So true. I completely relate to associating purpose with goals. It’s such a bad habit but I’m glad she’s working through it. I’ve been trying to but it’s hard so this was inspiring lol
@@khalilahd. it truly is, I constantly have to remind myself “comparison is the thief of joy” . Honestly thank you! It’s nice to know others also are also dealing with it 😊
“Hello darkness, my old friend”. Her echoing the lyrics to Paul Simon’s song, “The Sounds of Silence”, interpreting it as a reference to the latent anxiety that we all eventually experience, created a certain eerie sensation. There still remains a post pandemic isolationist sentiment lingering in our bones generating an unshakable anxious feeling, reflected in our silence. And as the song goes on to say, the “silence like a cancer grows”.
@@DaestrumManitz I always felt this song was relating the fear of nuclear proliferation. The 60’s peace movement was in response to the nuclear arms race. The silence represents the fear of nuclear war and the obliteration of our species.
No shade Dooby but when opening your restaurant, I thought it’d be more homy food, like the one you’ve always shared for us. I feel like your restaurant is amazing but there’s too much fancy going on that requires more. Do you, don’t hire these fancy chefs, cook what we’ve always loved to see! Make it fun for your self. Bring that joy back. Much love dooby 🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶
@@dollaiiahati yea that’s true. Idk though I just feel like they’re kinda running the show you know? Like dooby is in the back, in reality I bet most of those people would much rather try those dishes she preps for us on TH-cam. But then I could see that maybe there’s already many restaurants that are similar, she might have purposely took that route. Who really know 😭
I don’t even know where to start with this comment. Just because it’s a side of her you don’t know yet, doesn‘t mean that it’s not her. Also, the homey dishes are great but they are a dime a dozen in Korea, for that kind of food to be profitable you need hundreds of customers to wash through your shop, which is even more taxing, especially since all the customers want to speak to Tina and she already has her hands full with the few ones that come to Mija every night. Lastly, I feel like this is an evolution for her and while it is stressful there is also a great sense of progress and culinary and personal development for her, which this channel has always been about: moving bravely forward through life, one step at a time.
Hey, Tina. I hope that if you’re reading this, you’ll probably love this. I have depression and when I watch your videos, it takes all of my depression away. And also, I work in a coffeeshop as well. So, I understand how you are feeling. Thank you, Dooby. You’ve made my day.
Dear Tina, I have been watching since 2 years & admiring the content in silence but been worrying for you lately.I really hope your current relationship is much happier than what meets the eye. As going by your videos it is full of red flags. I have never seen a kind glance, a loving gesture,any encouraging words from Mr ☔️. You worship him & he totally gaslights you. An otherwise strong,independent, happy girl becomes a wet cat in his presence. This anxiety & imposter syndrome lately in you is all result of how he treats you. When you utter a word in restaurant meeting he looks at you as if you don’t matter or only to give some sharp retort. Feels like he is only with you to run a restaurant,get his feet wet as prep to open something better,bigger on his own. He might be great but you too are plentiful talented & being blind in love giving him platform (last vid) on your established channel. I would say better chalk out what your share, role & responsibility in restaurant is & command respect.Motivate yourself by thinking even if he walks out of the venture one day you should be self suffice, don’t make the restaurant all about him. As for doubting yourself as leader, not many are born that way majority learn on the job. You go girl! ( please don’t take this constructive feedback otherwise, I have been sincerely worrying for you lately over few ideas)
Get a grip. You don't know how they are off camera and you cannot assume based on a curated snapshot of small parts of their lives. Tina is a young business owner now and embarking in a risky business (hospitality industry) with a fairly new relationship which will naturally be anxiety inducing. Chill talking about her relationship like you know anything.
@@ohheyyola5416 Exactly like I said “going by your videos”. As the content creator claims putting up slice of life so based on that. Like I said this constructive feedback based on what meets the eye. I speak out of concern, it’s not an everyday loose comment over internet. Please take your own advise as well..chill. 🙂✌️
If anything it’s the other way around she’s extremely critical and cold when it comes to his feelings and the restaurant. She diminishes his accomplishments.
We live in an era where everyone always wants to be productive and do more to chase ‘happiness’ but I think a lot of us already had that but just didn’t realise it. You looked so happy when you were cooking and making TH-cam videos - sometimes simplifying our lives and goals can make us happier too and focus on the things we truly love. Owning and running this restaurant- is it something you truly want deep inside Tina? Or are they external factors and society pressures of doing more/expanding your brand =more successful making you want to continue this?
It's always fascinating how youtubers can capture their moments of vulnerability, anxiety, ADHD and depression perfectly with multiple camera angles set up beforehand.
Of course, because it's a dramatic reenactment of what they've felt. She probably was feeling a certain way and figured she could make a video at least to feel productive. It does come across as a hollow sentiment once you realize it's all for the camera though, even if the emotions are coming from a real and complicated place AND the video made to resonate with people emotionally is sponsored by a controversial tele-therapy company.
this whole video feels like a commercial for better help. The feeling of peace and love you looking for can't be obtained by getting material things, achievements, or a relationship. Creating another goal and achieving it won't change anything, At the end of the day those things are irrelevant if u don't have peace in your heart and understand what you are.
Right ! But you can understand what you are and be at peace? If you want to fill that empty feeling in your heart, try Jesus. Only Jesus can satisfy your soul.
Do you know how many people tell me that living with Severe Depression and anxiety. Some of us try over our best and those words stress me out more! Even those people who say breathe, that doesn't work. Talking with a therapist works!
So true. I completely relate to associating purpose with goals. It’s such a bad habit but I’m glad she’s working through it. I’ve been trying to but it’s hard so this was inspiring
@@winx1388 would you be? She's literally working him to the bone in that restaurant while she does 'marketing'. He has no support system where they are and doesn't speak the language. Poor dude
@@zizisisi "she's working him to the bone" y'all do not know both of them. Both of them are ADULTS ! If Kevin feels like he's been overworked I'm sure he's able to tell Tina that which I doubt she's "overworking" him.. and u a hatin ass bitch cause all of your comments are hate towards doobs.. gtfo
Tina i’ve been following your channel for almost 2 years now and there was a light in you that is gone in the past year. I cant help but notice that you started changing and dimming down ever since kevin moved to korea. Im not saying this to be a hater but it seems like you invested so much in the restaurant and this relationship that now it feels wrong and you want to get out but feel stuck becuz so much is at stake. Been there before and i recognize it and it sucks. Wish you the best babe and im praying for your mental health ❤ Never let anything stand in the way of your happiness and lovely free spirit
Girl it's called hard work, and they are both putting in hard work for their business. Do you even realize how difficult is it to own a restaurant between two young people?
@@kaiju_k5042 we all work hard and have relationships and i know ppl who started successful businesses before and they dont have that glazed lost look she has. I know my opinion is not going to be accepted but i’ve seen how to he talks to her and several ppl noticed in the past videos that she’s intimidated by him and he seems like a controlling person with a i know better attitude. Just becuz he works hard and knows how to run a restaurant doesnt mean he’s a 10/10 boyfriend or they suit eo. She seems lost and depressed. But it’s her life so live and let live i guess.
@@joeratcliffe2988 i dont know it seems pretty obvious but ppl don’t want to mention it plus something similar happened to me and i was miserable at that time. I hope she does ok and is happy
@@Sarah_2094 who tf do u think u are to judge that she has a “glazed lost look” lmao are u her close friend? have u met her in real life?? does she know u exist?? stop overstepping into the boundaries of someone who is just an online presence to u
As a young adult who is 2 yrs into her career I can relate to what you’re going through. I am an art educator and last year was working my ass off at a job that was just draining me, but I knew it was what I loved and kept going. I got a new position at a different school, started therapy and prioritizing self-care, and finally feel like I am able to enjoy my life. What I am trying to say is that yes, right now you might be feeling exhausted and defeated but if you keep working (on yourself just as much as your job) you will get to that place that you’ve been dreaming of! Wishing you all the best & know your fans believe in you ❤
When Tina talked about her anxiety after morning run, she put the camera in different angles to shoot. I love this. It's like you have different listeners for your own story and they will offer you different feelings, viewpoints, sooth and calm you in different ways. It also means you yourself can look at the situation in various angles, so please don't get caught in the situation and sink alone. Tina, you are very honest to yourself, down to earth and funny, I wish you can always stay true that way, have time to live, work, exercise and love.
I could say you are the best videomaker in here, thank you for acknowledging your fears and anxiety and taking about it out loud! we are so proud of you and you are capable to do everything. just give yourself time!
You’re joking right? I have anxiety too and no, she shouldn’t keep going like this (she also shouldn’t be ashamed, anxiety should be normalized). But I’m glad she’s addressing her anxiety and finding ways to improve/cope. If she “kept going” and didn’t change, she would have eventually have panic attacks, burnout, or a nervous breakdown
@@LunaVioletta7 She is managing herself just fine. Acknowledging her anxiety and reassuring her that she is on the right path is what she needs in order to become a successful restaurant owner in the future. Acknowledging her anxiety, coddling her and sitting on that won't get her there. She should keep going despite how she feels right now because she's embarking on a journey of personal growth. That involves voluntarily taking on hardship: choosing to run a restaurant at her age. Doing the inner work of processing all the negative emotions that come with facing life's challenges like anxiety, depression, guilt and self-doubt is part of the necessary journey to better oneself. This vlog shows that. So is choosing to get up every morning no matter how much you don't want to and putting effort into nailing down a rigid personal fitness routine. That takes discipline and will take one very far in life. If you have anxiety, it's your job to face it, do the inner work to over come it so you can continue doing the difficult thing that gives you anxiety until it gradually goes away and the task becomes easier. It's the only way to gain confidence and mental resilience, which is essential to survive and achieve any personal goal greater than yourself in life.
@@hugitkissitloveit8640 I’m replying specifically to “this level of anxiety is fine/normal,” when Dooby literally says in the video that she’s experiencing mood swings, and that she’s not really ok, but luckily she’s developing healthy habits to cope with it. How is encouraging her to continue her healthy habits to fight her anxiety “coddling her”? Your comment is coddling, telling her that she should continue living in an anxious state because it’s normal. I think we both agree that her making these healthy changes (exercise, journaling, etc) is the right path - yes I agree with that. I’m not saying she shouldn’t continue doing this lol. I’m addressing the other part of your first comment
@@hugitkissitloveit8640 btw - I agree with the last 2 paragraphs of your last comment. Yes, she should continue fighting to develop resilience - and it’s understandable owning a restaurant can breed this this level of anxiety! But what I’m addressing is that she herself has said she’s not ok and wants to continue fighting it, so that she *doesn’t* feel this way forever I think we’re basically talking about the same thing, just with different wording. Lol
I struggle just like this. I have severe social anxiety. The only times it doesn't exist is when i am working. When I'm working as a cancer nurse, I'm completely different. Nobody I know would recognize me. I'd do anything to make my patients smile. Anything to make their day a little better. I trueley think doing things we are passionate about drives you. It's all about figuring out what motivates you. Otherwise life gets overwhelming fast
Same for myself as a neuro rehab nurse. Hope you are doing well. Would love to do a tour through oncology, but so few places near willing to take someone without all the certs with my experience.
Rest is productive too. Thanks for the reminder to get outside. I need to do that more often or at least start my day by doing so. A change of perspective and a place to just be and be is helpful. I hope you are gentle with yourself through your difficulties. 🫂✨🌤️🌷🌱
Every single person on earth should have to work manual labor jobs for a year. It would shift your perspective massively. You are living a life of absolutely luxury. Be thankful for what you have.
exactly. she opened her restaurant literally yesterday and starts preaching about 'what's the point of working if you dont have time to enjoy life', like gurl STAPH💀
I agree I really love and admire her channel. I worked in hospitality - bars, restaurants , reception for nearly 10 years (mid teens to mid twenties and yes it does take it out of you but it gives you a type of experience, sense and respect that is hard to learn in a 9 to 5 office job. I feel you can always tell when someone has never worked in a service job as they really do not understand what goes on behind the scenes. This will be and amazing learning experience for Tina and she's doing amazing, we all have different life experiences
Question, how has your relationship with Kevin been affected by the restaurant? You both have very different roles and work long hours. How do you prioritize time with each other outside of work, when do you have time to just be with each other outside of work? 😊
Any day with a new dooby video counts as a winner to me, and FYI it is a subwoofer in the rear of the Audi, probably from a package upgrade but also lots of vehicles don't have spares anymore for cost and weight reduction.
Watching this video makes me want to give you a big hug. You deserve the world. When I have anxiety I watch your videos, so I wish I could give something back
As much as I enjoy the mija seoul videos, these kind are my favourites. It’s just the chill vibe of Tina doing her thing and being so relatable and open. It feels so natural and not staged, these kind of vlogs are so rare to find nowadays! Thanks Tina for always trying, keep your head up!
Tina you are amazing and incredibly hardworking! It can be easy to forget this when you are surrounded by other amazing people and sometimes you just need a little reminder that you're also one of them! Lots of love 💕
Sometimes I feel part of depression and anxiety is telling you something in your life isn’t aligned to your soul , write, journal, listen to what’s the darkness?..
hi Tina, as an older person, I can say that what you are experiencing is pretty normal. It is really important to take care of our mental health at all times so that we do not get into a rut of emotion. You are an inspiration to many young and old alike.
Dooby, from the looks of it you are surrounded by good people. May that help you navigate tough times 🙂 Mad respect for how much you've been juggling lately - hope you continue to find chances to decompress now and then!
Did you know better help therapists aren't even licensed therapist? They just take an online course and that's about it. My friend tried it and said her assigned therapist was judgemental and blamed her anxiety on the patient. So I really don't think people should encourage better help.
Also, I recommend taking courses on leadership and such. On the outside it probably sounds cool that you’re so young and have your own restaurant but people will be depending on you so to gain knowledge in things you are inexperienced in is important
Dear Tina , it’s very normal to doubt yourself when starting on a new path /journey . No one starts out a complete professional/master / knowing it all . Gordon Ramsay , for example , was once a self-doubting trainee before his skills and work began to speak for themselves . There are other more relatable examples to give I’m sure , given that your line of work-your interests , is a mix of things, but that is a great example in and of itself I’m sure . If anyone makes you doubt yourself for being where you are at in your journey now , then they are fools . Doubt is natural and finding the wisdom and strength to focus on the bigger picture and overcome these little moments in between - moments of doubt and friction - is what will determine the growth of your path . Wishing you and Kevin the best as partners , entrepreneurs, creators , chef(s) and so on .
Grounding helps... barefoot on the grass or lay down on the grass. you can have a blanket but all the comfy rubber shoes and boots prevent us from grounding. It's a big thing for our well being.. I was just reminded of it and I went out in my socks in the middle of ( a mild ) winter and stood on the gravel in my driveway for 5 minutes and what a difference. Getting out in nature alone is Huge! xo
Crying from the start until 1:16 minute if the video. What got me was the “Dragging myself out” I am a business/cafe owner and it gets overwhelming too. Sometimes you feel like you don’t want to work but you also have to think about your staff and handling all of the finances and bills. It piles up, work and family responsibility. Hope we all make it!! Fighting !!
Dish eggplant omelette is known as “tortang talong” in the Philippines. I would submerge the eggplant with the scrambled egg first then pour into the pan to fry. Its great with ponzu (calamansi/lemon and soy sauce) 😊
Hi doobie It’s great to be honest about ourself - thanks for sharing 😊 I think it’s so important to keep work life balance So mush health deficits /mentally snd physically is coming from stress - It’s a challenge to hit the sweet spot between work and life - Take it easy ❤ Warm regards from Gernany , Andy
I admire how you still keep on filming and being filmed when you’re so overwhelmed with the tight schedules already .. you present the real side of you and we hope to go through this tough time with you just like how your videos are going through tough times with me now~~~ like how your videos always put us at ease~~~
You got this... I've lived with anxiety and depression for over 50 yrs... so you got this... trust in self...family...friends... can't wait to visit your restaurant.. will be in Korea in Aug.
I’ve had awful anxiety for as long as I can remember and you know what helped A LOT! Cutting out coffee completely… sounds crazy but give it a try and see! Glad you were able to get out of the house ❤
Everytime I see your videos you inspire me to get out of bed even if it’s a small task I complete. Just know you make an impact on people. Battling depression isn’t easy but you make it a little easier for me.
Like you've said in the past Tina, you either force yourself through it as you try not to fall into that darkness, or you simply fall right into it. It's all up to you in a sense. Stay strong!
I know exactly how it feels so your feeling are completely valid. Have you ever tried getting blood test done? To see if you are deficient in vitamin d? That could also be a contributor. When I was going through super bad anxiety & depression, I sought out a holistic doctor who did blood test and found I was vitamin d deficient so I had to start taking it. There were other factors. Like making sure your gut is ok because everything stems from your gut. I'm no way a professional but that's stuff that I found out from my doctor. Doesn't hurt to check. Don't forget to change up your scenery sometimes. If you are caught up in the same routine all day everyday, it can definitely bring you to depression. You are surrounded by good people. Never be afraid to ask for help. Sometimes we can't do it alone. Praying for better day ahead 🙏🏽♥️You are not alone.
Something I do may help other may not but on hard rainy days with or without thunder and it’s a little bit dark, I go on top of my roof (balcony, somewhere to lay down) and just lay in the rain and stare at the sky and to me it just soothes me and just gets rid of any worry and calms down the mine and slows time.😁
@@lonlon147 the issue here is not that "rich people can't have problems". The issue here is that Tina pretended to have mental health problems to get betterhelp sponsorship.
The mood swings, the anxiety, the feeling of not being productive enough - it's all burnout. Ive been burned out before eith these wxact same feelings and its so hard to escape on your own. If you dont have a counselor/therapist, you should look into it before you get too deep into the hole. Much love, hope you start feeling better soon!
Oooohhh the eggplant dish u made, we call that tortang talong in the Philippines! We usually cut the roasted eggplant in the middle and dip it in the egg batter before cooking. Might wanna try that trick next time hehe :)
I respect how doobydobap successfully shows lifes seasons and anxiety and depression. Depression and anxeity doesnt just happen once, and even after you do something fufilling and something that you are passionate doesnt mean you wont experience depression. A lot of tv shows show depression as this one time thing, you have it and then you get over it but really it s just a cycle. Dooby also shows how success and passion doesnt mean that you are satisfied. Everything in life is a cycle and it doesnt follow one plan or one spreadsheet, and struggles of life never end no matter how happy you think you are and no matter how much you think that you have found yourself. I personally am in a hard season as well and there isnt one quick solution that makes the pressure and anxiety go away, and it also doesnt mean that I am not happy with life or my plans and my passion, i am just figuring things out. So Tina, or anyone reading this know that you are not alone and know that like every season of struggles, this one will leave and fade. Life is hard, it is supposed to be, but like a good war, life is a battlefield and there are two ways that you can leave the battle. You can give up and dwell on your defeat and mistakes, or you can give it all you got and fight and win. Please for me, lets win this war.
you're totally feeling impostor syndrome and it's something we all feel and a part of what makes us human. No one person is capable of doing everything, just surround yourself with good people you can trust, who support you and have skills that you might be lacking and release some of that control. Trust and you got this ✨
The cautionary tale isn't of the egg and the eggplant...I'm writing this because I come here for the Dooby and want this to be a fortifying experience for you, not enervating so early on in its inception. There's being idealistic and there's being realistic when friends or lovers go into a venture together. It can seem like a great situation. However, as we all have seen, sometimes the relationship can become fractured due to the stresses of running a business, feeling responsible for others' livelihoods, financial pressures, lack of free time or mental space, lack of intimate time when all you did was get to know each other better. I sincerely wish you great success with Mija Seoul, but like other posters have mentioned, the body language between you and Kevin (and his tone) is worrisome. He's gotten his dream of being a chef in his own kitchen of his own restaurant. Your chutzpah and ability to navigate the codes/language of Korea got him that, quite speedily. He definitely wouldn't have been able to do that on his own, not even in Denmark. Again, that was enabled by your community, your YT ad dollars, your ability to source the wares in Seoul, etc. I just want to stress that sooner than later, you will need to hammer out the legal stuff with him (a la post-nup). I'm not against Kevin, he is quite talented, and he'll be fine. Just, don't let your personality and pursuits be subsumed.
I'm sure that there's more to the story than what's shared with Dooby's. At the same time, both Tina and Kevin are learning lessons that others have already learned (I'm a bit older) or will never learn. She's doing a pretty good job at sharing some of the in's/out's of her experiences - which is greatly appreciated. I like what you commented too - there's no easy way to say all that.
Guilt, anxiety, loss of appetite, socially withdrawn, lack of energy to get out of bed, no feeling of purpose….I’ve been there and it’s called depression. Burn out from a high stress job and no work life balance. You’ve got to find the balance or it will progressively affect your health and relationships in the most necrotic way.
Thanks for acknowledging the overwhelming anxiety. Big or small it can overrun your system. You’re loved and appreciated on purpose!
So true. I completely relate to associating purpose with goals. It’s such a bad habit but I’m glad she’s working through it. I’ve been trying to but it’s hard so this was inspiring lol
@@khalilahd. it truly is, I constantly have to remind myself “comparison is the thief of joy” . Honestly thank you! It’s nice to know others also are also dealing with it 😊
Jesus loves you and may God bless ....
“Hello darkness, my old friend”.
Her echoing the lyrics to Paul Simon’s song, “The Sounds of Silence”, interpreting it as a reference to the latent anxiety that we all eventually experience, created a certain eerie sensation. There still remains a post pandemic isolationist sentiment lingering in our bones generating an unshakable anxious feeling, reflected in our silence. And as the song goes on to say, the “silence like a cancer grows”.
@@DaestrumManitz
I always felt this song was relating the fear of nuclear proliferation. The 60’s peace movement was in response to the nuclear arms race. The silence represents the fear of nuclear war and the obliteration of our species.
I knew this video was going to be a better help sponsored video lol
Lol
No shade Dooby but when opening your restaurant, I thought it’d be more homy food, like the one you’ve always shared for us. I feel like your restaurant is amazing but there’s too much fancy going on that requires more. Do you, don’t hire these fancy chefs, cook what we’ve always loved to see! Make it fun for your self. Bring that joy back. Much love dooby 🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶
I agree but maybe its more of a collaborative work for her and kevin, but I do think she needs to do of her own style of food.
@@dollaiiahati yea that’s true. Idk though I just feel like they’re kinda running the show you know? Like dooby is in the back, in reality I bet most of those people would much rather try those dishes she preps for us on TH-cam. But then I could see that maybe there’s already many restaurants that are similar, she might have purposely took that route. Who really know 😭
I don’t even know where to start with this comment. Just because it’s a side of her you don’t know yet, doesn‘t mean that it’s not her. Also, the homey dishes are great but they are a dime a dozen in Korea, for that kind of food to be profitable you need hundreds of customers to wash through your shop, which is even more taxing, especially since all the customers want to speak to Tina and she already has her hands full with the few ones that come to Mija every night. Lastly, I feel like this is an evolution for her and while it is stressful there is also a great sense of progress and culinary and personal development for her, which this channel has always been about: moving bravely forward through life, one step at a time.
I dont know why do you have to comment things like that when you can clearly see that she is having a hard time..
@@toocool9935bc people love to push you down when you’re already below :)
Hey, Tina. I hope that if you’re reading this, you’ll probably love this. I have depression and when I watch your videos, it takes all of my depression away. And also, I work in a coffeeshop as well. So, I understand how you are feeling. Thank you, Dooby. You’ve made my day.
Dear Tina, I have been watching since 2 years & admiring the content in silence but been worrying for you lately.I really hope your current relationship is much happier than what meets the eye. As going by your videos it is full of red flags. I have never seen a kind glance, a loving gesture,any encouraging words from Mr ☔️. You worship him & he totally gaslights you. An otherwise strong,independent, happy girl becomes a wet cat in his presence. This anxiety & imposter syndrome lately in you is all result of how he treats you. When you utter a word in restaurant meeting he looks at you as if you don’t matter or only to give some sharp retort. Feels like he is only with you to run a restaurant,get his feet wet as prep to open something better,bigger on his own. He might be great but you too are plentiful talented & being blind in love giving him platform (last vid) on your established channel. I would say better chalk out what your share, role & responsibility in restaurant is & command respect.Motivate yourself by thinking even if he walks out of the venture one day you should be self suffice, don’t make the restaurant all about him. As for doubting yourself as leader, not many are born that way majority learn on the job. You go girl! ( please don’t take this constructive feedback otherwise, I have been sincerely worrying for you lately over few ideas)
I completely agree. Surprised someone feels this way as well. But who know this is only our perception through the internet. 😢
Get a grip. You don't know how they are off camera and you cannot assume based on a curated snapshot of small parts of their lives. Tina is a young business owner now and embarking in a risky business (hospitality industry) with a fairly new relationship which will naturally be anxiety inducing. Chill talking about her relationship like you know anything.
@@ohheyyola5416 Exactly like I said “going by your videos”. As the content creator claims putting up slice of life so based on that. Like I said this constructive feedback based on what meets the eye. I speak out of concern, it’s not an everyday loose comment over internet. Please take your own advise as well..chill. 🙂✌️
If anything it’s the other way around she’s extremely critical and cold when it comes to his feelings and the restaurant. She diminishes his accomplishments.
Who’s he?
oof that last interaction with Kevin, damn. I think my room froze over.
We live in an era where everyone always wants to be productive and do more to chase ‘happiness’ but I think a lot of us already had that but just didn’t realise it.
You looked so happy when you were cooking and making TH-cam videos - sometimes simplifying our lives and goals can make us happier too and focus on the things we truly love.
Owning and running this restaurant- is it something you truly want deep inside Tina? Or are they external factors and society pressures of doing more/expanding your brand =more successful making you want to continue this?
It's always fascinating how youtubers can capture their moments of vulnerability, anxiety, ADHD and depression perfectly with multiple camera angles set up beforehand.
Lol
But don't say this out loud or you might be labelled anxiety-phobic 🤐
Of course, because it's a dramatic reenactment of what they've felt. She probably was feeling a certain way and figured she could make a video at least to feel productive. It does come across as a hollow sentiment once you realize it's all for the camera though, even if the emotions are coming from a real and complicated place AND the video made to resonate with people emotionally is sponsored by a controversial tele-therapy company.
@@kurosgarnoh right so having a sponsorship deal means that it’s impossible to still feel depression or anxiety…logic levels up to the max right here
@@kurosgarn anxiety brought to you by betterhelp
this whole video feels like a commercial for better help. The feeling of peace and love you looking for can't be obtained by getting material things, achievements, or a relationship. Creating another goal and achieving it won't change anything, At the end of the day those things are irrelevant if u don't have peace in your heart and understand what you are.
Right ! But you can understand what you are and be at peace? If you want to fill that empty feeling in your heart, try Jesus. Only Jesus can satisfy your soul.
@@uwimanamiddleton89 that is so true .
Henry Jekyll...is that you?
Has anxiety...... travels to the US for a month while running a restaurant per parents paid for LOLLLLL
all we can do is try our best sometimes. keep your head up dooby, we're all behind you cheering you on!
Do you know how many people tell me that living with Severe Depression and anxiety. Some of us try over our best and those words stress me out more! Even those people who say breathe, that doesn't work. Talking with a therapist works!
So true. I completely relate to associating purpose with goals. It’s such a bad habit but I’m glad she’s working through it. I’ve been trying to but it’s hard so this was inspiring
hi name twin
@@zilazilazila Just being there for a person is enough . Sometimes listening is better than saying anything
@@M1N1Girl007❤
14:52 he wanted to say something else before he saw the camera. He wasn’t in a good mood 🙂
he's always not in a good mood honestly
@@winx1388 would you be? She's literally working him to the bone in that restaurant while she does 'marketing'. He has no support system where they are and doesn't speak the language. Poor dude
@@zizisisi "she's working him to the bone" y'all do not know both of them. Both of them are ADULTS ! If Kevin feels like he's been overworked I'm sure he's able to tell Tina that which I doubt she's "overworking" him.. and u a hatin ass bitch cause all of your comments are hate towards doobs.. gtfo
Literally looks like he’s about to curse at her or something
Tina i’ve been following your channel for almost 2 years now and there was a light in you that is gone in the past year. I cant help but notice that you started changing and dimming down ever since kevin moved to korea. Im not saying this to be a hater but it seems like you invested so much in the restaurant and this relationship that now it feels wrong and you want to get out but feel stuck becuz so much is at stake. Been there before and i recognize it and it sucks. Wish you the best babe and im praying for your mental health ❤ Never let anything stand in the way of your happiness and lovely free spirit
Girl it's called hard work, and they are both putting in hard work for their business. Do you even realize how difficult is it to own a restaurant between two young people?
@@kaiju_k5042 we all work hard and have relationships and i know ppl who started successful businesses before and they dont have that glazed lost look she has. I know my opinion is not going to be accepted but i’ve seen how to he talks to her and several ppl noticed in the past videos that she’s intimidated by him and he seems like a controlling person with a i know better attitude. Just becuz he works hard and knows how to run a restaurant doesnt mean he’s a 10/10 boyfriend or they suit eo. She seems lost and depressed. But it’s her life so live and let live i guess.
@@Sarah_2094 Fair play Sarah, I'm glad someone can see the elephant in the room
@@joeratcliffe2988 i dont know it seems pretty obvious but ppl don’t want to mention it plus something similar happened to me and i was miserable at that time. I hope she does ok and is happy
@@Sarah_2094 who tf do u think u are to judge that she has a “glazed lost look” lmao are u her close friend? have u met her in real life?? does she know u exist?? stop overstepping into the boundaries of someone who is just an online presence to u
As a young adult who is 2 yrs into her career I can relate to what you’re going through. I am an art educator and last year was working my ass off at a job that was just draining me, but I knew it was what I loved and kept going. I got a new position at a different school, started therapy and prioritizing self-care, and finally feel like I am able to enjoy my life. What I am trying to say is that yes, right now you might be feeling exhausted and defeated but if you keep working (on yourself just as much as your job) you will get to that place that you’ve been dreaming of! Wishing you all the best & know your fans believe in you ❤
When Tina talked about her anxiety after morning run, she put the camera in different angles to shoot. I love this. It's like you have different listeners for your own story and they will offer you different feelings, viewpoints, sooth and calm you in different ways. It also means you yourself can look at the situation in various angles, so please don't get caught in the situation and sink alone. Tina, you are very honest to yourself, down to earth and funny, I wish you can always stay true that way, have time to live, work, exercise and love.
Thank you for posting this. These past years have been such a struggle for me and you sharing your experience has been super comforting 💞
The rawness to the vlogs accompanied by the simple moments of happiness is always…
*chef’s kiss*
Hope your mental health gets better Tina❤
I could say you are the best videomaker in here, thank you for acknowledging your fears and anxiety and taking about it out loud! we are so proud of you and you are capable to do everything. just give yourself time!
Oh dooby am feeling the same here,
you’re not alone
This is like some ultra narcissism sociopathy in action
can u please explain more
What you're experiencing is normal. This level of anxiey means you're doing just fine. Keep going and dont stop.
You’re joking right? I have anxiety too and no, she shouldn’t keep going like this (she also shouldn’t be ashamed, anxiety should be normalized). But I’m glad she’s addressing her anxiety and finding ways to improve/cope. If she “kept going” and didn’t change, she would have eventually have panic attacks, burnout, or a nervous breakdown
I know you meant to be encouraging, OP, but she's literally telling us she's not fine with this constant level of anxiety
@@LunaVioletta7 She is managing herself just fine. Acknowledging her anxiety and reassuring her that she is on the right path is what she needs in order to become a successful restaurant owner in the future. Acknowledging her anxiety, coddling her and sitting on that won't get her there.
She should keep going despite how she feels right now because she's embarking on a journey of personal growth. That involves voluntarily taking on hardship: choosing to run a restaurant at her age. Doing the inner work of processing all the negative emotions that come with facing life's challenges like anxiety, depression, guilt and self-doubt is part of the necessary journey to better oneself. This vlog shows that. So is choosing to get up every morning no matter how much you don't want to and putting effort into nailing down a rigid personal fitness routine. That takes discipline and will take one very far in life.
If you have anxiety, it's your job to face it, do the inner work to over come it so you can continue doing the difficult thing that gives you anxiety until it gradually goes away and the task becomes easier. It's the only way to gain confidence and mental resilience, which is essential to survive and achieve any personal goal greater than yourself in life.
@@hugitkissitloveit8640 I’m replying specifically to “this level of anxiety is fine/normal,” when Dooby literally says in the video that she’s experiencing mood swings, and that she’s not really ok, but luckily she’s developing healthy habits to cope with it.
How is encouraging her to continue her healthy habits to fight her anxiety “coddling her”? Your comment is coddling, telling her that she should continue living in an anxious state because it’s normal.
I think we both agree that her making these healthy changes (exercise, journaling, etc) is the right path - yes I agree with that. I’m not saying she shouldn’t continue doing this lol. I’m addressing the other part of your first comment
@@hugitkissitloveit8640 btw - I agree with the last 2 paragraphs of your last comment. Yes, she should continue fighting to develop resilience - and it’s understandable owning a restaurant can breed this this level of anxiety!
But what I’m addressing is that she herself has said she’s not ok and wants to continue fighting it, so that she *doesn’t* feel this way forever
I think we’re basically talking about the same thing, just with different wording. Lol
Saw the day in the life of ur man, hope hes not the reason you feel this way. Surround urself with people who give you good vibes dooby
your tires look dangerously bald - get them changed if so!
I struggle just like this. I have severe social anxiety. The only times it doesn't exist is when i am working. When I'm working as a cancer nurse, I'm completely different. Nobody I know would recognize me. I'd do anything to make my patients smile. Anything to make their day a little better. I trueley think doing things we are passionate about drives you. It's all about figuring out what motivates you. Otherwise life gets overwhelming fast
Same for myself as a neuro rehab nurse. Hope you are doing well. Would love to do a tour through oncology, but so few places near willing to take someone without all the certs with my experience.
ur life is great and full of life, if you compare to your patients... so be happy ur healthy and enjoy ur life.
It is so true. When lost in our passion we find the ability to ignore the anxieties of the moment.
Anxiety is nature’s way of motivating us on to greater achievements.
@@DaestrumManitz no
Interesting that she originally titled the video "guilty" and then changed it.... just read about the eviction situation...
What eviction situation? There's an update on the owner of the restaurant thing?
Rest is productive too. Thanks for the reminder to get outside. I need to do that more often or at least start my day by doing so. A change of perspective and a place to just be and be is helpful. I hope you are gentle with yourself through your difficulties. 🫂✨🌤️🌷🌱
Every single person on earth should have to work manual labor jobs for a year. It would shift your perspective massively. You are living a life of absolutely luxury. Be thankful for what you have.
exactly. she opened her restaurant literally yesterday and starts preaching about 'what's the point of working if you dont have time to enjoy life', like gurl STAPH💀
I agree I really love and admire her channel. I worked in hospitality - bars, restaurants , reception for nearly 10 years (mid teens to mid twenties and yes it does take it out of you but it gives you a type of experience, sense and respect that is hard to learn in a 9 to 5 office job. I feel you can always tell when someone has never worked in a service job as they really do not understand what goes on behind the scenes. This will be and amazing learning experience for Tina and she's doing amazing, we all have different life experiences
Question, how has your relationship with Kevin been affected by the restaurant? You both have very different roles and work long hours. How do you prioritize time with each other outside of work, when do you have time to just be with each other outside of work? 😊
Time for a vacation by the ocean with no internet…you deserve it and you’ll feel renewed and be able to savor your growth and success!
Any day with a new dooby video counts as a winner to me, and FYI it is a subwoofer in the rear of the Audi, probably from a package upgrade but also lots of vehicles don't have spares anymore for cost and weight reduction.
Watching this video makes me want to give you a big hug. You deserve the world. When I have anxiety I watch your videos, so I wish I could give something back
As much as I enjoy the mija seoul videos, these kind are my favourites. It’s just the chill vibe of Tina doing her thing and being so relatable and open. It feels so natural and not staged, these kind of vlogs are so rare to find nowadays! Thanks Tina for always trying, keep your head up!
stay strong queen. stay awesome
Tina you are amazing and incredibly hardworking! It can be easy to forget this when you are surrounded by other amazing people and sometimes you just need a little reminder that you're also one of them! Lots of love 💕
Sometimes I feel part of depression and anxiety is telling you something in your life isn’t aligned to your soul , write, journal, listen to what’s the darkness?..
hi Tina, as an older person, I can say that what you are experiencing is pretty normal. It is really important to take care of our mental health at all times so that we do not get into a rut of emotion. You are an inspiration to many young and old alike.
Dooby, from the looks of it you are surrounded by good people. May that help you navigate tough times 🙂 Mad respect for how much you've been juggling lately - hope you continue to find chances to decompress now and then!
This ❤
Of course you cant work, when youre busy filming yourself from 10 angles while taking a note in your notebook.
😂😂😂
Yeah... mental health... something all influencers suddenly struggle with nowadays. But you what will help you? Betterhelp! Right...🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
Did you know better help therapists aren't even licensed therapist? They just take an online course and that's about it. My friend tried it and said her assigned therapist was judgemental and blamed her anxiety on the patient. So I really don't think people should encourage better help.
Your videos bring us sorry, happiness, and just being.
Wtf did I just watch? Good lord… welcome to adulthood.
I am sorry you are feeling the way you are. I hope it gets better soon!
Also, I recommend taking courses on leadership and such. On the outside it probably sounds cool that you’re so young and have your own restaurant but people will be depending on you so to gain knowledge in things you are inexperienced in is important
Dear Tina , it’s very normal to doubt yourself when starting on a new path /journey . No one starts out a complete professional/master / knowing it all . Gordon Ramsay , for example , was once a self-doubting trainee before his skills and work began to speak for themselves . There are other more relatable examples to give I’m sure , given that your line of work-your interests , is a mix of things, but that is a great example in and of itself I’m sure . If anyone makes you doubt yourself for being where you are at in your journey now , then they are fools . Doubt is natural and finding the wisdom and strength to focus on the bigger picture and overcome these little moments in between - moments of doubt and friction - is what will determine the growth of your path . Wishing you and Kevin the best as partners , entrepreneurs, creators , chef(s) and so on .
it makes me feel a lot better about myself when I see people I can relate to… thank you for this
Grounding helps... barefoot on the grass or lay down on the grass. you can have a blanket but all the comfy rubber shoes and boots prevent us from grounding. It's a big thing for our well being.. I was just reminded of it and I went out in my socks in the middle of ( a mild ) winter and stood on the gravel in my driveway for 5 minutes and what a difference. Getting out in nature alone is Huge! xo
lmao an ad for betterhelp
HAVE GREAT AND CHEERFUL LIFE, UPS AND DOWNS ARE PART OF LIFE........REALLY DOBBY YOUR VIDEOS ARE SO CALMING.... ❤❤❤❤
Crying from the start until 1:16 minute if the video. What got me was the “Dragging myself out”
I am a business/cafe owner and it gets overwhelming too. Sometimes you feel like you don’t want to work but you also have to think about your staff and handling all of the finances and bills. It piles up, work and family responsibility.
Hope we all make it!! Fighting !!
Lol idk why I liked that you left in the sneeze
“Wtf I didn’t know my car had this” exactly my reaction the first time I had a flat tire and had to look in the back for the spare.
I definitely felt she was losing her confidence when she was uncomfortable cooking for the team in the restaurant.
the sponsor ad had me ded
Dish eggplant omelette is known as “tortang talong” in the Philippines. I would submerge the eggplant with the scrambled egg first then pour into the pan to fry. Its great with ponzu (calamansi/lemon and soy sauce) 😊
Yeah, dippin' the egg into the egg is definitely the way to go. Just made 3 this morning. I'll have to try with ponzu next time!
I love Dooby’s lifestyle vlog ❤
Hi doobie
It’s great to be honest about ourself - thanks for sharing 😊
I think it’s so important to keep work life balance
So mush health deficits /mentally snd physically is coming from stress -
It’s a challenge to hit the sweet spot between work and life -
Take it easy ❤
Warm regards from Gernany
, Andy
you're so lucky you have a boyfriend who can do/fix anything! God bless this couple
the guys more lucky to find a lady like Tina
@@winx1388 well they're both lucky they have each other!
God bless the guys like Kevin, not many of them left...
The capacity of Kevin to be able to do everything just fucking amazes me lmaooo
Yeah and to not lose his patience with her while managing to do everything for her LOL
Loved seeing you back home and cooking, and also that somebody else is also going through what I am going through. Best wishes 🎉
Thanks for sharing & being real... Sending good vibes from Amsterdam 💛
The best way to wake up on the weekend !
I admire how you still keep on filming and being filmed when you’re so overwhelmed with the tight schedules already .. you present the real side of you and we hope to go through this tough time with you just like how your videos are going through tough times with me now~~~ like how your videos always put us at ease~~~
Capitalizing off of mental problems and peoples vulnerabilities is so fucking lame. Hope the money was worth it.
Tbh I've missed these type of vlogs
You got this... I've lived with anxiety and depression for over 50 yrs... so you got this... trust in self...family...friends... can't wait to visit your restaurant.. will be in Korea in Aug.
I’ve had awful anxiety for as long as I can remember and you know what helped A LOT! Cutting out coffee completely… sounds crazy but give it a try and see! Glad you were able to get out of the house ❤
a journal and/or a quiet room to yell 15 different kinds of expletives in 3 different languages is a great way to get rid of all bad emotions
Everytime I see your videos you inspire me to get out of bed even if it’s a small task I complete. Just know you make an impact on people. Battling depression isn’t easy but you make it a little easier for me.
Like you've said in the past Tina, you either force yourself through it as you try not to fall into that darkness, or you simply fall right into it. It's all up to you in a sense. Stay strong!
Thank you for uploading videos still, despite how stressed and busy you've been lately. Your last reel also was a real breath of fresh air ❤️
I also have anxiety, mostly high functioning, so I get it. Some Days it is hard, but all we can do is try our best, sending good vibes. ✨
OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST IS SEEN BY ME FROM GRACE OF GOD ALMIGHTY~
6:45 - bless you!! 💖💖💖
Amazing what physical activity with a reconnection in nature can internally ignite! Keep kicking ass :)
Hi Tina
One day at a time! Praying about it helps too!! I’ll be praying for you! ❤️🙏
I missed these types of videos. thank you always, tina~
omg did kevin move out?
man i missed these kind of videos
I hope everything is alright with you and Kevin, your last video was a bit rough. I sincerely pray that you work things out 🌹
I know exactly how it feels so your feeling are completely valid. Have you ever tried getting blood test done? To see if you are deficient in vitamin d? That could also be a contributor. When I was going through super bad anxiety & depression, I sought out a holistic doctor who did blood test and found I was vitamin d deficient so I had to start taking it. There were other factors. Like making sure your gut is ok because everything stems from your gut. I'm no way a professional but that's stuff that I found out from my doctor. Doesn't hurt to check.
Don't forget to change up your scenery sometimes. If you are caught up in the same routine all day everyday, it can definitely bring you to depression. You are surrounded by good people. Never be afraid to ask for help. Sometimes we can't do it alone. Praying for better day ahead 🙏🏽♥️You are not alone.
I love your slow paced vids they’re just so aesthetic and relaxing
Something I do may help other may not but on hard rainy days with or without thunder and it’s a little bit dark, I go on top of my roof (balcony, somewhere to lay down) and just lay in the rain and stare at the sky and to me it just soothes me and just gets rid of any worry and calms down the mine and slows time.😁
She's got that "I come from a rich family" vibe.
"I come from a rich family and no one understands me, waaaaa"
So because she’s financially stable and her family is wealthy she cannot have any mental health issues?
@@lonlon147 the issue here is not that "rich people can't have problems". The issue here is that Tina pretended to have mental health problems to get betterhelp sponsorship.
@@bao_bun4491 right then that’s what they should have said
@@lonlon147 I mean Tina does give off "rich family" vibe
its always a good day when dooby posts
It's sooo good to see you at your old place/home. Feels like I missed the familiarity too! 😭💛
This was refreshing for me too. Go Dooby!!
High functioning anxiety is not a thing. Ur just not overjoyed 24/7, like literally every other person, ever
For mood swings specifically meditation helps me most❤
Thanks for featuring the sambal terasi! :D
The mood swings, the anxiety, the feeling of not being productive enough - it's all burnout. Ive been burned out before eith these wxact same feelings and its so hard to escape on your own. If you dont have a counselor/therapist, you should look into it before you get too deep into the hole. Much love, hope you start feeling better soon!
Oooohhh the eggplant dish u made, we call that tortang talong in the Philippines! We usually cut the roasted eggplant in the middle and dip it in the egg batter before cooking. Might wanna try that trick next time hehe :)
I respect how doobydobap successfully shows lifes seasons and anxiety and depression. Depression and anxeity doesnt just happen once, and even after you do something fufilling and something that you are passionate doesnt mean you wont experience depression. A lot of tv shows show depression as this one time thing, you have it and then you get over it but really it s just a cycle. Dooby also shows how success and passion doesnt mean that you are satisfied. Everything in life is a cycle and it doesnt follow one plan or one spreadsheet, and struggles of life never end no matter how happy you think you are and no matter how much you think that you have found yourself. I personally am in a hard season as well and there isnt one quick solution that makes the pressure and anxiety go away, and it also doesnt mean that I am not happy with life or my plans and my passion, i am just figuring things out. So Tina, or anyone reading this know that you are not alone and know that like every season of struggles, this one will leave and fade. Life is hard, it is supposed to be, but like a good war, life is a battlefield and there are two ways that you can leave the battle. You can give up and dwell on your defeat and mistakes, or you can give it all you got and fight and win. Please for me, lets win this war.
Thank you so much for this showing we are not alone
you're totally feeling impostor syndrome and it's something we all feel and a part of what makes us human.
No one person is capable of doing everything, just surround yourself with good people you can trust, who support you and have skills that you might be lacking and release some of that control.
Trust and you got this ✨
The cautionary tale isn't of the egg and the eggplant...I'm writing this because I come here for the Dooby and want this to be a fortifying experience for you, not enervating so early on in its inception. There's being idealistic and there's being realistic when friends or lovers go into a venture together. It can seem like a great situation. However, as we all have seen, sometimes the relationship can become fractured due to the stresses of running a business, feeling responsible for others' livelihoods, financial pressures, lack of free time or mental space, lack of intimate time when all you did was get to know each other better. I sincerely wish you great success with Mija Seoul, but like other posters have mentioned, the body language between you and Kevin (and his tone) is worrisome. He's gotten his dream of being a chef in his own kitchen of his own restaurant. Your chutzpah and ability to navigate the codes/language of Korea got him that, quite speedily. He definitely wouldn't have been able to do that on his own, not even in Denmark. Again, that was enabled by your community, your YT ad dollars, your ability to source the wares in Seoul, etc. I just want to stress that sooner than later, you will need to hammer out the legal stuff with him (a la post-nup). I'm not against Kevin, he is quite talented, and he'll be fine. Just, don't let your personality and pursuits be subsumed.
I'm sure that there's more to the story than what's shared with Dooby's. At the same time, both Tina and Kevin are learning lessons that others have already learned (I'm a bit older) or will never learn. She's doing a pretty good job at sharing some of the in's/out's of her experiences - which is greatly appreciated. I like what you commented too - there's no easy way to say all that.
beautifully said...... with the necessary nuance....
I ve written something similar on the previous video. You put it very well!
i can understand what u must be going through dooby .. you got this..
Guilt, anxiety, loss of appetite, socially withdrawn, lack of energy to get out of bed, no feeling of purpose….I’ve been there and it’s called depression. Burn out from a high stress job and no work life balance. You’ve got to find the balance or it will progressively affect your health and relationships in the most necrotic way.
Bless you (for sneezing in your video) 😊 6:43