The Dangers of Othering in the Quest to Belong | W. Kay Wilson | TEDxColumbus
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ต.ค. 2024
- Kay Wilson has an intricate but powerful model for elevating the human condition-eliminating Othering and elevating belonging. In a gripping and vulnerable talk, she unravels the complexities of Othering through her personal experience, and how it has the ability to shape one’s self concept. She shares how Othering can begin in the family and connect to race, class, gender, sexual orientation and power. Kay Wilson- advocates for youth empowerment- their ability to Belong, have a voice, and lead. She is an author of two books, helps organizations build capacity, and has served as an Executive Director for a thirty year old nonprofit which ignited youth in three core areas; leadership, workforce development and civic engagement.
Kay enjoys coaching at-promise youth and uses her experiences to help them gain the necessary survival skills and the foundation they need to break generational patterns and make it through tough situations. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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"Sterotypes are an empathy block" so well described and spot on. Really loved this lady's talk. So perfectly worded.
yes! so good.
finally clicked, love this Alex!
Such a good point!
What an incredible woman. An absolute Queen. This conversation, the stereotyping, the us vs them, it's so complex and it can be so frustrating dealing with people who lack empathy and have never bothered to educate themselves or even ask questions. I'll be sharing this, in hopes it might be a bit of a reality check for some.
You were right. Sharing too, thanks Mae
Thank you for sharing.
"Stereotypes are an empathy blocker"......that is super powerful!
Your strength empowers.. and thank you for that.
What a smart inspiring speech.
Powerful stuff. Just awed by your courage, openness and strength...while being vulnerable. Definitely taking that message in. 🙏🏾
Wow! So powerful! This touched my heart! Go Kay! The best dressed lady at Impact!! Continue to be blessed!
Thanks Kelly-lol
Powerful and vulnerable. Thank you for being just you.
i needed to hear this so much today. so good. thank you!
I did too, amazing talk.
Bravo! A friend just sent this to me, what a powerful and important talk!
Thank you. I hope you will share as a gift to someone who doesn't know if they belong. We all do.
@@kaywilson3281 isnt that what teds are about, sharing good ideas? Well done Kay!
Bravo, Kay. Very powerful, very germane, very timely.
Continued blessings Kevin. Thank you.
Thank you Kevin. You have value...and I hope you share with others who may not be sure they belong.
Thank you, Ms. Wilson. Thank you, truly.
Thank you for watching. Please share with someone that may need to understand they belong.
You're welcome. Thank you for watching.
Wow, this is a must listen. Such a fantastic talk. And what a rad woman!
you're right!! this did it for me! thank you!
I really appreciate your comment. Please consider sharing.
Heart touching... Stay blessed...
Thank you. You as well.
Thank you- You too!
Thank you so much for your courage and your message! And I´m sorry that you were going through so much, that must have been so hard...it´s not okay that you and also so many more people experienced that kind of injustice! An injustice that needs to be replaced with giving encouragement, love, acceptance and showing worth.
Thank you for watching...I agree with your statement. Consider sharing.
Kay,
Outstanding!!!!!!!!! I am going to pass this on to my friends and associates who may contact you to share this message with others, especially young people. Happy New Year
Peace and Much Love,
Catherine T. Willis
Ms. Willis- thank you for watching and sharing, and thank you for being such an incredible inspiration. I adore you. Continued blessings.
Thank you so much for sharing Ms. Catherine.
That was so empowering. I can see how hard Kay was navigating from the double consciousness and identities and how she survived and even thrived from the conflicts. That's really AMAZING.
Thank you Jing. Thankful for every challenge along the path in order to use my experiences to be the person I needed when I was navigating to other young people.
Beautiful ❤️
Powerful! It was a pleasure to meet you. Toni Morrison's book 'The Origin of Others' talks about this.
Thank you. Yes, I am so grateful for Sister Toni's words. Legend.
Thank you for sharing that book reference. I encourage you to share with someone who questions their own value.
When you wanted to say something, but didn't want to appear ungrateful....
You gaslighted yourself. I know from experience.
I did, (still do, this problem persists), the same thing.
In fact my father, when he , "helped" me in some way, it was to silence me from speaking out about something he was about to do to me.
He was gaslighting me.
It's very insidious, this gaslighting
This is an incredibly powerful and moving talk with an impeccable delivery. I could feel the emotion and bravery and could not stop my tears, as I was overwhelmed. Although the topic is dark, W. Kay Wilson’s delivery is undeniably bright. Thank you for this talk.
Thank you for listening.
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I'm sorry you were hurt by those words and the lack of compassionate support. But nobody should hit anyone for using hurtful words.
...and unfortunately you heard her speaking but YOU were not listening.
I did not condone hitting as you shouldn't condone the deliberate act to bully. Having a limited amount of time, I couldn't share the full story. Mr. Franklin threw a metal ruler at me; which gave me a scar that I have today below my cheek. What he wasn't expecting is that I would fight back, and I did. When people have better tools, they use them.
@@kaywilson3281 I think you did exactly what you needed to do at the time, we live and we learn. I hope Mr. Franklin also had a reality check.
@@maehaslet thank you for listening and I appreciate your comments. As I am reading here on comments many people just heard that I hit him after he called me a derogatory remark. Mr. Franklin and I later spoke and both of us were in a much better place and grew out of it. The point was racism is learned, othering is learned and we would all be served better by saving space for others to belong.
Interesting, as there is a lot of "othering" of white people, straight people, cis people. Etc.
I don't believe she claimed any exclusivity to ppl of color. Her experience is of that point used as example.
Kay, you seem to do a lot of 'othering', rather than treating each incident on its own merits. I am sorry to hear that you had difficulties in early life, but you cannot blame others for everything that happened to you. You need to learn to refuse to be a victim and that does not mean physically assaulting people who offend you. If someone calls you a savage and you respond by behaving like one, you have just proven their point to all witnesses. If you respond to perceived racism with your own racism or projection onto innocent parties, you only exacerbate problems. Perhaps try taking some cues from Esq Mahatma Ghandi and Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
She even goes so far at to 'other' the (at the time) President by telling blatant falsehoods due to some combination of projection of her own racism and ignorance. She really needs some effective therapy by an ethical counselor to deal with her anger, biases and prejudices.
I am not blaming at all. I am sharing. I have never seen myself and do not operate as a victim. Offended-as I shared, I was a child and I learned. I can see your perspective from a clip, but i wasn't othering, my father who adopted me was in the audience, unfortunately having 12 minutes you can't see the fullness of who I am or the lessons in here. Do you have reference from brother Ghandi or brother King. Racism is based on a system of power, and as a child who was molested by an older White brother, I don't think I had the power in that situation. I respect your opinion, but you have your own hurt to project in another direction. I prefer to stand in belonging.
I appreciate your thoughts about this 13 minutes. I have never seen myself as a victim-quite the opposite sir. And I was in elementary school--so give me some grace, as you have given the person who 'offended' me. I was an incredible scholar and please read up on Esq Ghandi and Dr. King's earlier years- as with them, you can't choose to look at examples in a silo. I do believe history and actual words from the (at the time) President show what type of character and values he has.
I find it unfortunate, if not heartbreaking, that this is your narrow scope of your contribution from the breadth of her talk. Shoo… 💔
@@iSineHere I find it disheartening when I see people respond to perceived racism with racism, hatred and thoughts of violence, rather than trying to help those people find a better path. I got in a lot of fist fights before I was 13 when I reached a level of maturity where I realized that the results of the fight did not change the hearts or minds of anyone involved. I learned that it was important to have strength of mind, body and spirit, to follow an ethical code and to find a mentor to guide me on my journey.