge watching your videos for three days😂 i love how chill and real they are ☺️✨
omg you're awesome!!
Hi! I love your videos so much, you feel like an older sister :)) it’s so nice you just hang and watch your videos ✨🫶🏻
Sending lots of love and good vibes your way. Living in NYC can certainly exacerbate feelings of anxiety, so I’m glad to see you pushing through. 🙂 And your vlogs always make me miss NYC! Fun fact: Clinton Hill is my old neighborhood. 😆
You are so great, I'm moving to NYC in a month and relate to your content so heavily. Glad to see you thriving and surviving. Thank you for sharing, I feel less anxious now lol
Good luck with your move!! Xx
I’m going through meltdowns from ptsdc. I just ate. That helps. Talking to friends and my doctor helped. Monday I get my klonapin. I do know how you feel I support you❤ 1:25
so so many hugs to you, so awesome you ate and connected with family ❤️ that’s amazing, much love to you
Thank you for sharing this. A comforting reminder of when I'm in the thick of it, is knowing that at some point, I WILL be on the otherside of it. In the meantime, being gentle and kind to yourself, and nourishing wants and needs is key.
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I am so glad you posted today! I love when you said that their is no growth without discomfort. I recently went to a networking event by myself and actually made some connections. Ever since I took that leap, I have noticed that my speaking skills have improved. I have been learning to give myself grace and continue to make small changes. Love the content 💕
So glad to see your face again! Life is just… I don’t even know. One day I’m in a great mood of “I’ve got this, what was I so worried about”… to extreme frustration at work and just utter gutter when I get home. I’ve been trying to be kinder to myself, I need to look into therapy but haven’t for that exact reason of not clicking with them and having to repeat my self over and over… some days just easier to hide away from everyone… but then weekends like today remind me of the joy of having people around you. Hugs you.
You remind me so much of my daughter. Please take care of yourself. You are worth it.
Loved this vlog! Literally me the last couple weeks until recently - just anxiety from work-life stuff. It happens ☹️ One thing that does get me through is just being kinder & more gentle with myself. (Break from chores/adulting & any responsibilities outside of work, & not pressuring myself for anything. ) It sucks when it happens but I remind myself it won’t be this way forever & when it’s not, better days await. My previous therapist provided some of the best advice - create space for yourself & allow yourself to do or not do things guilt-free for some time. ❤
Thank you for sharing about anxiety. I too have anxiety and stress. Talking to someone like friends always helps me and going out.
Honestly, it's (not sure how to describe it) comforting to see someone on social media who struggles with the same things as me. Sending lots of love to you! It's inspiring to see how far a little self-motivation can take you in the face of the chaos that is daily life in New York. Go you!!!
I have been watching your videos for a while now and at first I wasn’t sure why. I also live in nyc and have suffered from anxiety and depression my whole life, however it manifests very differently than yours and our lives are very different. I think I take comfort in your videos because seeing another normal person’s routine on the internet feels like a break from my own personal grind and daily media. Thanks for that!
I’m so excited for your Europe trip ! Hope you have a great time off
I have really enjoyed your channel for your honesty about things. Mental health issues are hard and as someone who fights depression and anxiety it helps me to see how others move thru the moments wine it gets bad. It makes me feel less alone in this. I wanted to encourage you to not give up on therapy if you think that will help. Sometimes it takes meeting a few to find the right one. I’m glad to see you back and I hope you continue to have good days! ❤❤
Miss your videos, but glad to see you. It may not be a consolation, but I'm an old, married guy with adult children and also deal with anxiety that has worsened with age. It's weird and unpredictable, on and off, sometimes with little mental health impact and other times with a decent amount. All that to say, don't worry or beat yourself up for how you feel on a particular day or stretch of days. Here's to good days.
I’ve struggled with panic attacks and anxiety for all my life. DM me if you ever want to chat. I’m a grandma and mom. Have a son with mental challenges. Ex husband who had mental health issues. I’m a great listener and full of experience. You did a great turn a round from the beginning to end of your vlog.
Linda, you are STRONG.
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@@henryjoshual1848 thank you. Not easy. But I’m making it. No one to help me with my son who is SMI. But it’s ok
I know you aren't asking for advice, but -
I think you hit the nail on the head that maybe you aren't going to the right kind of therapy (or maybe just seeing the right therapist). I'm 32 and have been in therapy on/off since I was about 17, when I was first diagnosed with severe depression. I've had a few really helpful therapists since then - have had to switch a few times just for the sheer fact that I've moved around -and eventually I felt like I hit a therapy plateau. Like the talk therapy just kind of stopped being very helpful and I realized I'd outgrown it. But I knew my therapy journey was far from over because I still struggled a lot with depression and anxiety frequently and also had a lot of trauma in my past that I hadn't really processed. It felt like the natural step was to look for a therapist who specializes in trauma, so that's what I did. I've only been seeing her for about 5 months (here in NYC) but I already feel like she's made a huge difference for me. It's hard work, for sure, but she's helped me recognize how my trauma has essentially formed my mental illnesses and how processing it can help me change negative patterns (whether thought patterns or behavioral patterns).
All that to say, in my experience, I've known almost right away if a therapist wasn't right for me, usually after a couple of sessions. And omg it's so exhausting to have to do a new intake every time and kind of explain why you're there all over again, but I think it's worth the effort to find the right one. If you do end up looking for a new one, maybe like kind of sit down and think about what you want to get out of therapy (like beyond obviously coping with your anxiety) and maybe go from there? I hope this doesn't come across as talking down! Just wanted to share because I've been there.
Love watching your videos and just know that in addition to your support system, you've got people in your corner of the city who are rooting for you, even if we don't know each other personally.
Mental health struggle is real. I feel you. I'm glad you got out a little with friends to lift your mood.
I have been through quite a few therapists. The last one I had actually told me I talked too much in one session..um, yeah. So I thanked her for her time & moved on. I have found a therapist that gives some good insight! I encourage you to keep going on the therapy journey ( ya know, if it feels right ) . ❤ Thanks for the real vlogs, girl.
Great to see you again! One thing that has been helping me with my self care is I’ve been keeping a list of things that help keep me out of an anxious state. It’s a running list. I try to do at least 2-3 things/day on the list. Things like yoga, meditation, journaling, walking in nature, talking to a friend…. Keep being brave! You got this, girl!
Love this, thanks for sharing :)
Glad you're doing what you can to take care of yourself! Sending you lots of love.
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Talk therapy really does feel like a hit or miss, I feel that.
So proud to call you my best friend. Your honesty, candidness and passion are just some of the few things I, and many others love about you. ❤
I love you bestie 🥹🩵
Thank you for being honest and vulnerable and for letting us share in a little bit of your life.
We’re always here with lots of love and support-even when you need to take time for yourself ❤️❤️
You have no idea how much I can relate, when I find myself in a bad state I can't eat as well I just have to appetite and Im sick to my stomach and in regards to being the only one who picks you up its the same here as well. Its difficult when people don't understand because they've never felt what I felt or I don't want to overwhelm them and so all my life I've just picked myself up and it gets tougher and tougher as one gets older, sending you best wishes and remember one day at a time and sometimes it means one hour at a time and one task at a time♥♥
😮 Was that food truck the Jamaican Dutchy?! Ohhhh I miss them! Soooo good! Try them if you get a chance!
Good to see you! Watching on my lunch break!
Good to see you back. I too have some mental problems, mostly depression. I have days where everything is great and I'm enjoying life but at times that dark horse shows up and I have a couple of days down in the dumps. Thankfully through therapy I know the red flags of being in that mental state and sooner or later I know I have to get myself busy finding things that will pick me up. I hope you are feeling better Chelsea. God Bless.
Hugs to you!
Thank you so much for this.. realness felt. Our mental health is so important. I’ve been in a low place as well, but as single, independent women, we have to get ourselves out of that headspace. Your videos are appreciated.
Yes 100%! We got this :)
I hope the situation that is causing you this turmoil gets better 💙💙💙 I always think it’s amazing when TH-camrs can share without oversharing in such a way that would make them vulnerable. Somehow, you know the exact details you want to make public, while still conveying the severity. Idk-I’m just fascinated with good youtubers. Anyway, best wishes to you!
Thanks Lizzie ❤️
Well said -its called 'Class'
I feel you on the whole "why is my therapist just repeating what I said" thing. Like, I could have the same session for free by just talking to myself in a mirror lol. Regardless, glad that you're in a good spot right now and excited to see you back :)
Exaaaactly! haha you get it.
As a recently lasped 30 something living alone, there are some big old parralels i see in this video. Glad your trending upwards by the end of it!
Good to see you back on here. Thanks for the very real update, anxiety is so debilitating, well done on working through it. I’m pleased to see you taking care of yourself and eating well. Hang in there, you’re doing so well ❤
I totally found this video helpful. I think anyone who could be helped by this video could identify with what you were willing to share. I don’t believe you need to give specific details about your very personal info online, nor should you. Keep up the good work. 💕
You share very openly and you give a lot to folks who watch and support what you are doing. There is quality in that. A friend would tell you what your therapist mentioned… a good friend would. I think you might need time for you.
Hi! I just wanna let you know that this video really helped me through this rough day. I'm moving to Seattle for school and am super anxious about living alone in a new city. Thank you for letting me know I'm not alone :)
sending you good vibes for a better day tomorrow ❤️ best of luck with everything!!
That was an on time video and your words are hitting home for me right now. " The moment after growth period." Gurl... But you stay strong and blessed.
Chelsea! This video is so comforting and helps anyone also struggling to know we are not alone. I am really glad to hear that you are feeling better now. I just discovered your channel and have watched all of your videos in 1 week. Your personality is delightful and your editing is magic! You have single handedly inspired me to start making videos again. Looking forward to more videos!
wow thank you! yes, make your videos!!
Lovely to see you back Chelsea. Just make sure you are taking time for rest and self care…..we aren’t going anywhere ❤️ sending love and hugs from the UK x
We all have those moments. Good for you for opening up. All the little things from you and everyone who comment help us all look at our issues just a little bit better. We'll have better days. :-)
Loneliness is a shit thing - for me it turned around when I had my son 12 years ago. I also got us a dog two years back and these two buddies really send love my way.
That being said, I feel you and as far as you let your videos and small snippets of your life show, I can see the amount of work you put in to keep yourself occupied and do the best you can be alright by cooking, going in runs.
I hope you’re doing okay with all of the wildfire smoke Chelsea! It looks really bad out there, hope you’re safe!! 🫶🏼
Thanks love!! All good!
Chelsea, thanks for sharing. I hope you are doing well and making progress. Mental health is a hard but important topic to discuss and I appreciate you sharing.
As someone who has anxiety…shart…good days and bad good days where I have to force myself to do things. But from this girl who grew up in a small town, 6000 people, I love New York. I find that I can loose myself and no one knows me and or about me…people tend to judge those who are not “perfect “, as my ex old friend used to say…and I hate that..peace to you and thanks for sharing your life with us ❤
Love your channel! Came across it some time ago, at the perfect time, when I needed your content the most. So happy for your content and that you are charing a little part of your life with us! I love the (what did you call it) messy aesthetic (?). It is my favourite one. Thank you!
Your videos are so validating and relatable. Thank you.
I love watching your videos on my lunch breaks (I love in the UK) and when you mentioned coming to Europe I was so excited for you! we're off to Prague in September so miss you by a month but the BEST time ❤❤❤❤
From my experience, either IFS therapy (internal family systems) or DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) are the most helpful. IFS is good for transforming the way you relate with yourself and your life experience, and processing negative events, situations, emotions, especially complicated ones. DBT is good for getting on with your life and being proactive about how to create a “life worth living” as they say in DBT. I have not had luck with “just a random therapist” especially not like, Betterhelp or anything like that. There are ways to get a DBT or IFS therapist on a budget, but it’s harder, a lot of the best therapist operate out of network. Worth trying, however!
I really love your content. My life is a lot different from yours, but I can relate to the struggles you're going through. Definitely have fight or flight mode every morning when I wake up too -- or even better, at 3 AM! Keep up the good work.
Chels… you are amazing! Thanks for being real! We all can relate and got your baby girl!
thanks turkey leg