The most impressive thing was that all the people in audience were elderly. It feels good, to see one generation trying to understand the other with an open mind.
@A M. More than 2. There are a variety of non-binary (meaning not fitting into 2) but it kind of depends on who you ask. There are, however, certainly more than 2.
@V S hi, people have lived outside the gender binary for literally hundreds of years! this is not a new concept, but it is being introduced to people more than ever before. nonbinary and intersex people have always existed, and i'm so glad that there are more resources, such as this video, to help us all learn more :)
@@Bhatt_Hole Why do you immediately need to turn it around against the person complimenting someone successful at a not very easy task? You might not have realized it but that hurts.
@Non-Ugandan Knuckles if the cat is male, the testicles/balls are usually quite easy to see, below the base of the tail. female cats don't have balls, obviously, but if you're still not sure, taking the cat to the vet is another way to figure it out.
Yes. You wouldn't like it if you were in the swimming baths unchanged and a feminised male walked in and started taking his clothes off right next to you or young girls. Gender identifying COUNTS within society like it or not.
Rhys as a girl with a lot of female friends (who agree with me) if we knew they weren’t doing it to be creepy but because that’s where they felt comfortable we honestly wouldn’t mind, and it’s quite clear to see if they were doing it with ill intention. The issue comes when people say someone would take advantage of that system. That’s why most places with changing rooms have security of some sort nearby. And at the end of the day that would occur far more rarely than people say it would. So allowing it would do far more good than bad
I was blown away when they stepped forward and it went from a wonderfully eloquent presentation to a poem! I don’t know if it was intentional but there was such a smooth transition.
seeing a female name in the talk's title and an androgynously styled kid on the thumbnail i thought 'yeah it's probably gonna feel like a walk through tumblr' but man was i wrong. audrey is more reasonable and articulate at their twelve than most adults i know. i cant remember the last time i was so imoressed by a ted talk.
Kids and teens (specifically around the ages 11-18) are generally more insightful and in lack of a better word smarter than adults. A reason for this is that the hormonal changes in their brains cause them to creat more neurons quicker and develope their brains rapidly. This causes kids to have more questions about life and these questions if answered also can give people a deeper understanding of life itself. So it makes sense why the best ted talk is made by a 12 year old
@@swgadrunq1700 why that combination in particular? Who decided on that? Why not respect both, or just the other? Why is being respectful such a high virtue? What if being respectful collides with an individual's personal belief?
@@hahahahahohohoho5085 Why would you rather be rude than respectful? Even if you're beliefs are against what the other person is believing to be true, by not being respectful, you are also colliding with their beliefs. Even this 12 year old in the Ted Talk was able to be respectful to those who don't agree. Why can't you?
@@hahahahahohohoho5085 Because gender roles imply that if you are a certain gender, you need to act and behave a certain way. Yes, some people fit in their gender roles, but at the same time it excludes a ton of people
There is nothing intrinsically "male" about wearing pants. Lots of women in places like China, India and the Middle East wear pants of different types. Scots males traditionally wore a kilt, which is a skirt.
New gender labels (gender-fluid, so on) might make us a little bit confused, but as long as it makes Audrey and people experiencing similar things more comfortable, I'll be glad to learn them. Or not use them at all, though it is difficult. Audrey speaks so well. It is a child talking, unmistakably, but in a beautifully articulate way. This is a tedx I really enjoyed.
Okay but how is this twelve year old so good at style and and public speaking and at articulating their thoughts and feelings??? I’m jealous of a twelve year old now thanks
@@jonnymorales8841 I think i understand the video very clearly. They (Audrey) is a non binary gender. Where is the beautiful part from feeling of not belong to any gender, being different from your parents, siblings, friends? I only see agony, nothing beautiful. I believe this video made to rise awarness for majority to be more sensitive on handling gender issue. Lets praise their (Audrey) communication skill, how articulate they are, smart, etc. But again, i don't see anything beautiful from their story! I feel their pain.
@@obhetefdhone I think the person meant about how it's beautiful that Audrey is embracing their identity and living as proudly as they can, rather than keeping it inside and pretending to be someone they aren't.
@@jamesc1446 I surely hope so! I am happy that society more accepting LQBTQ, but I am worry that they get/ send wrong message. Improper praise takes away the important point: the pain that these people have to experience in daily life. Because not everybody as lucky as Audrey whom has great parents that enable them to express themself. Btw, I agree with you that someone characters what make them beautiful, not their gender identity/ orientation.
honestly this ted talk is just what I needed, being young and not really understanding how to label yourself is one of the most frustrating things there are, and im glad that they could explain it SO WELL and at such a young age.
@@PaidGangstalker thats a strong claim- they can be, but they’re also a way to find and understand yourself and your identity. they’re not dangerous or harmful by themselves, we all have em
@@azul4904 developing your identity through labels is eerily similar to tribalism in many aspects and the obsession that white westerners have with how others perceive them is exacerbating an already severe mental health crisis.
i have a friend that's trans but not out at school so to avoid misgendering i use their name instead of pronouns like "yeah (friends name) and i went to (friends name's) grandparents house and i met (friends name's) grandparents' cats and then we went out to eat." might sound a little weird sometimes but it's better than misgendering
thankyou stranger. for trying to make your friend that one bit more comfortable. as someone who is trans myself it really does mean the world thanks for being an ally
I may not always get why people identify a certain way, but that doesn't matter at all because I have full trust in them to understand themselves better than I ever will
In my language there is no he/she, we use one word. So I never thought when I was younger how much frustration this can cause for people whos language does contain gender. I am always just randomly using he/she even if someone is clearly female or male, and I have to quickly correct myself. Simply because I grew up with no gender, so doesn't really come automatically when I speak anyway. On the other note I'm just so impressed by Audrey's speech. Till now I would probably just faint, sweat, get red and be lost in words. 😅
person walks onto the ted talks stage me: wow, they’re young person: what do u think when u see me me: ur rly young note: i like to know people’s gender because then i can use the correct pronouns. the english language has evolved around gender specific grammar rules, i rly wish it hadn’t, but there’s not much i can do. so i use the pronoun that person seems to want to use based on how they look. if that fails, then i kind of don’t talk or ask about them until it becomes clearer. i have friends who struggle with their gender and i’ve seen how much it affects them, so i try to be as respectful as possible
The only thing, is that I've see people get pissed for either being misaddressed or even being questioned how they would like to be addressed. Some persons have no problem yet others become outright indignant.
@@1970Mom I'm an American expat and I've had Canadian expats get offended when I ask if they're American, so I started asking North American-sounding people "Are you American, or Canadian?" When it comes to gender, which can be a way more sensitive topic than nationality, most people are totally happy to have someone ask their pronouns rather than unknowingly misgender them (just like the Canadians who don't want me to assume they're American). You could just say "By the way, what pronouns do you prefer? I use she and her" (or whatever yours are). It's simple and prevents hurtful misunderstandings. And when in doubt, just stick with they/them until the person tells you differently.
One room Unisex restrooms would solve all the restroom problems. We transitioned to these in retail instead of having one large room with many stalls, we transitioned the stalls to one room stalls with privacy with each door opening on the outside walls. Solved all bathroom issues with this. Schools should do the same.
The she/her pronouns usage in the description feels so wrong. They referred to themselves as they. They could be comfortable with all of the above, yet this does not feel really gender affirming there...?
Audrey never said what pronouns he/she/they prefer. Saying "they" was just an example of a pronoun some non binary people prefer. So even if "she" is inaccurate, you can't blame the person writing the description for not knowing what to use, so they went with the gender typically associated with the name Audrey.
@@dipfuk They can be used in a singular sense, people have been using they plural and non plural for centuries. I understand how you could say it can't be used singular as it is not typically taught like that, but they can be used as a singular pronoun.
@A M. yeah absolutely! like wear whatever you want, i meant traditionally masculine clothes like suits, not saying that feminine-presenting people cant wear them, i fully support anyones clothing choices :)
Yes there’s no such thing as “boy dress”. Anyone can wear whatever clothes they like. The sooner people stop expressing sexist ideas about what boys or girls are supposed to wear, the better.
“Are you a boy or a girl?” Me: no✨ “No liek- are you a boy or girl?” Me: no✨ “No- like, what’s between your legs?” Me: Air✨ “UGH- WHATS IN YOUR TROUSERS?!” me: I’m not wearing trousers ✨😎 I’m wearing a dress
I'm a 50 year old non-conforming female. I hate women's bathrooms, being called "big man", being invisible. I admire you greatly for being able to speak your truth at such a young age. Thank you.
@@robynb7083 not conforming to what society deems is the correct look/behaviour for a person of that gender. For example a gender non-conforming woman may wear men’s clothes, have short hair, and a more masculine presence in general. A gender conforming woman may wear dresses and have long hair.
They dress like a kid version of The Doctor. I think that’s so cool. I also keep revisiting this talk. It took me until college to have this amount of personal insight. Much respect and love for Audrey.
Holy cow. Maybe there's more hope for the world than I thought. This young person is eloquent, genius, serious, funny, independent, and I never would've looked as good in pants like those. May Audrey's light continue to shine as brightly as the years go by, and never dim.
See this is my only issue, if someone wants to be non binary by all means be what you want but can we please come up with proper pronouns. They implies more than one and therefore sounds like if it's one person there is a multi personality disorder. I mean seriously referring back to basic English grammar they means more than one. So someone please come up with something different than they, their, or them.
@@arwenschild6406 Try reading a news article and tell me that it's not confusing and you think more than one person is involved. I know "they" can be both singular and plural but it's in how the context is used. For example: I recently read an article that was talking about Demi Lovato and this is what it said. "Lovato sought treatment at the age of 18 after they got into a fight with one of their backup dancers". Does that not sound like it's referring to more than one person?
@@themaggattack this term exist in spanish, and all the people make fun of it, Is not realy a best option than they/them. Pd : sorry for my bad inglish.
@@themaggattack If you are talking about someone and don't identify their gender, the person you are talking to would probably say they when referring to one person
Ironically my first thought was "what an interesting small human". Such a well spoken and brave individual. While I may not share all your views, I respect and even admire you for sharing them in way that might help others be more understanding. Thank you for being you! Keep up the good work.
@@xbduf4gb why are you so adamant that children are not capable of independent thought? Not every young person just regurgitates the views of their parents
@@xbduf4gb well it obviously won't be improv, it's a TED talk not open mic night. I'm fairly certain you have to submit a draft of what you're going to say (though i could be wrong about that)
@@themaggattack They is often referred to when you dont know who's being spoken about. "Oh, someone left *their* cardigan" the English language will have one word that depends on context for the meaning, so they, can in fact be used to refer to one person.
Bridgett Matthews if you used they for someone when you didn’t know who they were, why do you need to use a different word once you meet them? They/them pronouns are gender neutral, and therefore a good set of pronouns for people who don’t identify as a boy or girl.
Wait- what?! I thought they were between 16 And 18 wtf. (Even considered 20something, because masculine presenting afabs tend to look much younger than they are, but they said they're still in school so that wouldn't make much sense.)
Thousands of children are self aware, brave, wise, intelligent and articulate young people. Thousands of children have had to endure hardship, poverty, child abuse. Be humbled and in awe of them. They didn't have a choice.
Come on Ted why are you misgendering them in the description. Smh this talk was literally saying how to use they them pronouns and how uncomfortable she her makes them feel
@Alyssa Albuquerque and why do you care? you're probably just being edgy for the sake of being edgy but reading these kinds of comments has lowered the amount of my brain cells enough to take the bait and reply.
I'm planning on showing this to my mother to come out as non-binary,,, I think this will really help her understand what I'm going through. Thanks Audrey!!
@@tinamehl5102 It's an umbrella term meaning you don't identify exclusively as male or female. You might identify with a mixture of both, be neutral, be fluid (as in, you move from one gender to another), or feel as though you have no gender at all. I hope that cleared it up and was an okay definition.
My school has gendered bathrooms- and even as a cis girl, it’s REALLY uncomfortable because when you walk down the hall, the boy’s bathroom is before the girl’s. It just feels like another way to other women and think of them as less almost? Idk it just makes me feel uncomfortable
Honestly i dont really care about what anyones stance is on nonbinary identities but what does irk me is when people use they/them singular = grammatically incorrect as an argument for why nb identities aren't valid. Before I knew what genderqueer/trans was or even what the lgbt community was, ive (and everyone i know) used singular them/them as long as i can remember not as a genderqueer thing but to be gender neutral in sentences depending on the context. Like if i were to announce to a classroom or office "Somebody left their pencil at my desk. Can they please come pick it up?" multiple people didn't leave their pencil at my desk. One person did and I just didn't know their gender. I will respect and listen to people's opinions on whether nb identities are valid or not just please use a different argument. It's retired.
So you still care about grammar and logic more than you care about people...? NB identities are valid. It is NOT a debate. You can't argue whether someone's identity is valid - they exist and that's it. Simple as that. You can only try and bully them out of existence or until they hide who they are for fear of bullying.
Carolina Herrera did you read her comment? She is talking about how it is a bad argument to say they/them pronouns are grammatical incorrect. She’s on the same side as you are :)
It's actually grammatically correct! Using they is not only for couple of people, but also for someone of an unidentified gender. So, it's actually grammatically correct! Most people just aren't used to it. :)
Oh my gosh! This kid is going places! For some reason I feel really proud of Audrey! Good on you for being so confident and for telling the world everything I've been trying to tell people for ages now!
Thank you so much, Adrien. You’ve open my eyes towards what i feel like. Not being a girl but not being a boy, not being a boy but liking girls. I’m sorry, do you have a hug for me? A hug for Ari
Okay, but they're incredibly intelligent and accomplished for a 12-year-old. I didn't NEARLY start to have any actual accomplishments or consciousness about thinking and speaking eloquently until at least a year later. Amazing job you awesome enby 👍!
@@irreplaceablek3613 Please get yourself checked, it's unhealthy or even mentally unstable to think that their are more then two genders. Instead of changing who you are, you should love yourself the way you are.
I'm here fot the 2nd time, and now I completely understand them. AND FOLK'S, THIS IS WHAT IS BEING A NONBINARY PERSON!!! We just don't fit anywhere, we're not a boy or a girl, we're us, and that's enough. There's so many genders into nonbinary, not necessarily we aren't no one genders, but, being a person, not having to fit on female or masculine boxes it is the focus to being a nonbinary person. As nonbinary, I'm so glad of the representation of this TED. We exist, and we are valid!!
You no you can fit nowhere and still be your gender at birth right? You can do whatever you want. You don't need to confuse the population and over complicate your lives. Just be who you are at birth. That is who you are. Not nothing.
@@EmeraldPixelGamingEPG ??? We are what we want. Is our lives. And doesn't make sense live feeling like something you're not. If you are ok with your birth gender, good for u, there's people not. So, take care of your life.
damn this kid has just summed up my entire life. I'm a 20 year old biological female, but for the most part wear 'masculine' clothes and have short hair. Going into female toilets makes me feel uncomfortable because I know what others are thinking; I feel like I have to at least feminize my walk or body language to communicate 'female'. I tell myself it doesn't matter, but I can't help but feel that it does.
Facio ergo sum that’s fine. No one is obliged to care about you. You need to care about yourself and find comfort in that until you find someone who cares about you as much as you do yourself. I hope you’re doing well.
I love this. Audrey described so perfectly how I feel about my own gender, and what it means to be nonbinary and genderfluid. I wish everyone in the whole world could watch this and understand how meaningful it is.
That’s interesting. When I was eight years old, I had already been asked if I was a boy or a girl probably hundreds of times. One day a boy at school asked, “are you a boy or a girl.” I wondered if he would treat me differently if I responded that I was a girl this time. So I did. He seemed to be a lot nicer and more apologetic than the reaction i typically received from people.
hearing the crowd cheer afterwards gave me the hope for acceptance I so desperately needed, especially considering most of the audience were older. thank you audrey
X Z yeah no I get that. it’s mainly just for my personal journey and having to deal with not being accepted daily. it wouldn’t be as important to me if I just accepted my self but since I receive little to no support from my loved ones and peers, it’s difficult for me to be comfortable with who I am
Kili Logan I get you. I had to bring myself up since age 13. Yes It’s tough not being accepted daily as a child and instead being forced to be your father’s “wife”. Sometimes self acceptance is the only place to get acceptance.
Awesome speech what an amazingly articulate person you are! I can't wrap my head around how someone can hear that and leave such idiotic comments that only show they didn't listen to a word you said. I have nothing but respect for how you view and understand yourself and who you are as a person, most of us will never come close to that in our lifetimes.
@@VAMR-vc7xg What...? Wait, how does letting your child express themselves freely define as child abuse??? I am? So confused? Don't want to be rude, but, uh, please explain yourself :/
@@VAMR-vc7xg so you're just someone who is drawn to thinking about child abuse. Why is your brain immediately inclined to project abuse onto an underaged stranger? Why are you immediately inclined to assume the parents are abusers? Are you psychic? You presume A LOT, from a deeply jaded and judgemental, "superior" place.
Martina, I too would like to know exactly what you mean by "child abuse", if you don't mind. I agree with you that this is a female child, and thus a girl. Do you mean that she is allowed to dress as she likes? Or perhaps, do you mean the confusion that people have, due to their expectations about her style?
@A M. I'd like to say your ignorance is the problem, not self discovery. Thanks for bringing that kind of negativity in this world for something that doesn't affect you.
As a non-bianary person, who does have long hair, and was marked female at birth, this really hits home in a different way. Yes, visually I look like a she/her, but still- It feels wrong to be titled as 'pretty' or ' girly ' or ' tom-boy '. I am me, and me is them or they, or even my name instead of gender forward terms. Yes, all of my family, and friends at the moment still call ne she/her, despite them being well aware I'd much rather them/they, and no, I don't hold it agents them- Because deep down, It doesn't matter all that much to me. I am human, and that's all that matters. It doesn't matter is someone is a boy, or a girl, or unisex, or what body parts they have, or what they wear, or their hair cuts, or skin tones- or even beliefs.. All that matters, Is their human. And so are you.
''So, strangers, sit uncomfortably while I tell you how my gender ranges, from day to day, sometimes neutral, sometimes fluid, sometimes gentle, sometimes fierce. It doesn't make me a boy but it doesn't mean that I'm realigning and I don't want to be redefining what it means to be a girl, because I'm not a girl'' So cleverly put and so smoothly delivered.
Audrey goes to my high school, in the year below me. They seem just as cool here than in real life, from what I can see although I don't really know them.
Audrey is literally one of the nicest people I know. I went to their primary school and i’m moving to their high school soon. My sister has been friends with them for a long time. They’re also an amazing actor too. I remember when they were Peter Pan in our school musical (Peter Pan). When they moved to high school, they literally got a lead in every musical they had been in. Audrey is literally one of my biggest inspirations. I’m so glad that they gave a Ted Talk. AND IT HAS OVER ONE MILLION VIEWS! I hope that people who know them, see them around quite often, or used to hang around them in primary school see this. They can see how far they’ve come and if they have mis gendered them before, this could help.
A truly amazing presentation by a remarkable young person on a topic that is fraught with danger, ridicule and, unfortunately, danger. May Audrey go on to improve this old world, flourish and find love and happiness. I personally believe that Audrey can only work towards making the world a better place; better than the one I have lived in for 70+ years. namaste
what confused me most was that i didnt know if they were 10 or 23 years old until i read the description of the video lol keep up the good work kid! as a gnc myself, its very comforting to see gnc non-binary and trans kids live out loud and proud like this
To be fair, Audrey never stated when pronouns he/she/they preferred. I mean "she" probably isn't correct, but it's kinda a guessing game since Audrey never said.
Well, the writer had to choose ‘he’ or ‘she’. If Audrey was bothered by the description she would have asked them to change it, or got her parents to do so, and I’m sure the writer would have respectfully obliged. I’m sure that one day there will be a neutral pronoun, but I think the use of ‘they’ is silly though, as that already means plural. It leaves me looking for the other person. Please, instead of leaving this sort of comment, could you tell us what pronoun or wording the writer should have used?
joceelee The correct pronouns would have been they/them as Audrey stated they are gender non-confirming/non-binary. Some non-binary people are comfortable being called more than one set of pronouns, some won’t correct you if it doesn’t matter to them, and others care a lot! Whatever the case, if you know someone is non-gender conforming it is always the best option to use they/them or just ask which set of pronouns they prefer. Using they/them may not be easy for you, and it may not be something you agree with personally, but being misgendered can really upset people and take a mental toll on them. Whatever your belief may be, if you are a compassionate person and have no reason to cause another person pain, then it is more than appreciated to at least try to use the correct pronouns :) Fun fact: There’s a lot of other languages that have gender neutral pronouns already or have recently adopted them and are used widely!
Kaiden Bruhn Whatever your opinion may be, respect and compassion are always appreciated. I don’t really see the reason for your comment : / if you’re interested in biology/human sciences, I’d recommend doing more research on non-binary/non-gender conforming people, as they are medically recognized as such by many leading North American & gov mental health organizations!
This was really affirming for me to watch. I've recently come to terms with the fact that I'm nonbinary, and it's been really hard. I feel like a freak, and that no one will ever accept me. This helped me to realize that I shouldn't constantly be striving to make other comfortable with my gender identity, but that I should strive to make myself happy.
Only 65% of woman and men conform roles and expectations of their gender. That's does no make the 35% freaks! If nobody acept you is nothing to do with your gender, is because your social skills and sense of identity is really bad. Accept yourself, be mindfull of your social limitations, get a Asperger/Autism diagnosis if you get the extreme, but no needed.
hi i'm an enby and this made me cry. adelaide's a really great place to grow up queer, and we have so many safe spaces, but being nonbinary is completely different and heck this talk makes me so emotional. thank you audrey
An incredible talk! they are well-spoken and intelligent. The ignorance in the comments, referring to Audrey as a girl as they spout nonsense they believe to be scientific is disheartening, but hopefully talks like these will encourage people to educate themselves and open their minds to ideas that may make them uncomfortable.
Only one person on stage. "They" implies that there was two separate people. Only one. A highly articulate and intelligent young girl. With perhaps a somewhat more masculine inclined brain function. I have total respect for that young person. Singular. Female. She/Her.
@@geraldinegregory.1803 'they' can be used to refer to one person when the gender is not known, and has been used for that purpose for quite a number of years. Its adoption as a pronoun option for gender fluid people is not going against existing grammar. Although grammar is constantly evolving anyway, so there is really no argument to make here
I am upset..
I can't see the flamingo socks.
Happy socks sells them :)
Agreed
@Daniel Lastname I do, each time I get my salary I go see if they have new ones or if I can replace old ones. Most comfy socks I've ever had.
Same I want to see them and have them
me too :( i love those socks
The most impressive thing was that all the people in audience were elderly.
It feels good, to see one generation trying to understand the other with an open mind.
You are right! We try...It would be great if younger generations would understand our paradigms...I love Audrey!
@@brightangerine Haha!!
Yes Mrs. Maria, I completely agree with you!! 😊
My grandparents hate these kind of things witch is sad
Many older adults have struggled with the same issues that Audrey does. Just because you are older does not mean that you are a different species.
@A M. More than 2. There are a variety of non-binary (meaning not fitting into 2) but it kind of depends on who you ask. There are, however, certainly more than 2.
Only 12! An incredible speaker
Wait, that kid is just 12?
Watch Me Do ONLY 12 ????
Watch Me Do coached by parents
Get Help A script isn’t what makes someone a good speaker
@@impactz7652 Rehearsals and coaching
"sometimes i'm glad people mistake me for a boy because I get to have real conversations" this was one of the realest things i've heard
i felt that too
damn me too even though I only am seen as a boy 10-20% of the time but it’s better than nothing 🤠
Yea
That's very sad 😢.
@V S hi, people have lived outside the gender binary for literally hundreds of years! this is not a new concept, but it is being introduced to people more than ever before. nonbinary and intersex people have always existed, and i'm so glad that there are more resources, such as this video, to help us all learn more :)
Dude... My first thought was ‘YOU’RE A WISERD HARRY!’
Hahahaha I had to read this 4 times before I figured out you were saying wizard 🤣🤣 I get it now...
Vanessa Red Is that a gender?
@@sadforever0129 no... like Harry Potter.
Me too... 😂
US response to British tweens with short hair and glasses.
THE TURN TO SLAM POETRY AT THE END WAS ICONIC
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*Y E S* THE SLAM POETRY AT THE END DOES NOT GET ENOUGH RECOGNITION. 👏👏👏👏
thanks for warning me to turn this off
Yes that was amazing
Praecosmile what’s wrong with slam poetry?
Marshmallowcat18 yeah, man I love slam poetry. but in some cases, it can seem too preachy. maybe that’s what they feel
“What do you think when you see me?”
My brain: a CHILD.
(Yes. The vine.)
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I LOVE
AAronSaROS that kinda what I thought
AAronSaROS my thought exactly!
I see a person with great style 👌👌👌
Okay but can we talk about their curls-
Curls be on point
Their curls are everything
They’re so good!
The curls I mean. The kid too though.
Those curls are cute-
Their?? 🤔
HOW ARE THEY SO GOOD AT TALKING W H A T
Berucrat Her parents coached and wrote the script
Maybe the most helpful question you could ask is: Are they really "so good" at it? Or, is it that you just aren't very good at it?
@@Bhatt_Hole Why do you immediately need to turn it around against the person complimenting someone successful at a not very easy task? You might not have realized it but that hurts.
Got so confused reading this, this is why I hate they them pronouns
@@gorehog04 this is basic english.. do you need me to teach you?
That last minute was poetry. Solid poetry. And solid poetry is incredibly scarce on the internet.
True.
it made me tear up damn it was intense
It's not poetry it's called confusion
Look up button poetry on TH-cam- stories from all kinds of people in the form of poetry. It's pretty intense and incredibly moving
@Non-Ugandan Knuckles if the cat is male, the testicles/balls are usually quite easy to see, below the base of the tail. female cats don't have balls, obviously, but if you're still not sure, taking the cat to the vet is another way to figure it out.
No one:...
Microphone: Yo, this breathing ain't loud enough, let's kick it up a notch
b r e a t h e
B R E A T H ! ! !
*breathes in your ear*
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B r e a t h e
"Does it really matter to know someone's gender???"
good question.
Yes. You wouldn't like it if you were in the swimming baths unchanged and a feminised male walked in and started taking his clothes off right next to you or young girls. Gender identifying COUNTS within society like it or not.
@@Sam-zu5mr Eh. I wouldn’t care. Long as they aren’t hurting me or making me uncomfortable. 😑
it matters to know pronouns, but imo no, it doesn't matter who you are :)
Rhys as a girl with a lot of female friends (who agree with me) if we knew they weren’t doing it to be creepy but because that’s where they felt comfortable we honestly wouldn’t mind, and it’s quite clear to see if they were doing it with ill intention. The issue comes when people say someone would take advantage of that system. That’s why most places with changing rooms have security of some sort nearby. And at the end of the day that would occur far more rarely than people say it would. So allowing it would do far more good than bad
@@Sam-zu5mr that is the problem right there. Why wouldn't you like it?
Regardless of stance, I think we can all agree that this kid is going places. So articulate and professional!
Going places, as in Tumblr? Gender studies in uni? lol
Kaiden Bruhn you might wanna do that, but not everyone does.
@@kaidenbruhn6561 haha very funny .-.
She’s in some incredible tv shows. Stunning actor
@@ottozagala991 sorry to correct you 4 months later, but Audrey said they go by they and them.
I saw this talk live, and watching it again now makes me remember what a composed, articulate and nuanced talk it was. Awesome, Audrey!
I was blown away when they stepped forward and it went from a wonderfully eloquent presentation to a poem! I don’t know if it was intentional but there was such a smooth transition.
Awesome!! I wish I could go to a TED talk so much!
seeing a female name in the talk's title and an androgynously styled kid on the thumbnail i thought 'yeah it's probably gonna feel like a walk through tumblr' but man was i wrong. audrey is more reasonable and articulate at their twelve than most adults i know. i cant remember the last time i was so imoressed by a ted talk.
Wow, harsh. Tumblr is also insightful, you’re just looking at it from the wrong angle
@@evaeldora464 +
Kids and teens (specifically around the ages 11-18) are generally more insightful and in lack of a better word smarter than adults. A reason for this is that the hormonal changes in their brains cause them to creat more neurons quicker and develope their brains rapidly. This causes kids to have more questions about life and these questions if answered also can give people a deeper understanding of life itself. So it makes sense why the best ted talk is made by a 12 year old
vince the ratboy names don’t have genders.
@@evaeldora464 Tumblr is the most idiotic thing out there.. nothing but feelings and colored hair.
Bruh the first thing i thought was how is this 12 year old child literally giving a TED Talk and i am here doing nothing 24/7😌
same
12? .....12? .... I couldn’t do that at 35 LOL amazing !
@@anomalous5549 and a much better one at that. TED is pretentious and pseudo intellectual
Because this kid literally only exists to spread a political ideology, and you only exist to consume it 💀
@@filip6127 word
"Denounce Gender Roles, But Respect Gender Identity."
why?
Hahahaha Hohohoho because thats respectful?
@@swgadrunq1700 why that combination in particular? Who decided on that?
Why not respect both, or just the other?
Why is being respectful such a high virtue?
What if being respectful collides with an individual's personal belief?
@@hahahahahohohoho5085 Why would you rather be rude than respectful? Even if you're beliefs are against what the other person is believing to be true, by not being respectful, you are also colliding with their beliefs. Even this 12 year old in the Ted Talk was able to be respectful to those who don't agree. Why can't you?
@@hahahahahohohoho5085 Because gender roles imply that if you are a certain gender, you need to act and behave a certain way. Yes, some people fit in their gender roles, but at the same time it excludes a ton of people
"what do you think when you see me? "
Me: mini human
LMAO
i thought the same! my brain just though: smol
That reminds me of Arizona Robins in Grey’s Anatomy. She calls the children “Tiny humans” and the parents are “Creators of the tiny humans”.
@@rowantaylor335 same
*cute & wise tiny human
I wish I was this articulate when I was twelve.
Wow, so humble aren't you just! Nothing quite like blowing your own trumpet.
@Chalron Bjork I honestly have no idea what you mean and I'm curious, so can you explain please?
SAME! 10 years later I'm still not even close to be that articulate 🙎♀️
I wish I was this articulate at all
@@chalronbjork4766 ... they're complimenting the kid in the video, not themselves, you muppet.
There is nothing intrinsically "male" about wearing pants. Lots of women in places like China, India and the Middle East wear pants of different types. Scots males traditionally wore a kilt, which is a skirt.
New gender labels (gender-fluid, so on) might make us a little bit confused, but as long as it makes Audrey and people experiencing similar things more comfortable, I'll be glad to learn them. Or not use them at all, though it is difficult.
Audrey speaks so well. It is a child talking, unmistakably, but in a beautifully articulate way. This is a tedx I really enjoyed.
@Nick Smith scientifically there are 4 but k
A M. how tf is it sexist lmao
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THANK YOU!!!! I’m getting tired of seeing all of the bigots in the comments! This was nice to see
@A M. please explain how its sexism
@Nick Smith how is this someones fantasy? i've heard people say that a lot but what specifically do you mean by it?
I know this isn't the point of the talk but my first thought when seeing the thumbnail was "what a cutie"
Kat Shik same
Same :D
Same
Merrill George “her”
@@aub9769 yeah im pretty sure those are her preffered pronouns
I WANT TO KNOW EVERYBODYS GENDER
So I know what pronouns to use
Edit: I know now that gender doesn’t equal pronouns
How about “y’all”?
ask the person which pronoun they prefer ;)
I have a non binary friend whom I call 'they' and 'them', so I guess you could use that
@@Tanemo1609 I use they/them pronouns when I talk about anyone that I don't know. It's become my default.
camila castelo thanks I’ll do this from now on
Okay but how is this twelve year old so good at style and and public speaking and at articulating their thoughts and feelings??? I’m jealous of a twelve year old now thanks
"What do you think when you see me"
I think your so cute omg i want to pinch your cheeks
I thought that too 😂 also I LOVE YOUR USERNAME AND PROFILE PICTURE
Ikr the kids adorable
I was literally just thinking that. Love the cavetown pfp ahhh.
I bet it’d be easy to be kind to such a bitter boy like you ;)
(I looove Cavetown)
Omg sameee so adorable 😩🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥰
They are beautiful. Everything about that talk is beautiful.
Beautiful? 12yo experiencing gender identity confusion is beautiful to you? Wow..
Obet Efdon you clearly did not understand the video
@@jonnymorales8841 I think i understand the video very clearly. They (Audrey) is a non binary gender. Where is the beautiful part from feeling of not belong to any gender, being different from your parents, siblings, friends? I only see agony, nothing beautiful.
I believe this video made to rise awarness for majority to be more sensitive on handling gender issue. Lets praise their (Audrey) communication skill, how articulate they are, smart, etc. But again, i don't see anything beautiful from their story! I feel their pain.
@@obhetefdhone I think the person meant about how it's beautiful that Audrey is embracing their identity and living as proudly as they can, rather than keeping it inside and pretending to be someone they aren't.
@@jamesc1446 I surely hope so! I am happy that society more accepting LQBTQ, but I am worry that they get/ send wrong message. Improper praise takes away the important point: the pain that these people have to experience in daily life.
Because not everybody as lucky as Audrey whom has great parents that enable them to express themself.
Btw, I agree with you that someone characters what make them beautiful, not their gender identity/ orientation.
We’re finally listening to the younger generation and I’m P U M P E D
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y e s
Oh yeah we're listening to 12 year olds!
@carter valdez How do you know all that? Are you a PhD at Biology? I dont think they agree with any of your analysis here buddy
Sweatt We know more than you think we know. What information do you have? How to plant a godamn potato? How to break a glove? How to read a book?
honestly this ted talk is just what I needed, being young and not really understanding how to label yourself is one of the most frustrating things there are, and im glad that they could explain it SO WELL and at such a young age.
Labels are extremely harmful.
@@PaidGangstalker thats a strong claim- they can be, but they’re also a way to find and understand yourself and your identity. they’re not dangerous or harmful by themselves, we all have em
@@azul4904 developing your identity through labels is eerily similar to tribalism in many aspects and the obsession that white westerners have with how others perceive them is exacerbating an already severe mental health crisis.
@@PaidGangstalker and what's wrong with tribalism? seems like you need to decolonize your thinking, my friend
Damn this turned into slam poetry at the end beautifully said
I completely agree! Every sentence that came out of Audrey's mouth flowed like music with the rest of the speech.
This is not poetry this is confusion
ZAELISMENOS ISOBITIS no it’s poetry they aren’t confused
@@austynbaker7519 sure whatever delusion makes you happy.
@@pepeshadilay3834 shut
i have a friend that's trans but not out at school so to avoid misgendering i use their name instead of pronouns like "yeah (friends name) and i went to (friends name's) grandparents house and i met (friends name's) grandparents' cats and then we went out to eat." might sound a little weird sometimes but it's better than misgendering
my girlfriend does that too because theres nothing like them in german
@Lana Joy it would be more creepy if you use a plural noun for a singular person.
@@mrbust999 it actually is grammatically correct to use they/them pronouns to describe a singular person.
thankyou stranger. for trying to make your friend that one bit more comfortable. as someone who is trans myself it really does mean the world thanks for being an ally
Brook Franz use “their/them” too lol. They’re not plural exclusive and they are gender neutral pronouns
Bowties are cool.
Kris Oller not as cool as Audrey.
Bolo Ties will always be my favourite. Then regular ties, and I love when feminine women wear them.
Dr who!
Geronimo :)
I hate apples
I may not always get why people identify a certain way, but that doesn't matter at all because I have full trust in them to understand themselves better than I ever will
In my language there is no he/she, we use one word. So I never thought when I was younger how much frustration this can cause for people whos language does contain gender. I am always just randomly using he/she even if someone is clearly female or male, and I have to quickly correct myself. Simply because I grew up with no gender, so doesn't really come automatically when I speak anyway.
On the other note I'm just so impressed by Audrey's speech. Till now I would probably just faint, sweat, get red and be lost in words. 😅
That's interesting! What's your language if you dont mind me asking?
Same here! Pretty much all the pronouns in my language are gender-neutral
What is this language?
@@jillfanning749 After some heavy research (aka a few google searches), I'm guessing they might be Hungarian?
Zsuzsi Tóth
I’d assume that there was some places that don’t have male and female pronouns.
person walks onto the ted talks stage
me: wow, they’re young
person: what do u think when u see me
me: ur rly young
note: i like to know people’s gender because then i can use the correct pronouns. the english language has evolved around gender specific grammar rules, i rly wish it hadn’t, but there’s not much i can do. so i use the pronoun that person seems to want to use based on how they look. if that fails, then i kind of don’t talk or ask about them until it becomes clearer. i have friends who struggle with their gender and i’ve seen how much it affects them, so i try to be as respectful as possible
Mustache Fox I mean if I get it wrong cause I can’t read there mind they can just tell me, like a civil human
When I first say them my first thought was that they had pretty eyes lol
The only thing, is that I've see people get pissed for either being misaddressed or even being questioned how they would like to be addressed. Some persons have no problem yet others become outright indignant.
@@1970Mom I'm an American expat and I've had Canadian expats get offended when I ask if they're American, so I started asking North American-sounding people "Are you American, or Canadian?" When it comes to gender, which can be a way more sensitive topic than nationality, most people are totally happy to have someone ask their pronouns rather than unknowingly misgender them (just like the Canadians who don't want me to assume they're American). You could just say "By the way, what pronouns do you prefer? I use she and her" (or whatever yours are). It's simple and prevents hurtful misunderstandings. And when in doubt, just stick with they/them until the person tells you differently.
This 12 year old deserves an award,there is definitely hope for the future generation ,less labels more love and respect 👀🌈🙌🏻❤️
She increased labels by adding 'they'. 🙄😑
We have more labels - there are now 72 genders.
Wait they’re TWELVE ? Wow I’m even more impressed
There are ✌2🅱️⚁➗⏸⏏👆👇👈👉🤞👐🤘🤙👏👀💕💤🐾🍃🍣🍻🥂🍪🍴🥈🖇
T-W-O genders
@@IcelandicElfSpotter There are ✌2🅱️⚁➗⏸⏏👆👇👈👉🤞👐🤘🤙👏👀💕💤🐾🍃🍣🍻🥂🍪🍴🥈🖇
T-W-O genders
One room Unisex restrooms would solve all the restroom problems. We transitioned to these in retail instead of having one large room with many stalls, we transitioned the stalls to one room stalls with privacy with each door opening on the outside walls. Solved all bathroom issues with this. Schools should do the same.
The she/her pronouns usage in the description feels so wrong. They referred to themselves as they. They could be comfortable with all of the above, yet this does not feel really gender affirming there...?
Audrey never said what pronouns he/she/they prefer. Saying "they" was just an example of a pronoun some non binary people prefer. So even if "she" is inaccurate, you can't blame the person writing the description for not knowing what to use, so they went with the gender typically associated with the name Audrey.
Also saying "she" made the most sense as an introduction to the video.
Because she's a girl and none of her ""FEELINGS"" will change that fact.
@@dipfuk They can be used in a singular sense, people have been using they plural and non plural for centuries. I understand how you could say it can't be used singular as it is not typically taught like that, but they can be used as a singular pronoun.
I'm pretty sure they use both she and they pronouns. Many times in the Ted talk they used 'she' to describe them.
"Because in boy dress i felt more me"
Somone explain this to my parents
@A M. i think its like masculine clothes
@A M. yeah absolutely! like wear whatever you want, i meant traditionally masculine clothes like suits, not saying that feminine-presenting people cant wear them, i fully support anyones clothing choices :)
Yes there’s no such thing as “boy dress”. Anyone can wear whatever clothes they like. The sooner people stop expressing sexist ideas about what boys or girls are supposed to wear, the better.
@@xz740 Yes, and then maybe we can rid of the non-binary sexists.
@@Feisenbach Exactly
SUCH A TALENTED 12 YEAR OLD. I ADORE THEM.
You know how wrong that sounds right?
@@godhateseveryonewhodoesntr5977 it's fa9...it might sound odd cuz we r not used to it
GodHatesEveryoneWhoDoesn'tReadTheBible ????
GodHatesEveryoneWhoDoesn'tReadTheBible lmao wtf do you mean?
Wait they r 12?
“Are you a boy or a girl?”
Bro I’m literally just swag 😎
“Are you a boy or a girl?”
Me: no✨
“No liek- are you a boy or girl?”
Me: no✨
“No- like, what’s between your legs?”
Me: Air✨
“UGH- WHATS IN YOUR TROUSERS?!”
me: I’m not wearing trousers ✨😎 I’m wearing a dress
I think young Doctor Who 😂
Bowties are cool
they're literally an actor
if they don't grow up to play the doctor i will be disappointed in the world
Geronimo!
I agree
I'm a 50 year old non-conforming female. I hate women's bathrooms, being called "big man", being invisible. I admire you greatly for being able to speak your truth at such a young age. Thank you.
Cv by
What does, not conforming mean ?
I love this comment so much! 💖
@@robynb7083 not conforming to what society deems is the correct look/behaviour for a person of that gender. For example a gender non-conforming woman may wear men’s clothes, have short hair, and a more masculine presence in general. A gender conforming woman may wear dresses and have long hair.
@@komaliwings7209 AKA, a tomboy, why can't it be that simple?
They dress like a kid version of The Doctor. I think that’s so cool. I also keep revisiting this talk. It took me until college to have this amount of personal insight. Much respect and love for Audrey.
That's so funny the first thing I thought was maybe this should be the next Doctor Who and then yours was their third comment from the top.
*walk on stage*
Me: *looks at rainbow pin*
MY PRIDE SENCES ARE TINGELINGGGGG 🏳️🌈
You call it gaydar.
🌈-(￢∀￢)σ
🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
same
Same my Gaydar was going off
i live im Finland and we have the same pronouns for everyone and it's "hän" 🤔
Janette Halla-aho And.... you have Moomins living in the forests!
@@xbduf4gb Haha I wish 😅
@@xbduf4gb... No, everyone knows they live in a valley, duh.
Janette Halla-aho Well...... I have hattifattener socks at least.
I'm jealous 😭 🇰🇪
Holy cow. Maybe there's more hope for the world than I thought. This young person is eloquent, genius, serious, funny, independent, and I never would've looked as good in pants like those. May Audrey's light continue to shine as brightly as the years go by, and never dim.
💗
This is the first time I ever hear someone explaining EXACTLY how I feel. Woah
They are one of the most calm and well-spoken human beings I ever listened to.
What a wonderful insight, thank you.
See this is my only issue, if someone wants to be non binary by all means be what you want but can we please come up with proper pronouns. They implies more than one and therefore sounds like if it's one person there is a multi personality disorder. I mean seriously referring back to basic English grammar they means more than one. So someone please come up with something different than they, their, or them.
@@adam-jenniferbilly3904 I do disagree with you. “They” is also used when the gender of someone is unknown and no one bothered with it before.
@@arwenschild6406 Try reading a news article and tell me that it's not confusing and you think more than one person is involved. I know "they" can be both singular and plural but it's in how the context is used. For example: I recently read an article that was talking about Demi Lovato and this is what it said. "Lovato sought treatment at the age of 18 after they got into a fight with one of their backup dancers". Does that not sound like it's referring to more than one person?
Audrey is an excellent speaker, very articulate
When they are older they NEED to play Doctor Who!!
This is one person, not a collective. How about a singular non gender specific pronoun? Like "Shim" or something like that?
WhatAWorld 😂😂 that’s funny but I guess a nice idea
@@themaggattack this term exist in spanish, and all the people make fun of it, Is not realy a best option than they/them.
Pd : sorry for my bad inglish.
@@themaggattack If you are talking about someone and don't identify their gender, the person you are talking to would probably say they when referring to one person
@@themaggattack "You" also used to be exclusively plural, but is now valid for singular subjects. "They" can be the same.
Ironically my first thought was "what an interesting small human". Such a well spoken and brave individual. While I may not share all your views, I respect and even admire you for sharing them in way that might help others be more understanding. Thank you for being you! Keep up the good work.
Jennifer Piper You liked the parents views then?
@@xbduf4gb why are you so adamant that children are not capable of independent thought? Not every young person just regurgitates the views of their parents
Leah Not everyone, but some do. And this sounds scripted.
@@xbduf4gb well it obviously won't be improv, it's a TED talk not open mic night. I'm fairly certain you have to submit a draft of what you're going to say (though i could be wrong about that)
Leah You rehearse and memorise the speech.
Some of y'all watch this video and then use "she" when referring to them. Maybe you should watch it a couple more times.
Maybe you should say "shim" or "one" or something. "They" is plural. This is only one person.
@@themaggattack They is often referred to when you dont know who's being spoken about. "Oh, someone left *their* cardigan" the English language will have one word that depends on context for the meaning, so they, can in fact be used to refer to one person.
@@themaggattack "they" is both a plural and singular pronoun.
WhatAWorld this is why referring to non-binary people I just say their name. I’m not technically using the wrong pronouns or outing them.
Bridgett Matthews if you used they for someone when you didn’t know who they were, why do you need to use a different word once you meet them? They/them pronouns are gender neutral, and therefore a good set of pronouns for people who don’t identify as a boy or girl.
Audrey is 12!!!!!! Wow!! Such confidence and such gorgeous use of the English language. Great message too.
Wait- what?! I thought they were between 16 And 18 wtf. (Even considered 20something, because masculine presenting afabs tend to look much younger than they are, but they said they're still in school so that wouldn't make much sense.)
This Ted tak ended up being more relatable than I thought, whoa
If that's relatable then you need help
@@myiawerk7400 Thanks for sharing
@@myiawerk7400 Are u okay? I think you may need some help
What a self aware, brave, wise, intelligent and articulate young person. Incredible.
I am truly humbled and in awe. THANK YOU SO MUCH.
Lijaskurzeme my son is like this girl
My son is self aware, brave, wise, intelligent and articulate young person.
Thousands of children are self aware, brave, wise, intelligent and articulate young people. Thousands of children have had to endure hardship, poverty, child abuse. Be humbled and in awe of them. They didn't have a choice.
X Z my son endured hardship everyday
Happydaysrcoming We must make people aware of all the kids who endure genuine hardship. They have priority over this.
Come on Ted why are you misgendering them in the description. Smh this talk was literally saying how to use they them pronouns and how uncomfortable she her makes them feel
They've fixed it now : )
@Alyssa Albuquerque and why do you care? you're probably just being edgy for the sake of being edgy but reading these kinds of comments has lowered the amount of my brain cells enough to take the bait and reply.
Alyssa Albuquerque uh no
Alyssa Albuquerque ... please. Just. Watch the video.
@Alyssa Albuquerque no? did you even watch the video or are you that incompetent?
I'm planning on showing this to my mother to come out as non-binary,,, I think this will really help her understand what I'm going through. Thanks Audrey!!
What is non-binary?
@@tinamehl5102 It's an umbrella term meaning you don't identify exclusively as male or female. You might identify with a mixture of both, be neutral, be fluid (as in, you move from one gender to another), or feel as though you have no gender at all.
I hope that cleared it up and was an okay definition.
@@fe_fanby2278 that was a good definition
@@Alexis-nd9kw why thank you!
I JUST SHARED THIS VIDEO TO MY WHOLE FACEBOOK FEED AND LEFT PEOPLE AT WITHOUT EXPLAINING THAT YES THIS IS ME COMING OUT
The first thing that came to my mind was...Thas some really aesthetic style😂😂😂
MY NAME IS ALSO AUDREY AND I AM ALSO GENDER NONCONFORMING AND I ALSO WEAR BOW TIES ALL THE TIME!!!!! We need to be friends
i love ties
Lana Joy bow ties are cool
Is a bow toe a gender marker?
i am friends with audrey she would LOVE to be friends with you xoxo
I STRIVE to look like that. Audrey is such a beautiful person!!
My school has gendered bathrooms- and even as a cis girl, it’s REALLY uncomfortable because when you walk down the hall, the boy’s bathroom is before the girl’s. It just feels like another way to other women and think of them as less almost? Idk it just makes me feel uncomfortable
What? You think your school is being sexist because you have to walk 10 steps further than boys do? I’m not sure I understand
huh? i dont really understand tho cuz the main point was sexism and now its just like... the standard almost
Is no one gonna mention how well spoken this kid is!!! I’ve seen full grown adults do ted talks with various anxious tick. Amazing!!
She still spouts nonsense
@@jersydvl ???????
Honestly i dont really care about what anyones stance is on nonbinary identities but what does irk me is when people use they/them singular = grammatically incorrect as an argument for why nb identities aren't valid. Before I knew what genderqueer/trans was or even what the lgbt community was, ive (and everyone i know) used singular them/them as long as i can remember not as a genderqueer thing but to be gender neutral in sentences depending on the context. Like if i were to announce to a classroom or office "Somebody left their pencil at my desk. Can they please come pick it up?" multiple people didn't leave their pencil at my desk. One person did and I just didn't know their gender. I will respect and listen to people's opinions on whether nb identities are valid or not just please use a different argument. It's retired.
So you still care about grammar and logic more than you care about people...? NB identities are valid. It is NOT a debate. You can't argue whether someone's identity is valid - they exist and that's it. Simple as that. You can only try and bully them out of existence or until they hide who they are for fear of bullying.
@Carolina Herrera you are valid and I hope your mom comes around
Carolina Herrera did you read her comment? She is talking about how it is a bad argument to say they/them pronouns are grammatical incorrect. She’s on the same side as you are :)
Technically, if you look up the dictionary definition of "they", it can refer to two or more people OR someone of unspecified gender.
It's actually grammatically correct! Using they is not only for couple of people, but also for someone of an unidentified gender. So, it's actually grammatically correct! Most people just aren't used to it. :)
Wow! Intelligence, charm and confidence; what a winning mix.
...and not a lick of truth
Not to mention charisma. They're a natural born leader and the representation that the LGBT community needs.
@@abesapien9930no they are very right
How is this incredible human being only 12 years old ?! Extraordinary ! Thank you Audrey, I am in awe of you !
Oh my gosh! This kid is going places! For some reason I feel really proud of Audrey!
Good on you for being so confident and for telling the world everything I've been trying to tell people for ages now!
Oh yes, she's going places. First stop: a mental clinic.
@@Feisenbach YOU BET !!!!
@@Feisenbach sigh, another person who cannot let other people have fun and feel comfortable
@The Sketchiest Sketcher She's a girl and I say what I want. I'm sorry if you can't handle reality.
@The Sketchiest Sketcher A look in her pants would tell you something different.
What an eloquent young person
Confused* young person. And her parents even more confused.
Thank you so much, Adrien. You’ve open my eyes towards what i feel like.
Not being a girl but not being a boy, not being a boy but liking girls.
I’m sorry, do you have a hug for me? A hug for Ari
*tiny correction, it's Audrey, not Adrien.
Excuse me, I know it´s not your obbligation to explain but since you wrote a comentary on the internet...
What did you realized and why?
@@vicovic3537
I wrote the comment 11 months ago so I don’t remember clearly, but I think I just realized what being non-binary meant
Who you are (to me) is determined by what's inside from the neck up. Conversation gradually reveals your identity....and is why everyone applauded.
Okay, but they're incredibly intelligent and accomplished for a 12-year-old. I didn't NEARLY start to have any actual accomplishments or consciousness about thinking and speaking eloquently until at least a year later. Amazing job you awesome enby 👍!
They got such a wonderful fashion sense
Thanks for the likes it means a lot to me 🙂🙂🙂🙂
You mean she.
@@blackflag5148 nope
@@09anushkasariyal77 She's biologically a female
@@blackflag5148 and?
They're so cute wtf why can't I be that cute
They? Who? The audience?
Audrey...
@@bean-nj5dw Putting that in the sentence would make it have improper grammar, for the right word you are looking for, it is "he's"
GamePlay TJ
Audrey doesn’t identify as any binary genders, they do not have a specific one. "They/Them" are their pronouns.
@@irreplaceablek3613 Please get yourself checked, it's unhealthy or even mentally unstable to think that their are more then two genders. Instead of changing who you are, you should love yourself the way you are.
I'm here fot the 2nd time, and now I completely understand them. AND FOLK'S, THIS IS WHAT IS BEING A NONBINARY PERSON!!! We just don't fit anywhere, we're not a boy or a girl, we're us, and that's enough. There's so many genders into nonbinary, not necessarily we aren't no one genders, but, being a person, not having to fit on female or masculine boxes it is the focus to being a nonbinary person. As nonbinary, I'm so glad of the representation of this TED. We exist, and we are valid!!
You no you can fit nowhere and still be your gender at birth right? You can do whatever you want. You don't need to confuse the population and over complicate your lives. Just be who you are at birth. That is who you are. Not nothing.
@@EmeraldPixelGamingEPG ??? We are what we want. Is our lives. And doesn't make sense live feeling like something you're not. If you are ok with your birth gender, good for u, there's people not. So, take care of your life.
Me : suddenly remembers this “ am I a boy or a girl but damn I’m cute” out of nowhere lol this a great ted talk
damn this kid has just summed up my entire life. I'm a 20 year old biological female, but for the most part wear 'masculine' clothes and have short hair. Going into female toilets makes me feel uncomfortable because I know what others are thinking; I feel like I have to at least feminize my walk or body language to communicate 'female'. I tell myself it doesn't matter, but I can't help but feel that it does.
Facio ergo sum no one cares that you’re a tomboy.
@@joshuajackson4742 it's not even the fact that I'm a tomboy that they don't care. People just don't care about me in general.
Facio ergo sum that’s fine. No one is obliged to care about you. You need to care about yourself and find comfort in that until you find someone who cares about you as much as you do yourself. I hope you’re doing well.
I was browbeaten into being a female.
I'm just a masculine woman now.
BOTTOMS UP NIGHTRAIN
I'M READY TO CRASH AND BURRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRNNNNNNNN TAKE IT!!!!!!! (Micky mouse voice) 👍
I love this. Audrey described so perfectly how I feel about my own gender, and what it means to be nonbinary and genderfluid. I wish everyone in the whole world could watch this and understand how meaningful it is.
i teared up watching this. i felt the same way. wishing you well 💖
they’re from my school! I do musical theatre with them! They are brilliant!
Attention seeking in the wrong place.
Jesus, go get some help. Gender fluid? There are things you need to work out and work on.
That’s interesting. When I was eight years old, I had already been asked if I was a boy or a girl probably hundreds of times. One day a boy at school asked, “are you a boy or a girl.” I wondered if he would treat me differently if I responded that I was a girl this time. So I did. He seemed to be a lot nicer and more apologetic than the reaction i typically received from people.
after realizing that i myself, am non binary, this video really helped me accepting that the world is indeed a judmental place. thank you
hearing the crowd cheer afterwards gave me the hope for acceptance I so desperately needed, especially considering most of the audience were older. thank you audrey
Why does you creave acceptance so much? Kids and people have been androgynous for decades.
X Z yeah no I get that. it’s mainly just for my personal journey and having to deal with not being accepted daily. it wouldn’t be as important to me if I just accepted my self but since I receive little to no support from my loved ones and peers, it’s difficult for me to be comfortable with who I am
Kili Logan I get you. I had to bring myself up since age 13. Yes It’s tough not being accepted daily as a child and instead being forced to be your father’s “wife”. Sometimes self acceptance is the only place to get acceptance.
Awesome speech what an amazingly articulate person you are! I can't wrap my head around how someone can hear that and leave such idiotic comments that only show they didn't listen to a word you said. I have nothing but respect for how you view and understand yourself and who you are as a person, most of us will never come close to that in our lifetimes.
I listened to every word - all I hear is child abuse.
@@VAMR-vc7xg What...? Wait, how does letting your child express themselves freely define as child abuse??? I am? So confused? Don't want to be rude, but, uh, please explain yourself :/
@@VAMR-vc7xg so you're just someone who is drawn to thinking about child abuse. Why is your brain immediately inclined to project abuse onto an underaged stranger? Why are you immediately inclined to assume the parents are abusers? Are you psychic? You presume A LOT, from a deeply jaded and judgemental, "superior" place.
Margaret Gardner ...Yawn...you are boring, please go away.
Martina, I too would like to know exactly what you mean by "child abuse", if you don't mind. I agree with you that this is a female child, and thus a girl. Do you mean that she is allowed to dress as she likes? Or perhaps, do you mean the confusion that people have, due to their expectations about her style?
This is the talk that got me thinking about gender about a year ago and now I'm going through voice deepening. Thanks mate
@A M. I'd like to say your ignorance is the problem, not self discovery. Thanks for bringing that kind of negativity in this world for something that doesn't affect you.
Epic! Are you feeling better now?
@@Alexis-nd9kw yep yep =)
How is it going?
@@crowspears3265 currently in therapy!! I should be on testosterone by this summer=)
I’ve watched this like a thousand times and I still enjoy it every time
As a non-bianary person, who does have long hair, and was marked female at birth, this really hits home in a different way.
Yes, visually I look like a she/her, but still- It feels wrong to be titled as 'pretty' or ' girly ' or ' tom-boy '.
I am me, and me is them or they, or even my name instead of gender forward terms. Yes, all of my family, and friends at the moment still call ne she/her, despite them being well aware I'd much rather them/they, and no, I don't hold it agents them- Because deep down, It doesn't matter all that much to me. I am human, and that's all that matters. It doesn't matter is someone is a boy, or a girl, or unisex, or what body parts they have, or what they wear, or their hair cuts, or skin tones- or even beliefs..
All that matters, Is their human. And so are you.
And that's why you treat people equally. :)
unisex? i think the word you're looking for is non-binary, but other than that, well-said!
ment up and down the place
I'm a trans guy yet on my non-dysphoric days I like to wear skirts and put on makeup, I love when people are like ??? when they look at me
IASIDWUF8 THE WAY CIS PEOPLE LOOK AT ME SOMETIMES IS JUST SO FUNNY
@Judy laughed cuz i cracked a joke yeah, getting mad would just make it worse. most of them are old people who cant really change their point of view
''So, strangers, sit uncomfortably while I tell you how my gender ranges, from day to day, sometimes neutral, sometimes fluid, sometimes gentle, sometimes fierce. It doesn't make me a boy but it doesn't mean that I'm realigning and I don't want to be redefining what it means to be a girl, because I'm not a girl''
So cleverly put and so smoothly delivered.
Are you joking or...?
Audrey goes to my high school, in the year below me. They seem just as cool here than in real life, from what I can see although I don't really know them.
Aw that's great to hear! :)
Epic
Her, and who else?
@@synchronuse no just one person, audrey
@@synchronuse what do you mean "her"?
Can I just say their style is 10/10
Audrey is literally one of the nicest people I know. I went to their primary school and i’m moving to their high school soon. My sister has been friends with them for a long time. They’re also an amazing actor too. I remember when they were Peter Pan in our school musical (Peter Pan). When they moved to high school, they literally got a lead in every musical they had been in. Audrey is literally one of my biggest inspirations. I’m so glad that they gave a Ted Talk. AND IT HAS OVER ONE MILLION VIEWS! I hope that people who know them, see them around quite often, or used to hang around them in primary school see this. They can see how far they’ve come and if they have mis gendered them before, this could help.
I am so proud of Audrey and I've never even met them, lol. They seem really lovely!
Amazing for a 12 year old to be so articulate and well spoken in such a public setting talking about something so personal!
definitely
That one older woman smiling just warmed my heart 💞
A truly amazing presentation by a remarkable young person on a topic that is fraught with danger, ridicule and, unfortunately, danger. May Audrey go on to improve this old world, flourish and find love and happiness. I personally believe that Audrey can only work towards making the world a better place; better than the one I have lived in for 70+ years. namaste
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Very educational. I have read a lot about gender fluidity but this ted talk explains much more and makes us understand the gender more.
My BotSenses are tingling…
this is so cool that audrey is basically a normal human but very aware of their experience of gender and willing to talk about it
I’m really learning from this kid. I watched this years ago and it’s hits me even harder now I’m questioning my gender. Thanks!
Learning what?
@@xz740 learning about genders i think
@@randompinetree What is there to learn? 95% of girls claiming to be “non-binary” stop being confused by adulthood and accept that they are female.
@@xz740 source: trust me bro
what confused me most was that i didnt know if they were 10 or 23 years old until i read the description of the video lol
keep up the good work kid! as a gnc myself, its very comforting to see gnc non-binary and trans kids live out loud and proud like this
Love how the video description uses female pronouns for Audrey. Did the writer watch the talk at all lol?
To be fair, Audrey never stated when pronouns he/she/they preferred. I mean "she" probably isn't correct, but it's kinda a guessing game since Audrey never said.
Well, the writer had to choose ‘he’ or ‘she’. If Audrey was bothered by the description she would have asked them to change it, or got her parents to do so, and I’m sure the writer would have respectfully obliged. I’m sure that one day there will be a neutral pronoun, but I think the use of ‘they’ is silly though, as that already means plural. It leaves me looking for the other person. Please, instead of leaving this sort of comment, could you tell us what pronoun or wording the writer should have used?
Because she's a girl. Simple. Her feelings don't matter when presented with biological facts.
joceelee The correct pronouns would have been they/them as Audrey stated they are gender non-confirming/non-binary. Some non-binary people are comfortable being called more than one set of pronouns, some won’t correct you if it doesn’t matter to them, and others care a lot! Whatever the case, if you know someone is non-gender conforming it is always the best option to use they/them or just ask which set of pronouns they prefer.
Using they/them may not be easy for you, and it may not be something you agree with personally, but being misgendered can really upset people and take a mental toll on them. Whatever your belief may be, if you are a compassionate person and have no reason to cause another person pain, then it is more than appreciated to at least try to use the correct pronouns :)
Fun fact: There’s a lot of other languages that have gender neutral pronouns already or have recently adopted them and are used widely!
Kaiden Bruhn Whatever your opinion may be, respect and compassion are always appreciated. I don’t really see the reason for your comment : / if you’re interested in biology/human sciences, I’d recommend doing more research on non-binary/non-gender conforming people, as they are medically recognized as such by many leading North American & gov mental health organizations!
what an old soul... so eloquent, so uncompromising... so admirable
This was really affirming for me to watch. I've recently come to terms with the fact that I'm nonbinary, and it's been really hard. I feel like a freak, and that no one will ever accept me. This helped me to realize that I shouldn't constantly be striving to make other comfortable with my gender identity, but that I should strive to make myself happy.
Cope
Only 65% of woman and men conform roles and expectations of their gender. That's does no make the 35% freaks! If nobody acept you is nothing to do with your gender, is because your social skills and sense of identity is really bad. Accept yourself, be mindfull of your social limitations, get a Asperger/Autism diagnosis if you get the extreme, but no needed.
It’s pretty obvious you were born female
hi i'm an enby and this made me cry. adelaide's a really great place to grow up queer, and we have so many safe spaces, but being nonbinary is completely different and heck this talk makes me so emotional. thank you audrey
TF is an enby? Dude please for the love of God go back to biology
Tyler Grace yeah australia is pretty great for queer people in general. hope you’re doing well :)
A3 ashleigh ?? enby just means someone who is nonbinary
@@A3_ashleigh don't come at nonbinary people about biology with your AMALGAMATION of a name... only "Ashley" is valid LMAO
@@onikarutherford7021 I don't remember commenting this but omg trust me I do not think like this anymore
An incredible talk! they are well-spoken and intelligent. The ignorance in the comments, referring to Audrey as a girl as they spout nonsense they believe to be scientific is disheartening, but hopefully talks like these will encourage people to educate themselves and open their minds to ideas that may make them uncomfortable.
logan?????
Only one person on stage. "They" implies that there was two separate people. Only one. A highly articulate and intelligent young girl. With perhaps a somewhat more masculine inclined brain function. I have total respect for that young person. Singular. Female. She/Her.
How is their brain more 'masculine'? Genuine question.
Virgil LeFort YES VIRGIL YES **THOMAS SANDERS FANS WHERE U ATTT**
@@geraldinegregory.1803 'they' can be used to refer to one person when the gender is not known, and has been used for that purpose for quite a number of years. Its adoption as a pronoun option for gender fluid people is not going against existing grammar. Although grammar is constantly evolving anyway, so there is really no argument to make here
ok but *can* we just talk about their current outfit- its literally so cool looking- i want that style