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Living with high functioning anxiety
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Thanks for acknowledging the overwhelming anxiety. Big or small it can overrun your system. You’re loved and appreciated on purpose!
So true. I completely relate to associating purpose with goals. It’s such a bad habit but I’m glad she’s working through it. I’ve been trying to but it’s hard so this was inspiring lol
@@khalilahd. it truly is, I constantly have to remind myself “comparison is the thief of joy” . Honestly thank you! It’s nice to know others also are also dealing with it 😊
Jesus loves you and may God bless ....
“Hello darkness, my old friend”.
Her echoing the lyrics to Paul Simon’s song, “The Sounds of Silence”, interpreting it as a reference to the latent anxiety that we all eventually experience, created a certain eerie sensation. There still remains a post pandemic isolationist sentiment lingering in our bones generating an unshakable anxious feeling, reflected in our silence. And as the song goes on to say, the “silence like a cancer grows”.
@@DaestrumManitz
I always felt this song was relating the fear of nuclear proliferation. The 60’s peace movement was in response to the nuclear arms race. The silence represents the fear of nuclear war and the obliteration of our species.
We live in an era where everyone always wants to be productive and do more to chase ‘happiness’ but I think a lot of us already had that but just didn’t realise it.
You looked so happy when you were cooking and making TH-cam videos - sometimes simplifying our lives and goals can make us happier too and focus on the things we truly love.
Owning and running this restaurant- is it something you truly want deep inside Tina? Or are they external factors and society pressures of doing more/expanding your brand =more successful making you want to continue this?
Watching this video makes me want to give you a big hug. You deserve the world. When I have anxiety I watch your videos, so I wish I could give something back
Rest is productive too. Thanks for the reminder to get outside. I need to do that more often or at least start my day by doing so. A change of perspective and a place to just be and be is helpful. I hope you are gentle with yourself through your difficulties. 🫂✨🌤️🌷🌱
I could say you are the best videomaker in here, thank you for acknowledging your fears and anxiety and taking about it out loud! we are so proud of you and you are capable to do everything. just give yourself time!
I knew this video was going to be a better help sponsored video lol
Lol
Loved seeing you back home and cooking, and also that somebody else is also going through what I am going through. Best wishes 🎉
HAVE GREAT AND CHEERFUL LIFE, UPS AND DOWNS ARE PART OF LIFE........REALLY DOBBY YOUR VIDEOS ARE SO CALMING.... ❤❤❤❤
Thank you for posting this. These past years have been such a struggle for me and you sharing your experience has been super comforting 💞
As a young adult who is 2 yrs into her career I can relate to what you’re going through. I am an art educator and last year was working my ass off at a job that was just draining me, but I knew it was what I loved and kept going. I got a new position at a different school, started therapy and prioritizing self-care, and finally feel like I am able to enjoy my life. What I am trying to say is that yes, right now you might be feeling exhausted and defeated but if you keep working (on yourself just as much as your job) you will get to that place that you’ve been dreaming of! Wishing you all the best & know your fans believe in you ❤
I admire how you still keep on filming and being filmed when you’re so overwhelmed with the tight schedules already .. you present the real side of you and we hope to go through this tough time with you just like how your videos are going through tough times with me now~~~ like how your videos always put us at ease~~~
Hey, Tina. I hope that if you’re reading this, you’ll probably love this. I have depression and when I watch your videos, it takes all of my depression away. And also, I work in a coffeeshop as well. So, I understand how you are feeling. Thank you, Dooby. You’ve made my day.
Has anxiety...... travels to the US for a month while running a restaurant per parents paid for LOLLLLL
oof that last interaction with Kevin, damn. I think my room froze over.
Any day with a new dooby video counts as a winner to me, and FYI it is a subwoofer in the rear of the Audi, probably from a package upgrade but also lots of vehicles don't have spares anymore for cost and weight reduction.
all we can do is try our best sometimes. keep your head up dooby, we're all behind you cheering you on!
Do you know how many people tell me that living with Severe Depression and anxiety. Some of us try over our best and those words stress me out more! Even those people who say breathe, that doesn't work. Talking with a therapist works!
So true. I completely relate to associating purpose with goals. It’s such a bad habit but I’m glad she’s working through it. I’ve been trying to but it’s hard so this was inspiring
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@@zilazilazila Just being there for a person is enough . Sometimes listening is better than saying anything
@@M1N1Girl007❤
Your videos bring us sorry, happiness, and just being.
The rawness to the vlogs accompanied by the simple moments of happiness is always…
*chef’s kiss*
Hope your mental health gets better Tina❤
It's always fascinating how youtubers can capture their moments of vulnerability, anxiety, ADHD and depression perfectly with multiple camera angles set up beforehand.
Lol
But don't say this out loud or you might be labelled anxiety-phobic 🤐
Of course, because it's a dramatic reenactment of what they've felt. She probably was feeling a certain way and figured she could make a video at least to feel productive. It does come across as a hollow sentiment once you realize it's all for the camera though, even if the emotions are coming from a real and complicated place AND the video made to resonate with people emotionally is sponsored by a controversial tele-therapy company.
@@kurosgarnoh right so having a sponsorship deal means that it’s impossible to still feel depression or anxiety…logic levels up to the max right here
@@kurosgarn anxiety brought to you by betterhelp
stay strong queen. stay awesome
Tina you are amazing and incredibly hardworking! It can be easy to forget this when you are surrounded by other amazing people and sometimes you just need a little reminder that you're also one of them! Lots of love 💕
Great video thank you for spreading the word about mental health ❤ can you talk a about ur journey dealing with pcos
Hi doobie
It’s great to be honest about ourself - thanks for sharing 😊
I think it’s so important to keep work life balance
So mush health deficits /mentally snd physically is coming from stress -
It’s a challenge to hit the sweet spot between work and life -
Take it easy ❤
Warm regards from Gernany
, Andy
I am sorry you are feeling the way you are. I hope it gets better soon!
I love Dooby’s lifestyle vlog ❤
Thanks for sharing & being real... Sending good vibes from Amsterdam 💛
I missed these types of videos. thank you always, tina~
moms doooobby 💗 your vlogs bring me so much comfort 🧘🏻♀️ THANKS 4 ADDING THE DOOBY OUTRO SONG
this whole video feels like a commercial for better help. The feeling of peace and love you looking for can't be obtained by getting material things, achievements, or a relationship. Creating another goal and achieving it won't change anything, At the end of the day those things are irrelevant if u don't have peace in your heart and understand what you are.
Right ! But you can understand what you are and be at peace? If you want to fill that empty feeling in your heart, try Jesus. Only Jesus can satisfy your soul.
@@uwimanamiddleton89 that is so true .
Henry Jekyll...is that you?
This was refreshing for me too. Go Dooby!!
Time for a vacation by the ocean with no internet…you deserve it and you’ll feel renewed and be able to savor your growth and success!
14:52 he wanted to say something else before he saw the camera. He wasn’t in a good mood 🙂
he's always not in a good mood honestly
@@winx1388 would you be? She's literally working him to the bone in that restaurant while she does 'marketing'. He has no support system where they are and doesn't speak the language. Poor dude
@@zizisisi "she's working him to the bone" y'all do not know both of them. Both of them are ADULTS ! If Kevin feels like he's been overworked I'm sure he's able to tell Tina that which I doubt she's "overworking" him.. and u a hatin ass bitch cause all of your comments are hate towards doobs.. gtfo
Literally looks like he’s about to curse at her or something
Oh dooby am feeling the same here,
you’re not alone
This entire video is a sponsorship
One day at a time! Praying about it helps too!! I’ll be praying for you! ❤️🙏
man i missed these kind of videos
Thank you dooby i really appreciate the upload today ❤
I describe it as constantly feeling like a can of pop that was shaken up. I've always had crippling anxiety. Thank you for sharing. You're beautiful inside and out.
it makes me feel a lot better about myself when I see people I can relate to… thank you for this
Tina i’ve been following your channel for almost 2 years now and there was a light in you that is gone in the past year. I cant help but notice that you started changing and dimming down ever since kevin moved to korea. Im not saying this to be a hater but it seems like you invested so much in the restaurant and this relationship that now it feels wrong and you want to get out but feel stuck becuz so much is at stake. Been there before and i recognize it and it sucks. Wish you the best babe and im praying for your mental health ❤ Never let anything stand in the way of your happiness and lovely free spirit
Girl it's called hard work, and they are both putting in hard work for their business. Do you even realize how difficult is it to own a restaurant between two young people?
@@kaiju_k5042 we all work hard and have relationships and i know ppl who started successful businesses before and they dont have that glazed lost look she has. I know my opinion is not going to be accepted but i’ve seen how to he talks to her and several ppl noticed in the past videos that she’s intimidated by him and he seems like a controlling person with a i know better attitude. Just becuz he works hard and knows how to run a restaurant doesnt mean he’s a 10/10 boyfriend or they suit eo. She seems lost and depressed. But it’s her life so live and let live i guess.
@@Sarah_2094 Fair play Sarah, I'm glad someone can see the elephant in the room
@@joeratcliffe2988 i dont know it seems pretty obvious but ppl don’t want to mention it plus something similar happened to me and i was miserable at that time. I hope she does ok and is happy
@@Sarah_2094 who tf do u think u are to judge that she has a “glazed lost look” lmao are u her close friend? have u met her in real life?? does she know u exist?? stop overstepping into the boundaries of someone who is just an online presence to u
I struggle just like this. I have severe social anxiety. The only times it doesn't exist is when i am working. When I'm working as a cancer nurse, I'm completely different. Nobody I know would recognize me. I'd do anything to make my patients smile. Anything to make their day a little better. I trueley think doing things we are passionate about drives you. It's all about figuring out what motivates you. Otherwise life gets overwhelming fast
Same for myself as a neuro rehab nurse. Hope you are doing well. Would love to do a tour through oncology, but so few places near willing to take someone without all the certs with my experience.
ur life is great and full of life, if you compare to your patients... so be happy ur healthy and enjoy ur life.
It is so true. When lost in our passion we find the ability to ignore the anxieties of the moment.
Anxiety is nature’s way of motivating us on to greater achievements.
@@DaestrumManitz no
Also, I recommend taking courses on leadership and such. On the outside it probably sounds cool that you’re so young and have your own restaurant but people will be depending on you so to gain knowledge in things you are inexperienced in is important
🥲 can totally relate to the anxiety. I hope you keep going!
Dooby, from the looks of it you are surrounded by good people. May that help you navigate tough times 🙂 Mad respect for how much you've been juggling lately - hope you continue to find chances to decompress now and then!
This ❤
Thanks for featuring the sambal terasi! :D
When Tina talked about her anxiety after morning run, she put the camera in different angles to shoot. I love this. It's like you have different listeners for your own story and they will offer you different feelings, viewpoints, sooth and calm you in different ways. It also means you yourself can look at the situation in various angles, so please don't get caught in the situation and sink alone. Tina, you are very honest to yourself, down to earth and funny, I wish you can always stay true that way, have time to live, work, exercise and love.
Question, how has your relationship with Kevin been affected by the restaurant? You both have very different roles and work long hours. How do you prioritize time with each other outside of work, when do you have time to just be with each other outside of work? 😊
Saw the day in the life of ur man, hope hes not the reason you feel this way. Surround urself with people who give you good vibes dooby
Thank you for uploading videos still, despite how stressed and busy you've been lately. Your last reel also was a real breath of fresh air ❤️
I love your slow paced vids they’re just so aesthetic and relaxing
The best way to wake up on the weekend !
i think it’s really special that u shared this with us, it’s really strong of u and ik it makes at least me feel less alone.
i hope u know we appreciate every version of you, even if u turned into a cucumber and wiggled around the floor for twelve minutes trying to invent VSL (veggie sign language btw) i’d probably still comment like “realest thing ever omg”
not every day or month or six months is the best, but i know you will be so happy for a long time and you will think back and appreciate this you that you are right now.
love you love you :) and i like your work out shirt, too, i want it
Amazing what physical activity with a reconnection in nature can internally ignite! Keep kicking ass :)
Sometimes I feel part of depression and anxiety is telling you something in your life isn’t aligned to your soul , write, journal, listen to what’s the darkness?..
Lol idk why I liked that you left in the sneeze
I know exactly how it feels so your feeling are completely valid. Have you ever tried getting blood test done? To see if you are deficient in vitamin d? That could also be a contributor. When I was going through super bad anxiety & depression, I sought out a holistic doctor who did blood test and found I was vitamin d deficient so I had to start taking it. There were other factors. Like making sure your gut is ok because everything stems from your gut. I'm no way a professional but that's stuff that I found out from my doctor. Doesn't hurt to check.
Don't forget to change up your scenery sometimes. If you are caught up in the same routine all day everyday, it can definitely bring you to depression. You are surrounded by good people. Never be afraid to ask for help. Sometimes we can't do it alone. Praying for better day ahead 🙏🏽♥️You are not alone.
What you're experiencing is normal. This level of anxiey means you're doing just fine. Keep going and dont stop.
You’re joking right? I have anxiety too and no, she shouldn’t keep going like this (she also shouldn’t be ashamed, anxiety should be normalized). But I’m glad she’s addressing her anxiety and finding ways to improve/cope. If she “kept going” and didn’t change, she would have eventually have panic attacks, burnout, or a nervous breakdown
I know you meant to be encouraging, OP, but she's literally telling us she's not fine with this constant level of anxiety
@@LunaVioletta7 She is managing herself just fine. Acknowledging her anxiety and reassuring her that she is on the right path is what she needs in order to become a successful restaurant owner in the future. Acknowledging her anxiety, coddling her and sitting on that won't get her there.
She should keep going despite how she feels right now because she's embarking on a journey of personal growth. That involves voluntarily taking on hardship: choosing to run a restaurant at her age. Doing the inner work of processing all the negative emotions that come with facing life's challenges like anxiety, depression, guilt and self-doubt is part of the necessary journey to better oneself. This vlog shows that. So is choosing to get up every morning no matter how much you don't want to and putting effort into nailing down a rigid personal fitness routine. That takes discipline and will take one very far in life.
If you have anxiety, it's your job to face it, do the inner work to over come it so you can continue doing the difficult thing that gives you anxiety until it gradually goes away and the task becomes easier. It's the only way to gain confidence and mental resilience, which is essential to survive and achieve any personal goal greater than yourself in life.
@@hugitkissitloveit8640 I’m replying specifically to “this level of anxiety is fine/normal,” when Dooby literally says in the video that she’s experiencing mood swings, and that she’s not really ok, but luckily she’s developing healthy habits to cope with it.
How is encouraging her to continue her healthy habits to fight her anxiety “coddling her”? Your comment is coddling, telling her that she should continue living in an anxious state because it’s normal.
I think we both agree that her making these healthy changes (exercise, journaling, etc) is the right path - yes I agree with that. I’m not saying she shouldn’t continue doing this lol. I’m addressing the other part of your first comment
@@hugitkissitloveit8640 btw - I agree with the last 2 paragraphs of your last comment. Yes, she should continue fighting to develop resilience - and it’s understandable owning a restaurant can breed this this level of anxiety!
But what I’m addressing is that she herself has said she’s not ok and wants to continue fighting it, so that she *doesn’t* feel this way forever
I think we’re basically talking about the same thing, just with different wording. Lol
I really enjoy watching your videos. And I also suffer from a lot of issues mentally that I have to work through. But I love to see you and Kevin succeed in doing what you love. And no matter how bad things get and how bad of a day you're having just remember to take some time to yourself and try to enjoy the fruits of your labor. Keep making the wonderful videos. ✌️☮️
9:40 this was such a cool shot with your head being framed by the window in the back. You consistently have really dynamic shots and framing in all your videos, they must take awhile to keep setting up
Something I do may help other may not but on hard rainy days with or without thunder and it’s a little bit dark, I go on top of my roof (balcony, somewhere to lay down) and just lay in the rain and stare at the sky and to me it just soothes me and just gets rid of any worry and calms down the mine and slows time.😁
So cool! In the PH we also do the same eggplant fritters. Same way as you cooked it. We call it torta.
Dear Tina , it’s very normal to doubt yourself when starting on a new path /journey . No one starts out a complete professional/master / knowing it all . Gordon Ramsay , for example , was once a self-doubting trainee before his skills and work began to speak for themselves . There are other more relatable examples to give I’m sure , given that your line of work-your interests , is a mix of things, but that is a great example in and of itself I’m sure . If anyone makes you doubt yourself for being where you are at in your journey now , then they are fools . Doubt is natural and finding the wisdom and strength to focus on the bigger picture and overcome these little moments in between - moments of doubt and friction - is what will determine the growth of your path . Wishing you and Kevin the best as partners , entrepreneurs, creators , chef(s) and so on .
lmao an ad for betterhelp
Haha that ending was perfect. At the end of the day, a laugh and not taking things too seriously can really help. Thank you for being honest about your mental health and also giving us tips on how to manage ours. Thanks for another soothing vid. Much love.
Everytime I see your videos you inspire me to get out of bed even if it’s a small task I complete. Just know you make an impact on people. Battling depression isn’t easy but you make it a little easier for me.
gym everyday for couple weeks is always nice for me. youre around a bunch of people (opposed to working out at home or going for a run), which would seem counterintuitive, but everyone is focused and working doing their own thing just like you should be doing. it forces you to change up your environment. a great time to listen to a book on tape or something. very relaxing. its hard to millionaire in your 20s =p. ppl donno
Like you've said in the past Tina, you either force yourself through it as you try not to fall into that darkness, or you simply fall right into it. It's all up to you in a sense. Stay strong!
Huh , never knew this term existed but that is for bringing it to my attention . Wish I knew there was a term that I could use to describe myself instead of feeling like I'm crazy explaining multiple aspects of my life trying to have it make sense .
6:45 - bless you!! 💖💖💖
Interesting that she originally titled the video "guilty" and then changed it.... just read about the eviction situation...
What eviction situation? There's an update on the owner of the restaurant thing?
Thanks for uploading this video ❤
a journal and/or a quiet room to yell 15 different kinds of expletives in 3 different languages is a great way to get rid of all bad emotions
i can understand what u must be going through dooby .. you got this..
We go through different stages in our life, it seems you’ve been balancing the scale on one side to long. Maybe it’s a combination of being overworked and some physical deficiency where you’ve been really stressed with high cortisol levels and now you are crashing. Don’t force anything, be yourself naked with your feelings and everything. My go to spot is the heavy bag and some Muay Thai. It gives the brain a good boost of endorphins and dopamine. Most important DON’T judge yourself and have patience, go with the flow. Everything passes eventually. Happy weekend to you both!
Your epic faile flip is my epic success flip dooby❤️
the sponsor ad had me ded
Dear Tina, I have been watching since 2 years & admiring the content in silence but been worrying for you lately.I really hope your current relationship is much happier than what meets the eye. As going by your videos it is full of red flags. I have never seen a kind glance, a loving gesture,any encouraging words from Mr ☔️. You worship him & he totally gaslights you. An otherwise strong,independent, happy girl becomes a wet cat in his presence. This anxiety & imposter syndrome lately in you is all result of how he treats you. When you utter a word in restaurant meeting he looks at you as if you don’t matter or only to give some sharp retort. Feels like he is only with you to run a restaurant,get his feet wet as prep to open something better,bigger on his own. He might be great but you too are plentiful talented & being blind in love giving him platform (last vid) on your established channel. I would say better chalk out what your share, role & responsibility in restaurant is & command respect.Motivate yourself by thinking even if he walks out of the venture one day you should be self suffice, don’t make the restaurant all about him. As for doubting yourself as leader, not many are born that way majority learn on the job. You go girl! ( please don’t take this constructive feedback otherwise, I have been sincerely worrying for you lately over few ideas)
I completely agree. Surprised someone feels this way as well. But who know this is only our perception through the internet. 😢
Get a grip. You don't know how they are off camera and you cannot assume based on a curated snapshot of small parts of their lives. Tina is a young business owner now and embarking in a risky business (hospitality industry) with a fairly new relationship which will naturally be anxiety inducing. Chill talking about her relationship like you know anything.
@@ohheyyola5416 Exactly like I said “going by your videos”. As the content creator claims putting up slice of life so based on that. Like I said this constructive feedback based on what meets the eye. I speak out of concern, it’s not an everyday loose comment over internet. Please take your own advise as well..chill. 🙂✌️
If anything it’s the other way around she’s extremely critical and cold when it comes to his feelings and the restaurant. She diminishes his accomplishments.
Who’s he?
Tbh I've missed these type of vlogs
you're totally feeling impostor syndrome and it's something we all feel and a part of what makes us human.
No one person is capable of doing everything, just surround yourself with good people you can trust, who support you and have skills that you might be lacking and release some of that control.
Trust and you got this ✨
its always a good day when dooby posts
ITS A GOOD DAY DOOBY UPLOADED ‼️‼️
You got this... I've lived with anxiety and depression for over 50 yrs... so you got this... trust in self...family...friends... can't wait to visit your restaurant.. will be in Korea in Aug.
You are the best!
Once you find a good balance between taking time for your self and balancing work/life, I am sure then you will be fine Tina 🤍 I love these types of videos it feels so personal. I also look forward to them, I pray that you will be alright in a few weeks 🥺💗 tc Tina
Oooohhh the eggplant dish u made, we call that tortang talong in the Philippines! We usually cut the roasted eggplant in the middle and dip it in the egg batter before cooking. Might wanna try that trick next time hehe :)
The mood swings, the anxiety, the feeling of not being productive enough - it's all burnout. Ive been burned out before eith these wxact same feelings and its so hard to escape on your own. If you dont have a counselor/therapist, you should look into it before you get too deep into the hole. Much love, hope you start feeling better soon!
“Wtf I didn’t know my car had this” exactly my reaction the first time I had a flat tire and had to look in the back for the spare.
I’ve had awful anxiety for as long as I can remember and you know what helped A LOT! Cutting out coffee completely… sounds crazy but give it a try and see! Glad you were able to get out of the house ❤
omg did kevin move out?
Get to 4 mill dooobeeeeeey you are everyones pewdiepie!!!!
hi Tina, as an older person, I can say that what you are experiencing is pretty normal. It is really important to take care of our mental health at all times so that we do not get into a rut of emotion. You are an inspiration to many young and old alike.
dooby always makes our day!
Wtf did I just watch? Good lord… welcome to adulthood.
Hi Tina
HI YOURE THE BEST I LOVE YOUR CONTENT!
It's sooo good to see you at your old place/home. Feels like I missed the familiarity too! 😭💛
The ending part is priceless.
For mood swings specifically meditation helps me most❤
That look at the end😂😂 We love you dooby a lot💌 and remember that these hard times make us appreciate what we've usually taken for granted .
Bless you (for sneezing in your video) 😊 6:43