School should always be prioritized over children or a husband. At the end of the day you set a good example to your children and they learn about true GRIT. Plus, they always leave the nest and you stay feeling empty and alone. Just like a man. Eff that. It happened to me and I lived and learned. My son wanted to be a daughter and went his own way even though I supported him. I have my entire life ahead of me and my degrees and I'll always have a job lined up if need be. As far as being a stay at home wife, only do it if you already have a Masters degree or doctorate to get you out of whatever bs a man or kids put you through. I'm 44 and my son is 22 and has his own life and I know that being disabled and collecting disability will one day end and if it does, I have my masters degree to take me out of poverty if my husband fails. Good luck out there ladies, don't fall for the distractions that children and husbands bring and find education instead. ❤
How do we get the bag, though? There's so many girls that I know, myself included that are struggling to find a job. (Any job, really) We are fresh out of uni and can't even get an entry-level job. 😢 What do we do at this point?
Women need to understand and realize that wealthy men aren’t generous like that. Everything they do for you, they expect a return in their investment in one way or another. Wealthy men will not put up with women, they will leave. They have money, ressources and access to things the women they’re with doesn’t. Unless that man in genuinely in love with you (which is rare for rich men) you will not be a kept woman. So ladies, if you even get lucky enough to be with a Rich man, use his resources for your advantage. He gives you money ? Don’t blow it all on designer bags or whatever, put that money in your own private account. He buys you things ? Keep them shits and sell them once the relationship is over. Network in the places he takes you to. Get to know the people in his surroundings yourself. Don’t get comfortable just because bro’s rich.
Majority marry within their status. These rich men rarely marry down in class because they view marriage as business opportunity to share assets with rich naturally beautiful women. If there's a chance these men can marry a rich educated beautiful woman like Adriana Lima, they'll pick her. If anyone is planning to bag a rich man you have to a 1 in a million type of natural beauty otherwise don't bet on hope.
Absolutely. Even poor men (the kind I have experience with) usually have certain unspoken standards that they expect you to reach. A poor man will dump you if you gain too much weight. All of that is quadrupled with rich men. All men see women as an "expense" so you had better be worth the expense in his mind
The network that rich men enjoy will not accept her as anything but a trophy mistress or kept woman. You can't really raise your status thru marriage either
This was Me🤦🏾♀️ The ONLY thing was that My name was on The Lease!!! He begged Me to quit working. -NEVER PUT ALL Your Eggs in ☝🏾 basket. -And ALWAYS have A plan B
My dad, all his side of the family, raised we girls to stand on our own. Sometimes I get sneered at as a feminazi or called a bitch when I don't let some man who has no business with me put one over on me, but I learned it from the "patriarchy". 😂
If these women were smart, they’d be living on their own and stacking up whatever gifts these affluent men give them for a financial emergency or to put money down on some kind of investment. When a “rich” man lets you live with him, that means he thinks he owns you. Knew this one broad that abandoned her son to go live with this creepy sixty year old and he treats her like shit. He doesn’t want to marry her, always raw dogging her and wants her to carry his seed, and doesn’t help her with any bills. He thinks letting her live with him rent free in exchange for being his domestic sex slave is good enough for her. Also he follows a lot of sex worker Instagram profiles and I saw a few underage girls on there. She brings her five year old daughter around this creep and will not listen to reason. This is her problem now. Can’t help these broads if they still believe in Disney princess fairytales of being swooped up by a rich man in shining armor.
I really hope women are not as naive as this woman, i wish women understand that being dependable on rich men is conditional on their wims , if they don't like You tomorrow You are out and next come... I thought that was something everybody knew ... Even normal dudes, not rich can change their mind anytime... Is stupid to think this won't NEVER change , maybe 1% of men are loyal real providers for life
Traditional marriages are never bag secured. The only way to do that is to have your own money, which decidedly NOT traditional. Financial abuse is part and parcel of traditional marriages.
8:00 imagine the tantrum this husband would throw if the wife made a home cooked meal and delivered it personally to the tall rich single male neighbor. Imagine how moody and paranoid the husband would be if the tall rich single male neighbor shoveled the drive way to help out wife.
😨 I saw a post yesterday. The husband was buying extra grocery for their new 24 yr old neighbor lady . Plus , he would go into HER apartment to do " favors ." When his wife objected , he told her she was just jealous. 🙄🤦♀️
Guys always default to jealousy, it's gaslighting. Tell him it's unseemly, inappropriate, temptations, reputations, and humiliating. If he cares about you, he'll stop.
Back in 1999, a friend of mine from the Army’s husband got mad at her in DC (she was stationed at Fort Bragg, NC) dropped her off at Reagan Airport, and she never saw him again. She had to file for divorce and have the sheriff serve him. She was devastated.
I'm so sorry that this happened to your friend, and thank you for sharing her experience here with us! I trust your friend has moved on and doing great now.
Straight up 🤣, another extreme to this is the 50/50 relationship dynamics , I have a video on this if you’re interested, the best place to be as you said have yours and spend his (the sweet spot).
Instead of getting goods get cash . That applies to a provider husband too . I was married and I am speaking from experience. Get cash pay off your debts and have some reserves of cash . No amount of useless goods has any resale value.
not if you are married. Cash is split. Get good jewelry. It is almost always worth its original value and sometimes more and is considered personal property and is not split in divorces.
The girl has already admitted her own mistakes. She acknowledged that it was her own stupidity that has led her where she is now. I don’t see the point of shaming her further as random strangers on the internet. She might have been a bit stupid, but the man who commented on her situation seems a lot worse as a human being tbh. The girl is too naive for her own good, but I know lots of girls that are like her and I really feel bad for her. Nobody deserves to end up in horrible situations just because they have been too trusting to people who didn’t deserve that level of trust.
@ I see her sharing more as a warning to the rest of us. Telling her how dumb it is is pointless because she already knows that. I personally won’t take this as a chance to feel smart about myself, because the ones who feel smart are normally much easier to dupe. I’d rather feel dumb and stay safe.
@@melissa7475Be honest, you people like to stomp on people already laying on the floor. As the other commentor said, she already knows so doing it makes no sense.
I totally agree! It's a good thing that she admitted her mistakes but come to think of it, even if she was naive to the extent of being overly dependent on the man no one actually deserves to be treated like that! Absolutely no one!
I see misogyny everywhere now. I can't unsee it. But around 4 minutes when the guy in the video was giving the examples, did you ladies catch that? He said she had access to certain things bc of that man, and he said just like if I got Yankees tickets from an ex gf bc HER DAD owned a Yankees stadium...The better example would've been her owning the stadium in comparison to the man having the money. But it couldn't be her, not even in his fake scenario, lol. Bc women don't own things. Wtf. Deconstructing patriarchy is wild.
@dirtyprancing5930 I'm not saying it's wrong. I'm just saying it's so ingrained in us all that we don't even recognize we are doing it. Part of deconstructing the patriarchy is noticing things like this to deal with our own internalized misogyny. I'm sure he's educating many. He didn't say anything I didn't already know, but we are all in different stages of understanding, and I'm sure he's beneficial for many. Most of us are misogynistic without even being aware of it.
He also kept talking about the girl as if she hadn’t already drawn the conclusions she had. She wasn’t shocked and baffled she nonchalantly told us what was happening because she 100% said it was partly her own fault and articulated why. She also DID have her own career beforehand it’s not like she set off in life with an entitled attitude she just happened to meet the guy whilst she was doing her own thing. Like give her some credit. But he’d rather emphasise how dumb and entitled she must have been from the outset.
My husband is a provider man, but in return everything is in my name so if our relationship ended he has nothing. And its not that way by my choice. When I got pregnant I was a healthy 30 year old, but i had a traumatic birth that nearly killed me. That alone needed 6 months of recovery physically. Mentally, it took a year to recover from and on top of it the pregnancy itself ended up triggering an autoimmune response in my body that led to rapid inflammatory arthritis, psoriasis, and now severe fibromyalgia that has left me disabled and unable to hold a steady job.
Wow! I'm so sorry that you had to go through all of that in bringing your angel to the world. Much love ❤❤❤ And thank you for sharing your story with us!
This is why I despise men who get upset when women set up savings and fall back plans…”oh you thought the relationship would fail??!” Yes. “You’re not all in?!?” Yes, but I’m not stupid. If you get bored or if you pass away why WOULDN’T I be prepared for that? You think I’m gonna be destitute? Pshhh yeah okay
Exactly! They get soo mad and that proves that they want women destitute. They want to pull the rug from under women and only fake offended that “oh you don’t believe in our relationship!” To shame and gaslight women. They’re so full of crap.
I’d never put myself in a position of a man to have this kind of control or not have a way out. Heck, I’m not even putting myself in a position to be with any man anymore because of how emotionally draining it’s been for me when I did. I have a guy friend who wants to pay for the food when we go out to eat (he claims that’s how he was raised to treat a woman/friend) and I argue with him about it because I don’t want anyone to have something to hold against me that they did for me.
You're right! But you still got me laughing anyways 😊😊😊. Who knows! Maybe your friend was just trying to be a gentleman 😊 I really appreciate that you shared this with us! Thank you!
@ my friend is a gentleman. He’s never done anything inappropriate and protective of ladies in his family. But yes, I don’t like receiving things from people. Men or women, because I had some hold that against me after they do something nice for me.
Tale old as time. You have a career keep it. Always have your money coming in no matter what. She will learn the biggest lesson her parents should have told her. She should have known better. Never depend on anyone fully.
I left my ex husband years ago in 2010. Been working since 2006 and never stopped working. I refuse to put up with a man and his behavior. Marriage was never worth it and my husband was never a provider. None of them ever are at least not long term. That comes with consequences. Provider men present day are jokes. That means they think they have to right to cheat. Have your own.
I'm so sorry for the things that you might have suffered in your past marriage but am glad that you've moved on, working, and doing great today. 😊😊That makes me happy, thank you for sharing this with us!
Even in marriage I’ve seen this happen and the thing is the guy didn’t want to leave because he didn’t want to lose out on money of course however he treated his wife like trash so she can either leave with her kids with nothing or stay n hell & he wanted her home with the kids it’s never safe to depend on ANYONE not even ur spouse
I've never lived anywhere with a man that I'm not on the lease or mortgage!🙄 Boyfriend and didn't put money on the side or have your own!😮🙄 Well lesson learned!
Idk, if it’s way more than I can afford, I’d rather not be on the lease. But I wouldn’t do it without a parachute Edit: she can also move back in because she has rights despite not being on the lease. 30 days I think, if you live there more than two nights in a row. It’s why complexes have rules about how long overnight guests can stay
O No No No.. never let a man have your life home or control of you, especially those ones that call themselves a provider thats crazy .. Always be your own person provide for yourself .have self worth / value dignity respect with in yourself.. whether your married single or have children.. Peace happiness full fillment is priceless .
How many of my friends' men and husbands have offered to do me generous favors? Many. I always say NO THANK YOU. I'm not stupid, I know what a man wants. At the very least, he is trying to make his wife insecure by paying attention to me. As an adult woman with a brain, I respect women because I know the tough situations men try to put them in. I refuse to be used like a pawn to make another woman feel insecure. NO THANK YOU is what any secure woman would say to somebody's husband offering help. Or in case of an emergency, I would ask the wife first and make sure she is 100% okay with it. My respect and courtesy is always for the women first. I would never borrow a guy and allow a woman to feel uncomfortable with my behavior. Men go through great lengths to make wives, girlfriends even friends feel insecure. It's called triangulation. Only stupid girls feel flattered when somebody else's boyfriend starts carrying luggage for her.
I was with you until that last part. You sound kinda stupid there because even genuine true gentlemen will carry your bags and sometimes wives expect their men to be good gentlemen with their friends and carry their bags too… Only dumb bitter women would claim that’s a problem.
Wow! 😊I'm super glad to hear that you do this, it shows how greatly you respect your fellow women. Thank you for sharing this with us here! I appreciate it. ❤
Or date someone who respects you? It's like dating a cheater then getting angry at every woman he glares at. Is the cheater the issue? Are you? Or is it the woman he glares at?
If the husband would also shovel snow from the neighbor guy who's on crutches or the older woman with arthritis then fine. Has helped others equally? Hmmm,
Case by case basis, but that doesn't mean don't keep an eye on him when some sweet young thing moves into the area. I love my husband and wouldn't trade him for anything, but I did once have to slap him upside the head for being too stupid about a gal who kept finding reasons to need help. 'Clueless' would have ended up getting assaulted and accused of rape.
Stop watching those princess movies. They dont want to be a hero/provider/protector. They want you to take care of them. That's it. Watch stepford wives.
Did anyone catch how the guy talking about the first girl made it a point to say in his analogy that if he was dating a woman and “her DAD” owned the Yankees he wouldn’t have access anymore… not how SHE was the owner 😅. I dunno just found that off putting 😆
I mean majority of stadiums in the US are owned by white men. So how was he wrong or was he stating reality? I don’t even know sports I’m fully aware of this. Also, yankee stadium is owned by New York City Economic Development Corporation which CEO is … you guess it a white man. He a fan of the yankee clearly and probably knows that….
What we forgot is that this type of man puts the condition of renouncing to proffesion or career. I was also offered a marriage possibility, but before I was told that women's are not God and they do not need to sacrifice themselves (work,profession..) , their place is near their husband .When I asked that can I go to teach-the answer was you can not go out and you can look at the fence...
I had a fren like this with a provider stud. After 8+ yrs got dismissed. I told her not to depend that hard she told ppl i was a hater and wanted her life. I dont feel sorry at all.
Nothing wrong with letting a man provide but its completely asinine to not have your own in the process. Smh. When you totally depend on a man its silly and you are living in lala land and honestly probably feel entitled.
What is that first man saying🤦does he know some men would force you not to work?and if you refuse he will say you have no respect for him?? I was a victim, I didn't choose not work,he told me ur now my wife ur under my control,you follow whatever I tell you to do not your decision😔one day he threw me out with his 2 kids at late night,from that day I learn my lesson,I didn't have a penny, the only thing I had was tears and fear of the dark with my kids,I will never ever accept such behavior again....
I'm so sorry that this happened to you, it's quite disheartening but I trust you and your babies are safe and doing great now! Thank you for sharing your experience with us!
they do all of this to justify treating women poorly. she would have been less shocked if he actually broke up with her instead ion stranding her in a strange place
Watching my parents (Who are still married and living together - and who both worked) …. I learned to never ever ever ever ever not have a separate account/ let your spouse have full autonomy over a major resource…. because when those arguments get to going 10/20/30 years can mean nothinggggg to certain people . They will use what they financially control to control you . I know that’s obviously not going to be every relationship - but if you read the comments under videos like this or have seen it first hand … you know what NOT to do to let your spouse play in your face! The pattern is obvious and the length/type of relationship doesn’t matter .❤
My husband wouldn’t allow me to work or go to school. I wasn’t allowed to call my parents or talk to the neighbors. I could go to the store unless he escorted me. This started right after we tied the knot. I couldn’t even have a vehicle. Everything was in my name. So when I finally left, I lost my house and car. It’s been over 10 years and I’m still trying to recover.
So sorry you went through all that love. But I'm glad that you left, and I do hope that you'll heal and recover in time. Much love 💓💓. You've got this!
Smart women want nothing to do with nem, because it’s always a losing proposition. 98% of nem will not love you, will not provide for you or the kids, won’t do anything to make the relationship work, won’t do any housekeeping, won’t be good in bed, and won’t care if you dye. So what’s the use?
Even IF it does work out, like, I think back to how much time and effort I spent trying to find the perfect man. And for what? Time I should have been using on myself, my own goals, my own life, my own path. I have a good husband, but I still regret centering men when I was younger.
"you have no way of making money" the way he said it, makes it sound manipulative. Why is there no way? But anyways, this is why my mother said never tell a man how you move money around or when If a man is doing all that gor another woman while uis child is sick, his actions say hes benefitting somehow from the stripper girl
This is what happens even in non-provider relationships. That's why you leave them ALL alone! The guy is correct! Charge them for your time! Leave the feelings out of it.
False 50/50, what a joke 😂😂. I give myself a 100 daily so I’m not settling for no joke scamming 50/50. He will take the 50% and spend it on hookers and his outside family.
They don't really get consent from the wife anymore and that could be why the women they hook up with are always really young like that some women don't care if they're man wants some kind of open relationship or something fun like that but they don't ever get consent and whoever decided 18-21 is old enough to be a stripper needs to re evaluate that they should be 23 or older because in some cases that's how old you have to be to work in porn. Corrupting teenagers and barely legal adults is the issue I have with that she's new to it and when you're new like that you think the rules don't apply to you. I'm almost 40 imagine a woman my age acting wreck less like that and jumping from relationships to relationship eventually I would wind up in prison. If 21 is an adult then why don't the same rules apply to them? You have to be pretty advanced to be a stripper at 21.
Relationships are for healthy people who either don't have significant trauma to begin with and grew up with a secure attachment style or for people with childhood trauma who DID ALL THE WORK to get a secure attachment style. Dating and marriage is a privilege for people who either don't have mental illness or have their mental illness being managed VERY well in treatment. If you are an unhealed codependent my heart goes out to you but you have no business dating until your symptoms are in remission and you have a healthy support system in place.
A lot of people think a dowery was a bride price, either to the groom or the brides family. In most cultures, the dowery was the bride's ticket home if something went wrong, especially in those old cultures where women wore chains of silver and coins. It was up to her if she chose to give it to the husband, and in many cases, went to her children or back to her family if she died. So consider this, do you want a big fancy overblown Disney princess wedding? Or that money in your own bank account just in case?
They can’t kick you out of your apartment. You lived there for 30 days name on the lease or staying there. Easy lawsuit done it more than once in different states. Once to my cousin. Nope. They will lose especially in blue state
If the passport bros make the foreign women’s life better I am all for it …. I only care when they make the foreign women’s life worse by their abandonment or controlling behaviors…I love the reference of making sure a person is in a better place either emotional financial when with your and after you.
Although I get the guy sentiments at 3.16, he wasn’t exactly correct as the woman did have a skills to go & make money after this situation. She said she had a career prior to her situation. The guy likely told her to give up her career to travel with him & he’d look after her. I notice the guy also does not mention anything about the chap she was dating, he put all the accountability on her & didn’t acknowledge her awareness of her part in it. He didn’t mention the pettiness of the guy cutting her off after an argument. He also doesn’t acknowledge that there are situations women find themselves in like this especially if they have chronic illness etc. But he wouldn’t understand that being a man.
True. I had a guy tell me to leave my job, sell my house & move in with him.. He promised to give me my salary every month. I declined. I later found out he was engaged to another woman he virtually ghosted ( he pretended to be working in another country) for a year to date me. When I found out he asked me to marry him. I declined. He married the other girl. He threw her out multipke times. After 3 years she unalived herself. It would not have been so easy for nme leave him if I gave up my house & job. I could have fell in the same trap. A man who wants you financially dependent on him is a man that wants to keep you trapped in abuse!
Some men do for e you not to work. If your in a situation like that ,mabe you have kids, you don't have the upper hand,you don't have skills, try to fijd something you can do. Even a f e w days a week. Even if its a hobby ect
I have to disagree w/ most people considering if you want your woman to have a baby expect to pay. Now that I know what I know about how autism starts (via severe inflammation during infancy) don’t think daycare is the answer. I only say that bc your baby is always going to get sick all the time. “Oh but they’ll build up “immunity”” DOES NOT WORK W/ infants. Ideally you would need to wait 2.5-3.5 yrs olds before putting them in daycare so you don’t run the risk of them getting autism even then, that’s the youngest (honestly 4 is the best age). Jobs in America do not pay for maternity leave yet. Men, if you don’t want to pay for your family (which is f@ckin’ ridiculous so many men are not reliable anymore but want children, but are not willing to make the sacrifice for the well being of their children not becoming autistic). Read the new study on autism. I already connected the dots and unless there are stricter regulations in daycares on the infant workers, daycares are not viable options if you want your child to grow up healthy w/ no autism.
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Naw man, if we trust someone and then they turn out not to be who we thought, we just made a mistake yo. We can blame the person for changing suddenly or getting so mad that they changed their minds. We can call them assholes n such but no one can make you be in a relationship unless your a hostage or somethin. If someone changes their mind about me, it's over. Done. Finished. The benifits of that relationship go with that too.
"If they can feed you, they can starve you."
Facts.
I agree but also:
"if you let someone feed you, they can also starve you."
@@lizzybennett2590 bingo.
Well said!! It is so true!!!
When I was a stay at home mom, I made sure I had my own money and saving for a rainy day. It was a life saver. Be smart always. 🙏❤
School should always be prioritized over children or a husband. At the end of the day you set a good example to your children and they learn about true GRIT. Plus, they always leave the nest and you stay feeling empty and alone. Just like a man. Eff that. It happened to me and I lived and learned. My son wanted to be a daughter and went his own way even though I supported him. I have my entire life ahead of me and my degrees and I'll always have a job lined up if need be. As far as being a stay at home wife, only do it if you already have a Masters degree or doctorate to get you out of whatever bs a man or kids put you through. I'm 44 and my son is 22 and has his own life and I know that being disabled and collecting disability will one day end and if it does, I have my masters degree to take me out of poverty if my husband fails.
Good luck out there ladies, don't fall for the distractions that children and husbands bring and find education instead. ❤
How do we get the bag, though? There's so many girls that I know, myself included that are struggling to find a job. (Any job, really)
We are fresh out of uni and can't even get an entry-level job. 😢
What do we do at this point?
@@miiitsune Ask a friend, apply to grocery stores, retail. Macy's is easy, At least at the Holidays, That is over. It might still work.
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@@miiitsune DoorDash and OnlyFans.
Women need to understand and realize that wealthy men aren’t generous like that.
Everything they do for you, they expect a return in their investment in one way or another. Wealthy men will not put up with women, they will leave.
They have money, ressources and access to things the women they’re with doesn’t. Unless that man in genuinely in love with you (which is rare for rich men) you will not be a kept woman.
So ladies, if you even get lucky enough to be with a Rich man, use his resources for your advantage.
He gives you money ? Don’t blow it all on designer bags or whatever, put that money in your own private account. He buys you things ? Keep them shits and sell them once the relationship is over. Network in the places he takes you to. Get to know the people in his surroundings yourself.
Don’t get comfortable just because bro’s rich.
How about just get a job amd take care of yourself, try that!
Well said!
Majority marry within their status. These rich men rarely marry down in class because they view marriage as business opportunity to share assets with rich naturally beautiful women.
If there's a chance these men can marry a rich educated beautiful woman like Adriana Lima, they'll pick her. If anyone is planning to bag a rich man you have to a 1 in a million type of natural beauty otherwise don't bet on hope.
Absolutely. Even poor men (the kind I have experience with) usually have certain unspoken standards that they expect you to reach. A poor man will dump you if you gain too much weight. All of that is quadrupled with rich men. All men see women as an "expense" so you had better be worth the expense in his mind
The network that rich men enjoy will not accept her as anything but a trophy mistress or kept woman. You can't really raise your status thru marriage either
This was Me🤦🏾♀️
The ONLY thing was that My name was on The Lease!!!
He begged Me to quit working.
-NEVER PUT ALL Your Eggs in ☝🏾 basket.
-And ALWAYS have A plan B
As little girls we are raised to find are knight in shining armor we need to raise are girls to stand on thare own
I was raised to stand on my own. Grateful to my mom for that.
You have to be your own knight in shining armor.
Very true! We need to create an awareness for our young girls to be keen on their financial independence regardless of a man or not.
@@MaryjaneN_ a man shouldn't even be considered tbh.
My dad, all his side of the family, raised we girls to stand on our own. Sometimes I get sneered at as a feminazi or called a bitch when I don't let some man who has no business with me put one over on me, but I learned it from the "patriarchy". 😂
It's an issue when you put your career first and it's an issue if you put them first. So just put yourself first always. Much love and great content 👑
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Yep
Rule #1 always secure the bag.
If these women were smart, they’d be living on their own and stacking up whatever gifts these affluent men give them for a financial emergency or to put money down on some kind of investment. When a “rich” man lets you live with him, that means he thinks he owns you.
Knew this one broad that abandoned her son to go live with this creepy sixty year old and he treats her like shit. He doesn’t want to marry her, always raw dogging her and wants her to carry his seed, and doesn’t help her with any bills. He thinks letting her live with him rent free in exchange for being his domestic sex slave is good enough for her. Also he follows a lot of sex worker Instagram profiles and I saw a few underage girls on there. She brings her five year old daughter around this creep and will not listen to reason.
This is her problem now. Can’t help these broads if they still believe in Disney princess fairytales of being swooped up by a rich man in shining armor.
Yes
I really hope women are not as naive as this woman, i wish women understand that being dependable on rich men is conditional on their wims , if they don't like You tomorrow You are out and next come... I thought that was something everybody knew ... Even normal dudes, not rich can change their mind anytime... Is stupid to think this won't NEVER change , maybe 1% of men are loyal real providers for life
Exactly. They are always looking to upgrade women.
Right exactly 👍🏾
Traditional marriages are never bag secured. The only way to do that is to have your own money, which decidedly NOT traditional. Financial abuse is part and parcel of traditional marriages.
8:00 imagine the tantrum this husband would throw if the wife made a home cooked meal and delivered it personally to the tall rich single male neighbor.
Imagine how moody and paranoid the husband would be if the tall rich single male neighbor shoveled the drive way to help out wife.
😂😂I can only imagine what the outcome would look like!
😨 I saw a post yesterday. The husband was buying extra grocery for their new 24 yr old neighbor lady . Plus , he would go into HER apartment to do " favors ." When his wife objected , he told her she was just jealous. 🙄🤦♀️
Wives need to start getting other men to do favors for them while the husband is or isn’t around.
Guys always default to jealousy, it's gaslighting. Tell him it's unseemly, inappropriate, temptations, reputations, and humiliating. If he cares about you, he'll stop.
If he's taking resources out of her home to give to another woman she better be mad.
Wow! What a man! I feel so sorry for his wife though.
Like yes im jealous bc we are married 😔 🤧
Back in 1999, a friend of mine from the Army’s husband got mad at her in DC (she was stationed at Fort Bragg, NC) dropped her off at Reagan Airport, and she never saw him again. She had to file for divorce and have the sheriff serve him. She was devastated.
@@toscadonna I hope she realizes how much of a gift that was.
I'm so sorry that this happened to your friend, and thank you for sharing her experience here with us! I trust your friend has moved on and doing great now.
Wow that evil and unfortunate.
I wonder why he did this to her?
These men don’t want to share instead they just want to exploit.
He already had someone else...
That guy shovelled that young woman's driveway to generate a possibility. Like the 'best friend' who is just waiting for his opportunity.
😂😂 Or rather the best friend with an ulterior motive.
Ladies! Have your own money. The male should pay 100% even if you have your own money.
Straight up 🤣, another extreme to this is the 50/50 relationship dynamics , I have a video on this if you’re interested, the best place to be as you said have yours and spend his (the sweet spot).
@@The-Empress-H-Speaks I am! I'll check it out.
A lot of times men will say dont work.
@@nikicarrie4071you don’t have to listen to dusty to keep a dusty.
That 1st woman should have been saving money throughout that relationship, & she never should have given up her career. Especially w/out a ring
Rings don't matter. I'm sure you know that.
A ring would have allowed her spousal support rather than starring at 0@@TheCarnivoreSoprano
That's law
… and Laws were set by Men. They can get through-around anything. Carnivore soprano right on.
They don't matter if no one's offering one😂
Rich people marry other rich people
Instead of getting goods get cash . That applies to a provider husband too . I was married and I am speaking from experience. Get cash pay off your debts and have some reserves of cash . No amount of useless goods has any resale value.
not if you are married. Cash is split. Get good jewelry. It is almost always worth its original value and sometimes more and is considered personal property and is not split in divorces.
The girl has already admitted her own mistakes. She acknowledged that it was her own stupidity that has led her where she is now. I don’t see the point of shaming her further as random strangers on the internet. She might have been a bit stupid, but the man who commented on her situation seems a lot worse as a human being tbh.
The girl is too naive for her own good, but I know lots of girls that are like her and I really feel bad for her. Nobody deserves to end up in horrible situations just because they have been too trusting to people who didn’t deserve that level of trust.
She came on here to tell it so we came here to tell her how dumb it was, not shaming just reacting to her actions!
@ I see her sharing more as a warning to the rest of us. Telling her how dumb it is is pointless because she already knows that. I personally won’t take this as a chance to feel smart about myself, because the ones who feel smart are normally much easier to dupe. I’d rather feel dumb and stay safe.
@@melissa7475Be honest, you people like to stomp on people already laying on the floor. As the other commentor said, she already knows so doing it makes no sense.
There are jealous men who want to be in her position. They are vicious.
I totally agree! It's a good thing that she admitted her mistakes but come to think of it, even if she was naive to the extent of being overly dependent on the man no one actually deserves to be treated like that! Absolutely no one!
"My money is my money. His money is my money"
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I see misogyny everywhere now. I can't unsee it. But around 4 minutes when the guy in the video was giving the examples, did you ladies catch that? He said she had access to certain things bc of that man, and he said just like if I got Yankees tickets from an ex gf bc HER DAD owned a Yankees stadium...The better example would've been her owning the stadium in comparison to the man having the money. But it couldn't be her, not even in his fake scenario, lol. Bc women don't own things. Wtf. Deconstructing patriarchy is wild.
Yup! Once you realize how deeply rooted misogyny is in everything (especially when it involves males), you can’t unnotice it.
100%. He wasn’t saying anything wrong but his tone was so superior. Appreciate him educating us 🫰
@dirtyprancing5930 I'm not saying it's wrong. I'm just saying it's so ingrained in us all that we don't even recognize we are doing it. Part of deconstructing the patriarchy is noticing things like this to deal with our own internalized misogyny. I'm sure he's educating many. He didn't say anything I didn't already know, but we are all in different stages of understanding, and I'm sure he's beneficial for many. Most of us are misogynistic without even being aware of it.
I also didn’t like the fact he tried to say a “provider man” when an evil and very narcissistic man is the problem!!!
He also kept talking about the girl as if she hadn’t already drawn the conclusions she had. She wasn’t shocked and baffled she nonchalantly told us what was happening because she 100% said it was partly her own fault and articulated why. She also DID have her own career beforehand it’s not like she set off in life with an entitled attitude she just happened to meet the guy whilst she was doing her own thing. Like give her some credit. But he’d rather emphasise how dumb and entitled she must have been from the outset.
Women stop allowing yourself to be brainwashed by these men or anyone. You've got to have your own income. Love yourself first.
Society conditions them to be brainwashed its not as easy as you say. Patriarchy is like air, all around us and we are unaware til we are taught.
My husband is a provider man, but in return everything is in my name so if our relationship ended he has nothing. And its not that way by my choice. When I got pregnant I was a healthy 30 year old, but i had a traumatic birth that nearly killed me. That alone needed 6 months of recovery physically. Mentally, it took a year to recover from and on top of it the pregnancy itself ended up triggering an autoimmune response in my body that led to rapid inflammatory arthritis, psoriasis, and now severe fibromyalgia that has left me disabled and unable to hold a steady job.
Wow! I'm so sorry that you had to go through all of that in bringing your angel to the world. Much love ❤❤❤
And thank you for sharing your story with us!
This is why I despise men who get upset when women set up savings and fall back plans…”oh you thought the relationship would fail??!”
Yes.
“You’re not all in?!?”
Yes, but I’m not stupid. If you get bored or if you pass away why WOULDN’T I be prepared for that? You think I’m gonna be destitute? Pshhh yeah okay
Exactly! They get soo mad and that proves that they want women destitute. They want to pull the rug from under women and only fake offended that “oh you don’t believe in our relationship!” To shame and gaslight women. They’re so full of crap.
simple solution: take his money and invest on your own. business or stocks, whatever. don’t just live off him alone. crazy.
I’d never put myself in a position of a man to have this kind of control or not have a way out. Heck, I’m not even putting myself in a position to be with any man anymore because of how emotionally draining it’s been for me when I did. I have a guy friend who wants to pay for the food when we go out to eat (he claims that’s how he was raised to treat a woman/friend) and I argue with him about it because I don’t want anyone to have something to hold against me that they did for me.
You're right! But you still got me laughing anyways 😊😊😊.
Who knows! Maybe your friend was just trying to be a gentleman 😊 I really appreciate that you shared this with us! Thank you!
@ my friend is a gentleman. He’s never done anything inappropriate and protective of ladies in his family. But yes, I don’t like receiving things from people. Men or women, because I had some hold that against me after they do something nice for me.
$10,000/month 😳 wow. I can't comprehend that much for rent .🤦♀️
At that point, I would just get a cheap apartment and save for a year and get a house. But I'm a cheap bitch and I don't waste money to show off.
That’s literally double my monthly salary 😭
Tale old as time. You have a career keep it. Always have your money coming in no matter what. She will learn the biggest lesson her parents should have told her. She should have known better. Never depend on anyone fully.
I left my ex husband years ago in 2010. Been working since 2006 and never stopped working. I refuse to put up with a man and his behavior. Marriage was never worth it and my husband was never a provider. None of them ever are at least not long term. That comes with consequences. Provider men present day are jokes. That means they think they have to right to cheat. Have your own.
I'm so sorry for the things that you might have suffered in your past marriage but am glad that you've moved on, working, and doing great today. 😊😊That makes me happy, thank you for sharing this with us!
Even in marriage I’ve seen this happen and the thing is the guy didn’t want to leave because he didn’t want to lose out on money of course however he treated his wife like trash so she can either leave with her kids with nothing or stay n hell & he wanted her home with the kids it’s never safe to depend on ANYONE not even ur spouse
I've never lived anywhere with a man that I'm not on the lease or mortgage!🙄 Boyfriend and didn't put money on the side or have your own!😮🙄 Well lesson learned!
Idk, if it’s way more than I can afford, I’d rather not be on the lease. But I wouldn’t do it without a parachute
Edit: she can also move back in because she has rights despite not being on the lease. 30 days I think, if you live there more than two nights in a row. It’s why complexes have rules about how long overnight guests can stay
O No No No.. never let a man have your life home or control of you, especially those ones that call themselves a provider thats crazy .. Always be your own person provide for yourself .have self worth / value dignity respect with in yourself.. whether your married single or have children.. Peace happiness full fillment is priceless .
she fixed her mouth to say, "partially my fault." I guess she wants him to sponsor her responsibility 100%, too.
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How many of my friends' men and husbands have offered to do me generous favors? Many. I always say NO THANK YOU. I'm not stupid, I know what a man wants. At the very least, he is trying to make his wife insecure by paying attention to me. As an adult woman with a brain, I respect women because I know the tough situations men try to put them in. I refuse to be used like a pawn to make another woman feel insecure. NO THANK YOU is what any secure woman would say to somebody's husband offering help. Or in case of an emergency, I would ask the wife first and make sure she is 100% okay with it. My respect and courtesy is always for the women first. I would never borrow a guy and allow a woman to feel uncomfortable with my behavior. Men go through great lengths to make wives, girlfriends even friends feel insecure. It's called triangulation. Only stupid girls feel flattered when somebody else's boyfriend starts carrying luggage for her.
I was with you until that last part. You sound kinda stupid there because even genuine true gentlemen will carry your bags and sometimes wives expect their men to be good gentlemen with their friends and carry their bags too…
Only dumb bitter women would claim that’s a problem.
Wow! 😊I'm super glad to hear that you do this, it shows how greatly you respect your fellow women. Thank you for sharing this with us here! I appreciate it. ❤
Or date someone who respects you? It's like dating a cheater then getting angry at every woman he glares at. Is the cheater the issue? Are you? Or is it the woman he glares at?
If the husband would also shovel snow from the neighbor guy who's on crutches or the older woman with arthritis then fine. Has helped others equally? Hmmm,
Case by case basis, but that doesn't mean don't keep an eye on him when some sweet young thing moves into the area. I love my husband and wouldn't trade him for anything, but I did once have to slap him upside the head for being too stupid about a gal who kept finding reasons to need help. 'Clueless' would have ended up getting assaulted and accused of rape.
Stop watching those princess movies. They dont want to be a hero/provider/protector. They want you to take care of them. That's it. Watch stepford wives.
Never would it occur to me to not to work( without having kids) that amount of $, is psychopathic...in my humble opinion.
Did anyone catch how the guy talking about the first girl made it a point to say in his analogy that if he was dating a woman and “her DAD” owned the Yankees he wouldn’t have access anymore… not how SHE was the owner 😅. I dunno just found that off putting 😆
oh yeah misogyny was showing, He was speaking in bad faith just wanted a "gotcha moment"
@@heatherhoneyy That were my thoughts too
Right?! Like women can't be rich or give benefits from themselves? Such bullshit to always assume it's cause of a man🙄
I mean majority of stadiums in the US are owned by white men. So how was he wrong or was he stating reality? I don’t even know sports I’m fully aware of this. Also, yankee stadium is owned by New York City Economic Development Corporation which CEO is … you guess it a white man. He a fan of the yankee clearly and probably knows that….
Hes a hater you can tell by his eyebrows he wants to be bad bish
What we forgot is that this type of man puts the condition of renouncing to proffesion or career. I was also offered a marriage possibility, but before I was told that women's are not God and they do not need to sacrifice themselves (work,profession..) , their place is near their husband .When I asked that can I go to teach-the answer was you can not go out and you can look at the fence...
😂😂😂, Well, I hope you took to your heels after you got your answer!
I had a fren like this with a provider stud. After 8+ yrs got dismissed. I told her not to depend that hard she told ppl i was a hater and wanted her life. I dont feel sorry at all.
Nothing wrong with letting a man provide but its completely asinine to not have your own in the process. Smh. When you totally depend on a man its silly and you are living in lala land and honestly probably feel entitled.
What is that first man saying🤦does he know some men would force you not to work?and if you refuse he will say you have no respect for him?? I was a victim, I didn't choose not work,he told me ur now my wife ur under my control,you follow whatever I tell you to do not your decision😔one day he threw me out with his 2 kids at late night,from that day I learn my lesson,I didn't have a penny, the only thing I had was tears and fear of the dark with my kids,I will never ever accept such behavior again....
I'm so sorry that this happened to you, it's quite disheartening but I trust you and your babies are safe and doing great now!
Thank you for sharing your experience with us!
they do all of this to justify treating women poorly. she would have been less shocked if he actually broke up with her instead ion stranding her in a strange place
Watching my parents (Who are still married and living together - and who both worked) …. I learned to never ever ever ever ever not have a separate account/ let your spouse have full autonomy over a major resource…. because when those arguments get to going 10/20/30 years can mean nothinggggg to certain people . They will use what they financially control to control you . I know that’s obviously not going to be every relationship - but if you read the comments under videos like this or have seen it first hand … you know what NOT to do to let your spouse play in your face! The pattern is obvious and the length/type of relationship doesn’t matter .❤
Thank you so much for sharing this, it's worth learning from! I do appreciate it!😊
My husband wouldn’t allow me to work or go to school. I wasn’t allowed to call my parents or talk to the neighbors. I could go to the store unless he escorted me. This started right after we tied the knot. I couldn’t even have a vehicle. Everything was in my name. So when I finally left, I lost my house and car. It’s been over 10 years and I’m still trying to recover.
So sorry you went through all that love. But I'm glad that you left, and I do hope that you'll heal and recover in time. Much love 💓💓. You've got this!
5:23 if this is the harsh reality rhen why does any woman want y'all??!!!???!
Smart women want nothing to do with nem, because it’s always a losing proposition. 98% of nem will not love you, will not provide for you or the kids, won’t do anything to make the relationship work, won’t do any housekeeping, won’t be good in bed, and won’t care if you dye. So what’s the use?
IN these times, this girl PUT herself there. No one else to side eye but herself.
Exactly! It's always something 🙄 😒 behind the foolishness. A 60 year old was trying to convince me to be in a relationship with him 😂😂😂. I said no
Having a provider does not mean do not generate income!
Even IF it does work out, like, I think back to how much time and effort I spent trying to find the perfect man. And for what? Time I should have been using on myself, my own goals, my own life, my own path. I have a good husband, but I still regret centering men when I was younger.
He can't make you financially dependent if you don't stash your cash!!
"you have no way of making money" the way he said it, makes it sound manipulative. Why is there no way? But anyways, this is why my mother said never tell a man how you move money around or when
If a man is doing all that gor another woman while uis child is sick, his actions say hes benefitting somehow from the stripper girl
You would think after Covid ppl were more aware that anything can happen to the person you are financially dependent on it.
Financial abuse is the most common abuse in marriage. Being dependant on a man as a gf is playing Russian roulette with your life.
This is what happens even in non-provider relationships. That's why you leave them ALL alone! The guy is correct! Charge them for your time! Leave the feelings out of it.
It is a shame our society today took away the Go Go dancers Exoctic dancers name title changed to a low class name stripper
How does the wife know the neighbor is 21 years old and a stripper?
True, but his time and attention is also a resource. Thats part if cheating, whether seggs gas hapoened yet or not
Just leave him duh, stop being the victim in your own life all the time.
If your not having a child you should be 50/50 women shouldnt expect to be treated like dependent children
False 50/50, what a joke 😂😂. I give myself a 100 daily so I’m not settling for no joke scamming 50/50. He will take the 50% and spend it on hookers and his outside family.
They don't really get consent from the wife anymore and that could be why the women they hook up with are always really young like that some women don't care if they're man wants some kind of open relationship or something fun like that but they don't ever get consent and whoever decided 18-21 is old enough to be a stripper needs to re evaluate that they should be 23 or older because in some cases that's how old you have to be to work in porn.
Corrupting teenagers and barely legal adults is the issue I have with that she's new to it and when you're new like that you think the rules don't apply to you.
I'm almost 40 imagine a woman my age acting wreck less like that and jumping from relationships to relationship eventually I would wind up in prison.
If 21 is an adult then why don't the same rules apply to them? You have to be pretty advanced to be a stripper at 21.
Relationships are for healthy people who either don't have significant trauma to begin with and grew up with a secure attachment style or for people with childhood trauma who DID ALL THE WORK to get a secure attachment style. Dating and marriage is a privilege for people who either don't have mental illness or have their mental illness being managed VERY well in treatment.
If you are an unhealed codependent my heart goes out to you but you have no business dating until your symptoms are in remission and you have a healthy support system in place.
A lot of people think a dowery was a bride price, either to the groom or the brides family. In most cultures, the dowery was the bride's ticket home if something went wrong, especially in those old cultures where women wore chains of silver and coins. It was up to her if she chose to give it to the husband, and in many cases, went to her children or back to her family if she died. So consider this, do you want a big fancy overblown Disney princess wedding? Or that money in your own bank account just in case?
3:46 he not even straight
They can’t kick you out of your apartment. You lived there for 30 days name on the lease or staying there. Easy lawsuit done it more than once in different states. Once to my cousin. Nope. They will lose especially in blue state
and the first guy just made up a bunch of stuff did he even watch her og video???
If the passport bros make the foreign women’s life better I am all for it …. I only care when they make the foreign women’s life worse by their abandonment or controlling behaviors…I love the reference of making sure a person is in a better place either emotional financial when with your and after you.
*survival not survivor
Although I get the guy sentiments at 3.16, he wasn’t exactly correct as the woman did have a skills to go & make money after this situation. She said she had a career prior to her situation. The guy likely told her to give up her career to travel with him & he’d look after her. I notice the guy also does not mention anything about the chap she was dating, he put all the accountability on her & didn’t acknowledge her awareness of her part in it. He didn’t mention the pettiness of the guy cutting her off after an argument. He also doesn’t acknowledge that there are situations women find themselves in like this especially if they have chronic illness etc. But he wouldn’t understand that being a man.
True. I had a guy tell me to leave my job, sell my house & move in with him.. He promised to give me my salary every month. I declined. I later found out he was engaged to another woman he virtually ghosted ( he pretended to be working in another country) for a year to date me. When I found out he asked me to marry him. I declined. He married the other girl. He threw her out multipke times. After 3 years she unalived herself.
It would not have been so easy for nme leave him if I gave up my house & job. I could have fell in the same trap.
A man who wants you financially dependent on him is a man that wants to keep you trapped in abuse!
Some men do for e you not to work. If your in a situation like that ,mabe you have kids, you don't have the upper hand,you don't have skills, try to fijd something you can do. Even a f e w days a week. Even if its a hobby ect
10:26 he’s sleeping with her.
Police Sketch Face guy is talking really fast!
Im not angry. They can go. Most of those passport bros are terrible one way or the other. I feel sad for ot h er women
I have to disagree w/ most people considering if you want your woman to have a baby expect to pay. Now that I know what I know about how autism starts (via severe inflammation during infancy) don’t think daycare is the answer. I only say that bc your baby is always going to get sick all the time. “Oh but they’ll build up “immunity”” DOES NOT WORK W/ infants. Ideally you would need to wait 2.5-3.5 yrs olds before putting them in daycare so you don’t run the risk of them getting autism even then, that’s the youngest (honestly 4 is the best age). Jobs in America do not pay for maternity leave yet. Men, if you don’t want to pay for your family (which is f@ckin’ ridiculous so many men are not reliable anymore but want children, but are not willing to make the sacrifice for the well being of their children not becoming autistic). Read the new study on autism. I already connected the dots and unless there are stricter regulations in daycares on the infant workers, daycares are not viable options if you want your child to grow up healthy w/ no autism.
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She him for a wrongful eviction. You can’t just put someone out l like that. Also ALWAYS put money to the side. NEVER trust them 100%
Naw man, if we trust someone and then they turn out not to be who we thought, we just made a mistake yo. We can blame the person for changing suddenly or getting so mad that they changed their minds.
We can call them assholes n such but no one can make you be in a relationship unless your a hostage or somethin.
If someone changes their mind about me, it's over. Done. Finished.
The benifits of that relationship go with that too.
Another edition of Stay-At-Home Something/"Provider" FAFO